this was supposed to be a “clean with me” video but my ADHD had other plans
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- I've been needing to clean up my studio for weeks now, and today is finally the day. I have put it off for FAR too long, so would you mind being my body double? This started out as my attempt to make a "clean with me" type of video that was calm and straight-forward...but things took a hard left when I found an old pregnancy test that send the rest of the day into a bit of chaos.
This might not be the most helpful "clean with me" video you've ever watched on youtube, but it is eventful. Things got clean. Lost items were found. Urgent care was visited.
It's truly all happening here in these 18 minutes. 😂
Just keep hitting singles.
Love you! ♥
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I LOVE that you don't put your kids on social media! I really, really don't like how normal it is to just put your child on the internet without their consent.
This x 1000000%!!
I’m doing the best I can as I learn! I used to post them online when my social media was simply just my friends and family who saw my content. But as my platform grew, suddenly I became aware of how wide and far content can go once it’s posted. It’s pretty scary when you know the ins and outs of how content travels online.
Or understanding what putting themselves on the internet means
@@elyse_myers Absolutely! The internet is a scary place in general, and especially for kids. Thank you for being wonderful!
@@elyse_myers thank you! It is scary! And I mean this with absolutely no offense, but I do not want or need to see them. You can talk about them without me seeing them. I don't watch parents who show their kid to the camera much anymore, because I'm always worried for the child.
The panic attack about the test, the speech about crocs & the spiral about the book coffee was all SO relatable I swear I have had all of these moments almost exactly 😂😭❤️
Yes, exactly what I wanted to say!
So relatable!! Me tooo
This is so me too
I actually feel the same about Crocs. Never felt so seen cuz I can't stand them, but the pins GET me. ❤
Wow. I am literally sitting on my computer doom scrolling, wondering where the last 2 hours just went, completely paralyzed from being productive and cleaning the way I want and need to right now. And Elyse swoops in to save me and give me the motivation I need 😭
TH-cam KNEW YOU NEEDED THIS TODAY! You’re doing great, you’ve got this! ♥️
NUUUUP Elyse fits into the "too entertaining" category!! can't clean *and* watch her 😂😂
I really like the method of: go through a room with a trash bag - pick up trash; go through the room with a laundry basket - pick up clothes; go through and pick up dishes, put them in kitchen... That helps me when I'm just like ... paralyzed sos
I've been really stuck and couldn't think of a different way to approach the mess around here. You gave me a really good idea to try. Thank you!
Yes! This sounds like advice from the amazing book “How to Keep House While Drowning,” which is incredibly compassionate and helpful. I listened to the audiobook, probably while doing my dishes 😜
@@MLiesel I’m gonna have to read that! Or listen haha
I call that the ABCs. Bed, clothes, dishes, garbage
“How to keep house while drowning” is great, “Organizing at the speed” of life saved our home, and Elyse’s method here is like the batching method from the AMAZING book “the anti-planner” (if y’all have adhd this book is worth buying!)
So I was really having a bad mental health moment. On the floor crying bad. I have a tiktok list with videos that help me feel better, and one of those was yours saying that you’ll believe in me even if I don’t believe in myself. It meant the world to me and I came to youtube in the hopes that you would have content here and honestly, just watching you clean calmed me down so much. Thank you for everything
Virtual hug from a random internet stranger. I’m sorry you’re going through a rough patch. Wishing you light and happiness.
Hope things get better for you soon. *Massive hugs* 💖
I feel this deeply to my core. As a 30 yr old mom myself, I feel so overwhelmed with cleaning and time management. I got officially diagnosed with ADHD last summer after finally unmasking years of symptoms. I struggle with depression and anxiety as well. Your content has made me feel so sane and normal. I pray I get to meet you in person one day & give you the biggest hug ❤
I’m with you momma!! 31 and a mom with all the above. Sending you love ♥️
Sorry for going off topic, but I love your sweater, it's so cute!
As a Starbucks barista, I will say, you can’t get cold brew as decaf. so the only way that we can make that drink decaf and as similar as possible is to make a decaf iced Americano. We would still be able to add the syrup and the foam on top! Hope this helps!
