Marriage: The ULTIMATE Scam For Whom Part 2 | Who Benefits From Marriage
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My 3 word advice to my younger self would 100% be "DON'T GET MARRIED!!"
Don't forget to also tell yourself not to give men ANY free domestic labor.
@@littlelizzymamaliz 👍🏾🎯💯❤️
" don't get married"
advice works for a woman who
1.does not want to be a mother
2. who can not afford to be a mother
3. who insists on living alone that is
insists on not having a boyfriend or a husband .
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@@christinabaatz1204sounds perfect 😊❤
@@littlelizzymamaliz amen
On another note: i learned recently that the rate of wife discard by men in the US was so severe that abandoned elder women overloaded the government institutions in the 20th century.
These abandoned women had worked in the home their entire lives, and had no ability or even understanding of how to earn money in the job market. They were treated like human waste after their usefulness was done.
This was a major reason for the implementation of Social Security.
When m3n accuse us of being too casual about ending marriage, they're projecting.
😂 recheck that information
They view us as appliances to use and discard when they’re done. This is why I get a dopamine rush when I hear about a Woman who gets half the assets in a divorce.
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I’m never getting married, my first relationship with a man taught me a lifetime of lessons…. I’m good
Why are we still saying that men "help out" around the house??? Why isn't it called "helping out" when *we* do it??? 🤷🏾♀️
Fr. I don’t believe in men helping out at all. They either do like we do, or I’m moving on.
How many of these men are saying don’t get married are gonna wanna get married when they’re like 5560 and they’re gonna wanna marry some 30-year-old and make her like a caretaker and their 30-year-old aren’t gonna go for it….
I would not listen to these guys for advice. Good luck everybody.
Somewhere on the internet, I heard men want unconditional love when ED sets it 😂
When men get ED suddenly "Love" is important, but they still want 20 year old's 🤣
Imagine women agreeing wanting prenubs, but the prenub contains an hourly wage for house chores and childcare 🤣
Thats right. Donald Trump pre nup says Malania gets a million a yr for every yr she is married to him . Why would anyone sign up for something that says they get nothing?
On my second marriage and will NEVER do it again!!!!! Ending it and moving on to embrace being single.
I'm Kenyan and the Kenyan woman around 10:00 is so embarassing. Girl stop lying 😂
I feel sorry for her, because she’s gonna learn the hard way and will be blindsided when her husband acts up. It’s far more expensive for a man to pay a chef, prostitute, nanny, housekeeper, therapist, and a roommate to pay half of the bills. Good luck paying outright for that kind of labor.
Pickmeisha wakaniaru pro max
Aki yawah!!! Lakini she looks like she is below 25 bado hajaonyeshwa shege na character development na wanaume wa kenya.
To the Kenyan woman: For the average man, it is much more expensive to hire a prostitute, maid, cook, and female therapist than to marry a woman.
Most of these men treat women less than street hookers. Men expect sex, cooking, cleaning, counseling, and half of the bills paid from women. Let’s be honest here. It’s better for a woman to be on her own in order to be successful and happy.
Aibu pro max yawah!!
Most menn won't even "let" a woman keep her own name in marriage or give her name to the kids. How is it even an argument?
I always thought that too. Why should I have to change my entire identity just because I got a husband & why can't children get the mom's last name since they came out of her?? They view us as property; that's it.
I’ve been saying his for YEARS!!!!
I saw a video where a brilliant woman breaks down how marriage and legacy simply erases women. If we marry, we take his last name. Our children all have his last name. Our mothers also have their husband's last name. Her maiden name is her father's last name. We are erased
I joke "If he wants me to take his last name, he must take my first name as his middle name" 😅
It makes no sense for the children to have his last name. It’s guaranteed that the children belong to the mother, why do they not inherit her name?
A nanny is not cheaper than a wife. Wives do that and much more for half the rent, please 🙄
A part-time nanny is financially out-of-reach for most of these men.
