@@giftedplanksify yep! Also back away , or threaten to leave every single time she falls out of line . If she’s crazy about you yet tries to hide it , she’ll always want you back.
As a woman I agree, it feels relieving to know that there are legit masculine man out there guiding the puzzled young men . Keep up the good work, may God bless you 🌸
Perfect advice. Ive heard that from one girl, my beautiful, now fiance. Im 54 and have a 42 yr old model as my partner. Not until i walked away, proved to myself their were others out there, she contacted me back, i resisted at first, and took her back. Our relationship has transformed. Also through the process, never lose your cool. Be calm and resepctful in communication and confrontation. My best to you brothers.
I employed these tactics and after hanging out with me for 2 months having the most mind-blowing sex, making her cum, everything - I kept my feelings quiet and maintained distance and stayed aloof. She ended up choosing the guy who communicated his feelings clearly and literally confessed his love for her and worshipped her. I'm so confused.
I needed someone like Casey Zander to mentor me when I was in middle school, and then high school and college. Everything I believed and everything I was told by girls and by my parents all throughout my life was wrong!
@@alexanderhamilton8585at the end of the day we will still lose and miss her forever they will never know or care about the pain wish i found casey sooner
That's because society is feminized. Without the masculine framework, there is no structure around learning/understanding/disciplining emotions. Typical, if it's just your mom, she will typically teach you all the wrong things. Even if she's a woman, she will still instruct you to be nice to women. And today's men, they tend to be feminized and give that same propaganda advice, instead of understanding the world around them (they conform to society and are more emotionally driven instead).
*When you connect on a deeper level and maintain that genuine interest in her thoughts, feelings, and desires, you build something long-lasting. Solid advice for any man wanting to keep a meaningful connection thriving!*
She told me she felt safe with me on our first date. She also told me that I reminded her of her father. I pretty much had this sealed until I texted her that I liked her amongst other cringe messages. Live and learn.
@@raddadization true to only some extent. How, if a girl is initially interested in you it wouldn't matter regardless whether you divulge your feelings or not.
If she’d really liked you, she would’ve actually appreciated you telling her you like her, bro. Sorry about that. Hope you find a better one next time. At least you seem to be coming across fine in your dates!
@@gabrielottaviano exactly. The only slight thing I think makes a difference is how much was said relative to the level it was on. For instance, it would seem insincere to say the L word on a first conversation.
Bro I checked all this boxes and she still cheat . When i left she did everything to get me back i refused and she became crazy . She’s now on med. it’s all about a womans state of mind . Yes with this you’d get a lot of ladies however it doesn’t mean they’d stay . Me just enjoying my single life till i decide to give love a chance again in decades to come 😂
Yes man, it highly depends on the value dynamic of the relationship inherently. And the age of the woman. You might be with a chick who ain't for settling down yet.
You were dealing with a full blown narcissist you did the right thing not taking her back. Any woman that cheats for that matter. I tip my hat off to you sir, a man with dignity and self respect I can drink a beer with.
@@daebak7370 No in the modern age they all do that. As soon as your out the door they're on tinder. It's been confirmed that most people on dating apps are already married and 50% of women all have backup partners.
yup for other men, NOT the bf or husband! tell that to military men that have long postings away, who ALL use the phrase "when the cat is away the mice will play" then most of whom get dear john letters and cheated upon.
Yea make sure there’s drama … how? Don’t accept anything you don’t find acceptable.. they will get angry … who cares ?? step aside leave …become absent and if they do care they come back with a stronger attraction to you… then you make it memorable so she can feel she chose correctly … is how you make things to balance.. not always being agreeable… if there’s no need to be …. They will always test you … you just go on living my king brothers … having a life a part from her will only make you more attractive and stronger! With her or without her!
Just stumbled on this channel and one minute in I’m hooked. The way you explain it is like a football coach right before the big game. Keep ‘em coming my friend.
The girl that I’m talking to literally just told me yesterday those exact words.. “I feel safe around you” this puts that statement into perspective.. guess I’m doing something right!
One thing we must look out for is the shiny object syndrome. It is natural to want the ABSOLUTE best for yourself, but dont underestimate the degree to which you can build together. YOU must be the leader as a man and guide the ship away from the rocky flats, this is called wisdom- in a perfect world, and at the very least it is something we can strive for.
A very manipulative narcissistic move called 'push - pull' that's basically placing someone on a pedestal then devaluing them or trying to make them insecure with the intention they will chase you is a very dangerous game. Healthy people with boundaries will just simply see it as a reason to distrust and walk away for good. I know that there are many interpretations on what is meant in this video. I agree that not being very codependent or clingy is always the goal. You want to be at the page where each would still CHOOSE to be with the other but not depend on them for all of every part of life and purpose. Check in with her emotionally every now and then on how her life is going, it really goes a long way to put the friend in boyfriend!
Appreciate this bc as a married man sometimes we go through phases and obviously I understand that’s just gonna happen. I so much appreciate the skills I learn from you!! Nobody works harder than I do, 2 daughters plus side hustle w business but the fact is I’m not a fkn lier and truth be told I’m in a bit of a rough place as far as keeping my marriage spicy. It’s not like we are hurting it’s just like you said vacation but girls have obligations and we just kinda stuck @ home, anyways thanks for the info on masculinity bc that’s my goal is to get BETTER! Better father, husband, etc... Fkn A I have heard that I feel safe line!! My kid like presence was my bread and butter back in the day, girls/ women loved it lol
@@alyssamurphy2002 telling him to do these things won't make him do them, he has to come to this frame of mind on his own. my ex broke up with me multiple times, i still have her in my life and I think we will workout in the end but the loss was what inspired me to change, I've grown so much in the last year and a bit. if you are unhappy you have to take action.
