Wake up everyday and tell you are a incredibly good person and this too will pass, I believe in you and am proud of you and what you have been doing to find your true self, im here for you, your friend Michael in Florida, many hugs and kisses to you ❤
I just came across your page, n I can certainly relate. My daughter put me through what I'm going through right now. MY OWN DAUGHTER BUT MAILY HER HUSBAND. And I'm 58!!! 💜
Thank you for this video. It’s so nice to listen to a person who is living their authentic life and taking us along. I’m sorry you are going through all this but you need to know that your videos are helping people more than you know. I’m looking forward to your videos on navigating the assisted living system. I’m 60 and my Dad is a very active 85 year old but you never know what life will throw you and knowledge is power. ❤
I'm so glad you, John, and Keith are remaining friends and keeping in touch. I second the person who suggested house sitting and pet sitting, especially for snowbirds. I did that in grad school. You'll have other kinds of adventures.
Went thru years of the same thing for 10 plus years, my mom had dementia. It does not end even when they are in care. The key is to be present and aware. Staff is aware of who is being watched after. It is OK to cry. I cried for 10 years over so many situations that I would not wish on any care giver. So happy you are able to communicate with your mom. I know how much she treasures that time together. Sending you hugs❤️
Hang in there Tracy! You have so many irons in the fire that you are bound to become overwhelmed at times. I went through a very difficult 11 years caring for my husband 24/7 by myself and I would find myself in tears in the middle of the grocery store….they would just come up out of nowhere. It was obviously a physical and emotional release that had to break through. We think we are so strong but at some point our bodies let us know we only think we are superwoman because in reality we most definitely are not and we need to listen to and heed warnings from our body. I have been following you since you first headed out on my 11/7 birthday and I will never forget you wishing me a Merry Christmas early on when I was going through a difficult time. You will never know how much that meant to me so I thank you again and I am reminding you that you are an amazing woman ❤️
@southerncaladygolfer8651 Sorry about the hard time you had with the 24/7 caregiving, it’s not easy having so much responsibility to shoulder alone. I am 60 and I feel like I have too much responsibility in terms of helping out family members that have difficulty coping. Sometimes I daydream about how much easier it would be if I just disappeared and took care of only myself. I know I will never do that but you get to be a certain age and it starts to feel very daunting to maintain the caregiver role. I hope you and Tracy are not too deep in the dilemma I face. Best wishes and best of luck to both of you!
I’m all set! In 10 years, when I turn 62, I’ll receive my tax-free superannuation, which works out to $22,000 AUD a month. I’ll be living on an island in Asia, enjoying my last days like a king. Good luck to all you other Gen X’ers with your retirement plans. And to Gen Y and Gen Z, don’t forget to buy food.
Thank you for sharing. Life has a way of bringing us to our knees. Betrayal, greed, heartbreak. I moved from Ramsey County, MN to Liberty County, FL a year ago. My 22 year marriage ended. The pain of moving thru all the changes is vast. Moving thru each day with grace. I just bought an old GMC Savanna van and will be making my trek to MN soon....just to visit for about a month. We have so many chapters in our lives. Being kind to ourselves can be the most challenging. Sending lots of love & peace.
Mid life awakening and change usually starts with chaos so that we are stirred enough to wake up and move. Your story is a beautiful one of love and compassion bacuase your heart/character is that. Ive also cried at the dentist, twice! LOL! Thank you for sharing.
Wow, lots of followers, and lots of Subscribers...many feel they'd like to follow your life Tracey. For me, the initial interest came with RVing in your van, wondering if you'd change to another mode as time went on! With so many wanting to get out and see the country, yet not realizing possible pitfalls, you now have a realization of what's out there, both good and bad. Nonetheless, I'll hope one day you might get back on the road, and add to all the good information you've shared already! Stay safe, and enjoy every day possible!
Wow, this really packed a punch. I went through something with my parents last year. Packed up their entire house, put it up for sale and moved them from Athens Georgia to an assisted living in Indiana...driving a 27ft. U-haul. Lol. It has been A LOT. I could never have done this on my own. I know with the utmost certainty that i was being divinely guided. God sees everything and through him all is made possible. 🙏 give urself permission to cry and know with certainty that the divine is with you❤
Tracy, I so feel what you're going through right now. I won't get into my story but I will tell you that I was very glad you didn't say you were getting rid of Charlene. My new saying after a few years of hell that I went through is: Don't make any final decisions about ANYTHING while you're going through EVERYTHING. I made a decision to sell my home and I traded my car for a van and I got to a point just like you and traded the van for another car. Then my whole life turned around to a different direction again 6 months later and I no longer had my van and it's been one of my worst regrets. I thought I was so done with it all and like you said, life changes. So if you can find somewhere or someone's house to park Charlene at until you've had plenty of time to decide if you're really done. That's what I would do if I could do it all over again. Now I don't have the money to get another van and I'm in an apartment building was hundreds of other people because it was the only thing I could afford. Sitting with a view of a bunch of buildings listening to traffic and dreaming of being able to get back on the road. I don't know if you ever go back and watch your videos when you first started, But you were so excited for the future And now you can't even figure out what your future is. So please don't make any decisions that you can't take back or it'll be a lot of work and more stress to try to undo a decision made when you are in a time of confusion. I'm 62 almost 63 now and I love watching you. Right now you seem like you're almost in a time of mourning. And you know what they say when you're in a time of morning never make any big decisions for at least a year. I think that your mourning the loss of the relationship with your sister and the relationship between your sister and your mom. Hang in there, You're a beautiful strong woman so wait and see what changes in life come in the next 6 months. Feeling lost in your own life sucks but things change as you know very well. Best of wishes to you for a calm to come. ❤
You acknowledge things might be tough, but you don't dwell on the negativity, recognize these obstacles as opportunities to build strength and resilience. facing challenges head-on, you develop the skills and mindset to overcome anything. Mid-life crisis is a time to evaluate your life and question your choices. Tracey I see strength and a lot of love for life in your eyes. Thanks for Sharing...
