Young people please take heed to what he is saying.. This is pure wisdom and can prevent you from a lot of hurt and pain..I am a single mother and understand now why God ways are so important because His ways leads us to life and life more abundantly!
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
Young people listen to me. Sex will not get you the things you want from someone. If someone doesn’t want you outside of a physical connection they will never want you long term. It’s short lived and you will find yourself in a cycle or going from one person to the next. Let them fall in love with your mind. That way they will love you forever.
I'm just a teen ( just putting it out so that other teens can relate), but the reason why I chose to wait till marriage is because of #1) God told me to #2) STD's and Pregnancy #3) I will not give my body to someone who doesn't respect me enough to commit to me #4) It clouds judgment/ soul ties #5) Not having sex forces both parties to actually get to know each other and if that person is not willing to have a relationship w/o sex before marriage, then they don't care for you enough, just wanted sex and isnt the person for you No sex before marriage also helps weed out the crowd of potential partners
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations. Also just because you get along with someone does not mean you will enjoy having sex with them. My high school sweetheart was my heart she was my all kind of cute pet names I would call her and we had sex it was absolutely terrible and I really didn’t want to have sex with her again even though she was still my pookie poo lil mama.
I've been celibate for almost 7 years and what has made it easy to keep going over the years is knowing that sex is seriously HYPED. Having had sex out of marriage it is not fulfilling at all, it causes more problems than satisfaction. The satisfaction last only as long as the act. People rarely speak about the emotional toll sex out of marriage has on you and as women the physical troubles that comes with it 8/10 times. It's just not worth it. the peace celibacy has brought me is something I'd never give up again. Even when the flesh is raging I think about my lack of soul ties, PH being thrown off or possibilities of STIs and I'm back on track. I've also grown to love and appreciate God's reason for mandating sex be done in marriage. The original design was always to protect us because He knew outside of that covenant it would only lead to problems.
The soul tie thing is one that just takes the hand of God to break. There’s nothing worse than your soul being tied to a person you don’t like or love.
I’ve waited because I’ve always wanted to share that special experience with my husband. I’m a virgin at 32 y/o and this is not easy, but I honestly believe God knows what he’s doing, and I’m learning to trust Him with my body. Be encouraged everyone!
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
I want to be able to tell my children that I waited. I want to be an EXAMPLE to my children and any other child who I will influence in the future. Yall it is so difficult but we got it
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
I am abstinent because I want to break generational curses and have my first child within a marriage driven by the love and glorification of the most high God. I want my child to see their parents in-love and on fire for God…. I want to dodge soul ties that will distract me from the path God has paved for me…
ive been celibate for 2.5 years, it is super hard especially as a college student but I know that it will not only save me from the pain but will also honor God
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
Fear of God has me knowing that I'd get pregnant or STD's the moment it'd happen out of marriage because it's not of His will. I'm fighting to break that generational chain in my family! "Dating" a non-believer opened my eyes to how destructive and twisted the world is to so openly say sinning is OK because of what you feel in the moment. Thank you for all this confirmation, God is hitting those nails in the coffin for me 💀🙌🏼
Just make sure in your walk in purity, you don't make it your god. You don't see yourself better than others, see that you are able to be pure as a result of God's grace alone. In my walk, I made my virginity some sort of god and when I got raped as a virgin, I thought that was the end, I couldn't look back because my righteousness and worth was dependent on purity. It took so many years to realize that God still loved me and I was a person of virtue. Let your purity flow out of your relationship with God and it is indeed a beautiful. Keep waiting my dear one, God will not leave you nor forsake you. If you have been abused, remember that He is still with you and His love for you never changed. Much love
I stay abstinent because God kept convicting me and I did not want him to harden my heart to the point where he did not send me signs anymore. Not only did I want to trust God completely but I didn’t want him to turn from me ❤️
Sex affects women causing tremendous imbalances spiritually, emotionally, mentally and hormonally. By not getting involved we will be more grounded and centered
Amen! Lots of people want sex soon after meeting the person because they are addicted to sex, it doesn't mean they love the person. Sex doesn't equal love.
i unfortunately learned the hard way, i would always compare myself to my friends and other ppl who had sex with there boyfriends and seemed to be still in a happy loving relationships, some of them even got married later on, so I'd take the chance hoping that I'd be 'lucky' like them but it never worked out or lasted long. its a gamble that im tired of taking. so Yes to waiting till marriage.
Same. I still don’t understand how those people are happily married if they have committed sexual immoralities. Every man I’ve had seggs with before marriage has left me with quickness.
Seeing how God healed me and taught me to see the beauty of sex is why I'm waiting, which is weird to some people. I was raped at 19 and my view on sex and men turned even darker but I just spent time with God and let Him heal me. After learning to trust again, I don't want sex outside of marriage, it's just not worth it to me because it comes with a lot of uncertainty and doesn't seem to bring any good, unlike with my future spouse who I know will have good intentions because he'll love God and therefore treat me how I deserve to be treated.
I wish I waited till marriage but I did not. I did not know God when I was younger and was only living to please myself and others. I am becoming closer to God in this season. I have been celibate for a few years and now that I am in this season I hope to carry it through to marriage. I haven't been tempted in a long time but hopefully when I am again God helps me stay the course.
New stubbie from Durban South Africa 🇿🇦❤️ I chose to wait until marriage because I’ve realised that God wants the best for me...Learnt the hard way. Was hurt, used, got STI at some point, thinking I was in a loving relationship. God got me out of a few messes like those. 3 years celibate. And it’s refreshing to really know yourself & someone else without sex clouding your judgment.
Me and my fiancée, we have been there. I can tell you that it will break your relationship. God gave us this relationship but we started to play with it. We loved each other but all the potential of our relationship vanished because of that. We spent almost a year fighting and dropping accusations to each other. The connection with God was lost. Depression, anxiety, culpability etc... It was our daily life. Thanks God, we had a brother in Christ who helped us and didn't judge us. The devil also wants to destroy relationships that God approved with sex. Stay out of it, it will never help you.
I’m abstinent so that I can learn self control, build self confidence, do something that’s pleasing to God, show my two daughters that if we don’t value our selves that nobody will value us. And of course to save myself for the man God has for me so we will both be honored in the presence of God and each other.