She sounded like a major pick me
Half The rent and a full time.😂😂😂
The cheapest nanny charges $ 15 an hour per child .That is $ 360 per day per child . $ 720 per day for 2 children. 720 multiplied by 30 is $ 21600 . A wife does that for just food and shelter.
@@serenesrn3827 then also add the cleaning and cooking fees… also the sex work
31:29 This man was gaslighting her😂
It’s called invisible labor for a reason, they don’t “see” it. Except ,they do, they just “don’t care about it as much as women do”. So dishes can sit in the sink for 2-3 nights, sheets can stay on the bed for months, groceries can mold, it’s not their fault we are so picky 🫠.
But hey… he isn’t “forcing” you to cook, clean, give the 🍪… he is just being honest (and keeping true to his standards) by saying “if you don’t, I’ll find someone who does”. He is such a good man☺️
Facts! That’s word. 👏👏👏💯🙌
if they were to acknowledge invisible labour and house care their wives do, they would have to be better (to their wives) and couldn't get away with the things they get away with now. of course they try to gaslight them, it's a huge part of their weaponized incompetence.
If EVERY unmarried woman on earth,can stop giving these males husband benefits to lousy boyfriends,they would know why marriage is more beneficial to them,than us. As for me....ima stay single, cause it's not worth it.
THIS
I agree girlfriends need to stop giving wife benefits
@@tammygarrett8427 Women need to stop giving men benefits, period.
Kudos to the wonderful mothers who didn't push marriage goals on us early, and instead, encouraged us to focus on our education and careers ❤
Marriage does not financially help women more than it helps men…. It’s a Factual statistic man who are married paid more women who are married get paid less
The fact that it is called an institution should have tipped us off a long time ago!
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That's what I always say. I don't want to be in an institution. their crazy in there. LOL
Yes and you’re committed to an institution as if you’re insane which is what you would have to be to go along with this charade. I did it once and I’ve been single ever since, 26 years and counting. One and done.
They did trick us😂..Im single on my way to Florida for vacation...in school and work full time...
1:17 I disagree with this lady because she thinks the worst thing that can happen in a marriage is DV, custody issues, etc. Nope. The worst thing that could happen is to get ⚰ by your spouse. I saw this news today, a woman got ⚰ by her husband. They have been married for FIVE MONTHS. Her name was Angie Diaz, her husband didn't just end her, he decappitated her. The only thing I can think of worse than that is if your hysband end you AND your children as well. Easy enough to find cases of hysband ending his entire family.
Edit: In order to comprehend the whole concept you have to learn how to *think* like a narcissist...
Like out there in the wild, its crazyyy
If I could run into my 18 year old self, I would tell her don't trust anyone. When you're young and successful, everyone will try to strip you of everything you have and drain you and your business dry then leave you alone and broken. And you're so naive, you never see it coming.
a reminder that you can be a married single mother. with no retirement, you're fucked for life
Every time I see a woman talk about how their boyfriend/husband is “different” or one of the “good ones” I feel sorry for them. Check back in a few years and see if they’re still as happy. Raise your standards ladies and leave them behind!
Facts...❤
They always say that mess 😂😂😂
@@Datb2 They be looking mad foolish too. Calling us jealous, just to find out their man really ain’t it 🤣.
This makes no sense.. you say to raise standards but also that no man is different 😂😂😂
@@l-pv5793 Exactly. 4B ☺️
If women (many) “rage against the machine,” marriage, and initiate divorce from an abusive husband, she is unalived. A lot of women missing and gone, leaving kids behind or worst. 😢
Let that sink in.
This! It just shows how inadequate and useless many of these males are sans a woman…they literally lose it.
Nope. Ain't letting it sink in... These statistics are only because not enough women unalive abusive men.
@@kimcham9949bring back Aqua Tofana
@@kimcham9949women have been conditioned to think that we don't own men even when married to them but they own us... Thus women not unaliving abusive men but men unaliving women who (wish to) stop being their property.
In my country a young women was killed by her husband cause she wanted divorce. He strangled her while sleeping, he killed their dog who tried to help her and then staged the whole thing like it was some robbery and called the police.
