The balance of Tawakul and action in finding your spouse

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  • Figuring out how to take action when you don't want to.
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  • @dearkorina3157
    @dearkorina3157 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    Sisters, kun faya kun. I saw a sign at the end of December last year that said I would be engaged by new years. SubhanAllah I am not even kidding my husband messaged me on new years eve. We got married in June this year. Alhamdulillah. I promise you sisters I prayed and prayed and prayed for years, even before I was Muslim. Allah swt is always near and always listening. Keep making du’a. Things need to line up in the perfect way. I literally saw my husband in a random instagram video and I trusted the feeling inside me to message him. I never messaged men like that. I just sent him a simple, clean message that I was fond of him. He didn’t see it for a month, but he saw it, he replied, and we fell in love immediately. These things happen sisters. ❤❤❤

  • @nincognito879
    @nincognito879 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    We are so lucky to have u I really appreciate ur videos jazakallah khair

  • @mowp
    @mowp หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I struggle with social interactions and I'm very introverted. I'm also someone who wants to as you said "meet someone organically". It takes me years to call someone a friend unless I have known then for long enough, let alone finding a spouse... having to find a spouse by hopping on the apps sounds so difficult for me. Allah knows best

  • @sahamforever.
    @sahamforever. หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    May Allah reward you immensely for this. JazakAllah khair.

  • @zebamaliha8901
    @zebamaliha8901 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    U are an answer of My Dua, sister Lama. Love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩. Thanks for being a guide and mentor to us. Alhamdulillah ❤️❤️❤️

  • @adambc2925
    @adambc2925 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Salam-W’AAlaikum Sister. May Allah make space within our hearts (alleviating anxiety), untie our tongues, and ease for us our tasks. Ameen.
    I wanted to say: Thank you!
    I am a Muslim-Palestinian-American brother, 20 years old, tomorrow 😅🎉. And your videos have been helping me a lot during these difficult times.
    I’ve been trying to get married, and a little TMI, but I’m closer to my mother and to how a woman may think (as in, so much more empathetically-emotional than logically-cynical) in that:
    My primary challenge, before marriage, has been this thought of becoming the man I need to be for Allah, my future children, and my future wife. Subhan’Allah, just recently I have realized, by Allah, that Tawakul (Trust in Allah’s will) and fear of Allah (in being righteous) is all I need and it leads to everything else.
    I know a Muslimaah I’d like to engage (not marry bc I would like to, of course, but Allah only knows if she’s good for me and I don’t want to put all my love and hope in anyone before marriage!).
    I am naturally-overtly charismatic which comes across as flatteringly-flirtatious. May Allah guide me. So recently, I’ve distanced myself from her, socially, as I know it’s not the right time for me to ask her to marry and I want to do this halal through and through.
    I’d love your advice (or a link to a video) on maintaining halal-social boundaries before and during the engagement process between the man and the woman.
    Anyways the lady I have in mind is 3 years older than me (meaning her mental age is way ahead of me) and she’s from the Yemeni culture (which I love, but which may mean her parents do not accept me for my cultural background) so the plan now is to hold off on telling her until I believe it’s right, bi’ithni’Llah, and honestly after talking to some local Yemenis…
    The plan is to befriend her father first 😂😂😂
    Jazak’Allah-Khair for reading. I’d love to hear any input, advice, du’a of any brothers and sisters out there.
    Salam-W’AAlaikum Wa-Rahma’Tu’Llahi Wa-Barakatu 👋

  • @sadehavvad
    @sadehavvad หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Okay I'm convinced

  • @shaswar-cx5zz
    @shaswar-cx5zz 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm happy with your videos
    but where can I ask you questions?

  • @Mano1163
    @Mano1163 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Assalam sister Lama!
    I really really look up to you and pray Allah swt always bless ur business. Ameen.
    I have a qs. I have had a strange pull to a Muslim man who is in the public and semi well known. He does a lot of charity work mainly for MATW and is not married. He comes from a very good family and is on his deen.
    I’ve had I think 2 full dreams of him (years ago) and I’ve told my mum but she thinks I’m delulu. I’ve never ever had a dream of another man nor do I get dreams most of the time.
    I can’t explain this pull but it makes me everyday at tahajjud ask for him. I even went to Palestine and whilst I was praying a pull came over me to do Dua that we end up together.
    I can also imagine him in my family home too, in my dream I met his mother and other relatives.
    My question is is there a thing of soulmates? Or should I just brush it off to one side and not make dua? Everyone laughs at me, but I’m an educated and sensible person.
    I don’t know what to make of this 😭😔

    • @musfirahussain3834
      @musfirahussain3834 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes keep praying.
      But just pray that of he is good for me and if I am good for him bring us together.
      Pray that if you both are not good for each other then Allah grant you both with someone who is.
      But keep praying and believing.

  • @user-xh8qt3ez5s
    @user-xh8qt3ez5s หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Sister Lama, What would you say if i believe there are men in the world that i could match with successfully .. but Allah just hasn't provided it for me and I don't know why..

    • @lamaaboubakr29
      @lamaaboubakr29  หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      The reason Allah hasn't provided it for you is the story you choose to tell yourself.
      1. "Allah hasn't given it to me yet because he's protecting me from something for now, and He has something big planned for me coming soon."
      Option 2: Allah is punishing me

    • @abbyk7341
      @abbyk7341 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lamaaboubakr29 what would yousuggest for those, women in particular, who would want to be persued by the man and are afraid of coming off as, idk, taking away the flattery of being approached. Ik its an ego thing but I thought id still ask

    • @user-xh8qt3ez5s
      @user-xh8qt3ez5s หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lamaaboubakr29 jzk thank you!

  • @lazygambit5092
    @lazygambit5092 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Salam sister, can you make a video in regard to the finances in a marriage?

  • @ilham2746
    @ilham2746 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    are the previous coaching group sessions recorded? If I join now, would I be able to catch up on previous sessions? is there another upcoming group?

    • @lamaaboubakr29
      @lamaaboubakr29  หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's recorded, we're only one session in, all replays and workbook will be posted in the FB group to join once you register.
      No upcoming group planned for now.

  • @muksumularafin7798
    @muksumularafin7798 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you.

  • @aminah761
    @aminah761 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m 44 and not married almost 45 soon Insha Allah. I don’t look for a spouse no action . I don’t really know what to do don’t want waste my time now that I’m so Old in age 😢

    • @razer0072073
      @razer0072073 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's excessive pride, ego and arrogance