As a single mother, I can attest to this. I had been a “good girl” and was married when I lost my virginity. Well that husband had an affair and it shattered me. I allowed a man to rush me into another marriage only to be abused and had to run for my life and get divorced from him. I got angry at God and men and stupidly decided that I’d had enough of being a good girl because it wasn’t working. First time having sex without being married and I got pregnant. You can only imagine the rest. Now with a beautiful little girl who is 8 months old and her father isn’t in the picture. Thank goodness I was well off so I can provide for her just fine but now I’ve created a cycle that I hope she doesn’t repeat. I’m glad I only had a child and not something like an std. God saved me by giving me this child because it opened my eyes. I’m almost two years abstinent and I’m ok if I never marry again. Keeping my body as a temple is more important and honoring God is the only way to go
i believe everything that happens for a purpose ! reading ur story has opened my heart and cured me of a recent heartbreak ! im grateful to you ! you are not alone ! you are strong and just gave me strenght
@@hughjanus2781 lovely perspective you have there. For the non troll, this is a tough conversation that really is best handled by the perspective of the person sharing their experience. From my experience, I hit rock bottom a few times where I was borderline being homeless and couldn't pay any bills. God had me go down this path so I could learn the things needed to be the person I am today. I was terrible with finances, buying multiple combos at fast food to eat myself and I had to go though this to realize I didn't need all this - a simple sandwich works just as well. I got on a debt solution program and lowered my bills to accommodate my pay - and the next year there was an issue with my insurance and they put me on the highest tier costing 300 a month m compared to the previous 20. This was 280 I did not have, but because of what God put me through, it prepared be for what was to come.
Moving forward, I have a significantly better mindset about finances and would be prepared to handle finances for a family, while a few years ago we would be paycheck to paycheck and arguing every week. I went through pain so I could learn what I needed to learn to be the person I need to be
I remain kept because I learned the value in waiting. That temporary moment is not worth the longterm penalties that come with it. Plus, I straight up love the Lord and the way that he loves me makes me want to be faithful to him. Ill wait to be a gift. I am honored to be a gift.
It’s crazy how so many people pressure young people into believing that sex is normal before marriage and now we have so many teen moms and emotionally detached parents.
Praise God! This was a blessing and on time. When you come from a background of sin; specifically sexual immorality and lust..I can keep going... But as the Lord began to deal with me in these areas. You see the light. The Truth! Everything I’ve ever experienced in this context was worldly lust and my desire to wait for my beloved is personal to me. I made it personal and daily I crucify this flesh. Lord help us cause I don’t lie about my weakness. We need Him!
I just recently got out of a 3 year relationship. My two year old son has been a huge blessing to me. I’m a reborn again Christian, I got back to the faith right after breaking up with his mom. I feel like the honest issue between us was , sex! Honestly and if I could relate to anyone here is that lust really leaves a mark on the body and soul. I’m currently single right now but I haven’t felt this closer to God in a very long time. I don’t longer have the urge to be with someone right now. I know it’ll be in Gods timing that I can date again. This time with more boundaries. I was thinking about tips on where to go with dating and I came across this video! 😩 I simply want to grow my relationship with God and be the best influence for my son. I guess me and his mom weren’t equally yolked at all! 🙄 Please pray for me ❤️
Thank you for this video. Being celibate after having past sexual experiences, I've experienced as you stated with reference to seeing ppl for who they really are(their real intentions) when you leave sex out of it, and it's liberating for me when I can walk away from a dating experience without having left my body behind with him. It gives me the God- given strenght I need to see red flags for what they are and to weed out people who are only interested in sex no matter how much they say they like me, and some would even go so far as to say, they would marry me, which is not flattering to me if your actions screams sex sex sex. Again, thank you for this, good to help me Keep integrity with keeping my "No to sex," No's. God Bless you and your beautiful wife and for being an example of what it means to wait for the person God had for you.
Honestly, I think I'm waiting to have sex until marriage because I've heard, seen, and witnessed enough scenarios to not want to face them. Yes, it's a struggle because it feels like the world is literally screaming about how great they're having it but I also feel that God is protecting me and, like you said, is really wanting me to see the gift of all that sex can be in the way He's intended it.
U can wait an still end up being a single mother if u dont choose the right man. Just because a man can go without sex doesn’t mean that he is great for a relationship or a good father
@@Gunterforever I don't doubt that. Choosing well goes along with waiting. For me, I'm trusting God to help me pick well cuz the other person has to choose to want to be there everyday and put in the work as much as I'm willing to. It doesn't mean things aren't going to be hard, but both of us have to be willing to work on ourselves and problems for our marriage to be sustained.
Thanks for making this. I'm 32 and my fiancé is 29. We both have waited before marriage and getting married in a few months. Sometimes I can feel embarrassed, because it's not hard to go and sleep around, I work as a nurse and fairly tall and get attention. I love point #5 respecting the marriage bed. Just gained a fellow sub. Really appreciate biblical and church content 🙏
Yes, it's considered the chemical of love. Oxytocin is God's gift...it must be understood and protected. I've shared this exactly and wish more churches were knowledgeable enough to do the same. Thanks for sharing!
Awesome points! I know that we hear this all of the time but pregnancy is a huge consequence! Having sex out of wedlock with the wrong person just because you want to be in a relationship or pressure from the other person can lead to pregnancy. Usually, the woman is left with the responsibility of changing her life and caring for the child while the father is off living his best life somewhere.
I left my husband over a year ago, we are divorced, I never truly felt like he desired me or valued me as much as I knew in my heart that I was worth, but I mostly married him because he was my first and we were together 10 years and I thought it was what God wanted. So much damage came from having sex with him on our 3rd date and now we are both in so much pain and 2 kids caught in the middle of our mess. I went on my first date with a new man recently and I came so close to having sex with him because I was longing for a man's touch again but I am so glad I didn't and he left me alone the second I told him I want to wait until marriage and now I feel so empowered and uplifted and ready to work on myself and focus inward to be what God wants me to be during my time of singleness. Thank you for these videos you make
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE JOHN 3:16
When I found out that my sins can curse my children's lives, it changed my perspective of reality. I want my children to maintain the covenant with the Lord that it took me 41 years to establish. So im willing to be faithful to the Lord's will for their sakes, even above my own.
Because God says it is for marriage with someone you love and loves God and all the other side effects in relationships, personal and for the other person. And why take a shortcut for temporary pleasure and long lasting guilt and side effects. Some medical side effects to more partners: men imprint on first partner and try to replicate on the others so it will be less satisfying, and women loose sensitivity with more partners and that makes it harder for the men, besides all the diseases, posibility to get the woman pregnant and raising a child outside of marriage. As tempting as it is, it is like you said, sex is a fire that works well on long therm only in marriage! Great video brother, keep up the good work and God bless you! We don't need more complicated relationships, broken marriages/families or orphan children, let alone kids doing drugs, smoking or spending too much time in hospital because of what their parents decided to do in the moment. :)
I’ve been celibate for a little over a year now and man God has really worked on me during this time. As hard as it has been I have no regrets and I know it was one of the best decisions ever. I feel so much more prepared now to be a wife and to have a great relationship not the lust filled, toxic type of relationship I was used to while full of the world. God is so good and it’s so worth it to get close to Him and to let Him change you. It’s only for our goodness and His glory, words can’t even express how good He is❤️
I realized, I made my comment under someone else's comment without intending to, so, here it goes again.🤦🏽♀️lol Thank you for this video. Being celibate after having past sexual experiences, I've experienced as you stated with reference to seeing ppl for who they really are(their real intentions) when you leave sex out of it, and it's liberating for me when I can walk away from a dating experience without having left my body behind with him. It gives me the God- given strenght I need to see red flags for what they are and to weed out people who are only interested in sex no matter how much they say they like me, and some would even go so far as to say, they would marry me, which is not flattering to me if your actions scream sex sex sex. Again, thank you for this, good to help me keep integrity with keeping my "No to sex," No's. God Bless you and your beautiful wife and for being an example of what it means to wait for the person God had for you.
