"the series is gonna be about GAY SEX and cool cars" Ah, so nothing will be changing. But seriously this is awesome, thanks for sharing and best of luck.
No one can deny the massive cahones it took Brian to post this heart to heart for the masses. Even when the road ahead remains mysterious you are living in your victory 15 years secured. Its a massive inspiration even if you didn’t feel it to be.
I agree. It saddens me when people don't want to live because of something that doesn't matter overall in society, no different to being nuerodivergant or short or tall, ultimately modern society gets over it and you just keep going.
As a gay man who's also sttruggled with self harm and suicidal ideation and also an automotive enthusiast and an aspiring custom auto technician, I always felt like a rare breed and didn't have a lot of other gay people to relate to with this interest or that there were many people in the car community. It even made me doubt my place in the automotive world and feel like a pariah. Mr. Regular, you coming out and being an out gay male voice in the automotive community means so much to me and males me feel like I'm not completely alone or shouldn't be in to cars. I love you and your videos. Thank you so much. You really inspire me and comfort me in cathartic sort of way.
i can sort of understand where you're coming from there. but for me personally i learned a long time ago that i'm a misanthrope. so not fitting in to a group that likes the same thing i like stopped bothering me once i realized i never wanted them to like me or accept me in the first place. I do it for myself and no one else. and sure that can be lonely sometimes. but i have made close friends over the years who wouldnt care one way or the other what i do in the bedroom.
I'm queer myself, as well as non binary, and I'm an aircraft mechanic. It's definitely lonely. I don't share it with anyone at work at all, because I know it's not particularly smart or safe. I share this hoping maybe it helps you feel a little less alone, less like an outcast.
@@Earnest_walkins You might be emotionally attracted to both women and men but only physically attracted to women. It takes some people a while to become comfortable with their sexuality or understand what they are. You're 100% entitled to your preferences though and should never feel pressured to try anything you don't want to but you should also be open to love from anywhere. As long you're completely comfortable with it, you consent, they consent and you are both adults. I identify as gay for now because it's the easiest, quickest and most convenient explanation for me but I've dated two women one of whom I deeply loved and lived with and for a while we even eventually had a 3 way polyamourous relationship with another man who came in to our relationship and all 3 of us loved each other and shared each other. I just happen to have male partner now who's also the first guy I've dated and I love him deeply. Whether it's because it's a man or because I like him as individual I'm really not sure. I just know I'm happy with him. I might be bisexual or pansexual but I don't know or really care. As long I'm dating a man though, gay or the all encompassing term queer works for me, I suppose. Labels are overrated. Love is love.
Even as a total stranger to you, I'm proud of you, Brian. I think I can safely speak for everyone in the comments when I say we're glad you're alive and sharing yourself through your creativity to the world.
People always scream parasocial relationship when talking about youtube channels, but I genuinely think that there's nothing wrong with being happy for someone despite not knowing them. It's not only good manners, it's the way you should be to people whether you know them or not
Even as a straight dude, this video resonates with me a bit. Relationships are weird; Love is weird. Even until now I'm still learning the ropes to everything, and not just keeping a relationship. Life is a weird little thing that plays with you like you're a Sims character. How I'm still here is a mystery. I'll be looking forward to this new series, Mr. R. Sometimes you'll learn more things from one gay guy compared to two straight men. Good luck with everything.
Doesn't matter what you like puttin your dick in dude, lot of us are emotionally stunted because we had different priorities when it came time for us to be learning the basics. Think of it like learning Math, if you skip over the basics you will ALWAYS fail trying the higher tier stuff
Dude, you are awesome. I have many straight male friends that are like you as well and it is so appreciated. We can all learn from each other. We are attracted to what we are attracted to, but the human experience is still the same no matter what.
This comment section shows that you and Roman have created an awesome community. I remember thinking in my teen years, "Car groups are all self-assured a-holes," but your channel has shown me otherwise. You have done well to grow this accepting community, and for that, I thank you. We're glad you're still here, Brian. I look forward to seeing your journey continue.
i stopped going to carr meets a decade ago solely because of the people. I still believe most car groups or even.. people who consider themselves car enthusiasts, are self assured a-holes. no explanation here for these people in this comments section. perhaps it's only the real lovers of the content that have stuck around. that said i do miss the old days of his sarcastic reviews. but i know you can keep that up for only so long before the well runs dry or you start re-using jokes.
I've been watching your videos for years. Somehow, never realized you were gay. The references to Angela White and cycling lead-heads through Browning Hi-Powers had me snowed. At first, I was, I dunno, offended? Not that you're gay, I'm cool with that, but with the fact that I didn't know, that it caught me off guard? Then I re-watched a bunch of your old videos, and noticed a line in your review of the 1956 Oldsmobile Super 88: "How long can you pass?" And Jesus Christ man, I just wanted to hug you and tell you I love you and I accept you and I want you to be happy. I hope you find a happy and healthy relationship with a good man. Keep teaching me about literary theory and keep getting things wrong about cars in your videos. I'll keep watching.
As a very "masc" and "redneck" gay man it is very difficult to accept myself sometimes. Learning to be myself is a struggle. Sometimes it's a struggle to fit in with other queer people because of my background and straight presentation. I completely understand the hardship Mr. Regular speaks of. And I can't wait to see what the future holds for him.
Yea. I don't look gay or talk with a queer affectation. I like V8 engines and classic American cars. Dream date is working on a 1963-whatever. then showering and cuddling
People and their expectations... - I really love it when people say: 'Well I don't give a sh*t what people think about me!' - and then, here I come along: I like V8 muscle, working on all sorts of man stuff and then on the other hand I'm all about polka dots and makeup, feminine, caring, loving, dealing with my emotions! - And all of a sudden they realize they've been hiding themselves just to please others.
I can agree. Grew up in rural pennsylvania as the next in line to a almost 300 year old farm and coming to realize I'm not straight, in my early 20's in scary as hell. I can't say I know the struggles anyone else faces but I can sympathize with Mr. Regular. We all have your back. We all have each others backs.
This made me tear up. In the last few years I’ve had a realization that I am not straight, and I’ve experienced some of the things you relate here. Brian, you set off my gaydar almost a decade ago, when I was struggling to keep myself inside. It’s been great to see you trickle in little in-jokes and winks towards the audience of closeted or formerly closeted car guys. It feels good to be seen, or at least represented, as I grew up in rural North Carolina, and had no respite as someone who wasn’t entirely straight. I was a teenager when I found your videos and I’m nearly 30 now. Thanks for being a part of my journey, and I’m happy to continue watching yours.
@@RegularCarsthank you for doing this and telling us about you. I had a feeling of this as well getting into your videos during Covid. I too was closeted and struggled with my sexuality. Being 45 now being married divorced and with kids grown felt it was time…
I'm so fucking glad you didn't pull that trigger. I found you two years before I came out as a trans woman. Your content was one of my rare comforts. It was a breath of fresh air and still continues to be. Thank you for being who you are.
this might sound silly but it was RCR that led me to get an NA MX-5, and as much as it's a stereotype, it rly helped me sort of, embrace my queerness in a shithole conservative town, It felt good to be in a tiny "gay" car in a town full of 900 million dualcab utes, thx brian
Listen, I am speaking this as a queer person. This shit is gonna be hard as fuck. Coming out is really damn hard but you did the the biggest step. Now it’s going to be figuring you out. You are learning about yourself. Be kind to yourself and don’t rush. Take your time. Mistakes will be made and lessons and will be learned but you are still here. Keep pushing because there are a bunch of us that are happy you are still here. You have come a long way from 2007. I’m looking forward to this series and honestly it’s nice seeing another LGBTQ+ making car content. I’m a car person but I’m a casual. I know enough to hold a conversation. When I was first getting into cars and learning your TH-cam was the first car TH-cam channel I watched very time a new video would come up. I am still watching obviously. I’m glad you’re still here. Your brain is being mean. Please be kind to yourself.
@@RegularCars just remember - there are more gay masc men than you think they are. Society has created this image that all gay men are effeminate and talk with an afflection. This is not true. Those are only the people you can see, because its obvious. When I say I'm married to a man, even here in liberal and open Sweden, i always get the same response: a laugh, and then "wait you are serious? You dont seem gay". Because even here, straight people (and many of the gay/queer) have preconceived notions about how i "should" act. Finding your way is difficult. But keep going at it, because the only sure fire way for nothing to change, is to stop trying. Im really proud of you for making this video!
“ your brain is being mean, be kind to yourself”… what you just wrote was magic. I think I will be reminding myself about this the rest of my life. Thanks
@@RegularCarsyou are great. I’ve been binge watching your channel. I’m a teacher and you’re an inspiration to make sure I treat my gay students well. I already try as I had a few come out to me last year and I was honored. Your voice will be the one I hear to make sure they are not being treated badly. You’re truly making a difference.
"How do I accept love that isn't tied to a transaction?" Damn, that's the most profound thought I'll encounter all year. I have no answer but I suspect at the end of the day all love is tied to a transaction. Truly loving someone is a deeper, more spiritual version of "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." You have to lay out all your vulnerabilities to the other person and they to you. You let them see the weaknesses you won't show anyone else. It only works if it's mutual but you'll know early on if it isn't. It takes courage to put yourself in that position. The kind of courage it takes to tell a sea of fans you've never met the thoughts and feelings you expressed in this video. Please keep sharing.