I finally learned to leverage, my strength, which is that I’m at the core, a sweet, sensitive, caring man, with finances and life stable - that doesn’t mean I’m weak or get walked on. It does mean that I can emotionally connect in a way that a lot of other guys can’t, so I use that advantage to build Vertically, not horizontally, with a few important women. BTW, it’s not the friend zone if you’re the one who wants to keep it just friends.
I found out that surprises work real well when you arent in full scale vacation mode, for no reason, just to celebrate you know her! I'll go get her fav food and bring it home without saying anything, or get her flowers, again dont say anything before hand just go out and get her something she likes without warning, that will get you through the doldrums!
Something I discovered way back when I had this amazing summer romance, when I was a 19-year-old lifeguard. Even though we were both crazy for each other, going on amazing, romantic dates, and screwing like rabbits, I forced myself to only see her every other day. This kept the tension going all summer long, and kept her hungry for more.
I fn love you brother. I married my wife at 19. Yes I was terrible to my wife. I was an introvert and she still is a beautiful extrovert. We did things to each other that others couldn’t handle. I’m not placing blame. That being said, hopefully I can get through my depression of failing a 20 year marriage with some understanding. Short story thank you. Keep doing what you do. I’m a good man without a paddle. No excuses. You offer a paddle floating around. Thank you 🙏
Casey am ngl bro I’m exhausted, I’ve only watched like 5 vids over the last couple weeks and I feel like my brain has been completely fkn mashed with all this new info. No drugs, no drinking, eating well but damn, bro, F**K. 12 years man. 12 fkn years. Take the loss? Bro.
@@immers2410 people sense desperation and run away, whether employers or women they want people who are in demand, if you are in demand they know you are valuable
@@scottsummers4115 well if you want to interface with the world then you do care Else if you live alone in the mountains away from humanity you are out of the game
This was straight cut and shoot to the main points! I actually really enjoyed this very much. I am an above average looking male and yet throughout my life I still have never mastered how to be extremely comfortable around beautiful women.
To be comfortable around extremely attractive women - you should look for many flaws in the woman, and then keep repeating them to yourself in your head like a mantra.
@@nickmoran8417 nah lmao. That's putting them below what they are. Don't look for flaws or good shit in just women/men/whateverthefuck, look for good in everyone, complement them sincerely, have fun and crack jokes. Don't be a suck up and don't tolerate disrespect. You should be fine
@@tushargupta4262 You’re giving the wrong person advice. I don’t have a problem with women. I was just making the point that he’s not putting women on a pedestal.
First thing she said after the deed and first time at the pad . After my late 20's I lived everything he says and didn't realize what I was doing , just came natural . He's dead on . 57 still having great relationships with all different age women and I'm always the one who breaks it off . Married once , wanted a divorce so I said fine , and then she spent 3 years trying to get me back took me on trips , the whole 9 . Master outcome unattachment is KEY . Casey is the Man .
The Hungry Never Get Feed Master Outcome Unattachment hence Your coming from abundance If you Need anything from Anybody it fundamentally puts you at a disadvantage Be presentable Be Confident Have No intentions
In a way the rules of the game are very similar to spiritual lessons. You will lose what you attach yourself to, let go of the outcome, what you force runs away from you etc. Been following your content for a while, after ingurgitating redpill Alpha bullshit for a while (I believe in HVM concepts and such, but most of the redpill content lacks finesse and intelligence, in depth analysis), this is a more healthy approach in my opinion. Not about makings bags, being jacked and pickup, but about becoming a top of your OWN game man. There are alphas, but it doesn’t take being that to get girls and feel happy. I think it’s mostly about leaving the beta frame, but it won’t make everyone alphas, by definition they are a singularity.
She Must Feel Safe Around you.(i feel safe around you) She must feel this emotion on an evolutionary basis. So have Vision,Goals,Purpose, Hardwork, Strength, Action.
1 & 3 resonated so fkn well. I am working on 2 (safety) 1. For some reason I subconsciously pull away after a date and take time to regroup, but for her it works like an attraction as the next time I see her she is all excited of what crazy idea I will come up next. 3. When I see a woman with other options I subconsciously feel better cuz I see all those simps around her and since she reaches out to me first I know she has no one better than me in her life (kind of boosts my ego and it levels me up in my game making me further not see the reason to reach out to her and she shows even more playfulness after that). Now, when it comes to 2 (safety) I realized just a year ago. I had no game in that area. However, since I started working on it I noticed it is not just about having a vision but also about being alert to your surrounding to be able to predict what will happen next based on what happened so far. This allows you to relax further making you look like you are in control.
At first I thought it was lame when women said "I feel safe with you" right before we enter a relationship when I said something loving and romantic, but now I know that phrase is super powerful and just as loving and romantic as the shit I said. Women and men see love and romance from two different perspectives, and it is just really fascinating how different we are. One of the best videos you have ever made Casey. Long time viewer, but now you earned a sub from me.
Casey Zander, I am so glad I subscribed. I dated a girl just recently, she said, I feel safe with you as he stopped on a park bench on a hike. Unfortunately I made some mistakes and didn't watch enough of your videos to find out later why she dumped me. Keep up the good work helping men. Especially when were 5'6" and broke from divorce rape.
If you have the opinion that the dating game is rigged or whatever then just level up anyway. It only improves you and if you do find a woman who respects you and you can lead then hopefully its one less casualty of this war we're in.
