Story #4: for those saying 'they're family's - no they're relatives, family actually cares about and accepts you (and aren't necessarily connected by blood) while relatives simply share a tree
Exactly my point I was watching this with my mom I asked her if she would support me if I were to be gay and she said yes well my aunt said no it hurt my feelings but like it Is what it is
Story #2: The only thing the wife did in that situation was go to the bathroom to escape an awkward conversation. The FIL and MIL were bringing up inappropriate topics, the FIL didn't back down and kept at it even when asked to drop it, and the OP's husband was the one that made the decision to have him and OP leave that situation. She literally has nothing to apologize for. What is she supposed to say? "Sorry for going to the bathroom and leaving with my husband afterwards??"
Story #1: I am a parent, and my profession also involves risk and risk mitigation. There are two components to risk. The probability of an event occurring, and the harm caused by the event. The risk to older people may not seem that bad, because the probability is relatively low of something happening based off a facebook photo, but the harm could be devastating. Protect your kids, period.
Also I know this is not the same but my mom has a small fashion blog that she would post me on it. I used to love it but then I started to get weirded out by just randomly being posted on her insta. I set basic boundaries that I just wanted to know when I was being posted just so that I could understand what my digital footprint was and my non toxic mother noticed and understood. That is what people do if they understand.
I honestly would have done the same thing in the story with the officer, because I originally thought it was going to be a gun, weapon or bomb if there were police officers looking for something important after seeing someone walk in with a different backpack and leaving it
Story #4: Hearing OP’s niece being so overtly homophobic, and then hearing that she is 20 YEARS OLD? Like she is literally a year younger than me??? Hearing someone who’s almost the same age as me be like this, especially being a gay man myself, had me REELING! That was a WILD story, good grief 🤯 OP is the good apple 100%. Gonna go pick my jaw off the floor now
@@Whitneyandlucas nope 1. You can voice an opinion without slurs and more important 2. It is not an opinion to hate someone for something they cannot influence.
@@Whitneyandlucas I'm 49 years old and absolutely agree with @auburncrescent. Are you going to tell ME to grow up? It IS homophobic to call someone hateful slurs, etc. That's not an opinion. THAT'S a FACT.
Story 1: I grew up in the era where Facebook was becoming huge and my mother posted her entire life there. This included me, she wanted to portray this perfect image when at home things were far from perfect. It was a way to say, look at my great family and life. I was extremely insecure about my weight and looks in general from a young age and was told I HAD to be in photos or you never let me take photos of you or was made to feel awful about not wanting to be in photos. All I'd think is how loads of random people would see these awful photos of me and it filled me with so much anxiety. I think that's another side of that culture. It's selfishness and a need to show off regardless of how your kids feel about it.
My parents are old and think any social media is scary and dangerous. They don't know I have social media. If they did would freak out, think if I hid that I must be going something illegal I don't want them to know about which I am not doing. I am an adult, live at home as rent so high here, my wages for a month would just about cover it. I pay some rent to my parents.
I know how hard it is to form that 'backbone'. As a fellow "sure I'll sit here quietly while you shred my soul/self esteem" conquerer I'm so proud and happy for you.....and also apologize on behalf of the internet horrors that have contributed to it
Story 3: You can't convince me the step mother didn't buy OP's cousin the vape, there's no reason she'd be that mad otherwise Story 4: SHE IS 20 FREAKING YEARS OLD! She is in fact old enough to know actions have consequences. I hate it when people use that argument for people over the age of 13
@@shadowfang269 They were agreeing with you. They were saying even a 6 year old knows there are consequences to actions, so a 20 year old should definitely know the same thing.
Story #4: Niece should have learned that 'actions have consequences' back when she was 14 and was being rude to her family members the first time it happened. The fact that she didn't learn that lesson for her actions toward OP and his husband in the 4 years her parents had some measure of control over her behavior speaks to the lack of consideration for OP on part of at least one parent (I'm guessing the mom based on the story).
That makes sense, but also I don’t blame parents for everything their kids do. I’ve seen first hand that some people can be disciplined and loved and still turn out terrible. 2 people with the same great parents can turn out to be good apples and bad apples regardless of their upbringing. I’ve seen teens take punishments and then keep on doing the behaviour that earns them the punishment into adulthood. 😔 sometimes at 25 or 30 they wake up when their brain is fully formed
@@carinaraymond2 I agree. I mean, look at how many of us were raised by homophobic parents that turned out to be hardcore allies or even gay ourselves.
I only have a comment for #1- if MIL wants to post a pic, do a back pic. Those are so adorable. A sweet pic of them walking together, or MIL holding the baby and you maybe see 1 or 2 features of the infant. Put it in B&W and tell her these are ok to post. Only use baby’s first initial, etc. those are clear boundaries that if she goes against them these will be the consequences. You could also help her to set more appropriate privacy settings. Just some options.
I love the fact that you have suggested helping her with the security settings. I've had to do this with my grandmother and mother. They often don't realise the danger of the internet.
I was told by my oldest brother never to post pictures of his children he has online. I don't. But, his wife does (she came up as a friend suggestion on a social media platform a few years ago, we are not friends on the platform) and I know one of her brother's posts photos of her&my brother's kids online. I heard my sister in law and him talk about it to each other at my oldest nephew's baptism. My sister in law and I are civil to each other but not friends. I over heard a good few years ago my sister in law on the phone in the house I live in with my parents being rude about me as I was unemployed making me out to be bad for it, she was bit**ing about being in the house. I was really hurt. Never told her I heard her say it. I have a job now for over 3&1/2 years and last time my brother, her and their kids came, (she doesn't like coming to us and when does it is less than 24 hours, at Christmas is two-three days before new year's and you can tell she wants to leave badly). Any way my nieces asked what I do for work. My sister in law said before I could answer, oh SHE IS JUST a secretary. I am not a secretary. I do very hard, important work as a civil servant for bad pay, I do the work of over two people. My brother let slip the last time he was here, (he came alone for a funeral) that if the kitchen cups etc were cleaner some people might come more often. I am glad my mom did not hear it. Our kitchen is very clean as my dad is a kitchen cleaning freak. My mom&I do anything in it and clean up he goes over the cleaning to make sure it is done right, gives out if it is not and shows us what we did wrong. Sister in law has been rude to my mom not letting my brother take some gifts my mom gives him he wants to take if not her taste. Sometimes he takes things and says don't let (his wife) know he took them he can use them in his office or claim he bought them. She has even refused gifts my mom gave her. Last year my mom gave her an expensive scarf and she said after checking it a few minutes, I could take that this one is actually big enough. We are not good enough for SIL it feels to us. The house we are in now, my dad built 90% on his own, he build a lot of the furniture too including the stairs, he even did the plans for planning. It took years as my parents would save a bit, run out of money, save resume work on the house. It took 6/7 years. My mom will not say anything about the sister in law to her or my brother as scared would not see her grandkids then. My oldest niece, her first Christmas I got her a great educational Mickey mouse cuddly toy. My sister in law in front of my two brothers, my parents said oh, that will look good beside the bin so the bin man can take it. She was not joking when said it. I was a student at the time working towards a degree, for me that you cost a lot.
@@thebigloc1 that is horrible! I am so sorry you have to deal with such a toxic person in your life. I too have a SIL who is toxic and my family tolerates her. Her and my brother moved away and he adapted more of her ideas and does not have much to do with us. We are different religions and we are looked down upon due to that. When my brother comes home alone, which now is all the time, he says he can see his friends and maybe have a beer or two. He is held on a tight leash at home. He works full time and has a chore list for his and his MIL and FIL home when he is finished with his wage earning job. It is so sad. I understand that toxic environment and I can relate. We did everything to keep the peace when the kids were little as well. They are now grown so we do not have to tolerate her as much, only if we go to visit the kids or my brother. I am so sorry. You are not “just a secretary”. You are a hard working young woman. Do not listen to the haters, they are there to bring you down. What you do is important and vital to your company. ❤️
Story #1 is way more simple than the way you went, though that discussion is 100% needed too. The parents set a very basic rule, and the MIL can't abide by it. That makes her in the wrong and probably should be banned from taking photos of the child until she fully accepts the basic rule. Story #2: The OP did the responsible thing and left the toxic situation. The FIL just called her ugly and beneath all the girls her husband dated in HS. Instead of reaming him as an AH and a clown, she left. The sister is in full panic mode because she's going to be facing that kind of stupidity alone now. Definitely not go back until they both apologize because honestly the MIL wasn't blameless in this either. Story #3: Blaming the tattletale for the vaper getting caught doing something wrong is wrong. Did she snitch intentionally? I agree with you. But if everyone adopts the "Snitches get stitches" mentality, we're going to have a massive surge in crime rates because everyone will think they can get away with it. Story #4: Oh no, not facing the consequences of your homophobia! That's too much to bear. ;) And she can stay in a hotel. She can stay at her friend's house like she is currently doing (unless she's wearing out her welcome there too which isn't surprising). 4 Good Apples!!!
Last year I had a student get up, walk over to the door, get something from a person in the hallway, walk across the classroom, and put that something in another student’s hoodie pocket. It was a vape. And I was flabbergasted that they would be so obvious about it. And I told them both that this was the dumbest thing that they possibly could’ve done. It is absolutely crazy how many young teenagers think it’s cool to vape just because their friends and family do. It’s exactly like when we were younger and cigarettes were “cool“.
I hate that most of my baby/ toddler pictures are of me topless because mom didn’t buy me cotton clothes had me in random clothes that government me rashes but never got me a bra until I had my heart surgery & needed the extra skin sensitive layers over my scar. (To better understand, I was 2 years old in one & looked like a dwarf with fully developed breasts & that’s the one my aunt & cousin use to flood the baby pro folio of me & my cousin as babies) if I bring it up saying “why that picture?” “Why not crop me out” my readiness there were boys from our classes there in her party (one guy in general stalked me till college) but no one cared about that consequence.
Side note to story 3: She didn't say she KNEW what they were looking for was in the book. She just said she saw SOMETHING. Also, all it took was her noticing the different backpacks. That's usually enough to grab one's attention and look more closely on what's going on....
Where did this "but theyre familyyyy" mentality come from?? When I was growing up it was always be respectful or gtfo. Nowadays people just expect kindness when they dont deserve it. Absolutley crazy
Idk if I'm right, but being from the south in america, it seems to be a very prevelant thing because of this area. I don't agree with it though and thankfully my familu doesn't either.
One of my biggest pet peeves isn't even when kids decide to do things like smoke or drink, it's when they decide to try to get away with it at school. I can't tell you how much I hated when someone I sat beside would "subtlety" spit into an empty Coke or Dr. Pepper bottle while chomping on chewing tobacco. And then leaving it in the room! There was a time I specifically remember someone taking it from their mouth and wiping it on the wall because someone was coming to inspect or something. If you can't go without in a place it specifically doesn't need to be in, then get yourself some help because you have a problem.
