A Quadriplegic and his Caregiving Wife (
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 พ.ค. 2021
- Cole is a spinal cord injury survivor who is now a quadriplegic. While rehabbing after his accident Cole saw Charisma, who worked at the clinic. He instantly experienced butterflies in his stomach and felt drawn to her.
Charisma is now Cole’s wife and caregiver. She hopes that when others hear their story, they see the two are in love and have a beautiful marriage.
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absolutely love you guys!!
This video of you two made my day, and reminded me to stay positive which I have a hard time doing at times. Please do your best to ignore mean people.I am 68 years old and have never ever understood meaness.
Indeed! Was so happy I could finally comment on this video. You guys make me go awwww haha... love your channel too!
I went straight to this video to send my support! I'm subscribed to you guys, your channel is so fun!
"She just has a way of making me feel like I'm sixteen again" That's so sweet and genuine.
Very positive Vibes
that was totally corny
My wife is quadriplegic as the result of a car accident in 1984 - we just celebrated our 30th anniversary this summer. Watching this young couple makes me smile - my hopes for them are for as rewarding a life as a married couple as my wife and I have been blessed with. God bless 🙂
Youre very positive please start a youtube channel if possible
Gorgeous Charrisma
Dunkleguy, wow, that is amazing. Kudos to you sir congratulations to you and your wife, as a disabled person who was born this way, this is a extremely beautiful video, I am so happy for Cole!
Wow. 1984 is a very long time ago and 1984 is the year that I was born and I am almost 38 years old.
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My brother became a quadriplegic from the neck down at 26 yrs old and on a vent. (Bc his diaphragm was also paralyzed) I was his nurse and sister depending on the moment. When he saw this beautiful relationship, it gave him a lot of hope. They truly inspired him to want to try and live. He started doing much better after watching their channel. Sadly, he suddenly and unexpectedly passed away 2.5 years ago. We were extremely close and I miss him every day!
I’m so sorry for your loss! Brakes my heart knowing, that he started to be hopeful, and than he passed away! I’m truly sorry for your and your families loss 😢🙏🏻
I am so sorry.
I’m very sorry. He sounds like he was a good guy and deserved the best
😮 hugs x! I am glad he had hope x
@R Voit- She was talking about a ventilator machine. Her brother couldn't breathe independently due to the severeness his spinal injury. That's why he needed a ventilator or vent to help him breathe.
I'd disagree slightly on 'normal relationship' - it is very unusual to see so much mutual respect and such a deep connection between partners. I would call this an 'ideal relationship' instead... This really made me happy - diversity is indeed a blessing. Thank you for sharing your story guys! All the best
Dathe
Why can’t it be a normal relationship? Please update me on what’s normal? Normal is what the couple or individuals feel comfortable with. I absolutely know this because I am married to a quadriplegic & we met when he was already injured. Our love is ‘normal’, actually probably better than other ‘normal people ‘. So, 42 yrs later, I can brag about our life , it IS NORMAL!😜👍🏻💥🤗 Wake up, humanity!🤓
@@jeanineberna8458 as i said, it looks way too good to be ’normal’ - that’s why i named it ideal. At least i would like people to see something like that when i and my spouse interact and look at each other.
@@TK-pm9mx I am sorry, I think I misunderstood your comment. However, we can ask, what are normal relationships? They’re normal to the ones experiencing it!
@@jeanineberna8458 Jeanine, no worries and thank you for your kind reply! It is definitely true that we all define ’normal’ differently (or have different connotations) - for me, it is something average. And I would wish for everybody that their relationships be much, much better than that. Perhaps I also should be clear that in my opinion, disability definitely isn’t an obstacle for full, meaningful, compassionate and loving relationships.
"She's cool..." With the blush. Oh my days he's still so smitten 🥰🥰🥰
This woman is GORGEOUS. She is so happy, so positive. What an inspiration this lovely couple is!
We don't fall in love with a body- we fall in love with a soul. And that's a good thing because our bodies are constantly changing as we grow older each day and at any time any one of us can have something happen that impacts our body and renders it different then it used to be. Cole and Charisma are two beautiful souls that fell in love. They both have such a beautiful humility about them it is a pleasure to see such a lovely, kind and caring relationship!
