How To Fight Right / Don't Win The Argument and Lose Your Marriage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.พ. 2025
- Arguing in a relationship is inevitable. And we are not new to it. After 23 years of marriage we have learned the do's and don'ts of arguments. In this episode we are going to show you principles of how to fight right with your spouse.
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Tabitha is goals❤
Her level of maturity and patience is incredible.
I have a long way to go 😅
“My angels know the speed that I drive…” 😂😂😂😂
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Boy I heard my wife right there😂
Please,,,, my Angel's know the speed bla bla bla. Stop justifying yoself listen to yo husband woman.
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I'm Muslim and I listen to y'all everyday because what y'all say is helping me thank you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow. That's beautiful ❤
The biggest fight actually restored my broken marriage! I believe it was Holy Spirit lead and broke us down to build us up!
Love that! Amen!
That is or-some God works in ways we cannot understand, praise God 🙏
I believe I'm in this process right now
She said you were fighting by yourself 😆 🤣 😂.
I feel bad for Tabatha…she reminds me of me, I have a gentle spirit and hate getting into arguments because I’m easily overpowered. People see people shut down and still continue to yell and do so much
It's crazy how I am soooo hooked to your videos even though I am not married and single. Haha! I am learning soooo much from you Mr. Ken and Mrs. Tabatha. I wanna be like Mrs. Tabatha -- she's so eloquent, calm, and gentle yet so empowered. God bless your marriage! Praying that many single people would watch your videos and learn a lot like how you impacted my life.
Greetings from the Philippines!
Man I love this channel. You prayed for me😂😂😂. That makes man feels good knowing your women loves you enough to pray for you and not return negativity when there man is in there worse self. It turns a man’s heart
“I believe that you can outrun your angels.” When I say I screamed so LOUD Pastor Ken.☠️☠️☠️☠️ OMG!
What wasn't directly said that I hear is that having patterns of treating your spouse lovingly, and acknowledging that your spouse treat you lovingly in general, helps you to realize that you or they are operating outside of that pattern, which alerts you to a need to stop what's happening and figure out how to de-escalate.
Can you guys do a video breaking down the biblical roles of the Husband and Wife? That’s something I feel has gotten pretty blurred lately to the point where we really don’t know our roles and/or we’ve seen our mothers have to play a role that wasn’t hers and now we’re growing up doing the same and it’s holding us back
What came to mind was an episode of the Parkers in church when Nicki and Kim were arguing in church and Nicki said that they were having "intense fellowship". Saints don't argue 😅they have intense fellowship 😅
You have no idea how much this message has helped me! I rewashed it with my husband. This really helps us grow in our marriage. I've just come across your podcast and am in love! I've been watching every video since the beginning, as you can see lol thank you!! ❤
This is my favorite episode. I love what Ken brought to the conversation and I always love how Tabitha is the heart of Christ in every episode. "It takes two fools to fight..." That's money. Being self aware, along with being aware that there is a common enemy that is on the attack is very important as well. Currently dating and gaining skills along the way. Thank you for sharing
it’s so funny how you discuss this infront of so many people!! I just love how genuine you are guys!!!! I thank You Jesus for bringing this people to my life!! I am learning a lot from this since I am newly married! 😃
sending love from Canada!!! 🇨🇦
God bless!!!🎉
The Phone Police!!! Wow. Perspectives, you are bound by any rule that you have not challenged at inception in the home.💗
I think the rule about no cell phone on the table brings order especially when there are children, because that's good manners and you have to lead by example, and there can't be one rule for the kids while you are doing the same.
How about leaving the table and attend to your phone, which makes it appear real necessary as opposed to sitting on the table flipping through your phone, because in these days of social media, your being on the phone among people especially during family time is just not on.
❤❤❤ love hearing you both..and I love that jacket..❤❤❤
Your podcasts have truly helped my marriage. This one will be a game changer!!! I am the one who is "always right". In January, I made the resolution to not have to prove it! I can be right but sometimes I can just know that in my heart without shoving it down his throat. Key #1 is going to be what puts me in the correct space to keep it from escalating. Thank you for your real life examples and Keys to make it doable!!!!
