One time I got explosive diarrhea during class and I didn't even ask my teacher to get up I just ran to the bathroom I wasn't going to explain a biological emergency before it happened. Easier to ask forgiveness than permission.
There shouldn't need to be an emergency. Gotta pee? Go. Why is it even a question. Ludacris. The only time I have disagreed with her. I would have left that job as well
@purpleclaws202 obviously. But why should 80% of a class suffer for the 10% who break the rules? They'll fail and either learn their lesson or go on to be Crack heads or prostitutes 🤷♀️ it's not the teachers job to decide who gets to poop and who doesn't.
Story 1: I went to a high school that wasn't super privileged and there were always feminine hygiene products available. Lots of teachers just had them in their desks, but if they didn't, all the different offices around the school stocked them. Obviously my experience is not everyone's experience, but I don't think it's completely unreasonable for that mom to assume the school would have some.
@@transandpets UK too? My secondary had them at the medical thingy or office upon request. My sixth form had them in all the girl’s toilets. Saved me a few times.
No child should be denied access to the bathroom, ever, for any reason, period. It may be policy, and not the teacher, but it's a bad policy. Bathroom access is health, and it should be treated as such.
Exactly, I have gotten a bladder infection because of such policies. I had a drs note to tell them I cannot be told no to go to the bathroom, and they still told me no.
usually the policy is 10 min before or after no kid can go. because kids skip out on class. and one kid at a time because they like to sneak off to smoke in the bathroom. or go meet up with their SO. and if we know there's a lockdown drill coming or something, I say no because i just want to deal with that first and need to know where my kids are. we had a real fire and my student told me he was in the bathroom. when i told officials where he was, he wasn't there. he was never there. he snuck into the gym to play basketball. It's all the kids abuing the batthroom passes that have made the system the way it is. we are responsible for protecting and knowing where you are at all times. when i didn't know where my kid was during a real fire, i had a complete panic attack.
I’m currently in high school and we have policies set that we can’t go to the bathroom the first or last 10 of periods but most teachers break those in emergencies. And about the access my public high school has them in some bathrooms but not all but in my chorus class there’s a giant yellow tool box filled with tampons and pads and its kind of funny that there in a tool box
I had to have it put into my 504 plan in high school that I could not be refused access to the bathroom. I have IBS-D. They also couldn’t yell at me for how long it took me, or stop me from going to the bathroom if someone else had already gone and hadn’t come back. In college, I just got up and walked out of the room, because at 18+ I was fully expected to be able to handle my bodily functions while balancing being in class. Shocking, I know.
Facts^^^ I've run classrooms before and if I disagree with a rule because i feel like it would have a negative effect on my students (emotionally or physically). I'll tell the principle that, then I wouldn't follow that rule.
According to my female friends, plenty of teachers are willing to break the hygiene product rule as long as you know which one to ask. Some male teachers even informed the students who to ask
my teacher said to my whole class that you arent allowed to go to the bathroom / nurse for any reason throughout class, no protocols, just wont let you. someone asked what if it s a “girl emergency” and my teacher straight up told us it doesnt matter, and you should be able to guess when your period is going to come and prepare ahead, and you cant use that as an excuse, even tho i have that class for 2 hours💀
@@Number1MysteryI used to only have 5 minutes passing periods I was already late to class without stopping by the bathroom luckily most teacher didn’t care if I showed up like 5 minutes late cause I went to the bathroom.
For story 4 i love how sensitive you were towards OP and weren't judgemental at all about them dumpster diving. Honestly it makes me sad because its clear OP isnt doing well financially and his roommates are eating the food he does have.
I totally agree. Also who is leaving fruit and veggies around a cart of eggs??? Also we do not know what they do at the grocery store they can drop things on the dirty floor and put it back on shelf and act like nothing happen. Why are you touching other folks food, there is no chance you accidentally eat something. He knows he did not buy or have any darn eggs. Stop playing with folks.
@@Madison-qw3yvI'm glad to hear you are doing well now,and congratulations to you for escaping your abuser...it's not an easy thing to do and you should be proud of yourself
I don’t believe him. I may be the only one, but I feel he dumpster dived for eggs or food on purpose to find the culprit. He makes it sound innocent, I don’t think it was. I think he did it on purpose, he didn’t want to buy the laxatives so he got free food instead. He’s lucky they didn’t get bad salmonella poisoning. I know many believe him, I don’t. I don’t think he’s a bad person for testing his housemates but I think it was a dangerous thing to do. Otherwise feeling guilty over a mistake you had no intention to do doesn’t warrant a AITBA posting. I would have felt indignant like they deserved it if I really went dumpster diving & this happened by mistake… I also would have told everyone that I get my food from the dumpster & im sure that would have stopped the stealing before it got to this… He saw how badly sick they got and felt a bit guilty for it
It is truly insane that students in America can’t go to the bathroom when ever they want. Where I come from you could just walk out of the classroom without telling the teacher and nothing would happen as long as you weren’t gone for too long. Telling a child they can’t go to the bathroom when they need to us insane. Like if they have to hold themselves for too long to often that can legit damage their bladder.
Yeah there was this rule in our school "no using the bathroom the first 10/15 minutes or last 10/15 minutes" even then they can just say no?! And this one time in elementary where we had an hour school ball thing where we could not go the whole time just because we had to learn the dance with the boys/girls, ITS SO ANNOYING
Where are you from I’m just wondering… I’ve never experienced just being able to get up and go to the bathroom without having to ask a teacher so I’m just so curious..
There is another issue in the US with just walking out. It is deemed that teachers are legally responsible for the kids during their class periods so kids aren't allowed to leave the room without a teacher knowing just in case there is a fire drill or code red or something, the teacher is legally supposed to be able to account for you at all times
I know, I'm from New Zealand and I found this utterly horrifying and shocking to hear, I've seen a lot of things from television when it comes to how things work in America and I know it's not always accurate, but the fact that you can't go to the bathroom whenever you feel like it is utterly ridiculous, no matter what age you are. For my school in New Zealand in high school you could go any time during the period, there were select times because they didn't want everyone leaving at once but for the most part if you needed to go to the bathroom you would just get up and go sometimes you would just like mention to the teacher because going to the bathroom only takes like four minutes and depending on how far away your classroom is I can understand like missing class time but if you need to go you should just go and it's so surprising to me in America they have all of these bathroom passes, like in all the movies you have to have a bathroom pass and have to wait till the end of class and the fact that there's no nurses and no hygiene products like we had a nurse yes she wasn't always stocked with lots of hygiene products but she still had some And honestly it's just really sad I cannot believe that America has all these kids with like five different electronic products in their schools are underfunded and they don't have hygiene products or nurses and can't go to the bathroom when they need to, I can understand in terms of not wanting someone to leave class early or skip school or whatever but most of the time kids just want to go to the bathroom and it is truly sad that they can'tI actually didn't think this was a real thing and I'm sad to hear it is😊
1st story seriously I will never believe it is acceptable to tell anyone they cannot use the restroom. Using the bathroom is the same as eating or drinking water. Its not okay to deny someone that needed the restroom. I understand Mrs. Rodgers mightve been an amazing and kind teacher. But, a lot of teachers are on power trips and like to lord over bathroom privileges.
I'm an elementary school 2nd shift custodian and sometimes I have to cover my supervisor during the day shift. At lunch time, there are kids asking me if they can use the bathroom and I tell them yes everytime. I used to be a Para and some kids would ask me if they can use the bathroom and again I say yes or tell them, if they have a bathroom in the classroom, that they can go when the other person gets out. I never say no to kids who need to use the bathroom. I get the whole safety and people who use the bathroom to their advantage, but come on at least give them the benefit of the doubt. I remember when I was in school, some grades told us we can only go in the bathroom like 3 or 5 times (I forgot how many) during class in a marking period which is ridiculous if you ask me. So yea I'm not afraid to just tell kids to go
I totally emphasize with this, however coming from a very small high school where at most it took you 1 min to get to your next class and had 5-7 min passing period which gave us plenty of time to go to the restroom between classes. Most teachers still let us go but there were some that wouldn’t because of the long passing period.
@@stephanieburgess8217what shocked me is I’m in a bigger school with 3 building(high school) and I had 5 minute passing period that wasn’t even enough to get to class on time much less use the bathroom.
Story 1: If there were rules that kept the teacher from releasing the student, she could have explained that. Either to the mom or the student, but instead she just to ld the kid to hold it and told the mom to get over it and saying she didn't know it was an emergency. I can't imagine the policies being a secret and it would be so easy to simply say, "I'm so sorry this happened. I thought this student just needed to use the restroom and x, y, z are the policies and that's why I didn't let her go. Bad apple
My daughter's kindergarten teacher wouldn't let her go to the bathroom and she peed herself. She got a UTI because of that. I was furious and called the principal. He informed me that he would let my daughter have more bathroom passes
@@JessFirefoxa KINDERGARTENER?! They didn’t let a KINDY KID GO TO THE BATHROOM? They are barely out of nappies! I was still wetting the bed and wearing pull-ups at night as a kindy kid and that’s totally normal. They don’t have full control of their bladders.
1st story: Based on the information known, Im giving the teacher bad apple, at my old school, there were so many teachers who just didnt allow bathroom breaks, there was no rule, it was just the teachers. I give the mom crab apple because she was angry for a reason, I dont think she handled it the best way but I do agree that she should've asked questions. The teacher also told the mom to just get over it which I dont like
Story 4: I agree that OP should have told the others about where some of his food was coming from and/or gotten a small frig to use for those specific items and have that be in his room. That being said, the rest is absolutely the fault of the roommate(s)! It's one thing of someone accidently grabs your food once in a while, like once a month. But, when OP has called out the issue to the roommates multiple times because it's happening every 2-3 days, and they just brush it off like it's no big deal...then I think it's safe to assume that ALL of them are likely taking OP's food intentionally! Especially now, food is really expensive and they don't have a right to essentially take money from you in the form of food. So it would seem that everyone should label their food going forward OR put frigs in each room to keep and clearly define their food from the others.
For story 2: not knowing your heritage could cause you/your doctor to miss early warning signs of genetic illnesses. It can be dangerous for the kid to not know, especially since she’ll be an adult soon and need to make her own decisions about her health.
Oh so true!!!!! My dad was a jack rabbit and had 9 children. 6 of them have HPV. My full blood sister ended up with cervical cancer from getting the injections and we've been educating our younger siblings and my brother's children on this so they understand what to do when they get a little older.
The eggs and bread story. Good apple no question about it. A lot of perfectly good foods get thrown out every day. If you didn’t put it in the fridge DON’T eat. It wasn’t done deliberately.
#4: good apple all the way. Housemates are judging the dumpster diving, they should be more considerate before taking food especially after OP spoke to them about it.
I have to give story 1 a crab apple or good apple. There is no way I could give a mom who was upset that her child had to sit in a puddle of her own blood a bad apple. *Maybe* the teacher wasn't a bad apple if there were strict policies involved (although, given the way she just dismissed the child's needs, I doubt that), but then whoever makes and enforces the policies are super bad apples. Like. I'm sorry. The mom had every right to be furious about this. It's disgusting.
