TNC157- How to parent with a narcissist from a narcissist. Co parenting with the narcissistic ex.
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- How to parent with a narcissist from a narcissist. Co parenting with the narcissistic ex.
Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.
The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.
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What I've learned from coparenting with a narcissist is you have to operate from your mental body and not your emotional body. Don't give into the emotion period. Its like a business transaction when interacting. Stick to the subject at hand which is the child. No hugs or high fives. Just hey. Discuss what needs to be discussed then leave.
This works for me as well because their lack of empathy is astonishing…. Like no need to engage 🤷🏾♀️
That don’t even work🤦🏾♀️
Some are not even willing to be civil
@@ntianuka That is true.
Divorce papers came through saying he had to pay child support. He immediately messaged me to say he never wanted to see our daughter again. Better for her, my attorney advised me to take him at his word.
Wow Smdh
I wish mine can do this too coz i want him gone for ever
Me to 😢
STOP 🛑 having babies by people you don’t KNOW!!!! Thanks for that Lee! It needs to be shouted from the rooftops!
My daughters narc is 6yrs older then her and groomed her into wanting a baby. He did this to trap her. She knew him because he was her best friends husbands brother. I was against the relationship but she had moved out of my house. I love my grandson but his dad is a piece of work. Thank god my daughter now knows he is a narcissist.
@@Edna2u Yesssssssssssssss thank God!!!
My mum always sed dont get pregnant by him I never listened now ive to take extra care of my bbygirl wile trying to co parent with a pig that dosent like any1 but himself
Excuse me but by the time they take off their mask and it falls off it's too LATE meaning YEARS people can hide it we'll
I get what you mean about not clapping cheeks early on but narcs have the ability to hide who they are for many years. You’ll never know what they are until they want you to, usually when you’re the most vulnerable by that time it’s too late
You are my favorite! ☺ My ex / baby daddy narc is coming in town soon and I have fallen into depression over the thought of how stressful this will be. Every visit is stressful
I never saw it coming and I knew him all my life. Goes to show how good a cluster b can camouflage
I agree with what you said about not clappin cheeks early on and starting a family. I was with my narc for a few years before we got pregnant but everything you said in this video was right on. One thing I wanted to add is that if a narcissist’s child plays a sport they want them to and they don’t do as well as the narcissist expects, they will take it out on the child and punish them for not doing well because they see their kids as a direct extension of themselves. One thing you said was key… doesn’t matter what the child wants it’s always about what the narcissistic parent wants. Takes a lot of guts to be so honest. It takes a good person to help others find understanding. Thanks!
3:14 - I’m experiencing this RIGHT now! My son’s father (ex-fiancé) flipped when I told him that I took our son to an Aikido class to check it out. He said no woman can choose a Sensei (teacher) for a boy, etc. Then just today I suggested he come to his third class to meet the Sensei and observe the class. He said no, he’s not following behind me. Said he wouldn’t pay because he wasn’t involved in the choosing (not that I asked him to pay). Almost everything you said a narc would say, he said! 🤣
And, what’s really unfortunate for him, who knows if he’ll ever come see his son learning martial arts, or even ask him about how it’s going. He’s going to miss out on something his son loves.
My sons father threatens me often and if I bring it up he gaslights me. You made me realize enough more it’s all to protect his image that he has with other people. He love bombs me then asks to be taken off child support so he can pay more for his son. He’s threatened to give up his rights to avoid child support. And he paints me in horrible lighting constantly. Thank you for the book recommendation as well. It was already on my list but audiobook here I come. I’m just worried about how our son will come to see me because of how his father is. He’s severely disrespectful towards women. I want better for him. It’s gotten to the point where I’m volunteering myself into parenting classes to help with the possible backlash when our son gets older.
I understand you my babyfather is a narcissist
Thank you so much for these videos. You’ve reassured me on many things I was unsure of. ♥️❤️
This the one I've been waiting on.
Thank you for being transparent , using your platform … your videos help a lot to get in the mind of my ex!!!
Thank you for speaking out about this and helping victims your videos have helped a lot
The kids being a reflection makes a lot of sense. My husband who I think is narcissistic doesn't want his daughter tested for special needs while she might be held back in elementary for a second time. I guess he just doesn't want his children to be labeled with a disability because it'll look bad on him, even though she does have special needs.