I completely blanked and realized the author meant iced americano! I was thinking they were saying salted caramel cold foam on top of a hot decaf americano which still I guess would make sense but not as much! Hahaha yours makes more sense! Thank you! My brain really just exited the building while reading that 😂
You accomplished something new on your list in this video. You went to 2 stores looking for a pregnancy test cause you needed it, and you didn't order it off Amazon! You're still doing it! Congratulations! This was a win!
I was so panicked I actually didn’t realize how big of an accomplishment that was until a few people pointed it out in the comments! That’s so cool! PROGRESS!!!
I have stopped following a lot of accounts where the kids are shown. I love following parenting accounts, but I can't support parents using their children the way many do. I actually learned all about it when you announced you weren't showing your kids anymore awhile back. I think people are just realizing what damage it can cause our kids to give them a large internet footprint before they can even understand and consent to it. My 11 year old daughter wants to make YT videos and it was a hard no, she just doesn't understand yet. Thanks for sharing your life with us!
Gives me more hope that there are good parents (mom & dads) out there who are protecting their kids from online footprints and inappropriate exposure to certain aspects of internet/social media. All I ever see are these terrible parents/family channels that exploit their families/children/relationship for a quick buck/cash grab.
I can’t believe how many family channels I used to watch before I became a mom. It’s truly disturbing how parents can proudly sell their children to predators online with an innocent facade. Those poor kids will never know privacy
SIDE QUESTS THOUGH!! Felt that to my SOUL. truly.
I folded laundry while watching this and felt like we were tackling house chores together as friends and it made me so happy! thank you for managing to consistently make simple things that bring so much joy!
Thank you for these honest and transparent videos. As someone with ADHD and OCD your video have been a source of comfort, validation and joy!
I just came back from Japan and getting back to reality was a freaking slap to the face. The mess in my home in a week only is INSANE. I most likely have ADHD too. Let’s clean together Elyse 😂
YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!
I was also in “Japan» and came home to moldy food and just mess.
It's super cool to see someone else cleaning like I do, needing a tv show on and making "cleaning piles" in bags. I feel like it takes years before I go through them. Sometimes they go in closets. Sometimes they just become Mount Stuffalus. And consequently when I do get to them it creates even more "wow i didn't know i had that" side quests. I'm such a failure at cleaning, and it creates a lot of problems, but this video warms my heart for showing a true adhd experience and is probably my favorite one of yours.
1:54 thanks for showing people that kids should not grow up feeling like they can’t be themselves because the world is watching them! And good for you for being a content creator and owning the fact that you are the only one in your family on camera! I love your videos by the way! ❤
Hoarder shows are the perfect shows to watch when cleaning. Gives me motivation and makes me feel good about my own house.
Me too!
Same!!!! 🤣 my adhd doesn’t help but hoarders ALWAYS helps keep me more on track… I joke all the time “if you don’t clean up you’re just a few boxes away from being on this show” it’s not that bad but I tell myself it is to purge more 🤣🤣🤣
Midwest magic cleaning I always watch him
Just a thought, that because the studio is a business expense because of your job....hiring a cleaning service would be covered as a business expense.😊❤
We have an amazing team that usually comes in once every two weeks to clean in terms of sanitize things, which is so helpful! But I still need to pick up and generally tidy every room every week so when they do come, the studio is ready to go for them! But also because of the tornados here in Omaha, they weren’t able to come one week so it had been over a month since anyone came and so I really let things go 😅
@@elyse_myers Good that you do have that service! Bad or should I say sad about the tornados. Thank you so much for replying. Know you are busy. Just know it made my nice day!🥰
@@elyse_myersI find that my once-per-month cleaning service keeps me accountable: I HAVE to tidy up before they come bc they don't put stuff away for me. 😂
Michael Jackson starts playing 🎶you are not alone...I am here with you🎶
You said we should body double if there's things we also need to accomplish... and I am sitting at home trying to pack stuff up to move while my husband is at work... this is exactly what I needed, and I agree with the comments saying it's like sitting at home with your friend doing chores together. Thank you ❤
This is my comfort person. Watching your videos just calms me down and makes my mind quiet for a little bit💛📸
TH-cam is my go-to for cleaning entertainment, because it tends to be like hanging out with a friend and listening to them ramble about stuff, without being so very entertaining that you have to keep looking at it. A lot of TH-cam channels could technically be podcasts.
