Story 3: I’ll never understand why people say dads “babysit” their own kids. They are your kids you are being a parent and doing your job not a favour to the other parent.
A little late to the game here, but with the Stuarta story, why can't they consider honoring the mom instead of the dad? Then dad can have his little Stuart if they have a boy later.
You can’t have your wedding at a site where the wife is not invited. Where do you get off thinking you can do that? I hope they take the whole thing away from you.
The mom doesn’t have to forgive or try to mend what she didn’t break. No one ever has to forgive. That is a lie that people push to make victims silent and not push back.
The wedding at the ranch story. As someone who lives in Kansas, it’s likely that the Wife is some flavor of Mennonite, that would explain the style of dress and “dislike” of modern things. We have quite a large Mennonite population, more so in the rural areas. So it’s not unlikely. I could be wrong of course but my grandparents are Mennonites and live in a small Mennonite town
Why does Stuart’s daughter need to honor him? Tf!? 🙄 how about naming baby after mama if he wants someone to be honored 🤷🏽♀️ she is the one birthing her so at least she’d deserve it lol
She didn’t even get to shower, so mil was not helping, even asking to stay with parents of two weeks old when you have your own home. And “babysit”?!?!?! It’s parenting. He abandoned her to take care of his mother and two week old baby and toddler and left in defense of his mom without even letting her shower. My mil is a nightmare and i have stories but my husband did as much as he could to help me and be a father.
Last story- no, even as a bigger girl I’ve never hear that. She took food off of his plate all the time. So she has to let him do the same. Fair is fair
I can understand Julie being upset that the only father she's ever known left her. That had to be heartbreaking for her. BUT Sarah also could have kept her legs closed and like, not go hoeing around. It's her own fault and she needs to accept responsibility for those actions.
S1: My dad has two siblings named Claude and Claudia. Stuart could totally still be an option if they did what the dad wants to do right now, unfortunately. OP needs to put some kind of protection in place to make sure hubby can't change the name if she's unconscious at any point after the delivery. Story 9: I'm sorry, what!?!? Julie had the audacity to sabotage OP's life because she bought her mom's line of BS about it being OP's fault, then expected her to give her $$ from the inheritance?? YOU DON'T GET TO TRY TO RUIN SOMEONE'S LIFE AND THEN DEMAND $$ FROM THEM! Regardless of how old she was when the divorce happened, she was old enough to know that her sabotage was not okay. She deserves nothing. Nothing at all.
The pregnant wife doesn’t need to walk on eggshells and make the husband think to name their potential daughter something other than Stuarta is his idea. For one, it seems like a weird way of branding his daughter. No matter if she gets married and changes her last name everyone will know by her first name she came from his ranch. It’s not about honoring him. Personally, I name anything that comes out of my body. I told my husband that when we were having kids 30 years ago. I named the first one after him because he was a third and it would be cool to have a fourth. I like themes so each boy’s first name is biblical. Mom pointed out to me years later after the last one was born that their initials are P, B, and J 😂🤣😂🤣
@@happybunnyntx That’s why mom brought up the subject. They would watch P, B, & J Otter at her house. My dad tried to talk me out of naming the youngest the name I had chosen. I told him I had a theme and it was biblical. He asked (sarcastically yelled), “Why didn’t you name them Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego? That’s biblical!” I sarcastically yelled back, “Because I didn’t know I was going to have three boys! If I had known I probably would have!” 🤣😂🤣
OP of Story 2 had her first baby when she was 19 and her husband was 40. He groomed her. OP now needs to be an adult and learn to recognize that fact. If not for herself, at least for her kids. No one should be raising kids with their groomer.
Despite my extreme best efforts over the preceding months and on the day of, I was absolutely NOT the most beautiful woman at my wedding. Genetics, a bad stylist fail, and some beloved guests literally being professional New York actor/dancers all meant that I objectively had no business feeling like the most beautiful woman there. Everyone showered me and my groom with love, but bottom line I was still an ugly girl in a fantastic dress and fun makeup. God bless my husband for seeing other virtues in me. “Facts is facts.” Can’t let that stop me from living life - including getting married.
