Women lack accountability cause they expect men to make decisions, and if you simping to her then its your fault. Learn to discipline her. Women have fantasy to have their men discipline her bratty attitude.
So what she's saying is "the woman prefers it when men offer free things to her, because she's got a roster of other guys doing the same thing." Don't be with that girl.
Absolutely wrong. If the girl can't answer a basic question like where do you want to go. She isn't worth dating. It doesn't even have been a huge thought process of an answer. Like the first thing that pops into your head can be your answer, like "idk how bout burgers at this new place?". Stop giving excuses and dow right encouraging women to be lazy and entitled in the dating marketplace. It's offensive and you're contributing to the problem.
Depends after a while she will complain that she has no say in the relationship or that I am always deciding everything or I never want to do her stuff. I was used to lead especially with my friends but even they got tired of it eventually and some girls I saw also got tired of it. Can't blame them...
Yeah, alot of the advice has to be taken with a grain of salt. I think its rather about not coming across as insecure and putting all the pressure on her to decide things. If you want to go out with her, make sure you have a plan and suggest a time and place. But be flexible too, if a girl suggests things that could make the date more fun, include them in the plans. Had a fun date yesterday in which I planned the setup, but during the date she made some fun suggestions to try out and we did. She definitely appreciate having a say in the plans, its about having a good time together afterall.
Exactly, the girls wants to go where you want for a couple of dates while she is trying to pretend she is cute, then she wants to go where the fk she wants to go and eat what the fk she wants to eat.
Woman - it's a man's job to make plans and make sure I'm having fun. Woman - I am not a cheapskate, but whoever makes plan and extend the invitation always pays for everything. This means man always pays because he is the one who is supposed to always make plans and invite me. Woman - no matter how many dates has a man paid for, I can walk out at any time for any reason without giving anything to reciprocate. Man - fxxk that, no thanks, I'm good.
@@blakefirsttee7653 it's not "bad advise" and I sort of agree with her. I've taken this approach before and have been called controlling and/or not "caring" what she wants to do.
Leading is easy, but a good leader gets input from those below them. Also I'm sure at least some men prefer some back and forth, they are trying to date a person not a blow up doll.
Most women are never happy. You will eventually get tired of planning shit they aren't happy with...and give up. Let them figure it out if they don't appreciate your lead. 😊
Easy fix, don’t date them gentlemen. Let the simps they secretly hate deal with that drama and nonsense. Put that time and energy into yourselves instead and see what happens.
Yes exactly stop approaching too , stop putting them on a pedalstool for not putting in effort and taking for a lead she's human too she should be doing this shit herself.
I appreciate the sentiment here, but seriously the best dates I’ve been on are where people are just being themselves and not overthinking all this garbage about designated roles and competition. Two human beings, out having a great time together, that’s your sign that somebody is worth starting a relationship with. If this minutia is on your mind, more than being in the moment, it’s probably a sign that that relationship is going to be more effort than it’s really worth and destined for a lot of complicated moments down the line. Good luck out there! ❤
For the first few dates only but when with a regular girl I prefer her to chose because I have other things to do while girls are on instagram all day looking at stories of people in restaurants so they get an idea. I find it romantic that she chooses and I come pick her up with my brand new Range Rover and pay for the date.
That I agree with, but dating coaches always say things as though this is the way things should be until death. Sure it may turn a girl on when a man takes the lead, but do you really want sexual attraction to be the foundation of your relationship?
Always best on first date to keep it simple: HH: drinks, apps, etc. Nothing complicated or overly fancy. That way over intial conversation the male can gain info: what she likes, etc. Then dial in a resturant for next date. "i know this amazing italian place. " Note: one can never go wrong with Italian: plenty of options. Sushi another: sexy, visual, healthy
I mean i understand that the men always have to do the first move and pay for the first date, take the lead, pay the bills etc, but if the men do all the work in the relationship and it's onesided by not women reciprocating at all is something that i hate so much bcs personally i won't feel appreciated by the fact that the woman don't put the effort at all. Even though I'm 20 years old and i haven't been in a lot of relationships, still you gotta understand that you can't expect the men do everything and get nothing in return
Buy her coffee. She's not a wife, a girlfriend, or a lover yet and hasn't earned those privileges. Starbucks is all she has earned at this point. If she gets pissed off about it, move along. She isn't into you anyway. You're welcome, boys. 😎😎
@@warrengauthier4699 Exactly right. See if she is interested in $10 worth of coffee before spending $300 to wine-and-dine her. If she balks at the coffee, then a $300 dinner date is probably a waste of time and money anyway. Also, it takes some pressure off the girl since she won't think you are trying to buy your way into her panties. If she accepts the coffee date and you have a great time, then pull out the stops and spend the $300 next time. Men need to realize that their time and resources are valuable, too.
