If you get dumped, you're the better person. You've already showed you are more responsible and more reliable by not being the dumper. Dumpers take the easy way out, don't ever forget that.
I have been dumped many times and we get back together. It is manipulative and borderline narcissistic. Who the @@@@ does that all the time. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that. She is a k@@t quite frankly.
It just hurts so much if they tell you, they can't have any feelings for you and have to break up, but want to be friends. But a week before that everything was perfect and they tell you how much they love you...
you're not the only one experiencing this( or were, whenever your original comment was posted) as I'm going through the exact same thing. I wish you have since then come to a better place in life.
So sorry you had to experience that. I did too the last week. He called me and said the word break up, I tried giving him courage, saying he can hold my hands through this tough time, he said no and then just hung up. I didn't try anymore. Wrote him a last letter, he wrote me back saying he wants to stay friends. I called him and said no, just said at the end, i love you bye'. Then he starts randomly contacting me out of the blue the past few days, until yesterday it was about some damn spotify subscription i'm part of (sent same messages via whatsapp, sms and email) and how he's sorry and wants to have a proper break up with me. I replied, 'you broke up with me once and it was enough to kill me inside and leave me dead. I cannot do it again. bye'. Then i blocked him for few hours. even the thought of seeing his number on a blocked list triggered me so i decided to unblock. He wrote again at night saying 'i'm sorry'. I didn't read the message, just deleted the whole chat. Since someone I pictured my future and we talked about so much of it, i cannot deal with the fact that he's near the area and i could one day see him with someone else. It kills me inside. I now made a decision to move to a different city, i will change my phone number, perhaps change my email so he can never contact me again. Just disappear from the face of the earth. If he didn't love me enough to fight together and left me, I will get out of his life just like he wished for.
@@StevieRay1486 Bro you have to relax & do not contact at all , Im on my 8th day & rn if you try to fix anything its gonna fireback at you so bro give her space and do you . . . its fucking hard but this is the truth
I try that but then I get angry and feel hate so I don’t like to think of the bad. My heart even starts to hurt. I don’t think of the good either, but I do think of him in general everyday. It’s been 4 months since he ghosted me. Don’t know what else to do to move on.
@@stephw3475 His loss. I'm sure you were a great girlfriend! Remember this. He will be contacting you. It's not as easy as Men think to find someone to love them. Do not respond. Sign up with a dating app. Try Bumble. 😉
Crystal Dating Coach thanks crystal. I doubt he’ll contact me. His pride and ego are too high and he’ll always look to other women for supply. Hopefully with this quarantine , once it’s over I can start meeting new guys. I’m shy with online dating 😌
those are true words my good friend told me that not to think of the good time but think of the times you where hurt.its been since march when she left me just after we got back from Hawaii.i think she is playing games with me now and has before in the relationship.she wants to be friends with me,she tod me just in case we need each other🤔 she has numerous issues on meds and has gone thourgh 2 marriages and a lot of relationships.plus doing on line hook ups thinking she can make herself fell better because if the loss of her marriages and sexually a big risk taker.
no contact works guys. i wanted to do it so he can realize he lost someone great and actually come back. although this no contact was originally meant for that reason only. i learned how to love myself a lot more. i no longer feel the need to have them in my life.
I think it's pretty much like the Tortoise and Hare race. The dumper ( Hare ) initially moves on, or tries to move on very fast, while the dumpee ( Tortoise ) languishes behind. Over time, the dumpee gains momentum after going through the stages of being dumped but in time regains self confidence and power. Meanwhile the Dumper ( Hare ) loses momentum, becomes lazy, doesn't self analyze or reflect and learns nothing. Slow and steady wins the race....be like the Tortoise !
I needed this comment u broke it down so sad smooth just now because she has been being lazy and just drinking alcohol do I do anything or you think I should try to head out there life for good? I’m open to ask responses
@@jshaw241 You're after my advice ? Don't know your situation, but usually a period where you don't contact her. If there was anything substantial there from her perspective, she'll probably start missing you....all the best
what if u cant really tell who is the dumpee and who is the dumper? My situation is like this: we were in a long distance relationship, all of a sudden she told me that its to early to be in a relationship, but dont want to lose me. then i deleted her and left her the option open to imessage me. I just couldnt go a step back because we already been in a relationship. thoughts are still killing me if that was the right move from me. So no contact for 6 days now. If she really wants me then she can reach out, I told her everything that she needed to hear.
Yeah I did this, and I wish I hadn't. I cried and I opened my heart and gave it to her. But unfortunately I think it just made her feel like she had the control instead of had my back. We got together again but she left a few months later. I text her from my soul, and told her how much she meant to me and my son, but it wasn't enough. You know...the worst thing is being so easy to forget, it really does make you feel worthless and meaningless and not good enough. So here I am...with the sinking feeling in my heart, watching breakup advice on TH-cam and getting comfort from reading people comments.
@@kaneharvey8279 you and I both know it gets better. Your text is fine, and I'm going to tell you why, elaborate on the point I made a year ago here when my chest was caving in. She got your text, she read it. It made her feel good, it made her feel wanted. It was an emotional sustenance that she's learned she can get from you. But you'll give up and somehow move on. You know you will. And she'll want those texts because of how good it feels to read them. She'll miss those texts and she'll miss you. Hopefully by then you won't care. Hopefully you'll have picked yourself up and refuse to give her any more of yourself. Don't take her back again. Just don't do it. I promise she's not your soulmate. You'll be happy again.
As what Taylor Swift says, "People like you always want back the love they pushed aside, and people like me are gone forever when you said goodbye" lol There's just no point going back to a dumper. Being dumped shouldn't be a punishment,it should just be the end, period. Remember that a person who truely loves you never leaves you.
Though true - dumping should be the finish. But some people dump you cause they just don't know how to communicate and when the pressures are too much, because of them, not because you're wrong, but because they weren't willing to communicate, they think, it's easier is to say they're not into you anymore, when they know damn well it's a mask, but they feel the need for it cause they can't deal with the pressures
@@Alexis_Idfk this. I think this is what happened to me. my ex was feeling pressure from like. he doesn't communicate well. put the blue he dumps me. he claims he was feeling pressure. so I agree with you.
Dear Crazy. Yes I said those same words to somebody I thought I loved but now I am packing to leave I plan to never see him again. When people ghost you or dump you it could be because everybody needs their space and my LTR is invading mine. He is trying to suck my life to fill a void in his own life
There was no issue. He was lying to me, met someone else & wanted to be with her. Karma never misses, ESPECIALLY when u take advantage of someone with a good, pure heart & who was nothing but good to you.
@@osmsksms5444 Not necessarily. Everything was fine with my girl, we had lots of bedroom fun, she gave me looks of desire, we loved spending time together, were making winter travel plans and had just bought Oktoberfest tickets. Then she met a guy who gave her butterflies and that was it. She lost all interest and attraction for me the moment she met him. So no, sometimes there are no issues, you're just with someone so callous and evil that they're willing to throw away a 3 year relationship that has no issues, for a guy they met the week before.
I think the “no contact” thing is really for ourselves...it is a good time to pull back the focus on ourselves, have a little introspection session. A lot of people uses the no contact as a “strategy” aiming to focus on “if I don’t contact them, that will make him/her to come back”. No, it should be focusing on yourself, not them. They let go of you, so pull your energy back on yourself. It’s time for you to crawl yourself back out from the pit they left you in, stop looking at them. In my own experience, they always come back...and I always tell them to be free and love themselves. It didn’t work, is probably not going to work. I can forgive but I just don’t forget. Which means I can never ever trust that person who throw me in the pit again, not this life lol he proven to me that he is irresponsible, unreliable, immature, selfish, and does not love me. So, do you actually want someone like that to be in your life sharing your love? Not for me.
I agree, but now for example my bf broke up with me because of my insecurities and jealousy, I'm doing therapy because I recognise my failures and even tho I don't want to focus on getting him back I still think about it, but I don't know if it will be worth it... I mean, he left me because I was doing him wrong, and even tho if I work on that I don't know if try again or not
Fátima Cáceres A clap requires two hands...you are not the only one who did wrong in a relationship causing it to break. Admitting you did wrong is great and is correct thing to do. You can apologize to him for your fault and do better next time. Yet, it does not mean he is 100% correct and you guys should get back together. You apologize because you were wrong and you should, even not to your boyfriend. If you did something wrong, apologize and change for better, it’s basic of growth and life. I think the most important thing between two people is respect, integrity, trust, and being genuinely honest. Unless both of you could build yourself to that, or grow together? What’s the point of getting back together? But if both of you are willing to work on it, then you can think about it. Important Point is stay healthy, not in toxic relationships or situationship. All the best!
They don’t always come back - as a dumper, I do speak from experience and I keep my word when I leave it, not out of ego but because I needed to be free and thank God for the reminder that I didn’t need to settle.
It’s not your responsibility if you’re broken up with. These people stone wall and can’t communicate. Not being able to work through simple problems and being triggered enough to end it over a fight is the biggest red flag 🚩
That's not the BIGGEST red flag. The biggest red flag is when you're with someone who's spent 3 years breaking through your defenses and burrowing into your heart and soul, building and earning a level of love, connection and trust with you stronger than any you've ever had. Someone who knows about your history of betrayal, abandonment and heartbreak, and works to make you truly believe that they're different and will never up and leave you...only to then up and leaves you out of nowhere for a guy they met less than a week before. THAT'S the biggest red flag.
Some people are just confused and trying to find themselves out and “Them” breaking up with you is Not about you. I want no one that can just easily walk away. It’s bad communication skills.
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It hurts to be rejected...one day you realize you're smiling and laughing. Then one day, you see them and your heart doesn't crumble or leap at the sight of them. That's how you will know you are better. You may even ask what the hell was I thinking?
Thank you. Your video inspired me. Yes, leave your ex alone. Step aside and focus on getting yourself better. Yes, fix on the issue that caused the breakup. I'm getting stronger day by day. 30days no contact, no FB, etc. God to be the glory.
