My Brother Stole $35,000 From Mom, Should I Kick Him Out?
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I don't buy this. So, the caller has no worry in the world while his mom is suffering from dementia and is being cared for by the middle brother, yet, the mother leaves the house to this guy. Why would she gift him the house, and not the son who was taking care of her, or have it split between brothers? If the middle brother didn't care for her, who would have, and for how much? So, the mother has dementia..... could it be that the "will" was forced upon her by the caller? How does the caller know that the mother didn't actually give her carer son the money? There are two sides to this story, and I don't see this caller in the right.
Yes!!!
Something is missing here: I didnt take care of mom, I get the house, and then I'm going to call the cops on the son that did care for her.
Why didn't the mom leave the house to the son that took care of her? It could be with reason, but as someone who was the caretaker of an elderly person I can tell you that sometimes the one who is putting the work is villified, while the ones who are at a distance and only come to visit get all the praise.
Too little info from the caller.
I agree.
💯, my mother did everything for my grandmother, my uncle would show up with flowers once in a while and he was the favorite. I wish we got both sides of these stories.
Where were you Randell when your brothers were taking care of mother ?
Out of sight, out of mind. Should have been watching more closely.
That 34k was likely taking care of his mom.
This caller is just ridiculous.
Taking care of a person is hard work.
@@lopezjose476 Don't mean the criminal thief has a right to steal - from his own Mom!
@Reese B What would you call someone stealing from his own mother?
The "THIEVING" brother took care of dementia mom, so she didn't have to go to a nursing home. Therefore, the "THIEVING" brother saved this brother's inheritance aka "THE HOME HE GOT FOR FREE" by the way, if the "THIEVING" brother did not take care of his dementia mom and let her go to the nursing home? the NURSING HOME would have got that house instead of this brother on the phone. look up medicaid estate recovery..
Good point. My mothers nursing home cost 10K a month, and she was miserable. If a sibling is willing and able to care for a parent full time, they definitely deserve compensation. At the very least they deserve part of the estate.
Yes
True, but it should have been discussed and agreed upon.
@@user-wq7hw2ow9l exactly‼️They are always looked as the least deserving or successful and that’s why they become the caregiver.
@@user-wq7hw2ow9l Instead of discussing it with his brother, the thief just stole the money - from his own Mom! That's Scummy!
Taking care of a parent with dementia is a ton of work. Not just taking them to appointments, but buying and cooking food, staying on top of their meds, doing all the house work, cleaning up bathroom accidents, getting them showered and dressed, managing household bills, the frustration of talking to someone with dementia, the emotional toll of watching your parent lose their memories, watching your parent not recognizing you (their own son), etc. I don’t know the whole story but he could feel like the other brothers said “We have jobs and we can’t help.” He stepped in and now they are blaming him using money to take care of herself and him. If he had a job and a salary of $35k, that’s not a whole lot. They would have paid more than $35k if they hired a care taker for her.
You can work really hard for a store but that doesn't give you the right to take money out of the register.
@@elainenilsson5472 You clearly have never taken care of a parent with dementia.
Thieving brother should have asked before he stole the money.
@@mikebrownbassist802 Don't give someone the right to steal, no matter how difficult. Does he have the right to do other criminal activities?
No need to call ; you already know the answer lol 😂
No offense but if I had the choice of either not taking care of someone and then getting a house for free, or spending a year of my life slaving over that person and then not getting a house worth $300,000+ and then being called a thief for taking only $35k… gee idk 🤷
I’m guessing this is a situation where the attractive, taller son was given preferential treatment and a free house, and the mom made the sons she doesn’t respect take care of her for free, and then she leaves them with nothing. Even the son who didn’t steal, got nothing. Honestly, f*ck that mom. She ain’t a mom
@@charlesg7926 I’m probably going to choose the first too. I don’t like being used or abused by my own family for doing the right thing.
