Betrayal hurts!! Especially after you’ve invested your all into a relationship. But you know what, you’re still worthy of love & trust. May Allah facilitate the healing of all those who’ve been betrayed.
The way the three of you handle difficult life topics with such care, grace and intellect is commendable. May The Most High preserve all three of you and allow you to continue to do this significant work not just for our communities, but all of humanity. Ameen.
i moved on, because i know that the grieving only wastes our years, grief makes us old ,we age and all our life will be filled with sadness, whilst the betrayer moves on, marries has kids, doesn't even think of what they did to us or how it made us feel, would never bother or even care .We are our own enemy or our saviour
@@acaan2669 No , as i have not found what i want ...This experience has only made me more wiser and stronger and not to make any silly decisions out of emotion but to use my brain and not look at oh he's religious ..but how he is as a whole, is he truthful, is he mature, is he reliable etc ..as my ex was religious but he turned out to be worse than an atheist ....inshallah when the time is right and Allah sends me someone who will love me and never wrong me and is a man of god then i am open to.
@@JH_77 I understand how it is. I recently separated from my spouse and when I first met him he was a decent practicing bloke and then he started to change. Even though he’s the one who filed for divorce I’m not that upset because I’m relieved I got out of a toxic marriage. I really do hope you find someone who is respectful and honest.
@@susu130390 Thank you,i pray the same for you to my dear sis . It's a valuable experience and it teaches us alot of things and your right at the end we got peace.
Betrayal is such a unique thing that when looking for answers or healing, you will never find from a person. I found that waking in the last third of the night and making dua and praying was by far the most beneficial component to my healing.
Thank you sisters. I’ve been betrayed, badly, by two people I loved. I feel broken, I’ve never felt this broken before. I am trying to find the strength to heal. Pray for me sisters.
May allah swt heal you sister❤ i truly believe you will come out of it stronger! Allah does not leave you alone❤ you are so loved and beautiful, they did not just betray you but mostly themselves, they broke themselves by sinning. The issue is theirs. You will get out of it stronger i truly believe that❤
At the end of the day, our pain is only temporary but the ones who deceives and betrays are hurting themselves for much longer. We might get bruised up but we come out winning in the end.
Phew! There is just something about how sister Sumaya delivers her punch lines, Subhanallah! It is time to show-up correct. May Allah reward you sisters, abundantly.
Layinka is right when she says healing is vital. Of course it is. No one can live with pain forever. At some point in your life, the pain will be so heavy in your chest that you will not have no option but to heal your wounds. To everyone who 's living with unhealed wounds, dont worry time will make the healing easy. Time is the best healer. But you taking the decision to get rid of the pain is less hurting than sitting and waiting for the time to heal you. It hurts so much, but it will end one day.
I’m not a Muslim, but from my tradition (Sikhi) I would put forward the notion that we should only ever put our hope and trust God, Vaheguru, Allah, and accept with a sense of compassion that people will let us down. We hope to choose to lay our trust with people we find to be honest, accountable, and the like, but it helps to admit the limitations of people. If we don’t (as you say) put people on a pedestal, then it creates more room to talk about our struggles and shortcomings, whereby people are less likely to hide their imperfections, and things are safe to reveal before actions are taken. There is less room for a lead-up, a series of micro choices that constitute the slow motion shattering of the relationship. We call God’s will “hukam” in Sikhi, but really, hukam is simply what is. I guess why I’m saying that is, in a way, betrayal is an attachment to what we wanted, rather than what “is” or in many cases, what trulthfully “was”. This is probably applicable to the betrayer as much as the betrayed. Thanks for all your thoughtful discussions.
This episode touched me to the core. It brought tears to my eyes. I strongly suggest a part 2 please, Insha'Allah. Maybe in another season or in this current season. I wish I could have a one on one conversation on this very topic with Layinka. Masha'Allah to me she comes off in a unique way that makes you just want to pour yourself out to her, just for a listening ear. Amazing discussion topic ladies.
Betrayal is the most soul destroying experience and as much as you want to remain objective to be able to think rationally you simply can’t. It’s all so consuming, you can’t think, eat or even sleep. It’s painful and you question your self, you wonder if you should have known. All I know is that when I found out I was betrayed I called the person out and walked out of the situation. I reflected and went into therapy, I had to heal and I still am healing. Liyanka is right, the betrayer goes on living their best life, no due care or consideration to the “victim” !
The worst betrayal came from parents, needing them the most and them being too busy with their social lives and paternal/ maternal families. Constantly seeing them degrade uses and abandon their offsprings lives like some kinda of chest game My biggest regret in life respecting and listening to people who I should have abandoned years ago!!!