I'm proud of you and scrolling through the comments it's clear the community is too. I can imagine making this video was exceptionally difficult too. I'm also glad you're still here with us.
damn, i came into this expecting the usual edgy humor but this went deep, and a little dark. Sorry to hear its been so rough for you. For the last few years ive been following RCR, I thought your sexuality was an open secret that you just didnt feel like focusing on, and not something you were actively fighting. So im glad youre making your way through it. The older i get, the more i realise theres no magical age where everyone has their shit all together and figured out. Im straight but also emotionally/relationship stunted so i know how that part feels at least, no idea how to date in this world.
We're proud of you Brian. Coming out isn't easy, living once out can't be much easier. You've built a community, you've got a great personality, and you're as down to earth 'yourself' as they come. There's so much you've accomplished and should be proud of, and so much more to come. Every day is a victory over that day in 2007, and keep building on it. You're loved by SO many people, and that someone who loves you just that bit more is out there. Stay epic, and always be yourself. Forgive me as English is not my first language, so if my grammar/syntax is off please ignore! x
Hang in there regular. I’m not gay but I definitely empathize with the loneliness you’ve experienced, I remember when you came out and older videos like the Oldsmobile Rocket 88 episode made a lot more sense. I definitely think you’re an inspiration and can realize your own thoughts and express them vocally like few others in a strange and beautiful way. The world needs more people like you, shine on you crazy diamond
Thank you SO, SO much for this. Thank you for being you. I have watched every single one of your videos, ever since you first started out, and I was living in State College and laughing at the Sheetz jokes. I am trans. I came out as a trans woman in the fall of 2020. The stress of the pandemic wouldn't let me continue to run the virtual machine of "man" any more. Now I'm learning how to date again, I'm scared, and I'm learning that I'm not straight or gay. I have no idea what I am, what my sexuality is. So, thank you for being open and honest. I've tried to be open and honest about these things, too, in a world that still hates me a lot of the time. Hugs, Mr. Regular. 💜
Describing presenting as a man as "running the man virtual machine" is genius, I just wanted to say. Good luck. Being queer is so much harder than it needs to be, but you deserve your happiness.
Dude, you’re one of the strongest and most incredible creators on TH-cam right now. You survived the lowest point any person can reach, and now you’re here sharing your current challenges to an audience that loves your work. Stand proud, you’re incredible, and we’re here for you in whatever form you take or on whatever path you follow
Another PA-dwelling, coming-to-terms-with-himself-a-bit-later (I’m 29, but still) gay car nerd here. This video resonates in my soul. The car scene can be super intimidating for LGBTQ+ people, and so can PA. I can’t even imagine how hard it must be to be a popular content creator and have the balls to put yourself out there like this. It’s a huge step, and I think a very productive one. Take care of yourself Brian, I wish you all the best as you continue your journey, and I hope you find happiness and comfort in being your authentic self. Much love
As a car nerd and a bi guy, thank you for all you do. I don't know what the future holds for you, but I really hope you meet Mr. Right. In a way, you coming out helped me, in a small way, to accept myself. I'm rooting for you.
never thought I’d straight up cry to a regular and roman video but there’s a first time for everything. words can’t really explain how glad I am that you’re still with us today, and it’s truly amazing that you have the guts to put this video out here. through all the hard times and short-lived relationships, one of the only constants in my life was knowing a new rcr would come out on monday and that any video you’ve uploaded would make my day that much more bearable. from one gay guy trying to figure this all out to another, thank you.
He dropped a very subtle hint prior in an old video calling himself "A fairy English major" and I appreciated how candid he was along with, of course, his humor. Thank you Brian. Good luck finding whatever it is you may be seeking.
I think he also briefly mentioned it in the studebaker review. Jokingly saying "i can say these things, i'm gay". Only know this because ive been rewatching the backlog of content.
@@jeraldjoyce2995 also there was that time he made a bad dragon reference in the miata review and all the gay jokes that weren't trashy in the way that only a gay joke told by a gay person can be and also his secret furry account
@@thegenericguy8309 I didn't know about the hidden furry account, but that does explain why reviews around 2016 mention Undertale a LOT. I think he even commissioned a piece or two of NITW fanart for use in videos
I feel for you, Brian. It’s generally pretty terrible for people mentally when they’re never able to fulfill the essential human need for intimacy with a mate/partner. Hope you stay strong, and better late that never.
I'm your same age, and came out at 40 as well. I totally feel you and understand what it is for guys like us who grew up in the 80's and 90's. It's difficult to put in words, but for whoever lived the same life as us, know what it is.
I’m straight, so I’m not even going to pretend I know what you’re going through. But, I’ll handle this as if one of my friends came out, and that’s basically saying…cool, you are who you are. And then probably some sarcastic stereotype joke about asking for fashion advice, which given my personality, is the ultimate sign of acceptance. I’ll do what I can….and that’s continuing to watch RCR and recommend it to anyone that enjoys this brand of humor. Keep doing what you do.
As someone that has also struggled with depression and thoughts of self harm, I want to say I’m happy that you are still here and making videos that I……and a TON of people look forward to….and we want you to keep making them for many years to come! Stay strong brother and we definitely support and care about you! Oh and high school means nothing in the scheme of things…and the horrible things people say at that age. I have blocked that time of my life out…
I have been listening to my husband watch your car reviews for years now. I have always loved your humor and your way with words. I am a therapist who grew up not far from where you are from and I am so proud of you for talking about this and for staying alive. You are helping more people then you even know to be their authentic selves. Thank you for making this video. You brought me and my husband to tears!
I stumbled across RCR in October 2020, during my senior year of High School. In July 2021 I came out as transgender (mtf). For 18 years and 3 or 4 relationships I felt as connected to myself as you do to a character you play in a video game. It takes time to realize who you really are, so thank you, Mr. Regular, for not pulling that trigger. I was in a similar situation years ago and when you're in that mindset, you don't see what you can be capable of. Thank you for being the weirdest, funniest, and deepest car channel
I'm so incredibly proud of you. I remember struggling with my bisexuality in the 90's back when it "didn't exist". We all have such unique journeys of self-discovery, even when it involves being dragged kicking and screaming. You're amazing and I look forward to the series. 💖
I listen to your videos a lot while driving to work and i didn’t expect to be sobbing while driving today. I’m glad you’re still here with us. The world needs more people like you.
Thank you Brian for posting this. It took me until my late-20's to truly accept myself and who I was and 10 years later if I hadn't I probably wouldn't be here. Now I'm married to someone who truly loves me and the burden of pretending to be something I'm not is gone and I can't imaging going back to being that unhappy every single day. It's not an easy journey but you have a community that supports you and wants to see you happy 🌈
As someone who’s about to turn 21, I’m realizing adults don’t know as much as I thought before college. Everyone’s writing out their story as they go, you are beginning a new chapter in your book. I’m proud that you are out here and around for us as we are for you Mr. Brown.
@@conorallen100 - I misspoke, a wedding is by far the biggest waste of money. A 4 hour party that costs $20k+. My side hustle exterminator business paid for that car, and my house…. 🤫 #DaveRamsey
@@ProSurviver - ohh I did, flunked out my first Semester at a 4 year school. Apparently you’re supposed to attend class and complete assignments and not get drunk 7 days a week 😆 Went to Community College and finished with a solid 3.0. Then 2 more years for a Bachelor’s. Still drunk 7 days a week just made it to class for nearly perfect attendance.
Hugs dude. Your fans love you. Thank you for being here. I share your channel with whoever I can. As a fellow Pennsylvanian, I feel your pain. Thank you for being you, that's all I have to say.
When i found your second channel today and was scrolling through it i wasn't expecting this video. Many car TH-camrs i follow, if not obviously anti gay, give me no reason to suspect otherwise, from chicago to carolina So as a transwoman becoming interested in car history and the diversity of cars, it often feels like im looking through a window instead of an open door. So thank you for this, both for showing car culture is diverse, and for the courage to put this out in the first place
I came to this video and your channel through a Facebook group for car loving men who love men. In 2007, I wasn’t suicidal, but I felt like I couldn’t live. I applaud you for finding yourself enough to figure out who you are, and figure out how to live. Having been out for 16 years, it sounds trite, but I’ll tell you: it really does get better. Welcome to the club; we’re happy to have you.
As someone who’s bisexual and just turned 20 but never has been in a relationship before I understand the mystery surrounding relationships. I have ASD so it’s a mystery how to successfully interact with people and even more so trying to date. Anytime I do I always risk weirding people out without realizing it. Good luck finding happiness and I love your content so much. It’s helped me get into cars quite a lot
On the other hand despite the over explanation, you used commas and full stops. As someone who is also neurodivergant, I think opposite sex relationships are harder to meeting people because of the differing social rules between men and women, at least in my understanding and study of this stuff in trying to improve myself.
As someone who's almost 30 and has ASD as well it may seem like a challenge to date but every now and again, try to put yourself out there. Even if every interaction doesn't work, try to get a lesson out of it and keep improving. don't give up
I'm Bi, came out as gay at 17 and then bi at 29. All that to say, it is totally fine to not quite know who you are yet, and you can change your mind if you want, its no-one's business but your own and any labels applied are for your own benefit, not anyone elses. My only relationship advice regardless if dating man or woman - TALK to each other. Honestly, be sincere with yourself and them about your feelings. Just talk it through.