I sat in my own blood a lot; partly because I never had a teacher that made me feel comfortable to go to the bathroom and I always forget when I’m going to start my period and often it comes late if I’m stressed
3:08 this is actually a pretty important problem. Bathroom access is not something that should be gate-kept to this extent. I understand the need to keep track of students but some protocols take it way too far.
@@JessFirefox I wet myself in second grade because a teacher wouldn't let me use the bathroom. There was one right in the classroom but she didn't want to have to repeat the instructions on something. I was humiliated. And my Mom didn't have access to a car so she had to have the neighbor bring me clean clothes at the school. Still makes me mad to this day. Teacher was otherwise nice, but she wasn't thinking that small children can't always hold it or are able to time their bathroom breaks like adults can learn to do. Even then there are emergencies.
I had a class freshman year where the teacher gave everyone a punch card each semester and every time they went to the bathroom they got a hole punch. I think it had like six spots and any you didn’t use became extra credit points. students who didn’t use it at all got the most extra credit points. This is completely wild to me. Despite never using the card myself, (I went to the bathroom every nutrition break and every lunch break and during passing periods if I needed to) but what if someone has IBS, or heavy periods, or any number of things that mean they need to use a bathroom more than someone else might. She was literally giving us a better grade because we didn’t go to the bathroom. Crazy.
story 1: as a student myself, being in this position is the worst. i’ve been in situations like this and having the SMALL PORTION of teachers that will deny you the use of the restroom is something i highly disagree about. i say bad apple for the teacher just because if thier were rules in place, i feel like the teacher could have explained that. crab apple for the mom because of the yelling at the teacher (even though it came from a good place; sticking up for her daughter)
@@Rebecca.Rogersto put it bluntly, I had to take tampons out when they were too dry and hurt just because I was going to a class where the teacher would refuse bathroom breaks. It's so messed up that sometimes it's not even the teacher's fault though. now I was a straight A teacher's pet type of kid so even those teachers sometimes let me go but not enough to count on it.
Story 2: I'm curious how Grandma didn't know she wasn't the daughter of the mom. She is the son's mother.... did she never see them during the time "mom" would have been pregnant with the child? How did they explain that away? I need more details. But, I'm with you, Good Apple all the way! Good job, Grandma!
Honestly feel like that story was a troll. Nobody noticed she wasn't pregnant and a baby came out of nowhere? She gets these off reddit so to me it seems like someone was trolling
I wish she wouldn't have left that part out, though I understand why as it was added in a note at the end of the story. They lived across the country from each other and hadn't visited for like over 5 years thus didn't know the circumstances of the birth.
I think it’s actually possible that the mom is one those people who wears baggy clothes and just doesn’t put on much weight while pregnant. Also if Child A & Child B are within 9 - 12 of each other then… the mom doesn’t drop the baby weight maybe puts on some more then a second baby appears… it’s reasonable to think oh she’s wasn’t JUST gaining weight she got pregnant again.
As someone in high school it is so annoying when teachers don’t let you go to the bathroom however many kids go to the bathroom to vape or skip class and still get marked in. I see why it is frustrating but teachers have their reasons and responsibilities to kids learning
I think the questionable thing about the teacher in story 1 is that she justified it by saying that the child didn’t explain that she was on her period, which suggests to me that she would’ve let her go if she knew the reason (meaning her hands weren’t tied by policy). It sounds like the daughter said it was an emergency, and imo it shouldn’t really matter whether it’s a pee-in-your-pants emergency or a bleed-through-your-pants emergency. Yes, mom should’ve prepared her child, but it sounds like the teacher also had a role here
I have beef with these STUPID bathroom rules because I literally have bladder damage and have peed myself in front of my classmates. I also had a male teacher refuse to let me go to the office for a tampon knowing I needed one because my period came back unexpectedly. THE AMERICAN EDUCATION SYSTEM IS CRAP AND I WILL GOVE TEACHERS CRAP FOR NOT RESPECTING LITERAL HUMAN BEINGSSSS!!!!
I have been that hungry, were I had to dumpster dive at a fast food restaurant to survive, so I can feel this guys pain. I haven't lived in a communal living situation where I had to worry about that. I also understand your point of view that he should put this in a different area so other food doesn't get contaminated. Good apple 100%.
1st story I've personally delt with. My son came home crying because he wasn't allowed to go to the bathroom and ended up pooping on himself. The way I approached it was I messaged her and asked what happened and why he was not able to go. She told me because the kids were playing in the bathroom she has them go into groups so she can better monitor them. I was understanding and had him express to her that if he really needs to go to let her know and not stay quiet. Hasn't happened again.
Story 1 you didnt judge by the information given like you normally would. The teacher was just rude and dismissive and didnt offer anyexplanation. My schools and every school I knew required a nurse and sold feminine products from bathroom dispensers for a quarter eqch. They didnt have applicators but they worked. The teacher was a jerk twice, it just sounds like this teacher doesnt have compassion. Maybe dont yell, but those things seem like basic requirements I have never not seen in a school. If i found out that was the case I would take my child out of that school for homeschooling. There were no bathroom rules mentioned so we shouldnt assume tgere is one. The teacher just doesnt care. Crab apple mom, fully bad apple teacher.
@bettyjames89 I had a feeling. Normal decent people don't react like that. Maybe don't start off yelling, but we have all been there at least once and that's your baby!
EDIT: There are very few foods that I would want to dumpster dive. Eggs, meats, and milk are on the list of NOPE. They were thrown out for a reason. And I agree that the food from the dumpster should've been placed in a marked bag. Like: Op's dumpster eggs DO NOT TOUCH! And maybe tell the others, "Hey, these are mine, please don't touch." And after all that the roommate consumed the eggs then that is their roommate's fault. I'm going crab.
Story 2: Good Apple; having heard a lot from donor conceived and adopted people, that girl deserved to know who her parents are, especially for health reasons. And yeah, knowing you're an affair baby adds another layer to this, so even better for the grandma to step up as her advocate reminds me of my own grandma, who not only stood up for me but also helped raise me in a lot of ways more than my mom.
story 1: didn't we already have a discussion about the health risks of holding your pee? Didn't we also have a discussion about not reading into things and just taking the story at face value? I say go crab, because she's right to be angry, but she only went to the teacher and to the principle also to discuss what needs to happen to prevent this situation in the future. (and also appreantly the teacher needs to have a lesson on the health risks of holding your pee from what we see here)
For story one, I’ll correct Rebecca. She said in what world would they have a nurse on staff and feminine hygiene products. My school had both. I had 2 school nurses. A nurses office is very common and until this story I didn’t know some schools don’t have that. All the schools in my area have one. So if this person is from Upstate New York or something like me and they moved I wouldn’t check to see if a nurse was there either. I would also assume the school had one bc I’ve never seen differently. It’s not the teachers fault but it’s fair that the mom assumed there was a school nurse
One of the classes at our school(ap gov) teamed up with other schools and got a bill passed in our state requiring feminine hygiene products in all the bathrooms at school.
Every school I have worked for has had feminine products in the nurse's office. However, it isn't necessarily common for a school to have a full time nurse. My current school shares a nurse with many other schools. I think we get her for a half day once per week. When I was at a different school in the same district, there was a nurse certain mornings or afternoons, but secretaries end up being stand-in nurses the majority of the time.
Not every school has a nurse. I have worked on campuses that had a part-time nurse or even a part-time clinic attendant (not licensed nurse). Rebecca was correct. Not all schools can afford staffed nurses and full clinics.
For Story 4, you might want to consult with your friendly neighborhood lawyer, but you can be criminally responsible for setting booby traps. (Not saying this was a booby trap but it could be interpreted as one). And civilly responsible here for the medical bills regardless of the intent.
The first story, I've had PCOS-like symptoms (a menstrual problem, if you didn't know), so I'd go with crab apple/good apple. I completely understand if the teacher had policies blocking her from letting the student go to the bathroom, however, every woman with a period will tell you, you cannot hold it, it's not like urine. Especially if that period is heavy.
Not even just that, it was the girls FIRST period. You have 0 clue when that’ll hit!!!! I remember getting my first when I got off the bus and didn’t know till I was at home (only a block away thankfully). Most parents (as far as I know) don’t really stock for that until the kid gets their first one or if they have an older sister who already has for a while. Middle school is rough and that does NOT help.
Story 1. If the teacher did that because of a policy, she should’ve said so. As it stands, she seems like one of those teachers who loves exerting her limited power by treating the students like less than human. Even so, OP didn’t know anything about her reasoning beforehand. OP literally said she “barged into her teacher’s classroom.” That shows that she didn’t approach the situation calmly and maturely, ready to listen to the teacher. Plus, she confronted the teacher alone in a classroom; that teacher doesn’t know her or what she might do when angry. It could’ve been very scary for the teacher! If OP said she was furious but wanted to hear out the teacher then walked away still mad, that’d be one thing. But how OP approached it makes her a *bad apple.* As for school policies about tampons, that shouldn’t prohibit them from providing pads! I completely agree with your assessments of the other stories.
story number 4 i agree he isn't a bad apple. I know what it was struggling to eat and all. But seriously I admit I was scared to tell people how I was struggling so I am sure he didn't want to tell them. But of course it's sad no one would admit taking his food so I am sure there ain't one person that didn't eat his food
For Story 1 - I’m from Scotland and where I’m from, the schools here are provided hygiene products and most rooms have them. I see where you come from but I was SHOCKED, they don’t provide the schools the products!!! Periods are very seen and cared about here. Some of the Senior boys this year started a program of having products in the toilets. THE SENIOR BOYS DID THAT!!!! I’d say crab apple cluster from the information we are given though
Suggestion: make the “girls” bathroom pass a soft sided pencil case, which you just put femme products in, that way there doesn’t have to be an awkward/possible “inappropriate” convo with students. They will definitely get curious and look as soon as they are out of your class anyway.
It wouldn’t even have to just be the “girls” bathroom pass, it could be everyone’s, if the boys ask questions that would be a great opportunity to reach them about periods.
Story 1: How is it that schools have money for toilet paper but not for a limited supply of emergency hygiene supplies? Feminine hygiene is just hygiene. I get that schools are underfunded, but that is the bare minimum. We need to stop treating these needs as unimportant. It’s not okay that the teacher was dismissive, telling mom to “get over it.” No reasonable person would expect a 12 year old to explain in front of 30 other 12 year olds that they are on their period. Under these facts, the teacher was a bad Apple. Period.
As a daughter of a teacher and seeing so much go on in the bathroom like eating sweets,kissing,putting on makeup and much more, my fake friends have always said don’t tell your mum or we wouldn’t be friends. This led to me getting in trouble for not making a noise about it. There was a serious incident in the girls bathroom in my school so people were turning the taps the wrong way and braking the pipes leading to leaking, which cost the school more the £1,000.
Story 3: Good Apple; at that point, I would tell the grandmother, "you didn't want anything to do with your grandchild after she came out with her truth, you lost the right to say anything."