Yes sis/brother, This is so true as I’ve been through this and it still continues. I always put my parents first but found out much later, that my husband and I were irreverent and what we were doing was a waste of time. ... too long of a subject to continue.
Assalam alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I'd like you think how culturally heavily invested is your family. I bet lots of the things they do and how they treat you can be explained purely because of how they're so heavily invested in following the local culture. Lots of fellow Muslims mix cultural nonsense that can't be backed up with the Quran, sunnah and ahadith and I know how hard the Desi culture is for both males and females. I have a different background than yours and I've been ditched by my family at least thrice and I'm talking about heavy stuff, traumatizing ones I've had to deal with totally alone (a possible rape, I faced every type of violence in my second marriage, tumor in my leg and I'm a revert so that's also a bit challenging sometimes). What I suggest is that you have to accept that this was their conscious choice they made (not being there for you) but things could change and you should try to fix your relationship with your parents. Create a space where you can talk about your feelings openly and let them know you have your boundaries, try not to get angry and yell at them. For instance, my mom thought I didn't need her and her help because I already had friends and I didn't tell her I needed that. We're not as close as I'd like to be (I don't know her favorite color or food) but we agreed that we would both let each other know when we need help. We talk daily alhamdulillah on the phone. They will learn a lot, too, from you. You could also unite together in a better way and becoming more practising. Communication is the key to everything. Suffocating and suppressing one's feelings is only going to lead to more problems and in the end, unnecessary resentment.
This is the most profound video I have watched. It is like they are speaking about me. For the first time since I was betrayed, I can truly see the true perspective. I felt no one understands what I went through and how I am feeling. My sisters around me keep telling me I need to get married again. I have to go on and on again that I am not ready; that I don't think I can do it again... This video is so profound I can actually get up and dance (and I am at work with my head phones on :-) )
JazakAllah Khair sisters. This episode means so much to me. It does take time but to all the sisters ( & brothers) out there who have experienced betrayal, it takes time, such a long & time to get over that betrayal, it takes time to heal & to become yourself again. To all those out there, please do not give up, seek help with the wonderful professional's who are out there. Seek help with Allah SWT & know that this happened for a reason, give yourself time & self care & self love is very important. You are down but you are not out & when you are at the bottom the only way is up & in Shaa Allah you.will be a better person for the experience. It's is a gift from Allah SWT. Allahumdillah, it's taken a long time but I now feel I am on the next part of my journey after a betrayal that broke me, brought me to my lowest mentally, emotionally & physically. I take each day as it comes & I listen to my mental well being. It is a struggle, but I getting stronger. May Allah SWT give everyone the strength, support & love to come back stronger than before after a betrayal that brought them to the bottom. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋
I can understand that this is probably a woman’s show? But I came across this video and I appreciate LaYinka really trying to add that balance and address what’s not always addressed.
This video is the therapy I needed. I have been going through a lot and I’m trying to make sense out of things. This video spoke to me and you ladies mentioned every little thing that I am going through and even gave me a better understanding of it. Betrayal has been the most painful thing that I have experienced. I’m glad that you mentioned “ the person’s lies, and betrayal is separate from my individuality “. I needed to hear this🥺. May Allah reward y’all
Season 3 just gets better and better 👏👏 I cannot stress enough holding on to God and asking for his help, even though it might be *very* difficult at times. And begin on the journey of empowering yourself early on. Feeling helpless and weak will harm you. Begin by strengthening yourself to stand straight again. Get that degree, find the job. Be active in the recovery process.
Jazakh’illah khair sisters this episode was very deep and touched me deeply. May Allah swt make all your difficulties easy, Aaliyah I felt some pain through your eyes when you spoke about this topic. I pray Allah Gives you the ability to heal, love and be loved ameen x
I have experienced betrayal. At first I thought I could get over it easily. But mashaa Allaah, after that incident the impact was unbelievable. I began thinking negative thoughts and have suspicions. May Allaah heal our wounds, especially the ones that we choose to hide.
one of the key things I have truly begun to understand is the concept of the human being made to folly and the only being that will never let you down is Allah (swt), when you mentioned that sometimes some people have to be broken, completely shattered in order to realise their self worth...it hit home...I am one of those people...I have truly seen wisdom in attaching my emotional state to Allah (swt). Yasmin mogahed put it beautifully when she mentioned 'when the centre of your heart is occupied by anything other than Allah you are doomed for heartache'. May Allah reward you and I hope you follow up with a part 2
Such wise sisters mashallah. I really enjoy these talks ♥ I feel though, it's safer not to fully trust because human beings are prone to making mistakes or choices that could potentially break you whether intentional or unintentional. We need to lower our expectations never assuming that person is incapable of hurting or betraying us no matter who they are to you. It sounds like a lonely place to be but actually, when the wounds have started to heal, it can only bring us closer to Allah on a more personal level. I've been betrayed so bad a few times and it does impact our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. But nothing lasts forever. If it wasn't a blessing then it was surely a lesson. Even though we cannot see it during the turmoil.