What your experiencing and thinking is similar for me. Im 19 and i do have thoughts sometimes of coming out. I have troubled luck finding and maintaining a date with a girl. Usually either rejection or it goes well for a few days until something fucks up. My life thankfully has been improving since but sometimes its hard to come by thoughts
That was heavy. I wonder how many times this video has been recorded and deleted, or the words read and put away. Happy you're doing better than those dark days. The world is a brighter place with you in, from what you could believe is just an AI typing in the comments, stay safe, be you, I hope you find what you're looking for.
Learning to be gay and coming out are life long experiences. There will be ups and downs. Things are never as bad as they may seem. Be gentle and kind to yourself.
proud of you dude. being a tennessee boy it took me a long time to figure out how to be myself. for me the internal hatred was the hardest aspect to get through. but now im married to a wonderful man and have never been happier. looking forward to the new series. always rooting for ya bud
You have been a big part of my teenagehood growing up. For the better half of 5 years I’ve been through a lot and seen a lot and my humour is closely tied with the channel; voices, metaphors, witty lines and all. Thank you all for the down to earth videos we’ve grown used to, I am really ridiculously excited for the australian cars!!!
I'm so glad you're here with us, Brian. For several years, I have enjoyed coming along for yours and Nick's journey. You have helped me get through my depression. Thank you. Keep doing what you do.
You dropped this, king: 👑 Thanks for being your authentic self and for finding the strength to pull through. I’m excited to see the future of this channel and where you decide to take it.
I wasn't going to comment anything. Just want to say, thank you. Thank you for sharing this valuable and private part of your life with us. Me being a Bissexual teenager that suffered a bit with prejudice at home but was engulfed with love by friends and distant relatives can only imagine what you suffered your whole life because of this battle against yourself, against your sexuality. But something I do know about, is how a few months back I was more ready to die than to accept who I am and the problems that I have. Thanks for everything, my dude.
Ive been a subscriber to your channel for two or three years. I love your car reviews and how they are as intellegent as they are quirky. But, god fucking damn this is the best video you've put out. I am so sorry I am watching this 5 months after your posted it. I felt more in these 6 minutes of listening to you, than I have watching most movies, or reading most books. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Brian. It means the world to me that you've decided to share this. I hope that on your journey forward you embrace all to come with open arms and an open heart.
Can't quite find the right words to elaborate the point, but I wanted to let you know that it takes major guts to accept yourself and learn how to be "YOU". I'm happy for you, and I hope you're able to find what you're seeking. You're a good man, Brian.
Accepting our faults and addressing them is way harder than just saying oh yeah they're there Introspection is both the easiest and hardest thing we will ever do in life
As a bisexual guy, it really makes me feel less alone to see people like you being out and living life the way you want to live it. I really appreciate what you do. And I'm really looking forward to this series, Brian. Stay strong.
Wanted to say thank you for sharing this. I recently turned 20, and have realized over the course of a year or so that my childhood, household, just growing up in general, haven't been normal (for lack of better words). It feels like being thrown into the deep end, being exposed to queer culture, finding similar people like myself, and regretting that I only found out and started making changes until I did. At around 12-13, I started getting into cars and motorcycles, and started watching RCR around that time as well. It was the first time I felt like I found something or some persons that I related to. Being able to be yourself, to be weird, and to share that with other people without being shut down immediately. It was my little escape from reality so to speak. I'm glad you guys have stuck around, that you still make wonderful content, and don't compromise yourselves for the sake of others. I'm lucky enough to be in a position to start making changes in my life, and I'm glad you are as well. If it wasn't for cars and this wonderful community, truthfully, I wouldn't be here, so thank you.
This video gave me pause for thought about my own transition. I've been on hormones for about four years now, my breasts are still growing and my skin is soft and smooth. But I never really left boy mode, never bought feminine clothes and never learned how to wear makeup because i'm stuck in a home and a region where doing any of that could be fatal for me. This past week I've been feeling hopeless, angry and scared about stagnating in an environment where I have to pretend I'm not what I really am. Knowing that you've had similar (not the same, but similar) thoughts about your sexuality, and hearing about thoughts I hadn't truly felt before like the feeling of being on Bonus Time, it's made me realize that my home life is doing more harm than good to me. I need to change something about it. I don't know how, but I have to because I deserve to give myself a reason to live other than being scared that dying might hurt. Thank you for this video. This helped a tremendous amount on a scale that can't be measured.
@@thatgirleden for what it's worth, feminizing hormones haven't made any significant changes that can easily be noticed by people. my face is also fairly masculine - it's a source of dysphoria for me, but it also allows me to boymode 24/7 while having taken hormones for four years. that being said, do what you feel is best for you; if you're safer waiting until you're out on your own to get hormones, then that's the best decision for you. just know that as hard as things got, and as hard as things will get, the reward of being surrounded by the people you love will make really feel like it's worth living again.
As a Washingtonian, welcome! And on a side note. As a teen I struggled to understand if I was even right to feel like I wasn’t attracted to just women, and now, at almost 30, I’ve admitted to myself that I am trans. I realize you probably won’t read this, but just know that even though we all struggle differently, you aren’t alone in feeling hate/confused/angry at yourself. You can’t get that wasted time back, but you can make up for it with what you have left. That goes for any of us. If your going to die, don’t let yourself only feel regret.
Glad you're still with us Brian, and glad you're figuring out who you are. Life isn't a race, and we all take different paths at different paces. I hope you find love, acceptance, and your identity. We're all proud of you and what you've accomplished.
Thanks for this video Brian. I can relate to some of this. For the longest time, I haven’t been able to accept my sexuality. I tried making it “just a phase”, I tried letting this be a chapter in my life I’d look back to at some point from the driver seat of my family hauler. I’ve been passing, or desperately trying to pass, for 10 years dating women I really wasn’t interested in trying to convince myself of the contrary. I’m just now getting to the point, at 25 years of age, where I can cope with the reality that this man in the minivan won’t ever be me. I’m starting to be open about it on the internet, but I’m not ready yet to let my family in on this secret. Maybe given time, ill be able to do it. Thanks for making your journey public. Rock on, King
As a 40 yo from the same generation as you and also gay and also into cars, I just want to wish you the best in your journey of self discovery. I’ve casually followed your channel over the years and enjoyed the dark humor your inject into your commentary on your videos. I’ll have to go back and rewatch all of them now… with this new revelation it kind of makes sense now. Anyway, so glad you came around to doing this for yourself and the new found freedom you will experience getting it off your chest. Enjoy each day like it’s a bonus lap. Cheers.
I'm also 41 & grew up in a very conservative environment in the far North suburbs of Chicago. I dealt with a lot of the same things that you did but I had the good fortune to be able to move into the city and away from a lot of that years ago. Looking back on it It's strange to me that while I was growing up it was drilled into all of our heads that cities were dangerous horrible places filled with strange people that you just don't move to. My actual experience was meeting people that were either much more accepting or, at least, legitimately didn't care ... Meanwhile I've had family from back home commenting on a Facebook post that I was shoving being gay down their throat because that post included a mention of a same sex significant other. Those same people also proclaim that they love freedom. I may have moved to where the strange people are ... But I left quite a few strange people behind
I used to think I was straight for the longest time. But then I met a guy who, while we were originally just friends, we got closer to the point of being in a relationship. A very happy one, I might add. He helped me realize that regardless of someone's gender, if you love them and are happy with them, that's what matters.
It is a journey. It takes some people longer than others to love and accept yourself. Growing up in Louisiana in the 80's, I was not really masculine, knew I was "different". Got bullied, attacked, called names, chased, even from some extended family. I'm pretty sure I cried a river of tears in my adolescence. All of that trauma caused me to shut myself off, until my late 20's, then I came out. At the age of 50 now, been with an amazing man for 20 years, financially successful, wonderful career, and absolutely love the person I am today. Point of that, IT TAKES TIME! Big Hugs to you
Though it might not mean much, I’m proud of you. Months ago now, I told some of my story to you-not realizing it might’ve been a bit much-but I felt comfortable telling you, I guess now I know why. I felt compelled to write this since I relate with a lot of what you said; especially about the dark moments-I’m lucky the hammer never fell too. You have a lot of internal strength to come out with that heart on your sleeve and tell the world; you are living proof and an inspiration to those whom are undoubtedly in similar internal battles. You’re proof that things get better-never fast enough-but they do. Don’t ever stop being who you are, not for anyone or anything.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm glad you're still here. From the outside looking in as a gay man myself, I would have never guessed this was as much of a struggle for you as it has been. From the time I started watching your vids 10 years ago, I didn't think you were closeted, but rather it was just something that hadn't come up, since the channel was about cars. A sort of, "By the way gay" where it was something I thought was known, but not really spoken about since it hadn't been explicitly asked about. It goes to show the sheer amount of internal struggle someone can have without it showing as much to the outsider. Thank you again for this vulnerability you've shown us. I wish you the best in your journey of discovery and adventure, wherever that takes you.
