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hey psych2go! i hope all your workers are doing fine. i think i might have a friend who is jealous from me, though i am the one who is always ignored and left on read in my friend group. should i confront them about it or should i keep it a secret? my friends are very dramatic so if i confronted them they would be like "thank you im jealous im stupid im disgusing im ugly" and they always do this to me and i'm not comfortable with it but if i unfriend them then i'll be lonely because they're the only friends i have. please help me! take your time to reply -love, tsuchii 💕
1)They constantly compete with you 2)They undermine your success 3)They gossip about you 4)They give false compliments 5)They are overly attached to you 6)They are a copycat My pleasure😊
samiya mohammedkhursheed ok but sometimes I get jealous of people, but I never hold it against them. Forexample, I like there character traits a lot, so I’m jealous but I don’t try to be like them. I don’t do any of these things, isn’t jealously normal to a certain extent, as we are humans?
Ever noticed that as well. All eyes on you so they can "laugh" when you do happen to make a "mistake" But I am a perfectionist so good luck with that 😂😂😂
Omg yessss! I watched this to confirm the fact that my cousin is extremely jealous of me & it bothers me bc I hate the copycat aspect! It’s frustrating when you’re creative & they’re not & they literally follow right on your tail with everything. It can be super annoying😒
I used to be the same and as I put myself out there to grow and develop I didn’t even notice that I was the one who was envied and only noticed because I started getting so many haters
“Have you ever wondered if a compliment is genuine” Welcome to anxiety. The exit is nonexistent :( (This is just my experience living with anxiety, so I get if it’s not the same for others)
@@randomcat1962 same, i suggest when someone compliments you, just say "Thanks", if you say things like "omg noo im not that pretty", they wont compliment you as much probadly+ people wont like you as much
I had a 'friend' like this. Which was crazy, because she was far more pretty and more accomplished than me. But, if I ever had some form of light in looks or accomplishment, she hated it. She wanted/wants me as low down as possible. It took me a long time to realise this, but she isn't my friend anymore.
@@kybet_2469 It doesn't matter how long because it won't mean anything in the end. I cut off my so called bff after 20 years!!! It's not worth it trust me being around toxic friends who don't want the best for you is unhealthy. Actually, now is the best time to sever ties while we are on lockdown and social distancing.
All my friends were like this. To be honest, they weren‘t really pretty, me neither st the beginning. But after losing weight and starting to dress more feminine, they startet to be extremly jealous at me. I had to quit because they even tried to ruin my relationship in the end.
I think that's a good reason to check out a video. I think self-awareness is a key component of good mental health. I think it's great that you are striving to learn more about yourself. :)
This is what I got from the video: 1. Your friend constantly competes with you. - You feel tension whenever you perform better than them - Friends should SUPPORT, not COMPETE 2. They undermine your success - Are they genuinely happy? - Jealous friends will downplay your achievements for their own satisfaction 3. They gossip about you - They try to ruin your reputation and put you in a negative light - They also exaggerate about themselves and make themselves look better - Again, this is all for their self-interest 4. They give false compliments - They pretend to be friends with you and give you false compliments 5. They're overly attached to you - Not ALL jealous people are angry or similar to the above four points - Someone might try to get your attention a lot, this may mean that they are envious of you and want to "steal" what you have 6. They're a copycat - They copy you because they're jealous of you
Exactly. There’s this girl at my school and I don’t know why but she’s super mean to me. She constantly talks behind my back and says stuff about me. When I never even have conversations with her or talk about her. I’m a very shy person so I wonder where this came from. I don’t know what it is, but sometimes it really hurts because I can tell she really dislikes me.
I used to be friends with people who did ALL of these things. It's interesting to find out that jealously was at the root of their poor behaviour. My life improved SO much when I cut those people out!
@@lunaloynaz-lopez2318 I did. I cut my friendship off with that ex-toxic friend of mine, now living a peaceful and better life. She tried to come back by apologizing though, but I don't think we'll be the same again.
@Reeet yes and mostly the jealous people are just struggling themselves. So, they just try to overcome their insecurities by taking inspiration from people in the life.
I disagree. They may not be mean outwardly, but jealousy is *always* a cancer on a relationship. It causes inner resentment and a lack of healthy boundaries no matter how well intentioned the jealous person is. I have been both the jealous one and the person someone is jealous of. In both cases the situation was toxic.
Reeet but is “trying to be nice” real friendship though? In a friendship, you should want your friend to succeed and your niceness should be organic, not because you are forcing it!
Emily Hart I agree with you, it is toxic, I wasn’t justifying jealousy, I was just wondering why does it have to be shown, sometimes in the relationship, the other person can have no idea they get that way due to the other person keeping it in and trying to suppress that emotion.
Emily Hart Forcing yourself to be nice when you don’t feel like being nice isn’t a bad thing, it’s being a good person when you don’t feel like it. I think what that person means is that someone can feel jealous without acting on it because they genuinely like their friend and don’t want to hurt them. You can have insecurities and inner wounds that can spur jealousy and choose to not take it out on others. That’s what I think they meant and I believe it too. :)
There are some girls in my class that I never talked to the whole year. Still, I liked them a lot, and admired their beauty and accomplishments. Well, I recently found out that they dislike me and talk bad things about me for hanging out with a girl they hate (My childhood best friend who I was reunited to after years of separation btw). I am young, and this is the first time I go through something as absurd, highschool-drama level of stupidity.
Definitely watch out for those who can’t seem to give any genuine compliments, but are always quick to embarrass you or make you feel insecure. The undermining and “back-handed compliments” couldn’t be more true. They want to appear “supportive” but really just want to belittle you and again, make you feel insecure.
So, I have a friend that's been with me since childhood, and only now I'm starting to notice how jealous she is of me. It got to the point where she gossiped about me to my own boyfriend, and tried to paint me as a bad and selfish person. At first I thought I was exaggerating, but it turned out that she really is toxic and jealous. This video was entirely relatable, and it really breaks my heart.
i dealt with a girl like this, she ALWAYS copied what i like, was ALWAYS attached to me, ALWAYS competing with me over the smallest things and i ended up hating her bc it annoyed me alot. I started distancing myself from her, (but i still keep her around bc i felt bad that she was sheltered and had no one..) she still copies all my interests so i never share anything with her. ._.
ugh im dealing with a girl like this shes so fucking annoying competing with me trying to outshine me but still losing LOLL atp shes competing with herself and losing i try to ignore her but its hard and it makes my blood boil just seeing how bad she wants to be me and stealing my whole persona like a weirdo she is
This! This is so true. I see this now in one of my so called fiends i always felt she was fake with me but then spoke to my hubby and he said maybe I'm being a "bit harsh" freling like that but i felt it! She clung onto me and always after my attention, the condtant 'compliments (fake for sure) it was over the top, she had no personal boundaries for herself, nor confidence she was leeching onto me for it. Secretly sizing me up! now she's trying to be someone different with me & over rum me now she's got to where she wants to be. I feel used she was fake I knew it, I should've followed my gut!.