My advice is to keep a structured life and surround yourself with the things in life you enjoy. This to me helps you truly move on cause if someone doesn't want to be in your life LET THEM WALK AWAY!!
You do have the upper hand, move on, love yourself, give your time self to heal and then find somebody who doesn't have issues who can love you for who you are!
When you look to find a spouse, Look for someone who strives to seek God in all they do. Cultural norms and traditions come and go, But the Word of the Lord endures forever. First, early in the relationship connection, express your desire to avoid premarital sex. When you express your desire to want to honor God with your sexuality before marriage, this won’t be a shock to a real Christian. That is just a basic biblical command all true Christians want to follow. Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." But if you say this to someone who is just pretending to obey the Bible, they will leave you quickly because they will not be willing to wait until marriage for sex. Someone can deceive you with words. But when you see their obedience to the Lord that matches their words, then you know they are trustworthy. They need to be visibly producing the fruits of the Spirit because this is a mark of a true Christian. Anyone can claim to be a Christian. And we can’t know someone’s heart. So the Bible says we are to evaluate people by their actions. Christians will not be perfect, but they will be bearing fruit that is evidence of their true salvation. Galatians 5:22-26 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another." Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
My ex of almost 1 year, had a file on his computer with explicit photos of his exes and some of him. I found out accidentally and when I confronted him about it he said it was a file he forgot about and he would delete it. Fast forward one month he didn’t do it because he was busy. I was not thinking clearly and deleted the file. When I told him he flipped off on me, started yelling, cussing me. He said I deleted one of his work on his computer and I KNOW I didn’t. Anyway, he chased me out the house 12am at night. I cried, begged, slept at my friends house. Fast forward 2 months he had a new gf who’s a single mother and has baby daddy issues. It’s been 7 months and the healing phase is almost over. I’ve realized that if someone loved me, they would never put themselves in a position to lose me. I hope this helps someone.
You really made me relax. Wow. I was talking to a guy and I became attatched. He took a step back and decided to end things tonight. So I’ll sit back and relax.
Seems like this is happening more and more. I'm going on 3 weeks since..."I need my space" . I'm doing the no contact as well, to work on myself! Which I am, for a better me. Don't get attached unless the other person feels the same for you. Sit back and relax senorita, you'll be fine without him.
I got on my knees and cried to my bf while he was sitting on the couch to give me another chance... and he looked at me like I was pathetic and disgusting and said. No. Then for some reason my entire demeanor changed and I went into boss bitch mode. I stood up and started immediately to distance myself and have no contact and even though I had to stay at his house for that night then leave in the morning. I slept in another room, made sure wherever he was in the house I was in the opposite direction and in the morning I woke up and went downstairs and packed my things and when he asked me when I was leaving , I calmly told him, now and left and wished him luck. And acted very calm and secure.... he even commented before I left you seem much more okay today. “I said yup casually because at this point I felt confident” then left and literally on the drive home he messaged me “ you didn’t have to go muffin” and I didn’t drive back to him, I went home and stayed home to now make him 😓 and it worked hahaha 😂 it’s so real.
But then there are the times when the breakup was actually the best decision for you both. You can’t see it at the time and want to beg and plead for them not to leave but once they do you get a sense of freedom back and you think about all the reasons it wouldn’t have worked out in the long run. And you’re grateful for the memories and love you shared but it’s time to start a new chapter. One that you create yourself with your goals and dreams still intact. Thank you for setting me free A. I will always love you. ❤️🐻
This is absolutely true. I have been on an off and on relationship almost 2 years. We had 2 fall outs. I had the power when he decided to walk. I did not look for him or dwell on him. I got my power back. Don’t beg no one for their love. Let them walk. If they see it as a mistake and it’s meant to be they will come back.
She dumped me after three years of a beautiful and intimate relationship. We were apart in different countries due to coronavirus. After 7 months of being apart, she said that she is tired of waiting along with other issues which she never mentioned before. It hurts like hell because she promised me she wont leave me FOREVER because I was dumped before. I hope no one goes through this pain. People can change anytime, nothing is permanent and change is constant. If you are a relationship, be mature, communicate and never take things for granted. One day, you will regret the things you could have done to save it. FOREVER is just a word, it will end if you wont take care of it.
she also told me shes gonna fight for me, we were in a relationship, but suddenly she said its too early to call us a couple even thought she said it so clear before that Im the one for her. now we are in no contact. long distance and covid-19 also big problems.
Exactly the same as me. He broke up because of covid, begged to come back 4 mos later and said distance doesn't matter anymore and he'll be with me through thick and thin, but then broke up again for the same reason 10 mos later.
happend the same with me she said the same tired of been alone and i kept asking her u have someone so ill move on she kept lying untill i knew and was sure that she alreayd had somenone in her life ,for her its heaven now new person new things ,im totaly destroyed but thnx god because her mask fall down and she showed her true face i was going to move with her and marry her im still recovering from her poison that she threw at me first my ex wife now my ex gf ,i hope she taste the same poison that i tasted because thats the only way for people like her to learn
I was dumped out of nowhere and I didn't beg for him to stay or talk. I felt like he had shut down (he's super avoidant) was really cold, and I just didn't have it in me to say anything. He said he didn't see a future with me it was like a knife in my gut but I didn't say anything, I just nodded. I'm really happy with myself that I stayed strong and didn't beg. It's been three weeks today we have had 0 contact since that convo where he literally left me at a bus stop where I sat and cried after he left. Part of me is feeling upset at having being treated coldly after years together with no obvious trigger to me or proper conversation. The other part of me is like, wow, I do not want to be with someone who can leave me so easily and I deserve better. I would like to move on and accept things but it's hard to when one second you have this person for years of your life and the next second it's all gone - all the plans you had, all the things you saw of your future. How did others cope? I don't know if he'll reach out but I don't know if it matters?
I hope you are in a better place. But great boundaries🤝 trust me you did great. Just gotta give yourself a statement or something you know for a fact about you n him n the relation n hold the be true n every time memories comes say that statement it’ll help you you out of the reminiscing memories. I wouldn’t reach out to him until he comes to me. Never gave someone a second chance that doesn’t acknowledge or fix what they have done.
I hope all is going well now and you feel much better. I had the same situation. I'm angry at myself still I was ok with his "I don't see a fiture. I don't really want to take responsibility and help you..." I thought he is under a huge stress and I need to support him. I thought it's bad thoughts because he is under the stess. But he just sayed what he meant.
@@ox-po363 Hi, I am in such a better place now. I barely even think about him and when I do it's sort of with indifference. I think accepting that he wasn't the one for me let me stop picking the ending a part and just know that something better is out there for me 100%. I don't think the person that's meant to be for me would have said what he said/done what he did. I think at the end of the day you deserve someone who will make you a priority and who can't imagine a life without you. I hope you find that (I know you will!). All the best xoxo
I hope now you have found yourself and in a really better place rn… I am going through the same for close to 2months now and her being really mean, cold and rude is still puzzling and hurts so bad
@@Laltroragazzo sometimes as hard as it is, you have to have no contact with someone to heal. I never spoke with my ex again from the day we broke up, and i feel it helped me heal faster
I don't want him back, he treated me badly. We have two children together and over the years he completely and utterly disrespected and humiliated me for other women. He even fought me for them leaving scars and bruises on my body. He can go
It is a terrible feeling to loose someone you love and care for. Always give of your best in a relationship, be confident in who you are, and if they walk away, then let them. You want someone who appreciates you and if they don't then they miss out. There's millions of amazing good people out there that WILL appreciate you and never let you go.
So many people are quick to say, "They'll want you back eventually. They'll come back and beg and chase and apologize and realize what they lost...and then they'll be sorry" but I really don't want him to do any of that. I don't want to get back at him or for him to feel remorse. I want to really talk about it and at the same time there's almost no point in talking about it. It's just done I think. I can't keep being yo-yo'd into someone with commitment issues.
My boyfriend dumped me. He just gave a bunch of stupid excuses as to why. We didn't really have any issues in our relationship either. He just one day confessed to having "no feelings for me." Whatever.
My girlfriend dumped me she told me she was going tru a lot and she loves and we are better off as friends and the hangout with a dude from work the next day now l have to see them walk together all the time because we used to work together well we still work together and it’s hard
It has been exactly one week since I was dumped by my girlfriend. Every single one of your videos have been tremendously helpful. This one is no exception! Thank you for sharing all of this advice and being so compassionate 💯 You are healing so many people here . Thank you❤️
You’re welcome! Don’t forget the most important part is to use this uncomfortableness to change for the better. There’s really no good change that doesn’t come with an uncomfortable feeling. Hang in there!
Same! I was dumped by my boyfriend exactly a week ago! I truly felt that he was “the one”. It is very heartbreaking and I go through a roller coaster of emotions each day but it seems to get better bit by bit each day. I hope you are able to heal slowly too❤️
Nora Balint thank you for sharing your story too Nora! I’m confident that we’ll recover in time. I wish you the very best of luck and a speedy recovery. Take care😊
Also, because you’re the one that got dumped, you work on yourself and improve your flaws and mistakes whether you get back with your ex or meet someone else or stay single. On the other hand, the ex that dumped you think they have full control and doesn’t really look inward and fix themselves because they think they are in the right because they didn’t get dumped. When your ex meet approaches you again, she/he has a lot more unsolved issues and more weight
Hello dear I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance.He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far.
I left someone whom I loved so much and saw a future with due to cheating, I went to therapy afterwards to deal with the breakup. I learned a lot about myself in the process and they don't seem to have done much work on themselves since. So it's not always the case that the dumper feels like they have all the power.
Wouldn’t want someone back who would use something so pathetic as a breakup to punish the other person - just plain childish , yet this is the way people are going
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And if they don’t come back, that’s ok too. You are beautiful and you will attract many many more amazing things into your life. Honor yourself. Honor your heart, and protect it. You are worthy of love, respect, and kindness. And you will get through this and become stronger for it.