It’s crazy seeing the difference between “poorer” and my school. I go to a richer school and I’m just realizing how lucky I am for that bc we have a nurse that’s there all day and an emt just in case someone has some an emergency plus tons of tampons and pads in the office and bathroom. Love it vids ❤
With the last story I think we need a new category. The bruised Apple . Still mostly good but a few simple steps, like labeling the eggs as OPs (didn't hear that it was labeled) would have prevented the slightly bad spot
Story 1: Policies are one thing, but when I was in school, some teachers were just straight power tripping. Granted, I graduated clear back in 2001/2002.
My middle school had a policy that you can't get up from a test for any reason otherwise you were done with the test. That was until I handed in a half finished science test that was covered in blood. Also my shirt, pants, face, hair, desk, and seat were also covered in blood. My nose had started bleeding and I ended up needing to get it cauterized to get it to stop. I was 12 & extremely shy and a rule follower so I had sat there with a bleeding nose for about 30 minutes trying to take my test (the teacher was at their desk the entire time grading the tests from the prior class). My mom was not kind to the teacher (for not noticing me bleeding for 30 minutes not the policy) or principal and threatened to sue the school. The policy was changed so that you couldn't go to the bathroom but could ask to go to the office/nurse
I have stomach related chronic illnesses and it was documented in the nurse and in my IEP but yet when I asked to go to the bathroom there was always that teacher that didn't let me go. I think it's insane that teachers deny bathroom access especially to those with medical conditions. And women who do have their periods, my cycle is so irregular sometimes you don't know when it's coming and you have to leave. Many people including myself other symptoms along with bleeding to where they need to go to the bathroom asap. In the real world, you never ask to go to the bathroom. In college you just got up and at work in my office you do the same. When I worked retail, I'd tell someone I'm leaving the sales floor for a few minutes but you don't ask to go. Going to the bathroom isn't a privilege... everyone should be able to without refused entry, health issues or not but especially those with issues. The teacher saying to "get over it" and "I wouldn't have known" I mean you shouldn't have to explain why you need to use the bathroom... and the teacher saying to the OP to "get over it" is rude. I may not have yelled at the teacher, I would have came in more assertive and maturely, but I can see where her anger is coming from as well so I'm going to say crab apple!!
As a New Zealander, hearing that first story was so surprising to me we had both counsellors and nurses at my high school, I don't know about other high schools in New Zealand but the one I went to was pretty chill about a lot of stuff and don't get me wrong we still had certain times in each period that we could leave to go to the bathroom you couldn't just get up and go any time, but for example dissecting animals in science class kids would faint or need to get fresh air so they would leave the classroom other people would get sick or have something happen and need to see the nurse or go to the bathroom, there were many times I would leave class just to quickly go to the bathroom and come back. The only thing I know about American schools is from television and it seems like they still have counsellors or nurses least in the movies and TV shows I've seen I know movies and TV aren't always a true accurate depiction of real life, but I've heard a lot of people say especially when it comes to prom, Halloween etc a lot of what you see on TV is very similar to What it's really like in the states. So I find it truly sad that you are not allowed to leave during class time just to go to the bathroom, something that all kids need to do, not everyone is on a bathroom schedule, especially when it comes to younger kids, for high school I can understand wanting to have a stricter schedule to make sure that people aren't just ditching class or Leaving early etc and really need to go to the bathroom, it does also depend how far away the bathrooms are from the classroom, however going to the bathroom usually takes between 2 to 4 minutes which isn't a lot of class time so it doesn't really seem like a big deal, yes a lot of kids going at once could be an issue, so as long as you regulate it And have certain times within each period that students are allowed to go to the bathroom, I don't think it should be a problem, again my school was pretty chill about going to the bathroom, if someone fainted was sick or just really needed to use the bathroom because they had their period or .. so I'm really surprised that kids could only go before class or at lunchtime, sometimes you might eat something bad or something might go wrong in class which means you need to see the nurse or go to the bathroom so you should be able to, but again I know my school is probably very different from schools in America and I can only speak for my schooling experience I don't know what it was like for other students going to school in New Zealand maybe it was just my high school, but this was a real surprise to me and I feel so sorry for anyone who wasn't able to go to the bathroom when they needed to. Don't get me wrong I understand missing out on school and not wanting to miss something important because you were in the bathroom, but when you need to go you should go, at least in my opinion!
EDITED: Doing a re-listen after 7 months and I think I was wrong at first. I really wasn't thinking at the time just blazing through it all. Now that I have a calmer mind and can actually think for once in a really long time, I think I agree with Bad apple. To start I think the mom should have prepared the daughter more. Like having some products in her bag for these emergencies. (extra change of clothing, pads and tampons and whatever else the daughter needs.) And explain to the daughter that it is possible to have it during school and what she should do if it does happen. I agree that the policies of students having limited bathroom breaks are stupid but I do understand that they are there to prevent kids from ditching class. It does suck that some punish all. And in a perfect world this wouldn't happen, but we don't live in a perfect world. The mom was too rough towards the teacher and should've asked what happened from her pov.
Story 1 : okay - I’d rather get written up than have a kid pee themselves and/or period emergency- there’s no way I’m letting someone sit uncomfortably because of policy and if a mess was made in my classroom then get it turned on me to take better care of my room - no way.
My children have always been told if the teacher tells them they can't go to the bathroom, to just leave the class and if the teacher has a problem then to contact me. In regards to having products, then they should be available especially for the girls that get their first period at school.
For the school situation, keep in mind that the mom is 40. Things were WAY different back in the day. All schools had full time nurses, and all schools had sanitary supplies. The cost of living was much lower, so schools had better funding. People were not so worried about getting sued for giving basic care.That said, I always made sure that my daughter had a pencil case full of supplies and Advil just in case. It violated that "zero tolerance about drugs" to give her OTC pain relief, but I didn't give a hoot.
Story 1: in my school they lock the toilets during lessons sometimes and teachers aren't supposed to let you out of lessons to go to the toilet but because it is an all girls school there is a basket with pads that anyone can get easily and a lot of teachers let you out anyway if you really need to go.
Bathroom policy is always weird to me from school to school. I know some of our local schools that are a few cities away still have female product machines in the bathrooms, but our local school does not. A few years ago (I think 2021-2022) we had a local district that locked the bathrooms at the High school between classes because too many kids were congregated in them, but they also discouraged kids from using them during class. So the only time the kids really had to use the bathrooms were before school, lunch and after school.
My favorite Christmas movie is Muppet Christmas Carol. We watch it every year on Christmas Eve, so that when Kermit sings "One More Sleep 'Til Christmas," it's true! 🥰
story 1: teacher is definetly a bad apple i would understand if policies placed by the school forced the teacher to forbid students from going to the bathroom, but even if there was a policy, why didnt that teacher let the student/parent know? if there was a policy, the teacher would have said something. the teachers rudeness and being like "just hold it in" and "get over it" also dont help her case and I think in your discussion about it you skipped her attitude about it and the fact the teacher didn’t say why. there is definetly teachers out there who do things like this, I had one who would only allow 2 bathroom breaks every 9 weeks and it wasnt a school policy cause every other teacher in the school would let you go to the bathroom whenever you needed, especially during an emergency
I think the thing about the food that makes me the most sad is that this guy is clearly struggling and his roomates are STILL stealing his only food that he had to dumpster dive for in the first place
Wow I never realized that some schools actually just don’t let students go to the bathroom. I have never in my life been told no to going to the bathroom, sure sometimes teachers will ask if you can hold it for a little until they finish whatever it is that they’re explaining but it’s never a no, and if you say it’s an emergency after they ask if you can hold it they’ll let you go.
The best teacher I ever had he always let us going to the bathroom, he had a whole cupboard full of feminine products and perfumes for us, he was the schools “3rd counselor”/ the best one. AND HE WAS A NAVY VETERAN love that man and miss him all the time since I graduated. 😢
I had this teacher who only let kids go to the bathroom during passing time which is fine but there’s only four minutes for passing time and I was always afraid of being counted tardy bc I had to go to the bathroom during passing time. I just think personally think that teachers shouldn’t be able to count kids absent when they’re at the bathroom and they asked. I also hated the way when I asked before the bell rang she would say it’s still your passing time and it just felt kind of passive aggressive. 😢
For Story 1 My school has a policy that you can’t go to the bathroom between the first 15 min and last 15 min in class (classes are usually 90 min long) but if it’s an emergency then they will let you go the teacher is the bad Apple 🍎 and OP is a 🦀 🍎 plus look at OP’s responses in the comments about the teacher’s reasoning for not letting her daughter go to the bathroom it’s utterly ridiculous 😅
Story two: good apple. I can kind of relate to this because I myself am adopted. Thankfully, my parents allowed me to get a DNA test. I would be so mad if my parents told me that I couldn’t find out my genetics. I’m very proud of the Grandma for being supportive of her granddaughter, no matter what her parents said.
For story 1, if the teacher's reasoning was school policy and not wanting to get in trouble, she could have explained that. If she chose not to (if it was true), then the mom can't be blamed for not assuming it was her reason.
The reason I would go bad apple for the teacher for story #1 is the response to the parent. “Get over it” as the response is such a jerk response to this situation. Also as another commenter pointed out, the teacher didn’t know it was a period emergency but the child did state it was an emergency and the teacher just denied. I do appreciate the extra insight on different policies in schools about this but I can’t get behind not letting a child go to the restroom. That’s ridiculous to me.
My school nurse office always carried pads at the very least at every school Noted, they were cheap and not at all for heavy flow but could help in an emergency. So I am grateful for that as someone with highly irregular periods
If you can handle the cursing, The Ref is my favorite. It's wild. I know Kevin Spacey is canceled for legitimate concerns, but I just love this movie and everybody else in it. So worth it.
As a girl who used to have HORRID & heavy periods that had 0 schedule without knowing the root cause of it, I don't like the idea of kids being denied the bathroom let alone having to tell the teacher in front of the whole class in order to go. I still remember the day I started my period one time as a freshman in HS. I raised my hand & asked to go to the bathroom but I was denied over & over despite me saying it was an emergency. I got up to just go cause I knew I would bleed through my pants but was yelled at & he blocked the door. I ended up bleeding through my pants, it was incredibly humiliating & that's stuck with me to this day since at 30YO.
Story 1: The part, when they were no feminine products in the bathroom made me think of this: In my middle school, they used to have a little storage container in the corner of the bathroom with feminine products like pads, but then they had to remove it because immature girls decided it would be funny to put them all over the stalls and stuff so then they had to remove it and I just felt bad for the people who really needed them, like why! And mind you that the girls knew what they were what they were for because health class, so like why.
Story 2- that's a wild assumption that the dad cheated. Parents could've had the kid together, split up, and got back together. And the middle daughter could have happened during on the split.
It's so dangerous not to know. So many conditions and diseases are genetic, and early detection/monitoring can save lives. If I didn't know that mom was my biological mom, I wouldn't have known that I was at high risk for heart failure, and kidney cancer. We've already detected some questionable ECG findings, so we're watching my heart even closer (mom died of heart/kidney failure at 48).