I love how even on air you all resolved something ❤
Tab! I love your spirit! 😂 this episode has me laughing out loud!
I really appreciate your openness to share real life situations to help so many marriage couples struggling or heading to divorce.
This is very good, the Holy Spirit will always keep reminding us what we did wrong, and ask for forgiveness, Amen. I love you Ken and Tabitha, your Awesome ❤
That's absolutely correct Agree to disagree.. Sister Im with you. I do same thing living in high desert I also drive on 2 lanes.n these turtle 🐢 drivers just to slow
I'm with you Tabitha 💯 ❤️
yoou really have made me see things in a different way im 34 and dating to get married and it gets tough but i stick it out in listen and write all the nuggets down so i can make the bond better
Ooh Tabitha, the story about you driving and you guys getting into it..triggered me so much! This is my husband and I to a T. What do we do? If we're to respond in a Christ-like way? Surely we aren't expected to just cave to everything our men say?
I sense the unconditional love btw you two. God bless you both. ❤
Amen!
Thank you both for being real and vulnerable to share your experiences and stories. As a fallen world, We need more of this and less of the scripted, polished, smiling fakery that most “Christian” leaders offer.
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE
JOHN 3:16
This was one of my favorite episodes.
Thank you sooo for helping my marriage and my relationship with Jesus!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Loving this
I really love the intelligent manner in which you two can discuss your differences. We can see that even in this video, there are some points that need ironing out, but it’s worked out really effectively, with respect.
Wow, you guys are always so real and vulnerable. It’s always the small meaningless things that end up blowing up 🤦🏿♀️. You look back and you just like mhmm if I had just kept quiet, if I had just said sorry 🤦🏿♀️. Thank you so much for this video
Thank you so much for the podcast, going through each and learning so much from you guys. Its so good to be in the kingdom because God made a provision for all we need in this life. Your union is a blessing.
Amen! Continue tuning in and applying what you’re learning. Thanks for watching.
This Was soooooooo good, raw and true examples of how or what married couples go through I appreciate that. I'm able to learn and understand when it's raw and real not sugar coated thank you guys for answering the call of pouring into marriages❤
So much wisdom, wow!
I love listening to you both, when you speak I know god’s presence is just surrounding you guys. I’ve gained so much wisdom from the month & half of listening to your old and new podcast about marriage. As a 22 year old woman who is married I will be the first to say it is hard, but I absolutely love learning and growing in our marriage, growing up and till this day I have parents who haven’t learned a foundation for their marriage and I see how it really can destroy your marriage your self image and all around you, I have such amazing parents but unfortunately they didn’t learn the foundations of a marriage. So I love I can hop on TH-cam and listen to you both and share it with my husband and share it with my mom and my dad. You guys are such a blessing and I’m thankful god sent me here! Thank you guys for the honesty the realness and the guidance! Y’all are amazing! God is good! 🙌🏼❤️🔥
Passenger seat driver😂 , gotta love ‘em
This is blessing my life!
Me & my love needed this one. We are in the dating phase. This is going to help us🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾thank u for transparency
These podcasts are always so inspiring
Your podcast have really been helping me out I ❤ that you give examples of you guys experience because we all are human and none of us is perfect ❤
So happy I found you guys page 💜🙏🏽
Was blessed by this
I loved this! Totally re-watching/listening to take notes. Thanks y’all!
Listening from Ghana!!!! God bless you both
Love the vulnerability. Thanks
God led me to this channel thanks for teaching us
Love listening to you both. Thanks for such an impacting interaction!
This channel is such a blessing ❤
Praise the #Lord
Practice the grace of forgiving. ❤
I just apologies for everything because i feel like my partner wants to win every argument, misunderstanding and anything that she can win. It ends up draining to always be the one that apologies for everything for the sake of peace and sometimes when you keep quite you end up feeling like you dont have a voice in the marriage, and that's also hard. Because how do you lead if your voice is not given much of a chance.
