*I dated a chick 11 years ago who at the time was 21. I wanted to Marry her but she chose her female friend over me who wanted to sleep with me. I told her the friend was making advances and she wouldn't listen. She is now 32, no man, no children, was wronged by that same friend and now wants a family with me. I had to pass. That ship sailed. Best of luck to her.*
Honestly, It's not just about single women keep women single, it's also about fat women keep women fat, broken women keep women broken and many more negative things, and it happens in all races of women, not just black women only, no matter you're relatives or not. I'm 26 year old Asian girl, a nail technician and I can tell you that. Working with women co-workers is difficult, most of them are single moms or damaged women and they will be so jealous if you are young, well-looking, and have a nice boyfriend/family with a decent man. There was one time I got a nice purse from my pharmacist boyfriend and they badmouthed me behind my back, saying I'm a gold-digger and parasite. It's all about jealousy.
Very true! At work, a woman assumed I was much younger than her based on my appearance and spoke down to me until I checked her and made her realize how insecure she was. We are both the same age. God doesn't like ugly it comes out sooner or later.
As a man I agree, I’ve seen women sabotage their “friends” relationships because of jealousy. It’s usually the single girl/girls, fatties, and narcissistic ones of the groups. My sisters ex was with her for years, talked about marriage and starting a family. He was the only BF of hers I thought was decent, handsome, didn’t do drugs, barely touched alcohol, worked his ass off and put up with my dramatic sister, but they were in love. Then one of her promiscuous friends got her very drunk and took her on a “night out” and convinced my sister to hook up with another man which she did🤦🏻♂️ Her boyfriend some how found out and broke up with her. My sister was devastated and started drinking heavily, she’s had a string of boyfriends over the years but they didn’t last. She tried to end her life by eating pesticides and repellent, this damaged her reproductive organs so now she can’t have children. She’s better now and married, but she’s never been herself since about 15 years ago. She said if her ex ever asked for her back, she’d leave her marriage in a heartbeat
My mom said the same thing. She said don’t have certain friends around your Husband.. my life coach told me not to call my married friends after a certain hour and only if it’s important. Schedule girl time once a week…She said married women should be focused on her husband and kids. And luckily my friend and I understood and made the necessary adjustments
Was married to a woman whose Mom and two older sisters helped her end our marriage so they could hang out like they used to. Was dating a woman whose dysfunctional sons fought against the relationship so they could hang out with Mom like they did before I arrived. Just walked away from a relationship with a woman who had masculine energy single friends. They’re all back to being single, and I’m at peace. Stay strong, Kings.
I have been with my husband for 10 years and married for 5 years! I dropped ALL my friends for my husband. I thought I was alone in this friend field and happy to know I have been on the right path. All of my old friends are single baby moms now and I am a stay at home wife with 2 children. Living a wonderful financially secured life! I won’t have to work another day in my life. I do whatever my husband needs and wants out of me. Everyone would talk crap about me that I did whatever he wants. I’m so happy I didn’t listen to my friends and mother and mother in law!
It's nuts when the same jealous girlfriend(s) end up being the bridesmaid(s) to the woman they despise. All those fake smiles, hugs and well-wishes. 😏🎊 🎉 🎈
My ex’s BFF (girl) is getting married in 2 months. Our daughter (my ex and I) will be in the wedding. My ex is the bridesmaid of course but talking to her about the wedding, she didn’t seem happy for her BF (best friend) When she talks about it it’s all negative and I’m like yo, you good? Lmao. Shits hilarious. Like why can’t you be happy for her. It’s her life not yours. SMDH
Day 4965: the ppl who call into the show still don’t know the topic and can’t figure out how to turn off background noise on TH-cam, but think they can survive the world on their own. Interesting.
KS understands the importance of relationships...keep your circle small but do everything you can for those within it...even when you’re up, don’t forget them because you may need them one day.
This is so true. I had to end a friendship with a college friend over my current husband. I started dating after school, and she wasn’t happy. Wanted me around as long as I was single. She was so rude to him for no reason so I ended the friendship. 12 years later, I’m married to this man, 3 kids and doing so well financially. She is still single with a child. Ladies! Drop the dead weight or you will pay the price!
my mom told me once you become a wife, your friend circles and activities must change. she said married women can’t be friends with single women because they’re priorities and mindsets are different.
Last year I had to check one of wife's closest friends, because she kept repeatedly inviting my wife on single women trips. Mind you, this woman was a bridesmaid in our wedding. Her intentions were not malicious, but she could not see past what she wanted, and didn't consider what was in the best interest of our marriage. She was about to have my wife, likely the only married woman on the trip, drunk in a club with ninjas lurking all around. Not happening. Immediately after our conversation, she went completely ghost, but after a month or two, she started communicating again. I think their friendship is in a healthier place, even though they don't talk as much, because we needed boundaries established. My wife admitted that it was her responsibility to set boundaries with her friend and she apologized. Gentlemen, be cautious of your wife's single friends, because regardless of their intentions, they can cause turmoil. She is habitually single and has a PhD.
When you cut female friends out of your life, you are only then able to level up effectively. You do it better without their judgement, jealousy and sabotage. Mr Samuels is 💯
This goes for men too. Trust, I’ve had some dudes around me that were straight jealous and always made remarks about my success, knowledge, and awards. And I only tried to empower them by showing them the way.
@@sofeeak8604 Or perhaps, you're not good at friendship. That's a red flag if anyone doesn't have long-lasting friendships. It means you haven't learned forgiveness and great communication, or your type of friendship is superficial and never passes surface level.
The sad part is, MOST of you women will “HATE” him while he’s here, but want to talk to him and “MISS” him when he’s gone. He’s trying to HELP women, apply and GIVE him his flowers NOW!
I had a friend who told me not to move too fast in my relationship while she was single. This girl found a guy and within the first month with that guy, ended up pregnant by him. She didn’t even follow the advice she gave me. They definitely will go through desperate attempts to “beat you to the alter”
@Hell, my name is Deja. Your friend probably wasn't a real friend. Because friends don't give bad advice and want you to fail. Misery loves company. And it's sad because in situations like that, the only one who will suffer is the child. It's foolish and selfish. A lot of women are afraid to break "girl code" and enable each other's bad behavior.
J B that sounds like what a woman would do when she puts her marriage firat and wants it to last! Kuddos to you, and best of luck with your husband and family
Although I have been married for 14 years, I love your show and advice. I have always had the utmost respect for my husband but due to covid and being locked in together, I have been rude and out of line. Thank you so much for taking the time to share the truth. You have helped me take a step back and look at my own behavior and not only appreciate my husband but apologize for being an ass over things that do not matter. Sometimes the truth hurts but feelings do not build a future for your bloodline.
My wife of 32 years had many a friend such as those. I got rid of them early on. Consequentially it's the reason we've been married for 32 years. Vampires indeed.
Hey Asia, jump over to Houston TX. Very affordable to live. Its growing, lots of industries and fields to work in. 2 Major Airport, 3 major sport teams etc etc. You're fine and friendly with good energy, you'll find a man asap🧡💛🧡💛👊🏿💯
This was nothing but the 💯 truth!! When I had problems in my marriage it told me everything I needed to know about the friendships I thought I had. I had 100% support of leaving my husband to be single with them!!! My husband and I did separate but we worked it out that was 10 yrs ago. When I tell you how judged I felt for working things out they even stopped talking to me for a short period of time! I was no longer single like them. My relationship of 22yrs has been at its best in the last 10 years because I made my husband my 1# priority I have no regrets of cutting these “friends off”.
When my now Ex-wife left, it was clear that ALL of her friends, sister, and MIL told her to "leave him". None them said anything like "You have a family, so you need to go to counseling." Nothing. Just "leave him". We never fought or argued. No infidelity. Same values. She left, and now she's depressed and miserable.
Ive been married for 7 years. I have no single friends. In fact I dont really hang out with other women. Except when my husband and I go to his friends homes for BBQ’s and I have a great time with their wives. We get along so well and its an enjoyable time. But then I leave and focus on my family.
It’s crazy how happily married woman know and understand this. I really have no friends either married for 17 years 3 kids, and I don’t have time for drama filled friendships.
This is really helpful to me. My husband and I just celebrated one year of marriage together. I am cordial with his friends’ girlfriends/fiancé’s, but I spend most of my free time focusing on my home and my daughter.
Yes this is true single women keep women single, as soon as a woman opens her mouth & speaks negatively about men I exit ✌🏼 idc how long I’ve known you. It’s draining & they never stop talking. This type of woman tries to get close to you to try to take notes on what you are doing that makes men see you in the light they see you. Not knowing that the secret sauce is simple, respect & understand the value in men, that will naturally drop the masculine energy
@@hadiyah8623 i had one too, all she did was complain about men but would be sleeping with multiple men. Like how do you complain but sleep with them? She cut me off for no reason out of nowhere, best thing she could have done. I tried to help her, she was very draining
I remember when my wife got a really bad haircut and her “friends” kept telling her how good it looked. She confessed and ranted to me how angry she was that her friends lied to her face. Her hair is very important to her and she likes it long and flowing. They even made the comment “He’ll learn to love it” that’s when she got angry. They assumed I would lie to her too. I didn’t and since my wife is into rockin hats she wore hats that we picked out for a year until it grew back. And yes these were the same single women that all of a sudden had crisis after crisis after we got married (23 years ago) calling up around dinner time because they “just needed to talk”.
Honestly...a woman's friends are part of the vetting process for me. So ladies peep game...men don't need to see them act rachet. We HUNT YOU. we see your friends are problematic and we draw conclusions that you are the same or similar. It ain't fair, but we dgaf. We will sleep with you tho😂. All day. But marriage???😂😂😂😂😂😂....foh
A few months after my wife left me my friend who has 2 kids came to tell me that he was planning to leave his girlfriend. I was dead against it from this start as the problems did not seem like nothing that couldnt be overcome. I managed to calm him down, we discussed his problems and the solutions. 1 year on they are still together and to this day he says "Thank you for not motivating me to go ahead with my decusion." Guaranteed me exwifes friends did the exact opposite. Single women keep and MAKE women single.
I have had “friends” drop me or say that I’ve changed because I want to spend time with my significant other (especially during the time when we didn’t live in the same state) and made a whole big deal to the point where it divided the people who we were consistently around. It hurt but I’m happier without having friends here. I’ve been happier focusing on my HENRY and our life together. We actually like to and enjoy hanging out with other black couples and go out so that the world can see - it’s possible, it’s still a thing!
The woman who lets her friends talk shit about her man has no honor/respect for that man. Men don't talk crazy to their homeboy about his girl because they understand that's out of bounds and will get checked immediately.
@@NNOutBurger_Gaming No respect, no relationship. Modern women love to put down men in front of their friends, like it impresses people to dehumanize people. Make it the first and last time that happens. End it right then and there and don’t give second chances.