I have so enjoyed your videos, I follow van life so you popped up on my feed yesterday. Your mom is so blessed to have a daughter like you and I know how stressful life and taking care of so many things at time can be, especially your mom. Hang in there, one day at a time.
Awww Tracy I’m sorry…. Ur making me cry . I hear you girl 😢ur going over tough mountains . ur fighting for ur mama .ur an inspiration.we went thru stuff with my mom . It’s very overwhelming and ur mom understands. You are her rock . Ur gonna look back and say I’m glad I did this & that the stress is for a good cause we don’t want the stress but for our mamas we half to .like my mom used to say tomorrow is a new day and things we fall in place as they should . Good lesson & reminder today .. we all know our life adventures are not all dandy lol . Don’t forget we all love you here and have each other we’re all in this crazy world together ❤❤❤
My family is going through very similar circumstances. Thank you for being you. Your channel truly shows the roller coaster of life. Can’t tell you how much you are appreciated. This is only a season we have bad ones and good ones. You will come through the other side and you have many good seasons ahead of you
Tracey, keep going. You are doing great. I know it is hard because I have been going through the same exact thing. Do the best you can to keep your sanity. I am sure Joy and God understand and that is all that matters. Just one day at a time. May God bless you good. Love and blessings to you and Joy.
You look like you’ve been smoking some good weed with all of that giggling that you’re doing. It’s nice to see someone that happy. Keep doing what you’re doing.
I've just watched your video till the end...as I always do. Tracey, you are an amazing person. Your heart is so full of love and compassion. I'm in Australia. Living in my own van. I don't want to put myself out there on the internet. You are so brave and genuine. Mate: if ever we did meet, I would give you the biggest hug...as friends do. You; do you! Be true to yourself and live the life YOU want to live. Your mate in Australia, Martin
It's sad that with all this country has that we can't offer affordable options to our older folks. I'm one of them, but I've been blessed and financially capable of avoiding the living hell that many go thru. The hair is looking pretty awesome. Prayers for y'all.
@@ritatharp5238That’s not necessarily the problem. It’s the greedy corporations behind this multibillion $ industry, that are to blame. Currently dealing with issues with my mother’s chronic lack of care, in one of Michigan’s best facilities. The whole industry is awful.
I went through everything you are experiencing with your mom and family. I made through to the other side. A lot of people will experience this... but did they do it while living in a van 😎
Be careful about stress levels as much as you can !! People who appear healthy such as yourself can have strees induced heart issues ! This is a real but often overlooked or misdiagnosed issue !! Love your realness and your ability to tell your story!!
You look so beautiful, i love your haircut! We are both taking care of our mothers and it is overwhelming! I just turned 60 and my mother dislocated her hip just over a week ago then had a kidney removed from cancer on Monday released Tuesday and Wednesday was her 82nd birthday and at 11:30 pm i had to take her to the ER. She just left ICU today at 1pm and now is on a regular floor! I know what stress is and understand pretty much what you must be going through ! So happy to hear your Mom is finally in assisted living ! That will help lots! Good luck with all the sh**** you are dealing with! sending hope for peace and love your way! I have been watching you since you started on your van life in Arizona! Two years plus! I live near Sedona! ❤
I just happened upon your video, I saw the van life title, thought I’d have a listen. Glad I did. You are a good human, a kind soul. Good things come to good people. Trust that the Universe will provide - Always. Hang in there. Your mom is blessed to have you 🫶🏻
Joy is blessed having you as a daughter.❤ It's sad when your own blood do things like this, but like they say( what goes around, comes around). So happy for Joy,going to assisted living 😊
Somethings you need to let go and cry. Get it out of your system. Tracy you are so beautiful and I feel for you and pray for you. We have never met but I see you as a good friend. I live in Wisconsin right now. Os we neighboring friends. God will keep you. Your Al.
There are many here who know what you're going through but are at a distance and can't really pop over and give you some time and a hug,but as you said ,you have people around you . Take care
Hey! I'm in MN too, same age and in transition. I have a small acreage and I'm thinking about a roommate or setting up tiny houses... anyway, I completely understand your "mid-life" crisis. I can just say ME TOO!
OMG worked at Walgreens for 12 years! If you know you know. Pay was a joke, work load a joke, reviews 😅 Hang in there 😊😊 Keep doing you & we love you both ❤️
I took care of my Mom. As a male 60 yrold and that was at her house. That was an honor to do. She left me her house. I thought I had it bad. It was 2022 2 days before xmas. Im still heartbroken. It was just me and her in the end I told her everything I needed to. I even told her if i meet another woman. I hope she is just like you Mom❤
There are a lot of things you are dealing with right now Tracey, just give yourself some grace and breathe. It is super challenging for everyone right now with the economy causing high prices on everything from food to housing, unemployment going up and many of us are at the stage in life where we are trying to figure out where our passion for the future and our meaning in life is supposed to be found. I am the same age as you are and I can tell you, I have the full time career in a field I have always loved, I live in a modest house with all the expenses that come with that, and have lost both parents and my husband over the last decade, and emotionally/mentally I am in the same place as you are right now. I don't have any answer yet but whatever you do right now, don't make any permanent changes to address temporarily problems. I do know this though, everything will sort itself out. I'm sending good vibes your way mama! Thanks for sharing with all your virtual friends out here, we appreciate you and can totally relate. 🙂
Tracy= get the waiver commitment in writing. Not just a phone call. Keep a file and document every call, name time and details. But this situation please get every commitment in writing. You don’t want to have a problem on the back side having to say but so and so said xyz…you need that in writing. And in your hard copy and digital file now. You likely know this but sometimes in the thick of it you can forget things.