I swear. Most of my friends think the game is rigged. They also....drink like sailors, overweight, work bs jobs, etc etc. I dropped them and ride solo like Jason Derulo 💪😂
In terms of seduction, we are only really excited by what is denied to us, by what we cannot possess in full. Your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away, to make others come after you, delaying their satisfaction. Most people miscalculate and surrender too soon, worried that the other person will lose interest, or that giving the other what he or she wants will grant the giver a kind of power. The truth is the opposite: once you satisfy someone, you no longer have the initiative, and you open yourself up to the possibility that he or she will lose interest at the slightest whim
I employed these tactics and after hanging out with me for 2 months having the most mind-blowing sex, making her cum, everything - I kept my feelings quiet and maintained distance and stayed aloof. She ended up choosing the guy who communicated his feelings clearly and literally confessed his love for her and worshipped her. I'm so confused.
Outstanding video. Short, easy to digest, and really resonates as a truth that is achievable. Thanks, I will definitely be challenging myself to implement this as a mindset moving forward.
Note- for the effort and time you hold off on sex, at least until after a clear two way commitment, it has been shown to build trust. So if you want the Woman to really trust you, that is a different thing than to guide her to think she can feel safe with you.
1.dont leave in scarcity mindset of anything like money or other that makes you weak .. beacuse hungry Never get fed ...master unattachment ..you won mostly the front end game ...3 thing you need to master 1 seduction ...most men belive that It happen by spending time ...but it happen only time spent apart ..beacuse there is need for arousal ..you can't maintain chemistry if ur consistent together ..only after seduction you can move to safety 2.saftey...it is ur responsibility to set a plan ..not only leading the day to day activities ..but you have vision where you headed in life arousal and safety is backend game ..you have vision purpose strength ..you should not be insecure about anything 3.u should maintain you're frame
I’m hearing “I feel so safe around you daddy” now from an amazing woman I’ve been taking to for 2 months. She lives across country and so I only see her once a month. Just about everything you say in this lesson is balls on.
I find that more mature women in their 30s and 40s need consistent and steady time together in order to feel safe. Its still a constant balancing act with seduction, so as to not make them feel rejected or discarded
here as a woman watching this. This summarises everything i've been feeling in the last months. Also i've researched a lot about this whole red pill blue pill stuff and why it's evolutionary normal to be drawn to successful intelligent tall guys..... In this video you perfectly explained what i miss in my boyfriend. and you perfectly explayned why i fell in love with this other guy who made me feel like this seduction safety frame thing. just thank you for completing the understanding of myself
So, you are going to cheat on him !! Because, you found something better !! Women are so smarter & they understand a lot of stuffs which guys never capable of !! Women are extremely selfish by nature
Good one on the I feel safe and the magic. All three of my wives and many girlfriends have said that to me and those were moments I knew they were completely emotionally involved and committed to me.
@@ratdaddee He had to have screwed up one of the other two. Most likely lost Frame. #3 Frame seems to be the hardest one for most guys to master, esp. younger or smaller guys (which makes sense). However dude looks over 50+ in his profile, still most guys brainwashed by decades of social conditioning tv/movies of weak Beta behaviors and get insecure with wo-men OBSESSED with social media makes this near inevitable for any guy! 😆
My advise to all men out there. Be and stay who you are. Videos like this will get you thinking and that leads to a path thats not you anymore. When you finally get the girl of your dreams she will find out very soon you where just a act. When that happens you will be very very effected by it. Just be.... the women will pick you for who you are. The only thing you can do and still be you is make sure your body and mental health are in top condition and maybe even more important... get your life goals in order. A broken men... women smell them from a mile away. A men who puts on a act.... women will smell that from the other side of the galaxy. Stop watching this and be who you are. You can use this content to improve something you didn't know, but never use it as an act. The good men in this video is telling how it is. Use it wisely.
I employed these tactics and after hanging out with me for 2 months having the most mind-blowing sex, making her cum, everything - I kept my feelings quiet and maintained distance and stayed aloof. She ended up choosing the guy who communicated his feelings clearly and literally confessed his love for her and worshipped her. I'm so confused.
@@WOLFanddBEAReverybody leaves each other after sometime dude.Stop whining like a little boy’Oh these women are so mean.I don’t wanna play with them mommy’🙄🙄
Believe it or not, my last 3 attempts in the past year, each and everyone of them told me "I trust you and I feel safe with you, but I just want to be friends", so while in the "friend zone" they still wanted to spend a lot of time with me but just as friends. I decided to go along with it until I find someone. Now I have a girl, I managed to shake one but 2 still seem "needy" for my "friendship" up to the point that my current girlfriend accepted them as friends too. Before I met my current girl, ( who I'm with for about 3 months now) I promised myself if I hear those words again "I trust you and I feel safe with you" on the second date I'm running..! So far so good..!😂
is that so? here is a quote for you too. "when the cat is away the mice will play" tell that to military men that have long postings away, who ALL use that phrase then most of whom get dear john letters and cheated upon and divorced upon returning "home"
I'm just ok at seduction, excellent at making them feel safe, but frame is my biggest challenge. So hard to extract yourself from old, unproductive habits.
I have a severe facial deformity so I don’t think that this would work for me. If you are not physically attractive, pulling these steps off will not work. Women don’t want to deal with below average men.
That’s not true. Focus on areas where you feel most confident and exude that. Accept the way your face looks and be comfortable in your own skin and women will too!
Guys! Casey is the MAN! I am 54 and just jumped back in the game! Met a beautiful 38 year old. I thought after 4 weeks things were going Great! Had a lunch date and she said she wanted to take it slow. Sent to many texts questioning things and destroyed it in a matter of minutes. I’m 6’4, fit, attractive and got good game. You CAN NOT catch feelings. Keep your distance! Do Not Go all in. They want to slow things down. Then you back TF off. Way off! Go out with other girls. Get your Frame right. And most of all, listen and implement Casey’s teachings in your life. You’ll be a better man for it..