Can't wait to see the next chapter to your channel. Good luck with your new beginnings. Hearing you talk about 2007 reminded me of my similar battles, your honest words are poetry to those who questions themselves Can't wait to hear more
Maybe this is weird but I've always felt oddly guilty for not being suicidal enough because I have massive deathfobia, for which I am now weirdly grateful because life has kinda been pretty good for me lately. Emotions are woof
Wow… ! This is powerful. Thanks for sharing! Bud, I came out in my early to mid 30s right before the pandemic started. I still enjoy watching car reviews randomly and am much happier not being embarrassed of who I am. Honestly, some of the best moments in the last few years have been hanging out with my boyfriend and appreciating cool cars or going on road trips.
Hey Brian, I just wanted to say welcome to the club. We're all really glad you're still here! I'm a couple of years younger than you, and came out at 24. In my experience, it was a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. My life started getting better immediately. I hope yours does too. I think it will. You're a LOT better looking than I am, so that's one giant hurdle you won't have to deal with, lol. I'm from small town Upstate New York, and lived most of my life being one of only a handful of faces on the grindr grid, and it's definitely tough. I only recently decided to strike out to gayer pastures, and am typing this from the couch next to my outrageously handsome boyfriend of 7 months. So I guess it's never too late. You'll find your way. If you and your Big Gay Galaxie (great choice, by the way) find yourself in the Minneapolis area, I've got a very gray and very boring Honda Ridgeline, and a slightly less gray and less boring Mercedes C43 you're welcome to roast. Brunch is on me!
You’re going to be much happier as you feel more comfortable being more open with anyone. I’m from Indiana and have felt similar rural struggles of where it’s not normal to be gay. Luckily 15 years ago and now are very different times to be gay, especially where we are from. I hope you are able to navigate through this to what you are looking for. I have learned to not let peer pressure make you do things you don’t want to do. Even if it’s one on one, you have to know the value of your opinion. I’m learning lately that people knowing I’m gay in an honest and casual way builds trust and better friendships, even if they’re strangers. I can guarantee my support and please be safe on your journey!
I’m struggling to come up with words for response to a video that took some serious nuts to post. We’re all proud of you, Brian. We love you and we love everything you do. And I know in past videos and podcasts you’ve said that you were worried that people only want Mr. Regular, but that’s not true. We wanna see Brian happy and thriving. Take care, man ❤ P. S. Looking forward to more Sister Carrie :)
Nothing but love and support from everyone here! I'm glad you're still here, and glad you use the platform to represent for everyone who is considered "weird" by society, whether it's our sense of humor, tastes, or sexual orientations. This channel feels like a place for us all to gather and realize we're not alone, we're not weird, it's society that's weird, and we don't have to change ourselves to fit in or feel like we have to hide because others don't understand.
Seeing this makes me feel so valid being sexually confused at 27. I really needed this today. You are a so strong and brave. Thank you. SOOO much. I can't wait for the new content
I think I speak for everyone who’s watched your videos when I say with all the laughter you’ve brought us, we’re glad you can finally find happiness in who you truly are. You rock Brian.
Damn man, I sincerely hope that you can find happiness in whatever shape you find it. Everyone is on their own journey, and those who tell you how your journey should go should fuck off. Keep on keeping on, your content is great, and you personally deserve happiness!
We love you Brian. We are so thankful for you and the Roman. Thank you for all the laughs and for being so open with us. We are so glad you are here and the world gets the gift of you Be well and keep on keepin on
All I can say is I see you, I hear you, and I always look forward to hearing your voice and watching your videos. I'm just very glad you're still with us. Thanks for sharing and thanks for everything you do. I'm proud of you. Keep going, You're doing great.
You're finding the man you are while finding the man you want to love. I hope you find him soon. I'm glad you're here now, that you were strong enough to get here, and that you see yourself and you are being yourself. You've got so much support behind you.
This is a huge moment. Congrats on being yourself on a public stage. The more of us who are unashamedly ourselves, the more normal and un-scary it will be for others. Well done! -some other gay guy who likes motorcycle and cars
Proud of you brother, this takes a lot of heart to make into a video. even to me as a garden variety cishet nerd I'm really happy you have this space and trust us to put out this vulnerability. Thanks so much- can't wait to see the next parts of the series.
Dear Brian, I'm proud of you, it's a really hard battle, you've been really strong. You're gonna find that special person because you have a lot of things that makes you unique. You're smart. Kind. You reinvented the concept of car reviewing. You are achieving your goals. You are attractive and handsome and you have really nice taste. There is someone out there with anxiety and thinking he is waay out off your league but eventually he'll meet you, you're gonna get chemistry and a nice match, meeting that special person on your life takes a lot of time to happen, I'm 27, single, and I'm recently accepting myself and who I am, I grew up in Latin America where if you don't like soccer then you play with dolls with the other girls, I met the right people in the furry fandom and I learned to be myself, the high school struggle, the impunity and silence from the teachers, one time I got molested by another classmate and I never told that to my dad because one time when I told him I was being bullied he told me I was being a Q word in the most derogatory way, and when I came out of the closet I told him "I got molested in high school by a classmate and I was afraid to tell you because you might have ended up telling me it might have been my own fault." I made my old man cry but I had a reason and he ended up trying to accept who I am, you are way older than me and I think I got it easy on my teen years and half of my 20s. Keep it up Brian, you're a winner, life wanted you to be it's B-word but now you are bending over life on itself and you are now a star, you are aware of who you are and I'm sure you're gonna hit the million subscribers and yet still, you always have been humble, when your Echo got totalled, you got Silicon Sally, nothing fancy, then the Forester, and then the 4Runner, the Niro, you deserve it, you deserve hanging out with your friends, you deserve everything, you have great writing skills, last couple of weeks I listened to Walt Wittman's Song Of Myself on audiobook since I work driving a cab, now with technology and some cars being art and others being home appliances you take your reviews into an analysis of the first owners, the driving experience and all those hours of staying up late, editing, coping with anxiety, struggling with yourself and all your savings, finally everything is paying off. You deserve everything and I'm really proud of you and I'm waiting to the end of the month to get my paycheck so I can finally donate an amount I can pay, because every single shift I worked I felt in company listening to your podcasts, POVs, reviews and made me cheer up during my lonely nights waiting for the dispatcher to send me a service. Keep it up, you're amazing. Regards Thomas Rizz.
It’s stuff like this that made me a fan so many years ago, because behind all the poop and dick jokes there is thought, whimsy, and somebody who is able to convey a feeling on a different level than most other people in Automotive media. Hearing you at 40 are still figuring out who you are is extremely helpful to me at nearly 25 years old thinking I should have it figured out by now. I’m glad you made it through one of your darkest hours Mr.Regular.
I'll be 38 this year and have no idea who I am. All I know is life is yours to live so have fun with it. Don't do something to impress other people, do it to impress yourself.
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This makes so much sense. Only a gay man could be this fucking funny.
He's not funny at all, he's a complete wreck😂
As someone with gay people In my family this comment could not be more true, all the gay people in my family are also the funniest.
"the series is gonna be about GAY SEX and cool cars"
Ah, so nothing will be changing.
But seriously this is awesome, thanks for sharing and best of luck.
No one can deny the massive cahones it took Brian to post this heart to heart for the masses. Even when the road ahead remains mysterious you are living in your victory 15 years secured. Its a massive inspiration even if you didn’t feel it to be.
I agree. It saddens me when people don't want to live because of something that doesn't matter overall in society, no different to being nuerodivergant or short or tall, ultimately modern society gets over it and you just keep going.
It takes massive cojones to admit you're a fudge packer?
It takes more cahones to fight the urge of homosexuality and live in chastity
@@losrevolucionarios8858 exactly
@@ham5483 based
As a gay man who's also sttruggled with self harm and suicidal ideation and also an automotive enthusiast and an aspiring custom auto technician, I always felt like a rare breed and didn't have a lot of other gay people to relate to with this interest or that there were many people in the car community. It even made me doubt my place in the automotive world and feel like a pariah. Mr. Regular, you coming out and being an out gay male voice in the automotive community means so much to me and males me feel like I'm not completely alone or shouldn't be in to cars. I love you and your videos. Thank you so much. You really inspire me and comfort me in cathartic sort of way.
i can sort of understand where you're coming from there. but for me personally i learned a long time ago that i'm a misanthrope. so not fitting in to a group that likes the same thing i like stopped bothering me once i realized i never wanted them to like me or accept me in the first place. I do it for myself and no one else. and sure that can be lonely sometimes. but i have made close friends over the years who wouldnt care one way or the other what i do in the bedroom.
@@neverknowsbest4994 I'm misanthropic too. Lol
@@Earnest_walkins i'm the opposite, sex is cool. its being romantic and shit with a guy that i find strange. but comes naturally with women
I'm queer myself, as well as non binary, and I'm an aircraft mechanic. It's definitely lonely. I don't share it with anyone at work at all, because I know it's not particularly smart or safe. I share this hoping maybe it helps you feel a little less alone, less like an outcast.
