She is deciding what her priorities are. What people tend to forget is when you get into a relationship with some, that person BECOMES your best friend… you make a conscious decision to make them a priority. The fact that she still communicates ( even if it is only five minutes a month ) doesn’t mean she’s forgotten about you, it just means she has rearranged her priorities
At this point in my life, I only want single friends/ friends who aren’t co-dependent on their romantic partners or no friends at all. I’m sick of the heartbreak.
I wouldn’t mind being friends with someone in a relationship if they are good at balancing relationships. That’s a skill you need to learn in life I think
That's the thing. Do NOT ditch a friend or choose a random guy who you've been saying for half a year OVER your best friend!!!! Oh, but if they were a true friend they'd understand.. NO!!!!!!! FUCK THAT! If THEY were true friends THEY wouldn't put you through this! You've been friends with this person for half of a decade and now it's "hard" to choose between who matters more? HELL nah! Priorities! A relationship is NOT more important than TRUE friendship!
So true! A lot of people are saying you should devote/prioritize your spouse, but the problem is, most of these women are not only prioritizing men they barely know, but also, cutting off/ghosting their long term friends in the process! But then, when the relationship ends they wanna have a shoulder to cry on and wonder where there friends are, then the cycle most likely repeats.
No a relationship is more important, but the counsel and involvement with your friends, is central to a healthy relationship. If you’re hiding from me because of this boy/ girl, and refuse to include them when we hang out and then eventually vanish, clearly they suck and you’re embarrassed. Fucking pathetic.
I have a couple of friends who have been doing this every time they hop in a relationship. They expect me to be there to pick up the pieces when it falls apart and honestly I can't anymore.
same :( heres what they said to me : 😂 yeah ok I’m not ranting about you You can keep thinking that I’m not listening to cadence, I’m making my own decisions I have nothing to apologize forI’m not an ignorant jerk, I just get annoyed easily by people who wanna act like you did You’re tired of drama? You have no idea what I’ve been through Don’t even start I’m not in a lot of drama but when I am it doesn’t go well Stop playing the victim fr, you assume tm And me playing the victim card is what you think, everyone else doesn’t Supporting myself is huge because people at Genoa don’t That’s me just saying ur annoying ash js I hate it I’m not gonna say ur a freak of nature but ur gettin there Gwen is a nice person Don’t drag her into thus This* You Fr don’t know what people say abt u U make me wanna choke ik this person irl btw :(
i think it's fine when they get into a relationship and disappear. Whatever, it's your life and I respect the choices you're making. What I don't appreciate is when they lose the relationship and become alone and suddenly act like we're close friends again blowing up my phone and trying to lean on my shoulder after a long time of like...never ever talking. lol nah, we grew apart and I moved on. bye. If I'm not important to you than you're not important to me either.
Similar thing is happening to me, and to be fair I don’t even consider this person a friend anymore. I find this extremely weird. I mean, I understand if you have less time when you are in a relationship, but focusing all your energy on your significant other and forgetting about your friends is a big mistake. Those are the same type of people who realize that they lost all of their friendships after their relationship is over.
Friends like this are fake fake fake. You were just a placeholder because to them friendships mean nothing. It’s not a relationship to them which is stupid af. They can honestly choke and stop calling me when they cheat on you or treat you like shit. BYE WRONG NUMBER
You girl are the problem. * SINGLE WOMEN KEEP WOMEN SINGLE ! When a girl has a man, THE MAN IS THE PRIORITY. THATS LIFE. SHES GOING TO MARRY (HIM), (NOT YOU MORRRRON) ! The woman at that point is in a phase of needing to prove to her man that she is worthy of him MARRYING HER ! She can NOT be Marriage Material if shes trying to pretend like shes still single and hang out with her friends on a girls night without her man anymore. MEN DONT ALLOW GIRLS NIGHTS. If you want to hang out with her, you can hangout at her place with her man or somewhere WITH THE MAN INVOLVED ALWAYS because HE IS HER NEW PRIORITY BECAUSE THEY WILL GET MARRIED AND BECOME (ONE WITH GOD), A RELATIONSHIP WAAAAY HIGHER THAN FRIENDS, EVEN HIGHER THAN PARENTS ! LISTEN AND LEARN. #TellAllYourFamilyAndFriendsToSpreadTheWord !
What is sad is she leaves me for months and when they break up she comes crying to me and I’m expected to be there and the thumbing is her boyfriend doesn’t even live in the same state
When a close friend gets into a new relationship: I'm happy that their happy, I really am! But at the same time, it's happened all too often that said friend will get so sucked into the relationship that I rarely, if ever hear from them again......
They be disappearing, not even answer your messages when you are in trouble or whatever. Then they be coming back CRYYYYING when their man treats them wrong. Bye bye 🚮🚮🚮
@@bunny6634 Same, we never hang out together anymore and they see each other nearly every day of the week. I don’t have anyone to talk to whenever I feel bored anymore…
That is funny. You made me laugh and I needed a good laugh. I was recently ditched after a three year friendship that I thought was genuine and I thought we were both pretty committed on both sides. Well this friend of mine met a man and I’ve been tossed aside with such gross disregard. I feel used.
The solution is leave that friend cause I don’t have time to wait for you to lose your boyfriend in order to talk to me and then again find another one and yet again go on without talking… Let me say: Friends are not a step for you to find your purpose and then toss them, if you do that then bish bye… not worth it
I'm actually in the same boat right now honestly if you're going to ditch me then f*** you some of the points with this person's video I agree but I don't agree with reaching out to your friends and saying you still care about them it's like no I'm sorry but if they're not talking to me and I constantly send the messages I'm not going to keep chasing them
I truly hate it when they choose the red flag partner one over their bestfriend. When they in trouble, they looking for you, but when they happy, they with that red flag scum. Its suck😑😠
@@delia2161 I hadnt texted her for a while and now she started texting me :) and I changed a lot in these months I literally don't care abt her rn and I am not gonna try if she doesn't either and ı do recommend you all doing that too :)))
@@applepi433 i’m glad. honestly when you first stop trying to talk to them it hurts so bad but it’s worth it when you realize you don’t even miss them as much as you thought u would. funny how they came crawling back haha
even after i had talked about it with her, she apologized and says she won’t do it again. and yet continues to make me feel like shit. i’m just about over this friendship lmao. she’s my best friend but lately we don’t even talk like at all. i’m the only one putting in effort and she 100% puts her boyfriend over me. i get it she’s happy but that doesn’t make it right to make me feel worthless. she always says rude shit to me ONLY when he’s around to make him laugh. so i’m just over it fr.
Ranting isn’t negative lol. Positivity isn’t avoiding emotions or things that make you feel upset. I just wanted to mention this because that narrative is harmful but I appreciate you posting this.
it depends, not here, but in other circumstances it can be, different people have different ideas of what negative things are, assuming everyone has the same opinion about what's positive or negative can also be harmful
literally is happening to me at the moment. male best friend gets into a relationship with a girl that considers me a threat i guess. shes too insecure. he decided to cut me off completely or she most likely gave him an ultimatum (shes insane) and threw YEARS of friendship away, havent heard from him for about a year now actually noticing the other day that he's trying to call me. they probably got into a fight. HAHA boy bye
The same thing happened to me recently and Idk how to get out from it???? It's like he's ignoring my msgs calls and when I confronted him about it he's like my gf is getting insecure of u and even I'm getting possessive of her. We can remain normal "hi hello friends" talking once in a month or exchanging greetings when we meet but nothing more. BRO LIKE SRSLYYYY!! WHEN IVE SAID I HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR U AND U DONT HAVE ANYTHING FOR ME THEN WHY!? SO HE SAID I CANT BREAKUP WITH HER FOR HER INSECURITY. I HAVE TO LISTEN.
Ik… I feel like since she got into a relationship with literally this rando she’s gotten more distant from me, I feel like she doesn’t like or care about me anymore. We have gone they so much but she’s happier with him, she’s not exited anymore to see me. I cannot name the last time we hung out without her bf. Actually I can, and that was when they broke up for the first time and I was there for her and she DIDNT TAKE MY ADVICE. But she’s my best friend and I love her:(
Same. And worst part is she's not even admitting it, she's like no you're still imp but gurl you fought w me over a guy, and you haven't called me in two months ever since you got your bf so why come back now
Personally I hate when your friend ditches you for there partner and make excuses and such to stay with their partner instead of hanging out or barely even texting and not having one on one with their best friend that they use to hang out it is super annoying.
My best friend is doing that to me right now and it's really stupid I guess her new Prince Charming that does everything for her like a simp is all she needs right now and it sucks because her kids are so cool they saw me as an uncle but now they're getting used to him to the point where it's like what's going to happen to me whenever I show back up the kids are just not going to like me anymore I've offered to come over and meet the new boyfriend numerous times but there's always some excuse
Warning: Big big rant. EXACTLY. My best friend and I used to be attached by the HIP. Even her new boyfriend said so. We all knew she was into him and he was into her, but she wanted to impress him so when he said that, she just said “I guess.” Alrighty then, ow. I mean I get it, she wanted to impress him, but damn. You just met him last year. I’ve known you since second grade. Now whenever we are at school, we only hang out in the morning. Everything else, I always see her cuddling, leaning on, and being super protective of her boyfriend. Same with him. Whenever I look at them when they are cuddling, he mouths “Don’t even.” With such a angry face. We used to be close friends, the lot of us, but now I feel like it dropped down to just friends. Like damn. I also feel like their relationship is toxic. Too clingy, to threatening, too overprotective. Everyone should make time for people too, at least be able to have a simple talk with them.
honestly. Just ditch them back as well. Those are not friends. I had a case where my friends boyfriend and I did not like eachother (he is a narcissist and I called him out for this abuse) and she chose him. He wanted her to block me so she did and honestly instead of getting more involved in their mess just gtfo.