If I was toxic I would totally try to trauma bond with you. I say that because I lived the same thing you are living now. You are only 3 years older than me... And I'm watching you go through the motions and watching you say what you were saying... I want you to know... You are doing everything perfectly. Thank you for expressing how you feel. You are truly helping people that will be in your shoes sooner or later. Thank you for being a wonderful human being Tracey. You are right. You will make it through this. You will land on your feet doing whatever you need to do in Minnesota 🙂. Your sister will have serious karma debt... I know you know that. Keep on keeping on 🙂 by the way, I'm the one on tick tock that lets you know how the weather is in Tacoma Washington 🙂 LOL
Gives herself all 1's 😄 I completely agree that van life is so individual. I was calling myself a "suburban vanlifer". I preferred staying relatively close to ammenities. So happy for both you and Joy that she's found a great spot! I can only imagine how painful it must be to watch your mother be taken advantage of by one of her own daughters. 😔
Oh Tracey. Sending a big hug💓Things will look up. Your not alone I’ve been feeling in stuck mode for some time, just know your not alone and your loving kind soul is doing what’s it’s meant to at this time in helping with your mother. You have the strength of a rising phoenix so remember your magic cuz it’s your superpower☺️ Much love~❤
So compassionate of you to share in affection your 'going-ons' with your family challenges. My positive blessings of your results of transitioning yourself & mom Joy in living arranging. Try to keep 'deep breathing/meditate' if that should help you & good/honest people surround (hard to always find that sometimes). ☮️✌️
We were told that you generally had to be full-pay for 2 years before they will accept you on elderly waiver. They will tell you they accept waivers and that have them available but when the time comes for transition to waiver if it hasn't been 2 years of full pay they suddenly have none available. Once we moved my dad to the cities after my mom passed finding a place that took his elderly waiver was near impossible because all his years of private pay had been at an assisted living in another county (he had dementia for 6 years and 5 years of private pay for memory care for both parents wiped out their retirement savings). Joy is lucky to have found a place with good care that will take waivers, in our experience they are rare in the cities (Twin Cities).
I am sending you love and hugs! It’s tough to go through tough things. And it’s even a bigger deal to share out your vulnerabilities. You’re going through and have been going through a lot of rough stuff along with your mother also going through that same rough stuff. And you have been, hanging on and getting through it. I’ve been going through something recently as well where it just feels like I’m going in circles like I’m on this merry-go-round that I just can’t get off of… And the circular spiraling sort of situation where your sent around to so many different people and you get tidbits here and there and I you have had the same thoughts like no one should have to go through all of this. I’m not the first one going through this. Why is it that I’m being treated as though I’m the first one who’s ever asked these questions or ever had to learn about this stuff. So I agree with you when you have gotten through this with your mom and you have 😊had time to process if you could pull together a video or something and put it out there for people to give them some step-by-step guidance that would be amazing. Of course it’s different from state to state. it’s a lot of stuff for people to try to learn so any helpful hints to get people started at has always proven to be a good thing. Again, sending you lots of love and hugs, we are resilient! And we can’t possibly know it is ahead of us so I’m looking forward to what happens in your future and I’m looking forward to being able to gain a bit more peace in your life. And I think it’s wonderful that you indicated that you have a lot of support around you if you choose to tap into that I do as well but sometimes when we’re going through these significant things, no one can help us with that stuff and a lot of it is just internal work that we’re doing for ourselves. Hang in there, my friend you’ve got this And cry when you have to cry, I was just talking with a friend a few hours ago about the very thing of how there’s always seemingly that final straw that one more thing that’s put on top of you that just starts to make you feel like you were breaking just know that you aren’t broken and you aren’t breaking and you’re going to be fine. Even when all the uncertainty is there, you are correct it will all work out.cu
Hello Tracy, rode up in your area with the old farts from St Paul yesterday, beautiful day. Thought we might see you out riding on your e-bike. The houses around White Bear and Bald Eagle lake are fabulous, really really nice area. Putting your mother in assisted living is heart wrenching, been there. I hope it all works out and yes full time van life can be difficult but a lot of fun for short trips. Take care and good luck!
😅If Walgreens asks about how you rated yourself, just say "I'm #1"!!! 😉🤣😅 All the best to you and Joy and hoping you are successful getting her settled into a great place. Also hoping you find a small place to hang your hat this winter. 👌
I’m so over being around people and I’m 59 as of March. I’m tired of the drama and the need of everyone needing to feel special. I’ve worked office for about 30 years (backstabbing and ass kissing is required for cubicle prison) and rest of time in grocery retail for 17 1/2 years. I love being off, called off today because I didn’t want to deal with heat and people in general. Now listening to you after not seeing you for a while. Good luck to Joy. My mom just turned 79 last month. You must have been a midlife baby of your moms.
You and I seem so much alike and they’re going through similar things. if you ever make it to Washington state, I have room for you if you need it. Someplace to get away. Stay strong.
