An Autistic Mom with 2 Autistic Kids (And Husband with ADHD)
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- Jasmine is the mother of two autistic children. While learning about their symptoms, she realized that she had many of the same traits. At 32 years old Jasmine was diagnosed with autism. Now she is balancing raising two autistic kids while also embracing her own identity.
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Thank you Jasmine for sharing your story so openly. I am sure this will encourage many others to seek a diagnosis. You are giving the gift of self-realization, which is perhaps the greatest gift of all! In this video Jasmine and Kashmir (her sister) discussed their deep desire to form friendships. Their social accounts are in the description for anybody who would like to connect with them.
I can relate because I'm autistic and I have trouble socializing with others as well.
This interview really helped me as autistic black woman too
Thanks for making this video.
💙💙
Yessss! I would love to be Jasmine and Kasmir’s friend!
The way she just goes in on her husband 💀💀💀 I fricking love her.
Her husband takes it well. He's a real good guy with her
you love her because she "goes in" on her husband? What has her husband done to you? Or do you have a problem with men in general?
@@IkesPimpHand I dont think that's what they meant
@@lornaanderson1459 what did she mean then?
@@IkesPimpHand it’s called a joke
She is so funny. “What is that and why is she twerking,” are words to live by
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Fr shes such a mood😂❤️
also its sending me her equating movement she describes or immediately comes to mind when thinking of her husband.
Hilarious 😂!
She shouldn't worry too much, I don't understand twerking either.
I feel like that is one of the most secure dudes in a relationship. He knows exactly where he stands with her and he also knows that she stands with him. It’s sweet.
When he said other people are missing out on her (when she masks in public) it brought tears to my eyes 😭 so sweet
idk did you see the way he looks at her? Like a shark with blood in the water.... lol!
Explain that please @@prettypunk123
Yes, and he loves her and their kids, and he is good Dad and Husband, this gives a lot of hope to all
Jasmine you’re amazing. I’m a black autistic mother and I’ve never met anyone more relatable. Thank you for doing this interview.
This is very refreshing. I have a daughter that’s about to be 8 and is autistic. I often worry about her being bullied and her future.
@Agrubbs100 Nothing to be worried about. She will find her place. Only thing you need to worry about as a mom is loving them and soothe them.❤ Every child goes through it at times. I was bullied for most of my life, it was hard but i got through it with the help of my mama❤
I’m confused on what autism is because she seems normal and your comment doesn’t sound like something an autistic person would type
@Eugene-tq2kr You might be used to understanding autism in a way where they are not very functional. This is someone who is a more functioning autism. I'm personally used to highly intelligent autism. Autism is not always as obvious as we would like to believe. It can be. In this case, her autism has more to do with social cues and social interaction. Interviews are easy cause there is a set question, and you will have an answer. But at a party, she might be too stimulated to think clearly about how to approach or speak to anyone. We might feel nervous naturally but someone like her might feel totally stuck. "Deer in the headlights" behavior.
@@Eugene-tq2kr autism is a spectrum, symptoms are different for everyone and not everyone with autism behaves the same way or has a similar experience
She’s so beautiful and genuine. Even when she roasts him she’s just being honest and she doesn’t even seem to realize her bluntness. She’s a gift.
They are all great. But i am listening to it and thinking without realizing she is doing the same thing to others that she gets affected by. But she is being blunt about it and others are being snide and underhanded. There is something great about polite honesty. Choice of wordings. Oh and remembering everyone has different likes and opinions.
i was laughing when she was roasting him and herself idk why 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Areyousayingidontknowmyname Great observation. The difference is definitely intent. Jasmine will say that stuff with no intention to cause harm or hurt, but is 100% blunt and honest about it. Other might subtly insinuate that stuff, but the intention is to cause harm or make fun of someone at their expense. However, because the second style is more common and "understood" by neurotypicals, when an autistic person is just being honest because someone asked a question, their bluntness can be seen as being extra rude or hurtful, because most people will assume it was meant to be hurtful, but most people say hurtful things with more subtlety and ambiguity.
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 Thats society for you tho, since it molded around nts mostly and narressists. NTs like/accept white lies and bullying, but cant stand genuine caring honesty.
She’s definitely beautiful and so humble. That’s why I think the world has autistic beautiful people to show us that their are people that are still honest in this crazy mixed up world. Oh by the way I have a handsome great-nephew that is a very high functioning autistic beautiful soul. Very smart at 14 years old.
Damn man I hate to sound corny, but as a young man (26) with Aspergers, this is pretty inspiring. She has a family. A husband. Two kids. That's nuts. It definitely makes me feel more confident about having a family of my own one day.
You'll get there, Brother!
As a young teen girl it inspires me too!!(Im a undiagnosed autistic person) ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@ilikemuffins7170 I’m just wondering what makes you think you’re autistic if you’re not diagnosed?
dont be a breeder
You will my friend. You will. It gives me hope too for my sons who have ADHD and learning disabilities. Good luck.
She's the kind of woman I could sit and talk with for hours. I hope more people realize how pointless it is to judge people for not being a carbon copy. There is joy in hearing about new perspectives.