The Brother that was taking care of the mother should be paid just like a mother taking care of her child while the father is at work.. If he got a Job how much would you pay for a caretaker?... if he didn't work to take care of the parent who required 24 hr care than that should be compensated in this situation free rent wont be enough because hiring a caretaker is much more expensive. Often parents leave the property to the oldest child because its hard to put many people on the deed... What is the agreement that yall had for taking care of the parents? was there a will? This story has too many unanswered questions and makes little sense. Why did one kid who did not live at home get the whole property? and did the parent give the child taking care of her complete autonomy to spend her money how she deemed fit? This brother is not the victim he claims to be because he was not taking care of the parent, and yet gets the whole house for himself?
It’s interesting that he had access to the money . He should have been compensated . Care for people with that disease is EXPENSIVE
Caretaking is the worst job ever
Well, if he consulted everyone and everyone agreed with something then that ok. If he did it in secret then he's just a bum and a thief.
Too many questions were left unasked. Was the house paid off? What was the rest of the estate worth and who got what? What was fair compensation for the caretaking roll?
Exactly
Another call with horrible advice. Seems like there’s probably a lot more going on here!
Whoa whoa whoa, you think this is some kind of financial show? Take it easy with the financial questions
Not really. He inherited the house and all three men own the contents equally. So, he gets to decide what he wants to do with the house and whether he wants to give me a cut of the proceeds of the sale. The brother *did* steal because they didn't have an agreement to do anything with her money. Maybe all three would've agreed that he could be compensated, who knows? But you don't get to take her money because you took care of her.
The mother must've known her children for her to leave the bulk of her wealth to one child, don't you think?
He was taking care of her. It costs 10k-13k a MONTH if she was in a nursing home. That’s nothing. This caller hasn’t a clue and he got a house. Sorry. Not buying that he was a thief.
Amen!
now that i think of it, and thinking how they answered him, that sounds very plausable.
He didn't meet with his brothers about it, so he's a thief.
I agree
@@jimroscovius what did they do
I see $35k as fair compensation. 24 hour non stop care is worth more than that
What did the caller do to help? I wish Dave had been there
100%. This show is NOT the same without Dave and these two guys are seriously the worst co-hosts. They have no wisdom to through what callers are saying like Dave does. Especially John.
He wasn't working and was caring for his mom full-time - 35 thousand dollars is dirt cheap. How is that being a thief? I'd like to hear the other side of the story.
He had free rent and board . That covered caring for his mom .
@@leetheaarceneaux8151 free room and board goes a long way, but if caretaking keeps you from holding a job, that is a big price to pay. I think the brother deserved compensation but it should have been above board.
You don’t get to entitle yourself to someone else’s money. They had a choice or could say “hey, I’ll stay here and take care of you at charge.” But just taking it, isn’t ok.
@@leetheaarceneaux8151 NO! it does not cover the caring. The room and board is not compensation for 24/7 work shifts. it can be a perk but it is no where near compensation.And legally, if you tried that, it's called SLAVERY! and has been deemed as such in the courts.
If he was bathing her and wiping her…. You think he deserves nothing? In home care or a nursing home would take way more than 35K.
He probably owes his brother money.
Care costs = northwards of $7-10,000/month
We can't judge the middle brother without all the facts.
They are basically giving the middle brother the middle finger.
I can't believe how BAD this advice was. John was surprisingly aggressive...
The brother took care of the mom. The caller didn't say "He took 35k and spent it all on clothes and shoes". Sounds like even the caller knows that the brother really did take care of their mom. He was her caretaker, and caretaking is not an easy nor free endeavor. There's money for gas for a lot of appointments and diapers, and effort. So John wants him to call the POLICE on him? AND kick him out?? When he's unemployed due to medical complications.
Wow. Just wow. I hope the caller doesn't look at their advice as The Bible. They're just humans who don't always get it right. I hope he doesn't absolutely RUIN his relationship with his brother by calling the police on him and kicking him out. With the brothers inability to work, he may be sentencing him to an early death.
Yes... it seems that they are their for "the caller" and if the person said... my bro took $35K then this is what they go by... but I agree... this is SO WRONG.
very bad advice without the whole story.
Omg. How much is 6months care 24 x7 where mom lived?