💯 defo true. But it’s hard. I’m someone who starts off guarded but slowly starts to invest more and then just wear my heart on my sleeve without me even realising it! 🙈 and then boom!....
You ladies said everything perfectly in this. MashaAllah. Your episodes are educating so many women to rise and look after themselves better. I am on that healing journey and accurately relate to what you said about dealing with betrayal and the triggering of child wounds too. You deal with multiple traumas at the same time and it absolutely sends you in a detrimental spiral subhanaAllah. Allah knows everything. Thank you for educating us all.
Could you talk about illness - physical and psychological, illness in the family/ parents, role reversal as daughters/sisters/wives/mothers please. May Allah reward your efforts and bring you all good health and wellbeing ♡
Barakallahu fikoum dear sisters. Sometimes we do make the mistake of putting others on a pedestal when we should put only Allah swt that high. May Allah heal all of us who have been betrayed.
I was betrayed by a close family member, the closest. It nearly broke me. No lie, I ended up in hospital it shattered my reality so cataclysmically. I am so much stronger for it, and have much better clarity, but it did break my mind and broke my heart.
Betrayal is real and it hurts!!! I have been betrayed many times in my life, I could never understand it as I gave my all self to these people. Allhamdulilah, as time has gone on, I realised that a lot of it was to do with my own self worth in my own eyes. I was attracting people who would hurt me and betray me. I therefore cannot emphasise enough that we MUST do our own internal work (betrayed or not betrayed). It is also really important to understand the stories that we attach to 'betrayals'. I have worked with so many people who are unable to take responsibility and therefore fall to becoming victims. Taking responsibility of our own choices will empower us and our lives even if we have been betrayed. The people who betray others make their choices and it is important for the one has been betrayed to also make a choice. I would also add that when giving ourselves to others and investing ourselves in relationships, we must ask ourselves who we are and what we are investing in. Being clear on crucial questions before we go into any relationship can save us a lot of heartache (I think this is a similar point to setting boundaries that you mentioned). Reminding ourselves that our deen is perfect but we are not, that we will make choices that may not always seem to be 'good' for us but like you all said, in the end it is ALL good!! Having trust in the one who will never betray us is the real deal! Loving others through HIS love will always help us to heal better. May HE who is the source of love, love us all and bless us with the ability to love ourselves and others sincerely for HIS sake alone, ameen xxx
Thank you so much for such a heartfelt session ❤ it captured so intricately how and what a person feels like on the receiving end of betrayal. I never truly understood what a life rupture was until I went through this myself. It makes you re-evaluate every aspect of your life, which is an essential but uncomfortable part of your healing. My heart goes out to everyone who is still on that journey (including me) - Allah has got you xxx
Beautifully said... smashed to the floor... ur life is upside down... and yes even if U wana forgive and even the other person admits the mistake... the relationship simply is never the same ever...
Part 2- plz defo needs to address those who decide to carry on with the person who betrayed. So even after betrayal- you’re constantly triggered by just the face even. Both parties are trying to move forward. Even though many promises have been made and broken many times. To trust? this time is the real time?
Another episode that has me just holding my head and my breath trying to obtain the answers. Thank you ladies for speaking on topics that mean so much.
Mashallah. I have been following you since season 1 and every time I learn something. There is so much that needs to be touched and talked about in our community. I am so happy that by each episode I gain so much more knowledge and this is a support in its own. Thank you for creating this channel.
It’s beautiful how you talk about how at the end of the day what’s most important is your relationship with Allah, and how difficulties can actually help you strengthen that. Thank you
Please please please talk about relationships between mother and daughter. I have a bad relationship with my mom and god gave me a daughter last year and I am terrified to have the same issue
I second this Its really hard to turn to anyone on this matter because of the fact that IT IS your mother and thats all what people see or hear. Not your pain and hurt.
You have to heal yourself and go to therapy . Forgive your mother and set a boundaries. Get a book on how to parent. May Allah ease your pain and heal you. Ameen
I do truly feel that there are people who truly understand that I am not alone. Just that, soothes my heart!! I had always felt this happened to me because I was not good enough. Alhamdulillah, that was never the case. Thank you Ladies, Thank you; Thank you. Truly, you three are angels on earth. Walahi. Love you.