Thanks Edi, girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. It had to do with temporary long distance due to Covid, but she told me she wasn't sure about her future and needed time. I'm healing for sure, but I do miss her. I've been working on myself and keeping busy. I hope we both end up in good spots whether or not she comes back.
Just forget her.. She probably has another one.. Its hard to think about that, but if she loved you she wouldnt leave just bcs she doesnt know about her future.. Its just a lame excuse not to hurt you, and so she leaves the door open to come back without telling you the truth.. My gf did the same.. Aaaa is not you its mee, i need to work on myself.. She avoided me, less messages bla bla, and i believed everything.. But now over time i can see that she lied soo much.. Some lame excuses, and turned all the blame on me.. Everything, everything i did or didint do blamed on me..
@@impactajuvenile TBH , I doubt it. But in a way that I'm not denying that she could be with someone else. But regardless what she does with her life now doesn't matter. Two things will happen. I'll meet someone new in the future or she does reach out to me. Either way I'll be fine.
That's the best advice on the internet. When a guy dumps me but wants to leave the door open for a rebound I always make sure this door shuts completely. He has to experience what it's like to be without me. No exceptions. If he comes crawling back he better makes sure for -himself- that he acquired the skills to express his feelings so that they can be understood by an adult person. That's his work he's got to do if he wants to level up from a dependent man child to an actual mature man that I want to be in a relationship with.
Woah, I can related to your ex, but I sowly became a mature man, starting a small business, estimating the family finance. Decide what is right for the family. Improve my mindset. Removing my fear and doubt at all cost.
YES.. I love when you said it's to punish. It absolutely is a lot of times. But breaking up is really damaging to do/say instead of just saying "need space and then we can come back to talk in x amount of time". Breaking up and then coming back is super toxic.
If they come back on their own, then I agree - that's toxic. Often what happens though is the person who was dumped reaches out to the dumper and tries to win them back. In that case, it's kinda toxic for the dumpee to do that. If they were willing to commit to being a good partner, why didn't they do it earlier? And if they're not willing to do it, why reach out and pretend like they've seen the light and are going to be better now? It's super abusive. If you get dumped, self-reflect on why that is.
Yes that’s what hurts most off all seeing how desperate I was. Like how did I allow myself to go so low. Here I am a year after! Looking up things to help myself heal.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
I wish I saw these videos closer to the break up they have helped me sooooo much, it's been two months and it was not pretty, it was toxic for both of us, but I'm happy, realizing I am great and I love myself and I did everything I could and he took advantage of it and it's not my fault
When I was still single and in and out of relationships I have this rule that says if you dump me then you don't deserve me. Once he says it's over then it's over. I'm someone who doesn't just end a relationship just because I need space. So if the guy is like that then he's not who I need. There's no coming back. Reset your ass lol
Thank you Edi, hope you're doing well, your video's never disappoint! My "ex," totally out of character, told me a few months ago he never felt in love with me and unequivocally didn't see a future with me. He did this a year ago, think he meant it this time, but I realized I don't deserve to be treated so poorly (as a back-up plan of sorts). I hadn't seen this side of him before as we didn't argue (never ever bickered) in our relationship, and our relationship, where we communicated well, or so I thought, lasted almost two years. He wanted to be friends, and I took a hard pass on that idea, have stuck to no contact. I am still hurting a little yet I wish him well, we're all deserving of happiness.
It sounds like you have gotten through the worst of it. It’s smart of you to say no to being friends right away. That would have been a mistake! Glad you are doing so well, keep going, and get closer to YOU. Use this time to make you better, you won’t regret it. Putting in that work is amazing for you, and it will also attract ppl who are on a better level when you’re ready to date again.
Thanks Edi. It's been 4 months and I've heard nothing from her. It hurts. I miss her. But I've stayed strong and left her alone. I can't believe how much i even miss her kids. This is killing me. Your vids definitely help.
Work on yourself and become a better man Nicolas. I promise there’s so many women BETTER than her. Literally tens of thousands that you can meet and that find you so sexually attractive. More than she ever did. But to get them you have to sacrifice. Work out, get your money, this’ll get your confidence up. GRIND BOY LETS GET IT
I remember watching this video a year ago and I was ghosted and I did the no contact and I got over them... they came back few days of no contact and I ignored and went out with friends and met my soulmate, I'm now engaged and extremely happy
Broken engagement...then layoff....then relocation to be with family while I job search ( attempting to transition out of my industry, as well). I can't even begin to describe the destruction of my ego during this time.
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@@lucyclark3920 No, I want my ex to be alone in life. I don't do 2nd chances with someone who has shown me how easily they throw away their love. No chance.
True that! I've been dumped 10 days ago and I believe I've got the upper hand because she's with a guy that's temporary to me. I'm sure she'll regret the things that my family and I've given her 🙏
They way I see it. When someone leaves let them go. Dont ever go back. Look forward. It will bloody hurt. Keep no contact at all because what's the point. Been dumped so many times and yes I've been hurt but she's right give them space and if she wants or he wants to go. Just go. Thanks for the video. Just my opinion.
Thank you so much for this video. Everything you talked about in this was exactly what I needed to hear and the way you explained everything in such a calm matter just made me feel a bit better 🖤 I'm currently on the 2nd week post break up of a long distance relationship that lasted 8 months. I miss and love my ex gf so much still and it really did hurt me when it happened because of course I wasn't expecting it to happen anytime soon. I was the one who got dumped. I went straight into no contact the day after I happened because I didn't wanna come off as needy and I will respect her decision of wanting some space and a break from the relationship. I don't wanna bug her because I'm sure that it would just make her become irritated with me. My mind still has the urge to wanna contact her and tell her how much I miss her and want her back. But I'm still trying my best to be strong and maintain the no contact phase. Her mother tends to call/text me telling me that she keeps going up to her every night and telling her that she misses me ever since the breakup happened... So that goes to show that this no contact thing is really making her think about the decision she made.
how is it going now? also going through a long distance relationship breakup. I kinda got dumped but she asked me to stay, but i couldnt because It will eat me up. deleted the contacts just imessage and told her that she can still hit me up on there
Thabk you for this video. My gf just broke up with me after 6 years. Ive been trying to figire out the exact moment where i went wrong for her to feel like a break up was the right choice. Im still dealing with the whole, 'my world has been flipped upside down', aspect, and this kinda made me realize that space is what people need when they ens things with you. My question is, do women want to be fought for, and where is the line drawn between caring too much, and giving space? I dont want to lose these 6 years of love and life building, but i dont want to seem like im this emotuonal wreck without her.
I am glad that I was gotten dumped last week because i realized that my business wasn't handled properly & was't focus on myself well enough. Enough said. I rather focus on me & i learned from my mistakes and I am moving forward for ME only.. If you leave someone during worse times is not best for being with me on when the good times comes back. I don't want the ex back.
Omg love this video. Just what I needed right now. Going through this right now with someone who broke up. He believes he can’t give me more than what he is giving because he has depression. Hopefully this space will clarify that I will be there for him no matter what.
It’s been 4 months since my ex ghosted me. Never heard from him again. And I’m still in pain. We go to the same church (haven’t seen him cuz of quarantine) so we know all the same people and I know he’s happy and talking to other women. He’s in the I’m free state. I honestly didn’t do anything for him to treat me like this. And even though days have gotten better and my depression isn’t as bad, it’s still such a hard time to move on and not think of him. It feels so lonely.
Tanya Tanya thank you sis. God is what’s keeping me going. I’m a believer too and even though this is all painful I’m leaning on Him and doing my best to move forward for His glory. Thank you for the encouragement. I will check out that channel too. 💕
Never thought I'd be here... Felt like a thing that happens to others. I did everything right. Went above and beyond. I guess it just wasn't enough to them. But good luck ever finding someone like me again.
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When you look to find a spouse, Look for someone who strives to seek God in all they do. Cultural norms and traditions come and go, But the Word of the Lord endures forever. First, early in the relationship connection, express your desire to avoid premarital sex. When you express your desire to want to honor God with your sexuality before marriage, this won’t be a shock to a real Christian. That is just a basic biblical command all true Christians want to follow. Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." But if you say this to someone who is just pretending to obey the Bible, they will leave you quickly because they will not be willing to wait until marriage for sex. Someone can deceive you with words. But when you see their obedience to the Lord that matches their words, then you know they are trustworthy. They need to be visibly producing the fruits of the Spirit because this is a mark of a true Christian. Anyone can claim to be a Christian. And we can’t know someone’s heart. So the Bible says we are to evaluate people by their actions. Christians will not be perfect, but they will be bearing fruit that is evidence of their true salvation. Galatians 5:22-26 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another." Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
It hurts when they tell you YOUR child is the reason for the breakup. She adored him but he was annoyed. One more reason to stay away from him and angry at him
@@charlalar14 I got back together with another ex and the resent one is faaaaaar away from being better. So it clearly weren’t us who caused his annoyance and frustration😅✨
Gaslighted and stonewalled to the point I self destructed. Got arrested, Order of Protection… Perfect Narcissist tool. Knowing I can address the flaws under a heartbreak gave me the advantage. So I know the next relationship will benefit tremendously!
Thank you my gf dumped me a week ago and this is helpful. All my guy friends are telling me to man up, single life, and hyping me up. I miss her so much and I’m trying but when I have those bad days it’s tough. I wish I wasn’t so feminine :/
My ex girlfriend of 2 and a half years is burying and numbing her emotions with a rebound relationship. It hurts, and I don't think I'd be able to take her back if she ever did reach out to me again. Going on 2 months of no contact after begging and pleading. I'm becoming a better person, and feeling all the emotions, good and bad, without anything to numb them. That's the best way to grow.
LordTannet1 dude that sucks!!! I know how you feel my ex of 10 years left saying that she needed to work on herself but I ended up finding out she was sleeping with a co worker.
You explained this so well. You not only explained the NO contact but what leads to it; and how men think. Exactly what I am going through. I needed to hear this. Thank you....
