I f*cked up the first 40 years of my life | Mel Robbins
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This man desperately wants to change his life but says he JUST CAN’T bring himself to make his dreams a reality. Sound familiar?
It’s easy to avoid the things you’re scared of. He used video games to distract himself from what he actually had to do. I used drinking.
The first 40 years of my life, I was a hot mess - learning every lesson the HARD way, drinking through my feelings and beating myself up for not being where I wanted to be.
I am where I am today because I lived through the hard shit and LEARNED from it.
I stopped AVOIDING the things I knew I had to do.
I CHANGED my habits and my mindset so I could focus on my dreams.
My wish for you ➡️ Use this hard moment in your life to catapult yourself forward toward your dreams.
Every day you have a choice:
Am I going to avoid doing what I have to do?
Or am I going to make shit happen and push myself to change?
Get up every damn day and high five your way forward. Cheer for yourself.
⬆️That’s how you make your dreams come true.⬆️
What’s one thing you want for yourself that you can take action on TODAY?
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Waiter: “Would you like to hear about our specials?”
Mel: “I...f****d up my life.”
That's exactly what I thought! "Uh, my shift ends in ten. Did you want me to bring the dessert menu or can I go now?" lol I do like her advice though.
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Thank you for the belly laugh today - I needed it. You win the internet today. Cheers.
Wow, I needed that title. I’m 39, studying to start a new career/business and I am not yet married. Not only do I feel like I wasted the first 40 years of my life, I’m fighting the feeling that it’s too late to turn it around in any big way. Hearing Mel’s story gives me a little hope and reassurance that just because I didn’t get where I want to be by 25-30 doesn’t mean I can’t get there.
I'm basically starting to start over and I'm over 40. Don't consider it a wast of 40 years.... Considerate data that you can use to propel yourself forward to a better place as a better person. This is what I'm doing or at least trying tough to break old habits but they can be broken. You can do this. 🌸
I wasted 4-5 years of my life as well. So I might have an idea how you feel. Lets hope we both do better from now.
Perhaps the world would be a better place if everyone accepted themselves as they are. Because we are; and that’s enough.
Hearing your thoughts they’re almost identical to mine. Thank you for posting and truly appreciate your honesty. For myself, one minute I’m 42 , then looked up and 5 years went by...now 47. I too changed my career, did not balance my life & wondering if I’m too late. But now asking myself...too late for what? Asking deeper questions on what I want to work towards...what balance & what does that look like? What do I want the end result to be? You will too. Good Luck 🍀 to you.
@@lissam8988 Good for you!!! Good luck 🍀
*Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of the fear.*
Well said
Stealing a quote from Will Smith huh? smh
@@alexortega714....Who stole it from Jack Canfield....so...whose the thief....???
@@alexortega714 Alas...there was also Tony Robbins, who 20 plus years ago was saying this. It would appear your idol was not the first...nor will he likely be the last...
It’s still a great quote.
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I am 52 and just had a failed business leaving me in a lot of debt. But I'm ready to begin again. I know I can succeed at any age. Thank you, Mel!
At least you did something you wanted to do and took control of your life. You took a risk, probably learned a tonne and will bounce back from it. I just turned 40 and have nothing but regret.
I feel you - I'm the same age and in a similar position. I'm cheering for you and sending you good vibes for much success!!
@@Paulo-nf7ms lol the hell you say. there's a lot of things in life you don't objectively recover parity from.
I remember an article about this young Indian couple that came to the US to study and then managed to get a green card. They eventually married , had a couple of kids etc. Initially worked for someone else and then made the jump to owning one McDonalds, then two, then three etc , lots of ups and downs and today they are wealthy . They said that in India if your business goes down , that little nugget will go on your gravestone with you one day. You are never forgiven. Here in the US, you get a second, third and fifth chance and the only thing that people are really interested in is ...."and what are you planning to do next?" As an immigrant from another country I can fully vouch for what the Indian couple said. Most countries will make sure that your failures are advertised....not here in the US
Well, it's a motivational phrase which IMHO is full of wisdom. You can interpret it as you choose. Whilst I don't necessarily dispute what you say, other phrases that come to mind are "EVERYTING is an opportunity" and "Today is the first day of the rest of your life". Even in the bleakest of situations, it's up to you whether you decide to focus on the negative, or on the opportunity.@@GonzoT38
Guy probably quit at the end of his shift 😂
Two years on, we need a follow up conversation with this dude
He didn't even start this conversation; he just came to take her order 😂
Hahahahahaha!!!!
