As a man, and a married man who has had to deal with this. I had to be ok with the honesty from my wife as well as humble myself knowing she wasn’t articulating this to me to hurt me but rather to be honest with the hopes of me becoming better because when I become better we become better because we are a team. It’s uncomfortable at first because as men we like to think we really puttin it down, but again humility was key for me and a willingness to listen & change….so yes there are men who ask themselves that question
I wish my husband for have listened for 20 years. He has neglected me emotionally and sexually. I am passionate. It has hurt me so much. Please lord turn our marriage around. Please create a miracle marriage. Please open my husband’s healthy masculine, please open his sexuality with me. I know he is blocked and now I am blocked. Please lord create a miracle in my marriage with my husband, Elkin.
Hey Ken and Tab. From my experience and from what I’ve heard from many women in terms of her not being attracted to her husband, it’s usually because he’s mistreating her. It’s hard to be attracted to someone who’s mean or abusive. My husband and I always say, a man or woman can be the finest, sexiest person but if they’re mean and rude… it’s makes them ugly and unattractive. Just some food for thought.
For us, the opposite. My husband never wants sex and i feel super unattractive. I hear so many sermons on how the men want it all the time and for us thats not the case. 😭
@vinab7843 It's very lonely. I have heard my whole life how men always want it, so it makes me wonder what's wrong with me. But we must get our joy from the Lord. I get questions like is he depressed or having medical things. And the answer is no to both.
I'm going through the same thing. We are Currently couples therapy. He is also seeing a therapist to work through his trauma. And I'm in therapy to work through the resentment, frustration, insecurity and temptation to step outside my marriage.
Exactly it kills your self esteem. Depression anxiety. 20 years and we are finally seeing a therapist. How could he not want me? He doesn’t want anyone. Childhood trauma. But for me it hurts because he could have made the effort to go to therapy a long time ago. It feels like I was not worth it. Ya know? Lord turn this around. Please lord make a miracle happen. Please lord give us supernatural love now. Dissolve the obstacles in our intimacy and our lives. Amen. Thank you.
This was good. The practical advice was useful. Maan having children really does change things, cause talk about libido. Also on the flip side there's those times when you want to be intimate with your Hubby undisturbed. Lol. I'm glad you touched on the intimacy without necessarily going as far as penetrative because that level of care and attention especially after a long day can be So meaningful. ❤ Thank you
For a lot of women, the sex with their husband becomes redundant. Women deal with bad sex for the sake of loving their mate. Are men asking themselves how to get better in sex or is the ego in the way.
I absolutely adore you two. My husband and I are at your Florida campus . Love these conversations, I def needed that push to get hormones checked ! It’s important 💕💕
I wanna say thag God led me ro you guys ministry and i thank him for that. Just in a couple episodes I've felt conviction, and understanding of my role as a wife now. You guys are definitely being used by the Lord i appreciate your obedience in your ministry. Im becoming a better wife and woman of God. Thank you so much. God bless you guys dearly
I'm seriously going to ask my wife to watch this with me later and hope she says Yes. Because I think most couples in these situations never get fixed because only one is all in on fixing it.
I’ve been married 12 years and my wife is with holding sex and says we need to go to therapy, yet I’m not the one with holding sex but I am willing to go.
I must be honest, I am in awe of the sheer vulnerability you guys have on this show. This is truly a ministry, may God bless you guys forever more 🙏🏾
Thank you so much! We appreciate that
As a man, and a married man who has had to deal with this. I had to be ok with the honesty from my wife as well as humble myself knowing she wasn’t articulating this to me to hurt me but rather to be honest with the hopes of me becoming better because when I become better we become better because we are a team. It’s uncomfortable at first because as men we like to think we really puttin it down, but again humility was key for me and a willingness to listen & change….so yes there are men who ask themselves that question
I wish my husband for have listened for 20 years. He has neglected me emotionally and sexually. I am passionate. It has hurt me so much. Please lord turn our marriage around. Please create a miracle marriage. Please open my husband’s healthy masculine, please open his sexuality with me. I know he is blocked and now I am blocked. Please lord create a miracle in my marriage with my husband, Elkin.
Hey Ken and Tab. From my experience and from what I’ve heard from many women in terms of her not being attracted to her husband, it’s usually because he’s mistreating her. It’s hard to be attracted to someone who’s mean or abusive. My husband and I always say, a man or woman can be the finest, sexiest person but if they’re mean and rude… it’s makes them ugly and unattractive. Just some food for thought.
And if your husband neglects your and loves their work more than you the wife,so sad. Lord turn this around create a miracle in my marriage.
