We have a new animator for this project. If you enjoy it, can you support this work by commenting "YAY" below. Also, some of you ask where is the female artist? She's around. We posted a few videos with Amanda's voice yesterday. If you're going through relationship difficulities, we recommend the videos we've posted recently. They could really make a difference. Tiimestamps: ⏳ 00:01 - "You'll get it when you're older" - Those deep realizations only come with age. 📆 00:34 - Time flies faster as we grow older, and many realize they've wasted valuable moments. 🧍♂ 01:42 - Don’t try to be someone you're not; stay true to yourself. 😼 02:51 - You can't please everyone, so live for yourself and do what makes you happy.
Time is priceless, and being authentic is key. Don’t let others' opinions dictate your life-do what makes you happy! 😊 ⏳ 00:01 - "You'll get it when you're older" - Those deep realizations only come with age. 📆 00:34 - Time flies faster as we grow older, and many realize they've wasted valuable moments. 🧍♂ 01:42 - Don’t try to be someone you're not; stay true to yourself. 😼 02:51 - You can't please everyone, so live for yourself and do what makes you happy.
Not all old people are matured you must understand that maturity is not base upon to a person's age but it is in the behaviour of a person in a certain degree of the personal mindset of a human
Im 28, still figuring out my place in the world, having inner issues (psychological), feeling still like a teenager trying to grow up. Oh, and going therapy soon...
00:01 - Realizations About Time 00:36 - The Speed of Growing Up 01:22 - Navigating Teenage Life 02:01 - The Importance of Being Yourself 02:55 - The Challenge of Pleasing Others Awesome stuff!!!!
As someone on the cusp on of 40, seriously the time just flies! It's a strange transition too because you don't just wake up one day and feel middle aged! You are yourself at any age. Don't be afraid to be happy! Live in a way that brings you joy no matter what age you are. You're never too young to enjoy an afternoon tea or too old to enjoy a theme park. You make the rules in your own life. Just be kind about it and respect other people's choices in their lives too.
I realized a few years ago that I spent too much time doing what was “safe” and “productive” rather than what was right for me, and it affected my overall well-being. So I decided to slow down and make some changes. I cut back on my freelance gigs to have more free time, I picked up reading books again, I cut my hair shorter and dyed it blonde, and I started doing more creative activities again. I did a mix of things I wanted to do for a long time and things I needed to do to help me connect with my inner self and be happier. Don’t neglect yourself in trying to stay busy or build a strong resume. At some point, your resume won’t get any stronger and you’ll wish you balanced work with your hobbies. Also, if you keep yourself from letting your appearance reflect who you are, enjoying activities that give you life, or doing other things that let you be yourself because of what others may say, it’s gonna hurt your self-love. My general rule is to check if what you want to do goes against company policy at your job. If there are no issues then go do the things you want. Spend your life being yourself, not who others imagine or expect you to be
i am a 34 y.o man, single, happens to spend my youth on sacrificing my life and myself for others, now I understand how does it feel like to go „outside“ and experiencing something that supposedly did when I was younger (travel more, heartbreak more). considering myself as a late bloomer, but it’s OK. my close relatives always support me and said to me that my life is mine. and it doesn’t have to be „a race“ with others. 😊
What a lot of people forget when saying the phrase "do whatever you want if it doesn't hurt anyone", they forget that not all things that may not hurt others doesn't necessarily mean it won't hurt you. Even if you are not hurting anyone, what right is right and what is wrong is wrong. Live in a way that makes your life fulfilling and good for yourself and the people you love. That's all there is to it
3:06 so true. For all highschoolers watching this. No one will care to remember the "cringey" things you did. And if they do remember, they won't care. And if they remember and care then they aren't worth pleasing because judging people for the small things that bring people joy without disturbing others is a sad way to live.
One of the things I've learned as a young adult is that our parents are human, they'll make mistakes and won't always be around and will sometimes struggle with life and they deserve all the love, respect and compassion we can give, so let's look out for them!! 🙏🙏🤗🤗🥰🥰🥰 #parentsrule #parentsarehuman
I'm 19 and I had already had come to these realizations. I don't know if that's impressive or worrying. My friends always tell me how impressed they are with me and how wise, smart, and mature I am for my age. I'm already seeing time fly by me and all I can think about is how much I can accomplish before I'm in the grave.
*not intentionally hurting anyone... Is mildly upsetting someone or inconveniencing someone the end of their world? No. Should we all have to tiptoe around others? No. Can we simply try not be reckless? Yes. Intentions certainly matter to an extent, yet the victim of involuntary manslaughter is no more alive for the lack of someone intending to hurt them.
Being yourself might mean people aren't readily drawn to you, but in the end, the people who are right for you will show up. It can take a long time. But you can use this time to work on those things about you that you KNOW can be worked out. It's something I've learned, anyway.
Yup... all this is 100% correct. Except that I am 33 and far away from potentially ever having a wife at all 🥲 Time really flies by because we somehow already seem to have experienced most things. That was definitely different as kids and even teens. Oddly enough, time is just as slow as it ever was, we just need to make more unique and new experiences along the way. Other than this, yes. PLEASE STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF, it isn't worth it playing nice for someone else. The people one gets along with will show up somewhere, somehow.
Thank you this is very helpful wisdom from a mom who recently turned 60 and I don’t know how this happened except as the saying goes the new 18 is 25. I’ll say the new 60 is early 50 something. You are as old as you feel so be good to yourself. Strive for balance in your life never stop learning Learn who you are the younger generations have a wealth of information at their fingertips filter, the information and feed your mind with good things be kind and set boundaries. Help those that prove their willing to seek help learn to love from a distance and for some prayer, meditation and videos such as this one provide light for the unknown (gift of a life) journey.
As a 19 yo, I wish I could go back to my childhood sooo bad. Being a child without significant responsibilities and worries was awesome compared to present.
For me, I experienced a lot of "firsts" 10-20 years after many people would, and when they come, I feel like my version is lesser or cheaper. Though I think what really happens is that I have expectations and the events have less element of surprise.
