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At first i was very skeptical. Im sorry but part of me is still worried that you Craig are like first coach who i dealed with and who just wanted my money. After first check on workbook i remained skeptic but every time i open workbook im more convinced that it is great. No magic beans, just listening understanding and changing without promising that my ex will come back. Well, im even more convinced now that listening to you and following your advices was good idea.
I expected you guys to be skeptical, but after 500 videos, you should know me better than to put out an amazing product. This was a huge project and I truly believe it will help change your life! The reviews have all been outstanding so far!
This boils down to who dumped who. If your ex- decides to leave you, then you owe it to yourself to maintain your self respect. Let them go and do the work. Find your center and grow into the best version of yourself you can possibly manage. If they never reach out it simply means they just don’t care. Your best position is to simply accept it and be thankful for the experience.
Mark Michael LePianka so hard yet so damn true... really losing my mind over this. It's barely been a week and I feel like I fucked it all up already by fucking up no contact and bring it back up when she would reach out to me. Im in regret with what I've said to her and havent spoken to her the past few days... I really hope this turns around some time...
ItsSpookie - If you said things you regret you SHOULD apologize and give her the take away; ‘I’m regret having hurt you by ____ (and be specific). I can only hope that someday your feelings will change and you’ll reach out to me’. Then walk away and NEVER look back. It’s your responsibility to do the work for your personal growth everyday. If you do and she does reach out you’ll be ready to act like a man and lead. If she doesn’t you’ll be in the best possible position when you meet someone new. Stay in the community and become the man you were meant to be by committing to be your best version of yourself.
Mark Michael LePianka not so much of me hurting her but more so me pursing and not respecting her space when shes asked for it. I know there's a lot I need to work on for myself and tk entertain my purpouse. Its just difficult when shes on my mind all the time. Im trying my best not to chase...but its extremely difficult when I see her nearly every night because we both train Jiu-Jitsu. It hurts when I barely get a passing glance from her, or she just walks on by me without looking my way. Argh!
Gordon Campbell I hope so trying to do just that but of course...patience is what its going to take. Just hurts everydah trying to build myself back up to move forward with myself
Well if you did the dumping because you were getting disrespected and taken for granted, by the one getting dumped simply not contacting you what you get is that his intention was to mess things up on purpose cause he didn’t want to be with you anyways but didn’t want to be the one breaking up . If you got dumped because the person got tired and frustrated with you not walking your talk doing and staying in no contact is a big mistake. You are helping her moving on if she is a confident woman. I have 0 interest in going back to a person I broke up with because he disrespected me and on top he didn’t reach out to me to try to work things out.
Excellent points made here. The bottom line really is, if your ex broke up with you and never contacted you again, that's because they just didn't want you back! So it's better to know that and move on.
What if... A) The break up was mostly mutual? or B) You get dumped, but you know the dumper well enough to know that they did it because they didn't feel wanted, or they felt insecure, or not good enough? So they are far more likely to try no contact to see if you chase? See those are two very realistic scenarios where both parties might be trying no contact to regain power, or attract the other person.
I would apologize and show that I have already known my mistake and ask for a chance. Then if my partner doesn't want to continue, then I will do no contact.
Second one is logical. The person left you because they didn’t feel loved by you. Can be due to multiple reasons. If they left you for that and if you like them you would try to contact them and rekindle if you don’t then it means you just played them.
Although is true that the person breaking up will miss you, if they broke up because they were taken for granted or disrespected by you you going no contact is just confirming that you were no longer interested in the relationship anyways and you are just pushing the person to move on. If I broke up of course I will go no contact. I want to heal and be happy and confident again. You disrespected me, took me for granted, why am I going to go to you if on top of everything you are ignoring me? A confident person wouldn’t do that. The dumped will remain in no contact forever and will find out that no one will contact him when is already too late 🤷🏽♀️
Thank you for that. I feel I was taken for granted by my ex... I tried communicating my issues and he wouldn't even have the conversation...so my only choice was to leave... it's been 5 days of no contact and he has completely ignored me. I'm praying for the strength to make it through this heart breaking moment
Same here, still miss the guy I dumped, a lot, If he would contact me and treat me a little better, show a little change, then that would mean the world to me. (8 weeks ago)
Beccy F that's a spot on! We didn't really broke up but I just didn't msg him after he told go and fuck yourself, don't fuck my brain! Im just asking him something that he doesn't want to explain in details and he gets mad easily so I feel upset and didn't msg him. He didn't msg me also after that. After 22 days, he catch up calling me in messenger. After we talked, he didn't msg again... I donno what's going on between us. I just didn't msg him coz he don't respect me anymore. He gets mad at little things. I don't feel loved. He always ignore me since we are in long distance relationship. I donno what to do. 😪
Sometimes people the no contact lasts for a long ass time, my ex broke up with me and she didn’t say anything for a little over 2 years, then she finally contacted me. We’ve been talking casually for about 4 months, but unfortunately I’m in Germany until March. These videos help avoid doing stupid mistakes that I’ve done in the past. People, time has made me mature and realize my mistakes, you can learn as well.
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Ohh so many comments. As a woman if a guy make a NO CONTACT for a month is not acceptable for me. I feel like i am dumb, taken for granted and he doesn't even care. I may wonder for what is happening but i can't tolerate it. I know i deserve better so i decided to walk away and erase myself in he's life. I don't see any point in the so called relationship. Therefore i block him in all ways of contact and leave it as it is. It's difficult but i keep being positive. I rather do something productive for myself and forget the past because past is a history what matters is NOW.
I broke up with my ex and haven’t contacted him. He also hasn’t contacted me. Personally my relationship was so bad because he was a narcissist that I would never contact him again. No matter what and honestly I hope he never contacts me because I don’t want to deal will everything that comes with him. So I don’t know that all of this really works because I’m done. Completely and utterly done. I miss him but I can never go back to that.
I broke up with him cuz he is not ready to commit. I had been doing ‘no contact’ for a month now and it’s so hard. Everyday i have to deal with all the memories i had with him. I wanted to start dating again but i just can’t. I feel like dating is not appealing anymore. I kinda lost interest.
Yup, me too...i think in that case no contact is the best strategy. Don’t go dating just because, you are human not a machine. If you like this guy, it will take time until you are ready to start again. Be kind to yourself and give yourself to heal.
5 day of no contact... this sucks 🥺 I was the one that messed things up and I’ve apologized and apologized. I even went to his house to talk things out, I’ve mailed him letters ( super corny ), called him drunk.. lol but I did everything to get another chance. He ignores my msgs. So I stopped.. idk what to do guys. He says he needs time and he’s confused so I took a step back and left it. I’m scared he’ll forget about me. 🥺
What about forced dumpers? People who forcibly break up with someone because they are not getting something (usually emotionally) from the other person. It’s not like we wanted to end things... and the dumpee still wants to be together but they need to in a sense, learn what they did wrong. Have you come across this?
The dumper would do no contact in hopes that the dumpee would chase him or her. It’s a mind game. However, at the sign of the dumpee not making contact, the dumper would contact the dumpee IF he/she is still interested.
If the dumper truly loved you but the relationship didn’t work out and it isn’t realistically salvageable they will be doing ‘no contact’. It’s not likely that they are doing no contact to get you back but so both of you can heal and move on.
Yep That’s what I think has happened too me I love my girl But she is gone She respects me but does not want back It was a LDR which lasted 2yrs ,9months We broke up in August last yr I’m devastated But I have too move on I’m tearing up writing this I’ve been in no contact for now 15 days I’ve tried too patch things up Prior It’s over so I have too move on
Well I personally think that no contact is a test between, if is doesn't work out and the answer is clear, is time to move on. Learn from the past relationships and create the best version of yourself.. ♥
Usually we’re attracted to people that are different, yet compatible, with us. I doubt 2 psychotherapists would really be attracted to each other bc they’re probably very alike haha
It's funny you say that you have never heard of one who initiated the break up and going no contact. I broke up with her, want to text her, miss her, but I won't do it. I'm waiting on her to reach out and do the pursuing. I had to get on a level playing field again and get her interest back up as she was putting forth hardly any effort when I ended things.
HURT 1 Crap! This is what I am afraid of. That my ex is waiting for me to reach out even though he ended it with me almost 8 weeks ago. A huge part of me wants to reach out. On the other hand, I’m thinking I should just start dating new people as I approach 2 months post break up...even if I don’t want to. I’m so confused.
Marivic Febiar if he broke up with you, don't reach out. No contact at all on your end. Mine is just a little more complicated since I didn't want to break up with her anyways, but her interest level gave me no other choice..
HURT 1 I know. Still so hard. Really not in the mood to date someone new. Part of my hesitation is that the second I invite someone new into my life, my ex will somehow find out and I’m afraid of 2 things: 1. My ex will decide that was the last straw and NEVER want me back if he ever considered it at all. 2. I might actually like the new guy enough to want to pursue, but my ex may come back at the most inopportune moment and I’d feel inclined to revisit our relationship, which is not fair to the hypothetical new guy. Of course, this is all just a big maybe. But it freaks me out. 😫
what if i neglected my ex emotionally, with lack attention, lack of commitment and stability...freshly after the break up when i was begging she told me “you cant keep walkig in and out of my life” and that she still saw a future with me, its been 8 months no contact... im happy and i do believe ive changed for the better im just at the point where either ill get some closure or its showing her that i do care and that i do wanna work things out
Seb Desormeaux if thats a fact. You need to show her 10x. She loves you. And probably loved you hard. Every second love her harder. When yall fight and happy. That's love.
My ex broke up with me 4 years ago, she made it no contact then used a court order of no contact. I obliged, 4 years later she has been contacting people close to me and even sent me a text asking me if we can talk on the phone. Because I have never been involved with law enforcement until her shenanigans I did not answer her text and I changed my phone number. As far as I’m concerned the police order of no contact stands. I have no interest with her and have moved on.
I have double tunnel vision. I have been depressed since a year and been visiting psychologist after he dumped me. I loved him so much but it hurts to think that he left me when I needed him the most. I’ve been doing NC since I moved out of our apartment(3moths) . I left him in comfort after I invested all my energy and time to build up that home for both of us. I felt used for long time. He didn’t pay back the money i lend him to pay for his first car. I waited but now I am learning to let go. I learned my lesson. Never built up somebody’s future man. I still remember how his attitude shifted once he had what he wanted . Job- I helped him to write a application, resume , Car- I paid for it, comfortable home. It’s too much to take. Hurts to the core how he saw me small afterwards.