Sisters would really love to watch out for part 2 cause I really need lot of your words and encouragement in been strong and finding self love and care jazakhallahu khair
This is the best thing I ever seen on TH-cam and in dunyah.may the almighty bless you all beyond understanding.also I hope you all grow and land a on tv inshallah.this is very impactful.also want to say this topic happens on haram relationships as well
Oh GOD! You, sisters are doing a very very very great work Masha'allah! With so much sweetness and empathy! This topic is so interesting and i am sure theses words will help many sisters to find their way to recovery. I totally agree when you say This is a turning point in your life but it can be the become an opportunity toward improvement! Mashallah !!
its sad to say I have been going through a betrayal in the past 3 weeks and this video helped me a lot and i cant stop crying because i didnt allow myself to go through it all
Salaam alaykum sisters.its best to accept the betrayal and do a double somersault into a survival mode. It won't be nice if they get to hurt you and still control you afterwards. The decision to hurt you defines what you thought you had with them.its Allah showing you the truth.
There should be a follow on episode إن شاء الله..!!! Really! So many aspects untouched as you need the time to branch off onto them. Please, keep this conversation going.. wonderful and sincere ladies, it was honest and raw and, a truly authentic discussion between the 3 of you!
A great followup video to this would be to explore whether it is possible to get back to a person that has betrayed you. Of course, given they apologize and change their ways. Is is possible or is it a relationship that you close the door on and walk away from? Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear it :)
May Allah make it easy for all those who have been betrayed. May Allah heal their pain and wounds. May Allah make them stronger and empower them. May Allah make them better stronger versions of themselves. May Allah replace the betrayer in their lives with a better, kinder, more trustworthy person. May it always work in their favour in the end. Ameen, ameen.🙏🌷 Sending you love and light.
Likewise the same situation am going through, I recently had a tough relationship whereby I felt betrayed,rejected and unwanted subhanallah and going through it is something I find hard to I keep running away from it, thinking it will be fixed
betrayal breaks your heart but then it fixes your vision
Subhan Allah rightly said!
On point!
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Very interesting thought but very true
Alhamdulillah, say that again for the people in the back! 🗣
Betrayal hurts!! Especially after you’ve invested your all into a relationship. But you know what, you’re still worthy of love & trust.
May Allah facilitate the healing of all those who’ve been betrayed.
Facts..feeling that right now
Ameen
That trauma is what I am undergoing right now!
Ameen
The way the three of you handle difficult life topics with such care, grace and intellect is commendable. May The Most High preserve all three of you and allow you to continue to do this significant work not just for our communities, but all of humanity. Ameen.
Ameen
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i moved on, because i know that the grieving only wastes our years, grief makes us old ,we age and all our life will be filled with sadness, whilst the betrayer moves on, marries has kids, doesn't even think of what they did to us or how it made us feel, would never bother or even care .We are our own enemy or our saviour
I totally get what you mean
@SJazs H, did you marry again?
@@acaan2669 No , as i have not found what i want ...This experience has only made me more wiser and stronger and not to make any silly decisions out of emotion but to use my brain and not look at oh he's religious ..but how he is as a whole, is he truthful, is he mature, is he reliable etc ..as my ex was religious but he turned out to be worse than an atheist ....inshallah when the time is right and Allah sends me someone who will love me and never wrong me and is a man of god then i am open to.
@@JH_77 I understand how it is. I recently separated from my spouse and when I first met him he was a decent practicing bloke and then he started to change. Even though he’s the one who filed for divorce I’m not that upset because I’m relieved I got out of a toxic marriage. I really do hope you find someone who is respectful and honest.
@@susu130390 Thank you,i pray the same for you to my dear sis . It's a valuable experience and it teaches us alot of things and your right at the end we got peace.
Betrayal is such a unique thing that when looking for answers or healing, you will never find from a person. I found that waking in the last third of the night and making dua and praying was by far the most beneficial component to my healing.
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Thank you sisters. I’ve been betrayed, badly, by two people I loved. I feel broken, I’ve never felt this broken before. I am trying to find the strength to heal. Pray for me sisters.
May allah swt heal you sister❤ i truly believe you will come out of it stronger! Allah does not leave you alone❤ you are so loved and beautiful, they did not just betray you but mostly themselves, they broke themselves by sinning. The issue is theirs. You will get out of it stronger i truly believe that❤
Damn are you seriously
May Allah swt heal you..I too understand betrayal...
At the end of the day, our pain is only temporary but the ones who deceives and betrays are hurting themselves for much longer. We might get bruised up but we come out winning in the end.
Even if this life is temporary it's doesn't mean to hurt, destroy, upset, use, abuse, break hearts!
Phew! There is just something about how sister Sumaya delivers her punch lines, Subhanallah! It is time to show-up correct.
May Allah reward you sisters, abundantly.