Story 3- if a police officer came into my class looking for something I would not assume it was a vape of all things. I would be expecting a bomb or a knife or drugs or something a lot worse? Vapes are bad ofc but even if it wasn't that bad I would be concerned in this situation if anyone did not point it out unless they knew what it was. In uk schools there are so many drugs that I don't think vapes are really cared about at all because staff and police are too busy looking for stuff like ket and weed etc
@@juliaellertsouza3577 not necessarily. vapes contain nicotine which is in a different type of family as of compared to "drugs". also considering the physical feeling effects of nic and "drugs". nic CAN give you a buzz for a max of 10 MAYBE 15 ish seconds maybe 2-3 times in a day till you get used to it rather quickly in a matter of less than 4 days, these statistics all depend based on person to person but as of compared to substances, the way they put in an out of this world/out of body mentality and head space for hours at a time. depending on the potency, different brands, strengths, strains n many more factors that go into everything. i’m not trying to sound as a-know-it-all but i just want to pass along this knowledge i’ve learned & gathered over the last 2 years, rather first hand. doing much better now.
@@juliaellertsouza3577 yes but it's not something that is always illegal in the uk like weed or ket or coke. Still not ok and don't agree with it but it's not something that anyone's really gonna be fussed about when there's so much worse happening on school premises
Not related to any story, but I know you would understand my pain, Rebecca… I just had to take my cat for her last vet appointment today. I’m 28 and have had her since I was 11-12. She stopped eating, barely drank any water, and stopped grooming herself. I will miss her so so much
I'm a mom and a grandparent, I used to put pictures of my kids up all the time years ago, one day my son who was like 14 at the time asked if I Could stop, he didn't want any pictures of him on the internet. I said ok from that day forward, I never put pictures of my kids on the internet unless they say yes you can share that picture on FB/IG or text it to so-and-so. If they say no, it's fine, I save it. With my granddaughter, I as her mom if I can share a picture or video, I do whatever she wants. I feel I have NO right to put anyone's picture on the internet without their permission, blood related or not.
I agree, all good apples. For #4, I can see being the bigger person if the 20 year old apologised. But even if such an apology were sincere, there is no requirement to accept someone into your home that acted that way towards you and your husband for SIX YEARS.
I'm the girl in the third story and I swear I didn't! I kinda have a bit of a history of my mother forcing to lie to the police and my sisters got badly hurt because of that. That was a fresh thing on my mind at the time. I actually have a good relationship with her, a better one than others from that side because she understood the abuse that was going on. I still didn't agree with most of the things she did, but I understood them. Also, they weren't as bad as my step sister. I also guess I forgot to mention that yeah, I'm both a military and police force kid. That didn't help matters. Would I do it again? Most likely not. I personally give myself crabapple after seeing so many different views. Also, also! You have no idea how excited I was to have my story here. And to help you with your apple pie. 😉
I can understand more of your point with the above mentioned, however simply not speaking isn't lying. While I can agree that if you see an actual issue you should speak up, in most of life, a rule or law broken is a victimless crime and therefore isn't your business. You are NEVER compelled to speak to police, you NEVER have to, and if it isn't your business then don't. It's similar to you having a neighbor in an apartment complex that doesn't allow dogs. If they have 1 dog and they care for it, etc etc it isn't your business, so be quiet. If they're running a puppy mill, being a shit head or mistreating animals then sure, say something. Your cousins vape was none of your business. Granted, the whole thing is petty shit, so just learn from it and mind only your business going forward 🤙
@@User-pw3pu No such thing as a victimless crime. Also, what if was a weapon or a bomb. She didn't find out until after the fact that it was just vape. Minding your business at school can lead to shootings. Every time there's a shooting, you hear about red flags that were ignored or overlooked until after the fact.
I'm not a parent, so with the 1st story, it's a tough one! My brothers that have kids post them quite often. And on their bday's. They usually make a really nice post describing my neice or nephew. It's sweet! Having said that, to each their own. I agree with you and yeah, there are all kinds of creepy people out there! #2: I like what you said about high school yrs! High school wasn't great for me. I used to be jealous of those that said it was the best 4 yrs of their lives. I like your answer! Good for you on learning to stick up for yourself more! #3: I probably wouldn't have outted my cousin, but at face value, she didn't do anything wrong. #4: Agree! I wish the parents of the 20 yr old addressed this sooner! I don't understand why she'd want to stay with him, now!
My mom used to always take pictures and videos of me when I was younger for Instagram. But as I started getting older(I was about ten) I asked her to stop. It got to the point where I would always tell her you could take a photo of me but not on Instagram and she would get angry at me. It wasn't like I would get recognized in public because she only had about 5,000 followers but it still made me uncomfortable. But once I started growing up(I was about 13-15) she stopped. I love my mom and we have a healthy relationship now but I never forgot this.
Well thank you! The only true loyalty I have is to doing the right thing. Sure family and friends get me to not go straight to the police if it's harmless and doesn't affect me, but if an officer comes to me, I will tell them what I know and I'm upfront about it
Story 3: Poor baby 😭 For all she knew, her cousin could have bren holding a gun for somebody. She absolutely did the right thing! This blind family loyalty bullshit is illogical af. It has to make sense. This was absolutely not a gray area where "family" makes the difference.
I already posted to a story but I wanted to say I love all your videos from the shorts, to the apples to the new Karen videos. Your smile and energy is amazing 😻 So thank you it's needed most days 🫶🏻😸
17:39 as a student, we have people CONSTANTLY vaping in the bathrooms. It is so annoying, and I feel disgusting after seeing them do it. But also, I personally always choose to ignore it and not meddle in that business. I don't really think there was an issue with her telling the cops. Good apple, but I would not personally have done the same thing
So, the In-laws in the second story are angry that the poster politely removed herself from an emotionally volatile situation. OP is absolutely the good apple
Story 1: As someone who was recorded dancing to my favourite song without my knowledge and consent, who only found out the bad apple who recorded the video restored it from his recycle bin when I caught him showing it to my favourite teacher, it matters. That feeling of powerlessness is the worst feeling. Especially as it took telling that teacher what happened for this guy to FINALLY take it down from TikTok. But it had been shared so many times already that when it came time for our leavers assembly at school THREE YEARS later, despite my repeated pleading in the previous weeks, it was shown among the 'funny TikToks' section. Let's just say there's a reason I left that place as quickly as I could. TLDR: Privacy matters. Don't take photos or videos of people without their permission. That's just mean, and quite frankly, rude too.
The Intro had me thinking bad apple but the story and the explanation at Apple #4 had me at good apple 100%. The Intro all the way at the beginning of the video really had me. It got me. lol Good Job Misses Rogers.
Is it wrong to say that I want that niece to hit rock bottom just to get a hard dose of reality about being kind to people? She’ll only be good to people once it’s convenient for her and they have something that can help her, but hopefully she will unlearn that!
OMG I agree with all of your choices this week!! Lol all good apples!! These stories are so amazing this week. (as far as the decisions) 🍎🍏🥧 I'm not really a cat person but I get tons of funny cat videos and baby videos on my FYP.
OK, Rogers, you got me with that opening clip. Upon hearing the last story but before hearing your opinion, I was ready to go to war in the comments. What kinda bait and switch was that??? 🤣
Firstly, if you're going to make a physical apple pie, Marie Callender's Dutch apple takes the cake... or the pie, I guess. Also, I work in a building with a preschool and the teacher was reading a book about Fall and my ears perked up when one of the characters in the book said "let's go apple picking!" Made me happy that it was Tuesday 😊 Hope you're having the best day!
TW: Sexual Assault Story 3: I’m very avidly against calling kids “snitches” and “tattletales” as a derogatory thing because when there’s something serious happening like they’re getting molested or bullied or things like that, they’re afraid to speak up because they don’t want to be THAT kid that snitched. I was assaulted as a kid by teenagers and I didn’t say anything for years because I didn’t want to be a snitch, when I could’ve prevented myself so much pain and guilt.
First story: Same exact thing happened with my mother-in-law. I had to have a serious conversation with her after she posted a NAKED PHOTO of my son!!!!! I almost lost my mind on that woman, she had a public account! She's even friends with complete strangers on purpose!!!
I have a friend who used to post pictures of her kids naked in the bath. She comes from a family of hippies who would just come home, take off their pants, and spread out on the couch like they're the only ones home, so it genuinely did not occur to her that what she saw as a cute, innocent photo of her kids could be seen as anything inappropriate.
@@Grover_in_aweddingdress at the time, he was potty training so I believe he was three. I had already told her when he was an infant to not do it again after a tub photo.
As a kid that has been groomed on the internet don't put your kids on any PUBLIC account and ask them before you post their pictures on private accounts for anything that could seem embarrassing (naked baby pictures for example) people underestimate how dangerous it can be. I have also heard stories of children that nearly got kidnapped because enough of their life was on the internet that someone could walk up to them and pretend they were a family friend Edit-i saw someone else say back shots and I agree!!! If you want your kids on your social media do not post their face until they are old enough to consent do photos from the back!
Story 3: good apple. Why does society hate when people tell the truth? Terms like tattle take, snitch, and whistleblower are common things used to describe someone who tells the truth to an authority figure or gives the truthful information to someone, organization, or the general public. Yet these terms have negative connotations surrounding them. There are plenty of examples of people with both good and bad intent getting the truth out. An example of 1 with good intent is Kathrine Gun, a former British intelligence agent who spoke out about the US and UK’s plan to go to war with Iraq in 2003. She was trying to stop a war from happening (which sadly didn’t work), there is a book about her called “The Spy who tried to stop a war.” An example of 1 with bad intent is Julius and Ethel Rosenbergs (allegedly), were American spies who were convicted of selling secrets to the Soviets during the Cold War (allegedly). Can we as a society stop the negative stipulations and stereotypes around just telling the truth? In this story a MINOR has something that (depending where they live) is illegal for them to have. regardless of whether OP knew about it or not, a police officer and the VP come into the room with 0 context and just ask “where is it” yeah you point out the suspicious thing in the back. OP telling the truth just made things easier cause if no one said anything then the cop and VP were gonna search the room which would have taken longer and just been a pain for everyone.
For story 4, as a member of the LGBT+ community, the fact that she’s homophobic isn’t what tipped me to good apple. Calling someone the F slur once, I could let that slide, but CONSTANTLY?!?!?!? And the fact that she had the AUDACITY to say “oh but where am I meant to stay?” As if she had done nothing wrong to them? I am completely on the good apple side. In no situation is it ok to call someone the F slur.
Right now my stomach and esophagus are having a similar reaction that Rebecca would have when she's reminded that for a lot of people that's the exact opposite of "well" wishes.
I was not filmed on TH-cam I was however part of a family band from ages 10-15 and I loved performing and meeting people however I do feel like it made me have to grow up and mature quickly and this made me feel like I lost a lot of my childhood years
I agree with you for each story! Oh oh! Ideas though, you should have an animation go across the screen that's an apple pie 🥧 when all good apples! AND, when all bad apples, make a stinky pie animation lol! 😂 Just a fun suggestion!
A fine for a vape ??? Wtf maybe its just in England but here the teacher will just take it off u and either call ur parents or just say "collect it at the end of the day " 😂
As a mom and educator, I used to post about my kids to friends and family only. But that all changed when some random person, called my cell and accused me of falsely claiming to be related to him. I had no idea who this was or what he was talking about. He knew where I lived and he was threatening to sent the cops to my house. It was bizarre. It turns out he had just done an internet search on his ex-wife and my name had come up as a possible connection (completely not related in anyway). We wound up calling police who got in contact with him and said to not attempt to contact me or my family in anyway otherwise we’d need to escalate the situation legally. Since then, my accounts are all under a fake name, and photos of my kids are not shared. Too many crazy people out there. Instead we share photos and videos directly via text to specific people.