No contact after breakup is good. But pls try to move on. Whenever I broke up with somebody I meant it and didn't want them back, no contact didn't changed it at all. And the opposite is also true: If someone doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you, don't waste your time. What if your ex contacts with you with some stupid question about their sneakers location. F. your sneakers they're at where you put them, go and get them on your own. Just because of such stupid question arises it doesn't mean that they would love you better this time or the relationship would work out better.
Really curious to know about whether a person who does the breaking up BECAUSE the other person won’t fully commit is the breaker-upper or the breakee? I do no contact even though I’ve broken it off as it’s only because of the reason above. He then tends to also do no contact. Oh so confusing!
Hi Craig. I have been watching your videos and focusing on personal growth for the last six months. I guess I am your first, because I broke up with my GF, and I went no contact. It was the only way to prevent her from stalking and seducing me back into the relationship for a 6th time - yes, six. I realized my weakness (her beauty), and had to decide on self respect over beauty. I did not feel respected or valued by her, compared to the respect and time I gave her. The only times my needs were met, were after a breakup. That would last for about 3-4 months, before the pattern repeated itself - me breaking up with her due to her behavior, and then her apologizing, and seducing me back in. So, yes, I broke up with her, went no contact, watch your videos, and am focusing on not repeating my pattern of falling for BPD women. I miss her every day, and have to fight not to reach out to her.
I did..I broke it off and went directly "no contact"...learned it from a previous relationship and watching these videos. Honestly, I do miss her but am doing this to teach her a lesson...that I meant what I warned her about....to stop micromanaging me. Wonder what the odds of getting back together are. She texted once, that was about a bill to be paid...lol.
Well in all honesty if I break up or stop talking to someone it depends what they did wrong. That will determine if I will even feel like talking or reaching out… it all depends on the amount of disrespect they did to me.
I did the initiating of the break up after being taken for granted, the inconsistency in communication, and his continued distance toward me. I really didnt feel that he cared at all. Though I love and miss him and would gladly contact him any day...I really do not feel that the ball is in my court. If he cares he will reach out. If he doesn't. ..then I know full well that what I felt was true.
But I think if you were abusive and you've been bad, they might not reach out to you. I've listened to many situation people were very mean and abusive to their partners and missing them afterwards. Some come back, some trying to move on. There's a possibility if you've been abusive to them, they might not reach out to you, even if they miss you. Because they need to respect themselves.
Jilly Tube I didn't mean to go no contact. After he told me to go fuck myself, I dont know what to reply. I feel hurt. I was waiting for him to say sorry but he didn't msg me anything.
Hi Graig!!!today is day 9 after my breakup and my no contact!!!in the morning I went to my fitness school and my ex too...I follow no contact strictly....when my courses finished,I was ready to get in my car and my ex stopped her car beside me!!!so asked how am I,I asked her too,and that she is sorry that she didn’t talk to me before today bcz she was difficult for her but she said she was staring at me...I acted chill and still do like I should and at the end she said see u again....and she left!!!i think that this is a good sign right!??thank u Graig for ur time!!
I was the one who broke up and I'm in no contact right now. So I might be an exception 😁 we are an anxious-avoidant couple and I'm the anxious. So I needed to end the circle. He is in therapy right now and I'm attending one soon. So I'm giving him as the avoidant the space to lose all the negative emotion he has connected with me(deactivating strategies). I hope it works and he can remember all the positive things we had in our relationship.
@@shernadehosein3749 it's been two weeks at this point and he hasn't reached out yet. The first week was literally hell for me, but it got better this week. I would highly recommend looking for someone to talk to, either only coaching with Craig or going to therapy. It really helps coping!
@@Lev15157 we're back together, we both went to therapy and have a pretty safe and amazing relationship now 😊 but I must say, it took both of us a lot of work and commitment. If one of us weren't be willing to work on it, there would not have been much hope for us (was that an actual English sentence? 😅)
@Anna Cash that's amazing! Thank you for giving me that little spark of hope :) been 2.5 weeks no co tact at this point after an amicable breakup, although I know she wanted it more I let her go with dignity and stopped contacting her that night. Stay safe!
My situation is that she initiated no contact to force me to move on. I haven’t broken it (5 months now), but neither has she. Pretty sure this is the new normal.
Andrew Lawson After so long, it’s obvious it’s totally over. We have been broken up for a little over 90 days, but I totally initiated this second no contact. I think after 90 more days, I’ll be great! We were friends for 21 years! I guess we were never friends or lovers!
My bf and I have been together for two years, living together for about a year. Our relationship started getting sour bc of working together AND living together. It was to the point where I left the job to get another one, for our sake. After I left my job, everything changed. He decided that “we live together” so now he started making plans w his friends and pretty much say I’m too much. I’m not going to lie, I have issues. (Jealousy issues) I know he wouldn’t cheat but I wanted him to myself. Which ultimately pushed him away. We love each other so much but we lack communication. One day he loved me, the next he couldn’t stand me. We were falling apart and I couldn’t bare it. Being emotionally vulnerable in front of him made him pity me in a way. We just needed space. One night we end up arguing. We were supposed to go out w a group of friends. Turns out he lied to me about it so I wouldn’t go, and he could only go. When I confronted him I noticed that he changed my contact name & pic on his phone. He had been extra careful with his phone too. I assumed he’s cheating and kicked him out. He left sobbing. I felt bad bc I knew he had no place to go but I couldn’t be around the emotional abuse. He still went out that night. It’s been two days, he’s staying at a hotel. Most of his belongings are still here. If he was reaaallly done with me he’d get them, right? I also noticed that he added old girls he knew liked him. I know we have something there....I just..I miss him but refuse to contact him first. Should I?
My ex and I dated 7 months. We had a very deep rooted connection . An very loving . We shared many first for her . Emotionally sentimentally and sexually . But members of her family started getting her convinced that I could not take care of her . So she became overwhelmed . Asked for some space . I tryed to stop it. But I did the gentleman thing and gave it to her . She said it was killing her & braking her heart . Then less then 4weeks she is dating another man. Posting all over Facebook about how great he is & how happy she is. Then a week into this relationship new relationship. She text me just to say . I hope your ok. If he is so great & everything to her . Why would she care how I'm doing?
I was the dumper and went no contact. I loved him deeply. He was neglecting me and stoped putting but kept saying he loved me. He didn't fight at all to keep me...at all. So yeah...thats when a dumper goes no contact.
@@harshjones1688 nah. He took me for granted. I gave him lots of chances and I was an amazing gf I never fought with him. He would avoid me for weeks on end. He never took care of me when I was sick. He didn't want to be the bad guy so he would neglect me until I couldn't take it. I felt so lonely and unloved. He wanted me to be the bad guy and end it. He was a coward. I'll never speak to him again.
I did the breaking up because he didn’t do something special for my birthday, and then called me childish when I expressed that i didn’t feel cared for. And I’m doing no contact because when I tried to work it out with him, he still didn’t realize he was wrong so I have to do the no contact.
Lysa Wade I hate to be the one to tell you this but he's the lucky one. Now maybe he can find someone that will appreciate (What the does for them instead of what he didn't do)
Hubert White - . I dont know what truly happenned in this person’s case but dont think we should jump to that conclusion but from personal experience - i made my ex feel important and priority everyday and even more so on his bday and not get the recipercorate - truly hurts. I am not a materialistic or superficial person - i would have cherished a hand written card, a wildflower, a cheap fake bracelet - i dont care. Just acknowledge that i meant something to u. So in my opinon she is the lucky one since i left too and am hoping for someone that will make me as priority as i will make them.
I feel the holy spirit strengthening me as I have heard a promise from the spirit to wait 36 weeks. There is an opportunity to see him in Sept at a wine festistal if he chooses to try to see me. I have to heal and become secure in myself and my faith between then and now, knowing that in that amount of time alot could change in either of our lives. But I hear Gods promise that he will bring me to a place of being fully ready to date agian by that time. I like that I'm giving myself a time frame to heal and the hope of having something even better. Whether it's with James or someone else doesnt matter.. I know what I want in a realtionship, and it is a process that God is working in me to be the best person I can be for someone special.
Well, i broke up with my GF and i went no contact strategy, but in my case, i still love her, but she refused to breakup a "friendship" with this guy she was having a non-physical affair over the past 3 months, and after 3 chances for her to deal with the problem, now i know the guy is a manipulative player that have fun doing this things... So im doing it, she took the bite, know we are working on resolution, but it will be a long process...
I was literally told (after reaching out six weeks later because we had an somewhat random face to face where she had to help me with paperwork at her job), that she wanted no contact because that’s how she properly moved on. She was head over heels in love with me when she blindsided me with the break up. There was no lead up. She just decided we had no future after five or six months of telling me she loved me 3 times a day.
My ex broke up with me in 2009 I'm still not over it. He's moved on different girlfriends and he never reached out to me. I did. He responded while he was in a relationship. But nothing happened .
Well Craig let me be the first to tell you... I am the gentleman who broke up with her and I'm in no contact. After 1 year of dating and it was an amazing year, I do love and care for her but realized I was being taken for granted so I had to let her go, I realized I hurt her and I feel bad about that, but I also have more respect for myself to not be taken for granted. So I have initiated no contact and I am waiting for her to reach out and realize that she screwed things up and what she's going to do to fix it so far it's been 6 weeks and I've heard nothing from her. If I don't ever hear from her again which I suppose that will be the case she is very stubborn as well as I, then I guess it wasn't meant to be. Really curious what your opinion is on this, I'm hoping she realizes that she just blew the best thing that ever happened to her.