Expectations can really steal the special parts of those moments. I myself had (and kind of still have) expectations that later left me disappointed that things didn't happen like I wanted them to, and that can really bring the mood down
“Just be yourself” is something I am and am not doing at the same time. I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not. But, I also mask myself. That’s the thing with autism in this society. I mostly water down my true self in front of others, meaning I won’t fully pretend to be someone I’m not, but I won’t unabashedly be myself either. I have a rough idea of what I want. Where I want to be. Where I want to find myself in the next few years. Preferably as soon as possible. How to get there, is the question. And therein lies the struggle. I know I want to do more unmasking. And that I want to pursue something I truly want to do. I found out firsthand that I’ll just lose motivation and energy really quickly when I’m forcing myself to do something in which I don’t back myself. Political science at uni wasn’t a roaring success by any means, last year. So it’s back to the drawing board. But with little energy, due to pushing myself into autistic burnout. This past year felt like a waste of time. I didn’t really do much. I couldn’t. I couldn’t work much on my special interests. I didn’t go and find a job. I did some research on other studies, but I did so while masking, so I was setting course towards something I knew wouldn’t suit me. Sorry, University. I don’t think we’re a match. I want something more creative. I deem it one of my greatest strengths. I just need to learn to work with my executive dysfunction. I know I can get into flow states, as an autistic person. I can get very passionate. And I can, at times, be very hard working. But other times, I do so little and I beat myself up over it. I used to chastise myself for having wasted this past year. I have become more forgiving. I am realising that, yes, I got almost to a standstill. Yes, I see all these peers of mine moving ahead of me in life. But I feel like this may be what’s best long term. Slow down. Learn some skills (I’ve been cooking, doing more chores around the house and driving lessons have been going pretty well). Figure out what you really want from life and how to chase that. I think fully embracing authenticity, not just internally, but externally as well, is key. Yes, these are my interests. Yes, these are my autistic traits. Take me as I am or don’t take me at all. I know I won’t appeal to most people but I’ll be appealing to people who suit me. Yes, I’ll still have to mask. That’s just reality for us autistics. I just want to be able to let go off the mask when I’m around those closest to me.
While i understand that i don't and can't know excactly how all of it felt to you, it's still so relatable... And i just wanted to say... Good luck to you in your journey, friend
Some of us have been masking for so long, we have a hard time telling when we are masking. If we want to pay the rent and keep the lights on, we have to be someone whom the job market is looking for.
@@jasonhernandez619 Yep. I want to try and remove the mask more around people close to me. But part of the challenge is deciphering what is part of the mask and what isn’t. If you kind of ‘water yourself down’, are you being authentic or not? These are complicated questions. And I know the mask will always remain. It can be a helpful tool.
Timestamps 1). Where did all the time go 0:15 2). It's not just cheesy advice 1:17 3). Live your life 2:49 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
As an old man of 47, I can attest to every example discussed in the video. Time flying as we grow older hits particularly close to home for me. However, it's the deep realizations that make the biggest impact. For example, recently I learned about the 18-40-60 rule. It goes like this: At age 18, we do things because of what others will think about us; At age 40, we don't care what others think about us; and At age 60, we realize that nobody is thinking about us! I don't spend only my Friday evenings petting my cat: that's what I have done every evening for the past 18 years, and I won't stop for anything. In fact, I'm petting her right now. 😁 😺
Here is what i learned: 1. Nobody cares about you, except your family and a very small group of people. 2. The world owes you nothing, nobody owes you anything, you owe nobody anything. 3. Service to your country will not be rewarded. You will be used and forgotten. 4. Complaining dose not fix things. Doing stuff dose. 5. Everybody lies. Deal with it. 6. Watch out for yourself - nobody else will do it. 7. If you have to, push someone out of the way to get what you want. After all, they will do it to you too.
Well thats a bit cynical... totally correct, but I feel like "nobody owes you anything and you owe nobody nothing" isnt how it should be. Its true, you dont HAVE to help those less fortunate than you, but never forget, a few bad turns and unlucky days, and that unfortunate person could have been you. I agree its important to set boundaries, but having empathy is important aswell.
When you get older, hindsight is 20/20. You realize you know nothing after thinking you know it all. In the end, all we want is peace, health, healing, a roof, a warm bed, clean food and water. Family are the people who love you the way you love them, it's not always your family either.
Do you have any videos about what healthy parent and adult child relationship looks like and about questions to ask to reconcile with a parent who is definitely not toxic (I've seen your videos about toxic parents, and she is definitely not one), but keep having huge conflicts, intense arguments, and fights with you?
The things i realized is that parents aren't always right, bitterness towards everything isn't healthy to deal with things, being a people pleaser and not being able to say "no" seems sad
Can you make a video on how to know that the person you've chosen is THE ONE? Also how to self examine if you are a toxic person or genuinely caring about yourself first.
I am glad that i realized that i catered and changed to suit others this early in life...well late 20s-early 30s. If people dont like you as you, then they dont deserve to know you. Also, there is no bad or good, there only is. Once you expect life, warts and all and accept challenges and struggles as part of the journey, you will live life fully.
I'm sorry if I offended you or anything but Can you please post all your videos with Amanda's voice?😭 Her voice suits these videos the best. It feels so comforting😭
34 here. Time has been going by faster and faster. Sometimes it's nice. Other times, I wish it would slow down. Time with others doesn't feel enough anymore. Especially with certain people. I feel like I blink, and it's a different day, week, or month.
I am 16 and I started crying from 0:50 to 1:18 . Im forced to play football because my dads a coach, So I am going to have some friends, and yet Im not allowed to have friends over because my mom is embarrassed by the house *for the past 4 years* and she says "You can't go because your going to do something stupid" Watching this made me realize 'this is really going to be true for all of my teen years.' So I'm forced to say to my friends 'sorry I can't come over.' 'No you cannot come over.' 'Sorry not today.' 'I have to do something else.' 'And never get the chance to really have a good friend.'
Financial literacy becomes more and more important as you age. Learn it when you are young (or as soon as you can) so you can plan ahead for big life goals, e.g. family, house, etc
I have adhd and time blindness. I've *always* been aware that time is fleeting and moves too fast. Vacations that occur every year for just a weekend seem far too short. I woke up one day and i was turning 30 years old and im living with my parents again, single, never dated, never got a job in my career despite finishing a bachelors and a master's, and broke as hell. Functionally, emotionally, im still a teenager, discovering and learning my emotions. I would do ANYTHING to go back 10 years to my first term of undergrad living on campus and spend time with friends or talk to a girl. I can't do any of that now. I can't help but feel I'll blink, and I'll be 40, 50, 60, and still single, alone, lost in a failed career, and broken still. They always say time is precious and to spend it carefully, but imagine being constantly aware of that, unable to use your time how you want, and aging rapidly anyway? A third of my life is gone and completely wasted. I've watched it slip through my fingers and not because I wasn't aware, but because I did not have the ability to "seize the day." I still don't, and I'm running out of time with $5 in the bank and tons and tons of debt for me and my parents and no friends or girlfriend to support me. I'm alone.
Remember that time when said you were going to marry that one girl in the class next door turns out she s got a family and is happy with this other guy while you're here deluding yourself with what if thought
Sai, if you ever read this: No one will be mad at you if you don't understand a reference or vibe with something as much as another person does. I love anime too, I use references from there to examine myself a lot of the time and it's okay if people don't get it. So no one would mind if you didn't understand Jay's references. You can share your own interests too!! 🤗🤗🥰🙏🥰🥰
That’s an interesting perspective! It could be that growing up in a positive, carefree environment might give people the confidence to develop a sense of humor, including sarcasm, as a way of expressing themselves. But do you think sarcasm could also be a defense mechanism for some, regardless of childhood happiness? It's curious how different experiences shape the way we use humor in life
Yeah, that's definitely me, bruh 😂🤣. For almost all my life, my family always want me to be successful, smart and brave throughout my life. But in the end, I just don't know what I want to do to be myself as I am 😢. And now, I wish that I should've savor my years, one day at a time. Man, I feel miserable 😔.