At my school, the rules are quite strict about using the bathrooms. There are times where I am not able to use it from mid morning to four. Along with that, passing periods are minimum as it is. They don’t want students going and doing things they aren’t supposed to during the breaks, so they make it as sort a period as reasonable. I go to a decently big high school number wise, so our hallways are quite crowded during passing period. This means that it’s hard to be to class on time in the first place, and that’s without trying to take care of one’s body like using the restroom or getting water to drink. It’s so important that students always have access to the ability to take care of their health
Story 2: He's the HERO APPLE. Keeping your family secrets is NOT WORTH missing out on important genetic information that can let you know about diseases and shit that you're predisposed to. Also, no kid likes lies from their parents. Grandma saved that child from isolation and possibly feeling suicidal, she was someone was really there for her & not just regarding her as a responsibility.
Story 1: Crab Apple at the VERY LEAST. I get mom being protective, but I see why the teacher is following the rules. Story 2: good apple. I understand wanting to protect your child, but what if mom had some health issues? I was going to go bad apple until I discovered the reason. In a world where MiLs get DNA tests because they think the mom cheated, getting a DNA test on the request of the grand daughter is so wholesome. Story 3: good apple because you were supporting your child’s wishes. Story 4: good apple. The fact that this young man has to resort to dumpster diving because his roommates are eating his food is sad. The other roommates are bad apples. I always check if it’s okay for me to eat something that I didn’t personally buy. On the bright side for him … maybe his roommates will be hesitant to eat his stuff from now on.
At all the schools I have worked at, the only exceptions were during major testing and schoolwide locker searches. Other than that, students who needed to use the bathroom could go. At the high schools, products were available (25¢) in the bathrooms. At the middle schools, students needed to go to the nurse to get products in an emergency.
Story 1- at my school we have 4 times a day we can go so like everyone can go 4 times a day 1-anytime before break 2- at break 3-lunch ( an hours or so after break) 4- anytime after lunch if and hour has passed So I think she should’ve been allowed but I think crap apple just bc of the way she reacted
I know I'm a little late but wanted to put my input. Story 1: Based on just the information we have about how the teacher responded to the person going into their classroom, I'd say it had nothing to do with policy. and from my experience (I have been to 2 different high schools in different states) they have always had a nurse on campus and products (only know from my female friends). That being said I also don't particularly like how the parent responded either. So I have to go with bad apple for both because screaming at someone isn't going to get anyone anywhere.
Due to different reasons I started my period at 10 years old and I now know that I have a medical condition that causes this. While I couldn't use the products, my public middle school had them in the bathrooms. Feminine products are literally a necessity for life. Though I for sure would have asked why she wasn't allowed to go to the bathroom. I did have a very ignorant male teacher in high school who didn't believe women menstruate and I did have to go before and after his class though. Also kudos to that grandma because lying to your child about something that big isn't acceptable.
Story 1- I went to a rural school district (super widespread because of all the farms) and I doubt we had more money than most other schools, but I think they were able to work the budget just the right way that we had a nurse and products available (local businesses may have donated the products). I think since it’s such a close community in our county that enough things were donated so the school could spend their money on other things.
Regarding first story, not a teacher but at a call center. We used to have a "Vader box" with all of our time of the month supplies. A team lead kept it at her desk, and women would just go in and grab them if they forgot.
I said 'Elf' at the exact same time as you 😄 I am not joking. I have a cup and a sign on my door that both have a picture of buddy and say, "Santa's coming! I know him!" and "Smiling is my favorite!" His happiness and excitement is just so contagious 😁
For story two. I cannot fathom as the mother forgiving the father after he presumably had an affair. When the kids find out and the middle child did, it inherently teaches these kids that this behavior is ok and is normal. My parents are divorced and my dad was in an abusive relationship with my mother. She is very manipulative. Don’t get me wrong I do love her she has done a lot for us but I understand her behavior is not acceptable thanks to my dad leaving. He is still very much involved in our lives (my brother and mine) but he does set boundaries for my mom’s behavior. I am now a freshman in college and I can say whole heartedly that it is thanks to my dad leaving and showing/teaching us that that kind of manipulation and toxicity in a relationship is not ok or to be tolerated. Thanks to him showing me it is ok to say no and to exit a situation like that I have thankfully gotten out of various relationships that were pretty toxic. I was able to recognize it and step away so I can’t believe the mother of the children would just allow her kids to be in a situation where the father was clearly unfaithful.
Yeah i agree for the last one although about mentioning “hey Im gonna bring something from the dumpster” then the person stealing the food will obviously not take it and wont be caught.
I dumpster dived in my 20's because food was scarce. However, my roomies were equally struggling so it was a team sport. We did it together. However I do agree with Rebecca that letting room mates know is a great idea. We had a shelf designated for such food and heavily cleaned it. People gotta eat!
For story 3, it hits home. My moms step mom, my grandma is crazy. She is horrible to my mom and it makes my blood boil. My grandpa still chooses to be with her and so they barely talk to my family anymore since we moved and other things that my grandma has done. When I get older I will be cutting contact with them if A. She continues to act like this or B. If my grandpa is still with her and she still acts like this. I love my grandpa a lot, but I would rather not talk to them then see them be disrespectful, manipulative and disgusting toward my mother❤
At my school, you get three bathroom passes in every class. Once you ran out, you can still go, but it’s a tardy. If you get enough tardys here, you could lose credit for some classes. I personally haven’t used any passes this whole year, since we can also go between classes and at lunch.
Teacher was a bad apple pure and simple; they could have walked up to the student, discreetly asked and not just say HOLD IT I'm sorry I know you are a teacher too but in this case, mom was a good apple
So I have a chronic illness that made it to where I might need to leave the room suddenly for either the bathroom or nurse. 3:26 (Stomach issues) The school initially would only allow me to have a nurses plan (mainly because teachers aren’t legally obliged to follow it) eventually it was obviously not working so they relented and allowed me to get a 504 (they did not like anyone to have a 504 or iep they would fight it or take it away every chance they got. My friend was dyslexic and they took hers away because she had good grades and wouldn’t reinstate it til she failed a class because “there’s no reason to justify the 504 if the student had good grades”). Thankfully the year I got mine the asst principal had taken it over from the guidance counselor for a year b/c the guidance counselor was unempathetic and causing problems with it. In mine they had it stated that I had to be allowed to run out of class for the bathroom or nurse. It also stated someone had to check on me and make sure I made it in case something happened. However broad bathroom policies with no exceptions are pretty bad. From a medical standpoint restricting bathroom use can lead to a lot of health issues. Now my Kindergarten teacher was actually the reason a girl in my glass was taken to the dr and getting diagnosed with diabetes. The girl was constantly going to the bathroom (multiple times an hour) and the teacher followed her a few times to see if she was goofing off and when she realized it she talked to the school nurse and her parents. She had twin baby brothers at home so her bathroom use went unnoticed by the parents.
story 1: I'm a pre service teacher and I will soon be on placement. In my country, you can potentially get in trouble for giving out feminine hygiene products in class because it can potentially be seen as violating student privacy since other students could potentially gain sensitive information such as health issues.
It’s so hard to judge, because at least here in my province in Canada. We don’t have nurses, at all, ever, has never been a thing. Would have been helpful, probably. But in public education, or even private-it just isn’t a thing here. Bandaids are at the office, and in high school if you got permission from a parent, the office staff could give you a Tylenol tablet. Other than that…if you’re sick enough, you just get a call home/to parents. Although that wasn’t always even helpful. I remember feeling absolutely horribly sick, I think I had a weird fever reaction in grade five, and neither of my parents could be reached, nor my third emergency contact. It began shortly after I got to school, and I wasn’t able to be picked up until well into the lunch hour by my after school caregiver (why they couldn’t just have called her first if they couldn’t reach my parents is beyond me, they had to wait until my dad was able to phone and say to have her pick me up and he was then able to later that afternoon-guess it wasn’t written in my student emergency info) . Had to chill for a while in the principal’s office on her couch as the ‘sick room’ with a couch was occupied by a kid having a meltdown…it was awful. To this day I have rarely felt as bad as I felt that morning. I even slept when I finally was home, and I have basically never been able to nap, not since age 3ish and I’m 33. So I must have been quite sick. Whatever it was was short lived, and I was fine the next day but with the whole debacle the day before I was kept home and had to go with my dad to a conference he was going to, but at least there was a couch there for me to read on? Anyways. Times like that would have been useful to have a school nurse. Wish it was more common tbh.
@@MusikGirl23 there have been crazy emergencies at my school where we needed more than a bandage😅 we just play hard in the south/need therapy because of our parents. The nurse that came when I started high school was a blessing. (K-12 is on the same campus, and we all see the same nurse) She was great at her job, and was a far better counselor than the one in middle or high school. She listened when parents, teachers, and staff didn’t… Saving children from terrible situations, and keeping them from walking around all day with broken/fractured bones.
It also depends on where you are too. I know some friends in certain schools you could get those products by going to certain classes or going to student services. Completely depends on where you are in the world
Schools need to let kids use the bathroom whenever there is an emergency. Periods happen, emergencies happen.
One time I got explosive diarrhea during class and I didn't even ask my teacher to get up I just ran to the bathroom I wasn't going to explain a biological emergency before it happened. Easier to ask forgiveness than permission.
There shouldn't need to be an emergency. Gotta pee? Go. Why is it even a question. Ludacris. The only time I have disagreed with her. I would have left that job as well
@shannonverrier7099 unfortunately kids take advantage of the system and use "It's an emergency" Excuse to skip class
@purpleclaws202 obviously. But why should 80% of a class suffer for the 10% who break the rules? They'll fail and either learn their lesson or go on to be Crack heads or prostitutes 🤷♀️ it's not the teachers job to decide who gets to poop and who doesn't.
Story 1: I went to a high school that wasn't super privileged and there were always feminine hygiene products available. Lots of teachers just had them in their desks, but if they didn't, all the different offices around the school stocked them. Obviously my experience is not everyone's experience, but I don't think it's completely unreasonable for that mom to assume the school would have some.
I’ve been at 2 state secondaries and the first one advertised that they had products, I think my current one does
@@transandpets UK too? My secondary had them at the medical thingy or office upon request. My sixth form had them in all the girl’s toilets. Saved me a few times.
Gatekeeping information not being direct and kids sorda everything is not the way to talk to a kid
My school has them all in the girls bathrooms both pads and tampons.
You know what they say about assuming… it makes and a$$ out of u and me.
No child should be denied access to the bathroom, ever, for any reason, period. It may be policy, and not the teacher, but it's a bad policy. Bathroom access is health, and it should be treated as such.
Exactly, I have gotten a bladder infection because of such policies. I had a drs note to tell them I cannot be told no to go to the bathroom, and they still told me no.
usually the policy is 10 min before or after no kid can go. because kids skip out on class. and one kid at a time because they like to sneak off to smoke in the bathroom. or go meet up with their SO. and if we know there's a lockdown drill coming or something, I say no because i just want to deal with that first and need to know where my kids are. we had a real fire and my student told me he was in the bathroom. when i told officials where he was, he wasn't there. he was never there. he snuck into the gym to play basketball. It's all the kids abuing the batthroom passes that have made the system the way it is. we are responsible for protecting and knowing where you are at all times. when i didn't know where my kid was during a real fire, i had a complete panic attack.