@@Earnest_walkins You might be emotionally attracted to both women and men but only physically attracted to women. It takes some people a while to become comfortable with their sexuality or understand what they are. You're 100% entitled to your preferences though and should never feel pressured to try anything you don't want to but you should also be open to love from anywhere. As long you're completely comfortable with it, you consent, they consent and you are both adults. I identify as gay for now because it's the easiest, quickest and most convenient explanation for me but I've dated two women one of whom I deeply loved and lived with and for a while we even eventually had a 3 way polyamourous relationship with another man who came in to our relationship and all 3 of us loved each other and shared each other. I just happen to have male partner now who's also the first guy I've dated and I love him deeply. Whether it's because it's a man or because I like him as individual I'm really not sure. I just know I'm happy with him. I might be bisexual or pansexual but I don't know or really care. As long I'm dating a man though, gay or the all encompassing term queer works for me, I suppose. Labels are overrated. Love is love.
Even as a total stranger to you, I'm proud of you, Brian. I think I can safely speak for everyone in the comments when I say we're glad you're alive and sharing yourself through your creativity to the world.
I agree with this comment
Thanks!
I also agree with this comment.
People always scream parasocial relationship when talking about youtube channels, but I genuinely think that there's nothing wrong with being happy for someone despite not knowing them. It's not only good manners, it's the way you should be to people whether you know them or not
HERE HERE!
Even as a straight dude, this video resonates with me a bit. Relationships are weird; Love is weird. Even until now I'm still learning the ropes to everything, and not just keeping a relationship. Life is a weird little thing that plays with you like you're a Sims character. How I'm still here is a mystery.
I'll be looking forward to this new series, Mr. R. Sometimes you'll learn more things from one gay guy compared to two straight men. Good luck with everything.
Doesn't matter what you like puttin your dick in dude, lot of us are emotionally stunted because we had different priorities when it came time for us to be learning the basics.
Think of it like learning Math, if you skip over the basics you will ALWAYS fail trying the higher tier stuff
@@victorkreig6089 Yeah, that's a fair analogy. And I'm _SHIT_ at math.
I guess we're all in this together.
@@RonanNotRyan metaphorically yeah, I dont do orgies
Dude, you are awesome. I have many straight male friends that are like you as well and it is so appreciated. We can all learn from each other. We are attracted to what we are attracted to, but the human experience is still the same no matter what.
Check out Coach Corey Wayne here on YT. His older videos not his weird new content
The Fredrick Knudsen cameo was the wildest part of this video.
This comment section shows that you and Roman have created an awesome community. I remember thinking in my teen years, "Car groups are all self-assured a-holes," but your channel has shown me otherwise. You have done well to grow this accepting community, and for that, I thank you. We're glad you're still here, Brian. I look forward to seeing your journey continue.
So fucking true.
i stopped going to carr meets a decade ago solely because of the people. I still believe most car groups or even.. people who consider themselves car enthusiasts, are self assured a-holes.
no explanation here for these people in this comments section. perhaps it's only the real lovers of the content that have stuck around.
that said i do miss the old days of his sarcastic reviews. but i know you can keep that up for only so long before the well runs dry or you start re-using jokes.
@@neverknowsbest4994 I think at some point you have to leave sarcasm behind for the sake of your own mental health.
This didnt age too well regarding the community after the furcon video(s)
I've been watching your videos for years. Somehow, never realized you were gay. The references to Angela White and cycling lead-heads through Browning Hi-Powers had me snowed. At first, I was, I dunno, offended? Not that you're gay, I'm cool with that, but with the fact that I didn't know, that it caught me off guard? Then I re-watched a bunch of your old videos, and noticed a line in your review of the 1956 Oldsmobile Super 88: "How long can you pass?" And Jesus Christ man, I just wanted to hug you and tell you I love you and I accept you and I want you to be happy. I hope you find a happy and healthy relationship with a good man. Keep teaching me about literary theory and keep getting things wrong about cars in your videos. I'll keep watching.
As a very "masc" and "redneck" gay man it is very difficult to accept myself sometimes. Learning to be myself is a struggle. Sometimes it's a struggle to fit in with other queer people because of my background and straight presentation. I completely understand the hardship Mr. Regular speaks of. And I can't wait to see what the future holds for him.
Yea. I don't look gay or talk with a queer affectation. I like V8 engines and classic American cars. Dream date is working on a 1963-whatever. then showering and cuddling
@@RegularCars Yesss, rub eachother with Gojo pumice soap.
People and their expectations... - I really love it when people say: 'Well I don't give a sh*t what people think about me!' - and then, here I come along: I like V8 muscle, working on all sorts of man stuff and then on the other hand I'm all about polka dots and makeup, feminine, caring, loving, dealing with my emotions! - And all of a sudden they realize they've been hiding themselves just to please others.
I can agree. Grew up in rural pennsylvania as the next in line to a almost 300 year old farm and coming to realize I'm not straight, in my early 20's in scary as hell. I can't say I know the struggles anyone else faces but I can sympathize with Mr. Regular. We all have your back. We all have each others backs.
@@bergauk I didn’t need to sexualize gojo. I hope you lose your 10mm wrench.
Burnouts and butt stuff is slightly more algorithm friendly but I am here for it.
This made me tear up. In the last few years I’ve had a realization that I am not straight, and I’ve experienced some of the things you relate here.
Brian, you set off my gaydar almost a decade ago, when I was struggling to keep myself inside. It’s been great to see you trickle in little in-jokes and winks towards the audience of closeted or formerly closeted car guys. It feels good to be seen, or at least represented, as I grew up in rural North Carolina, and had no respite as someone who wasn’t entirely straight.
I was a teenager when I found your videos and I’m nearly 30 now. Thanks for being a part of my journey, and I’m happy to continue watching yours.
Thanks man
@@RegularCarsthank you for doing this and telling us about you. I had a feeling of this as well getting into your videos during Covid. I too was closeted and struggled with my sexuality. Being 45 now being married divorced and with kids grown felt it was time…
I'm so fucking glad you didn't pull that trigger.
I found you two years before I came out as a trans woman. Your content was one of my rare comforts. It was a breath of fresh air and still continues to be. Thank you for being who you are.
Same here, I discovered him pre-transition and even then I suspected he might have been a friend of Dorothy.
this might sound silly but it was RCR that led me to get an NA MX-5, and as much as it's a stereotype, it rly helped me sort of, embrace my queerness in a shithole conservative town, It felt good to be in a tiny "gay" car in a town full of 900 million dualcab utes, thx brian
Listen, I am speaking this as a queer person. This shit is gonna be hard as fuck. Coming out is really damn hard but you did the the biggest step. Now it’s going to be figuring you out. You are learning about yourself. Be kind to yourself and don’t rush. Take your time. Mistakes will be made and lessons and will be learned but you are still here. Keep pushing because there are a bunch of us that are happy you are still here. You have come a long way from 2007. I’m looking forward to this series and honestly it’s nice seeing another LGBTQ+ making car content. I’m a car person but I’m a casual. I know enough to hold a conversation. When I was first getting into cars and learning your TH-cam was the first car TH-cam channel I watched very time a new video would come up. I am still watching obviously. I’m glad you’re still here. Your brain is being mean. Please be kind to yourself.
Thanks, I will
@@RegularCars just remember - there are more gay masc men than you think they are. Society has created this image that all gay men are effeminate and talk with an afflection. This is not true. Those are only the people you can see, because its obvious.
When I say I'm married to a man, even here in liberal and open Sweden, i always get the same response: a laugh, and then "wait you are serious? You dont seem gay". Because even here, straight people (and many of the gay/queer) have preconceived notions about how i "should" act.
Finding your way is difficult. But keep going at it, because the only sure fire way for nothing to change, is to stop trying.
Im really proud of you for making this video!
“ your brain is being mean, be kind to yourself”… what you just wrote was magic. I think I will be reminding myself about this the rest of my life. Thanks
@@RegularCarsyou are great. I’ve been binge watching your channel. I’m a teacher and you’re an inspiration to make sure I treat my gay students well. I already try as I had a few come out to me last year and I was
honored. Your voice will be the one I hear to make sure they are not being treated badly. You’re truly making a difference.
"How do I accept love that isn't tied to a transaction?" Damn, that's the most profound thought I'll encounter all year. I have no answer but I suspect at the end of the day all love is tied to a transaction. Truly loving someone is a deeper, more spiritual version of "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." You have to lay out all your vulnerabilities to the other person and they to you. You let them see the weaknesses you won't show anyone else. It only works if it's mutual but you'll know early on if it isn't. It takes courage to put yourself in that position. The kind of courage it takes to tell a sea of fans you've never met the thoughts and feelings you expressed in this video. Please keep sharing.
Sounds lame and pointless as sh#.
Love is a transaction. Doesn’t make it a bad thing. Unless it’s a bad transaction.
We support you 1000% Brian. You are a staple in the car community. You have had such an impact on so many people. We are all right here with you bud.
I'm proud of you and scrolling through the comments it's clear the community is too. I can imagine making this video was exceptionally difficult too. I'm also glad you're still here with us.
damn, i came into this expecting the usual edgy humor but this went deep, and a little dark. Sorry to hear its been so rough for you.
For the last few years ive been following RCR, I thought your sexuality was an open secret that you just didnt feel like focusing on, and not something you were actively fighting. So im glad youre making your way through it. The older i get, the more i realise theres no magical age where everyone has their shit all together and figured out.