If you type "Murder of Caroline Kraus, Greece", you will see. And so many others... Poor girls who just wanted to be loved.
@@kimcham9949 herbalism works.....
I am married. I am a working wife. We get a close to being equal as we possibly can. My husband is very liberal and matches me perfectly. I never wanted to get married until I met him. He STILL benefits more from marriage than me. Even without children, he gets benefited in work/promotions for being a family man, I get held back. He is given respect for having a wife, I am often reduced to being Mrs. London and not a person, especially in how companies treat us in paperwork. He corrects people all the time that my name is my first name, not Mrs. London. He actively tries to negate the negative effects of me, because he KNOWS it benefits him more.
He also knows I, as the breadwinner, can walk away at any moment. He knows I've walked away from other relationships when men in them took more than they gave because I dislike inequality. He puts in effort because he knows he has to match my energy.
My life motto is, "Don't welcome anyone in who doesn't make your life better."
For the time being. However, Cock will find another Pickme. Men are a waste of time -- all of them.
Super, I look forward to your videos.
I know you mentioned that your Spirituality lies beyond Patriarchal religions. Mine too.
I'm glad to see more women talking about our hidden history of Power 🌒🌕🌘
That PIZZA PILLOW and SHEET 😂UGH!
Thank you for these videos and for spreading this information!
Thank you for watching and for your support!
At 60 never married and not having children was, unbeknownst to me, the best decision I made. Seeing my parent and grandparents--I knew at ten years old, “I am never ever getting married or having kids”. True to my word to this day and I am so happy.
Simple logic states that if women initiate most of the divorces...men are deficient and being rejected...therefore it is men who need to grow and improve.
sexual selection is a good thing for women
The amount of women that say they would not do it again and the reasons why....lets me know yiu are better off having your own home and ability to do as you please.
Found the Pick-me around 10:00
I experienced unconditional love from men twice. Not even them I wanted to marry. I just didn't see the advantage for me.
No matter how any person male or female attempts to frame the institution of marriage - as a woman, it simply does not make sense to me as an equation. It is not equal, there are so many inherent expectations by sees prejudice against the woman in the relationship and she will forever be expected to undertake a nurturing mother. And this goes entirely against romance or an erotic relationship between two consenting adults because men cannot integrate their exceptionally limited and narrow perspective of what women are which is either a Madonna or a whore and never. Both. It just - is not - worth it.
9:32 The girl literally couldn't be more delulu... 😳🙄🙈🙈
She’s weird
I had to skip. So Annoying
I SAID WHAT I SAID... ARGUE WITH YOUR PHONE 😮😂😊
That's exactly what women should stop having with men that " regular relationship" so they learn to respect and appreciate the women better.
Woman at 9:35 - sad. Feel sorry for her. Hard landing incoming!
3:36 Finally a guy speaking on this issue! It's hard to find a marriable person.
Many men only marry to not lose the woman. Previously, the woman was in supply as a girlfriend. Now, marriage becomes a condition to keep the woman in supply, otherwise a breakup will happen. But the guy is still insecure about marriage. All he wants is not to lose her.
Yet, not wanting to lose a woman is NOT enough to maintain a good marriage. Even wanting to spend every day for the rest of your life with this person is NOT enough to sustain a good marriage. Marriage consists of many legal, mental and daily responsibilities, involving every aspect of life, many of which are unforeseeable.
I don't see how the desire to being with a person is able to sustain a healthy marriage. It takes many practical considerations prior marriage and responsibilities post marriage to make it work. It is daunting and extremely challenging. Marriage is not happily ever after, it is a new chapter in life.
Don’t get relationship advice from someone in their 20’s. Seriously 😐
Robert Green talking about Athena and Aries. How the people didn't like Aries but in the hands of the Romans, Mars was the god most worshiped. With that they conquered the Athena revering Greeks and had one of the longest running empires in history ♈
I DATED A SINGLE MAN I HAD FUN TOOK HIM HORSE RIDING NEW EXPERIENCES BUT HE DUMPED ME I FOUND OUT HE TOLD HIS FRIEND HE HAD FUN WE HAD THE SAME HUMOUR BUT HE HAD KIDS [ THAT HIS MUM LOOKED AFTER] and needed someone he could train ie domesticate be his kids mum
63, MARRIED FOR A LONG TIME. JUST DON'T DO IT... TRUST ME... DON'T DO IT.