She reminds me of a good friend
I wish a vast majority of people understood this
That husband is an amazing ally. Thank you!
He's just submissive.
He didn't come off as submissive to me at all.
jasmine’s husband literally can’t take his eyes off her!! everyone deserves a relationship with the amount of love and understanding they have
❤️ they're so in love :)
Loved her references and “… what is that thing and why is it twerking”😂😂😂😂
Noticed that right away...right off the bat! I like her glasses and the way she does her eye makeup....I think it showcases her personality!
She’s very pretty 😊
I don't recall hearing how they met or what they thought of each other upon first meeting. Maybe I have to listen to the video again, however, I wish they talked about that.
I don't know why people aren't talking about the husband. He seems like a great guy and great for her.
Yeah he's a cool dude. He seems like he has a lot of patience. I think this family puts a smile on God's face for sure.
Yea he’s amazing. Seriously. Blessed with patience and understanding. They are absolutely perfect together. I love it.
We aren't talking as much about him because he wasn't the central feature of the video. Nor was her sister or her kids. But they can all be awesome nonetheless! It's just that there was way more footage from Jasmine and talking about how everything related to her.
@@mahna_mahna I get that he wasn't the central figure. Just trying to show him some love. Doesn't mean Jasmine and her sister aren't amazing in their own way.
Agree
When she said being diagnosed was a relief... I felt that. I know exactly how she feels.
These are the things I think of and I would never tell my friend to consider. She mentioned it once and I didn't know what to say because she sounded frustrated. But she has achieved much on her own.
Same, the second my mom said "I need to finally admit I'm ADHD and so are you" I had a whole realization of my life and past experiences. I looked at everything different from that point on but in a good way.
I have so much admiration for you, people like you allow my son to be who he is! Thank you goddess
She needs her own TH-cam channel about history. The husband is very lucky to have such an amazing family. I wish you guys could live forever
Yes we could learn a lot from herer
I found the little bit she shared interesting.
I would love that. Her personality is so awesome
"I don't like jokes... because I'm usually the butt of them". That line broke my heart. I love Jasmine's energy. She should start a podcast about history!!
I can't always tell when people are being sarcastic and I have no sense of humour but people say I'm funny. I suppose I have some use afterall
I was thinking the same too! Idk what my exact conditions are, I am awsre enough to say something isn't working though, and I could definitely watch someone relaying their history readings for hours. It could be a good outlet and introduce more online friendships at least... There's bullying in being an online presence too, I'm afraid... But that's another can of worms lol
Yessssss!!!! 😍✨
I would be a dedicated listener
That would probably be a great outlet for her.
The silence after she said that was so loud
She is an Icon, she's a legend and she is the moment.
Yeah but what does that even mean lmfao
@@keridesireeGerBaldi That means she's great.
@@user-jx9lz3tl3q yeah couldve just said that maybe instead.
@@keridesireeGerBaldi it's a meme my guy
@@thingl7859 o, nice
she’s such an awesome woman. i am 99.9999 percent sure that i met her in a psych clinic i was in when we were both WAY younger in horsham PA outpatient program and my goodness, she was just so gosh darn sweet to me. i just remember her asking me if i was a model. she made me feel so happy in a time where i wanted to take my life. i remember i loved her voice and her style was super cute. her comment actually is one of the reasons i became a model in adulthood. because i felt she was truly honest in the complement and was just so kind. if you’re reading this ever Jasmine, i hope you’re doing super awesome!!!
whether or not this is the same woman from your past, this story was awesome to read, and your icon made my day! lol
Awesome I hope jasmine sees this ❤
As a late-diagnosed adult, Black woman, with Audhd, I felt so seen watching and listening to this family!
I’m also a major hyperfocuser on history, sci-fi and geopolitics! 🤟🏾🤩🤓🇨🇩🇵🇸
The husband is so understanding, knowledgeable and poised about Jasmine's autism. He cool
And how about when he was gaslighting her experiences and calling her too sensitive? SHE was the graceful one and stayed with someone who wouldn't understand her. She gave HIM a chance. Who was being understanding then?
@@kdelka81 simply saying someone is too sensitive isn't gaslighting, coz some of us are. it's gaslighting when there's intention to manipulate which I don't believe he has, he seems caring and loving towards her even when she _as many autistic people_ tend to sometimes blow things out of proportion.
@@kdelka81 I wonder if they weren't a mixed couple, you'd still have the same hostility. 🤔
@@Nnusa90 There's the problem. Your definition of gaslighting is wrong. She was telling her truth, he was saying, no, you're wrong to be sensitive about this. She wasn't wrong but someone was trying to make her believe she was. I'm not judging him. I'm being empathetic to her situation and think, what a great woman for giving him a chance to learn a s understand and grow together.
@@sleepyote If you aren't black, you have some real deep seeded issues to examine why you would assume negatively in association with a black woman, and worse put it out there in public. Black trauma isn't a weapon for your youtube warrior comment arsenal.
She has a gift of being very articulate. The way she describes adult bullying is very accurate.
