Wish I had been aware of ppd years ago. My sister put me on an emotional roller coaster for decades. I coddled and tried to sooth her emotional fragility. Never questioned or pushed back but was oftentimes so angry and fearful of her. Did NOT want to be on the receiving end of her verbal wrath. One day I got the courage to question something extreme she was planning. She hung up the phone and hasn’t spoken to me in 10 years. I ran across info about ppd about a year ago. It was a relief to know there was nothing I could have done for her but sad to think what it must be like living in her world.
You articulated this perfectly!!! I had a client with this disorder which I had to release from my life seeing she would turn on me whenever trying to help her understand her disorder....she personalized everything as though it was a threat.....she always accused her husband of cheating on her as well as couldn't maintain ANY friendships because they would always walk out of her life due to self preservation. My Sister has this ad well which she's been alienated herself for decades now and instead of getting help with meds or therapy she decided to self medicate with alcohol and drugs
@@mateuszty575 yes, if she would go, and stay with it. They told me it needs to be intensive…multiple times weekly. It’s very hard to get them to go. But I understand that when they get too close to their psychiatrist, many will begin to believe the psychiatrist is actually trying to harm them, or “get” them. Then they may move to another one and eventually the same thing repeats. It really is pitiful. I so much wish she could get back to who she used to be. My son and I just had 3 days of a nightmare. She got on the “warpath” and everything we said or did set her off into an angry fit. She was trying to control me by demanding in a very rude way, and in my face with rage, that I do some household chores. I told her when she asked me politely and with respect then I’d do it, but not until then. That set her off even more. I don’t know when her episodes will come to the surface but it often means her trying to be very controlling and in a very contentious way. It didn’t matter what I did, simply to calm the situation. When I finished one thing she’d start in on another. Everything she does or does not do is projected onto me, my son, or other family members. It can last for days or for a few hours. She will make all kinds of threats like divorce or calling police. Unfortunately I’ll have to terminate our marriage soon, but she has me in some legal trouble. When that is cleared I will have to leave and divorce for my son more than anything but also for me. What good can I be to my son if I’m constantly stressed to the absolute maximum. She’s got me over a barrel for sure, for now. Not for long.
My sister has this and everything you said is accurate the isolation the anger. She is the only person in my family who will not accept help for her illness. Everybody has abandoned her because she’s so aggressive. I only go to see her once a week because I feel so bad for my niece, my niece wants to leave her. My grandma was schizophrenic, my mother has schizophrenia and bipolar along with a few of my siblings who are ill but out of all my siblings she is the most difficult one and I feel this is one of the worst mental illnesses, she refuses all and any help. She is violent though I am the only person in the family she has struck. This has happened many times. And she definitely lacks empathy she is very cruel I never understood why. and she drinks quite abit even though she struggles financially, I help her with money as my niece lives with her but she never feels bad for taking money from me and continues to drink and smoke even though she really needs every penny
My mom have paranoid personality disorder for past few years she don’t talk with people much she thinks everyone is trying to harm her she doesn’t go out anymore she dont even talk to me most of the time. she suspects everyone and I always try my best to have patience with her to understand her but sometimes I feel so helpless knowing that I dont know how to help her and how bad she must be feeling. She is not enjoying life that makes me more sad and sometimes I just need my mom but I know i can’t ask help from her or talk to her like normal mom and daughter because she suspects everything. I m 18 and I just want my mom to be normal so she can live happily. Seeing her like that everyday just breaks my heart.I just want her to be okey again 😔
Thank you so much for your very accurate representation of PPD. It has been the worst thing to ever come my way, as my wife has it. It is horrific for the family.
It makes me angry that most of the people in the comment section are worried only about themselves, blaming other person with disorder. You don’t deserve ANY relationship for this kind of attitude. Stop playing a victim!
As a caregiver of an isolating PPD spouse, I can't even entice her to even leave the house. She has cut everyone else off and only relates to me when she wants something from the store (etc). I feel like a custodian in a psychiatric unit.
I searched this vedio as I need to understand a survivor of Domestic Violence whom my team and I helped, she refused social workers and it was a new experience for me in my line of duty. She's paranoid of every little thing, at first I got angry and then I calm myself and tried my best to understand her. I gained her trust and she was open to me, she didn't want anyone else to help her as she didn't trust them, she Thinks everyone is planning something bad against her. Finally we put her a plane and send her back to Australia, she called a day later after she arrived and she's constantly messaging and calling me. And am trying my best to keep her mind at ease and calm her. She lives alone, her mind is very unstable.