I’m abstinent because my body is a temple and if I’m not good enough for a guy to marry then he’s not good enough to come into my temple. Also because I take my faith seriously and I want to do it God’s way.
Abstinence is the way to go… the last thing you want is to have a meaningless tie to a person you were never meant to be with long term. You might escape that situation physically unscathed, but mentally, they will remain with you. It’s NOT WORTH IT. Save yourself for marriage.
I staying celibate because I really feel in my heart I have a deep reverence for God. I don't want God to be like I don't know you as well. And I get emotionally attached easily sex would make it worse
Experience and the after effects of what sex can do to you and of course Gods commencement of fornication is why I decided to remain celibate until marriage. STDs and the chance of pregnancy are some some huge concerns but what motivates me the most is the effect it has on my mental and spiritual health. I once heard someone say you don’t just contract diseases from sex but demons as well and I know what it feels like to engage in premarital sex and it never lead to marriage which is what I’ve always desired. I wasn’t truly following God when I was in fornication and would look at friends engage in casual sex like it was nothing. But for me I always felt that emptiness and void, even when in a relationship and it just wasn’t for me. Temporary loneliness is better than permanent or long term demons and emotional turmoil from premarital sex
One of the reasons I decided to live a sexual pure life or remain abstinent was because at young age I wanted to give my husband something no one has had and to Honor God with my body! I grew up in a single parent household and so from that I made a promise to God and to myself that I wanted to do it the right way, His way. I learned from my parents mistakes and made sure I was setting an example for my two younger sisters to look up too. It has not been easy but I can definitely attest that I have not had my heartbroken or had any pain from these type of situations! I give thanks to God for helping and guiding me through this journey! Also to add that I’m not afraid to say is that I am still a virgin and will remain one until I say I do!💜 Never been in an relationship as well! Such a great video!
I decided to wait until marriage because I was following only the parts of the Bible that were „convenient“ for me and realized that if I believe in this I have to trust and follow it in its entirety!
I stay celibate because anything else doesn't seem genuine within my walk with God. Also, maybe it really just was and still is the supernatural protection of God. Third reason: The type of guy I am interested in usually values holiness. And as I am looking out for that quality, I myself need to develop it in my character. Last but not least: My name means: Holy, pure, chaste. I always felt it to be prophetic. Thank God for sparing me a loooot heartache.
I stay abstinent because I want to please God, I fear getting pregnant out of wedlock , I want my child growing up under the covenant of God grace .. reading the bible and understand that sex was made for marriage.
I have chosen to remain abstinent until marriage because I realized that sex isn’t all that outside of marriage. I was a late bloomer. I didn’t lose my virginity till i was 29 because I tried to wait for marriage (although if I’ll be honest, i wasn’t pure that entire time) but after I finally gave in and had sex, afterwards I felt guilty and low key sick to my stomach because I felt cheap afterwards. There was never a great feeling after doing that because I knew what I was doing was wrong. I want to do things Gods way because I know doing it His way will be blessed and fruitful and without feelings of shame. Plus….i don’t want to have a child outside of wedlock…so…there’s that as well (personal preference)
Great video. It’s super hard to wait in todays generation where men are telling me “no man will wait for you especially if you’ve done it before, he’d be a fool to wait”. I’ll keep pressing through. It’s just easier said than done. Majority men are not willing to wait on a woman at all for sex today. So it’s like do I compromise or keep waiting for the man God has. I’ll keep waiting for the man God has although it gets me down at times with the way the world is moving.
I just think about it like this: I never lost a good man waiting. Every man I lost because he didn't want to wait was toxic. Years later I will hear stories about them and all of those men are still toxic and are still out ruining other womens lives.
Wow…God lead me to this video right here. I follow your insta page and saw you promoting this video and something (most likely God) lead me to watch it. My parents had me outside of wedlock but married as they were carrying me. They are still married. So i viewed marriage as imperfectly perfect. Unfortunately I had to learn the hard way, had my beautiful son, and now questioning life. Things aren’t terrible with my child’s father/BF, but I DEFINITELY felt the part when you said that sexual immorality leads to a list of problems you did not sign up for.. THATS MY LIFE RN😭 currently I am out of town with my son to my hometown for thanksgiving and this video is making me question which lead me to deciding to abstain from having sex. Not going to lie, I am fearful of what my relationship with my child’s father will be like. However, we have been communicating and connecting mentally better..and have lessened sex prior to watching this video just because of my own personal conflicts and the stress of the stuff I didn’t sign up for..I think THIS is what God had been trying to tell me! I need Him to take FULL control of my life. I am scared of what my future holds, but im going to trust God in this process because He’s never let me down yet! I am truly blessed to say the least.
God bless you ! Love your approach on this topic so well thought out and spoken ! Truly a blessing to go deeper with god most importantly when you say no to your flesh and yes to the holy spirit . I will be sharing with friends and family !
God has led me to this video. Really, because I am really struggling with this currently. I have been celibate a long time because God tells me to. But lately I am so double minded about it. I have dated a few unbelievers in the past and would not fornicate with them, but I am in a courtship with a like minded believer right now and we both agree on waiting and there's absolutely no pressure from him. But I have this desire to be intimate with him because it feels safe to do so, even though I realize that it isn't. When we're alone we tend to get carried away, but he is better able to control himself than me so he stops the minute he feels uncomfortable, usually when he's about to penetrate me. It's all so difficult, God help us! Please pray for us🙏
My answer, my body is the temple of the Lord and plus i am working from now toward a lifelong healthy marriage, not by might nor by power but by the spirit of God in Jesus Christ name!
I'm miserable and it's like he feeds of that.... he drains me and sucks the life out of me.God blesses him like no bodies business and i'm always a spectator in everything. I'm exhausted and pathetic .
Hey I took your advice and broke the news to him.I poured out my heart about feeling drained and safocated.It's strange though , I'm hurt when i should feel free .I'm hoping to feel better tomorrow maybe. He immediately blocked me on his phone on every social media plate form. I guess it's for the best.
Thank you, i think i will seek professional help be able to see myself differently ,maybe see what God sees in me .I don't really have anybody , i grew up alone basically with six siblings but alone in a house full of people. Misunderstood even by my own parents, so i need to find myself in Christ because i love God.I've always have since childhood 😍😍😍😍
Don't look at other girls relationships. You have no idea what they may have to put up with behind the scenes and if you would want to deal with the same thing. Most girls I see are with guys who are very mediocre just because they don't want to be alone.