Layinka is right when she says healing is vital. Of course it is. No one can live with pain forever. At some point in your life, the pain will be so heavy in your chest that you will not have no option but to heal your wounds. To everyone who 's living with unhealed wounds, dont worry time will make the healing easy. Time is the best healer. But you taking the decision to get rid of the pain is less hurting than sitting and waiting for the time to heal you. It hurts so much, but it will end one day.
I’m not a Muslim, but from my tradition (Sikhi) I would put forward the notion that we should only ever put our hope and trust God, Vaheguru, Allah, and accept with a sense of compassion that people will let us down. We hope to choose to lay our trust with people we find to be honest, accountable, and the like, but it helps to admit the limitations of people. If we don’t (as you say) put people on a pedestal, then it creates more room to talk about our struggles and shortcomings, whereby people are less likely to hide their imperfections, and things are safe to reveal before actions are taken. There is less room for a lead-up, a series of micro choices that constitute the slow motion shattering of the relationship. We call God’s will “hukam” in Sikhi, but really, hukam is simply what is. I guess why I’m saying that is, in a way, betrayal is an attachment to what we wanted, rather than what “is” or in many cases, what trulthfully “was”. This is probably applicable to the betrayer as much as the betrayed. Thanks for all your thoughtful discussions.
This episode touched me to the core. It brought tears to my eyes. I strongly suggest a part 2 please, Insha'Allah. Maybe in another season or in this current season. I wish I could have a one on one conversation on this very topic with Layinka. Masha'Allah to me she comes off in a unique way that makes you just want to pour yourself out to her, just for a listening ear. Amazing discussion topic ladies.
She has her own channel and does courses and things. Check it out! X
@@gigimonrose157 , please what is the name of her channel?
@@kittybegum8486 LaYinka Sanni
Reality as you know is snatched away.. exactly that’s how I feel. I am trying to shake it but it’s hard. This is me 100%.
Betrayal is the most soul destroying experience and as much as you want to remain objective to be able to think rationally you simply can’t. It’s all so consuming, you can’t think, eat or even sleep. It’s painful and you question your self, you wonder if you should have known. All I know is that when I found out I was betrayed I called the person out and walked out of the situation. I reflected and went into therapy, I had to heal and I still am healing. Liyanka is right, the betrayer goes on living their best life, no due care or consideration to the “victim” !
Thank you sister it's true betrayal can take time to heal your broken heart. Our community doesn't recognise & understand specially for women.
“Yes, it impacted you, but it shouldn’t enter the realm of your identity.” 💡 MashaAllah.
The worst betrayal came from parents, needing them the most and them being too busy with their social lives and paternal/ maternal families.
Constantly seeing them degrade uses and abandon their offsprings lives like some kinda of chest game
My biggest regret in life respecting and listening to people who I should have abandoned years ago!!!
Yes sis/brother, This is so true as I’ve been through this and it still continues. I always put my parents first but found out much later, that my husband and I were irreverent and what we were doing was a waste of time. ... too long of a subject to continue.
@@Autumn74 pray for me sister I’m suffocating because of blood ties. Need Allah to help me find a way out
Assalam alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I'd like you think how culturally heavily invested is your family. I bet lots of the things they do and how they treat you can be explained purely because of how they're so heavily invested in following the local culture. Lots of fellow Muslims mix cultural nonsense that can't be backed up with the Quran, sunnah and ahadith and I know how hard the Desi culture is for both males and females. I have a different background than yours and I've been ditched by my family at least thrice and I'm talking about heavy stuff, traumatizing ones I've had to deal with totally alone (a possible rape, I faced every type of violence in my second marriage, tumor in my leg and I'm a revert so that's also a bit challenging sometimes). What I suggest is that you have to accept that this was their conscious choice they made (not being there for you) but things could change and you should try to fix your relationship with your parents. Create a space where you can talk about your feelings openly and let them know you have your boundaries, try not to get angry and yell at them. For instance, my mom thought I didn't need her and her help because I already had friends and I didn't tell her I needed that. We're not as close as I'd like to be (I don't know her favorite color or food) but we agreed that we would both let each other know when we need help. We talk daily alhamdulillah on the phone. They will learn a lot, too, from you. You could also unite together in a better way and becoming more practising. Communication is the key to everything. Suffocating and suppressing one's feelings is only going to lead to more problems and in the end, unnecessary resentment.
This is the most profound video I have watched. It is like they are speaking about me. For the first time since I was betrayed, I can truly see the true perspective. I felt no one understands what I went through and how I am feeling. My sisters around me keep telling me I need to get married again. I have to go on and on again that I am not ready; that I don't think I can do it again...
This video is so profound I can actually get up and dance (and I am at work with my head phones on :-) )
That kind great pain that comes with betrayal is a gift, you start to see through realty.