Well maybe its not the same no contact that you’re talking about coach, but sort of a no contact in their way. For example, I had a friend that dumped her bf, after a year of being apart, she was thinking it’s been a while and she wanted to know how he was and talk to him - but she didn’t , she was afraid to. The way she hurt him etc and how awkward it would be. She said if he reaches out then it would be different
It's me, I broke up with them and went no contact. I have to wait for them, they were hiding our entire relationship. If I go to them they won't come out of hiding. Nothing would change
I haven’t contact my ex since he broke up with me a month ago. Funny is I wished him the best and he didn’t even wish me the best at all. I have self respect ✊... Not reaching out
My girlfriend cheated me. She got message from unknown number, and she was doing chat with him. I said to block that person. But she lie with me and said I will not talk to him. Then after some days she said I made him my new B.F then I show anger to her and also weep in front of her. But she has no effect of this. Instead of blocking new b.f, she block me and dumped me
WOW!!!!Finding your video this morning was "no mistake"~ YOU BOTH have given me such valuable insight and stre both to pick myself UP, dust myself off and face my day with a big smile~ I will no longer give my ex the power to incriminate my feelings. SO GLAD I RAN INTO YIUR VIDEO!! You both "keep it real"~!! You both are the REAL DEAL and don't use psychological terms that make it so blasè. "THANK YOU"~😁
My ex was on therapy even before breaking up with me and we had contact 1 week after the breakup and she told me the therapist said to her she needed to stop all communication with me and all my friends and family to move on, so yeah, the dumper is using no contact to move on. So all my family and friends have been blocked from all social media. Its been already 2 months. 😭
Great video. Love your work. However, I got dumped this past Monday. She also happens to have her M.A. in psychology. Needless to say I was upset and said a few things but nothing overtly damaging when she told me the news. She said to me that she will give me my space to grieve and will not contact me. Two days later, she contacted me but prefaced the text message saying "this will be my one initiated contact". So, she might be employing a no contact rule too.
I left my relationship of 2.5 years. I won't answer any text from him at all. I received several text from him and one minute he sends how much he loves me and the next he sends texts that aren't nice kinda rude and accusing me of stuff which are not even true so I feel disrespected and am not gonna waste my time. I plan on taking time to just heal and making myself more important. I gave him a chance but was truly disappointed.
Going out with someone else! That's what she's doing during NC. Blindsided me after our last two times together which were really good. Honestly, at no time did I think anything was wrong when we were together. We'd been drifting apart for about six months but maintained some contact. After our final time together, romantic outdoor lunch with hand holding with a kiss goodbye, she dropped the bomb two days later. I have a new guy friend in my life now. So who knows what she's thinking but my guess is him and not me anymore. Day 8 of NC but she has all the power so there's really not much I can do. Would come across as needy and desperate. Respect yourself, take the pain, move on. Find someone better.
I broke up with her and find out two days later she has been on a dating site for about a month. I have not contacted her in almost three weeks and agree with you that she has all the power and there is nothing you can do but move on. I am going to Florida in mid February for 6 weeks -- whata bet she calls right before then?
while every video is amazing , i swear it seems Fridays are the days you drop the hot fire , may have to start calling it "Friday fire " :) , amazing video coaches thank you !!
@7:35 My girlfriend and I are agreeing to do no contact, as instructed by our therapist, during a BREAK, not a break up, which SHE wanted . She has reached out a few times in indirect direct by talking about a bill or two. But now, after telling her that she needs to trust me that I'll take care of the bills and to stick to no contact, there's complete radio silence. I slipped, I told her after a week, that I was proud of her strength and courage to stay with the no contact. Then I wished her a happy birthday. No response whatsoever. So, I've decided to buckle down, enforce some serious self discipline and continue no contact. So, I, or uh, we (my girlfriend and I) are an exception to that rule. Do you think this will complicate my efforts of no contact?
I am the person in the video whose doing no contact. I was rekindling things with my ex but we wasn’t in a relationship. We have known each other since childhood and we have an extensive history.We have always had feelings for each other but the situation is never right for us to thrive. It’s a complicated situation, but I want him back. We both love each other but we are in different places of what we both want. It was taking a toll on our relationship, with me more so than him. I just felt for my own sanity I needed to take a step back and give him time to miss me. I wanted to regroup and reevaluate myself. I feel as though he always expect me to be around and he takes me for granted. He said that he loved me and wanted us to be together but he not ready for a relationship. From the outside looking in I know it would seem like he’s taking advantage and I should just move on but that’s not our situation. Even his family know how much he loves me but can tell he’s got some things to work out. They want us to be together but think I should do what’s best for me right now. I told him when he feels like he’s ready to be committed to come and find me.
My brother girl friend left him 12 yrs ago and she still passes by with out stopping by even though she has no business being they're but never stops! I think shes playing being tease !!!
What if I was upset and started spewing my feelings and she says "I really need space we should do a clean breakup and not talk for 30 days." and she also blocked me on social media and says, "I don't want to see what you're doing". Then mentions being friends and I politely say, I'm not interested in friends and I'll leave you alone. If you're interested in dating again, reach out. I'm going to focus on myself." As a way to reclaim power I basically said I don't care about the 30 days, I won't reach out to you. it's up to you to reach out to me when you miss me.
@@Weimerica8841 she came back and realized she made a mistake. We both went to therapy and we were basically apart for 3 months. Now we’re happier than ever. It wasn’t even all me, some of it was but it was just trauma and attachment stuff. Now we’re both aware. Me walking away made her realize how much she missed me and wanted me, especially when the grass wasn’t greener. She got depressed and couldn’t stop thinking about me until she broke down 3am one night and called. She wanted to come see me and was very emotional. We’ve been together since then. Coach’s stuff works. It’s not easy and it was the most pain I’ve ever been in but it worked. I also realized my own value and trauma and such through therapy and I’m much more confident and secure. It was really all a huge lesson learned.
It's really hard.. The guy I was seeing is now ignoring me and giving the exucte he sbhsy and that he will call me once he's free. We had such a great connection for months and coz I over reacted to a few things which was natural to me, he felt I pushed him or rejected and now he's pushing me awya. I cry so much coz the memories are haunting me. I miss him to bits. I don't know if he misses me. He doesn't even ask how I am anymore. I'm so upset. I fell in love with him after 5 months of knowing him and I felt he had feelings for me too but I am miserable now. I don't think I will ever like someone else the way I liked him. Im just sad and I hooe we get a second chance. He made me smile and now he's making me cry. 😔😔😔
I broke up with my girlfriend and she immediately went no contact and blocked me on everything. I tried to contact her for 2 months with no success. Now I'm doing no contact. It's been about a month. I'm working on myself and as time continues to pass in having more and more thoughts that she doesn't deserve me anyways
Me and the guy I loved different in everything.. starting from religion,culture and everything.. we knew it won’t work out between us,however i was okay with it and ready to fight for it till he started to ignores me like hell and do all the things that bothers me , he was pushing me away from him, till I asked him it he wanted me to just let it go and forget him he answered yeah it’s better for you and am not the one for you.. now am doing the no contact and I am not sure if he will really reach out or no, or shall I initiate the first move or not or to just forget totally about him.. 😭😭am still in love with him ..
Hi Coach Craig, I'm afraid my ex who broke up with me two years ago always said that when breaking up she doesn't stay in touch.... we have spoken from time to time but she always minimized things.... not share things to do with her etc... been horrible... I've never believed in it and now just broken up with someone of 6 months.... I will always bee there to talk to and hope that it will help her through it.... I also know just how bad it feels to be cut off, from you ex and their family.... worst feeling in the world, and I can't do that to another human being.... one of the other coaches has just made me realize a it about me and how I have work to be done on myself for still pining after my first ex..... the problem is still in that the break-up happened due to factors that I had no control over.... i.e. stress of dying mother and therefore inability to move forward in life as a couple. Now, this has sadly changed and I would still forgive my ex everthing but she's still not wanting to get back..... tells me maybe my mum etc was an easy excuse for her.... also did she even love me properly at all? I need to learn to love myself enough to see that giving more time towards her is to do myself an injustice...... apparently inbedded in me from childhood..... all big stuff.... fortunately I have a counsellor and will talk more with her about this..... cheers folks 😊
I am the one who has decided to go no contact. We did not break up we actually last talk on a good note. I just got tired of being sprung along. So I decided to go no contact.
I'm a dumper who did no contact. And I must say, it doesn't last long. We are aware we do have responsibility. Let me tell you the whole story after breaking up. Because she didn't do the work and ended up screwing something that could turn out great: She begged, did grand gestures and all. Good reminder texts, nothing made me change my mind. I did want to get along again, but I was seeing through all these anxious behaviors. She called me names, send me 78 messages overnight, I'm not exaggerating. 3 months after that, I have bible studies with her father, he invited me to her bday party and I said I'd have to gauge her feelings because I didn't want to hurt her and make her feel bad. I reached out. She told all these bs aboit having changed a lot, forgiving people including me and that she still had injuries, but was OK and sent me the bday invitation. After the party I came back home, I felt very uncomfortable in the party because it made no sense to be there. I called an uber and came back home. She sent some messages aaking why I didn't ask her to bring me home since she has a car. I said "I don't feel comfortable asking fabors for someone that ignored me the whole night" After some messages she invited me to her house in the middle of the night and we ended up hooking up. We had an amazing weekend together. BUT SHE DIDN'T DO THE WORK. LET ME REPEAT THAT SHE. DIDN'T. DO.THE.WORK. We scheduled a drive to do the groceries for my house. I went for a walk while she was working. She called my phne and sent me messages. I didn't bring my phone for the walk. I replied immediately when I came back home, 10min after she called. My phone was blocked. All social media profiles blocked. Whatsapp and Telegram blocked and all messages deleted on Telegram. I used an incognito tab to stalk her twitter profiles for a month. She was tweeting lots of bullshits about not believing in love and going full bitch mode. Even with explicit text content about her endeavors. Huge turn off. Massive. DON'T FALLBACK TO JEALOUSY, PEOPLE it doesn't work, at least not on men. After 2 months I also blocked her. And, 3 months after blocking her, I feel no regrets and no attraction whatsoever. Might change. I don't know how this person will reach out and try something again when this changes. But 7 months after the original break up I'm feeling disgusted qith how she handled it. Especially her jealousy attempts and all her(still going) explicit tweets about her daring experiences. I didn't date anyone ever since, I'm doing my work because I know I did some bad stuff in the relationship as well, not only with this woman, but especially with another one who broke my heart deeply. Nonetheless, I'm committed to become a better person, and I'll tell you, I'm not in the mood of doing it for myself because I was always pretty happy alone and honestly I feel I'm one of the bests local men in my region. I'm really doing it for my next partner, whoever they are.
Well guess what!!! My ex has said she should've stayed in no contact in the first 2 months of our breakup! And after our last disastrous ending she said it again that she wants no contact. Yet, I'm blocked every where! So to help with it. I think she's done!