I was introduced to the world of sex at a very young age .I was barely three or four when a trusted adult molested me .Influenced by the things I saw on tv , I was fascinated with sexual things . I would carelessly do things with people just because I wanted to feel like the things i saw on tv . When I finally stopped because I hated being called names and things i was still addicted to porn and i wanted to wait till marriage not to honor God but to gain respect for myself and to stay out of hell . But in 2020 I had an encounter with Christ and life has neber been the same . Jesus freed me from my porn addiction and all now I'm choosing to wait till marriage because I want to honor God in my relatioships and everything. I want to rediscover life and relationships not as it was instilled to me as the victim of my abuser but as God created it . If you're struggling with anything like this know God can help it doesn't just stop at once but as you find God He rids you of all things that soil you spirit . For the flesh is indeed weak but the spirit is willing . God bless you all
I'm 34 and I have been abstaining for almost 12 years. I chose that because: 1. I literally felt the hurt, God felt after fornication and I hated that feeling (this was after I got saved). 2. Fornication really does cloud sound judgment and makes you think you love someone that you don't even like for real. It makes you stay in toxic relationships. 3. I needed this time for God to cleanse my mind, heart, and soul of lust. The best way to do that is through prayer, fasting, and abstaining. 4. God is more important to me than for me to sin against Him and hurt Him.
My reason is I'm afraid to connect to people that doesn't value me, also I know for a fact that a Godly man will never force you into that and will honor your purity. The shame and the guilt you get after that is not worth it, that's what I heard from the people who had it already!
I'm waiting to have sex in marriage because I've done it the wrong way in the past and I hate the feeling of heaviness from grieving Holy Spirit. That is the WORST feeling in this world, but I thank Him for His conviction. I LOVE having peace with God and being able to talk to Him without shame and feeling horrible. I have learned, the hard way, it is better to things God's way. You're just so free in Him, when we abstain, especially from sexual immortality.
I was talking to a guy who really wasn’t willing to wait Until marriage to have sex with me. He was in his 30s like me. He told me he couldn’t be in a relationship without having sex. I could tell he wasn’t about pleasing God or even about my standards or anything. He told me he didn’t want to wait long. I have been waiting for 6 years. And he was like he wasn’t willing to wait that long to go without sex. Where are men who practicing being abstinence like me. I feel like God is punishing me. Because I haven’t met a man who is willing to wait until marriage like me where we can walk this journey together. 🙏🏾😞 I had to tell him I want to please God with my body and wait until marriage to have sex. I didn’t wait while I was in my 20s. And since I’m 32 been waiting for 6 years and no prospects just a bunch of counterfeits.
You should date as much as possible. Stay positive. If he cares and respect you, that would not be an issue! As a man, I say it’s easier if you meet a man already practicing abstinence.
Don't worry I'm a 25 year old Caribbean man 5 11" lean muscle and waiting the woman who will be my wife, celibate men do exist albeit rare but we exist.
Agree with u , they just tolerate the relationship bc of SE*. At 27 I’ve realized to wait until marriage and I’m a single parent . Gods plan with be worth it
These days I have lost interest in dating because it's like everyone is having sex in these relationships so it's very difficult to find someone that will respect your stance in the Lord it's really draining me 🤦🤦.
I'm waiting for marriage. However, looking forward to marriage it is not the only reason why I'm celibate. I'm With the Lord giving me self control over pornography and masturbation to also just walk in his ways and grow in him
My heart is breaking right now in million pieces. I told my partner I wanted to have sex after marriage he agreed he'd wait but now his going off on me talking about I can find someone else like me who will wait if I want to wait and that he won't wait two years to sleep with me that he would rather be alone. And he talks about I don't excite him. And complained that I don't show him my body etc..... He said I don't do anything to excite him in terms of showing him body parts. He says if we don't have sex before marriage he might change his mind after and not want to have sex when married to me. He said waiting to have sex is dumb if we love one another that we should just do it. Then he tells me right after that he loves me and won't change on me
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Young people please take heed to what he is saying.. This is pure wisdom and can prevent you from a lot of hurt and pain..I am a single mother and understand now why God ways are so important because His ways leads us to life and life more abundantly!
Amen
my mum says the same thing, thank you🙏🏾
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
Amen and Amen, Sis!
Young people listen to me. Sex will not get you the things you want from someone. If someone doesn’t want you outside of a physical connection they will never want you long term. It’s short lived and you will find yourself in a cycle or going from one person to the next. Let them fall in love with your mind. That way they will love you forever.
It’s also possible to love someone and not enjoy having sex with them.
I love the way you worded this! ❤
I’m waiting until marriage I’m 21 years old I’m still a virgin I’m a follower of Jesus Christ
Same 21 and also waiting for marriage
Same I’m 21 & it’s hard but I ask God to give me strength everyday!!!!!
I'm just a teen ( just putting it out so that other teens can relate), but the reason why I chose to wait till marriage is because of
#1) God told me to
#2) STD's and Pregnancy
#3) I will not give my body to someone who doesn't respect me enough to commit to me
#4) It clouds judgment/ soul ties
#5) Not having sex forces both parties to actually get to know each other and if that person is not willing to have a relationship w/o sex before marriage, then they don't care for you enough, just wanted sex and isnt the person for you
No sex before marriage also helps weed out the crowd of potential partners
It is hard in this world to stand on your convictions. Continue to be strong and courageous.
"I will not give my body to someone who doesn't respect me enough to commit to me".....WOW. That's SOLID 👏👏👏
You are super mature for your age! A lot smarter than other teens. You will avoid a ton of very toxic relationships.
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations. Also just because you get along with someone does not mean you will enjoy having sex with them. My high school sweetheart was my heart she was my all kind of cute pet names I would call her and we had sex it was absolutely terrible and I really didn’t want to have sex with her again even though she was still my pookie poo lil mama.
SOLID KID 👍🏽🙏🏽😌
I've been celibate for almost 7 years and what has made it easy to keep going over the years is knowing that sex is seriously HYPED. Having had sex out of marriage it is not fulfilling at all, it causes more problems than satisfaction. The satisfaction last only as long as the act. People rarely speak about the emotional toll sex out of marriage has on you and as women the physical troubles that comes with it 8/10 times. It's just not worth it. the peace celibacy has brought me is something I'd never give up again. Even when the flesh is raging I think about my lack of soul ties, PH being thrown off or possibilities of STIs and I'm back on track. I've also grown to love and appreciate God's reason for mandating sex be done in marriage. The original design was always to protect us because He knew outside of that covenant it would only lead to problems.
Thank you
No where in the Bible does god regulate sex to strictly within the confines of marriage. Men are allowed to have concubines and sex slaves.
Well said
The soul tie thing is one that just takes the hand of God to break. There’s nothing worse than your soul being tied to a person you don’t like or love.