We used to hang out 1-3 times a week. Now I can’t hang out with her a single time without her bf being there making out. I just stopped asking to hang out.
I basically give up on true friends. Nobody is loyal. I’m just here as a placeholder and therapist for them. Always Claim to be busy from work but has time to go to fancy dinners and vacations with their “special friends/boyfriends”. Talking to then was a waste of time as it was turned around on me. If I was paying for a expensive dinner then they would be around. Let them leave oh well
Apparently I explain this to people and as soon as I did of course what the first thing people told me oh you're probably being controlling over your friend it's like that's not what I said I said I don't want to be forgot about like I don't mean s*** but of course most people that are going to go against that opinion are probably the same people that throw their friends away in the garbage as soon as they get with somebody it's really sad how people think
You describe my situation with my friend. I'm a guy and my so called friend hasn't been the same since he got engaged. I've done so much for him and put most of the energy in the friendship. He's been changing plans and the give and take is gone. I'm angry and resentful. I don't feel he's my friend anymore.
My best friend of 17 years ditched us for his new online girlfriend who he has never met in person before..... He rather video call with her than even reply to me 🤷
Sucks even more when your bestfriend chooses that toxic guy over you. The one who broke them down to a shell of who they use to be and you put in countless hours to help them heal and see the true value in themselves again because you genuinely cared and feared they would fall into hurting themselves or something. All so that the F*** boy can just crawl back with a weak apology/excuse and poof she ghosts you all over again. Im so hurt it legit feels like i lost my friend to some hard core drugs or something 😢
I’m dealing with this now. My friend makes plans and waits until we are at the location or on the way to the location then cancels. I’m married and I’m not flaky at all. I’m gonna have to cut him off because one time is acceptable twice ehhh but three times… it’s a wrap!
Im having this problem currently. I'm a dude and my best friend of over 8 years has been in a relationship for about a year. They spend at least 4 days a week together. It got progressively worse over time as he basically isn't a part of the friend group anymore. And although we know that he knows it bothers us, he still does this. Let me get this straight though. I'm seriously proud and excited for him. He deserves to have someone special in his life. I just don't feel like she is being very fair with his time. She also doesn't have very many friends, so she's extra clingy. Im talking, they hang out all throughout the week and on the weekend. Its gotten to the point where he doesnt have 1 night a week for the guys. 1. Maybe I'm just jealous but was unsure how you dealt with this. It's taken a pretty big toll. Thanks
Exactly the same position mate, happy for em and all but gets to the point where years of being best mates means fuck all if his gf wants to do something 🙄
Had a friend do this. Talked to her about it. Didn’t get better so I cut her off completely because I’m tired of being treated like that by a so called friend
I literally looked this up because this JUST happened to me for the first time in my lifeeee & im CONFUSED! all my girls that have boyfriends can balance both, but my SISTER met this guy 3 weeks ago😭😭😭😭 & yeaaa i got dropped like a mixtape....i dont even know how to react???
@@Samcity_ I've talked to this friend so many times... It's not even worth it... On the other hand i have a good friend who has a boyfriend and still makes time for me... At this point I'm so over it
Someone who I thought was my best friend literally left me and our other friend for a girl. He only knew the girl for a few weeks, over knowing me for three years and the other friend for two. :(
i’m feeling this so bad rn, my boy best friend of 8 yrs is leaving me alone during lunch for a girl that he’s dating, they’ve only known eachother for barely 3 weeks. i’ve only gotten to hang out with him for the first week back to school, the only time i get to see him is in the morning and even then he talks about her. i don’t see him after school cause he has practice, then on weekends he’s always going somewhere with his sister. he’s all i really have left bc our other bestfriend moved a while back n it’s hard to make plans. she acts as if she has the advantage just bc they’re dating, like she offers to bring me with them during lunch but he wants to have alone time with her, but yet her friend is always there. on top of that if she’s gonna offer so we can get to know eachother better, then why give me dirty looks whenever i show up for a couple seconds, one of our other friends doesn’t even like her either
I’m just on here ranting because I too am so angry and hurt! Then the “friend” likes to pretend like they’re so innocent or like they’d never ditch you and it’s already happening. And the fact that I already precociously addresses my fears and it’s just getting worse.
You would think they’d grow out of it. I did it with my college ex and when my friend called me out I never did it again, I like having balance. We can’t ghost our friends for months and expect them to wipe our tears when we breakup with this new lover.
This also happens between guy friends, it’s just happened to me recently, I’ve been downgraded almost overnight because he has a new girlfriend, she is lovely but it doesn’t make me feel any better. I also have 2 friends who go EVERYWHERE with their partner. I have even specifically invited just my friend and they show up with the partner, it’s actually really rude. I also note that the partners have no friends of their own. Naturally when it all goes to shit I’ll be expected to be there for my bestie
I''ve build this dudes confidence,told him what to do,how to act around women,what to text,made his mind at ease when things would go wrong and when he finally got a girlfriend dude went missing. Not to mention the ego boost he got that turned into straight up arrogance.
Here’s the thing, I get when you’re married and/or have a family, that becomes your top priority pretty much! But the problem is a lot of people (especially women) will prioritize a man they just met a few months ago, ghost/ignore their friends of 3,5,15+ years, then when the relationship doesn’t work out, they wonder where they went or want a shoulder to cry on. Its just a very toxic unbalanced approach usually, like you said usually obsessed!! vs someone who’s more balanced and just getting more serious in their relationship/life. Every healthy marriage I’ve seen the woman prioritizes her husband/family, but she still has her friends and is there for them at times and vice versa. Even if they don’t talk all the time. Yet these obsessive relationships become more one sided, because now that friends never comes around or when you need something they aren’t around, but when something goes wrong they want to come back and vent about that guy.
Going through this rn, started a few months ago but it’s getting worse, they hang out multiple times a week, tell me about it and don’t even bother inviting me at least once a month- whenever I miss classes they always forget to tell me what happened that day until it’s too late and they barely text anymore and even just flat out pretend like I’m not there whenever we’re together…this is bs man
Thank you for this. This is very relatable rn. My friend and I have been planning to do Halloween since July. She’s been with her bf for a month and ditched me for him. Monday she told me she isn’t doing Halloween but now she is gonna be with her bf and she’s gonna have her first kiss. Tm is Halloween here and I have nobody to go with. Thanks a lot.
my ex friend was okay with the first bf only because he was reasonable but with the new one she not only wouldn't make time for her friend of 16 years, she went 180, like really obsessing to devalue me. Friends who cant be respectful and make reasonable time for you are just not worth your time and energy, no second chances
Idk man, she’s my best friend and I don’t want to lose our friendship. But she got a boyfriend and now we don’t hang out. We used to go to the park everyday or every other day and since her bf we’ve I let gone once. We have hung out a few times because our parents are friends but every time we have hung out she’s either texting him the whole time, or on the phone with him the whole time. And it sucks, because I was still afraid of her just up and leaving me before her bf and now that he’s here it just feels like it’s proving my point. But I don’t want to be to clingy and bring it up or just come off as jealous and end up losing her anyway.
My best friend left me out for dry when she got into her new relationship. Spends time 24/7, no joke, lives there, at his house. I told her the other day how I feel like she doesn't care abt me anymore since she never talks to me unless in class, her response was that I just wasn't "happy for her'. False, but I wasn't going to put up with it anymore so I told her we are better off not best friends anymore. Difficult, but I already feel better. I thought it would be a big heartbreak for me, but it ending on my terms made me happy and realize how she was extremely toxic towards me through our entire friendship. If you're even debating dropping your best friend, do it. You shouldn't have to continuously doubt someone in your life.
my bestfriend decided to cut me off for her toxic boyfriend and even though I was her day 1 for four years and I gave her advice about her relationship even though I hated him and wanted her to break up with him. I was ditched for a 6-7 month relationship. This shit hurts.
I hate to admit this, but at this point, I’ve had soooo many ex-friends who would ditch me for their bf/gfs, that when I hear one of my friends are in a new relationship, I get disappointed and then not even care because I know they are gonna ditch me later on. 😒
i’m dealing with this right now, she said we were gonna facetime. and she goes outta her way and says no because her bf is over. 😀💔 by the way she said this over 50 times, ditching me for her dumb boyfriend every weekend and texts him first before me. it’s not just jealousy it’s downright rage and sadness.
Never be friends with people who are in relationships. If you have a friend that you've known for years, and they end up eventually getting a boyfriend/girlfriend, immediately cut ties with them. (Depends) The only thing taken people care about is themselves and their crushes. (Also depends on the person) They don't deserve to have friends.
Thank you, i badly needed this to remind myself because last night, my bffs gf had attacking me, for 4hrs straight shes been messaging me and stating bad words at me. I did nothing, i did not fought with her. Now I decided to step away from my best friend because it’s so stressful.