JazakAllah Khair sisters. This episode means so much to me. It does take time but to all the sisters ( & brothers) out there who have experienced betrayal, it takes time, such a long & time to get over that betrayal, it takes time to heal & to become yourself again. To all those out there, please do not give up, seek help with the wonderful professional's who are out there. Seek help with Allah SWT & know that this happened for a reason, give yourself time & self care & self love is very important. You are down but you are not out & when you are at the bottom the only way is up & in Shaa Allah you.will be a better person for the experience. It's is a gift from Allah SWT. Allahumdillah, it's taken a long time but I now feel I am on the next part of my journey after a betrayal that broke me, brought me to my lowest mentally, emotionally & physically. I take each day as it comes & I listen to my mental well being. It is a struggle, but I getting stronger. May Allah SWT give everyone the strength, support & love to come back stronger than before after a betrayal that brought them to the bottom. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋
I can understand that this is probably a woman’s show? But I came across this video and I appreciate LaYinka really trying to add that balance and address what’s not always addressed.
Could you please talk about PMS, and Pcos symptoms how to manage in a marital relationship? Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
We'll add it to the list for a future season, inshaAllah.
Insha allah Jazakillahu Hairan ♥️
Or pmd 😀
Yes PMDD!
AHH YES!
This video is the therapy I needed. I have been going through a lot and I’m trying to make sense out of things. This video spoke to me and you ladies mentioned every little thing that I am going through and even gave me a better understanding of it. Betrayal has been the most painful thing that I have experienced. I’m glad that you mentioned “ the person’s lies, and betrayal is separate from my individuality “. I needed to hear this🥺. May Allah reward y’all
Season 3 just gets better and better 👏👏 I cannot stress enough holding on to God and asking for his help, even though it might be *very* difficult at times. And begin on the journey of empowering yourself early on. Feeling helpless and weak will harm you. Begin by strengthening yourself to stand straight again. Get that degree, find the job. Be active in the recovery process.
Jazakh’illah khair sisters this episode was very deep and touched me deeply. May Allah swt make all your difficulties easy, Aaliyah I felt some pain through your eyes when you spoke about this topic. I pray Allah Gives you the ability to heal, love and be loved ameen x
It's a great honor watching this noble women sharing knowledge worth sinking into my head... May Allah continues to bliss you all.. Ameen! 🙏🙏
Sister Āliyah I am so glad we have a woman like you in today's world 🤍🧡🤎🩶
I have experienced betrayal. At first I thought I could get over it easily. But mashaa Allaah, after that incident the impact was unbelievable. I began thinking negative thoughts and have suspicions. May Allaah heal our wounds, especially the ones that we choose to hide.
Jezakumullah khair. This episode was the summary of what I have been going through in the last 6 month. May Allah give us all people hurting healing.
May Allah surround you with light sister
Excellent point to separate one's betrayal/deceit from our own action/attitude to that person previous to their deceit!!
Thank you for this topic! Healing to my soul! Subhanallah
one of the key things I have truly begun to understand is the concept of the human being made to folly and the only being that will never let you down is Allah (swt), when you mentioned that sometimes some people have to be broken, completely shattered in order to realise their self worth...it hit home...I am one of those people...I have truly seen wisdom in attaching my emotional state to Allah (swt). Yasmin mogahed put it beautifully when she mentioned 'when the centre of your heart is occupied by anything other than Allah you are doomed for heartache'. May Allah reward you and I hope you follow up with a part 2
I'm waiting for my metamorphosis to happen after what I've gone through. Alhamdulilah it happened and it'll be all worth it one day inshaAllah
Bravo LaYinka! Extremely damaging because we cannot forgive ourself for being such a fool, and as a result the loss of trust in love forever.
Such wise sisters mashallah. I really enjoy these talks ♥
I feel though, it's safer not to fully trust because human beings are prone to making mistakes or choices that could potentially break you whether intentional or unintentional. We need to lower our expectations never assuming that person is incapable of hurting or betraying us no matter who they are to you. It sounds like a lonely place to be but actually, when the wounds have started to heal, it can only bring us closer to Allah on a more personal level. I've been betrayed so bad a few times and it does impact our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. But nothing lasts forever. If it wasn't a blessing then it was surely a lesson. Even though we cannot see it during the turmoil.
💯 defo true.
But it’s hard. I’m someone who starts off guarded but slowly starts to invest more and then just wear my heart on my sleeve without me even realising it! 🙈 and then boom!....
You ladies said everything perfectly in this. MashaAllah. Your episodes are educating so many women to rise and look after themselves better. I am on that healing journey and accurately relate to what you said about dealing with betrayal and the triggering of child wounds too. You deal with multiple traumas at the same time and it absolutely sends you in a detrimental spiral subhanaAllah. Allah knows everything. Thank you for educating us all.
