Autistic Man interview-Adib
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.ย. 2024
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Adib, an autistic man in Atlanta, Georgia.
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There's a saying in the autism community. "If you've met one person with autism you've met one person with autism". We're like snowflakes. No two are the same. I lived 54 years on this earth knowing I was different and finally received a diagnoses late last year.
Did it change anything in your life ?
I didn't receive my diagnosis until I was 31. Very proud of you for having the courage to didn't when you did.
@@thatpart I received mine last year at the age of 31. 🧡
I'm 41 now, and I received my diagnosis of being on the spectrum in my late 30s. I was either 37 or 38 when my doctor told me.
beware the word 'snowflake' to describe yourself, it doesn't go down well with a lot of people. hope your life is better for being given a label x
What an eloquent and intelligent man. I wish him the best!
I thought so too. 💯👋
I Totally agree to this comment
This has me crying. He verbalized my oldest son. Thank you
@thompsonappliance3078 Agreed. Same story. It's very hard to understand what is happening on the inside. When someone this articulate can describe what they are feeling that other people can get a glimpse.
Non for now. Just Lis/ening
I cried as well. My son has many of the exact same actions. As a parent, sir I thank you for this interview. Please do a part two. The details he provided I think are extremely valuable and educational. Lets hear his side of things without the Dr or stress. Just let him speak freely and watch what we will learn. I know I just did!
Yes, I am tears. This is my oldest son. Explained to me. Thank You ❤️❤️❤️
Your son a king
Blown away. When he said “Autism mishandled” my mouth dropped. What a profound realization. What he describes as “pre-fetishes” seem to have begun as a need for sensory input. Many children with autism use weighted vests and blankets because their bodies crave that sensory input. Had these feelings been addressed, he may not have gone down that path. No shade to mom who may not have had the money or resources to get him the appropriate therapy. I have a young teenage son on the autism spectrum. This is a special interview for me. All parents should heed his warning about the dangers of the internet - not just porn addiction, but gaming and violence, especially for those sensory-seekers and those with addictive tendencies. Good luck to this man. What an amazing interview. Thank you!
Stupid as hell, autism is not real bunch of crazy ass parents projecting on to there children. If that child is freezing cold nd u give them a blanket they won't give a fuck what texture it is.
@@frcomet5009 Have a nice day!
Yep, and I have made my daughter the weighted blanket and a fuzzy robe. DUDE! They're SO expensive. I raided the craft department at Walmart so it's available for everyone, and brought a fuzzy blanket for the top and 2 tshirt sheets for the quilting in the middle with the weights, and then the bottom fuzzy. It works. And I made her a robe that's fuzzy. And YES porn replaced the Therapy inputs you can use, for the stimulation like the weighted blanket OR the blue/pink light in the bedroom at night. Then there's a program you can tell Alexa to play pink/brown/white noise so the nightmares don't happen. The anxiety is less. Also there's Celexa. If this man had the help I've gotten for my daughter, and someone like the extra teacher I had at school. 💯 He wouldn't have these issues. He's not the first ASD I've heard of like this, they didn't get the therapy. Occupational Speech and Physical Therapy are the best thing for me and my daughter.
@@stephaniewright898 💯❤️
It has has nothing to do with fetishes, it is common that those with autism have oxytocin deficiency.
As an autistic person I wasn't really bullied when I was a kid, the most bulling I ever experienced was at a work place from other adult people. Autistic people are frank and honest, some "normal" people really hate us just for that.
This is exactly what I fear. I've already been bullied for being autistic as a child I fear my bluntness will ruin my future as an adult.
@@Baa-pho34 there are people and jobs that appreciate it, but it took me a long while to find that
@@stupka1111 Thank you for giving me Hope
@@Baa-pho34 just don't make yourself do anything that feels wrong for you.
Yeah some high functioning/moderately autistic kids at my school are BRUTAL at pointing out the obvious 😂It feels good to see the popular kids getting put down a peg by someone braver than me
Videos like this NEED to be shown in schools. We need to humanize people who come from difficult walks of life. Once we are able to understand why people are the way they are, we can open our hearts instead of ostracizing them.
You put a lot of faith in humanity; most people are going to be better informed and benefit from seeing a video as this one. A*holes will remain as such and probably don't have the skills to understand this gentleman.
We all know it's not going to happen but we can only dream.
This is a perfect example of how Autism is a "Spectrum Disorder." There are many levels of functioning that can fall under the umbrella diagnosis of Autism. This man is very articulate and intellectual. He really gives insight into the struggles he has faced and continues to face. Everyone can learn from him and develop understanding and empathy. Thank you for sharing.
That's because they expanded the category to accomodate the outcome of putting gut biome modifiers in the food.....just like adhd, it's a vague diagnosis.......for example from this video......this idea of over connectivity is just plain wrong.....I personally don't think this guy is on the spectrum.
Well said....
@@curiousbystander9193 he’s likely on the spectrum, the bed-wetting into his teens, lack of social skills and lack of eye contact in this video were the deciding factors for me. however i do agree this guy is still pretty uniformed about autism, not everything he was saying is a symptom or characteristic of autism
@Curious Bystander I personally think he is and so are you. Cope
@@curiousbystander9193 The bullying experiences and talking about his "pre-fetishes" (oversharing) seem like pretty good indicators to me.
I was trapped in a prison of autistic anxiety until I was 30 & was prescribed fluoxetine. It was miraculous. I went from a person who left school at 16 with zero qualifications to now writing scientific papers
Wow, thanks! ❤
I've already tried that and many other medications. The only thing that works for me is a methylphenidate and Wellbutrin combo because I also have ADHD. Not cured or anything but I can function.
Are you happier now?
Pregablin is a god send for my issues. Adhd/autism/ocd/bpd. My anxiety is eased greatly.
