I was Adopted as a baby.. My mom told me when I was 11. I cried, but it never really bothered me. They gave me a story that my parents weren't up To keeping me because they were poor. I never tried to look for them. The family that I had It's my family and I love them very much. Why would I want to go looking for Someone or something that could upset me. I had the best parents anyone could ever have. They passed away when I was 23 and I had to raise my younger brothers which was OK . I was truly blessed. I never felt betrayed.
My sister and I found out we were adopted after our parents died but we both did not want to search for our birth parents or family. We had the best parents who had raised us.
Im on my late 30s and just discovered few mounths ago that i was adopted at bith it hits to hard, since then I avoid being in public or speaking to poeple at the end of the day I know i can trust no one , not even myself.
I'm David's aunt. We never thought about him being adopted. He was ours. That's all. Ok, now he knows. How is he any better off. Obviously his biological mom had her reasons. So, my brother had his. If he's angry, his anger is towards the wrong people. All we did was give him a family. Adopted or not. He was never treated differently or loved any less. His adoptive parents were good people. They didn't want him to know that he wasn't wanted by his biological mom.
What your saying is True but in the end the worse thing you could Ever Do is keep something like that a Secret to then have that child find out Years later down the Line, that just creates Anger Hurt Confusion and so much more and that’s what no one understands…. If he is Angry or Upset you cannot Blame him and be like well we gave him a good life and all these things so why get Mad , that’s not the point of this All …. Anyway I wish you all the Best and hope you guys can come to an Understanding some day 🤷🏽♀️🙏🏽
He had a right to know, regardless of how your family treated or felt about him. It wasn't about that or about you all (or obviously it was). But it shouldn't have; it should have been about HIM and his right to know that your family's blood was not his blood. There is HUGE difference, and a piece of paper doesn't change that. no doubt no he has a bit, if not a lot of resentment, towards your family. but it's the product of the lie(s).
Joanne Trivigno Bozik 1 minute ago My sister and I found out we were both adopted after our parents died. We both didn't want to search for anyone. Our parents who brought us up were the best of parents and we would never want to hurt them in anyway. We both did not feel bad we were adopted, actually we still are happy they were our parents. I had to send away for my papers that had my original birth parents on it. For if you travel out of the country, the laws changed that we must have that info. The woman who gave birth to me had 7 other children that said they are still alive and they were my brothers and sisters. I never and will never look for them. We were so very lucky we had our loving adoptive parents. They were the best.
Why do adoptive parents do this to their children? Do they have any idea what this does to their children? If you feel as if your children would walk out on you simply because they're not yours, it's ridiculous. Family is family, whether blood-related or not. And you should always be honest to your family, especially when it's something like this.
@@mrsfoleylindaruth5984 It doesn't matter.... it's your given right to know who you are a part of if the information is there regardless of the outcome. Hiding the fact is just not right, even if you are trying to protect that other person, or in some cases being selfish.
Has he tried to find his mother or father? Seems like it could be wonderful to contact them and have a kind of new and ongoing relationship with at least one of them.
Wow.... must be tough, everything he knew up until the point when he heard he was adopted, must have felt like it was all a 'lie'...... that's how I would think he felt, like his life was just a big lie. Hope he can come to understand because that would just destroy you.
@@MMTFire it matters because look at him now , feeling all Destroyed inside from never being told the TRUTH ! Parents Who Adopt don’t fully understand what it does to a Child when You Lie and have them thinking that your their REAL Parent to then find out They Never Were and that you were Adopted all this Time, that’s the Most Hurtful Feeling in The World …. 🤷🏽♀️
let's be real. they didn't tell him because they wanted him all to themselves; they didn't want biological parent interference. In my pov, when in comes to adoption and whether or not to tell the child they are adopted, it's a no brainer. It is not about YOU, it's about the child. We all have innate natural desire to know where (who) we are from.
*She NEVER should've told him anything about the adoption. *He gained NOTHING by knowing. *She gained nothing by telling. *The aunt was totally wrong for divulging this. *I'm so happy I don't have people like this in my family butting their noses into someone else's family. *How dare you?
At least his aunt is good at adopting not like others or in the movies where the aunt and uncle are very bad at adopting but I hope you understood my point of view
Edward Simson ik That's what I thought....I thought it was about adoptive parent s regretting not telling their son he was adopted before he died.....obviously i was wrong....
I was adopted in 1977 At the age of 10. But it was only because she was receiving welfare checks for me. She then put me in a group home once them checks stopped. She never claimed me as her daughter either. She’s been rotting in hell since 1993.