I broke up with my ex last year. We went no contact for about a month and half and she reached out. She wanted to meet up to hook up and be friends with benefits but I didn’t want that at the time. We exchanged messages for a few days and went no contact till Christmas/New Years. We reconnected since I had a death in the family and those conversations didn’t go anywhere. We reconnected again a few weeks later where she explained she wanted me to be consistent with communication. I would show my interest by reaching out to her and being consistent with my communication. She chose not to reciprocate communication so we stopped talking throughout most of the lockdown. Then she reached out for my birthday and I did the same the next month on hers. I complimented her photo she posted in a DM and she called me out for doing it. She stated it confused her since she figured I moved on since we stopped talking. I told her our communication ended since it became one sided since she didn’t seem committed to reengaging. So I basically told her I’ll leave her alone and I’ll move on since it’s pointless trying to force what isn’t going to work. We broke up originally due to communication issues. Since our breakup I took time to discover better ways to become a better communicator and how to negotiate in a relationship when there’s conflict. I’ve started talking to someone else and it’s promising so I’ve decided to not look back. I truly did all I could do to solve the situation as respectfully as possible.
Interesting topic...i broke up with my ex 6 weeks ago....she brought alot of passive aggressive,control,silent treatment behaviours into the relationship.Very unhealthy to be honest.....but,she has a side that she wont let bloom...it could be a personality disorder,but she cant reign herself in....so i dumped her... There is no way...on gods green earth,if she plays no contact...im coming after her....Even though i dumped her..and have gone no contact....She would have to bang my door down,begging me to get back. Like thats gonna happen :) So what!!.....No contact should come with a demand...Mine is respect and fairness....and im moving on either way.
Mr Mcgregor same as my girl but I cheated on her and she broke up with me. Not sure if it’s a win win since I really do miss her and am trying to get her back. I’ve apologized and done no contact for a month but she’s still very bitter
p mgc I used to say that, till it happened to me. I got drunk and kissed some other girl at a party, and that’s it. I felt bad after and tried to apologize when she found out. Wether I get her back or not, I know that I did love her.
I broke up with my girlfriend after about a year. Like the video, I had the thought for a while. I was trying to let her go the easiest way possible and told her we would have to go our separate ways to heal. (I work with her) however I still see her at work constantly but rarely speak to each other. I'm not looking to go back but rather that we are good coworkers. Time will get me there.
Im in no contact mode right now! Haven't heard from her in 4 almost 5 days and it really sucks. We've been together on and off for a year and she's 2 months pregnant but i think because of the break up she's contemplating not keeping the baby! I love her but im tired of feeling abandoned and moving on is the hardest thing to do 😥
Okay, Do I have The One Guy who IS doing the No Contact purposely. My Man didn't actually break up with me. He didn't sit me down or call me and break up with me. He just immediately went from flirty and interested and Normal to No Contact HIMSELF... I tried contacting him to Ask him what is going on...and he is Refusing to answer me or respond to me. Now there is a possibility he Thinks I betrayed him in some way, and is so furious with me, that he doesn't even think I deserve an explanation. So, Can I just text him to say Listen, if you need time or space, That's Fine, I'll give it to you.... but if You think I did something to you and you are angry..I want to at least know what you think you know because your assumptions are wrong.
My ex did it twice first time I had a talk with her and I was mad at her because ghosting is horrible and I told her if she needs something she needs to talk I don't want to play games and when you ghosting I understand it as if you want to break up. She did it again and only texted me to divorce her I tried to reach out nothing... I divorced her few days after. She came back and blamed me 100% of what happened ... I mean wth I'll find me a queen one day 😍.
Broke up with my girl becuase she was acting up in the relationship. So now I'm doing no contact to let her come to me when she is ready and wants me. Thing is, is I still want this girl. But when we broke up she admitted that she wanted to be friends to. I said "ok". Batta bing, batta boom. So now Im doing no contact, Im on my 3rd day and the 1st day was the worst. But it gets easier.
Yes. I broke up with my guy of 11 yrs. Started dating a handsome fun and smart person. Little did I know that the year zi was dating this guy would be hell. He was the biggest narcissist EVER. I was so damn tire of him mentally and physically I could not wait to breakup with. A few months later I realized that some woman was going to ge if they didn't already have my old boyfriend. I had been away from him 15 months and I just knew that he had moved on. BUT, when I want something I will go after it. I wanted him back. I called him about some family pictures. He did not respond for two weeks. I was so sad. I thought to myself, he is in a relationship. One eve he called me. He had just seen my message. No need to go on. We are back together and closer than before. He had only had one date that did not work.
Well Craig I gatta say that this video didnt convey the message i thought it would. I agree with everything you and Margaret said, but I must be in the 1% because I broke it off and I'm watching your videos 95% of the time. And I am also doing no contact to maintain my sanity. With 650 mi between my ex and I, theres really no way to reconnect in passionate way. But She contacts me every couple weeks. I dont think she has as much drive as I do to watch your videos, but the topic of this video has always popped up in my head. If I show her your channel is she gonna use your tricks on me? That always crosses my mind too. I want to be with her, but the distance just kills me. Moving forward is the best option for me and try not to look back. Hopefully she does the same.
I broke up with my girlfriend because she cheated. I'm doing no contact because I don't want to feed her ego. She told friends that she misses me and I miss her too and I do want to get back together but I can't trust her. That's why I haven't reach out to her
Well yeah, i broke up just yesterday & IM doin No contact & i told him Dont reach out to me.. coz its like a puttin my foot down thing, im fed up of the same shit over & over & bein a secret in his life for 7months.. But if he really loves me as he claims and hes talking the truth, he doesnt have someone else , then i think with this he shud still reach out to me with changes & prove me wrong.. if Not, then hes a liar & as much as it hurts, il have to move on
You guys are amazing thank you so much you are truly helping me right now I I'm going through this process and Have worked through a lot over the last 48 hours thank you both so so much
Kinda curious about this - I know they say breakups arent mutual but I DID have as close to a mutual breakup as possible - was slightly pre-emptive because I got word that he wanted to break it off, but ALSO because I was very much on the fence as well, so I pre-empted the breakup rather than continue to be held in unfair suspense by someone who seemed to want to string me along a bit longer - so 3 months of no contact is what I declared (and he reacted to that with a red heart) but said it wasnt set in stone. I know we BOTH need a good bit of time, but it was one of those situations after 2 months we could not make it 'official', some addiction issues were involved I was struggling to get past. I think my anxiety for me is waiting indefinitely. I feel like I should stick to 3 months on my end and consider breaking no contact, start over again as friends for some months; with certain plutonic boundaries in place; to see if the addiction issues are still there. OR I could fuck that up too by not letting HIM reach out on his own...idk.
I did the breaking up, and the no contact.....he reached out I let him know what I want and will except, I haven't heard from him in almost a week..... What's next? Personally I'm focusing on better myself and my life
With letting him know that you want him back you let him know that you need him, it gives him safety and it also shows you're not strong enough yourself to continue at the moment. its the best to not double text or talk to him for a couple of days. wait till he says something again.
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At first i was very skeptical. Im sorry but part of me is still worried that you Craig are like first coach who i dealed with and who just wanted my money. After first check on workbook i remained skeptic but every time i open workbook im more convinced that it is great. No magic beans, just listening understanding and changing without promising that my ex will come back. Well, im even more convinced now that listening to you and following your advices was good idea.
My neck of the woods ;) lol
I expected you guys to be skeptical, but after 500 videos, you should know me better than to put out an amazing product. This was a huge project and I truly believe it will help change your life! The reviews have all been outstanding so far!
This boils down to who dumped who. If your ex- decides to leave you, then you owe it to yourself to maintain your self respect.
Let them go and do the work. Find your center and grow into the best version of yourself you can possibly manage.
If they never reach out it simply means they just don’t care. Your best position is to simply accept it and be thankful for the experience.
Mark Michael LePianka so hard yet so damn true... really losing my mind over this. It's barely been a week and I feel like I fucked it all up already by fucking up no contact and bring it back up when she would reach out to me. Im in regret with what I've said to her and havent spoken to her the past few days... I really hope this turns around some time...
ItsSpookie - If you said things you regret you SHOULD apologize and give her the take away; ‘I’m regret having hurt you by ____ (and be specific). I can only hope that someday your feelings will change and you’ll reach out to me’.
Then walk away and NEVER look back. It’s your responsibility to do the work for your personal growth everyday.
If you do and she does reach out you’ll be ready to act like a man and lead. If she doesn’t you’ll be in the best possible position when you meet someone new.
Stay in the community and become the man you were meant to be by committing to be your best version of yourself.
Mark Michael LePianka not so much of me hurting her but more so me pursing and not respecting her space when shes asked for it. I know there's a lot I need to work on for myself and tk entertain my purpouse. Its just difficult when shes on my mind all the time.
Im trying my best not to chase...but its extremely difficult when I see her nearly every night because we both train Jiu-Jitsu. It hurts when I barely get a passing glance from her, or she just walks on by me without looking my way. Argh!
Gordon Campbell I hope so trying to do just that but of course...patience is what its going to take. Just hurts everydah trying to build myself back up to move forward with myself
Well if you did the dumping because you were getting disrespected and taken for granted, by the one getting dumped simply not contacting you what you get is that his intention was to mess things up on purpose cause he didn’t want to be with you anyways but didn’t want to be the one breaking up . If you got dumped because the person got tired and frustrated with you not walking your talk doing and staying in no contact is a big mistake. You are helping her moving on if she is a confident woman. I have 0 interest in going back to a person I broke up with because he disrespected me and on top he didn’t reach out to me to try to work things out.
Im the Ultimate No Contacter. I have been in No Contact for almost 30 years . My entire life is 1 big No Contact . Everything is Great .
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Hey, that's great. How did you do that? Share your experience. :)
LMAO... I know the feeling
Some break ups are a blessing in disguise, stop interfering with the processof the universe. It knows better
Yes.All that do not kill us will make us stronger.
@@fitemorrison5660 stop using witcraft in everything,nobody asked for a native doctor
Universe aint sentient
Breakups are there to teach you something, doesent mean you should give up on the person. It just means you have to change something.
Thank you 😊
Excellent points made here.
The bottom line really is, if your ex broke up with you and never contacted you again, that's because they just didn't want you back! So it's better to know that and move on.