Amen!
Well said.
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Amen
So very well said. Thank you.
Charisma is so beautiful. Her and Cole's whole union is just absolutely beautiful, they both seem like amazing people. I wish them the best of everything!
They're so wonderful
Keep it the way God ordained it to be. Love you both.
Beautiful couple..
"Everyone is deserving of love" and they are so in sync and adorable
Do not let ignorant people damage your relationship. I have been happily married to a ‘white man’ for 45 years! We have been racially slurred on many occasions, but LOVE prevails.
Cole and Charisma, do.not let jealous people destroy your relationship they see deeply love light and many opportunities in your both life and they try to pull you guys down, be very careful.
I love you guys ,l wish good luck.
amen
People are hurting inside and that’s why they hurt others. Pay them no mind, 45 years is a long time to be together and your love for each other is beautiful 💕
Don't ever let people stand in between you and your love
That's horrible and it sucks you have to go through that. Sending you lots of love and good wishes for your marriage xx
I just love how big they smiles get when they r thinking about each other
Bro I can’t get over how attractive they both are. Such gorgeous people
Im 35 with the same injury as Cole (injured for 20 years), they remind me of how great life can be with the right person. Thank you 😊
may I ask how you got your injury? I hope you have found, or find, your right person. you deserve to be loved
@@elip241 I did the same thing cole did in a way, i dove in shallow water and bad stuff happened. Thank you for the love appreciate that
Shes truly one of those rare sweet people. She deserves all good things. Shes truly a kind person.
Her name being Charisma is just the greatest thing, it suits her SO WELL!
Love this couple. They are so cute, so real about everything. I am saddened that Charisma is treated so horribly by ignorant people. I feel racism will never go away and that is a sad commentary about our world today.
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I don't even think it's about racism. It's just that there are people who like to see dirt everywhere. These people insult everybody. If she was white, they'd be still slurring her, they would just choose something else to pick on.
Bitter losers like to hit down on vulnerable targets, best to not pay attention to them as their opinion stems from spite and ignorance.
To Karisma: Do you really believe if the "shoe was on the other foot," you would be taken care of and treated the same?
"GET OUT!"
These people saying that she couldn't have had 'any other white man if not a disabled one' and that 'he wouldn't be with her if he wasn't on a chair', HAVE THEY ACTUALLY LOOKED AT HER??? Girl looks like a super model, both of them are ridiculously good-looking..
Wows so there’s ppl in these comment that are mad that she’s with a white man
Charisma is very pretty and intelligent
I think persons are trying to understand why would someone that’s perfectly ok get married to someone who is a quadriplegic. I guess that’s why they say the things they do. I think the questions might be a bit offensive but naturally curious on their part.
Envy for sure
@@pinkladybathbody1127 who cares? He’s deserving of love too. Some people are just hateful and jealous.
I love how hes throwing little jokes in there too. "I thought I just hit a nerve wrong. I did hit a nerve wrong, my spinal cord nerve." Idk why but that made me giggle the way he worded it
I love when someone has the ability to laugh at themselves. It's good therapy, kinda frees you in a way.
This is my third comment but- I admire so much the intentional listening Cole and Charisma practice , never speaking over one another, listening intently, smiling and nodding proudly. It’s a beautiful and inspiring thing to see. I’ll be taking this lesson to practice in my own life. Thank you both
👏👏👏👏❤exactly this.
This video is so sweet. "People in love know." Glad Cole has felt so much meaning in the wake of such a trauma.
That said, I go to a new instagram friend's profile and like a bunch of their photos all the time... maybe I'm giving them the wrong idea. ha.
They can’t keep their eyes from each other, this is what ‘in-love’ looks like, just beautiful!
OMG!!! He has the most beautiful, adorable laugh I've ever listen. He's soooo handsome, and she's GORGEOUS!!!!
Their love for each other is contagious
20 years ago I had a 2 year, live in relationship with a man with the same level injury as Cole. He also had a diving accident. He was a handsome and charismatic man - all the women carers fancied him. Sadly he died at the young age of 47
So sorry for your loss.