I’m sorry that you feel like you are a caregiver and not a daughter. My grown son I’ll always have to care for. It’s tough. It will always be this way until one of us dies. Chin up Tracy. Wish I could be your friend and help you. You are an amazing daughter. I don’t know the back story on your sister but I can figure it out. Family 😢
Hi Tracy, we're exactly the same age (born 1965)! My mom passed away already, and we're 3 sisters. I was also the one who looked after her and supported her. She had Alzheimer towards the end.😞 I know it can be very difficult and taxing and who else are you supposed to be short with, if that's the person that's in your life. I also feel bad about a lot of things now, but on the other hand I know I was always there for her and supported her to the end. The same with you, except your mom knows it and she knows it's not her that you're mad at and I'm sure she's appreciative as heck. I just gave up on my sister's. I tried to get them to at least visit her and they wouldn't. Just release that emotional side of it all. Just release her from your life. I know the litigation (the life part) will go on, but release her as far as your heart and feelings go and you'll feel so much better. I hated them and what they did to my mom, but that just caused bitterness in my life and in my heart and its just not worth it. We've got less life left than what we've already lived, so make that life happy. I must say anti-depressents are also helping in my case. Sending good thoughts to you and your mom all the way from South Africa. 🇿🇦
I sympathize Tracey what you are going through. Joy is a sweetheart like my mom was until her unexpectedly passed on March 18, 2024 . My mom left & my brother with no bills . She said for many years before God called her home 🏡 we wouldn't have any bills . We inherited her home in Louisiana. I live in Texas and my brother lives in Alabama. I have the yard mowed every 2 weeks. May God you bless 🙌🏽 you for what you are doing for your mom . At times I felt like I was having a nervous breakdown 🙃. Currently doing psychotherapy session via video 📹 weekly. Your sister & husband will reap what they sow .
Oh I am crying ! You touched my heart, so honest, I feel you Tracey! Such a gem of a human you are! You also cracked me up when you said, my hair looks good that's all the matters 😂 your laugh is awesome! I just love ya! ❤❤
Tracy is feel for you. I am dealing with my dads estate and selling I ing everything house included. I will be buying an RV to live in to see if I like Tiny living. I lost both parents but now my Uncle lives with me. He has cancer and we found an assisted living home that he loves. The lady that owns it is an RN and also owns another in. He is in Eagan in a home that sleeps 6 residents 4 males and 2 females.
IF there is a hell, your sister and brother in law have seats reserved! It's hard to believe that someone could do anything to hurt Joy, especially if she's your own mother! I'm pissed! You should get a P.O. Box and give all of us the address so we could write letters to your sister and tell her what we think of her! I'm sure that wouldn't come across to well in court but I sure would love to give her a piece of my mind! Joy is to be cherished for the wonderful human that she is! Please take care of you during all of this. I can't imagine the stress you're going through. I'm sending hugs to you and your mom!
Tracey you’re tough as nails! I know the stress of everything is hard right now, but you and Joy ARE going to come out ok. This is just a season in life, but this too shall pass. Hold on…it’s gonna get better.
After listening to your story at 53 yrs of age I thought I was maybe having a crisis with some issues, but your words are filled much determination & loyalty for your mother & others. May you continue fighting the good fight for the eternal rewards. It may sound crazy, but you have a glow about yourself even after what life throws back. Take care & god bless you & your family pretty woman.😊
Hhhmmm if I was looking for a place to Winter in Minnesota I would look for a room to rent, which is way cheaper than an apartment. Or I would look into income based housing, also called low income housing but it would only be temporary for the Winter. Do they have a mobile home park model where you could rent temporarily? Put a in search of (ISO) ad out what your looking for or post on public bulletin boards ( laundryomat, chuch boards, gas stations, etc...) and try to get in before Winter. If I think of anything else Ill let you know. Hope it helps.🙏
That’s awesome!! So happy for both of you! Tracy of course you have a lot of followers… you are so relatable. You will figure things out. You always do:)
You look great, with bangs and without. I have side bangs for my huge forehead…..balance is important. Glad you got more help for Joy!!! Sending you well wishes.
Wake up everyday and tell you are a incredibly good person and this too will pass, I believe in you and am proud of you and what you have been doing to find your true self, im here for you, your friend Michael in Florida, many hugs and kisses to you ❤
I just came across your page, n I can certainly relate. My daughter put me through what I'm going through right now. MY OWN DAUGHTER BUT MAILY HER HUSBAND. And I'm 58!!! 💜
Thank you for this video. It’s so nice to listen to a person who is living their authentic life and taking us along. I’m sorry you are going through all this but you need to know that your videos are helping people more than you know. I’m looking forward to your videos on navigating the assisted living system. I’m 60 and my Dad is a very active 85 year old but you never know what life will throw you and knowledge is power. ❤
I'm so glad you, John, and Keith are remaining friends and keeping in touch. I second the person who suggested house sitting and pet sitting, especially for snowbirds. I did that in grad school. You'll have other kinds of adventures.
Went thru years of the same thing for 10 plus years, my mom had dementia. It does not end even when they are in care. The key is to be present and aware. Staff is aware of who is being watched after. It is OK to cry. I cried for 10 years over so many situations that I would not wish on any care giver. So happy you are able to communicate with your mom. I know how much she treasures that time together. Sending you hugs❤️
Tracey try and look up house and pet sitting for people that travel. You have a a home to stay and it's a win win for both
Hang in there Tracy! You have so many irons in the fire that you are bound to become overwhelmed at times. I went through a very difficult 11 years caring for my husband 24/7 by myself and I would find myself in tears in the middle of the grocery store….they would just come up out of nowhere. It was obviously a physical and emotional release that had to break through. We think we are so strong but at some point our bodies let us know we only think we are superwoman because in reality we most definitely are not and we need to listen to and heed warnings from our body. I have been following you since you first headed out on my 11/7 birthday and I will never forget you wishing me a Merry Christmas early on when I was going through a difficult time. You will never know how much that meant to me so I thank you again and I am reminding you that you are an amazing woman ❤️
@southerncaladygolfer8651 Sorry about the hard time you had with the 24/7 caregiving, it’s not easy having so much responsibility to shoulder alone. I am 60 and I feel like I have too much responsibility in terms of helping out family members that have difficulty coping. Sometimes I daydream about how much easier it would be if I just disappeared and took care of only myself. I know I will never do that but you get to be a certain age and it starts to feel very daunting to maintain the caregiver role. I hope you and Tracy are not too deep in the dilemma I face. Best wishes and best of luck to both of you!