I’m currently in high school and we have policies set that we can’t go to the bathroom the first or last 10 of periods but most teachers break those in emergencies. And about the access my public high school has them in some bathrooms but not all but in my chorus class there’s a giant yellow tool box filled with tampons and pads and its kind of funny that there in a tool box
I had to have it put into my 504 plan in high school that I could not be refused access to the bathroom. I have IBS-D. They also couldn’t yell at me for how long it took me, or stop me from going to the bathroom if someone else had already gone and hadn’t come back.
In college, I just got up and walked out of the room, because at 18+ I was fully expected to be able to handle my bodily functions while balancing being in class. Shocking, I know.
Facts^^^ I've run classrooms before and if I disagree with a rule because i feel like it would have a negative effect on my students (emotionally or physically). I'll tell the principle that, then I wouldn't follow that rule.
According to my female friends, plenty of teachers are willing to break the hygiene product rule as long as you know which one to ask. Some male teachers even informed the students who to ask
my teacher said to my whole class that you arent allowed to go to the bathroom / nurse for any reason throughout class, no protocols, just wont let you. someone asked what if it s a “girl emergency” and my teacher straight up told us it doesnt matter, and you should be able to guess when your period is going to come and prepare ahead, and you cant use that as an excuse, even tho i have that class for 2 hours💀
@@Number1MysteryIf periods were that predictable, there'd be fewer pregnancies. Hope they had the supplies to clean up blood.
@@JS-L90 exactly like my school aint even got the supplies to replace some old posters😭
@@Number1MysteryI used to only have 5 minutes passing periods I was already late to class without stopping by the bathroom luckily most teacher didn’t care if I showed up like 5 minutes late cause I went to the bathroom.
@@AnnabethOwl man my school has those 5 minute passing periods, but my teachers just use that as an extra 5 minutes to teach😭
For story 4 i love how sensitive you were towards OP and weren't judgemental at all about them dumpster diving. Honestly it makes me sad because its clear OP isnt doing well financially and his roommates are eating the food he does have.
I didn’t even think about that - he might be financially struggling because they steal his food - that’s awful
I totally agree. Also who is leaving fruit and veggies around a cart of eggs??? Also we do not know what they do at the grocery store they can drop things on the dirty floor and put it back on shelf and act like nothing happen. Why are you touching other folks food, there is no chance you accidentally eat something. He knows he did not buy or have any darn eggs. Stop playing with folks.
@@Madison-qw3yvI'm glad to hear you are doing well now,and congratulations to you for escaping your abuser...it's not an easy thing to do and you should be proud of yourself
I don’t believe him. I may be the only one, but I feel he dumpster dived for eggs or food on purpose to find the culprit. He makes it sound innocent, I don’t think it was. I think he did it on purpose, he didn’t want to buy the laxatives so he got free food instead.
He’s lucky they didn’t get bad salmonella poisoning.
I know many believe him, I don’t. I don’t think he’s a bad person for testing his housemates but I think it was a dangerous thing to do.
Otherwise feeling guilty over a mistake you had no intention to do doesn’t warrant a AITBA posting. I would have felt indignant like they deserved it if I really went dumpster diving & this happened by mistake… I also would have told everyone that I get my food from the dumpster & im sure that would have stopped the stealing before it got to this… He saw how badly sick they got and felt a bit guilty for it
@@supremacy2040 maybe he did but that's what they get for touching others food. It's not theirs it's his food. Leave folks stuff alone.
It is truly insane that students in America can’t go to the bathroom when ever they want. Where I come from you could just walk out of the classroom without telling the teacher and nothing would happen as long as you weren’t gone for too long. Telling a child they can’t go to the bathroom when they need to us insane. Like if they have to hold themselves for too long to often that can legit damage their bladder.
Yeah there was this rule in our school "no using the bathroom the first 10/15 minutes or last 10/15 minutes" even then they can just say no?! And this one time in elementary where we had an hour school ball thing where we could not go the whole time just because we had to learn the dance with the boys/girls, ITS SO ANNOYING
its the same in the uk too in primary i used to hold it the whole day for 6 hours and i barely drank water so i would need to go as much
Where are you from I’m just wondering… I’ve never experienced just being able to get up and go to the bathroom without having to ask a teacher so I’m just so curious..
There is another issue in the US with just walking out. It is deemed that teachers are legally responsible for the kids during their class periods so kids aren't allowed to leave the room without a teacher knowing just in case there is a fire drill or code red or something, the teacher is legally supposed to be able to account for you at all times
I know, I'm from New Zealand and I found this utterly horrifying and shocking to hear, I've seen a lot of things from television when it comes to how things work in America and I know it's not always accurate, but the fact that you can't go to the bathroom whenever you feel like it is utterly ridiculous, no matter what age you are. For my school in New Zealand in high school you could go any time during the period, there were select times because they didn't want everyone leaving at once but for the most part if you needed to go to the bathroom you would just get up and go sometimes you would just like mention to the teacher because going to the bathroom only takes like four minutes and depending on how far away your classroom is I can understand like missing class time but if you need to go you should just go and it's so surprising to me in America they have all of these bathroom passes, like in all the movies you have to have a bathroom pass and have to wait till the end of class and the fact that there's no nurses and no hygiene products like we had a nurse yes she wasn't always stocked with lots of hygiene products but she still had some And honestly it's just really sad I cannot believe that America has all these kids with like five different electronic products in their schools are underfunded and they don't have hygiene products or nurses and can't go to the bathroom when they need to, I can understand in terms of not wanting someone to leave class early or skip school or whatever but most of the time kids just want to go to the bathroom and it is truly sad that they can'tI actually didn't think this was a real thing and I'm sad to hear it is😊
1st story seriously I will never believe it is acceptable to tell anyone they cannot use the restroom. Using the bathroom is the same as eating or drinking water. Its not okay to deny someone that needed the restroom. I understand Mrs. Rodgers mightve been an amazing and kind teacher. But, a lot of teachers are on power trips and like to lord over bathroom privileges.
I'm an elementary school 2nd shift custodian and sometimes I have to cover my supervisor during the day shift. At lunch time, there are kids asking me if they can use the bathroom and I tell them yes everytime. I used to be a Para and some kids would ask me if they can use the bathroom and again I say yes or tell them, if they have a bathroom in the classroom, that they can go when the other person gets out. I never say no to kids who need to use the bathroom. I get the whole safety and people who use the bathroom to their advantage, but come on at least give them the benefit of the doubt.
I remember when I was in school, some grades told us we can only go in the bathroom like 3 or 5 times (I forgot how many) during class in a marking period which is ridiculous if you ask me. So yea I'm not afraid to just tell kids to go
I totally emphasize with this, however coming from a very small high school where at most it took you 1 min to get to your next class and had 5-7 min passing period which gave us plenty of time to go to the restroom between classes. Most teachers still let us go but there were some that wouldn’t because of the long passing period.
@bettyjames89 what was the reasoning?
@@ethren3344no will ever know
@@stephanieburgess8217what shocked me is I’m in a bigger school with 3 building(high school) and I had 5 minute passing period that wasn’t even enough to get to class on time much less use the bathroom.
Story 1: If there were rules that kept the teacher from releasing the student, she could have explained that. Either to the mom or the student, but instead she just to ld the kid to hold it and told the mom to get over it and saying she didn't know it was an emergency. I can't imagine the policies being a secret and it would be so easy to simply say, "I'm so sorry this happened. I thought this student just needed to use the restroom and x, y, z are the policies and that's why I didn't let her go. Bad apple
bad apple for op or bad apple for the teacher?
@@chrissyj_ Teacher
My daughter's kindergarten teacher wouldn't let her go to the bathroom and she peed herself. She got a UTI because of that. I was furious and called the principal. He informed me that he would let my daughter have more bathroom passes
@@JessFirefoxa KINDERGARTENER?! They didn’t let a KINDY KID GO TO THE BATHROOM? They are barely out of nappies! I was still wetting the bed and wearing pull-ups at night as a kindy kid and that’s totally normal. They don’t have full control of their bladders.
@@flippantbeast6656 gotcha
1st story: Based on the information known, Im giving the teacher bad apple, at my old school, there were so many teachers who just didnt allow bathroom breaks, there was no rule, it was just the teachers. I give the mom crab apple because she was angry for a reason, I dont think she handled it the best way but I do agree that she should've asked questions. The teacher also told the mom to just get over it which I dont like
me too
"you should have gone between classes" we didn't even have time to get to our lockers between classes
@bettyjames89really? What did she say?
Story 4: I agree that OP should have told the others about where some of his food was coming from and/or gotten a small frig to use for those specific items and have that be in his room.
That being said, the rest is absolutely the fault of the roommate(s)! It's one thing of someone accidently grabs your food once in a while, like once a month. But, when OP has called out the issue to the roommates multiple times because it's happening every 2-3 days, and they just brush it off like it's no big deal...then I think it's safe to assume that ALL of them are likely taking OP's food intentionally! Especially now, food is really expensive and they don't have a right to essentially take money from you in the form of food. So it would seem that everyone should label their food going forward OR put frigs in each room to keep and clearly define their food from the others.
For story 2: not knowing your heritage could cause you/your doctor to miss early warning signs of genetic illnesses. It can be dangerous for the kid to not know, especially since she’ll be an adult soon and need to make her own decisions about her health.
Oh so true!!!!! My dad was a jack rabbit and had 9 children. 6 of them have HPV. My full blood sister ended up with cervical cancer from getting the injections and we've been educating our younger siblings and my brother's children on this so they understand what to do when they get a little older.
The eggs and bread story. Good apple no question about it. A lot of perfectly good foods get thrown out every day. If you didn’t put it in the fridge DON’T eat. It wasn’t done deliberately.
#4: good apple all the way. Housemates are judging the dumpster diving, they should be more considerate before taking food especially after OP spoke to them about it.
I have to give story 1 a crab apple or good apple. There is no way I could give a mom who was upset that her child had to sit in a puddle of her own blood a bad apple. *Maybe* the teacher wasn't a bad apple if there were strict policies involved (although, given the way she just dismissed the child's needs, I doubt that), but then whoever makes and enforces the policies are super bad apples. Like. I'm sorry. The mom had every right to be furious about this. It's disgusting.
I sat in my own blood a lot; partly because I never had a teacher that made me feel comfortable to go to the bathroom and I always forget when I’m going to start my period and often it comes late if I’m stressed
3:08 this is actually a pretty important problem. Bathroom access is not something that should be gate-kept to this extent. I understand the need to keep track of students but some protocols take it way too far.
My kid peed her pants in kindergarten because she couldn't hold it and got a UTI
@@JessFirefox that’s terrible, I’m so sorry.