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This was angelic to my ears thank you so much! Everything you said made sense. I’ve thought like that before too where it’s really me with the power because when the time comes that they want to come back into my life, we’ll now it’s my choice if I want to or not
You give them 'space' and they will date someone else, so they won't come back, 100% of the time. You reach out to them, they will dump you even harder, 100% of the time.
My husband told me on Saturday he’s been with another woman for 2 years. I had my suspicions and cried those 2 years but I am stronger now. This year would be 10 years but they are doing me a favor. I don’t need him in my life. I got 3 kids and now I will fight harder for them. I am blessed for the lesson I learned.
Once I got dumped, and immediately I broke contact, but I didn’t block her from anything, I didn’t remove her number. She took notice of that and it bit her back on the ass hard. She knew exactly why I wouldn’t talk back to her and she realized she could’ve prevented it all had she not made such a stupid decision. She immediately blew up my phone with sob messages and calls, almost on every single app that connects us, after three days, I broke silence and asked her why she’s crawling for me if she had dumped me. Don’t make them regret taking you in, make them regret leaving you.
Are you kidding me? Over the years I've thrived on rejection. Usually expected it. And if you don't wanna be with me. No hard feelings and hit the road
@@pacha777one thing I've learned is that you're the prize not her. I've learned how women behave and you don't need them. They need you. Been married 31 years. My wife doesn't cook wash my clothes clean or sleep with me. I've become self sufficient. I don't need her at all. She needs me.
Hey, it's not just a men women are also bad at communication so it goes both ways. Be a good coach don't blame any gender.. and You got upper hand if they come back or rebound fails. Otherwise you have to move on without hope and that's a very hard because you have invested your emotions, feelings and Time.
The thing about rebounds is they usually do fail. The grass is always greener on the other side, but as soon as problems arise. The shine wears off, and regret comes in. I think you’re absolutely right about it going both ways. I think with women a lot of the time they do make sure they have another relationship lined up before they get out of the current one. Of course men do this too. When you think about it, the type of person who needs to immediately go to another relationship isn’t giving themselves time to recenter before committing again. That person can’t be emotionally well. They aren’t spending the time to grow or settle after the last relationship and this pattern will likely keep going with their new relationship. I’d say they will probably regret it and try to test out if they could come back. I would advise against it because this person has a lot of issues they are choosing to ignore and are just hoping a new relationship will make those issues disappear. It’s bound to not work.
Edi Gibson yeah agreed! my ex after dumping me and after almost a year visited one of my company which i own. But well I was busy and she meet with my cousin and left. Person with high self esteem and secure attachment style recover and then they jump in to relationship or dating.
Wolverine exactly. It’s not about you at all. They are trying to fix something with you. When it didn’t work they went to the next. It will continue until they stop and fix the problem internally. That takes some uncomfortable work, and they aren’t ready for it yet
Edi Gibson Well she has a bad relationship with his mother and daddy issue, As well as her attachment style was avoident. But we didn't fight when we broke up I just said what I want and didn't blame her for anything.she did blame me for some of the things which was completely misjudged by her. I came to know all of things after breakup when I start to watch this types of video as well as reading books about relationship, masculinity and all. Currently I am learning this skills by various materials and when I'll recover I'll try to look for best suitable partner.
It’s just so painful going through this a day before my birthday especially because everything was fine then all of a sudden it’s good bue hours before my birthday 😢
agreed. Why want Someone back who cant behave? Many breakups happen because boundaries were crushed time and time again. So the dumper will thrive in some cases.
Me and my GF didn't have a fight. And the only issue in our relationship was, that she no more had 'romantic feelings' for me. I don't think so she'll ever come back.
Edi you are the absolute sweetest ♥️ I found your channel the other day when I was struggling and I just wanna day thank you. I’m sure you’ve been through these tough times too and I just wanna say how strong you are for not only being able to battle through them, but then to also be vulnerable enough to share with others how you got through it. Sending you so much love 💕 keep making these!! They’re amazing!
The first part about *your brain going into overdrive trying to overcome the damage to your ego* is spot on, but the rest of the video isn't. The important thing is first *acknowledge* what you're feeling - BUT DON'T REACT TO IT. Let the feeling seep into your conscious awareness first and listen to what it's telling you. If your ego got bruised, then you probably had a false image of yourself and you got confronted with that. So it's time to do some *soul searching.* You don't have to negotiated with your (ex) partner. You have to negotiate with *yourself.* Your partner breaking up with you was just the *catalyst* for change and *pain* was the emotion needed to *shake you up* and *wake you up.*
I have been the dumper and I did the dumping for all the right reasons. There were lots of arguments, zero accountability taken for one's mistakes, playing victim, disrespect, pettiness, trust issues and gaslighting. These are all more than good enough reasons to dump someone. So, I wouldn't say the person that I dumped for the right reasons "has the upper hand". I wish her all the best though.
I lost all hopes, my girl dumped me over a month ago she had her reasons her father passed away and she said she can't give efforts for a relationship, i begged and pleaded but then i blocked her everywhere, i miss her, i loved her.
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I really loved him with all my heart. I always never had ego around him. I gave it everything i had. Even if he talked to his ex or if he complimented other girls or keep us a secret, i loved him and never doubted his love. But just one day he said it didn’t work out when he just whispered i love you into my ear the other day. it breaks me i couldn’t eat for days and it kills me to know that he was losing interest all this time while i was falling deeper in love every single day. It hurts.
I feel you exact pain the way you describe it for me I can’t get the thoughts and the questions on “when did she change I didn’t even notice” I loved her and we had our future talked out I guess I planned to far ahead I can’t believe she’s not mine anymore and it hurts the worse at night cause I’m alone and Idk what to do now my mind wonders what she’s doing or does she think of me at all .. I try to not think about it but I can’t stop thinking
It's been 1 month i was dumped and replaced by my ex within 24hrs. It was a 2 year old relationship. I don't want her back. I felt miserable until the last day. Now I'm trying to stand up on my feet again.
@@anirbanduttaroy6080 its been 3 weeks for me. My ex and i were together for almost 4 years. Everyday feels the same. I cry off and on but sometimes the tears just dont come out even when i’m sad..
He broke up with me, told me I don’t love you. I don’t want you anymore. I regret being with you your mistake and then swore up and down. There was no one else that he was alone and then told me that he slept with someone over a week ago already, we broke up for a few months would never do that
This is true. If you dont fix the problem that caused a ripple in your relationship, even if they do come back the first time, they wont be coming back for 3rd time. They will see no future with you because of your inability to fix/change. And we men are notorious for changing only after we get dumped. Be a man and dont drive her to that point fellas, change what needs changing while shes still yours.
@@linahmphuthi3758 You can't change him. He needs to want to change. It has to come from him. We men make mistake by getting too comfortable and we think we have time you know. We always want to change and we say oh tomorrow, tomorrow comes and we say oh next week, and by the time you blink years passed by and nothing changed. You can put a little scare in him, make him feel that he might loose your forever, if that does not do the trick then he will change for sure once you really walk out of his life forever. Its unfortunate that a lot of times has to go to those lengths. But if you really love him, give everything you have, do everything in your power to wake him up, to snap him outta whatever funk he is in. If it doesnt work at least you can walk away with your head held high knowing you left it all on the battlefield of love.
My ex wanted to see me one last time when he broke up with me over the phone. He got frustrated and he got tired of getting into fights but he was the reason for them. He wanted to focus on himself and be single. I told him I didn’t want to see him because it would just hurt me more. He didn’t want to give us another chance, he just needed that comfort of seeing me one more time. I don’t think he’s ever going to contact me because he said he didn’t think I was “the one”
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I have a situation. I was dating a wonderful guy for two months. He was honest and good. Integrity. We got along perfectly. The sex was great. We made long-term plans. We never once had an argument. Toward the end of our relationship we spent four beautiful days together. He always told me he loved me and I was beautiful. He said all of this on a Saturday and asked me what I valued in an ideal partner. He loved my answers. The very next day he dumped me and told me he had no feelings for me and was struggling to feel any. He tried, but wasn’t feeling it. This is less than 24 hours after telling me he loved me, cooking dinner for us in my kitchen, cuddling. I do NOT want him back, I don’t want to fix this, but I want to understand what in the hell happened. I’m so incredibly confused.
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Thinking back to my twenties, I used to envision myself as some best friend who always had your back. When I got dumped, I took it as some great failure on my part. It wasn’t until I stopped caring that I actually found somebody. It’s completely counterintuitive, but it makes people respect you more.
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Thank you for providing a woman’s perspective!! As a man I really needed help understanding what she was thinking and frankly listening to other guys on TH-cam isn’t helping
If you get dumped, you're the better person. You've already showed you are more responsible and more reliable by not being the dumper. Dumpers take the easy way out, don't ever forget that.
Depends, depends. I believe that people have the right to do whatever they want .
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I have been dumped many times and we get back together. It is manipulative and borderline narcissistic. Who the @@@@ does that all the time. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that. She is a k@@t quite frankly.
@DNACHOST they do absolutely just don't go crying when people do what they like in return.
They usually don't like it.
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It just hurts so much if they tell you, they can't have any feelings for you and have to break up, but want to be friends. But a week before that everything was perfect and they tell you how much they love you...
you're not the only one experiencing this( or were, whenever your original comment was posted) as I'm going through the exact same thing. I wish you have since then come to a better place in life.
@@mayolotiion3418 Thank you for your comment. I`m over the whole thing and Im in a much better place mentally :D
So sorry you had to experience that. I did too the last week. He called me and said the word break up, I tried giving him courage, saying he can hold my hands through this tough time, he said no and then just hung up. I didn't try anymore. Wrote him a last letter, he wrote me back saying he wants to stay friends. I called him and said no, just said at the end, i love you bye'. Then he starts randomly contacting me out of the blue the past few days, until yesterday it was about some damn spotify subscription i'm part of (sent same messages via whatsapp, sms and email) and how he's sorry and wants to have a proper break up with me. I replied, 'you broke up with me once and it was enough to kill me inside and leave me dead. I cannot do it again. bye'. Then i blocked him for few hours. even the thought of seeing his number on a blocked list triggered me so i decided to unblock. He wrote again at night saying 'i'm sorry'. I didn't read the message, just deleted the whole chat.