That's the same thing that my friend would tell me and they would say you can come over anytime when you feel bad and all the sudden they got a new boyfriend haven't seen my friend in over 2 months and every time I asked to hang out with them it's always some excuse but they're always got time for their man
I haven’t heard from all my friend since a few month , they all have boyfriends and I don’t as I don’t rush into things like they do. They don’t make time for me
My friend did that to me too I'm honestly to the point where I'm just like fuck them and when that person and them don't work anymore don't come crying to me
I don't really give a damn if a friend wants to prioritize time with their SO, but that shouldn't have to be to the total exclusion of other relationships. What'll you do if the SO is fake or cheats or just dumps you? You still need a support system beyond the SO.
Thank you for this video. Been dealing with this with someone I thought was a friend. And the dude is not so, low-key pretty mean to her and she won't do anything without him. She's ditched her entire friend group to make sure she is available to him.
Glad i found this because this happened to me. She ditched me for her bf who told me to kms cause I'm Queer. He keeps making fun of her friends and bullies them and she lets him. So glad I'm not friends with her anymore
My two best friends and I used to play games constantly and talk to each-other every single day. A bunch of stuff happened. They both broke up with their exes (who were both toxic) and since then I noticed they were hanging out more and more with just the two of them, without inviting me. Eventually, they just didn't put effort into our friendship anymore and even stopped texting me for weeks at a time (saying they were too "busy" with work and stuff.) this really messed me up mentally, but I pretended I was fine with it. I knew they were probably dating, and when they told me they were, I couldn't pretend anymore and straight up said: "I don't want to be a third wheel." and asked them not to contact me anymore (I mostly just wanted to make a statement that I felt mistreated and was not gonna let them walk over me anymore). I think it's a good thing to establish your wants and needs in friendships, and you should draw boundaries or leave if you notice they don't put the same effort in as you do. Sticking around when you're miserable will only make things worse.
Nah, at my HS my bro was the only person who would hang out with me at lunch, and he pretends to hang out, spending 10 seconds eating with me, so he can say we did hang out. I just want one day to hang out with him, but any time he can't find her and we hang out, she just shows up, and he walks away mid-conversation. I can't get mad without seeming creepy
This is honestly my biggest pet peeve. When I was married and engaged, my friends were always a priority. I’ve had a few friends go into relationships which I totally support, then have no time to speak on weekends, make plans, etc. I’ve actually nos drawn a line in the sand because it’s not a friendship, you’re a convenience and that’s not the kind of relationships I want. Most recently, my closest friend starting dating someone and I have barely spoken to her all year. She lives in another state and this boyfriend does not even want to meet me , he’s not “ready” I tried to express both concern for the red flags, and how distant she’s become and it fell on deaf ears even though she’s the most opinionated on peoples relationships. This is her first relationship in 30 years. I let the relationship go because I cannot believe she’d allow this to dictate her life- her response is it’s rude to reach out to me when they’re together 😂 I wished her all the best this could explain why she has no friends. The hats my Other advice to people- if someone has no friends, be cautious as there’s usually a reason
Hey I know its been a while, but a friend I met two years ago and who I connected with deeply at 30 years old got a bf, I didnt meet the guy at all for a long time cause he wasn{t very social, im okay with that, at some point they broke up and for months they suddently go back together in the weirdest way possible and now theyre back together, i feel not valued at all, i dont see my other female friends act this way, not reaching out, not wanting to hang out even tho we are so close from eachother, but somehow they still want to keep contact but life its too busy to see eachother in 3 months... I am gay, so its not about a mutual attraction, it makes me feel so sad to let go of this friendhsip, but I FEEL like i will have to because I care alot.
My guy friend (we've been best friends for 6+ years) just told me we can't be friends because his gf is jealous. I'm in another time zone. I haven't talked to my friend in months waiting to hear his excuse for ghosting me 🥴
all of my best friends got bfs during pandemic. im not close to my family so my friends are my family. they are bringing their bfs to a trip and i am going to be a 15th wheeler. they never make time for me i haven’t seen them in over a year and they don’t text much either and if anything say i messge too much. when we do get to talk it’s always about their bfs. i just want to hang out with them with out the bfs and do couple hangouts only. they always talking about sex and getting pregnant. i have endometriosis so i cant do either. i just wanna be with them and not feel disconnected or jealous. knowing that we will probably keep growing apart really hurts. we were a solid friend group for 8 years.
I'd advise you to either find new friends more like yourself or to start pursuing personal interests and prioritizing that over social pursuits. As your current friend group ages they are going to be absorbed with their man and making babies. That is going to become their whole entire world and no, you wont be able to relate and it's going to make navigating relationships hard. Telling you out of experience. I'm turning 30 this year and im single by choice and childfree. The only friends that are still close to me are the childfree ones. All the others have turned into mombies and only hang out with hubby or their mombie clique so it seconds as a play date for junior.
My best friend is a guy. He recently got a girlfriend (who is mean to me) and he has been ditching me. He knows she is mean to me, but he does not care. I asked him the other day a question that after 4 years of knowing each other, he should know: my birthday. Low and behold, he got it wrong. We have been friends since the beginning of 2018, and he met this girl in October of 2020. In fact, my profile picture is us about 1 year after we met. It was before his girlfriend showed up. The worst part is, that this is one out of 3 photos I have of me and him, and I've known him for 4 years. This situation makes me so mad, and is 100% the reason I cry as much as I do. Oh and before I stop the little rant I'm on, he FaceTime's her when we are hanging out. There as not been one time we hung out when he didn't call her. And my face was cold and he could see I was NOT happy, but he continued to talk to this girl. It urks me so much. And everyone is saying I should make more friends (his girlfriend told me that in secret so I wouldn't keep tagging along) but due to my school's COVID restrictions, I can't do band or play at recess with anyone else, and I have made friends with everyone in my class. I just hate this so much but there's nothing I can do about it. Okay I'm done.
There might be talk (between them) about your obvious uncomfort when she shows up (via FaceTime). This is a love relationship he entered. No private one on one time like a date so you should get used to those calls if you want to keep your “friend”. It honestly reads like you have a hidden crush you may not have fully acknowledged and his new relationship is helping uncover that. I think this is a growth exercise most women need to go thru in order to realize the boundaries they DONT have in place with their opposite sex friends. You should realize he’s in love and if you want your friendship so badly you should try to include her in your meet ups (mean or not) It may just change the dynamic and the way you are viewed. Good luck 🍀
Believe me, I can relate. I'm a straight guy (who's happily engaged, I might add), and most of my friends are women, so I often encounter similar situations. It's always a toss-up to see how many of my friends will stick up for our friendship when dealing with an insecure partner versus those who are willing to throw me under the bus. Even some of my oldest friends have cast me aside once they met "the one."
Not only has my best friend been around his boyfriend when he's finally free and doesn't make time to meet up with me or hang out like we usually do, but his boyfriend was super mean to me and my best friend decided that he doesn't care that his boyfriend hurt me by calling me names and acted like the bullies I had when I was crippled. It hurts a lot that my best friend doesn't want to know what happened and doesn't care. I'm super glad for my other friend who stood up for me when I was down and hurt from the sharp words, but I just want my best friend back and I feel helpless.
Crying while watching this cause I decided to step back from my long term best friend (we're best friends since elementary school!) She had good guys before but this new one is manipulative and overall bad person and already trapped her so I felt it's already too much for me.
I hate these people who bring their girlfriend/boyfriend to everything. You see eachother everyday. Is it really that difficult to have a few evenings in the year where you just hang out with friends and not see eachother.
Once my "friend" and her boyfriend were arguing and then she said it's me or ur friend and she counted up to 1-3 and my "friend" choose him over her friends I didnt rlly get bothered but when I started think I about it I asked her and she said she would choose me but I wasnt sure so I stopped being friends with her now I kind of feel bad but I'm trying to get thru it
So I’m not in quite the same situation, but there are some annoying bits to it. So one of my best friends is currently in a relationship and engaged to this person. They were previously together, but then broke up for a time, but got back together at the beginning of this year. And I was happy for them and supportive, because I could tell they really love each other quite a lot and seem to make one another happy. Now I wouldn’t say my best friend prioritizes his relationship above our friendship, he still tries to make time so that we can hang out, and is always reaching out and letting me know he’s there for me. However, whenever we do hang out, I feel like more often than not, it does become about talking about his fiancé. Which gets annoying after a while. I feel like they are incredibly clingy with one another at times and somewhat co-dependent. And sometimes it can come off as him being focused on his relationship and his relationship only, even when we’re hanging out. There’s a lot more to it, but this will be a novel length comment if I go into more detail. So, again, not quite the same situation or circumstance. But still, knowing that you’re basically displaced by your best friends SO at the time and after you’ve been there for them for quite a while and then not seeing them that often at all kinda hurts. Like I get that in a way, yes, your best friend’s significant other will inevitably take priority over you sometimes. But sometimes it just feels like the best friends and the meaning and support that they bring are almost forgotten.
Same as my sister was my best friend,I'm in a relationship but always offered her on holiday with us or more to the point she invited herself,we went theatre together ,everything,until she got a boyfriend and that was it woukd leave my msg on read for days ,this has gone on 4 years now ,we've had 3 blow ups ,she codependent with this guy,she introduced him to theatre ,never invites me,I've hurt too much now ,I've put it down as she's used me ,until she got a boyfriend 😢
My best friend that I would cut off my hand off for is currently ditching me for a 3 month work-lationship and I'm fucking devastated. I can't even look at them without getting viscerally angry because now I feel like I'm getting discarded like a piece of garbage. I'm sorry I wasn't enough to keep your friendship. I hope you keep close the people that your cherish.
my friend ditch me, his name is allen, 23 we were friends since grade 4. He stopped talking to me when he met his new boyfriend ( his gay) im happy for him but I am really sad/mad cuz I really liked him as a friend. we barely talk now hopefully we get to meet and fix each other again
My best friend of 6 years literally cut me off with no warning, removed me on everything and hasn’t spoken to me in months. The only thing I can think is her partner doesn’t like our relationship. It definitely sucks though.