Yea bro
I think that the waiter ended up drinking himself to sleep after listening to this!!!!
49 drank for 25 years from childhood abuse....the light finally came on this year....sober for 4 years finally starting my life... embarrassing.
Don't be embarrassed. BE PROUD OF YOURSELF AND YOUR Accomplishments
CONGRATS on your 4 year sober.😊
@JC-du6sn thank you JC. I googled it. Hmm. God must be reaching out to me because I've been getting signs to hear Him.
❤️
Don’t be embarrassed you are trooper warrior for admitting your issues
4 years sober is a great accomplishment
Everything happens in divine timing
Be forever young 😇
That is awesome. Keep up the good work. Life isn't linear. Look at divorcees and career changers your age. You may be in a better spot
You are making a change in your life. That's good! 😊
My 39th birthday was in March and without even realizing it, it hit me like a ton of bricks. All this time I’ve wasted from depression because of my parents divorce and then my moms death also how many decisions I’ve made out of fear. It’s time to put that stuff behind me and move on. I started going to the gym and working on my broken heart...the road to recovery is going to be tough but I have decided that I am worth it!
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I f****d up the first 27 years of my life... it sucks.. while others my age are excelling, im unemployed, broke and lost... but I havent given up hope... praying for everyone that is in the same situation
Same
Mee to you are not alone
Can I join your club guys? I am 28, and today will be my 1001th attempt to start life anew.
I wish I could have started my life with 27. I am 40. And I am slowly, very slowly just starting my life. It was so bad that I never even had a real job. Shame and all. Very hard to forgive myself.
Same here but we are here to change it
Sound familiar? I extended this to the first 50 years of my life. I'm studying now to redeem what is left of my time on Planet Earth. Thanks for sharing this message Mel.
How about the first 55
just how mentally strong do you have to be to pull this off you deserve praise. I am having trouble doing it and i am 23.
If we don't do it now when are we going to do it?
Thanks for the great replies. We can only do the best we can with what we’ve got - take heart.❤️
Fucked up my first 38
Waiter: HI are you ready to order?
Mel: The first 40 years of my life I wasn't ready.......
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Exactly right. It is so darn easy to procrastinate. But you never get that time back. It slips away. Do it now.
Yes, you are right🙏🏻 !
Totally agree. I'm 50. Where did the years go? I had dreams. I would like to start my own business but, working as a litigation secretary (defense side) for 30 years, I've seen so much crap it's terrified me.
@@tee1974 you can do. Go and get your dream. The guy who started KFC never stopped
I am there, start my work out... its damm hard!
@@tee1974do it x
Thank You! I’m 43 and feel like I wasted my life just partying it away, dead end job, single, no kids, and just feel lost. I’m ready to make a change to better my life. I’m tired!!!
Your life like mine, we same age too! Isn't embarrassing to see how far ahead people you knew in the past are in life. But when you were good friends with them or last saw them, you were just a pair of party goers, drinking the nights away in bliss. Now these people are directors of businesses, doctors, heads of education, etc.
We're the same age and similar issues, but I always say if there's life, then there's still room for change, we can still change, good luck on your/our journeys!
If it makes you feel better. At least you got to party your life away, some people are your age no money AND never got to have fun or party. So at least you had some fun 🤷🏻♀️just trying to help you think about your situation in a better way
Notice the guy self soothing by rubbing his arm, bless him
I noticed that, too.