Feeling jealous is honestly one of the worst feelings in the world. It makes u feel like you are not good enough and that the person you are jealous of is having the life u would want to have. It’s just complicated
I went to a party (I'm 13) and I was wearing makeup. Throughout the whole night this one "friend" would stare at me but I thought shes looking at my face/ makeup. As the night was drawing to an end all the girls were sitting in a circle talking, when my friend shouts out so everybody can hear "Bracefaceshellz you look like a catfish, usually you look so blick" (Blick is an insult to use against darkskins) I was confused to why she was calling me blick when she was several shades darker than me. I'm not a confrontational problem so I just smiled. This was a bashment party (Caribbean dancing). After I found out she was telling everybody how terrible my whining was and would make snide comments whenever I did, despite the fact I was being complimented about it. We're not friends anymore 🥴
People who publicly display their jealousy are a lot better than people who do it passively. Granted, both are bad, however the first one is so easy to spot before too much damage is done. I had a friend for 5 years until I decided to end the friendship because of jealousy, envy, manipulation, and literal emotional blackmail. It was so passive aggressive that only after 2 years of ending the friendship did the real truth hit me. Glad we’re rid of these kind of people, hope you found better friends
I always get jealous whenever I see a mom and daughter having an amazing time and getting along cause I dont get along with my mom I called her a toxic mom
Jealous people always make me feel uncomfortable, there's a difference between admiring someone's accomplishments and being inspired by them and being jealous. Jealousy is the feeling that you wish you had what they had or that they didn't have what they have because you don't have it, there's a cynical feeling in it and I always worry about showing the happiness in my life to people who are jealous. Usually people who focus on jealousy are only pleased when those around them are doing worse that them, terrible mindset to have and not the kind of person people would want to be friends with. I've struggled a lot through life, like we all have, and I can't trust someone who only sees what I have and not how much I've struggled to get there or all the problems I have in my life which mean that I somewhat deserve that little bit of happiness in a different aspect of my life. Constantly looking to what other people have and not to what you have is a really negative mindset, we all have problems and we all have good things as well, no one's life is better than anyone else's, our life is the best for US because we're the only ones who have lived it and are accustomed to it. So please don't waste your time complaining about other people's 'happy' lives, go out their and make your own. I have no sympathy for those who say their lives are terrible and who spend time being jealous of others instead of investing time and energy into their own lives.
And heaven help you when you break away. The backbiting lies and the fact they are so convincing. I ended up moving home and having to give up a pastime I loved - and was good at - because they all believed her.
I have no memories of EVER feeling jealous of anyone for anything. I guess I'm lucky I was born without it. I enjoy saying great things to people about their achievements, It helps them feel what they want. Always express happiness for others.
Get rid of jealous friends as soon as possible. They ruin your life and lower your self steam. I spent 2 years with a jealous friend. It's been 8 years now since then, but my feeling still hurt for the things she said to me... All those things in the video are true signs of a jealous (non) friend.
I feel like some of the points made arent as awful as they make it seem? 1. Competition isn't necessarily a bad thing. In lots of cases, it can be friendly and extremely motivating for both sides. Tension is natural in this setting. I dont think that just because you want to better yourself always means that youre jealous. I dont think its always so personal. 2. Although fake compliments arent the most desired, i feel like lots of us do that on a daily basis. Again, nothing personal, its just some such as myself, would rather avoid the trouble of possibly kicking someone down by telling them what i actually think? Especially if im not that close with them 3. I dont think being attached to someone is a crime. I guess i can see overly-attached as a potential for issues, but idk. I dont see how that directly correlates to jealousy. Or maybe im just a jealous person. Idk. But I dont feel negatively, nor aim for others to feel negatively through the points i mentioned above
Your only competition is who you were yesterday, everyone’s definition of success is different, so imagine competing with someone who doesn’t know they’re in a competition to begin with. Fake compliments are toxic, but i agree with being attached isn’t always a negative, although we must establish real trust first
Envy is so sneaky and so much more pervasive than people say, because it lives in the shadows. Many people, myself included, feel ashamed of envy and jealousy. But if you’ve ever been in a friend group or relationship where it’s prominent you’ll know how bad it can get. I had a friendship where envy basically broke it. I got so fed up with the competitive antics, hot and cold behaviour, subtle cut downs and imitation of my life that I just said goodbye and didn’t look back 👋
This is terrifying. I had known a person like this for 8 years. This makes everything clear to me. Thankfully this person is no longer involved in my life. I only found out in college that she was talking behind my back and trying to turn my friends against me. I’m glad the friends I had believed me over her. I was lucky.
Also anger or hostility that seems to come out of nowhere. Like they're upset about a fight you don't remember having and you wonder what you might've done to upset them? That's how they actually feel about you and the mask they normally wear is slipping.
The story of my bad relationship with an ex boyfriend of mine. He was envious of my life and in the end, dumped me for not responding to him when I was busy with my own personal things. These points really paint the picture better for me. Great video as always!
OMG. Thanks for this video. I'm currently trying to get away from a jealous childhood friend at the moment. I'm so sick of the jealousy! God bless all genuine people🙏.
I used to do some of these things with people when I was younger. I'm glad I'm growing and learning more and changing. Thx psychtogo🔥💕✨these videos never fail to hit the mark
Same, I suck so much! My friends must have felt horrible around me, Im guessing jealousy is why my friendships never lasted ;-;. I need to work on improving myself, I feel like this year Ive just been super clingy, copycat like, and competitive, since my friend kept on doing fantastic in all their classes and sports, I just really wanted to be like them ;-;. Ugh, I knew there was a reason why my friendships never lasted, because Im a jealous person ;-;.
@@snowyfinch8572 it's gonna be okay💕It's great that you've realized the mistakes you've made, some people don't realize at all. Now it's up to you on what you wanna do next to better yourself for the good❤️I wish you luck bc it's gonna be a journey but it'll be worth it
This helped me realize that one of my "friends" is actually not my friend at all. She showed all of them especially the clingy thing. :( I do not know how to end my friendship with her! I tried once because of something but then she sort of forced me. :(
Sometimes you just have to be the "bad guy" and cut it off. I went through something similar with one of my old friends. She would constantly text me and want my attention, copy me and get upset if I didn't text her back within a couple of days. On top of it all she admitted to me that she liked me and pushed gifts on me constantly. I couldn't keep up with her constantly pushing her way into my life and as much as I believe that she is a good person at heart, I just couldn't find space to breath with her around. I had to walk away and that's what I did. I told her that I needed to walk away as firmly and politely as I could without backing down and giving in to her emotions. I'm not going to lie it was hard and it hurt, but putting your foot down and walking away will be the best thing you could ever do for yourself. I'm much happier and am ready to move forward with my life and I hope anyone else reading this will be ready too. All the best for anyone who is going through this now. And if anyone has anymore experience or advice to add please feel free to share your personal experience and how you dealt with it because everyone is different and no two situations are the same.
@@Casket_Cutie thank you for saying this. I will put a end to my unhealthy friendship with her and tell her. Knowing how she is like she would probably hate me and see me as a bad person. She might say things about me but I won't let her affect my life again thank you for commenting.
I know it is a difficult situation. I have been there. Cutting them off sounds extreme but it is the only way. I would recommend you tho to prepare others about their possible reactions. Like, that they might say nasty things that are false or that you need a break. So when your friend tries to make a counterattack, the people around you won’t pay them much attention. It is hard but it is totally worth it! You will feel so much better
Thank you for making this! I recently have gotten more attention on a social media site, and I have a friend who kinda like this and might be Jealous. So thanks! 💖
When i see my friends seem to be like that, i just put a huge smile on my face and show em that they are far better than me I show em that all that matters is the love i got for them and nothing more.
Jealousy is not something I understand too well, at least not when it comes from other people at me, like they get pissed off at me for seemingly no reason and im like "What the heck did I do wtf? Whats this persons problem!?"