I was recently in a relationship with my ex gf and I’ve come to realize that she has PPD after trying to figure out the severity of her anxiety. She left me about a month ago but we are still close as I’m trying to be there for her as best as I can to show her that there is still some good in the world. She always thought that I was unfaithful even though I never strayed, not even a like on a friend’s post to try to reduce her paranoia. About 2 months before the breakup, she thought I was poisoning her coffee every morning because she having stomach issues. I continue to try to rekindle the relationship because I truly love the person that she is and I love the person that I am when I’m with her. My question is, how does one end up in therapy to be diagnosed? And is it possible to sustain a healthy relationship with somebody after being diagnosed? I would like for her to see a therapist but feel she might have some resentment towards me for mentioning it and may think I’m plotting against her. How would I be able to bring it up?
My wife often accuses me of poisoning her food, and will demand I eat it to prove it isn’t. A lovingly prepared delicious meal, and it hurts for her to think I’d do such a thing. But, she cannot help herself with such accusations. The accusations are many, and she is extremely cold hearted, distant, and intentionally says and does all manner of hurtful things. I had to talk her into going to the hospital. She thought people were trying to kill her, and it was imminently coming. That was when she had her breakdown. It took me two attempts taking her to the hospital to get her to go. She was so fearful that she gave in. She received an evaluation at the ER, and her answers to their questions were so ridiculous that it was obviously clear she needed to go to the psychiatric unit across town. I was amazed at how easily she told them what she was thinking. They managed to get her out of the breakdown state with antipsychotic medication. However, to diagnose her they removed the medication. The reasoning was to determine if it was schizophrenia or PPD. Once they took her off the medication she did not go back into a paranoid breakdown state, fearing for her life, but she began exhibiting all the symptoms of persistent PPD. She never would take meds again or see the psychiatrist. Although she doesn’t have the intense fear, all of the features he describes are ever-present. Although not in imminent fear for her life now, she still believes wealthy, powerful people were attempting to take her life. Her rage, contentiousness, accusations, and lack of empathy have only worsened since then, and it is directed mainly at me and our now 12 y.o. son, as well as my parents who are both recently deceased, and her own mother. She talks to her mother like an animal. She is from a foreign country, and I have no idea what she says to her mother, but it is angry and vicious practically very time they talk. She’s had this issue for several years and it cost us everything as she systematically destroyed my career and income, which was quite high. She wrecked her own future and that of me and our son. The woman I married is in there somewhere, but I highly doubt I’ll ever know her again. All I know to do is to get out of the legal trouble she caused me, divorce her, get custody of my son, and for he and I to get therapy to recover from her severe abuse. I hope you can get your ex to listen to you, and not think you are plotting against her, but you should try. She very well may remove you from her life entirely, but it is worth trying for her sake and for the future of your relationship and her relationship with others. It would be wonderful for her, you, and her family if you can gently get her to get the intensive therapy she will require. My wife refuses any help or suggestion she has a problem.
@@unsearchablethings8167 Wow I'm so so sorry to hear this. I met my now ex gf (she left this week) last summer and has been living with me for three months, it has been so hard, everything Jim said in the video is so true. She was so abusive, lacked any empathy and even lied to the police about me to get me arrested. It's so hard when you love them because you feel so helpless and alone but at the same time want to help them more than anything but if you try to help them they see you as a threat and will trust you less and less before they leave you or cause you serious harm. It's a very very sad condition for both the person with it because it ruins their life but also the partner or close family members trying to help them or in particular, who live with them. Very sorry to hear about what happened with you and your family man. And Alejandro just be very patient with her and then times it by 10 and be patient, that is the key, don't challenge her, just talk about other things and do other things and see if she will join in with you, don't focus on or engage with anything she is paranoid about becsuse if youu do it will only get worse. I don't know how your girlfriend could get therapy it's hard to appraoch the subject, maybe someone else will know?
😮😂😊😢 Thank You for your video... 😂😂 First time seeing your video... 😊 It pin pointed me... 😮😮 I am in a good relationship.. but I flare up.. and people can only take so much before they get enough.. 😢 I've recently noticed mine getting out of hand.. I just turned 50 in July.. and it's shining bright 😮..
I think as you said in the video, it is hard for people with PPD entering into therapy. I've been reading a lot about this personality disorder because my brother has it and he can be violent when he is distressed as you mentioned. So the thing I really want to know, and was never heard or read in books or from any psychologists is, how do we get those people to see a therapist. We all know they need to see a therapist, but how do we get them to see one? Can you talk about this in your next episode?