Positive Vibes
Even if she were his patient that's okay. My partner was my therapist at a rehab and we fell in love. We never dated until she no longer worked at that facility. We were essentially freinds for a year first. We celebrated 15 years together in March and I'm still as giddy as I was on our first date. We bought our first home her in Cali in 2014 and have 2 dogs and 2 cats. I struggle everyday, but her love has truly made it all worth it. I still struggle with the fact I have a disability and I don't tell anyone really....but I have love and my family. I have it all. Oh ya, she went on to get her LCSW and is a professor at a university and executive director of a wonderful non-profit serving impoverished women and children. She also created an art therapy class that should be in every school. She is the kindest person ever. In 15 years she has never been unkind to me. Never. I didn't even know that was humanly possible lol.
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Oh you are so blessed. Thank God daily for her constant love and try to be worthy of it. So glad for you both!
How do stop crying when I read lovely write ups like this one ? There are truly kind humans… we should all be your partner… send my love to her. Bless you both
Beautiful!!!
God is so good. Thank you for sharing your story. So beautiful.
She is beautiful and it's inside and out. She is an empath and you can trust her she is an old soul. God bless you both. Have a wonderful life.
It's kind of amazing that this couple, dealing with the racial and disability issue have such a better and healthier relationship than couples who deal with neither! God Bless you two always ❣️
I look at you guys and my eyes water cause as a disabled person who feels like she has had nothing but failures in the romantic department, i want something like what you guys have. It's palpable, the love and ease you have with one another. It's so encouraging and makes my heavy heart feel lighter.
You'll find it dear, believe me, you will. Work on loving yourself and love will eventually come to you (this is the same advice I give to myself). I know it must be hard to have had so many disappointment but one day you'll meet someone who will make it all feel worth it 💛
@@BrandNewBlueShoes thanks for the encouragement. Lots of internet hugs your way! 💕
There is someone special out there for you… Work on loving yourself. Loving God and accepting yourself for the beautiful treasure you are. Love will find you when you least expect it 💕💝
As a guy in a wheelchair, I can relate
Never give up on love ❤️ you deserve it just as much as anyone!!
the way they just visibly light up with love and admiration when they talk about each other is so pure and beautiful to see. i wish them all the happiness
Charisma has such a innocent and genuine vibe. I also understand why Cole love her lovely smile.
They’re so darn cute!! The fact that she openly confessed she googled wheelchair weddings is cute!! When there is a connection, you’re literally excited to learn everything about them. They’re sucha strong couple! Love this!
The way she looks at him absolutely melts my heart 🥺
The love these two share is so pure and beautiful. Two souls who came to this Earth together to find each other. Meant to be. ❤️
What a beautiful poetry you wrote, pretty woman.
i'm blushing just seeing these two have a conversation, seriously wholesome how both of them seem to be just as in love as the other, pure love!
I HAVE LOVED THIS COUPLE FOR YEARS AND STILL DO!
Most honest and authentic interview ever. They love each other deeply.
I was blessed with an amazing daughter In law who is black, and have me an amazing granddaughter who now has 2 beautiful girls. My family accepted them so sad people are prejudice, God is not prejudice. ALOHA
I hope they ACCEPTED your family, too?
You can see the love hearts around these two
How sweet...so glad that Cole and Carisma can have a dream marriage. Ive had Cerebral Palsy since birth and am 62. I have a wonderful caregiver and feiends. So thankful.
They are both so good-looking! And I appreciate them expressing the intersection of the different barriers and discrimination they both face.
The intersection between racism and ableism is sooo hard to talk about and process.
I'm usually the only POC in a relationship, and the more disabled one, which makes it really hard to get my partners to understand all the aspects I'm battling.
While it's hard for both of you, there's probably a good chance to both understand each other because you both have your own experiences with isms, and you're both feeling effects of both isms (so he is experiencing how racism effects you both, and she is experiencing how ableism effects you both), which is an important thing for your relationship.
i'm so glad you're talking about this.
This exactly!