@Ray Spore absolutely. I still have autism (aspergers) and people are still people but I've created my own environment to thrive in and not be subjected to the prettiness & social games of 'normal' people.
This hits home for me having a Autistic child and finding myself with the same issues as my son growing up. I thank god that kids nowadays are raised with the awareness of Autism. I was bullied very badly for my awkwardness. My mom took me to the school psychologist in elementary school and he said I was just a weird kid. Because of the education people are getting about Autism my son won’t be treated the way I was.
This hits deep man...I'm sooo happy that you are able to give your son what you didn't have in this specific regards. I was in the same situation as a kid, in a 3rd world country where I was fortunate enough to see a handful of local specialists.
Unfortunately in the late 80's, their knowledge was not good, so my family were not properly educated on how to actually look after me, guide me, explain my issues to me etc and most NB, where to draw the line between my personality and my A.D.D / cerebral palsy etc...
Are you autistic as well?
Times are changing, still not there. There's a few comments below that are still showing bullying is alive and well for us. These adults raise their kids as such. I keep hoping that if i have a kid like myself they won't get treated as you and I were. Maybe I'm just too jaded and hardened by my experience.
@@zadekeys2194 yeah it was rough in the 80s. I couldn’t read until 2nd grade. My 2nd grade teacher told my mom that she didn’t know how to teach me so my mom taught me how to read. It took me about a month to before I was the top reader in the class. It wasn’t until College that I learned that it’s not that I bad a certain subjects it’s just that i have to learn and be taught differently.
@@deltasaves yeah I think it’ll always be there but just not as bad as the anti bullying gets pushed in school and the understanding of different disabilities.
You can tell already by 3 minutes he is very intelligent.
Most people, even after watching this... still will not understand the full subject of autistic spectrums.
But this is a great film and he is not a slow man...
Thing is.. this is just one type of autistic man.
There is many different autism spectrums.
Good to learn from his one experience though, and build your experience on autistic people from there..
You can't ever understand but that's okay. I'll never understand people who aren't autistic either.
It's such a complicated disorder there's nothing that can really summarize it. You just go through life constantly uncomfortable everything that touches your body feels irritating, you can't walk or move smoothly like normal people, every situation feels like you're an alien trying to communicate with humans.
It's very hard to see myself from a 3rd person perspective. It's hard just to express basic emotions or even define in my mind what emotions are. I just know I feel them very strongly but I can't put my finger on what they are. It's a very confusing disorder. And not everyone has the same symptoms.
Italian researchers have just discovered the gene at fault for autism. It was all over the news in Europe.
did you expect him to be dumb?
As a mom to a 4 year-old Black autistic son, this gives me hope and a better understanding of how to raise my son. He's hyperlexic and very active but he's also a very kind soul like Adib. A lot of the things Adib mentioned certainly apply to my son, like needing to sleep with us and with the covers over his face. His dad and I try our best to be accommodating to his needs but I'm glad Adib focused on the need for being independent. All the best to you in the future! We need more autistic voices of color to raise awareness!
Same. My 4 year old son's also autistic & I learn more & more new things about him every single day lol
As the autistic mom of an 18 year old autistic son my biggest piece of advice is to not to be complacent when it comes to online activities. It's SO easy to just let the kids loose. I did this with my son and really truly regret it. When they're young like yours it's just a fun distraction, something to keep them busy while you do your work. We think they're learning if it's an educational site or game. It's not really that educational and they get so used to the gratification of these games it's hard to draw their attention elsewhere. And then there's social media to contend with when they get older. I regret letting my son have full access. I thought he'd tell me if something was wrong. They don't though. I drilled and drilled it in to him to tell me if something bad was out there. He was afraid I'd take away his device if I found out. I wish I'd never let him have that freedom. I have a daughter too and she was able to handle it but my son is too sweet. Too eager to please.
Anyway, that is a danger for any child, but I think my son is addicted and he's now 18 and I can't do anything about it. He's been drawn in and hyperfocuses on his online relationships to the point where he cares little for anything or anyone else.
That is my only regret in raising him. In other ways I've been told I'm overprotective and the truth is you can't protect no matter how overprotective you are. But there's a balance. Don't just let them have their privacy online. They do not have the maturity to handle it.
@@cs5384 Thank you for sharing your perspective!
We need more interviews and people willing to share their story like Adib here. Thank you for being brave enough and comfortable enough to share your story. A close friend has an autistic sibling who was misdiagnosed as ADHD for about 30 years and it's had a profound impact on his life and opportunities. So glad we now better understand and accept autism. Have a good one!
My son is in the spectrum. I myself am high functioning but did not realize it until I was in my late 30’s. It’s not easy. It takes a lot to conquer it… a lifelong battle. Improvement is gradually being made. God bless this guy, he has a good heart. Beautiful soul.
My psychiatrist told me it's hard and never referred me. Guess who is going to a neuropsychologist to get the diagnosis anyways 😒
How did you realize you're a high functioning? Have you been diagnosed?
How does one 'conquer' autism?
I mean the goal isn’t to “conquer” autism. It’s not a disease
I haven’t been officially diagnosed but I definitely have high functioning, I cannot make eye contact to save my life, I interrupt people, I’m really awkward and masking all the time is really exhausting, it’s definitely a life long battle
No one should be bullied, period, but we really need to raise our collective standards if our society cannot include someone like Adib. It pains me that he has had to suffer all this abuse when he is obviously such a kind person. I send you all my love, Adib.
Seriously how can someone that bright not succeed? Smdh
@@gregw322 Because autism is first and foremost a disability.
@@jacobus57 no, you misunderstand my comment. My point is that our society is cruel if someone that bright and kind can’t succeed.
@@amasvodka well aware.
How do you raise societal standards, when the majority of people who breed are shallow, ignorant morons?