A friend of mine has ist She is sueing everybody constantly and persistently for "nothing". Since she never accepts a ruling, she continues, even sueing her lawyers, because the thinks they are conspiring against her. She has been evicted out of 3 apartments already, because she has constant trouble with neighbours. Her paranoia is so strong that her apartment is full of blinds, doors have several locks and during phone calls, she keeps the vacuum cleaner on, so nobody could spy on her talking. At the same time she collects information about neighbours and friends and gossips around. Calls the police twice a week. The tends to be narcissistic and often crosses people's boundaries. She even sued the psychiatrist, lost all her jobs and has been living on benefits for years. It is very sad. Her life is so difficult, but in her mind, everybody else is to blame for it
Subscribed . I fit the six. I guess you call them characteristics 7 out of 1 I can’t quite say entirely. because I haven’t had too many experiences. It is very hard to live like this •probably should be all I say•
Hey URL Handle, yesss it's sooo hard to live with, that it is often even impossible, I know what you feel! I really think I have this too, or in any case for the biggest part with criteria, but far far intense enough to call it paranoid PD. I was told to have the avoident personality with diagnoses process, and I recognize the avoident personality fully, because as child I had time by time extreme isolation, always heavy shyness and social insecurity/anxiety, and self-confidence problems, and of course still. As child en adolescent I had teachers who critisized me in public because I wasn't quick, and was physicall en emotional abused by my father (and fully neglect) and by my older sister. So much trauma is definetely one of the reason for my paranoid coping style. But also my independence, and not come in attachment with groups and fully going independent my own way in groups, I think is a big reason to develop PPD, in my personal case I mean. And from adolescent age much much worse with deep selfworth problems. But for ONLY the avoident personality, I have way too much grudge, conflicts caused feelings of distrust, suspicion, and explosive anger when I'm with strangers or home alone, it's so clear to me I have both of the disorders. The paranoid PD started when I was 15, but got worse from my 18th. Even if I'm only suspicious, I can scream out loud in public on the street with strangers, because I can't stand that suspicion feeling from the nonverbal behaviour that I really think to see that people give me, although people I know well don't see that others do that to me. I will never attack or scream to people personaly, only if I got bullied (and if there is clear verbal evidence for that!!) caused by mine attitude, it happens a lot, like Jim said in this video. Only then I will show people with verbal threats that they must stay away from me and say them to stop as a warning to them. If people bully or ignore me, because of my suspicious behaviour I know now, there's only more reasons to be paranoid and hate people. But it's nice to know now by this video that bully and ignoring behaviour by others is caused by my behaviour, and maybe not caused by my physical appearance, like I thought before. So reasons to work on my suspicious behaviour. In general my '"communication" with people is very distant, distrustful, above all non-verbal, conflicts from distrust feeling and for no reason, and almost never verbal because people avoid me and there is almost never verbal communication. And when there is verbal communication, it feels like I MUST act positive, while I totally feel suspicious in contact and I must stop talking because it feels not real. In combination with my avoident PD it's at times impossible to live with, and being or walking past people already can feel like I'm in a nightmare, especially when they laugh about something else or talk in general with a loud dominant tone and voice. In periods when I am in total isolation, even daily life feels litterely like I'm in a nightmare. Sometimes there a days or a half week that life goes some better. I hope it will get better for us both!!👍👍So I wish you good and stable future with less isolation and feeling of being involved positive by people!
So what’s the treatment and how to deal with people with PPD !? It’s so hard for me to get along the close family members with PPD. They are so isolated, always think they are right and suspicious of others! We never have a normal talk.
What if this person is in their mid 40s and haven’t been treated, does it worsen over time?? The reason, I ask is because I’m starting to suspect a friend of mine is suffering from this disorder and he works long hours at work for 7 days and showing certain signs.
I developed this shit at early 20s and it has made my life hell. I still have no idea where it comes from. It feels like I'm all the time falling deeper and deeper.
Bro same. The signs have been there but it was hard to see. Only notice this now that I'm nearing 30 and have 0 friends I speak with. I've a history of ghosting just about every friend I've ever had so there's that too. It sucks because I've isolated myself for so many years and now that I want to learn and be around others it's like I can't even hang out with myself like.. FUCK
Sadly I believe my wife is sufering from this disorder at the moment. It's almost impossible to get her to be reasonable and think logically about the paranoia she perceives. How to get her help? Will it ultimately have to come to an actual breakdown? She is basically suffering from workplace stress resluting in paranoia. I'm in for a world of trouble.
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They have paranoia anonymous - but they won't tell you were they hold there meetings.