Never wish a period of time is over. I spent years of my life either deployed and in guard posts and wished all that time away. While boring or hard I could have used that time to think about life and learn about myself b
Don't come into life with fixed expectations of where you'll be at a certain time in life. Anything that happens to you is outside of your control and you can only react and respond to external stimuli. Do your best, work hard and persevere and whatever happens, will happen.
You may have wasted a lot of time on things you shouldn't have over the years and those years you can't get back, but as long as you have breath, you can make each moment count from here on out and make new memories... 🥹🥰
*Hello!whoever is reading.I've embraced so many miracles of impossible things to be possible in my life through my midnight prayer(Tahajjud).So,I pray for you whoever is suffering,one day you will be ok❤😊*
It’s amazing to hear that Psych2Go resonated with you! Discovering who you truly are, even later in life, is such an empowering experience. Being menopausal and navigating all those changes while focusing on personal growth can be incredibly transformative. Thank you for sharing your journey, and it’s great that you’ve found value in this content! How has this newfound self-awareness shaped your life lately?
@@Psych2go Thanks for responding and asking! I've discovered that I love/enjoy: heavy metal concerts dressing as a goth/metalhead reading and analyzing Dante's Divine Comedy going to museums....a lot researching art forms that someday i plan to attempt (sculpture, painting, carpentry/restoration, glass making, etc. etc. etc.) traveling, particularly outside of the US and just trying to become a Better Version of myself.
I’d rather regret the things I did… than the things I didn’t do. That is true, for sure. Chase your dreams; even if you never catch them, at least you tried! 👍
The way i gasped at the "bright pink hair" I literally just dyed a few strands of my hair like that on this month LMAO and i was so afraid to show it in my small town...
Hey, there’s nothing wrong with being single and petless-life is all about doing what makes *you* happy! You’ve got time to figure out what fulfills you, whether that involves a relationship or not. At least you know what you like and don’t like! 😄
(Just me yapping my thoughts) I feel like we should all have something tangible or intangible that remind us of our years. Something that draws us back to those times. Something that reminds us of our ever-changing self. We are all an idea in which time molds, so it be nice to see the stages of our evolution. Cause, we all gotta plan out the long game, what we want in life. The most outlandish dreams can be turned into reality if your willing to take actionable steps towards it, as cheesy as it may sound, its true. We all should realize that time is finite, we wont live forever, and we wont stay young forever. If you dont value time, you'll realize that you spent these years doing nothing. Its better to feel the pain of disclipine than the poignant pang of regret. Ill leave you with something I wrote down not too long ago, it deals with the themes of dreams and reality. Strive to live the life you yearn for, whatever that means for you.
I struggled through my twenties with mental illness, and I'm still struggling. My twenties was spent in kinda shitty situations with an emotionally abusive parent.... So there hasn't been any great revelations to get me out of this and make it better, just more stress, and trying to stay alive. Not sure how to keep it up most days.
I dont want to encourage you to suicide but remain alert with a profile like yours media persons and their gangworks try to make suicides of people like you a movie story or book story or avtivism story their next best girl child will use. Or best mothers child. Could be an abusive parents child but exotic girl who would impress males enough to keep economy going to richer heights majorly for their future🎉🎉. Be on alert, these girls have a fan base n they all work to cause suicides, murders, rapes to create more economic outputs. Really stay on alert. They also make her sex easy using these suicides or other acts. Please be safe
I turn 31 in about a month and a half so this video hit me pretty hard, as I certainly feel much younger mentally. I grew up with epilepsy so my maturity has been much slower than most people my age. My mother has always told me that whatever age I am right now, subtract that by 5 years and that's what my mental age is. It's taken time but I'm gradually learning how to adult more, and it's def not easy
Hey tysm for being so kind.i have been watching ur vids since twenty twenty two.thank u for giving us advice and care and love for all. Pls notice my comment and btw bless u psych!I get bullied alot too
I've always been myself. I just never really fit in anywhere and I never bothered. Because I really never fit in anywhere at all and because I never had a semblance of what it felt like to fit in it wasn't even a thing I realized was a thing people did. Until I finally made actual friends and realized people actually try really hard to fit in sometimes whereas I'd just do my own thing.
I smiled and meant it once. It wasn't just a smile borne out of shyness or social awkwardness. I smiled with heart fluttering warmth when I gazed at a photo of my four year old self lifting up a wrapped Christmas present just before opening it. I wish I could remember what was inside that package. I'm thinking Ghostbusters or Teenage Turtles paraphernalia. Heavy sigh!
1:49 It's weird. I never tried different personalities or tried to fit in anywhere, I just tried to get to know myself better and feel comfortable with myself. Maybe that's why I didn't have any friends for 15 years. Rejection and loneliness were a constant and aggravated my depression. But maybe that was for my own good. Now that I feel better about myself I started to have friends but the really good ones. It's never too late.
Not many people understand the "lost time" in one's youth as badly as I do . . . but it's not because I was frivolous. In my case, thanks to (initially) undiagnosed disabilities and their attendant social problems, I wasn't even able to get a steady job until I was past 40 years old, and until I got that job and its benefits, I couldn't even begin to have a real, personal life, much les anything I wanted. I spent my 20s and 30s working and waiting for things to "get started" for me, and by the time they did, it was at an age when they were supposed to be settling down.
I can relate. In my case, the undiagnosed disability was autism, and my timeline was similar to yours. As long as the job market is "all about networking," it is closed to people with autism.
I’m a lost 42 year old with a 30 year old body. I may be really healthy for my age but man life is a challenge. I hope you all out there who see this are doing well!
Approaching sixty. Lots of regrets, lots of failures and I'm so tired because you're wrong. You have to keep your employer happy, have to take care if those close to you, and work to keep yourself from being homeless. There's no time for yourself anymore.