Me: "Hey, bae. Wanna come over and play Mortal Kombat Deception?" Her: "I don't care. Just wanna spend some time with you" Most straightforward conversation. No pussyfooting, no sugarcoating, none of that bs
What I hear “I (woman) don’t want to take any responsibility and want men to take all risks. If he asks me to participate I label him as non-masculine simp and reject. Cuz I’m a queen 👑”. If you play this game - you’re not worthy of the attention.
I have question. What if you just moved from Georgia to new Jersey met someone about 4 months after you moved here. And you don't know really any good places to go. Then wouldn't it kind of fall on the person who has lived in the area all there lives or still up to the person who has only been in area for 4 months?
If she is capable of expressing where she would like to go, the man can then decide "that is where we are going" don't just switch off your damn brain and expect to be carried
I be taking the lead like “ hey girl now here is what we gonna do. We gonna drive down to the boonies and I got a fifth of some good shit and we gonna drink til we pass out. Don’t worry I got this ALL figured out”…😂
So I can understand why on a first date or the first few dates women may not want to take the lead, but generally speaking: what is it about planning a date or an outing or coming up with activities so difficult for women to do?
"You're pressuring her to lead." No, it's simply considering the other person's wants when doing a pair activity. If a friend wants to go out with you, do you screech "Relationship over!!1" because they want to pick somewhere you'll like? I get that women truly do want to be treated as inferior when it comes to this, but in the name of all that's holy, if you get upset because a man picks a place/activity you don't like, do not post TikToks bitching about a choice you insisted on staying silent about.
Plan at least 3 places to take her on an evening. Bar first that’s quiet then shoot pool or darts or bowling or skating that involves minor physical contact (shoulders first then the small of her back) then club (maybe). More places you take her.. the more trust she’ll have for you. Be kind and tease her a little too and know she wants a find balance of respect and excitement. ✌🏼 🎉🎄
I been single on purpose for 7 years after my last gf treated one of my sons pretty bad. My kids are almost of age and I met this amazing girl at the perfect time. She treated me like shit the first 2 times we interacted. I asked her friend and she told me she didn't talk to men. We now flirt whenever we see each other. This girl was a tough egg to crack. Now I been wanting to ask her out on a date.
My ex-wife was on a very restrictive diet due to severe inflammation issues. No wheat, corn, rice, or fruits. This left us with three-four restaurants in town where she could eat. Guess who got blamed when I planned a date at a restaurant where we ate many times before? This was a no-win situation for me.
I don't like going out to restaurants or bars or clubs or whatever. The problem is most women are. And most local women have been everywhere where you live already, so it's hard to find somewhere novel they haven't been before. But I learned it's not about the place, but who you're with. Take her somewhere you feel comfortable and confident. Where you know what's on the menu. And especially, take her somewhere quiet enough where you two can actually hear each other
It's all about equality until they have to pay for dinner, participate in the draft, or compete against a trans woman. Women are the reason I date men. I opted out of straight relationships and I've never been happier. Men are incredible partners.
If you choose the date and she does not like its bad either way. And lets be real If she's dating multiple people at the same time her being interested in you does not mean anything.
Uh, "weak" and "simpy?" I know plenty of attractive, classy girls who would characterize this instead as being "polite," accommodating," and "chivalrous."
Maybe I know few places where I want to go, but she has her places too in her mind. So, F*** her opinion, I'll lead you where I want to. :D What a masculine gentleman! :) And also, yeah, because I'm asking you where you want to go, that means I'm not confident... Take this logic! No more asking for you about anything!