Oh Tab Tab! They just can not accept that sometimes we have to be in control, and when we are on that steering wheel it becomes such a big reality check for them and they certainly at times can not accept that. Someone PLZZZZ correct me if I'm wrong.
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She’s driving fast enough to end both of them.
If they are 😵 , there will be no more fights over control 😂
I’m not saying you’re wrong. Imagine you’re on a plane and the pilot is being reckless. You’re going to hope that he flies responsibility so that you don’t d1e.
**I had to change spelling because TH-cam deleted comments
Loving this podcast and love you too pastors! 💗 So happy to hear from you guys in another format.
So glad you’re liking them!!
I really love that jacket tab. I'm trying to find it ...
Great nuggets
Thank you for the Life lesson, God bless you in The Mighty name of Jesus Christ Amen
Mr. Ken why are you trying to work in the car while the car is moving, it's not her fault if there's a bump in the road. I Believe Mr. Ken your wrong and Tab is right. Blessings. You guys rock
I love this prodcast
I love the fact Ken and Tabatha are being realistic. I’m learning a lot and really appreciate. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to guide your podcasts❤❤❤ yep married for 14 years everyday is a new day. Marriage is beautiful and lovely ❤❤❤
Congratulations! Thanks for watching!
This was so good!!
Hahaha you guys are such a blessing with your messages. I thank God for your obedience..
“There is something u r doing more important than your rule”😮
You’re kidding right 🤔
This is so helpful to couples. Thank you for your transparency
Our pleasure! Thanks for watching!
Happy Valentine's Day to 2 of my favorite people! Podcasts are absolutely amazing 👏
Glad you like them!
Mr. Ken again you were wrong, your justifying your wrong, again Tabatha was right. I'm getting upset listening to you guys. Blessings, you guys still rock
Love this channel. These podcast’s have been such a blessing ❤️🙏🏽
Thanks for listening 🙌🏾
Like today.
Silence us agreement. If the wife made the rule and the husband did not rebut or rebuke the rule then he agreed the rule stands and also does disservice to all involved when he breaks the rule. The time to act was when the rule was spoken . A husband can go and remove a vow the wife made
Hey guys, thank you so much for sharing this. I'd like to know, what happened after two years that improved your marriage?
lol I like to fight too Tabitha 😂 that’s what my husband says
How do you leave the past in the past when the same thing keep showing up in the present while pressing?
Im struggling with this one as well
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“Public displays equal private withdrawals.” What did you mean Ken in the intro?
I think he means he’s gonna get some reward later 😅
Anyone. Please answer for me I don’t know what they mean by #1. Shut up. Do u mean don’t reply? Let the addresses go w/ o an answer?
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS
JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK
I love y'all,but when she speaks on something stop rearranging her words to benefit your liking.
Every time she says something you tell her what she means by it and she agrees with you.
Don't call the police high 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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No...i can tell she drives 🚗 tooooooo fast..lol. no u need to listen to Ken Tabby 😂
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LOL.
Lol! Yall both were petty and wrong about the phone situation.
You should have asked respectfully to give you 5 min. It is a business deal.
Maam you on the other hand could have used 5 min to deep breath to prepare you for some real intimacy time. Lol
This video on how to fight fair is really disturbing to me. Ken you got out of character. Your wife holding your hand is to calm was you down. 😢
What is disturbing about it?..
They are really people…..love covers ❤
No judgements, please . They're trying to help others by sharing real situations and issues. There is no need to comment any judgments. People are so close-minded and appear to be so perfect. It's difficult for them to process real people with real-life issues.
Please stop over talking her please.
Thank you for this podcast. It really applies not only in marriage but when single, with family members. I will fully support, every video I will watch I will definitely comment. You’re international! I’m listening from London 🇬🇧🫶🏾
This was so good!