Im straight but also emotionally/relationship stunted so i know how that part feels at least, no idea how to date in this world.
BURNOUTS AND BUTTSEX 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
You could name a music album after this... 🤔 no, don't...
We're proud of you Brian. Coming out isn't easy, living once out can't be much easier. You've built a community, you've got a great personality, and you're as down to earth 'yourself' as they come. There's so much you've accomplished and should be proud of, and so much more to come. Every day is a victory over that day in 2007, and keep building on it. You're loved by SO many people, and that someone who loves you just that bit more is out there. Stay epic, and always be yourself.
Forgive me as English is not my first language, so if my grammar/syntax is off please ignore! x
As a native English speaker, I don’t know if I could have said it better 🍻
Hang in there regular.
I’m not gay but I definitely empathize with the loneliness you’ve experienced, I remember when you came out and older videos like the Oldsmobile Rocket 88 episode made a lot more sense. I definitely think you’re an inspiration and can realize your own thoughts and express them vocally like few others in a strange and beautiful way. The world needs more people like you, shine on you crazy diamond
Your pfp says otherwise
I’m not gay, but my boyfriend is….
Nice Floyd Reference
Thank you SO, SO much for this. Thank you for being you. I have watched every single one of your videos, ever since you first started out, and I was living in State College and laughing at the Sheetz jokes. I am trans. I came out as a trans woman in the fall of 2020. The stress of the pandemic wouldn't let me continue to run the virtual machine of "man" any more. Now I'm learning how to date again, I'm scared, and I'm learning that I'm not straight or gay. I have no idea what I am, what my sexuality is. So, thank you for being open and honest. I've tried to be open and honest about these things, too, in a world that still hates me a lot of the time. Hugs, Mr. Regular. 💜
Describing presenting as a man as "running the man virtual machine" is genius, I just wanted to say.
Good luck. Being queer is so much harder than it needs to be, but you deserve your happiness.
I've always wanted to take a Trans-am for a test drive. 🤫
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You're running one hell of a bonus lap. Thank you for this video
Dude, you’re one of the strongest and most incredible creators on TH-cam right now. You survived the lowest point any person can reach, and now you’re here sharing your current challenges to an audience that loves your work. Stand proud, you’re incredible, and we’re here for you in whatever form you take or on whatever path you follow
Brian, I'm proud of you. You're a credit to the community.
Another PA-dwelling, coming-to-terms-with-himself-a-bit-later (I’m 29, but still) gay car nerd here. This video resonates in my soul. The car scene can be super intimidating for LGBTQ+ people, and so can PA. I can’t even imagine how hard it must be to be a popular content creator and have the balls to put yourself out there like this. It’s a huge step, and I think a very productive one. Take care of yourself Brian, I wish you all the best as you continue your journey, and I hope you find happiness and comfort in being your authentic self. Much love
As a car nerd and a bi guy, thank you for all you do. I don't know what the future holds for you, but I really hope you meet Mr. Right. In a way, you coming out helped me, in a small way, to accept myself. I'm rooting for you.
never thought I’d straight up cry to a regular and roman video but there’s a first time for everything. words can’t really explain how glad I am that you’re still with us today, and it’s truly amazing that you have the guts to put this video out here. through all the hard times and short-lived relationships, one of the only constants in my life was knowing a new rcr would come out on monday and that any video you’ve uploaded would make my day that much more bearable. from one gay guy trying to figure this all out to another, thank you.
Not alone chum, never will be!! Welcome to the NW, safe and sound as they say.
He dropped a very subtle hint prior in an old video calling himself "A fairy English major" and I appreciated how candid he was along with, of course, his humor. Thank you Brian. Good luck finding whatever it is you may be seeking.
I think he also briefly mentioned it in the studebaker review. Jokingly saying "i can say these things, i'm gay".
Only know this because ive been rewatching the backlog of content.
@@jeraldjoyce2995 also there was that time he made a bad dragon reference in the miata review and all the gay jokes that weren't trashy in the way that only a gay joke told by a gay person can be and also his secret furry account
He mentioned it on the smoking tire too
@@thegenericguy8309 I didn't know about the hidden furry account, but that does explain why reviews around 2016 mention Undertale a LOT. I think he even commissioned a piece or two of NITW fanart for use in videos
@@thegenericguy8309 id love to hear his furry story one day
Welcome to the free world. Coming out was one of the most liberating experiences of my life. I hope you are feeling that liberation.
I feel for you, Brian. It’s generally pretty terrible for people mentally when they’re never able to fulfill the essential human need for intimacy with a mate/partner. Hope you stay strong, and better late that never.
I'm your same age, and came out at 40 as well. I totally feel you and understand what it is for guys like us who grew up in the 80's and 90's. It's difficult to put in words, but for whoever lived the same life as us, know what it is.
I’m straight, so I’m not even going to pretend I know what you’re going through. But, I’ll handle this as if one of my friends came out, and that’s basically saying…cool, you are who you are. And then probably some sarcastic stereotype joke about asking for fashion advice, which given my personality, is the ultimate sign of acceptance.
I’ll do what I can….and that’s continuing to watch RCR and recommend it to anyone that enjoys this brand of humor. Keep doing what you do.
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As someone that has also struggled with depression and thoughts of self harm, I want to say I’m happy that you are still here and making videos that I……and a TON of people look forward to….and we want you to keep making them for many years to come! Stay strong brother and we definitely support and care about you! Oh and high school means nothing in the scheme of things…and the horrible things people say at that age. I have blocked that time of my life out…
I have been listening to my husband watch your car reviews for years now. I have always loved your humor and your way with words. I am a therapist who grew up not far from where you are from and I am so proud of you for talking about this and for staying alive. You are helping more people then you even know to be their authentic selves. Thank you for making this video. You brought me and my husband to tears!
I stumbled across RCR in October 2020, during my senior year of High School. In July 2021 I came out as transgender (mtf). For 18 years and 3 or 4 relationships I felt as connected to myself as you do to a character you play in a video game. It takes time to realize who you really are, so thank you, Mr. Regular, for not pulling that trigger. I was in a similar situation years ago and when you're in that mindset, you don't see what you can be capable of. Thank you for being the weirdest, funniest, and deepest car channel
I'm so incredibly proud of you. I remember struggling with my bisexuality in the 90's back when it "didn't exist". We all have such unique journeys of self-discovery, even when it involves being dragged kicking and screaming. You're amazing and I look forward to the series. 💖
I listen to your videos a lot while driving to work and i didn’t expect to be sobbing while driving today. I’m glad you’re still here with us. The world needs more people like you.
Thank you Brian for posting this. It took me until my late-20's to truly accept myself and who I was and 10 years later if I hadn't I probably wouldn't be here. Now I'm married to someone who truly loves me and the burden of pretending to be something I'm not is gone and I can't imaging going back to being that unhappy every single day. It's not an easy journey but you have a community that supports you and wants to see you happy 🌈
There are so few hate comments here… it’s such a nice sight to see in the car community
As someone who’s about to turn 21, I’m realizing adults don’t know as much as I thought before college. Everyone’s writing out their story as they go, you are beginning a new chapter in your book. I’m proud that you are out here and around for us as we are for you Mr. Brown.
College will be your biggest waste of time and money in your entire life. Unless you’re becoming a pharmacist, veterinary, dentist or nurse / PA etc.
@@RustyZipper >corvette owner
Checks out
@@conorallen100 - I misspoke, a wedding is by far the biggest waste of money. A 4 hour party that costs $20k+. My side hustle exterminator business paid for that car, and my house…. 🤫 #DaveRamsey
@@RustyZipper college was pretty fun, maybe you didnt do it right
@@ProSurviver - ohh I did, flunked out my first Semester at a 4 year school. Apparently you’re supposed to attend class and complete assignments and not get drunk 7 days a week 😆 Went to Community College and finished with a solid 3.0. Then 2 more years for a Bachelor’s. Still drunk 7 days a week just made it to class for nearly perfect attendance.
Hugs dude. Your fans love you. Thank you for being here. I share your channel with whoever I can. As a fellow Pennsylvanian, I feel your pain. Thank you for being you, that's all I have to say.
Thanks :)
I'm prowd you came out, hiding just hurts. It felt like a huge relief when I told my dad I'm bi-curious.
So glad you are still here, Brian. I am rooting for you all the way.
When i found your second channel today and was scrolling through it i wasn't expecting this video.
Many car TH-camrs i follow, if not obviously anti gay, give me no reason to suspect otherwise, from chicago to carolina
So as a transwoman becoming interested in car history and the diversity of cars, it often feels like im looking through a window instead of an open door.
So thank you for this, both for showing car culture is diverse, and for the courage to put this out in the first place
Even as late as 40 i still give you props for coming out, being yourself, and learning to love who you are
I came to this video and your channel through a Facebook group for car loving men who love men.
In 2007, I wasn’t suicidal, but I felt like I couldn’t live. I applaud you for finding yourself enough to figure out who you are, and figure out how to live. Having been out for 16 years, it sounds trite, but I’ll tell you: it really does get better. Welcome to the club; we’re happy to have you.
