These are the questions I ask myself (and are giving to you) to identify whether a person, environment or choice is aligned to a life that brings you happiness: 1) Does this leave me feeling lighter and more empowered, or does it exhaust me emotionally or physically? 2) Do I feel excited or neutral about this, or do I feel heaviness or avoidance? 3) Am I repeating the same negative experience over and over, with no change? 4) Does my intuition or gut feel uncomfortable around this? What is my body trying to tell me? 5) Does this align with the version of myself I’m becoming, or is it holding me back from my next level? 6) Am I constantly finding reasons to keep this in my life, even though it’s not making me happy or helping me grow? 7) Does this bring more joy or more pain into my life? 8) Am I holding onto this out of fear or because it genuinely adds value to my life? 9) Am I evolving with this, or do I feel stuck in place? 10) Is this still adding meaning to my life, or has it become empty or unfulfilling?
I relate so much to this! From teaching abroad (China) to the Cancer (myself not a parent), to the feeling of not being happy and something is missing. I am older than you by a little bit and am still trying to figure it all out. Seasons of transitions are so important for personal growth. I look forward to healing, growing and figuring it all out one day at a time.
Same age and feeling the same exact way. I’m missing community, purpose, a sense of serving others…being in my own bubble working remotely has disconnected me from so much, even though I’m scared to let go of this lifestyle. Having the freedom to be anywhere is great, but if you’re feeling empty in those places, is it really great? I’m thinking *no* lol. Thanks for making this video! ❤ you’re so not alone!
Community and purpose is a BIG one for me in this season. I am looking for my tribe and with me traveling it seems like I can’t wait for my tribe to find me. I need to be intentional about creating spaces for my tribe to show up. So my hope is to be in a place long enough to begin planning events for like minded people to show up 🤞🏾
What you're looking for will never become reality without time in a place. Being rooted with people you see everyday and grow with will never be topped. you cannot be truly connected to anyone without that one factor "habit/time/familiarity". The nonsense in entertainment about weird instant connection being romanticized is dramatic but not reality. Emptiness, superficial is what you will achieve.
Wow. As a 33 year old, so much of this resonates. I felt every single emotion you expressed in this video. Especially when it comes to happiness & mental health. Thank you for sharing. I am inspired and also relieved that someone else my age understands how I feel. Lately I’ve been telling people “I understand why Jesus took alone time to pray in that garden” lol because 33 has been enlightening but something else at the same time. Btw..You weren’t rambling at all! This was amazing. ❤Many prayers to you & your family.
33:12 "And here I am on a rooftop in Brazil." Girl, can I come? Haha. In all seriousness, it completely makes sense to grieve the life you thought you'd have. I think many of us, starting very young, are taught to plan out our "successful lives." I for sure was. I think after newness and excitement settle down, the same problems or some form of discontent can reappear in every new chapter of our lives. This is a great video! I've been following you a long time, and you're very inspirational.
Very powerful video I watched it two times! You will eventually find your happiness, I hope all of us do. The key is you are now paying close attention to what your body is feeling. I love this video I am going to share this with my sister, you guys are the same age. Even as someone in my 20's I heavily relate to many of the things you said. Keep going!
I know the feeling. I've left a toxic job for a better looking one with more pay. I have a loving husband and baby, a good and small network of friends, charity work etc. I've also been ill this year so I'm trying to focus on my health more. But I feel like something is missing. I miss being artisitic and that can be harder with a child but I'm getting there. I once had a community that brought older people and younger people together for events and knowledge sharing, most of the people were very kind and open, I still grieve for some of the older members we lost across the last 4 years. The charity collapsed a year ago. My other volunteering opps don't feel as rewarding and a new version of the charity is running but with less events and people, it's not the same sadly as now it's fully run by one volunteer and I'm trying to find a new space with a similar ethos.
I'm almost 30, I finished university not long time ago and I really having more and more the same feeling. I feel like have haven't made it. I don't know if I'm really happy I feel like I need to do more. Thank you for this video ☺️ I wish you all the best for you, your family and your entrepreneur journey 😁
Enjoyed listening to this! The art of letting go, gratitude, and realizing we are all just here! Have been watching your videos since Korea! You got this!