The first one is so valid.. im a young teen and i like to post videos about music artists i like but i never ever post videos of my face (other then on storys and even then i make sure only my mutuals can see it)
The biggest danger in regards to social media is that you never know if someone is who they say they are, i know this from experience. When i first got a phone i was 14, and at that age i was naive, and didnt fully understand the danger of social media. I wasnt careful and encountered a pedo on both facebook and snapchat. Things could have gone horribly sideways, and i still worry about it. Parents and kids out there, please be careful with what you share online
Story 1: I get the advantages of connecting with family, but some older adults do not belong online. Let's put aside the pictures (mostly) for now, since that can be parent to parent. What's NOT is internet and information security. Think about all those questions you get asked while setting up an account... birthdays, favorite pet names, teacher names, first jobs.... half of keeping your accounts safe and/or preventing identity theft is keeping personal information to make or gain access to accounts safe. And, oh yeah, for some people now their face is a security feature to unlock their phone/account, sooooo... parents are a Good Apple there. Grandparents are a Crab Apple, but not because of maliciousness, more because they don't think like a criminal. Story 2: Good Apple. FIL is gross, rude, and way out of line. Sure, a certain degree of honesty regarding exes can be more healthy mentally, but at the same time it's a taboo for many for a reason. And not only by extension is FIL talking about it, they're at the same time saying OP isn't attractive enough to even earn a look from the husband in high school? Talk about "I don't mean to be rude, proceeds to say rude thing." Story 3: Absolute Crab Apple, Bud. I get it, police are scary, and we get conditioned to do what they tell us to while we're young, say 13 or 12. Minors vaping is bad for a lot of reasons beyond the nicotine (the nicotine alone is bad, but mostly due to irritation, potential for future addictions, basically a whole host of psychological reasons developing brains under 25 really should avoid it, but thankfully the carcinogens are other chemicals in tobacco.) Depending on the quality of the vape you have, you've got other issues to worry about like popcorn lung, heavy metal deposits, and an increased propensity for pneumonia and bronchitis. This is mostly just an issue for the person who vapes, though, unless they're enough of a bad apple to hotbox other people. I'd say rather than police, this should really be a problem dealt with by social workers, counselors, and addiction specialists rather than police. If police are involved, it should be on the distribution level, figuring out who's illegally supplying these teens. But to get off this rant on the ineffectiveness of modern drug enforcement and get back to OP, snitches get stitches. Much like if you see someone shoplifting food, no you didn't. Story 4: Good Apple. You have no obligation to bring someone who hates you into your home. Being the bigger man is one thing, love being the antidote to hate is one thing. But you don't have to let someone like that into where you eat and sleep and are most vulnerable if you don't want to. If you don't feel safe, don't do it. Hell, if you don't like her, don't do it. Deradicalizing people from hate is a specialized job, don't pick it up out of a misplaced sense of obligation.
If everyone bought into the idea of snitches get stitches then crime would run rampant and law and order would not exist. That mentality is unsafe and unlawful.
@@bethanycooper9238 snitching is a little like gun ownership. Widespread gun ownership is fine in a society with good respect for and security of their firearms, and a society with a high degree of communal support and trust. In a system lacking those things, it's adding more danger to a more dangerous situation. When a system of crime and punishment is balanced, fair, altruistic, reformative, rehabilitative, and uncorrupted, snitching is fine, because the one who is snitched against can be assured guidance back to being a productive member of society, or failing that, is ethically removed. When the system isn't that, the one snitched against faces disproportionate punishment, injustice, abuse, death, and/or being blocked out of society and locked into a cycle of recidivism and reincarceration. Laws do not give order by themselves, and laws sufficiently out of alignment with social ethics and morals breed disorder. At such times, the people call for their own system of justice and order, for none can be had through legal channels. The National Razor came out because the society could no longer bear the injustice. It went away again when they could no longer bear the madness.
I manage a Vape shop. You have to be over 21 with a physical id just to be inside the store and if a group comes in and even one of them doesn't have an id, they all have to leave and we can't serve them. We have to turn away kids all day who come in trying to buy stuff. Someone has to teach these kids that they aren't grown and that these things aren't good for you or cool or a trend to be followed. Its dangerous. They're still growing and developing. They don't need these things and it won't hurt them to wait until they're 21. I don't feel bad for children who lose their vapes. They shouldn't have them in the first place. Were also extremely over the disrespect and our time being wasted by them coming in knowing we can't serve them. Were already busy and don't need people wasting our time. I've actually been cussed out by angry parents and grandparents for not letting them buy for their kids.
Also, for the lgbtq couple who wouldn't allow the brothers oldest daughter there, they're in the right. Were not required to allow people who hate us or say hateful things in our space. Why should they allow that energy and angry personality in their home? Why should they be uncomfortable in the place THEY pay for? She's gonna learn that she can't say whatever she wants totally free of consequences. Its freedom of speech, not freedom from any repercussions from what you said. Guess she's gonna have to grow up and fix herself.
For the first story, OP is definitely a good apple. I am not a parent. I am a former teacher and I was the adult sibling to child sibling. I was in high school when the internet started to be used in schools for research purposes and did my college bachelors thesis using traditional and digital research. My little brother grew up with the internet growing with him. By the time he was about 8-9 years old Facebook and smart phones were becoming popular. My mom looked to me to educate her about technology. I told her to be careful with what information she gives out because the internet wasn’t a safe place for kids. Catch a Predator was a popular show. Since my brother was old enough to give his opinion on what he wanted to be made public. My mom felt that she had a right to share what she wanted on her account and it was safe because she had her privacy set to friends. It took one post being commented on by a stranger for her to realize the danger. From that point on my brother was given the final say on anything he was mentioned or pictured in. If he asked for a post to be taken down my mom advocated for his wishes to be honored.
dude I am 15 I had a tiktok for 2... 2 FREAKING DAYS AND WAS SENT PICTURES OF 6 different men iykyk I completely feel that this mom is just worried for her child AS SHE SOULD BE a random dude asking for his birthday is creepy
ooooh is it petty of me that i really want a video of Rebecca replying to nasty comments and handing rude people their a$$es on a platter? because i'm not gonna lie, i would absolutely LOVE to see that! 😊😂 edit after the video: usually there's at least one story where i disagree with your judgment based on my own life experience but i don't disagree on these at all! especially that last one. i don't blame OP for not wanting that kind of person in his house, and i'm impressed that OP's brother fully understood and sided with OP instead of his daughter. but if the SIL wants to make the argument that the niece didn't know her actions would have consequences, even though she's a legal adult, then SIL needs to take accountability for not parenting her better. that is literally a parent's job: to teach their kids right from wrong and that actions have consequences, and to do their best to make sure their kids grow up to be good people. so if SIL wants to push that excuse, she needs to take responsibility for her failings as a parent (at least in regard to that particular child).
MY Mr. Johnson was my 7-8th grade Science teacher and he was 9ne of my favorites. My 1st, 3rd-5th, 3 of my 7th grade, all of my 8th grade teachers were all my favorites. And that in only Ele-middle. They were the best and treated me wonderfully. I just wish I was better behaved...
Just thoughts. 1-Yeah, grandma might not understand how messed up the internet is. I personally think mom is overreacting just a tad, but it is still disrespectful since they outright asked grandma to not post pictures. 2-I hate when people say they don't have a filter or nonsense like that. I think mil and fil are the childish and disrespectful people and the people who owe an apology. Not everyone has thick skin, and I don't think anyone can necessarily help that. Kudos to husband for standing both their ground. I also can't speak for high school being the best because I had a decent time, but all I remember unless I think deep is having a terrible time. My mom promised it would be the best years of my life, and she was so wrong it's sickening. 3-So, in high school, I was fairly immature, being undiagnosed with Autism. Literally, I would call out people for eating in class and not following the rules. I don't know why that was such an issue for me, but I think it's hereditary. I've learned to let others be themselves, even if it means breaking the rules. Unless it directly affects me or someone who doesn't want in, I gotta leave it alone. I totally would have mentioned if I noticed something strange in class. But these days, I wouldn't have said anything. Mrs. Rogers has a point that the kiddos don't realize what vaping can do, but I just have to live with the assumption that everyone knows the age restrictions are there for a reason. If I knew the cousin, I'd be able to better assess my potential action, whether through concern for her health or out of petty spite. In no way, shape, or form should step-mom be encouraging that behavior or threatening to make anyone but the cousin pay the fine. She got off lucky. 4-I am absolutely appalled by the niece's behavior towards her uncles. I just don't understand how you can show that kind of hatred. If the girl was under 18, I'd say you really have no choice, but she's legally an adult, though not by today's standards, and has to sleep in the bed she made. I love that OP stood his ground and did not provide refuge. I don't really have experience being outcast for an "alternative lifestyle," but I do for being a black sheep. I cut my mom's sister's family out from my life because they just can't handle that I'm weird. The things I do, like wearing nail polish as a male, making off-color jokes, just being annoying to the people I love; should really not warrant them talking down to me or ordering me around. It's not like it's hurtful. When it counts, I instill my love and morals. But they crossed a bunch of boundaries that I was not willing to allow any longer. So, that's my story. Thanks, Mrs. Rogers.
Story #2: I guess I took what FIL was saying different. I would have been proud that husband chose me over what it sounds like was immature teenage behavior. I would have sat up straighter, smile on my face, and replied, "Well thank goodness he grew up since then." Based off how everything went in the story, I guess I would have misunderstood FIL's intention with the comment. Would my reply have riled him up or shut him up? I don't blame OP for stepping away, that was a very mature thing to do. And I am so glad her husband stood up for her. Story #3: I don't see why OP's behavior makes you think she really did know what was in the book. Her cousin was being very suspicious and it drew her attention. And if it's against rules and such a bad thing to vape, why are you calling her a tattle tale and a kiss up. Giving information to a police officer when something wrong is going on should be encouraged. I know you gave her a good apple but it didn't sound like it with how you talked about her behavior. I think she was very right in what she did. There are rules to protect us and she did what she could to help a police officer.
Yeah, I can't get rid of my digital footprint. My grandma has been posting me since I was born. My parents did give her permission, but she knew the restrictions on what she posted off me. Oh, and my dad made a facebook account for me the day I was born, but we haven't posted on that account since the day I was born.
1. Good apple. Your kid, your rules. It’s not her place to post your child or any of their information. I’m a parent and grandparent, and though my kids are grown, I don’t post my kids or grandkids without permission. Plus, I’d hate for childhood pictures of me to be shared. 2. Good apple. Hubby is a Good Apple too. FIL is an ass. Don’t apologize. I’d have slapped the jerk for that. 3. Good apple. 4. Good apple. Your home, your rules. You don’t need to let anyone into your home who disrespects you.
21:32 Is there some meaning of Froot Loops I'm not aware of? I know it's a brand of cereal, and also a type of roll-up candy for children. What's the illegal/dangerous meaning?