I feel like there's another important perspective of jealousy too: A friend who suddenly slowly begins to exit out of your life, because they're jealous. I've done this once, because the jealousy showed me how slowly my own life was going, so I couldn't quite bear to communicate with one of my friends anymore. I plan to get better to where I can be close to them again, and to monitor my jealousy, cause I genuinely love them. But I think that's a type of jealousy that can quietly destroy relationships. Someone who is too hurt by their own jealous feelings or who doesn't want to project their jealousy onto their friend, and slowly slips away into the distance. Thank you so much for this video! This helped me finally understand a family member that's been at my throat for the past multiple years.
My ex best friend would do some of these things. When we were younger it wasn't as bad, but as we got older she got progressively worse. First it was copying me and eventually became trying to compete with me. She'd try to one-up me when it came to my hobbies, like trying to outdo my drawings or when playing sports. It was little petty things like this at first, but once we got to high school she got worse. It seemed like she just plain out didn't like me anymore. By this time we kind of drifted apart, but we still remained friends because we had some mutual friends. She became less genuine and felt two-faced. She was nice to my face, but I could tell she was gossiping about me behind my back. Whenever she started hanging out with the people I did, I started being treated differently, as if they knew something about me that I didn't. This happened EVERY time I made new friend groups. She'd start hanging out with us and eventually I'd have to make a new one. She was like a parasite lol funny how she could never keep friends of her own though. I finally cut her off and it felt so satisfying! I felt so much happier now that I don't have to deal with her toxic behavior anymore!
Someone tried to ruin my life because they were jealous. Her name is Ava. Whenever I did something the slightest wrong to her, she would get mad at me for forever. She was always quick to forgive my other friends. I kept trying to be her friend until I realized that I did nothing wrong. It was her. My friend broke it to me that she was jealous and I finally found out. San, if your reading this, I owe you 10,000 dollars. Thank you
Isn't it sad when ur mind is like "Nah, my friend isn't like this" but deep down in your heart u relate to this a lot. Don't stay with such kinds of toxic friends. They're just like shadows. They'll follow u in the light but leave u helpless in the dark.
It really helps when someone is finally able to GENUINELY accept the failure and imperfection of their lives and make it a point to be critical of their own way before someone else's. I literally do not ever look at someone with malicious envy or unperceptive hatred. I love to see my people succeeding in life and i SINCERELY love it when my close friends find themselves making progress in areas of life they never even thought possible. I wouldn't be able to be at peace if it was the other way around tho
In addition to jealousy, #3 are characteristics of a narcissist. Narcissists spin malicious gossip and behavior as concern or trying to befriend the victim. They don't want to be exposed for who they really are.
My old "best friend" behaved like this. All these 6 signs. She put me down in any way and spread gossips about me. I cut all contact with her and she is now trying to "ruin my reputation" by, again, spreading gossips about me that aren't true! I am much happier without her now and I am more sociable and I am slowly getting rid of my depression! I am so happy now that she isn't on my back anymore!
I mean, as someone who deals with jealousy like it's a disease I cant get rid of, i don't really do the whole talk behind their back and always be with them. I usually beat myself up about it and suffer in the distance. But yeah I heavily did the whole copycat thing and it sucks ass.
There have been two "colleagues" who were jealous of me, although they expressed it differently. One tried dressing like me (my style seriously didn't suit her). The other lied her way into a Phd candidacy after I was offered mine (she was kicked out due to lack of progress and discovery of her fraud). Jealousy holds you back, it gets you nowhere.
Watching this makes me think of how I acted toward my older brother. He was always better than me at art and can draw something from memory. Whenever he drew something I would undermine his success and would say I can draw just as good, then we would have art competitions. I was just a kid but I feel bad that I discouraged him from art just because I was jealous and angry that my family said he was a better artist than I was.
Even though we really love and support each other, between my best friend and I, there is an always existing level of jealousy. She seems to feel like I'm better at things than she is, I feel like her body is way better than mine. We are similar, we know that we're jealous of some people, but we try not to be. We both know that jealousy ruins some things and friendships, so we try to push it back and act like we're not jealous. That of course doesn't mean that we constantly do the things listed in this video, but I just notice that at many points throughout the days and weeks and months, she puts herself in front of me, trying to be in the spotlight as much as possible. But that's okay, it's quite annoying sometimes, but I can live with it since everybody has their flaws. I don't blame her, I understand what all of that is about and that she's just insecure. Not saying she's not good at the things she does, but she wasn't born with a great natural talent. (Many people don't have such a talent, which is totally fine, but those many people believe that everybody except them has that talent) She may not have that, but she works hard to achieve her goals and that's the big point, not any great talent. We both don't mind that little jealousy within our friendship, because it still works great and we're a good team! I love her and she loves me, it works out and we support each other, that's what counts! :)
Honestly, I’m flattered that people are jealous of me, they think of me to be so cool, like when i know someone is jealous, I smile, it’s a silent compliment in my opinion
if you are reading this, whoever you are, if somebody is trying to dirty your name it _only_ makes them the filthy ones and they *will not* succeed. today i have cut out a friend group like this... they were saying they were doing all the things they did because they were looking out for me and such, while i kept magically hearing non-existent facts about myself from unrelated people. i started getting strange looks and behaviours from people i didn't know a few weeks ago which kept getting worse and worse, and i swear, i swear, i wouldn't hurt a fly even if i had to. then, the person i trusted the most in that group, who had helped me so much in the past to recover from a painful event, initiated all the gossip. she shared confidential stuff with everyone. i am heartbroken, and the person i had thought loved me doesn't talk to me anymore because they stuffed him up with their lies about me. i feel like i was covered with honey and left in a forest. i feel betrayed, because i was betrayed. i felt liberated at first, then empty inside. if they attack me, i will not let them succeed. i will stay calm, collected, and gentle towards people. i will never resort to gossip the way they did. even sitting at that table every day, listening to them bashing every single person who stepped foot in the school, made me feel dirty. if you have read all this, thank you. if you have anything to say, i would be delighted to read it. ps: if you are the silent one in the friend group, i feel you... you are poetic and i send you love. we can do this because our gentility holds power over them.
i don't have any head-turning qualities about me whatsoever, but they still talk shit. i am loved by a few pure people with loving intentions and i think that is what they might be jealous of, as well as my romance life going lovingly (until they intervened) whereas they get rejected over and over.
This one girl was friends with my best friend, when my best friend met me, we spent a lot of time together! That girl thought I was taking her friend away from her. She started being toxic to me, avoiding me, mimicking me in bad ways when I’m not around, calling me rude names, trying to keep my best friend away from me, and undermining my success... My best friend has my back and is always telling me what her jealous friend is doing and saying
I get this alot. Im a good mom, a good cook, can raise animals, empathetic, and can command self control. I get a lot of hate i don't ask for when people discover how my family dynamics work. I choose to move silently now and i do not talk about my accomplishments. Hiding myself is safer.
Oh yes I’m gonna need this to see if my haters from school are jealous since they know about my 570 subscriber channel 😂 Edit: no I did not tell them my fake friend searched me up and saw it. I was just saying this to prove why my classmates *could* be jealous of me but I did not mean this boastful in any way I’m literally Portuguese and does not know what the hell boastful means. So someone tell me what Boastful means.
I am all of this. Specially No. 5. I'm not proud about this. Slowly I'm seeing my errors and little by little I am fixing them. I am very grateful to have family and friends who didn't give up on me. They deserve the world.