As someone with autism as well it never fails to amaze me how “neurotypical” people see someone as intelligent and kind as Adib and find something wrong with him
People can be so cruel for no reason, bullying someone just because of a difference they have when we’re ALL different in some way. Autistic or not. In fact, I find Autistic people to be way more interesting and kind than “normal” people
I think they just get a sense we're different but can't put their finger on why and that puts people on edge.
I always feel more connected to people on the spectrum. "normal" people are often very concerned with being part of a generalization. my homies on the spectrum (I may be undiagnosed) connect with me on deeper and unique levels
My 4 year old son has autism, a while back we were having lunch at a restaurant outdoors and my son stims by shouting and people gave him the nastiest lucks I guess he was sensing the bad vibes so it made him really uncomfortable 2 different people, 2 grown adults might I add came up to our table asking us if we can control him and tell him to be quiet. I replied he has autism he can’t help it, and he said well can you turn it off. I never felt so bad and angry in my life at that moment. Also when we take him to parks/playgrounds kids ignore him or are just mean it breaks my heart. Just a taste of what he will have to deal with throughout life and that scares me.
Just think through it logically what you were describing is often times a childhood type of bullying because they’re different and this is usually because of their own or unresolved issues or they feel threatened by you or rather there place in the social hierarchy is threatened
I just read the last part of your comment and scr8 up that’s the truth Normies are fucking boring
My son is 10 and high functioning autistic, school is very hard, lots of bullying and teasing. No friends, the kid that is never invited to a birthday party, not wanted on youth sports because of the emphasis on winning. My son is my hero , through all the ups and downs(mostly downs) , he gets up every day and does his best , even though it seems most people aren’t on his side. We are father/son , but also best friends. Wish society was more excepting of people that are different, different is not bad.
💜 it will get better, sending love to the both of you
"Wish society was more excepting of people that are different"
Society always has and always will be hard on those who differentiate from the "norm" - bully and teasing are wounds that may never heal but knowing he had his father by his side will be more than enough to equip him in this wicked world.
Sounds like he has an awesome dad 😊. He sounds like an amazing boy and he will find some good friends soon ❤❤❤❤
Same with my son
@@pfimagazine I'm sorry it breaks my heart to see our kids treated the way they are.
I have a beautiful 16 year old son with level 3 Autism. He is unable to express (through speech) what he is thinking, feeling or experiencing. For the first time, I have had some true insight into what my son is feeling. I’ve wondered a billion times about what is going on in his head. Adib, thank you for this gift.
You’re not alone! I Praise you because I know it’s not easy!
Play him music.. just because he doesn’t speak doesn’t mean he doesn’t have deep inner emotions, play some timeless music 🙏🏽🌌🌌🌌
My 28 year old son is severely Autistic. He is non verbal, considered " low functioning". A year ago he started spelling on an alphabet board. He amazed us with his vocabulary, his knowledge and his intelligence. He doesn't spell alot because it's hard for him, but he is in the process of writing a poetry book. People with Autism are in there. They can't control their senses, feelings or body, but they are in there.
that’s awesome ❤
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I have aspergers and I have such trouble socializing, I never feel like I connect with people because I’m masking all the time, it’s kind of painful and lonely at the end of the day, I’m also juggling bipolar and ocd..mental illness and neurodivergency are fun..that’s great for his progress though ❤❤
Sorry I’m coming back to this, you are a really great father, I can’t imagine how difficult that is for you
My whole family is Autistic, husband and all the kids. People need to listen to Autistic people more when they speak. We will never have a society that protects and respects their differences if we continue to ignore them and infantilize them. It’s a neurological spectrum condition. Each one experiences it differently. We need to listen to and respect their differences. There’s nothing “wrong” with them, just differences. It CAN come with disabilities too, and we can accommodate them better if we learn what they need from the Autistic community.
It really kind of bothers me how many NT people keep going on about how smart he is, like they're shocked an autistic person (or maybe an autistic black man?) could be so articulate. I see this all the time when I tell people my son is autistic. "What? He doesn't look autistic to me! He's so smaaaart!".
Yeah it would be great for the world to see more of us instead of the robot-genius stereotype of the "aspie" and the broken autistic child staring at his hands while other children play.
As a high functioning autistic woman, my autism has only gotten more pronounced as I've aged & i am even more of a social pariah than when I was younger, despite people being drawn to my energy. My autistic traits make me come off as "unprofessional " so my employability is always at risk. I'm a well developed psychic surgeon & Shamanic healer so I'm super extra oversensitive who is extremely gifted in some areas yet completely disabled in others. I've learned to love spending time alone focusing on the things I'm interested in & working on my own healing path. Its very isolating & gets more frightening as I age.
Or the lack of eye contact makes you seem rude and disengaged
Our society needs to do better in protecting children. This brotha seems highly intelligent, and he should have had a chance to flourish.
Agreed 👏💛
so we shouldn't have drag shows for kids? good idea
@Pegarexucorn that's such an intelligent response. It is so on point, I actually thought it had something to do with my comment.
@@anthonyshannon6744 i can't hear you over the sound of you ruining kids
@FLOBELISKI ah so you agree with the p*do good to know
This was awesome! Can you please interview more autistic people? He was super interesting! And he answered questions well if I could meet him I’d suggest to him not to focus on relationships to much as they can destroy the little grasp we have on ourselves by giving up ourselves entirely to relationships but instead focus on your strengths! Like computers,electronics,Art, man I’ve got a million questions I wish he could answer! Oh and he has a cool hat!
Me too,I want to know more. I totally agree.
You know some autistic people are very very smart and you wouldn't believe how they can do things that a normal person would not be able to do on such a level speaking from a parent raising a young man with autism my son is 28yrs old and he's been my teacher since he was diagnosed at the age of 3yrs old as soon as I found out I went out a found everything I could to learn about Autism I would urge any parent who has a child diagnosed with autism to just educate themselves in anyway they can so you won't be overwhelmed, I have met some parents that couldn't cope and gave their kids up. I have a few stories about that but it's sad and I won't write that on here now. God bless this young man with autism he sounds so articulate I wouldn't think autism is nowhere in the picture. God bless him on whatever positive journey he's on.