I'm not sure how relevant other folks may feel this is, but I had a photo of me graduating from college shared by an estranged grandparent. I was Very uncomfortable with that. They were able to get the photo by a family member I'd reconnected with but shared it with a tag making it seem like they were such a proud grandparent and the comments congratulating them. I was an adult and had no objection to the actual photo, but the who/where/why made it really sketchy and uncomfortable. For my kiddos I'm protective of what is shared, by who, and where. I have a small Facebook that I watch privacy settings on and share photos there but am becoming more... hesitant? As the kids are getting older as where the line is between me sharing about my life and getting support around parenting things vs protecting the kids rights and autonomy. I don't think it's straight forward. I think we can look at certain things and go, "Oh no that is not appropriate". But I think knowing what the "right thing is" is much more difficult.
Story #1: I’m a parent who is cautious of what of my children goes online. We are fine posting some pictures of our kids on our personal social medias, but because the Internet is huge and scary we are pretty picky of what pictures do go on. We don’t share their names (they each have a “nickname”. And we never share personal information like birthdays. And we ask our family to check with us before posting any pictures. Several years ago, my grandmother (the great-grandma to my kids) posted pictures without my permission and I had to talk to her about why we need her to ask us first and to never use their names. I’m not sure she truly understood, but after a couple of times of talking to her, she now always asks first. The Internet is huge and there are so many crazy people out there, so it’s totally fair to be cautious. It’s not us being scary, but being cautious and protective. And I don’t want them to look online one day and be like, “mom, why’d you post that? I hate that.” When they are old enough to understand and consent to their pictures being posted, I will ask them, but they are young and don’t understand the Internet yet. Also, it’s totally okay if you personally don’t care. And it’s okay because some people don’t share pics and names, or just share pics, or just will post their name but no pics. Whatever you do is okay. But if people are questioning you and think you are crazy, then you need to stand up and advocate for yourself and your child.
I love watching you content it always give me something to listen to while i go about my day! 😊 it is also nice to hear your thoughts, sometimes it gives me a new idea on things myself!
I agree. I say all good apples. I think the girl in the third story did the right thing, 100 percent! If you know that someone is carrying something they're not supposed to have and the police have to get involved in the situation, absolutely tell them where it is!
Yeah, I really didn't know what it was. I just knew it was serious enough to get a police officer involved. And something other people pointed out that I didn't think of at the time was that it could have been something worse than a vape
Story #3, I understand that this is probably not the case but keep this in mind because of who wrote the POV: in high school my boyfriends ex girlfriend put a vape in my locker and then told the disciplinarian to try to get me suspended. Thank god they checked the cameras when I kept insisting it wasn't mine 😅, again this probably wasn't the case here but just some food for thought.
Story #1. It’s unconscionable the number of families who make a living by exploiting their children from their birth! I am thinking of one internet family in particular who have quints😢
Just a friendly request (story 1 focus but also good habit)... Please don't exclude foster/adoption parents. Or grandparents who are acting in a parental capacity, or another family member. I think it's much easier to use guardians over parents...
adoption parents are still parents, and i think parents could include all of those things. anyone who acts in a parental way is a parent in my opinion :) guardians could also include the ppl responsible for u at that time, so like teachers or babysitters
That last story, like I’m 18, in younger than the daughter in that story, I just graduated high school like 3 months ago and started college 3 weeks ago, and yet I understand that my actions can have severe consequences. Like if you’re going to treat someone like they’re lesser than you for who they are, are you really actually surprised they don’t want you in their house?
A1: Agree, Good Apple: I DON'T HAVE KIDS, but I'm just gonna come out and say it right out the gate: whenever someone 'decides' to post ANYTHING about anyone's kid that ISN'T THEIRS, REGARDLESS of if they are 'still their family member' or not, is a BIG red flag to me. If you are not one of this 'specific' kid's parents, then you have NO opinion! If the parents of ANYONE'S kid wanted their own child to be on the internet in some way, shape, or form, then I'M SURE they would just do it themselves. I believe parents have every right to be strict about the safety of their own children in general, but ESPECIALLY online. It IS an unfortunate reality, but there ARE...'people' out there, who don't have the best intentions with kids, nevermind kids THAT young. This MIL should be grateful that her DIL decided to keep her in their child's life in the first place because parents are ALLOWED to not let any family member see their child(ren) AT ALL, for ANY reason because THEY are the parents, and again, they have ALL the say in EVERYTHING. Her MIL was completely in the wrong, especially because she was already told once to NOT post their child on the internet, and she did it anyway! A2: Agree, Good Apple: This poor OP did nothing wrong at all! Some people DO have different reactions to comments like that, but ANY comment like that DOES NOT need to said in the first place! What the FIL said was completely inappropriate, and VERY rude; not necessarily about the husband's 'player phase' because I assume that's just a fact of his past, but about her 'not being his type'? COMPLETELY out of line! OP's husband is married to her, so CLEARLY she IS his type, and I'm PRETTY SURE that means this 'FIL' needs to get his eyes checked. I would just stay FAR AWAY from her husband's entire family if they are going to continue acting like OP was in the wrong because she's not! I am also VERY proud of her husband for standing up for her and IMMEDIATLY coming to her defense, good job husband! A3: Agree, Good Apple: I can honestly see both sides like OP's aunt can. On one hand, you have a person who brought a vape to school(which is WRONG), and on the other you can see the person who did it was your family member(Oh no! I feel bad...). I agree that it IS sad to see a family member doing something wrong, but that doesn't make WHATEVER is was that THEY did wrong an okay thing to do. And that CERTAINLY does NOT warrant Op's SM berating at her for doing what she thought was right, ESPECIALLY when it involves things that involve the POLICE. Wake up and smell the roses, SM, the world does not revolve around you or your family! OP did the right thing by NOT minding her own business in THIS situation. NEVER let anyone else's opinion of you OR your decisions affect your day...unless it's YOU who was in the wrong, that is. A4: Agree, Good Apple: I will say that I am a Christian, and like many Christians will probably agree with me on this, same sex marriage IS wrong. HOWEVER, that does NOT mean that OP's niece was in the right for yelling at him or his husband. If I was her, I would also say that their marriage is wrong and frowned upon by God, but that does not mean I would hate them for it. Sure, I wouldn't like that specific part of them being gay, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't support them as my family or friend, I would just not be either of their wing girl, that's all. I refuse to let that cloud my judgement though, I promise. I am genuinely glad that they offered their family to stay at their place since they had the room, and I'll be honest. If 'I' were gay and married to a girl, I would also be spiteful towards my rude niece, too. MAYBE if she was nicer to the both of them, then she may not have liked it, but at least THEN she would have a room over her head WITH the rest of her family. It doesn't matter who you are OR your beliefs, you should ALWAYS feel safe in your own home. Mr. OP did the right thing.
Story #1 I am a parent of a child who is constantly mistaken as being older than she is. I mean this as she was not even a tween yet and mistaken as a 20 year old. I am very careful on who can see pictures of her on the internet. Nothing that shows where we are or what we are doing. I say good on the mom for keeping her child safe. Do what feels comfortable for their household.
Story 1: I love posting a few cute family photos online with my daughter in them, but i keep it on private chats or profiles. My in laws aren't online, and my parents work in IT so i trust they have their online security down. I have however seen this go bad so i try to be carefully even if i trust the people around me. A family friend posted her then 12 yr old daughters first ever love letter to a boy on Facebook, lanughing about how cute young love was. She was friends with the parents of hwr daughters classmates! It was lucky non of them saw. Her oldest have turned 18 recently and have gone no contact with his mom. I just try to support the two younger kids until they get their freedom too.
Okay so story number 3 hits close to home for me. I was a really good kid until junior year when I fell in with the wrong crowd. one of those kids was my so-called best friend, we’ll call them person A. They had a significant other at another school that I would cross paths with at the local technical school. For context one of my parents worked for the school district I was in but, at a different school so I’d be dropped off at 7:30am each morning by that parent. Person A could drive and was 18 at the time so they met me early one morning and said if I gave their hoodie to their S/O that I’d get a vape mod and some juice. For context, this was back when the legal age for nicotine was 18 and disposables weren’t really a thing yet. Obviously seeing all my so called friends vaping, smoking and doing other bad things to their bodies, I said yes and got my box mod vape with juice at the end of the day. I was 17 and have not been able to quit nicotine since. I started with no nicotine vapes thinking I’d just look cool and not feel the effects at all. Well it’s years later and I’ve tried dip, cigarettes, vaping anyway I can get nicotine basically. I work in road construction IT and have to be very active most days at work. The vaping and other nicotine products have caused me to go from someone who had amazing lungs to someone who gets winded walking up a hill. If the OP’s cousin has parents who care and made them stop, they might thank you years later. I wish I had someone to tell on me before I got to this point. I’ve tried, patches, gums, lozenges, quitting cold turkey- none of it works for me especially long term. OP- I am proud of you! You did the right thing even if made you unpopular in some people’s eyes. Doing the right thing is rarely ever popular. Everyone wants to be cool and fit in even if it means being on oxygen earlier than you think or worse. Stand tall and don’t stray from your morals for any reason! Good job 👍
If it helps, my cousin is out and living with I think her boyfriend/maybe husband (my memory ain't the best and we don't talk except for on TikTok and Facebook) and has a kid now. She's doing good for herself
Story #4: for those saying 'they're family's - no they're relatives, family actually cares about and accepts you (and aren't necessarily connected by blood) while relatives simply share a tree
Exactly my point I was watching this with my mom I asked her if she would support me if I were to be gay and she said yes well my aunt said no it hurt my feelings but like it Is what it is
Story #2: The only thing the wife did in that situation was go to the bathroom to escape an awkward conversation. The FIL and MIL were bringing up inappropriate topics, the FIL didn't back down and kept at it even when asked to drop it, and the OP's husband was the one that made the decision to have him and OP leave that situation. She literally has nothing to apologize for. What is she supposed to say? "Sorry for going to the bathroom and leaving with my husband afterwards??"
Story #1: I am a parent, and my profession also involves risk and risk mitigation. There are two components to risk. The probability of an event occurring, and the harm caused by the event. The risk to older people may not seem that bad, because the probability is relatively low of something happening based off a facebook photo, but the harm could be devastating. Protect your kids, period.
One thing she's over looking is the side comments the mil and sil have made, kinda seems like she's purposely ignoring her concerns
yes
Also I know this is not the same but my mom has a small fashion blog that she would post me on it. I used to love it but then I started to get weirded out by just randomly being posted on her insta. I set basic boundaries that I just wanted to know when I was being posted just so that I could understand what my digital footprint was and my non toxic mother noticed and understood. That is what people do if they understand.
I honestly would have done the same thing in the story with the officer, because I originally thought it was going to be a gun, weapon or bomb if there were police officers looking for something important after seeing someone walk in with a different backpack and leaving it
Exactly! I don't know if I've just seen to many crime shows but coming and going with different bags is a huge red flag for major threats.
The stepmother from story 3 is how you get a kid that doesn't understand consequences like in story 4.
Yup. and my step-sister is a shining example of that
My cousin is actually doing well and has a husband and a baby now, outside of her family's control
Story #4: Hearing OP’s niece being so overtly homophobic, and then hearing that she is 20 YEARS OLD? Like she is literally a year younger than me??? Hearing someone who’s almost the same age as me be like this, especially being a gay man myself, had me REELING! That was a WILD story, good grief 🤯
OP is the good apple 100%. Gonna go pick my jaw off the floor now
It’s not homophobic it’s called having an opinion grow up.