I was diagnosed with paranoid personality disorder even though 80% of the written test questions were unanswered. Based on this, I suspect a misdiagnosis. In addition, I don't entirely trust mental health as credible.
My bro i suspect he hav ppd... he texted me to request me nt to follow him to toilet n said i been doing this many times... but he already moved out yrs ago... he only came bk every 3 mths... hw can i help him?
@@unsearchablethings8167my mommy is suffering from this is there anything i can do she thinks everyone is having eye on her and her fam she hides everythinggg says other gonna steal it how to make her believe no one gonna harm her no one stealing nothing everything 😢
Yes, according to the psychiatrist that diagnosed my wife. He said it appeared to be drug induced but I explained that my wife has never and doesn’t use drugs, and she only drank alcohol rarely in social settings. I do know that stimulant drugs (cocaine, amphetamines, methamphetamine) can all bring on a paranoid breakdown, even if temporary….I’ve seen it happen to people before. I also suppose it could result in not just a temporary but permanent psychosis. Just as an fyi, antihistamines can actually induce a paranoid breakdown in some people, and I believe that triggered my wife’s condition. She was taking different antihistamines concurrently, not knowing that she was taking different ones. All were prescribed by doctors in a foreign country (where she was from and was visiting at the time). The doctors there had no way to know that she was getting help from different doctors caused by an allergic type reaction for which she didn’t know the cause. I suspect it was caused by a face cream that has been noted to cause some severe allergic reactions in women…a well known and often used product. At the time I didn’t connect the antihistamine overdose when the psychiatrist here said it appeared drug induced. I found out later after researching it.
I truly believe that these people who suffer with this will not be able to heal simply because their thought process is all about not TRUSTING others so they are incapable of recovering
I promise you, that is the case. The family suffers so greatly. My wife has the worst possible case of PPD. It’s very strange, as she often gets along with strangers, but only to the point where that person gets close to her. She has had some fleeting friendships but the friends, once they begin to see the signs, will call them out. When that happens the person with PPD will discard them like a hot potato. My wife has been very abusive to me, our son, my parents, and her own parents. She has no friends I’m aware of, and she is very vicious and mean to me and our son…he’s young too. It is a horrific experience to have such a person in your life. This video is very, very accurate. She has harmed me massively to the point of destroying my professional career…we are now broke and she has me in trouble with the law, actually projecting her accusations on me when it is her that is doing the exact thing she claims. Unfortunately the system easily buys into claims such as hers, not to diminish actual abusive claims. She will NOT accept help. She has zero empathy whatsoever. She’s attacked me physically, and mentally, and in every vile way she can, all without cause.
@@unsearchablethings8167 Oh my god, I agree with everythng you have said. My gf left me this week after meeting her online, talking every night and then moving in with me three months ago.II have suffered so much, the abuse, the attacks, the zero empathy, the her not seeing things for how they are or me for who I am. She also has no friends and the 'friends' she does have are just acquaintances that do not know her very well. This changes when they get to know her, as you say, where they call her out to help her and are then cast aside, as I have now been. It must be so so hard for you with a son. I can only imagine what youu are going through. Yes, his video is super accurate, everything he said. My gf also got me into trouble with the law, and even made up very serous lies about me. Yes, all the things she does, she projects onto me, it's like a mirror. And she won't accept any help, advice and firmly believes there is nothing wrong with her and that it's everyone else conspiring to harm her. She constantly wanted to argue and attack me with 95% of the conversations we had. very sorry to hear this and hope you will be okay. Thanks for sharing your comment.
@@fpdhu yep, that is what it is like. Dont let your ex squirm back in! I hopefully be out of my court woes soon and then I am going go end the relationship.
Wish I had been aware of ppd years ago. My sister put me on an emotional roller coaster for decades. I coddled and tried to sooth her emotional fragility. Never questioned or pushed back but was oftentimes so angry and fearful of her. Did NOT want to be on the receiving end of her verbal wrath. One day I got the courage to question something extreme she was planning. She hung up the phone and hasn’t spoken to me in 10 years. I ran across info about ppd about a year ago. It was a relief to know there was nothing I could have done for her but sad to think what it must be like living in her world.
Please consider adding educational content for the spouse or family members of the person with PPD. Thanks for this enlightening discussion.
You articulated this perfectly!!!
I had a client with this disorder which I had to release from my life seeing she would turn on me whenever trying to help her understand her disorder....she personalized everything as though it was a threat.....she always accused her husband of cheating on her as well as couldn't maintain ANY friendships because they would always walk out of her life due to self preservation. My Sister has this ad well which she's been alienated herself for decades now and instead of getting help with meds or therapy she decided to self medicate with alcohol and drugs
Yes indeed. Perfectly. My life has been ruined by my wife’s PPD, as well as our son.
