Story 2: As someone who struggled with a stutter for the majority of my life (from about the age of 5 until about my mid-to-late 20s), this story enraged me in all the ways. 🤬🤬🤬 They’ve gone about trying to “fix her” in the most heartless, cruel, ineffective way possible. The fact that they think they can terrorize their child out of a speech impediment, like it’s the child’s fault, is appalling. My heart breaks for their daughter and the toxic environment she’s being subjected to at the hands of those who are supposed to love and protect her. I’m so mad, I would probably be stuttering right now if I were speaking these words. A stutter, especially a bad one, is often related to anxiety or stress in the extremes. And all they’re doing is making it worse and more traumatic. Straight to Ascon 1 x 10.
Story 2: those parents are evil disgusting despicable people. Their daughter spoke fine at first and then began developing a stutter, they didn't take her to the doctor to check for head injury or neurological disorder, they didn't take her to a therapist to make sure it wasn't r@pe, bullying or something else. Instead they allowed her to suffer quietly for over a decade allowing her siblings to bully her and encouraging it by not only allowing it to their presence as well as only being bothered to correct them when it had gone too far. This poor kid was on her own the whole time, no one could be bothered to help or step in.
Story 2: I don't have a stutter, but I have social anxiety from getting bullied in school. My parents did the exact opposite, they did everything for me trying to help: ordering for me, making calls for me etc. I started therapy years later and we all had to learn, that I had to do these things by myself or at least try and now I'm very uncomfortable, but a lot better. My parents wouldn't dream of doing what this mother did. Having a stutter isn't just like "nah, I'm lazy, you talk for me." If she's this uncomfortable, she needs therapy and speechtherapy to cope with this. Not a-hole parents throwing her under the bus and siblings bullying her. I'm so sorry for this girl and hope, she gets better and out of this family.
The mom/stepmom story fueled me with anger because as a mom and also have 2 bonus kids i would never overstep with the 2 kids mom those are your children and your business just like as a mom i wouldn’t want another woman in the dads life to try and take over MY role. The mfing audacity that stepmom has wtf
Wtf??? Mothers don’t apologize??? Who is this person??? She’s probably never been wrong in front of anyone either. That whole cufflink thing is just weird. I heard the Mune story somewhere else, and that the word meant breasts in another language?
If you end up paying her so be it. BUT change the locks. She can enjoy the free time she now has with the money she manipulated out of you snd the low contact or no contact with her "grandchild."
My boyfriend had a girlfriend who he cared for throughout her illness and death from lung cancer. I do not mind at all that he has pictures of them because I understand that every relationship either of us have had made us the people we are now. Ironically 25 years ago I don’t know if he and I would have gotten together but because of our life experiences, we are compatible now.
For story 2, I’m not sure of it’s just how OP was raised, because I know older generations have been colder like this, but it is very upsetting to hear a parent purposefully embarrass their child and then not apologize for it. Parents should apologize when they recognize they handled a situation poorly. I’m new to being a mom, but I remember what it was like when I felt my parents did something wrong or said something hurtful and they didn’t apologize, so I make it a point to open up and take that responsibility with my own kids and validate their feelings. There’s a difference between helping your kids to improve and trying to force them by making them uncomfortable. Then they just no longer feel safe with you. It puts up a wall. Being older doesn’t make you better or excuse you from taking accountability. They need therapy.
Its always bothered me that people feel the need to comment on what people eat. I used to be a massage therapist, the spa industry is full of hippy health nuts and nearly everytime I would get fast food on break Inwould always get "how can you eat that, its so bad for you" ect. Im eating it because I feel like it, im not force feeding it to you, your imput isn't needed. If I had an allergy like OP from the coffee story, I probably would have done the same lol
Fellow MT here who can totally relate! I was doing chair massage at an event where they offered us lunch. I rarely drink cola but they had a cooler full of sodas and I grabbed one because what the heck, they were free. The other therapist immediately started lecturing me about why I shouldn’t drink it, the chemicals etc. I just said something like “yeah, I know. I hardly ever drink this but was just in the mood for one today”. but I was thinking”just mind your own business and stop trying to suck the joy out of other people’s lives!”