Probably felt uncomfortable with the drive thru therapy
he’s not self soothing, he’s nervous cause he wants to move on to the next table but feels
obliged to stand there and listen to her finish lmao
@@michellescherer7858 regardless of the reason (being nervous, according to you) his behaviour still indicates an attempt to self sooth
Mel is my internet mom ,
I love Mel ❣ (the 5 sec rule is gold )
I’ve just realized that I have CPTSD and am now picking up the pieces so I can move forward at 47. Everything I’ve done until now was to react to triggers.
LR100 i am going through a similar situation. You got this. Just know you are divine, you are born divine and you will die divine. Your life is important and your existence matters. Love and blessings ❤
You aren't alone.
I'm 55 CPTSD MUM PASSED FOUND OUT SHE HAD LIED ALL MY LIFE. EVERYTHING HAS GONE WRONG, I'm now having to move back in to where I grew up with the person who sexually abused me from 8 to 13.
LR100 I highly recommend @the.holistic.psycologist, Dr Nicole Lepera!
So true...I started changing last 2weeks...stopped drinking every night and feel so good..thank you ...Mel
Awesome! You are on the path of true love, self-love. Never forget,, your life matters and you are divine. Love and blessings in your journey into you. ❤
I'm 41 now and finally have reconciled enough of my childhood trauma to allow unshakeable courage to break through. Just this year, I've finally allowed myself the chance to try everything I couldn't try or pursue when I was 10-20 years younger. This includes planning for a career pivot and choosing my own life path.
F Yeah!
Similar man
Love this. I’m 38 and feel the same as you do! Praying the best for you!
Love that for you! 👏👏👏 I had a similar experience in terms of working on healing generational cycles and traumas on both sides of the family. We can underestimate the impact of past trauma in the present. Healing work is essential and now, we are more free to pursue our respective dreams and goals. It's not too late while we are 6 ft above ground and have access to resources that can help us along the way. Best wishes! 🙂
"Don’t expect change to happen overnight, even if it’s not always visible it’s making more impact than you think" ❤
hello beautiful❤😂
I really like your thought over here❤😂
Who says 40 50 60 or every 70 is the end of your life???!!!! Nobody determines your life span on how much time you have on this planet. You are getting older yes, wiser yes better yes❤❤❤you can live as long as you say so speak life into yourself!!! LET'S LIVE!! WE ARE THE SHIT AND WE ARE LOVED AND NEEDED! EVEN IF IT'S FOR OURSELVES. WE ARE WORTH IT!! EVERYDAY STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND START SMALL BUT DO SOMETHING GOOD SOMETHING YOU'VE NEVER DONE BEFORE 😊😊😊TIGHTEN UP #VIBRATEHIGHER
Love how down to earth Mel is, a real gem to the world 🙌
@Happy👩Healthy 💪Healing🌹 bless my love 😃🙌
I wouldnt say using a waiter as an therapist is beeing down to earth 🤣
She drank, was a lawyer, had a show and books. So 1 vice but many other achievements is not really ruined life. The way people sell just to get clout is so sad
Bro made it sound like she doesn't suffer anything
This is a joke I hope. And that poor bastard has to listen to this shit. He probably slit his wrists in the back after this. Love how she talks about she is all over the world telling this story.
I've learned that every loss has an inherent gain to be found and every failure has a lesson to be learned. Most of all, never give up.
I f*ucked all 53 years of my life. I have cancer now, I’ve given up. I’m just happy the cancer has come along to remove the pain forever. I didn't drink or do anything that was addictive. I just worked on my career and never thought about having quality of life. I missed out on so much-chasing money and trying to be successful
So sorry to hear that. How are you doing now?
Mel I wish I had more women like you in my life. I'm super grateful for your encouragement, Thanks
Use hard times to learn from, rather than wallowing in self pity
Frikkin love Mel. I can't believe how much her teachings helped me. Virtual hugs and love Mel. x
Pushing oneself too hard - ie harder than NATURE intended - is the cause of addiction and also downfall of kind society.
Me too, exactly 40 years. Life for me began at 41.