@@Whitneyandlucas nope
1. You can voice an opinion without slurs and more important
2. It is not an opinion to hate someone for something they cannot influence.
@@Whitneyandlucas I'm 49 years old and absolutely agree with @auburncrescent. Are you going to tell ME to grow up? It IS homophobic to call someone hateful slurs, etc. That's not an opinion. THAT'S a FACT.
@@angelaoneal5169 womp womp
Story 1: I grew up in the era where Facebook was becoming huge and my mother posted her entire life there. This included me, she wanted to portray this perfect image when at home things were far from perfect. It was a way to say, look at my great family and life. I was extremely insecure about my weight and looks in general from a young age and was told I HAD to be in photos or you never let me take photos of you or was made to feel awful about not wanting to be in photos. All I'd think is how loads of random people would see these awful photos of me and it filled me with so much anxiety. I think that's another side of that culture. It's selfishness and a need to show off regardless of how your kids feel about it.
My parents are old and think any social media is scary and dangerous. They don't know I have social media. If they did would freak out, think if I hid that I must be going something illegal I don't want them to know about which I am not doing. I am an adult, live at home as rent so high here, my wages for a month would just about cover it. I pay some rent to my parents.
I am so sorry that happened to you just know that I want through something similar just less extreme
I know how hard it is to form that 'backbone'. As a fellow "sure I'll sit here quietly while you shred my soul/self esteem" conquerer I'm so proud and happy for you.....and also apologize on behalf of the internet horrors that have contributed to it
Story 3: You can't convince me the step mother didn't buy OP's cousin the vape, there's no reason she'd be that mad otherwise
Story 4: SHE IS 20 FREAKING YEARS OLD! She is in fact old enough to know actions have consequences. I hate it when people use that argument for people over the age of 13
Sorry but even a 6 year old KNOWS that actions have consequences. They still push the boundaries and cross all the lines but they know.
@@hhz4ever I didn’t say they didn’t
@@shadowfang269 they was saying it in general
@@cnote4971 okay and? I really don’t see the point of your reply
@@shadowfang269 They were agreeing with you. They were saying even a 6 year old knows there are consequences to actions, so a 20 year old should definitely know the same thing.
Story #4: Niece should have learned that 'actions have consequences' back when she was 14 and was being rude to her family members the first time it happened. The fact that she didn't learn that lesson for her actions toward OP and his husband in the 4 years her parents had some measure of control over her behavior speaks to the lack of consideration for OP on part of at least one parent (I'm guessing the mom based on the story).
That makes sense, but also I don’t blame parents for everything their kids do. I’ve seen first hand that some people can be disciplined and loved and still turn out terrible. 2 people with the same great parents can turn out to be good apples and bad apples regardless of their upbringing. I’ve seen teens take punishments and then keep on doing the behaviour that earns them the punishment into adulthood. 😔 sometimes at 25 or 30 they wake up when their brain is fully formed
@@carinaraymond2 I agree. I mean, look at how many of us were raised by homophobic parents that turned out to be hardcore allies or even gay ourselves.
I only have a comment for #1- if MIL wants to post a pic, do a back pic. Those are so adorable. A sweet pic of them walking together, or MIL holding the baby and you maybe see 1 or 2 features of the infant. Put it in B&W and tell her these are ok to post. Only use baby’s first initial, etc. those are clear boundaries that if she goes against them these will be the
consequences. You could also help her to set more appropriate privacy settings. Just some options.
Absolutely!! I dont show my children's faces on the Internet for safety. We do some back pics when we have a reason to post, and they're super cute
I love the fact that you have suggested helping her with the security settings. I've had to do this with my grandmother and mother. They often don't realise the danger of the internet.
I was told by my oldest brother never to post pictures of his children he has online. I don't. But, his wife does (she came up as a friend suggestion on a social media platform a few years ago, we are not friends on the platform) and I know one of her brother's posts photos of her&my brother's kids online.
I heard my sister in law and him talk about it to each other at my oldest nephew's baptism.
My sister in law and I are civil to each other but not friends.
I over heard a good few years ago my sister in law on the phone in the house I live in with my parents being rude about me as I was unemployed making me out to be bad for it, she was bit**ing about being in the house. I was really hurt. Never told her I heard her say it.
I have a job now for over 3&1/2 years and last time my brother, her and their kids came, (she doesn't like coming to us and when does it is less than 24 hours, at Christmas is two-three days before new year's and you can tell she wants to leave badly). Any way my nieces asked what I do for work. My sister in law said before I could answer, oh SHE IS JUST a secretary. I am not a secretary. I do very hard, important work as a civil servant for bad pay, I do the work of over two people.
My brother let slip the last time he was here, (he came alone for a funeral) that if the kitchen cups etc were cleaner some people might come more often. I am glad my mom did not hear it. Our kitchen is very clean as my dad is a kitchen cleaning freak. My mom&I do anything in it and clean up he goes over the cleaning to make sure it is done right, gives out if it is not and shows us what we did wrong.
Sister in law has been rude to my mom not letting my brother take some gifts my mom gives him he wants to take if not her taste. Sometimes he takes things and says don't let (his wife) know he took them he can use them in his office or claim he bought them. She has even refused gifts my mom gave her. Last year my mom gave her an expensive scarf and she said after checking it a few minutes, I could take that this one is actually big enough.
We are not good enough for SIL it feels to us. The house we are in now, my dad built 90% on his own, he build a lot of the furniture too including the stairs, he even did the plans for planning. It took years as my parents would save a bit, run out of money, save resume work on the house. It took 6/7 years. My mom will not say anything about the sister in law to her or my brother as scared would not see her grandkids then. My oldest niece, her first Christmas I got her a great educational Mickey mouse cuddly toy. My sister in law in front of my two brothers, my parents said oh, that will look good beside the bin so the bin man can take it. She was not joking when said it. I was a student at the time working towards a degree, for me that you cost a lot.
@@thebigloc1 that is horrible! I am so sorry you have to deal with such a toxic person in your life. I too have a SIL who is toxic and my family tolerates her. Her and my brother moved away and he adapted more of her ideas and does not have much to do with us. We are different religions and we are looked down upon due to that. When my brother comes home alone, which now is all the time, he says he can see his friends and maybe have a beer or two. He is held on a tight leash at home. He works full time and has a chore list for his and his MIL and FIL home when he is finished with his wage earning job. It is so sad. I understand that toxic environment and I can relate. We did everything to keep the peace when the kids were little as well. They are now grown so we do not have to tolerate her as much, only if we go to visit the kids or my brother. I am so sorry.
You are not “just a secretary”. You are a hard working young woman. Do not listen to the haters, they are there to bring you down. What you do is important and vital to your company. ❤️
Story #1 is way more simple than the way you went, though that discussion is 100% needed too. The parents set a very basic rule, and the MIL can't abide by it. That makes her in the wrong and probably should be banned from taking photos of the child until she fully accepts the basic rule. Story #2: The OP did the responsible thing and left the toxic situation. The FIL just called her ugly and beneath all the girls her husband dated in HS. Instead of reaming him as an AH and a clown, she left. The sister is in full panic mode because she's going to be facing that kind of stupidity alone now. Definitely not go back until they both apologize because honestly the MIL wasn't blameless in this either. Story #3: Blaming the tattletale for the vaper getting caught doing something wrong is wrong. Did she snitch intentionally? I agree with you. But if everyone adopts the "Snitches get stitches" mentality, we're going to have a massive surge in crime rates because everyone will think they can get away with it. Story #4: Oh no, not facing the consequences of your homophobia! That's too much to bear. ;) And she can stay in a hotel. She can stay at her friend's house like she is currently doing (unless she's wearing out her welcome there too which isn't surprising). 4 Good Apples!!!
Last year I had a student get up, walk over to the door, get something from a person in the hallway, walk across the classroom, and put that something in another student’s hoodie pocket. It was a vape. And I was flabbergasted that they would be so obvious about it. And I told them both that this was the dumbest thing that they possibly could’ve done.
It is absolutely crazy how many young teenagers think it’s cool to vape just because their friends and family do. It’s exactly like when we were younger and cigarettes were “cool“.
I hate that most of my baby/ toddler pictures are of me topless because mom didn’t buy me cotton clothes had me in random clothes that government me rashes but never got me a bra until I had my heart surgery & needed the extra skin sensitive layers over my scar. (To better understand, I was 2 years old in one & looked like a dwarf with fully developed breasts & that’s the one my aunt & cousin use to flood the baby pro folio of me & my cousin as babies) if I bring it up saying “why that picture?” “Why not crop me out” my readiness there were boys from our classes there in her party (one guy in general stalked me till college) but no one cared about that consequence.
I agree. 4 good apples!!! That girl in story 4 has such gross behaviour!!!🤮
Side note to story 3: She didn't say she KNEW what they were looking for was in the book. She just said she saw SOMETHING. Also, all it took was her noticing the different backpacks. That's usually enough to grab one's attention and look more closely on what's going on....
This series makes me excited for every Tuesday
In middle of watching rn and fr same here
Hey your first! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Same!! 🩷
Where did this "but theyre familyyyy" mentality come from?? When I was growing up it was always be respectful or gtfo. Nowadays people just expect kindness when they dont deserve it. Absolutley crazy
Idk if I'm right, but being from the south in america, it seems to be a very prevelant thing because of this area. I don't agree with it though and thankfully my familu doesn't either.
One of my biggest pet peeves isn't even when kids decide to do things like smoke or drink, it's when they decide to try to get away with it at school. I can't tell you how much I hated when someone I sat beside would "subtlety" spit into an empty Coke or Dr. Pepper bottle while chomping on chewing tobacco. And then leaving it in the room! There was a time I specifically remember someone taking it from their mouth and wiping it on the wall because someone was coming to inspect or something. If you can't go without in a place it specifically doesn't need to be in, then get yourself some help because you have a problem.
Story 3- if a police officer came into my class looking for something I would not assume it was a vape of all things. I would be expecting a bomb or a knife or drugs or something a lot worse? Vapes are bad ofc but even if it wasn't that bad I would be concerned in this situation if anyone did not point it out unless they knew what it was. In uk schools there are so many drugs that I don't think vapes are really cared about at all because staff and police are too busy looking for stuff like ket and weed etc
Vape is a drug though?
@@juliaellertsouza3577 not necessarily. vapes contain nicotine which is in a different type of family as of compared to "drugs". also considering the physical feeling effects of nic and "drugs". nic CAN give you a buzz for a max of 10 MAYBE 15 ish seconds maybe 2-3 times in a day till you get used to it rather quickly in a matter of less than 4 days, these statistics all depend based on person to person but as of compared to substances, the way they put in an out of this world/out of body mentality and head space for hours at a time. depending on the potency, different brands, strengths, strains n many more factors that go into everything. i’m not trying to sound as a-know-it-all but i just want to pass along this knowledge i’ve learned & gathered over the last 2 years, rather first hand. doing much better now.
Please do not generalise about UK schools like that. It sounded like you meant all UK schools which is not true.
@@thebigloc1 it's most of UK schools and if you think that is not true then you are deluding yourself
@@juliaellertsouza3577 yes but it's not something that is always illegal in the uk like weed or ket or coke. Still not ok and don't agree with it but it's not something that anyone's really gonna be fussed about when there's so much worse happening on school premises
Not related to any story, but I know you would understand my pain, Rebecca… I just had to take my cat for her last vet appointment today. I’m 28 and have had her since I was 11-12. She stopped eating, barely drank any water, and stopped grooming herself. I will miss her so so much
i'm so so sorry, losing a pet is so hard and i hope you're doing ok. ❤❤❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a long time companion is never easy. Hugs to you.
