www.realmenrealstyle.com/sharp-dressed-man-talk/ - Click here to read the article about 10 Things Well-Dressed Men Would Never Say | Benefits Of Dressing Sharp goo.gl/vYxbiJ Click Here to claim your FREE 47 page eBook “7 Deadly Style Sins” Click here goo.gl/0rjdCb to discover how Antonio’s personal presentation courses can help you start to use clothing to make more money, attract opportunity, and improve your life. www.realmenrealstyle.com/free-products/ - Click Here To Download ALL of my FREE Products rmrsapp.com/ - Click Here To Download Our FREE App for iPhone and Android facebook.com/RealMenRealStyle/ - Like Us On Facebook! instagram.com/rmrstyle/ - Follow Us On Instagram twitter.com/rmrstyle - Tweet Us! www.pinterest.com/rmrstyle/ - Follow Us On Pinterest
+Real Men Real Style Thank you for saying that it's not shallow to make assumptions based on the way people look. I wouldn't treat anyone badly because of the way they were dressed, but certainly dress can shift levels of respect. Not shallow at all.
+Real Men Real Style Hi! All i want to say is u r right. since i started dressing well with style, but sharper than u would expect for 17 years old high schooler i got many oportunities. My life turned upside down. my closet is now filled up with shirts ties bowties blazers all i need to look good and presentable. What is also great ladies too take a notice of my change of style and more than please by it.
+Real Men Real Style I just found your channel and subscribed. I really like the video and your thoughts on mens style. Do you offer tips for men who want to dress sharp but avoid animal materials like leather, wool, and silk?
+Real Men Real Style You forgot a few. 'I have the money for my daughters braces." "I will fix that flat tire" 'What time does the auto parts store close?' 'I need some more 7018's to finish this weld'
My wife and I were getting something to eat at this trendy place and everybody was dressed alike pretty normal, well this one guy came in and he was dressed really sharpe, looked great,fit,healthy and not 1 hair out of place. My wife and I started calling him Mr perfect d-bag lol.
+Roberto LaCraveon I am an electrician and this is true. I was working in a mansion for a millionaire and he overpaid me by 40 bucks. If it were the average Joe, I'd tell them they paid way too much and offer their money back. This guy however was covered in money. The amount of detail in his house and the number of expensive trinkets that spanned every room was astonishing. Not to mention how well-dressed he was.
Since day 1 of college I wore a shirt and a tie every single day for over 4 years. I didn't notice a difference until one day a professor called me out and used me as an example of professionalism and dedication.
I have never been taught how to dress sharp, I just started to care about the way I dressed and then the more you get in to it you realise how happy you are when you can walk up straight and be 100% confident and know that you are being respected because you care about yourself!
Andreas Meier I think the way you dress is a expression of yourself, I dont dress nicely for others, I do it for myself. Just because I dress nicely does not mean Im respected less by my friends, my true friends respect me for who I am. When you meet new people first impression is strong (whether we like it or not). If I dont shower for weeks in a row people will judge me on my smell, if I wear nice clothes and look like I take care of myself peolpe will notice and have a different approach towards me. There is a reason you dont wear socks and sandals to a job interview. That being said I dont wear nice clothes to impress anyone or to be someone Im not. I dress nicely for myself and because it is who I am.
+Andreas Meier You wear what you are. Clothing are a representation of your personality and are the first thing people are going to notice about you. They are talking for you before you even get a chance to talk. That's not being superficial, that's analysis, what humans excel at.
Around three months ago was my second cousins wedding. I was home alone dressing for the occasion. I'm only 19 so I don't own a car of my own, so I took the public bus. As soon as the bus driver saw me in my suit, he greeted me warmly and respectingly. Even more than usual. When I left the bus another young man wearing a suit also left the bus. We both looked at each other and nodded with glee
Its a real shame that wanting to look decent everyday is considered "out there" or overkill, im 24 and I have started to make the change, ive had a lot happen to me personally over the last 4 years, and i feel now i want to dress like a man rather than a boy. Everyone considers me as a gentleman so why not dress like one. So i am ditching the hoodies, tacky T shirts, horrible jeans and in come chinos, shirts, oxfords, knitwear, pea coats
Adam Purcell It is a shame, I'm only 17 and I've been dressing well for a year and a half and the amount of problems it causes with the "hard boys" is unbelievable, I suppose it's also because, like yourself, I'm considered a gentleman, and although most girls here in Spain are hard partiers and not really my ideal for a relationship it does get me a lot of attention. There's a lot of truth in your words, keep it up!
Same here mate. No more t-shirts no more teenage trendy apparel’s. Classy-good quality-sharp-Tidy clothes with a distinct classique style is more appealing.
I'd just add this: get in shape. All the best clothing in the world won't suffice if you're not feeling *confident* about yourself - the best way to do that is to get in shape. And I certainly don't mean bodybuilder physique: sharp clothes look best when you're slim (BMI between 21-23 and body fat percentage between 10-15%).
I strongly agree. And it does not matter the price of the clothes. It can be a walmart shirt but in the hands of a good tailor, it will look good on you.
Started to dress well 2 weeks ago, i was jobless nearly homeless! after dressing well using your tips, i got a full job and got my confindence back!! thanks man! you were the light in my dark life!
When I dress really nice in a crowded room, I've noticed a lot of eyes are on me. I've noticed how friendly they are toward me. I especially love the eyes and smiles the women were giving me. I'm not special but I felt special haha.
Dressing sharp just came naturally to me. I love the respect I get from the public and even the police. I go by the saying " To be respected, you must dress respectable ". I plan on being a fine Gentleman by 20
1NV4DR basically, dress how ppl will judge you cuz you care about what everyone thinks of you. Appearance is everything in America. I’ve seen a well dressed bum
Love your advice. I overdressed to a party that just want everyone to look decent. Had a bunch of people compliment on the way i dressed. There were some people here and there trying to throw shade like "oh why are you dressing so nice when its just a simple party". Could of cared less. I felt like a million bucks
I definitely get more"Sir" and common courtesy when I dress well. I worked at an arena in LA for 8 years where you needed an all access pass. I would not wear the pass, but I would dress sharp, walk tall as a well trained Marine should, and I would not get stopped. My boss did not dress as sharp, and would wear the pass. We where walking together through a tunnel with security. Security stopped him and not me. My boss asked why. Security said "he looks like he works here." Semper Fi!
+2001Horatio You fail to understand the context of Salomon's comment by making that remark. Antonio is a former marine and his blogs first visitors were also marines who he advertised to. Plenty of them know him in real life or posted on his blog (back when it had comments). It's not 'bragging' or 'irrelevant'.
+Salomon P That's an excellent point.. if you dress and act 'like you belong'...then most people perceive that you 'do belong'. Look the part...what's that old saying.."Fit in..to get in"
+Pirwzy That is part of it in a way. I worked at an University arena. Where it is who you know, and guards are told to let people slide by because of who they are without a badge.
People associate bad habits with how you dress too. I was coming home from work in a business casual outfit with a nice pea coat. I was standing beside a guy who seemed like he was dressed down (baggy sweat pants and a very loose hoodie). Another guy was looking for a cigarette, he asked the man next to me and he said no because he didn't smoke, he quickly glanced at me and walked to another person.
I'm 28 and my boss is forty. one day we were working and I was dressed sharp as usual while my boss wears casual clothes with flip flops. A customer came in, looked at both of us and went up to me and asked, "excuse me, you're the manager here, right?" I told the customer, "sorry, she's the manager." I can tell it bothered her, but I felt so awesome. Appearance means a lot.
This is absolutely true. All of it. I have had people say, "Why did he get service first" It was because of the way I was dressed. Very good advice here.