@@NotSoPhotogenic it started off her partner was deleting my text when I tried to message my bff, and then she deleted my number. When I confronted her and said something to my best friend, she took the gfs side. Things became kinda awkward after that and then she randomly cut me off completely.
So my former best friend's bf made me super uncomfortable all the time so our group stopped inviting him to join our friend hang outs. Very rarely do we invite significant others anyway, but she would make plans with us and then drop out at the last second. We asked her what was up and she said that he did not appreciate not being invited to group things. Another one of our friends mentioned that she needs to figure out what events and life things are important to her, in an attempt to compromise, and she told her boyfriend that we're making her choose between him and us. So now he's convinced her that we are toxic and unaccepting of partners and how he (straight white cis man) is being attacked because we are possessive. Also this former best friend and her bf ASSAULTED me and tried to gaslight me into believing I wanted it so that's why I was uncomfy.
Had a friend ditch me for her scumbag fiance now husband. She ditched EVERYONE over him took his side. Years later and I'm still pissed. Her husband is arrogant 2 faced POS who feels he can interfere in friendships but wants nobody on his relationship business.
I’M LITERALLY IN THIS SITUATION! A very close friend I know has started dating and it’s her very first boyfriend. She has been ditching & canceling plans since then. Last year she mentioned she wants to invite me to trip to México with her boyfriend, his brother, his brother’s boyfriend, One of her boyfriend’s cousin, my guy friend, and then me. I IMMEDIATELY shut it down and gave her an excuse of not wanting to go. Because I already know she’s just gonna ignore me the entire trip and leave me in the cold. I honestly feel like a pet nowadays whenever we plan to hang out and ALWAYS ask if she can bring her boyfriend. I rather have no friends at all then being treated like pet or being push to the side.
Yeah my friend got a boyfriend and he's only known this guy for a couple months and he's known me for 4-5 years it hurts it really does. I was so supportive but now it's really starting to get to me and I'm really considering cutting off the relationship.
Before they got a gf me and my friend of like 12 yrs would ask to hang out all the time, both me asking them and them asking me. But now, it essentially goes like this. me: “wanna hang out this weekend?” them: “can’t i’m hanging out with ____” all. the damn. time.
RIIIIIGHT!?!?!?!? New Boundary, do not ghost me when you get into a new relationship. Otherwise, Bye! Yeaaaaahhhh..... The worst is when it's a decades long friend and your neighbor, and your friend parks in front of your house while visiting their new crush aka my neighbor....... Really..... 😒 And yeah, I tried to gently remind them.... It was still weird.... And got even weirder... It felt like toxic abuse... like the mean girls in high school... It came to the point my neighbor told me they would no longer respect my boundaries. Ummm... No. I went no contact. Neighbor eventually moved out, and moved in with my friend. I ended up going no contact with my friend too, cause her crush could "do no wrong" and totally invalidated me. This friend even mentioned my boundaries where mean... Ok.. bye. ✌️
It's soooo annoying forreal. My car broke down in the middle of the road at 9 o'clock at night tonight. I was locked in the car and couldn't get out cuz the battery died. Called a so-called friend and instead of making sure I was ok or even driving up to help me. She was like yeah sorry I'm at the guys house I met on tinder 3 weeks ago. 🙄
My best friend only literally wanted to talk to me when her and her boyfriend was having problems and when she did talk to me just to talk all she wanted to talk about was her boyfriend and when I tried changing the subject or talking about anything I was going threw it was just yeah... but anyway and back to talking about him and broke up with him for 3 days and only then did she beg for me to come hang out with her but of corse she took him back and it was back to the same stuff and i lately told her he put a friend request in for me and he has always repeatedly put in requests for me and he wanted me before he ever meant her but I rejected him I got a bad feeling off of him but anyway I told her that her boyfriend is bothering me requesting me like hell and she called me a lier and got so pissed and blocked me... wow
My friend hardly hangs out with me, didn even celebrate my birthday this year, like we use too for each other. He’s with this girl for just a few months. Can’t even see him at all, coming to close a year ☹️. I was so shocked that he will just behave like this. In his previous relationships, he would still make time for friends…… but somehow he has deserted everyone for his gf
It’s so annoying be friends with boyfriend obsessed ppl like that’s the only thing they think of non stop and then they drop you when there dating but then when there not dating there all over you for what like I always fee used in those sort of friendships and it so annoying because I keep making friends with those sorts of people
my bsf of almost 6 years told me she wasn’t coming to my upcoming 16th birthday if guys were gonna be there because she wants to “respect her boyfriend”. i haven’t had a birthday without her there since 5th grade. when i asked why she was being selfish by telling me she wasn’t coming if certain people were gonna be there and she said “LOL”
idk why, but this is the 30th time i have asked my friend to hang out and he said no just to hang out with his girl. Also my friend i have new since i was like 5 and they dithed me for girls. So yup
My friend invited me last year near christmas to her house. Ends up she felt lonely and her husbands family was there . Her husband talked down to her when it was her turn to play jenga. She removed herself and went to the nursery. I felt bad because ive seen his temperament and i cant stand it. Shes acting distant and i have a feeling they are having issues
@@arnellehardy1091 yes its part of life but if they're a true friend they will always come back.. and they come back in the form of hey girl my in law says wassup he a good man come join the fam lol
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I don't even wanna hang out with them anymore because they'll find a way of making it about their boyfriend anyway.
This
YES
Oh god yes!!!! I don't even join group calls these days!! It's so frustrating 😫
Right
YESSSSS!!!!
i used to be on facetime with my bsf for HOURS but when she got her bf im lucky to get 5 minutes a month!!!
I'm lucky to get 5 minutes every 3 months- cutting her off-
same :(
She is deciding what her priorities are. What people tend to forget is when you get into a relationship with some, that person BECOMES your best friend… you make a conscious decision to make them a priority. The fact that she still communicates ( even if it is only five minutes a month ) doesn’t mean she’s forgotten about you, it just means she has rearranged her priorities
I do think it should be a little longer than 5 minutes a month though
RIGHT!!!
At this point in my life, I only want single friends/ friends who aren’t co-dependent on their romantic partners or no friends at all. I’m sick of the heartbreak.
This!
I agree. People take and take sometimes.
I wouldn’t mind being friends with someone in a relationship if they are good at balancing relationships. That’s a skill you need to learn in life I think
That's why I'm befriending my fellow aromantics... It just sucks that they're gonna be online friendships!!
@@PGOuma online friendships can be strong. Sometimes.
That's the thing. Do NOT ditch a friend or choose a random guy who you've been saying for half a year OVER your best friend!!!! Oh, but if they were a true friend they'd understand.. NO!!!!!!! FUCK THAT! If THEY were true friends THEY wouldn't put you through this! You've been friends with this person for half of a decade and now it's "hard" to choose between who matters more? HELL nah! Priorities! A relationship is NOT more important than TRUE friendship!
Exactly I agree with you
thank you so much
@@kuncornet5736 Of course!
So true! A lot of people are saying you should devote/prioritize your spouse, but the problem is, most of these women are not only prioritizing men they barely know, but also, cutting off/ghosting their long term friends in the process! But then, when the relationship ends they wanna have a shoulder to cry on and wonder where there friends are, then the cycle most likely repeats.
No a relationship is more important, but the counsel and involvement with your friends, is central to a healthy relationship. If you’re hiding from me because of this boy/ girl, and refuse to include them when we hang out and then eventually vanish, clearly they suck and you’re embarrassed. Fucking pathetic.
I have a couple of friends who have been doing this every time they hop in a relationship. They expect me to be there to pick up the pieces when it falls apart and honestly I can't anymore.
same :( heres what they said to me : 😂
yeah ok
I’m not ranting about you
You can keep thinking that
I’m not listening to cadence, I’m making my own decisions
I have nothing to apologize forI’m not an ignorant jerk, I just get annoyed easily by people who wanna act like you did
You’re tired of drama? You have no idea what I’ve been through
Don’t even start
I’m not in a lot of drama but when I am it doesn’t go well Stop playing the victim fr, you assume tm And me playing the victim card is what you think, everyone else doesn’t
Supporting myself is huge because people at Genoa don’t
That’s me just saying ur annoying ash js I hate it I’m not gonna say ur a freak of nature but ur gettin there
Gwen is a nice person
Don’t drag her into thus
This* You Fr don’t know what people say abt u
U make me wanna choke
ik this person irl btw :(
donttt
if you're not important to them then they're not important to you either
You shouldn’t have to
Don’t do it man! Those people will bring you down and hold you back from being the best version of yourself
@@zack1610 so no advice for me :(
i think it's fine when they get into a relationship and disappear. Whatever, it's your life and I respect the choices you're making. What I don't appreciate is when they lose the relationship and become alone and suddenly act like we're close friends again blowing up my phone and trying to lean on my shoulder after a long time of like...never ever talking. lol nah, we grew apart and I moved on. bye. If I'm not important to you than you're not important to me either.