@@mscherrybear6400 that’s super cool! I’ve met many autistic kids over the years my own brother is schizophrenic and I’m starting to realize I may be autistic I’ve always felt super weird and rarely leave the house because I don’t want to be bullied or have a bad reaction to A bully after watching lots of videos over the last few weeks for research I identify with the guy in this video a lot! I think I’m going to tell my doctor about how I feel before I forget to tell him Ik I’m not crazy! if you’d be so kind what type of symptoms does your son exhibit? He’s close in age to me and I’m not near anyone that is autistic for reference thanks for commenting btw!
Most autistic people want to avoid neurotypical people and get overwhelmed when asked questions. I am autistic & elderly, questions make me feel like I am being interrogated. Neurotypical people ask the dummest questions and do not realize that most autistic people are much more intelligent & have a very high IQ.
@@invisableobserver I agree with that it’s exhausting and painful to be around people that have no understanding of what Autism is yet assume things that are almost always wrong but have the audacity to treat us like we’re stupid or weird for being ourselves I literally don’t understand that
As a mom of an autistic child this was such a gift for me to listen to this morning. Thank you... immensely...for having the courage to speak. 💙 I wish someone like you was in my son's program. Parents of autistic children need you. What an incredible resource of experience and understanding 💙
Hi Adib…thank you for sharing your story with us. You are an inspiration to those of us who are “differently abled”. I was bullied all throughout my school days, but at 60 years old, I have adopted my good friends as my “chosen family”, and I’m surrounded by love. I hope that you have lots of love in your life…you deserve it. ❤
I feel that "chosen family". Find your tribe. 🙏
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Ms. Gracie, that's awesome you have a support system. Best blessings to you.
@@whoswhowho4872 thank you. Life is good.
I went to 16 schools growing up and was bullied and I learned at an early age to fight back because if you don't it will only get worse. Not just fight but do it in front of a lot of kids. Bullying comes to a screeching halt. Worked every time.
“Virtual Molestation…” “Just realize porn is always there, even more than a perverted friend, or an uncle…” wow, a real nugget, and food for thought for all parents! 🙏🏾
Definitely agree
Definitely my only real regret raising my son (asd-1, now 18 yo) is allowing him full access to the internet. Some kids I guess it's okay. But not my son, and I wish I'd recognized that it was not the positive experience I thought it was. I saw it as him finally making friends but there are truly some sickos out there and I wasn't watching close enough. He's okay he just had a stalker and a groomer and several people begging for money making out like they were his friends. He had no access to money so they would move on quick enough. It's just I didn't KNOW any of this until he told me RECENTLY about things that happened when he was as young as 13. I thought I was keeping watch by being in the room but I didn't know what was going on when he was at school or otherwise out of the house.
Absolutely. Look out for who your kids are interacting with. As someone who is autistic I was pushed to roleplay online with adults and groomed online and taken advantage of.
I didnt get what he meant at first but now I do thx
I have a 3 year old autistic son and this video is so educational and also so sad to think of all the potential bullying my son will go through. I pray for him everyday and hope he will grow to be independent and confident so when mommas not around he won’t be bullied, even though his sister is 1 year older and I know she’ll always have his back! You got this bro your doing amazing! 🎉🧩💙
It was brutal when I was a kid but I think people are nicer with that stuff now. It was just starting to turn around the time I graduated high school. Autism is still EXTREMELY misunderstood but most of the younger generation at least acknowledges it exists.
It's almost worse to be high functioning because people expect you to act normal but you're literally mentally incapable of acting "normal". Like the severely autistic kids in my school never got bullied because they clearly had a big issue and you'd be seen as a scumbag if you bullied them. But the higher functioning ones get treated pretty bad because it doesn't come with the guilt of bullying a "disabled" person.
@@pricklycats I completely understand, yeah kids/teens can be so mean and naive to things & insensitive to others feelings and emotions. Glad you got out of it okay & are striving now I can only imagine how difficult it can be. 🤗
@jessysosmoovex5 that’s my biggest fear is as my son will be bullied going through school. I’m super over protective, he’s highly functional in some areas but it other areas he’s just a big ol teddy bear in side.
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His intelligence is astounding. He's brilliant.. Omg he's so articulate, so aware. I think he's amazing... I hope he'll find peace and know he's worthy of love and acceptance
Wonderful story. I worked in an autism school for a year and the amount of variety and diversity between the children and their diagnoses are vast. They all have unique skill sets and interests and wants. Glad to hear this perspective
odd, back when I trained as a school psychologist in the early 1990 asd was so rare we were taught to refer these kids to outside of school resources.
@@curiousbystander9193 we have special classes for autistic children and only a few of them are capable of learning in typical classes. This man shouldn't have studied in a class with neuro- typical pupils or his mother should better have taken him away from this school where he was heavily bullied. I guess she might not have understood the size of the problem.
@@ОльгаИванова-б8п1ю so you don;t think he could thrive in a typical class? BEcause of bullying?
@@curiousbystander9193 yes, he mentioned it himself. That he couldn't even think of studies in the 6th grade if I'm not mistaken
@@curiousbystander9193 yes, he mentioned it himself. That he couldn't even think of studies in the 6th grade, if I'm not mistaken
As a fellow autistic black man, I can fully relate with this wholeheartedly, been through multiple mental breakdowns with little help dealing with it at all, misunderstood as a selfish pos for simply looking out for myself, my self-worth, and my boundaries.
I just simply wish that this world(especially in the West) would just kill their toxic egos and work with us better that's it. But sadly that's too much to ask.
Kudos to this young man for speaking up on this experience, we have to protect our narrative more than ever.