Yes! Very articulate! I want to read a dictionary now 😂
Those with autism tend to have to be, it's a skill they are forced to learn to circumvent the constant misunderstandings the condition puts them in socially.
@@adaharrisonn true
I’d loved to hear her history stories and I am sure I am not alone. Perhaps she can start a youtube channel. It will be a space to share her stories and what she knows.
@@gretchenmorris9241 I agree😊
It’s comforting. That’s why I watch this channel. Neurotypicals can be so difficult to be around, they think we’re the difficult ones but have no idea what it means to be asked to fit in your entire life.
I could listen to jasmine talk forever. This has to be one of my favorite interviews I've ever watched.
I SO agree!
Black patients are over diagnosed for schizophrenia/bipolar and under diagnosed for autism spectrum disorders, Asperger’s in particular. Racism in psychiatry can’t allow a black child or adult to be high functioning and high IQ with just autism and nothing else comorbid going on. Thanks for sharing Jasmine! 💐
FR !!!
Black people need to stop 🙄
Jesus christ shut up
Absolutely 💯
Unfortunately, this is very true.
Her accent is so fun-loving. It's like Southern with a hint of Jersey in it.
Nbsss she got that south jersey voice and sounds southern 😂
I think its a Baltimore accent
Sounds like Philly to me
Yeah def Philly
@@oliveranderson7264 do you know where maryland is? lmao
Jasmine needs to have a TH-cam channel she is so naturally entertaining
honestly, I would watch her history channel! from romulus to romulus!
@@JKnight1316Romulus to Romulus is a solid TH-cam Channel name too tbh.
I agree she should have her own channel. Like a day to day coping channel. I could see how so many people could learn and benefit from it.
Gosh!! I would so subscribe!
So well spoken
Not to mention.. I could listen to her SISTER for days. Such a **commanding** presence
💕 love these ladies
(thus, I’m certain… I LOVE their mama too 💕)
One of my favorite traits of autistic people is that they answer the question and do not elaborate unless asked to. It’s just such a boss move to not explain yourself unless asked. Letting the silence hang is so unintentionally metal
It's the opposite for me (I'm not autistic btw but im just telling cuz why not Iol) I over share and explain WAYYY too much because I have difficulty knowing when to stop sharing if im really excited about a topic, or worrying that the person I'm talking to thinks im making stuff up. I also over explain because of just pure excitement and being comfortable around a person im speaking to. It's never bothered anyone I hope, except my mom a bit. She asks why I explain things in such detail even when she says she knew what I was talking about. Sometimes I just can't explain why I do that.
@@pigenn Maybe you just love to talk very much :D
@@VvarezZ well, sometimes. I usually keep to myself unless I'm around people I'm comfortable with. Which is rare lol
Some of us overexplain, usually as a result of being misunderstood through our entire lives
It's not all autistics people that don't elaborate and it's also dependent of context and excitation a lot!
But autistic are generally very honest people, and sometimes too blunt, but it's not for beeing mean at all. They don't like hurting others, they're just don't quite understand or see social cues and are easily overwhelming by the environment and emotions.
And like she said, everyone is so different, they're only some tendency.
The spectrum is very large and autism is independent from the personality !
The 5 sens are affected, but very differently for each autistic. That made the perception and behavior sooooo different.
And one can be very different depending to the time :
Sometimes they doesn't speak, or too little, other times speak very well, or too much.
And some speak so well, they seems too arrogant to others because of that.
They can mask or not, be shy, extraverti, isolated in their own world or excited to show something to everyone... and often, others person only know one part if they don't live together.
A lot grew up with problems of bullying, so a lot of anxiety is build up, they learn how to mask a lot by fear of rejection and isolated themselves cause it's too exhausting to mask and to fear beeing rejected all the time.
This makes me happy. I have ADHD and my boyfriend has autism, and it’s an amazing dynamic for me and him
I have obsessive-compulsive disorder; we'd make a great triumvirate.
I am 65 and my son who is 28 was just diagnosed with autism & ADHD. He was not diagnosed as a child because of all the things he did, I did as a child as well. Normal was NEVER a word anyone used to describe me. I always knew I was different and was bullied all through grade school and middle school. So when I told my doctor about this and how all my kids think I also might be on the spectrum she immediately gave me a referral to be diagnosed, in fact, she already had it printed out and ready for me before I told her. I am just now going through the screening, and making an appointment with a psychiatrist. I recently asked my doctor something I've never asked any doctor....If I was normal and she said "No Jennifer, you are not normal". I totally identify with a lot of the things this lady is saying. I've learned how to act normal so I can keep a job, and I was good at what I did. ( I am now retired) But it comes out when I get the least bit excited about something, I tend to get over-excited.
I’m 65 and I think my 36-year-old is on the autistic spectrum. I never thought about that before till a couple years ago. he lives with me because I’m disabled and my husband died and he’s almost deaf from the army. He does work and has veterans disability but I wish I would’ve known about 36 years ago. Things would’ve been different though they’re not bad. I understand.
She’s refreshing, and extremely funny without even trying.