Ive always heard that from every girl ive dated and ive been crushing it for 20 plus years. Just got married to the most beautiful czech girl. Time apart is key and showing her you have options and will walk away if she doesnt act right but let her know youre not going to for no reason
Can confirm. I’m 6’ 3”, 215lbs at 14% body fat, make 100k+, and a 27yr old virgin. Just started dating a couple months ago for the first time and damn, didn’t realize how far behind I was lol.
I'd add a bit more detail on "how" to this already excellent video. Talk about how to build confidence, chivalry, and presence - the things that demonstrate seduction, safety, and frame.
@@DuncanL7979 I define "presence" as staying mindful and in the moment (as opposed to letting your mind wander to the future or past). "Frame," to me, is knowing and enforcing your boundaries, staying in integrity (making your actions reflect your words).
Thanks for all these videos. Wish I could of found them earlier. I was raised by a masculine single mom so I had no understanding of what a woman was till now. My wife thanks you, but If I would of found you sooner I probably would of kept shopping for a woman. Shes wanted me to understand her nature earlier. Better late then never I guess.
Not challenging your statement as a general matter but I have managed to keep a good marriage for over 15 years where we often spend every day all day together because we own our own business and work from home. It is challenging though and sharing an office doesn't work long term.
Finally a guy that acknowledges men do want relationships. All us women are ever told is that men generally don’t ever want to commit as a natural default. That just can’t be true…right?
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Very curious how many guys have wasted 2 hours plus of a guy talking in circles.
What is you have sex on the first date should I keep her or let her go?
Thai stuff pales in comparison to Ross Jeffries stuff 😅
If a woman thinks she can manipulate you , and you pretty much do whatever she wants , then you’re already in big trouble.
Just let her think that she's in control
@@giftedplanksify yep! Also back away , or threaten to leave every single time she falls out of line . If she’s crazy about you yet tries to hide it , she’ll always want you back.
@@XoXo475 that's f'd up, the women of the East aren't like that
I wonder how women speak about men in dating compared to what we say about women.
@@blockaderunner you are wrong .. the Eastern women are like this too. its just social restriction that stops them sometimes.
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder."
Blow her back out makes the heart grow fonder.
Not always
Sometimes during absence , they find something else 😂
@@XoXo475 Back workout
“And the loins wander”
As a woman I agree, it feels relieving to know that there are legit masculine man out there guiding the puzzled young men . Keep up the good work, may God bless you 🌸
Unfortunately, modern women are really low quality. 304-flation is real.
shut up bitch
Perfect advice. Ive heard that from one girl, my beautiful, now fiance. Im 54 and have a 42 yr old model as my partner. Not until i walked away, proved to myself their were others out there, she contacted me back, i resisted at first, and took her back. Our relationship has transformed. Also through the process, never lose your cool. Be calm and resepctful in communication and confrontation. My best to you brothers.
bro you're with a 42yo woman? And you call her a model? She's a washed up 304 bro.
@@Amfred you jelly bro?
I employed these tactics and after hanging out with me for 2 months having the most mind-blowing sex, making her cum, everything - I kept my feelings quiet and maintained distance and stayed aloof. She ended up choosing the guy who communicated his feelings clearly and literally confessed his love for her and worshipped her. I'm so confused.
@@Amfred fresh and fit's alt account
@@Amfredhe is 54 so what is he according to you,Young Stud🤣🤣
I needed someone like Casey Zander to mentor me when I was in middle school, and then high school and college. Everything I believed and everything I was told by girls and by my parents all throughout my life was wrong!
Yeah i’m 52 and still learning! Of course, I wish I had this info back in college, but it’s never too late to start.
Yup. All us good guys got our hearts broken.
But, to be honest…I’m proud of how purely and honestly and genuinely I loved my first love.
@@alexanderhamilton8585at the end of the day we will still lose and miss her forever they will never know or care about the pain wish i found casey sooner
@@alexanderhamilton8585that first love will never come back
That's because society is feminized. Without the masculine framework, there is no structure around learning/understanding/disciplining emotions. Typical, if it's just your mom, she will typically teach you all the wrong things. Even if she's a woman, she will still instruct you to be nice to women. And today's men, they tend to be feminized and give that same propaganda advice, instead of understanding the world around them (they conform to society and are more emotionally driven instead).
*When you connect on a deeper level and maintain that genuine interest in her thoughts, feelings, and desires, you build something long-lasting. Solid advice for any man wanting to keep a meaningful connection thriving!*
She told me she felt safe with me on our first date. She also told me that I reminded her of her father. I pretty much had this sealed until I texted her that I liked her amongst other cringe messages. Live and learn.
No it's not cringe, you expressed your honest feelings. It's not your fault it's her's.
@@theuncanspan That is a huge mistake. You never tell a girl you like her in the beginning.
@@raddadization true to only some extent. How, if a girl is initially interested in you it wouldn't matter regardless whether you divulge your feelings or not.
If she’d really liked you, she would’ve actually appreciated you telling her you like her, bro. Sorry about that. Hope you find a better one next time. At least you seem to be coming across fine in your dates!
@@gabrielottaviano exactly. The only slight thing I think makes a difference is how much was said relative to the level it was on. For instance, it would seem insincere to say the L word on a first conversation.
Bro I checked all this boxes and she still cheat . When i left she did everything to get me back i refused and she became crazy . She’s now on med. it’s all about a womans state of mind . Yes with this you’d get a lot of ladies however it doesn’t mean they’d stay . Me just enjoying my single life till i decide to give love a chance again in decades to come 😂
U did the right thing
Yes man, it highly depends on the value dynamic of the relationship inherently. And the age of the woman. You might be with a chick who ain't for settling down yet.
So she was just a hoe, be happy she showed you that and made it easy for you to dump her
Big G
You were dealing with a full blown narcissist you did the right thing not taking her back. Any woman that cheats for that matter. I tip my hat off to you sir, a man with dignity and self respect I can drink a beer with.