The PREGNANCY TEST😂😂😂😂😂 the amount of times I've pulled them apart and moved around in every light and taking a picture on my phone .. with and without flash .then editing it 😂😂😂
Okay, but can we talk about how you did one of the things on your list?! 9. When you need something last minute, going and getting it without ordering it off of Amazon. Super proud of you for that, friend!! 🥰
She had to go to TWO stores!
@@Brezooka Right! Double win. 😊
You're right! Life goal accomplished!
I love that you’re so considerate of others. I’ve noticed when you go out in public you also don’t record others and that deserves a lot of respect ❤
Being a mom and also being worried that you're pregnant is truly a new level of intense anxiety, I feel you.
This is how I knew we were done. Am ready had 2 kids, who I did/do adore, and was late one month. I was just late, not pregnant, and the feelings before I knew, and after, told me for sure…we’re done!
I absolutely LOVE that you haven’t got your children online. It’s a dangerous place for children, the internet is full of predators who take images or videos of children are use AI to alter the content for, well you know what for. I applaud you for stating that children can’t consent. You are a wonderful Mum and woman ❤
THIS ❤
@@Just999Me it’s vital to protect our children, that’s our job ❤️
I lurve these. I dig your openness, and I dig that you explained why your kids aren't being made a part of this. You're aces, lady.
Thanks so much!
Doing something that takes longer just so you’re in forward motion is 10000000% me 😂😂😂😂
Okay I’m glad I’m not alone in that. 😂 I also married one of the most careful and steady human beings on the planet so I am often just mentally spinning watching him take the necessary time things usually take (bc I would do it faster and so much worse)
@@elyse_myers i think Jonas and my husband are very similar 😂🫶🏼 my husband is so so kind and slow to process and does things right. But just at a different schedule where I’m over there making a bigger mess but at least I’m in motion. If I stop, I’ll not start up again or find a new thing to fix. 😂
I like to listen to audio books or upbeat music when I'm cleaning, it helps me focus my ADHD. I love how you yelled "SQUIRREL!!!" when you saw one, distracting you from cleaning by in the most figurative AND literal ADHD move lol
Have you read the Holderness’ book “ADHD is Awesome”? It’s so good.
You are my favorite thing about the internet and I will fight anyone who says otherwise. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. My family runs HEAVY with neurodivergence and seeing your videos is SO affirming for myself, my husband, and my 2 teenage daughters.
Literally on the verge of tears with how much has been piled on me the past week, so this video is perfect timing and a literal blessing:,) Thank you for how encouraging you are, it helps more than you know ❤ (also I legit watch your videos every time I need to feel like I can do hard things, ADHD is my biggest superpower and hindrance lol)
I do this also. I especially like to watch my shows when folding laundry and doing dishes. And when I do my art I either have a show playing or music. Thank you for your videos and your voice when singing. You absolutely make my whole day when I randomly scroll and there you are!!!!
You being so concerned about the details in a book making sense resonated so hard with me I can't even begin to describe how seen I felt in that moment. No, you're not crazy, you're neurodivergent and absolutely wonderful lol
That was the best explination of shows to watch while cleaning! 😂 No one in my life understands why I'm SO picky with my shows but this graph is perfection!
Love love love love love love what you said about who’s consented to having an online presence. You are just awesome in every way. I relate to you SO MUCH. Thank you for sharing yourself with us ♥️
I love the transition you did where youre standing in the middle of a bunch of different rooms! That was awesome!