BINGO!!! When people value and intended to create a life and legacy with their partner, they should NeVeR!!! (*trying to emphasize the word, w/o all caps, because I know Kevin bands it) talk bad about him/her; and should NeVeR!!! discuss their intimate relationship. Reactive women, will talk s#*t, when they "feel" _____, _____ , blank because of something their man did (or didn't do) to/for them. A man, however, will NeVeR! speak badly or intimately about the woman he loves. And if he does? He's made a conscious decision, that he's no longer dealing with her. This is because men know that, public image and perception, still means something to the world. ***The same way, men realize, being in public with du-rags and bonnets on, is unacceptable, but so many women so no problem with it. 🙄
Yup. Even when my ex was giving me headaches after headaches, the most I would tell my friends upon being asked would be "we're fine". And when they'd push a lil, I'd just say "sometimes she annoys me, but you know...just women being women". I'd never throw her under the bus, and they'd understand and not be busy. But my ex? Even on Twitter she'd subtweet me. And yup-she an ex for a reason
The way Kevin is demanding people get married you'd think he is the marriage tax collector. No, he just want the community to grow, and it starts with an officially recognised family unit.
Woow, I am not AA. But my eyes got filled with tears when I read your concluding statement. I just hope they do not continue to misconstrue him to the extent of taking him out.
Hes still shilling the feminist version of marriage though. I never heard him tell women to save themselves for their husband. Girls these days become sloots before they even consider marriage. They rack up a bodycount on the cc ride that is called college. He also acts as if there is a point in marrying a woman who is past 30, or even 40.
@@Likexner he discourage young women from having casual and meaningless sex, aside from that, he advocate women get married early and settle down, that's not shilling feminism.
He is not lying!!! I said this the other day to my husband... I couldn’t figure out why certain friends were always there when I was down but went ghost the second my situation improved. 😩👌🏿
no Single women keep themselves single because they usually have a lot of high standards. If a woman wants to start a relationship with someone no one stops her she is the one who choose for her life
@wanderer5200 Agreed. I even see it within my own family. A lot of women don't know what men want or need. They give terrible relationship advice to younger women and enable each other's poor choices. Women can't even talk to other women because they're afraid to break "girl code." It's a hive mentality.
Oh my Gawd! Preach, Kevin! I just had a lonely friend "shirley" call to guilt me about I'm doing too much with a high value man, because I'm not answering her phone calls when I'm with him. I told her, I will not apologize for that. I have been friends with her for over 25 years. If I lose this friend begat of this, oh well. I have a rare opportunity to cater cook and please this man. I'm giving him everything my parents groomed in me. And he's eating it up. I will NOT let her mess up me with this good man. She's lonely and miserable and angry, and clearly she wants the same for me.. I intend to grow old with him and not her! My eyes are open! Thanks Kevin for touching on this. They're all fired. ☺
I love the way you love him. Speaking from my own life....you definitely made the right choice. My mom & dad were married 60 years and I myself is happily married for 15. You're definitely on the right track.
As a South East Asian Man in his early 30's your facts applies to more than the black community and I'm loving everything about it. Teaches men to take control in a proper and move in a more meaningful way. Note I always do my own research before I take anyone's advice "as anyone should" and now I'm subscribed.
That’s actually a foolish statement, you can do both, want the best of you and them at the same time. Your friendship with a woman should have nothing to do with her relationship with a man. A mature grown woman shouldn’t be gossiping her love troubles with her girl friends but instead resolve them privately with her own man.
@@bellavega8048 It doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. Often, life will take us in directions that are positive for us in the long run, but may end up creating distance between old friends. Sometimes, it's simply just inevitable. Good, supportive friends understand this, as where toxic friends will try to hold you back so you'll stay with them. That's the point of the statement.
I almost fall in one of this traps. Almost. If I didn't stop and think about the case, today I would be a divorced single mom woman. And I'm here, 10 years later happily married with my husband, a really good man.
I heard that yes!! For example, if your man is spoiling you and she doesn't get the same treatment from her man she might start to give you bad advice 👉🏾 why are you rushing to go home and cook him a meal? Can't he do it by himself? My man do it alone! Why do you text him to ask about his day? He is not a child! Etc..etc That's the seed of jealousy
Me and my wife got married in the pastors living room. My sister made a cake and the only people there was my sister , nieces and my son. My wife had zero complaints. Stop worrying about a ceremony and focus on how you gonna stay together
I heard that people who had a simple wedding tend to last longer than those who spent extravagant sum of money on big celebration with 700+ guests (half aren't probably happy for them) some even take loans to show off...a wedding isn't a show off or revenge party to flaunt your happiness in front of people who hurt you or are salty
I mean that 20k is good family money. When all things are settled and you and your man got everything going right, you can throw a big party all you want!
Never resonated so hard to this. Friend was a retired pretty girl, now older and single. First guy I was seeing failed, and she was all the way there. You name it: validation, shots, music parties, the works. Fast forward I fall head over heels for my man and we're building and getting to know each other. I'm experiencing romance for the first time: flowers, affection, flirting and petting. Cue this woman. Lawd hah mercy.🙄🙄 Inserting herself in our relationship (literally hugged us both while we were hugging each other, then indignantly asked where HER flowers were), interrupted he and I's conversations to talk about her dog *bark BARK*, tried to set him up to see if he would check out one of her friends ( he called me immediately- these are women 50 freaking years old, mind you). The list goes on. At one point she straight up asked, "What if he's not a good person?!" I countered, "But what if he IS??!" Radio silence. She eventually evicted me (I lived in her home), and I cut contact. That was nearly three years ago. From what I understand when my man visits the neighborhood and she sees him, she'll ask about us, and me. Lol Audit your friendships, and narrow your circle.
Sometimes having female friends is equivalent to having an emotional trauma bucket and all women are passing it down to each other. It definitely helps keeping the mind clear instead and staying to yourself. Life is already a roll coaster, don’t need any extra rides.
Picking the right friends for women is paramount... because women will live vicariously through other women's pain and have no personal history with the pain
You don’t know how many times I’ve seen suitable women put their lives on hold for some ungrateful, entitled friend or family member. Not only will the good friend miss out on her blessings, the second the bad friend finds any piece of man, she will give the good friend her azz to kiss. Y’all good women better learn to cut loose people who are liabilities to you. They will block your blessings.
You speak the truth. I had to learn this the hard way. It was a very close friend, and she was always in my ear. I didn’t know until later that SHE had been coming around MY man, trying to get him to sleep with her!!! I finally slammed a steel door on that friendship, and it surprised me at how much better I felt about myself and my life, and my man became my husband.
This is a huge overgeneralization that makes me wonder how many women you actually know, personally. Perhaps if you had more strong women in your life you wouldn't be so quick to put us down. I could just as easily make the generalization that all men are gross, addicted to videogames, obsessed with cars, over-protective and lazy (just to name a few stereotypes), but I know that's not always true because I have a lot of male friends that are not like that. Just a thought :)
I’ve been with my husband for 7 years, In the beginning I had a friend that only spoke negative about him and said I could do better etc.! The last straw for me was when she told me he came on to her a few months prior 🙄. I got rid of her and my relationship improved completely! All of the negative mess she was putting in my head influenced the way I was acting unfortunately.. Ladies get rid of the frienemies!
Love this. I had a “close friend” also drop me after I got engaged smh. Single friends will definitely rather you stay single with them for their benefit.
@@mariislands Confidence woman. I got bets on you (as in to be successful) P L E A S E be normal child if you call in next time. I have faith in you more than the other females this session.
1. Get rid of your lonely friends because misery loves company. 2 Single women keep women single. 3 Birds of a feather flock together. 4 you cannot expect a seed of a orange tree to reach its fullest potential in the wrong environment. It needs to be surrounded in the perfect environment to thrive. Water, sunlight and fertilizer and married and single women need to be surrounded in the perfect environment to fulfill what they were here to be and that’s fruitful because a man builds his house with his hands and a woman will tear it down with her mouth. Great show 🐐 Samuels.
Yes!! I just cut everyone off, and am not getting ready and the men are already approaching me. I’m almost ready have a bit more weight to lose personally
I remember back in the day I was in a small club dancing and talking with a pretty girl , and the unattractive bigger friend came and pulled her away 🤦🏿♂️
This is literally the reason my ex and I broke up after 7 years together. Her friends were always in her ear trying to break us up. Always third wheeling. Tried to explain it to her she called be controlling and toxic. That’s how women are nowadays the let their friends and family interfere in their relationship.
@@Longlostpuss What do you expect a man to do when his woman listens to her friends more than him? There are countless women in this very comment section talking about all the relationships their friends coached them out of.
@@Longlostpuss how is he weak? What he suppose to make threats if she don't get rid of her friends? Just release her to the streets. His ex is the weak one for allowing her friends to manipulate her. Also your comment was weak
sad that you can’t have girl friends and not worry about them being jealous or betraying you. I’d rather be alone enjoying my own company instead of worrying about snakes. there’s nothing wrong with not having friends ladies.
My ex left me basically out of nowhere. I know it was her friends that got to her because they were mad at what she had. For reference at the time I just left my six figure job as a director, I owned a few homes, and have gone full time in real estate . Less than a year later I’m building my first subdivision, profit projected at 1.6 million - I’m 32 and started in real estate in 2016. Now she’s texting me, and her “friends” those “alpha female” types met a guy and is now engaged less than 6 months later. I always told her those girls weren’t her friends , but didn’t listen to me, now those friends cost her a million , cuz I wasn’t gon get a prenup .
For a man making dat kind of money prenups shld be a must and shld be discussed in ur next relationship before marriage if u want to get into game again.
@@gravity4257 definitely prenup going forward . I met her 3 weeks before I bought my first house so she was there for it all in some capacity tho not always as my girl. It is what it is though, prenup mandatory now
It wasn’t out of nowhere, you just didn’t notice the signs. Girls aren’t in a long term relationship with all of the actions to prove she’s still there then suddenly bounce. Her loving sweet affection starts to deteriorate over time THEN she leaves
my grandmother told me "never discuss and trust with another woman what problems you have in your relationship with your husband. because she will use that information to take your man." also to choose my battles with my husband because " the grass isn't always greener on the other side and be all things to your man his friend, lover and confidante."
Omg thanks so much for sharing🙌🏾🙌🏾 it remind me of Shania twain story..her best friend whom she was confinding in became her husband's mistress and she lost her marriage
Yes, i agree. Its really sad too. I had that happen to me with a friend of mine. She didn't want to celebrate me during my success. Now, i do have another great friend and she is the best and we both respect each other. Its hard to find good friends like that. Im grateful. I keep my friend circle small and surround myself with like-minded smart people:-) while i learn to discren people and friends.