Hey
And for me life began at 44. ☺
No, it didn't. That's just the story you tell yourself. Every year, you had ups and downs and you lived. Be kind to yourself. Self love.
I'm only 27 & sometimes I feel like I'm late to finding myself & starting to live. But people like you me believe it's never too late & to stop comparing.
@@paushali2401 You are not late at all. I'm 48 and wow, have I changed EVERYTHING since 27 and I LOVE my life and you will too. I wish you so much HAPPINESS and yes there will be pain too, but the other side of pain is BEAUTIFUL and WISE! Much love.
👉 *Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you've got a big heart and aren't afraid to let others see it.*
*Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.* 🖤
Wow Thank you so much 💖
Wow!! Needed to hear this ☺
Society always portrays your vulnerable as a sign of weakness
Being sensitive and emotional is actually a great strength which many people don't have coz they are full of ignorance, resentment, self pity , ego or just lost . Important is to take the power and decide who and which situation is worthy of your feelings and put energy in it. don't waste it , it ain't for the people who don't appreciate it. Have compassion but you can't do the healing work for them . If we are able to have a clear distinguishable understanding between being practical and emotional.. we can help others while not draining own self. :)
You have to discern when it is appropriate to show your emotions. It’s hard to see an emotional outburst about a trivial incident and see that person as strong. Being able to manage emotions appropriately is very important and actually shows a great deal of strength, restraint and self control. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions so you can deal with life’s difficulties with a calm demeanor and clear head.
The waiter was just coming over to take your food order.
And then the waiter got fired for socializing with customer and that’s how he f’d up HIS life.
Decided to be an artist at 40. Never did art since I was a kid. Growing, learning, being who you want to be...is the easy part. Forgetting the past and who you were is trickier. 1 day at a time. Win the day.
I admire this. I’m 38 and want to become a singer, yes I can actually do it. But you know 40 year old new artist 🤣🤣. Hope you’re enjoying yourself and making strides!
You got this!
But how do you pay your bills?
So wonderful to help others, as you do too Mel! I waited till my 40s to go to College, and I learned a lot, but I didn’t experience as much until I started taking action! I wasted 40 years of my life too! I stayed in an abusive relationship, I ran from my fears, I hid behind lies, and I lacked confidence! These past few years have started my journey to where I want to be! Thank you for doing what you do Mel!! Looking forward to what your going to share with us in Atlanta in September!!
I’m confused on your reply. And that code doesn’t make sense.
@@briluv44 It's not Mel, somebody created an account with the same name to confuse people. Good luck on your journey Becky! You are still a young person, today 40s are new 30s so you have time to start from scratch and live your most wonderful life you've always wanted.
can you pls send me your email address❤
needed to chat with you privately ❤🙏🌹🥰
I love you Mel! I turned 40 this year and your video gives me hope. I'll be one year sober next month and you have been one of the angels that are making me realize how things can change for the better. Kisses from Bogotá, Colombia.
I love that this helped you too dear! I just noticed you got a “fake” reply too from someone claiming to be “Mel Robbins”, sad that people go out of their way to pretend to be someone else, and try to scam you.
If you check my comments, you’ll see this fake person sent me the same exact messages.
Escobar country?
Congrats.
Hello beautiful
I really love your sense of belonging here❤😂
It's not how you start, it's how you finish!
I was just thinking about having another 'talk' with my adult son. Too much alcohol. He has a new job making double the money but it's getting frittered away. His wife drinks alcohol out of a McDonalds cup on the way home from work. I don't want to be a nag but I can't let him just waste his life. I have encouraged him to invest but I still pay for his cel phone and he's made no move to repay the thousands I've 'loaned' him the past few months. I guess the difference is that I literally starved once, and he never has :(
Skip the talk, cut off the cell phone, no more loans and stop enabling him. Tough love is hard but it’s the best thing you can do for him.
Put him on a repayment plan even if just $25 a month. Do not pay for his phone. Talking won’t likely make a difference, but having to take responsibility for his actions will; you’d be doing him a favor.