As someone who’s bisexual and just turned 20 but never has been in a relationship before I understand the mystery surrounding relationships. I have ASD so it’s a mystery how to successfully interact with people and even more so trying to date. Anytime I do I always risk weirding people out without realizing it. Good luck finding happiness and I love your content so much. It’s helped me get into cars quite a lot
On the other hand despite the over explanation, you used commas and full stops. As someone who is also neurodivergant, I think opposite sex relationships are harder to meeting people because of the differing social rules between men and women, at least in my understanding and study of this stuff in trying to improve myself.
As someone who's almost 30 and has ASD as well it may seem like a challenge to date but every now and again, try to put yourself out there. Even if every interaction doesn't work, try to get a lesson out of it and keep improving. don't give up
I'm Bi, came out as gay at 17 and then bi at 29. All that to say, it is totally fine to not quite know who you are yet, and you can change your mind if you want, its no-one's business but your own and any labels applied are for your own benefit, not anyone elses.
My only relationship advice regardless if dating man or woman - TALK to each other. Honestly, be sincere with yourself and them about your feelings. Just talk it through.
What your experiencing and thinking is similar for me. Im 19 and i do have thoughts sometimes of coming out. I have troubled luck finding and maintaining a date with a girl. Usually either rejection or it goes well for a few days until something fucks up. My life thankfully has been improving since but sometimes its hard to come by thoughts
I’m glad that you stayed with us, I know it’s hard but it’s worth it, life that is.
That was heavy. I wonder how many times this video has been recorded and deleted, or the words read and put away. Happy you're doing better than those dark days. The world is a brighter place with you in, from what you could believe is just an AI typing in the comments, stay safe, be you, I hope you find what you're looking for.
One-take, bro.
Learning to be gay and coming out are life long experiences. There will be ups and downs. Things are never as bad as they may seem. Be gentle and kind to yourself.
Really glad you didn’t pull that trigger, Mr. Regular. Much love ✌️
proud of you dude. being a tennessee boy it took me a long time to figure out how to be myself. for me the internal hatred was the hardest aspect to get through. but now im married to a wonderful man and have never been happier. looking forward to the new series. always rooting for ya bud
I really like "Cars and Cuddling" as a title for your series. Congrats on coming out.
You have been a big part of my teenagehood growing up. For the better half of 5 years I’ve been through a lot and seen a lot and my humour is closely tied with the channel; voices, metaphors, witty lines and all. Thank you all for the down to earth videos we’ve grown used to, I am really ridiculously excited for the australian cars!!!
I'm so glad you're here with us, Brian. For several years, I have enjoyed coming along for yours and Nick's journey. You have helped me get through my depression. Thank you. Keep doing what you do.
You dropped this, king: 👑
Thanks for being your authentic self and for finding the strength to pull through. I’m excited to see the future of this channel and where you decide to take it.
I wasn't going to comment anything. Just want to say, thank you. Thank you for sharing this valuable and private part of your life with us. Me being a Bissexual teenager that suffered a bit with prejudice at home but was engulfed with love by friends and distant relatives can only imagine what you suffered your whole life because of this battle against yourself, against your sexuality. But something I do know about, is how a few months back I was more ready to die than to accept who I am and the problems that I have. Thanks for everything, my dude.
Ive been a subscriber to your channel for two or three years. I love your car reviews and how they are as intellegent as they are quirky.
But, god fucking damn this is the best video you've put out. I am so sorry I am watching this 5 months after your posted it. I felt more in these 6 minutes of listening to you, than I have watching most movies, or reading most books.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart Brian. It means the world to me that you've decided to share this. I hope that on your journey forward you embrace all to come with open arms and an open heart.
Can't quite find the right words to elaborate the point, but I wanted to let you know that it takes major guts to accept yourself and learn how to be "YOU". I'm happy for you, and I hope you're able to find what you're seeking. You're a good man, Brian.
Accepting our faults and addressing them is way harder than just saying oh yeah they're there
Introspection is both the easiest and hardest thing we will ever do in life
As a bisexual guy, it really makes me feel less alone to see people like you being out and living life the way you want to live it. I really appreciate what you do.
And I'm really looking forward to this series, Brian. Stay strong.
@@thedude5449 who are you talking to?
@@este_marco shut up
@@este_marco Himself. It's sad, really.
@@este_marco I reported that comment you should too.
@@reginaldbowls7180 What did his comment say?
Wanted to say thank you for sharing this. I recently turned 20, and have realized over the course of a year or so that my childhood, household, just growing up in general, haven't been normal (for lack of better words). It feels like being thrown into the deep end, being exposed to queer culture, finding similar people like myself, and regretting that I only found out and started making changes until I did. At around 12-13, I started getting into cars and motorcycles, and started watching RCR around that time as well. It was the first time I felt like I found something or some persons that I related to. Being able to be yourself, to be weird, and to share that with other people without being shut down immediately. It was my little escape from reality so to speak. I'm glad you guys have stuck around, that you still make wonderful content, and don't compromise yourselves for the sake of others. I'm lucky enough to be in a position to start making changes in my life, and I'm glad you are as well. If it wasn't for cars and this wonderful community, truthfully, I wouldn't be here, so thank you.
A giant, roaring collective "WE KNOW ALREADY!!" from the audience. Lol
This video gave me pause for thought about my own transition. I've been on hormones for about four years now, my breasts are still growing and my skin is soft and smooth. But I never really left boy mode, never bought feminine clothes and never learned how to wear makeup because i'm stuck in a home and a region where doing any of that could be fatal for me. This past week I've been feeling hopeless, angry and scared about stagnating in an environment where I have to pretend I'm not what I really am. Knowing that you've had similar (not the same, but similar) thoughts about your sexuality, and hearing about thoughts I hadn't truly felt before like the feeling of being on Bonus Time, it's made me realize that my home life is doing more harm than good to me. I need to change something about it. I don't know how, but I have to because I deserve to give myself a reason to live other than being scared that dying might hurt.
Thank you for this video. This helped a tremendous amount on a scale that can't be measured.
I feel you, I'm 17 closeted in quite a conservative family and province so the prospect of starting HRT horrifies me.
@@thatgirleden for what it's worth, feminizing hormones haven't made any significant changes that can easily be noticed by people. my face is also fairly masculine - it's a source of dysphoria for me, but it also allows me to boymode 24/7 while having taken hormones for four years. that being said, do what you feel is best for you; if you're safer waiting until you're out on your own to get hormones, then that's the best decision for you. just know that as hard as things got, and as hard as things will get, the reward of being surrounded by the people you love will make really feel like it's worth living again.
I hope one day u can stop boymoding. it sucks for me rn but I don't know how to stop either
I send you a really big hug sweetheart, you will be happy and you'll find a place to be yourself, just be patient 💕
YWNBAW
As a Washingtonian, welcome! And on a side note. As a teen I struggled to understand if I was even right to feel like I wasn’t attracted to just women, and now, at almost 30, I’ve admitted to myself that I am trans. I realize you probably won’t read this, but just know that even though we all struggle differently, you aren’t alone in feeling hate/confused/angry at yourself. You can’t get that wasted time back, but you can make up for it with what you have left. That goes for any of us. If your going to die, don’t let yourself only feel regret.
Glad you're still with us Brian, and glad you're figuring out who you are. Life isn't a race, and we all take different paths at different paces. I hope you find love, acceptance, and your identity. We're all proud of you and what you've accomplished.
Thanks for this video Brian. I can relate to some of this. For the longest time, I haven’t been able to accept my sexuality. I tried making it “just a phase”, I tried letting this be a chapter in my life I’d look back to at some point from the driver seat of my family hauler.
I’ve been passing, or desperately trying to pass, for 10 years dating women I really wasn’t interested in trying to convince myself of the contrary.
I’m just now getting to the point, at 25 years of age, where I can cope with the reality that this man in the minivan won’t ever be me. I’m starting to be open about it on the internet, but I’m not ready yet to let my family in on this secret.
Maybe given time, ill be able to do it. Thanks for making your journey public. Rock on, King
God. words cannot convey how important this video is. I'm really looking forward to this series. We're so glad you're here ❤️
As a 40 yo from the same generation as you and also gay and also into cars, I just want to wish you the best in your journey of self discovery. I’ve casually followed your channel over the years and enjoyed the dark humor your inject into your commentary on your videos. I’ll have to go back and rewatch all of them now… with this new revelation it kind of makes sense now. Anyway, so glad you came around to doing this for yourself and the new found freedom you will experience getting it off your chest. Enjoy each day like it’s a bonus lap. Cheers.
I'm also 41 & grew up in a very conservative environment in the far North suburbs of Chicago. I dealt with a lot of the same things that you did but I had the good fortune to be able to move into the city and away from a lot of that years ago.
Looking back on it It's strange to me that while I was growing up it was drilled into all of our heads that cities were dangerous horrible places filled with strange people that you just don't move to. My actual experience was meeting people that were either much more accepting or, at least, legitimately didn't care ... Meanwhile I've had family from back home commenting on a Facebook post that I was shoving being gay down their throat because that post included a mention of a same sex significant other. Those same people also proclaim that they love freedom.
I may have moved to where the strange people are ... But I left quite a few strange people behind
I feel this ❤
I love you for being you. Fellow gay man here, it took me years to come out and even longer to fully accept myself. You are beautiful.