Antonio, in the past 2 years I've been trying to look better, size up my wardrobe and these are pretty much SPOT ON. I've gotten away with so many things by dressing sharp. A few things such as: 1.Riding the public tram system the card checker skipped me, nodded, and said 'Don't worry, it's all right.' while having checked everyone in front of me. 2.I walked in an electronics shop with my clothes I used to wear 3 years ago and I wanted to ask one of the personnel a question and he answered: 'iuno. don't ask me.' Walked in same day again with my go-to outfit and I had 2 people walk to me asking me if I needed help. 3. When dressed well, I've always had employees at a supermarket race to open a checkout register even when there's another isle open and I'm the only one remaining. (yes granted they are most likely trained to do this, but when dressed entirely down, I end up waiting at the last isle that's still open) 4. My girlfriend, the first thing she tells everybody about when we first met was 'I don't know, he was just dressed REALLY nice.' To anyone who is looking to dress well and up their wardrobe, remember that yes, it DOES take time to feel right and before you know it you have ditched your old wardrobe that not only makes you looked at in a better light, but also builds your character and therefore build connections you wouldn't have thought you could otherwise. Many thanks Antonio. I definitely learned a lot from you. :)
1. 0:47 - "Only shallow people care how you look." 2. 2:34 - "I've been waiting for 30 minutes." 3. 3:26 - "Don't worry, you can trust me." 4. 4:23 - "I'm not a student." 5. 5:21 - "I'd give you a coat if I had one." 6. 6:08 - "I'm successful." 7. 6:50 - "I'm not going to rob you." 8. 7:42 - "I need to go home and put on nice clothes." 9. 8:33 - "I don't have anything to tie it down with." 10. 9:09 - "I feel strange looking this sharp."
for anyone who disagrees with him has no idea how true his words are...my friend grew up a punk with a green mow hawk, spiked pants and those black spiked jackets...he wore a suite one time and he got so much respect that now all he wears is suits...i swear to god every time we go out to hang out he's surrounded by women and old men calling him sir...im working on my wardrobe as well to get the same results...believe what u want but i seen this shit with mt own two eyes
As an old punker who then got tired of 30 years of that and West Coast casual, it's nice to be slipping into suits and jackets just because I like to, not because I have to. You're right. But even confident, polite, and respectful punks connect with people once you start speaking to 'em. Happens all the time. Face it: Cool is confidence, and a gentleman is polite regardless of how you're dressed. Banker or biker, it doesn't matter.
I wore a shirt and tie with an overcoat in the winter to every day of university and the number of times I was mistaken for the course professor was honestly hilarious.
One of my earliest books on style was 'The Power Look' by Egon von Furstenburg. I still have it. By following the suggestions contained therein, I was given preferential treatment on a flight where everyone was dressed 'casually'. Yet I was not overdressed. Shortly after, at a terminal in Florida,my friend who dressed on the cheap, although he had the means not to, was detained by Customs for no other reason than his clothing. I wasn't detained and took immense delight feigning annoyance at the delay. I have never forgotten those moments. Shallow thinking does not accept the reality in front of it.Most of our judgments are subconscious.
10 Things Sharp Dressed Men Never Say 1: Grloalpdsafajphhphphphgeee 2: Snortfsnoftajiayheeehee 3: Gobblituigoopisydioopitydoo 4: I wet myself 5: Bloopitygroopitydoopity 6: You smell like my dead cat 7: nirpirtigripritirpidoi 8: I love advertisements 9: Yabbadabbadoo, I'm a kangaroo 10: groflorpfrosgrhorghroadawaap?
ZZ Top sings a song with the lyrics: "' 'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man" So true. The sharp dressed man does get all the attention of the girls.
I'm 16 years old and I love dressing sharply. I wonder if I am too young to dress sharply. At school, I have to wear white shirt and navy pants (every student in Vietnam). Other student would like wearing oversized sweaters/shirts, jeans, running shoes, but I prefer dressing sharply such as nice shirt tucking into a nice pants and leather shoes. When I dress like that, people judge me as old, not young. Sometimes, I feel weird to be stand out as I dress sharply like that. Do I need to care other people thoughts, judgements? Am I too young to dress like that daily? Should I wear a sport jacket/suit every day?
Thanh D 16 years isn't too young.Being seen as an older person usually means they also see you as more mature so isn't that a good thing?Your 17 now I assume?Your old enough not to be asking stupid questions like that.
Totally agree man. Dressing well is not an indication of being shallow. It says you care about details, that you are professional, that you are not a slob, and that you are confident.
Im 15 years old, I used to not care about how I dress. Never once has someone questioned my age. I was on public transport the other day in a vneck over a knit Oxford with some black jeans and grayish black vans. The bus driver thought I was over 18 and called me back to verify my age. I have noticed a change not only in the way people perceive me but in the way people treat me. I agree one hundred percent with everything he has said in this video.
I just recently applied everything i learned in mens wear. This week I walked in a store and the sales person told me I dress very smart. I didnt get that kind of compliment before and that makes my confidence go up a notch thinking im doing quite well.
I feel like there is a time and place for looking sharp. I'm never going to be dressed like this sitting in a baseball game eating a hotdog. "Oops I spilt some ketchup, there goes me $400 jacket."
reid hauenstein That's what I'm saying tho. Sometimes life is going to get messy, and if you're being a preppy bitch (not calling anyone anything) trying to keep yourself clean, you're going to miss something.
you will sitting with normal seat not in luxury seat the one goes upto 500 to 2500...i would feel ockward....how about flying in regular class instead of first class...
Your vid is all true. However, it all depends on what you value. I like travelling, outdoors, and having good conversations. As well as a successful career. I couldn't care less what strangers first impressions of me are, and I don't typically judge people negatively if they are not looking sharp. I dress up for myself.
One thing I noticed when I started dressing better was that my coworkers were more accepting of my assertiveness and even went along with it, whereas when I dressed poorly they felt the need to question everything I said. I think if you're dressed poorly but assertive people think you're just being brash because it looks like you can't even get yourself together, so why should they listen to you?
Your point about the restaurant experience is ABSOLUTELY correct in my experience! In fact, whenever I would go out with my family (mom/dad, siblings, etc) I am almost always assumed to be the one picking up the tab. I always get my food first, the waitress always refills my water first, and I almost never have a problem with my meal (only had two "bad" experiences with a meal in my entire life). I wear suits or business casual wear, always smiling, and my main goal when I talk to people is to make them feel better than they did before they met me.
+Alexander Lau The confidence comes when you realise that some of the people that used to talk down to you are now talking to you. Well dressed means you mean business, this is who I am because its what I can be seen to work on.
I can confirm this as a law student it’s pretty rewarding to be dressed sharply with a tie. People immediately recognize me as someone who study law. One day I was even asked an expertise !
Great job with all the videos you have made. I'm a 21 years old and I'm a salesman for General Motors. You hit the nail on the head with every video you present. Hopefully more younger generation men will see these videos and improve their lifestyle and habits. It has already helped me. We need this kind of advice in a world we live in today. Great job!
I once had spare tickets to a couple of classical concerts, as a friend I was to take was too ill to go, so I suggested that one of my teenage workshop assistants might like to come, instead. He was interested, and enjoyed the first performance, and so came to the second one a month or so later. On the second occasion, he wore a suit, shirt and tie. Afterwards, he remarked, "People treat you differently, don't they, when you wear a suit." Absolutely true! No-one is immune from being influenced by appearances, for better or for worse.
It's funny how true this is. I'm a high school senior and I've started to "dress up" when I go to school and it's crazy how many people take notice, especially since it's a public high school. People I've never said two words to have come up to me and complimented me and asked if I was doing it to win best dressed in the year book, but I always respond "No I just like to". Your appearance really does matter.
antonio one such incedent occured with me a few years ago in an upscale watch store. i had worn a casual shirt and denims and canvas shoes. i walked into this store to check out a watch i liked. the manager there gave me a sarcastic look. few weeks later i went to a close by restaurant for dinner and took my friend to the same watch store. i was dressed in a slim grey suit with a nice tie and the manager saw us entering the store and actually opened the door for us. he never noticed me from before. dressing really makes a difference
Conspiracy theorie: While Antonio always seems to be dressed to the nines in his videos, he never wears in any pants while recording. Or do you have seen him wearing a pair? Huh? Didn't think so ... * puts on tin-foiled hat * (btw. still, great video ;D )
+Real Men Real Style I'd settle for 99% because of video conferences. There are a few interviewers who ask job seekers to stand up at the end to see if they're wearing pants.
This video makes a tonne of sense, I have realized I have completely been sending the wrong message with my outfits. I feel like I am just opening my eyes to a whole new possible world I have wanted to join. So for that I thank you Mr Antonio. I have to share this video with my friends and family
Just so you know, the correct idiom is, "based on," not "based off" or "based off of." "Based on" is actually short or slang for "based upon," as in "the base of thing X is sitting upon thing Y." Correct language is as important as sharp dressing, if not more so.
Obviously you are smart and do know language rules, grammar, etc. so you should already what he meant regardless of it being said properly or not, that isn't point; this tutorial is based on fashion for men not proper English.....you may know how to communicate eloquently but he knows all about appearances and self representation and so on,...to each his own, who cares.
Just want to add that when i stated "who cares" i wasn't trying to not validate your opinion. it's still good to share common knowledge and even educate, as long as it doesn't come off as pompous or condescending...just saying we could learn in many areas of all subjects and from anyone no matter what degree or level of education, there is a common understanding...put in simpler terms- we all can learn from each other and or we all have can share what me know, even if it's not proper, we can take it or leave it. But what you stated was educational, so it's cool 😏😉☺️
I’m 17 and I get treated with higher respect than others older than me when I wear a suit. When I go to the store they open up a line just to let me pass faster thinking I have an important meeting I have to attend to. Feels good being treated special. It’s also a real boost of confidence dressing well. Nice video btw.