But, if it's a game, to compete with your friends? I mean, I always have at least a friend who's also a kind of "rival" I don't think that it's particularly "toxic", because this competition makes me want to work even harder, and the same goes for him, so it's not a bad thing At least not when both are competing against each other!
#5 and #6 sound more like their insecurities. They are signs, yes. They aren't necessarily bad, they're just behaviors that need boundaries. And they are obvious signs that the other person needs more balance in their life and possibly therapy to work on.
I have experienced jealousy from a so-called friend (more like a frenemy) whose competitiveness with me was far more subtle and insidious than this video shows. Jealous friends don’t always manifest their feelings but can sometimes harbour them very adeptly, and which 'leak out'' in ways that can slip by one if not attuned to the signs. Because I was her BFF she showered me with compliments and praised my “amazing” qualities as a person. But when the friendship was tested in times of stress her true colours were often revealed. I spent most of our relationship walking on eggshells. She is no longer my friend; a huge relief.
Can you please consider making a video of how to help stop jealous feelings? I feel like I constantly live my life feeling jealous (in the romantic relationship sense) and paranoid, I really need help with it. Thanks for all you do, Psych2Go Team
the competition and copycatting pisses me off so much cause i take pride in knowing myself, knowing what i want and how i want to present myself and they go and try to do the same and a lot of the time get praised for it since they're considered better looking, charismatic and outgoing so in the end no one looks at me and now im the jealous one. its like i can never get out of this.
In my school, i have this friend. I can tell he was jealous of me at very beginning in our friendship. Then few months, he start compete me at everything. I talk to my other friends to join me dirtbiking after school. My jealous friend said where do i want to go after this. I said i going to dirtbiking with my friends. He said why i didnt invite him. I said that i didnt invite him because he acting weird and make me uncomfortable. He said he will join and i didnt let him. "Why i cant?!" Said him with high voice. I said "Its because you acting weird and make me uncomfortable i already said that. Also you dont even know how to ride bicycle so i dont want you to broke your legs on dirtbike". Then he said everything isnt true about me loudly and saying that i didnt support him. I dont want him to broke his legs literally or his dad will kill me. Then, our friendship end.
There will be bullies who feel insecure about their selves and they see you and are jealous of you even though they dont know your story behind the surface, so they'll try to bring you down with everything they have, bring you lower than them. So they can feel better about them selves.
I relate to this because i was jealous of a close friend's talent, the competitiveness helped me find my own talent and they too became jealous of me. Jealousy is not a good feeling, it kills friendship and loosens your strong bond. it feels disgusting.
One of my three younger brothers had this issue. He slowly grew out of it as he developed some insight. I made a lot of compromises because I didn't have the tools to confront him. Yet I didn't want our relationship to end. We are now closer than ever.
I can relate to the copycat part, jealous people always try to copy you and somehow be like you, I had a lot of people like that in my life but I thought I was wrong and that thinking someone might be jealous of you is an act born out of arrogance and over self-confidence, but after watching this video I realized that I was right and I still have some of these people in my life lol
There was a time when I knew that I'm being gossiped behind my own back by people who were my friends. And so as it continued even people who I adored were against me and called me toxic despite the fact we never knew each other. I wasn't sure what to do back then, but if it happens again, what am I supposed to do when my friend gossips behind my own back and makes other people think about me as a treat?
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Cool! Awesome video by the way!!
Hi love the vid!
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hey psych2go! i hope all your workers are doing fine. i think i might have a friend who is jealous from me, though i am the one who is always ignored and left on read in my friend group. should i confront them about it or should i keep it a secret? my friends are very dramatic so if i confronted them they would be like "thank you im jealous im stupid im disgusing im ugly" and they always do this to me and i'm not comfortable with it but if i unfriend them then i'll be lonely because they're the only friends i have. please help me! take your time to reply
-love, tsuchii 💕
You should get a discord :D
1)They constantly compete with you
2)They undermine your success
3)They gossip about you
4)They give false compliments
5)They are overly attached to you
6)They are a copycat
My pleasure😊
Thank you!😉
Thanks!
JazaakALLAH
Thank you
samiya mohammedkhursheed ok but sometimes I get jealous of people, but I never hold it against them. Forexample, I like there character traits a lot, so I’m jealous but I don’t try to be like them. I don’t do any of these things, isn’t jealously normal to a certain extent, as we are humans?
I think there's one more: they focus a lot on your mistakes
Ever noticed that as well. All eyes on you so they can "laugh" when you do happen to make a "mistake"
But I am a perfectionist so good luck with that 😂😂😂
This is so true! Thank you for sharing this!
Omg yessss! I watched this to confirm the fact that my cousin is extremely jealous of me & it bothers me bc I hate the copycat aspect! It’s frustrating when you’re creative & they’re not & they literally follow right on your tail with everything. It can be super annoying😒
Yup nobody won't make mistakes right constantly learn n improve ourselves then they keep gossip about us 😖
ikr
Honestly, I am the one who is always jealous. Nobody is jealous of me.
I used to be the same and as I put myself out there to grow and develop I didn’t even notice that I was the one who was envied and only noticed because I started getting so many haters
Is it you in the profile picture? Well if it is im jealous of your hair and smile.. :)
You never know 🤷♀️
same i can relate this comment
Oof
“Have you ever wondered if a compliment is genuine”
Welcome to anxiety. The exit is nonexistent :(
(This is just my experience living with anxiety, so I get if it’s not the same for others)
Cosmic Peachez my brain doesn't absorb compliments it only takes bad stuff :
When someone compliments me I panic and will deny it at all cost. Love being me 😂
@@randomcat1962 same, i suggest when someone compliments you, just say "Thanks", if you say things like "omg noo im not that pretty", they wont compliment you as much probadly+ people wont like you as much
I've never wandered, who cares?
Cosmic Peachez that’s insecurity
I had a 'friend' like this. Which was crazy, because she was far more pretty and more accomplished than me. But, if I ever had some form of light in looks or accomplishment, she hated it. She wanted/wants me as low down as possible.
It took me a long time to realise this, but she isn't my friend anymore.
No Thanks123 sameeee it breaks my heart bc I know her since I’m 4. And I live in a small town so I don’t know many people.
@@kybet_2469 It doesn't matter how long because it won't mean anything in the end. I cut off my so called bff after 20 years!!! It's not worth it trust me being around toxic friends who don't want the best for you is unhealthy. Actually, now is the best time to sever ties while we are on lockdown and social distancing.
Marie Marlene thank you ❤️
@@kybet_2469 You're welcome.🤗🦋
All my friends were like this. To be honest, they weren‘t really pretty, me neither st the beginning. But after losing weight and starting to dress more feminine, they startet to be extremly jealous at me. I had to quit because they even tried to ruin my relationship in the end.
"They minimise your accomplishments because they don't have any of their own" - BURRRN 😂
I felt that
Stay away from ppl who are jelous of u and stay humble dont openly talk about how well ur doin
Buddy yea probably keep it for yourself and spill it out when you entirely good
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I read this comment at the same time it was playing on the video😂😂😂 made it even funnier
Sign 1: They always ask for your Diamond Armor in Minecraft
lolll you made my day 😂😂
vAqeii 😂😂
Or force you to give them ur gold scar
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haha or they kill you, steal ur armour and say it was an accident
I can't be the only who came here to check that THEY'RE not the jealous one-
I think that's a good reason to check out a video. I think self-awareness is a key component of good mental health. I think it's great that you are striving to learn more about yourself. :)
Jessica Buttgereit shut the fuck up ☠️
@Jessica Buttgereit its the same thing bruh LOL jokes on you
Jessica Buttgereit it’s the same thing XD
I think that's the only reason I watch these videos...