56:00 The timing of the gift is the worst part of it, that's more like for the op's husband's birthday thing since it would be a celebration of his whole life appropriate for his day Weddings are in mass, agreed upon to be only about the couple getting married and pulling in the past like that was definitely a bad move 57:25 I know that movie, great name for a pet, horrible name for a child
Story 1: idk how I'd react if I was asked to get some type of corrective surgery to go to my friend's wedding. if I were the bride and aesthetic was that important to me, I'd get the pictures photoshopped. but I'd have only my copies done whereas everyone else would have the regular / unedited version. Tho TBH, I can't see myself actually doing that. I just like playing devil's advocate. Story 2: YTA I'd say ascon 2 if and only if, it was not done maliciously. I see no issue in getting her to try. Though I really would've approached this differently. I would've had her practice before the waiter got there. putting her on the spot will never help especially if the studder comes out more due to nervousness. I used to studder and my best advice for those with one is to say what you want in your mind 3 times then out loud. it helped me to go over what I needed to say in advance. i still do it to this day. making someone do the thing they struggle with isn't inherently bad bc it's necessary but there's a right way to go about it. the fact that money wasn't an issue makes it even worse and the refusal to get her the right help shows that it was in fact malicious. then you have the added layer of "I usually don't apologies to people younger than me" Making my final result ascon 1. Story 3: NTA the entitlement is crazy. stepmom is so trying to replace bio mom Story 4: MIL is being ridiculous here like seriously. her water broke MIL snoops around the house cleans and expects payment for snooping and cleaning. typically, if you're asked to come over and watch dogs your first instinct isn't to go out and buy a ton of cleaning products then charge the owners for them. she didn't even have the balls to say it in person, she just put it on the fridge. OP: NTA
Story 5 sounds like a fanfic I love monster energy. I will only drink a java when I am not going anywhere that day. Story 7: The late parents were out of line (ascon 3), but she needs to work on that insecurity. Mune is a girls name. It is Jewish name meaning restful. It is also the Japanese word for breast.
The more widow/widower stories I hear the more secure I feel in my decision to NEVER remarry.. HOLY FUCKING CRAP the whole dynamic in this is really messed up.
I know I made terrible mistake! I was a young parent, as of lots to young teenagers. Well I had a very abusive childhood, and some through my young adult years. I didn’t know how to be a parent, no excuse! Well I was a hot mess! I needed help! When I got pregnant, I was going to terminate, father left the picture, I was a Whole and, emotional mess, didn’t have a job no education, I needed special education help, that my mom turn down, because I did do have a learning disability, so I thought this would’ve been the best, well my mom found out, made me go through with a Pregnancy, and I got no financial are emotional support. If I needed help, it was always go ask the baby’s father! Oh, that’s right he’s not around, figure it out! So I was able to do what I needed to do, and I wasn’t a good mother! Then I ended up getting physically ill, having multiple surgeries, btw barely anyone to help me, that was also my fault, my mother blamed me for being sick! Even though it was hereditary! From my moms side! Yup, well my son grandpa was a lot of help, he stepped up a lot when I don’t get sick. I had a conversation with my son. Apologizing for being basically a pos! I did get help for my mental illness, so when met my husband, had our son, I wasn’t the same person, and when I had my daughter, a year ago! I’m the parent I wish I was from day one. I still apologize, and the guilt is strong! I get told, I did the best, I’m not the same person blah blah. I don’t see it that way, I see it as my son got the shit end of the stick. So that comment about not apologizing to somebody younger really triggers me! Just because your order doesn’t excuse you’re bad behavior! And you get a pass! When you are wrong ur wrong! And you apologize!
I'm sorry but the stuttering story is even worse because schools offer speech therapy for free. I had speech therapy when I was in school and my son had it also. So if she never got speech therapy in school it's because the parents literally declined it. All they had to do was sign the paper from the school to get her help
Just because wife is carrying the baby does not mean she makes the final decisions with the baby, including his name. Tell her to grow up and her behavior is unacceptable and won't be tolerated and then stand behind that
“I’m sorry there’s nothing anyone in the world can do to help you…because you’re stupid” i am cackling like a doof over here 😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Story 2: As someone who struggled with a stutter for the majority of my life (from about the age of 5 until about my mid-to-late 20s), this story enraged me in all the ways. 🤬🤬🤬
They’ve gone about trying to “fix her” in the most heartless, cruel, ineffective way possible. The fact that they think they can terrorize their child out of a speech impediment, like it’s the child’s fault, is appalling.
My heart breaks for their daughter and the toxic environment she’s being subjected to at the hands of those who are supposed to love and protect her.
I’m so mad, I would probably be stuttering right now if I were speaking these words. A stutter, especially a bad one, is often related to anxiety or stress in the extremes. And all they’re doing is making it worse and more traumatic.