I'd like to thankyou for your videos bcos they do help me...navigate this new seemingly impossible world of (a new word for me) parallel parenting. I feel like there might be hope now. I need more of this so I'll keep checking Ur content out, Lee. Thankyou.
@mentalhealness I learned a lot from watching this channel. Its shed so much light on better ways to communicate with my child's father (i.e, narcissist). Thank you for bringing hope to broken people who've dealt with the ones who have no desire to gain self awareness.
Wow.... This is so true. My child's dad keeps on pushing the idea to put our toddler into modeling, all because he was on the newspaper as the cutest kid in his country. I have said quite a few times no, for many valid reasons. #1 Our child suffers from a condition that when he is stressed out, scared or uncomfortable he will get hives that looks more like writing. It will last anywhere from 15 minutes to and hour and a half and it itches him. #2 My teen has been wanting forever to do modeling. He is now getting his braces. I am not going to do that for a toddler that could care less or even understands what modeling is before doing that for my teen. Our child lives with me and my teen, not his dad. So I am trying to make sure that they grow up close to one another and not competitive. There are many other reasons why but I'll leave it at that. Despite me explaining several times my 'no', he still be trying to push the idea sending me the same link over and over again. 🙄😒
Put up a boundary of not even discussing the subject if possible... Do not get in to the reasons why with him; he is getting supply from any of your reactions.
Dude I appreciate the direct message coming from you. Thanks for sharing it that. I have just separated and suspect my ex is a vulnerable narcissist. In the process of getting the kids 50% or more.
Proud of you!!! 🙏👑🌻
🙌🏾 appreciate it
I agree with the “no one can trap you with a baby” but it does happen. Coercion is a thing, which is borderline r@pe, sometimes it’s a full SA, in my case it was coercion. I hadn’t realized it was as bad as it was but I knew it was bad, but I thought it was because of me (I wanted just some space and a break at the time to work myself out), broke up with him, couldn’t afford to move out until the lease was over, I wasn’t sleeping with him but he then would keep pressing and pressing for days, weeks to sleep with him cuz we “weren’t really broken up” and I’m 99% sure he was switching my BC pills because they magically stopped working around the time I broke up with him and he started saying “let’s solve our problems like everyone else and have a baby” and would say he was joking…. I unhappily slept with him 3 times in those 3-4 months of him pressing just to get him away from me for even an hour.
I got pregnant 8 years in..😞
What if your narc discards all your kids for every new supply and then blames the mom for why he doesn’t see his kids? Mine has 6 kids and does this with all of the moms. Should I just not even attempt to give him a chance over and over?
Run now
You give me hope
The “clapping cheeks” comment. Is that a Narcissist thing? I’ve heard that so much over the years in my situation.
That man (my bd) said he will not help buy school supplies or uniform or nothing because I refused to put our kid in the school that he wanted me to chillleee the stories I could write about him
My ex is a good dad. But he does say off the wall ish to me, but never follow thru with it, he just know itll irritate me. So I just ignore.
Mine has been good so far. Few bumps in the road but I mostly can't complain.....
You should talk about the female co parenting narcissist
I'm dealing with a narcissist mother.
My boyfriend's daughters mom. She's fucking awful.
Like you said, if you don't give them what they want, they just won't pick their own kid up 🥴😭
If you don't do everything they say and how they said for you to do it, they'll keep the kid from you, ignore you, not show up to visits, ask for more time. and absolutely everything is a game. Every conversation is pointless.
It's just all around tragic.
#lessonlearned the hard way
You can definitely tell this video was made when abortion access was still legal 😂 also my narc stopped using birth control when I was doing the whole "slowly leaving secretly thing " was perfect again for the first 3 months than the actual crazy shit started happening after it was too late to have an abortion, it went from I don't really feel acknowledged by this person they seem to take up a lot of my time and ask a lot from me that isn't reciprocated , to getting "accidently" pregnant, to now I'm going to be at and strangle you drain your car battery and your bank account make you move 3 hours away from your family a month amd a half before your due date and picks fights before every dr appointment sabotage your diet and mental health, then we had the baby and holy fuck I won't even get into that . We were together for almost a year before I got pregnant. And I really thought I knew him . Now I definitely do .
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Clap them cheeks..lol