This is what I got from the video:
1. Your friend constantly competes with you.
- You feel tension whenever you perform better than them
- Friends should SUPPORT, not COMPETE
2. They undermine your success
- Are they genuinely happy?
- Jealous friends will downplay your achievements for their own satisfaction
3. They gossip about you
- They try to ruin your reputation and put you in a negative light
- They also exaggerate about themselves and make themselves look better
- Again, this is all for their self-interest
4. They give false compliments
- They pretend to be friends with you and give you false compliments
5. They're overly attached to you
- Not ALL jealous people are angry or similar to the above four points
- Someone might try to get your attention a lot, this may mean that they are envious of you and want to "steal" what you have
6. They're a copycat
- They copy you because they're jealous of you
This needs more likes. You da real mvp
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I go through that on the daily basis
Good summary. I'd add to 6 and say that most people who are ruled by their jealousy don't just copy you but everyone else around them, too.
@@Jetman123 I get the people who copy cat me, then convince everyone else that I'm the one copying them.
I thought nobody was jealous of me before watching the video, but after watching it, I realized that I was thinking right
I think two of my classmates are copycats X)
Thanks for sharing! How did you feel after watching this video? :)
Exactly. There’s this girl at my school and I don’t know why but she’s super mean to me. She constantly talks behind my back and says stuff about me. When I never even have conversations with her or talk about her. I’m a very shy person so I wonder where this came from. I don’t know what it is, but sometimes it really hurts because I can tell she really dislikes me.
I used to be friends with people who did ALL of these things. It's interesting to find out that jealously was at the root of their poor behaviour. My life improved SO much when I cut those people out!
gurl ur so pretty tho! (that's a compliment!) 🤍
Me too, I feel like I was released from a curse
How to cut them out of your life, any tips(((
@@highlowview2780 ghost them and cut them off immediately or ghost them by replying slower and slower
@@lunaloynaz-lopez2318 I did. I cut my friendship off with that ex-toxic friend of mine, now living a peaceful and better life. She tried to come back by apologizing though, but I don't think we'll be the same again.
Someone can be secretly jealous, they don’t always be mean because of it.
@Reeet yes and mostly the jealous people are just struggling themselves. So, they just try to overcome their insecurities by taking inspiration from people in the life.
I disagree. They may not be mean outwardly, but jealousy is *always* a cancer on a relationship. It causes inner resentment and a lack of healthy boundaries no matter how well intentioned the jealous person is. I have been both the jealous one and the person someone is jealous of. In both cases the situation was toxic.
Reeet but is “trying to be nice” real friendship though? In a friendship, you should want your friend to succeed and your niceness should be organic, not because you are forcing it!
Emily Hart I agree with you, it is toxic, I wasn’t justifying jealousy, I was just wondering why does it have to be shown, sometimes in the relationship, the other person can have no idea they get that way due to the other person keeping it in and trying to suppress that emotion.
Emily Hart Forcing yourself to be nice when you don’t feel like being nice isn’t a bad thing, it’s being a good person when you don’t feel like it. I think what that person means is that someone can feel jealous without acting on it because they genuinely like their friend and don’t want to hurt them.
You can have insecurities and inner wounds that can spur jealousy and choose to not take it out on others. That’s what I think they meant and I believe it too. :)
You know someone is jealous if they dislike you when you’ve given them no reason to, and they talk about you A LOT
that is really annoying like back off smh
There are some girls in my class that I never talked to the whole year. Still, I liked them a lot, and admired their beauty and accomplishments. Well, I recently found out that they dislike me and talk bad things about me for hanging out with a girl they hate (My childhood best friend who I was reunited to after years of separation btw).
I am young, and this is the first time I go through something as absurd, highschool-drama level of stupidity.
My current situation 😒
I'm dealing with that right now!
"Why is it so hard to make friends, but so easy to lose friends."
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cause Real is Rare.
a real friend is the rarest thing on this planet..
Most people don't like themselves, so they'll inevitably project their bull shit.
Definitely watch out for those who can’t seem to give any genuine compliments, but are always quick to embarrass you or make you feel insecure. The undermining and “back-handed compliments” couldn’t be more true. They want to appear “supportive” but really just want to belittle you and again, make you feel insecure.
Another sign might be that they switch the topic to focus or talk about themselves when you're talking about something positive in your life.
So, I have a friend that's been with me since childhood, and only now I'm starting to notice how jealous she is of me. It got to the point where she gossiped about me to my own boyfriend, and tried to paint me as a bad and selfish person. At first I thought I was exaggerating, but it turned out that she really is toxic and jealous. This video was entirely relatable, and it really breaks my heart.
Who else is scrolling throught the comments while watching
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0-0 I've been found out
NO!!! HOW DARE YOU EXPOSE AND DISRESPECT ME LIKE THAT!!! 😂😶
Gotta expose me like that?
me
i dealt with a girl like this, she ALWAYS copied what i like, was ALWAYS attached to me, ALWAYS competing with me over the smallest things and i ended up hating her bc it annoyed me alot. I started distancing myself from her, (but i still keep her around bc i felt bad that she was sheltered and had no one..) she still copies all my interests so i never share anything with her. ._.
ugh im dealing with a girl like this shes so fucking annoying competing with me trying to outshine me but still losing LOLL atp shes competing with herself and losing i try to ignore her but its hard and it makes my blood boil just seeing how bad she wants to be me and stealing my whole persona like a weirdo she is
As hard as it may be to see it that way, it really is a complement 🙃
IKR lol
Marina_ 88 😊
Indeed-
Haters are just confused admirers!
Colette Lee 😀
"They try to steal your personality for themselves"
This! This is so true. I see this now in one of my so called fiends i always felt she was fake with me but then spoke to my hubby and he said maybe I'm being a "bit harsh" freling like that but i felt it! She clung onto me and always after my attention, the condtant 'compliments (fake for sure) it was over the top, she had no personal boundaries for herself, nor confidence she was leeching onto me for it. Secretly sizing me up! now she's trying to be someone different with me & over rum me now she's got to where she wants to be. I feel used she was fake I knew it, I should've followed my gut!.
Influencers Today. All on Social Media… that’s how the world got more Vain and Superficial.
Feeling jealous is honestly one of the worst feelings in the world. It makes u feel like you are not good enough and that the person you are jealous of is having the life u would want to have. It’s just complicated
Prophet Muhammad SAWW said:
*''Beware of jealousy, for verily it destroys good deeds the way fire destroys wood.''*
wise words indeed
Scw❤️
yes
Is my lad from Iran If you are Can I please test my farsi pls pls
@@robogamer2023 No.. Not from Iran! :)
I just hope we’re surrounded by the right people
I went to a party (I'm 13) and I was wearing makeup. Throughout the whole night this one "friend" would stare at me but I thought shes looking at my face/ makeup.
As the night was drawing to an end all the girls were sitting in a circle talking, when my friend shouts out so everybody can hear "Bracefaceshellz you look like a catfish, usually you look so blick"
(Blick is an insult to use against darkskins)
I was confused to why she was calling me blick when she was several shades darker than me. I'm not a confrontational problem so I just smiled.
This was a bashment party (Caribbean dancing).