Straight to Ascon 1 x 10.
Story 2: those parents are evil disgusting despicable people. Their daughter spoke fine at first and then began developing a stutter, they didn't take her to the doctor to check for head injury or neurological disorder, they didn't take her to a therapist to make sure it wasn't r@pe, bullying or something else. Instead they allowed her to suffer quietly for over a decade allowing her siblings to bully her and encouraging it by not only allowing it to their presence as well as only being bothered to correct them when it had gone too far. This poor kid was on her own the whole time, no one could be bothered to help or step in.
How o mugged your mother was the best 😂😂😂
Story 2: I don't have a stutter, but I have social anxiety from getting bullied in school. My parents did the exact opposite, they did everything for me trying to help: ordering for me, making calls for me etc. I started therapy years later and we all had to learn, that I had to do these things by myself or at least try and now I'm very uncomfortable, but a lot better. My parents wouldn't dream of doing what this mother did. Having a stutter isn't just like "nah, I'm lazy, you talk for me." If she's this uncomfortable, she needs therapy and speechtherapy to cope with this. Not a-hole parents throwing her under the bus and siblings bullying her. I'm so sorry for this girl and hope, she gets better and out of this family.
Story 5: OP doesn't need to feel bad about not being like her dad. It's safer for a man to take that kind of risk than a woman.
Oh story 4, yeah “out of love” yet is charging? Sounds like my Ex-MIL . Don’t pay it and cut everyone out lol or pay it in petty pennies 😂😂😂😂
The mom/stepmom story fueled me with anger because as a mom and also have 2 bonus kids i would never overstep with the 2 kids mom those are your children and your business just like as a mom i wouldn’t want another woman in the dads life to try and take over MY role. The mfing audacity that stepmom has wtf
Also MIL charging, obviously not going to babysit
Story one, people like that make me wonder how they are going to cope with getting older
For MIL charging the new parents. Just charge her back for seeing her new grandchild
Yay! Coffee and compilation.
Wtf??? Mothers don’t apologize??? Who is this person??? She’s probably never been wrong in front of anyone either.
That whole cufflink thing is just weird.
I heard the Mune story somewhere else, and that the word meant breasts in another language?
Mune is a Jewish girls name, meaning restful.
Mune is also the Japanese word for breast.
Story 6 was just chefs kiss. Op obvi NTA😂😂😂
SLP here, and the story about the mom of the daughter who stutters enrages me. Way to make it worse mom! 😡
If you end up paying her so be it. BUT change the locks. She can enjoy the free time she now has with the money she manipulated out of you snd the low contact or no contact with her "grandchild."
My boyfriend had a girlfriend who he cared for throughout her illness and death from lung cancer. I do not mind at all that he has pictures of them because I understand that every relationship either of us have had made us the people we are now. Ironically 25 years ago I don’t know if he and I would have gotten together but because of our life experiences, we are compatible now.
Would it be possible to put edits after the original story in the compilation?
For story 2, I’m not sure of it’s just how OP was raised, because I know older generations have been colder like this, but it is very upsetting to hear a parent purposefully embarrass their child and then not apologize for it. Parents should apologize when they recognize they handled a situation poorly. I’m new to being a mom, but I remember what it was like when I felt my parents did something wrong or said something hurtful and they didn’t apologize, so I make it a point to open up and take that responsibility with my own kids and validate their feelings. There’s a difference between helping your kids to improve and trying to force them by making them uncomfortable. Then they just no longer feel safe with you. It puts up a wall. Being older doesn’t make you better or excuse you from taking accountability. They need therapy.
Story 5: I'd never heard the last update holy crap that sucks
Tell MIL she will be given a charge to see the new baby
Its always bothered me that people feel the need to comment on what people eat. I used to be a massage therapist, the spa industry is full of hippy health nuts and nearly everytime I would get fast food on break Inwould always get "how can you eat that, its so bad for you" ect. Im eating it because I feel like it, im not force feeding it to you, your imput isn't needed.
If I had an allergy like OP from the coffee story, I probably would have done the same lol
Fellow MT here who can totally relate! I was doing chair massage at an event where they offered us lunch. I rarely drink cola but they had a cooler full of sodas and I grabbed one because what the heck, they were free. The other therapist immediately started lecturing me about why I shouldn’t drink it, the chemicals etc. I just said something like “yeah, I know. I hardly ever drink this but was just in the mood for one today”. but I was thinking”just mind your own business and stop trying to suck the joy out of other people’s lives!”