I doubt that's true, every person is beautiful, even though we're usually our own worst critics! But I've never understood people who get all hung up on that anyway. Weddings aren't about how you look or all the glitz, they're about the person you choose to spend your life with and celebrating that relationship. I worry that people who get this obsessive about whether all attention is 100% on them the whole day and have hissy fits about other women existing at their wedding will *not* have a successful marriage.
"The asshole doesn't need a cavity search to know whats inside." Huh, huuuuhhh, whadda ya think? 21:36 🤪 I just realised that my suggestion doesn't really fit with the apple falling from tree analogy. So how about (and this is poorly worded but you get the idea) 'the asshole can taint and leave you with pink eye" - whatever it touches, it can pass onto. Okay I'll stop. You guys are great, thank you for everything you guys do.
Stuartanna or Sterling. I put the foot down on our first son. He wanted Buck Conan. I won with Benjamin with my husband's first name as his middle name. My sister has our uncle's first name as her middle name.
The dress: when I found out my friend’s husband found me “sexy,” I made sure not to dress sexily around him out of love for my friend. OP wore the smallest piece of clingy fabric acceptable for a wedding. Yes she looks lovely, but knowing the bride is insecure, she was rubbing bride’s face in it. Don’t start shit with Dan and his new bride. Let them work it out without throwing fire on it.
Story 1: why not name the girl after mom or a grandma? If they have a boy down the line they won't be able to use Stuart if they already have a Stuarta as Dusty & some others have said.
That dress is definitely orangy bronze not even gold really. Plus I've never heard the "no gold at a wedding rule" and I've been to a lot of weddings. It's also tasteful and really does fit the theme well. That bride is absolutely delusional. I hope that groom gets out and the bride gets therapy.
49:47 I wouldn’t call the crazy wife narcissistic, she is other things than narcissistic, isn’t one of them. She is a crazy gaslighter. She’s very insecure and she needs to work on that. Also, he used to divorce him or annulment not because of the best for an issue. but for him and his mental health, her insecure ass will continue driving people away till he has nobody, because she’s unhappy with herself. And by the way, I love the way OP describe his wife. She is a definite of a girl boss! ❤ she called her a brunette bombshell with the full figure, meaning she’s thicc but short but beautiful. She is still the better person after being treated like shit.😢
The one with the girl inheriting her former uncle. Her aunt tried to hack into her email to change her admission packet from college sounds straight out of a hilary duff movie. They were so petty they had do something straight out of a teen movie. 😮😅 guess it takes all kinds. But she inherited that money she can do what she wants with it including not sharing. Legally she doesn't have to. Nta.
That scene with the Suna council was strait out of another story I read/listened to about Naruto and Temari in a political marriage. I'm guessing it's from the same author who just basically copy pasted the scene. Tough luck getting stuck marrying a crazy man.
Food, I don't like sharing food , I hate it, if U want something, order it, I hate doing a Chinese at some ones house where U have to share, I'd rather have my own dish, I don't no why some women do this , it's irritating, look what she's caused coz she won't order what she wants , love my food , I just had to share a cookie with my 3yo 😮😮😮😂😂
I absolutely didn't care at my wedding whether I was the most beautiful woman in the "room." That's not the point. I am very concerned for people who think that's the point. I've got a lot of thoughts on these stories, but dang, why are so many men just crappy overgrown man children? What's the deal? Story #1 dude sounds like a major self-centered jerk if he can't respect his wife's no and try compromise. Why do people that selfish get married and have children? Why does he think everything centers around him and that the baby *his wife* carries for nine months must have his direct name whether male or female? Goodness... People this incapable of compromise can't do well in their marriages. Story #3 Any dude who abandons his wife with their newborn is an ASCON 1. *Especially* when he does it because he can't stand up to his mommy and thinks that it's a-okay if she treats his wife like actual crap. Wife is a saint to allow the mom to stay over right after giving birth. I honestly think he's an ASCON 1 for even suggesting his mom stay over right after she gave birth, let alone letting her treat her like that, and again, then running away like a little binch and abandoning her with a newborn and (if I remember correctly) a toddler. Men like this don't deserve spouses or kids. Story #6 I am honestly not sure why people this insecure get married. Either you have serious trust issues that you need to get resolved *before* getting married, or you feel you can't trust the guy, in which case why in the heck would you get married to him?? Either way the marriage is *not* going to work. No guy is going to be okay with you bulldozing his relationships because you are that deeply insecure. And it must feel crappy to be trusted so little. He is not your property. He is a human being. If you can't treat him like one, then you don't respect him. This marriage will not last, and I wish dude had woken up earlier, because yeah... getting married doesn't magically solve deep psychological issues like that. She has some stuff to work through, whether it's in therapy or if she can work through it on her own remains to be seen, but she has to at least recognize it's a problem before she can fix it...