I rarely comment, but felt compelled to share a reoccurring scenario at work. I'm a veteran who returned to academia later than others and your videos have helped me with my appearance and attitude as I've started working as a student staff at the veterans resource center at school. Many have quickly assumed that I am the supervisor there upon first entering the office. It is quite a compliment which I feel that you deserve all credit for. Your work has helped many veterans indirectly. Thank you, and I look forward to seeing more videos in the years to come as I pursue my goals and watch you achieve yours.
I don't tend to dress to the nine's but one morning I was in a rush to get to an interview looking quite nice in a charcoal suit. I went into McDonald's for a quick SEC biscuit, I know McDonald's woah, but I had quite a few heads turn and even the nice young lady working the front had a slip of the tongue and said, "woah." And began blushing when she realized it wasn't just in her head. Now the key detail is, normally at this specific stop you could be left waiting a handful of time just to even get an order in and then a substantial wait to get your order. Not only was I seen immediately, my food came before the other folks waiting. There could of been a large number of factors in play but that, accompanied with me absolutely nailing the interview, honestly gave me the courage to look into dressing nice more often. Hence how I found your channel. So sometimes you just need to get out there and build up your confidence.
If I go to the gym coming from home and wearing my gym clothes, I get a: Sup man. If I'm coming from the office wearing shirt and blazer, then it is a: Good evening Sir.
Good advice as usual Antonio. A friend of mine worked out of his garage as a mechanic. He did pretty well. Was able to take care of his family in relative comfort. A mechanic can get pretty dirty by the end of the day. I visited him one day., As he was finishing up. We decided to run to the grocery store to get some steaks and beer and have a Barbecue. He showered and put on some decent clothes first. Nothing too fancy. Nicer pair of jeans and a semi dress shirt. I asked him about it. He listed a lot of good reasons. The one I remember most is that the world is full of potential customers. That if you don't take pride in your appearance, people are going to wonder if you take pride in your work.
First day of school and I wear my normal of dress shirts and nice jeans, I was walking down the hallway and I couldn't count the times I heard "look a new teacher"
You are such a great teacher! I was constantly facing ridicule for dressing well and started feeling like ditching the whole thing but you gave me 10 more reasons not to!
hieuwey Yeah it can be crazy. A lot of the ridicule is from gangsters too, I'd hate to be seen as soft simply because I'm wearing a v neck sweater, I don't need that kind of attention from them. I take a couple courses at the community college so I'm around college kids more than high schoolers because I'm homeschooled. Just one more reason to step it up a bit. When I try to dress mature (personal taste) I'm often seen as a prep. But I buy certain items that can be seen as preppy because they're so darn versatile! Can't wear a t shirt to work but I can wear a polo
When I wear a sport coat and visit high end stores, I am treated as royalty. When I visit my kids school, I'm treated like politician and parents are speaking to me, shaking my hand. I'm Black. I tell people my friends this all the time. It's comforting to know that a White person is also conscious of their dress. I'm sometimes told it's a shame I have to dress well to be Black and respected. At Nieman Marcus, Nostroms, and Saks, I have been engaged in 1 hour + long conversation with the salespeople that are said to ignore me.
And dressing shadow is very important for men of any race. An Asian man like me can see the difference when I dress down (costume like) and up (interview like). There is zero shame in breaking limitations and especially important is first impressions, e.g. DRESS
I'm a 51 year old masters student! I have been mistaken for a tutor every single time I step onto campus, not only because of my age, it's also the fact I dress well!
This is real knowledge that was dropped. Every now & then we need to be reminded of the "WHY" it really pays to be a well dressed man. Thank you Antonio.
Some of these are pretty true. In a recent test one guy tried to get a free bus ride by telling the driver he lost his wallet and asking if he could ride for free. When he was dressed in a suit it was fine, but the same guy dressed like a slacker was not allowed on the bus. Sort of proves that when you dress sharp people think you are trustworthy and have somewhere important to be.
Antonio, I'm a 15 year old male and I wanted to differentiate myself from my peers. When I found your channel and started watching your videos, I then knew what I had to do. Most of my wardrobe was tee shirts, the occasional hoodie, and jeans that I wore everywhere except school. When I saw your videos on how to act and dress myself above the rest, I went out and bought some nice leather boots that work great with just about anything business casual, some polos, a new pear of clean, nice fitting jeans that compliment my style, and some new jackets. When I put them all together, man I look so much better than before. I get compliments from adults about it. I've even been mistaken for an adult multiple times by different people simply because I dress to impress. I couldn't have done it without your videos Antonio. You're a life saver 👍
Antonio, great Tips. the one thing that comes to mind whether or is right or wrong "Perception is Reality"! my son is 17 years old and he wears Hagar Cool 18 dress pants, Black rounded dress shoes and a polo with embroidered school logo every day. He changes up the color of pants. His former Principal stopped my wife and me last week and said she saw him a couple days prior. He had walked directly towards her when they made eye contact. She said he shook my hand and asked how my school year was going and inquired about the rest of the staff. She told us most kids look down when they see her and avoid contact (usually Texting). She said the kids think he is student teacher when he is only a sophomore. She told us to be proud of how we raised such a great young man. She then repeated "he is not a boy anymore he is a young man"! I have instilled this into him for years. He is not an "Straight A student" but was unanimously voted by the staff as Student Ambassador for the Career Center he attends for Multimedia Marketing. #perceptionisreality
At an all white party, where everyone in attendance wears all white clothing, I managed to stand out by wearing a white linen suit. Let me tell you women definitely appreciate and seek out the well dressed man. It communicates so much to them, you don't even have to speak. You can nod & wink, and they won't run away :D
What I DO say (I'm a high school student): "I'm not an intern." "I do not work at the UN" (I have a messenger bag with the logo on it.) "I do not work in the city" (near Washington DC) And my favorite so far: "I don't work here" (talking to new students at my school).
Dressing sharp gives us a sense of authority and get things moving for us. It´s the world we live in and it´s important to adjust to it! But in some countries a small scale of overdressing could threat a few less confident people!!!! So when travelling to other countries, remember to do your homework! Thanks Antonio for the tips!
One shouldn't judge a book until it's been read. However, the cover of the book conveys a lot of information. That cover could convey the message "Hey, you really should read this book. You'll like it." or "**** off, I don't want to be read." You are the book, your look is your cover. Neither message is wrong per say, but it is very important to understand what your cover is saying to others. Send the message you want to send.
I won a contest a few years back and I got to have lunch with Dan Patrick. They didn't give us a dress code so I wore what a traditional southern gentlemen from South Carolina would wear to a casual event. That is a navy blazer, white button down, and khaki slacks. Everyone else was wearing t shirts, jeans, and sweat shirt. While dan was greeting everyone he told everyone "hi nice to meet you" when he got to me he said "you're overdressed" I said thanks! I love being from the South! Antonio I know you would have done the same!
Antonio, would you have any advice on how to dress sharply for a college student who can not afford to purchase a suit and does not have much money in general?
Never buy anything at full peice, always look for sales or clearence. Additionally, thrift stores can have great deals. Although it's not ideal wearing someone elses old clothing, I've found Burberry sport coats for
david moeller but I never find clothes that fit me at clothing stores. Its either to small or to short. I'm a tall individual so pants are a whole other issue on their own.
people, men, women, children, feel better when they get a hair cut, a new outfit...you get this surge of confidence when you feel good about yourself/the way you dress.
having a duffel bag with backup clothes in your car can be a huge help, if you get dirty unexpectedly or just need a quick change of look from professional to casual and vice versa
Dressing sharp and ready for success is one thing. Actually being smart and having something interesting to say is a completely different thing. You nailed the first part!
I’d have to point out that this concept works outside of just suits, being well dressed and presentable generally affects how people treat and perceive you.
this theory don't hold up in practice. we live in a society, not an isolated island. everything we do and the gratification we have come from external sources whether we realize it or not. you will gain more self respect when you see other people consistently address you respectfully, but if they consistently push you over and talk over you? at least some self confidence and respect will be lost and doubts will start to seep in.
if people dont know me and i dont have to work with them, i dont give a damn what they think of me. Everyone deserves a basic leverl of respect, from the hard working janitor to the embezeling banker. What really matters is what people think once they get to know you a few minutes. Maners and qualifications matter more than "sharp". Thats for con men and sales or other superficial people. But, yes, i often judge people a bit on their appearance, an overly sharp suit gets my alarm bells ringing. "Probably doesnt have much real qualifications and self confidence, so has to be flashy". Just dress well and neat, be kind and professional, people notice that. And often the most qualified people i met wore clothing that other would not get away with "Everyday is casual friday" If you need a really good prgrammer or engineer (jobs that are based on hard facts), would you choose the guy in the tuxedo or the one in jeans and nirvana shirt ?