I'm 20 and autistic. I hear people say I know what most older people know. I'm more logical and mature than some if my uncles who believe trying for mental health is no use. Edit after watching: I am actually there with this mindset already. I'm good❤❤🥺🥹
From an Aspergian point of view, it’s not that logical to view ASD and ADHD as anything but superpowers. The problem is that some of us dealing with these conditions never learn how to properly understand them or any other mental strategies for navigating life. Simply acknowledging that you need treatment because you have something "bad" is a faulty mindset by default. We have the power to dictate how we feel about things. If you tell yourself that something is hard and you need support, then that’s the reality you’ll create. But if you tell yourself that nothing can break you, then nothing will. Since I was young, I’ve always told myself: if the person next to me can do it, then I can do it too. There's no such thing as "I can't do it"-only "I don’t want to do it." The impossible just takes a little longer. How many of us, perhaps at the age of 13, are pushed to try harder, to go for those Olympics, only to realize that we are capable of much more than we ever imagined? Suddenly, we jump from C’s and D’s to A’s and B’s in all of our subjects. This is the Law of Equilibrium. When you give your all to something you cherish, something that resonates with your soul, you positively affect all the other aspects of your life indirectly. Before you seek unnecessary treatments that could harm you in the long run, I want you to understand one thing. I’m not talking about DBT, CBT or other types of psychotherapy, but about medications. Don’t destroy your brain and body. I could say I was practically born with the HI Victor virus. I contracted it at the hospital when I was about three months old, and my mother found out when I was eight, nine. The doctors told her I only had one year to live. You can imagine what she went through. I’ve always stayed positive, ironically, but I’ve also developed cPTSD-it's been 35 years now, and I’ve never even had my first kiss. I’ve never dared to ask someone out, obviously. I don’t think fear of rejection is the problem, but rather fear of intimacy and "How could I have the nerve?" I don't use people, and I don’t need anything from anyone. Or I cannot forgive myself if something bad will happen, or I cannot bring to the table what other healthy individuals can. I do have as well Alexithymia, silent BPD, bipolar disorder, and probably other things, but they've been stabilized by now. Life, heartbreaks, betrayals, narcissistic bosses and friends, and time-have all forced me to upgrade my cognitive functions. They’ve made me unbreakable, perfectly resilient. I never went to therapy or took any meds, but to be honest, I smoked a lot of weed in my twenties, and this made me cope a lot better with anxiety, depression, and whatever episodes I had. Hmm. It's not fair for others not to know the truth. In actuality, when I fell in love for the first time, it crushed me. The first time, it feels totally unforgettable, but I didn't know that. And at that time nothing was going right. I couldn't find a stable job. Well, I went to a foreign country, and my autism made me freak out at interviews and such, or I had a broken mentality: I was so certain that I was either overqualified or none would give me a chance, that even my CV, I made it in such a way that nobody would take a risk with me. Just because I didn't trust myself or the world, If you think like that, then from 50 jobs, if only 10 of them would get you a job, then you will apply to all those other 40 that won;t get you a job, and you will miss out on any of those 10. Simple science. Anyway, I had about 3 or 4 months really terrible. MDD, suicidal thoughts. Thousands, and thousands of negative thoughts every single day. I couldn't stop my mind, and I was completely drained of energy. On my birthday I wanted to die, and I wrote angry poems at God, the Universe. So many why's. I asked for answers, and then it happened. For about 6 days I kept seeing synchronicities between my thoughts and the outer world. For instance, I would hear people on the street talking randomly about exactly what was in my inner world, or the lyrics from a song I just heard on the radio were again talking about exactly what I was thinking in that very moment. In my 6th day, there were so many coincidences, that I had finally gave my leap of faith. For the first time in my life, I felt that I truly believed in God. One of the happiest days of my life. I understood then why I needed my condition. Only from the lowest state of mind, I was going to ask for help/answers, just to find out how this Matrix works. So, yeah. I'll forever be grateful for hard times. It's been 8 years since then. I have learned many, many other things, and had witnessed millions of small little moments that happened within the present moment. We do live indeed in a perfect simulation. The first 4, 5 years weren't easy. I went through many dark nights of the soul, even made a stroke at the age of 30 in my left parietal brain. I needed a lot of time to get used with this double life. Now I'm not affected anymore. My best friend went through the same episode like me, more or less, but the next day after the "awakening manic" episode, he closed completely in himself, and after 8 days, his mind couldn't cope anymore from that negativity he made for himself, that he made a full episode of schizophrenia, completely delusional, that he needed about 4 months of recovery on Olanzapine to get well again. I never went to that phase because I never told my mind that I was going crazy. "I know what I lived yesterday! And nobody can tell me otherwise. Period." I stayed true to my beliefs and in this way I saved myself from that. The world still needs to learn a lot about schizophrenia, life, relationships and many other things. Sorry for my TL:DR, but I needed to vent and writing is another mechanism medicine that I use + I know that TH-cam deletes my huge comments. "He" doesn't like writers.
We have a new animator for this project. If you enjoy it, can you support this work by commenting "YAY" below. Also, some of you ask where is the female artist? She's around. We posted a few videos with Amanda's voice yesterday. If you're going through relationship difficulities, we recommend the videos we've posted recently. They could really make a difference.
Tiimestamps:
⏳ 00:01 - "You'll get it when you're older" - Those deep realizations only come with age.
📆 00:34 - Time flies faster as we grow older, and many realize they've wasted valuable moments.
🧍♂ 01:42 - Don’t try to be someone you're not; stay true to yourself.
😼 02:51 - You can't please everyone, so live for yourself and do what makes you happy.
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This helps!
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@@deachenchorol3588 Thank you!
Yay, cute anime style.
Love Psy ❤️ Brandon's voice
Time is priceless, and being authentic is key. Don’t let others' opinions dictate your life-do what makes you happy! 😊
⏳ 00:01 - "You'll get it when you're older" - Those deep realizations only come with age.
📆 00:34 - Time flies faster as we grow older, and many realize they've wasted valuable moments.
🧍♂ 01:42 - Don’t try to be someone you're not; stay true to yourself.
😼 02:51 - You can't please everyone, so live for yourself and do what makes you happy.
Not all old people are matured you must understand that maturity is not base upon to a person's age but it is in the behaviour of a person in a certain degree of the personal mindset of a human
Exactly: my 10s and 20s were for learning and studying; my 30s are for fun, building a life and finding out who I am.
Im 28, still figuring out my place in the world, having inner issues (psychological), feeling still like a teenager trying to grow up. Oh, and going therapy soon...
00:01 - Realizations About Time
00:36 - The Speed of Growing Up
01:22 - Navigating Teenage Life
02:01 - The Importance of Being Yourself
02:55 - The Challenge of Pleasing Others
Awesome stuff!!!!
Oh my gosh I’m in love with the art style
😂Me too!👩🎨
Thank you!
Right?
Nah the old is better
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As someone on the cusp on of 40, seriously the time just flies! It's a strange transition too because you don't just wake up one day and feel middle aged! You are yourself at any age. Don't be afraid to be happy! Live in a way that brings you joy no matter what age you are. You're never too young to enjoy an afternoon tea or too old to enjoy a theme park. You make the rules in your own life. Just be kind about it and respect other people's choices in their lives too.