Elyse you were made for this job. Thank you! for all the joy
As someone who drinks almost exclusively decaf I would like to weigh in haha when the cold brew cold foam drinks first came out, I was bummed I couldn't get it (too much caffeine). But the barista suggested that the dupe for the cold foam cold brew was an iced americano with the cold foam/other add ins because the espresso can be decaf, but the cold brew cannot.
Hopefully this helps add context! I think it was just worded strangely.
Okay so subbing an iced decaf americano for a cold brew!! Okay that makes sense!!! Thank you!
That knife on the desk for breaking in anxiety is so real, so glad I'm not the only one who does that
I have to take that back to the kitchen on a weekly basis. Noises when I’m by myself scare the crap out of me. 😅
I love that you have a 2nd house just for work //the productive house// (haha I just thought of Peter Griffin saying 'road house' )(more thoughts came but I''m stopping the thought train) so cozy, also love that that M&M's jar is so big.
I clean with music or podcasts if I need sound, that way I don't get distracted by a screen, or or there''s this youtube thing that I use use as a podcast, it's with guessing music, so it works
okay byyyyeeee Elyse, have a good day dear readers
I am watching this video for the third time right now. I just found you about a week ago, and the past few days I have been a bad place anxiety wise. But watching your videos is so comforting. Last night I watched this video at 11pm when I was feeling sad and anxious. But I was like, why dont I clean with Elyse? Not only did it make my anxiety go away, but it also made my house a touch cleaner. Thank you so much for being who you are and making the content that you do for us all to enjoy. I truly can't thank you enough for being such a comfort.
I recently got medicated for the first time in my life for my ADHD but I was diagnosed 22 years ago… whew… anyways your content is really soothing for me because I feel so seen and it’s so relatable. Thank you.
Thank you so much, I felt the EXACT way you did about the coffee line. I deeply appreciate you for always being you ❤️
I have loved following your journey on tt and now yt. I appuad you for understanding your choice to film yourself isn't the choice that needs to be made for your kids 😁 it's a breath of fresh air 🥰
Also. When I watch your videos I feel like I am watching myself. You make me feel comfortable with who I am and all my quirks ❣️
Boy, am i glad i stumbled upon this video! Cause i was putting cleaning off, and this helped me get things nice and tidy while giving me the motivation and dopamine ^^
3:25 “it works for me but also it really doesn’t” is so funny and relatable 😭😂 “I don’t even use half of it I don’t know why I have it” I didn’t understand why I couldn’t save money as a kid until recently 😂… I would just follow the dopamine until everything was a mess 😂
This worked in reverse for me: I was supposed to be getting ready to go out (dressing, hair, makeup, etc) but watching you clean had me tidying my bathroom and putting things away. Luckily, traffic wasn't too bad so I was only 3 minutes late to where I needed to be. Thank you!
One of the reasons I started following you is because I love that you don't put your kids on the Internet. It's so refreshing and I love that you stand by that choice.
Love your content, it puts my brain in a happy productive zone 💙😊 keep up the great work!
This is so me, thank you for sharing! It’s making me feel better about my cleaning style. You are appreciated. Sending you love and positivity!
Amazing job Elyse!!! You should feel SOOO PROUD for cleaning that all in a day I could never do that
It made me so happy when you said desperate housewives at the end because EVERY time i try to talk about real housewives i call it desperate housewives.
I am only like 1/4 way through this video, but I just need to say that you have to be the most relatable content creator I watch. Thank you for being you. ❤
‘I will take longer doing something if it means I can get to it quicker” - OMG thank you for putting that into words! I once walked two hours to get home instead of turning back to my friends house (10 minutes away) and ask them for a ride because I felt like it would take too much time but somehow the 2 hours wouldn’t???
The Sharpie cap spit🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 OMG love you and your honesty. ♥️
😂😂😂
Crocs are the perfect gardening & camping/fishing shoes! I've only wore them in public when I've had to stop doing one of those things to get something from the store that's needed to continue the task.