Hello Mr. Anthonio, i'll like to share one wonderful experience i had yesterday in a bank here in Nigeria capital (Abuja). I entered a bank (FCMB) to open a dollar account, i was wearing a corporate dry shirt with a tie, a cool corporate shoe and a nice trouser (pant), i was given a very special attention and the banker even offered to come to wherever i am to get the form and open the account for me. It doesn't happen like that here in this part of the world, but because i dressed like a successful man (even though i am not yet there), i was given a millionaire treatment. Thank Anthonio for all the videos you have shared with us to uplift our standard as real men with real style.
I love the channel I just discovered it. I agree with all the things you said. I've noticed such a big difference in how I'm perceived and treated by all walks of people in society. People seem to trust me more, when I walk into a store before I would get followed like I was going to be stealing now they pull out the red carpet for me, show me everything behind the show case and tell me to try things on and treat me like I'm rich. People with low self esteem cannot even look me in the eye and bow their head when I walk past. Strangers who need help look around and choose to ask me. Many people who don't know my past just assume I'm successful. Mentally I'm preparing for my success. People in my school mistake me for a professor and professors mistake me for an important outsider visiting the college. Police officers and security guards great me with respect and don't look my way twice. I also love the wearing accessories and the double use they can have. My life has changed.
I wear a gold nugget pinky ring with a diamond in the center as an accessory I'm curious if you think that it is too tacky? I'm curious about how men should wear jewelry if any at all. I stopped wearing earrings and gold chains, but I've been thinking about wearing a small stud again to match my tie clip and the pinky ring. One last thing. I've been thinking of using a walking stick. Would that be too much? Thanks for any feed back!
+Kwasi Williams I think the pinky ring on its own absent of the other jewelry can be striking and not tacky. In my opinion the walking stick is a bit much though.
+Kwasi Williams I'm glad that everything is working out great for you. As for jewelry, I personally just wear a wedding band as I like to keep it simple but I know a lot of people who can pull them off. This should help www.realmenrealstyle.com/ring-symbolism-infographic/ . As for the walking stick..let me think about it! :))
Yeah everyone I ask about the walking stick says it's a bit much. I found only one gentleman who said I should if I like them, but he told me I must exude extreme levels of confidence in order to get away with it. So I practice with 2 very nice fancy cane umbrellas; if there's the slightest chance of rain I pull one out. Pretending they are walking sticks I did find it slightly awkward and inconvenient to be carrying around a stick everywhere. The funny thing is my confidence did build and now there's an extra pep in my step when I walk with the cane umbrella and I noticed when I'm stationary I have a cool lean into the umbrella. The last time it rained 3 very attractive girls and one mature lady from my school all complemented me on the umbrella and how it matched my outfit so perfectly. I found it weird because it's my favorite rain outfit and I've worn it many times to school already, then I realized the only difference is my confidence level.
When I'm dressed well & somebody says the classic "you're shallow if you judge others how they look," I feel like they're just projecting & missing the point entirely. I am obese & stocky; when I'm in a suit, I'm doing it because it makes ME feel good, it actually fits me (due to proper tailoring), and is usually more comfortable than some cheap tshirt anyway. And more directly to their comment, I'm NOT judging anyone how they look, nor do I care how people see me. It's literally for comfort & makes me look slightly less fat. That's it. lol
And to answer your question: Yes it does happen constantly-and still takes me aback-how much more attention service workers give me when I'm dressed sharp. Bonus!
Heres something i say when im well dressed: "wow i put in all this effort to dress up and all i got was a bit of attention and approval from people i dont care about "
I am a female and I attended an event in the morning, then came back to the office my assistant director chatted to me and before he left, he said “by the way that’s a sharp suit” I looked at him and I said thank you i appreciate it, thank you.
when im going to buy a fragrance dressed casual nobody give attetion. When im wearing suit everybody comes to me "good evening sir". Dressing is everything.
Incredible right. I worked in a building full of lawyers and they saluted me every morning while i was wearing my suit. But one day i decided to go in bike and change my clothes at the office. I left my bike in my parking place, entered in the elevator, still with the helmet in my head, and the same lawyers that i saluted every day, in that moment not even saluted me but they shutted their chat and avoid eyes contact with me (probably thinking that i was a poor messenger or something). It was very sad to find out that in fact they never saluted me but my suit. I also had a dog who barked me when I went to the backyard without changing my suit for the t-shirt and jeans. "Yeti cant recognize you. He is not used to see decent people", I heard from the kitchen. :)
+JacksTip I want to add that you are right. When I deal with well dressed people, I am more professional and allow them to take the lead on how casual the conversation gets.
I enjoyed the video. The reason I never get caught unready is because of a saying that I live by. 'if you stay ready, you don't have to get ready. My bosses even uses this a lot and gives me credit for it. Thanks Alpha Michael
www.realmenrealstyle.com/sharp-dressed-man-talk/ - Click here to read the article about 10 Things Well-Dressed Men Would Never Say | Benefits Of Dressing Sharp
goo.gl/vYxbiJ Click Here to claim your FREE 47 page eBook “7 Deadly Style Sins”
Click here goo.gl/0rjdCb to discover how Antonio’s personal presentation courses can help you start to use clothing to make more money, attract opportunity, and improve your life.
www.realmenrealstyle.com/free-products/ - Click Here To Download ALL of my FREE Products
rmrsapp.com/ - Click Here To Download Our FREE App for iPhone and Android
facebook.com/RealMenRealStyle/ - Like Us On Facebook!
instagram.com/rmrstyle/ - Follow Us On Instagram
twitter.com/rmrstyle - Tweet Us!
www.pinterest.com/rmrstyle/ - Follow Us On Pinterest
+Real Men Real Style Thank you for saying that it's not shallow to make assumptions based on the way people look. I wouldn't treat anyone badly because of the way they were dressed, but certainly dress can shift levels of respect. Not shallow at all.
+Real Men Real Style That picture of your family in the snow is beautiful.
+Real Men Real Style Hi! All i want to say is u r right. since i started dressing well with style, but sharper than u would expect for 17 years old high schooler i got many oportunities. My life turned upside down. my closet is now filled up with shirts ties bowties blazers all i need to look good and presentable. What is also great ladies too take a notice of my change of style and more than please by it.
+Real Men Real Style I just found your channel and subscribed. I really like the video and your thoughts on mens style. Do you offer tips for men who want to dress sharp but avoid animal materials like leather, wool, and silk?
+Real Men Real Style You forgot a few. 'I have the money for my daughters braces." "I will fix that flat tire" 'What time does the auto parts store close?' 'I need some more 7018's to finish this weld'
"When you dress sharp, people treat you differently." That's real talk right there gents.
Ikr
My wife and I were getting something to eat at this trendy place and everybody was dressed alike pretty normal, well this one guy came in and he was dressed really sharpe, looked great,fit,healthy and not 1 hair out of place. My wife and I started calling him Mr perfect d-bag lol.
@@bicgohill8756 better to be overdressed than under.
@@bicgohill8756 you clearly jealous
@@bicgohill8756 needing to put others down is deeply insecure
Taxi drivers charge me more when I'm well dressed.
+X Maneuver HAHHA the feels
+X Maneuver lol! SO TRUE!
Roberto LaCraveon This just means dressing like a hobo will make me rich.
+Roberto LaCraveon I am an electrician and this is true. I was working in a mansion for a millionaire and he overpaid me by 40 bucks. If it were the average Joe, I'd tell them they paid way too much and offer their money back. This guy however was covered in money. The amount of detail in his house and the number of expensive trinkets that spanned every room was astonishing. Not to mention how well-dressed he was.
+Stock Loc So basically you've just admitted you have absolutely zero business ethics. Thanks for the warning.
Since day 1 of college I wore a shirt and a tie every single day for over 4 years. I didn't notice a difference until one day a professor called me out and used me as an example of professionalism and dedication.
Nerd
@@SP73094 hey now, don't be like that.. 🤦🏻♂️😂
Winner!
thats just sad dude.
I do the same thing in high school and my teachers call me "professor"
I have never been taught how to dress sharp, I just started to care about the way I dressed and then the more you get in to it you realise how happy you are when you can walk up straight and be 100% confident and know that you are being respected because you care about yourself!
+T0BBi94 Exactly! I'm glad to hear that.
Andreas Meier I think the way you dress is a expression of yourself, I dont dress nicely for others, I do it for myself. Just because I dress nicely does not mean Im respected less by my friends, my true friends respect me for who I am.
When you meet new people first impression is strong (whether we like it or not). If I dont shower for weeks in a row people will judge me on my smell, if I wear nice clothes and look like I take care of myself peolpe will notice and have a different approach towards me. There is a reason you dont wear socks and sandals to a job interview.
That being said I dont wear nice clothes to impress anyone or to be someone Im not. I dress nicely for myself and because it is who I am.
+Andreas Meier You wear what you are. Clothing are a representation of your personality and are the first thing people are going to notice about you. They are talking for you before you even get a chance to talk.