Story 6: ESH. The mom is actually being AH for thinking her cold and rude attitude at a party would be okay and is surprised she got push back. OP for not taking her mother’s feeling in mind when she confronted her. The mother is the AH because she had to know this would be the result and hope she didn’t want to see the grandchildren. Children are not responsible for their parents’ emotions and childishness.
There's a lot of shades of gold, there's a spectrum of glitter, and you have to match how formal or casual the bride is, so all together, NO don't wear gold. God, I'm imagining a gold fish scale flapper dress or a light gold gown. If you want to f with the bride just buy some really expensive jewellery. People will notice the jewellery but it'll be subtle enough you can get away with it, and the bride will definitely notice but the men won't so you will end up not looking like the crazy one.
Okay, after the story, no that dress is fine. There's no mistaking OP for the bride, and it is appropriate attire for a wedding. Just plan the divorce party and file it away for later.
Regards to the gold dress, I would say if it's more of a champagne colour maybe depends on how light it was, but that's an orange auburn colour dress , I agree, it's not about the dress
After what your dad and the family did to your mom, it was disgusting to hear you talk to her like that. Has one of those people ever apologized for treating her like a dog? You got some begging to do, girl
That last story about the girlfriend in the food. I'm sorry, but she's incredibly selfish and inconsiderate. To constantly leave that man hungry , then get angry like he done something wrong because he wants More food ..sounds like emotional manipulation And then not even taking it to consideration that you're having to pay double constantly.....poor guy
Story 4, lol it's family, how can U want to use their ranch but don't want 2 invite her, suck it up , it's family, she doesn't sound bad , U can't even say why U don't like her, Ur entitled and rude , U can't invite family and not their other half
Story 3: I’ll never understand why people say dads “babysit” their own kids. They are your kids you are being a parent and doing your job not a favour to the other parent.
Future Stu Arta’s father is a ridiculous narcissist
I'm surprised Dusty didn't pick up on it. So weird that he wants to be "honoured". It would be different if SHE wanted to honour him but he himself?
Stuarta? Name her Stella! lol STELLA!!!!!!
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Honestly like it's not that hard. Stella Sara Siena s names are fine??
They chose to name her Ella after one of the nurses
A little late to the game here, but with the Stuarta story, why can't they consider honoring the mom instead of the dad? Then dad can have his little Stuart if they have a boy later.
You can’t have your wedding at a site where the wife is not invited. Where do you get off thinking you can do that? I hope they take the whole thing away from you.
Baby name… remind him that if he uses Stuarta he can NEVER use Stuart for any future boy.
Bride that wants mom to get over her sister sleeping with your dad. So you’re ok with your fiancé cheating? Let him know before his bachelor party.
The mom doesn’t have to forgive or try to mend what she didn’t break. No one ever has to forgive. That is a lie that people push to make victims silent and not push back.
lady here: that dress was definitely not the issue lol. pretty standard dress in 2024 and it’s not super flashy. the bride is painfully insecure lmao
The wedding at the ranch story.