Stop scamming.
What if...
A) The break up was mostly mutual?
or
B) You get dumped, but you know the dumper well enough to know that they did it because they didn't feel wanted, or they felt insecure, or not good enough? So they are far more likely to try no contact to see if you chase?
See those are two very realistic scenarios where both parties might be trying no contact to regain power, or attract the other person.
Good questions
Very good question. Someone please answer this lol
I would apologize and show that I have already known my mistake and ask for a chance. Then if my partner doesn't want to continue, then I will do no contact.
@@ewbfdw4243exactly my situation
Second one is logical. The person left you because they didn’t feel loved by you. Can be due to multiple reasons. If they left you for that and if you like them you would try to contact them and rekindle if you don’t then it means you just played them.
Although is true that the person breaking up will miss you, if they broke up because they were taken for granted or disrespected by you you going no contact is just confirming that you were no longer interested in the relationship anyways and you are just pushing the person to move on. If I broke up of course I will go no contact. I want to heal and be happy and confident again. You disrespected me, took me for granted, why am I going to go to you if on top of everything you are ignoring me? A confident person wouldn’t do that. The dumped will remain in no contact forever and will find out that no one will contact him when is already too late 🤷🏽♀️
Couldn't agree more. I am in the same situation.. and will never contact again until he reach and if he prooves he has changed
Thank you for that. I feel I was taken for granted by my ex... I tried communicating my issues and he wouldn't even have the conversation...so my only choice was to leave... it's been 5 days of no contact and he has completely ignored me. I'm praying for the strength to make it through this heart breaking moment
Same here,
still miss the guy I dumped, a lot,
If he would contact me and treat me a little better, show a little change,
then that would mean the world to me.
(8 weeks ago)
Beccy F that's a spot on! We didn't really broke up but I just didn't msg him after he told go and fuck yourself, don't fuck my brain! Im just asking him something that he doesn't want to explain in details and he gets mad easily so I feel upset and didn't msg him. He didn't msg me also after that. After 22 days, he catch up calling me in messenger. After we talked, he didn't msg again... I donno what's going on between us. I just didn't msg him coz he don't respect me anymore. He gets mad at little things. I don't feel loved. He always ignore me since we are in long distance relationship. I donno what to do. 😪
Binge Girl I've tried no contact, after 22 days he came out calling me in messenger
I cannot afford your coaching sessions but your videos have truly helped me. Thank you Coach Margaret and Coach Craig!
I said the same thing lol
Same
Sometimes people the no contact lasts for a long ass time, my ex broke up with me and she didn’t say anything for a little over 2 years, then she finally contacted me. We’ve been talking casually for about 4 months, but unfortunately I’m in Germany until March. These videos help avoid doing stupid mistakes that I’ve done in the past. People, time has made me mature and realize my mistakes, you can learn as well.
2 years!!!
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No contact works when both parties do it 😂
really?
Ohh so many comments. As a woman if a guy make a NO CONTACT for a month is not acceptable for me. I feel like i am dumb, taken for granted and he doesn't even care. I may wonder for what is happening but i can't tolerate it. I know i deserve better so i decided to walk away and erase myself in he's life. I don't see any point in the so called relationship. Therefore i block him in all ways of contact and leave it as it is. It's difficult but i keep being positive. I rather do something productive for myself and forget the past because past is a history what matters is NOW.
"And your watching day and night" Haha me 4days since been dumped all I have been doing is watching no contact videos Haha
Pearl Ephraim werd!!! Me too!!! It’s been 3 days!
It's been 2 days for me😩😂
It's my first day 😫
Are you all still on no contact? Any update?
3 days for me 😂
I broke up with my ex and haven’t contacted him. He also hasn’t contacted me. Personally my relationship was so bad because he was a narcissist that I would never contact him again. No matter what and honestly I hope he never contacts me because I don’t want to deal will everything that comes with him. So I don’t know that all of this really works because I’m done. Completely and utterly done. I miss him but I can never go back to that.
I’m the same way today. I hope you are happy now! 🙏🏻❤️
@cindychampion7836 Did you eventually get back together? Or see each other at least?
I broke up with him cuz he is not ready to commit. I had been doing ‘no contact’ for a month now and it’s so hard. Everyday i have to deal with all the memories i had with him. I wanted to start dating again but i just can’t. I feel like dating is not appealing anymore. I kinda lost interest.
Edelen Mercader that’s what I feel like my ex felt like too when she dumped me...
Same reason for me, I was hurt but didn’t want just casual anymore
Edelen, that is very sad. It is hard. Try not to think of that ...
I feel you because my ex wasn’t ready to commit too. It’s so hard but I’m getting better day by day until I have dream about him and I fall again!
Yup, me too...i think in that case no contact is the best strategy. Don’t go dating just because, you are human not a machine. If you like this guy, it will take time until you are ready to start again. Be kind to yourself and give yourself to heal.
5 day of no contact... this sucks 🥺 I was the one that messed things up and I’ve apologized and apologized. I even went to his house to talk things out, I’ve mailed him letters ( super corny ), called him drunk.. lol but I did everything to get another chance. He ignores my msgs. So I stopped.. idk what to do guys. He says he needs time and he’s confused so I took a step back and left it. I’m scared he’ll forget about me. 🥺
Update?
@MsDaddybee how did it go
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What about forced dumpers? People who forcibly break up with someone because they are not getting something (usually emotionally) from the other person. It’s not like we wanted to end things... and the dumpee still wants to be together but they need to in a sense, learn what they did wrong. Have you come across this?
I’ve come across this in other videos from other coaches. I can’t recall what they recommended but it’s easy to find
The dumper would do no contact in hopes that the dumpee would chase him or her. It’s a mind game. However, at the sign of the dumpee not making contact, the dumper would contact the dumpee IF he/she is still interested.
If the dumper truly loved you but the relationship didn’t work out and it isn’t realistically salvageable they will be doing ‘no contact’. It’s not likely that they are doing no contact to get you back but so both of you can heal and move on.
Interesting way of looking at it.
Exactly what I'm doing.
So what happens next?
Yep
That’s what I think has happened too me
I love my girl
But she is gone
She respects me but does not want back
It was a LDR which lasted 2yrs ,9months
We broke up in August last yr
I’m devastated
But I have too move on
I’m tearing up writing this
I’ve been in no contact for now 15 days
I’ve tried too patch things up
Prior
It’s over so I have too move on
my heart hurts reading this
Well I personally think that no contact is a test between, if is doesn't work out and the answer is clear, is time to move on. Learn from the past relationships and create the best version of yourself.. ♥
I always wondered what if 2 psychotherapists get into a relationship, will they 2 psychoanalyse one each other?
Haha 😂😂😂 you've made my day!
Yes they do 24.7. LOL
They need new words to express their madness
🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 Hahah ah that made me laugh.... Thanks 😂❤️
Usually we’re attracted to people that are different, yet compatible, with us. I doubt 2 psychotherapists would really be attracted to each other bc they’re probably very alike haha
If u both doing no contact that's a blessing it means you both can let each other go
I was the dumper, and I'm the one doing no contact because my x is in a rebound relationship.
I'm doing all the Things to improve my self.
It's funny you say that you have never heard of one who initiated the break up and going no contact. I broke up with her, want to text her, miss her, but I won't do it. I'm waiting on her to reach out and do the pursuing. I had to get on a level playing field again and get her interest back up as she was putting forth hardly any effort when I ended things.
HURT 1 Crap! This is what I am afraid of. That my ex is waiting for me to reach out even though he ended it with me almost 8 weeks ago. A huge part of me wants to reach out. On the other hand, I’m thinking I should just start dating new people as I approach 2 months post break up...even if I don’t want to. I’m so confused.
Marivic Febiar if he broke up with you, don't reach out. No contact at all on your end. Mine is just a little more complicated since I didn't want to break up with her anyways, but her interest level gave me no other choice..
HURT 1 I know. Still so hard. Really not in the mood to date someone new. Part of my hesitation is that the second I invite someone new into my life, my ex will somehow find out and I’m afraid of 2 things:
1. My ex will decide that was the last straw and NEVER want me back if he ever considered it at all.
2. I might actually like the new guy enough to want to pursue, but my ex may come back at the most inopportune moment and I’d feel inclined to revisit our relationship, which is not fair to the hypothetical new guy.
Of course, this is all just a big maybe. But it freaks me out. 😫
That’s not what will get him back. Making real lasting changes makes someone want to come back
Coach Craig Kenneth any tips for my initial comment? Struggling with this on what to do.
I am one person that has just broke up with someone. And I’m going no contact because she was toxic. I’ve even blocked her on every platform possible.
what if i neglected my ex emotionally, with lack attention, lack of commitment and stability...freshly after the break up when i was begging she told me “you cant keep walkig in and out of my life” and that she still saw a future with me, its been 8 months no contact... im happy and i do believe ive changed for the better im just at the point where either ill get some closure or its showing her that i do care and that i do wanna work things out
first and only love, dated for 7 and a half years (on and off) never a break up this long or serious
8 months of no contact is long. Stay the course brother!
Seb Desormeaux we have very similar situations if you wanna talk about it hmu
Seb Desormeaux if thats a fact. You need to show her 10x. She loves you. And probably loved you hard. Every second love her harder. When yall fight and happy. That's love.
@sebdesormeaux6669 update?
My ex broke up with me 4 years ago, she made it no contact then used a court order of no contact. I obliged, 4 years later she has been contacting people close to me and even sent me a text asking me if we can talk on the phone. Because I have never been involved with law enforcement until her shenanigans I did not answer her text and I changed my phone number. As far as I’m concerned the police order of no contact stands. I have no interest with her and have moved on.
I guess I'm the exception, because I did the breaking up and I've gone 'no contact' for over 3 months now 🤷♂️
Unless you give valid reasons, then by all means you're not making sense
I have double tunnel vision. I have been depressed since a year and been visiting psychologist after he dumped me. I loved him so much but it hurts to think that he left me when I needed him the most. I’ve been doing NC since I moved out of our apartment(3moths) . I left him in comfort after I invested all my energy and time to build up that home for both of us. I felt used for long time. He didn’t pay back the money i lend him to pay for his first car. I waited but now I am learning to let go. I learned my lesson. Never built up somebody’s future man. I still remember how his attitude shifted once he had what he wanted . Job- I helped him to write a application, resume , Car- I paid for it, comfortable home. It’s too much to take. Hurts to the core how he saw me small afterwards.