There is no evidence that a soul exist
I don’t believe in that, once i detach from a person i detach period
Worse.... tied to someone that don't want or love you anymore.😢
I’ve waited because I’ve always wanted to share that special experience with my husband. I’m a virgin at 32 y/o and this is not easy, but I honestly believe God knows what he’s doing, and I’m learning to trust Him with my body. Be encouraged everyone!
Praise God!
Amen Sis 👏
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
Wow
@@someguy295so am i
I want to be able to tell my children that I waited. I want to be an EXAMPLE to my children and any other child who I will influence in the future. Yall it is so difficult but we got it
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
I am abstinent because I want to break generational curses and have my first child within a marriage driven by the love and glorification of the most high God. I want my child to see their parents in-love and on fire for God….
I want to dodge soul ties that will distract me from the path God has paved for me…
ive been celibate for 2.5 years, it is super hard especially as a college student but I know that it will not only save me from the pain but will also honor God
Why create humans with vastly different sized sex organs and vastly different libidos and then force them to make a decision as if sex isn’t a factor if god intended for sex to be a gift? Simply creating people with similar sized sex organs and similar libido levels would have made sex a complete none factor. Now it looks like one of two things a flawed design or random mutations.
I’m waiting till marriage because I intend on getting close to God, and having a pure heart especially towards God.
Having sex outside of marriage doesn’t stop you from being close to god. Several people who were favorites of god had sex outside of marriage.
Fear of God has me knowing that I'd get pregnant or STD's the moment it'd happen out of marriage because it's not of His will. I'm fighting to break that generational chain in my family! "Dating" a non-believer opened my eyes to how destructive and twisted the world is to so openly say sinning is OK because of what you feel in the moment.
Thank you for all this confirmation, God is hitting those nails in the coffin for me 💀🙌🏼
Destructive and twisted? God of the Bible endorses slavery and child rape.
Just make sure in your walk in purity, you don't make it your god. You don't see yourself better than others, see that you are able to be pure as a result of God's grace alone. In my walk, I made my virginity some sort of god and when I got raped as a virgin, I thought that was the end, I couldn't look back because my righteousness and worth was dependent on purity. It took so many years to realize that God still loved me and I was a person of virtue. Let your purity flow out of your relationship with God and it is indeed a beautiful. Keep waiting my dear one, God will not leave you nor forsake you. If you have been abused, remember that He is still with you and His love for you never changed. Much love
I appreciate this comment so much and is exactly what I needed to hear bless you
Sex became a tool for me in relationships. I thought I could use it to "keep" a man. I failed each time but it took me years to learn my lesson.
I stay abstinent because God kept convicting me and I did not want him to harden my heart to the point where he did not send me signs anymore. Not only did I want to trust God completely but I didn’t want him to turn from me ❤️
I'm saving myself and I need to send this to my friend who keeps trying to change my mind,the devil will not shake me I know my patience will pay off.
Don’t let him cause you to compromise. Be sure to share it
I'm 24 and i'm waiting until marriage. Glory to God.
Why does this god deserve glory
Sex affects women causing tremendous imbalances spiritually, emotionally, mentally and hormonally. By not getting involved we will be more grounded and centered
Amen! Lots of people want sex soon after meeting the person because they are addicted to sex, it doesn't mean they love the person. Sex doesn't equal love.
Exactly it's just weak willed people who can't control their lust
i unfortunately learned the hard way, i would always compare myself to my friends and other ppl who had sex with there boyfriends and seemed to be still in a happy loving relationships, some of them even got married later on, so I'd take the chance hoping that I'd be 'lucky' like them but it never worked out or lasted long. its a gamble that im tired of taking. so Yes to waiting till marriage.
Amen to that! Been there
Same here! It doesn’t work for me. Never has! God’s way is the only way. Waiting til marriage as well.
Same. I still don’t understand how those people are happily married if they have committed sexual immoralities. Every man I’ve had seggs with before marriage has left me with quickness.
Seeing how God healed me and taught me to see the beauty of sex is why I'm waiting, which is weird to some people. I was raped at 19 and my view on sex and men turned even darker but I just spent time with God and let Him heal me. After learning to trust again, I don't want sex outside of marriage, it's just not worth it to me because it comes with a lot of uncertainty and doesn't seem to bring any good, unlike with my future spouse who I know will have good intentions because he'll love God and therefore treat me how I deserve to be treated.
I decide to wait on the Lord because His ways keep me happy and closer to Him and this is the Lord's temple
I wish I waited till marriage but I did not. I did not know God when I was younger and was only living to please myself and others. I am becoming closer to God in this season. I have been celibate for a few years and now that I am in this season I hope to carry it through to marriage. I haven't been tempted in a long time but hopefully when I am again God helps me stay the course.
New stubbie from Durban South Africa 🇿🇦❤️ I chose to wait until marriage because I’ve realised that God wants the best for me...Learnt the hard way. Was hurt, used, got STI at some point, thinking I was in a loving relationship. God got me out of a few messes like those. 3 years celibate. And it’s refreshing to really know yourself & someone else without sex clouding your judgment.
Watching from Cape Town, RSA
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Me and my fiancée, we have been there. I can tell you that it will break your relationship. God gave us this relationship but we started to play with it. We loved each other but all the potential of our relationship vanished because of that. We spent almost a year fighting and dropping accusations to each other. The connection with God was lost. Depression, anxiety, culpability etc... It was our daily life. Thanks God, we had a brother in Christ who helped us and didn't judge us. The devil also wants to destroy relationships that God approved with sex. Stay out of it, it will never help you.
I’m abstinent so that I can learn self control, build self confidence, do something that’s pleasing to God, show my two daughters that if we don’t value our selves that nobody will value us. And of course to save myself for the man God has for me so we will both be honored in the presence of God and each other.
As a single mother, I can attest to this. I had been a “good girl” and was married when I lost my virginity. Well that husband had an affair and it shattered me. I allowed a man to rush me into another marriage only to be abused and had to run for my life and get divorced from him. I got angry at God and men and stupidly decided that I’d had enough of being a good girl because it wasn’t working. First time having sex without being married and I got pregnant. You can only imagine the rest. Now with a beautiful little girl who is 8 months old and her father isn’t in the picture. Thank goodness I was well off so I can provide for her just fine but now I’ve created a cycle that I hope she doesn’t repeat. I’m glad I only had a child and not something like an std. God saved me by giving me this child because it opened my eyes. I’m almost two years abstinent and I’m ok if I never marry again. Keeping my body as a temple is more important and honoring God is the only way to go
i believe everything that happens for a purpose ! reading ur story has opened my heart and cured me of a recent heartbreak ! im grateful to you ! you are not alone ! you are strong and just gave me strenght
@@mahfugaparvin5121 God’s purpose was for her to be abused?
In reality love, u were just a bad judger of men. U have to learn how to vett them properly, an know what to look for
@@hughjanus2781 lovely perspective you have there.