Well guess what, we don't wanna do that either, we don't want that pressure either. But you know what's the difference between when a man and a woman chooses a place to go? When a women chooses the place, the men doesn't complain about it and just has a good time with the girl...
if you're not local and she is, it's okay for her to pick a place to meet. Her town after all. THEN the guy can do as you suggest. It's not always so black as white as you indicate.
Sometimes the question must be asked, are women worth all that work? I can just as easily hit the gym after work, play some volleyball with friends, eat a bite, play a video game with more friends, shut it off, enjoy the silence, then relax and go to bed early to get ready for the next day. If a woman is not bringing something into your life that you need while at the same time giving you grief/hassle, there’s no need to indulge such entitlement or trouble. Enjoy life brothers!
I disagree if your in an area that she knows and you don’t then give her the confidence to make that decision as long as when it happens to you, you can be the person that’s confident. You both need to be assertive
god forbid the woman has to put in a little effort 💀
Straight up😂
Oh yeah! It’s more convenient to blame the man later, when the place or activity is not good for her.
If you like chicks with masculine energy
You mean she should be like a dude?
Women who think this way are entitled, lazy, cowardly, and totally worthless. They are not worth my time.
"She has all these other guys..."
And dropped.
🤝
Run!
Then take her straight to the bedroom. And run.
‘Strong independent’ women all of a sudden don’t like being put in charge!
How can she choose a man if she can't even choose a place to eat?
“Because she have all these other guys “ lol def going to be hotdog stand for the first date
Hahahaha hotdog stand
Not for her first time
Lmfaoooooooooooo
" You pay for the first date " - no thank you
That woman is the prototype of women you want to avoid
This is just an excuse for a woman's laziness and lack of accountability.
This is how life works.
It’s just about complaining about the rain.
You either cover yourself or get wet.
Why y'all whine about taking the lead.
You are the boss. Embrace it lol
Women lack accountability cause they expect men to make decisions, and if you simping to her then its your fault. Learn to discipline her. Women have fantasy to have their men discipline her bratty attitude.
Women have fantasy to be submissive to the alpha male. There is a reason why 50 shades of grey is popular.
Because they don't want to do anything that puts them in any kind of vulnerability
Hahaha..isn't that the truth!
"She has all these other guys that are taking her out."
She seems busy.
I'll pass.
No STD for me
So what she's saying is "the woman prefers it when men offer free things to her, because she's got a roster of other guys doing the same thing."
Don't be with that girl.
God damn Right
I wouldn't be with the girl in the video either, she sounds like a pain in the ass.
Never take dating advice from a woman
Oh yes because a woman would not know what other woman like 🤡
She is correct in this instance though
It's always complicated and wrong, because she's talking to 6 other guys to
@@zioncooper7300You don't learn how to be a fisherman by asking a fish. 😂
@@zioncooper7300 one woman is different from another .. they arent all the same wtf
Absolutely wrong. If the girl can't answer a basic question like where do you want to go. She isn't worth dating. It doesn't even have been a huge thought process of an answer. Like the first thing that pops into your head can be your answer, like "idk how bout burgers at this new place?".
Stop giving excuses and dow right encouraging women to be lazy and entitled in the dating marketplace. It's offensive and you're contributing to the problem.
Depends after a while she will complain that she has no say in the relationship or that I am always deciding everything or I never want to do her stuff. I was used to lead especially with my friends but even they got tired of it eventually and some girls I saw also got tired of it. Can't blame them...
true this advice is for early on in relationship
Yeah, alot of the advice has to be taken with a grain of salt. I think its rather about not coming across as insecure and putting all the pressure on her to decide things. If you want to go out with her, make sure you have a plan and suggest a time and place. But be flexible too, if a girl suggests things that could make the date more fun, include them in the plans.
Had a fun date yesterday in which I planned the setup, but during the date she made some fun suggestions to try out and we did. She definitely appreciate having a say in the plans, its about having a good time together afterall.
Exactly, the girls wants to go where you want for a couple of dates while she is trying to pretend she is cute, then she wants to go where the fk she wants to go and eat what the fk she wants to eat.