Chelsea Gallo honey I'm so sorry she did this to u But the longer u hold onto the obvious bitterness u still carry even tho u say she's been in hell all these years she still wins when it comes to controlling ur life..If u believe in hell then u must believe in heaven and as such u know ain't no bitterness gonna enter in there.. Pray and let go... She won't be controlling u from the grave any longer
sorry I would not of told him either! and would not of told my family would of send my wife away and then come back with the baby! a parent love is beyond words! I was told at 10or 12 and it didn't matter to me but it dose work on your mind! and them relatives who think know everything!
There's also been instances where adopted kids inherit medical problems from their birth parents. Are you still saying you wouldn't tell them? They have a right to know. Your feelings do not trump theirs. Yeah, they might be part of your family... but they're still their own person. Therefore, you have no right whatsoever hiding that part of them.
Stop it you were chosen not bought not kidnapped you were given a loving Family to call you own yes it would have been better to tell you but you are acting just like they thought you would saying you've been betrayed and they done you wrong what a betrayal you are to them
I'm so very sorry you are going through this pain. I know it is so real.
He looks like his adoptive parents
I was Adopted as a baby.. My mom told me when I was 11. I cried, but it never really bothered me. They gave me a story that my parents weren't up To keeping me because they were poor. I never tried to look for them. The family that I had It's my family and I love them very much. Why would I want to go looking for Someone or something that could upset me. I had the best parents anyone could ever have. They passed away when I was 23 and I had to raise my younger brothers which was OK . I was truly blessed. I never felt betrayed.
My sister and I too. We had the best of parents and would not search for them.
The same thing happened to me!!!!!!! I was adopted in 1965 for $8,000. Didn't find out until my mom passed
My sister and I found out we were adopted after our parents died but we both did not want to search for our birth parents or family. We had the best parents who had raised us.
Im on my late 30s and just discovered few mounths ago that i was adopted at bith it hits to hard, since then I avoid being in public or speaking to poeple at the end of the day I know i can trust no one , not even myself.
Yes he really looks like them. Who would ever guess.
:c i am not adopted but this is sad :(
For not knowing youre adopted in ages😞
GLARE_MOONYT Are you sure
I definitely understand, I am also a late discovery adoptee.
All things considered I’m happy the people were adopted by good parents 💕
I'm David's aunt. We never thought about him being adopted. He was ours. That's all. Ok, now he knows. How is he any better off. Obviously his biological mom had her reasons. So, my brother had his. If he's angry, his anger is towards the wrong people. All we did was give him a family. Adopted or not. He was never treated differently or loved any less. His adoptive parents were good people. They didn't want him to know that he wasn't wanted by his biological mom.
What your saying is True but in the end the worse thing you could Ever Do is keep something like that a Secret to then have that child find out Years later down the Line, that just creates Anger Hurt Confusion and so much more and that’s what no one understands…. If he is Angry or Upset you cannot Blame him and be like well we gave him a good life and all these things so why get Mad , that’s not the point of this All …. Anyway I wish you all the Best and hope you guys can come to an Understanding some day 🤷🏽♀️🙏🏽
He had a right to know, regardless of how your family treated or felt about him. It wasn't about that or about you all (or obviously it was). But it shouldn't have; it should have been about HIM and his right to know that your family's blood was not his blood. There is HUGE difference, and a piece of paper doesn't change that. no doubt no he has a bit, if not a lot of resentment, towards your family. but it's the product of the lie(s).
Joanne Trivigno Bozik
1 minute ago
My sister and I found out we were both adopted after our parents died. We both didn't want to search for anyone. Our parents who brought us up were the best of parents and we would never want to hurt them in anyway. We both did not feel bad we were adopted, actually we still are happy they were our parents. I had to send away for my papers that had my original birth parents on it. For if you travel out of the country, the laws changed that we must have that info. The woman who gave birth to me had 7 other children that said they are still alive and they were my brothers and sisters. I never and will never look for them. We were so very lucky we had our loving adoptive parents. They were the best.
Sometimes it is to protect them from where the came from.I would like to see the whole episode though
there is a difference in your situation; your parents are dead, it changes your perspective. You cannot compare. @@joannetrivignobozik6218
Why do adoptive parents do this to their children? Do they have any idea what this does to their children? If you feel as if your children would walk out on you simply because they're not yours, it's ridiculous. Family is family, whether blood-related or not. And you should always be honest to your family, especially when it's something like this.
For many reasons. Probably to keep an innocent child from wondering why his supposed real family didn't want him.