Since someone I pictured my future and we talked about so much of it, i cannot deal with the fact that he's near the area and i could one day see him with someone else. It kills me inside.
I now made a decision to move to a different city, i will change my phone number, perhaps change my email so he can never contact me again. Just disappear from the face of the earth. If he didn't love me enough to fight together and left me, I will get out of his life just like he wished for.
@@angelicmelody404 My ex did the exact same thing to me a week ago and I’m moving to a new city too now lmaooo
Exact same thing happend with me. I dont know what to do.
Feels comforting knowing all these people in the comments are going through the same thing and I’m not alone
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You are really not alone.
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@@StevieRay1486 Bro you have to relax & do not contact at all , Im on my 8th day & rn if you try to fix anything its gonna fireback at you so bro give her space and do you . . . its fucking hard but this is the truth
If you don’t feed their ego and leave them alone, the dumper’s remorse will bite them in the ass... and when you least expect it, the tables turn :)
i agree... it happens everytime.
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true. even years later . karma always comes around
@@banderas2000 Im waiting for it to happen!
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What if they're dating someone already? :(
Stop thinking about the good times... Remember the BAD ones. Move on... Your going to find someone BETTER!
I try that but then I get angry and feel hate so I don’t like to think of the bad. My heart even starts to hurt. I don’t think of the good either, but I do think of him in general everyday. It’s been 4 months since he ghosted me. Don’t know what else to do to move on.
@@stephw3475 His loss. I'm sure you were a great girlfriend! Remember this. He will be contacting you. It's not as easy as Men think to find someone to love them. Do not respond. Sign up with a dating app. Try Bumble. 😉
Crystal Dating Coach thanks crystal. I doubt he’ll contact me. His pride and ego are too high and he’ll always look to other women for supply. Hopefully with this quarantine , once it’s over I can start meeting new guys. I’m shy with online dating 😌
@@stephw3475 You will meet other Men and have an even Better relationship. Your wiser now!
those are true words my good friend told me that not to think of the good time but think of the times you where hurt.its been since march when she left me just after we got back from Hawaii.i think she is playing games with me now and has before in the relationship.she wants to be friends with me,she tod me just in case we need each other🤔
she has numerous issues on meds and has gone thourgh 2 marriages and a lot of relationships.plus doing on line hook ups thinking she can make herself fell better because if the loss of her marriages and sexually a big risk taker.
no contact works guys. i wanted to do it so he can realize he lost someone great and actually come back. although this no contact was originally meant for that reason only. i learned how to love myself a lot more. i no longer feel the need to have them in my life.
No contact didn’t work on me. :) thank God for my ex setting me free!
I actually blocked him so that he would never have the chance to come back.It is a good thing that am healing😊🙏
I think it's pretty much like the Tortoise and Hare race. The dumper ( Hare ) initially moves on, or tries to move on very fast, while the dumpee ( Tortoise ) languishes behind. Over time, the dumpee gains momentum after going through the stages of being dumped but in time regains self confidence and power. Meanwhile the Dumper ( Hare ) loses momentum, becomes lazy, doesn't self analyze or reflect and learns nothing.
Slow and steady wins the race....be like the Tortoise !
amen. i was the dumpee and am doing better. my dumper came around a few years back and liekd what they saw. but i was over it.
I love this comment 😄
I needed this comment u broke it down so sad smooth just now because she has been being lazy and just drinking alcohol do I do anything or you think I should try to head out there life for good? I’m open to ask responses
@@jshaw241 You're after my advice ? Don't know your situation, but usually a period where you don't contact her. If there was anything substantial there from her perspective, she'll probably start missing you....all the best
what if u cant really tell who is the dumpee and who is the dumper? My situation is like this: we were in a long distance relationship, all of a sudden she told me that its to early to be in a relationship, but dont want to lose me. then i deleted her and left her the option open to imessage me. I just couldnt go a step back because we already been in a relationship. thoughts are still killing me if that was the right move from me. So no contact for 6 days now. If she really wants me then she can reach out, I told her everything that she needed to hear.
Remember, when you break and call them crying, it is okay. It really is. Because soon you won't be doing that, and they'll wish you would.
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Yeah I did this, and I wish I hadn't.
I cried and I opened my heart and gave it to her.
But unfortunately I think it just made her feel like she had the control instead of had my back.
We got together again but she left a few months later.
I text her from my soul, and told her how much she meant to me and my son, but it wasn't enough.
You know...the worst thing is being so easy to forget, it really does make you feel worthless and meaningless and not good enough.
So here I am...with the sinking feeling in my heart, watching breakup advice on TH-cam and getting comfort from reading people comments.
@@kaneharvey8279 you and I both know it gets better. Your text is fine, and I'm going to tell you why, elaborate on the point I made a year ago here when my chest was caving in.
She got your text, she read it. It made her feel good, it made her feel wanted. It was an emotional sustenance that she's learned she can get from you.
But you'll give up and somehow move on. You know you will. And she'll want those texts because of how good it feels to read them. She'll miss those texts and she'll miss you. Hopefully by then you won't care. Hopefully you'll have picked yourself up and refuse to give her any more of yourself. Don't take her back again. Just don't do it. I promise she's not your soulmate. You'll be happy again.
As what Taylor Swift says, "People like you always want back the love they pushed aside, and people like me are gone forever when you said goodbye" lol There's just no point going back to a dumper. Being dumped shouldn't be a punishment,it should just be the end, period. Remember that a person who truely loves you never leaves you.
Very true...I concur...
Though true - dumping should be the finish. But some people dump you cause they just don't know how to communicate and when the pressures are too much, because of them, not because you're wrong, but because they weren't willing to communicate, they think, it's easier is to say they're not into you anymore, when they know damn well it's a mask, but they feel the need for it cause they can't deal with the pressures
@@Alexis_Idfk That's their loss.Let them keep looking for perfect human beings to date!!
@@Alexis_Idfk this. I think this is what happened to me. my ex was feeling pressure from like. he doesn't communicate well. put the blue he dumps me. he claims he was feeling pressure. so I agree with you.
Dear Crazy. Yes I said those same words to somebody I thought I loved but now I am packing to leave I plan to never see him again. When people ghost you or dump you it could be because everybody needs their space and my LTR is invading mine. He is trying to suck my life to fill a void in his own life
There was no issue. He was lying to me, met someone else & wanted to be with her. Karma never misses, ESPECIALLY when u take advantage of someone with a good, pure heart & who was nothing but good to you.
You said there was no issue but actually he had issues so there were issues!
@@osmsksms5444 Not necessarily. Everything was fine with my girl, we had lots of bedroom fun, she gave me looks of desire, we loved spending time together, were making winter travel plans and had just bought Oktoberfest tickets. Then she met a guy who gave her butterflies and that was it. She lost all interest and attraction for me the moment she met him.
So no, sometimes there are no issues, you're just with someone so callous and evil that they're willing to throw away a 3 year relationship that has no issues, for a guy they met the week before.
If someone decided to trash you at your lowest, they don't deserve to have you at your best.
Besides, one's trash is another's treasure.
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I think the “no contact” thing is really for ourselves...it is a good time to pull back the focus on ourselves, have a little introspection session. A lot of people uses the no contact as a “strategy” aiming to focus on “if I don’t contact them, that will make him/her to come back”. No, it should be focusing on yourself, not them. They let go of you, so pull your energy back on yourself. It’s time for you to crawl yourself back out from the pit they left you in, stop looking at them. In my own experience, they always come back...and I always tell them to be free and love themselves. It didn’t work, is probably not going to work. I can forgive but I just don’t forget. Which means I can never ever trust that person who throw me in the pit again, not this life lol he proven to me that he is irresponsible, unreliable, immature, selfish, and does not love me. So, do you actually want someone like that to be in your life sharing your love? Not for me.
lolliman21 sure
I agree, but now for example my bf broke up with me because of my insecurities and jealousy, I'm doing therapy because I recognise my failures and even tho I don't want to focus on getting him back I still think about it, but I don't know if it will be worth it... I mean, he left me because I was doing him wrong, and even tho if I work on that I don't know if try again or not
Fátima Cáceres A clap requires two hands...you are not the only one who did wrong in a relationship causing it to break. Admitting you did wrong is great and is correct thing to do. You can apologize to him for your fault and do better next time. Yet, it does not mean he is 100% correct and you guys should get back together. You apologize because you were wrong and you should, even not to your boyfriend. If you did something wrong, apologize and change for better, it’s basic of growth and life. I think the most important thing between two people is respect, integrity, trust, and being genuinely honest. Unless both of you could build yourself to that, or grow together? What’s the point of getting back together? But if both of you are willing to work on it, then you can think about it. Important Point is stay healthy, not in toxic relationships or situationship. All the best!
Fátima Cáceres And when you are healed regarding your insecurities and jealousy, there are so many men in this world...lol is not just him.
They don’t always come back - as a dumper, I do speak from experience and I keep my word when I leave it, not out of ego but because I needed to be free and thank God for the reminder that I didn’t need to settle.
No communication = no relationship, don't suffer for nothing and go away
It’s not your responsibility if you’re broken up with. These people stone wall and can’t communicate. Not being able to work through simple problems and being triggered enough to end it over a fight is the biggest red flag 🚩
Dismissive avoidant attachment/ some ADHD
THIS!!!!
Absolutely
That's not the BIGGEST red flag. The biggest red flag is when you're with someone who's spent 3 years breaking through your defenses and burrowing into your heart and soul, building and earning a level of love, connection and trust with you stronger than any you've ever had. Someone who knows about your history of betrayal, abandonment and heartbreak, and works to make you truly believe that they're different and will never up and leave you...only to then up and leaves you out of nowhere for a guy they met less than a week before.
THAT'S the biggest red flag.
Some people are just confused and trying to find themselves out and “Them” breaking up with you is Not about you. I want no one that can just easily walk away. It’s bad communication skills.