*These are you brothers, don't listen to these teenage morons who take the WILL literally, your mum probably knew you have a good heart and that you will give them their fair share, the right time.* This show is getting worst, need an elderly experience to see issues from different angles
Then she should have set up a trust or at least told that to the caller before her death
@@glitterstarbeau lol she had dementia......you think she knew this was going to happen and just passed on it before the predetermined dementia date passed?
Well if he didn’t have a job and was doing all the care taking that’s fair. Care taking is very hard. & especially if the other siblings weren’t helping take care of the mother
Bingo !
Nope, don’t get to entitle yourself to money and just take it
Sounds like the brothers got their share from mom while she was alive - ie cash, free housing etc and this is why the son who was not living with mommy gets the house.
The brother should get 35k for having no life and unable to work because care taking is 247.
Right but discuss it, don’t steal it out of self entitlement
$35k plus board is lot cheaper than caretaking service
Sometimes I disagree a bit with the advice given in the videos, but I have to protest the complete lack of responsible handling of this caller's question. There are way too many unasked questions to label the carer brother a thief. What did he used the money for? How did he acquire the money? Was he signing her name on checks written to himself or was she signing her own checks and giving him the money? Who had Power-of-Attorney for her financial affairs? No one? Then the caller should be kicking himself about that if he really thought his brother was 'stealing'. The caller never claimed the brother was neglecting the mom, so I have to assume she received adequate care. The caller sat back and assumed everything was fine and now he wants to cry because he didn't take the time to check in with the other brothers? If it weren't for the carer brother taking care of the mom, she would have been in a nursing home and with no living spouse to occupy the house, the nursing home would have taken the house and any social security she was receiving. The caller should be thanking his brother for saving the family home and for giving his mom 24/7 care instead of whining about $35k.
Caller decided not to care for his mother when she was sick and just swoops in for the inheritance. The brother who cared for their mother deserves more. This call really annoyed me, how can he be such an entitled disgusting person.
I don't like these two. Iol, the caller or the non Dave dudes The brother helped the mother, avoiding nursing care costs. I know what it's like. And I know how siblings pretend it's nothing. The brother needs a lawyer
My aunt did the same thing. The caregiver feels “owed” the money. In my family’s case, they all agreed and did not pursue the matter.
That seems like a thing reasonable people would do.
No no no no no! If the brother who stole the money was taking care of his elderly mother with dementia let me tell you - I've been there. The other two brothers who were working full time had it easier than he did. Split the proceeds from the house three ways, and deduct 35K from the middle brother. He shouldered the lion's share of the care of your mother, allowing the other two brothers to go on with their lives.
These guys could be give very risky and bad advice if thete are mental health issues or possibly other issues involved with the brothers. I promise you from experience I've seen a situation like this go south...SOUTH south...so just be careful don't come in with an iron fist...come to a conclusion collectively. These guys maybe need to curtail their scope of financial advice...
Someone had to care for mom. Middle brother should have dropped mom off at your house then he could have got a job.
My little brother still lives at home at 38 and “takes care of the house “ while they go upstate to their other home. He doesn’t want to get a job and will do anything to avoid responsibility or spending money. There’s no reason they all couldn’t take care of their mother. Middle brother smells like a bum from here
@@TrollHunterxXx Too many times I see one sibling step up to be caregiver and all the other siblings go on about their lives and don't involve themselves. As long as they aren't inconvenienced, they don't concern themselves with how things are going. Then mom dies and the other siblings suddenly want to be all righteous about how things were handled while mom was alive. Hello? Where were they when the caregiver was making the hard decisions and they were off living their lives because someone else was handling it for them? Middle brother saved the family house. If middle brother didn't take care of mom, she would have been in a nursing home and the nursing home would have taken the house and her social security checks until she died. The caller should be thanking his middle brother for saving the family home that HE inherited instead of whining about $35k.
Dementia was really bad... this person needs 24/7 help which will cost well over $100k a year. The fact that the younger brother did this... and somehow $35K is missing (you don't even know if it was spent on her???). Really, I feel they owe this brother more money.