The woman saying women are the ones bitten, she hasn't met like the 80% of men in the USA who throw world class fits that no one wants to dating them, sleep with them, and/or marry them. She had an accent that sounded similar to a Nigerian creator I follow and also somewhat similar to a South African creator I follow, so I'm going to assume she isn't American and I'm going to assume the culture requirements of men and women are different in different countries, so it is possible men in her area aren't complaining about not being able to get the kitty.
I don't think what you are saying is correct. American women cannot do without sex. They want to get married; Worse still, they prefer having boys over girls
Married rhymes with Buried.
The African woman here was a pick me . Men can get sex outside marriage… that is not true for some Asian and Arab cultures. Children with baby mamas has its own issues.
That guy at 14:00 is making sense with his sexy deep voice. Chiiile.... 😂❤👂🏿🎶 I'm 4B, but I'm not dead. 😂
who benefits the most?
society + greedy companies
9:51 What's she doing here? She really doesn't seem like she actually wants to be convinced. Also, the guy after her had me until he mentioned divorce. If you're going to do that, you need to do better than quoting the most popular figure. And yes, there are actually four types.
most litrally want a maid a prostute as in they dont get you off and emotional sponge and organiser of the family. i used to think im enough im attractive fun etc but i never cleaned for them i cook when i want to etc i went on equality litrally my relationships last 6 months , my male friend met someone alot younger boring didnt speak but cleaned his car cooked breakfast first time at his something id find demeaning like cleaning his car. he litrally married her in 2months, her submissive perfect wife routine wore off she called him boring said it was ground hog day and left him with kids 10years later but has to live with him as she has no savingd etc as a house wife
The last speech is the best part. It feels a bit strange that it ended up at the end, though I see how the video is stacked with evidence before a broader statement is proffered.
I also want to say that in this discussion there is a disconnect between the material use men are getting out of women in marriage, such as chores, childcare, and homemaking, and the emotional and sexual services men are getting in marriage... And then, once again, the legal and social cover that marriage brings to things when we talk about protection. One, I think there's a serious lack of connection in the discourse, because people would have to explore actual marriages on a continuum, and it would be crucial to have the worst laid out bare. This also, needfully, would come in the form of narration about both the relationship, and the communities they were conducted within. -Something few still in these circumstances would be willing, or able to provide. Which brings me to the second thing, which is that to explore the links between these areas, you'd need to really be able to catch and reflect the flow of micro-aggressions, and other power games. Even when relationships are abusive, even when the links have been meditated upon for over a decade, or talked over, after it's over, this is difficult, and often impossible (amnesia being one notable form of traumatic damage).
I think these areas do share space, uncomfortably intimate space at that. I think there are very few safe spaces to unpack those relationships, even in our own minds. Ultimately, this is where I believe that it is more valuable to listen to the advice from a knowing woman to not get married, on instinct, than it is to know why she made her choices the way she did, or how she came to her conclusions. This is one area, where I do not think we have the honesty, or discernment for a scientific approach. Instead, we have something more akin to the whispered witness after a genocide, where proof was obliterated wholesale, with every life that had it. Few are capable of speaking, and when they do, they tend to tell their stories, and we have been trained not to hear, not to listen, not to validate, and certainly, never to act upon what doesn't completely hold together, with proof, and seem to have the most immediate relevance for our lives. Why are we surprised, again and again, that our fears and hopes dictate what we are allowed to know about our relationships, from within them? Why are we surprised that the worth of our lives always lies on the thinnest thread?
Oooh this bald man right here? He can keep his mic. By the way, the etiquette is to credit every content creator, artist, musician, videographer etc. that you use in your content-- especially when you're essentially presenting it as your own theme for your own book, which you're promoting.
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