Right 😭😭
She would be offended by calling her funny because she said she's always the butt of the joke. She doesn't want to be funny in that way, she wants to be normal and taken more seriously. If you watched the whole video, you'd understand. So please delete your comment. She hasn't said or done anything funny throughout the video. Nothing was funny. She was serious the whole time.
@@Face_Reality I feel that Nomi was referring to like, charisma.
Derp
Yes autistic people are the funniest people. My sister has autism and she makes me cry I laugh so hard sometimes.
She is such a likable person. I really like honest straightforward people. It's really refreshing.
Ikr! I’d honestly love talking to her and her sister!
Yeah,I honestly don’t see her really being like she hates anyone,she may seem that way but the more as it was said,You pick up how she is & for who don’t see her as the greatest doesn’t understand that,even anyone else even others different can be Straightforward 😄
Same
Considering taking a history course at a local college Iam sure some people in the class will be on the spectrum and be as into if not more into history than yourself.
I couldn’t get this exact thought out of my head
I think Jasmyne is the sweetest kindness thing I've seen in a long time
This was better than any TED talk. Thank you for sharing.
I'm also a blck autistic female. It's not often I get to see not only a FEMALE person of color being shown with autism. It's also funny seeing A LOT of how I think and even act from someone else.
I would love to be your friend
😘
@@opaquely woah aren't you a ray of sunshine.
How does it feel seeing how you act in someone else?
@@opaquely racist
"he got murdered, so didn't really do him well" lmaooo this is a very special lady. Really wish she and her family the absolute best.
I was dying lmaoooo
She should be teaching or tutoring this stuff!
i had to rewind this part it was hilarious
@@FeyIndigoWolf a history youtube channel for sure❣️
@@bridgetquinones totally!
“So now people think that I was flirting with them” omg I felt that! I don’t know when to stop complementing because the first complement is already awkward for me and if I don’t get a response , I just blurt out another 😭
As a Black autistic woman, I love seeing by more representation in the autism community nowadays. When I was younger, I needed a role model like Jasmine!
I would listen to her talk about history all day. She's such a delightful woman
alot of times the people with so called disabilities are more interesting to converse with and easier to get along with than the so called normal people .
How High?
same! i like her voice a lot too, her long vowels are lovely
I'd listen to her talk about history in a podcast. She is so fun to listen to.
That's what I was thinking!
@Nova Vega right? I think she'd make it very entertaining with her explanations and thoughts. Because she's so lively.
*Bump*. Pass this along special books!!
Same!! She would be a great teacher. Online would be great for her bc she wouldn’t have a crazy loud classroom in person
I dont care for history usually, hut there's a few streams that I really enjoy. I think Jasmin would be amazing at it!
The kids came on with the most energy ever
His understanding of her bluntness is so reassuring I hope that one day for me I have someone like that
Sounds like she's also an introvert with social anxiety from childhood bullying... and there's NOTHING wrong with that. I get soo tired of extroverts making it seem like there's something wrong with introverts for not loving to be around strangers. We keep a small circle and we did great during the lockdown... how did the extroverts do? It's okay to not be like everyone else.
Thing is it can be dangerous, but I actually have autism and Social anxiety. I always sat alone at school lol But I always smiled 😁
They look like two normal functioning adults
@@minnathemartian5513 Same with smiling all the time. Still that way. Don't stop smiling... it's contagious! 💕
I agree 100%. I don't believe she's Autistic tho.
Same ☹ Im the same way but I feel like I'm autistic as well because I catch onto things slowly and not as quick as my peers
OFFTOPIC but- I love how she explains history. Just the “.well he got murdered so that didn’t work out for him-“
🤣🤣👌🏾
😂😂😂
Lool i laughed at that too
If history was taught that way people would pay attention!
I was thinking she'd be a popular history professor.
As a man with ADHD myself, I totally get this guy - there's something that makes people with ADHD and ASD go well together. I'm armchair-diagnosing my exes, but I think quite a few were on the spectrum. I think there's a slightly uncomfortable truth: when you meet a very attractive autistic person and you're neurodivergent yourself, it feels a bit like finding a great deal (sorry). As in, "normally this person would be out of my league, but I can handle / appreciate their unusual personality that throws others off, so I have a unique opportunity to date them". At the same time those autistic special interests and bluntness can be quite stimulating, which is something people with ADHD need to function.
When she talked about the kids and not being able to taking her kids to loud places and socially with her kids. It made me cry because I have that issue with my kids who are also both autistic.
She found the most perfect husband
Fr when they have those little moments together where she giggles 🥲 they’re so cute !!
@@steph.uhkneeshe found someone who understands her like everyone needs to 💯
I find it really interesting how Jasmine actually understands more about social cues than many neurotypicals, simply because of having to work so much harder to pick up on those cues. Like what she said about complimenting someone's shirt even when it looks bad on them -- she was aware that the person wanted to have their own feelings reinforced, not be told an honest opinion. She is a very perceptive and exceptional individual. They have a lovely family and seem like very cool people! I would love to get to know them and know there are many others who feel the same.
It's not uncommon for autistics to learn to be so hyper-vigilant. I have a few autistic friends who are empaths and super perceptive of minute social cues and changes, including my sister. Me on the other hand, I'm pretty oblivious but it makes me look more social because I don't get so anxious about some of those details and presume everyone is a friend in the first instance.