I’m all set! In 10 years, when I turn 62, I’ll receive my tax-free superannuation, which works out to $22,000 AUD a month. I’ll be living on an island in Asia, enjoying my last days like a king. Good luck to all you other Gen X’ers with your retirement plans. And to Gen Y and Gen Z, don’t forget to buy food.
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Thank God Joy has You! Try to hang in there. We're all praying for you and Joy. Sending You big hugs!
I'm so happy Joy gets to keep Olivia with her. Support animals are so important.
Thank you for sharing. Life has a way of bringing us to our knees. Betrayal, greed, heartbreak. I moved from Ramsey County, MN to Liberty County, FL a year ago. My 22 year marriage ended. The pain of moving thru all the changes is vast. Moving thru each day with grace. I just bought an old GMC Savanna van and will be making my trek to MN soon....just to visit for about a month. We have so many chapters in our lives. Being kind to ourselves can be the most challenging. Sending lots of love & peace.
Truth. Hugs.✌🏻💕🙏🏻
I started out with nothing and I still have most of it...❤😂❤...
i know what you mean
Mid life awakening and change usually starts with chaos so that we are stirred enough to wake up and move. Your story is a beautiful one of love and compassion bacuase your heart/character is that. Ive also cried at the dentist, twice! LOL! Thank you for sharing.
I wish I could give you a big hug. You are a good daughter.
I agree she's a really good daughter.
greed destroys families, good for you being such a great advocate for Joy!🥰😇🙏
Thank God Joy has You!
❤sending love ❤and I will be following ❤
You got this Tracy ~ ! One day at a time, its about the journey not the destination. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Wow, lots of followers, and lots of Subscribers...many feel they'd like to follow your life Tracey. For me, the initial interest came with RVing in your van, wondering if you'd change to another mode as time went on! With so many wanting to get out and see the country, yet not realizing possible pitfalls, you now have a realization of what's out there, both good and bad. Nonetheless, I'll hope one day you might get back on the road, and add to all the good information you've shared already! Stay safe, and enjoy every day possible!
Wow, this really packed a punch. I went through something with my parents last year. Packed up their entire house, put it up for sale and moved them from Athens Georgia to an assisted living in Indiana...driving a 27ft. U-haul. Lol. It has been A LOT. I could never have done this on my own. I know with the utmost certainty that i was being divinely guided. God sees everything and through him all is made possible. 🙏 give urself permission to cry and know with certainty that the divine is with you❤
It is so sad that your sister did your Mom this way! Joy is so lucky to have you looking out for her! ❤
Tracy, I so feel what you're going through right now. I won't get into my story but I will tell you that I was very glad you didn't say you were getting rid of Charlene. My new saying after a few years of hell that I went through is: Don't make any final decisions about ANYTHING while you're going through EVERYTHING. I made a decision to sell my home and I traded my car for a van and I got to a point just like you and traded the van for another car. Then my whole life turned around to a different direction again 6 months later and I no longer had my van and it's been one of my worst regrets. I thought I was so done with it all and like you said, life changes. So if you can find somewhere or someone's house to park Charlene at until you've had plenty of time to decide if you're really done. That's what I would do if I could do it all over again. Now I don't have the money to get another van and I'm in an apartment building was hundreds of other people because it was the only thing I could afford. Sitting with a view of a bunch of buildings listening to traffic and dreaming of being able to get back on the road. I don't know if you ever go back and watch your videos when you first started, But you were so excited for the future And now you can't even figure out what your future is. So please don't make any decisions that you can't take back or it'll be a lot of work and more stress to try to undo a decision made when you are in a time of confusion. I'm 62 almost 63 now and I love watching you. Right now you seem like you're almost in a time of mourning. And you know what they say when you're in a time of morning never make any big decisions for at least a year. I think that your mourning the loss of the relationship with your sister and the relationship between your sister and your mom. Hang in there, You're a beautiful strong woman so wait and see what changes in life come in the next 6 months. Feeling lost in your own life sucks but things change as you know very well. Best of wishes to you for a calm to come. ❤
Very wise words about not making big decisions in the midst of crisis.✌🏻💕
Thank you , for your honesty ❤and taking care of your mom, i know how hard it is . 🙏🌈
Hi, nice to see you. Doing well for your age. I’m retired and travel the country. I’ll like and subscribe.
You acknowledge things might be tough, but you don't dwell on the negativity, recognize these obstacles as opportunities to build strength and resilience. facing challenges head-on, you develop the skills and mindset to overcome anything. Mid-life crisis is a time to evaluate your life and question your choices. Tracey I see strength and a lot of love for life in your eyes. Thanks for Sharing...
I have so enjoyed your videos, I follow van life so you popped up on my feed yesterday. Your mom is so blessed to have a daughter like you and I know how stressful life and taking care of so many things at time can be, especially your mom. Hang in there, one day at a time.
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Awww Tracy I’m sorry…. Ur making me cry . I hear you girl 😢ur going over tough mountains . ur fighting for ur mama .ur an inspiration.we went thru stuff with my mom . It’s very overwhelming and ur mom understands. You are her rock . Ur gonna look back and say I’m glad I did this & that the stress is for a good cause we don’t want the stress but for our mamas we half to .like my mom used to say tomorrow is a new day and things we fall in place as they should . Good lesson & reminder today .. we all know our life adventures are not all dandy lol . Don’t forget we all love you here and have each other we’re all in this crazy world together ❤❤❤
My family is going through very similar circumstances. Thank you for being you. Your channel truly shows the roller coaster of life. Can’t tell you how much you are appreciated. This is only a season we have bad ones and good ones. You will come through the other side and you have many good seasons ahead of you
Tracey, keep going. You are doing great. I know it is hard because I have been going through the same exact thing. Do the best you can to keep your sanity. I am sure Joy and God understand and that is all that matters. Just one day at a time. May God bless you good. Love and blessings to you and Joy.