Maturing is realising 🔥🗣️
I realized a few years ago that I spent too much time doing what was “safe” and “productive” rather than what was right for me, and it affected my overall well-being. So I decided to slow down and make some changes. I cut back on my freelance gigs to have more free time, I picked up reading books again, I cut my hair shorter and dyed it blonde, and I started doing more creative activities again. I did a mix of things I wanted to do for a long time and things I needed to do to help me connect with my inner self and be happier.
Don’t neglect yourself in trying to stay busy or build a strong resume. At some point, your resume won’t get any stronger and you’ll wish you balanced work with your hobbies.
Also, if you keep yourself from letting your appearance reflect who you are, enjoying activities that give you life, or doing other things that let you be yourself because of what others may say, it’s gonna hurt your self-love. My general rule is to check if what you want to do goes against company policy at your job. If there are no issues then go do the things you want. Spend your life being yourself, not who others imagine or expect you to be
Trying to please everyone is a fool’s errand, as opinions are just fleeting thoughts in a world that doesn’t care at all.
Ouch, that was very well-put.
Damn i felt that man ,but true i also did this alot in my teenage years , and it drains you , and you will never get something in return
i am a 34 y.o man, single, happens to spend my youth on sacrificing my life and myself for others, now I understand how does it feel like to go „outside“ and experiencing something that supposedly did when I was younger (travel more, heartbreak more).
considering myself as a late bloomer, but it’s OK. my close relatives always support me and said to me that my life is mine. and it doesn’t have to be „a race“ with others. 😊
What a lot of people forget when saying the phrase "do whatever you want if it doesn't hurt anyone", they forget that not all things that may not hurt others doesn't necessarily mean it won't hurt you. Even if you are not hurting anyone, what right is right and what is wrong is wrong. Live in a way that makes your life fulfilling and good for yourself and the people you love. That's all there is to it
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I interpret "anyone" as including yourself, since you're also a person after all
3:06 so true. For all highschoolers watching this. No one will care to remember the "cringey" things you did. And if they do remember, they won't care. And if they remember and care then they aren't worth pleasing because judging people for the small things that bring people joy without disturbing others is a sad way to live.
I guess I’ll be that guy
1: 0:16 where did all the time go
2: 1:18 it’s not just cheesy advice
3: 2:50 live your life
thanks ❤
One of the things I've learned as a young adult is that our parents are human, they'll make mistakes and won't always be around and will sometimes struggle with life and they deserve all the love, respect and compassion we can give, so let's look out for them!! 🙏🙏🤗🤗🥰🥰🥰
#parentsrule #parentsarehuman
This really resonates w me 00:34 - Time flies faster as we grow older, and many realize they're wasted valuable moment's.
0:22 Seriously, I am young and see time was slow. But I know deep down that it’s fast.
I'm 19 and I had already had come to these realizations. I don't know if that's impressive or worrying. My friends always tell me how impressed they are with me and how wise, smart, and mature I am for my age. I'm already seeing time fly by me and all I can think about is how much I can accomplish before I'm in the grave.
*not intentionally hurting anyone... Is mildly upsetting someone or inconveniencing someone the end of their world? No. Should we all have to tiptoe around others? No. Can we simply try not be reckless? Yes.
Intentions certainly matter to an extent, yet the victim of involuntary manslaughter is no more alive for the lack of someone intending to hurt them.
Being yourself might mean people aren't readily drawn to you, but in the end, the people who are right for you will show up. It can take a long time. But you can use this time to work on those things about you that you KNOW can be worked out. It's something I've learned, anyway.
46yrs this weekend. My advice is to keep playing, and making memories.
Yup... all this is 100% correct. Except that I am 33 and far away from potentially ever having a wife at all 🥲
Time really flies by because we somehow already seem to have experienced most things. That was definitely different as kids and even teens. Oddly enough, time is just as slow as it ever was, we just need to make more unique and new experiences along the way. Other than this, yes. PLEASE STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF, it isn't worth it playing nice for someone else. The people one gets along with will show up somewhere, somehow.
Summer definitely goes by quicker as I’ve gotten older but winter somehow lasts longer.
As a 14 years old teenager I alr feel like time is FLYING by than it use to. This is so true. Love the content and the new animation style ❤❤😊
Thank you this is very helpful wisdom from a mom who recently turned 60 and I don’t know how this happened except as the saying goes the new 18 is 25. I’ll say the new 60 is early 50 something.
You are as old as you feel so be good to yourself. Strive for balance in your life never stop learning Learn who you are the younger generations have a wealth of information at their fingertips filter, the information and feed your mind with good things be kind and set boundaries. Help those that prove their willing to seek help learn to love from a distance and for some prayer, meditation and videos such as this one provide light for the unknown (gift of a life) journey.
Growing up doesn't mean you know more. Growing up means taking on more responsibilities and maturing.
That's something I wish the 18 year old me knew.
As a 19 yo, I wish I could go back to my childhood sooo bad. Being a child without significant responsibilities and worries was awesome compared to present.
For me, I experienced a lot of "firsts" 10-20 years after many people would, and when they come, I feel like my version is lesser or cheaper. Though I think what really happens is that I have expectations and the events have less element of surprise.
Expectations can really steal the special parts of those moments. I myself had (and kind of still have) expectations that later left me disappointed that things didn't happen like I wanted them to, and that can really bring the mood down
Well, I didn't plan on being sad today, but here I am. 😢
I knew it coming and there's no doubt and here I'm living in the hell.
Same growing up is painful
I love that the voice actor is south african ahh! good to see more of us in the media
“Just be yourself” is something I am and am not doing at the same time.
I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not. But, I also mask myself. That’s the thing with autism in this society. I mostly water down my true self in front of others, meaning I won’t fully pretend to be someone I’m not, but I won’t unabashedly be myself either. I have a rough idea of what I want. Where I want to be. Where I want to find myself in the next few years. Preferably as soon as possible. How to get there, is the question. And therein lies the struggle. I know I want to do more unmasking. And that I want to pursue something I truly want to do. I found out firsthand that I’ll just lose motivation and energy really quickly when I’m forcing myself to do something in which I don’t back myself. Political science at uni wasn’t a roaring success by any means, last year. So it’s back to the drawing board. But with little energy, due to pushing myself into autistic burnout. This past year felt like a waste of time. I didn’t really do much. I couldn’t. I couldn’t work much on my special interests. I didn’t go and find a job. I did some research on other studies, but I did so while masking, so I was setting course towards something I knew wouldn’t suit me. Sorry, University. I don’t think we’re a match. I want something more creative. I deem it one of my greatest strengths. I just need to learn to work with my executive dysfunction. I know I can get into flow states, as an autistic person. I can get very passionate. And I can, at times, be very hard working. But other times, I do so little and I beat myself up over it. I used to chastise myself for having wasted this past year. I have become more forgiving. I am realising that, yes, I got almost to a standstill. Yes, I see all these peers of mine moving ahead of me in life. But I feel like this may be what’s best long term. Slow down. Learn some skills (I’ve been cooking, doing more chores around the house and driving lessons have been going pretty well). Figure out what you really want from life and how to chase that. I think fully embracing authenticity, not just internally, but externally as well, is key. Yes, these are my interests. Yes, these are my autistic traits. Take me as I am or don’t take me at all. I know I won’t appeal to most people but I’ll be appealing to people who suit me. Yes, I’ll still have to mask. That’s just reality for us autistics. I just want to be able to let go off the mask when I’m around those closest to me.