I love how the brother in story 4 understood his brother’s decision!!
I'm a mom and a grandparent, I used to put pictures of my kids up all the time years ago, one day my son who was like 14 at the time asked if I Could stop, he didn't want any pictures of him on the internet. I said ok from that day forward, I never put pictures of my kids on the internet unless they say yes you can share that picture on FB/IG or text it to so-and-so. If they say no, it's fine, I save it. With my granddaughter, I as her mom if I can share a picture or video, I do whatever she wants. I feel I have NO right to put anyone's picture on the internet without their permission, blood related or not.
I agree, all good apples.
For #4, I can see being the bigger person if the 20 year old apologised. But even if such an apology were sincere, there is no requirement to accept someone into your home that acted that way towards you and your husband for SIX YEARS.
The stupidest part about vaping is that I heard the original Vapes didn't have any nicotine and them whatsoever and in fact that was the whole idea.
I'm the girl in the third story and I swear I didn't! I kinda have a bit of a history of my mother forcing to lie to the police and my sisters got badly hurt because of that. That was a fresh thing on my mind at the time. I actually have a good relationship with her, a better one than others from that side because she understood the abuse that was going on. I still didn't agree with most of the things she did, but I understood them. Also, they weren't as bad as my step sister.
I also guess I forgot to mention that yeah, I'm both a military and police force kid. That didn't help matters.
Would I do it again? Most likely not. I personally give myself crabapple after seeing so many different views.
Also, also! You have no idea how excited I was to have my story here. And to help you with your apple pie. 😉
that's so cool that u were the apple! GOOD APPLE!!!
I can understand more of your point with the above mentioned, however simply not speaking isn't lying. While I can agree that if you see an actual issue you should speak up, in most of life, a rule or law broken is a victimless crime and therefore isn't your business. You are NEVER compelled to speak to police, you NEVER have to, and if it isn't your business then don't.
It's similar to you having a neighbor in an apartment complex that doesn't allow dogs. If they have 1 dog and they care for it, etc etc it isn't your business, so be quiet. If they're running a puppy mill, being a shit head or mistreating animals then sure, say something.
Your cousins vape was none of your business. Granted, the whole thing is petty shit, so just learn from it and mind only your business going forward 🤙
@@User-pw3pu No such thing as a victimless crime. Also, what if was a weapon or a bomb. She didn't find out until after the fact that it was just vape. Minding your business at school can lead to shootings. Every time there's a shooting, you hear about red flags that were ignored or overlooked until after the fact.
@@User-pw3pu I appreciate your point of view, but not speaking especially when asked specifically about it, is a lie. It's called a lie of ommission.
@@uselessinformation1988also, thanks
1. Good Apple
2. Good Apple both OP and Husband
3. Crab Apple
4. Good Apple all around
I would just like to say Happy New Year to Rebecca Rogers and all the rest of the people who are celebrating!
I'm not a parent, so with the 1st story, it's a tough one! My brothers that have kids post them quite often. And on their bday's. They usually make a really nice post describing my neice or nephew. It's sweet! Having said that, to each their own. I agree with you and yeah, there are all kinds of creepy people out there! #2: I like what you said about high school yrs! High school wasn't great for me. I used to be jealous of those that said it was the best 4 yrs of their lives. I like your answer! Good for you on learning to stick up for yourself more! #3: I probably wouldn't have outted my cousin, but at face value, she didn't do anything wrong. #4: Agree! I wish the parents of the 20 yr old addressed this sooner! I don't understand why she'd want to stay with him, now!
My mom used to always take pictures and videos of me when I was younger for Instagram. But as I started getting older(I was about ten) I asked her to stop. It got to the point where I would always tell her you could take a photo of me but not on Instagram and she would get angry at me. It wasn't like I would get recognized in public because she only had about 5,000 followers but it still made me uncomfortable. But once I started growing up(I was about 13-15) she stopped. I love my mom and we have a healthy relationship now but I never forgot this.
Story #3: as a high school teacher where SO MANY of them have the "I ain't no snitch" mentality, I APPLAUD this girl 👏
Well thank you! The only true loyalty I have is to doing the right thing. Sure family and friends get me to not go straight to the police if it's harmless and doesn't affect me, but if an officer comes to me, I will tell them what I know and I'm upfront about it
Story 3: Poor baby 😭 For all she knew, her cousin could have bren holding a gun for somebody. She absolutely did the right thing! This blind family loyalty bullshit is illogical af. It has to make sense. This was absolutely not a gray area where "family" makes the difference.
I already posted to a story but I wanted to say I love all your videos from the shorts, to the apples to the new Karen videos. Your smile and energy is amazing 😻 So thank you it's needed most days 🫶🏻😸
"Let's not forget where my family comes from, okay?" When I tell you I GASPED! That was the perfect response!
17:39 as a student, we have people CONSTANTLY vaping in the bathrooms. It is so annoying, and I feel disgusting after seeing them do it. But also, I personally always choose to ignore it and not meddle in that business. I don't really think there was an issue with her telling the cops. Good apple, but I would not personally have done the same thing
I have asthma I am not risking my health just to "not be a snitch"
So, the In-laws in the second story are angry that the poster politely removed herself from an emotionally volatile situation. OP is absolutely the good apple
My favorite series on TH-cam!!! Thank you Ms. Roger ❤️
Story 1: As someone who was recorded dancing to my favourite song without my knowledge and consent, who only found out the bad apple who recorded the video restored it from his recycle bin when I caught him showing it to my favourite teacher, it matters. That feeling of powerlessness is the worst feeling. Especially as it took telling that teacher what happened for this guy to FINALLY take it down from TikTok. But it had been shared so many times already that when it came time for our leavers assembly at school THREE YEARS later, despite my repeated pleading in the previous weeks, it was shown among the 'funny TikToks' section. Let's just say there's a reason I left that place as quickly as I could. TLDR: Privacy matters. Don't take photos or videos of people without their permission. That's just mean, and quite frankly, rude too.
The Intro had me thinking bad apple but the story and the explanation at Apple #4 had me at good apple 100%. The Intro all the way at the beginning of the video really had me. It got me. lol Good Job Misses Rogers.
Is it wrong to say that I want that niece to hit rock bottom just to get a hard dose of reality about being kind to people? She’ll only be good to people once it’s convenient for her and they have something that can help her, but hopefully she will unlearn that!
OMG I agree with all of your choices this week!! Lol all good apples!! These stories are so amazing this week. (as far as the decisions) 🍎🍏🥧 I'm not really a cat person but I get tons of funny cat videos and baby videos on my FYP.
OK, Rogers, you got me with that opening clip. Upon hearing the last story but before hearing your opinion, I was ready to go to war in the comments. What kinda bait and switch was that??? 🤣
Firstly, if you're going to make a physical apple pie, Marie Callender's Dutch apple takes the cake... or the pie, I guess. Also, I work in a building with a preschool and the teacher was reading a book about Fall and my ears perked up when one of the characters in the book said "let's go apple picking!" Made me happy that it was Tuesday 😊 Hope you're having the best day!
I remember a few years back I was in a TH-cam video because of one of my band concerts and it REALLY bothered me for some reason
TW: Sexual Assault
Story 3: I’m very avidly against calling kids “snitches” and “tattletales” as a derogatory thing because when there’s something serious happening like they’re getting molested or bullied or things like that, they’re afraid to speak up because they don’t want to be THAT kid that snitched. I was assaulted as a kid by teenagers and I didn’t say anything for years because I didn’t want to be a snitch, when I could’ve prevented myself so much pain and guilt.
First story: Same exact thing happened with my mother-in-law. I had to have a serious conversation with her after she posted a NAKED PHOTO of my son!!!!! I almost lost my mind on that woman, she had a public account! She's even friends with complete strangers on purpose!!!
Sorry this goes against the video-but was ur child a baby or more in the kid area? Of course you don’t have to answer.
I have a friend who used to post pictures of her kids naked in the bath. She comes from a family of hippies who would just come home, take off their pants, and spread out on the couch like they're the only ones home, so it genuinely did not occur to her that what she saw as a cute, innocent photo of her kids could be seen as anything inappropriate.
@@Grover_in_aweddingdress at the time, he was potty training so I believe he was three. I had already told her when he was an infant to not do it again after a tub photo.
@@ukeisloveukeislife3027 oh-
As a kid that has been groomed on the internet don't put your kids on any PUBLIC account and ask them before you post their pictures on private accounts for anything that could seem embarrassing (naked baby pictures for example) people underestimate how dangerous it can be. I have also heard stories of children that nearly got kidnapped because enough of their life was on the internet that someone could walk up to them and pretend they were a family friend
Edit-i saw someone else say back shots and I agree!!! If you want your kids on your social media do not post their face until they are old enough to consent do photos from the back!
Story 3: good apple. Why does society hate when people tell the truth? Terms like tattle take, snitch, and whistleblower are common things used to describe someone who tells the truth to an authority figure or gives the truthful information to someone, organization, or the general public. Yet these terms have negative connotations surrounding them. There are plenty of examples of people with both good and bad intent getting the truth out. An example of 1 with good intent is Kathrine Gun, a former British intelligence agent who spoke out about the US and UK’s plan to go to war with Iraq in 2003. She was trying to stop a war from happening (which sadly didn’t work), there is a book about her called “The Spy who tried to stop a war.” An example of 1 with bad intent is Julius and Ethel Rosenbergs (allegedly), were American spies who were convicted of selling secrets to the Soviets during the Cold War (allegedly). Can we as a society stop the negative stipulations and stereotypes around just telling the truth?
In this story a MINOR has something that (depending where they live) is illegal for them to have. regardless of whether OP knew about it or not, a police officer and the VP come into the room with 0 context and just ask “where is it” yeah you point out the suspicious thing in the back. OP telling the truth just made things easier cause if no one said anything then the cop and VP were gonna search the room which would have taken longer and just been a pain for everyone.
Because people like to keep hush hush
I agree with you people are annoying
For story 4, as a member of the LGBT+ community, the fact that she’s homophobic isn’t what tipped me to good apple. Calling someone the F slur once, I could let that slide, but CONSTANTLY?!?!?!? And the fact that she had the AUDACITY to say “oh but where am I meant to stay?” As if she had done nothing wrong to them? I am completely on the good apple side. In no situation is it ok to call someone the F slur.
Love am I the bad apple
Edit: In story two that husband is amazing
Right now my stomach and esophagus are having a similar reaction that Rebecca would have when she's reminded that for a lot of people that's the exact opposite of "well" wishes.
I was not filmed on TH-cam I was however part of a family band from ages 10-15 and I loved performing and meeting people however I do feel like it made me have to grow up and mature quickly and this made me feel like I lost a lot of my childhood years
Story 4 hits hard as someone who is Queer (and is also Transgender) I don’t want to associate with bigoted family members
If you need, you can always become part of MY family.
Story 4 - I say, let her in and proceed to be super lovey-dovey with your husband.
I agree with you for each story!
Oh oh! Ideas though, you should have an animation go across the screen that's an apple pie 🥧 when all good apples! AND, when all bad apples, make a stinky pie animation lol! 😂
Just a fun suggestion!