Well you look fantastic for being almost 60 .
Traci you look fantastic. Period😘
What's going to happen to us gen x???? I'm 57 and trying to project 10 years. I'm thankful for finding you.
Your doing well Tracy - Vanlife makes a lot of memories and possibilities. Not for everyone but perfect for some.
Hey Tracey…..don’t you dare forget…. YOUR MAGIC ❤❤❤
Yes! 💖💖💖
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@@rexchiquine6049 Government schools only teach propaganda now :( so sad. Please vote Trump!!!
I'm following. I found you through mini van Lee. Your fabulous!
You look like you’ve been smoking some good weed with all of that giggling that you’re doing. It’s nice to see someone that happy. Keep doing what you’re doing.
It is so wonderful how much you love your mom! It's hard for me to admit this but you made me cry ❤
You are magic. I have been following your van life of the beginning. Stay strong ❤
I've just watched your video till the end...as I always do.
Tracey, you are an amazing person. Your heart is so full of love and compassion. I'm in Australia. Living in my own van. I don't want to put myself out there on the internet. You are so brave and genuine.
Mate: if ever we did meet, I would give you the biggest hug...as friends do.
You; do you! Be true to yourself and live the life YOU want to live.
Your mate in Australia,
Martin
Thanks, Martin 💜
It's sad that with all this country has that we can't offer affordable options to our older folks. I'm one of them, but I've been blessed and financially capable of avoiding the living hell that many go thru.
The hair is looking pretty awesome.
Prayers for y'all.
What I'm mad about is we are doing everything for illegals coming into the country the last 4 years but not for our own elderly citizens.
@@ritatharp5238That’s not necessarily the problem. It’s the greedy corporations behind this multibillion $ industry, that are to blame. Currently dealing with issues with my mother’s chronic lack of care, in one of Michigan’s best facilities. The whole industry is awful.
I went through everything you are experiencing with your mom and family. I made through to the other side. A lot of people will experience this... but did they do it while living in a van 😎
Be careful about stress levels as much as you can !! People who appear healthy such as yourself can have strees induced heart issues ! This is a real but often overlooked or misdiagnosed issue !! Love your realness and your ability to tell your story!!
I know! I read that a lot of times caregivers die from stress before the person they are taking care of 😳
You look so beautiful, i love your haircut! We are both taking care of our mothers and it is overwhelming! I just turned 60 and my mother dislocated her hip just over a week ago then had a kidney removed from cancer on Monday released Tuesday and Wednesday was her 82nd birthday and at 11:30 pm i had to take her to the ER. She just left ICU today at 1pm and now is on a regular floor! I know what stress is and understand pretty much what you must be going through ! So happy to hear your Mom is finally in assisted living ! That will help lots! Good luck with all the sh**** you are dealing with! sending hope for peace and love your way! I have been watching you since you started on your van life in Arizona! Two years plus! I live near Sedona! ❤
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🥰 so sorry your going through all of this. 🙏🤗. Take care of yourself. One day at a time! 💕
I just happened upon your video, I saw the van life title, thought I’d have a listen. Glad I did. You are a good human, a kind soul. Good things come to good people. Trust that the Universe will provide - Always. Hang in there. Your mom is blessed to have you 🫶🏻
Joy is blessed having you as a daughter.❤ It's sad when your own blood do things like this, but like they say( what goes around, comes around). So happy for Joy,going to assisted living 😊
Somethings you need to let go and cry. Get it out of your system. Tracy you are so beautiful and I feel for you and pray for you. We have never met but I see you as a good friend. I live in Wisconsin right now. Os we neighboring friends. God will keep you. Your Al.
There are many here who know what you're going through but are at a distance and can't really pop over and give you some time and a hug,but as you said ,you have people around you .
Take care
Hey! I'm in MN too, same age and in transition. I have a small acreage and I'm thinking about a roommate or setting up tiny houses... anyway, I completely understand your "mid-life" crisis. I can just say ME TOO!
Oh, and 2 years ago I was in the same boat with my mom. Hang in there, I'd be happy to help if you need anything
Glad to hear the positive news about Joy! I've been through it too with my Dad. I totally get what you're experiencing. Hang in there.👍💕❤
OMG worked at Walgreens for 12 years! If you know you know. Pay was a joke, work load a joke, reviews 😅 Hang in there 😊😊 Keep doing you & we love you both ❤️
So sorry for your Mom Prayers sent , love your personality
I took care of my Mom. As a male 60 yrold and that was at her house. That was an honor to do. She left me her house. I thought I had it bad. It was 2022 2 days before xmas. Im still heartbroken. It was just me and her in the end
I told her everything I needed to. I even told her if i meet another woman. I hope she is just like you Mom❤
That’s beautiful ❤️
There are a lot of things you are dealing with right now Tracey, just give yourself some grace and breathe. It is super challenging for everyone right now with the economy causing high prices on everything from food to housing, unemployment going up and many of us are at the stage in life where we are trying to figure out where our passion for the future and our meaning in life is supposed to be found. I am the same age as you are and I can tell you, I have the full time career in a field I have always loved, I live in a modest house with all the expenses that come with that, and have lost both parents and my husband over the last decade, and emotionally/mentally I am in the same place as you are right now. I don't have any answer yet but whatever you do right now, don't make any permanent changes to address temporarily problems. I do know this though, everything will sort itself out. I'm sending good vibes your way mama! Thanks for sharing with all your virtual friends out here, we appreciate you and can totally relate. 🙂
Tracy= get the waiver commitment in writing. Not just a phone call. Keep a file and document every call, name time and details. But this situation please get every commitment in writing. You don’t want to have a problem on the back side having to say but so and so said xyz…you need that in writing. And in your hard copy and digital file now. You likely know this but sometimes in the thick of it you can forget things.