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My advice is to keep a structured life and surround yourself with the things in life you enjoy. This to me helps you truly move on cause if someone doesn't want to be in your life LET THEM WALK AWAY!!
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You do have the upper hand, move on, love yourself, give your time self to heal and then find somebody who doesn't have issues who can love you for who you are!
When you look to find a spouse, Look for someone who strives to seek God in all they do. Cultural norms and traditions come and go, But the Word of the Lord endures forever. First, early in the relationship connection, express your desire to avoid premarital sex. When you express your desire to want to honor God with your sexuality before marriage, this won’t be a shock to a real Christian. That is just a basic biblical command all true Christians want to follow. Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit.
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"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."
But if you say this to someone who is just pretending to obey the Bible, they will leave you quickly because they will not be willing to wait until marriage for sex. Someone can deceive you with words. But when you see their obedience to the Lord that matches their words, then you know they are trustworthy. They need to be visibly producing the fruits of the Spirit because this is a mark of a true Christian. Anyone can claim to be a Christian. And we can’t know someone’s heart. So the Bible says we are to evaluate people by their actions. Christians will not be perfect, but they will be bearing fruit that is evidence of their true salvation.
Galatians 5:22-26
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another."
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My girlfriend just walked out on me 😢 and this is just what I needed to hear! God bless you! ❤️
My ex of almost 1 year, had a file on his computer with explicit photos of his exes and some of him. I found out accidentally and when I confronted him about it he said it was a file he forgot about and he would delete it. Fast forward one month he didn’t do it because he was busy. I was not thinking clearly and deleted the file. When I told him he flipped off on me, started yelling, cussing me. He said I deleted one of his work on his computer and I KNOW I didn’t. Anyway, he chased me out the house 12am at night. I cried, begged, slept at my friends house. Fast forward 2 months he had a new gf who’s a single mother and has baby daddy issues. It’s been 7 months and the healing phase is almost over. I’ve realized that if someone loved me, they would never put themselves in a position to lose me. I hope this helps someone.
You really made me relax. Wow. I was talking to a guy and I became attatched. He took a step back and decided to end things tonight. So I’ll sit back and relax.
Seems like this is happening more and more. I'm going on 3 weeks since..."I need my space" . I'm doing the no contact as well, to work on myself! Which I am, for a better me. Don't get attached unless the other person feels the same for you. Sit back and relax senorita, you'll be fine without him.
Did He ever tried to contact you?
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I got on my knees and cried to my bf while he was sitting on the couch to give me another chance... and he looked at me like I was pathetic and disgusting and said. No. Then for some reason my entire demeanor changed and I went into boss bitch mode. I stood up and started immediately to distance myself and have no contact and even though I had to stay at his house for that night then leave in the morning. I slept in another room, made sure wherever he was in the house I was in the opposite direction and in the morning I woke up and went downstairs and packed my things and when he asked me when I was leaving , I calmly told him, now and left and wished him luck. And acted very calm and secure.... he even commented before I left you seem much more okay today. “I said yup casually because at this point I felt confident” then left and literally on the drive home he messaged me “ you didn’t have to go muffin” and I didn’t drive back to him, I went home and stayed home to now make him 😓 and it worked hahaha 😂 it’s so real.
EXACTLY! Its all games. Im happy you see that begging gets you nowhere. Let THEM sweat
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But then there are the times when the breakup was actually the best decision for you both. You can’t see it at the time and want to beg and plead for them not to leave but once they do you get a sense of freedom back and you think about all the reasons it wouldn’t have worked out in the long run. And you’re grateful for the memories and love you shared but it’s time to start a new chapter. One that you create yourself with your goals and dreams still intact. Thank you for setting me free A. I will always love you. ❤️🐻
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This is absolutely true. I have been on an off and on relationship almost 2 years. We had 2 fall outs. I had the power when he decided to walk. I did not look for him or dwell on him. I got my power back. Don’t beg no one for their love. Let them walk. If they see it as a mistake and it’s meant to be they will come back.
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She dumped me after three years of a beautiful and intimate relationship. We were apart in different countries due to coronavirus. After 7 months of being apart, she said that she is tired of waiting along with other issues which she never mentioned before. It hurts like hell because she promised me she wont leave me FOREVER because I was dumped before. I hope no one goes through this pain. People can change anytime, nothing is permanent and change is constant. If you are a relationship, be mature, communicate and never take things for granted. One day, you will regret the things you could have done to save it. FOREVER is just a word, it will end if you wont take care of it.
she also told me shes gonna fight for me, we were in a relationship, but suddenly she said its too early to call us a couple even thought she said it so clear before that Im the one for her. now we are in no contact. long distance and covid-19 also big problems.
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Exactly the same as me. He broke up because of covid, begged to come back 4 mos later and said distance doesn't matter anymore and he'll be with me through thick and thin, but then broke up again for the same reason 10 mos later.
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happend the same with me she said the same tired of been alone and i kept asking her u have someone so ill move on she kept lying untill i knew and was sure that she alreayd had somenone in her life ,for her its heaven now new person new things ,im totaly destroyed but thnx god because her mask fall down and she showed her true face i was going to move with her and marry her im still recovering from her poison that she threw at me first my ex wife now my ex gf ,i hope she taste the same poison that i tasted because thats the only way for people like her to learn
I was dumped out of nowhere and I didn't beg for him to stay or talk. I felt like he had shut down (he's super avoidant) was really cold, and I just didn't have it in me to say anything. He said he didn't see a future with me it was like a knife in my gut but I didn't say anything, I just nodded. I'm really happy with myself that I stayed strong and didn't beg. It's been three weeks today we have had 0 contact since that convo where he literally left me at a bus stop where I sat and cried after he left. Part of me is feeling upset at having being treated coldly after years together with no obvious trigger to me or proper conversation. The other part of me is like, wow, I do not want to be with someone who can leave me so easily and I deserve better. I would like to move on and accept things but it's hard to when one second you have this person for years of your life and the next second it's all gone - all the plans you had, all the things you saw of your future. How did others cope? I don't know if he'll reach out but I don't know if it matters?
I hope you are in a better place. But great boundaries🤝 trust me you did great. Just gotta give yourself a statement or something you know for a fact about you n him n the relation n hold the be true n every time memories comes say that statement it’ll help you you out of the reminiscing memories. I wouldn’t reach out to him until he comes to me. Never gave someone a second chance that doesn’t acknowledge or fix what they have done.
I hope all is going well now and you feel much better. I had the same situation. I'm angry at myself still I was ok with his "I don't see a fiture. I don't really want to take responsibility and help you..." I thought he is under a huge stress and I need to support him. I thought it's bad thoughts because he is under the stess. But he just sayed what he meant.
@@ox-po363 Hi, I am in such a better place now. I barely even think about him and when I do it's sort of with indifference. I think accepting that he wasn't the one for me let me stop picking the ending a part and just know that something better is out there for me 100%. I don't think the person that's meant to be for me would have said what he said/done what he did. I think at the end of the day you deserve someone who will make you a priority and who can't imagine a life without you. I hope you find that (I know you will!). All the best xoxo
I hope now you have found yourself and in a really better place rn… I am going through the same for close to 2months now and her being really mean, cold and rude is still puzzling and hurts so bad
@@Laltroragazzo sometimes as hard as it is, you have to have no contact with someone to heal. I never spoke with my ex again from the day we broke up, and i feel it helped me heal faster
I don't want him back, he treated me badly. We have two children together and over the years he completely and utterly disrespected and humiliated me for other women. He even fought me for them leaving scars and bruises on my body. He can go
It is a terrible feeling to loose someone you love and care for. Always give of your best in a relationship, be confident in who you are, and if they walk away, then let them. You want someone who appreciates you and if they don't then they miss out. There's millions of amazing good people out there that WILL appreciate you and never let you go.
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So many people are quick to say, "They'll want you back eventually. They'll come back and beg and chase and apologize and realize what they lost...and then they'll be sorry" but I really don't want him to do any of that. I don't want to get back at him or for him to feel remorse. I want to really talk about it and at the same time there's almost no point in talking about it. It's just done I think. I can't keep being yo-yo'd into someone with commitment issues.
My boyfriend dumped me. He just gave a bunch of stupid excuses as to why. We didn't really have any issues in our relationship either. He just one day confessed to having "no feelings for me." Whatever.
This just happened to me. No fighting, but I was blindsided and now I’m lost
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My girlfriend dumped me she told me she was going tru a lot and she loves and we are better off as friends and the hangout with a dude from work the next day now l have to see them walk together all the time because we used to work together well we still work together and it’s hard
@@thedgopro6985 oh my goodness that must be very hard for you! Wth. I hope the pain you're experiencing will fade as time goes by!
@@thedgopro6985 I'm sorry bro, i just got dumped twice in a row
It has been exactly one week since I was dumped by my girlfriend. Every single one of your videos have been tremendously helpful. This one is no exception! Thank you for sharing all of this advice and being so compassionate 💯 You are healing so many people here . Thank you❤️
You’re welcome! Don’t forget the most important part is to use this uncomfortableness to change for the better. There’s really no good change that doesn’t come with an uncomfortable feeling. Hang in there!
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Same! I was dumped by my boyfriend exactly a week ago! I truly felt that he was “the one”. It is very heartbreaking and I go through a roller coaster of emotions each day but it seems to get better bit by bit each day. I hope you are able to heal slowly too❤️
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hang in there bro. youll find someone better
Also, because you’re the one that got dumped, you work on yourself and improve your flaws and mistakes whether you get back with your ex or meet someone else or stay single. On the other hand, the ex that dumped you think they have full control and doesn’t really look inward and fix themselves because they think they are in the right because they didn’t get dumped. When your ex meet approaches you again, she/he has a lot more unsolved issues and more weight
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Wouldn’t want someone back who would use something so pathetic as a breakup to punish the other person - just plain childish , yet this is the way people are going
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Thanks Edi, girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. It had to do with temporary long distance due to Covid, but she told me she wasn't sure about her future and needed time. I'm healing for sure, but I do miss her. I've been working on myself and keeping busy. I hope we both end up in good spots whether or not she comes back.