You sometimes have to be cruel to be kind mama but cut the cord, he will thank you eventually, that is a grown ass married man. May god give you strength to guide you through, saying no to children is tough 💫
Go to Al Anon! It’s the only way you’ll get better. It’s not about him it’s about you! Please get to a meeting you’ll feel better and maybe you can help him. You cannot, I repeat cannot be of help to him coming from fear!
Thrown in the water and see how fast he can swim to stay afloat! He’s a man. Not a baby. Stop talking and let him learn the hard way like a man!
the worst part of life is when you are surrounded with people full of negativity. to the point no matter how much you push yourself, they are just there.
Sometimes you need to move on. 😊
The waiter is cute. He is really listening her. I would not listen probably. Or I would ask at the end for my payment as a therapist.
I love her.
53... I have finally QUIT MY FAMILY... they are awful people to try to survive... living my own life now, free from their attacks. Alone but so daymn happy
Al he wanted was her order ...
Miss Robbins, I know you will likely never see this comment but I just saw this title and watched your short video. I've wasted more than my share of the last 5 years sttuggling with all that you mentioned in the video. For today this helped me get up and moving. I'm hopefully that I may get into a daily routine of motivation as I have many people & 8 grandchildren that could benefit from all that I can offer if I can find the courage to do it daily. Bless you and your time to help just one person make a difference to so many other lives. Much peace and happiness in your own journey.
EXACTLY what I needed to hear!!! Thank you, Mel!
I'm 42 yrs. old and going from solo entrepreneur to staff/brick and mortar with the end goal of going country wide. Feeling like it's maybe too late for me, and that my bad habits of procrastination/ lack of follow-through will return. But it's happening less and less with my new efforts!
Winners are the ones that keep getting up✊🏻
I hope to hire Mel to come speak at my company someday 🤓❤️
Yea but what about physical pain that doesn't allow u to.live ur life????
I made mistakes and went through hell, but it all made me what I am. I wouldn't change it a bit.
I've had the same experience - I also F*CKED UP the first 40 years of my life - by just deciding to have fun without making the sacrifices and putting in the work to reach my goals and achieve my dreams. That's changed now and I am putting all the work I can! I subscribed based on this video by the way ;-)
I messed up too. Still messing up.
Absolutely loved this! Let's stop procrastinating and make our dreams our reality guys! 🙌🏻🙏🏻
Hello how are you doing 😊👋😊
hey beautiful❤😂
I really need Know more about yourself😂
How nice that you really took the time to chat with that young man and offer him advice. It meant a lot to him i think.
He looks ready to scram. I don’t think he asked for any advice.
He did ask for advice. Mel said he kept coming back to ask questions. He probably was just nervous talking to her.
We are All love and worthy of love and respect.
I've f-d up the first 41 years of my life culminating in a motorcycle accident. Lost my job because I couldn't walk for months, license expired, had to move in with family to be nursed back to health. Every day is a battle against the dark voices in my head and my girlfriend is ghosting me dealing with her own struggles leaving no support system. I have to claw my way out of this situation.
Whatever you do dont rely on your GF.
Tremendous courage Mel, well done…
Hi beautiful?
Great video. I am struggling so hard at being 51 and not having accomplished my biggest dream. I'm tired of hearing myself say that "maybe it's too late."
Am 54 and feel down a lot about it - my parents are dead now and I didn’t get a good career or a family to make them proud or grandkids at least to fulfil them . I’ve had an easy life though so I can’t really complain . At 51 , unless you’ve had a lot of experience in something , you might be better going self employed if that’s what you want .
Personally though , I have my own house and just about enough savings to last me till retirement so am going to spend the rest of my life just trying to enjoy life and if I need a woman I’ll pay for one lol rather than being with some bitter old bag just for the sake of it or spending most my time and efforts and stressing myself out on some career .
I'm even better! I f*cked up the first 44 years of my life. 😁
But now I'm very happy.
In what way did you fuck up?
The waiter is like "ummm mam I just asked if you wanted fries or a side salad ".