As someone who lives in Kansas, it’s likely that the Wife is some flavor of Mennonite, that would explain the style of dress and “dislike” of modern things. We have quite a large Mennonite population, more so in the rural areas. So it’s not unlikely. I could be wrong of course but my grandparents are Mennonites and live in a small Mennonite town
Why does Stuart’s daughter need to honor him? Tf!? 🙄 how about naming baby after mama if he wants someone to be honored 🤷🏽♀️ she is the one birthing her so at least she’d deserve it lol
MIL is about to never be able to see her grandkids cuz she doesn't know how to treat the mom hubby should have his wife's back not his mom's
She didn’t even get to shower, so mil was not helping, even asking to stay with parents of two weeks old when you have your own home. And “babysit”?!?!?! It’s parenting. He abandoned her to take care of his mother and two week old baby and toddler and left in defense of his mom without even letting her shower. My mil is a nightmare and i have stories but my husband did as much as he could to help me and be a father.
Last story- no, even as a bigger girl I’ve never hear that. She took food off of his plate all the time. So she has to let him do the same. Fair is fair
Gold dress wedding. Tell Dan everything. Tell him you will be at his next wedding.
Dan needs to think of how his life will be with her. Because his friends and family will avoid you because of her.
The one disinviting mom to wedding has obviously never been hurt or has any empathy
Why not have the middle name Stewart? Like you said Kristen Stewart. Boom 💥
I can understand Julie being upset that the only father she's ever known left her. That had to be heartbreaking for her. BUT Sarah also could have kept her legs closed and like, not go hoeing around. It's her own fault and she needs to accept responsibility for those actions.
S1: My dad has two siblings named Claude and Claudia. Stuart could totally still be an option if they did what the dad wants to do right now, unfortunately. OP needs to put some kind of protection in place to make sure hubby can't change the name if she's unconscious at any point after the delivery.
Story 9: I'm sorry, what!?!? Julie had the audacity to sabotage OP's life because she bought her mom's line of BS about it being OP's fault, then expected her to give her $$ from the inheritance?? YOU DON'T GET TO TRY TO RUIN SOMEONE'S LIFE AND THEN DEMAND $$ FROM THEM! Regardless of how old she was when the divorce happened, she was old enough to know that her sabotage was not okay. She deserves nothing. Nothing at all.
Story 9: If we switched the genders, we'd call him manipulative and abusive. OP needs to leave his girlfriend.
The pregnant wife doesn’t need to walk on eggshells and make the husband think to name their potential daughter something other than Stuarta is his idea. For one, it seems like a weird way of branding his daughter. No matter if she gets married and changes her last name everyone will know by her first name she came from his ranch. It’s not about honoring him. Personally, I name anything that comes out of my body. I told my husband that when we were having kids 30 years ago. I named the first one after him because he was a third and it would be cool to have a fourth. I like themes so each boy’s first name is biblical. Mom pointed out to me years later after the last one was born that their initials are P, B, and J 😂🤣😂🤣
A shame you didn't realize sooner. Disney had a kids show about otter siblings with those initials that would have made for cute baby clothes.
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That’s why mom brought up the subject. They would watch P, B, & J Otter at her house. My dad tried to talk me out of naming the youngest the name I had chosen. I told him I had a theme and it was biblical. He asked (sarcastically yelled), “Why didn’t you name them Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego? That’s biblical!” I sarcastically yelled back, “Because I didn’t know I was going to have three boys! If I had known I probably would have!” 🤣😂🤣
I'm thinking Stuartina 😁😁but we need to steer away from the start name 😅😅
OP of Story 2 had her first baby when she was 19 and her husband was 40. He groomed her. OP now needs to be an adult and learn to recognize that fact. If not for herself, at least for her kids. No one should be raising kids with their groomer.
Cheating dad story: ditto all opinions PLUS bride basically let her fiancé know he can cheat and she will take him back.
Weird when people say “I don’t like their partner but they make them happy.” Do they? Or are they being manipulated?