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Just forget her.. She probably has another one.. Its hard to think about that, but if she loved you she wouldnt leave just bcs she doesnt know about her future.. Its just a lame excuse not to hurt you, and so she leaves the door open to come back without telling you the truth..
My gf did the same.. Aaaa is not you its mee, i need to work on myself.. She avoided me, less messages bla bla, and i believed everything.. But now over time i can see that she lied soo much.. Some lame excuses, and turned all the blame on me.. Everything, everything i did or didint do blamed on me..
She met someone else?
@@impactajuvenile TBH , I doubt it. But in a way that I'm not denying that she could be with someone else. But regardless what she does with her life now doesn't matter. Two things will happen. I'll meet someone new in the future or she does reach out to me. Either way I'll be fine.
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That's the best advice on the internet. When a guy dumps me but wants to leave the door open for a rebound I always make sure this door shuts completely. He has to experience what it's like to be without me. No exceptions. If he comes crawling back he better makes sure for -himself- that he acquired the skills to express his feelings so that they can be understood by an adult person. That's his work he's got to do if he wants to level up from a dependent man child to an actual mature man that I want to be in a relationship with.
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YES.. I love when you said it's to punish. It absolutely is a lot of times. But breaking up is really damaging to do/say instead of just saying "need space and then we can come back to talk in x amount of time". Breaking up and then coming back is super toxic.
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If they come back on their own, then I agree - that's toxic. Often what happens though is the person who was dumped reaches out to the dumper and tries to win them back. In that case, it's kinda toxic for the dumpee to do that. If they were willing to commit to being a good partner, why didn't they do it earlier? And if they're not willing to do it, why reach out and pretend like they've seen the light and are going to be better now? It's super abusive. If you get dumped, self-reflect on why that is.
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I wish I saw these videos closer to the break up they have helped me sooooo much, it's been two months and it was not pretty, it was toxic for both of us, but I'm happy, realizing I am great and I love myself and I did everything I could and he took advantage of it and it's not my fault
When I was still single and in and out of relationships I have this rule that says if you dump me then you don't deserve me. Once he says it's over then it's over. I'm someone who doesn't just end a relationship just because I need space. So if the guy is like that then he's not who I need. There's no coming back. Reset your ass lol
Thank you Edi, hope you're doing well, your video's never disappoint! My "ex," totally out of character, told me a few months ago he never felt in love with me and unequivocally didn't see a future with me. He did this a year ago, think he meant it this time, but I realized I don't deserve to be treated so poorly (as a back-up plan of sorts). I hadn't seen this side of him before as we didn't argue (never ever bickered) in our relationship, and our relationship, where we communicated well, or so I thought, lasted almost two years. He wanted to be friends, and I took a hard pass on that idea, have stuck to no contact. I am still hurting a little yet I wish him well, we're all deserving of happiness.
It sounds like you have gotten through the worst of it. It’s smart of you to say no to being friends right away. That would have been a mistake! Glad you are doing so well, keep going, and get closer to YOU. Use this time to make you better, you won’t regret it. Putting in that work is amazing for you, and it will also attract ppl who are on a better level when you’re ready to date again.
I’m in this situation too, totally out of the blue, and he just said he hadn’t been in love with me for months. Maybe a year.
Thanks Edi. It's been 4 months and I've heard nothing from her. It hurts. I miss her. But I've stayed strong and left her alone. I can't believe how much i even miss her kids. This is killing me. Your vids definitely help.
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@Davo Rebo yeah i fell pretty hard cuz we were good friends for years before we got together. I thought my heart was safe.
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The abandonment nerve was completely sat on I miss him I don’t understand how connections are made then someone runs. Why run from being loved?😞
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" moving on is equals to getting your ex back", move on bro, if she comes back. I know you will have problems about this, like why she dated someone
@@hipsterhoneybee1968 thanks man! In the end, I've moved on and I'm with a new girl and we are getting married next year. 😇
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I hope everyone here is doing better. I'm a new dumpee and we have a daughter so right now I'm hurting but I gotta keep it moving.
They way I see it. When someone leaves let them go. Dont ever go back. Look forward. It will bloody hurt. Keep no contact at all because what's the point. Been dumped so many times and yes I've been hurt but she's right give them space and if she wants or he wants to go. Just go. Thanks for the video. Just my opinion.
Thank you so much for this video. Everything you talked about in this was exactly what I needed to hear and the way you explained everything in such a calm matter just made me feel a bit better 🖤 I'm currently on the 2nd week post break up of a long distance relationship that lasted 8 months. I miss and love my ex gf so much still and it really did hurt me when it happened because of course I wasn't expecting it to happen anytime soon. I was the one who got dumped. I went straight into no contact the day after I happened because I didn't wanna come off as needy and I will respect her decision of wanting some space and a break from the relationship. I don't wanna bug her because I'm sure that it would just make her become irritated with me. My mind still has the urge to wanna contact her and tell her how much I miss her and want her back. But I'm still trying my best to be strong and maintain the no contact phase. Her mother tends to call/text me telling me that she keeps going up to her every night and telling her that she misses me ever since the breakup happened... So that goes to show that this no contact thing is really making her think about the decision she made.
how is it going now? also going through a long distance relationship breakup. I kinda got dumped but she asked me to stay, but i couldnt because It will eat me up. deleted the contacts just imessage and told her that she can still hit me up on there
Thabk you for this video.
My gf just broke up with me after 6 years. Ive been trying to figire out the exact moment where i went wrong for her to feel like a break up was the right choice. Im still dealing with the whole, 'my world has been flipped upside down', aspect, and this kinda made me realize that space is what people need when they ens things with you. My question is, do women want to be fought for, and where is the line drawn between caring too much, and giving space? I dont want to lose these 6 years of love and life building, but i dont want to seem like im this emotuonal wreck without her.
Your voice is so soothing. I’m going through such a difficult time. Thank you.
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I am glad that I was gotten dumped last week because i realized that my business wasn't handled properly & was't focus on myself well enough. Enough said. I rather focus on me & i learned from my mistakes and I am moving forward for ME only.. If you leave someone during worse times is not best for being with me on when the good times comes back. I don't want the ex back.
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He never came back 😂😂 I am super proud and excited to be working on me🎉🎉🎉
Omg love this video. Just what I needed right now. Going through this right now with someone who broke up. He believes he can’t give me more than what he is giving because he has depression. Hopefully this space will clarify that I will be there for him no matter what.
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It’s been 4 months since my ex ghosted me. Never heard from him again. And I’m still in pain. We go to the same church (haven’t seen him cuz of quarantine) so we know all the same people and I know he’s happy and talking to other women. He’s in the I’m free state. I honestly didn’t do anything for him to treat me like this. And even though days have gotten better and my depression isn’t as bad, it’s still such a hard time to move on and not think of him. It feels so lonely.
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Tanya Tanya thank you sis. God is what’s keeping me going. I’m a believer too and even though this is all painful I’m leaning on Him and doing my best to move forward for His glory. Thank you for the encouragement. I will check out that channel too. 💕
Never thought I'd be here... Felt like a thing that happens to others. I did everything right. Went above and beyond.
I guess it just wasn't enough to them. But good luck ever finding someone like me again.
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When you look to find a spouse, Look for someone who strives to seek God in all they do. Cultural norms and traditions come and go, But the Word of the Lord endures forever. First, early in the relationship connection, express your desire to avoid premarital sex. When you express your desire to want to honor God with your sexuality before marriage, this won’t be a shock to a real Christian. That is just a basic biblical command all true Christians want to follow. Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."
But if you say this to someone who is just pretending to obey the Bible, they will leave you quickly because they will not be willing to wait until marriage for sex. Someone can deceive you with words. But when you see their obedience to the Lord that matches their words, then you know they are trustworthy. They need to be visibly producing the fruits of the Spirit because this is a mark of a true Christian. Anyone can claim to be a Christian. And we can’t know someone’s heart. So the Bible says we are to evaluate people by their actions. Christians will not be perfect, but they will be bearing fruit that is evidence of their true salvation.
Galatians 5:22-26
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another."
Hebrews 13:4
"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
It hurts when they tell you YOUR child is the reason for the breakup. She adored him but he was annoyed. One more reason to stay away from him and angry at him
@@charlalar14 I got back together with another ex and the resent one is faaaaaar away from being better. So it clearly weren’t us who caused his annoyance and frustration😅✨
Gaslighted and stonewalled to the point I self destructed. Got arrested, Order of Protection… Perfect Narcissist tool. Knowing I can address the flaws under a heartbreak gave me the advantage. So I know the next relationship will benefit tremendously!
Thank you my gf dumped me a week ago and this is helpful. All my guy friends are telling me to man up, single life, and hyping me up. I miss her so much and I’m trying but when I have those bad days it’s tough. I wish I wasn’t so feminine :/
Dude, going through the same. I just keep crying hoping she texts me
You're not feminine you're devine masculine
My ex girlfriend of 2 and a half years is burying and numbing her emotions with a rebound relationship. It hurts, and I don't think I'd be able to take her back if she ever did reach out to me again. Going on 2 months of no contact after begging and pleading. I'm becoming a better person, and feeling all the emotions, good and bad, without anything to numb them. That's the best way to grow.
LordTannet1 dude that sucks!!! I know how you feel my ex of 10 years left saying that she needed to work on herself but I ended up finding out she was sleeping with a co worker.
You explained this so well. You not only explained the NO contact but what leads to it; and how men think. Exactly what I am going through. I needed to hear this. Thank you....
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The most encouraging thing .....was feeling sad but now i feel superior
I don't believe in giving someone a second chance. Cross me and it's over. I haven't talked to some people in years and not about ever.
This was angelic to my ears thank you so much! Everything you said made sense. I’ve thought like that before too where it’s really me with the power because when the time comes that they want to come back into my life, we’ll now it’s my choice if I want to or not
You give them 'space' and they will date someone else, so they won't come back, 100% of the time. You reach out to them, they will dump you even harder, 100% of the time.