I've heard "I trust you more than I trust myself with my life decisions". I'm taking it as a win
Yeah, that's a win.
She must be lying
@@AtifAhmad-u6lShe knows her own nature and is admitting to it
Did you see the credit card bill?
@@RobertFairweatherMusic c'mon, let bro enjoy his moment lol
Yes, attraction builds up in time spent apart.
Or she will be off getting her back blown out. Either scenario can happen.
@@toddjohnson271 😂😂😂
@@toddjohnson271it really depends on he type of woman you are pursuing.
@@daebak7370 No in the modern age they all do that. As soon as your out the door they're on tinder. It's been confirmed that most people on dating apps are already married and 50% of women all have backup partners.
yup for other men, NOT the bf or husband! tell that to military men that have long postings away, who ALL use the phrase "when the cat is away the mice will play" then most of whom get dear john letters and cheated upon.
In my experience in order to get women and keep them you must love them/show indifference towards them but in a balanced way.
Not if your girl is needy , then you’re creating a monster
@@XoXo475then that bitch is BPD so get away as fast as you can
Yea make sure there’s drama … how? Don’t accept anything you don’t find acceptable.. they will get angry … who cares ?? step aside leave …become absent and if they do care they come back with a stronger attraction to you… then you make it memorable so she can feel she chose correctly … is how you make things to balance.. not always being agreeable… if there’s no need to be …. They will always test you … you just go on living my king brothers … having a life a part from her will only make you more attractive and stronger! With her or without her!
@@XoXo475
What do u mean by that? I have a gf who is needy rn... don't know how to attract and keep her
@XoXo475
Because I been breaking Casey rules a lot and don't onow if she's still like me
Just stumbled on this channel and one minute in I’m hooked. The way you explain it is like a football coach right before the big game. Keep ‘em coming my friend.
The girl that I’m talking to literally just told me yesterday those exact words.. “I feel safe around you” this puts that statement into perspective.. guess I’m doing something right!
One thing we must look out for is the shiny object syndrome. It is natural to want the ABSOLUTE best for yourself, but dont underestimate the degree to which you can build together. YOU must be the leader as a man and guide the ship away from the rocky flats, this is called wisdom- in a perfect world, and at the very least it is something we can strive for.
A very manipulative narcissistic move called 'push - pull' that's basically placing someone on a pedestal then devaluing them or trying to make them insecure with the intention they will chase you is a very dangerous game. Healthy people with boundaries will just simply see it as a reason to distrust and walk away for good. I know that there are many interpretations on what is meant in this video. I agree that not being very codependent or clingy is always the goal. You want to be at the page where each would still CHOOSE to be with the other but not depend on them for all of every part of life and purpose. Check in with her emotionally every now and then on how her life is going, it really goes a long way to put the friend in boyfriend!
Appreciate this bc as a married man sometimes we go through phases and obviously I understand that’s just gonna happen. I so much appreciate the skills I learn from you!! Nobody works harder than I do, 2 daughters plus side hustle w business but the fact is I’m not a fkn lier and truth be told I’m in a bit of a rough place as far as keeping my marriage spicy. It’s not like we are hurting it’s just like you said vacation but girls have obligations and we just kinda stuck @ home, anyways thanks for the info on masculinity bc that’s my goal is to get BETTER! Better father, husband, etc... Fkn A I have heard that I feel safe line!! My kid like presence was my bread and butter back in the day, girls/ women loved it lol
Yes, that's why I want my man to get out of the house! Go work, go see friends, just get outta here (in the most loving way).
@@alyssamurphy2002 telling him to do these things won't make him do them, he has to come to this frame of mind on his own. my ex broke up with me multiple times, i still have her in my life and I think we will workout in the end but the loss was what inspired me to change, I've grown so much in the last year and a bit. if you are unhappy you have to take action.
w man happy for you, unnecessary swearing tho
I finally learned to leverage, my strength, which is that I’m at the core, a sweet, sensitive, caring man, with finances and life stable - that doesn’t mean I’m weak or get walked on. It does mean that I can emotionally connect in a way that a lot of other guys can’t, so I use that advantage to build Vertically, not horizontally, with a few important women. BTW, it’s not the friend zone if you’re the one who wants to keep it just friends.
I found out that surprises work real well when you arent in full scale vacation mode, for no reason, just to celebrate you know her! I'll go get her fav food and bring it home without saying anything, or get her flowers, again dont say anything before hand just go out and get her something she likes without warning, that will get you through the doldrums!
I think this guy is really good at what he teaches.
Kudos to him for finding his path and making a living out of it.
Something I discovered way back when I had this amazing summer romance, when I was a 19-year-old lifeguard. Even though we were both crazy for each other, going on amazing, romantic dates, and screwing like rabbits, I forced myself to only see her every other day. This kept the tension going all summer long, and kept her hungry for more.
I fn love you brother. I married my wife at 19. Yes I was terrible to my wife. I was an introvert and she still is a beautiful extrovert. We did things to each other that others couldn’t handle. I’m not placing blame. That being said, hopefully I can get through my depression of failing a 20 year marriage with some understanding. Short story thank you. Keep doing what you do. I’m a good man without a paddle. No excuses. You offer a paddle floating around. Thank you 🙏
Yes. When a woman tells me she feels safe with me, it's the biggest compliment and I know in dead on track with her
Casey am ngl bro I’m exhausted, I’ve only watched like 5 vids over the last couple weeks and I feel like my brain has been completely fkn mashed with all this new info. No drugs, no drinking, eating well but damn, bro, F**K. 12 years man. 12 fkn years. Take the loss? Bro.