While i understand that i don't and can't know excactly how all of it felt to you, it's still so relatable... And i just wanted to say... Good luck to you in your journey, friend
@@nikovol555 Thank you. Good luck to you too!
Some of us have been masking for so long, we have a hard time telling when we are masking. If we want to pay the rent and keep the lights on, we have to be someone whom the job market is looking for.
@@jasonhernandez619 Yep. I want to try and remove the mask more around people close to me. But part of the challenge is deciphering what is part of the mask and what isn’t. If you kind of ‘water yourself down’, are you being authentic or not? These are complicated questions. And I know the mask will always remain. It can be a helpful tool.
Timestamps
1). Where did all the time go 0:15
2). It's not just cheesy advice 1:17
3). Live your life 2:49
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Shoutout to that thing of very suddenly starting to look inward and starting the journey of self-improvement so suddenly it's like a truck hit you
Love the new animations _
Thanks! :)
I love this channel so much , I even learnt English using these phrases.
Thanks for the kind words!
As an old man of 47, I can attest to every example discussed in the video. Time flying as we grow older hits particularly close to home for me. However, it's the deep realizations that make the biggest impact. For example, recently I learned about the 18-40-60 rule. It goes like this:
At age 18, we do things because of what others will think about us;
At age 40, we don't care what others think about us; and
At age 60, we realize that nobody is thinking about us!
I don't spend only my Friday evenings petting my cat: that's what I have done every evening for the past 18 years, and I won't stop for anything. In fact, I'm petting her right now. 😁
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It is never too late to find meaning in life.
Here is what i learned:
1. Nobody cares about you, except your family and a very small group of people.
2. The world owes you nothing, nobody owes you anything, you owe nobody anything.
3. Service to your country will not be rewarded. You will be used and forgotten.
4. Complaining dose not fix things. Doing stuff dose.
5. Everybody lies. Deal with it.
6. Watch out for yourself - nobody else will do it.
7. If you have to, push someone out of the way to get what you want. After all, they will do it to you too.
Well thats a bit cynical... totally correct, but I feel like "nobody owes you anything and you owe nobody nothing" isnt how it should be. Its true, you dont HAVE to help those less fortunate than you, but never forget, a few bad turns and unlucky days, and that unfortunate person could have been you. I agree its important to set boundaries, but having empathy is important aswell.
I know this, but I just dont know where to start.
When you get older, hindsight is 20/20.
You realize you know nothing after thinking you know it all.
In the end, all we want is peace, health, healing, a roof, a warm bed, clean food and water.
Family are the people who love you the way you love them, it's not always your family either.
😏Yep you said it.🧑🎓
Do you have any videos about what healthy parent and adult child relationship looks like and about questions to ask to reconcile with a parent who is definitely not toxic (I've seen your videos about toxic parents, and she is definitely not one), but keep having huge conflicts, intense arguments, and fights with you?
My advice is don’t be afraid to try new things
Nah dawg as a kid yes school years felt like centuries but summer felt like a blink
The things i realized is that parents aren't always right, bitterness towards everything isn't healthy to deal with things, being a people pleaser and not being able to say "no" seems sad
Can you make a video on how to know that the person you've chosen is THE ONE? Also how to self examine if you are a toxic person or genuinely caring about yourself first.
I am glad that i realized that i catered and changed to suit others this early in life...well late 20s-early 30s. If people dont like you as you, then they dont deserve to know you. Also, there is no bad or good, there only is. Once you expect life, warts and all and accept challenges and struggles as part of the journey, you will live life fully.
I'm sorry if I offended you or anything but Can you please post all your videos with Amanda's voice?😭 Her voice suits these videos the best. It feels so comforting😭
34 here. Time has been going by faster and faster. Sometimes it's nice. Other times, I wish it would slow down. Time with others doesn't feel enough anymore. Especially with certain people. I feel like I blink, and it's a different day, week, or month.
I am 16 and I started crying from 0:50 to 1:18 . Im forced to play football because my dads a coach, So I am going to have some friends, and yet Im not allowed to have friends over because my mom is embarrassed by the house *for the past 4 years* and she says "You can't go because your going to do something stupid"
Watching this made me realize 'this is really going to be true for all of my teen years.'
So I'm forced to say to my friends
'sorry I can't come over.' 'No you cannot come over.' 'Sorry not today.' 'I have to do something else.' 'And never get the chance to really have a good friend.'
Financial literacy becomes more and more important as you age. Learn it when you are young (or as soon as you can) so you can plan ahead for big life goals, e.g. family, house, etc
I have adhd and time blindness. I've *always* been aware that time is fleeting and moves too fast. Vacations that occur every year for just a weekend seem far too short. I woke up one day and i was turning 30 years old and im living with my parents again, single, never dated, never got a job in my career despite finishing a bachelors and a master's, and broke as hell. Functionally, emotionally, im still a teenager, discovering and learning my emotions. I would do ANYTHING to go back 10 years to my first term of undergrad living on campus and spend time with friends or talk to a girl. I can't do any of that now. I can't help but feel I'll blink, and I'll be 40, 50, 60, and still single, alone, lost in a failed career, and broken still. They always say time is precious and to spend it carefully, but imagine being constantly aware of that, unable to use your time how you want, and aging rapidly anyway? A third of my life is gone and completely wasted. I've watched it slip through my fingers and not because I wasn't aware, but because I did not have the ability to "seize the day." I still don't, and I'm running out of time with $5 in the bank and tons and tons of debt for me and my parents and no friends or girlfriend to support me. I'm alone.
I found being a teenager was no problem.
Remember that time when said you were going to marry that one girl in the class next door turns out she s got a family and is happy with this other guy while you're here deluding yourself with what if thought
I can relate to this one
@amaurys_001 sorry bro that just mean it wasn't meant to be (if you manage to talk to her and become her friend at least you have your memories )
If things were that easy it would be better for everyone.
When life was low-key looking good but I go through a brutal friend break up followed by that COVID lockdown 😔
It Doesn’t matter it will all be over soon
Sai, if you ever read this: No one will be mad at you if you don't understand a reference or vibe with something as much as another person does.
I love anime too, I use references from there to examine myself a lot of the time and it's okay if people don't get it. So no one would mind if you didn't understand Jay's references.