Thats a little harsh
@@princessesoftheking7411 but it's the truth unfortunately
You have a nice balance in your perspective. Giving people the freedom to ditch you. But also giving yourself that same freedom to ditch them.
Love this comment and I might use this on my friend who is currently in his first relationship and we are also co-workers at our university
Its not nd I hate ts
Similar thing is happening to me, and to be fair I don’t even consider this person a friend anymore. I find this extremely weird. I mean, I understand if you have less time when you are in a relationship, but focusing all your energy on your significant other and forgetting about your friends is a big mistake. Those are the same type of people who realize that they lost all of their friendships after their relationship is over.
Friends like this are fake fake fake. You were just a placeholder because to them friendships mean nothing. It’s not a relationship to them which is stupid af. They can honestly choke and stop calling me when they cheat on you or treat you like shit. BYE WRONG NUMBER
Single mom ?
You girl are the problem.
* SINGLE WOMEN
KEEP WOMEN SINGLE !
When a girl has a man, THE MAN IS THE PRIORITY.
THATS LIFE.
SHES GOING TO MARRY (HIM),
(NOT YOU MORRRRON) !
The woman at that point is in a phase of needing to prove to her man that she is worthy of him MARRYING HER !
She can NOT be Marriage Material if shes trying to pretend like shes still single and hang out with her friends on a girls night without her man anymore.
MEN DONT ALLOW GIRLS NIGHTS.
If you want to hang out with her, you can hangout at her place with her man or somewhere WITH THE MAN INVOLVED ALWAYS because HE IS HER NEW PRIORITY BECAUSE THEY WILL GET MARRIED AND BECOME (ONE WITH GOD), A RELATIONSHIP WAAAAY HIGHER THAN FRIENDS, EVEN HIGHER THAN PARENTS !
LISTEN AND LEARN.
#TellAllYourFamilyAndFriendsToSpreadTheWord !
What is sad is she leaves me for months and when they break up she comes crying to me and I’m expected to be there and the thumbing is her boyfriend doesn’t even live in the same state
OMG I FEEL YOUU AAAAA 😭😭
When a close friend gets into a new relationship: I'm happy that their happy, I really am! But at the same time, it's happened all too often that said friend will get so sucked into the relationship that I rarely, if ever hear from them again......
My best friend did this to me and it broke my heart it felt like I was going through a breakup myself 😭
My lifetime sister dumped me for a co- dependent relationship,taught me I was way too giving ,heart break for sure
They be disappearing, not even answer your messages when you are in trouble or whatever. Then they be coming back CRYYYYING when their man treats them wrong.
Bye bye 🚮🚮🚮
Yes thats not a friend ,fake plastic friends that is
i made the dumbest decision to introduce two of my best friends to each other, now they are dating and i don't even have a best friend anymore
omg same
Same here, I was a part of a trio and now they’re dating and I’m left behind all the time, even prior to them being together
@@bunny6634 Same, we never hang out together anymore and they see each other nearly every day of the week. I don’t have anyone to talk to whenever I feel bored anymore…
Same
bruh 💀💀
I feel like Woody when Andy started to redecorate all his room with Buzz Lightyear stuff.
That is funny. You made me laugh and I needed a good laugh. I was recently ditched after a three year friendship that I thought was genuine and I thought we were both pretty committed on both sides. Well this friend of mine met a man and I’ve been tossed aside with such gross disregard. I feel used.
Now i gotta watch it to relate 😭
The solution is leave that friend cause I don’t have time to wait for you to lose your boyfriend in order to talk to me and then again find another one and yet again go on without talking…
Let me say: Friends are not a step for you to find your purpose and then toss them, if you do that then bish bye… not worth it
I'm actually in the same boat right now honestly if you're going to ditch me then f*** you some of the points with this person's video I agree but I don't agree with reaching out to your friends and saying you still care about them it's like no I'm sorry but if they're not talking to me and I constantly send the messages I'm not going to keep chasing them
I truly hate it when they choose the red flag partner one over their bestfriend. When they in trouble, they looking for you, but when they happy, they with that red flag scum. Its suck😑😠
It’s happening to me but now I feel like it’s only me that’s holding the friendship string. And I don’t want to hold it anymore.
Same and it hurts. Once we texted everyday and now I am the only one texting her
i just stopped trying. make them realize what they’ve got to loose.
@@delia2161 I hadnt texted her for a while and now she started texting me :) and I changed a lot in these months I literally don't care abt her rn and I am not gonna try if she doesn't either and ı do recommend you all doing that too :)))
@@applepi433 i’m glad. honestly when you first stop trying to talk to them it hurts so bad but it’s worth it when you realize you don’t even miss them as much as you thought u would. funny how they came crawling back haha
@@delia2161 Yeah at first it was hard but after few days I got over it...
even after i had talked about it with her, she apologized and says she won’t do it again. and yet continues to make me feel like shit. i’m just about over this friendship lmao. she’s my best friend but lately we don’t even talk like at all. i’m the only one putting in effort and she 100% puts her boyfriend over me. i get it she’s happy but that doesn’t make it right to make me feel worthless. she always says rude shit to me ONLY when he’s around to make him laugh. so i’m just over it fr.
I know this is late but legit just forget peeps like that and meet other friends who do try to make an effort when having a partner
Going through this for the past year. Glad I'm not alone in it!
They still together?
Same here. Im not doing very good. Im sorry that you know the feeling. I'm sorry that I know the feeling. Are you doing ok..?
Me too but she’s getting married that’s why I’m not saying anything
@@livingwiththespectrumjeff2596 lol I want to kno if they’re still together too
Same bro
Ranting isn’t negative lol. Positivity isn’t avoiding emotions or things that make you feel upset. I just wanted to mention this because that narrative is harmful but I appreciate you posting this.
Maybe admit that you have a crush on your friend and they why you feel so strongly
it depends, not here, but in other circumstances it can be, different people have different ideas of what negative things are, assuming everyone has the same opinion about what's positive or negative can also be harmful
literally is happening to me at the moment. male best friend gets into a relationship with a girl that considers me a threat i guess. shes too insecure. he decided to cut me off completely or she most likely gave him an ultimatum (shes insane) and threw YEARS of friendship away, havent heard from him for about a year now actually noticing the other day that he's trying to call me. they probably got into a fight. HAHA boy bye
Showed him
The same thing happened to me recently and Idk how to get out from it???? It's like he's ignoring my msgs calls and when I confronted him about it he's like my gf is getting insecure of u and even I'm getting possessive of her. We can remain normal "hi hello friends" talking once in a month or exchanging greetings when we meet but nothing more. BRO LIKE SRSLYYYY!! WHEN IVE SAID I HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR U AND U DONT HAVE ANYTHING FOR ME THEN WHY!? SO HE SAID I CANT BREAKUP WITH HER FOR HER INSECURITY. I HAVE TO LISTEN.
why do you all relate me so much,, anyone up for a talk??
Ugh yes! I am single as heck and one of my good friends cannot stop talking about her boyfriend. We never hang out anymore.
Ik… I feel like since she got into a relationship with literally this rando she’s gotten more distant from me, I feel like she doesn’t like or care about me anymore. We have gone they so much but she’s happier with him, she’s not exited anymore to see me. I cannot name the last time we hung out without her bf. Actually I can, and that was when they broke up for the first time and I was there for her and she DIDNT TAKE MY ADVICE. But she’s my best friend and I love her:(
Okay but when it’s a long distance friendship and they completely stop answering your calls and text messages…
This happened with me. And... It sucks.
Same. And worst part is she's not even admitting it, she's like no you're still imp but gurl you fought w me over a guy, and you haven't called me in two months ever since you got your bf so why come back now
Personally I hate when your friend ditches you for there partner and make excuses and such to stay with their partner instead of hanging out or barely even texting and not having one on one with their best friend that they use to hang out it is super annoying.
My best friend is doing that to me right now and it's really stupid I guess her new Prince Charming that does everything for her like a simp is all she needs right now and it sucks because her kids are so cool they saw me as an uncle but now they're getting used to him to the point where it's like what's going to happen to me whenever I show back up the kids are just not going to like me anymore I've offered to come over and meet the new boyfriend numerous times but there's always some excuse
Warning: Big big rant.
EXACTLY. My best friend and I used to be attached by the HIP. Even her new boyfriend said so. We all knew she was into him and he was into her, but she wanted to impress him so when he said that, she just said “I guess.” Alrighty then, ow. I mean I get it, she wanted to impress him, but damn. You just met him last year. I’ve known you since second grade. Now whenever we are at school, we only hang out in the morning. Everything else, I always see her cuddling, leaning on, and being super protective of her boyfriend. Same with him. Whenever I look at them when they are cuddling, he mouths “Don’t even.” With such a angry face. We used to be close friends, the lot of us, but now I feel like it dropped down to just friends. Like damn. I also feel like their relationship is toxic. Too clingy, to threatening, too overprotective. Everyone should make time for people too, at least be able to have a simple talk with them.
honestly. Just ditch them back as well. Those are not friends. I had a case where my friends boyfriend and I did not like eachother (he is a narcissist and I called him out for this abuse) and she chose him. He wanted her to block me so she did and honestly instead of getting more involved in their mess just gtfo.