Is it pretty rare that an ex doesn’t eventually reach out when you go no contact?
No contact after breakup is good. But pls try to move on. Whenever I broke up with somebody I meant it and didn't want them back, no contact didn't changed it at all. And the opposite is also true: If someone doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you, don't waste your time. What if your ex contacts with you with some stupid question about their sneakers location. F. your sneakers they're at where you put them, go and get them on your own. Just because of such stupid question arises it doesn't mean that they would love you better this time or the relationship would work out better.
Maybe they’ll go no contact to help strengthen and build themselves up to stand by their decision.
They go n.c because They rather don't wanne talk to you because They don't want to mislead you that there is a chance of coming back together
Until they (the dumper) decides they do want you back.
Really curious to know about whether a person who does the breaking up BECAUSE the other person won’t fully commit is the breaker-upper or the breakee? I do no contact even though I’ve broken it off as it’s only because of the reason above. He then tends to also do no contact. Oh so confusing!
Hi Craig. I have been watching your videos and focusing on personal growth for the last six months. I guess I am your first, because I broke up with my GF, and I went no contact. It was the only way to prevent her from stalking and seducing me back into the relationship for a 6th time - yes, six. I realized my weakness (her beauty), and had to decide on self respect over beauty. I did not feel respected or valued by her, compared to the respect and time I gave her. The only times my needs were met, were after a breakup. That would last for about 3-4 months, before the pattern repeated itself - me breaking up with her due to her behavior, and then her apologizing, and seducing me back in. So, yes, I broke up with her, went no contact, watch your videos, and am focusing on not repeating my pattern of falling for BPD women. I miss her every day, and have to fight not to reach out to her.
I did..I broke it off and went directly "no contact"...learned it from a previous relationship and watching these videos. Honestly, I do miss her but am doing this to teach her a lesson...that I meant what I warned her about....to stop micromanaging me. Wonder what the odds of getting back together are. She texted once, that was about a bill to be paid...lol.
🤨😊😂 about a bill? She is a moocher.
@Aron Bechiom how did it go
I like you guys. You're very informative and factual. Keep up the good work. :)
I know my ex is so stubborn and I'm the same, so I don't think any of us will back down.
Well in all honesty if I break up or stop talking to someone it depends what they did wrong. That will determine if I will even feel like talking or reaching out… it all depends on the amount of disrespect they did to me.
I did the initiating of the break up after being taken for granted, the inconsistency in communication, and his continued distance toward me. I really didnt feel that he cared at all. Though I love and miss him and would gladly contact him any day...I really do not feel that the ball is in my court. If he cares he will reach out. If he doesn't. ..then I know full well that what I felt was true.
Btw I started NC too. I tried to reconcile with him after I broke up with him but he basically said TC. which is fine.
Valentina Duran update?
Update?
But I think if you were abusive and you've been bad, they might not reach out to you. I've listened to many situation people were very mean and abusive to their partners and missing them afterwards. Some come back, some trying to move on. There's a possibility if you've been abusive to them, they might not reach out to you, even if they miss you. Because they need to respect themselves.
Well said couldnt agree more
If you believe you weren’t a good partner, then you REALLY need my workbook series
Jilly Tube I didn't mean to go no contact. After he told me to go fuck myself, I dont know what to reply. I feel hurt. I was waiting for him to say sorry but he didn't msg me anything.
I would think the person who has been dumped has the most leverage and power in the “ no contact “..if, the dumper contacts them
Hi Graig!!!today is day 9 after my breakup and my no contact!!!in the morning I went to my fitness school and my ex too...I follow no contact strictly....when my courses finished,I was ready to get in my car and my ex stopped her car beside me!!!so asked how am I,I asked her too,and that she is sorry that she didn’t talk to me before today bcz she was difficult for her but she said she was staring at me...I acted chill and still do like I should and at the end she said see u again....and she left!!!i think that this is a good sign right!??thank u Graig for ur time!!
I was the one who broke up and I'm in no contact right now. So I might be an exception 😁 we are an anxious-avoidant couple and I'm the anxious. So I needed to end the circle. He is in therapy right now and I'm attending one soon. So I'm giving him as the avoidant the space to lose all the negative emotion he has connected with me(deactivating strategies). I hope it works and he can remember all the positive things we had in our relationship.
@@shernadehosein3749 it's been two weeks at this point and he hasn't reached out yet. The first week was literally hell for me, but it got better this week. I would highly recommend looking for someone to talk to, either only coaching with Craig or going to therapy. It really helps coping!
Hey there, any updates? :)
@@Lev15157 we're back together, we both went to therapy and have a pretty safe and amazing relationship now 😊 but I must say, it took both of us a lot of work and commitment. If one of us weren't be willing to work on it, there would not have been much hope for us (was that an actual English sentence? 😅)
@Anna Cash that's amazing! Thank you for giving me that little spark of hope :) been 2.5 weeks no co tact at this point after an amicable breakup, although I know she wanted it more I let her go with dignity and stopped contacting her that night. Stay safe!
My situation is that she initiated no contact to force me to move on. I haven’t broken it (5 months now), but neither has she. Pretty sure this is the new normal.
What is update
5 months?!?!
Dude move on
Andrew Lawson After so long, it’s obvious it’s totally over. We have been broken up for a little over 90 days, but I totally initiated this second no contact. I think after 90 more days, I’ll be great! We were friends for 21 years! I guess we were never friends or lovers!
My bf and I have been together for two years, living together for about a year. Our relationship started getting sour bc of working together AND living together. It was to the point where I left the job to get another one, for our sake. After I left my job, everything changed. He decided that “we live together” so now he started making plans w his friends and pretty much say I’m too much. I’m not going to lie, I have issues. (Jealousy issues) I know he wouldn’t cheat but I wanted him to myself. Which ultimately pushed him away. We love each other so much but we lack communication. One day he loved me, the next he couldn’t stand me. We were falling apart and I couldn’t bare it. Being emotionally vulnerable in front of him made him pity me in a way. We just needed space.
One night we end up arguing. We were supposed to go out w a group of friends. Turns out he lied to me about it so I wouldn’t go, and he could only go. When I confronted him I noticed that he changed my contact name & pic on his phone. He had been extra careful with his phone too. I assumed he’s cheating and kicked him out.
He left sobbing. I felt bad bc I knew he had no place to go but I couldn’t be around the emotional abuse. He still went out that night. It’s been two days, he’s staying at a hotel. Most of his belongings are still here. If he was reaaallly done with me he’d get them, right? I also noticed that he added old girls he knew liked him. I know we have something there....I just..I miss him but refuse to contact him first. Should I?
My ex and I dated 7 months. We had a very deep rooted connection . An very loving . We shared many first for her . Emotionally sentimentally and sexually . But members of her family started getting her convinced that I could not take care of her . So she became overwhelmed . Asked for some space . I tryed to stop it. But I did the gentleman thing and gave it to her . She said it was killing her & braking her heart . Then less then 4weeks she is dating another man. Posting all over Facebook about how great he is & how happy she is. Then a week into this relationship new relationship. She text me just to say . I hope your ok. If he is so great & everything to her . Why would she care how I'm doing?
Because she still wants to know if she can keep you as a backup while she finds someone "better". You should never reply or reach out to her.
Also trying to ease her guilt so she can continue with the new guy.
I was the dumper and went no contact. I loved him deeply. He was neglecting me and stoped putting but kept saying he loved me. He didn't fight at all to keep me...at all. So yeah...thats when a dumper goes no contact.
You should reach out if you were the one that ended things!
@@harshjones1688 nah. He took me for granted. I gave him lots of chances and I was an amazing gf I never fought with him. He would avoid me for weeks on end. He never took care of me when I was sick. He didn't want to be the bad guy so he would neglect me until I couldn't take it. I felt so lonely and unloved. He wanted me to be the bad guy and end it. He was a coward. I'll never speak to him again.
I did the breaking up because he didn’t do something special for my birthday, and then called me childish when I expressed that i didn’t feel cared for. And I’m doing no contact because when I tried to work it out with him, he still didn’t realize he was wrong so I have to do the no contact.
Walk away. You deserve better. He treats you this way now, it's not going to get any better after 10 years of marriage.
@@karenbrowning4919 yea I walked away from him. I'm over it.
He took you to Mac Donalds for you b day and bought you nuggets . I would be greatful
Lysa Wade
I hate to be the one to tell you this but he's the lucky one. Now maybe he can find someone that will appreciate (What the does for them instead of what he didn't do)
Hubert White - . I dont know what truly happenned in this person’s case but dont think we should jump to that conclusion but from personal experience - i made my ex feel important and priority everyday and even more so on his bday and not get the recipercorate - truly hurts. I am not a materialistic or superficial person - i would have cherished a hand written card, a wildflower, a cheap fake bracelet - i dont care. Just acknowledge that i meant something to u. So in my opinon she is the lucky one since i left too and am hoping for someone that will make me as priority as i will make them.
I feel the holy spirit strengthening me as I have heard a promise from the spirit to wait 36 weeks. There is an opportunity to see him in Sept at a wine festistal if he chooses to try to see me. I have to heal and become secure in myself and my faith between then and now, knowing that in that amount of time alot could change in either of our lives. But I hear Gods promise that he will bring me to a place of being fully ready to date agian by that time. I like that I'm giving myself a time frame to heal and the hope of having something even better. Whether it's with James or someone else doesnt matter.. I know what I want in a realtionship, and it is a process that God is working in me to be the best person I can be for someone special.
Exult in the lord
Thanks for your help! We're not broken up, we're in the break phase --he just left bc of my toxic abuse. great channel.
Your description of depression is sublime ❤️
Well, i broke up with my GF and i went no contact strategy, but in my case, i still love her, but she refused to breakup a "friendship" with this guy she was having a non-physical affair over the past 3 months, and after 3 chances for her to deal with the problem, now i know the guy is a manipulative player that have fun doing this things... So im doing it, she took the bite, know we are working on resolution, but it will be a long process...
I was literally told (after reaching out six weeks later because we had an somewhat random face to face where she had to help me with paperwork at her job), that she wanted no contact because that’s how she properly moved on. She was head over heels in love with me when she blindsided me with the break up. There was no lead up. She just decided we had no future after five or six months of telling me she loved me 3 times a day.