I feel you, @@anng2526. It can be hard to _read_ toxic friendships (having those who *ride* for you during hard times is valuable). It may take a while before realizing some just want *front row* seats to the _drama…_ Glad you’re amongst healthier circles now! _Quality_ *>* _Quantity_
There’s a huge distinction between those who _leech off_ the success of others, vs those who _celebrate_ the success of others without expecting anything in return (aside from the _joy_ of seeing loved ones win). @@sage_comics, you have a fair point _if_ the reverse is an excess & mutually exclusive. As far as others being encouragement during good times _and_ bad, *can’t* have one _without_ the other…
My married mother always said "Keep them skirts out of your house". She was 100% correct. Stick to your man ladies and keep other females OUT of your business. 💯
- Intro - 0:00 - Start of The Show - 15:55 - Fragrance and Candle of the Evening- 19:39 ( Fragrance: Tom Ford Grey Vetiver ) ( Candle: Le Labo Laurier 62 ) - Formal Introduction - 21:36 - The Book Of Obsidian By: Mumia Obsidian Ali - 22:39 - Opening Monologue - Single Women Keep Women Single - 26:21 - MoneyWorld 🌍 by: Lu-Ni ( Ms. Asia ❤️ Choreography ) - 1:04:22 - ( 1st Caller - Brandy 25 ) - Distancing herself from friends - 1:10:25 - ( 2nd Caller- Cheray 36 ) - No man’s land and needs to move with urgency- 1:12:46 - ( 3rd Caller- Michelle 40 ) - Lost her friends, but gained a husband - 1:22:19 - ( 4th Caller- Ashley 20 ) - boyfriend introduced her to the show - 1:24:06 - ( 5th Caller - Debra 41 ) Being manipulated / Married friend complains a lot - 1:25:29 - ( 6th Caller - Kissey 39 ) - believes in single women helping each other find a relationship 🤷🏾♂️ - 1:29:01 - ( 7th Caller - Jasmine 32 ) - Wanted a Disney fantasy Wedding - 1:33:46 - ( 8th Caller - Kiana 26 ) older women caused confusion in her dating life - 1:38:53 - ( 9th Caller - Maury 32 ) Background noise and feedback - 1:42:08 - ( 10th Caller - Arielle 29 ) planning on getting married, got rid of single friends - 1:44:22 - RECAP Breakdown of the show - 1:46:06 - ( 11th Caller - Amira 28 ) - THOUGHT her friend was a friend... - 1:47:27 - ( 12th Caller - Asia 29 ) Agrees single women keep women single / wants to be married - 1:54:02 - Ending Monologue - 1:56:32 - Outro - 2:03:00
I told my boyfriend that whenever we get married, I don’t want to really hang out with single friends. It’s not like I don’t like them, I don’t want them to try to taint my mind.
Kevin is 100% spot on, not one lie told. I was dating this girl who was a solid 8, I wanted to go out with her one Friday night & she really asked if her 5’5 215lbs pound Freind could come. I cut it off with her after that… not Tolerating that BS ever again
@@jahaitian94 bro she’s like “can nene come too?, she really likes this restaurant” I’m like fk no?! Nene can sit her offensive lineman ass at home with her PHD, 3 cats & watch everybody hates Chris reruns 🤦🏾♂️❌
Keep spreading the word kevin. You're reaching more people and changing minds day by day. I'm a 47 man and have been waiting for a brother to speak the word about these women my whole life. Nothing but the utmost of respect.
In this age of social media, women just block & mute men for speaking some truth. That's the problem nowadays. That's why women act like this is new ground breaking knowledge. They never heard a man say it like this before, because most men can't.
Lol you're 47 and you've been waiting for him to preach to women for you 🤣. If this ain't the most pathetic comment I've ever seen on YT. Women are great, if you can't find a match, then you're most likely the problem🤡.
When I met my wife 20 plus years ago. She had a circle of female friends that were nothing but drama and hot messes. The first thing I implimented was an immediate cease to their intrusive and self centered interruptions into "our" time. It caused a little stress with my wife at first. But after a short period of time, she began to understand how they were psychic vampires. All of them to a person are still leading the single young woman lifestyle in their 40's and 50's, and are all miserable and a mess. Meantime... My wife enjoys a life with a loving husband of over 20 yrs, home ownership, money, virtually no life stress, and a smile on her face daily. Ladies... Be very aware of your friendships. More often than not, they are secret sabotage agents and vampires.
You're right on female friendships sir💯 I was a little bit too naive about friendship and I'm learning the hard way now about their sabotaging behaviour It's crazy
You told no lies Kevin, omg my ex best friend ran through men and hated my ex bf, competing for more of my attention and time, so when I started dating my soulmate I didn't allow her to get an inch near him. She was upset thinking she has to vet him before he gets close to me, acting all concerned. I removed her from my life at 21 and never looked back.
Only thing is that these single friends attach themselves to you, texting you all the time, calling you..and when they get a man they completely disappear(discard) you.. yet shocked when a friend says you change. Women are definitely users!!!
Well maybe she was just sad. It doesn't mean she is manipulative. A couple of weeks sounds like such a short time. I mean he was her FATHER. She must've been an emotional wreck. I think you are being a little narcissistic, no offense.
I’m married to my high school sweetheart and I don’t have many friends. And I’ve found that you have to be around other married couples and people that are in long term relationships like 5+ years that are strong!
When I was in my early teens I divorced the thought processes of women in my life who didn’t have the outcome I wanted. I observed but I did not absorb. And it worked! I got the life I wanted. not the negative one they lived unmarried and unhappy. I divorced their ideology and their feelings and thoughts about men. I allowed God to train me how to be a great wife to a wonderful man and that’s EXACTLY the outcome I received. Thank you Kevin so much good stuff here on this channel! So glad I was led here! ❤️
I listen to Kevin everyday with my hour drive to work. This man is bringing balance back into the world and I’m definitely learning to be a better version of myself. Good looking Godfather ✊🏿
I had the same thing happen to me. I got engaged and my best friend (and roommate... so things got real awkward) gave me the same ultimatum. I picked him, and she went out and not only got and engaged/married before I did, but used my colors and my dream wedding dress that I couldn't afford at the time. I was so devastated at the time because it felt like she was trying to hurt me as bad she could. Anyway, she has been divorced 3 times at this point and I'm celebrating 15 years of marriage, but God that time in my life was painful. I relate sis, but you I know we got the the last laugh in our happiness. 😉
I had a “friend” who literally stoped talking to me as soon as I got with my now husband. Completely went silent on me, I invited her to my traditional wedding she didn’t come, couldn’t even come when my baby was born, simply texted me with “congratulations” when I group texted that I just had delivered the baby safely and we were good. You cannot make this things up. Me and her were friends since grade 9, both were single a long time, we were the party girls who loved going out on weekends, she would call me “let’s go out” and I was that friend who would go.. when I tell you till this day we don’t talk and I don’t even know why, only thing I can say is she stoped talking to me as soon as I met and stated dating my now husband. 8 years now, whole time i was thinking maybe I did something wrong, maybe it was my fault, but realized only thing I did was finding love and starting a family
Same thing happened to me. My “best friend” completely cut me off after I got engaged. I now live 15 minutes away from her and she makes every excuse in the book not to visit me. She didn’t come to my wedding, nor has she met any of my children. It’s been 5 years.
Gees lady you still watch TV ..You rather sit and wait for someone else to play your favorite movie or show than to watch them on the internet .at anytime ...
I watch some stuff on Apps and there are other times that I enjoy watching TV..last time I checked I still had the "Right" to choose... Thank you for your comment and have a good night.
Kevin you always speak facts! This video resonated with me. I had to let go of a friend who was an emotional vampire, trying to make me feel bad for fully immersing myself into my wife and motherly duties through sly and direct comments and dirty looks. She told me I was too focused on being a mom and I should take time to go out at night with the girls wtf. Secretly she wanted to be married with children but her relationship was not where she wanted it to be. She went ghost after I had my child and only reached out expecting hours long conversations when I obviously didn't have the time then becoming distant, sad or upset when I couldn't spend those hours on the phone. I was roped into the toxic cycle for years and I'm glad I finally got out. Save yourself ladies and focus on your husband, children and healthy friendships!
Yep, even my own blood has encouraged children OOW, potentially ruining my chances of a good husband. When I mentioned working out, going hiking, etc my sister was like “HIKING?! WORK OUT?!”
I believe it. My coworker told me that her grandmother wants her to have a child even if she's not gonna be with the father. This is sick. A lot of people don't care about the woman or the child smh.
And because we bm know that relationships will puts weight on you. So we have to stay in shape as we get older. We call it staying sexy, cuz if you won't do it somebody else will... I personally want to thank you for putting this information out for us to read this and breaking that cycle... Thx u💐
🤦🏾♀️My own brother did this, “my own blood has encouraged children OOW”. Shit crazy and most ppl on my dad side is like that. And some would have possibly been. I hope to break that cycle and get married. I told my brother I just found that crazy, but he wouldn’t help me with/oprovided solutions to any of my problems. Not too surprised, because all of his kids are out of wedlock.
It's true. Big Shirley isn't necessarily your friend; it could be a family member. I know a family member I was really close with was always there for the rough times I was going through but the moment I made a turn for the better, got married and had a baby, they cut me out completely. Now they won't even give me the time of day. I realized a long time ago that they were jealous of me because of their own decisions not working out. It's a dark place to be old, bitter and jealous all at the same time.
Women listen well. your friend do not want you happy in a relationship. The ONLY friends that would be genuinely happy for you are the happily married ones with a good husbands.
I experienced this exact circumstance several years ago. I was in a relationship that was going exceedingly well, but she had a girlfriend who was a perpetual sidepiece, literally never having had a relationship as an adult. My ex and I were really heavy on the SoCal jazz festival scene and this friend was always in our business. I once arranged a full weekend in San Diego with 3 days at the festival paid, a stay a a great hotel, meals and all taken care of. My ex said "Since you took care of everything, let's take my car". On the way, her friend called and convinced her "If he really wanted you to relax, he would have drove". She spent the rest of the weekend pondering if my gesture was really sincere or if I was being selfish letting her drive. Soon they were both single together again. That break up led to my next relationship and subsequent marriage, so I am hardly complaining. But it a perfect example of manipulative friends.
@@unadulteratedtruth8716 Lol man that’s crazy. You go out your way to pay for all the festivities and she feel you’re not sincere because you allowed her to drive. After she insisted on driving. Man these women gone learn to stop allowing their trifling friends to sabotage their relationship.
Women who can’t think for themselves keep themselves single. Why would I take advice for some woman about love and marriage who is not married or in a successful relationship?
This lady loved this show! Kevin read my whole mind today.1. Drop the deflating friends. 2. Increased efforts to level up takes energy, time and availability. 3. Black women stop dreaming up weddings you can't afford to keep you from getting married.