For the non troll, this is a tough conversation that really is best handled by the perspective of the person sharing their experience.
From my experience, I hit rock bottom a few times where I was borderline being homeless and couldn't pay any bills. God had me go down this path so I could learn the things needed to be the person I am today. I was terrible with finances, buying multiple combos at fast food to eat myself and I had to go though this to realize I didn't need all this - a simple sandwich works just as well. I got on a debt solution program and lowered my bills to accommodate my pay - and the next year there was an issue with my insurance and they put me on the highest tier costing 300 a month m compared to the previous 20. This was 280 I did not have, but because of what God put me through, it prepared be for what was to come.
Moving forward, I have a significantly better mindset about finances and would be prepared to handle finances for a family, while a few years ago we would be paycheck to paycheck and arguing every week. I went through pain so I could learn what I needed to learn to be the person I need to be
I remain kept because I learned the value in waiting. That temporary moment is not worth the longterm penalties that come with it. Plus, I straight up love the Lord and the way that he loves me makes me want to be faithful to him. Ill wait to be a gift. I am honored to be a gift.
Sex isn’t a gift from god
It’s crazy how so many people pressure young people into believing that sex is normal before marriage and now we have so many teen moms and emotionally detached parents.
Praise God! This was a blessing and on time.
When you come from a background of sin; specifically sexual immorality and lust..I can keep going...
But as the Lord began to deal with me in these areas. You see the light. The Truth!
Everything I’ve ever experienced in this context was worldly lust and my desire to wait for my beloved is personal to me. I made it personal and daily I crucify this flesh. Lord help us cause I don’t lie about my weakness. We need Him!
I just recently got out of a 3 year relationship. My two year old son has been a huge blessing to me. I’m a reborn again Christian, I got back to the faith right after breaking up with his mom. I feel like the honest issue between us was , sex! Honestly and if I could relate to anyone here is that lust really leaves a mark on the body and soul. I’m currently single right now but I haven’t felt this closer to God in a very long time. I don’t longer have the urge to be with someone right now. I know it’ll be in Gods timing that I can date again. This time with more boundaries. I was thinking about tips on where to go with dating and I came across this video! 😩
I simply want to grow my relationship with God and be the best influence for my son. I guess me and his mom weren’t equally yolked at all! 🙄
Please pray for me ❤️
Prayers up, fam
@@GodlyDating101 thank you bro 🙏🏽
Thank you for this video. Being celibate after having past sexual experiences, I've experienced as you stated with reference to seeing ppl for who they really are(their real intentions) when you leave sex out of it, and it's liberating for me when I can walk away from a dating experience without having left my body behind with him. It gives me the God- given strenght I need to see red flags for what they are and to weed out people who are only interested in sex no matter how much they say they like me, and some would even go so far as to say, they would marry me, which is not flattering to me if your actions screams sex sex sex. Again, thank you for this, good to help me Keep integrity with keeping my "No to sex," No's. God Bless you and your beautiful wife and for being an example of what it means to wait for the person God had for you.
Same here.just with a daughter
Faith is believing without evidence it’s the worse possible pathway to truth
Honestly, I think I'm waiting to have sex until marriage because I've heard, seen, and witnessed enough scenarios to not want to face them. Yes, it's a struggle because it feels like the world is literally screaming about how great they're having it but I also feel that God is protecting me and, like you said, is really wanting me to see the gift of all that sex can be in the way He's intended it.
U can wait an still end up being a single mother if u dont choose the right man. Just because a man can go without sex doesn’t mean that he is great for a relationship or a good father
@@Gunterforever I don't doubt that. Choosing well goes along with waiting. For me, I'm trusting God to help me pick well cuz the other person has to choose to want to be there everyday and put in the work as much as I'm willing to. It doesn't mean things aren't going to be hard, but both of us have to be willing to work on ourselves and problems for our marriage to be sustained.
Thanks for making this. I'm 32 and my fiancé is 29. We both have waited before marriage and getting married in a few months. Sometimes I can feel embarrassed, because it's not hard to go and sleep around, I work as a nurse and fairly tall and get attention. I love point #5 respecting the marriage bed. Just gained a fellow sub. Really appreciate biblical and church content 🙏
Yes, it's considered the chemical of love. Oxytocin is God's gift...it must be understood and protected. I've shared this exactly and wish more churches were knowledgeable enough to do the same. Thanks for sharing!
Awesome points! I know that we hear this all of the time but pregnancy is a huge consequence! Having sex out of wedlock with the wrong person just because you want to be in a relationship or pressure from the other person can lead to pregnancy. Usually, the woman is left with the responsibility of changing her life and caring for the child while the father is off living his best life somewhere.
I left my husband over a year ago, we are divorced, I never truly felt like he desired me or valued me as much as I knew in my heart that I was worth, but I mostly married him because he was my first and we were together 10 years and I thought it was what God wanted. So much damage came from having sex with him on our 3rd date and now we are both in so much pain and 2 kids caught in the middle of our mess. I went on my first date with a new man recently and I came so close to having sex with him because I was longing for a man's touch again but I am so glad I didn't and he left me alone the second I told him I want to wait until marriage and now I feel so empowered and uplifted and ready to work on myself and focus inward to be what God wants me to be during my time of singleness. Thank you for these videos you make
I absolutely loved this video. I'm waiting because it honors God. He's saved me from so much. The least I could do is live a life of obedience.
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE
JOHN 3:16
When I found out that my sins can curse my children's lives, it changed my perspective of reality. I want my children to maintain the covenant with the Lord that it took me 41 years to establish. So im willing to be faithful to the Lord's will for their sakes, even above my own.
Amen!
Amen Jesus nisaidie 🤲🏾🤲🏾
Because God says it is for marriage with someone you love and loves God and all the other side effects in relationships, personal and for the other person. And why take a shortcut for temporary pleasure and long lasting guilt and side effects. Some medical side effects to more partners: men imprint on first partner and try to replicate on the others so it will be less satisfying, and women loose sensitivity with more partners and that makes it harder for the men, besides all the diseases, posibility to get the woman pregnant and raising a child outside of marriage. As tempting as it is, it is like you said, sex is a fire that works well on long therm only in marriage! Great video brother, keep up the good work and God bless you! We don't need more complicated relationships, broken marriages/families or orphan children, let alone kids doing drugs, smoking or spending too much time in hospital because of what their parents decided to do in the moment. :)
I’ve been celibate for a little over a year now and man God has really worked on me during this time. As hard as it has been I have no regrets and I know it was one of the best decisions ever. I feel so much more prepared now to be a wife and to have a great relationship not the lust filled, toxic type of relationship I was used to while full of the world. God is so good and it’s so worth it to get close to Him and to let Him change you. It’s only for our goodness and His glory, words can’t even express how good He is❤️
I realized, I made my comment under someone else's comment without intending to, so, here it goes again.🤦🏽♀️lol
Thank you for this video. Being celibate after having past sexual experiences, I've experienced as you stated with reference to seeing ppl for who they really are(their real intentions) when you leave sex out of it, and it's liberating for me when I can walk away from a dating experience without having left my body behind with him. It gives me the God- given strenght I need to see red flags for what they are and to weed out people who are only interested in sex no matter how much they say they like me, and some would even go so far as to say, they would marry me, which is not flattering to me if your actions scream sex sex sex. Again, thank you for this, good to help me keep integrity with keeping my "No to sex," No's. God Bless you and your beautiful wife and for being an example of what it means to wait for the person God had for you.