@@unsearchablethings8167 ahhh. Do you think it's possible to help if your wife will start therapy?
@@mateuszty575 yes, if she would go, and stay with it. They told me it needs to be intensive…multiple times weekly. It’s very hard to get them to go. But I understand that when they get too close to their psychiatrist, many will begin to believe the psychiatrist is actually trying to harm them, or “get” them. Then they may move to another one and eventually the same thing repeats. It really is pitiful. I so much wish she could get back to who she used to be. My son and I just had 3 days of a nightmare. She got on the “warpath” and everything we said or did set her off into an angry fit. She was trying to control me by demanding in a very rude way, and in my face with rage, that I do some household chores. I told her when she asked me politely and with respect then I’d do it, but not until then. That set her off even more. I don’t know when her episodes will come to the surface but it often means her trying to be very controlling and in a very contentious way. It didn’t matter what I did, simply to calm the situation. When I finished one thing she’d start in on another. Everything she does or does not do is projected onto me, my son, or other family members. It can last for days or for a few hours. She will make all kinds of threats like divorce or calling police. Unfortunately I’ll have to terminate our marriage soon, but she has me in some legal trouble. When that is cleared I will have to leave and divorce for my son more than anything but also for me. What good can I be to my son if I’m constantly stressed to the absolute maximum. She’s got me over a barrel for sure, for now. Not for long.
My sister has this and everything you said is accurate the isolation the anger. She is the only person in my family who will not accept help for her illness. Everybody has abandoned her because she’s so aggressive. I only go to see her once a week because I feel so bad for my niece, my niece wants to leave her. My grandma was schizophrenic, my mother has schizophrenia and bipolar along with a few of my siblings who are ill but out of all my siblings she is the most difficult one and I feel this is one of the worst mental illnesses, she refuses all and any help. She is violent though I am the only person in the family she has struck. This has happened many times. And she definitely lacks empathy she is very cruel I never understood why. and she drinks quite abit even though she struggles financially, I help her with money as my niece lives with her but she never feels bad for taking money from me and continues to drink and smoke even though she really needs every penny
My mom have paranoid personality disorder for past few years she don’t talk with people much she thinks everyone is trying to harm her she doesn’t go out anymore she dont even talk to me most of the time. she suspects everyone and I always try my best to have patience with her to understand her but sometimes I feel so helpless knowing that I dont know how to help her and how bad she must be feeling. She is not enjoying life that makes me more sad and sometimes I just need my mom but I know i can’t ask help from her or talk to her like normal mom and daughter because she suspects everything. I m 18 and I just want my mom to be normal so she can live happily. Seeing her like that everyday just breaks my heart.I just want her to be okey again 😔
Thank you so much for your very accurate representation of PPD. It has been the worst thing to ever come my way, as my wife has it. It is horrific for the family.
It makes me angry that most of the people in the comment section are worried only about themselves, blaming other person with disorder. You don’t deserve ANY relationship for this kind of attitude. Stop playing a victim!
Oh my goodness!
Now I know, and understand.
But, mostly, I'm even sadder for my daughter.
Thank you so much for teaching.
It's so hard to even go a day with this disorder, can't imagine that I'll have to live with this shit for the rest of my life
Please seek help. You're loveable.
Very very good short video which described my relationship with my girlfriend perfectly, thank you
As a caregiver of an isolating PPD spouse, I can't even entice her to even leave the house. She has cut everyone else off and only relates to me when she wants something from the store (etc). I feel like a custodian in a psychiatric unit.
Wow... This Disorder sounds dreadful, time consuming, exhausting & fearful for EVERYONE involved.
Yup we're miserable, and we will make everyone else miserable too, shit is wack, can't even control it.
I searched this vedio as I need to understand a survivor of Domestic Violence whom my team and I helped, she refused social workers and it was a new experience for me in my line of duty. She's paranoid of every little thing, at first I got angry and then I calm myself and tried my best to understand her. I gained her trust and she was open to me, she didn't want anyone else to help her as she didn't trust them, she Thinks everyone is planning something bad against her. Finally we put her a plane and send her back to Australia, she called a day later after she arrived and she's constantly messaging and calling me. And am trying my best to keep her mind at ease and calm her. She lives alone, her mind is very unstable.
You have described a family member who nearly destroyed our family. He’s paranoid with narcissistic features. A real unpleasant person.
Thank you for the very clear explanation.