I’m 38 halfway to 39 and feel the same way. Sure, I’ve had hard things happen to me too personal to name here, but wow, have I left grief, fear, and low self-esteem steal so much time due to the heartache of those losses. Like many people here, it looks like this realization hits us around the same time. I woke up on my 38th birthday more depressed than I’ve been in years because I realized how much I had let slip by due to heartache, fear, and loss. Mel Robbins has helped me get a grip and finally wake up to what can be. Now, I just have to figure out how to do it and find the courage to push through when I can’t see the end of the tunnel. Many peace and blessings to all you others out there in similar situations. We will all get through this together. As my brother would say, just keep grinding. God bless!❤
Just wanted to say, yes indeed same age. And I noticed it's also often roughly the same problems. I lost a decade to burnout and depression, and the previous decades weren't that great either. I missed out on a couple things, which still saddens me sometimes.
I'm 40 and it took me many years to crawl out of a dark place, regain some strength and confidence and since a couple months I'm feeling much better and am in the process of cleaning up my entire life and get rid of all old baggage. I'm feeling that I currently start a new chapter. With many lessons learned.
I realized in recent years that I don't need to be ashamed of my life and my shortcomings/issues because almost everyone seems to be some sort of screwed up. Some are just not aware of it, amd most try to hide it even from friends amd family.
Thank you for that. I think I need to listen to it every day. I’m 47 and in the same boat - been at the crossroad where I really need to become my own cheerleader so thank you
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This just appeared in my feed in one of the most stressed days I've had in so long. I'm at a turning point in life. 33 years old and I keep failing at everything I do. I needed this.
I needed to hear this!
I am reading all these comtemporary Gen X saying how they wasted their lives. I guess they never heard of John Cougar Mellemcamp:
Days turn to minutes
and minute to memories
Life sweeps away the dreams
That we have planned
You are young and you are the future
So suck it up and tough it out
And be the best you can
Pure inspiration
I'm 25 and I feel like I fucked up the first 25 years of my life too. Stuff like this help. I see so many 25 or younger seeming to have it all figure out, grinding, getting there then there's me riddled in fear
I'm with you
Well that's your first problem stop comparing yourself to other people and that fear will greatly reduce. Everyone has a different starting position but the finish line is the same for everyone and it's being content with who and where you are in life.
Instead compare yourself to who you were yesterday and strive to be better than that person even small increments of improvement matter. Doing so will serve as your motivation to keep going until you have so much momentum that the struggle to improve and learn won't feel like your struggling any more. It doesn't matter how long it takes for you to get to where you want to be just as long as you get there.
25 is still so young!!! I know not comparing yourself to others is hard, but remember, your peers only post the good stuff in social media. It's all just a facade.
On same boat.
You give me hope, Mel
When taking an order turns into a therapy session.... that poor waiter
I just looooooooove you Mel...your videos have changed my mind set....you are freaking awesome.... On my way to success ☺️☺️🤞
@Mel Robbins by using someone else's name and picture you have proven that you are a fraud.
@Mel Robbins and by the way cryptocurrercy itself is a big fraud.
you better tip him more than the entire bill's worth for giving you his time
I’m 37 and TH-cam knows what I need to hear more than I do! I’ve never been a drinker and over the last month I’ve started to drink a beer or two before bed…am I on a slippery slope?
The waiter is thinking that he needs to be paid tripple to have to put up with that...
If you have a dream, you don't just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it reality.
I believe in you. 🚀♥
It’s funny on here as most the negative comments seem to cone from men ? Yet the positive from women 🤔
Why are you telling the waiter this 😅 he doesn’t care
I dont know why, but tears started streaming down my face, I am sure because I too, did not recognize the bad choices I was making due to my dysfunctional upbringing. In my mature age I have figured alot of things out of why I did the things I did and why I stayed in dysfunctional relationships, but now I feel like my life is almost over:-(((
Same
Really hope this guy gets paid by the hour😂
Sounds like he recognized Mel & asked her some life questions... It's easier for some commenters to be sarcastic & envious 🥀 There's no happiness being that sad, jealous, envious person🌹
@@biancadelarosa7986 - this makes no sense. What are you trying to say???