Story 1- good apple story 2- good apple story 3- good apple. Story 4- good apple
A fine for a vape ??? Wtf maybe its just in England but here the teacher will just take it off u and either call ur parents or just say "collect it at the end of the day " 😂
That's a problem with the UK.
As a mom and educator, I used to post about my kids to friends and family only. But that all changed when some random person, called my cell and accused me of falsely claiming to be related to him. I had no idea who this was or what he was talking about. He knew where I lived and he was threatening to sent the cops to my house. It was bizarre. It turns out he had just done an internet search on his ex-wife and my name had come up as a possible connection (completely not related in anyway). We wound up calling police who got in contact with him and said to not attempt to contact me or my family in anyway otherwise we’d need to escalate the situation legally. Since then, my accounts are all under a fake name, and photos of my kids are not shared. Too many crazy people out there. Instead we share photos and videos directly via text to specific people.
As a mother... who's mother doesn't have any respect for boundaries. She's a good apple! You do what is right for your kiddo!!!
The first one is so valid.. im a young teen and i like to post videos about music artists i like but i never ever post videos of my face (other then on storys and even then i make sure only my mutuals can see it)
The biggest danger in regards to social media is that you never know if someone is who they say they are, i know this from experience. When i first got a phone i was 14, and at that age i was naive, and didnt fully understand the danger of social media. I wasnt careful and encountered a pedo on both facebook and snapchat. Things could have gone horribly sideways, and i still worry about it. Parents and kids out there, please be careful with what you share online
Story 1: I get the advantages of connecting with family, but some older adults do not belong online. Let's put aside the pictures (mostly) for now, since that can be parent to parent. What's NOT is internet and information security. Think about all those questions you get asked while setting up an account... birthdays, favorite pet names, teacher names, first jobs.... half of keeping your accounts safe and/or preventing identity theft is keeping personal information to make or gain access to accounts safe. And, oh yeah, for some people now their face is a security feature to unlock their phone/account, sooooo... parents are a Good Apple there. Grandparents are a Crab Apple, but not because of maliciousness, more because they don't think like a criminal.
Story 2: Good Apple. FIL is gross, rude, and way out of line. Sure, a certain degree of honesty regarding exes can be more healthy mentally, but at the same time it's a taboo for many for a reason. And not only by extension is FIL talking about it, they're at the same time saying OP isn't attractive enough to even earn a look from the husband in high school? Talk about "I don't mean to be rude, proceeds to say rude thing."
Story 3: Absolute Crab Apple, Bud. I get it, police are scary, and we get conditioned to do what they tell us to while we're young, say 13 or 12. Minors vaping is bad for a lot of reasons beyond the nicotine (the nicotine alone is bad, but mostly due to irritation, potential for future addictions, basically a whole host of psychological reasons developing brains under 25 really should avoid it, but thankfully the carcinogens are other chemicals in tobacco.) Depending on the quality of the vape you have, you've got other issues to worry about like popcorn lung, heavy metal deposits, and an increased propensity for pneumonia and bronchitis. This is mostly just an issue for the person who vapes, though, unless they're enough of a bad apple to hotbox other people. I'd say rather than police, this should really be a problem dealt with by social workers, counselors, and addiction specialists rather than police. If police are involved, it should be on the distribution level, figuring out who's illegally supplying these teens. But to get off this rant on the ineffectiveness of modern drug enforcement and get back to OP, snitches get stitches. Much like if you see someone shoplifting food, no you didn't.
Story 4: Good Apple. You have no obligation to bring someone who hates you into your home. Being the bigger man is one thing, love being the antidote to hate is one thing. But you don't have to let someone like that into where you eat and sleep and are most vulnerable if you don't want to. If you don't feel safe, don't do it. Hell, if you don't like her, don't do it. Deradicalizing people from hate is a specialized job, don't pick it up out of a misplaced sense of obligation.
If everyone bought into the idea of snitches get stitches then crime would run rampant and law and order would not exist. That mentality is unsafe and unlawful.
@@bethanycooper9238 snitching is a little like gun ownership. Widespread gun ownership is fine in a society with good respect for and security of their firearms, and a society with a high degree of communal support and trust. In a system lacking those things, it's adding more danger to a more dangerous situation.
When a system of crime and punishment is balanced, fair, altruistic, reformative, rehabilitative, and uncorrupted, snitching is fine, because the one who is snitched against can be assured guidance back to being a productive member of society, or failing that, is ethically removed. When the system isn't that, the one snitched against faces disproportionate punishment, injustice, abuse, death, and/or being blocked out of society and locked into a cycle of recidivism and reincarceration. Laws do not give order by themselves, and laws sufficiently out of alignment with social ethics and morals breed disorder. At such times, the people call for their own system of justice and order, for none can be had through legal channels.
The National Razor came out because the society could no longer bear the injustice. It went away again when they could no longer bear the madness.
I manage a Vape shop. You have to be over 21 with a physical id just to be inside the store and if a group comes in and even one of them doesn't have an id, they all have to leave and we can't serve them.
We have to turn away kids all day who come in trying to buy stuff. Someone has to teach these kids that they aren't grown and that these things aren't good for you or cool or a trend to be followed. Its dangerous. They're still growing and developing. They don't need these things and it won't hurt them to wait until they're 21. I don't feel bad for children who lose their vapes. They shouldn't have them in the first place. Were also extremely over the disrespect and our time being wasted by them coming in knowing we can't serve them. Were already busy and don't need people wasting our time. I've actually been cussed out by angry parents and grandparents for not letting them buy for their kids.
Also, for the lgbtq couple who wouldn't allow the brothers oldest daughter there, they're in the right. Were not required to allow people who hate us or say hateful things in our space. Why should they allow that energy and angry personality in their home? Why should they be uncomfortable in the place THEY pay for?
She's gonna learn that she can't say whatever she wants totally free of consequences. Its freedom of speech, not freedom from any repercussions from what you said. Guess she's gonna have to grow up and fix herself.
For the first story, OP is definitely a good apple. I am not a parent. I am a former teacher and I was the adult sibling to child sibling. I was in high school when the internet started to be used in schools for research purposes and did my college bachelors thesis using traditional and digital research. My little brother grew up with the internet growing with him. By the time he was about 8-9 years old Facebook and smart phones were becoming popular. My mom looked to me to educate her about technology. I told her to be careful with what information she gives out because the internet wasn’t a safe place for kids. Catch a Predator was a popular show. Since my brother was old enough to give his opinion on what he wanted to be made public. My mom felt that she had a right to share what she wanted on her account and it was safe because she had her privacy set to friends. It took one post being commented on by a stranger for her to realize the danger. From that point on my brother was given the final say on anything he was mentioned or pictured in. If he asked for a post to be taken down my mom advocated for his wishes to be honored.
I love this series!!! Keep it up girl!❤
dude I am 15 I had a tiktok for 2... 2 FREAKING DAYS AND WAS SENT PICTURES OF 6 different men iykyk I completely feel that this mom is just worried for her child AS SHE SOULD BE a random dude asking for his birthday is creepy
ooooh is it petty of me that i really want a video of Rebecca replying to nasty comments and handing rude people their a$$es on a platter? because i'm not gonna lie, i would absolutely LOVE to see that! 😊😂
edit after the video: usually there's at least one story where i disagree with your judgment based on my own life experience but i don't disagree on these at all! especially that last one.
i don't blame OP for not wanting that kind of person in his house, and i'm impressed that OP's brother fully understood and sided with OP instead of his daughter. but if the SIL wants to make the argument that the niece didn't know her actions would have consequences, even though she's a legal adult, then SIL needs to take accountability for not parenting her better. that is literally a parent's job: to teach their kids right from wrong and that actions have consequences, and to do their best to make sure their kids grow up to be good people. so if SIL wants to push that excuse, she needs to take responsibility for her failings as a parent (at least in regard to that particular child).
MY Mr. Johnson was my 7-8th grade Science teacher and he was 9ne of my favorites.
My 1st, 3rd-5th, 3 of my 7th grade, all of my 8th grade teachers were all my favorites. And that in only Ele-middle. They were the best and treated me wonderfully. I just wish I was better behaved...
Just thoughts. 1-Yeah, grandma might not understand how messed up the internet is. I personally think mom is overreacting just a tad, but it is still disrespectful since they outright asked grandma to not post pictures.
2-I hate when people say they don't have a filter or nonsense like that. I think mil and fil are the childish and disrespectful people and the people who owe an apology. Not everyone has thick skin, and I don't think anyone can necessarily help that. Kudos to husband for standing both their ground. I also can't speak for high school being the best because I had a decent time, but all I remember unless I think deep is having a terrible time. My mom promised it would be the best years of my life, and she was so wrong it's sickening.
3-So, in high school, I was fairly immature, being undiagnosed with Autism. Literally, I would call out people for eating in class and not following the rules. I don't know why that was such an issue for me, but I think it's hereditary. I've learned to let others be themselves, even if it means breaking the rules. Unless it directly affects me or someone who doesn't want in, I gotta leave it alone. I totally would have mentioned if I noticed something strange in class. But these days, I wouldn't have said anything. Mrs. Rogers has a point that the kiddos don't realize what vaping can do, but I just have to live with the assumption that everyone knows the age restrictions are there for a reason. If I knew the cousin, I'd be able to better assess my potential action, whether through concern for her health or out of petty spite. In no way, shape, or form should step-mom be encouraging that behavior or threatening to make anyone but the cousin pay the fine. She got off lucky.
4-I am absolutely appalled by the niece's behavior towards her uncles. I just don't understand how you can show that kind of hatred. If the girl was under 18, I'd say you really have no choice, but she's legally an adult, though not by today's standards, and has to sleep in the bed she made. I love that OP stood his ground and did not provide refuge. I don't really have experience being outcast for an "alternative lifestyle," but I do for being a black sheep. I cut my mom's sister's family out from my life because they just can't handle that I'm weird. The things I do, like wearing nail polish as a male, making off-color jokes, just being annoying to the people I love; should really not warrant them talking down to me or ordering me around. It's not like it's hurtful. When it counts, I instill my love and morals. But they crossed a bunch of boundaries that I was not willing to allow any longer. So, that's my story. Thanks, Mrs. Rogers.
Story #2: I guess I took what FIL was saying different. I would have been proud that husband chose me over what it sounds like was immature teenage behavior. I would have sat up straighter, smile on my face, and replied, "Well thank goodness he grew up since then." Based off how everything went in the story, I guess I would have misunderstood FIL's intention with the comment. Would my reply have riled him up or shut him up? I don't blame OP for stepping away, that was a very mature thing to do. And I am so glad her husband stood up for her.
Story #3: I don't see why OP's behavior makes you think she really did know what was in the book. Her cousin was being very suspicious and it drew her attention. And if it's against rules and such a bad thing to vape, why are you calling her a tattle tale and a kiss up. Giving information to a police officer when something wrong is going on should be encouraged. I know you gave her a good apple but it didn't sound like it with how you talked about her behavior. I think she was very right in what she did. There are rules to protect us and she did what she could to help a police officer.
I almost always forget these are uploaded on Tuesday so it's a nice surprise when I go to my subscription feed and see these episodes.
Yeah, I can't get rid of my digital footprint. My grandma has been posting me since I was born. My parents did give her permission, but she knew the restrictions on what she posted off me. Oh, and my dad made a facebook account for me the day I was born, but we haven't posted on that account since the day I was born.