That's not being superficial, that's analysis, what humans excel at.
T0BBi94 I'm so glad I started caring about how I look before I got to the end of high school. I look so much better than everyone else.
T0BBi94 couldn't have said it better.
My dad taught us “If you look like somebody, others will treat you like somebody.” A lifetime of dressing well has confirmed this.
Good call
Around three months ago was my second cousins wedding. I was home alone dressing for the occasion. I'm only 19 so I don't own a car of my own, so I took the public bus. As soon as the bus driver saw me in my suit, he greeted me warmly and respectingly. Even more than usual. When I left the bus another young man wearing a suit also left the bus. We both looked at each other and nodded with glee
Its a real shame that wanting to look decent everyday is considered "out there" or overkill, im 24 and I have started to make the change, ive had a lot happen to me personally over the last 4 years, and i feel now i want to dress like a man rather than a boy. Everyone considers me as a gentleman so why not dress like one. So i am ditching the hoodies, tacky T shirts, horrible jeans and in come chinos, shirts, oxfords, knitwear, pea coats
Pea coats are awesome. Especially the full length ones, in northern climes at at least. Warmer and classier than those ribbed, overstuffed things.
Adam Purcell It is a shame, I'm only 17 and I've been dressing well for a year and a half and the amount of problems it causes with the "hard boys" is unbelievable, I suppose it's also because, like yourself, I'm considered a gentleman, and although most girls here in Spain are hard partiers and not really my ideal for a relationship it does get me a lot of attention. There's a lot of truth in your words, keep it up!
Adam Purcell same
Adam you will get much support on this change..congratulations...
Same here mate.
No more t-shirts no more teenage trendy apparel’s.
Classy-good quality-sharp-Tidy clothes with a distinct classique style is more appealing.
I'd just add this: get in shape. All the best clothing in the world won't suffice if you're not feeling *confident* about yourself - the best way to do that is to get in shape. And I certainly don't mean bodybuilder physique: sharp clothes look best when you're slim (BMI between 21-23 and body fat percentage between 10-15%).
+Ricardo Lourizela You got it!
Spot on man.
I'm not there but still have to agree.
I strongly agree. And it does not matter the price of the clothes. It can be a walmart shirt but in the hands of a good tailor, it will look good on you.
Exactly. The only interesting comment here.
Started to dress well 2 weeks ago, i was jobless nearly homeless! after dressing well using your tips, i got a full job and got my confindence back!! thanks man! you were the light in my dark life!
+patrick laursen You're doing great! Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you the best in your style journey :)
patrick laursen 8
When I dress really nice in a crowded room, I've noticed a lot of eyes are on me. I've noticed how friendly they are toward me. I especially love the eyes and smiles the women were giving me. I'm not special but I felt special haha.
I agree.
You are as special as you feel. Because how you carry yourself directly impacts how others treat you.
Dressing sharp just came naturally to me. I love the respect I get from the public and even the police. I go by the saying " To be respected, you must dress respectable ". I plan on being a fine Gentleman by 20
Take this from someone more experienced. Respect will come from how you dress. But more often than not, the dress is intimidating.
1NV4DR basically, dress how ppl will judge you cuz you care about what everyone thinks of you. Appearance is everything in America. I’ve seen a well dressed bum
Being well dressed is definitely one of the things that will get you respect, but it's a little more than that.
Love your advice. I overdressed to a party that just want everyone to look decent. Had a bunch of people compliment on the way i dressed. There were some people here and there trying to throw shade like "oh why are you dressing so nice when its just a simple party". Could of cared less. I felt like a million bucks
I definitely get more"Sir" and common courtesy when I dress well. I worked at an arena in LA for 8 years where you needed an all access pass. I would not wear the pass, but I would dress sharp, walk tall as a well trained Marine should, and I would not get stopped. My boss did not dress as sharp, and would wear the pass. We where walking together through a tunnel with security. Security stopped him and not me. My boss asked why. Security said "he looks like he works here." Semper Fi!
+Salomon P Hahaha nice one!
+Salomon P Sounds like undisciplined security to me :p
+2001Horatio You fail to understand the context of Salomon's comment by making that remark. Antonio is a former marine and his blogs first visitors were also marines who he advertised to. Plenty of them know him in real life or posted on his blog (back when it had comments). It's not 'bragging' or 'irrelevant'.
+Salomon P That's an excellent point.. if you dress and act 'like you belong'...then most people perceive that you 'do belong'. Look the part...what's that old saying.."Fit in..to get in"
+Pirwzy That is part of it in a way. I worked at an University arena. Where it is who you know, and guards are told to let people slide by because of who they are without a badge.
People associate bad habits with how you dress too.
I was coming home from work in a business casual outfit with a nice pea coat. I was standing beside a guy who seemed like he was dressed down (baggy sweat pants and a very loose hoodie). Another guy was looking for a cigarette, he asked the man next to me and he said no because he didn't smoke, he quickly glanced at me and walked to another person.
+cheesesteakphilly Interesting - that's actually a good topic for my next video.
I'm 28 and my boss is forty. one day we were working and I was dressed sharp as usual while my boss wears casual clothes with flip flops. A customer came in, looked at both of us and went up to me and asked, "excuse me, you're the manager here, right?" I told the customer, "sorry, she's the manager." I can tell it bothered her, but I felt so awesome. Appearance means a lot.
This is absolutely true. All of it. I have had people say, "Why did he get service first" It was because of the way I was dressed. Very good advice here.
Antonio, in the past 2 years I've been trying to look better, size up my wardrobe and these are pretty much SPOT ON. I've gotten away with so many things by dressing sharp. A few things such as:
1.Riding the public tram system the card checker skipped me, nodded, and said 'Don't worry, it's all right.' while having checked everyone in front of me.
2.I walked in an electronics shop with my clothes I used to wear 3 years ago and I wanted to ask one of the personnel a question and he answered: 'iuno. don't ask me.'
Walked in same day again with my go-to outfit and I had 2 people walk to me asking me if I needed help.
3. When dressed well, I've always had employees at a supermarket race to open a checkout register even when there's another isle open and I'm the only one remaining. (yes granted they are most likely trained to do this, but when dressed entirely down, I end up waiting at the last isle that's still open)
4. My girlfriend, the first thing she tells everybody about when we first met was 'I don't know, he was just dressed REALLY nice.'
To anyone who is looking to dress well and up their wardrobe, remember that yes, it DOES take time to feel right and before you know it you have ditched your old wardrobe that not only makes you looked at in a better light, but also builds your character and therefore build connections you wouldn't have thought you could otherwise.
Many thanks Antonio. I definitely learned a lot from you. :)
+Bjorn Caffe love your stories - glad my videos helped :)
1. 0:47 - "Only shallow people care how you look."
2. 2:34 - "I've been waiting for 30 minutes."
3. 3:26 - "Don't worry, you can trust me."
4. 4:23 - "I'm not a student."
5. 5:21 - "I'd give you a coat if I had one."
6. 6:08 - "I'm successful."
7. 6:50 - "I'm not going to rob you."
8. 7:42 - "I need to go home and put on nice clothes."
9. 8:33 - "I don't have anything to tie it down with."
10. 9:09 - "I feel strange looking this sharp."
+Simon Reite You rock - I need you on all my videos!!!!!!
+Simon Reite give this man a cookie
for anyone who disagrees with him has no idea how true his words are...my friend grew up a punk with a green mow hawk, spiked pants and those black spiked jackets...he wore a suite one time and he got so much respect that now all he wears is suits...i swear to god every time we go out to hang out he's surrounded by women and old men calling him sir...im working on my wardrobe as well to get the same results...believe what u want but i seen this shit with mt own two eyes
*****
keep it up man...i wish u the best of luck...i also keep a copy of GQ magazine around too for the newest styles
So the opinions of others are all it takes to drastically change him
The *respect* of others can do wonders for a person, yes.
As an old punker who then got tired of 30 years of that and West Coast casual, it's nice to be slipping into suits and jackets just because I like to, not because I have to. You're right. But even confident, polite, and respectful punks connect with people once you start speaking to 'em. Happens all the time. Face it: Cool is confidence, and a gentleman is polite regardless of how you're dressed. Banker or biker, it doesn't matter.
I wore a shirt and tie with an overcoat in the winter to every day of university and the number of times I was mistaken for the course professor was honestly hilarious.
There are professors what wear jeans and T-shirts. 😟
I feel like Antonio would be a really cool father.
haha! I thought the same thing
+Jose Interiano :)
I feel like he forces his opinions on his family and trys to be a 'leader'
Ceiling Cat lol they wont be losers like you
Ceiling Cat But you are a loser.. look how much effort you put into TH-cam fights
Every girls crazy about a sharp dressed man!!
+Robert Tompkins Exactly!
“ I don’t find that” said the twelve year old
*guitar riffs intensifies*
"Use style as a weapon to get what you want in life" that was powerful!
