What really hits hard being a loner is that when a teacher tells you to pair up for an activity and no one comes up to you because they mostly pair up with their friends and you have none....
@@toejammergamingtoo real because one of my friend jas a childhood friend that is pretty overprotective so she doesn't want me to touch her at all or smth and her face seems like she don't want me around so I kinda cut things short. The second one is in another class and third, is in a friend group it seems. When in terms of a groupwork, i groan abt it because ik people are not gonna pick me either way and i rlly don't like groupwork anyway so i get into a random group by the teacher and it feels so off bc everyone have their friends except for mines that are just... distant sometimes it feels like were just people who talk to each other but not growing in the friendship. I have an eye on this girl but she is not even in reach bc she has friends already and im not sure if she likes me or that how she seems soooo....... not great on my side either but it's the weekend and i dont think much so yay ( srry if this is long i just want to vent ig. Ig im a real loner...)
ikr, im not alone with no friends per say but my lunch schedule got changed and ALL of my friends were in my previous lunch shift, having to sit alone felt so mind numbing to me but a girl ((she was an old friend of mine so idk if it counts)) told me i should sit with her table and i was so glad i did.
I can’t handle interacting with people as anything more than acquaintances or managing meaningful relationships. Don’t let this kind of thing last for too long. Try to make friends before you get used to not having them. Otherwise life will only get worse. The anxiety leading to loneliness, the loneliness leading to depression, the depression leading to thoughts of suicide, and then random meltdowns where you get dangerously close to going through with it. And then the worst stage of all, acceptance. These feelings becoming such a core part of life that they become normal and mundane. If I could go back, I’d do whatever I could to avoid going down this path, because now I’ve got no clue how to get off of it or where it’s taking me. Good luck.
The worst moment is when there is a free period with a substitute teacher and everyone in the class is chatting, meanwhile you're just sitting alone in the class. Another thing is getting picked last when you're playing sports with your classmates.
@@priceaustin3039 comments like ‘i still havent reached my goal of talking’ in the same video as talking to someone, watch it with the perspective its satire and you should see what im talking about. no face no real experiences just general oh this class that class walking alone :( :(
I used to feel alone all the time in medical school so I started to draw and share my art :) it helped so much and with time you will find mew people ❤ I love your shoes and jeans so much
I cried to this I totally feel you this is how school feels for me I really hope it gets better you seem like such a sweetheart I hope you find the right group of friends
hey just wanna say as someone who went from being the awkward , "loner" guy in school to a much more confident and social guy in college, it really does get better! I kept myself open, talked to new people and finally found the right grp of friends and now living the BEST time of my life.
@@KkrgssI am a loner so I prefer to mostly just be with my thoughts and own self, but the problem is people want to be nice with me and talk to me so I have to always awkwardly speak to them even though most of the time I don't want to. This might come off as rude or mabye insensitive on my part but I wanna be alone like you.
@@Ight-ight Hi, I hope your doing well. I just wanted to tell you that while being alone is nice, I think you should try be with some friends too, and when people want to speak to you, try and have a conversation you can enjoy, even if it's something little. I used to think I liked being alone, but I really enjoy being with my friends.
My god it feels so weird finding a video I can fully relate to online. Im older now but this was literally me in school. Had a bunch of online friends but really no one to chat with or hang out with during the day. Just on my phone aimlessly browsing hoping the time passes. I still do this at work and when I just recently graduated college. Sometimes it gets lonely but Ive learned music gets me through every day.
Literally me rn.. I dont mind not having friends but sometimes i look at the students in my school talking to eachother and laughing just reminds me that i rlly have no one to talk to about and that sucks, sm.