I was furious
@@JessFirefox I wet myself in second grade because a teacher wouldn't let me use the bathroom. There was one right in the classroom but she didn't want to have to repeat the instructions on something. I was humiliated. And my Mom didn't have access to a car so she had to have the neighbor bring me clean clothes at the school. Still makes me mad to this day. Teacher was otherwise nice, but she wasn't thinking that small children can't always hold it or are able to time their bathroom breaks like adults can learn to do. Even then there are emergencies.
I had a class freshman year where the teacher gave everyone a punch card each semester and every time they went to the bathroom they got a hole punch. I think it had like six spots and any you didn’t use became extra credit points. students who didn’t use it at all got the most extra credit points. This is completely wild to me. Despite never using the card myself, (I went to the bathroom every nutrition break and every lunch break and during passing periods if I needed to) but what if someone has IBS, or heavy periods, or any number of things that mean they need to use a bathroom more than someone else might. She was literally giving us a better grade because we didn’t go to the bathroom. Crazy.
story 1: as a student myself, being in this position is the worst. i’ve been in situations like this and having the SMALL PORTION of teachers that will deny you the use of the restroom is something i highly disagree about. i say bad apple for the teacher just because if thier were rules in place, i feel like the teacher could have explained that. crab apple for the mom because of the yelling at the teacher (even though it came from a good place; sticking up for her daughter)
You’d be surprised how many just don’t still. Most didn’t explain it at my school, not sure why but it is what it is 🤷🏻♀️
@@Rebecca.Rogers during the first story I caught myself being distracted by your cat. Please pet them both for me.
have no fear, they are spoiled ROTTEN lol@@dayvraezer6346
@@Rebecca.Rogersto put it bluntly, I had to take tampons out when they were too dry and hurt just because I was going to a class where the teacher would refuse bathroom breaks. It's so messed up that sometimes it's not even the teacher's fault though.
now I was a straight A teacher's pet type of kid so even those teachers sometimes let me go but not enough to count on it.
Story 2: I'm curious how Grandma didn't know she wasn't the daughter of the mom. She is the son's mother.... did she never see them during the time "mom" would have been pregnant with the child? How did they explain that away? I need more details. But, I'm with you, Good Apple all the way! Good job, Grandma!
Honestly feel like that story was a troll. Nobody noticed she wasn't pregnant and a baby came out of nowhere? She gets these off reddit so to me it seems like someone was trolling
I'm sure Grandma knew she was pregnant. The info about who the father was could have easily been hidden.
I wish she wouldn't have left that part out, though I understand why as it was added in a note at the end of the story. They lived across the country from each other and hadn't visited for like over 5 years thus didn't know the circumstances of the birth.
I think it’s actually possible that the mom is one those people who wears baggy clothes and just doesn’t put on much weight while pregnant. Also if Child A & Child B are within 9 - 12 of each other then… the mom doesn’t drop the baby weight maybe puts on some more then a second baby appears… it’s reasonable to think oh she’s wasn’t JUST gaining weight she got pregnant again.
@@scottsmartkyThank you for that! I need to check out the subreddit more.
As someone in high school it is so annoying when teachers don’t let you go to the bathroom however many kids go to the bathroom to vape or skip class and still get marked in. I see why it is frustrating but teachers have their reasons and responsibilities to kids learning
I think the questionable thing about the teacher in story 1 is that she justified it by saying that the child didn’t explain that she was on her period, which suggests to me that she would’ve let her go if she knew the reason (meaning her hands weren’t tied by policy). It sounds like the daughter said it was an emergency, and imo it shouldn’t really matter whether it’s a pee-in-your-pants emergency or a bleed-through-your-pants emergency. Yes, mom should’ve prepared her child, but it sounds like the teacher also had a role here
I have beef with these STUPID bathroom rules because I literally have bladder damage and have peed myself in front of my classmates. I also had a male teacher refuse to let me go to the office for a tampon knowing I needed one because my period came back unexpectedly. THE AMERICAN EDUCATION SYSTEM IS CRAP AND I WILL GOVE TEACHERS CRAP FOR NOT RESPECTING LITERAL HUMAN BEINGSSSS!!!!
I have been that hungry, were I had to dumpster dive at a fast food restaurant to survive, so I can feel this guys pain. I haven't lived in a communal living situation where I had to worry about that. I also understand your point of view that he should put this in a different area so other food doesn't get contaminated. Good apple 100%.
1st story I've personally delt with. My son came home crying because he wasn't allowed to go to the bathroom and ended up pooping on himself. The way I approached it was I messaged her and asked what happened and why he was not able to go. She told me because the kids were playing in the bathroom she has them go into groups so she can better monitor them. I was understanding and had him express to her that if he really needs to go to let her know and not stay quiet. Hasn't happened again.
Story 1 you didnt judge by the information given like you normally would. The teacher was just rude and dismissive and didnt offer anyexplanation. My schools and every school I knew required a nurse and sold feminine products from bathroom dispensers for a quarter eqch. They didnt have applicators but they worked. The teacher was a jerk twice, it just sounds like this teacher doesnt have compassion. Maybe dont yell, but those things seem like basic requirements I have never not seen in a school. If i found out that was the case I would take my child out of that school for homeschooling. There were no bathroom rules mentioned so we shouldnt assume tgere is one. The teacher just doesnt care. Crab apple mom, fully bad apple teacher.
@bettyjames89 I had a feeling. Normal decent people don't react like that. Maybe don't start off yelling, but we have all been there at least once and that's your baby!
EDIT:
There are very few foods that I would want to dumpster dive. Eggs, meats, and milk are on the list of NOPE. They were thrown out for a reason. And I agree that the food from the dumpster should've been placed in a marked bag. Like: Op's dumpster eggs DO NOT TOUCH! And maybe tell the others, "Hey, these are mine, please don't touch." And after all that the roommate consumed the eggs then that is their roommate's fault. I'm going crab.
Story 2: Good Apple; having heard a lot from donor conceived and adopted people, that girl deserved to know who her parents are, especially for health reasons. And yeah, knowing you're an affair baby adds another layer to this, so even better for the grandma to step up as her advocate reminds me of my own grandma, who not only stood up for me but also helped raise me in a lot of ways more than my mom.
story 1: didn't we already have a discussion about the health risks of holding your pee? Didn't we also have a discussion about not reading into things and just taking the story at face value?
I say go crab, because she's right to be angry, but she only went to the teacher and to the principle also to discuss what needs to happen to prevent this situation in the future. (and also appreantly the teacher needs to have a lesson on the health risks of holding your pee from what we see here)
For story one, I’ll correct Rebecca. She said in what world would they have a nurse on staff and feminine hygiene products. My school had both. I had 2 school nurses. A nurses office is very common and until this story I didn’t know some schools don’t have that. All the schools in my area have one. So if this person is from Upstate New York or something like me and they moved I wouldn’t check to see if a nurse was there either. I would also assume the school had one bc I’ve never seen differently. It’s not the teachers fault but it’s fair that the mom assumed there was a school nurse
One of the classes at our school(ap gov) teamed up with other schools and got a bill passed in our state requiring feminine hygiene products in all the bathrooms at school.
Every school I have worked for has had feminine products in the nurse's office. However, it isn't necessarily common for a school to have a full time nurse. My current school shares a nurse with many other schools. I think we get her for a half day once per week. When I was at a different school in the same district, there was a nurse certain mornings or afternoons, but secretaries end up being stand-in nurses the majority of the time.
Not every school has a nurse. I have worked on campuses that had a part-time nurse or even a part-time clinic attendant (not licensed nurse). Rebecca was correct. Not all schools can afford staffed nurses and full clinics.
For Story 4, you might want to consult with your friendly neighborhood lawyer, but you can be criminally responsible for setting booby traps. (Not saying this was a booby trap but it could be interpreted as one). And civilly responsible here for the medical bills regardless of the intent.
Yea or perhaps for being negligent I don’t know if that would be like negligent enough to be like something you could be sued for
The first story, I've had PCOS-like symptoms (a menstrual problem, if you didn't know), so I'd go with crab apple/good apple. I completely understand if the teacher had policies blocking her from letting the student go to the bathroom, however, every woman with a period will tell you, you cannot hold it, it's not like urine. Especially if that period is heavy.
Not even just that, it was the girls FIRST period. You have 0 clue when that’ll hit!!!! I remember getting my first when I got off the bus and didn’t know till I was at home (only a block away thankfully). Most parents (as far as I know) don’t really stock for that until the kid gets their first one or if they have an older sister who already has for a while. Middle school is rough and that does NOT help.
Story 1. If the teacher did that because of a policy, she should’ve said so. As it stands, she seems like one of those teachers who loves exerting her limited power by treating the students like less than human. Even so, OP didn’t know anything about her reasoning beforehand. OP literally said she “barged into her teacher’s classroom.” That shows that she didn’t approach the situation calmly and maturely, ready to listen to the teacher. Plus, she confronted the teacher alone in a classroom; that teacher doesn’t know her or what she might do when angry. It could’ve been very scary for the teacher! If OP said she was furious but wanted to hear out the teacher then walked away still mad, that’d be one thing. But how OP approached it makes her a *bad apple.*
As for school policies about tampons, that shouldn’t prohibit them from providing pads!
I completely agree with your assessments of the other stories.
Your teacher bestie… 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼 GOOD MAN!!!! That’s one of the best things I’ve ever heard!! Love love love him!!! 💕
story number 4 i agree he isn't a bad apple. I know what it was struggling to eat and all. But seriously I admit I was scared to tell people how I was struggling so I am sure he didn't want to tell them. But of course it's sad no one would admit taking his food so I am sure there ain't one person that didn't eat his food
For Story 1 - I’m from Scotland and where I’m from, the schools here are provided hygiene products and most rooms have them. I see where you come from but I was SHOCKED, they don’t provide the schools the products!!! Periods are very seen and cared about here. Some of the Senior boys this year started a program of having products in the toilets. THE SENIOR BOYS DID THAT!!!! I’d say crab apple cluster from the information we are given though
Suggestion: make the “girls” bathroom pass a soft sided pencil case, which you just put femme products in, that way there doesn’t have to be an awkward/possible “inappropriate” convo with students. They will definitely get curious and look as soon as they are out of your class anyway.
It wouldn’t even have to just be the “girls” bathroom pass, it could be everyone’s, if the boys ask questions that would be a great opportunity to reach them about periods.
Story 1: How is it that schools have money for toilet paper but not for a limited supply of emergency hygiene supplies? Feminine hygiene is just hygiene. I get that schools are underfunded, but that is the bare minimum. We need to stop treating these needs as unimportant. It’s not okay that the teacher was dismissive, telling mom to “get over it.” No reasonable person would expect a 12 year old to explain in front of 30 other 12 year olds that they are on their period. Under these facts, the teacher was a bad Apple. Period.
As a daughter of a teacher and seeing so much go on in the bathroom like eating sweets,kissing,putting on makeup and much more, my fake friends have always said don’t tell your mum or we wouldn’t be friends. This led to me getting in trouble for not making a noise about it. There was a serious incident in the girls bathroom in my school so people were turning the taps the wrong way and braking the pipes leading to leaking, which cost the school more the £1,000.