1st you're a wonderful story teller. sidetone: I knew 1 black girl who got signed with EPIK at a school in Gangnam. She's the only black girl I knew who got to teach there. Epik or Hagwon. I wonder if it's the same school you taught at. Like you left such a good impression they asked for another black girl. Lol the girl who I took over from was also black, and she told me she left a good impression with them
I was hired through the Gangnam Office of education. But my one of the reasons I was leaving was because they were absolving that office and it was going to be taken over by EPIK which would’ve changed all of my benefits and put me back into the random school pool which I didn’t want. I taught at Sookmyung Girls Middle school near Dogkok station 💜
Also Thank you! I always think that I ramble with my storytelling if I don’t plan it out first. This topic has been on my mind for a bit, so I am happy I was able to portray it in a way that was engaging for you 💜
I took some time to reflect on your comment and did some research on my own. I do believe that I am on a journey to find connection to my divine purpose. Part of that connection was detaching and releasing the identity i thought I had to be, and through that I walk closer in alignment with my truest, divine self. I wanted to leave some of my research here for others who may be in the stage of life that I am and feeling similarly to me: The concept of a God-shaped hole refers to an inner emptiness or longing caused by disconnection from the divine, your higher self, or life’s deeper purpose. This void represents the soul’s need for spiritual fulfillment, which cannot be satisfied by external things like achievements, relationships, or possessions. It signals a misalignment with your true essence and the energetic flow of the universe. How to Fill the God-Shaped Hole Acknowledge the Longing Recognize that the emptiness you feel is a call to reconnect with your spiritual essence, not a flaw. Reconnect with the Divine Within Engage in practices like meditation, silence, or affirmations to sense the divine presence within yourself. Develop a Personal Spiritual Practice Build a relationship with the divine-through prayer, journaling, or spending time in nature-allowing for connection and guidance. Align with Your Soul’s Purpose Identify what brings you meaning and joy, and take actions aligned with that purpose. Acts of service also nurture connection and fulfillment. Heal Energetic Blocks Release unhealed trauma or limiting beliefs that obstruct divine flow. Use practices like breathwork, forgiveness, and energy healing to clear the way. Practice Gratitude and Presence Focus on what is already abundant in your life, and engage fully in the present moment to feel connected with the divine here and now. Conclusion The God-shaped hole is an invitation to rediscover the divine presence within you. True fulfillment comes not from external pursuits but from reconnecting with your spiritual essence. As you align with your higher self, live with purpose, and embrace gratitude, the emptiness transforms into wholeness, bringing lasting peace and connection.
These are the questions I ask myself (and are giving to you) to identify whether a person, environment or choice is aligned to a life that brings you happiness:
1) Does this leave me feeling lighter and more empowered, or does it exhaust me emotionally or physically?
2) Do I feel excited or neutral about this, or do I feel heaviness or avoidance?
3) Am I repeating the same negative experience over and over, with no change?
4) Does my intuition or gut feel uncomfortable around this? What is my body trying to tell me?
5) Does this align with the version of myself I’m becoming, or is it holding me back from my next level?
6) Am I constantly finding reasons to keep this in my life, even though it’s not making me happy or helping me grow?
7) Does this bring more joy or more pain into my life?
8) Am I holding onto this out of fear or because it genuinely adds value to my life?
9) Am I evolving with this, or do I feel stuck in place?
10) Is this still adding meaning to my life, or has it become empty or unfulfilling?
I relate so much to this! From teaching abroad (China) to the Cancer (myself not a parent), to the feeling of not being happy and something is missing. I am older than you by a little bit and am still trying to figure it all out. Seasons of transitions are so important for personal growth. I look forward to healing, growing and figuring it all out one day at a time.
Same age and feeling the same exact way. I’m missing community, purpose, a sense of serving others…being in my own bubble working remotely has disconnected me from so much, even though I’m scared to let go of this lifestyle. Having the freedom to be anywhere is great, but if you’re feeling empty in those places, is it really great? I’m thinking *no* lol. Thanks for making this video! ❤ you’re so not alone!
Community and purpose is a BIG one for me in this season. I am looking for my tribe and with me traveling it seems like I can’t wait for my tribe to find me. I need to be intentional about creating spaces for my tribe to show up. So my hope is to be in a place long enough to begin planning events for like minded people to show up 🤞🏾
What you're looking for will never become reality without time in a place. Being rooted with people you see everyday and grow with will never be topped. you cannot be truly connected to anyone without that one factor "habit/time/familiarity". The nonsense in entertainment about weird instant connection being romanticized is dramatic but not reality. Emptiness, superficial is what you will achieve.
Wow. As a 33 year old, so much of this resonates. I felt every single emotion you expressed in this video. Especially when it comes to happiness & mental health. Thank you for sharing. I am inspired and also relieved that someone else my age understands how I feel. Lately I’ve been telling people “I understand why Jesus took alone time to pray in that garden” lol because 33 has been enlightening but something else at the same time. Btw..You weren’t rambling at all! This was amazing. ❤Many prayers to you & your family.
33:12 "And here I am on a rooftop in Brazil." Girl, can I come? Haha. In all seriousness, it completely makes sense to grieve the life you thought you'd have. I think many of us, starting very young, are taught to plan out our "successful lives." I for sure was. I think after newness and excitement settle down, the same problems or some form of discontent can reappear in every new chapter of our lives. This is a great video! I've been following you a long time, and you're very inspirational.
been watching you since your korea days, super proud of you girl, and how far you've come. will always be rooting for you!