Omg how can anyone not see how gorgeous Charisma is both inside and out!! Both of you have striking good looks and personalities! Racist and judgemental people are worthless in this world! Keep being wonderful people!❤
You said this so well. They are wonderful people. I remember thinking they are such a good looking couple; those dimples, blue eyes and both have beautiful smiles, but I also noticed they are beautiful on the "inside" too! 💞😊
Their relationship is so pure and cute😭🫶🏾
I see 2 young adults who love each other ,I don’t see colour or disability . This is a beautiful relationship and cole and charisma are soulmates, meant to be . 🥰🥰
The very first thing I thought when I started watching this video was how cute they were and how hard it is to find a relationship like that. You can feel the looooove, the happiness, the willingness to be with each other. They made me feel happy just by looking at them.
They have such golden heart not a lot of people have that perspective on love. I’m in a wheelchair and hope to find something similar to them🔥
I am white my late husband was African American. It was challenging at times. It was worth it! We were together for 25 years before he died this past Sept. The racial stuff is crazy but God is able
Thank you for addressing the issues you face because of racism as well as challenges of being in an interabled marriage.
I once thought we lived somewhat in a post-rascist society. It is better to discuss the issue than to sweep it under the rug. Blessings to all of you!
Thank you..
It is so refreshing to see couples so in love with each other. May God bless you abundantly with a beautiful life together. Wishing you love always.
This video has helped me tremendously. Thanks to the both of you and SBSK for sharing this story. I've been so worried about my upcoming battles and surgeries from complications from radiation and breast cancer and that my husband will be my caretaker for the months to come and possibly for the rest of my life. You guys are amazing, inspiring and you've made a huge impact on my mental well-being. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Wishing you all the best, hodge podge! You got this.
Blessings.
I love Cole and Charisma ! I've followed them since before their wedding. What they show in this video is who they are! Their love is palpable, easily seen with just the looks between them and the smiles on their faces. Throw in their dialog and it's a win win relationship. I love you two ! Thank you SBSK for featuring them !!
I just loved this interview, Cole and Charisma are an absolute delight, …… just so beautiful …. The love truly shines through❤️…
Gosh…. I just cannot stop watching these two lovebirds glowing. The world is a better place with their mission in mind.
They’re a beautiful couple! I watch them on here! Cole looked so shy lol cute!
What?! Charisma & Cole are on SBSK?! I'm loving this🥰....two of my favorite YT channels seriously! I love learning about this awesome couple and seeing a spotlight on OT...such important work.
It's beautiful to see the way your eyes light up and the way you smile when you talk about how you met and fell in love. I watch those videos over and over.💞💙
Cutest couple ever!
The way he looks at her! Wow. You really can see all the love he has for her. Same for her also, but his eyes are more expressive
This is real love. The two of them bring the best in each other. How glorious is this? They are growing together with extreme love for each other. Blessings eternally.
love Cole and Charisma! it’s been a while since i’ve kept up with them and SBSK, but i’m so happy to see them happy ❤️ sending love and light from NJ, USA!
Charisma is beautiful inside and out 😊🤗
Such a beautiful couple! I'm so glad they found one another!
I absolutely LOVE seeing the way they talk about each other and the way they talk WITH each other too, it's so beautiful!
Great interview
What a beautiful relationship do you two have. Powerfull and loving.
I have Followed Cole and Charisma for a long time and it bothers me that people are mean to you guys - especially racial slurs towards Charisma ! She is pure positivity and love ❤️
they are so sweet, what he have endured and the way he had come out of it is just amazing
I am just so amazed and blessed by the two of you! Can you imagine the incredible impact you both have on so many people. ☺️🙏🏻
These two are SOOOO cute together!! Obviously perfect for each other. It's rare to see people so head over heels for each other! Just wonderful!!
This is so sweet. I've been watching them years now. Truly amazing people.
The way they look at each other is just wholesome. I love this video, it gave me so much joy. 💜💜💜
I absolutely love Cole and Charisma! They are such a cute couple! I wish them very much health and happiness in life!!❤❤❤
I love how much they love each other and that Charisma is so loving when she helps her husband Cole.
Love your love story! The love of my life, my husband, and I very unexpectedly fell in love. He's black. I'm white. And he is high functioning autistic, and the sweetest, most decent, genius, talented human being I've ever known. I'm a little bit annoying and crazy lol Sadly, his mother didn't come to our wedding because they were upset that he was marrying a white woman. And some questioned me being with an autistic man. Our love is strong, steady, and sweet. Congratulations and bravo to you!