Thank you Adib for sharing your life experience. We have Autism in my family and I have never fully understood it, but your Interview with Mark has given me another window into understanding it.
Were the people in your family who are autistic vaccinated?
It's extremely hard to understand and you never will fully get it. We experience a completely different world than the rest of you.
We have super strong emotions without the ability to express them or even fully comprehend what emotions are. It's such a stressful conundrum. There's some things that even my girlfriend and closest friends/family will never fully understand and I've had to just come to terms with that over time.
@@pricklycats I've learned certain people come closer to understanding that I've given them credit for but I also know exactly what you're talking about. There really is another world outside of what most people live in and it often feels like we experience things as another species just visiting Earth in my opinion.
I knew i'd like this guy when he used the phrase "social paradigm". this dude is smart and awesome.
Also, interesting that he used the term “digital molestation” which sounds like something he personally coined, and his explanation is really legit.
He dropped "Non locality" in his viewing of porn. that shit is deep.
It’s more the fact that he CORRECTLY used the term is when I realized he is extremely smart.
Generally a diagnosis of autism is partially based on having above average intelligence. We ain't a bunch of stups. :)
My heart goes out to all the folks living with larger difficulties than the rest of us.
❤ received. Thank you, sending you love too❤
I’m Autistic, and these “functioning” comments truly disgust me. There are no different “amounts”/“functionings” in autistic people. If you’re autistic, you’re autistic. If not, you’re not. Nobody is “a little autistic”. I am very disappointed in the adults in this comment section that are saying these things and deliberately not educational themselves or listening to autistic voices.
Hey there… I’m at the very beginning of learning to understand Autism… can we connect?
As an autistic person myself, I would agree with this comment
Big difference in non verbal and verbal and people with autism who can live alone and hold down jobs take that into consideration
I agree. Im autistic as well❤
Thank you Adib for sharing your story. I adopted a beautiful child from Ethiopia at the age of two. She’s 14 now and everyday is a challenge, yet I’m blessed to be on this journey with her. THANK YOU for giving me a glimpse into her world. 🙏🏽🙏🏽 There’s not one doctor, therapist, psychiatrist or specialist on this green earth whose been able to explain to me what life is like for my precious daughter. You’ve opened my eyes and my heart today and I can now see ♥️ ♥️♥️♥️
This guy should be a case study, he can tell you exactly how he feels
Well it's nice to know people actually want to know how we feel.
This man is extremely smart and has an extraordinary sense of his being.
Being black and autistic can be one of the hardest things in the world, for the basis that we don't often have communities who understand us or seek to because they chalk it up to a mental health issue versus just our minds being wired differently. This man told my entire story and then some, and it feels so cathartic seeing someone else's experiences give mine and so many other black autistic folks more validity. I didn't get a diagnosis until 2019, and even then I am unpacking and repacking aspects of my own life to make sense and give answers to my life experience. I'm in tears of joy watching this, thank you so much.
I have a son who is severely autistic, non verbal. This is so helpful and insightful. I appreciate that he chose to do the interview. Thank you for being patient and allowing him to share his story.
same here. I m so sorry that I'm not able to understand my son's needs!I wish I could, but he's non verbal
@@ОльгаИванова-б8п1юfor both of you. Maybe get him a stripper. All guys need sumn like that. It’s not even a question. Don’t just sit here waiting for a reason just DO IT. No time to waste. Don’t be a shit parent and think this is horrible just because YOU think so. How arrogant of yall if you guys actually think that. GO GO GO & give your son the best day ever !!!!!! (: happy days (: blessings !!!!
He's extremely well-spoken, reminds me of Norman R.I.P
OMG! When did Norman pass away?? 😮
@Katrina Barber Spring of 2021
What a sophisticated, eloquent and poignant human! Hopefully if we keep having more conversations like this we can shift the narrative from mental disability to just humans trying their best to live a life fully and unhindered by trauma. Praying for humanity I believe we can do better and make heaven on earth before we leave. God bless.
This brother spoke nothing but facts, God bless him
Autistic people do not have the ability or reason to lie or exaggerate (at least I don't), the downside to it is we may insult someone without intending to, we have no filtering to what we may say.
I'm on the autistic spectrum myself and I completely relate to him. I had difficulty making friends a lot in school throughout elementary to even high school. I was very shy and quiet unlike most kids I grew up with and I didn't hang out with my friends as much. I almost feel like my childhood was a little wasted because I just hung out with myself most of the time and I was more introverted and never really socialized with my friends. Except, I feel like I develop more slowly as each year goes by, yet I start feeling more better and smarter like a grown up. That's how I think some autistic people develop as they progress, and it takes more time to learn new things about living in life and what life's all about. You can never judge someone's intelligence just because they have a developmental disability. It can never get in the way of things.
Autism is not a "mental" disability.
I can fully relate to this man, growing up Autism wasnt easy, on top of the physical and mental abuse from my mother, i am happy to see him speak his truth so more people can understand how autism works and looks like
What a charming man. My brother is 20 years old and he was diagnosed with autism at 3 years old. He was so bullied all throughout his high school career. He’s never had a friend or girlfriend. I’ve never met another person with autism like my brother. He has changed my life, and I’m so grateful.
Autistic people love so hard, they deserve it back! ❤
It makes me sad for him that his mother never encouraged life skills and sheltered him so much. He's clearly articulate and smart with proper guidance he could do so much.
do you think the asd label helps?
@@curiousbystander9193 Bruh if I wasn't diagnosed I would've committed suicide like 10 times by now. If you don't know you have something then how tf do you fix it?