I personally HATE when parents do not split their assists equally among the children. This always causes issues... always.
Agreed, caller sounds incredibly entitled. He should have been more involved when his mother was sick. He should be thanking that brother for his hard work and giving him some of the inheritance.
@@littleripper312 I don't know about giving him any inheritance.... but I blame the mom not the brother. Mom should have split her assets between all children equally. But for the brother to go after his other brother about the 35K when his brother basically took care of his mom, this is wrong and the advice was bad.
@@johnSmith-uz8nl thier advice is almost always bad and always sides with greed.
Lol talk about jumping to conclusions. Bring Dave back. They completely ignored the fact the youngest brother was taking care of the mother.
Sorry to hear about his mom
They took care of her. Split the proceeds from the house between all brothers
He can’t give the brothers anything without incurring gift tax himself. Giving them money would be a gift from him, not an inheritance, because it’s not in the will. The mother had reasons for leaving the house only to him and he needn’t feel bad for following her orders. The brother who stole should be prosecuted and the money returned to the estate. The eldest brother has been subsidized too long, and as noted, didn’t stop the thieving middle child. We all know the money is gone. I’d consider it an inheritance taken early by the two of them and not feel bad. Everyone out.
Each person can give up to $11.58 M in their lifetime as a gift without any tax penalty.
Depends, it can be considered a solved dispute over inheritance, would not be a gift. Also depends if brother was a signer on the account. Neither brother was paying attention
None of the people involved here sound like they have enough going on to attract IRS attention
I’m always annoyed when the favorite child doesn’t have to live and take care of the parent but inherits. While the least favorite and less successful adult children ends up taking care of parent and everyone thinks they are just freeloading. Keeping a parent home instead of the nursing home should be looked at as a good thing.
And the one who takes care of the parent suffers from loss of income during their most productive periods, statistically speaking. So, it basically ensures poverty to the one who takes care of the parent.
WHY IS HE WORRIED ABOUT A 51 YEAR OLD MAN!!!!? UNBELIEVABLE!
Ummm I think it wasn't fair that one brother had to be a full-time caretaker. They owe him more than that. I don't agree with their answer.
He sounds like he's doing ok, I would leave the house to my brothers and call it that. No way am I selling the freaking house and putting them out on the street. That right there is selfish Regardless of what happened.
Agreed
Same.
There’s def more history on the brother …. I had an uncle before, out of work all the time, alcoholic, drug addict, pawned everything a few times, stole, lied …. This brother sounds just like him.
They all should have been contributing to her care. They all should have been checking in on her and verifying her well being. As something that Dave would say. It's all y'all's faults.
Exactly. Too many times I see one sibling step up to be caregiver and all the other siblings go on about their lives and don't involve themselves. As long as they aren't inconvenienced, they don't concern themselves with how things are going. Then mom dies and the other siblings suddenly want to be all righteous about how things were handled while mom was alive. Hello? Where were they when the caregiver was making the hard decisions and they were off living their lives because someone else was handling it for them.
True but that is discussed before, not after
@@AllynHin I'm guessing the two were more than happy to step up to the plate so long as they lived rent free
@@elainenilsson5472The reality is, neither Ken nor John asked the questions necessary to say whether or not the brother actually was a thief or whether the caller just went on with his life not wanting to be inconvenienced with mom's care and now he's butthurt that decisions where made without him because he was too busy to be bothered when mom was alive. On an aside note, let me assure you that the caregiver brother had a very hard job, both physically and emotionally, taking care of a parent with dementia. I speak from first-hand experience. Don't try to paint his situation as carefree living rent-free. It would be a LOT less stressful and a LOT easier to move out and go pay rent somewhere than do what he did taking care of mom.
The caller and these hosts, obviously do not know how hard it is to take care of someone with dementia......or a family member with dementia. If they did, they would be showing more gratitude and talking about giving the brother more, instead of taking away his home and putting him on the streets.
Police won't do anything unless you can say you have legal control of her finances.