After I found out she was telling everybody how terrible my whining was and would make snide comments whenever I did, despite the fact I was being complimented about it. We're not friends anymore 🥴
That's so horrible
I’m sorry:( I’ve never dealt with jealous friends but that must’ve felt horrible
People who publicly display their jealousy are a lot better than people who do it passively. Granted, both are bad, however the first one is so easy to spot before too much damage is done. I had a friend for 5 years until I decided to end the friendship because of jealousy, envy, manipulation, and literal emotional blackmail. It was so passive aggressive that only after 2 years of ending the friendship did the real truth hit me. Glad we’re rid of these kind of people, hope you found better friends
*me desperately trying to think of something smart and COol*
I always get jealous whenever I see a mom and daughter having an amazing time and getting along cause I dont get along with my mom I called her a toxic mom
My mom is like this - she is only happy when I’m doing “bad” - sad
That's terrible
I feel bad for you, anyway, just leave and move on to your life
Mine too, so that she can pretend to be my hero to everyone else.
Oanh Hoàng because it’s that easy 🙄
My own sister. I cut her out in 2016 and have never been happier.
Jealous people always make me feel uncomfortable, there's a difference between admiring someone's accomplishments and being inspired by them and being jealous. Jealousy is the feeling that you wish you had what they had or that they didn't have what they have because you don't have it, there's a cynical feeling in it and I always worry about showing the happiness in my life to people who are jealous. Usually people who focus on jealousy are only pleased when those around them are doing worse that them, terrible mindset to have and not the kind of person people would want to be friends with. I've struggled a lot through life, like we all have, and I can't trust someone who only sees what I have and not how much I've struggled to get there or all the problems I have in my life which mean that I somewhat deserve that little bit of happiness in a different aspect of my life. Constantly looking to what other people have and not to what you have is a really negative mindset, we all have problems and we all have good things as well, no one's life is better than anyone else's, our life is the best for US because we're the only ones who have lived it and are accustomed to it. So please don't waste your time complaining about other people's 'happy' lives, go out their and make your own. I have no sympathy for those who say their lives are terrible and who spend time being jealous of others instead of investing time and energy into their own lives.
I think the scariest part is when these jealous people fall in love with you. That's when the real trouble starts... speaking from experience.
Their idea of love is fucked up too
@@milesprower557 He once admitted to me that it was a love-hate relationship. Boy, did that creep me out.
And heaven help you when you break away. The backbiting lies and the fact they are so convincing. I ended up moving home and having to give up a pastime I loved - and was good at - because they all believed her.
how can a jealous person fall in love with you? dosent make sense
I have no memories of EVER feeling jealous of anyone for anything. I guess I'm lucky I was born without it. I enjoy saying great things to people about their achievements, It helps them feel what they want. Always express happiness for others.
Why does this have so little views and no comments-
Edit: OH. OH MY GOD I DIDN'T KNOW I WAS EARLY I WAS JUST WATCHING A PLAYLIST-
it's unlisted
*Idk*
Ikr?
How did you comment this a day ago-
because yes
Get rid of jealous friends as soon as possible. They ruin your life and lower your self steam.
I spent 2 years with a jealous friend. It's been 8 years now since then, but my feeling still hurt for the things she said to me... All those things in the video are true signs of a jealous (non) friend.
I feel like some of the points made arent as awful as they make it seem?
1. Competition isn't necessarily a bad thing. In lots of cases, it can be friendly and extremely motivating for both sides. Tension is natural in this setting. I dont think that just because you want to better yourself always means that youre jealous. I dont think its always so personal.
2. Although fake compliments arent the most desired, i feel like lots of us do that on a daily basis. Again, nothing personal, its just some such as myself, would rather avoid the trouble of possibly kicking someone down by telling them what i actually think? Especially if im not that close with them
3. I dont think being attached to someone is a crime. I guess i can see overly-attached as a potential for issues, but idk. I dont see how that directly correlates to jealousy.
Or maybe im just a jealous person. Idk. But I dont feel negatively, nor aim for others to feel negatively through the points i mentioned above
Fair point 👏
Your only competition is who you were yesterday, everyone’s definition of success is different, so imagine competing with someone who doesn’t know they’re in a competition to begin with. Fake compliments are toxic, but i agree with being attached isn’t always a negative, although we must establish real trust first
Another important thing::
They don't congratulate you when you accomplish something good in life
I feel like being a copycat can also be out of admiration, and not out of jealousy. Like a younger sibling copying what an older sibling does.
People keep sayin'
Why can't you feel jealous of me?
Me: I am not interested :/
sorry, we're opposite and I am proud of what I can do :D
That’s how I fee... I just wanna live I swear I’m not jealous.
i was jealous of my old friend when i first met her, then i stopped, i found myself:-) jealousy doesn't take u anywhere
Envy is so sneaky and so much more pervasive than people say, because it lives in the shadows. Many people, myself included, feel ashamed of envy and jealousy. But if you’ve ever been in a friend group or relationship where it’s prominent you’ll know how bad it can get. I had a friendship where envy basically broke it. I got so fed up with the competitive antics, hot and cold behaviour, subtle cut downs and imitation of my life that I just said goodbye and didn’t look back 👋
So I'm jealøus of my self-
@@scatteredbrain1092 sup
This is terrifying. I had known a person like this for 8 years. This makes everything clear to me. Thankfully this person is no longer involved in my life. I only found out in college that she was talking behind my back and trying to turn my friends against me. I’m glad the friends I had believed me over her. I was lucky.
Also anger or hostility that seems to come out of nowhere. Like they're upset about a fight you don't remember having and you wonder what you might've done to upset them? That's how they actually feel about you and the mask they normally wear is slipping.
My sister 😒
I got rid of my jealous friend..yay..I'm so happy..😀
Thankyou so much psych2go...take my heart❤
i feel jealous cause they got the iphone 13 pro max
The story of my bad relationship with an ex boyfriend of mine.
He was envious of my life and in the end, dumped me for not responding to him when I was busy with my own personal things.
These points really paint the picture better for me.
Great video as always!
OMG. Thanks for this video. I'm currently trying to get away from a jealous childhood friend at the moment. I'm so sick of the jealousy! God bless all genuine people🙏.
I used to do some of these things with people when I was younger. I'm glad I'm growing and learning more and changing. Thx psychtogo🔥💕✨these videos never fail to hit the mark
Anyone or any adult can perceive these in smaller kids as well.
Good. Change is good.
Same, I suck so much! My friends must have felt horrible around me, Im guessing jealousy is why my friendships never lasted ;-;. I need to work on improving myself, I feel like this year Ive just been super clingy, copycat like, and competitive, since my friend kept on doing fantastic in all their classes and sports, I just really wanted to be like them ;-;. Ugh, I knew there was a reason why my friendships never lasted, because Im a jealous person ;-;.
@@snowyfinch8572 it's gonna be okay💕It's great that you've realized the mistakes you've made, some people don't realize at all. Now it's up to you on what you wanna do next to better yourself for the good❤️I wish you luck bc it's gonna be a journey but it'll be worth it
@@Beanbtch Thx for the support! Im going to do my best to work on bettering myself!
I’ve had 2 extremely jealous “friends”. I’m so glad we’ve gone separate ways now 😌
This helped me realize that one of my "friends" is actually not my friend at all. She showed all of them especially the clingy thing. :( I do not know how to end my friendship with her! I tried once because of something but then she sort of forced me. :(
You're in a similar situation like me...
I don't know what to do..