@@curiousbystander9193 That's like asking if the heart disease label helps with heart disease
I think that his mother used the diagnosis as a way to control and limit him in his life. She's not going to be around forever and it would have been beneficial for him to have been taught life skills to be independent or semi independent. He was saying he wanted a job even in the fast food industry and she discouraged that so I think with the amount of times she stopped him from trying new things he has limited himself. You don't know what a situation will be like until you try and she should have encouraged him to work and be independent and if they didn't work out then take appropriate steps to set him up for success. Also I wish they knew about compression therapy and weighted blankets and vests because that would have shown him how to appropriately satisfy that sensory need rather than seeking out unhealthy sensory input.
Helping them with life skills is one thing but it’s perfectly OK to protect them from bullies. No one needs to be bullied and it doesn’t build character. It damages people for life. So I can understand the protection
Glad you came on brother. Your empathy/focus/humility is a true superpower! Over the years I’ve come to realize I’m not broken. In fact the richness (sometimes overwhelming) that this type of sensitivity has presented me with feel like a gift. How many people feel their emotions so intensely. How many get to (are compelled to) examine the world and themselves in such an honest and naked way….enjoy this gift my friend. Life is truly not a serious thing. You didn’t bring it and you can’t mess it up🙏🏻😊❤️
Diagnosed in my mid 50s. Splains a lot 😊
I wish this brother the best.. My 11 year old son has autism.. It's a real struggle... And I don't give a damn I have to be over protective!! As a father its in our DNA to protect our children and I will do anything and everything for lil man.
From a mom with an autistic son this was very inspirational and really made me realize where I need to shift my focus to. He describes himself very similar to my son
I have a 24 year old Autistic son and it is refreshing to see a young man be so articulate explaining the Autism experience.
I have a son diagnosed on the spectrum and I have learned over the years it doesn't matter if the 'diagnosis" is in people's opinion BS. My son is thriving because of the support he got in the education system, and it gave me a rough blueprint on how to raise him without expecting him to be like other kids. He accepts his diagnosis and doesn't feel labeled but rather he has a very good understanding of how his brain works and can navigate his weirdness in a world that is not always so accepting. He works full time, has taken some secondary education, he got his license, and he has gone from an anxiety ridden basement dweller to having a close group of friends. There's no shame in a diagnosis but it's how you use it;
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Why would anyone think a diagnosis of autism is B.S.?
Hearing someone else describe my life up to the point I'm at now (20yo in college), and then describe how it can progress if I don't solve and accept my issues is such a wakeup moment. The more I focus on my weaknesses and not my strengths, the more I start to think that I'm somewhere on it. I refuse to accept it, not because of what it means, but because I'm honestly terrified of the label. But going from that studious A-star student to a drug/porn addict who's failing college classes is a terrifying path to be on. I really hope to be better.
His story makes me almost certain autistic people have a certain energy sensitivity, where as most of us can block out they cannot. They are bombarded by energy and don’t know what to do with it and take it on as theirs. He his so smart! Haptic feedback is actually a wonderful way to put it. Wow! Mind blown
That's true, and it is often very overwhelming. EMF radiation from wifi & cell phones is painful.
One thing I've learnt, as a mother to two children with autism, is that loving them endlessly is endlessly powerful.
Agreed! We don’t have all the answers but we can give them love and patience. I have 2 as well and it gets easier!
Adib, I'm not sure if you will ever see this since it's been about a month since this was posted, but I want to thank you so very much for sharing your story, and having the courage to do so. You have helped me so much in understanding my little nephew better. He is 5 years old and is on the Spectrum as well. I have tried to do research to try to understand how autism works and what he may deal with in his world. You broke the definition down so eloquently. I now have a better understanding. My goal is to spend more time trying to get into his world and show him all the love and patience he deserves in life. So Thank you, thank you, thank! May the Creator continue to bless your brilliant mind. I sincerely pray that you can find some peace. You are here for a reason. I wish I could hug you. I love you .. with the love of one human being to another.
Brilliant and insightful into the world of autism, thank you for sharing your story.
What a fantastic person to meet ❤️
Thank you, Mark
What a sweet, lovely man. So intelligent and open. What an inspiration! 💕
I relate to this young man on so many levels! They always called it ADHD or childhood schizophrenia but one good psychologist ruled all that out. Back in the 1980s, he told my parents that I was a very brilliant boy and I just did not have the ability to sit still. The demons, the "past life" dreams, derealization, hyper focusing, massive anxiety/euphoria.
I wish this bright man the best. This reinforces the importance of teaching kindness and respect to my son. Bullying is literally having no thought of kindness present. Best wishes to you sir!
You can teach kindness all you want. It won't change anything. People bully others for the sence of power not because they don't know any better
@@daleburrows2662 Very empty way of looking at it Dale. Basically what your saying is teaching and leading won’t help. 100% not accurate.
@@noahnajor2408 It's the truth whether you accept it or not.
Unfortunately there are bad people out there who get off on treating others badly.
@@daleburrows2662 That’s true, there are bad people out there. And there are good people that do bad things. I think they are called humans. Lol
I really appreciate your variety of these interviews. I love listening to all the different stories people have and live with. Thank you 🙏🏽
Please bring Adib back for an interview!! He was wonderful! Insightful! Poignant! Charming! Intriguing! Would LOVE to hear more of his perspective in life! And any progress he’s made.
I second this!! ❤
Happy 28th Adib! Great interview man.🎉❤🎉
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m not necessarily neurodivergent. But I started having panic attacks in 7th grade. The general public didn’t know what they were, in the 1980s. So I thought I was dying pretty much every time. I figured out those were panic attacks in the late 1990s. You are so self aware. Much more than most people at 28.
How do neurodivergent and panic attacks fit together?
@@curiousbystander9193 What do you mean by that?
@@curiousbystander9193 I think Neurodivergence can cause Anxiety which in turn can cause Panic Attacks.
Bro, you are not weird.
You are beautiful ☺️.
And every thought, feeling, fetish, sexual fantasy, plan for marriage or any other supposedly strange feature that makes up your personality is precious, positive, and completely untouchable.
And you are an *individual*.
You are an *I* 😀!