Despite my extreme best efforts over the preceding months and on the day of, I was absolutely NOT the most beautiful woman at my wedding. Genetics, a bad stylist fail, and some beloved guests literally being professional New York actor/dancers all meant that I objectively had no business feeling like the most beautiful woman there. Everyone showered me and my groom with love, but bottom line I was still an ugly girl in a fantastic dress and fun makeup. God bless my husband for seeing other virtues in me.
“Facts is facts.” Can’t let that stop me from living life - including getting married.
I doubt that's true, every person is beautiful, even though we're usually our own worst critics! But I've never understood people who get all hung up on that anyway. Weddings aren't about how you look or all the glitz, they're about the person you choose to spend your life with and celebrating that relationship. I worry that people who get this obsessive about whether all attention is 100% on them the whole day and have hissy fits about other women existing at their wedding will *not* have a successful marriage.
Stewartina 😂😂😂😂😂😂
"Friends" references make me so happy 😊
It helps that the bride to be doesn't have a sister, so of course she could forgive her husband and sister having an affair.
It's not like this will be your only child will it? If so give her his first name as a middle and your middle as her first.
Send the check for zero with the acceptance letter from the university!
Story 3: she really needed to talk to her husband before it got to that point… shouldn’t wait until it blows up.
Go bill, press charges on them for fraud dude
"The asshole doesn't need a cavity search to know whats inside."
Huh, huuuuhhh, whadda ya think? 21:36 🤪
I just realised that my suggestion doesn't really fit with the apple falling from tree analogy. So how about (and this is poorly worded but you get the idea)
'the asshole can taint and leave you with pink eye" - whatever it touches, it can pass onto.
Okay I'll stop. You guys are great, thank you for everything you guys do.
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Thos was great
Stuartanna or Sterling. I put the foot down on our first son. He wanted Buck Conan. I won with Benjamin with my husband's first name as his middle name. My sister has our uncle's first name as her middle name.
Stewie? Stoey (like Zoey)?Stewla? Stewella (like Cruella)? 😂
For Stuart, Art or Artie.
The dress: when I found out my friend’s husband found me “sexy,” I made sure not to dress sexily around him out of love for my friend. OP wore the smallest piece of clingy fabric acceptable for a wedding. Yes she looks lovely, but knowing the bride is insecure, she was rubbing bride’s face in it. Don’t start shit with Dan and his new bride. Let them work it out without throwing fire on it.
Stewart =Estreya? Similar, even if it's an entirely different language
Story 1: why not name the girl after mom or a grandma? If they have a boy down the line they won't be able to use Stuart if they already have a Stuarta as Dusty & some others have said.
That dress is definitely orangy bronze not even gold really. Plus I've never heard the "no gold at a wedding rule" and I've been to a lot of weddings. It's also tasteful and really does fit the theme well. That bride is absolutely delusional. I hope that groom gets out and the bride gets therapy.
49:47 I wouldn’t call the crazy wife narcissistic, she is other things than narcissistic, isn’t one of them. She is a crazy gaslighter. She’s very insecure and she needs to work on that. Also, he used to divorce him or annulment not because of the best for an issue. but for him and his mental health, her insecure ass will continue driving people away till he has nobody, because she’s unhappy with herself.
And by the way, I love the way OP describe his wife. She is a definite of a girl boss! ❤ she called her a brunette bombshell with the full figure, meaning she’s thicc but short but beautiful. She is still the better person after being treated like shit.😢
The dress is pretty nothing wrong with it
The one with the girl inheriting her former uncle. Her aunt tried to hack into her email to change her admission packet from college sounds straight out of a hilary duff movie. They were so petty they had do something straight out of a teen movie. 😮😅 guess it takes all kinds. But she inherited that money she can do what she wants with it including not sharing. Legally she doesn't have to. Nta.
Stina
Stuarta?? Wth
That scene with the Suna council was strait out of another story I read/listened to about Naruto and Temari in a political marriage. I'm guessing it's from the same author who just basically copy pasted the scene. Tough luck getting stuck marrying a crazy man.