Woman - it's a man's job to make plans and make sure I'm having fun.
Woman - I am not a cheapskate, but whoever makes plan and extend the invitation always pays for everything.
This means man always pays because he is the one who is supposed to always make plans and invite me.
Woman - no matter how many dates has a man paid for, I can walk out at any time for any reason without giving anything to reciprocate.
Man - fxxk that, no thanks, I'm good.
That’s when you can give her a couple of options. You’re still leading by isolating options, yet giving her some choice.
If a fish is telling you how to catch fish, do you listen? Or, do you go to the successful fisherman?
her boyfriend writes her script because she knows nothing herself
Stop
Sooo then you don't agree with this? Seems like standard obvious good advice to me.
@johndevries7397 how do you know?
@@blakefirsttee7653 it's not "bad advise" and I sort of agree with her. I've taken this approach before and have been called controlling and/or not "caring" what she wants to do.
Leading is easy, but a good leader gets input from those below them. Also I'm sure at least some men prefer some back and forth, they are trying to date a person not a blow up doll.
gigabased
Yeah, if they got good suggestions, they can help to make the plans. Its about having a good time together afterall
the only word I memorize was "you're"😂
I thought we were equal thou??
Most women are never happy. You will eventually get tired of planning shit they aren't happy with...and give up. Let them figure it out if they don't appreciate your lead. 😊
The girl I liked most in life and hurt me the most eventually came back to me. I had to say, "No thank you because I can't make you happy,"
Be a man and they will be happy.
This is the type who says you are emotional Abu since later on. “He is so controlling” yadda yadda yadda
I just wanna stay single haha
Really impressed with the creativity here. Well done!
Easy fix, don’t date them gentlemen. Let the simps they secretly hate deal with that drama and nonsense. Put that time and energy into yourselves instead and see what happens.
Yes exactly stop approaching too
, stop putting them on a pedalstool for not putting in effort and taking for a lead she's human too she should be doing this shit herself.
you don't know masculine men miss botox, you know men who employ bravado.
I appreciate the sentiment here, but seriously the best dates I’ve been on are where people are just being themselves and not overthinking all this garbage about designated roles and competition. Two human beings, out having a great time together, that’s your sign that somebody is worth starting a relationship with. If this minutia is on your mind, more than being in the moment, it’s probably a sign that that relationship is going to be more effort than it’s really worth and destined for a lot of complicated moments down the line. Good luck out there! ❤
Girl, . . . you GOT wayyyy too many Rules.
For the first few dates only but when with a regular girl I prefer her to chose because I have other things to do while girls are on instagram all day looking at stories of people in restaurants so they get an idea. I find it romantic that she chooses and I come pick her up with my brand new Range Rover and pay for the date.
That I agree with, but dating coaches always say things as though this is the way things should be until death. Sure it may turn a girl on when a man takes the lead, but do you really want sexual attraction to be the foundation of your relationship?
If you always choose everything you will mistake 1 time and she is waiting for that moment, thus she can make you feel a loser
Gangster
In my mind I’m just trying to get her input, not put pressure on her. I’d sure feel stupid if I chose something that she didn’t like or want to do.
All i hear is an excuse for laziness and wanting the guy to do and pay for everything. Count me out.
let's eat on this restaurant
girls: Are you cheap? why would you bring me there?!!
"Listen up, miss, you asked me to decide, so I decided. Don't like it? don't come with me"
Burger king
@davidhealy4534
Even burger King is too good for girls nowadays 😅
Yup lol
Lol except when a woman shoots down all the places you want to go and then says you don't pick the places ever. 🤣
Always best on first date to keep it simple: HH: drinks, apps, etc. Nothing complicated or overly fancy. That way over intial conversation the male can gain info: what she likes, etc. Then dial in a resturant for next date. "i know this amazing italian place. " Note: one can never go wrong with Italian: plenty of options. Sushi another: sexy, visual, healthy
If she gives you problems, leave her. It’s for your best interest
Never " ASK."