I feel you. Whenever I saw that, it remindes that I'm alone and the last thing I do (talking with friends I mean) is in elementary. It makes me want to cry but I just hold it. 🥲
wow I can’t believe there are so many people who I am exactly like, when you’re one of the only loners in a whole school, you feel like you’re the only one in the whole world. hope you get through it, remember you are strong for making it this far and whenever you feel lonely remember that you aren’t alone ❤️🩹
@@Copemaxer its awkward to just go up to a group of people who are all friends and just ask to sit next to them. and what if youre sitting alone and people see you sitting alone and everyone is staring at you? might just be me though idk
@ No shit it’s awkward but you know what’s worse? Not having any friends cus you can’t even bring yourself to try. Sitting alone I mean yeah people might look but so what. I have some friends but sometimes I just wanna be alone so I sit alone. No one actually cares that much
This was me during high school. I couldn’t take another year of it so I dropped out. After that I didn’t have many ways to make friends so I was still alone. It messed me up. Over the years I’ve gotten chances to make friends, but now that I’ve adapted to being alone I can’t handle interacting with people as anything more than acquaintances or managing meaningful relationships. Don’t let this kind of thing last for too long. Try to make friends before you get used to not having them. Otherwise life will only get worse. The anxiety leading to loneliness, the loneliness leading to depression, the depression leading to thoughts of suicide, and then random meltdowns where you get dangerously close to going through with it. And then the worst stage of all, acceptance. These feelings becoming such a core part of life that they become normal and mundane. If I could go back, I’d do whatever I could to avoid going down this path, because now I’ve got no clue how to get off of it or where it’s taking me. Good luck.
@@oompaloompa5473 I’ve been isolated for around 11 years now. A single year of being alone is more than anyone should have to experience. Thinking back to when my life had only been like that for 4 years, I can see a way out, but it might just be hindsight. At that point I still desperately desired to have friends, but I didn’t know how to approach other people my own age and form those connections. Overthinking everything and fearing being judged held me back. If I had reached out more and taken the opportunities in front of me then maybe life would be different. Instead, I hoped that an angel would appear and fix my life for me. Don’t make that mistake, they’re not coming, and it’s not worth wasting time waiting on them. I want to say that it’s never too late to recover from this. At least that’s what I’d like to believe. But those periods of life that are missed can never be regained. They’re gone, forever. All the experiences that shaped everyone else won’t be relatable, pushing them further away, making it even harder to build friendships and get out of this hole. It’s never too late to stop being alone, but be afraid of what will happen if you wait. If you still want to be around other people, have friends, fall in love, then I believe that you have a good chance. I’ve mostly lost all of that by this point, but I still keep trying, and you should too. I hope you make it.
@@giyuu_tomiokaaaa I brought this on myself, so I only have myself to blame. If I’d had the strength to take responsibility for my own life, things would have been different. I just hope that this message can warn a few people about what a path of isolation leads to.
the worst part about being a loner during highschool is the people who would come up to you acting like youre some lost puppy, when I was a freshman there were these seniors who came up to me acting like we were best friends and it was super uncomfortable
there's a special place in hell for groups of people who just make it awkward for/troll loners on purpose it's kinda like hazing except you don't even get any gain from passing their test
Things to do if you’re sad (Lashes don’t actually grow from tears) -cut paper (Throw it out afterwards) -scream/cry -make tea -go on a walk alone/with someone -Give someone/something a hug! Including stuffed animals -Watch a comfort TH-camr Something to distract yourself from negative things -Smell something you like the scent of -Get a fidget toy -pet your pet if you have an animal in your home/house -Take a nap (sometimes when you take a nap after all emotions you’ll remember bad memories when you wake up so try distracting yourself when you wake up) -Go on a FaceTime with someone -talk everything through with someone or maybe even yourself. Saying your feelings and emotions out loud might make you feel better -Go somewhere you enjoy being at Hope this helps!
This is why whenever I see someone sitting alone, I ALWAYS invite them to sit with my friends and I! That's actually how I made one of my best friends. 💞
I dont really like how being a loner is being shown to be as an aesthetic like its something thats "quirky" Its literally not. I literally felt like an outcast and a loner for most of my high school career and i truly hate it, plus i find it hard to talk to people. Its not an aesthetic, its something i genuinely still struggle with to this day
Facts. It’s even worse when I see total extroverts try to pass themselves as being “loners” just because they think its “cool” to be one. That just makes it even more isolating.