This is happening to me right now, I relate :(
same, it hurts :(
We used to hang out 1-3 times a week. Now I can’t hang out with her a single time without her bf being there making out. I just stopped asking to hang out.
I basically give up on true friends. Nobody is loyal. I’m just here as a placeholder and therapist for them. Always Claim to be busy from work but has time to go to fancy dinners and vacations with their “special friends/boyfriends”. Talking to then was a waste of time as it was turned around on me. If I was paying for a expensive dinner then they would be around. Let them leave oh well
Users the lot of them,there for the taking
Apparently I explain this to people and as soon as I did of course what the first thing people told me oh you're probably being controlling over your friend it's like that's not what I said I said I don't want to be forgot about like I don't mean s*** but of course most people that are going to go against that opinion are probably the same people that throw their friends away in the garbage as soon as they get with somebody it's really sad how people think
You describe my situation with my friend. I'm a guy and my so called friend hasn't been the same since he got engaged. I've done so much for him and put most of the energy in the friendship. He's been changing plans and the give and take is gone. I'm angry and resentful. I don't feel he's my friend anymore.
My best friend of 17 years ditched us for his new online girlfriend who he has never met in person before..... He rather video call with her than even reply to me 🤷
Dammm 17 years wtf dude is a monster
@@crazygamingyt7245 he ended up getting scammed out of 30k🤷♂️. Told him enough times how fake the profile picture was
Sucks even more when your bestfriend chooses that toxic guy over you. The one who broke them down to a shell of who they use to be and you put in countless hours to help them heal and see the true value in themselves again because you genuinely cared and feared they would fall into hurting themselves or something. All so that the F*** boy can just crawl back with a weak apology/excuse and poof she ghosts you all over again. Im so hurt it legit feels like i lost my friend to some hard core drugs or something 😢
Then they text you when their boyfriend goes to sleep or is busy
Exactly
I’m dealing with this now. My friend makes plans and waits until we are at the location or on the way to the location then cancels. I’m married and I’m not flaky at all. I’m gonna have to cut him off because one time is acceptable twice ehhh but three times… it’s a wrap!
Omg my friend has done it’s 4 times in a row now I’m so done because I’m always there for him what happened to bros before hoes
Dont put up with that! Thats beyond rude
@@salahaddin1824 ikr
Im having this problem currently. I'm a dude and my best friend of over 8 years has been in a relationship for about a year. They spend at least 4 days a week together. It got progressively worse over time as he basically isn't a part of the friend group anymore. And although we know that he knows it bothers us, he still does this.
Let me get this straight though. I'm seriously proud and excited for him. He deserves to have someone special in his life. I just don't feel like she is being very fair with his time. She also doesn't have very many friends, so she's extra clingy. Im talking, they hang out all throughout the week and on the weekend. Its gotten to the point where he doesnt have 1 night a week for the guys. 1.
Maybe I'm just jealous but was unsure how you dealt with this. It's taken a pretty big toll. Thanks
Exactly the same position mate, happy for em and all but gets to the point where years of being best mates means fuck all if his gf wants to do something 🙄
I don't think yall are jealous. You just got put aside eventho you put so much time and effort in the friendship
Don't be used ,that's not good enough you deserve better and your feelings matter,I'm going through this and it's hurtful
Thank you for sharing this. I can relate. It can very difficult when a close friendship changes to where they are not in touch as much.
😂😂 I thought I was insane for feeling like that. Absolutely find it rude and feel used
Your not ,you deserve better ,its a great way to reveal fake friends
Had a friend do this. Talked to her about it. Didn’t get better so I cut her off completely because I’m tired of being treated like that by a so called friend
I literally looked this up because this JUST happened to me for the first time in my lifeeee & im CONFUSED! all my girls that have boyfriends can balance both, but my SISTER met this guy 3 weeks ago😭😭😭😭 & yeaaa i got dropped like a mixtape....i dont even know how to react???
Girl I feel you. Have you talked to her about it?
yeah same it sucks tbh
@@Samcity_ I've talked to this friend so many times... It's not even worth it... On the other hand i have a good friend who has a boyfriend and still makes time for me... At this point I'm so over it
I’m screaming 😭😭😭not “like a mixtape” 😭😭 I got dashed like chewed gum that’s lost flavour
This is a sign that your sister is with a narcissist who is isolating her by love bombing
Someone who I thought was my best friend literally left me and our other friend for a girl. He only knew the girl for a few weeks, over knowing me for three years and the other friend for two. :(
Man, I hope it gets better for you. it does suck to deal with things like this.
@@heavensworld6696 sorry to hear that my story is similar to the person a friend ditched us for a asshole guy
Damn bro my best friend that i saw as my brother ghosted me after dating a girl just for a few days
i’m feeling this so bad rn, my boy best friend of 8 yrs is leaving me alone during lunch for a girl that he’s dating, they’ve only known eachother for barely 3 weeks. i’ve only gotten to hang out with him for the first week back to school, the only time i get to see him is in the morning and even then he talks about her. i don’t see him after school cause he has practice, then on weekends he’s always going somewhere with his sister. he’s all i really have left bc our other bestfriend moved a while back n it’s hard to make plans. she acts as if she has the advantage just bc they’re dating, like she offers to bring me with them during lunch but he wants to have alone time with her, but yet her friend is always there. on top of that if she’s gonna offer so we can get to know eachother better, then why give me dirty looks whenever i show up for a couple seconds, one of our other friends doesn’t even like her either
@@heavensworld6696 what
I’m just on here ranting because I too am so angry and hurt! Then the “friend” likes to pretend like they’re so innocent or like they’d never ditch you and it’s already happening. And the fact that I already precociously addresses my fears and it’s just getting worse.
You would think they’d grow out of it. I did it with my college ex and when my friend called me out I never did it again, I like having balance. We can’t ghost our friends for months and expect them to wipe our tears when we breakup with this new lover.
This also happens between guy friends, it’s just happened to me recently, I’ve been downgraded almost overnight because he has a new girlfriend, she is lovely but it doesn’t make me feel any better. I also have 2 friends who go EVERYWHERE with their partner. I have even specifically invited just my friend and they show up with the partner, it’s actually really rude. I also note that the partners have no friends of their own. Naturally when it all goes to shit I’ll be expected to be there for my bestie
I''ve build this dudes confidence,told him what to do,how to act around women,what to text,made his mind at ease when things would go wrong and when he finally got a girlfriend dude went missing. Not to mention the ego boost he got that turned into straight up arrogance.
Here’s the thing, I get when you’re married and/or have a family, that becomes your top priority pretty much! But the problem is a lot of people (especially women) will prioritize a man they just met a few months ago, ghost/ignore their friends of 3,5,15+ years, then when the relationship doesn’t work out, they wonder where they went or want a shoulder to cry on. Its just a very toxic unbalanced approach usually, like you said usually obsessed!! vs someone who’s more balanced and just getting more serious in their relationship/life. Every healthy marriage I’ve seen the woman prioritizes her husband/family, but she still has her friends and is there for them at times and vice versa. Even if they don’t talk all the time. Yet these obsessive relationships become more one sided, because now that friends never comes around or when you need something they aren’t around, but when something goes wrong they want to come back and vent about that guy.
Going through this rn, started a few months ago but it’s getting worse, they hang out multiple times a week, tell me about it and don’t even bother inviting me at least once a month- whenever I miss classes they always forget to tell me what happened that day until it’s too late and they barely text anymore and even just flat out pretend like I’m not there whenever we’re together…this is bs man
Thank you for this. This is very relatable rn. My friend and I have been planning to do Halloween since July. She’s been with her bf for a month and ditched me for him. Monday she told me she isn’t doing Halloween but now she is gonna be with her bf and she’s gonna have her first kiss. Tm is Halloween here and I have nobody to go with. Thanks a lot.
that’s what’s happening with me but for new years
Hi, how are you doing now? Has something changed in your friendship?
Dump your friend.
my ex friend was okay with the first bf only because he was reasonable but with the new one she not only wouldn't make time for her friend of 16 years, she went 180, like really obsessing to devalue me.
Friends who cant be respectful and make reasonable time for you are just not worth your time and energy, no second chances
No there's no point of a second chance because they're going to do it again and I'm about there with one of my friends right now
Idk man, she’s my best friend and I don’t want to lose our friendship. But she got a boyfriend and now we don’t hang out. We used to go to the park everyday or every other day and since her bf we’ve I let gone once. We have hung out a few times because our parents are friends but every time we have hung out she’s either texting him the whole time, or on the phone with him the whole time. And it sucks, because I was still afraid of her just up and leaving me before her bf and now that he’s here it just feels like it’s proving my point. But I don’t want to be to clingy and bring it up or just come off as jealous and end up losing her anyway.
I pray this pops up on her FYP
My best friend left me out for dry when she got into her new relationship. Spends time 24/7, no joke, lives there, at his house. I told her the other day how I feel like she doesn't care abt me anymore since she never talks to me unless in class, her response was that I just wasn't "happy for her'. False, but I wasn't going to put up with it anymore so I told her we are better off not best friends anymore. Difficult, but I already feel better. I thought it would be a big heartbreak for me, but it ending on my terms made me happy and realize how she was extremely toxic towards me through our entire friendship. If you're even debating dropping your best friend, do it. You shouldn't have to continuously doubt someone in your life.
my bestfriend decided to cut me off for her toxic boyfriend and even though I was her day 1 for four years and I gave her advice about her relationship even though I hated him and wanted her to break up with him. I was ditched for a 6-7 month relationship. This shit hurts.