Mines is opposite been with guy over five yrs. he proposed last year and we were going to elope. But his family said have wedding now he wants one. I’m like why go in debt babe? But here we are planning a wedding I pray God covers
Earlier this year I rehomed a dog I bought with an ex. Some people thought I was crazy and yes it was painful. I also woke up at 5am M-F to workout, worked on my femininity, and my Henry found ME within 3 months. I had space in my life to nurture him when we met. Much respect to Kevin for helping me!
Y’all Ladies better stop hardening your hearts. The way things are happening in the world, it’s best to have a Man by your side leading and protecting once the Apocalypse starts. Got to think long term.
@@defjulz I wish I could , it’s not that useful for me.. I have serious attachment issues and fear of abandonment and I jeopardise every dating opportunity.. I have a big fear of abandonment and I become very overwhelming for them 😞 but I am in so much pain .. this guy just told me I think to much and my mind is on override and I am too sensitive and I know and I apologised and he needs space for him to miss me.. That’s like a knife in my chest. Hurst a lot .. I just need someone who understands me and how sensitive I am and even loves that about me., but it’s impossible I know and I can’t even blame him for it.. just to step away and not getting hurt all the time .. I am too deep and too sensitive and I always been the odd one out. And my therapist said I do have trauma but it’s related of being a highly sensitive person 😔
I may disagree with some things that you say butttt this live show was needed. More women need to hear this message. The example you gave about the diet..telling my friends that I want to lose weight..mind you they are slimmer than myself. I started to distance myself..I believe a lot of women really have No friends.
@Eatshit TH-cam there is truth to this comment. Women put pressure on themselves to look/be “perfect”. So, unnecessary competition easily develops and they start side-eyeing each other for no reason and some women downplay themselves to make other women feel more comfortable. Be yourself, and learn how to recognize negative energy
I just listened last night to a broadcast about your past. You graduated with an engineering degree. I congratulate you because it is very hard degree to achieve. I know as I spent my entire career as one and remember staying up until 1am and getting to school at 7am. But I am glad I finished and a great deal of my success is a result of the discipline and organization skills that came from graduating and working in the field. I think a great deal of my success flying was do to always thinking ahead, way ahead and in life that has carried through. I like your broadcasts and I do hope that the ladies you educate work toward improving themselves and not keep letting peer pressure and social media sway good values.
Married women hang around their families. And when we do get together with our friends, it's married women going to lunch for a quick catch-up may be followed by some shopping, NOT bars, and not family time at night. BUT getting together is only when it doesn't interfere with our family/children commitments, which means it might be months before we get together. For certain periods in our life, we might have been lucky enough to get together every other week or so, but that doesn't last. Phone and Facebook are handy for keeping in touch. I was married thirty years, so I have thirty years of experience talking. Even now, I have five close friends that have been my friends--three for over 15+ years. I had to "cut" some friends from my life after marriage--and they are exactly the type of friends Mr. Samuels is discussing in this video. They are time-takers and cannot be happy for you. They are easily angered when you insist your family comes first. Drop them now.
cant be because they were all friends of my sister as well. they knew me separately for a couple years before I met my future husband at my sister's party. a guy friend confided to me moths later that 2 of them had liked him and said I stole their man🙄 self cleaning trash imo
Women's "groupthink" and over valuing their friends opinions ruined several budding relationships for me. Her friends put all sorts of "He's not this..." "He's not that..." "you're gonna date him!!!" Ideas in her head.
I felt this video! I experienced this with my EX-best friend and now we are no longer friends! I was blinded for a long time, but I saw the light eventually. Now, don’t get me wrong, the ish still hurts, but I had to accept the situation for what it was.
My father always told me “ Stop going out in groups with your friends. Take yo a$$ by yourself to met someone “ Them broads don’t like your energy, and they miserable. Ain’t no man gone approach you with all them big Shirley’s. 😂😂😂
Even if the friends are conventionally attractive, they still will hate. Then they become upset that the man chose a certain woman over them. Most women in my opinion, aren’t true friends.
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*I dated a chick 11 years ago who at the time was 21. I wanted to Marry her but she chose her female friend over me who wanted to sleep with me. I told her the friend was making advances and she wouldn't listen. She is now 32, no man, no children, was wronged by that same friend and now wants a family with me. I had to pass. That ship sailed. Best of luck to her.*
Smart man
💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿
Hit the heisman on her 💪🏽💪🏽😂😂😂
Never take them back my man
You dodged the bullet
Honestly, It's not just about single women keep women single, it's also about fat women keep women fat, broken women keep women broken and many more negative things, and it happens in all races of women, not just black women only, no matter you're relatives or not. I'm 26 year old Asian girl, a nail technician and I can tell you that. Working with women co-workers is difficult, most of them are single moms or damaged women and they will be so jealous if you are young, well-looking, and have a nice boyfriend/family with a decent man. There was one time I got a nice purse from my pharmacist boyfriend and they badmouthed me behind my back, saying I'm a gold-digger and parasite. It's all about jealousy.
Say it louder.
This is why an all female society cannot and will not function. Men know how to work as a team.
Very true! At work, a woman assumed I was much younger than her based on my appearance and spoke down to me until I checked her and made her realize how insecure she was. We are both the same age. God doesn't like ugly it comes out sooner or later.
As a man I agree, I’ve seen women sabotage their “friends” relationships because of jealousy. It’s usually the single girl/girls, fatties, and narcissistic ones of the groups. My sisters ex was with her for years, talked about marriage and starting a family. He was the only BF of hers I thought was decent, handsome, didn’t do drugs, barely touched alcohol, worked his ass off and put up with my dramatic sister, but they were in love. Then one of her promiscuous friends got her very drunk and took her on a “night out” and convinced my sister to hook up with another man which she did🤦🏻♂️ Her boyfriend some how found out and broke up with her. My sister was devastated and started drinking heavily, she’s had a string of boyfriends over the years but they didn’t last. She tried to end her life by eating pesticides and repellent, this damaged her reproductive organs so now she can’t have children. She’s better now and married, but she’s never been herself since about 15 years ago. She said if her ex ever asked for her back, she’d leave her marriage in a heartbeat
But Asian women have a very high marriage rate compared to Black women...
My mom said the same thing. She said don’t have certain friends around your Husband.. my life coach told me not to call my married friends after a certain hour and only if it’s important. Schedule girl time once a week…She said married women should be focused on her husband and kids. And luckily my friend and I understood and made the necessary adjustments
Very smart and intelligent sister.
Damn I need to do the same 👍🏾
@@tiffanydash3609 The fact that you not doing that is just selfish
@@aselyne5631 yep hence why I said I need to do this :)
@@tiffanydash3609 you're on the right path it sounds like. *Salute*
Was married to a woman whose Mom and two older sisters helped her end our marriage so they could hang out like they used to.
Was dating a woman whose dysfunctional sons fought against the relationship so they could hang out with Mom like they did before I arrived.
Just walked away from a relationship with a woman who had masculine energy single friends. They’re all back to being single, and I’m at peace.
Stay strong, Kings.
Women are so lost to not see past this. I got away from my mother and set boundaries when she started her nonsense.
I have been with my husband for 10 years and married for 5 years! I dropped ALL my friends for my husband. I thought I was alone in this friend field and happy to know I have been on the right path. All of my old friends are single baby moms now and I am a stay at home wife with 2 children. Living a wonderful financially secured life! I won’t have to work another day in my life. I do whatever my husband needs and wants out of me. Everyone would talk crap about me that I did whatever he wants. I’m so happy I didn’t listen to my friends and mother and mother in law!
Amazing you choose this life over the othe. Have a happy married life. Gbu
It's nuts when the same jealous girlfriend(s) end up being the bridesmaid(s) to the woman they despise. All those fake smiles, hugs and well-wishes. 😏🎊 🎉 🎈
Ouuuu yes!
My ex’s BFF (girl) is getting married in 2 months. Our daughter (my ex and I) will be in the wedding. My ex is the bridesmaid of course but talking to her about the wedding, she didn’t seem happy for her BF (best friend) When she talks about it it’s all negative and I’m like yo, you good? Lmao. Shits hilarious. Like why can’t you be happy for her. It’s her life not yours. SMDH
@@mr.duanesharpe 🤜🏾🤛🏾 Hilarious! I hope my ex-girlfriends/wives read your comment
@@kansashoneybadger7899 😂
@@andreaa.1393 💯
Day 4965: the ppl who call into the show still don’t know the topic and can’t figure out how to turn off background noise on TH-cam, but think they can survive the world on their own.
Interesting.
I mean, REALLY!!! 🤦🏾♀️
Smmfh
Right they are stupid lmao. if they watch the show they should know by now
🤣🤣🤣
💯 you couldn’t have said it any better! I’ve been feeling the same way..
I love KS, he is a real one, he blew up and didn’t forget his friend Obsidian!!! He stays true to his real homies period!
KS understands the importance of relationships...keep your circle small but do everything you can for those within it...even when you’re up, don’t forget them because you may need them one day.
@@tswagg504 I like that message, real talk. Cheers
@@tswagg504 This is how I live my life. Just like my dad taught me.
Sandman is another real one he speaks about female nature that's as real as it get.
Yeah us men need to do more of that band together cause these females won’t back us up
This is so true. I had to end a friendship with a college friend over my current husband. I started dating after school, and she wasn’t happy. Wanted me around as long as I was single. She was so rude to him for no reason so I ended the friendship. 12 years later, I’m married to this man, 3 kids and doing so well financially. She is still single with a child.
Ladies! Drop the dead weight or you will pay the price!
my mom told me once you become a wife, your friend circles and activities must change. she said married women can’t be friends with single women because they’re priorities and mindsets are different.
so true
Last year I had to check one of wife's closest friends, because she kept repeatedly inviting my wife on single women trips. Mind you, this woman was a bridesmaid in our wedding. Her intentions were not malicious, but she could not see past what she wanted, and didn't consider what was in the best interest of our marriage. She was about to have my wife, likely the only married woman on the trip, drunk in a club with ninjas lurking all around. Not happening. Immediately after our conversation, she went completely ghost, but after a month or two, she started communicating again. I think their friendship is in a healthier place, even though they don't talk as much, because we needed boundaries established. My wife admitted that it was her responsibility to set boundaries with her friend and she apologized. Gentlemen, be cautious of your wife's single friends, because regardless of their intentions, they can cause turmoil. She is habitually single and has a PhD.
When you cut female friends out of your life, you are only then able to level up effectively.
You do it better without their judgement, jealousy and sabotage.
Mr Samuels is 💯
This goes for men too. Trust, I’ve had some dudes around me that were straight jealous and always made remarks about my success, knowledge, and awards. And I only tried to empower them by showing them the way.
@@focusedallday5620 Mr Samuels mentioned that is a lot more rarer for this to happen to men... and I agree.
Sir, perhaps just cut them off.
@@sofeeak8604 facts! I can agree with that, I’m just highlighting that although it is rare, this goes both ways.