One of my earliest books on style was 'The Power Look' by Egon von Furstenburg. I still have it. By following the suggestions contained therein, I was given preferential treatment on a flight where everyone was dressed 'casually'. Yet I was not overdressed. Shortly after, at a terminal in Florida,my friend who dressed on the cheap, although he had the means not to, was detained by Customs for no other reason than his clothing. I wasn't detained and took immense delight feigning annoyance at the delay. I have never forgotten those moments. Shallow thinking does not accept the reality in front of it.Most of our judgments are subconscious.
10 Things Sharp Dressed Men Never Say
1: Grloalpdsafajphhphphphgeee
2: Snortfsnoftajiayheeehee
3: Gobblituigoopisydioopitydoo
4: I wet myself
5: Bloopitygroopitydoopity
6: You smell like my dead cat
7: nirpirtigripritirpidoi
8: I love advertisements
9: Yabbadabbadoo, I'm a kangaroo
10: groflorpfrosgrhorghroadawaap?
+NotAnActualTH-camChannel This is genius XD
ZZ Top sings a song with the lyrics:
"' 'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man"
So true. The sharp dressed man does get all the attention of the girls.
I'm 16 years old and I love dressing sharply. I wonder if I am too young to dress sharply. At school, I have to wear white shirt and navy pants (every student in Vietnam). Other student would like wearing oversized sweaters/shirts, jeans, running shoes, but I prefer dressing sharply such as nice shirt tucking into a nice pants and leather shoes. When I dress like that, people judge me as old, not young. Sometimes, I feel weird to be stand out as I dress sharply like that. Do I need to care other people thoughts, judgements? Am I too young to dress like that daily? Should I wear a sport jacket/suit every day?
Thanh D 16 years isn't too young.Being seen as an older person usually means they also see you as more mature so isn't that a good thing?Your 17 now I assume?Your old enough not to be asking stupid questions like that.
Be you and keep it up!
Just be yourself, if you feel confident while dressed sharply it's how you should dress.
I am 17 and this really works out too. I love dressing sharp.
Totally agree man. Dressing well is not an indication of being shallow. It says you care about details, that you are professional, that you are not a slob, and that you are confident.
People these days don't realize what a professional is.
Gus Stone agree 1000% appearance is very important and people need to start to be more aware of it.
Im 15 years old, I used to not care about how I dress. Never once has someone questioned my age. I was on public transport the other day in a vneck over a knit Oxford with some black jeans and grayish black vans. The bus driver thought I was over 18 and called me back to verify my age. I have noticed a change not only in the way people perceive me but in the way people treat me. I agree one hundred percent with everything he has said in this video.
I just recently applied everything i learned in mens wear. This week I walked in a store and the sales person told me I dress very smart. I didnt get that kind of compliment before and that makes my confidence go up a notch thinking im doing quite well.
I feel like there is a time and place for looking sharp. I'm never going to be dressed like this sitting in a baseball game eating a hotdog.
"Oops I spilt some ketchup, there goes me $400 jacket."
You can look sharp with out wearing suits/jackets, and if you are wearing that suit then you would make decisions to keep it clean as much as possible
reid hauenstein That's what I'm saying tho. Sometimes life is going to get messy, and if you're being a preppy bitch (not calling anyone anything) trying to keep yourself clean, you're going to miss something.
you will sitting with normal seat not in luxury seat the one goes upto 500 to 2500...i would feel ockward....how about flying in regular class instead of first class...
Don't Even Bother "preppy bitch" what? How does being preppy make you a bitch? It means you're well dressed and well mannered not a bitch.
***** When did I say being preppy makes you a bitch? They can go hand in hand, but they're distinct things.
Your vid is all true. However, it all depends on what you value. I like travelling, outdoors, and having good conversations. As well as a successful career. I couldn't care less what strangers first impressions of me are, and I don't typically judge people negatively if they are not looking sharp. I dress up for myself.
+Stalemate NZ Excellent comment. I think we are lucky to live in a time when you only have to dress up if you want to.
+The Shadow Broker I have to disagree. As per my previous comment I think it makes getting through life harder.
One thing I noticed when I started dressing better was that my coworkers were more accepting of my assertiveness and even went along with it, whereas when I dressed poorly they felt the need to question everything I said. I think if you're dressed poorly but assertive people think you're just being brash because it looks like you can't even get yourself together, so why should they listen to you?
Your point about the restaurant experience is ABSOLUTELY correct in my experience! In fact, whenever I would go out with my family (mom/dad, siblings, etc) I am almost always assumed to be the one picking up the tab. I always get my food first, the waitress always refills my water first, and I almost never have a problem with my meal (only had two "bad" experiences with a meal in my entire life). I wear suits or business casual wear, always smiling, and my main goal when I talk to people is to make them feel better than they did before they met me.
I just realised, this guy has miniature hands
neat
+funnygagslamo23 Didn't notice it.
+funnygagslamo23 yea you can't unsee it, especially when he overuses hand gestures haha
+Real Men Real Style iddy biddy baby hands
AzureSymbiote not when his hands are small in every video....?
In my culture (Vietnam), those with baby hands are considered the privileged because they don't have to use their hands to do manual labours.
Gave me a little bit more courage to dress a tad bit sharper. Thanks!
+Alexander Lau The confidence comes when you realise that some of the people that used to talk down to you are now talking to you. Well dressed means you mean business, this is who I am because its what I can be seen to work on.
As a student myself, I can assure you that there's no better feeling than being the only person in the room wearing a vest and tie.
I can confirm this as a law student it’s pretty rewarding to be dressed sharply with a tie. People immediately recognize me as someone who study law. One day I was even asked an expertise !
Great job with all the videos you have made. I'm a 21 years old and I'm a salesman for General Motors. You hit the nail on the head with every video you present. Hopefully more younger generation men will see these videos and improve their lifestyle and habits. It has already helped me. We need this kind of advice in a world we live in today. Great job!
I once had spare tickets to a couple of classical concerts, as a friend I was to take was too ill to go, so I suggested that one of my teenage workshop assistants might like to come, instead. He was interested, and enjoyed the first performance, and so came to the second one a month or so later. On the second occasion, he wore a suit, shirt and tie. Afterwards, he remarked, "People treat you differently, don't they, when you wear a suit."
Absolutely true! No-one is immune from being influenced by appearances, for better or for worse.
It's funny how true this is. I'm a high school senior and I've started to "dress up" when I go to school and it's crazy how many people take notice, especially since it's a public high school. People I've never said two words to have come up to me and complimented me and asked if I was doing it to win best dressed in the year book, but I always respond "No I just like to". Your appearance really does matter.
Kid you not something similar just happened to me
#11 "Brother, can you spare a dime?!"
antonio one such incedent occured with me a few years ago in an upscale watch store. i had worn a casual shirt and denims and canvas shoes. i walked into this store to check out a watch i liked. the manager there gave me a sarcastic look. few weeks later i went to a close by restaurant for dinner and took my friend to the same watch store. i was dressed in a slim grey suit with a nice tie and the manager saw us entering the store and actually opened the door for us. he never noticed me from before. dressing really makes a difference
No question about it. When you are dressed well, especially wearing a suit, you get immediate service.
Conspiracy theorie: While Antonio always seems to be dressed to the nines in his videos, he never wears in any pants while recording.
Or do you have seen him wearing a pair? Huh? Didn't think so ... * puts on tin-foiled hat *
(btw. still, great video ;D )
+overTIMe I never wear pants - have to maintain maximum fertility!
Real Men Real Style I knew it :)
+Real Men Real Style I'd settle for 99% because of video conferences. There are a few interviewers who ask job seekers to stand up at the end to see if they're wearing pants.
This video makes a tonne of sense, I have realized I have completely been sending the wrong message with my outfits. I feel like I am just opening my eyes to a whole new possible world I have wanted to join. So for that I thank you Mr Antonio. I have to share this video with my friends and family
Lions don't care about the opinions of the sheep.
+adka datka How did you get here?
Real Men Real Style I watched alpha m's video and saw this on the recommended list so I decided to check it out and I was disappointed.
+adka datka Why?
Real Men Real Style Because you care too much about the opinions of others.
+adka datka Simba cared about the Zebras, its all about the ciiircle of liife
honestly I just look at how he moves his hands the whole time
Just so you know, the correct idiom is, "based on," not "based off" or "based off of." "Based on" is actually short or slang for "based upon," as in "the base of thing X is sitting upon thing Y." Correct language is as important as sharp dressing, if not more so.
+Grant Robertson Good day to you good sir!.
Its just words, communication is all about delivering a message, not a competition to see who learned the rules the best
True AP, but if you mess your sentences too much, you might be misunderstood or not understood at all.