Yeah, this was a line of advice. He took care of the mom. As far as I am concerned he deserves the 35k.
He had free room and board . That’s his cut for taking care of his mom
@@leetheaarceneaux8151 NO, healthcare for dementia patients cost 10k a month.
He was the caretaker and if he really took good care of her then I think he should have requested some income cause it’s hard to take care of someone with dementia. You guys as brothers should have discussed this during that time. He shouldn’t have stole the money but he should have spoken to you guys about his sacrifice. We don’t have his side of the story. He may be a loser but if he was the only one stepping up then he deserves something
He's a 50+ year old looser living with his mom thinking his time is worth 70k a year and didn't discuss this with his brothers. He knew what he was doing.
I'm SO sorry for your loss, caller. 😢
Yes the brother should be paid for taking care of his mother. There’s also something called lost opportunity costs involved in caregiving
List the house, if the brother wants it, they can try buy you out. Otherwise, sell it.
Also factor in, the brothers got free rent likely for years - a basic rate of 1k per month free and utilities per year. They got their inheritance in support.
The mom clearly knew this guy was the only one who could afford to pay the taxes and upkeep on the place - which is why he inherited it.
What was the % split of responsibility when she needed it?
The math starts there
Lots of unanswered and unasked questions. Did the mother have a Power of Attorney (POA) and who was it? Was the money gifted or given freely to the brother? Was the mother actually diagnosed with dementia or deemed incompetent and assigned a guardian?
I don't think there is a clear cut case for exploitation or forge & utter charge's without these questions being answered and determining if the money was spent on the mother's well being or solely on the brother.
The best plan of action (without knowing more information and specific details) would be to petition the court for a Summons For Unlawful Detainer against both of the other brothers and start the eviction process to have them removed from the home since you are the deeded owner at this point.
Unfortunately, the issue with the bank account is going to be up to local law enforcement and the local prosecutors office and, at this late point in the game, is probably not going to be able to be proven as a crime and would be considered a civil matter. This is based on the limited information from the phone call and could change if a POA or guardian was involved and how the money was spent.
The biggest part of this that I do not get, is the mother only leaving the house to one son, and the contents divided among them. What was the reason for that, was she of sound mind when she made that will, was it made a long time ago?
Although (roughly) $1,450 pw is a little steep price-wise for family caregiver, it is a lot cheaper than outside help coming in, or nursing home. So that middle brother is certainly owed 'something' for the care, and that should have be negotiated among you all. But that didn't happen, and clearly he set his own rate!
If the caller wants no guilt going forward, forget about the $35k, just split the house and contents three ways. That way you do not have to feel guilt about 'putting them out on the street'. Or, if they both want to live there forever, then the two of them pay you out the one-third of house (was that $140k?) then $46k gets paid to you by the two of them. There is just something very hinky about the mother leaving the house to only the one son.
One thing the video never made clear is who was to inherit the 35K in the bank account? Was it the guy calling in, or an even split between the brothers, or what?
The brother that take care mom’s should have everything.
My sister and I got 1/3 each of a house with the last third going to our often-unstable younger sister. WITH the caveat to don't let little sis become homeless. So little sis has the house as long as she maintains it and is a good neighbor.
Did they talk to him before? All kinds of assumptions,makes no sense.
This shouldn't even be a question. If it is that is concerning.
Its time to sit down and talk as a family. It would be best to sale the house and split it evenly and let it go. Please forgive your brothers and move on or it will fester, grow and split the family now and may for generations to come.
I would divide it evenly and be done with it. They would sue and ot not worth the heartache.
If I was the middle brother, I would be angry with Mom leaving house to younger brother; especially since the middle brother did all the heavy lifting taking care of Mom!!!! Care taking is hard work. If the middle brother got a job, who would take care of Mom! It would cost a heck of a lot more than $34K!!!