Story 3: Good Apple; at that point, I would tell the grandmother, "you didn't want anything to do with your grandchild after she came out with her truth, you lost the right to say anything."
It’s crazy seeing the difference between “poorer” and my school. I go to a richer school and I’m just realizing how lucky I am for that bc we have a nurse that’s there all day and an emt just in case someone has some an emergency plus tons of tampons and pads in the office and bathroom. Love it vids ❤
With the last story I think we need a new category. The bruised Apple . Still mostly good but a few simple steps, like labeling the eggs as OPs (didn't hear that it was labeled) would have prevented the slightly bad spot
Story 1: Policies are one thing, but when I was in school, some teachers were just straight power tripping. Granted, I graduated clear back in 2001/2002.
Parents keeping a child's lineage a "secret" has NEVER worked out favorably for the parents 😂
My middle school had a policy that you can't get up from a test for any reason otherwise you were done with the test.
That was until I handed in a half finished science test that was covered in blood. Also my shirt, pants, face, hair, desk, and seat were also covered in blood. My nose had started bleeding and I ended up needing to get it cauterized to get it to stop. I was 12 & extremely shy and a rule follower so I had sat there with a bleeding nose for about 30 minutes trying to take my test (the teacher was at their desk the entire time grading the tests from the prior class).
My mom was not kind to the teacher (for not noticing me bleeding for 30 minutes not the policy) or principal and threatened to sue the school. The policy was changed so that you couldn't go to the bathroom but could ask to go to the office/nurse
I have stomach related chronic illnesses and it was documented in the nurse and in my IEP but yet when I asked to go
to the bathroom there was always that teacher that didn't let me go. I think it's insane that teachers deny bathroom
access especially to those with medical conditions. And women who do have their periods, my cycle is so irregular sometimes you don't know when it's coming and you have to leave. Many people including myself other symptoms along with bleeding to where they need to go to the bathroom asap. In the real world, you never ask to go to the bathroom. In college you just got up and at work in my office you do the same. When I worked retail, I'd tell someone I'm leaving the sales floor for a few minutes but you don't ask to go. Going to the bathroom isn't a privilege... everyone should be able to without refused entry, health issues or not but especially those with issues. The teacher saying to "get over it" and "I wouldn't have known" I mean you shouldn't have to explain why you need to use the bathroom... and the teacher saying to the OP to "get over it" is rude. I may not have yelled at the teacher, I would have came in more assertive and maturely, but I can see where her anger is coming from as well so I'm going to say crab apple!!
As a New Zealander, hearing that first story was so surprising to me we had both counsellors and nurses at my high school, I don't know about other high schools in New Zealand but the one I went to was pretty chill about a lot of stuff and don't get me wrong we still had certain times in each period that we could leave to go to the bathroom you couldn't just get up and go any time, but for example dissecting animals in science class kids would faint or need to get fresh air so they would leave the classroom other people would get sick or have something happen and need to see the nurse or go to the bathroom, there were many times I would leave class just to quickly go to the bathroom and come back. The only thing I know about American schools is from television and it seems like they still have counsellors or nurses least in the movies and TV shows I've seen I know movies and TV aren't always a true accurate depiction of real life, but I've heard a lot of people say especially when it comes to prom, Halloween etc a lot of what you see on TV is very similar to What it's really like in the states. So I find it truly sad that you are not allowed to leave during class time just to go to the bathroom, something that all kids need to do, not everyone is on a bathroom schedule, especially when it comes to younger kids, for high school I can understand wanting to have a stricter schedule to make sure that people aren't just ditching class or Leaving early etc and really need to go to the bathroom, it does also depend how far away the bathrooms are from the classroom, however going to the bathroom usually takes between 2 to 4 minutes which isn't a lot of class time so it doesn't really seem like a big deal, yes a lot of kids going at once could be an issue, so as long as you regulate it And have certain times within each period that students are allowed to go to the bathroom, I don't think it should be a problem, again my school was pretty chill about going to the bathroom, if someone fainted was sick or just really needed to use the bathroom because they had their period or ..
so I'm really surprised that kids could only go before class or at lunchtime, sometimes you might eat something bad or something might go wrong in class which means you need to see the nurse or go to the bathroom so you should be able to, but again I know my school is probably very different from schools in America and I can only speak for my schooling experience I don't know what it was like for other students going to school in New Zealand maybe it was just my high school, but this was a real surprise to me and I feel so sorry for anyone who wasn't able to go to the bathroom when they needed to. Don't get me wrong I understand missing out on school and not wanting to miss something important because you were in the bathroom, but when you need to go you should go, at least in my opinion!
EDITED:
Doing a re-listen after 7 months and I think I was wrong at first. I really wasn't thinking at the time just blazing through it all. Now that I have a calmer mind and can actually think for once in a really long time, I think I agree with Bad apple. To start I think the mom should have prepared the daughter more. Like having some products in her bag for these emergencies. (extra change of clothing, pads and tampons and whatever else the daughter needs.) And explain to the daughter that it is possible to have it during school and what she should do if it does happen. I agree that the policies of students having limited bathroom breaks are stupid but I do understand that they are there to prevent kids from ditching class. It does suck that some punish all. And in a perfect world this wouldn't happen, but we don't live in a perfect world. The mom was too rough towards the teacher and should've asked what happened from her pov.
Story 1 : okay - I’d rather get written up than have a kid pee themselves and/or period emergency- there’s no way I’m letting someone sit uncomfortably because of policy and if a mess was made in my classroom then get it turned on me to take better care of my room - no way.
rebecca: blahblahblahimportantstuff - MILO DO NOT ATTACK YOUR SISTER!
every sibling relationship
My children have always been told if the teacher tells them they can't go to the bathroom, to just leave the class and if the teacher has a problem then to contact me. In regards to having products, then they should be available especially for the girls that get their first period at school.
9:36 “in what world do schools have enough money to keep a nurse on staff?”
Read that back and tell me it’s not terrifying.
In Canada we don't have nurses in our schools. Just front end staff dealing with any bumps cuts and bruises that come up.
For the school situation, keep in mind that the mom is 40. Things were WAY different back in the day. All schools had full time nurses, and all schools had sanitary supplies. The cost of living was much lower, so schools had better funding. People were not so worried about getting sued for giving basic care.That said, I always made sure that my daughter had a pencil case full of supplies and Advil just in case. It violated that "zero tolerance about drugs" to give her OTC pain relief, but I didn't give a hoot.
Can we appreciate how she is teaching everyone how to share opinions respectfully
I love your sense of justice. Your a very righteous person! I’m glad your husband is here for you! 😁
Story 1: in my school they lock the toilets during lessons sometimes and teachers aren't supposed to let you out of lessons to go to the toilet but because it is an all girls school there is a basket with pads that anyone can get easily and a lot of teachers let you out anyway if you really need to go.
The rules don’t matter in this case. You let someone go to the bathroom if they are on their period NO MATTER WHAT
I love this series! Who else?
Meeeeee 😊
Meeeeee
Bathroom policy is always weird to me from school to school. I know some of our local schools that are a few cities away still have female product machines in the bathrooms, but our local school does not.
A few years ago (I think 2021-2022) we had a local district that locked the bathrooms at the High school between classes because too many kids were congregated in them, but they also discouraged kids from using them during class. So the only time the kids really had to use the bathrooms were before school, lunch and after school.
My favorite Christmas movie is Muppet Christmas Carol. We watch it every year on Christmas Eve, so that when Kermit sings "One More Sleep 'Til Christmas," it's true! 🥰
story 1: teacher is definetly a bad apple
i would understand if policies placed by the school forced the teacher to forbid students from going to the bathroom, but even if there was a policy, why didnt that teacher let the student/parent know? if there was a policy, the teacher would have said something. the teachers rudeness and being like "just hold it in" and "get over it" also dont help her case and I think in your discussion about it you skipped her attitude about it and the fact the teacher didn’t say why.
there is definetly teachers out there who do things like this, I had one who would only allow 2 bathroom breaks every 9 weeks and it wasnt a school policy cause every other teacher in the school would let you go to the bathroom whenever you needed, especially during an emergency
Story 4:
Usually you can smell if the eggs are rotten (the smell hits you immediately)
Either way, 100% the roommates fault, not OPs
I think the thing about the food that makes me the most sad is that this guy is clearly struggling and his roomates are STILL stealing his only food that he had to dumpster dive for in the first place
Wow I never realized that some schools actually just don’t let students go to the bathroom. I have never in my life been told no to going to the bathroom, sure sometimes teachers will ask if you can hold it for a little until they finish whatever it is that they’re explaining but it’s never a no, and if you say it’s an emergency after they ask if you can hold it they’ll let you go.
The best teacher I ever had he always let us going to the bathroom, he had a whole cupboard full of feminine products and perfumes for us, he was the schools “3rd counselor”/ the best one. AND HE WAS A NAVY VETERAN love that man and miss him all the time since I graduated. 😢
I had this teacher who only let kids go to the bathroom during passing time which is fine but there’s only four minutes for passing time and I was always afraid of being counted tardy bc I had to go to the bathroom during passing time. I just think personally think that teachers shouldn’t be able to count kids absent when they’re at the bathroom and they asked. I also hated the way when I asked before the bell rang she would say it’s still your passing time and it just felt kind of passive aggressive. 😢
For Story 1 My school has a policy that you can’t go to the bathroom between the first 15 min and last 15 min in class (classes are usually 90 min long) but if it’s an emergency then they will let you go the teacher is the bad Apple 🍎 and OP is a 🦀 🍎 plus look at OP’s responses in the comments about the teacher’s reasoning for not letting her daughter go to the bathroom it’s utterly ridiculous 😅
Story two: good apple. I can kind of relate to this because I myself am adopted. Thankfully, my parents allowed me to get a DNA test. I would be so mad if my parents told me that I couldn’t find out my genetics. I’m very proud of the Grandma for being supportive of her granddaughter, no matter what her parents said.
For story 1, if the teacher's reasoning was school policy and not wanting to get in trouble, she could have explained that. If she chose not to (if it was true), then the mom can't be blamed for not assuming it was her reason.
For story #4, this is basically that one meme from Falcon and the Winter Soldier: "He's right. He's out of line, but he's right"
The reason I would go bad apple for the teacher for story #1 is the response to the parent. “Get over it” as the response is such a jerk response to this situation. Also as another commenter pointed out, the teacher didn’t know it was a period emergency but the child did state it was an emergency and the teacher just denied. I do appreciate the extra insight on different policies in schools about this but I can’t get behind not letting a child go to the restroom. That’s ridiculous to me.
My school nurse office always carried pads at the very least at every school
Noted, they were cheap and not at all for heavy flow but could help in an emergency. So I am grateful for that as someone with highly irregular periods
If you can handle the cursing, The Ref is my favorite. It's wild. I know Kevin Spacey is canceled for legitimate concerns, but I just love this movie and everybody else in it. So worth it.