Man Stuarta get off that name or his kid is gonna hate him lol pun and fact
Food, I don't like sharing food , I hate it, if U want something, order it, I hate doing a Chinese at some ones house where U have to share, I'd rather have my own dish, I don't no why some women do this , it's irritating, look what she's caused coz she won't order what she wants , love my food , I just had to share a cookie with my 3yo 😮😮😮😂😂
I absolutely didn't care at my wedding whether I was the most beautiful woman in the "room." That's not the point. I am very concerned for people who think that's the point.
I've got a lot of thoughts on these stories, but dang, why are so many men just crappy overgrown man children? What's the deal?
Story #1 dude sounds like a major self-centered jerk if he can't respect his wife's no and try compromise. Why do people that selfish get married and have children? Why does he think everything centers around him and that the baby *his wife* carries for nine months must have his direct name whether male or female? Goodness... People this incapable of compromise can't do well in their marriages.
Story #3 Any dude who abandons his wife with their newborn is an ASCON 1. *Especially* when he does it because he can't stand up to his mommy and thinks that it's a-okay if she treats his wife like actual crap. Wife is a saint to allow the mom to stay over right after giving birth. I honestly think he's an ASCON 1 for even suggesting his mom stay over right after she gave birth, let alone letting her treat her like that, and again, then running away like a little binch and abandoning her with a newborn and (if I remember correctly) a toddler. Men like this don't deserve spouses or kids.
Story #6 I am honestly not sure why people this insecure get married. Either you have serious trust issues that you need to get resolved *before* getting married, or you feel you can't trust the guy, in which case why in the heck would you get married to him?? Either way the marriage is *not* going to work. No guy is going to be okay with you bulldozing his relationships because you are that deeply insecure. And it must feel crappy to be trusted so little. He is not your property. He is a human being. If you can't treat him like one, then you don't respect him. This marriage will not last, and I wish dude had woken up earlier, because yeah... getting married doesn't magically solve deep psychological issues like that. She has some stuff to work through, whether it's in therapy or if she can work through it on her own remains to be seen, but she has to at least recognize it's a problem before she can fix it...
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Omg look at all that back showing!😂😂😂jk nothing wrong with the dress.😂 😂😂 and that dress isn’t gold. It’s Brut orange!
Or say, if you have a boy, you want to name the boy after you, so Mom will give her Son her surname.
Whats the hubs middle name? Whom was dad named for?
Story 6: ESH. The mom is actually being AH for thinking her cold and rude attitude at a party would be okay and is surprised she got push back. OP for not taking her mother’s feeling in mind when she confronted her. The mother is the AH because she had to know this would be the result and hope she didn’t want to see the grandchildren. Children are not responsible for their parents’ emotions and childishness.
There's a lot of shades of gold, there's a spectrum of glitter, and you have to match how formal or casual the bride is, so all together, NO don't wear gold. God, I'm imagining a gold fish scale flapper dress or a light gold gown. If you want to f with the bride just buy some really expensive jewellery. People will notice the jewellery but it'll be subtle enough you can get away with it, and the bride will definitely notice but the men won't so you will end up not looking like the crazy one.
Okay, after the story, no that dress is fine. There's no mistaking OP for the bride, and it is appropriate attire for a wedding. Just plan the divorce party and file it away for later.
Regards to the gold dress, I would say if it's more of a champagne colour maybe depends on how light it was, but that's an orange auburn colour dress , I agree, it's not about the dress
After what your dad and the family did to your mom, it was disgusting to hear you talk to her like that. Has one of those people ever apologized for treating her like a dog? You got some begging to do, girl
That last story about the girlfriend in the food. I'm sorry, but she's incredibly selfish and inconsiderate. To constantly leave that man hungry ,
then get angry like he done something wrong because he wants More food ..sounds like emotional manipulation And then not even taking it to consideration that you're having to pay double constantly.....poor guy
Story 4, lol it's family, how can U want to use their ranch but don't want 2 invite her, suck it up , it's family, she doesn't sound bad , U can't even say why U don't like her, Ur entitled and rude , U can't invite family and not their other half
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