I was recently in a relationship with my ex gf and I’ve come to realize that she has PPD after trying to figure out the severity of her anxiety. She left me about a month ago but we are still close as I’m trying to be there for her as best as I can to show her that there is still some good in the world. She always thought that I was unfaithful even though I never strayed, not even a like on a friend’s post to try to reduce her paranoia. About 2 months before the breakup, she thought I was poisoning her coffee every morning because she having stomach issues. I continue to try to rekindle the relationship because I truly love the person that she is and I love the person that I am when I’m with her.
My question is, how does one end up in therapy to be diagnosed? And is it possible to sustain a healthy relationship with somebody after being diagnosed? I would like for her to see a therapist but feel she might have some resentment towards me for mentioning it and may think I’m plotting against her. How would I be able to bring it up?
My wife often accuses me of poisoning her food, and will demand I eat it to prove it isn’t. A lovingly prepared delicious meal, and it hurts for her to think I’d do such a thing. But, she cannot help herself with such accusations. The accusations are many, and she is extremely cold hearted, distant, and intentionally says and does all manner of hurtful things. I had to talk her into going to the hospital. She thought people were trying to kill her, and it was imminently coming. That was when she had her breakdown. It took me two attempts taking her to the hospital to get her to go. She was so fearful that she gave in. She received an evaluation at the ER, and her answers to their questions were so ridiculous that it was obviously clear she needed to go to the psychiatric unit across town. I was amazed at how easily she told them what she was thinking. They managed to get her out of the breakdown state with antipsychotic medication. However, to diagnose her they removed the medication. The reasoning was to determine if it was schizophrenia or PPD. Once they took her off the medication she did not go back into a paranoid breakdown state, fearing for her life, but she began exhibiting all the symptoms of persistent PPD. She never would take meds again or see the psychiatrist. Although she doesn’t have the intense fear, all of the features he describes are ever-present. Although not in imminent fear for her life now, she still believes wealthy, powerful people were attempting to take her life. Her rage, contentiousness, accusations, and lack of empathy have only worsened since then, and it is directed mainly at me and our now 12 y.o. son, as well as my parents who are both recently deceased, and her own mother. She talks to her mother like an animal. She is from a foreign country, and I have no idea what she says to her mother, but it is angry and vicious practically very time they talk. She’s had this issue for several years and it cost us everything as she systematically destroyed my career and income, which was quite high. She wrecked her own future and that of me and our son. The woman I married is in there somewhere, but I highly doubt I’ll ever know her again. All I know to do is to get out of the legal trouble she caused me, divorce her, get custody of my son, and for he and I to get therapy to recover from her severe abuse. I hope you can get your ex to listen to you, and not think you are plotting against her, but you should try. She very well may remove you from her life entirely, but it is worth trying for her sake and for the future of your relationship and her relationship with others. It would be wonderful for her, you, and her family if you can gently get her to get the intensive therapy she will require. My wife refuses any help or suggestion she has a problem.
@@unsearchablethings8167 Wow I'm so so sorry to hear this. I met my now ex gf (she left this week) last summer and has been living with me for three months, it has been so hard, everything Jim said in the video is so true. She was so abusive, lacked any empathy and even lied to the police about me to get me arrested. It's so hard when you love them because you feel so helpless and alone but at the same time want to help them more than anything but if you try to help them they see you as a threat and will trust you less and less before they leave you or cause you serious harm. It's a very very sad condition for both the person with it because it ruins their life but also the partner or close family members trying to help them or in particular, who live with them. Very sorry to hear about what happened with you and your family man. And Alejandro just be very patient with her and then times it by 10 and be patient, that is the key, don't challenge her, just talk about other things and do other things and see if she will join in with you, don't focus on or engage with anything she is paranoid about becsuse if youu do it will only get worse. I don't know how your girlfriend could get therapy it's hard to appraoch the subject, maybe someone else will know?
Then how would treatment look like if they don't trust professional?
😮😂😊😢 Thank You for your video... 😂😂 First time seeing your video... 😊 It pin pointed me... 😮😮 I am in a good relationship.. but I flare up.. and people can only take so much before they get enough.. 😢 I've recently noticed mine getting out of hand.. I just turned 50 in July.. and it's shining bright 😮..
I think as you said in the video, it is hard for people with PPD entering into therapy. I've been reading a lot about this personality disorder because my brother has it and he can be violent when he is distressed as you mentioned. So the thing I really want to know, and was never heard or read in books or from any psychologists is, how do we get those people to see a therapist. We all know they need to see a therapist, but how do we get them to see one? Can you talk about this in your next episode?