If I was toxic I would totally try to trauma bond with you. I say that because I lived the same thing you are living now. You are only 3 years older than me... And I'm watching you go through the motions and watching you say what you were saying... I want you to know... You are doing everything perfectly. Thank you for expressing how you feel. You are truly helping people that will be in your shoes sooner or later. Thank you for being a wonderful human being Tracey. You are right. You will make it through this. You will land on your feet doing whatever you need to do in Minnesota 🙂. Your sister will have serious karma debt... I know you know that. Keep on keeping on 🙂 by the way, I'm the one on tick tock that lets you know how the weather is in Tacoma Washington 🙂 LOL
Gives herself all 1's 😄 I completely agree that van life is so individual. I was calling myself a "suburban vanlifer". I preferred staying relatively close to ammenities. So happy for both you and Joy that she's found a great spot! I can only imagine how painful it must be to watch your mother be taken advantage of by one of her own daughters. 😔
Sorry you and Joy are going through all this. It will get better. Hang in there.
Put a camera in Joys room that you can get on your phone. You have been her best friend, bless You.
Great suggestion!
Oh Tracey. Sending a big hug💓Things will look up. Your not alone
I’ve been feeling in stuck mode for some time, just know your not alone and your loving kind soul is doing what’s it’s meant to at this time in helping with your mother. You have the strength of a rising phoenix so remember your magic cuz it’s your superpower☺️
Much love~❤
So compassionate of you to share in affection your 'going-ons' with your family challenges. My positive blessings of your results of transitioning yourself & mom Joy in living arranging. Try to keep 'deep breathing/meditate' if that should help you & good/honest people surround (hard to always find that sometimes). ☮️✌️
We were told that you generally had to be full-pay for 2 years before they will accept you on elderly waiver. They will tell you they accept waivers and that have them available but when the time comes for transition to waiver if it hasn't been 2 years of full pay they suddenly have none available. Once we moved my dad to the cities after my mom passed finding a place that took his elderly waiver was near impossible because all his years of private pay had been at an assisted living in another county (he had dementia for 6 years and 5 years of private pay for memory care for both parents wiped out their retirement savings). Joy is lucky to have found a place with good care that will take waivers, in our experience they are rare in the cities (Twin Cities).
I am sending you love and hugs! It’s tough to go through tough things. And it’s even a bigger deal to share out your vulnerabilities. You’re going through and have been going through a lot of rough stuff along with your mother also going through that same rough stuff. And you have been, hanging on and getting through it. I’ve been going through something recently as well where it just feels like I’m going in circles like I’m on this merry-go-round that I just can’t get off of… And the circular spiraling sort of situation where your sent around to so many different people and you get tidbits here and there and I you have had the same thoughts like no one should have to go through all of this. I’m not the first one going through this. Why is it that I’m being treated as though I’m the first one who’s ever asked these questions or ever had to learn about this stuff. So I agree with you when you have gotten through this with your mom and you have 😊had time to process if you could pull together a video or something and put it out there for people to give them some step-by-step guidance that would be amazing. Of course it’s different from state to state. it’s a lot of stuff for people to try to learn so any helpful hints to get people started at has always proven to be a good thing. Again, sending you lots of love and hugs, we are resilient! And we can’t possibly know it is ahead of us so I’m looking forward to what happens in your future and I’m looking forward to being able to gain a bit more peace in your life. And I think it’s wonderful that you indicated that you have a lot of support around you if you choose to tap into that I do as well but sometimes when we’re going through these significant things, no one can help us with that stuff and a lot of it is just internal work that we’re doing for ourselves. Hang in there, my friend you’ve got this And cry when you have to cry, I was just talking with a friend a few hours ago about the very thing of how there’s always seemingly that final straw that one more thing that’s put on top of you that just starts to make you feel like you were breaking just know that you aren’t broken and you aren’t breaking and you’re going to be fine. Even when all the uncertainty is there, you are correct it will all work out.cu
Hang in there and keep making videos.
Hang on, your ride will get easier.
PS..ILOVE YOU TRACY..keep your HeadUp .😊
Hello Tracy, rode up in your area with the old farts from St Paul yesterday, beautiful day. Thought we might see you out riding on your e-bike. The houses around White Bear and Bald Eagle lake are fabulous, really really nice area.
Putting your mother in assisted living is heart wrenching, been there. I hope it all works out and yes full time van life can be difficult but a lot of fun for short trips. Take care and good luck!
Them ebikes are amazing. . I bought a L20 2.0 by Engwe and it's fabulous.
😅If Walgreens asks about how you rated yourself, just say "I'm #1"!!!
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All the best to you and Joy and hoping you are successful getting her settled into a great place. Also hoping you find a small place to hang your hat this winter. 👌
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I’m so over being around people and I’m 59 as of March. I’m tired of the drama and the need of everyone needing to feel special. I’ve worked office for about 30 years (backstabbing and ass kissing is required for cubicle prison) and rest of time in grocery retail for 17 1/2 years. I love being off, called off today because I didn’t want to deal with heat and people in general. Now listening to you after not seeing you for a while. Good luck to Joy. My mom just turned 79 last month. You must have been a midlife baby of your moms.