Definitely needs a part 2. I’m so grateful for this episode.
Thank you Thank you 🙏🏾
24:30 !!! Such wisdom Masha'Allah. People get comfortable in what you allow and become selfish, at times subconsciously. You got to look out for you!
Could you talk about illness - physical and psychological, illness in the family/ parents, role reversal as daughters/sisters/wives/mothers please.
May Allah reward your efforts and bring you all good health and wellbeing ♡
Please a part 2! This really touched me in ways I cannot fathom. I loved every second of this.
Deep and Profound ‼️ I am going through this now‼️ May Allah Ta’ala Reward You❤️ Aameen
Barakallahu fikoum dear sisters. Sometimes we do make the mistake of putting others on a pedestal when we should put only Allah swt that high. May Allah heal all of us who have been betrayed.
It's true that one will keep going back in your mind about what happened to you..betrayal actually feels like a death sentence...
Subahanallaah
As if you guys are reading my mind thank you so much for this beautiful talk please I can’t wait for part two
I was betrayed by a close family member, the closest. It nearly broke me. No lie, I ended up in hospital it shattered my reality so cataclysmically. I am so much stronger for it, and have much better clarity, but it did break my mind and broke my heart.
Betrayal is real and it hurts!!! I have been betrayed many times in my life, I could never understand it as I gave my all self to these people. Allhamdulilah, as time has gone on, I realised that a lot of it was to do with my own self worth in my own eyes. I was attracting people who would hurt me and betray me. I therefore cannot emphasise enough that we MUST do our own internal work (betrayed or not betrayed). It is also really important to understand the stories that we attach to 'betrayals'. I have worked with so many people who are unable to take responsibility and therefore fall to becoming victims. Taking responsibility of our own choices will empower us and our lives even if we have been betrayed. The people who betray others make their choices and it is important for the one has been betrayed to also make a choice.
I would also add that when giving ourselves to others and investing ourselves in relationships, we must ask ourselves who we are and what we are investing in. Being clear on crucial questions before we go into any relationship can save us a lot of heartache (I think this is a similar point to setting boundaries that you mentioned).
Reminding ourselves that our deen is perfect but we are not, that we will make choices that may not always seem to be 'good' for us but like you all said, in the end it is ALL good!! Having trust in the one who will never betray us is the real deal! Loving others through HIS love will always help us to heal better.
May HE who is the source of love, love us all and bless us with the ability to love ourselves and others sincerely for HIS sake alone, ameen xxx
Wow, the word 'carnage' just hit the raw spot. Alhamdulillah Allah will always be there waiting for you to engulf you in His true love.
This is getting bigger and better
Thank you so much for such a heartfelt session ❤ it captured so intricately how and what a person feels like on the receiving end of betrayal. I never truly understood what a life rupture was until I went through this myself. It makes you re-evaluate every aspect of your life, which is an essential but uncomfortable part of your healing. My heart goes out to everyone who is still on that journey (including me) - Allah has got you xxx
Beautifully said... smashed to the floor... ur life is upside down... and yes even if U wana forgive and even the other person admits the mistake... the relationship simply is never the same ever...
Brilliant points and very profound, Jazakallah Khairun
Part 2- plz defo needs to address those who decide to carry on with the person who betrayed. So even after betrayal- you’re constantly triggered by just the face even. Both parties are trying to move forward. Even though many promises have been made and broken many times. To trust? this time is the real time?
Another episode that has me just holding my head and my breath trying to obtain the answers. Thank you ladies for speaking on topics that mean so much.
Mashaallah! Love you girls! Your energie just broke through my phone into my heart! May Allah bless you all
Mashallah. I have been following you since season 1 and every time I learn something. There is so much that needs to be touched and talked about in our community. I am so happy that by each episode I gain so much more knowledge and this is a support in its own. Thank you for creating this channel.
It’s beautiful how you talk about how at the end of the day what’s most important is your relationship with Allah, and how difficulties can actually help you strengthen that. Thank you
This episode was Gold.
Jazakallahu khairan for this episode. This just spoke straight to my heart .
Please please please talk about relationships between mother and daughter. I have a bad relationship with my mom and god gave me a daughter last year and I am terrified to have the same issue
I second this
Its really hard to turn to anyone on this matter because of the fact that IT IS your mother and thats all what people see or hear. Not your pain and hurt.
Same here...
You have to heal yourself and go to therapy . Forgive your mother and set a boundaries. Get a book on how to parent. May Allah ease your pain and heal you. Ameen
Also look into gabor mate on raising children
Agreed
Wow. Wow. Subhanallah please have a part 2. I felt like you were speaking to me. Mashallah I’m just speechless at how precise all of this is!!