My ex broke up with me in 2009 I'm still not over it. He's moved on different girlfriends and he never reached out to me. I did. He responded while he was in a relationship. But nothing happened .
Well Craig let me be the first to tell you... I am the gentleman who broke up with her and I'm in no contact. After 1 year of dating and it was an amazing year, I do love and care for her but realized I was being taken for granted so I had to let her go, I realized I hurt her and I feel bad about that, but I also have more respect for myself to not be taken for granted. So I have initiated no contact and I am waiting for her to reach out and realize that she screwed things up and what she's going to do to fix it so far it's been 6 weeks and I've heard nothing from her. If I don't ever hear from her again which I suppose that will be the case she is very stubborn as well as I, then I guess it wasn't meant to be.
Really curious what your opinion is on this, I'm hoping she realizes that she just blew the best thing that ever happened to her.
Well maybe its not the same no contact that you’re talking about coach, but sort of a no contact in their way. For example, I had a friend that dumped her bf, after a year of being apart, she was thinking it’s been a while and she wanted to know how he was and talk to him - but she didn’t , she was afraid to. The way she hurt him etc and how awkward it would be. She said if he reaches out then it would be different
if he contacts her...what does she want to hear, from him?
It's me, I broke up with them and went no contact. I have to wait for them, they were hiding our entire relationship. If I go to them they won't come out of hiding. Nothing would change
I haven’t contact my ex since he broke up with me a month ago. Funny is I wished him the best and he didn’t even wish me the best at all. I have self respect ✊... Not reaching out
i broke up with her, after a a couple weeks i want to date her again, im testing the water but its not working so far
My girlfriend cheated me. She got message from unknown number, and she was doing chat with him. I said to block that person. But she lie with me and said I will not talk to him. Then after some days she said I made him my new B.F then I show anger to her and also weep in front of her. But she has no effect of this. Instead of blocking new b.f, she block me and dumped me
she's immature and not worth it
WOW!!!!Finding your video this morning was "no mistake"~ YOU BOTH have given me such valuable insight and stre both to pick myself UP, dust myself off and face my day with a big smile~ I will no longer give my ex the power to incriminate my feelings. SO GLAD I RAN INTO YIUR VIDEO!! You both "keep it real"~!! You both are the REAL DEAL and don't use psychological terms that make it so blasè. "THANK YOU"~😁
Yall are the best keep doin ya thing. Yall helping me out so much
My ex was on therapy even before breaking up with me and we had contact 1 week after the breakup and she told me the therapist said to her she needed to stop all communication with me and all my friends and family to move on, so yeah, the dumper is using no contact to move on. So all my family and friends have been blocked from all social media. Its been already 2 months. 😭
Great video. Love your work. However, I got dumped this past Monday. She also happens to have her M.A. in psychology. Needless to say I was upset and said a few things but nothing overtly damaging when she told me the news. She said to me that she will give me my space to grieve and will not contact me. Two days later, she contacted me but prefaced the text message saying "this will be my one initiated contact". So, she might be employing a no contact rule too.
I left my relationship of 2.5 years. I won't answer any text from him at all. I received several text from him and one minute he sends how much he loves me and the next he sends texts that aren't nice kinda rude and accusing me of stuff which are not even true so I feel disrespected and am not gonna waste my time. I plan on taking time to just heal and making myself more important. I gave him a chance but was truly disappointed.
I'm broken up with her and i going to no contact rule because i want to give her and my self a space to know is this true love feeling or not.
That's stupid
Going out with someone else! That's what she's doing during NC. Blindsided me after our last two times together which were really good. Honestly, at no time did I think anything was wrong when we were together. We'd been drifting apart for about six months but maintained some contact. After our final time together, romantic outdoor lunch with hand holding with a kiss goodbye, she dropped the bomb two days later. I have a new guy friend in my life now. So who knows what she's thinking but my guess is him and not me anymore. Day 8 of NC but she has all the power so there's really not much I can do. Would come across as needy and desperate. Respect yourself, take the pain, move on. Find someone better.
I broke up with her and find out two days later she has been on a dating site for about a month. I have not contacted her in almost three weeks and agree with you that she has all the power and there is nothing you can do but move on. I am going to Florida in mid February for 6 weeks -- whata bet she calls right before then?
I don't know why but i find the lady's comments in the 1st part hilarious.Her comic timing is perfect XD
while every video is amazing , i swear it seems Fridays are the days you drop the hot fire , may have to start calling it "Friday fire " :) , amazing video coaches thank you !!
could not agree more :)
@7:35 My girlfriend and I are agreeing to do no contact, as instructed by our therapist, during a BREAK, not a break up, which SHE wanted . She has reached out a few times in indirect direct by talking about a bill or two. But now, after telling her that she needs to trust me that I'll take care of the bills and to stick to no contact, there's complete radio silence. I slipped, I told her after a week, that I was proud of her strength and courage to stay with the no contact. Then I wished her a happy birthday. No response whatsoever. So, I've decided to buckle down, enforce some serious self discipline and continue no contact. So, I, or uh, we (my girlfriend and I) are an exception to that rule. Do you think this will complicate my efforts of no contact?
I am the person in the video whose doing no contact. I was rekindling things with my ex but we wasn’t in a relationship. We have known each other since childhood and we have an extensive history.We have always had feelings for each other but the situation is never right for us to thrive. It’s a complicated situation, but I want him back. We both love each other but we are in different places of what we both want. It was taking a toll on our relationship, with me more so than him. I just felt for my own sanity I needed to take a step back and give him time to miss me. I wanted to regroup and reevaluate myself. I feel as though he always expect me to be around and he takes me for granted. He said that he loved me and wanted us to be together but he not ready for a relationship. From the outside looking in I know it would seem like he’s taking advantage and I should just move on but that’s not our situation. Even his family know how much he loves me but can tell he’s got some things to work out. They want us to be together but think I should do what’s best for me right now. I told him when he feels like he’s ready to be committed to come and find me.
My brother girl friend left him 12 yrs ago and she still passes by with out stopping by even though she has no business being they're but never stops! I think shes playing being tease !!!
What if I was upset and started spewing my feelings and she says "I really need space we should do a clean breakup and not talk for 30 days." and she also blocked me on social media and says, "I don't want to see what you're doing". Then mentions being friends and I politely say, I'm not interested in friends and I'll leave you alone. If you're interested in dating again, reach out. I'm going to focus on myself." As a way to reclaim power I basically said I don't care about the 30 days, I won't reach out to you. it's up to you to reach out to me when you miss me.
Sounds like you did a good job. How's it going?
@@Weimerica8841 she came back and realized she made a mistake. We both went to therapy and we were basically apart for 3 months. Now we’re happier than ever. It wasn’t even all me, some of it was but it was just trauma and attachment stuff. Now we’re both aware. Me walking away made her realize how much she missed me and wanted me, especially when the grass wasn’t greener. She got depressed and couldn’t stop thinking about me until she broke down 3am one night and called. She wanted to come see me and was very emotional. We’ve been together since then. Coach’s stuff works. It’s not easy and it was the most pain I’ve ever been in but it worked. I also realized my own value and trauma and such through therapy and I’m much more confident and secure. It was really all a huge lesson learned.
@@Watts24fps Thank you for the update, I'm glad to hear that things are going well for both of you now
It's really hard.. The guy I was seeing is now ignoring me and giving the exucte he sbhsy and that he will call me once he's free. We had such a great connection for months and coz I over reacted to a few things which was natural to me, he felt I pushed him or rejected and now he's pushing me awya. I cry so much coz the memories are haunting me. I miss him to bits. I don't know if he misses me. He doesn't even ask how I am anymore. I'm so upset. I fell in love with him after 5 months of knowing him and I felt he had feelings for me too but I am miserable now. I don't think I will ever like someone else the way I liked him. Im just sad and I hooe we get a second chance. He made me smile and now he's making me cry. 😔😔😔
I broke up with my girlfriend and she immediately went no contact and blocked me on everything. I tried to contact her for 2 months with no success. Now I'm doing no contact. It's been about a month. I'm working on myself and as time continues to pass in having more and more thoughts that she doesn't deserve me anyways
Me and the guy I loved different in everything.. starting from religion,culture and everything.. we knew it won’t work out between us,however i was okay with it and ready to fight for it till he started to ignores me like hell and do all the things that bothers me , he was pushing me away from him, till I asked him it he wanted me to just let it go and forget him he answered yeah it’s better for you and am not the one for you.. now am doing the no contact and I am not sure if he will really reach out or no, or shall I initiate the first move or not or to just forget totally about him.. 😭😭am still in love with him ..
Ryoom Kanaan if he didn't do any action to win u back, it's time to let him go. There will always be someone. I hope you feel ok now
Hi Coach Craig, I'm afraid my ex who broke up with me two years ago always said that when breaking up she doesn't stay in touch.... we have spoken from time to time but she always minimized things.... not share things to do with her etc... been horrible... I've never believed in it and now just broken up with someone of 6 months.... I will always bee there to talk to and hope that it will help her through it.... I also know just how bad it feels to be cut off, from you ex and their family.... worst feeling in the world, and I can't do that to another human being.... one of the other coaches has just made me realize a it about me and how I have work to be done on myself for still pining after my first ex..... the problem is still in that the break-up happened due to factors that I had no control over.... i.e. stress of dying mother and therefore inability to move forward in life as a couple. Now, this has sadly changed and I would still forgive my ex everthing but she's still not wanting to get back..... tells me maybe my mum etc was an easy excuse for her.... also did she even love me properly at all? I need to learn to love myself enough to see that giving more time towards her is to do myself an injustice...... apparently inbedded in me from childhood..... all big stuff.... fortunately I have a counsellor and will talk more with her about this..... cheers folks 😊
I am the one who has decided to go no contact. We did not break up we actually last talk on a good note. I just got tired of being sprung along. So I decided to go no contact.
Tiesha Jackson update?
I'm a dumper who did no contact. And I must say, it doesn't last long. We are aware we do have responsibility. Let me tell you the whole story after breaking up. Because she didn't do the work and ended up screwing something that could turn out great:
She begged, did grand gestures and all. Good reminder texts, nothing made me change my mind. I did want to get along again, but I was seeing through all these anxious behaviors. She called me names, send me 78 messages overnight, I'm not exaggerating.