Same ;-;
Sometimes you just have to be the "bad guy" and cut it off. I went through something similar with one of my old friends. She would constantly text me and want my attention, copy me and get upset if I didn't text her back within a couple of days. On top of it all she admitted to me that she liked me and pushed gifts on me constantly. I couldn't keep up with her constantly pushing her way into my life and as much as I believe that she is a good person at heart, I just couldn't find space to breath with her around. I had to walk away and that's what I did. I told her that I needed to walk away as firmly and politely as I could without backing down and giving in to her emotions. I'm not going to lie it was hard and it hurt, but putting your foot down and walking away will be the best thing you could ever do for yourself. I'm much happier and am ready to move forward with my life and I hope anyone else reading this will be ready too. All the best for anyone who is going through this now. And if anyone has anymore experience or advice to add please feel free to share your personal experience and how you dealt with it because everyone is different and no two situations are the same.
@@Casket_Cutie thank you for saying this. I will put a end to my unhealthy friendship with her and tell her. Knowing how she is like she would probably hate me and see me as a bad person. She might say things about me but I won't let her affect my life again thank you for commenting.
I know it is a difficult situation. I have been there. Cutting them off sounds extreme but it is the only way. I would recommend you tho to prepare others about their possible reactions. Like, that they might say nasty things that are false or that you need a break. So when your friend tries to make a counterattack, the people around you won’t pay them much attention. It is hard but it is totally worth it! You will feel so much better
I can relate so much. I had a friend like this, who I left about two months ago, after four years of him treating me bad.
Thank you for making this!
I recently have gotten more attention on a social media site, and I have a friend who kinda like this and might be Jealous. So thanks! 💖
When i see my friends seem to be like that, i just put a huge smile on my face and show em that they are far better than me
I show em that all that matters is the love i got for them and nothing more.
Jealousy is not something I understand too well, at least not when it comes from other people at me, like they get pissed off at me for seemingly no reason and im like "What the heck did I do wtf? Whats this persons problem!?"
I feel like there's another important perspective of jealousy too: A friend who suddenly slowly begins to exit out of your life, because they're jealous.
I've done this once, because the jealousy showed me how slowly my own life was going, so I couldn't quite bear to communicate with one of my friends anymore. I plan to get better to where I can be close to them again, and to monitor my jealousy, cause I genuinely love them.
But I think that's a type of jealousy that can quietly destroy relationships. Someone who is too hurt by their own jealous feelings or who doesn't want to project their jealousy onto their friend, and slowly slips away into the distance.
Thank you so much for this video! This helped me finally understand a family member that's been at my throat for the past multiple years.
My ex best friend would do some of these things. When we were younger it wasn't as bad, but as we got older she got progressively worse. First it was copying me and eventually became trying to compete with me. She'd try to one-up me when it came to my hobbies, like trying to outdo my drawings or when playing sports. It was little petty things like this at first, but once we got to high school she got worse. It seemed like she just plain out didn't like me anymore. By this time we kind of drifted apart, but we still remained friends because we had some mutual friends. She became less genuine and felt two-faced. She was nice to my face, but I could tell she was gossiping about me behind my back. Whenever she started hanging out with the people I did, I started being treated differently, as if they knew something about me that I didn't. This happened EVERY time I made new friend groups. She'd start hanging out with us and eventually I'd have to make a new one. She was like a parasite lol funny how she could never keep friends of her own though. I finally cut her off and it felt so satisfying! I felt so much happier now that I don't have to deal with her toxic behavior anymore!
Thanks, now i finally know THAT NO ONE IS JEALOUS OF ME CUZ WHY WOULD THEY BE-
I see! How do you feel after realizing this? :)
@@Psych2go I feel.. Happy? I think i feel happy.. I'm not even sure😣
Be happy about it! Jealous people cause always problems.
Someone tried to ruin my life because they were jealous. Her name is Ava. Whenever I did something the slightest wrong to her, she would get mad at me for forever. She was always quick to forgive my other friends. I kept trying to be her friend until I realized that I did nothing wrong. It was her. My friend broke it to me that she was jealous and I finally found out. San, if your reading this, I owe you 10,000 dollars. Thank you
My best friend led up to all of this. Thank you so much for this, now I know how jealous she is.
I'm glad me and my new best friend are amazing together and not jealous of each other. We support each other and I'm glad to have her in my life :)
happy for you! i'm waiting on mine now
And this is exactly why I cut the cord with some old “friends”
HER VOICE IS SOOTHING!! I LOVE IT!!
Isn't it sad when ur mind is like "Nah, my friend isn't like this" but deep down in your heart u relate to this a lot. Don't stay with such kinds of toxic friends. They're just like shadows. They'll follow u in the light but leave u helpless in the dark.
I love this animation, Psych2go is literally the best TH-cam channel for information and Psychology.
0:08 OMG THAT LITTLE THING LOOKS SO CUTE 🥺
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It really helps when someone is finally able to GENUINELY accept the failure and imperfection of their lives and make it a point to be critical of their own way before someone else's. I literally do not ever look at someone with malicious envy or unperceptive hatred. I love to see my people succeeding in life and i SINCERELY love it when my close friends find themselves making progress in areas of life they never even thought possible. I wouldn't be able to be at peace if it was the other way around tho
I learned to enjoy my achievements quietly. It's all for my kids anyway
In addition to jealousy, #3 are characteristics of a narcissist. Narcissists spin malicious gossip and behavior as concern or trying to befriend the victim. They don't want to be exposed for who they really are.
The biggest losers are always thinking they're all that.
My old "best friend" behaved like this.
All these 6 signs. She put me down in any way and spread gossips about me. I cut all contact with her and she is now trying to "ruin my reputation" by, again, spreading gossips about me that aren't true! I am much happier without her now and I am more sociable and I am slowly getting rid of my depression! I am so happy now that she isn't on my back anymore!
I mean, as someone who deals with jealousy like it's a disease I cant get rid of, i don't really do the whole talk behind their back and always be with them. I usually beat myself up about it and suffer in the distance. But yeah I heavily did the whole copycat thing and it sucks ass.
It's got to be hard to be a jealous person. That must be tiring! I feel sorry for these folks. They need to love themselves!
There have been two "colleagues" who were jealous of me, although they expressed it differently. One tried dressing like me (my style seriously didn't suit her). The other lied her way into a Phd candidacy after I was offered mine (she was kicked out due to lack of progress and discovery of her fraud). Jealousy holds you back, it gets you nowhere.
Watching this makes me think of how I acted toward my older brother. He was always better than me at art and can draw something from memory. Whenever he drew something I would undermine his success and would say I can draw just as good, then we would have art competitions. I was just a kid but I feel bad that I discouraged him from art just because I was jealous and angry that my family said he was a better artist than I was.