There are so many questions that needed to be asked here to better understand. How long did his middle brother live with mom? Did she fully finance him before her dementia took over? Did middle brother leave a job to take care of mom full-time? Did his life revolve around mom’s care? Because there is a reality that’s possible, where the two other brothers took middle brother for granted. I’m not assuming that the case, but it is possible. If middle brother was taking care of mom in an honorable way, WHY didn’t the other brothers bring up compensation or a plan? Yes, he sounds like a loser... but with more information he might not actually be the bad guy.
he was owed something for being there and not working but that should have been decided when he took the role.
Calling the law is a horrible idea that will cause Probs that will never go away handle it on your own DONT DEPEND ON THE LAW FOR NOTHING!!!!!!
Why would your mom chose you ? If she chose u she didn’t trust them she picked up on deception I bet
I'd like to hear both the other brothers side of the story before we pass such harsh judgment. Sure, not discussing it isn't right, but I don't think just throwing them out is right either. I think they need a mediator to help them negotiate. Maybe this guy has the right to the house, but just taking it doesn't make it right if you want to have a future relationship with your brothers. Family is important, make it right if you can.
You have to wonder if the caller is the unreasonable one whom the other two brothers were not able prior to have a rational discussion with. If they were taking care of mom, and the caller was just sponging off their efforts while refusing to agree to a reasonable level of compensation or even have the discussion... the actions of the other two brothers could be less unreasonable.
Take care of your brothers.
I am amazed at the number of people who justify stealing. I wonder what else they justify. I was primary care taker for my brother. I didn't charge him rent. I welcomed him to my home and took care of him. When I went to the grocery store I bought his groceries with his debit card and bought my groceries with my debit card. What is wrong with people?
He needs an Estate Attorney. They can go after the money.
To be fair, there are two sides to every story, how do we know that the mother didn't give her son money for taking care of her because he had to take care of her instead of work? I'm not saying stealing is right at all but how do we know that this man stole the money unless the mother said that?
Someone dying of dementia isn't in any sane position to act in their own best interests. In any other scenario she'd've been placed under guardianship. A moral person would have raised the matter to his brothers, and his hiding of the matter belies his complicity and, honestly, theft
With a mother having dementia there is only one side. Caretaker is honor bound to PROTECT his mother. Period. The disease makes the affected person incapable of making sound decisions.
Exactly: the caller is only telling his side. He used the word "stealing" to make it look more dramatic. At the end of the day, the middle brother, who had no income, cared for his severely ill mother. If the caller contributed money towards their mother's care, he would surely have mentioned it. Quite possibly, the middle brother had free access to his mother's money, and rightfully so, because medical care and daily expenses pileup easily. To me, it looks like the victim is the middle brother, and by no means the caller.
@@TS6815 If mom's dementia got that bad that she couldn't manage her own finances, the caller should have petitioned the court to grant PoA to him or one of the other brothers. He didn't do that. Too many times I see one sibling step up to be caregiver and all the other siblings go on about their lives and don't involve themselves. As long as they aren't inconvenienced, they don't concern themselves with how things are going. Then mom dies and the other siblings suddenly want to be all righteous about how things were handled while mom was alive. Hello? Where were they when the caregiver was making the hard decisions and they were off living their lives because someone else was handling it for them?
Sadly no one discussed the terms for the brothers living in mom’s house. Sounds like middle brother felt taken advantage of so he helped himself to all mom’s money. Communication is the best way to solve any situation so it doesn’t end messy. Good luck.
Imagine having your kids live with you bc of fear.
Who had control of the money?
The brother didn't take 290k. Why did he even call?
Echoing others, this was not a wise counseling segment: next time, ask more questions when given too few details before immediately escalating advice to ‘call the police’ or kick him out... time constraints aside, not Dr D’s best exercise in listening...
Justice?
Would the police really pursue a crime of theft when the victim is deceased?
Why would a parent favor one child? So unfortunate and unfair. I suggest they sell the house and divide the proceeds
Lots of reasons
Because sometimes one child gets their “Portion” through bad decisions.. so many Parents decide that its not fair to the others so they then make some decisions on how they want THEIR money/property to be disbursed.