Say it louder for the hard headed 1s sis
@@sofeeak8604 Or perhaps, you're not good at friendship. That's a red flag if anyone doesn't have long-lasting friendships. It means you haven't learned forgiveness and great communication, or your type of friendship is superficial and never passes surface level.
The sad part is, MOST of you women will “HATE” him while he’s here, but want to talk to him and “MISS” him when he’s gone. He’s trying to HELP women, apply and GIVE him his flowers NOW!
This is true, that's how it happens. Folks ain't truly appreciated until after they are gone.
What?!🥴😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Real talk. People don't understand how important his message really is.
💯💯💯
Real talc 🤜🏾🤛🏾💯
I had a friend who told me not to move too fast in my relationship while she was single. This girl found a guy and within the first month with that guy, ended up pregnant by him. She didn’t even follow the advice she gave me. They definitely will go through desperate attempts to “beat you to the alter”
@Hell, my name is Deja. Your friend probably wasn't a real friend. Because friends don't give bad advice and want you to fail. Misery loves company. And it's sad because in situations like that, the only one who will suffer is the child. It's foolish and selfish. A lot of women are afraid to break "girl code" and enable each other's bad behavior.
Most modern women don't have humility or a moral compass and have sociopath traits
After getting married, 95% of my friends who are women are also wives. That’s how it has to be. Leave and cleave.
If they look like you, that's why .... when you bad you bad....
@@stevenweaver5949 you’re down bad
Smart woman
So if your friends were single before you married, you would just ditch them? Does sound like a friendship.
J B that sounds like what a woman would do when she puts her marriage firat and wants it to last! Kuddos to you, and best of luck with your husband and family
Although I have been married for 14 years, I love your show and advice. I have always had the utmost respect for my husband but due to covid and being locked in together, I have been rude and out of line. Thank you so much for taking the time to share the truth. You have helped me take a step back and look at my own behavior and not only appreciate my husband but apologize for being an ass over things that do not matter. Sometimes the truth hurts but feelings do not build a future for your bloodline.
Just a matter of time until he cheats on you ...
A women admitting she’s wrong!!! Holy shiiiiiet, buy a lotto ticket everyone
You sound like a great wife, it shows you honor and love your husband by recognizing that.
Thank you for been a prime example for the married women.
@@blast4me754 Exactly. "He" not "She". If you listen to KS than you know what I mean😌
My wife of 32 years had many a friend such as those.
I got rid of them early on.
Consequentially it's the reason we've been married for 32 years.
Vampires indeed.
@KtchpStxFun "Shrew" I forgot that one🤣
Facts
Wow 32 years that’s beautiful. I love hearing stuff like that
@@luis.vuitton Thanks my friend.
Bruh your writing looks like poetry 😆
Thank you for having me Mr Samuels! It was great to have your sound advice.
-Asia
Natural Beauty with a great voice, have a good day 😎👌
KS is right, get out of Oklahoma and go to the DMV.
@@CryssieInTech I'm in the DMV. 🌆🌃
@@CryssieInTech I use to be near Silver Spring. Now I'm near Baltimore.
Hey Asia, jump over to Houston TX. Very affordable to live. Its growing, lots of industries and fields to work in. 2 Major Airport, 3 major sport teams etc etc. You're fine and friendly with good energy, you'll find a man asap🧡💛🧡💛👊🏿💯
This was nothing but the 💯 truth!! When I had problems in my marriage it told me everything I needed to know about the friendships I thought I had. I had 100% support of leaving my husband to be single with them!!! My husband and I did separate but we worked it out that was 10 yrs ago. When I tell you how judged I felt for working things out they even stopped talking to me for a short period of time! I was no longer single like them. My relationship of 22yrs has been at its best in the last 10 years because I made my husband my 1# priority I have no regrets of cutting these “friends off”.
When my now Ex-wife left, it was clear that ALL of her friends, sister, and MIL told her to "leave him". None them said anything like "You have a family, so you need to go to counseling." Nothing. Just "leave him". We never fought or argued. No infidelity. Same values. She left, and now she's depressed and miserable.
Ive been married for 7 years. I have no single friends. In fact I dont really hang out with other women. Except when my husband and I go to his friends homes for BBQ’s and I have a great time with their wives. We get along so well and its an enjoyable time. But then I leave and focus on my family.
Read: Laura Doyle
First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors and then put it into
practice.
It’s crazy how happily married woman know and understand this. I really have no friends either married for 17 years 3 kids, and I don’t have time for drama filled friendships.
This is really helpful to me. My husband and I just celebrated one year of marriage together. I am cordial with his friends’ girlfriends/fiancé’s, but I spend most of my free time focusing on my home and my daughter.
That is so me!
@@carolinabenson4539 Same Together 18yrs, married 14, 2kids and no friends, the happiest I have ever been!
Yes this is true single women keep women single, as soon as a woman opens her mouth & speaks negatively about men I exit ✌🏼 idc how long I’ve known you. It’s draining & they never stop talking. This type of woman tries to get close to you to try to take notes on what you are doing that makes men see you in the light they see you. Not knowing that the secret sauce is simple, respect & understand the value in men, that will naturally drop the masculine energy
What’s your IG ?
@@1mindatatime83 I don’t have IG I only have FB
I would like to hear your opinion on a few things . Send me a msg at Dollard Q
Had a home girl like this I cut her tf off
@@hadiyah8623 i had one too, all she did was complain about men but would be sleeping with multiple men. Like how do you complain but sleep with them? She cut me off for no reason out of nowhere, best thing she could have done. I tried to help her, she was very draining
I remember when my wife got a really bad haircut and her “friends” kept telling her how good it looked. She confessed and ranted to me how angry she was that her friends lied to her face. Her hair is very important to her and she likes it long and flowing. They even made the comment “He’ll learn to love it” that’s when she got angry. They assumed I would lie to her too. I didn’t and since my wife is into rockin hats she wore hats that we picked out for a year until it grew back. And yes these were the same single women that all of a sudden had crisis after crisis after we got married (23 years ago) calling up around dinner time because they “just needed to talk”.
What does this have to do with anything? 😂 😂
@@ivb125 must be one of the aforementioned women
Honestly...a woman's friends are part of the vetting process for me. So ladies peep game...men don't need to see them act rachet. We HUNT YOU. we see your friends are problematic and we draw conclusions that you are the same or similar. It ain't fair, but we dgaf. We will sleep with you tho😂. All day. But marriage???😂😂😂😂😂😂....foh
@@ivb125 If you don’t get it then you’re either not married, a woman who’s not married or someone who lies to people. Which one is it?
@@jameshamel3578 pure facts
A few months after my wife left me my friend who has 2 kids came to tell me that he was planning to leave his girlfriend. I was dead against it from this start as the problems did not seem like nothing that couldnt be overcome. I managed to calm him down, we discussed his problems and the solutions. 1 year on they are still together and to this day he says "Thank you for not motivating me to go ahead with my decusion." Guaranteed me exwifes friends did the exact opposite. Single women keep and MAKE women single.
Read: Laura Doyle
First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors and then put it into
practice.
I’m a single woman and I encouraged my friends to stay marry.
Divorce is not an option for me or them. All single friends are not the enemy.
Told my friend to stay married also, you can leave at anytime. He got divorced and ended up marrying her again a little over 2 years later.
...And MAKE... Good point.
I have had “friends” drop me or say that I’ve changed because I want to spend time with my significant other (especially during the time when we didn’t live in the same state) and made a whole big deal to the point where it divided the people who we were consistently around. It hurt but I’m happier without having friends here. I’ve been happier focusing on my HENRY and our life together. We actually like to and enjoy hanging out with other black couples and go out so that the world can see - it’s possible, it’s still a thing!
Congrats
Good for you mam🙌
Good for you.
Yes competent black couples in public. 10 times better for a young child to see than any Disney movie or mtvesque video
Keep doing your thing
The woman who lets her friends talk shit about her man has no honor/respect for that man. Men don't talk crazy to their homeboy about his girl because they understand that's out of bounds and will get checked immediately.
Right its a disgrace
@@NNOutBurger_Gaming No respect, no relationship. Modern women love to put down men in front of their friends, like it impresses people to dehumanize people. Make it the first and last time that happens. End it right then and there and don’t give second chances.
BINGO!!! When people value and intended to create a life and legacy with their partner, they should NeVeR!!! (*trying to emphasize the word, w/o all caps, because I know Kevin bands it) talk bad about him/her; and should NeVeR!!! discuss their intimate relationship.
Reactive women, will talk s#*t, when they "feel" _____, _____ , blank because of something their man did (or didn't do) to/for them.
A man, however, will NeVeR! speak badly or intimately about the woman he loves. And if he does? He's made a conscious decision, that he's no longer dealing with her.
This is because men know that, public image and perception, still means something to the world.
***The same way, men realize, being in public with du-rags and bonnets on, is unacceptable, but so many women so no problem with it. 🙄
Yup. Even when my ex was giving me headaches after headaches, the most I would tell my friends upon being asked would be "we're fine". And when they'd push a lil, I'd just say "sometimes she annoys me, but you know...just women being women". I'd never throw her under the bus, and they'd understand and not be busy. But my ex? Even on Twitter she'd subtweet me. And yup-she an ex for a reason
The way Kevin is demanding people get married you'd think he is the marriage tax collector. No, he just want the community to grow, and it starts with an officially recognised family unit.
Woow, I am not AA. But my eyes got filled with tears when I read your concluding statement.
I just hope they do not continue to misconstrue him to the extent of taking him out.
Hes still shilling the feminist version of marriage though. I never heard him tell women to save themselves for their husband. Girls these days become sloots before they even consider marriage. They rack up a bodycount on the cc ride that is called college. He also acts as if there is a point in marrying a woman who is past 30, or even 40.
@@Likexner he discourage young women from having casual and meaningless sex, aside from that, he advocate women get married early and settle down, that's not shilling feminism.
@@dotmanmide I said what i said, you are arguing against something else.
Exactly
He is not lying!!! I said this the other day to my husband... I couldn’t figure out why certain friends were always there when I was down but went ghost the second my situation improved. 😩👌🏿
"Single Women Keep Women Single?"
Yes. Misery loves company.
no Single women keep themselves single because they usually have a lot of high standards. If a woman wants to start a relationship with someone no one stops her she is the one who choose for her life
@@arianalushtaku4329 if you have high standards and you’re single that means that you don’t match the standards that you have
@wanderer5200 Agreed. I even see it within my own family. A lot of women don't know what men want or need. They give terrible relationship advice to younger women and enable each other's poor choices. Women can't even talk to other women because they're afraid to break "girl code." It's a hive mentality.