I'm good, once more men realize it's not worth it the will be free. 😅
So i need to Play and organise everything for what?😂 I thought its equality now... If i do that then Cook when i say so😂
her being the 10/1
I still have a lot of learning
I mean i understand that the men always have to do the first move and pay for the first date, take the lead, pay the bills etc, but if the men do all the work in the relationship and it's onesided by not women reciprocating at all is something that i hate so much bcs personally i won't feel appreciated by the fact that the woman don't put the effort at all. Even though I'm 20 years old and i haven't been in a lot of relationships, still you gotta understand that you can't expect the men do everything and get nothing in return
God forbid the pressure is so much!
It’s not pressure ,It’s considerate , he cares. Tell her to wake up . Wow pressure of what, grow up that’s what this is about.
My girl won’t even let me set the date. She the one taking me places 😅❤
So it's a shakedown. Got it.
Buy her coffee. She's not a wife, a girlfriend, or a lover yet and hasn't earned those privileges. Starbucks is all she has earned at this point.
If she gets pissed off about it, move along. She isn't into you anyway. You're welcome, boys. 😎😎
You can deploy the coffee thing and it could lead to an actual date. It is not just coffee but started out as such.
@@warrengauthier4699 Exactly right. See if she is interested in $10 worth of coffee before spending $300 to wine-and-dine her. If she balks at the coffee, then a $300 dinner date is probably a waste of time and money anyway. Also, it takes some pressure off the girl since she won't think you are trying to buy your way into her panties. If she accepts the coffee date and you have a great time, then pull out the stops and spend the $300 next time.
Men need to realize that their time and resources are valuable, too.
Me: "Hey, bae. Wanna come over and play Mortal Kombat Deception?"
Her: "I don't care. Just wanna spend some time with you"
Most straightforward conversation. No pussyfooting, no sugarcoating, none of that bs
Her: "I dunno, I'm not sure"
Scorpion: "GET OVER HERE!"
What I hear “I (woman) don’t want to take any responsibility and want men to take all risks. If he asks me to participate I label him as non-masculine simp and reject. Cuz I’m a queen 👑”.
If you play this game - you’re not worthy of the attention.
This ain’t always the case sometimes the girl will probably guide you to her area show you something new that ain’t bad
I have question. What if you just moved from Georgia to new Jersey met someone about 4 months after you moved here. And you don't know really any good places to go. Then wouldn't it kind of fall on the person who has lived in the area all there lives or still up to the person who has only been in area for 4 months?
I feel like I aged an hour for every second I just spent listening to this.
ding ding Nailed it!!!
Guys this is about hooking up but not genuine love
She has all the guys.....trust me woman we know.
This was very helpful. Thank you
THANK YOU 😊
Lol. Men love to get all their suggestions shot down. I plan my day according to me, come with or don't.
I’m guilty of that shit haha
bad I learned from Snow White that she's calling the restaurant and leading....until the check arrives.
If she is capable of expressing where she would like to go, the man can then decide "that is where we are going" don't just switch off your damn brain and expect to be carried
Good 2 know. Thanks. 👍
A confident man never pays for the first date, not even for the second. It's not until the girl has proven herself worthy to be paid for.
So don't be considerate about what she wants? Huh, no wonder I'm single.
I be taking the lead like “ hey girl now here is what we gonna do. We gonna drive down to the boonies and I got a fifth of some good shit and we gonna drink til we pass out. Don’t worry I got this ALL figured out”…😂
I love how they profess to be feminine and independent but picking a fucking restaurant sends them into a panic
So I can understand why on a first date or the first few dates women may not want to take the lead, but generally speaking: what is it about planning a date or an outing or coming up with activities so difficult for women to do?
Leys play a game: Guess where we going for dinner this (day of the week) night?
you could be pulling out the driveway still works.
Dating without a purpose is the biggest waste of time.
I don't know I've done the opposite and things turned out fine for me 😂
50 50 not 100 ,can't be the only 1 who puts in ideas.
Choosing where to go is NOT LEADING. That is pathetic if you think that is a difficult task
"You're pressuring her to lead." No, it's simply considering the other person's wants when doing a pair activity. If a friend wants to go out with you, do you screech "Relationship over!!1" because they want to pick somewhere you'll like? I get that women truly do want to be treated as inferior when it comes to this, but in the name of all that's holy, if you get upset because a man picks a place/activity you don't like, do not post TikToks bitching about a choice you insisted on staying silent about.