I used to think I was straight for the longest time. But then I met a guy who, while we were originally just friends, we got closer to the point of being in a relationship. A very happy one, I might add. He helped me realize that regardless of someone's gender, if you love them and are happy with them, that's what matters.
It is a journey. It takes some people longer than others to love and accept yourself. Growing up in Louisiana in the 80's, I was not really masculine, knew I was "different". Got bullied, attacked, called names, chased, even from some extended family. I'm pretty sure I cried a river of tears in my adolescence. All of that trauma caused me to shut myself off, until my late 20's, then I came out.
At the age of 50 now, been with an amazing man for 20 years, financially successful, wonderful career, and absolutely love the person I am today. Point of that, IT TAKES TIME!
Big Hugs to you
Though it might not mean much, I’m proud of you. Months ago now, I told some of my story to you-not realizing it might’ve been a bit much-but I felt comfortable telling you, I guess now I know why.
I felt compelled to write this since I relate with a lot of what you said; especially about the dark moments-I’m lucky the hammer never fell too.
You have a lot of internal strength to come out with that heart on your sleeve and tell the world; you are living proof and an inspiration to those whom are undoubtedly in similar internal battles. You’re proof that things get better-never fast enough-but they do.
Don’t ever stop being who you are, not for anyone or anything.
Cars and cuddling sounds good. Glad you are still with us.
Good for you brah as another gay man who found out at 16 that I was gay so proud of you. and please dont die your awsome you truly are
Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm glad you're still here.
From the outside looking in as a gay man myself, I would have never guessed this was as much of a struggle for you as it has been. From the time I started watching your vids 10 years ago, I didn't think you were closeted, but rather it was just something that hadn't come up, since the channel was about cars. A sort of, "By the way gay" where it was something I thought was known, but not really spoken about since it hadn't been explicitly asked about.
It goes to show the sheer amount of internal struggle someone can have without it showing as much to the outsider.
Thank you again for this vulnerability you've shown us. I wish you the best in your journey of discovery and adventure, wherever that takes you.
Well this hit hard as a straight guy.
"I was more ready to die than I was ready to be gay."
Damn.
Glad you're still with us.
Can't wait to see the next chapter to your channel. Good luck with your new beginnings.
Hearing you talk about 2007 reminded me of my similar battles, your honest words are poetry to those who questions themselves
Can't wait to hear more
Maybe this is weird but I've always felt oddly guilty for not being suicidal enough because I have massive deathfobia, for which I am now weirdly grateful because life has kinda been pretty good for me lately.
Emotions are woof
Wow… ! This is powerful. Thanks for sharing!
Bud, I came out in my early to mid 30s right before the pandemic started. I still enjoy watching car reviews randomly and am much happier not being embarrassed of who I am. Honestly, some of the best moments in the last few years have been hanging out with my boyfriend and appreciating cool cars or going on road trips.
Hey Brian, I just wanted to say welcome to the club. We're all really glad you're still here! I'm a couple of years younger than you, and came out at 24. In my experience, it was a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. My life started getting better immediately. I hope yours does too. I think it will. You're a LOT better looking than I am, so that's one giant hurdle you won't have to deal with, lol. I'm from small town Upstate New York, and lived most of my life being one of only a handful of faces on the grindr grid, and it's definitely tough. I only recently decided to strike out to gayer pastures, and am typing this from the couch next to my outrageously handsome boyfriend of 7 months. So I guess it's never too late. You'll find your way. If you and your Big Gay Galaxie (great choice, by the way) find yourself in the Minneapolis area, I've got a very gray and very boring Honda Ridgeline, and a slightly less gray and less boring Mercedes C43 you're welcome to roast. Brunch is on me!
You’re going to be much happier as you feel more comfortable being more open with anyone. I’m from Indiana and have felt similar rural struggles of where it’s not normal to be gay. Luckily 15 years ago and now are very different times to be gay, especially where we are from.
I hope you are able to navigate through this to what you are looking for. I have learned to not let peer pressure make you do things you don’t want to do. Even if it’s one on one, you have to know the value of your opinion. I’m learning lately that people knowing I’m gay in an honest and casual way builds trust and better friendships, even if they’re strangers. I can guarantee my support and please be safe on your journey!
I’m struggling to come up with words for response to a video that took some serious nuts to post. We’re all proud of you, Brian. We love you and we love everything you do. And I know in past videos and podcasts you’ve said that you were worried that people only want Mr. Regular, but that’s not true. We wanna see Brian happy and thriving. Take care, man ❤
P. S. Looking forward to more Sister Carrie :)
Nothing but love and support from everyone here! I'm glad you're still here, and glad you use the platform to represent for everyone who is considered "weird" by society, whether it's our sense of humor, tastes, or sexual orientations. This channel feels like a place for us all to gather and realize we're not alone, we're not weird, it's society that's weird, and we don't have to change ourselves to fit in or feel like we have to hide because others don't understand.
Seeing this makes me feel so valid being sexually confused at 27. I really needed this today. You are a so strong and brave. Thank you. SOOO much. I can't wait for the new content
I think I speak for everyone who’s watched your videos when I say with all the laughter you’ve brought us, we’re glad you can finally find happiness in who you truly are. You rock Brian.
Damn man, I sincerely hope that you can find happiness in whatever shape you find it. Everyone is on their own journey, and those who tell you how your journey should go should fuck off. Keep on keeping on, your content is great, and you personally deserve happiness!
We love you Brian. We are so thankful for you and the Roman. Thank you for all the laughs and for being so open with us.
We are so glad you are here and the world gets the gift of you
Be well and keep on keepin on
All I can say is I see you, I hear you, and I always look forward to hearing your voice and watching your videos. I'm just very glad you're still with us. Thanks for sharing and thanks for everything you do. I'm proud of you. Keep going, You're doing great.
so is this why i relate to your content on a personal level
You're finding the man you are while finding the man you want to love. I hope you find him soon. I'm glad you're here now, that you were strong enough to get here, and that you see yourself and you are being yourself. You've got so much support behind you.
This is a huge moment. Congrats on being yourself on a public stage. The more of us who are unashamedly ourselves, the more normal and un-scary it will be for others. Well done!
-some other gay guy who likes motorcycle and cars
Proud of you brother, this takes a lot of heart to make into a video. even to me as a garden variety cishet nerd I'm really happy you have this space and trust us to put out this vulnerability. Thanks so much- can't wait to see the next parts of the series.
This is one of my favorite channels. I salute you, Mr. Regular.
Dear Brian, I'm proud of you, it's a really hard battle, you've been really strong.
You're gonna find that special person because you have a lot of things that makes you unique.
You're smart.
Kind.
You reinvented the concept of car reviewing.
You are achieving your goals.
You are attractive and handsome and you have really nice taste.
There is someone out there with anxiety and thinking he is waay out off your league but eventually he'll meet you, you're gonna get chemistry and a nice match, meeting that special person on your life takes a lot of time to happen, I'm 27, single, and I'm recently accepting myself and who I am, I grew up in Latin America where if you don't like soccer then you play with dolls with the other girls, I met the right people in the furry fandom and I learned to be myself, the high school struggle, the impunity and silence from the teachers, one time I got molested by another classmate and I never told that to my dad because one time when I told him I was being bullied he told me I was being a Q word in the most derogatory way, and when I came out of the closet I told him "I got molested in high school by a classmate and I was afraid to tell you because you might have ended up telling me it might have been my own fault." I made my old man cry but I had a reason and he ended up trying to accept who I am, you are way older than me and I think I got it easy on my teen years and half of my 20s.
Keep it up Brian, you're a winner, life wanted you to be it's B-word but now you are bending over life on itself and you are now a star, you are aware of who you are and I'm sure you're gonna hit the million subscribers and yet still, you always have been humble, when your Echo got totalled, you got Silicon Sally, nothing fancy, then the Forester, and then the 4Runner, the Niro, you deserve it, you deserve hanging out with your friends, you deserve everything, you have great writing skills, last couple of weeks I listened to Walt Wittman's Song Of Myself on audiobook since I work driving a cab, now with technology and some cars being art and others being home appliances you take your reviews into an analysis of the first owners, the driving experience and all those hours of staying up late, editing, coping with anxiety, struggling with yourself and all your savings, finally everything is paying off.
You deserve everything and I'm really proud of you and I'm waiting to the end of the month to get my paycheck so I can finally donate an amount I can pay, because every single shift I worked I felt in company listening to your podcasts, POVs, reviews and made me cheer up during my lonely nights waiting for the dispatcher to send me a service.
Keep it up, you're amazing.
Regards
Thomas Rizz.
I’m so glad you’re here with us today man. Your content has brought me so much joy over the years. You’re awesome.
It’s stuff like this that made me a fan so many years ago, because behind all the poop and dick jokes there is thought, whimsy, and somebody who is able to convey a feeling on a different level than most other people in Automotive media.
Hearing you at 40 are still figuring out who you are is extremely helpful to me at nearly 25 years old thinking I should have it figured out by now. I’m glad you made it through one of your darkest hours Mr.Regular.
I'll be 38 this year and have no idea who I am. All I know is life is yours to live so have fun with it. Don't do something to impress other people, do it to impress yourself.
@@kgb4187 “do it to impress yourself” I love that. That’s going to stay with me.