Oh my Gawd! Preach, Kevin! I just had a lonely friend "shirley" call to guilt me about I'm doing too much with a high value man, because I'm not answering her phone calls when I'm with him. I told her, I will not apologize for that. I have been friends with her for over 25 years. If I lose this friend begat of this, oh well. I have a rare opportunity to cater cook and please this man. I'm giving him everything my parents groomed in me. And he's eating it up. I will NOT let her mess up me with this good man. She's lonely and miserable and angry, and clearly she wants the same for me.. I intend to grow old with him and not her! My eyes are open! Thanks Kevin for touching on this. They're all fired. ☺
Keep doing what you’re doing 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I love the way you love him. Speaking from my own life....you definitely made the right choice. My mom & dad were married 60 years and I myself is happily married for 15. You're definitely on the right track.
@@independ4416 Doesn't matter. Don't hate.
As a South East Asian Man in his early 30's your facts applies to more than the black community and I'm loving everything about it. Teaches men to take control in a proper and move in a more meaningful way. Note I always do my own research before I take anyone's advice "as anyone should" and now I'm subscribed.
I’ve been dealing with Cambodian women for about 15 years. Even brought 1 over here. It definitely applies to everybody but we got it the worst.
@@ethansevilla1395 what??! 😳😂
@@ethansevilla1395 shid! made be earning dat money! >.
"True friends want the best for you.. even if it means less of them"
......damn. just damn.
That hit home
That’s actually a foolish statement, you can do both, want the best of you and them at the same time. Your friendship with a woman should have nothing to do with her relationship with a man. A mature grown woman shouldn’t be gossiping her love troubles with her girl friends but instead resolve them privately with her own man.
@@bellavega8048 It doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. Often, life will take us in directions that are positive for us in the long run, but may end up creating distance between old friends. Sometimes, it's simply just inevitable.
Good, supportive friends understand this, as where toxic friends will try to hold you back so you'll stay with them. That's the point of the statement.
I almost fall in one of this traps. Almost. If I didn't stop and think about the case, today I would be a divorced single mom woman. And I'm here, 10 years later happily married with my husband, a really good man.
Miserably married friends can ruin happily married relationships too.
I heard that yes!! For example, if your man is spoiling you and she doesn't get the same treatment from her man she might start to give you bad advice 👉🏾 why are you rushing to go home and cook him a meal? Can't he do it by himself? My man do it alone! Why do you text him to ask about his day? He is not a child! Etc..etc
That's the seed of jealousy
So true!!
@@historiqueafricaine Yes i met them. I cut them off straight
My sister had a meltdown during my wedding dress fitting. We all had to leave the bridal shop. 🤦🏾♀️
Me and my wife got married in the pastors living room. My sister made a cake and the only people there was my sister , nieces and my son. My wife had zero complaints. Stop worrying about a ceremony and focus on how you gonna stay together
I got married in my living room. I'm still happy
I agree. I am a woman and I would be fine going to the courthouse and a restaurant afterwards. We could dress business casual.
I heard that people who had a simple wedding tend to last longer than those who spent extravagant sum of money on big celebration with 700+ guests (half aren't probably happy for them) some even take loans to show off...a wedding isn't a show off or revenge party to flaunt your happiness in front of people who hurt you or are salty
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 smart couple!!! Good move!
I mean that 20k is good family money. When all things are settled and you and your man got everything going right, you can throw a big party all you want!
Never resonated so hard to this. Friend was a retired pretty girl, now older and single. First guy I was seeing failed, and she was all the way there. You name it: validation, shots, music parties, the works. Fast forward I fall head over heels for my man and we're building and getting to know each other. I'm experiencing romance for the first time: flowers, affection, flirting and petting.
Cue this woman. Lawd hah mercy.🙄🙄 Inserting herself in our relationship (literally hugged us both while we were hugging each other, then indignantly asked where HER flowers were), interrupted he and I's conversations to talk about her dog *bark BARK*, tried to set him up to see if he would check out one of her friends ( he called me immediately- these are women 50 freaking years old, mind you). The list goes on.
At one point she straight up asked, "What if he's not a good person?!" I countered, "But what if he IS??!" Radio silence. She eventually evicted me (I lived in her home), and I cut contact. That was nearly three years ago. From what I understand when my man visits the neighborhood and she sees him, she'll ask about us, and me. Lol
Audit your friendships, and narrow your circle.
Good advice!
Sometimes having female friends is equivalent to having an emotional trauma bucket and all women are passing it down to each other. It definitely helps keeping the mind clear instead and staying to yourself. Life is already a roll coaster, don’t need any extra rides.
No doubt
It's called trauma bonding which is dangerous.
Picking the right friends for women is paramount... because women will live vicariously through other women's pain and have no personal history with the pain
Well said
Yes! That energy transference is real!
You don’t know how many times I’ve seen suitable women put their lives on hold for some ungrateful, entitled friend or family member. Not only will the good friend miss out on her blessings, the second the bad friend finds any piece of man, she will give the good friend her azz to kiss. Y’all good women better learn to cut loose people who are liabilities to you. They will block your blessings.
You speak the truth. I had to learn this the hard way. It was a very close friend, and she was always in my ear. I didn’t know until later that SHE had been coming around MY man, trying to get him to sleep with her!!! I finally slammed a steel door on that friendship, and it surprised me at how much better I felt about myself and my life, and my man became my husband.
@@MissyRichmond you should tell this to a lot of young women. They are heading to a miserable life of loneliness.
Yes! Amen!
@@MissyRichmond Haha, yep! They give you bad advice while trying to steal the guy. It really is a competition.
Love this!!
most women say their not like the others and turn out to be just them
1000th percent lool
Both babymamas
That’s a girl and guy thing
I've never met a women who didn't thing she was the exception.
This is a huge overgeneralization that makes me wonder how many women you actually know, personally. Perhaps if you had more strong women in your life you wouldn't be so quick to put us down. I could just as easily make the generalization that all men are gross, addicted to videogames, obsessed with cars, over-protective and lazy (just to name a few stereotypes), but I know that's not always true because I have a lot of male friends that are not like that. Just a thought :)
I’ve been with my husband for 7 years, In the beginning I had a friend that only spoke negative about him and said I could do better etc.! The last straw for me was when she told me he came on to her a few months prior 🙄. I got rid of her and my relationship improved completely! All of the negative mess she was putting in my head influenced the way I was acting unfortunately.. Ladies get rid of the frienemies!
I feel this to the T!
Love this. I had a “close friend” also drop me after I got engaged smh. Single friends will definitely rather you stay single with them for their benefit.
YES!!! This right here!!
Happened to my mom too
These haters man smh
Thank you for having me Kevin!
He should have kept you on longer. Be sure to call back like he said. You got pretty hands to. Yes I noticed. Don't judge me lol.
@@MegaCityOne thank you! I will definitely try to come back. I’ll be a little more prepared for the brutal conversation that may take place!
@Jay'sWorld!🤪 lol thank you! Definitely can’t see without them!
@@mariislands Confidence woman. I got bets on you (as in to be successful) P L E A S E be normal child if you call in next time. I have faith in you more than the other females this session.
BELLISSIMA 🔥🔥🔥!!!
Yeah you definitely need to call back on friday lol
We need to hear this convo btw you & Kevin for longer period 😉😝👌🏽.
Men fight or avoid their enemies. Women hang out and go to lunch with their enemies. Something to think about.
Thats what emotions gets u
Facts.
I’ve said that a million times.
Yeah, and they are called frenemies for a reason. It's sick and illogical for a men.
💯💯💯
1. Get rid of your lonely friends because misery loves company. 2 Single women keep women single. 3 Birds of a feather flock together. 4 you cannot expect a seed of a orange tree to reach its fullest potential in the wrong environment. It needs to be surrounded in the perfect environment to thrive. Water, sunlight and fertilizer and married and single women need to be surrounded in the perfect environment to fulfill what they were here to be and that’s fruitful because a man builds his house with his hands and a woman will tear it down with her mouth. Great show 🐐 Samuels.
Mouth & Hands huh
So true
I stopped all conversations about relationships around single women. I only talk to my married friends.
You are 2000% right. I gave up my cats. Cut off single friends and behold I got a husband. I stayed in a state of readiness.
Congrats
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Yes!! I just cut everyone off, and am not getting ready and the men are already approaching me. I’m almost ready have a bit more weight to lose personally
I remember back in the day I was in a small club dancing and talking with a pretty girl , and the unattractive bigger friend came and pulled her away 🤦🏿♂️
🤣🤣
That's what they do. Cockblocking, because they can't get the high calibre of man themselves😂
@@zooperstar1996 lol. Man it’s sad
that only happens in the black community. In other communities the women will *_FIGHT_* to be around a productive solid man.
It happens to every man lol it happened to me!
This is literally the reason my ex and I broke up after 7 years together. Her friends were always in her ear trying to break us up. Always third wheeling. Tried to explain it to her she called be controlling and toxic. That’s how women are nowadays the let their friends and family interfere in their relationship.
It’s how they’ve always been. This stuff has always been around. It’s just easier to see nowadays. Or harder to ignore.
Same here
So you let her friends decide when your 7 year relationship ended? That's weak dude, I think that says more about you.
@@Longlostpuss What do you expect a man to do when his woman listens to her friends more than him? There are countless women in this very comment section talking about all the relationships their friends coached them out of.
@@Longlostpuss how is he weak? What he suppose to make threats if she don't get rid of her friends? Just release her to the streets. His ex is the weak one for allowing her friends to manipulate her. Also your comment was weak
sad that you can’t have girl friends and not worry about them being jealous or betraying you. I’d rather be alone enjoying my own company instead of worrying about snakes. there’s nothing wrong with not having friends ladies.
"You're smart" -Khaled voice
Yes, I agree especially MASCULINE female friends. And the ones that hate on men. Stay away from those ladies.
@@andreaa.1393 Here before they call you a PickMe 😏
@W W yup the loud ones😩
@@jonathanmarvens I love being a “pick me” cause I'm picked, sir 🥰
My ex left me basically out of nowhere. I know it was her friends that got to her because they were mad at what she had. For reference at the time I just left my six figure job as a director, I owned a few homes, and have gone full time in real estate . Less than a year later I’m building my first subdivision, profit projected at 1.6 million - I’m 32 and started in real estate in 2016. Now she’s texting me, and her “friends” those “alpha female” types met a guy and is now engaged less than 6 months later. I always told her those girls weren’t her friends , but didn’t listen to me, now those friends cost her a million , cuz I wasn’t gon get a prenup .
Daaammnnnnn
No bro, they saved u a million.
For a man making dat kind of money prenups shld be a must and shld be discussed in ur next relationship before marriage if u want to get into game again.
@@gravity4257 definitely prenup going forward . I met her 3 weeks before I bought my first house so she was there for it all in some capacity tho not always as my girl. It is what it is though, prenup mandatory now
It wasn’t out of nowhere, you just didn’t notice the signs. Girls aren’t in a long term relationship with all of the actions to prove she’s still there then suddenly bounce. Her loving sweet affection starts to deteriorate over time THEN she leaves
my grandmother told me "never discuss and trust with another woman what problems you have in your relationship with your husband. because she will use that information to take your man." also to choose my battles with my husband because " the grass isn't always greener on the other side and be all things to your man his friend, lover and confidante."