For us, the opposite. My husband never wants sex and i feel super unattractive. I hear so many sermons on how the men want it all the time and for us thats not the case. 😭
Same, it hurts for sure. I feel like im downing. I wish we could figure this out 😢
@vinab7843 It's very lonely. I have heard my whole life how men always want it, so it makes me wonder what's wrong with me. But we must get our joy from the Lord. I get questions like is he depressed or having medical things. And the answer is no to both.
I'm going through the same thing. We are Currently couples therapy. He is also seeing a therapist to work through his trauma. And I'm in therapy to work through the resentment, frustration, insecurity and temptation to step outside my marriage.
❤Thank you for sharing. Pray. Nothing is impossible with God.
Exactly it kills your self esteem. Depression anxiety. 20 years and we are finally seeing a therapist. How could he not want me? He doesn’t want anyone. Childhood trauma. But for me it hurts because he could have made the effort to go to therapy a long time ago. It feels like I was not worth it. Ya know? Lord turn this around. Please lord make a miracle happen. Please lord give us supernatural love now. Dissolve the obstacles in our intimacy and our lives. Amen. Thank you.
2-3x a week is like every other day. Sounds good to me.
I agree three times a week with your spouse is great. She’s definitely right your health is very important.
This youtube channel will change and save so many marriages, my God I'm so blessed to have you two ❤️ on youtube.
Glory to God!
I'm in love with this channel already, love the vulnerability
Man Pastor Ken and Tabatha yall are talking directly to me I am going to do better my wife deserves it
How's that going so far? (:
@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha it is going great we have become intimate and has brought excitement back to our marriage
@@jnew251 We love to hear that! Thank you for sharing 🙏
This was good. The practical advice was useful. Maan having children really does change things, cause talk about libido. Also on the flip side there's those times when you want to be intimate with your Hubby undisturbed. Lol. I'm glad you touched on the intimacy without necessarily going as far as penetrative because that level of care and attention especially after a long day can be So meaningful. ❤ Thank you
For a lot of women, the sex with their husband becomes redundant. Women deal with bad sex for the sake of loving their mate. Are men asking themselves how to get better in sex or is the ego in the way.
Then add something to it. How come sex is based on man performance where women get to sit and judge. Ya’ll do nothing
This is by far the best teachings of this topic I’ve ever heard. God Bless you guys!
Love this channel! We are greatful for u Pastors! Watching from South Africa.
I absolutely adore you two. My husband and I are at your Florida campus . Love these conversations, I def needed that push to get hormones checked ! It’s important 💕💕
Awesome podcast!
Great information for marriages. Appreciate being transparent and upfront
What if the roles were reversed and it's the wife who's always ready, to initiate, and yet being rejected?
It works the same....
This was very informative thank you……Tabatha you are just gorgeous 💐🤗
I wanna say thag God led me ro you guys ministry and i thank him for that. Just in a couple episodes I've felt conviction, and understanding of my role as a wife now. You guys are definitely being used by the Lord i appreciate your obedience in your ministry. Im becoming a better wife and woman of God. Thank you so much. God bless you guys dearly
Thank you for keeping it so real and vulnerable.
God bless you for this wonderful show
Wonderful Episode! Great Biblical Teachings! God Bless the both of you and your ministry!
I Cor 7:6 “But this is a concession, not as a commandment”
This context is important. ❤
In regards to sex within a marriage?? Or period
Great tips! Definitely need to implement. Thank you for sharing.
Today's church dont talk about sex during their sermons...so many divorced ppl in the church and alot ended due to sex, money and communication
Exactly.
I thank God for you two!
Oh this is sooo good!!!
I'm seriously going to ask my wife to watch this with me later and hope she says Yes. Because I think most couples in these situations never get fixed because only one is all in on fixing it.
First time watching very informative podcast
Don't forget to check out the other episodes :) Thank you for watching!
So good! I appreciate the teachings and Godly perspective.
I absolutely love this! Thank you so much and i pray God continues lead you on this journey of vulnerability.
Awesome tips!
Awesome
Great
Nooo! Not Silk, lol😅 You guys are hilarious. Great😅😅
I’m currently going through this
I’m new love listening to you both on married and single I’m a Christian on saving sex ontill married
This was awesome!!!
I love the chocolate cake example😂😂😂😂regardless of how hungry or full you are, you gonna eat that cake 😂😂😂
Preach
What if situation is the other way round?
Thank you ❤
Awesome!!!
I really wish I could ask you both a private question regarding this topic.
I’ve been married 12 years and my wife is with holding sex and says we need to go to therapy, yet I’m not the one with holding sex but I am willing to go.
Therapy for what? Did she say?
Amen 🙏
Too funny
There are many times when husband just talk too much and unnecessarily and from having mood to killing the mood entirely. Bummer.
What do you mean by this? Do you mind explaining so I can learn from your experience and use the knowledge to treat my wife better?
You just don’t like him come to my bed
Y’all crazy