Obviously you are smart and do know language rules, grammar, etc. so you should already what he meant regardless of it being said properly or not, that isn't point; this tutorial is based on fashion for men not proper English.....you may know how to communicate eloquently but he knows all about appearances and self representation and so on,...to each his own, who cares.
Just want to add that when i stated "who cares" i wasn't trying to not validate your opinion. it's still good to share common knowledge and even educate, as long as it doesn't come off as pompous or condescending...just saying we could learn in many areas of all subjects and from anyone no matter what degree or level of education, there is a common understanding...put in simpler terms- we all can learn from each other and or we all have can share what me know, even if it's not proper, we can take it or leave it. But what you stated was educational, so it's cool 😏😉☺️
I like a lot that blazer. I'd like to have one for myself. Excellent video BTW
I like it too. Where do you think he got it?
+Manuel Alejandro It would be even better if the sleeves fit him properly.
I’m 17 and I get treated with higher respect than others older than me when I wear a suit. When I go to the store they open up a line just to let me pass faster thinking I have an important meeting I have to attend to. Feels good being treated special. It’s also a real boost of confidence dressing well. Nice video btw.
I rarely comment, but felt compelled to share a reoccurring scenario at work. I'm a veteran who returned to academia later than others and your videos have helped me with my appearance and attitude as I've started working as a student staff at the veterans resource center at school. Many have quickly assumed that I am the supervisor there upon first entering the office. It is quite a compliment which I feel that you deserve all credit for. Your work has helped many veterans indirectly. Thank you, and I look forward to seeing more videos in the years to come as I pursue my goals and watch you achieve yours.
When I’m dressed sharp the most thing I find myself saying is “Thank you “ because of the compliments I get
I really like this look that he has here.
+Robert Coylestein I shot you not I was thinking the same thing after the game of thrones things.
+Robert Coylestein 😂😂😂
I don't tend to dress to the nine's but one morning I was in a rush to get to an interview looking quite nice in a charcoal suit. I went into McDonald's for a quick SEC biscuit, I know McDonald's woah, but I had quite a few heads turn and even the nice young lady working the front had a slip of the tongue and said, "woah." And began blushing when she realized it wasn't just in her head. Now the key detail is, normally at this specific stop you could be left waiting a handful of time just to even get an order in and then a substantial wait to get your order. Not only was I seen immediately, my food came before the other folks waiting. There could of been a large number of factors in play but that, accompanied with me absolutely nailing the interview, honestly gave me the courage to look into dressing nice more often. Hence how I found your channel. So sometimes you just need to get out there and build up your confidence.
If I go to the gym coming from home and wearing my gym clothes, I get a: Sup man. If I'm coming from the office wearing shirt and blazer, then it is a: Good evening Sir.
I don't trust a bankster, even if he has a decent suit.
+TH-cam University Where do you keep your money?
I don't have any...
Too many Illuminarty mate thats why!! xD
A person generating money out of thin air, to create more debt, enslaving people to pay this back, yes, that's a bankster.
+TH-cam University That's show 'm!
Don Draper on the Iron Throne got me good.
Good advice as usual Antonio.
A friend of mine worked out of his garage as a mechanic. He did pretty well. Was able to take care of his family in relative comfort. A mechanic can get pretty dirty by the end of the day. I visited him one day., As he was finishing up. We decided to run to the grocery store to get some steaks and beer and have a Barbecue.
He showered and put on some decent clothes first. Nothing too fancy. Nicer pair of jeans and a semi dress shirt. I asked him about it. He listed a lot of good reasons. The one I remember most is that the world is full of potential customers. That if you don't take pride in your appearance, people are going to wonder if you take pride in your work.
First day of school and I wear my normal of dress shirts and nice jeans, I was walking down the hallway and I couldn't count the times I heard "look a new teacher"
You are such a great teacher! I was constantly facing ridicule for dressing well and started feeling like ditching the whole thing but you gave me 10 more reasons not to!
+Malaquias Alfaro Glad this video helped :)
+Malaquias Alfaro what is your age? if you are still in High school or younger, a suit is probably a little much :)
+hieuwey 17. I'm not wearing dress trousers but living in California where everything is laid back can be tough when you want to dress well
Central Valley. Merced county
hieuwey Yeah it can be crazy. A lot of the ridicule is from gangsters too, I'd hate to be seen as soft simply because I'm wearing a v neck sweater, I don't need that kind of attention from them.
I take a couple courses at the community college so I'm around college kids more than high schoolers because I'm homeschooled. Just one more reason to step it up a bit. When I try to dress mature (personal taste) I'm often seen as a prep. But I buy certain items that can be seen as preppy because they're so darn versatile!
Can't wear a t shirt to work but I can wear a polo
When I wear a sport coat and visit high end stores, I am treated as royalty. When I visit my kids school, I'm treated like politician and parents are speaking to me, shaking my hand. I'm Black. I tell people my friends this all the time. It's comforting to know that a White person is also conscious of their dress. I'm sometimes told it's a shame I have to dress well to be Black and respected. At Nieman Marcus, Nostroms, and Saks, I have been engaged in 1 hour + long conversation with the salespeople that are said to ignore me.
Love this comment. Cheers sir
And dressing shadow is very important for men of any race. An Asian man like me can see the difference when I dress down (costume like) and up (interview like). There is zero shame in breaking limitations and especially important is first impressions, e.g. DRESS
I'm a 51 year old masters student! I have been mistaken for a tutor every single time I step onto campus, not only because of my age, it's also the fact I dress well!
This is real knowledge that was dropped. Every now & then we need to be reminded of the "WHY" it really pays to be a well dressed man. Thank you Antonio.
Some of these are pretty true. In a recent test one guy tried to get a free bus ride by telling the driver he lost his wallet and asking if he could ride for free.
When he was dressed in a suit it was fine, but the same guy dressed like a slacker was not allowed on the bus. Sort of proves that when you dress sharp people think you are trustworthy and have somewhere important to be.
A gentle way of presenting hard truths.
Antonio, I'm a 15 year old male and I wanted to differentiate myself from my peers. When I found your channel and started watching your videos, I then knew what I had to do. Most of my wardrobe was tee shirts, the occasional hoodie, and jeans that I wore everywhere except school. When I saw your videos on how to act and dress myself above the rest, I went out and bought some nice leather boots that work great with just about anything business casual, some polos, a new pear of clean, nice fitting jeans that compliment my style, and some new jackets. When I put them all together, man I look so much better than before. I get compliments from adults about it. I've even been mistaken for an adult multiple times by different people simply because I dress to impress. I couldn't have done it without your videos Antonio. You're a life saver 👍
Antonio, great Tips. the one thing that comes to mind whether or is right or wrong "Perception is Reality"! my son is 17 years old and he wears Hagar Cool 18 dress pants, Black rounded dress shoes and a polo with embroidered school logo every day. He changes up the color of pants. His former Principal stopped my wife and me last week and said she saw him a couple days prior. He had walked directly towards her when they made eye contact. She said he shook my hand and asked how my school year was going and inquired about the rest of the staff. She told us most kids look down when they see her and avoid contact (usually Texting). She said the kids think he is student teacher when he is only a sophomore. She told us to be proud of how we raised such a great young man. She then repeated "he is not a boy anymore he is a young man"! I have instilled this into him for years. He is not an "Straight A student" but was unanimously voted by the staff as Student Ambassador for the Career Center he attends for Multimedia Marketing. #perceptionisreality
my question is why haven't you hit 1 million subs yet?
Because most people on TH-cam do not care about class.
+ABDULLAH UMAR sad but very true. It can't compete with the popularity of street wear and yeezys
BoLo Melee sad but true. Wow sounds so much like matllic. Shit I spelled the band name wrong lol 😂
But Harvey tells Mike to trust him... Have I been living a lie? 😱😕🙁😢😭😭😣😭😭
Harvey!
At an all white party, where everyone in attendance wears all white clothing, I managed to stand out by wearing a white linen suit. Let me tell you women definitely appreciate and seek out the well dressed man. It communicates so much to them, you don't even have to speak. You can nod & wink, and they won't run away :D
What I DO say (I'm a high school student):
"I'm not an intern."
"I do not work at the UN" (I have a messenger bag with the logo on it.)
"I do not work in the city" (near Washington DC)
And my favorite so far:
"I don't work here" (talking to new students at my school).
Dressing sharp gives us a sense of authority and get things moving for us. It´s the world we live in and it´s important to adjust to it! But in some countries a small scale of overdressing could threat a few less confident people!!!! So when travelling to other countries, remember to do your homework! Thanks Antonio for the tips!
One shouldn't judge a book until it's been read. However, the cover of the book conveys a lot of information. That cover could convey the message "Hey, you really should read this book. You'll like it." or "**** off, I don't want to be read." You are the book, your look is your cover. Neither message is wrong per say, but it is very important to understand what your cover is saying to others. Send the message you want to send.