Omg thanks so much for sharing🙌🏾🙌🏾 it remind me of Shania twain story..her best friend whom she was confinding in became her husband's mistress and she lost her marriage
Beware of those who’re _always_ there for you during times of *struggle* & *need;* but _seldom_ *celebrate* with you during _success._
Yes, i agree. Its really sad too. I had that happen to me with a friend of mine. She didn't want to celebrate me during my success. Now, i do have another great friend and she is the best and we both respect each other. Its hard to find good friends like that. Im grateful. I keep my friend circle small and surround myself with like-minded smart people:-) while i learn to discren people and friends.
I feel you, @@anng2526. It can be hard to _read_ toxic friendships (having those who *ride* for you during hard times is valuable).
It may take a while before realizing some just want *front row* seats to the _drama…_
Glad you’re amongst healthier circles now! _Quality_ *>* _Quantity_
Lol society is funny, because the reverse can be said, some wouldn't be there in the struggle times, but will want to feed off from your success 😂
There’s a huge distinction between those who _leech off_ the success of others, vs those who _celebrate_ the success of others without expecting anything in return (aside from the _joy_ of seeing loved ones win).
@@sage_comics, you have a fair point _if_ the reverse is an excess & mutually exclusive.
As far as others being encouragement during good times _and_ bad, *can’t* have one _without_ the other…
@@jhnxavier Yes correct
This why my ex wife is my ex wife. She wanted to spend more time with them on trips and girls night 🤷🏾♂️
That's horrible. I hope you didn't have any kids with her.
She was for the streets
*Getting her guts dug out. Smart move.*
I hope u find a good one
Sorry bro but she was getting tossed but using friends as excuse....
“Modern women want relationships but always look for ways to break them” - KS
Facts!!!!
Facts!!!!
My married mother always said "Keep them skirts out of your house". She was 100% correct. Stick to your man ladies and keep other females OUT of your business. 💯
- Intro - 0:00
- Start of The Show - 15:55
- Fragrance and Candle of the Evening- 19:39 ( Fragrance: Tom Ford Grey Vetiver ) ( Candle: Le Labo Laurier 62 )
- Formal Introduction - 21:36
- The Book Of Obsidian By: Mumia Obsidian Ali - 22:39
- Opening Monologue - Single Women Keep Women Single - 26:21
- MoneyWorld 🌍 by: Lu-Ni ( Ms. Asia ❤️ Choreography ) - 1:04:22
- ( 1st Caller - Brandy 25 ) - Distancing herself from friends - 1:10:25
- ( 2nd Caller- Cheray 36 ) - No man’s land and needs to move with urgency- 1:12:46
- ( 3rd Caller- Michelle 40 ) - Lost her friends, but gained a husband - 1:22:19
- ( 4th Caller- Ashley 20 ) - boyfriend introduced her to the show - 1:24:06
- ( 5th Caller - Debra 41 ) Being manipulated / Married friend complains a lot - 1:25:29
- ( 6th Caller - Kissey 39 ) - believes in single women helping each other find a relationship 🤷🏾♂️ - 1:29:01
- ( 7th Caller - Jasmine 32 ) - Wanted a Disney fantasy Wedding - 1:33:46
- ( 8th Caller - Kiana 26 ) older women caused confusion in her dating life - 1:38:53
- ( 9th Caller - Maury 32 ) Background noise and feedback - 1:42:08
- ( 10th Caller - Arielle 29 ) planning on getting married, got rid of single friends - 1:44:22
- RECAP Breakdown of the show - 1:46:06
- ( 11th Caller - Amira 28 ) - THOUGHT her friend was a friend... - 1:47:27
- ( 12th Caller - Asia 29 ) Agrees single women keep women single / wants to be married - 1:54:02
- Ending Monologue - 1:56:32
- Outro - 2:03:00
You’re a real one. Beautiful car btw.
Thank you soo much
I told my boyfriend that whenever we get married, I don’t want to really hang out with single friends. It’s not like I don’t like them, I don’t want them to try to taint my mind.
Sure, but how else will you arrange a three some for his birthday?
@@CEWIII9873 not happening. But we're married and just had our baby boy his Junior.
I agree
@@CEWIII9873that's exactly why @princessgumbo should keep her single friends at a distance
Single woman don't like you either. Stay blessed
Kevin is 100% spot on, not one lie told. I was dating this girl who was a solid 8, I wanted to go out with her one Friday night & she really asked if her 5’5 215lbs pound Freind could come. I cut it off with her after that… not Tolerating that BS ever again
😂😂😂😂😂
Lol dang homi she couldn’t even ask lmao
You did right
You dropped this king 👑
@@jahaitian94 bro she’s like “can nene come too?, she really likes this restaurant” I’m like fk no?! Nene can sit her offensive lineman ass at home with her PHD, 3 cats & watch everybody hates Chris reruns 🤦🏾♂️❌
Keep spreading the word kevin. You're reaching more people and changing minds day by day. I'm a 47 man and have been waiting for a brother to speak the word about these women my whole life. Nothing but the utmost of respect.
I agree but quick question have you ever heard of Patrice O’Neal. He was speaking the word also before he died years ago
I never heard of him.
In this age of social media, women just block & mute men for speaking some truth. That's the problem nowadays. That's why women act like this is new ground breaking knowledge. They never heard a man say it like this before, because most men can't.
So true.
Lol you're 47 and you've been waiting for him to preach to women for you 🤣. If this ain't the most pathetic comment I've ever seen on YT. Women are great, if you can't find a match, then you're most likely the problem🤡.
When I met my wife 20 plus years ago.
She had a circle of female friends that were nothing but drama and hot messes.
The first thing I implimented was an immediate cease to their intrusive and self centered interruptions into "our" time.
It caused a little stress with my wife at first. But after a short period of time, she began to understand how they were psychic vampires. All of them to a person are still leading the single young woman lifestyle in their 40's and 50's, and are all miserable and a mess.
Meantime... My wife enjoys a life with a loving husband of over 20 yrs, home ownership, money, virtually no life stress, and a smile on her face daily.
Ladies...
Be very aware of your friendships. More often than not, they are secret sabotage agents and vampires.
@kevin samuels✓
Thank you for the advice! Have a fantastic day sir, keep up the good work. 👍
You're right on female friendships sir💯 I was a little bit too naive about friendship and I'm learning the hard way now about their sabotaging behaviour It's crazy
Thank you❤
It’s unfortunate that not every “friend” has your best interest. I’ve had experiences with single friends telling me to dump my then fiancé!
Is he your husband now or you followed thier advice in the end? Lol
You told no lies Kevin, omg my ex best friend ran through men and hated my ex bf, competing for more of my attention and time, so when I started dating my soulmate I didn't allow her to get an inch near him. She was upset thinking she has to vet him before he gets close to me, acting all concerned. I removed her from my life at 21 and never looked back.
Bless you. Smart woman.
Why do women feel the need to vet their friends bf, like you have dads, uncles and cousins for that.
@@tracybrutus658 I've never done it but honestly I think its a control thing and wanting to be apart of every aspect of her friend's life.
Only thing is that these single friends attach themselves to you, texting you all the time, calling you..and when they get a man they completely disappear(discard) you.. yet shocked when a friend says you change. Women are definitely users!!!
You are preaching to the choir ☺
@@independ4416 yup been thru this too many times. I never let women attach themselves to me again
Facts !!!
not u mel
@@patrickprendergast9589 ok?
This man is saving the dating world, about time some pushback on the western females and their fast lifestyle! Keep it up KS 🙏
💯
Man you never lied
I remember telling a so called friend about my engagement and she just started crying and talking about her dad passing away.
Oh my days😧 that's emotional manipulation!! She wants all the attention on her
@@historiqueafricaine yes, and it's not like her father passed away THAT DAY. The funeral and everything was over. It was a couple of weeks.
@@ThebookofAlana HAHAHAHAH WTF!
Well maybe she was just sad. It doesn't mean she is manipulative. A couple of weeks sounds like such a short time. I mean he was her FATHER. She must've been an emotional wreck. I think you are being a little narcissistic, no offense.
Wait... What🤣🤣🤣
I’m married to my high school sweetheart and I don’t have many friends. And I’ve found that you have to be around other married couples and people that are in long term relationships like 5+ years that are strong!
When I was in my early teens I divorced the thought processes of women in my life who didn’t have the outcome I wanted. I observed but I did not absorb. And it worked! I got the life I wanted. not the negative one they lived unmarried and unhappy. I divorced their ideology and their feelings and thoughts about men. I allowed God to train me how to be a great wife to a wonderful man and that’s EXACTLY the outcome I received. Thank you Kevin so much good stuff here on this channel! So glad I was led here! ❤️
Anyone notice how my black sisters are coming onto the show better looking and no bonnets🤣🤣! Godfather’s making big changes...
I was thinking the same thing 😂🤣. It's a good thing tho!
Idk brother I seen a bonnet warrior at a stoplight the other day 😂
Big facts
@@TJ-100 not a “bonnet warrior” 😩😩😂😂😂😭😭😭💀💀💀💀💀
He'd be way over 1 million subscribers if all the hate watchers admitted to watching every episode.
Hell yea. So true
No cap
Hell Yeah.. True!
WITH popcorn and wine!!!
@@ashesly watch parties i bet too like they did with empire and unreality shows
I listen to Kevin everyday with my hour drive to work. This man is bringing balance back into the world and I’m definitely learning to be a better version of myself. Good looking Godfather ✊🏿
I had the same thing happen to me. I got engaged and my best friend (and roommate... so things got real awkward) gave me the same ultimatum. I picked him, and she went out and not only got and engaged/married before I did, but used my colors and my dream wedding dress that I couldn't afford at the time.
I was so devastated at the time because it felt like she was trying to hurt me as bad she could.
Anyway, she has been divorced 3 times at this point and I'm celebrating 15 years of marriage, but God that time in my life was painful. I relate sis, but you I know we got the the last laugh in our happiness. 😉
That’s crazy
Damn she was no friend
I had a “friend” who literally stoped talking to me as soon as I got with my now husband. Completely went silent on me, I invited her to my traditional wedding she didn’t come, couldn’t even come when my baby was born, simply texted me with “congratulations” when I group texted that I just had delivered the baby safely and we were good. You cannot make this things up. Me and her were friends since grade 9, both were single a long time, we were the party girls who loved going out on weekends, she would call me “let’s go out” and I was that friend who would go.. when I tell you till this day we don’t talk and I don’t even know why, only thing I can say is she stoped talking to me as soon as I met and stated dating my now husband. 8 years now, whole time i was thinking maybe I did something wrong, maybe it was my fault, but realized only thing I did was finding love and starting a family
Thats called mercy. Dodged a bullet.