Believe in yourself and leave society behind. One day they will need you because you know who you are and they are still an infant, groping for higher consciousness and unable to find it.
Take courage, bro ☺️💚.
Timothy, How can someone believe in their selves when we’re all going to eventually die? What will you believe in then when your life is failing? Are you going to believe in yourself? Complete nonsense why don’t you believe in God, that’s everlasting? So every thought he has is precious?? You are truly living in unicorn land.
@@eastwood111 I will do my best on my own. Thank you for engaging with me 😊.
@@eastwood111 spiritual disconnection has a lot to answer for and we've bred a narcissistic strain of youngins who speak like this.
@@eastwood111 or we can believe in our children. Our future generations live on as we die, and that is beautiful.
@user-my4iv6pp7lI’ll keep mine!
Man - I feel this cat. Adib - if you read this - man thank you for your candor - thank you for sharing your story. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 47 - but was misdiagnosed many times between the ages of 15 and 47. Ill be 52 in february - and for the past year I have begun to suspect I am also on the autism spectrum. I have yet to get tested for it. But I wanted to say - for what its worth - your story was helpful for me personally - I hope you are doing well.
Wow. As an autistic person, while I am quite different (as we all are), a lot of this was a surprising mirror and very relatable. Great interview! I’d love to see more. Makes me want to tell my story.
My kid went to daycare with an autistic kid in his group. Kid was much bigger than all other kids and often aggressive. My kid sometimes came home with small scars on his hands and neck and telling me that he got it from that kid. I knew that it’s that case and hesitated to talk to the stuff at daycare and also I knew they know it and maybe there was nothing they can do about it.
Eventually I decided to go there and have a talk. And it was a great idea since the teacher there showed me and explained how all the kids are involved in accepting that kid. I’ve learned they had procedures of calming him down and make him happy. I knew the aggressive attack will not stop but I was sure my kid will have his small scars healed fast but he will have that experience and knowing about such people and he will have a love for them, which is priceless.
I will be 59 and I am autistic. My parents lied and hid it from me. I found out when I was 50. Classmates heavily bullied me then I was then punished for it by teachers and adults. My parents are ashamed of me and show me no respect or confidence. I have never had a girlfriend and have hidden my shame my whole life. Bullying followed me throughout my whole life. Autism sucks!!!
Please see someone there is so much that can be done, there are evil people out here but there are some beautiful people out here too so find the ones that can help you and stick with them. I'm so sorry that society made you feel like that wow that was so wrong and terribly mean. Prayers for you always.
@@mscherrybear6400 😂
Bring him back please so interesting and a good representation for austim!
Yes I'd like to see him in the future.
Breaks my heart that Adib was bullied. I mean, I’m aware kids can be cruel, but it’s obvious dude is a good guy.
This man has a unique way of thinking and is quite analytical. Definitely not the problem solving of a 6th grader, he's totally unique and quite a poetic manner of speaking.
I thought the same right off the bat. Very poetic.
Four minutes in and I'm crying.
Real crying.
I've thought a lot about myself being autistic but everyone around me disagree.
But 90 per cent of what Adib is describing is me. I'm not an sex addict, though.
But I have an addictive personality without doubt.
I've always had an image of inside my brain and there are tiny bridges between things that aren't supposed to be connected. Because I've felt so different my whole life.
I don't understand ironi, I struggle really with reading peoples emotions. I've never understood the social scene or play or whatever it's called.
People say I have no sense of humour.
Some things I've learnt over the years.
Some social rules are learnt but I'm still very different.
I can listen to one song 50 times.
I got this mp3 player like 15 years ago in downloaded quite a few songs of this band. I haven't changed that playlist once. I still to this day listen to the same songs.
I get so hung up in things.
But then again I've got severe OCD, so that may be in my DNA.
Ah, any change.
I HATE changes.
And the over emotional problems.
Hence why I cried.
The dissociation.
My mother was also very over protective and dominant. She also decided what children I should play with. That's crazy to me now.
I'm 33, autistic and living in North Georgia. Very interested in hearing this!
PS: ok a good bit of this really resonates (especially the bioelectric stuff and the way he describes feeling connected with other people, that's kind of where my own channel started)! Though at the same time I feel like a lot of my experience has very different. That seems to be the case though, we're so similar but so unique. Uncommon amongst uncommon people.
I also want to add that I had a similar mother relationship I believe there is definitely a correlation between environments and how someone on the spectrum develops. There's a lot of awareness about autism right now but sadly I feel like many of us are still not fully understood.
I have twin sons on the spectrum...they are 5 and I was worried they wouldn't be able to be able to live without me ..this gives me hope ..they don't talk ..one doesn't eat but I'm gonna keep praying ..actually my one one started talking and the just started school last week so hopefully..this helps his twin ...
the part where he says “my first real relationship was with a dominatrix who was also my life coach” made me burst out laughing 😂
It’s obvious he’s probably smarter than most of the kids that bullied him.
Hate that he was picked on so much. He's such a beautiful mosaic and worth getting to know, in my opinion. People on the high end of that spectrum are powerhouse spirits, man. My sister has Asperger's and let me tell you, concerning the arts, she's mind-blowing!! I'll always admire those who carry that diagnosis.
All Autistic people are worthy, not just ones “high functioning” my whole family is Autistic and no one is more worthy than the other, I have a non verbal son and speaking son, and they are both equal in my heart.
Wow! Not what I was expecting at all and that was clearly from my own ignorance on the subject. Extremely insightful and informative. Thank you!
This video is was really educational for me…witnessing his raw intelligence, his verbose and yet how his answers are so different from most with such details that would be insignificant to most. Also realizing that for an autistic person that has a heightened wholistic perception of the human experience with nearly no filter… the overbearing graphical Internet porn can create addiction and obsessive compulsive behavior on a whole new level. This is just eye opening…. Thank you for sharing, really cannot help but feel grateful.