It's funny how them being able to read social cues more sometimes makes them less socially successful than the ones who can't read them. Just goes to show how complex communicating with NT people is.
I’m like this. It was a painful learning process but once I got it down people start telling me “You are so easy to talk to.” It made me feel amazing! I learned people simply want someone to hear them and because I have no preconceived notions of what is normal, they feel like they can tell me anything. I still have moments where I say something unusual or inappropriate in public situations and realize it by other peoples reactions. This used to cause me so much discomfort but now it’s okay, another learning experience. I also ask people now “Would you like to stop talking to me? I have a difficult time gauging when someone doesn’t want to talk to me. It’s absolutely fine if you would like to go do something else now.” It makes people laugh, sometimes nervously, but it’s the best way for me to be sensitive to other people’s needs.
@@qwandaryAnd when those highly sensitive and highly empathetic individuals who learned those skills as a survival method are emotionally abused then the potential for developing personality disorders is immense. BPD + autism is not a good time
@@SobrietyandSolace Oh absolutely, a lot of the ones with stronger social skills have BPD too, and it's absolutely a result of being perceptive enough to pick up on how they were being bullied, and then being abused further for being aware.
If they don't have BPD they often have severe anxiety... :(
I honestly feel like a very confident and open individual could easily be friends with an autistic person. I don't mind being told a truth that I didn't wanna hear 😅 it's OK that you don't like my clothes or that I talk too much.
She is so charismatic!
As soon as they showed the kids I shared this with my wife 😊 they are so cute and full of life! They reminded me of my kids instantly.
I'm an Autistic mom with an Autistic child too. She masks like I do around others. I was diagnosed after my kid too. There's a whole generation of Autistic adults finding themselves by learning about Autism from their children.
Very interesting
What are the signs?
Wow very interesting indeed!
Absolutely!!! I was diagnosed after watching my son and the lining up of box juices at the age of two...lol
How does this affect your relationship with your child? Does it bring you two closer together by both of you having the experience of being neurodivergent or does this make communication even harder?
Her not getting why someone would want to be her friend literally breaks my heart, I would love to be your friend Jasmine you are amazing ❤
I thought the same thing!
Me too, she's amazing!😍
I don’t see why anyone wouldn’t wanna be her friend either .. lol I have an autistic friend, and it’s levels to it. But he’s like the male version of her. And literally one of thee most loyalist people I’ve ever known.
I thought the same. I’d love to be her friend and talk books and learn about history.
Same!
This has me tearing up 🥹 he’s so understanding of her this love is beautiful ❤
I love Jasmine. She is so authentic and rare. So many times, we meet people who wear mask and sugarcoats things, and she is not that and I absolutely love it!!! Go Jasmine!!!!!
Yes, go away.
Far away possibly.
She's comical without trying and I wonder if she's even aware that what she says is funny. I love her personality and it makes me sad she doesn't have friends to share it with.
Oh she knows. Humor by autistic people tends to be of the deadpan sort.
As a black man who’s “different” I totally understand how she deals with life and people. It’s a constant struggle to be “normal”
*The glasses, the earrings, the makeup...she is drop-dead GORGEOUS omg*
She looks well put together
I swear us autistic people have the best sense of style tbh
@@nixienooo A lot of them don't care about style at all, but the ones who do usually do a very good job. I think because they tend to be very detail oriented and organized, so they can pick up on patterns or styles that go well together, and they also tend to have unique tastes, which makes them interesting and original.
She is everything.
@@nixienooo Huh?
I wish i could meet her in real life! She is so adorable and cool in that she is just herself.
Man I don’t get how people don’t want to be her friend. The world is just trash because she is so funny. “This kid is really autistic” had me dyinggg then “I don’t get it” with a straight face 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Oh my god when she said “Mark Anthony was the obvious choice” I died. You can tell she’s still bothered about it 😂🥺❤️
Absolutely iconic
You see emotion in her eyes when she says that. To connect to the subject and care about it. Is something a lot of us are missing and haven't felt since childhood. 🥺
We learn to be jaded.
Please always be yourself Jasmine, you have a lot of good qualities to teach us
"I was so angry reading about Julius Caesar the other week." Ok, I was debating whether to leave a comment but this quote made me so happy. As an autistic woman who is studying history and is a vibrant dresser this was honestly so touching. She seems awesome and I want her glasses lol
I burst out laughing so hard at that! Especially when she said that Mark Anthony was the obvious choice! I'm also autistic and seeing that level of genuine passion for history in a context like this being represented just tickled me. I can relate a lot. Nobody wants to hear random info dumps of historical events followed by passionate hot takes on the outcomes. Thank god for podcasts and equally obsessed friends.
I never new there were so many passionate history nerds (a term I use with love, including for myself)! My son's special interests are computer programming and birds. I love talking about both with him, and would love talking history with people who are passionate about it. I'm neurotypical (I mean, whatever that really is - it's just a word that mostly means my brain is tuned for social cues and my level of energy is considered "appropriate") but love going in depth on a lot of subjects. But I'll never has as deep a knowledge of someone who is spending the kind of time Jasmine talks about every single day on it. I'd love to hear those info dumps and passionate hot takes!