A friend of mine has ist
She is sueing everybody constantly and persistently for "nothing". Since she never accepts a ruling, she continues, even sueing her lawyers, because the thinks they are conspiring against her.
She has been evicted out of 3 apartments already, because she has constant trouble with neighbours.
Her paranoia is so strong that her apartment is full of blinds, doors have several locks and during phone calls, she keeps the vacuum cleaner on, so nobody could spy on her talking.
At the same time she collects information about neighbours and friends and gossips around. Calls the police twice a week.
The tends to be narcissistic and often crosses people's boundaries.
She even sued the psychiatrist, lost all her jobs and has been living on benefits for years.
It is very sad. Her life is so difficult, but in her mind, everybody else is to blame for it
Title says how to treat it but just describes what the disorder is.
Subscribed . I fit the six. I guess you call them characteristics 7 out of 1 I can’t quite say entirely. because I haven’t had too many experiences. It is very hard to live like this •probably should be all I say•
Hey URL Handle, yesss it's sooo hard to live with, that it is often even impossible, I know what you feel!
I really think I have this too, or in any case for the biggest part with criteria, but far far intense enough to call it paranoid PD.
I was told to have the avoident personality with diagnoses process, and I recognize the avoident personality fully, because as child I had time by time extreme isolation, always heavy shyness and social insecurity/anxiety, and self-confidence problems, and of course still. As child en adolescent I had teachers who critisized me in public because I wasn't quick, and was physicall en emotional abused by my father (and fully neglect) and by my older sister. So much trauma is definetely one of the reason for my paranoid coping style. But also my independence, and not come in attachment with groups and fully going independent my own way in groups, I think is a big reason to develop PPD, in my personal case I mean.
And from adolescent age much much worse with deep selfworth problems.
But for ONLY the avoident personality, I have way too much grudge, conflicts caused feelings of distrust, suspicion, and explosive anger when I'm with strangers or home alone, it's so clear to me I have both of the disorders. The paranoid PD started when I was 15, but got worse from my 18th. Even if I'm only suspicious, I can scream out loud in public on the street with strangers, because I can't stand that suspicion feeling from the nonverbal behaviour that I really think to see that people give me, although people I know well don't see that others do that to me.
I will never attack or scream to people personaly, only if I got bullied (and if there is clear verbal evidence for that!!) caused by mine attitude, it happens a lot, like Jim said in this video. Only then I will show people with verbal threats that they must stay away from me and say them to stop as a warning to them. If people bully or ignore me, because of my suspicious behaviour I know now, there's only more reasons to be paranoid and hate people. But it's nice to know now by this video that bully and ignoring behaviour by others is caused by my behaviour, and maybe not caused by my physical appearance, like I thought before. So reasons to work on my suspicious behaviour.
In general my '"communication" with people is very distant, distrustful, above all non-verbal, conflicts from distrust feeling and for no reason, and almost never verbal because people avoid me and there is almost never verbal communication. And when there is verbal communication, it feels like I MUST act positive, while I totally feel suspicious in contact and I must stop talking because it feels not real. In combination with my avoident PD it's at times impossible to live with, and being or walking past people already can feel like I'm in a nightmare, especially when they laugh about something else or talk in general with a loud dominant tone and voice.
In periods when I am in total isolation, even daily life feels litterely like I'm in a nightmare. Sometimes there a days or a half week that life goes some better.
I hope it will get better for us both!!👍👍So I wish you good and stable future with less isolation and feeling of being involved positive by people!
So what’s the treatment and how to deal with people with PPD !? It’s so hard for me to get along the close family members with PPD. They are so isolated, always think they are right and suspicious of others! We never have a normal talk.
What if this person is in their mid 40s and haven’t been treated, does it worsen over time?? The reason, I ask is because I’m starting to suspect a friend of mine is suffering from this disorder and he works long hours at work for 7 days and showing certain signs.
Betrayal trauma caused by my ex-wifes infidelity manifested into Paranoid Personality Disorder for me. I wasn't aware it would do that.
I developed this shit at early 20s and it has made my life hell. I still have no idea where it comes from. It feels like I'm all the time falling deeper and deeper.
Bro same. The signs have been there but it was hard to see. Only notice this now that I'm nearing 30 and have 0 friends I speak with. I've a history of ghosting just about every friend I've ever had so there's that too. It sucks because I've isolated myself for so many years and now that I want to learn and be around others it's like I can't even hang out with myself like.. FUCK
At least you’ve accepted your illness and hopefully can get better with time
What is the medical term for people who trust others? That would be a much more dangerous behavior.