Oh my goodness! Gifts make me nervous too! As a family we give gifts to each other as they come in and say Happy…whatever and on the day we don’t actually have a gift to give except for Christmas
I can so relate to wanting to organize the letters in the letter box! The angst is so real!😊❤
Girl… I read the test and didn’t see NOT in the corner at first. I audibly gasped with you and then felt your relief with you as well 😂.
Thank you for thst wonderful ❤️ explanation of your choice vs family choices and privacy . Love your realness
I've never related so hard. I swear I have ADHD and autism, not diagnosed but I see so much of myself and relate to this video
I love the dissection of the coffee drink! Cold brew is like steeped right and then I know Americana is made with an espresso base and coffee so maybe the character just likes the espresso flavor profile more than a cold brew profile!
I appreciate you sharing yourself and your very human quirks with us. It really helps me to feel like I'm not alone. I talk to anything and everything, especially if it doesn't talk back. I admire that you protect your family's privacy, as much as humanly possible, especially when you are a social media icon, such as yourself. You are doing an amazing job at being so many things to so many people. But, the job you seem to take most seriously is Mom and Wife. That's the most important thing. You have a beautiful family. Thank you so much for all that you do!
I must say I agree with your Croc assessment...they are NOT FOR ME! If you ever catch me with a pair on, something is VERY WRONG! Alert the authorities!
Hey Elyse , fellow ADHD’er here… I giggled watching you clean only because I can fully relate.
I don’t know if you’ll see this, but I wanted to tell you keep doing what you’re doing. I also have Anxiety & OCD, and watching your videos makes me feel not so…. Alone. Or weird. Your videos are like comfort food when I need to not feel so out of place. Thank you 🙏🏼
Totally understand you with trying to understand every line in the book, and when I say EVERY I mean it. Love your videos ❤
I look forward to your video every Thursday / Friday more than any other video during the week. Thanks for sharing with us and being so transparent and direct about your work/life boundaries. You’re a great role model 🥹
You’re literally my hero. Thank you for being you. You’ve given me the strengths and courage to keep moving forward
I can interpret the coffee order because I think it is the same thing I do! It is a decaf americano because no one makes decaf cold brews, but they got the exact same flavors and toppings as the original cold brew drink.
Ohhhhh like a decaf iced americano instead of a cold brew?? Okay that makes sense!!!
Exactly!
The interesting tv bell curve is the same when knitting lace.
Also I volunteer to untangle your yarn so you don’t have to cut it. Untangling yarn is my only true skill.
YOU’RE HIRED. On another day I might have had the patience to untangle it but I was so sick I couldn’t be bothered. 😂
@@elyse_myers I totally get it! Every time I get frustrated enough with a tangle to pick up the scissors I remember I’m really bad at joining yarn and I hate weaving in ends, and that overrides the frustration at the tangle so I keep going.
Yeah, I feel that. But when I'm cleaning I have to listen to music or something without images because the need to watch is too strong in me. Even if it's something I've watched before, I have to know everything that's going on. I might catch something, I didn't the first two playthroughs. Watching this makes me feel like I really need to go check myself for adhd.
"Think positive thoughts!" I died laughing.
I made myself clean while you were cleaning and the side quest thing is SO REAL. I love finding old things I forgot about (object permanence? Who’s that?). It’s my favorite part of cleaning 😅
The loading bar when you did the classic ADHD running in all directions because you didn't know what you wanted to do next. 😂Also, I would've 100% succumbed to watching the show or organizing beads. PS: That crochet bag is really cute, you should finish it.
I love this so much. I always feel like I'm watching myself when I watch you 🤣
I love that so much for the both of us hahaha
@@elyse_myers right?! There's something liberating about it LOL. You're the best 💜
I support you and your choices! You do you and don’t let other sway you! 🙌🏻
Elyse! I just watched your agoraphobia shopping video and I’m so happy for you! I haven’t gotten an on record diagnosis because I feel like I’m unable to talk to anyone but my old therapist rn (who talks to me off record but no longer takes my insurance) and she says I have agoraphobia! I’ve been struggling so bad with it since 2022. a lot had happened long before then, but in 2022 I had my son (which was a blessing and is the reason I’m still here) but had an emotionally chaotic and also high risk pregnancy. barely left my house for the last 2 years, and I truly view everytime I do leave my house as a victory. A lot of people don’t understand us or why it’s so hard but I get it and I’m so proud of all the things you’re doing rn!❤️🥺 (also I freak out about being pregnant all the time and I haven’t even been “active” in months
Jonas hit it out of the park, that bag is AWESOME! 100% not an every day carry kind of thing, but lugging back and forth from work stuff? Perfect!