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 Im not autistic, I found it funny as well. She is extremely interesting, and her way of describing things is very articulate
I felt that statement. I understood why that was frustrating.
rewatching this for comfort because it is one of the few videos that TH-cam recommends for black women on the spectrum but also such great questions and sharing.
Someone get jasmine a mic and a camera, I’m ready for the history podcasts.
Omg right!!
Her husband was made for her. This was a very beautiful video. It's amazing to think about how she had a hard time interacting with people growing up and feeling ostracized and lonely. And then the world blesses her by giving her a life-partner that's patient with her, sees her and loves her. And she loves him too! Tears inna ma eyesss🥹🩷
“He learned how to cook mac and cheese right” slayed me, that’s progress! 😁What a beautiful family.
Lol SAME!!
You have to have a SUPER strong sense of humor to have your wife say Mac n cheese as the response when she is asked what’s special about your partner. Kudos to her husband…
Yeah. But on another level, it's a huge compliment. I didn't think about it at the time, but Mac n Cheese is probably one of her "routine" foods, and it's important that it be a specific way. As a neurotypical parent of an autistic child, I know that the same food can be fantastic or terrible to them even though to me they can both be great variations on the same recipe.
Lol yes
@@mahna_mahna Good points!
While I know I’m not autistic, I do relate to her on letting people see your truest self. I had a horrible middle/high school experience. I was pretty gawky and nervous anyway plus puberty wasn’t very good, and add on the horrible ‘friends’ I was exposed to, and that made me shut myself off half way through high school. That kinda bled over to my social life in early college as well. Since then, I’ve been trying to be more social, and I recently realized I am more comfortable with myself when I try to make other people laugh. That’s not even me pretending to be a certain way, that genuinely feels right to me.
I just found out that there is an online encyclopedia, and I can look up anything about history and be given credible information. It's like Pandora's box has been opened for me. Thank you, Jasmine! It's a great way to learn about history.
being a black woman is already hard because people already make so many assumptions about us and misunderstand us and the way we are so I can’t even imagine how much more alienating the world must feel for autistic and/or disabled black women
yes this part
Yes yes
And black women are horribly misdiagnosed and overlooked in the medical industry as well
@hyperflyer you should look up the statistics for it, and women in general (but especially black women) even something like endometriosis took a black nurse like 4 years to be diagnosed with because of the lack of research for women in general
@hyperflyer because Black women are assumed to be aggressive, defensive and angry and a threat. Black women's skin is weaponized and criminalized at a very young age. Black women are also adultified by society as children. Institutional and systemic racism profiles Black women and is the cause for these biases.
It causes unfair biases and assumptions to be made about Black women.
I love her sense of humour, and I actually would love to have a friend like her. so glad y'all did this video!
I was thinking the same thing . I don’t have many close friends and none who live near me. She seems like an easy person to get along with and someone you actually want to be around .
exactlyy!! i would love a friend and honest and as beautiful inside&out as her
Same here!! She has such a wonderful personality and I would loove to listen to her story more!!
She’s so empowering and beautiful I love her
Jasmine is so self aware
I just love this woman. She is great. Her husband seems like a real catch too. I wonder how they met.
The part when she said she felt like people wouldn’t wanna be friends with her broke my heart because she is a lovely individual and I would definitely be her friend, she’s so genuine and honest.
It’s a reality though I’ve felt this way my whole life and people are shocked when I say I only have 5 friends and that’s as a adult as a kid I had 1 then 2 by middle school
Lol
@@Smoreno86 currently as an adult I have zero friends, my boyfriends are always my only true friends sadly
When she said she had felt that she was a "failed human being". Dang, I wanted to hug her so bad 😢. She's amazing 💞💞
I feel that way I was diagnosed at 30.
I don’t know if I have any autistic friends, but from what I see they seem like my kinda peeps! I admire forwardness/bluntness and honesty. I feel like they’re truly in touch with who they are and aren’t molded by society to be a certain way. I feel like we’re all a little eccentric if you look close enough, but that’s a good thing. It makes us all unique and interesting to get to know one another. This was an eye opening video, I didn’t know this was how autistic people felt inside.
I love her, we need more people like her in the world, I would be more than happy to hear about her special interest for hours.
"I have to wear headphones all the time when I'm with my children unfortunately because if not I'm probably on the floor crying." Most relatable quote of motherhood. These are great interviews!
I want to be a parent but I'm also neurodivergant and can be very noise avoidant at times. It that can really overstimulate me and drive me to break Downs so hearing that exact quote from a mother made me feel so much better about wanting to be a mother and that it's OK to do things like that
Headphones are life savers and I do not have autism. This was so educational and loving. I will be more conscious of my behavior with others and make sure that others feel heard.
I’m pretty sure my sister is autistic. She has always made a lot of noise since she was a baby and she doesn’t stop talking. She is 13 and still makes random sounds and my ears ring when I hear it because she is so freaking loud. She’s also obsessed with anime, you ain’t gonna tell me no person that watches anime isn’t neurodivergent.