Thank you so much!!
Very powerful video I watched it two times! You will eventually find your happiness, I hope all of us do. The key is you are now paying close attention to what your body is feeling. I love this video I am going to share this with my sister, you guys are the same age. Even as someone in my 20's I heavily relate to many of the things you said. Keep going!
Poured your heart out on this one. Was wondering how your mum situation was handled. Wish her a speedy recovery. Loved it. Happy healing 🙂🙂
Yes, my mom is doing okay. She does find comfort in her routine and has family around her that supports her as I am traveling
I know the feeling. I've left a toxic job for a better looking one with more pay. I have a loving husband and baby, a good and small network of friends, charity work etc. I've also been ill this year so I'm trying to focus on my health more. But I feel like something is missing. I miss being artisitic and that can be harder with a child but I'm getting there.
I once had a community that brought older people and younger people together for events and knowledge sharing, most of the people were very kind and open, I still grieve for some of the older members we lost across the last 4 years. The charity collapsed a year ago. My other volunteering opps don't feel as rewarding and a new version of the charity is running but with less events and people, it's not the same sadly as now it's fully run by one volunteer and I'm trying to find a new space with a similar ethos.
you posted this on my 29th birthday and I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I really needed to hear this.
This was beautiful and inspiring to watch. I love seeing Black women self actualize and transform. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm almost 30, I finished university not long time ago and I really having more and more the same feeling. I feel like have haven't made it. I don't know if I'm really happy I feel like I need to do more.
Thank you for this video ☺️
I wish you all the best for you, your family and your entrepreneur journey 😁
Enjoyed listening to this! The art of letting go, gratitude, and realizing we are all just here!
Have been watching your videos since Korea!
You got this!
Your life is beautiful and you are beautiful, I am so glad to witness your journey and I thank you for the time you've given, you truly are inspiring
So much of what you said resonates with me.Jeremiah 29:11.
29 and currently feeling this way, it also feels as if I’m grieving something and my heart has been heavy
I met you once in Korea and now at 32 I feel the same way you do
Great video and You are so gorgeous!! 😍😍
Thank you so much!!
1st you're a wonderful story teller.
sidetone: I knew 1 black girl who got signed with EPIK at a school in Gangnam. She's the only black girl I knew who got to teach there. Epik or Hagwon. I wonder if it's the same school you taught at. Like you left such a good impression they asked for another black girl. Lol the girl who I took over from was also black, and she told me she left a good impression with them
I was hired through the Gangnam Office of education. But my one of the reasons I was leaving was because they were absolving that office and it was going to be taken over by EPIK which would’ve changed all of my benefits and put me back into the random school pool which I didn’t want. I taught at Sookmyung Girls Middle school near Dogkok station 💜
Also Thank you! I always think that I ramble with my storytelling if I don’t plan it out first. This topic has been on my mind for a bit, so I am happy I was able to portray it in a way that was engaging for you 💜
Nat you look great! Looks like you lost a lot of weight!🧡
Oh thank you!
Damn
Thats your God-shaped hole Nat, the Lord is calling you
I took some time to reflect on your comment and did some research on my own. I do believe that I am on a journey to find connection to my divine purpose. Part of that connection was detaching and releasing the identity i thought I had to be, and through that I walk closer in alignment with my truest, divine self.
I wanted to leave some of my research here for others who may be in the stage of life that I am and feeling similarly to me:
The concept of a God-shaped hole refers to an inner emptiness or longing caused by disconnection from the divine, your higher self, or life’s deeper purpose. This void represents the soul’s need for spiritual fulfillment, which cannot be satisfied by external things like achievements, relationships, or possessions. It signals a misalignment with your true essence and the energetic flow of the universe.
How to Fill the God-Shaped Hole
Acknowledge the Longing
Recognize that the emptiness you feel is a call to reconnect with your spiritual essence, not a flaw.
Reconnect with the Divine Within
Engage in practices like meditation, silence, or affirmations to sense the divine presence within yourself.
Develop a Personal Spiritual Practice
Build a relationship with the divine-through prayer, journaling, or spending time in nature-allowing for connection and guidance.
Align with Your Soul’s Purpose
Identify what brings you meaning and joy, and take actions aligned with that purpose. Acts of service also nurture connection and fulfillment.
Heal Energetic Blocks
Release unhealed trauma or limiting beliefs that obstruct divine flow. Use practices like breathwork, forgiveness, and energy healing to clear the way.
Practice Gratitude and Presence
Focus on what is already abundant in your life, and engage fully in the present moment to feel connected with the divine here and now.
Conclusion
The God-shaped hole is an invitation to rediscover the divine presence within you. True fulfillment comes not from external pursuits but from reconnecting with your spiritual essence. As you align with your higher self, live with purpose, and embrace gratitude, the emptiness transforms into wholeness, bringing lasting peace and connection.