I knew what you meant lol
@@GodlyDating101 Thank you! lol
I’m abstinent because my body is a temple and if I’m not good enough for a guy to marry then he’s not good enough to come into my temple. Also because I take my faith seriously and I want to do it God’s way.
very heavy on the second point about knowing the individual’s motives. If they only want you for sex, they aren’t for you.
@@yarimaa1246 oh go away man
Abstinence is the way to go… the last thing you want is to have a meaningless tie to a person you were never meant to be with long term. You might escape that situation physically unscathed, but mentally, they will remain with you. It’s NOT WORTH IT. Save yourself for marriage.
Actually the last thing you want is some horrific death.
..in addition to, I'm waiting because I value my body/temple of God, my health and life, and the respect for the he that finds me. 💞
I staying celibate because I really feel in my heart I have a deep reverence for God. I don't want God to be like I don't know you as well. And I get emotionally attached easily sex would make it worse
That’s so true!
Experience and the after effects of what sex can do to you and of course Gods commencement of fornication is why I decided to remain celibate until marriage. STDs and the chance of pregnancy are some some huge concerns but what motivates me the most is the effect it has on my mental and spiritual health. I once heard someone say you don’t just contract diseases from sex but demons as well and I know what it feels like to engage in premarital sex and it never lead to marriage which is what I’ve always desired. I wasn’t truly following God when I was in fornication and would look at friends engage in casual sex like it was nothing. But for me I always felt that emptiness and void, even when in a relationship and it just wasn’t for me. Temporary loneliness is better than permanent or long term demons and emotional turmoil from premarital sex
So true sis!
One of the reasons I decided to live a sexual pure life or remain abstinent was because at young age I wanted to give my husband something no one has had and to Honor God with my body! I grew up in a single parent household and so from that I made a promise to God and to myself that I wanted to do it the right way, His way. I learned from my parents mistakes and made sure I was setting an example for my two younger sisters to look up too. It has not been easy but I can definitely attest that I have not had my heartbroken or had any pain from these type of situations! I give thanks to God for helping and guiding me through this journey! Also to add that I’m not afraid to say is that I am still a virgin and will remain one until I say I do!💜 Never been in an relationship as well! Such a great video!
I decided to wait until marriage because I was following only the parts of the Bible that were „convenient“ for me and realized that if I believe in this I have to trust and follow it in its entirety!
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I stay celibate because anything else doesn't seem genuine within my walk with God. Also, maybe it really just was and still is the supernatural protection of God. Third reason: The type of guy I am interested in usually values holiness. And as I am looking out for that quality, I myself need to develop it in my character. Last but not least: My name means: Holy, pure, chaste. I always felt it to be prophetic. Thank God for sparing me a loooot heartache.
I stay abstinent because I want to please God, I fear getting pregnant out of wedlock , I want my child growing up under the covenant of God grace .. reading the bible and understand that sex was made for marriage.
I am a 55 year old single woman in church, and I get so much out of your videos! They taught these things when I first got in church.
It's the message on your top too for me
"My purpose won't let me settle"
Amen!🙏🏾
I'm abstaining because I want lasting love that honors God. 😃
One of the best teachers online addressing practical issues.
For me, breaking a soul tie is very hard. Sex is really worth it and a bonding experience designed for marriage from God. He's A Super Good God.
I have chosen to remain abstinent until marriage because I realized that sex isn’t all that outside of marriage. I was a late bloomer. I didn’t lose my virginity till i was 29 because I tried to wait for marriage (although if I’ll be honest, i wasn’t pure that entire time) but after I finally gave in and had sex, afterwards I felt guilty and low key sick to my stomach because I felt cheap afterwards. There was never a great feeling after doing that because I knew what I was doing was wrong. I want to do things Gods way because I know doing it His way will be blessed and fruitful and without feelings of shame. Plus….i don’t want to have a child outside of wedlock…so…there’s that as well (personal preference)
Watching from South Africa ❤️❤️❤️
Great video. It’s super hard to wait in todays generation where men are telling me “no man will wait for you especially if you’ve done it before, he’d be a fool to wait”. I’ll keep pressing through. It’s just easier said than done. Majority men are not willing to wait on a woman at all for sex today. So it’s like do I compromise or keep waiting for the man God has. I’ll keep waiting for the man God has although it gets me down at times with the way the world is moving.
I just think about it like this: I never lost a good man waiting. Every man I lost because he didn't want to wait was toxic. Years later I will hear stories about them and all of those men are still toxic and are still out ruining other womens lives.
I'm deciding to wait because it ruins relationships not to, and because it's what God wants. I need to put Him first.
Wow…God lead me to this video right here. I follow your insta page and saw you promoting this video and something (most likely God) lead me to watch it. My parents had me outside of wedlock but married as they were carrying me. They are still married. So i viewed marriage as imperfectly perfect. Unfortunately I had to learn the hard way, had my beautiful son, and now questioning life. Things aren’t terrible with my child’s father/BF, but I DEFINITELY felt the part when you said that sexual immorality leads to a list of problems you did not sign up for.. THATS MY LIFE RN😭 currently I am out of town with my son to my hometown for thanksgiving and this video is making me question which lead me to deciding to abstain from having sex. Not going to lie, I am fearful of what my relationship with my child’s father will be like. However, we have been communicating and connecting mentally better..and have lessened sex prior to watching this video just because of my own personal conflicts and the stress of the stuff I didn’t sign up for..I think THIS is what God had been trying to tell me! I need Him to take FULL control of my life. I am scared of what my future holds, but im going to trust God in this process because He’s never let me down yet! I am truly blessed to say the least.
Praying for y’all sis!
God bless you ! Love your approach on this topic so well thought out and spoken ! Truly a blessing to go deeper with god most importantly when you say no to your flesh and yes to the holy spirit . I will be sharing with friends and family !