As a high schooler (senior) who’s about to be graduating next year my experience was a roller coaster of emotions to say the least. Dealing with social anxiety and the stress of being alone hit so badly for me I couldn’t physically be there without having a breakdown or panic attacks (still somewhat reoccurring til this days). I hated every moment being there while my parents internalized how I’m not going to ever be “good enough” someday . Highschool is an environment most people will preach how you have to be on board but never tell us how stressful it can be at the same time taking a toll on someone. Everybody wants to get out of there and leave, trust me once you live your life things will look brighter for you, having more enjoyable things and opportunities to do, or hell find something new youd like to do. So don’t be so harsh on yourself please. +I hope you have a good rest of your school year!, wishin you best of luck bro
I've always been an loner at school , had no friends , no one to talk to , sat alone at lunch! But it was peaceful! No drama, or anything! You start to appreciate it! Better to be alone than to be in bad company! Once you conquer loneliness, solitude becomes the reward! Love the pants and shoes btw! ❤ and you're not alone , we're here for you! :) You're not an loser either , loners are awesome!
Me now 🙋. Always been a loner since highschool. I'm in college now and still have no friends but I'm getting used to it. It's indeed peaceful to be alone, it's good when you are used to it 😅
The second most important thing you can get from highschool, only behind the diploma, is networking skills man, it pays like all hell to know people or know how to know people
i know its hard not having any friends at school but im sure you'll get through the year. goodluck this year! edit; guys i was trying to be nice stop coming for me 😞 edit 2; also yes i am a bsd fan thanks for noticing guys :3
Honestly, for me, becoming a loner in school was my best decision because I have been more focused on my school work and also working on my mental health. I used to have friends but we really weren't that close. So it was difficult telling them that I wanna be alone, but it got some weight off my chest. Hope you have a good year to whoever is reading this 😊
Even tho i have many close friends, i always invite people to sit with me and make sure they dont feel left out. I also make many jokes to keep them entertained. Nobody at my school will be lonely. ❤
Does anyone ever feel so depressed that you can't cry or do anything anymore, like you don't want to die but you don't want to live. You want someone to notice that you're sad but you keep smiling so they don't ever know? Yeah same! Or how you love someone so much and they know that no matter how much they hurt you you're still gonna love them like there isn't a tomorrow. Or how you try and try and try so hard to be the person you aren't but then one day when you finally show your real self, it backlashes on you and nobody respects your feelings or decisions. Yeah I know the feeling. Your not alone
i want to die so bad but i can't do it because i have my brother who's my bestfriend and i don't wanna leave him alone so he's like my only will to live left but it gets harder everytime at this point i don't think i will even make it to 18 (im 16) :(
@Copemaxer I don't keep them, they use me for their benefit which doesn't bother me. They don't take any money from me so I couldn't care less if they are true or not.
This was me all throughout my high school experience. However, I finally found a friend my second year of university! :D Things will eventually get better. Somewhere out there, there is someone for you. Sometimes that person can come in the most unlikely of ways, but what matters is that they come. Hang in there. This isn't the end. ^w^
Being alone is the best gift you can have 1) you can study properly for exams, because if you engage in studying with friends, you will never able to study and will end up talking 2) you will never waste time This is the experiences l get from being alone with no friends, it can be different for everyone, l just told my opinion ❤
i hate it when people say "high school is the best time of your life, you'll miss it one day!" yea no i dont think i will but hey everyone has different hs experiences
hiii, it was just like this for me last year and i felt like there was nothing to live for. it was so hard and i was very close to attempting multiple times. ☹️ but i promise things will get better someday, so don’t ever give up ❤️ im sure you are an incredible person even if it doesn’t feel like it, it takes so much courage to live like this every day so i completely understand. i hope things get better for you so soon
i recommend reading! i did have friends i sat with during school but sometimes i would just find a quiet corner during lunch to read when i didn’t want to socialize and needed a break it was very calm and nice
Definitely relate, I'd just sit in the bathroom during break and skip class either writing or playing pokémon on my phone. The best thing about school is that it doesn't last forever.
I always left school during the breaks, although I almost never had contact with anyone I still disliked gaining a reputation of someone who would seem lonely. People knew I was alone and I could deal with that but I did want to avoid letting people’s believe I was lonely. I wasn’t and I didn’t want people to think that and feel sad for me.