I won a contest a few years back and I got to have lunch with Dan Patrick. They didn't give us a dress code so I wore what a traditional southern gentlemen from South Carolina would wear to a casual event. That is a navy blazer, white button down, and khaki slacks. Everyone else was wearing t shirts, jeans, and sweat shirt. While dan was greeting everyone he told everyone "hi nice to meet you" when he got to me he said "you're overdressed" I said thanks! I love being from the South! Antonio I know you would have done the same!
Antonio, would you have any advice on how to dress sharply for a college student who can not afford to purchase a suit and does not have much money in general?
Never buy anything at full peice, always look for sales or clearence. Additionally, thrift stores can have great deals. Although it's not ideal wearing someone elses old clothing, I've found Burberry sport coats for
+david moeller *price
david moeller but I never find clothes that fit me at clothing stores. Its either to small or to short. I'm a tall individual so pants are a whole other issue on their own.
+Travis France Antonio has a lot of videos for college students, how to dress and shop on a budget, just check out the other videos on his channel.
+whisper012 oh ok. I'm rather new to the channel.
It's really awesome to have you as a father.
Seriously.... out of all your videos, you look by far the best in this one. That's a killer outfit.
people, men, women, children, feel better when they get a hair cut, a new outfit...you get this surge of confidence when you feel good about yourself/the way you dress.
Antonio you have great energy and I would love to see your channel grow to the point of having millions of subscribers ;)
Welcome to the materialistic world. Alas, this is the truth. I appreciate the videos and straightforwardness.
having a duffel bag with backup clothes in your car can be a huge help, if you get dirty unexpectedly or just need a quick change of look from professional to casual and vice versa
Dressing sharp and ready for success is one thing. Actually being smart and having something interesting to say is a completely different thing. You nailed the first part!
+cheetor18 Thanks!
+Real Men Real Style You're welcome! :)
I’d have to point out that this concept works outside of just suits, being well dressed and presentable generally affects how people treat and perceive you.
That's an interesting video. But are you saying that self respect is attained from the judgment of others? This is not my idea of self respect..
this theory don't hold up in practice. we live in a society, not an isolated island. everything we do and the gratification we have come from external sources whether we realize it or not. you will gain more self respect when you see other people consistently address you respectfully, but if they consistently push you over and talk over you? at least some self confidence and respect will be lost and doubts will start to seep in.
+80386 - Exactly, it's a feedback system.
if people dont know me and i dont have to work with them, i dont give a damn what they think of me. Everyone deserves a basic leverl of respect, from the hard working janitor to the embezeling banker. What really matters is what people think once they get to know you a few minutes. Maners and qualifications matter more than "sharp". Thats for con men and sales or other superficial people.
But, yes, i often judge people a bit on their appearance, an overly sharp suit gets my alarm bells ringing. "Probably doesnt have much real qualifications and self confidence, so has to be flashy". Just dress well and neat, be kind and professional, people notice that.
And often the most qualified people i met wore clothing that other would not get away with "Everyday is casual friday"
If you need a really good prgrammer or engineer (jobs that are based on hard facts), would you choose the guy in the tuxedo or the one in jeans and nirvana shirt ?
Here it is, the eternal battle between those that accept the world for how it is, and those that believe how the world should be
I do agree that caring how you look doesn't make you shallow, but I also think caring how others look does make you superficial.
Hello Mr. Anthonio, i'll like to share one wonderful experience i had yesterday in a bank here in Nigeria capital (Abuja). I entered a bank (FCMB) to open a dollar account, i was wearing a corporate dry shirt with a tie, a cool corporate shoe and a nice trouser (pant), i was given a very special attention and the banker even offered to come to wherever i am to get the form and open the account for me. It doesn't happen like that here in this part of the world, but because i dressed like a successful man (even though i am not yet there), i was given a millionaire treatment. Thank Anthonio for all the videos you have shared with us to uplift our standard as real men with real style.
Great video but why so many thumbs down? Students watching?
I love the channel I just discovered it. I agree with all the things you said. I've noticed such a big difference in how I'm perceived and treated by all walks of people in society.
People seem to trust me more, when I walk into a store before I would get followed like I was going to be stealing now they pull out the red carpet for me, show me everything behind the show case and tell me to try things on and treat me like I'm rich.
People with low self esteem cannot even look me in the eye and bow their head when I walk past. Strangers who need help look around and choose to ask me. Many people who don't know my past just assume I'm successful. Mentally I'm preparing for my success.
People in my school mistake me for a professor and professors mistake me for an important outsider visiting the college.
Police officers and security guards great me with respect and don't look my way twice.
I also love the wearing accessories and the double use they can have. My life has changed.
I wear a gold nugget pinky ring with a diamond in the center as an accessory I'm curious if you think that it is too tacky? I'm curious about how men should wear jewelry if any at all. I stopped wearing earrings and gold chains, but I've been thinking about wearing a small stud again to match my tie clip and the pinky ring.
One last thing. I've been thinking of using a walking stick. Would that be too much?
Thanks for any feed back!
+Kwasi Williams I think the pinky ring on its own absent of the other jewelry can be striking and not tacky. In my opinion the walking stick is a bit much though.
+Kwasi Williams I'm glad that everything is working out great for you. As for jewelry, I personally just wear a wedding band as I like to keep it simple but I know a lot of people who can pull them off. This should help www.realmenrealstyle.com/ring-symbolism-infographic/ . As for the walking stick..let me think about it! :))
Yeah everyone I ask about the walking stick says it's a bit much. I found only one gentleman who said I should if I like them, but he told me I must exude extreme levels of confidence in order to get away with it.
So I practice with 2 very nice fancy cane umbrellas; if there's the slightest chance of rain I pull one out. Pretending they are walking sticks I did find it slightly awkward and inconvenient to be carrying around a stick everywhere. The funny thing is my confidence did build and now there's an extra pep in my step when I walk with the cane umbrella and I noticed when I'm stationary I have a cool lean into the umbrella.
The last time it rained 3 very attractive girls and one mature lady from my school all complemented me on the umbrella and how it matched my outfit so perfectly. I found it weird because it's my favorite rain outfit and I've worn it many times to school already, then I realized the only difference is my confidence level.
Kwasi Williams At the end of the day the person that knows what can work best for you is you!
Hes not being arrogant hes just telling it how it is
"When you look good you feel good"
When I'm dressed well & somebody says the classic "you're shallow if you judge others how they look," I feel like they're just projecting & missing the point entirely. I am obese & stocky; when I'm in a suit, I'm doing it because it makes ME feel good, it actually fits me (due to proper tailoring), and is usually more comfortable than some cheap tshirt anyway. And more directly to their comment, I'm NOT judging anyone how they look, nor do I care how people see me. It's literally for comfort & makes me look slightly less fat. That's it. lol
And to answer your question: Yes it does happen constantly-and still takes me aback-how much more attention service workers give me when I'm dressed sharp. Bonus!
+TRUESEPH it's funny, that they assume, that you judge others based on their appearance, based on your appearance :'D
+HiFisch94
I'm stealing that if you don't mind.
+Quincy Ryder I don't mind
Heres something i say when im well dressed: "wow i put in all this effort to dress up and all i got was a bit of attention and approval from people i dont care about "
I'm able to feel good about myself through internal processes
It opens the door, it's up to you to walk thru it.
I am a female and I attended an event in the morning, then came back to the office my assistant director chatted to me and before he left, he said “by the way that’s a sharp suit” I looked at him and I said thank you i appreciate it, thank you.
when im going to buy a fragrance dressed casual nobody give attetion. When im wearing suit everybody comes to me "good evening sir". Dressing is everything.
+Dim Kopte -- I distrust any man who wears a fragrance.
Incredible right. I worked in a building full of lawyers and they saluted me every morning while i was wearing my suit. But one day i decided to go in bike and change my clothes at the office. I left my bike in my parking place, entered in the elevator, still with the helmet in my head, and the same lawyers that i saluted every day, in that moment not even saluted me but they shutted their chat and avoid eyes contact with me (probably thinking that i was a poor messenger or something). It was very sad to find out that in fact they never saluted me but my suit.
I also had a dog who barked me when I went to the backyard without changing my suit for the t-shirt and jeans. "Yeti cant recognize you. He is not used to see decent people", I heard from the kitchen. :)
great !!!
You're a good man. Thanks for sharing this with the younger generation.
+JacksTip I want to add that you are right. When I deal with well dressed people, I am more professional and allow them to take the lead on how casual the conversation gets.
I enjoyed the video. The reason I never get caught unready is because of a saying that I live by. 'if you stay ready, you don't have to get ready. My bosses even uses this a lot and gives me credit for it. Thanks Alpha Michael
Antonio your videos are amazing, I have been watching atleast one of your videos everyday for the last 2 months
you look like jango fett from star wars
Bae it can't be un seen!!!!
Temeura Morrison? That guy’s like, aboriginal.