You can share your own interests too!! 🤗🤗🥰🙏🥰🥰
The happier you were as a kid the more sarcastic you will be
That’s an interesting perspective! It could be that growing up in a positive, carefree environment might give people the confidence to develop a sense of humor, including sarcasm, as a way of expressing themselves. But do you think sarcasm could also be a defense mechanism for some, regardless of childhood happiness? It's curious how different experiences shape the way we use humor in life
@@Psych2go I think I misspoke i meant that the happier you look as a child the gloomier you will be as an adult.
In my mind, I'm young and carefree. Unfortunately, my rapid ageing body reminds me otherwise. Love the new artwork 💜
Take it from a former shut-in, don’t let anxiety and depression control you
Yeah, that's definitely me, bruh 😂🤣. For almost all my life, my family always want me to be successful, smart and brave throughout my life. But in the end, I just don't know what I want to do to be myself as I am 😢. And now, I wish that I should've savor my years, one day at a time. Man, I feel miserable 😔.
The animation in this video is so good!
Never wish a period of time is over. I spent years of my life either deployed and in guard posts and wished all that time away. While boring or hard I could have used that time to think about life and learn about myself b
Don't come into life with fixed expectations of where you'll be at a certain time in life. Anything that happens to you is outside of your control and you can only react and respond to external stimuli. Do your best, work hard and persevere and whatever happens, will happen.
You may have wasted a lot of time on things you shouldn't have over the years and those years you can't get back, but as long as you have breath, you can make each moment count from here on out and make new memories... 🥹🥰
I'm already in the hell and can't come out.
*Hello!whoever is reading.I've embraced so many miracles of impossible things to be possible in my life through my midnight prayer(Tahajjud).So,I pray for you whoever is suffering,one day you will be ok❤😊*
2:07 it's that gojo,Luffy and Naruto😭
As a menopausal woman, Can Confirm...except for the married w/kids part.
Yes, on discovering who i am, late in life.
Nicely done, Psych2Go!
It’s amazing to hear that Psych2Go resonated with you! Discovering who you truly are, even later in life, is such an empowering experience. Being menopausal and navigating all those changes while focusing on personal growth can be incredibly transformative. Thank you for sharing your journey, and it’s great that you’ve found value in this content! How has this newfound self-awareness shaped your life lately?
@@Psych2go Thanks for responding and asking! I've discovered that I love/enjoy: heavy metal concerts
dressing as a goth/metalhead
reading and analyzing Dante's Divine Comedy
going to museums....a lot
researching art forms that someday i plan to attempt (sculpture, painting, carpentry/restoration, glass making, etc. etc. etc.)
traveling, particularly outside of the US
and just trying to become a Better Version of myself.
I’d rather regret the things I did… than the things I didn’t do. That is true, for sure. Chase your dreams; even if you never catch them, at least you tried! 👍
Im still young and i love watching this is this a good thing
The way i gasped at the "bright pink hair"
I literally just dyed a few strands of my hair like that on this month LMAO and i was so afraid to show it in my small town...
If psych hearts this comment I’ll ask out my crush
I got it when I was younger whenever someone took the time to explain it. Children aren't sub-human.
”YAY” below. 😂😂😂😂😂 GREAT ANIMATIONS!!!
Me when I'm 30 years old, forever alone, still single and remains petless cause I hate pets. Now THAT'S why I'm old.
Hey, there’s nothing wrong with being single and petless-life is all about doing what makes *you* happy! You’ve got time to figure out what fulfills you, whether that involves a relationship or not. At least you know what you like and don’t like! 😄
I want a cat 🐈
The only time when I get a pet will be over my dead body cause I already hate pets and I sure damn well don't want one. SERIOUSLY.
@@HATERSHAQ yes u can rest in peace 🕊️ without pets ❤️🤗
(Just me yapping my thoughts)
I feel like we should all have something tangible or intangible that remind us of our years. Something that draws us back to those times. Something that reminds us of our ever-changing self. We are all an idea in which time molds, so it be nice to see the stages of our evolution. Cause, we all gotta plan out the long game, what we want in life. The most outlandish dreams can be turned into reality if your willing to take actionable steps towards it, as cheesy as it may sound, its true. We all should realize that time is finite, we wont live forever, and we wont stay young forever. If you dont value time, you'll realize that you spent these years doing nothing. Its better to feel the pain of disclipine than the poignant pang of regret. Ill leave you with something I wrote down not too long ago, it deals with the themes of dreams and reality.
Strive to live the life you yearn for, whatever that means for you.
Love is the answer. ❤
To the most extent, that is probably true. How is your love life going?
0:36 i know right! Im in highschool and i feel like a few seconds ago,i was in 1st grade!
I struggled through my twenties with mental illness, and I'm still struggling. My twenties was spent in kinda shitty situations with an emotionally abusive parent.... So there hasn't been any great revelations to get me out of this and make it better, just more stress, and trying to stay alive. Not sure how to keep it up most days.
I dont want to encourage you to suicide but remain alert with a profile like yours media persons and their gangworks try to make suicides of people like you a movie story or book story or avtivism story their next best girl child will use. Or best mothers child. Could be an abusive parents child but exotic girl who would impress males enough to keep economy going to richer heights majorly for their future🎉🎉. Be on alert, these girls have a fan base n they all work to cause suicides, murders, rapes to create more economic outputs. Really stay on alert. They also make her sex easy using these suicides or other acts. Please be safe
Hate getting older
Me too.
Hate is also getting older.
And no matter how many times you give this advice they won’t take it. They learn from the experience.
I turn 31 in about a month and a half so this video hit me pretty hard, as I certainly feel much younger mentally. I grew up with epilepsy so my maturity has been much slower than most people my age. My mother has always told me that whatever age I am right now, subtract that by 5 years and that's what my mental age is. It's taken time but I'm gradually learning how to adult more, and it's def not easy
I'm nearly 80 years old and I have realized that I have to change how I do some things, just to be safe, namely, to avoid falling.
Hey tysm for being so kind.i have been watching ur vids since twenty twenty two.thank u for giving us advice and care and love for all. Pls notice my comment and btw bless u psych!I get bullied alot too
I've always been myself. I just never really fit in anywhere and I never bothered.
Because I really never fit in anywhere at all and because I never had a semblance of what it felt like to fit in it wasn't even a thing I realized was a thing people did. Until I finally made actual friends and realized people actually try really hard to fit in sometimes whereas I'd just do my own thing.
As a wise man once said,
"I may not look like it, but im 112 years old."
I smiled and meant it once. It wasn't just a smile borne out of shyness or social awkwardness. I smiled with heart fluttering warmth when I gazed at a photo of my four year old self lifting up a wrapped Christmas present just before opening it. I wish I could remember what was inside that package. I'm thinking Ghostbusters or Teenage Turtles paraphernalia. Heavy sigh!
Can you do a video on how to make your crush like you when they like someone else without talking with them??
Or is it just impossible??
We do have a video on unrequited love, but we do understand the pain of seeing someone you like like someone else. Would something like that help?