This reminds me of the friend who always wanted her husband along for a monthly girls night out.
I hate to admit this, but at this point, I’ve had soooo many ex-friends who would ditch me for their bf/gfs, that when I hear one of my friends are in a new relationship, I get disappointed and then not even care because I know they are gonna ditch me later on. 😒
i’m dealing with this right now, she said we were gonna facetime. and she goes outta her way and says no because her bf is over. 😀💔 by the way she said this over 50 times, ditching me for her dumb boyfriend every weekend and texts him first before me. it’s not just jealousy it’s downright rage and sadness.
Never be friends with people who are in relationships. If you have a friend that you've known for years, and they end up eventually getting a boyfriend/girlfriend, immediately cut ties with them. (Depends) The only thing taken people care about is themselves and their crushes. (Also depends on the person) They don't deserve to have friends.
True
Thank you, i badly needed this to remind myself because last night, my bffs gf had attacking me, for 4hrs straight shes been messaging me and stating bad words at me. I did nothing, i did not fought with her. Now I decided to step away from my best friend because it’s so stressful.
Its always a lie when they say that no guy is gonna come between us blah blah blah i stopped talking to her for 2 days
That's the same thing that my friend would tell me and they would say you can come over anytime when you feel bad and all the sudden they got a new boyfriend haven't seen my friend in over 2 months and every time I asked to hang out with them it's always some excuse but they're always got time for their man
I haven’t heard from all my friend since a few month , they all have boyfriends and I don’t as I don’t rush into things like they do. They don’t make time for me
My friend did that to me too I'm honestly to the point where I'm just like fuck them and when that person and them don't work anymore don't come crying to me
I don't really give a damn if a friend wants to prioritize time with their SO, but that shouldn't have to be to the total exclusion of other relationships. What'll you do if the SO is fake or cheats or just dumps you? You still need a support system beyond the SO.
Thank you for this video. Been dealing with this with someone I thought was a friend. And the dude is not so, low-key pretty mean to her and she won't do anything without him. She's ditched her entire friend group to make sure she is available to him.
Glad i found this because this happened to me. She ditched me for her bf who told me to kms cause I'm Queer. He keeps making fun of her friends and bullies them and she lets him. So glad I'm not friends with her anymore
Had this shit happen to me a long time ago,Shit still hurts deeply years and years later,I hope they break up soon if they havent already
Imagine it being your sister of 46 years,my heart feels split in two 😢
My two best friends and I used to play games constantly and talk to each-other every single day.
A bunch of stuff happened. They both broke up with their exes (who were both toxic) and since then I noticed they were hanging out more and more with just the two of them, without inviting me.
Eventually, they just didn't put effort into our friendship anymore and even stopped texting me for weeks at a time (saying they were too "busy" with work and stuff.) this really messed me up mentally, but I pretended I was fine with it.
I knew they were probably dating, and when they told me they were, I couldn't pretend anymore and straight up said: "I don't want to be a third wheel." and asked them not to contact me anymore (I mostly just wanted to make a statement that I felt mistreated and was not gonna let them walk over me anymore).
I think it's a good thing to establish your wants and needs in friendships, and you should draw boundaries or leave if you notice they don't put the same effort in as you do.
Sticking around when you're miserable will only make things worse.
Nah, at my HS my bro was the only person who would hang out with me at lunch, and he pretends to hang out, spending 10 seconds eating with me, so he can say we did hang out. I just want one day to hang out with him, but any time he can't find her and we hang out, she just shows up, and he walks away mid-conversation. I can't get mad without seeming creepy
My friend ditched me and our small friend group because my personality is too childish and he’s just too good for me. I was only trying to have fun
Fuck them then
This is honestly my biggest pet peeve. When I was married and engaged, my friends were always a priority.
I’ve had a few friends go into relationships which I totally support, then have no time to speak on weekends, make plans, etc. I’ve actually nos drawn a line in the sand because it’s not a friendship, you’re a convenience and that’s not the kind of relationships I want.
Most recently, my closest friend starting dating someone and I have barely spoken to her all year. She lives in another state and this boyfriend does not even want to meet me , he’s not “ready”
I tried to express both concern for the red flags, and how distant she’s become and it fell on deaf ears even though she’s the most opinionated on peoples relationships.
This is her first relationship in 30 years.
I let the relationship go because I cannot believe she’d allow this to dictate her life- her response is it’s rude to reach out to me when they’re together 😂
I wished her all the best this could explain why she has no friends.
The hats my
Other advice to people- if someone has no friends, be cautious as there’s usually a reason
This is so true
lol so true
Hey I know its been a while, but a friend I met two years ago and who I connected with deeply at 30 years old got a bf, I didnt meet the guy at all for a long time cause he wasn{t very social, im okay with that, at some point they broke up and for months they suddently go back together in the weirdest way possible and now theyre back together, i feel not valued at all, i dont see my other female friends act this way, not reaching out, not wanting to hang out even tho we are so close from eachother, but somehow they still want to keep contact but life its too busy to see eachother in 3 months... I am gay, so its not about a mutual attraction, it makes me feel so sad to let go of this friendhsip, but I FEEL like i will have to because I care alot.
My guy friend (we've been best friends for 6+ years) just told me we can't be friends because his gf is jealous. I'm in another time zone. I haven't talked to my friend in months waiting to hear his excuse for ghosting me 🥴
Any update
@@ChillingStreams no. I've forgiven him and will keep trying to when I get angry again. Adopted another dog to help haha
all of my best friends got bfs during pandemic. im not close to my family so my friends are my family. they are bringing their bfs to a trip and i am going to be a 15th wheeler. they never make time for me i haven’t seen them in over a year and they don’t text much either and if anything say i messge too much. when we do get to talk it’s always about their bfs. i just want to hang out with them with out the bfs and do couple hangouts only. they always talking about sex and getting pregnant. i have endometriosis so i cant do either. i just wanna be with them and not feel disconnected or jealous. knowing that we will probably keep growing apart really hurts. we were a solid friend group for 8 years.
I'd advise you to either find new friends more like yourself or to start pursuing personal interests and prioritizing that over social pursuits. As your current friend group ages they are going to be absorbed with their man and making babies. That is going to become their whole entire world and no, you wont be able to relate and it's going to make navigating relationships hard. Telling you out of experience. I'm turning 30 this year and im single by choice and childfree. The only friends that are still close to me are the childfree ones. All the others have turned into mombies and only hang out with hubby or their mombie clique so it seconds as a play date for junior.
@@Pompomeranian7 thanks for the advice
My best friend is a guy. He recently got a girlfriend (who is mean to me) and he has been ditching me. He knows she is mean to me, but he does not care. I asked him the other day a question that after 4 years of knowing each other, he should know: my birthday. Low and behold, he got it wrong. We have been friends since the beginning of 2018, and he met this girl in October of 2020. In fact, my profile picture is us about 1 year after we met. It was before his girlfriend showed up. The worst part is, that this is one out of 3 photos I have of me and him, and I've known him for 4 years. This situation makes me so mad, and is 100% the reason I cry as much as I do. Oh and before I stop the little rant I'm on, he FaceTime's her when we are hanging out. There as not been one time we hung out when he didn't call her. And my face was cold and he could see I was NOT happy, but he continued to talk to this girl. It urks me so much. And everyone is saying I should make more friends (his girlfriend told me that in secret so I wouldn't keep tagging along) but due to my school's COVID restrictions, I can't do band or play at recess with anyone else, and I have made friends with everyone in my class. I just hate this so much but there's nothing I can do about it. Okay I'm done.
Get it out of you system
There might be talk (between them) about your obvious uncomfort when she shows up (via FaceTime). This is a love relationship he entered. No private one on one time like a date so you should get used to those calls if you want to keep your “friend”. It honestly reads like you have a hidden crush you may not have fully acknowledged and his new relationship is helping uncover that. I think this is a growth exercise most women need to go thru in order to realize the boundaries they DONT have in place with their opposite sex friends. You should realize he’s in love and if you want your friendship so badly you should try to include her in your meet ups (mean or not) It may just change the dynamic and the way you are viewed. Good luck 🍀
Believe me, I can relate.
I'm a straight guy (who's happily engaged, I might add), and most of my friends are women, so I often encounter similar situations.
It's always a toss-up to see how many of my friends will stick up for our friendship when dealing with an insecure partner versus those who are willing to throw me under the bus.
Even some of my oldest friends have cast me aside once they met "the one."
You like him more than a friend and the new girlfriend knows it and can feel it. Let him go, sis.
@@KurosakiLuvar01are you tucking serious
I absolutely love this rant !!! I feel the same exact wayyyyy!!
Omg 😂 this is so true. My friend of 2 years who I thought was close to me literally dumped me. I don't know if they were even a friend now
Not only has my best friend been around his boyfriend when he's finally free and doesn't make time to meet up with me or hang out like we usually do, but his boyfriend was super mean to me and my best friend decided that he doesn't care that his boyfriend hurt me by calling me names and acted like the bullies I had when I was crippled. It hurts a lot that my best friend doesn't want to know what happened and doesn't care. I'm super glad for my other friend who stood up for me when I was down and hurt from the sharp words, but I just want my best friend back and I feel helpless.