He is the fkng king of the whiteboard. Very powerful delivery of facts.
I'm a woman and I can approve this message
So if I was your man and retired and always at home with you, you would break up with me?
@David Crandall my husband is already retired and always at home with me. We are still together.
@@chloeee4286 Glad to hear it.
And I am a man … and I also approve to this man theory..
I’m sure he goes fishing once in a while without her .. and then her attraction grows.. cause she misses him…if they spend that much time together.
The starving dog never gets fed. Love that quote
Why? The starving dog should get fed first, no?
Cause the dogs dead
@@immers2410 people sense desperation and run away, whether employers or women
they want people who are in demand, if you are in demand they know you are valuable
@@darshandev1754 Who cares what they want
@@scottsummers4115 well if you want to interface with the world then you do care
Else if you live alone in the mountains away from humanity you are out of the game
This is prolly the smartest advice I’ve heard amongst all the online BS….often coming from guys who’ve barely even known a women’s touch.
This was straight cut and shoot to the main points! I actually really enjoyed this very much. I am an above average looking male and yet throughout my life I still have never mastered how to be extremely comfortable around beautiful women.
To be comfortable around extremely attractive women - you should look for many flaws in the woman, and then keep repeating them to yourself in your head like a mantra.
@@DuncanL7979CEO of terrible advice:
@@tushargupta4262That’s not bad advice. That’s just not putting a woman on a pedestal.
@@nickmoran8417 nah lmao. That's putting them below what they are. Don't look for flaws or good shit in just women/men/whateverthefuck, look for good in everyone, complement them sincerely, have fun and crack jokes. Don't be a suck up and don't tolerate disrespect. You should be fine
@@tushargupta4262 You’re giving the wrong person advice. I don’t have a problem with women. I was just making the point that he’s not putting women on a pedestal.
First thing she said after the deed and first time at the pad .
After my late 20's I lived everything he says and didn't realize what I was doing , just came natural . He's dead on .
57 still having great relationships with all different age women and I'm always the one who breaks it off . Married once , wanted a divorce so I said fine , and then she spent 3 years trying to get me back took me on trips , the whole 9 .
Master outcome unattachment is KEY .
Casey is the Man .
I really like your videos. I know you’re talking to guys but it’s very cool to see a guy teaching the things you teach. You know your stuff.
You women are weird
The Hungry Never Get Feed
Master Outcome Unattachment hence Your coming from abundance
If you Need anything from Anybody it fundamentally puts you at a disadvantage
Be presentable
Be Confident
Have No intentions
In a way the rules of the game are very similar to spiritual lessons. You will lose what you attach yourself to, let go of the outcome, what you force runs away from you etc. Been following your content for a while, after ingurgitating redpill Alpha bullshit for a while (I believe in HVM concepts and such, but most of the redpill content lacks finesse and intelligence, in depth analysis), this is a more healthy approach in my opinion. Not about makings bags, being jacked and pickup, but about becoming a top of your OWN game man. There are alphas, but it doesn’t take being that to get girls and feel happy. I think it’s mostly about leaving the beta frame, but it won’t make everyone alphas, by definition they are a singularity.
Bro just be gentleman, Gentle+Man
And you fill in the balance by your own definitions and character
She Must Feel Safe Around you.(i feel safe around you)
She must feel this emotion on an evolutionary basis.
So have Vision,Goals,Purpose, Hardwork, Strength, Action.
1 & 3 resonated so fkn well. I am working on 2 (safety)
1. For some reason I subconsciously pull away after a date and take time to regroup, but for her it works like an attraction as the next time I see her she is all excited of what crazy idea I will come up next.
3. When I see a woman with other options I subconsciously feel better cuz I see all those simps around her and since she reaches out to me first I know she has no one better than me in her life (kind of boosts my ego and it levels me up in my game making me further not see the reason to reach out to her and she shows even more playfulness after that).
Now, when it comes to 2 (safety) I realized just a year ago. I had no game in that area. However, since I started working on it I noticed it is not just about having a vision but also about being alert to your surrounding to be able to predict what will happen next based on what happened so far. This allows you to relax further making you look like you are in control.
Awesome 🙌
😂
At first I thought it was lame when women said "I feel safe with you" right before we enter a relationship when I said something loving and romantic, but now I know that phrase is super powerful and just as loving and romantic as the shit I said. Women and men see love and romance from two different perspectives, and it is just really fascinating how different we are.
One of the best videos you have ever made Casey. Long time viewer, but now you earned a sub from me.
Casey Zander, I am so glad I subscribed. I dated a girl just recently, she said, I feel safe with you as he stopped on a park bench on a hike. Unfortunately I made some mistakes and didn't watch enough of your videos to find out later why she dumped me. Keep up the good work helping men. Especially when were 5'6" and broke from divorce rape.
What mistake did you make, if you don't mind sharing for us to learn from?
If you have the opinion that the dating game is rigged or whatever then just level up anyway. It only improves you and if you do find a woman who respects you and you can lead then hopefully its one less casualty of this war we're in.
I swear. Most of my friends think the game is rigged. They also....drink like sailors, overweight, work bs jobs, etc etc.
I dropped them and ride solo like Jason Derulo 💪😂
In terms of seduction, we are only really excited by what is denied to us, by what we cannot possess in full. Your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away, to make others come after you, delaying their satisfaction. Most people miscalculate and surrender too soon, worried that the other person will lose interest, or that giving the other what he or she wants will grant the giver a kind of power. The truth is the opposite: once you satisfy someone, you no longer have the initiative, and you open yourself up to the possibility that he or she will lose interest at the slightest whim
"I feel safe with you"
-My girl 2020-2023
can you please tell me what is that?
Haha made me laugh 😂
As a woman I fully agree with this approach!
Why are you watching these videos??