I'm in Fairmont, Minnesota... mild winter last year but supposed to be a harsh winter 2024-25 ❄️ 🌬
Of course 🫤 the one I’m back for 😳😁🤷♀️
@@AdvanturesOver50 Murphys Law 🤣🥶
You and I seem so much alike and they’re going through similar things. if you ever make it to Washington state, I have room for you if you need it. Someplace to get away. Stay strong.
I enjoy your content. ❤❤❤
I’m sorry that you feel like you are a caregiver and not a daughter. My grown son I’ll always have to care for. It’s tough. It will always be this way until one of us dies. Chin up Tracy. Wish I could be your friend and help you. You are an amazing daughter. I don’t know the back story on your sister but I can figure it out. Family 😢
I can't believe she said she's almost 60. Looks younger!
Thank you 💜
Hi Tracy, we're exactly the same age (born 1965)! My mom passed away already, and we're 3 sisters. I was also the one who looked after her and supported her. She had Alzheimer towards the end.😞 I know it can be very difficult and taxing and who else are you supposed to be short with, if that's the person that's in your life. I also feel bad about a lot of things now, but on the other hand I know I was always there for her and supported her to the end. The same with you, except your mom knows it and she knows it's not her that you're mad at and I'm sure she's appreciative as heck. I just gave up on my sister's. I tried to get them to at least visit her and they wouldn't. Just release that emotional side of it all. Just release her from your life. I know the litigation (the life part) will go on, but release her as far as your heart and feelings go and you'll feel so much better. I hated them and what they did to my mom, but that just caused bitterness in my life and in my heart and its just not worth it. We've got less life left than what we've already lived, so make that life happy. I must say anti-depressents are also helping in my case. Sending good thoughts to you and your mom all the way from South Africa. 🇿🇦
Your hair is nice! I like it.
I sympathize Tracey what you are going through. Joy is a sweetheart like my mom was until her unexpectedly passed on March 18, 2024 . My mom left & my brother with no bills . She said for many years before God called her home 🏡 we wouldn't have any bills . We inherited her home in Louisiana. I live in Texas and my brother lives in Alabama. I have the yard mowed every 2 weeks. May God you bless 🙌🏽 you for what you are doing for your mom . At times I felt like I was having a nervous breakdown 🙃. Currently doing psychotherapy session via video 📹 weekly. Your sister & husband will reap what they sow .
Oh I am crying ! You touched my heart, so honest, I feel you Tracey! Such a gem of a human you are!
You also cracked me up when you said, my hair looks good that's all the matters 😂 your laugh is awesome! I just love ya! ❤❤
Hi, I cannot believe you are almost 60, you look great. Can you share your makeup routine?
Hang in there Tracey💚 and Joy💚!! G'day from Australia.🌿
Maybe get an air bnb for the winter so you’re not tied into a lease?
Tracy is feel for you. I am dealing with my dads estate and selling I ing everything house included. I will be buying an RV to live in to see if I like Tiny living. I lost both parents but now my Uncle lives with me. He has cancer and we found an assisted living home that he loves. The lady that owns it is an RN and also owns another in. He is in Eagan in a home that sleeps 6 residents 4 males and 2 females.
You are smart and tough! Keep your chin up Tracy!
IF there is a hell, your sister and brother in law have seats reserved! It's hard to believe that someone could do anything to hurt Joy, especially if she's your own mother! I'm pissed! You should get a P.O. Box and give all of us the address so we could write letters to your sister and tell her what we think of her! I'm sure that wouldn't come across to well in court but I sure would love to give her a piece of my mind! Joy is to be cherished for the wonderful human that she is! Please take care of you during all of this. I can't imagine the stress you're going through. I'm sending hugs to you and your mom!
You look amazing!!!!💙🌺😊
Tracey you’re tough as nails! I know the stress of everything is hard right now, but you and Joy ARE going to come out ok. This is just a season in life, but this too shall pass. Hold on…it’s gonna get better.
After listening to your story at 53 yrs of age I thought I was maybe having a crisis with some issues, but your words are filled much determination & loyalty for your mother & others. May you continue fighting the good fight for the eternal rewards. It may sound crazy, but you have a glow about yourself even after what life throws back. Take care & god bless you & your family pretty woman.😊
Sorry for how my comment showed up more then once lol! Hope you’re doing ok. 🙏 It’s been too hot & humid here in south MS. to breathe..🥵😎
We have SO MUCH in common its unreal 😍
I offer you a big hug right now.
Just go ahead with life. Pay no attention. I found that out with my sister.
Hhhmmm if I was looking for a place to Winter in Minnesota I would look for a room to rent, which is way cheaper than an apartment. Or I would look into income based housing, also called low income housing but it would only be temporary for the Winter. Do they have a mobile home park model where you could rent temporarily? Put a in search of (ISO) ad out what your looking for or post on public bulletin boards ( laundryomat, chuch boards, gas stations, etc...) and try to get in before Winter. If I think of anything else Ill let you know. Hope it helps.🙏
That’s awesome!! So happy for both of you! Tracy of course you have a lot of followers… you are so relatable. You will figure things out. You always do:)
So prettyyy
You just earned yourself a new subscriber.
Good to see you and thank you for sharing your life. I wish you all the best! GOD BLESS YOU!
You look great, with bangs and without. I have side bangs for my huge forehead…..balance is important. Glad you got more help for Joy!!! Sending you well wishes.
Great show Thank you from NZ.
this was one of those - “ Keep My Name Outta Your Mouth” moments !
Him showing pics without permission you own those photos !
Charlene! 🚐 Hey Tracy! 💜💜💜💜
Imagine the poor old folk who have no one to help them
BOOM💥The Wall is real gentlemen.
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This is so important ! Thank you so much for sharing this!