I hate how people are obsessed with romantic relationships
@@keyshawnscott12 Agreed😣
@@lmay007 yeah it's so weird like we don't matter anymore
I guess gays gotta stick together
Crying while watching this cause I decided to step back from my long term best friend (we're best friends since elementary school!) She had good guys before but this new one is manipulative and overall bad person and already trapped her so I felt it's already too much for me.
I hate these people who bring their girlfriend/boyfriend to everything. You see eachother everyday. Is it really that difficult to have a few evenings in the year where you just hang out with friends and not see eachother.
Once my "friend" and her boyfriend were arguing and then she said it's me or ur friend and she counted up to 1-3 and my "friend" choose him over her friends I didnt rlly get bothered but when I started think I about it I asked her and she said she would choose me but I wasnt sure so I stopped being friends with her now I kind of feel bad but I'm trying to get thru it
So I’m not in quite the same situation, but there are some annoying bits to it. So one of my best friends is currently in a relationship and engaged to this person. They were previously together, but then broke up for a time, but got back together at the beginning of this year. And I was happy for them and supportive, because I could tell they really love each other quite a lot and seem to make one another happy. Now I wouldn’t say my best friend prioritizes his relationship above our friendship, he still tries to make time so that we can hang out, and is always reaching out and letting me know he’s there for me. However, whenever we do hang out, I feel like more often than not, it does become about talking about his fiancé. Which gets annoying after a while. I feel like they are incredibly clingy with one another at times and somewhat co-dependent. And sometimes it can come off as him being focused on his relationship and his relationship only, even when we’re hanging out. There’s a lot more to it, but this will be a novel length comment if I go into more detail. So, again, not quite the same situation or circumstance. But still, knowing that you’re basically displaced by your best friends SO at the time and after you’ve been there for them for quite a while and then not seeing them that often at all kinda hurts. Like I get that in a way, yes, your best friend’s significant other will inevitably take priority over you sometimes. But sometimes it just feels like the best friends and the meaning and support that they bring are almost forgotten.
i think the way you’re feeling is valid. it does get tiring after a while
Same as my sister was my best friend,I'm in a relationship but always offered her on holiday with us or more to the point she invited herself,we went theatre together ,everything,until she got a boyfriend and that was it woukd leave my msg on read for days ,this has gone on 4 years now ,we've had 3 blow ups ,she codependent with this guy,she introduced him to theatre ,never invites me,I've hurt too much now ,I've put it down as she's used me ,until she got a boyfriend 😢
My best friend that I would cut off my hand off for is currently ditching me for a 3 month work-lationship and I'm fucking devastated. I can't even look at them without getting viscerally angry because now I feel like I'm getting discarded like a piece of garbage. I'm sorry I wasn't enough to keep your friendship. I hope you keep close the people that your cherish.
my friend ditch me, his name is allen, 23 we were friends since grade 4. He stopped talking to me when he met his new boyfriend ( his gay) im happy for him but I am really sad/mad cuz I really liked him as a friend. we barely talk now hopefully we get to meet and fix each other again
Thanks I thought I was alone or just be selfish cause I want to hangout with my FRIENDS not my friend and THEIR BOO 😒🙄🙄
girl i really needed to hear this thanks so much for making this video
I Can relate
My best friend of 6 years literally cut me off with no warning, removed me on everything and hasn’t spoken to me in months. The only thing I can think is her partner doesn’t like our relationship. It definitely sucks though.
This has happened to me SO MANY times.
I'm sorry that you're going through this.
@@NotSoPhotogenic it started off her partner was deleting my text when I tried to message my bff, and then she deleted my number. When I confronted her and said something to my best friend, she took the gfs side. Things became kinda awkward after that and then she randomly cut me off completely.
@@madisongamblin4913 I really do understand your pain.
I'm still getting over a very similar situation myself.
@@NotSoPhotogenic I’m sorry you’re going through something similar. I pray we both find comfort in our situations.☺️
@@madisongamblin4913 Thank you.
Same here.
So my former best friend's bf made me super uncomfortable all the time so our group stopped inviting him to join our friend hang outs. Very rarely do we invite significant others anyway, but she would make plans with us and then drop out at the last second. We asked her what was up and she said that he did not appreciate not being invited to group things. Another one of our friends mentioned that she needs to figure out what events and life things are important to her, in an attempt to compromise, and she told her boyfriend that we're making her choose between him and us. So now he's convinced her that we are toxic and unaccepting of partners and how he (straight white cis man) is being attacked because we are possessive.
Also this former best friend and her bf ASSAULTED me and tried to gaslight me into believing I wanted it so that's why I was uncomfy.
Had a friend ditch me for her scumbag fiance now husband. She ditched EVERYONE over him took his side. Years later and I'm still pissed. Her husband is arrogant 2 faced POS who feels he can interfere in friendships but wants nobody on his relationship business.
Oh god if they had children, I feel like they're going to get neglected.
I’M LITERALLY IN THIS SITUATION!
A very close friend I know has started dating and it’s her very first boyfriend. She has been ditching & canceling plans since then. Last year she mentioned she wants to invite me to trip to México with her boyfriend, his brother, his brother’s boyfriend, One of her boyfriend’s cousin, my guy friend, and then me.
I IMMEDIATELY shut it down and gave her an excuse of not wanting to go. Because I already know she’s just gonna ignore me the entire trip and leave me in the cold.
I honestly feel like a pet nowadays whenever we plan to hang out and ALWAYS ask if she can bring her boyfriend. I rather have no friends at all then being treated like pet or being push to the side.
Literally been friends for 5 years and she ditched me for a bitch that cheated on her
Yeah my friend got a boyfriend and he's only known this guy for a couple months and he's known me for 4-5 years it hurts it really does. I was so supportive but now it's really starting to get to me and I'm really considering cutting off the relationship.
This happened to me recently… unbelievable
Before they got a gf me and my friend of like 12 yrs would ask to hang out all the time, both me asking them and them asking me.
But now, it essentially goes like this.
me: “wanna hang out this weekend?”
them: “can’t i’m hanging out with ____”
all. the damn. time.
RIIIIIGHT!?!?!?!?
New Boundary, do not ghost me when you get into a new relationship. Otherwise, Bye!
Yeaaaaahhhh..... The worst is when it's a decades long friend and your neighbor, and your friend parks in front of your house while visiting their new crush aka my neighbor....... Really..... 😒
And yeah, I tried to gently remind them.... It was still weird.... And got even weirder... It felt like toxic abuse... like the mean girls in high school... It came to the point my neighbor told me they would no longer respect my boundaries. Ummm... No. I went no contact. Neighbor eventually moved out, and moved in with my friend. I ended up going no contact with my friend too, cause her crush could "do no wrong" and totally invalidated me. This friend even mentioned my boundaries where mean... Ok.. bye. ✌️
It's soooo annoying forreal. My car broke down in the middle of the road at 9 o'clock at night tonight. I was locked in the car and couldn't get out cuz the battery died. Called a so-called friend and instead of making sure I was ok or even driving up to help me. She was like yeah sorry I'm at the guys house I met on tinder 3 weeks ago. 🙄
My best friend only literally wanted to talk to me when her and her boyfriend was having problems and when she did talk to me just to talk all she wanted to talk about was her boyfriend and when I tried changing the subject or talking about anything I was going threw it was just yeah... but anyway and back to talking about him and broke up with him for 3 days and only then did she beg for me to come hang out with her but of corse she took him back and it was back to the same stuff and i lately told her he put a friend request in for me and he has always repeatedly put in requests for me and he wanted me before he ever meant her but I rejected him I got a bad feeling off of him but anyway I told her that her boyfriend is bothering me requesting me like hell and she called me a lier and got so pissed and blocked me... wow
My friend hardly hangs out with me, didn even celebrate my birthday this year, like we use too for each other.
He’s with this girl for just a few months. Can’t even see him at all, coming to close a year ☹️. I was so shocked that he will just behave like this. In his previous relationships, he would still make time for friends…… but somehow he has deserted everyone for his gf
It’s so annoying be friends with boyfriend obsessed ppl like that’s the only thing they think of non stop and then they drop you when there dating but then when there not dating there all over you for what like I always fee used in those sort of friendships and it so annoying because I keep making friends with those sorts of people
my bsf of almost 6 years told me she wasn’t coming to my upcoming 16th birthday if guys were gonna be there because she wants to “respect her boyfriend”. i haven’t had a birthday without her there since 5th grade. when i asked why she was being selfish by telling me she wasn’t coming if certain people were gonna be there and she said “LOL”
Then she's no real friend
Guy sounds like a controlling Narcissist, former friend lacks confidence and is controlled. Toxic all the way around
idk why, but this is the 30th time i have asked my friend to hang out and he said no just to hang out with his girl. Also my friend i have new since i was like 5 and they dithed me for girls. So yup
My friend forget me for his girlfriend I just fxxking can’t
My friend invited me last year near christmas to her house. Ends up she felt lonely and her husbands family was there . Her husband talked down to her when it was her turn to play jenga. She removed herself and went to the nursery. I felt bad because ive seen his temperament and i cant stand it. Shes acting distant and i have a feeling they are having issues
My pal got a gf and now, he refuses to binge watch red vs blue with me... It sucks....
Their new life has started that's why they (ditch you).
Bingo ! And you also find out how much they hated their “mediocre” life before the new partner smh
@@arnellehardy1091 yes its part of life but if they're a true friend they will always come back.. and they come back in the form of hey girl my in law says wassup he a good man come join the fam lol
Until they broke up and call u crying….