There's hope for me! I'm an autistic black woman and I've always wondered what it was like to be autistic with kids - like I always am so afraid of what would happen if I had kids or if they'd be like me, or if they'd be neurotypical, and sometimes I wonder if I'd be able to care for them because it's hard doing stuff like that? I'm rambling but this makes me so happy to like, have an example that it's possible
Edit: Y'all. I included the fact that I'm black because there is 0 representation for black autistic women out there. And sometimes that sucks. Not just because it's already hard getting diagnosed as a woman, but it's even harder getting diagnosed as a black women, which is why it took me until adulthood to even get a diagnosis. Not to mention the black community sometimes has a hard time understanding mental health and that's a detriment to your self esteem. It's like disorders aren't even a thing, and it's so hard to try and get your family to believe you. Is that every black family? No, but it's most of them, and every single black person with a mental affliction can somewhat attest to this.
So for those that are getting all uppity about the fact I mentioned I'm black, I'm sorry but you don't understand until you've been there.
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I am wishing for all good things to come your way 😊❤️
yesss. this is why representation is important!!💕
Every good person is afraid of failing as a parent whether autistic or not, so welcome to the club.
@@PetroleumJellyJuggernaut There isn't a lot of black autistic representation in the media or on social platforms. I think that's why she said that.
She’s such a vibe. They both are. They have what seems like a good and loving relationship.
She's literally so funny I can't, She's also stunning and I admire their family !
It broke my heart hearing her say that she has lost friends or can't imagine anyone wanting to be her friend! I could talk about history with her for FOREVER! I love history facts!
Same :(
I agree :)
Try to find her n become cyber friends!
Yes find her! Message her about history 💚
Girl, me too!!
They're cute plain and simple. And that woman honestly had me laughing hard, and she was being herself. I would definitely like to meet her.
Right BFF
The Philly accent is on full display! Such a great interview. Great advice " autistic people need to learn to take space"
they are perfect for each other, thank you for reaching out and making this jasmine. very courageous
I love how he accepts her how she is, I hope to find that one day
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It is nice to find. I am lucky. (I also have Autism and my boyfriend has ADHD).
there's somebody for everybody
You will 🙂
You will! Trust that. ❤️❤️
She should start a TH-cam channel talking about history, I’d love to listen and learn!
I would love to see how she deals with having a family and raising children having this anchor on her life. I suspect that I am autistic also. She and I seem to share the same path, I'm always being told something is wrong with me or I'm crazy, people Normally run away from me, and I to wear headsets all the time, can't keep a job, when you get a job I'm always ostracized, it's a lonely world but I have gotten use to it, I have nor been diagnosed because I don't know how to
Yesss
Omg yes!!
What a lovely couple...
EDIT: Holy moly, I absolutely LOVE how genuine and open she is. There is something so extremely respectable about that.
This is one of my favourite videos on TH-cam. What a beautiful, strong and inspirational family! Kudos to Jasmine and Tim for their strength and time. So beautiful!
She’s gorgeous, and it’s actually really interesting hearing her perspective in that light. I think a lot of women struggle with men interpreting normal kindness as flirting, and i imagine those types of situations are even harder to navigate with autism.
Woman with autism are way more likely to get sexually aussulted. Maybe this is one of the reasons
Can confirm, very much so lol.
Yeah and she is a WOC so it’s rare for women and people of color to express their neurodivergent obstacles, stories and other attentions.
yeah I'm autistic and I am naturally quite "flirty" when I'm comfortable with people cause I like to tease and make a lot of jokes and compliment them etc, can be hard when people assume I'm into them and they take it personally because I seemed to be having a good time and suddenly change my mind (in their view), but if I'm actually flirting I'm more likely to be quiet and shy lol
lol I was literally raped after writing this because I didnt read the situation correctly...well
It makes me so sad that Jasmine feels like people wouldn't find her interesting. She is so interesting and I like her style. I seriously hope she can make more friends.
I’m a typical person and I deal with the same thing. I think ppl don’t like unique. I never thought of myself that way, but I’ve realized… that I do fit in and that I’m different… and it is what it is 🤗
I've watched a couple of your videos in the last 24 hours and you really are doing something great by letting people share their stories and inform others about the hardships that come with different types of disabilities and things of the sort. You earned my subscription, keep it up.
I’m so happy for them both, they’re really their own unique persons and both seeing it in themselves and in each other That’s amazing. Glad to see two people be happy with each other and going through the world together.
She's very articulate, aware of herself, and diagnoses. Great interview
Sis,I agree with you, she's an amazing lady.
How do you know when you are autistic if you know that you are it’s because its high functioning… since you have that awareness
Of course she's just autistic misconception is that people with autism are delayed in someway (only a small portion of people with autism have a learning disability) or unaware of themselves. I work in healthcare I'm autistic I went to college I have a certification. I like to say autistic people are some of the best actors in the world because we work around others to live our lives on the daily.
@@DeadpanVT I Agree With You Fully But I Don’t Use The Word Autistic . Autistic Is Not Who You Are . You Just Happen To Have Autism .