Sadly I believe my wife is sufering from this disorder at the moment. It's almost impossible to get her to be reasonable and think logically about the paranoia she perceives. How to get her help? Will it ultimately have to come to an actual breakdown? She is basically suffering from workplace stress resluting in paranoia. I'm in for a world of trouble.
They have paranoia anonymous - but they won't tell you were they hold there meetings.
I was diagnosed with paranoid personality disorder even though 80% of the written test questions were unanswered. Based on this, I suspect a misdiagnosis. In addition, I don't entirely trust mental health as credible.
The fact that you have trust issues shows that you were diagnosed accurately
My bro i suspect he hav ppd... he texted me to request me nt to follow him to toilet n said i been doing this many times... but he already moved out yrs ago... he only came bk every 3 mths... hw can i help him?
Try to get him to a hospital for an evaluation….if you can. It’s not easy.
@@unsearchablethings8167my mommy is suffering from this is there anything i can do she thinks everyone is having eye on her and her fam she hides everythinggg says other gonna steal it how to make her believe no one gonna harm her no one stealing nothing everything 😢
Do drugs illict drugs make it worse?
Yes, according to the psychiatrist that diagnosed my wife. He said it appeared to be drug induced but I explained that my wife has never and doesn’t use drugs, and she only drank alcohol rarely in social settings. I do know that stimulant drugs (cocaine, amphetamines, methamphetamine) can all bring on a paranoid breakdown, even if temporary….I’ve seen it happen to people before. I also suppose it could result in not just a temporary but permanent psychosis. Just as an fyi, antihistamines can actually induce a paranoid breakdown in some people, and I believe that triggered my wife’s condition. She was taking different antihistamines concurrently, not knowing that she was taking different ones. All were prescribed by doctors in a foreign country (where she was from and was visiting at the time). The doctors there had no way to know that she was getting help from different doctors caused by an allergic type reaction for which she didn’t know the cause. I suspect it was caused by a face cream that has been noted to cause some severe allergic reactions in women…a well known and often used product. At the time I didn’t connect the antihistamine overdose when the psychiatrist here said it appeared drug induced. I found out later after researching it.
I truly believe that these people who suffer with this will not be able to heal simply because their thought process is all about not TRUSTING others so they are incapable of recovering
I promise you, that is the case. The family suffers so greatly. My wife has the worst possible case of PPD. It’s very strange, as she often gets along with strangers, but only to the point where that person gets close to her. She has had some fleeting friendships but the friends, once they begin to see the signs, will call them out. When that happens the person with PPD will discard them like a hot potato. My wife has been very abusive to me, our son, my parents, and her own parents. She has no friends I’m aware of, and she is very vicious and mean to me and our son…he’s young too. It is a horrific experience to have such a person in your life. This video is very, very accurate. She has harmed me massively to the point of destroying my professional career…we are now broke and she has me in trouble with the law, actually projecting her accusations on me when it is her that is doing the exact thing she claims. Unfortunately the system easily buys into claims such as hers, not to diminish actual abusive claims. She will NOT accept help. She has zero empathy whatsoever. She’s attacked me physically, and mentally, and in every vile way she can, all without cause.
@@unsearchablethings8167 Oh my god, I agree with everythng you have said. My gf left me this week after meeting her online, talking every night and then moving in with me three months ago.II have suffered so much, the abuse, the attacks, the zero empathy, the her not seeing things for how they are or me for who I am. She also has no friends and the 'friends' she does have are just acquaintances that do not know her very well. This changes when they get to know her, as you say, where they call her out to help her and are then cast aside, as I have now been. It must be so so hard for you with a son. I can only imagine what youu are going through. Yes, his video is super accurate, everything he said. My gf also got me into trouble with the law, and even made up very serous lies about me. Yes, all the things she does, she projects onto me, it's like a mirror. And she won't accept any help, advice and firmly believes there is nothing wrong with her and that it's everyone else conspiring to harm her. She constantly wanted to argue and attack me with 95% of the conversations we had. very sorry to hear this and hope you will be okay. Thanks for sharing your comment.
@@fpdhu yep, that is what it is like. Dont let your ex squirm back in! I hopefully be out of my court woes soon and then I am going go end the relationship.
@@unsearchablethings8167 stay strong & see what you can do to help the situation for the best results
@@DuFromThe7 will do. Hopefully I can get this situation to a close and move on. Learned some lessons for sure.
Almost nothing about treatment in this video.
My boss. Our team is lost.
My next door neighbor should be watching this. She's a Total BASKETCASE 😆🤭😆
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Stop saying these people.
Stop this annoying backgound Tinkling, please.