@@Mr.Honest247asking the real questions
why are here lol
Hey only men are allowed. This is our secret
I employed these tactics and after hanging out with me for 2 months having the most mind-blowing sex, making her cum, everything - I kept my feelings quiet and maintained distance and stayed aloof. She ended up choosing the guy who communicated his feelings clearly and literally confessed his love for her and worshipped her. I'm so confused.
Outstanding video. Short, easy to digest, and really resonates as a truth that is achievable. Thanks, I will definitely be challenging myself to implement this as a mindset moving forward.
Note- for the effort and time you hold off on sex, at least until after a clear two way commitment, it has been shown to build trust. So if you want the Woman to really trust you, that is a different thing than to guide her to think she can feel safe with you.
No. That just gets you friendzoned
1.dont leave in scarcity mindset of anything like money or other that makes you weak .. beacuse hungry Never get fed ...master unattachment ..you won mostly the front end game ...3 thing you need to master
1 seduction ...most men belive that It happen by spending time ...but it happen only time spent apart ..beacuse there is need for arousal ..you can't maintain chemistry if ur consistent together ..only after seduction you can move to safety
2.saftey...it is ur responsibility to set a plan ..not only leading the day to day activities ..but you have vision where you headed in life arousal and safety is backend game ..you have vision purpose strength ..you should not be insecure about anything
3.u should maintain you're frame
I have been told that before and it felt absolutely brilliant. It honestly made my day.
I’m hearing “I feel so safe around you daddy” now from an amazing woman I’ve been taking to for 2 months. She lives across country and so I only see her once a month.
Just about everything you say in this lesson is balls on.
Yes, my woman always tells me that she feels safe.
Im full stacked btw
P.s follow god, everything will come to u naturally
I wish I’d discovered Casey before my heart broke not once but twice
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
I find that more mature women in their 30s and 40s need consistent and steady time together in order to feel safe. Its still a constant balancing act with seduction, so as to not make them feel rejected or discarded
Perfect timing for this video omg
Dude you're like a teacher, keep up, ur vids are cool !
here as a woman watching this. This summarises everything i've been feeling in the last months. Also i've researched a lot about this whole red pill blue pill stuff and why it's evolutionary normal to be drawn to successful intelligent tall guys..... In this video you perfectly explained what i miss in my boyfriend. and you perfectly explayned why i fell in love with this other guy who made me feel like this seduction safety frame thing. just thank you for completing the understanding of myself
So, you are going to cheat on him !! Because, you found something better !! Women are so smarter & they understand a lot of stuffs which guys never capable of !! Women are extremely selfish by nature
How supportive are you when your man is undergoing hardships? The types who shame them or support them?
are you in love because you feel safe with him or you feel safe with him because you are in love with him?
How interesting how this video creates an awareness for a woman. Look at the shit men have to master .
Good one on the I feel safe and the magic. All three of my wives and many girlfriends have said that to me and those were moments I knew they were completely emotionally involved and committed to me.
If they all felt safe, why did they all leave? What happened? Just curious.
@@ratdaddee He had to have screwed up one of the other two. Most likely lost Frame. #3 Frame seems to be the hardest one for most guys to master, esp. younger or smaller guys (which makes sense). However dude looks over 50+ in his profile, still most guys brainwashed by decades of social conditioning tv/movies of weak Beta behaviors and get insecure with wo-men OBSESSED with social media makes this near inevitable for any guy! 😆
Look at married couples...see what your getting yourself into ...u want a full time job besides your regular job..??find similar interests and goals
My advise to all men out there. Be and stay who you are. Videos like this will get you thinking and that leads to a path thats not you anymore. When you finally get the girl of your dreams she will find out very soon you where just a act. When that happens you will be very very effected by it. Just be.... the women will pick you for who you are.
The only thing you can do and still be you is make sure your body and mental health are in top condition and maybe even more important... get your life goals in order.
A broken men... women smell them from a mile away. A men who puts on a act.... women will smell that from the other side of the galaxy.
Stop watching this and be who you are. You can use this content to improve something you didn't know, but never use it as an act. The good men in this video is telling how it is. Use it wisely.
"the women will pick you for who you are." -- yes, but then when they leave, you'll be wondering what happened.
I employed these tactics and after hanging out with me for 2 months having the most mind-blowing sex, making her cum, everything - I kept my feelings quiet and maintained distance and stayed aloof. She ended up choosing the guy who communicated his feelings clearly and literally confessed his love for her and worshipped her. I'm so confused.
@@WOLFanddBEAReverybody leaves each other after sometime dude.Stop whining like a little boy’Oh these women are so mean.I don’t wanna play with them mommy’🙄🙄
Thats why you cant act like this but become the person who acts like that naturally
When you act like a “nice guy,” you’re still acting.
Without Fail, Casey brings CLARITY to an immensely complicated topic. He knows his S**T 👍
Believe it or not, my last 3 attempts in the past year, each and everyone of them told me "I trust you and I feel safe with you, but I just want to be friends", so while in the "friend zone" they still wanted to spend a lot of time with me but just as friends. I decided to go along with it until I find someone.
Now I have a girl, I managed to shake one but 2 still seem "needy" for my "friendship" up to the point that my current girlfriend accepted them as friends too.
Before I met my current girl, (
who I'm with for about 3 months now) I promised myself if I hear those words again "I trust you and I feel safe with you" on the second date I'm running..!
So far so good..!😂
Absence makes the love grow fonder is not just a quote
is that so? here is a quote for you too. "when the cat is away the mice will play" tell that to military men that have long postings away, who ALL use that phrase then most of whom get dear john letters and cheated upon and divorced upon returning "home"
Kasey why did u remove all your old videos!!!?? Some of those were single handedly the best videos that help me change my perspective.