I don't know who's more at fault for messing this up-the wimpy guys or the women who want to act like men.
If a girl acts like this, just move on, she is not worth the trouble.
Last I let her take the lead, she left me stranded in Antarctica. I don't recommend
Come to Doha on new year 😉
Plan at least 3 places to take her on an evening. Bar first that’s quiet then shoot pool or darts or bowling or skating that involves minor physical contact (shoulders first then the small of her back) then club (maybe). More places you take her.. the more trust she’ll have for you. Be kind and tease her a little too and know she wants a find balance of respect and excitement. ✌🏼 🎉🎄
I been single on purpose for 7 years after my last gf treated one of my sons pretty bad. My kids are almost of age and I met this amazing girl at the perfect time. She treated me like shit the first 2 times we interacted. I asked her friend and she told me she didn't talk to men. We now flirt whenever we see each other. This girl was a tough egg to crack. Now I been wanting to ask her out on a date.
Yes ma'am 😅😅
Pressure to think ! oh come on
Both can give 100% of who they are.
My ex-wife was on a very restrictive diet due to severe inflammation issues. No wheat, corn, rice, or fruits. This left us with three-four restaurants in town where she could eat. Guess who got blamed when I planned a date at a restaurant where we ate many times before? This was a no-win situation for me.
what I've done in the past I gave her a couple of choices as to where we want to eat.
Does this apply with just friends to.
I don't like going out to restaurants or bars or clubs or whatever. The problem is most women are. And most local women have been everywhere where you live already, so it's hard to find somewhere novel they haven't been before. But I learned it's not about the place, but who you're with. Take her somewhere you feel comfortable and confident. Where you know what's on the menu. And especially, take her somewhere quiet enough where you two can actually hear each other
Great job reinforcing double standards. Society really needs that right now. 👍🤣
It's all about equality until they have to pay for dinner, participate in the draft, or compete against a trans woman. Women are the reason I date men. I opted out of straight relationships and I've never been happier. Men are incredible partners.
don't complain or ignore us when we lead then
So, don't ask her what she likes. Got it.
All of the power none of the accountability.
If you choose the date and she does not like its bad either way. And lets be real If she's dating multiple people at the same time her being interested in you does not mean anything.
If she has a roster of other guys willing to "take the lead" that's not a girl I would want to take on a date in the first place
Yes, and your money is saved.
lol... "equality"
Uh, "weak" and "simpy?" I know plenty of attractive, classy girls who would characterize this instead as being "polite," accommodating," and "chivalrous."
Maybe I know few places where I want to go, but she has her places too in her mind. So, F*** her opinion, I'll lead you where I want to. :D
What a masculine gentleman! :)
And also, yeah, because I'm asking you where you want to go, that means I'm not confident...
Take this logic!
No more asking for you about anything!
Well guess what, we don't wanna do that either, we don't want that pressure either. But you know what's the difference between when a man and a woman chooses a place to go? When a women chooses the place, the men doesn't complain about it and just has a good time with the girl...
if you're not local and she is, it's okay for her to pick a place to meet. Her town after all. THEN the guy can do as you suggest. It's not always so black as white as you indicate.
So, not only do you have to meet height, weight, financial requirements, you also need to be a party planner as well
Sometimes the question must be asked, are women worth all that work? I can just as easily hit the gym after work, play some volleyball with friends, eat a bite, play a video game with more friends, shut it off, enjoy the silence, then relax and go to bed early to get ready for the next day. If a woman is not bringing something into your life that you need while at the same time giving you grief/hassle, there’s no need to indulge such entitlement or trouble. Enjoy life brothers!
gotta love the double standards of women, they are never satisfied no matter what or how hard you try, unreal
Chivalry is dead, and women killed it.
What if you pick a few places but she's doesn't like any of them smh
I disagree if your in an area that she knows and you don’t then give her the confidence to make that decision as long as when it happens to you, you can be the person that’s confident. You both need to be assertive