I love how she went on a 2 minute rant about why her kids aren’t in her content it’s so amazing I love her 😂
The shots in the beginning of you in every room with you in the middle and just the background changing?? Brilliant!! So well done 👏🏻
My respect and love for you just exploded! The fact you recognize and respect your children did not and can not yet consent to being online causes soooo much respect for you from me.
the decompression of snack after that was immaculate.
also relatable expierence, brains are silly!!
Thank you for respecting your kids and allowing them independence and autonomy!
I hated crocs for the longest time, but once I started wearing them my whole life changed, lmao. I can wear them for so long and they're really good for my (almost) flat feet. They're also wider than normal shoes and that's good for you feet too (it doesn't squish your toes).
Yes. We do. We do need to clean. Thank you for this ADHD body double, perfectly timed. Chefs kiss.
I loved this video. And thank you for not using the pregnancy test anxiety outing as clickbait. I hope you feel better!
I really respect you for keeping your children out of your content. I quit watching TH-camrs when they start to bring the kids in so kudos to you! You’re a wonderful mama. ❤
"Depends on how many side quests I go on" - goes to buy a pregnancy test. (Love calling them side quests, btw)
Re: the letter beads - tiny little organizing tasks are the _most_ fun - but you spend all day doing it, and at the end it looks like nothing has been done lmao
Wow, I relate to this so much, especially the piles but not the pregnancy scare! 🤣 also I missed seeing you on TikTok but so happy to see you here. 🥰
"I wanna paint that" to then seeing the painting in your other video was so cool!!!
Moving taks like Cleaning the house gets a podcast/music. Stationary tasks like folding laundry or dishes i get to watch shows. Thats the only way i can get things done lol
Good speech on kids on social media for people who have careers. Much respect. Also….you are just relaxing to watch. 😊
So Beautiful! I love that you stopped to take a picture of the wall. You helped me cook!
I absolutely love your videos! They are one of the few things I watch on TH-cam that can ALWAYS make me feel better, thanks Elyse🌸
GOOD FOR YOU!!!! On everything generally but especially on keeping your kids offline. That was a perfect synthesis of the reasons why
when the phone spam got to be too much like 5 or more calls/texts a day, I double checked my number on the national do not call registry and I wasn't on it (or wasn't on it anymore). since adding my number (again) the spam has gone to almost zero.
I LOVE your stance on not including your children in your content 🤍 you're leaving the decision to be present on social media/the internet up to them instead of making that decision for them, before they're even able to. I applaud you for that!!
hahha. that's why I rewatch my favorite oldies.. I know what's going on but I still get my familiar chuckles now and then.
please do more of these. i’m about to make some breakfast body doubling with you and i’ve sat here trying to do it for so long
I like that my brain can follow your brain and actually pay attention the whole time and I don’t try to nor am I able to predict the endings. It’s like the best kind of conversation. Next time I’m back in Omaha I really want coffee with Elyse. 🤣
Yes
I have to say this is very relatable
I once made a Mindmap of all the things that impact me out of Post-its that I cut in circles
After I was done I wanted to clean but instead I was mesmerized by how the cutoffs looked and thought "I can make a craft out of these snippets"
So I then started sketching and creating the background layers. Only to make more paper snippets that I then made a separate craft for...
In the end I did clean the cutoffs and made a pretty craft with them but it took 5h 😅
Would love to know more about your studio and why you choose it. I’m looking for something similar in Texas and as a working mom being in my house is really tough so trying to find something outside of the home. Maybe a tiny house? Not sure. Would love your advice!