Recovery Dangers - Part 9/10 - Victim Mentality
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Children of Complex Trauma are victims of neglect, abuse, or abandonment. The problem is that as many reach adulthood, they continue to see themselves as victims. Living with a victim mentality is a very dangerous place for someone in recovery to be. Find out why people slide into a victim mentality, and learn tools to break out of this self-destructive habit.
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I think 'victim mentality' has a negative connotation and telling someone who has a mental illness that phrase makes it seem like they're to blame for what's happening. I just think the wording should be "stagnant response" or "cyclic response" or something related to learned helplessness.
Btw all of your videos have help me tremendously! You put into words what I have experienced but could never explain.
I think here Tim is explaining what happens when learnt helplines is taken to the extreme in adulthood
I agree victim mentality is a harmful label. Cyclic thinking. Stagnant response.
Thank you.
I think, like in all his other presentations, Tim calls it out using real language and what it truly is.
I suspect if it’s a triggering term, it’s hitting something that needs to be addressed.
2:12 “A lot of people don’t even see it in themselves”
Think of victim mentality as a common cold and victim complex is a lifelong chronic illness that will get worse unless the person. pursues recovery.
You are not just speaking to the camera. You are rescuing my life in past 3 months. Ive been watching lots of your videos. Thank you from South India. Its very helpful. And why these series aren't getting million views? I think all should watch this. Not only people have complex trauma. Thanks a lot.
This is for every woman out tgere ever stalked by a man and then called a liar !! Because of the possition they have because of tge job they have !!
This is a very complex subject. I am a victim of the victim mentality due to trauma addiction made it way worse
Lol how can you be a victim of a victim mentality 😂
@@aaronmann9442 i think they meant they were the echo chamber for someone with victim mentality, at least thats how i understood it, therapist friend but worse 💀
I can relate to everything Tim says here. I am getting so much self awareness from listening to Tim. He is amazing
When I'm bombarded with brain dysregulation, and constant triggers... yes I go directly into self-pity. I can take responsibility for my life and still be triggered by everything happening around me. I can stop telling sad stories though and stop trying to get pity from others.
Sadness is so meaningful to some because it’s mind-blowing to us. Sad songs rule!
We got to get rid of it.
I wish someone had sent this to me 3yrs ago i/o me finding it on my own, now. Would have saved me quite a bit of heartache.
Thanks, I was thinking about sending this to someone I know, but I was hesitant, because it can sound very accusatory and a kick in the nuts while you already feel down, and I don't want to cause that in anyone. Thank you for affirming this message can indeed be welcomed 🙂
@marleenstukkien5384 Most people will absolutely be offended being sent this simply because of the title of the video. If they watch it though, and are capable of self reflection, they may not be so offended.
BIG THANK YOU. ❤ Tim
LEARN ALOT From YOU🙏
That’s my parents’ life story right there. So sad.
I'm definitely grateful for all of these series. Thank you. 🙏
Bless you Tim for your teaching. It has helped me tremendously and my daughter is also receiving your teaching! It is giving us hope and tools to overcome!
Watching 3rd time with note book. Great truths, that I can validate the pain & respect myself enough to do something about it. Thanks very much.
This gives me so much hope. Three years and counting. Xxx thanks Tim.
So much work to do…
So grateful that you doing the awkward job of talking to a camera and nobody. Transforming my life!
And dude I’m not trying to blame anyone else or not take responsibility but sometimes shit really is not your fucking fault
Wow, thanks very much. Got some awareness & tools to grow. Always benefit from your teachings.
You're a God send!Thank you!
This is so real for me right now….incredible
Much gratitude 🙏🏻
This was excellent and so helpful. I just wish there was a portion on how to approach and set boundaries with someone (especially a family member) who has a victim mentality.
Tim! You are amazing!! So grateful for your videos 😊
Amazing. He's amazing. Thank you Tim
A woman who is over 60. Has no income of her own - no family to take her in - no bank account - no job - no way to get a job to REALLY support herself (unless she wants to live in the ghetto). Whose narcissistic spouse is committed to make her life a living hell if she leaves - she'll have to fight for every penny - who can't afford a lawyer - whose spouse is verbally/psychologically abusive all the time... he won't go for any counseling. What does she do? I 've spoken with her and if I cud, I'd let her live in our house. How does she have a healthy life?
Women’s shelter
@@cody_go_createno no, she probably needs to find a situation like a live in Nanny or something g likev that..you know maybe even a company that does professional.Companionship for elderly clients. There's a big industry in Elder day care..the lady does have options. She can get a job, lots of seniors work!! Really! I see them working the cash register at the Super Market, and CVS!
The Ghetto looks different now
She goes on section 8 housing and food stamps
She gets with God!! Pray and let God do what only He can do. He works miracles!
Choosing pain. So true
Great insight! Many thanks.
thanks sir
Thank You So Much!!!!
thank U Tim
Perfect video at the perfect time !
I can relate every single word to my life.
Thank you
LOVE THIS ONE!!🙌
Ty
This is describing Vulnerable Narcissists?
I think narcissist may be overused and in a mentally unhealthy situation two people contribute to mental instability may result which looks like narcissist
this is all well and good, but does it work? Can one heal?
Such a good sound in this one 😭
wish I'd have found your channel at the time all this shite was happening.
How many wait on God/ Jesus to come and save them .?
@tim How do both people (parents) heal from this cycle ?
But we not victimized though? I just want someone I know to get that
Yes, you deserve a “witness”. My theory (and maybe others too) on healing is we each need ONE person who loves us to hear us, understand us, and ACHE WITH US for that pain holding our mind hostage. Then I think we can heal.
Omg!! what an epiphany this video is !!
No dear Fletcher not everyone sensetionalise their story !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep that in your F mind. I barely share my story and my story is really sensational without me making it sensational
I'm in heal and destroy mode. WorkSafeBC kills. Destroy WorkSafeBC. Heal, learn, destroy. It's important to have goals.