Be a high value man, earn a lot, look after your body n be laid back, women love status no matter wat
Logical framework
Gym
Focus on the purpose
Clubbing once or twice a month
I have heard the phrase "I feel safe around you" directed towards me.
I'm just ok at seduction, excellent at making them feel safe, but frame is my biggest challenge. So hard to extract yourself from old, unproductive habits.
She herself kept on saying that she feels safe with me until the day she walked away.
Yeah, after our first date my girl told me "When you're next to me I feel safe and it makes me wanna love you forever"
I have a severe facial deformity so I don’t think that this would work for me. If you are not physically attractive, pulling these steps off will not work. Women don’t want to deal with below average men.
Sorry bro, there is a lot more to life.
Focus on all the other things you are interested in. Then a good woman may turn up.
That’s not true. Focus on areas where you feel most confident and exude that. Accept the way your face looks and be comfortable in your own skin and women will too!
I have definitely heard the term "feel safe" before. Great content. Im a 25 year old from nyc.
Guys! Casey is the MAN! I am 54 and just jumped back in the game! Met a beautiful 38 year old. I thought after 4 weeks things were going Great! Had a lunch date and she said she wanted to take it slow. Sent to many texts questioning things and destroyed it in a matter of minutes. I’m 6’4, fit, attractive and got good game. You CAN NOT catch feelings. Keep your distance! Do Not Go all in. They want to slow things down. Then you back TF off. Way off! Go out with other girls. Get your Frame right. And most of all, listen and implement Casey’s teachings in your life. You’ll be a better man for it..
You probably sent a needy vibe trying to text her a lot, I have the opposite problem I don't text a lot lol. Women wants a nonchalant and relax man.
Ive always heard that from every girl ive dated and ive been crushing it for 20 plus years. Just got married to the most beautiful czech girl. Time apart is key and showing her you have options and will walk away if she doesnt act right but let her know youre not going to for no reason
" to keep women hooked long term and never leave you"
That sounds like a nightmare
Basically I get to do less and get more of what I want. You're a godsend man! Thanks for the advice.
I agree with everything. The only caveat is the woman has to play her role as well. A woman has to appreciate a good man.
I have heard “ I feel safe with you” every date lol
Remember how Denzel said "Ma nigga" in training day. He's referring to fellas like this here.
My guy. You! Know wtf you're talking about. Subbed.
Can confirm. I’m 6’ 3”, 215lbs at 14% body fat, make 100k+, and a 27yr old virgin. Just started dating a couple months ago for the first time and damn, didn’t realize how far behind I was lol.
How tf
@@khaoss4024 he sucks lol
Hi, can we be friends?
@@khaoss4024 never got around to it lol. All those things took time. I used to be 300lbs living paycheck to paycheck.
Maybe if you weren't so obsessed with the numbers
How do you spend time apart if you live together, how do you be seductive by not being with each other if you live together
Get an office or a garage, disappear with the guys. Have seperate stuff going on as well as together time
Have two rooms in your house one for her and one for you to go to.
I'd add a bit more detail on "how" to this already excellent video. Talk about how to build confidence, chivalry, and presence - the things that demonstrate seduction, safety, and frame.
What is the difference between presence and frame?
@@DuncanL7979 I define "presence" as staying mindful and in the moment (as opposed to letting your mind wander to the future or past). "Frame," to me, is knowing and enforcing your boundaries, staying in integrity (making your actions reflect your words).
The woman I’m seeing right now always reminds me how “safe I make her feel” unfortunately she’s not the one for me and I’m about to break things off…
Thanks for all these videos. Wish I could of found them earlier. I was raised by a masculine single mom so I had no understanding of what a woman was till now. My wife thanks you, but If I would of found you sooner I probably would of kept shopping for a woman. Shes wanted me to understand her nature earlier. Better late then never I guess.
Finally a lecture on Quantum rizzics let's gooo!!
I've heard that line more than anyone needs to know.
Not challenging your statement as a general matter but I have managed to keep a good marriage for over 15 years where we often spend every day all day together because we own our own business and work from home. It is challenging though and sharing an office doesn't work long term.
lol I keep thinking of Hot Girl Matrix video whenever I see the white board
THANK YOU! This is exactly what I needed to hear! Now I know how to handle the "Chad" who interferes(tall basketball coach) whenever he pops up.
Very knowledgeable and very good teacher. Good characteristics of a good teacher. Thank you for the content.
6:24 one of my exs wrote those exact words to me in a note back in the day...makes sense now.
The point of time spent apart being important cannot be stressed enough.
Finally a guy that acknowledges men do want relationships. All us women are ever told is that men generally don’t ever want to commit as a natural default. That just can’t be true…right?
Casey is the big brother i never had
Definitely heard the safety statement a couple times.
My ex told me, she felt safe laying in my arms on the bed, but I still lost her 😪
Change that mindset. She lost YOU. Now go make some other girl feel safe
@@kreempa.i.8349 right on
@@kreempa.i.8349 hahahahah 😂😂😂😂
I feel your pain, man. Been there myself.
She's not yours...it's just your turn.
Stand fast men, this is valuable true information
Hot damn...I remember being told by a woman that I was her rock. I think that counts for the feeling of safety.
Your advise seems legitimate and the sort of advice I wouldn't mind putting into practice to see how it goes.
I just heard the safety line last week, Thanks big daddy!!
I tried to bring my girlfriend into my world, but my wife wasn't happy about it.
Ive heard "when im around you it feels like everything is ok"
my name is Chad. not 6'5 but a Million Dollar income in 4 Years.
edit.
yes she's said "I feel safe with you"
6:32 definitely heard that before. She MUST be comfortable and feel secure with you
Yep! She's said that to me that she feels safe around me.