As a girl who used to have HORRID & heavy periods that had 0 schedule without knowing the root cause of it, I don't like the idea of kids being denied the bathroom let alone having to tell the teacher in front of the whole class in order to go.
I still remember the day I started my period one time as a freshman in HS. I raised my hand & asked to go to the bathroom but I was denied over & over despite me saying it was an emergency. I got up to just go cause I knew I would bleed through my pants but was yelled at & he blocked the door. I ended up bleeding through my pants, it was incredibly humiliating & that's stuck with me to this day since at 30YO.
Story 1:
The part, when they were no feminine products in the bathroom made me think of this:
In my middle school, they used to have a little storage container in the corner of the bathroom with feminine products like pads, but then they had to remove it because immature girls decided it would be funny to put them all over the stalls and stuff so then they had to remove it and I just felt bad for the people who really needed them, like why! And mind you that the girls knew what they were what they were for because health class, so like why.
WHY R U EVERYWHERE
@@chrissyj_ because:)
You are such a gem. Thank you for making these videos! I love seeing your wonderful attitude about life.
Story 2- that's a wild assumption that the dad cheated.
Parents could've had the kid together, split up, and got back together. And the middle daughter could have happened during on the split.
Yeah, they also could've had an open marriage at one point too. There's no specification, so I think it's a weird assumption from Rebecca.
Your school district compared tampons to needles?!! What the heck….cant believe that school was stigmatizing usual feminine hygiene
It's so dangerous not to know. So many conditions and diseases are genetic, and early detection/monitoring can save lives.
If I didn't know that mom was my biological mom, I wouldn't have known that I was at high risk for heart failure, and kidney cancer. We've already detected some questionable ECG findings, so we're watching my heart even closer (mom died of heart/kidney failure at 48).
At my school, the rules are quite strict about using the bathrooms. There are times where I am not able to use it from mid morning to four. Along with that, passing periods are minimum as it is. They don’t want students going and doing things they aren’t supposed to during the breaks, so they make it as sort a period as reasonable. I go to a decently big high school number wise, so our hallways are quite crowded during passing period. This means that it’s hard to be to class on time in the first place, and that’s without trying to take care of one’s body like using the restroom or getting water to drink. It’s so important that students always have access to the ability to take care of their health
Story 2: He's the HERO APPLE. Keeping your family secrets is NOT WORTH missing out on important genetic information that can let you know about diseases and shit that you're predisposed to.
Also, no kid likes lies from their parents. Grandma saved that child from isolation and possibly feeling suicidal, she was someone was really there for her & not just regarding her as a responsibility.
Story 1: Crab Apple at the VERY LEAST. I get mom being protective, but I see why the teacher is following the rules.
Story 2: good apple. I understand wanting to protect your child, but what if mom had some health issues? I was going to go bad apple until I discovered the reason. In a world where MiLs get DNA tests because they think the mom cheated, getting a DNA test on the request of the grand daughter is so wholesome.
Story 3: good apple because you were supporting your child’s wishes.
Story 4: good apple. The fact that this young man has to resort to dumpster diving because his roommates are eating his food is sad. The other roommates are bad apples. I always check if it’s okay for me to eat something that I didn’t personally buy. On the bright side for him … maybe his roommates will be hesitant to eat his stuff from now on.
At all the schools I have worked at, the only exceptions were during major testing and schoolwide locker searches. Other than that, students who needed to use the bathroom could go. At the high schools, products were available (25¢) in the bathrooms. At the middle schools, students needed to go to the nurse to get products in an emergency.
Story 1- at my school we have 4 times a day we can go so like everyone can go 4 times a day
1-anytime before break
2- at break
3-lunch ( an hours or so after break)
4- anytime after lunch if and hour has passed
So I think she should’ve been allowed but I think crap apple just bc of the way she reacted
I know I'm a little late but wanted to put my input. Story 1: Based on just the information we have about how the teacher responded to the person going into their classroom, I'd say it had nothing to do with policy. and from my experience (I have been to 2 different high schools in different states) they have always had a nurse on campus and products (only know from my female friends). That being said I also don't particularly like how the parent responded either. So I have to go with bad apple for both because screaming at someone isn't going to get anyone anywhere.
We need a week where you post aitba everyday!!
Due to different reasons I started my period at 10 years old and I now know that I have a medical condition that causes this. While I couldn't use the products, my public middle school had them in the bathrooms. Feminine products are literally a necessity for life. Though I for sure would have asked why she wasn't allowed to go to the bathroom. I did have a very ignorant male teacher in high school who didn't believe women menstruate and I did have to go before and after his class though. Also kudos to that grandma because lying to your child about something that big isn't acceptable.
Story 1- I went to a rural school district (super widespread because of all the farms) and I doubt we had more money than most other schools, but I think they were able to work the budget just the right way that we had a nurse and products available (local businesses may have donated the products). I think since it’s such a close community in our county that enough things were donated so the school could spend their money on other things.
Regarding first story, not a teacher but at a call center. We used to have a "Vader box" with all of our time of the month supplies. A team lead kept it at her desk, and women would just go in and grab them if they forgot.
AHHH PLS DO MORE OF THESE I ❤ them soooooooooo much 🎄🎄🎄
I said 'Elf' at the exact same time as you 😄 I am not joking. I have a cup and a sign on my door that both have a picture of buddy and say, "Santa's coming! I know him!" and "Smiling is my favorite!" His happiness and excitement is just so contagious 😁
For story two. I cannot fathom as the mother forgiving the father after he presumably had an affair. When the kids find out and the middle child did, it inherently teaches these kids that this behavior is ok and is normal. My parents are divorced and my dad was in an abusive relationship with my mother. She is very manipulative. Don’t get me wrong I do love her she has done a lot for us but I understand her behavior is not acceptable thanks to my dad leaving. He is still very much involved in our lives (my brother and mine) but he does set boundaries for my mom’s behavior. I am now a freshman in college and I can say whole heartedly that it is thanks to my dad leaving and showing/teaching us that that kind of manipulation and toxicity in a relationship is not ok or to be tolerated. Thanks to him showing me it is ok to say no and to exit a situation like that I have thankfully gotten out of various relationships that were pretty toxic. I was able to recognize it and step away so I can’t believe the mother of the children would just allow her kids to be in a situation where the father was clearly unfaithful.
Yeah i agree for the last one although about mentioning “hey Im gonna bring something from the dumpster” then the person stealing the food will obviously not take it and wont be caught.
I dumpster dived in my 20's because food was scarce. However, my roomies were equally struggling so it was a team sport. We did it together. However I do agree with Rebecca that letting room mates know is a great idea. We had a shelf designated for such food and heavily cleaned it. People gotta eat!
For story 3, it hits home. My moms step mom, my grandma is crazy. She is horrible to my mom and it makes my blood boil. My grandpa still chooses to be with her and so they barely talk to my family anymore since we moved and other things that my grandma has done. When I get older I will be cutting contact with them if A. She continues to act like this or B. If my grandpa is still with her and she still acts like this. I love my grandpa a lot, but I would rather not talk to them then see them be disrespectful, manipulative and disgusting toward my mother❤
At my school, you get three bathroom passes in every class. Once you ran out, you can still go, but it’s a tardy. If you get enough tardys here, you could lose credit for some classes. I personally haven’t used any passes this whole year, since we can also go between classes and at lunch.
Teacher was a bad apple pure and simple; they could have walked up to the student, discreetly asked and not just say HOLD IT I'm sorry I know you are a teacher too but in this case, mom was a good apple
So I have a chronic illness that made it to where I might need to leave the room suddenly for either the bathroom or nurse. 3:26 (Stomach issues) The school initially would only allow me to have a nurses plan (mainly because teachers aren’t legally obliged to follow it) eventually it was obviously not working so they relented and allowed me to get a 504 (they did not like anyone to have a 504 or iep they would fight it or take it away every chance they got. My friend was dyslexic and they took hers away because she had good grades and wouldn’t reinstate it til she failed a class because “there’s no reason to justify the 504 if the student had good grades”). Thankfully the year I got mine the asst principal had taken it over from the guidance counselor for a year b/c the guidance counselor was unempathetic and causing problems with it. In mine they had it stated that I had to be allowed to run out of class for the bathroom or nurse. It also stated someone had to check on me and make sure I made it in case something happened. However broad bathroom policies with no exceptions are pretty bad. From a medical standpoint restricting bathroom use can lead to a lot of health issues. Now my Kindergarten teacher was actually the reason a girl in my glass was taken to the dr and getting diagnosed with diabetes. The girl was constantly going to the bathroom (multiple times an hour) and the teacher followed her a few times to see if she was goofing off and when she realized it she talked to the school nurse and her parents. She had twin baby brothers at home so her bathroom use went unnoticed by the parents.
story 1: I'm a pre service teacher and I will soon be on placement. In my country, you can potentially get in trouble for giving out feminine hygiene products in class because it can potentially be seen as violating student privacy since other students could potentially gain sensitive information such as health issues.
9:30 if we can’t have nurses on staff at every school at all times… then it’s time to reevaluate the whole country
It’s so hard to judge, because at least here in my province in Canada. We don’t have nurses, at all, ever, has never been a thing. Would have been helpful, probably. But in public education, or even private-it just isn’t a thing here. Bandaids are at the office, and in high school if you got permission from a parent, the office staff could give you a Tylenol tablet. Other than that…if you’re sick enough, you just get a call home/to parents. Although that wasn’t always even helpful. I remember feeling absolutely horribly sick, I think I had a weird fever reaction in grade five, and neither of my parents could be reached, nor my third emergency contact. It began shortly after I got to school, and I wasn’t able to be picked up until well into the lunch hour by my after school caregiver (why they couldn’t just have called her first if they couldn’t reach my parents is beyond me, they had to wait until my dad was able to phone and say to have her pick me up and he was then able to later that afternoon-guess it wasn’t written in my student emergency info) . Had to chill for a while in the principal’s office on her couch as the ‘sick room’ with a couch was occupied by a kid having a meltdown…it was awful. To this day I have rarely felt as bad as I felt that morning. I even slept when I finally was home, and I have basically never been able to nap, not since age 3ish and I’m 33. So I must have been quite sick. Whatever it was was short lived, and I was fine the next day but with the whole debacle the day before I was kept home and had to go with my dad to a conference he was going to, but at least there was a couch there for me to read on? Anyways. Times like that would have been useful to have a school nurse. Wish it was more common tbh.
@@MusikGirl23 there have been crazy emergencies at my school where we needed more than a bandage😅 we just play hard in the south/need therapy because of our parents. The nurse that came when I started high school was a blessing. (K-12 is on the same campus, and we all see the same nurse) She was great at her job, and was a far better counselor than the one in middle or high school. She listened when parents, teachers, and staff didn’t… Saving children from terrible situations, and keeping them from walking around all day with broken/fractured bones.
Nobody:
5:15 kitty in the corner: *🛀*
It also depends on where you are too. I know some friends in certain schools you could get those products by going to certain classes or going to student services. Completely depends on where you are in the world
The roommate is the bad apple for sure for stealing the food of someone who’s is struggling to get food to begin with.