Loser NO NEED TO BRING RACE N DIS
@@NiteDriv3r it was relevant to MY story
@@NiteDriv3r also, they brought up race as a factor in their relationship
@@debraholz9756 I am sorry you just got attacked for no good reason. Sweet story. Blessings to your love.
That’s awesome! Refreshing to hear stories like yours.
Thank you Cole and Charisma for sharing your relationship with us! Love you both!
YES!!!! I'm so glad you guys met. Absolute legends.
Such a sweet loving couple! So upbeat and optimistic. Charisma's lovely dimples and Cole's beautiful blue eyes. I wish you all the happiness you deserve...
Thank you for this interview! Cole and Charisma's relationship is just wonderful- there is so much love, understanding, and acceptance between them-other couples could learn from them a lot!
I watched this video several times. I really love how they are both honest and open about their life. I'm a subscriber to their channel and just enjoy watching their vlogs.
Your relationship is so inspiring! Thanks for meeting with SPSK - I love these 'extra' interviews because we get to learn about y'all at a deeper level. Thanks for being so open! You're so inspirational!
Dude Cole I’m glad you’re okay.. your story is wild. You and Charisma deserve all the happiness.
I just saw your video. Your marriage and love and sacrifice for each other is so beautiful, pure and it inspires me so much!! ❤️ God bless you both ❤️
So glad the comments are back!! I wanted to express just how cute this couple is when I first watched the interview. 💗
I can’t say enough good things about Charisma. What a woman of character!
Thanks guys. You both just gave me a better out look on my own life. I will always keep the positive energy from this video in my heart and remember all the great things I learned from you both. Thank you both for sharing your life’s with all of us. Hope you are both doing well.
I absolutely love your outlook on life, your attitude, your positivity. People can learn so much from you both. I wish you a long wonderful, beautiful, truly fulfilled and blessed life.
A match made in heaven ❤️😁Thank you both for being so brave and so kind at the same time🙏!
The deep acceptance and love from Cole has moved me to tears ! 🥰🙏
This is gotta be one of my favorite SBSK vids! They have a contagious charisma ironically enough, and their dynamic is one to learn from.
O my gosh! The smile on their faces when they talk about each other! It's incredible ❤...this couple is so charismatic! ❤
I love this interview! Thank you for sharing this beautiful couple with us.
Wow, two awesome channels merge!!!! A great group of people....all of you. Tears and smiles all around.
This is SUCH a beautiful and blessed relationship!! It made me cry seeing how beautiful and happy you both are!!❤️
I follow this couple and they make me smile. I always feel inspired after watching them.
Thank you so much for your channel. You both are great. You hit it on the head about love. It is there or it isn’t. I am 79yrs young and have spent over 54 of them with my wonderful wife who is the love of my life. Based on what I see in your eyes when you look at each other I expect the same for you guys. You two have taught me a lot about excepting things I can’t change. In the last two yrs. my health is going into the basement, however I intend to stay positive. I may be in a wheelchair myself soon.
I am learning from you guys what that may be like. Although there are so many things I used to do that now I can’t, the things I have learned from your channel lets me know I can still do things and not to feel sorry for myself. Let’s stay positive together.
Don
This story made my day! It so heartwarming to see how you two care of each other, you are so lucky to have met each other. It is so refreshing to see how good, honest and beautiful people you are ❤️
I watched them when the video came out about a year ago but it popped up again and I had to say just how much they make me smile. They're a beautiful couple.
You two are wonderful human beings with clarity about who you are and what you want to do with your lives. Thank you for sharing your private thoughts and feelings with the world. I wish you all the best.
People feel they can say anything because they are anonymous . It is so amazing to me to hear what is being said to you guys. Your life is so great sometimes i am jealous. Keep on doing what you do. Your love shines through.
I love the way you guys look at one another, that's love right there! What a beautiful and inspirational couple! Sending love to you both. xx
It's seriously awesome how happy he is, all of the positivity that came *after* the injury. Like a whole new different world opened after that.