@@mrsfoleylindaruth5984 It doesn't matter.... it's your given right to know who you are a part of if the information is there regardless of the outcome. Hiding the fact is just not right, even if you are trying to protect that other person, or in some cases being selfish.
Why would you tell them they’re adoptive? They shouldn’t care about someone who didn’t want them they are the parents
He is 🔥
Maria Nunez is ok not going to hospital I will be ok I just needed time not going to take it into my own hands
Has he tried to find his mother or father? Seems like it could be wonderful to contact them and have a kind of new and ongoing relationship with at least one of them.
Wow.... must be tough, everything he knew up until the point when he heard he was adopted, must have felt like it was all a 'lie'...... that's how I would think he felt, like his life was just a big lie. Hope he can come to understand because that would just destroy you.
Why does it matter
@@MMTFire it matters because look at him now , feeling all Destroyed inside from never being told the TRUTH ! Parents Who Adopt don’t fully understand what it does to a Child when You Lie and have them thinking that your their REAL Parent to then find out They Never Were and that you were Adopted all this Time, that’s the Most Hurtful Feeling in The World …. 🤷🏽♀️
let's be real. they didn't tell him because they wanted him all to themselves; they didn't want biological parent interference. In my pov, when in comes to adoption and whether or not to tell the child they are adopted, it's a no brainer. It is not about YOU, it's about the child. We all have innate natural desire to know where (who) we are from.
IT SHOULD BE LAW; THAT ADOPTEES HAVE TO BE TOLD THE TRUTH AT THE AGE OF 18 YEARS !
Where's the full episode of this man's story???
Seriously I can't find it???
Yes, really! They can’t leave us in suspense!
*She NEVER should've told him anything about the adoption.
*He gained NOTHING by knowing.
*She gained nothing by telling.
*The aunt was totally wrong for divulging this.
*I'm so happy I don't have people like this in my family butting their noses into someone else's family.
*How dare you?
I love this guy!
Me too. I am his other adopted aunt. We always have. Obviously his real family didn't.
At least his aunt is good at adopting not like others or in the movies where the aunt and uncle are very bad at adopting but I hope you understood my point of view
TLYBN
Not his whole life obviously!
Edward Simson ik That's what I thought....I thought it was about adoptive parent s regretting not telling their son he was adopted before he died.....obviously i was wrong....
I can relate to this guy. I don't know that I'm adopted aswell.
Tamra Armstrong Hi that was not my point, my point was the miss labeling of the TV program to get more views, even though the title isn't accurate
Edward Simson oh gotcha lol
Tamra Armstrong thank you very for getting how funny it is
I wonder if my brother feels like that is that why he doesn't look
😮😮❤ why 😂 does look like his father
Why aren't you showing these kids ( now adults) meeting their birth parent/ s?
That could never happen in the UK we need a birth certificate to get married
That's messed up
I was adopted in 1977
At the age of 10.
But it was only because she was receiving welfare checks for me.
She then put me in a group home once them checks stopped.
She never claimed me as her daughter either.
She’s been rotting in hell since 1993.
Chelsea Gallo aww I'm so sorry, at least she's rotting in hell, stay strong and just enjoy the rest of your life, my prayers go out to you tonight. 😊
Sorry to hear that. I hope You're surrounded by many people who love you now.
Chelsea Gallo honey I'm so sorry she did this to u
But the longer u hold onto the obvious bitterness u still carry even tho u say she's been in hell all these years she still wins when it comes to controlling ur life..If u believe in hell then u must believe in heaven and as such u know ain't no bitterness gonna enter in there..
Pray and let go... She won't be controlling u from the grave any longer
KL 844377 TIGERS
What's so bad about being adopted?
nothing wrong with being adopted. It is the lie, the secret that creates the discomfort.
thats sad
Season 12 episode 7
sorry I would not of told him either! and would not of told my family would of send my wife away and then come back with the baby! a parent love is beyond words! I was told at 10or 12 and it didn't matter to me but it dose work on your mind! and them relatives who think know everything!
There's also been instances where adopted kids inherit medical problems from their birth parents. Are you still saying you wouldn't tell them? They have a right to know. Your feelings do not trump theirs. Yeah, they might be part of your family... but they're still their own person. Therefore, you have no right whatsoever hiding that part of them.
Stop it you were chosen not bought not kidnapped you were given a loving Family to call you own yes it would have been better to tell you but you are acting just like they thought you would saying you've been betrayed and they done you wrong what a betrayal you are to them
Wow! You're delusional.