@@beautifulmind1834 I just don't care much about pc usage of the word personally but that's different for everyone. I grew up before they even removed the term Asperger's syndrome from diagnosis.
I relate to Jasmine so much. the fact that autism is under diagnosed in black ppl and the fact that’s it’s so difficult to get a diagnosis in adulthood. I don’t see many people like her 🥺
SO TRUE I DO NOT KNOW MY PROBLEM GOING SCHOOL IN THE 1970S PEOPLE OR SCHOOL DID NOT CARE
The school system (in CA at least) has actually made it much harder to diagnose black children with autism. I work in an SDC class and in order to receive a diagnosis, they have to be officially referred to an outside psychologist for testing versus our school site psychologist like other children. Supposedly it was to counter the over diagnosis of black children in the past. I don’t understand it and it still seems like a form of segregated care because all other children can more easily begin the diagnosing process. I need to research it more. It makes no sense to me every time someone tries to explain it
A lot of us our undiagnosed. I think I could be as well. My son is autistic. And my cousin is too.
Under diagnosed in many… even Indians. It’s just unfortunate
very true i didn't get diagnosed until i was 18
Wow, what an episode. They are so well spoken and relatable, and so enjoyable to watch! Thanks for sending that email, Jasmine
Another lovely couple with children! What a blessing to share in their great lives.
THOSE GLASSES! The earrings! The nails! Her expressive voice & the way she relays history. Her honesty and strength. She’s so beautiful, inside and out. I’m hoping to see or hear more from her one day!!! 🤍
I know... I really really liked her!!!
@@brookshw12 saaaaame. She’s a SPARK. We need more spark on this planet. ⚡️
Agreed! I really like her too 💜
Unfortunately, someone is giving people these labels just to make fame and money.
love her speaking voice.
I feel like a benefit of having her as a mother is her honesty and literalness. No games, no emotional abuse. Just honesty.
Honesty is cool. But be diplomatic.
Facts !!!!
Absolutely. When people are perceptive of how jokes can hurt others who are super literal or take it to heart, it only helps everyone involved to realize and adjust accordingly. Kindness costs $0 and and when adhd and autistic and otherwise neurodivergent people are actively taken into account, we can all truly get along. It's just a matter of people's compassion being opened to people that need it the most.
Real talk
Honesty, but kindness and warmth is also important.
So he get`s an honest (by design), good looking and committed wife, who has knowledge as a hobby. She is quirky but that`s part of her charme. Dude cracked the code. Awesome couple!
I truly appreciate the honesty of Jasmine and her husband giving us a glimpse into the world of a functioning autistic family. Thanks Jasmine you're a real inspiration and educator.
It makes me sad that she doesn’t think she’s interesting and people wouldn’t want to be her friend. hearing her talk about how much she loves history makes my heart so happy and I’d love to listen to her facts 🥺🥺🥺🥺
Very few Autistic people find any true friends who actually respects them for life.
I need to know more about Marc Anthony !!! 😄
@@henriettaabeyta1457 I think im one of the lucky ones to find friends. Never give up on yourself bc u never know what friends you will make if don’t try. If u try you might make a friend
@@ilikemuffins7170 Careful how to talk to strangers............ Courage confidence and perseverance aren't my issues of what I lack it's until 29 year only Grandma cared enough to help at all. The majority of those I meet outside I'm treated in the rude ways we're treated when regular people have no ideas about solutions and use that as the excuse to abuse us.....................................
What people aren't patient about with me is I have trouble starting a conversation, but I also have trouble knowing if I rambled in what I wrote or not. Regular people don't understand, more often my silence isn't me not paying attention it's me too confused to speak alone.
So far I only know one person in public who speaks in a way that keeps the clarity clear, and understands me enough to see the truth........................................................ I'll be 32 this year.
"What is this thing and why is it twerking?" Has got to be my most favorite statement ever.
Seeing Jasmine's family and hearing her share her experience was the most affirming thing ever. As a Black woman with possible undiagnosed adhd it was comforting to see another Black woman experiencing similar things I did and am still experiencing. Being undiagnosed, bullied and called names, feeling excluded from or not feeling confident in pursuing friendships. It's been a thing in the Black community where people don't want to see anything wrong with their kids so they don't seek help for their children. The community has also had a torrential history with doctors and the health care system in general so that doesn't encourage anyone to seek help. All in all, I think it was very important that Jasmine shared her story. It makes me feel less alone and maybe will help others in that way.
My sentiments exactly. I honestly just became so emotional watching this and tearing up because I realized how much of this is similar to my behavior and it just feels so comforting to know that you're not alone. 🥲
I'm dealing with all of this as a black woman. Glad to know I'm not alone
I have a autistics son and he seems a lot.
As a black woman who suspects I have autism, what you say rings so true to me. I'm also glad Jasmine shared her story.
Supporting all of you and the fight towards equal health care 💚
The way she roasts him lol she’s too funny and brilliant personality
Jasmine's expressions are so spot on. She has a great read and take on the situations. Hearing from her is so powerful to me. Thank you.