56:00 The timing of the gift is the worst part of it, that's more like for the op's husband's birthday thing since it would be a celebration of his whole life appropriate for his day
Weddings are in mass, agreed upon to be only about the couple getting married and pulling in the past like that was definitely a bad move
57:25 I know that movie, great name for a pet, horrible name for a child
Story 1: idk how I'd react if I was asked to get some type of corrective surgery to go to my friend's wedding. if I were the bride and aesthetic was that important to me, I'd get the pictures photoshopped. but I'd have only my copies done whereas everyone else would have the regular / unedited version. Tho TBH, I can't see myself actually doing that. I just like playing devil's advocate.
Story 2: YTA I'd say ascon 2 if and only if, it was not done maliciously. I see no issue in getting her to try. Though I really would've approached this differently. I would've had her practice before the waiter got there. putting her on the spot will never help especially if the studder comes out more due to nervousness. I used to studder and my best advice for those with one is to say what you want in your mind 3 times then out loud. it helped me to go over what I needed to say in advance. i still do it to this day. making someone do the thing they struggle with isn't inherently bad bc it's necessary but there's a right way to go about it. the fact that money wasn't an issue makes it even worse and the refusal to get her the right help shows that it was in fact malicious. then you have the added layer of "I usually don't apologies to people younger than me" Making my final result ascon 1.
Story 3: NTA the entitlement is crazy. stepmom is so trying to replace bio mom
Story 4: MIL is being ridiculous here like seriously. her water broke MIL snoops around the house cleans and expects payment for snooping and cleaning. typically, if you're asked to come over and watch dogs your first instinct isn't to go out and buy a ton of cleaning products then charge the owners for them. she didn't even have the balls to say it in person, she just put it on the fridge. OP: NTA
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Story 5 sounds like a fanfic
I love monster energy. I will only drink a java when I am not going anywhere that day.
Story 7: The late parents were out of line (ascon 3), but she needs to work on that insecurity.
Mune is a girls name. It is Jewish name meaning restful. It is also the Japanese word for breast.
That girls mom is a total B. Embarrassed her because she needed it. What a horrible person.
A Q. Does a step mum have a legal right to personal info on the child? Like education or health?
Hmmm. I’d honestly say that the only 2 people I’d give my life up for are my 2 children. And yes I’d try to save my animals too!
The more widow/widower stories I hear the more secure I feel in my decision to NEVER remarry.. HOLY FUCKING CRAP
the whole dynamic in this is really messed up.
I know I made terrible mistake! I was a young parent, as of lots to young teenagers. Well I had a very abusive childhood, and some through my young adult years. I didn’t know how to be a parent, no excuse! Well I was a hot mess! I needed help! When I got pregnant, I was going to terminate, father left the picture, I was a Whole and, emotional mess, didn’t have a job no education, I needed special education help, that my mom turn down, because I did do have a learning disability, so I thought this would’ve been the best, well my mom found out, made me go through with a Pregnancy, and I got no financial are emotional support. If I needed help, it was always go ask the baby’s father! Oh, that’s right he’s not around, figure it out! So I was able to do what I needed to do, and I wasn’t a good mother! Then I ended up getting physically ill, having multiple surgeries, btw barely anyone to help me, that was also my fault, my mother blamed me for being sick! Even though it was hereditary! From my moms side! Yup, well my son grandpa was a lot of help, he stepped up a lot when I don’t get sick. I had a conversation with my son. Apologizing for being basically a pos! I did get help for my mental illness, so when met my husband, had our son, I wasn’t the same person, and when I had my daughter, a year ago! I’m the parent I wish I was from day one. I still apologize, and the guilt is strong! I get told, I did the best, I’m not the same person blah blah. I don’t see it that way, I see it as my son got the shit end of the stick. So that comment about not apologizing to somebody younger really triggers me! Just because your order doesn’t excuse you’re bad behavior! And you get a pass! When you are wrong ur wrong! And you apologize!
I'm sorry but the stuttering story is even worse because schools offer speech therapy for free. I had speech therapy when I was in school and my son had it also. So if she never got speech therapy in school it's because the parents literally declined it. All they had to do was sign the paper from the school to get her help
Just because wife is carrying the baby does not mean she makes the final decisions with the baby, including his name. Tell her to grow up and her behavior is unacceptable and won't be tolerated and then stand behind that