You're not going to find the solution with the person who betrayed you! Yes yes and yes!!!
If they wronged u most likely they would be arrogant and cold as ice!
Dont bother
I do truly feel that there are people who truly understand that I am not alone. Just that, soothes my heart!! I had always felt this happened to me because I was not good enough. Alhamdulillah, that was never the case. Thank you Ladies, Thank you; Thank you. Truly, you three are angels on earth. Walahi. Love you.
Ma sha Allah taabarak. The perfect sisters. May Allah give you more Khair for the good work you’re doing
When they have More books of Knowledge and betrayed when most have no clue of Committement
AlhamdulillAh masha Allah sisters well said topic.May Allah Heal all our broken hearts .
SubhanAllah, this has touched me deeply. Jazakallahu khairan
you 3 kept that so real...Maa shaa Allah
Sisters would really love to watch out for part 2 cause I really need lot of your words and encouragement in been strong and finding self love and care jazakhallahu khair
This is the best thing I ever seen on TH-cam and in dunyah.may the almighty bless you all beyond understanding.also I hope you all grow and land a on tv inshallah.this is very impactful.also want to say this topic happens on haram relationships as well
THIS WAS A GREAT EPISODE
Betrayel from family & friends was the best thing that happened to me. I became closer to Allah Alhamdulillah
Allah knows my soul needed this... May Allah reward you abundantly for this ❤️
Oh GOD! You, sisters are doing a very very very great work Masha'allah! With so much sweetness and empathy! This topic is so interesting and i am sure theses words will help many sisters to find their way to recovery. I totally agree when you say This is a turning point in your life but it can be the become an opportunity toward improvement! Mashallah !!
This has truly touched me my dear Sisters..
Wonderful topic and amazing discussion
Wow, ma shaa Allah. This came out exactly when I needed it. Jazak Allahu Khairan♥️
Betrayed in a relationship, it was horrible. it took me almost 3 years to recover, 3 years. May Allah help us
JazakAllah kyran. Thanks for the honest conversation.
Sad that woman go thru this
Wow I love everything you do but subhanAllah this episode just hit a nerve. Thank you so much for always addressing these issues ❤️
This topic was sent for me!!
is everything ok with you
جزاك اللهُ خيرًا
My dear beloved sisters for speaking about real issues that affects the community. May Allah bless your work and effort. Ameen.
Thank you for this sisters ❤️
Read the book “trust” from iyanla Vanzant ! It learned me how to trust and love again.. great read!!
May peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet his companions and entire household✨✨✨
Elite Analysis😊💜
its sad to say I have been going through a betrayal in the past 3 weeks and this video helped me a lot and i cant stop crying because i didnt allow myself to go through it all
What happen sis
@PrimeVids not talking to you
I agreed so much with the others...it really needs a part 2 in shaa allah....
Love u sis... yes the miracle never happens i.e back to pre-betrayal lol... the longer u seek that the longer u r going to remember the Pain... 👏
Salaam alaykum sisters.its best to accept the betrayal and do a double somersault into a survival mode.
It won't be nice if they get to hurt you and still control you afterwards.
The decision to hurt you defines what you thought you had with them.its Allah showing you the truth.
U 3❤️...so very well expressed...especially the last thought by Aliyah...please bring part 2 for this🙏
Mashaa Allah amazing discussion sisters. Jazakillahu Khayran for this ⚘
I love you sisters and Am inspired by your amazing work. May Allah grant you Jannah
There should be a follow on episode إن شاء الله..!!! Really! So many aspects untouched as you need the time to branch off onto them. Please, keep this conversation going.. wonderful and sincere ladies, it was honest and raw and, a truly authentic discussion between the 3 of you!
may Allah swt. give us the guidance and strength to handle our emotions during lifes tests and trauma. ameen.
A great followup video to this would be to explore whether it is possible to get back to a person that has betrayed you. Of course, given they apologize and change their ways. Is is possible or is it a relationship that you close the door on and walk away from? Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear it :)
May Allah make it easy for all those who have been betrayed. May Allah heal their pain and wounds. May Allah make them stronger and empower them. May Allah make them better stronger versions of themselves. May Allah replace the betrayer in their lives with a better, kinder, more trustworthy person. May it always work in their favour in the end. Ameen, ameen.🙏🌷 Sending you love and light.
I loved this so much...
Subhan allah sisters..i really enjoyed this episode...very very informative ....may allah swt truly reward u sisters...ameen
Definitely needs a pt 2
Likewise the same situation am going through, I recently had a tough relationship whereby I felt betrayed,rejected and unwanted subhanallah and going through it is something I find hard to I keep running away from it, thinking it will be fixed
This one is very deep!