Even though he took the $35k, pretty sure he used some that on the the mother, and technically that's what it would cost out of pocket if they had to hire someone full time to take care of her. This middle brother did ok for himself and the mother trusted him to do the right thing, and the right thing to do is sell the house and divide it equally, and DO NOT DEDUCT the $35K the son took, HE TOOK CARE OF MOM, that requires time and energy and nurturing spirit.
These two are full of it.
Dont just kick him out, kick em!
My take is that the 51 year old has some independent issues and I am wondering if the brothers could make an agreement or take him to a job finding place where he can find jobs that he will love
The brother probably knew the house was going to that brother and not him and he knew the end was coming soon so he took what he thought he was owed. 🤷♂️. I like that just give the other older brother 35k and then sell the house.
Why is it even a question?
Bad advice , wasn’t a free ride the brother looked after the mom , two sides of the coin always two stories
I watched this video yesterday, and am so disturbed by it, I had to come back and comment. I too, was a caretaker in dysfunctional family. Shame on this platform for taking the role of a flying monkey and adding to the caretakers pain.
I understand that they aren't working that's on them but offer to sell him the house minus what you would pay a realtor if they say no evict them and sell it
Way too much one sided "he said she said" here. Wills must be processed through the probate system where a judge will validate the will and then appoint an executor to oversee the dispersal of the estate per instructions in the valid will. The caller seems to be acting as the judge and executor, but who knows as no mention was made of any legal process at all. Until these questions are answered the Ramsey crew really can't advise him as the facts of the case are unknown. Wills and estates are a legal matter.
He get the cash you get the house
If these brothers act angry that he’s selling the house, my question is - what on earth was their plan when she passed away then? Live there forever for free??
EXACTLY!!!
These guys are heartless. No matter what the brother did, kicking him out with nowhere to go is not the solution. Yes, what the brother did was shameful, but throwing him out is even worse. The mother most likely left this son the house because she knew he would do the right thing. I doubt if she would approve of this. Never choose money over family. You will regret it.
Who Dey and we are sp glad that Mahomes had a terrible second half so that we could sneak in.
140k for a house that's all .
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Follow the rules of the Will, split the goods, sale the house and move on with your life.
In the Old Testament, the oldest brother gets a double portion compared to the others.
I don't know whether the caller is the oldest but it seems Mom thought he was the most responsible.
If the house is worth 140k, the caller gets 70k, the brother who didn't steal gets 35k, and the brother who stole 35k forfeits his 35k back to the brother who inherited the house.
@SlingsAxes the Bible also holds the oldest responsible for taking care of the parents that is what the extra is for but not if he has dumped mom on the second or third sons. My dad wanted to leave my con artist sister half of everything and she never there nor is she responsible with anything.
@@iamjustsaying4787 We are not in the OT
Of course
The clot shot strikes again
Guy in black is cringy.
your deadbeat of a brother who is 51 can go out and get himself a job I would sell that house definitely and it's all yours. You don't have to give either one of them money if your brother ends up on the street so what it was his choice we make choices every day and he can get out and get a job. He's able-bodied. It doesn't sound like he can't work from what you've said.
The bloke in the black Jacket is such a bell end.
I agree with the advice of david Ramsey 💯
Do not JUST kick him out. PROSECUTE for elder abuse, theft... anything else.
51 years old he better have an retirement fund stealing from his grandmother thinking no one would notice
His mother
Forget the money! Sell the house evict the bad brother. Give some start up money for the other brother.
The brother who was willed the house needs to go to the police and file against the middle brother.!! Period. He should not give a pass on the evil middle brother and give him more money??? NO!!
The brother that was willed the house needs to thank his middle brother for saving the family home instead of whining about $35k. If the middle brother wasn't the 24/7 caregiver, mom would have been put in a nursing home. The nursing home would have taken the house and her social security checks until she died. Instead of calling him a thief, the caller needs to thank him for saving HIS inheritance.
John was being way too nice to the criminal brother.
Agreed! Brother steals from their mother deserves to be kicked out without a dime! It was elder abuse, pure and simple--and abuse of his own mother, no less! Perhaps if he spent time on the streets it would teach him a lesson or two about about dishonesty and greed!