1:49 It's weird. I never tried different personalities or tried to fit in anywhere, I just tried to get to know myself better and feel comfortable with myself. Maybe that's why I didn't have any friends for 15 years.
Rejection and loneliness were a constant and aggravated my depression.
But maybe that was for my own good.
Now that I feel better about myself I started to have friends but the really good ones.
It's never too late.
Not many people understand the "lost time" in one's youth as badly as I do . . . but it's not because I was frivolous. In my case, thanks to (initially) undiagnosed disabilities and their attendant social problems, I wasn't even able to get a steady job until I was past 40 years old, and until I got that job and its benefits, I couldn't even begin to have a real, personal life, much les anything I wanted. I spent my 20s and 30s working and waiting for things to "get started" for me, and by the time they did, it was at an age when they were supposed to be settling down.
I can relate. In my case, the undiagnosed disability was autism, and my timeline was similar to yours. As long as the job market is "all about networking," it is closed to people with autism.
@@jasonhernandez619 Precisely: I have autism and ADHD, along with some other things.
I’m a lost 42 year old with a 30 year old body. I may be really healthy for my age but man life is a challenge. I hope you all out there who see this are doing well!
The new art is adorablee !
105 dieing inside and weeping very reminiscent of sadness in the moment 🥲🇦🇺🤯
Ok, the new animator. Work. This looks so good.
Thank you!
Yeah! I might just have been a teenager once upon a time. But I wasted my teens on Guitar Hero.
Approaching sixty. Lots of regrets, lots of failures and I'm so tired because you're wrong. You have to keep your employer happy, have to take care if those close to you, and work to keep yourself from being homeless. There's no time for yourself anymore.
Yay❤
Thank you!
0:40 "by the time you realize it, youre in your thirties, married" i love psych2go's innocent optimism!
The art style is pretty cute.
I'm 20 and autistic. I hear people say I know what most older people know. I'm more logical and mature than some if my uncles who believe trying for mental health is no use.
Edit after watching: I am actually there with this mindset already. I'm good❤❤🥺🥹
From an Aspergian point of view, it’s not that logical to view ASD and ADHD as anything but superpowers. The problem is that some of us dealing with these conditions never learn how to properly understand them or any other mental strategies for navigating life.
Simply acknowledging that you need treatment because you have something "bad" is a faulty mindset by default. We have the power to dictate how we feel about things. If you tell yourself that something is hard and you need support, then that’s the reality you’ll create. But if you tell yourself that nothing can break you, then nothing will.
Since I was young, I’ve always told myself: if the person next to me can do it, then I can do it too. There's no such thing as "I can't do it"-only "I don’t want to do it." The impossible just takes a little longer.
How many of us, perhaps at the age of 13, are pushed to try harder, to go for those Olympics, only to realize that we are capable of much more than we ever imagined? Suddenly, we jump from C’s and D’s to A’s and B’s in all of our subjects. This is the Law of Equilibrium. When you give your all to something you cherish, something that resonates with your soul, you positively affect all the other aspects of your life indirectly.
Before you seek unnecessary treatments that could harm you in the long run, I want you to understand one thing. I’m not talking about DBT, CBT or other types of psychotherapy, but about medications. Don’t destroy your brain and body.
I could say I was practically born with the HI Victor virus. I contracted it at the hospital when I was about three months old, and my mother found out when I was eight, nine. The doctors told her I only had one year to live. You can imagine what she went through.
I’ve always stayed positive, ironically, but I’ve also developed cPTSD-it's been 35 years now, and I’ve never even had my first kiss. I’ve never dared to ask someone out, obviously. I don’t think fear of rejection is the problem, but rather fear of intimacy and "How could I have the nerve?" I don't use people, and I don’t need anything from anyone. Or I cannot forgive myself if something bad will happen, or I cannot bring to the table what other healthy individuals can.
I do have as well Alexithymia, silent BPD, bipolar disorder, and probably other things, but they've been stabilized by now.
Life, heartbreaks, betrayals, narcissistic bosses and friends, and time-have all forced me to upgrade my cognitive functions. They’ve made me unbreakable, perfectly resilient.
I never went to therapy or took any meds, but to be honest, I smoked a lot of weed in my twenties, and this made me cope a lot better with anxiety, depression, and whatever episodes I had.
Hmm.
It's not fair for others not to know the truth. In actuality, when I fell in love for the first time, it crushed me. The first time, it feels totally unforgettable, but I didn't know that.
And at that time nothing was going right.
I couldn't find a stable job. Well, I went to a foreign country, and my autism made me freak out at interviews and such, or I had a broken mentality: I was so certain that I was either overqualified or none would give me a chance, that even my CV, I made it in such a way that nobody would take a risk with me. Just because I didn't trust myself or the world,
If you think like that, then from 50 jobs, if only 10 of them would get you a job, then you will apply to all those other 40 that won;t get you a job, and you will miss out on any of those 10. Simple science.
Anyway, I had about 3 or 4 months really terrible. MDD, suicidal thoughts. Thousands, and thousands of negative thoughts every single day. I couldn't stop my mind, and I was completely drained of energy.
On my birthday I wanted to die, and I wrote angry poems at God, the Universe. So many why's. I asked for answers, and then it happened. For about 6 days I kept seeing synchronicities between my thoughts and the outer world. For instance, I would hear people on the street talking randomly about exactly what was in my inner world, or the lyrics from a song I just heard on the radio were again talking about exactly what I was thinking in that very moment.
In my 6th day, there were so many coincidences, that I had finally gave my leap of faith. For the first time in my life, I felt that I truly believed in God. One of the happiest days of my life.
I understood then why I needed my condition. Only from the lowest state of mind, I was going to ask for help/answers, just to find out how this Matrix works. So, yeah. I'll forever be grateful for hard times. It's been 8 years since then. I have learned many, many other things, and had witnessed millions of small little moments that happened within the present moment. We do live indeed in a perfect simulation.
The first 4, 5 years weren't easy. I went through many dark nights of the soul, even made a stroke at the age of 30 in my left parietal brain. I needed a lot of time to get used with this double life. Now I'm not affected anymore.
My best friend went through the same episode like me, more or less, but the next day after the "awakening manic" episode, he closed completely in himself, and after 8 days, his mind couldn't cope anymore from that negativity he made for himself, that he made a full episode of schizophrenia, completely delusional, that he needed about 4 months of recovery on Olanzapine to get well again.
I never went to that phase because I never told my mind that I was going crazy. "I know what I lived yesterday! And nobody can tell me otherwise. Period." I stayed true to my beliefs and in this way I saved myself from that.
The world still needs to learn a lot about schizophrenia, life, relationships and many other things.
Sorry for my TL:DR, but I needed to vent and writing is another mechanism medicine that I use + I know that TH-cam deletes my huge comments. "He" doesn't like writers.