Thank God for this Channel 🙏
God has led me to this video. Really, because I am really struggling with this currently. I have been celibate a long time because God tells me to. But lately I am so double minded about it. I have dated a few unbelievers in the past and would not fornicate with them, but I am in a courtship with a like minded believer right now and we both agree on waiting and there's absolutely no pressure from him. But I have this desire to be intimate with him because it feels safe to do so, even though I realize that it isn't. When we're alone we tend to get carried away, but he is better able to control himself than me so he stops the minute he feels uncomfortable, usually when he's about to penetrate me. It's all so difficult, God help us! Please pray for us🙏
One of the reason why I am waiting is because to have that connection with my husband because having that type of connection is different
Yahusha loves us the most 😊❤
Great video bro! Camera quality and lighting on point too! Keep creating!🔥
Appreciate you fam
I waited because it is the best thing to do and god loves it, what a goid life to live glory to God 🙏
I hope God will give me a good Christian woman, they are so few and far between but I think they are worth the wait.
My answer, my body is the temple of the Lord and plus i am working from now toward a lifelong healthy marriage, not by might nor by power but by the spirit of God in Jesus Christ name!
This is such a fantastic video. You’ve been blessed with godly wisdom, so many lines you dropped are absolute fire. God bless you.
Well Spoken.
Thank you very much for this video. You are telling the truth
Great topic, me and my boyfriend have been fighting and hurting each other so much because we stopped sex .I don't know what to do now but thank you
It sounds like you two are not for each other. It could also be that you two need to grow (in Christ) and then God may bring you two back together.
I think we clearly aren't meant for each other....problem is i don't know how to get out and i feel God is unfair to me always.
I'm miserable and it's like he feeds of that.... he drains me and sucks the life out of me.God blesses him like no bodies business and i'm always a spectator in everything. I'm exhausted and pathetic .
Hey
I took your advice and broke the news to him.I poured out my heart about feeling drained and safocated.It's strange though , I'm hurt when i should feel free .I'm hoping to feel better tomorrow maybe. He immediately blocked me on his phone on every social media plate form. I guess it's for the best.
Thank you, i think i will seek professional help be able to see myself differently ,maybe see what God sees in me .I don't really have anybody , i grew up alone basically with six siblings but alone in a house full of people. Misunderstood even by my own parents, so i need to find myself in Christ because i love God.I've always have since childhood 😍😍😍😍
I just turned 28 and want to wait but it’s hard. Most girls in my hometown already found their person by my age but I’m still single
Don't look at other girls relationships. You have no idea what they may have to put up with behind the scenes and if you would want to deal with the same thing. Most girls I see are with guys who are very mediocre just because they don't want to be alone.
I was introduced to the world of sex at a very young age .I was barely three or four when a trusted adult molested me .Influenced by the things I saw on tv , I was fascinated with sexual things . I would carelessly do things with people just because I wanted to feel like the things i saw on tv . When I finally stopped because I hated being called names and things i was still addicted to porn and i wanted to wait till marriage not to honor God but to gain respect for myself and to stay out of hell . But in 2020 I had an encounter with Christ and life has neber been the same . Jesus freed me from my porn addiction and all now I'm choosing to wait till marriage because I want to honor God in my relatioships and everything. I want to rediscover life and relationships not as it was instilled to me as the victim of my abuser but as God created it . If you're struggling with anything like this know God can help it doesn't just stop at once but as you find God He rids you of all things that soil you spirit . For the flesh is indeed weak but the spirit is willing . God bless you all
I paid many consequences for not waiting till marriage 😪
Thank God I have a Pastor that teaches on this 💕.
I'm waiting ✋️ 😌 too . I'll keep it that way till marriage. Tho I feel like I'm missing out but I'm complete in Christ
My fleshly ways proved itself time and time again to leave me astray. What I want requires discipline and intention ❤️.
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The main reason to wait until marriage is to be obedient to God’s commandments by living away from fornication and in purity.
Wow, thank you for this, you're highly annointed!
Powerful Video.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Kindred spirit, bro👍🏾
I'm 34 and I have been abstaining for almost 12 years. I chose that because:
1. I literally felt the hurt, God felt after fornication and I hated that feeling (this was after I got saved).
2. Fornication really does cloud sound judgment and makes you think you love someone that you don't even like for real. It makes you stay in toxic relationships.
3. I needed this time for God to cleanse my mind, heart, and soul of lust. The best way to do that is through prayer, fasting, and abstaining.
4. God is more important to me than for me to sin against Him and hurt Him.
My reason is I'm afraid to connect to people that doesn't value me, also I know for a fact that a Godly man will never force you into that and will honor your purity. The shame and the guilt you get after that is not worth it, that's what I heard from the people who had it already!
I'm waiting to have sex in marriage because I've done it the wrong way in the past and I hate the feeling of heaviness from grieving Holy Spirit. That is the WORST feeling in this world, but I thank Him for His conviction. I LOVE having peace with God and being able to talk to Him without shame and feeling horrible. I have learned, the hard way, it is better to things God's way. You're just so free in Him, when we abstain, especially from sexual immortality.
I was talking to a guy who really wasn’t willing to wait Until marriage to have sex with me. He was in his 30s like me. He told me he couldn’t be in a relationship without having sex. I could tell he wasn’t about pleasing God or even about my standards or anything. He told me he didn’t want to wait long. I have been waiting for 6 years. And he was like he wasn’t willing to wait that long to go without sex. Where are men who practicing being abstinence like me. I feel like God is punishing me. Because I haven’t met a man who is willing to wait until marriage like me where we can walk this journey together. 🙏🏾😞 I had to tell him I want to please God with my body and wait until marriage to have sex. I didn’t wait while I was in my 20s. And since I’m 32 been waiting for 6 years and no prospects just a bunch of counterfeits.
You should date as much as possible. Stay positive. If he cares and respect you, that would not be an issue! As a man, I say it’s easier if you meet a man already practicing abstinence.
Don't worry I'm a 25 year old Caribbean man 5 11" lean muscle and waiting the woman who will be my wife, celibate men do exist albeit rare but we exist.
"one Bible verse a day, which is just the verse of the day" Oh Lord help me please!
Yeeesssssssssss amen I Jesus name glory to God 🙌
Agree with u , they just tolerate the relationship bc of SE*. At 27 I’ve realized to wait until marriage and I’m a single parent . Gods plan with be worth it
These days I have lost interest in dating because it's like everyone is having sex in these relationships so it's very difficult to find someone that will respect your stance in the Lord it's really draining me 🤦🤦.
I'm waiting for marriage. However, looking forward to marriage it is not the only reason why I'm celibate. I'm With the Lord giving me self control over pornography and masturbation to also just walk in his ways and grow in him
This is so, so good!
Nice Video. Thank you for the insights.
My heart is breaking right now in million pieces. I told my partner I wanted to have sex after marriage he agreed he'd wait but now his going off on me talking about I can find someone else like me who will wait if I want to wait and that he won't wait two years to sleep with me that he would rather be alone. And he talks about I don't excite him. And complained that I don't show him my body etc..... He said I don't do anything to excite him in terms of showing him body parts. He says if we don't have sex before marriage he might change his mind after and not want to have sex when married to me. He said waiting to have sex is dumb if we love one another that we should just do it. Then he tells me right after that he loves me and won't change on me
Leave that man.