We really need to research autism deeper
i have asperger’s. i would love to speak with this guy. he reminds me of me
He reminds me so much of my young adult son. We for sure have had our struggles,but he's coming around & reconnecting. I'm a strong minded female,I probably have been/am over protective but have learned he's got to find his own way & make his own mistakes. My son was never called autistic by any professional. I suppose he could be from listening to this young man. My son struggles to find his way in life & figure out who he is. I have faith he will as I do this young man in the interview. As a parent I thought I was doin the right thing,always wanted my son to be happy, healthy & be good at something he luvs. A well rounded individual. Well you can't turn bk the hands of time, still I guess like any parent you worry. At this point I'm jus trying to rebuild our relationship & let him know I'm here if he needs me. Ppl like this man & my son are so smart & talented,I hope they find their path in life that makes them happy & content.
Thanks for this video mark. I'm autistic (high functioning) and my oldest daughter has it too. It's nice to take a break from the regular drug addicts and what not to see my people speak out
Well...on the off chance that you find yourself in the comment section of this video Adib, thank you for sharing some of your experience so authentically. I was totally captivated by your eloquence, humanity and charm! I pray you realise your dreams of entrepreneurship and being in a loving relationship - you deserve it bud!
I hope that his mom will one day give him a little bit of freedom...wishing him all the best❤️❤️
Yeah it’s hard. Moms wanna protect.
Adib thank you for being willing to reach out and share some of your story - the concept of virtual molestation was interesting. Kudos for quoting Jim Rohn-he had more influence on my life than anyone else. I giggled at the way you mimicked him. Keep putting one foot in front the other. It won't take until "the heat death of the universe" - you are well on your way, young man. Insight is the key and you have found it! ❤ You are a gift to the world.
I find it very interesting how he sometimes ignored the question to continue talking about what he wanted to talk about.
You must be slow. He didn’t ignore the question. He got sidetracked. Don’t be an asshole.
i think an autistic persons brain needs to break it down in a detailed way that leads up to the answer so you get the full picture
Marks questions were banal, cliche and he didn't really know how to handle adib's psychoanalysis..Mark is used to surface story tellers, not people who spare the details and analyze the mind behind the story. Shame that was the dynamics, wanted to hear more from him.
Yet, his answers are still HIS answers. I give Mark credit for approaching the topic of potential romantic relationships from different angles. As a person with Autism I know how difficult I can be in therapy! I also have training in the field of Autism.
This is a very autistic trait. It's common for Autistic people to steer conversations to their interest and topics of concern. It's great if your being interviewed but works against you in almost any other circumstance.
Adib, idk if you'll ever see this but.. I just thank you so incredibly much for doing this. I finally have something tangible to show my parents without the fear of my communication skills messing it up. This 26 min video is everything to me.
My son goes in for testing tomorrow. I’m pretty sure he is on the spectrum. As a mother of a little black boy, I wanted to see what autistic black males go through. I guess to prepare myself and educate myself at the same time. Thank you for this interview
He’s so emotionally intelligent and well spoken. I was never truly aware of what autism was and he is the first person with the condition that I ever heard explain it.
Adib is a very genuine and intelligent man. I'd love to hear more from him in the future! Much Love!!
Thankyou Adib and SWU for this interview. I'm an autistic woman who struggled my whole like only getting diagnosed 3 years ago. Its hard being this way but it is great to see more autistic people talking about their life experiences. I'm empathise a lot with Adib. I was a very intelligent child and missed a lot of school because of bullying and being overwhelmed but I loved learning. despite missing 2 to 3 days of school a week I still did well enough in exams. but have found it very difficult to stick out any learning courses orn jobs. purely on my lack of ability to assimilate socially and lack of awareness of coworkers or costudents. I dream of going back into education but its very scary for me as I don't think there is a real support structure for us autistics.
“Don’t hope for life to be easier, hope to be better.” Smh he made me cry!!!
This strikes me as my son who is on the spectrum. I fear for him but I’m so proud of him. My love. My motivation. My buddy. I love you Son.
Fuck man this made me tear up
One of the roles of every parent is to instill a sense of confidence in their children as opposed to fear.
This!! Thank you
Great interview! This young man is very articulate. I worked with individuals of all ages for years. Autism was the focus of my studies in college. It's such a fascinating diagnosis. You have to help the individuals find their strengths and what their gift is because everyone has a gift. Most teachers have no clue and can not deal with actually teaching them. Lots of sensory issues. Schools are too standardized and have one way of teaching. Video games should be limited and monitored as well as TV.
Hello! Are educational videos an exception? Like sing along, ABCs etc?
I never understood autism until now....thank you for sharing your story
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I love listening to story grown autistic people because raising to autistic children it helps me to be a better mom to them. I do feel very overprotective of them but just when you think that they can't do something they break right on out of that box you set for them become like a new butterflies!
I have autism and I'm an adult and I just want to tell you that you are doing great. The best thing you can do is listen to your kids and their wants and needs. Listen to them if they need you to start or stop doing something, because it may seem like a small deal to you but it's a big deal to us. :)
My daughter is autistic. The social anxiety is the worst part of it for her. Great interview.
I am the grandma of a beautiful super intelligent 12 year old young man on the Spectrum. Early intervention helped TONS but there's so much more to it. ,as we learn from this young man who is so amazing, enlightened, the list could go on & on... These days between dangerous neighborhoods, working parents,etc.,it's SO HARD ,as is adolescence in general! I often regret buying him a great computer because l deduced the issue porn might lose.. l wish we had more role models like Adib
for kids ! Most importantly l believe as the planet and all in it evolve,so do humans and my conclusion was these are people given SPECIAL GIFTS in arts, creativity, and their special interpretation of the world. They're a gift to us. Wishing Adib EVERY GOOD THING . Please consider going to help young men, you are totally needed.