I'm in my 40s. And still don't figured it all out. I don't want to blame anyone. It's my own responsibility.
He was really taking it all in. That was fantastic!
Unlike you, most of us aren’t lawyers with a law degree.
Most of us are screwed. We see the easy yet high paying jobs others have and wonder why we have to hustle so hard for such measly pay.
39 starting over with nothing, rather than excited, I feel dread, fear, and sadness.
I really messed up my 20s. At 36 I've managed to turn a few things around. New subscriber!! 💚
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That title is disgusting. Swearing?! You can find a more convenient word. I very much dislike it.
I wrote down something similar the other day
“I deserve to love myself ENOUGH to change my life for the better”
It always helps to hear someone else say it. Thank you 🙏
My bad habits are procrastinating because of perfectionism and fear of failure, and imposter syndrome.
I love it Mel. I'm going to keep cheering for myself. It may take time but I'm going to make it happen! 💪👌👍😘
Loved that title, summary of my own life. At 40, 2 years ago now, I said enough is enough. My goal for 2022 was having my own flourishing business, I achieved that, my goal for 2023 is fantastic health. 2024 marrying the wife I found in 2023, or if I don't find her in 2023 then that will be my main goal in 2024. Then having one kid four years in a row. Life will be amazing for me at 50.
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I f*cked up my entire childhood. I haven't engaged in sports, I failed to make friends, I always get anxious with people and I'm an introvert and always isolated in home. I'm 18 years old rn and I decided to make changes in life when I was 17. Idk if it'd still work out, I've wasted so many years having no achievements and career due to my speech order and awkwardness. I instantly lose interest in anything bcoz I think I'm just not good at anything.
Always believe in yourself and trust the process. Keep moving forward 🌠🐎🐎🌠🐎🌠🌠💛💛💛❤❤
That never works, most young people don't like getting advice from older folks even if that advice could save them years down life's detours!
Waiter:That's not the tip I wanted!
Bet his managers thrilled now." where did carlos go" ......He quit boss!
Oh I totally relate , I needed to hear that, thank you for sharing your vibrant energy with us.
My man is like, "I got tables waiting lady- are you going to tip me or what?" "Spare me your pep talk- won't change my current reality at all."
Love you Mel♡
"You have video games, I drank" Damn I had alcohol and video games. 38 and have gone nowhere.
The Experiences of the Past Collectively Catapult you to the next level, provided you have the Quest to want Something.
You look great for someone who fucked up 40 years of their life,you don't look like what you went through thank goodness!
I have changed everything in my life. I had to so I didn't drown from everything. Also realized how much my hsp affected even though I didn't understand it. This didn't happen overnight. But collapsed in August 2021. That was the turning point. Now standing at the crossroads and choosing new paths. Where I myself am involved in my own life. Where I make decisions like an adult. Became an adult late in life. Almost 49 years old. Started going out of my programming. Become who I was meant to be without programming. It feels a little unusual not to take or use what I previously turned to. Like a bird without feathers, I feel naked. I walk the road and see where it takes me. Do something that scares me every day. Get to know myself. So dating myself. A bit exciting to discover a new world. Without the ones I had in my luggage. But has the baggage of experience.❤Walk the walk.🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
beautifully said ❤
Yeah, this scene plays out when older women are starved for connection and don’t yet realize they aren’t getting it due to the wall. That kid is a young boy, men hit their prime as women hit their decline!
1st view and like ☺️☺️
Surprise. The waiter doesn’t speak English.
This gives me hope, I just turned 38 on November 9th...I'll be watching her 5,4,3,2,1 rule again to get this journey started‼️‼️🙏🏽
I am 25 and had just written in a google doc how I felt like I’ve wasted my life, but wow I’m glad I came across this video ❤ much love to you all, we are all on time, I believe in you ❤
25 still very young
Me too, Mel! I believed my fearfull thoughts.
No more!