3 months after that, I have bible studies with her father, he invited me to her bday party and I said I'd have to gauge her feelings because I didn't want to hurt her and make her feel bad.
I reached out. She told all these bs aboit having changed a lot, forgiving people including me and that she still had injuries, but was OK and sent me the bday invitation.
After the party I came back home, I felt very uncomfortable in the party because it made no sense to be there.
I called an uber and came back home. She sent some messages aaking why I didn't ask her to bring me home since she has a car. I said "I don't feel comfortable asking fabors for someone that ignored me the whole night"
After some messages she invited me to her house in the middle of the night and we ended up hooking up. We had an amazing weekend together.
BUT SHE DIDN'T DO THE WORK. LET ME REPEAT THAT
SHE. DIDN'T. DO.THE.WORK.
We scheduled a drive to do the groceries for my house. I went for a walk while she was working.
She called my phne and sent me messages. I didn't bring my phone for the walk.
I replied immediately when I came back home, 10min after she called.
My phone was blocked. All social media profiles blocked.
Whatsapp and Telegram blocked and all messages deleted on Telegram.
I used an incognito tab to stalk her twitter profiles for a month. She was tweeting lots of bullshits about not believing in love and going full bitch mode. Even with explicit text content about her endeavors.
Huge turn off. Massive. DON'T FALLBACK TO JEALOUSY, PEOPLE it doesn't work, at least not on men.
After 2 months I also blocked her. And, 3 months after blocking her, I feel no regrets and no attraction whatsoever. Might change. I don't know how this person will reach out and try something again when this changes. But 7 months after the original break up I'm feeling disgusted qith how she handled it. Especially her jealousy attempts and all her(still going) explicit tweets about her daring experiences.
I didn't date anyone ever since, I'm doing my work because I know I did some bad stuff in the relationship as well, not only with this woman, but especially with another one who broke my heart deeply.
Nonetheless, I'm committed to become a better person, and I'll tell you, I'm not in the mood of doing it for myself because I was always pretty happy alone and honestly I feel I'm one of the bests local men in my region. I'm really doing it for my next partner, whoever they are.
Well guess what!!! My ex has said she should've stayed in no contact in the first 2 months of our breakup! And after our last disastrous ending she said it again that she wants no contact. Yet, I'm blocked every where! So to help with it. I think she's done!
I broke up with my ex last year. We went no contact for about a month and half and she reached out. She wanted to meet up to hook up and be friends with benefits but I didn’t want that at the time. We exchanged messages for a few days and went no contact till Christmas/New Years. We reconnected since I had a death in the family and those conversations didn’t go anywhere. We reconnected again a few weeks later where she explained she wanted me to be consistent with communication. I would show my interest by reaching out to her and being consistent with my communication. She chose not to reciprocate communication so we stopped talking throughout most of the lockdown. Then she reached out for my birthday and I did the same the next month on hers. I complimented her photo she posted in a DM and she called me out for doing it. She stated it confused her since she figured I moved on since we stopped talking. I told her our communication ended since it became one sided since she didn’t seem committed to reengaging. So I basically told her I’ll leave her alone and I’ll move on since it’s pointless trying to force what isn’t going to work.
We broke up originally due to communication issues. Since our breakup I took time to discover better ways to become a better communicator and how to negotiate in a relationship when there’s conflict. I’ve started talking to someone else and it’s promising so I’ve decided to not look back. I truly did all I could do to solve the situation as respectfully as possible.
Interesting topic...i broke up with my ex 6 weeks ago....she brought alot of passive aggressive,control,silent treatment behaviours into the relationship.Very unhealthy to be honest.....but,she has a side that she wont let bloom...it could be a personality disorder,but she cant reign herself in....so i dumped her...
There is no way...on gods green earth,if she plays no contact...im coming after her....Even though i dumped her..and have gone no contact....She would have to bang my door down,begging me to get back.
Like thats gonna happen :)
So what!!.....No contact should come with a demand...Mine is respect and fairness....and im moving on either way.
Mr Mcgregor same as my girl but I cheated on her and she broke up with me. Not sure if it’s a win win since I really do miss her and am trying to get her back. I’ve apologized and done no contact for a month but she’s still very bitter
@@timesconflux42 if you cheated you dont respect her or love her. That's immature and lacks integrity.
p mgc I used to say that, till it happened to me. I got drunk and kissed some other girl at a party, and that’s it. I felt bad after and tried to apologize when she found out. Wether I get her back or not, I know that I did love her.
I broke up with my girlfriend after about a year. Like the video, I had the thought for a while. I was trying to let her go the easiest way possible and told her we would have to go our separate ways to heal. (I work with her) however I still see her at work constantly but rarely speak to each other. I'm not looking to go back but rather that we are good coworkers. Time will get me there.
Im in no contact mode right now! Haven't heard from her in 4 almost 5 days and it really sucks. We've been together on and off for a year and she's 2 months pregnant but i think because of the break up she's contemplating not keeping the baby! I love her but im tired of feeling abandoned and moving on is the hardest thing to do 😥
Bro this shit hard asf I'm at day 3 she broke up with me and tries to friendzone me so I block her number and restricted her on Instagram.. .
I am the dumper due to his actions and I knew when I drove away I was going NC.
I did. I broke up with him. Going no contact but he is also
Okay, Do I have The One Guy who IS doing the No Contact purposely.
My Man didn't actually break up with me. He didn't sit me down or call me and break up with me. He just immediately went from flirty and interested and Normal to No Contact HIMSELF... I tried contacting him to Ask him what is going on...and he is Refusing to answer me or respond to me.
Now there is a possibility he Thinks I betrayed him in some way, and is so furious with me, that he doesn't even think I deserve an explanation. So, Can I just text him to say Listen, if you need time or space, That's Fine, I'll give it to you.... but if You think I did something to you and you are angry..I want to at least know what you think you know because your assumptions are wrong.
My ex did it twice first time I had a talk with her and I was mad at her because ghosting is horrible and I told her if she needs something she needs to talk I don't want to play games and when you ghosting I understand it as if you want to break up. She did it again and only texted me to divorce her I tried to reach out nothing... I divorced her few days after. She came back and blamed me 100% of what happened ... I mean wth I'll find me a queen one day 😍.
I went no contact for 15 years before she reached out. Actually, I wasn't in no contact game. It was the end. Detached.
Broke up with my girl becuase she was acting up in the relationship. So now I'm doing no contact to let her come to me when she is ready and wants me. Thing is, is I still want this girl. But when we broke up she admitted that she wanted to be friends to. I said "ok". Batta bing, batta boom. So now Im doing no contact, Im on my 3rd day and the 1st day was the worst. But it gets easier.
Ashoka. Update?
@@sandrae2319 Got over her, we are truly over and I am happy, I dong need her. She disrespected me. She doesnt deserve me
Ashoka. Glad to hear that for you :) did she ever reach out?
@@sandrae2319 we actually talk every now and then. We are friends but I dont chat with her that much
Great video, this is exactly what I needed to watch
But what if they leave us for another person will they regret for leaving us and miss us 😪😪
Yes. I broke up with my guy of 11 yrs. Started dating a handsome fun and smart person. Little did I know that the year zi was dating this guy would be hell. He was the biggest narcissist EVER. I was so damn tire of him mentally and physically I could not wait to breakup with. A few months later I realized that some woman was going to ge if they didn't already have my old boyfriend. I had been away from him 15 months and I just knew that he had moved on. BUT, when I want something I will go after it. I wanted him back. I called him about some family pictures. He did not respond for two weeks. I was so sad. I thought to myself, he is in a relationship. One eve he called me. He had just seen my message. No need to go on. We are back together and closer than before. He had only had one date that did not work.
Well Craig I gatta say that this video didnt convey the message i thought it would. I agree with everything you and Margaret said, but I must be in the 1% because I broke it off and I'm watching your videos 95% of the time. And I am also doing no contact to maintain my sanity. With 650 mi between my ex and I, theres really no way to reconnect in passionate way. But She contacts me every couple weeks. I dont think she has as much drive as I do to watch your videos, but the topic of this video has always popped up in my head. If I show her your channel is she gonna use your tricks on me? That always crosses my mind too. I want to be with her, but the distance just kills me. Moving forward is the best option for me and try not to look back. Hopefully she does the same.
But the real question is what do they miss
I broke up with my girlfriend because she cheated. I'm doing no contact because I don't want to feed her ego. She told friends that she misses me and I miss her too and I do want to get back together but I can't trust her. That's why I haven't reach out to her
Well yeah, i broke up just yesterday & IM doin No contact & i told him Dont reach out to me.. coz its like a puttin my foot down thing, im fed up of the same shit over & over & bein a secret in his life for 7months.. But if he really loves me as he claims and hes talking the truth, he doesnt have someone else , then i think with this he shud still reach out to me with changes & prove me wrong.. if Not, then hes a liar & as much as it hurts, il have to move on
You guys are amazing thank you so much you are truly helping me right now I I'm going through this process and Have worked through a lot over the last 48 hours thank you both so so much
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+2349056214156⏯⏯⏯ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up....
Kinda curious about this - I know they say breakups arent mutual but I DID have as close to a mutual breakup as possible - was slightly pre-emptive because I got word that he wanted to break it off, but ALSO because I was very much on the fence as well, so I pre-empted the breakup rather than continue to be held in unfair suspense by someone who seemed to want to string me along a bit longer - so 3 months of no contact is what I declared (and he reacted to that with a red heart) but said it wasnt set in stone. I know we BOTH need a good bit of time, but it was one of those situations after 2 months we could not make it 'official', some addiction issues were involved I was struggling to get past. I think my anxiety for me is waiting indefinitely. I feel like I should stick to 3 months on my end and consider breaking no contact, start over again as friends for some months; with certain plutonic boundaries in place; to see if the addiction issues are still there. OR I could fuck that up too by not letting HIM reach out on his own...idk.
Great video, Coach! I don't think I heard this one covered in a video before.
We are BOTH no contact. In actually relieved 🌟
I did the breaking up, and the no contact.....he reached out I let him know what I want and will except, I haven't heard from him in almost a week..... What's next? Personally I'm focusing on better myself and my life
With letting him know that you want him back you let him know that you need him, it gives him safety and it also shows you're not strong enough yourself to continue at the moment. its the best to not double text or talk to him for a couple of days. wait till he says something again.