2.5 years after my breakup and I'm still not completely over it, but this video sure does help
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My husband told me on Saturday he’s been with another woman for 2 years. I had my suspicions and cried those 2 years but I am stronger now. This year would be 10 years but they are doing me a favor. I don’t need him in my life. I got 3 kids and now I will fight harder for them. I am blessed for the lesson I learned.
Treating your kids mom with respect, and prioritizing her mental health is the best gift you can give your kids. You’re on the right path!
I needed to see this. She’s asked for time and space and I’ve been terrified.
I hope I can come back and follow this comment up with good news soon….
Once I got dumped, and immediately I broke contact, but I didn’t block her from anything, I didn’t remove her number. She took notice of that and it bit her back on the ass hard. She knew exactly why I wouldn’t talk back to her and she realized she could’ve prevented it all had she not made such a stupid decision. She immediately blew up my phone with sob messages and calls, almost on every single app that connects us, after three days, I broke silence and asked her why she’s crawling for me if she had dumped me.
Don’t make them regret taking you in, make them regret leaving you.
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Are you kidding me? Over the years I've thrived on rejection. Usually expected it. And if you don't wanna be with me. No hard feelings and hit the road
I love your attitude I’m gonna try have it too!
@@pacha777one thing I've learned is that you're the prize not her. I've learned how women behave and you don't need them. They need you. Been married 31 years. My wife doesn't cook wash my clothes clean or sleep with me. I've become self sufficient. I don't need her at all. She needs me.
You want someone to want to be with you , you dont want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you and thus accept you
Hey, it's not just a men women are also bad at communication so it goes both ways. Be a good coach don't blame any gender.. and You got upper hand if they come back or rebound fails. Otherwise you have to move on without hope and that's a very hard because you have invested your emotions, feelings and Time.
The thing about rebounds is they usually do fail. The grass is always greener on the other side, but as soon as problems arise. The shine wears off, and regret comes in. I think you’re absolutely right about it going both ways. I think with women a lot of the time they do make sure they have another relationship lined up before they get out of the current one. Of course men do this too. When you think about it, the type of person who needs to immediately go to another relationship isn’t giving themselves time to recenter before committing again. That person can’t be emotionally well. They aren’t spending the time to grow or settle after the last relationship and this pattern will likely keep going with their new relationship. I’d say they will probably regret it and try to test out if they could come back. I would advise against it because this person has a lot of issues they are choosing to ignore and are just hoping a new relationship will make those issues disappear. It’s bound to not work.
Edi Gibson yeah agreed! my ex after dumping me and after almost a year visited one of my company which i own. But well I was busy and she meet with my cousin and left. Person with high self esteem and secure attachment style recover and then they jump in to relationship or dating.
Wolverine exactly. It’s not about you at all. They are trying to fix something with you. When it didn’t work they went to the next. It will continue until they stop and fix the problem internally. That takes some uncomfortable work, and they aren’t ready for it yet
Edi Gibson Well she has a bad relationship with his mother and daddy issue, As well as her attachment style was avoident. But we didn't fight when we broke up I just said what I want and didn't blame her for anything.she did blame me for some of the things which was completely misjudged by her. I came to know all of things after breakup when I start to watch this types of video as well as reading books about relationship, masculinity and all. Currently I am learning this skills by various materials and when I'll recover I'll try to look for best suitable partner.
She was speaking from a perspective of a woman.
It’s just so painful going through this a day before my birthday especially because everything was fine then all of a sudden it’s good bue hours before my birthday 😢
i dumped her for violating my boundaries and treating me with disrespect. so no they dont always have the upper hand
agreed. Why want Someone back who cant behave? Many breakups happen because boundaries were crushed time and time again. So the dumper will thrive in some cases.
he simply told me he has no time for the feelings lol can't fix that on my part
And that’s very mature of you to realize that. Sounds like he wouldn’t have been a good partner anyway. Better you saved yourself some time
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Me and my GF didn't have a fight. And the only issue in our relationship was, that she no more had 'romantic feelings' for me. I don't think so she'll ever come back.
Y doesnt ahe feel the same way did u stop doing something u was doing in the beginning
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She met someone else?
@@impactajuvenile Idk, that could be one reason. I am not sure if she met someone else. Because the breakup happened during the lockdown
@@littlex6 No, I didn't change anything. I was doing things like I used to do before
I was dumped but it was weird bc I actually didn't feel bad at all...I felt relieved
It hurts! It’s not my ego…I just loved her so much.
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Edi you are the absolute sweetest ♥️ I found your channel the other day when I was struggling and I just wanna day thank you. I’m sure you’ve been through these tough times too and I just wanna say how strong you are for not only being able to battle through them, but then to also be vulnerable enough to share with others how you got through it. Sending you so much love 💕 keep making these!! They’re amazing!
The first part about *your brain going into overdrive trying to overcome the damage to your ego* is spot on, but the rest of the video isn't. The important thing is first *acknowledge* what you're feeling - BUT DON'T REACT TO IT. Let the feeling seep into your conscious awareness first and listen to what it's telling you. If your ego got bruised, then you probably had a false image of yourself and you got confronted with that. So it's time to do some *soul searching.* You don't have to negotiated with your (ex) partner. You have to negotiate with *yourself.* Your partner breaking up with you was just the *catalyst* for change and *pain* was the emotion needed to *shake you up* and *wake you up.*
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I have been the dumper and I did the dumping for all the right reasons. There were lots of arguments, zero accountability taken for one's mistakes, playing victim, disrespect, pettiness, trust issues and gaslighting. These are all more than good enough reasons to dump someone. So, I wouldn't say the person that I dumped for the right reasons "has the upper hand". I wish her all the best though.
It's heartbreaking when it's out of the blue and only a week ago everything was fine.
I lost all hopes, my girl dumped me over a month ago she had her reasons her father passed away and she said she can't give efforts for a relationship, i begged and pleaded but then i blocked her everywhere, i miss her, i loved her.
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I really loved him with all my heart. I always never had ego around him. I gave it everything i had. Even if he talked to his ex or if he complimented other girls or keep us a secret, i loved him and never doubted his love. But just one day he said it didn’t work out when he just whispered i love you into my ear the other day. it breaks me i couldn’t eat for days and it kills me to know that he was losing interest all this time while i was falling deeper in love every single day. It hurts.
I feel you exact pain the way you describe it for me I can’t get the thoughts and the questions on “when did she change I didn’t even notice” I loved her and we had our future talked out I guess I planned to far ahead I can’t believe she’s not mine anymore and it hurts the worse at night cause I’m alone and Idk what to do now my mind wonders what she’s doing or does she think of me at all .. I try to not think about it but I can’t stop thinking
We’ll get through this! We have to💙
Its been a month since my 6 year relationship ended. I feel like ive been manic for the last 30 days. But its starting to set in now
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It's been 1 month i was dumped and replaced by my ex within 24hrs. It was a 2 year old relationship. I don't want her back. I felt miserable until the last day. Now I'm trying to stand up on my feet again.
@@anirbanduttaroy6080 its been 3 weeks for me. My ex and i were together for almost 4 years. Everyday feels the same. I cry off and on but sometimes the tears just dont come out even when i’m sad..
@@k9ily724 Stay strong my man
@@k9ily724 thats fucked up man feel better my girl just left me after 4 year an hr ago
He broke up with me, told me I don’t love you. I don’t want you anymore. I regret being with you your mistake and then swore up and down. There was no one else that he was alone and then told me that he slept with someone over a week ago already, we broke up for a few months would never do that
This is true. If you dont fix the problem that caused a ripple in your relationship, even if they do come back the first time, they wont be coming back for 3rd time. They will see no future with you because of your inability to fix/change. And we men are notorious for changing only after we get dumped. Be a man and dont drive her to that point fellas, change what needs changing while shes still yours.
But what if you’re the one that’s doing the work and the man is the one that does not change
@@linahmphuthi3758 You can't change him. He needs to want to change. It has to come from him. We men make mistake by getting too comfortable and we think we have time you know. We always want to change and we say oh tomorrow, tomorrow comes and we say oh next week, and by the time you blink years passed by and nothing changed. You can put a little scare in him, make him feel that he might loose your forever, if that does not do the trick then he will change for sure once you really walk out of his life forever. Its unfortunate that a lot of times has to go to those lengths. But if you really love him, give everything you have, do everything in your power to wake him up, to snap him outta whatever funk he is in. If it doesnt work at least you can walk away with your head held high knowing you left it all on the battlefield of love.
My ex wanted to see me one last time when he broke up with me over the phone. He got frustrated and he got tired of getting into fights but he was the reason for them. He wanted to focus on himself and be single. I told him I didn’t want to see him because it would just hurt me more. He didn’t want to give us another chance, he just needed that comfort of seeing me one more time. I don’t think he’s ever going to contact me because he said he didn’t think I was “the one”
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I have a situation. I was dating a wonderful guy for two months. He was honest and good. Integrity. We got along perfectly. The sex was great. We made long-term plans. We never once had an argument. Toward the end of our relationship we spent four beautiful days together. He always told me he loved me and I was beautiful. He said all of this on a Saturday and asked me what I valued in an ideal partner. He loved my answers. The very next day he dumped me and told me he had no feelings for me and was struggling to feel any. He tried, but wasn’t feeling it. This is less than 24 hours after telling me he loved me, cooking dinner for us in my kitchen, cuddling. I do NOT want him back, I don’t want to fix this, but I want to understand what in the hell happened. I’m so incredibly confused.
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Same same. Atwss, cant explain al the painful words he said to me here.
Same same. Atwss, I just cant explain al the painful words he said to me here.
Thinking back to my twenties, I used to envision myself as some best friend who always had your back. When I got dumped, I took it as some great failure on my part. It wasn’t until I stopped caring that I actually found somebody. It’s completely counterintuitive, but it makes people respect you more.
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Thank you for providing a woman’s perspective!! As a man I really needed help understanding what she was thinking and frankly listening to other guys on TH-cam isn’t helping