Wow
It’s probably for the best. Married people should have married friends.
🤦🏾♂️ wow count your blessings from God. A lot of women actually become bitter at their friends because they realize to late.
Same thing happened to me. My “best friend” completely cut me off after I got engaged. I now live 15 minutes away from her and she makes every excuse in the book not to visit me. She didn’t come to my wedding, nor has she met any of my children. It’s been 5 years.
This was a great show tonight, Kevin is more entertaining than regular tv these days.
Gees lady you still watch TV ..You rather sit and wait for someone else to play your favorite movie or show than to watch them on the internet .at anytime ...
I watch some stuff on Apps and there are other times that I enjoy watching TV..last time I checked I still had the "Right" to choose... Thank you for your comment and have a good night.
Agreed...There's norhing on tv. They censor the conversation too much.
Totally agree bambam
Kevin you on a Roll with this 1 , this going up in the Cloud ☁️
Women rather please their jealous bitter single moms friends than pleasing the man they live with who pays their bills and raises their kids.
That's so delusional and dumb
That narcissistic hive mind they have
It's extremely toxic
Bro, I felt this. I’m literally trying to get out of that situation now‼️
i have seen mothers who sabotage their own daughter's marriage perniciously...Women are such catty creatures!
Yes
or mothers in law who force their son to break up from his wife
As a married woman, I do not have single female friends, or single people around period, we no longer have the same interests.
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Kevin you always speak facts! This video resonated with me. I had to let go of a friend who was an emotional vampire, trying to make me feel bad for fully immersing myself into my wife and motherly duties through sly and direct comments and dirty looks. She told me I was too focused on being a mom and I should take time to go out at night with the girls wtf. Secretly she wanted to be married with children but her relationship was not where she wanted it to be. She went ghost after I had my child and only reached out expecting hours long conversations when I obviously didn't have the time then becoming distant, sad or upset when I couldn't spend those hours on the phone. I was roped into the toxic cycle for years and I'm glad I finally got out. Save yourself ladies and focus on your husband, children and healthy friendships!
Remember, Jordan Peterson said it best, if your "friends" don't feel happy that good things are happening to you, they're not your friends.
Yep, even my own blood has encouraged children OOW, potentially ruining my chances of a good husband. When I mentioned working out, going hiking, etc my sister was like “HIKING?! WORK OUT?!”
I believe it. My coworker told me that her grandmother wants her to have a child even if she's not gonna be with the father. This is sick. A lot of people don't care about the woman or the child smh.
And because we bm know that relationships will puts weight on you. So we have to stay in shape as we get older. We call it staying sexy, cuz if you won't do it somebody else will... I personally want to thank you for putting this information out for us to read this and breaking that cycle... Thx u💐
Lol
@@Alena-xoxo damn
🤦🏾♀️My own brother did this, “my own blood has encouraged children OOW”. Shit crazy and most ppl on my dad side is like that. And some would have possibly been. I hope to break that cycle and get married. I told my brother I just found that crazy, but he wouldn’t help me with/oprovided solutions to any of my problems. Not too surprised, because all of his kids are out of wedlock.
It's true. Big Shirley isn't necessarily your friend; it could be a family member. I know a family member I was really close with was always there for the rough times I was going through but the moment I made a turn for the better, got married and had a baby, they cut me out completely. Now they won't even give me the time of day. I realized a long time ago that they were jealous of me because of their own decisions not working out. It's a dark place to be old, bitter and jealous all at the same time.
That's crazy! The jealousy is real
Women listen well. your friend do not want you happy in a relationship. The ONLY friends that would be genuinely happy for you are the happily married ones with a good husbands.
Or the one who is about to be married in a happy relationship💯 you are right on that
The same advice goes to men as well. Unmarried men always tries to tell other men to not get married and things like that 😂😂
I experienced this exact circumstance several years ago. I was in a relationship that was going exceedingly well, but she had a girlfriend who was a perpetual sidepiece, literally never having had a relationship as an adult. My ex and I were really heavy on the SoCal jazz festival scene and this friend was always in our business. I once arranged a full weekend in San Diego with 3 days at the festival paid, a stay a a great hotel, meals and all taken care of. My ex said "Since you took care of everything, let's take my car". On the way, her friend called and convinced her "If he really wanted you to relax, he would have drove". She spent the rest of the weekend pondering if my gesture was really sincere or if I was being selfish letting her drive. Soon they were both single together again. That break up led to my next relationship and subsequent marriage, so I am hardly complaining. But it a perfect example of manipulative friends.
if you drove she would of probs said “what he dont think you’re capable of driving” smh
@@rojdancam1676 It's always something, ain't it???
@@unadulteratedtruth8716 Lol man that’s crazy. You go out your way to pay for all the festivities and she feel you’re not sincere because you allowed her to drive. After she insisted on driving. Man these women gone learn to stop allowing their trifling friends to sabotage their relationship.
That is clásic haux behavior. You treat them right they responde awfull. Been there done that. Congrats on your marriage.
This man works hard though, he puts thought into every broadcast. He definitely deserves to monitize his intellectual property, he worked hard on it.
Women who can’t think for themselves keep themselves single. Why would I take advice for some woman about love and marriage who is not married or in a successful relationship?
Wow. You opened this segment with what I just experienced. I feel so ashamed of myself. I am firing my single friends.
God bless .
😂😂😂😂😂whats this?
This lady loved this show! Kevin read my whole mind today.1. Drop the deflating friends. 2. Increased efforts to level up takes energy, time and availability. 3. Black women stop dreaming up weddings you can't afford to keep you from getting married.
Mines is opposite been with guy over five yrs. he proposed last year and we were going to elope. But his family said have wedding now he wants one. I’m like why go in debt babe? But here we are planning a wedding I pray God covers
I have a friend who has been doing this to me for YEARS!! He ain’t lying y’all pay attention cuz women be the ones hating
I watched my sister friends drag her down into a ghetto cesspool
Have or Had???
For years and still friends.
We were friends throughout childhood, I dismissed then but not as a adult I been cut her off. Don’t need the negative draining energy
Earlier this year I rehomed a dog I bought with an ex. Some people thought I was crazy and yes it was painful. I also woke up at 5am M-F to workout, worked on my femininity, and my Henry found ME within 3 months. I had space in my life to nurture him when we met. Much respect to Kevin for helping me!
August 2023 and I Humbly believe that this is by far the BEST episode he's had
Y’all Ladies better stop hardening your hearts. The way things are happening in the world, it’s best to have a Man by your side leading and protecting once the Apocalypse starts. Got to think long term.
Yes❤️
You have to harden you heart because it’s gets broken too often.
@@evenoemi3009 or you can just go to therapy.
@@defjulz I wish I could , it’s not that useful for me.. I have serious attachment issues and fear of abandonment and I jeopardise every dating opportunity.. I have a big fear of abandonment and I become very overwhelming for them 😞 but I am in so much pain .. this guy just told me I think to much and my mind is on override and I am too sensitive and I know and I apologised and he needs space for him to miss me.. That’s like a knife in my chest. Hurst a lot .. I just need someone who understands me and how sensitive I am and even loves that about me., but it’s impossible I know and I can’t even blame him for it.. just to step away and not getting hurt all the time .. I am too deep and too sensitive and I always been the odd one out. And my therapist said I do have trauma but it’s related of being a highly sensitive person 😔
@moon man J uhm what ? That was a bit rude .. I don’t get why people are so mean
I may disagree with some things that you say butttt this live show was needed. More women need to hear this message. The example you gave about the diet..telling my friends that I want to lose weight..mind you they are slimmer than myself. I started to distance myself..I believe a lot of women really have No friends.
@Eatshit TH-cam there is truth to this comment. Women put pressure on themselves to look/be “perfect”. So, unnecessary competition easily develops and they start side-eyeing each other for no reason and some women downplay themselves to make other women feel more comfortable. Be yourself, and learn how to recognize negative energy
I love seeing Black Men support each other I copped Obsidians Book as well ✊🏾✅
I just listened last night to a broadcast about your past. You graduated with an engineering degree. I congratulate you because it is very hard degree to achieve. I know as I spent my entire career as one and remember staying up until 1am and getting to school at 7am. But I am glad I finished and a great deal of my success is a result of the discipline and organization skills that came from graduating and working in the field. I think a great deal of my success flying was do to always thinking ahead, way ahead and in life that has carried through.
I like your broadcasts and I do hope that the ladies you educate work toward improving themselves and not keep letting peer pressure and social media sway good values.
Married women hang around their families. And when we do get together with our friends, it's married women going to lunch for a quick catch-up may be followed by some shopping, NOT bars, and not family time at night. BUT getting together is only when it doesn't interfere with our family/children commitments, which means it might be months before we get together. For certain periods in our life, we might have been lucky enough to get together every other week or so, but that doesn't last. Phone and Facebook are handy for keeping in touch. I was married thirty years, so I have thirty years of experience talking. Even now, I have five close friends that have been my friends--three for over 15+ years. I had to "cut" some friends from my life after marriage--and they are exactly the type of friends Mr. Samuels is discussing in this video. They are time-takers and cannot be happy for you. They are easily angered when you insist your family comes first. Drop them now.
When my now husband told his friends he started dating someone, ALL the female ones literally dropped him. Needless to say, happy together 7yrs +
His female friends were probably doing out of respect for you, some wives feel uncomfortable with their husbands having female friends.
cant be because they were all friends of my sister as well. they knew me separately for a couple years before I met my future husband at my sister's party. a guy friend confided to me moths later that 2 of them had liked him and said I stole their man🙄 self cleaning trash imo
KS has surpassed Steve Harvey in the game!Women are mad because they know it’s true.All these women out here acting like men.
What? Steve Harvey the king of simps?
Women's "groupthink" and over valuing their friends opinions ruined several budding relationships for me. Her friends put all sorts of "He's not this..." "He's not that..." "you're gonna date him!!!" Ideas in her head.
I felt this video! I experienced this with my EX-best friend and now we are no longer friends! I was blinded for a long time, but I saw the light eventually. Now, don’t get me wrong, the ish still hurts, but I had to accept the situation for what it was.
Good on u ...wish u best going forward
My father always told me “ Stop going out in groups with your friends. Take yo a$$ by yourself to met someone “ Them broads don’t like your energy, and they miserable. Ain’t no man gone approach you with all them big Shirley’s. 😂😂😂
So many women don't seem to understand this. Going out with a group of women can oftentimes be man repellant.
Even if the friends are conventionally attractive, they still will hate. Then they become upset that the man chose a certain woman over them. Most women in my opinion, aren’t true friends.
I hate women that be In groups it's week to me
Where is the Big Shirley sound effect from? I can't place it.
@@pseudospike3152 Tom & Jerry or some WB or MGM cartoon. It was very popular in my Childhood.
I alway look forward to your show .
You have put Oprah Winfrey to shame
Keep up the great job sir
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