I never post my child on social media for my child's protection. When my child is old enough my child can create an account, but until then nope.
1. Good apple. Your kid, your rules. It’s not her place to post your child or any of their information. I’m a parent and grandparent, and though my kids are grown, I don’t post my kids or grandkids without permission. Plus, I’d hate for childhood pictures of me to be shared.
2. Good apple. Hubby is a Good Apple too. FIL is an ass. Don’t apologize. I’d have slapped the jerk for that.
3. Good apple.
4. Good apple. Your home, your rules. You don’t need to let anyone into your home who disrespects you.
no hitting
21:32 Is there some meaning of Froot Loops I'm not aware of? I know it's a brand of cereal, and also a type of roll-up candy for children. What's the illegal/dangerous meaning?
With vapes you can make them flavored and front loops are a common flavor.
I'm addicted to this series
bro I had everything boz on and as soon as he said yeah i clicked on this video and she says hold on at the same time
Right on with story #1 and 2😊
Maybe crab apple for story #3 due to your reasons
I'm not sure how relevant other folks may feel this is, but I had a photo of me graduating from college shared by an estranged grandparent. I was Very uncomfortable with that. They were able to get the photo by a family member I'd reconnected with but shared it with a tag making it seem like they were such a proud grandparent and the comments congratulating them.
I was an adult and had no objection to the actual photo, but the who/where/why made it really sketchy and uncomfortable.
For my kiddos I'm protective of what is shared, by who, and where. I have a small Facebook that I watch privacy settings on and share photos there but am becoming more... hesitant? As the kids are getting older as where the line is between me sharing about my life and getting support around parenting things vs protecting the kids rights and autonomy.
I don't think it's straight forward. I think we can look at certain things and go, "Oh no that is not appropriate". But I think knowing what the "right thing is" is much more difficult.
Story #1: I’m a parent who is cautious of what of my children goes online. We are fine posting some pictures of our kids on our personal social medias, but because the Internet is huge and scary we are pretty picky of what pictures do go on. We don’t share their names (they each have a “nickname”. And we never share personal information like birthdays.
And we ask our family to check with us before posting any pictures. Several years ago, my grandmother (the great-grandma to my kids) posted pictures without my permission and I had to talk to her about why we need her to ask us first and to never use their names. I’m not sure she truly understood, but after a couple of times of talking to her, she now always asks first.
The Internet is huge and there are so many crazy people out there, so it’s totally fair to be cautious. It’s not us being scary, but being cautious and protective. And I don’t want them to look online one day and be like, “mom, why’d you post that? I hate that.”
When they are old enough to understand and consent to their pictures being posted, I will ask them, but they are young and don’t understand the Internet yet.
Also, it’s totally okay if you personally don’t care. And it’s okay because some people don’t share pics and names, or just share pics, or just will post their name but no pics. Whatever you do is okay. But if people are questioning you and think you are crazy, then you need to stand up and advocate for yourself and your child.
For story 3 I was relived in was just a vape. They ways she talked about the other backpacks I thought she was a drug dealer.
I love watching you content it always give me something to listen to while i go about my day! 😊 it is also nice to hear your thoughts, sometimes it gives me a new idea on things myself!
I agree. I say all good apples. I think the girl in the third story did the right thing, 100 percent! If you know that someone is carrying something they're not supposed to have and the police have to get involved in the situation, absolutely tell them where it is!
Yeah, I really didn't know what it was. I just knew it was serious enough to get a police officer involved. And something other people pointed out that I didn't think of at the time was that it could have been something worse than a vape
Story #3, I understand that this is probably not the case but keep this in mind because of who wrote the POV: in high school my boyfriends ex girlfriend put a vape in my locker and then told the disciplinarian to try to get me suspended. Thank god they checked the cameras when I kept insisting it wasn't mine 😅, again this probably wasn't the case here but just some food for thought.
Family or not - aany disrespect means that person is not allowed in my home.
I totally agree with all 4 stories, 4 good apples
Story #1. It’s unconscionable the number of families who make a living by exploiting their children from their birth! I am thinking of one internet family in particular who have quints😢
Just a friendly request (story 1 focus but also good habit)... Please don't exclude foster/adoption parents. Or grandparents who are acting in a parental capacity, or another family member. I think it's much easier to use guardians over parents...
adoption parents are still parents, and i think parents could include all of those things. anyone who acts in a parental way is a parent in my opinion :)
guardians could also include the ppl responsible for u at that time, so like teachers or babysitters
With you 100% on the all good apples.
My house got flooded last week, 😢(noticing the title)
I’m fine btw, we have to rip out our basement carpet and I lost my 3d San Francisco puzzle that took me a whole summer to finish
That last story, like I’m 18, in younger than the daughter in that story, I just graduated high school like 3 months ago and started college 3 weeks ago, and yet I understand that my actions can have severe consequences. Like if you’re going to treat someone like they’re lesser than you for who they are, are you really actually surprised they don’t want you in their house?
Honestly I find it funny you brought up a Mr Johnson because I had a Mr Johnson in high school and was such a hard teacher to work with
From the title im just like.. "am I the bad apple for losing my home in a flood?"
Thank you Mrs. Rogers for a great video of Apples.
Thanks for looking out for our health too. :)
From a High School student who watches your videos!
A1: Agree, Good Apple: I DON'T HAVE KIDS, but I'm just gonna come out and say it right out the gate: whenever someone 'decides' to post ANYTHING about anyone's kid that ISN'T THEIRS, REGARDLESS of if they are 'still their family member' or not, is a BIG red flag to me. If you are not one of this 'specific' kid's parents, then you have NO opinion! If the parents of ANYONE'S kid wanted their own child to be on the internet in some way, shape, or form, then I'M SURE they would just do it themselves. I believe parents have every right to be strict about the safety of their own children in general, but ESPECIALLY online. It IS an unfortunate reality, but there ARE...'people' out there, who don't have the best intentions with kids, nevermind kids THAT young. This MIL should be grateful that her DIL decided to keep her in their child's life in the first place because parents are ALLOWED to not let any family member see their child(ren) AT ALL, for ANY reason because THEY are the parents, and again, they have ALL the say in EVERYTHING. Her MIL was completely in the wrong, especially because she was already told once to NOT post their child on the internet, and she did it anyway!
A2: Agree, Good Apple: This poor OP did nothing wrong at all! Some people DO have different reactions to comments like that, but ANY comment like that DOES NOT need to said in the first place! What the FIL said was completely inappropriate, and VERY rude; not necessarily about the husband's 'player phase' because I assume that's just a fact of his past, but about her 'not being his type'? COMPLETELY out of line! OP's husband is married to her, so CLEARLY she IS his type, and I'm PRETTY SURE that means this 'FIL' needs to get his eyes checked. I would just stay FAR AWAY from her husband's entire family if they are going to continue acting like OP was in the wrong because she's not! I am also VERY proud of her husband for standing up for her and IMMEDIATLY coming to her defense, good job husband!
A3: Agree, Good Apple: I can honestly see both sides like OP's aunt can. On one hand, you have a person who brought a vape to school(which is WRONG), and on the other you can see the person who did it was your family member(Oh no! I feel bad...). I agree that it IS sad to see a family member doing something wrong, but that doesn't make WHATEVER is was that THEY did wrong an okay thing to do. And that CERTAINLY does NOT warrant Op's SM berating at her for doing what she thought was right, ESPECIALLY when it involves things that involve the POLICE. Wake up and smell the roses, SM, the world does not revolve around you or your family! OP did the right thing by NOT minding her own business in THIS situation. NEVER let anyone else's opinion of you OR your decisions affect your day...unless it's YOU who was in the wrong, that is.
A4: Agree, Good Apple: I will say that I am a Christian, and like many Christians will probably agree with me on this, same sex marriage IS wrong. HOWEVER, that does NOT mean that OP's niece was in the right for yelling at him or his husband. If I was her, I would also say that their marriage is wrong and frowned upon by God, but that does not mean I would hate them for it. Sure, I wouldn't like that specific part of them being gay, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't support them as my family or friend, I would just not be either of their wing girl, that's all. I refuse to let that cloud my judgement though, I promise. I am genuinely glad that they offered their family to stay at their place since they had the room, and I'll be honest. If 'I' were gay and married to a girl, I would also be spiteful towards my rude niece, too. MAYBE if she was nicer to the both of them, then she may not have liked it, but at least THEN she would have a room over her head WITH the rest of her family. It doesn't matter who you are OR your beliefs, you should ALWAYS feel safe in your own home. Mr. OP did the right thing.
Story #1 I am a parent of a child who is constantly mistaken as being older than she is. I mean this as she was not even a tween yet and mistaken as a 20 year old. I am very careful on who can see pictures of her on the internet. Nothing that shows where we are or what we are doing. I say good on the mom for keeping her child safe. Do what feels comfortable for their household.
Story 1: I love posting a few cute family photos online with my daughter in them, but i keep it on private chats or profiles. My in laws aren't online, and my parents work in IT so i trust they have their online security down.
I have however seen this go bad so i try to be carefully even if i trust the people around me. A family friend posted her then 12 yr old daughters first ever love letter to a boy on Facebook, lanughing about how cute young love was. She was friends with the parents of hwr daughters classmates! It was lucky non of them saw. Her oldest have turned 18 recently and have gone no contact with his mom. I just try to support the two younger kids until they get their freedom too.
Okay so story number 3 hits close to home for me. I was a really good kid until junior year when I fell in with the wrong crowd. one of those kids was my so-called best friend, we’ll call them person A. They had a significant other at another school that I would cross paths with at the local technical school. For context one of my parents worked for the school district I was in but, at a different school so I’d be dropped off at 7:30am each morning by that parent. Person A could drive and was 18 at the time so they met me early one morning and said if I gave their hoodie to their S/O that I’d get a vape mod and some juice. For context, this was back when the legal age for nicotine was 18 and disposables weren’t really a thing yet. Obviously seeing all my so called friends vaping, smoking and doing other bad things to their bodies, I said yes and got my box mod vape with juice at the end of the day. I was 17 and have not been able to quit nicotine since. I started with no nicotine vapes thinking I’d just look cool and not feel the effects at all. Well it’s years later and I’ve tried dip, cigarettes, vaping anyway I can get nicotine basically. I work in road construction IT and have to be very active most days at work. The vaping and other nicotine products have caused me to go from someone who had amazing lungs to someone who gets winded walking up a hill. If the OP’s cousin has parents who care and made them stop, they might thank you years later. I wish I had someone to tell on me before I got to this point. I’ve tried, patches, gums, lozenges, quitting cold turkey- none of it works for me especially long term. OP- I am proud of you! You did the right thing even if made you unpopular in some people’s eyes. Doing the right thing is rarely ever popular. Everyone wants to be cool and fit in even if it means being on oxygen earlier than you think or worse. Stand tall and don’t stray from your morals for any reason! Good job 👍
If it helps, my cousin is out and living with I think her boyfriend/maybe husband (my memory ain't the best and we don't talk except for on TikTok and Facebook) and has a kid now. She's doing good for herself
Story 3, i would have totally thought it was more serious, especially now adays, god forbid it was a gun or something and didn't say anything
20:33 they started doing this at my middle school this school year 🫠