This channel always has the most adorable animations. I’m so here for it
Even though we really love and support each other, between my best friend and I, there is an always existing level of jealousy. She seems to feel like I'm better at things than she is, I feel like her body is way better than mine. We are similar, we know that we're jealous of some people, but we try not to be. We both know that jealousy ruins some things and friendships, so we try to push it back and act like we're not jealous. That of course doesn't mean that we constantly do the things listed in this video, but I just notice that at many points throughout the days and weeks and months, she puts herself in front of me, trying to be in the spotlight as much as possible. But that's okay, it's quite annoying sometimes, but I can live with it since everybody has their flaws. I don't blame her, I understand what all of that is about and that she's just insecure. Not saying she's not good at the things she does, but she wasn't born with a great natural talent. (Many people don't have such a talent, which is totally fine, but those many people believe that everybody except them has that talent) She may not have that, but she works hard to achieve her goals and that's the big point, not any great talent. We both don't mind that little jealousy within our friendship, because it still works great and we're a good team! I love her and she loves me, it works out and we support each other, that's what counts! :)
Honestly, I’m flattered that people are jealous of me, they think of me to be so cool, like when i know someone is jealous, I smile, it’s a silent compliment in my opinion
if you are reading this, whoever you are, if somebody is trying to dirty your name it _only_ makes them the filthy ones and they *will not* succeed.
today i have cut out a friend group like this...
they were saying they were doing all the things they did because they were looking out for me and such, while i kept magically hearing non-existent facts about myself from unrelated people. i started getting strange looks and behaviours from people i didn't know a few weeks ago which kept getting worse and worse, and i swear, i swear, i wouldn't hurt a fly even if i had to. then, the person i trusted the most in that group, who had helped me so much in the past to recover from a painful event, initiated all the gossip. she shared confidential stuff with everyone. i am heartbroken, and the person i had thought loved me doesn't talk to me anymore because they stuffed him up with their lies about me.
i feel like i was covered with honey and left in a forest. i feel betrayed, because i was betrayed. i felt liberated at first, then empty inside.
if they attack me, i will not let them succeed.
i will stay calm, collected, and gentle towards people. i will never resort to gossip the way they did. even sitting at that table every day, listening to them bashing every single person who stepped foot in the school, made me feel dirty.
if you have read all this, thank you. if you have anything to say, i would be delighted to read it.
ps: if you are the silent one in the friend group, i feel you... you are poetic and i send you love.
we can do this because our gentility holds power over them.
i don't have any head-turning qualities about me whatsoever, but they still talk shit. i am loved by a few pure people with loving intentions and i think that is what they might be jealous of, as well as my romance life going lovingly (until they intervened) whereas they get rejected over and over.
This one girl was friends with my best friend, when my best friend met me, we spent a lot of time together!
That girl thought I was taking her friend away from her.
She started being toxic to me, avoiding me, mimicking me in bad ways when I’m not around, calling me rude names, trying to keep my best friend away from me, and undermining my success...
My best friend has my back and is always telling me what her jealous friend is doing and saying
@Psychtogo, can you please start captioning your videos for your hard of hearing viewers?
I feel jealous when some body who I like talking with someone else
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I get this alot. Im a good mom, a good cook, can raise animals, empathetic, and can command self control. I get a lot of hate i don't ask for when people discover how my family dynamics work. I choose to move silently now and i do not talk about my accomplishments. Hiding myself is safer.
Oh yes I’m gonna need this to see if my haters from school are jealous since they know about my 570 subscriber channel 😂
Edit: no I did not tell them my fake friend searched me up and saw it. I was just saying this to prove why my classmates *could* be jealous of me but I did not mean this boastful in any way I’m literally Portuguese and does not know what the hell boastful means. So someone tell me what Boastful means.
60+ sub channel here, I just want to say that sharing your channel with classmates is a bad idea. I've been doxxed by them on my video once.
xAgent 4 Overhackლლლ or maybe they just dislike your boastful attitude?
Rabbit Guts no, I did nothing to them .-.
CalamitySV I’ve never. Shared them with classmates? They found out about it through my fake friend.
@@b0ta._n09 I need more context to that. Most likely, you shared it with said fake friend and something might have happened.
Sometimes I'm jealous, sometimes people jealous of me. Envy makes the world go round!
"They might be minimizing your accomplishments because they don't have any of their own." LMAO THE SHADE I WAS ROLLING
I am all of this. Specially No. 5. I'm not proud about this. Slowly I'm seeing my errors and little by little I am fixing them. I am very grateful to have family and friends who didn't give up on me. They deserve the world.
But, if it's a game, to compete with your friends?
I mean, I always have at least a friend who's also a kind of "rival"
I don't think that it's particularly "toxic", because this competition makes me want to work even harder, and the same goes for him, so it's not a bad thing
At least not when both are competing against each other!
#5 and #6 sound more like their insecurities. They are signs, yes. They aren't necessarily bad, they're just behaviors that need boundaries. And they are obvious signs that the other person needs more balance in their life and possibly therapy to work on.
I’m 2 minutes in this is already hitting my hard, no wonder I am stressed everyday
I have experienced jealousy from a so-called friend (more like a frenemy) whose competitiveness with me was far more subtle and insidious than this video shows. Jealous friends don’t always manifest their feelings but can sometimes harbour them very adeptly, and which 'leak out'' in ways that can slip by one if not attuned to the signs. Because I was her BFF she showered me with compliments and praised my “amazing” qualities as a person. But when the friendship was tested in times of stress her true colours were often revealed. I spent most of our relationship walking on eggshells. She is no longer my friend; a huge relief.
I LOVE this art style. It’s so colorful and happy. 😃
I personally I would keep this style :D
Ok bye, and stay safe everyone! :)
It’s so unsettling when someone is jealous of you 😞😞 esp a toxic friend 😒
Can you please consider making a video of how to help stop jealous feelings? I feel like I constantly live my life feeling jealous (in the romantic relationship sense) and paranoid, I really need help with it. Thanks for all you do, Psych2Go Team
the competition and copycatting pisses me off so much cause i take pride in knowing myself, knowing what i want and how i want to present myself and they go and try to do the same and a lot of the time get praised for it since they're considered better looking, charismatic and outgoing so in the end no one looks at me and now im the jealous one. its like i can never get out of this.
In my school, i have this friend. I can tell he was jealous of me at very beginning in our friendship. Then few months, he start compete me at everything. I talk to my other friends to join me dirtbiking after school. My jealous friend said where do i want to go after this. I said i going to dirtbiking with my friends. He said why i didnt invite him. I said that i didnt invite him because he acting weird and make me uncomfortable. He said he will join and i didnt let him. "Why i cant?!" Said him with high voice. I said "Its because you acting weird and make me uncomfortable i already said that. Also you dont even know how to ride bicycle so i dont want you to broke your legs on dirtbike". Then he said everything isnt true about me loudly and saying that i didnt support him. I dont want him to broke his legs literally or his dad will kill me. Then, our friendship end.
There will be bullies who feel insecure about their selves and they see you and are jealous of you even though they dont know your story behind the surface, so they'll try to bring you down with everything they have, bring you lower than them. So they can feel better about them selves.
My roommate was exactly like this and I hated every single moment interacting with him -_-“
I relate to this because i was jealous of a close friend's talent, the competitiveness helped me find my own talent and they too became jealous of me. Jealousy is not a good feeling, it kills friendship and loosens your strong bond. it feels disgusting.
This reminds me of my Secondary School days where people are jealous of me. I am occasionally jealous of people too
One of my three younger brothers had this issue. He slowly grew out of it as he developed some insight. I made a lot of compromises because I didn't have the tools to confront him. Yet I didn't want our relationship to end. We are now closer than ever.
Cause it's new
The shape of your body it’s blue
I can relate to the copycat part, jealous people always try to copy you and somehow be like you, I had a lot of people like that in my life but I thought I was wrong and that thinking someone might be jealous of you is an act born out of arrogance and over self-confidence, but after watching this video I realized that I was right and I still have some of these people in my life lol
There was a time when I knew that I'm being gossiped behind my own back by people who were my friends. And so as it continued even people who I adored were against me and called me toxic despite the fact we never knew each other. I wasn't sure what to do back then, but if it happens again, what am I supposed to do when my friend gossips behind my own back and makes other people think about me as a treat?