@@Victor-07-04 Yeah as soon as they see you alone they go up to you and ask to be friends but personally im not a fan of pity friends.Youre so lucky! my school doesnt allow off campus lunch so i mostly stay in the library
@ A reputation as a teenager with perhaps some bad luck in making friends was way less problematic than a teenager with the appearance of fundamentally alone and possibly lonely. So during the short break I hid myself in the library and just pretended to work like many other students but for some stupid reason the library was closed during the long break. I always left during that break but that wasn’t quite as easy as it sounds. Leaving was in fact not allowed. There was this janitor who’s life missing it was to chase down students who tried to escape. If he was present I almost always had to stay in school and well… pretend to use the toilet a lot. Fortunately covid happened and this ‘saved’ me from having a really hard time. And the head of my school gained nationwide attention for being one of the very few who refused to open up when it was allowed again. I would donate a kidney to him for this little act. The times were difficult but like you said, I am lucky. Lucky that I’m good at being alone in general and that I was good in finding tricks to make it through the days. It really made me stronger and looking back at it I can’t help but laugh about the whole situation. I once actually considered to dig a hole in the ground next to school to hide in 😂 I am from the Netherlands by the way
@ And if I recall right I also fabricated fake screenshots of my schedule where I changed my schedule in a way that a break would be proceeded by an hour without a lesson. In that way I could leave in a legit way because than it wasn’t prohibited. I had to get through 2.5 years with that. The first year was about 6 months of school and 6 months of online lessons. The second year wasn’t blessed with online lessons and that meant putting up a fight. Both of these years were about equally tough because in year two I was mentally stronger. The third year lasted only 6 months in total because I left school. I was going to try the highest school level in my country but two factors made me back out. 1: The level itself and the workload it caused. And 2: the fact that I was just not able to do another two years of that sort. I really think that there would come a time when the janitors would have caught me trying to escape so many times that it really wasn’t possible at all anymore to try and leave. Luckily I didn’t have to find out. I’m in a graduate school now where I have more luck socially and where being alone isn’t weird at all.
Hey everyone thank u for watching this, I never realized how many ppl relate to this. For everyone experiencing this just know that u aren’t alone and it’s okay to be alone or a loner 🖤.
I don’t usually talk to people in my school, I just read, I don’t want anybody saying “We weren’t talking to you” that never really happens to me, but I’m alone in school too.
Ik exactly how you feel. I've been a loner at my HS ever since freshman year. It can feel rlly isolating, especially when all your classes are made up of classmates that already know each other and youre the odd one out. BUT DONT LET THAT BRING YOU DOWN!!! I am sure youre an awesome person with lots of cool things to say. dont ever say your life is uninteresting. I hope one day you are able to meet lots of cool friends and that you dont feel lonely anymore. In the meantime, stay true to yourself and never change just for the sake of fitting in. The right people will love you just the way you are. Keep doing your thing and remember that youre loved :D
Just remember that even though you go to school and get an education makes you more blessed than many in this world! Keep your head up! Everyone struggles with something and the joy comes from overcoming that struggle
Omg i feel you, I barely talk through the day. I am alone most of the time at school and sit alone at lunch. Even tho i think its kind of my fault too. I wish u luck, there are so many ppl who relate, even if the circumstances are different for everyone, but im sure it can get better.
I am sorry you're going through this. During high school, I barely had friends and most of my "friends" weren't actually real friends. Now I am in college and I made a few friends and one amazing close friend. From the first day she talked to me, she made everything better and I forgot all those days I felt alone! You will get through this. :)
This was me all throughout high school. Graduated three years ago and not much has changed. It's a bit hard having no friends sometimes, but I just try and focus on the things that I like. You're doing great :) I'm sure we'll both meet new friends someday.
I’m not the best at words but man, can relate, I was once that typical ostracised kid who’s always alone & without friends in school too, having recess alone & last to be picked for group projects, etc. But things will get better man, how long it takes & what you need to change about yourself differs for everyone but so long as you take a step to change this predicament you really would become less lonely & loser-like. For me right now I’m in my friend’s house with like 10 others playing cards lol All the best fam
i spent the entirety of 7th grade with no friends or communication. i had just moved to a new school in the middle of the pandemic, i would go literal days without talking to anyone. i was made fun of all the time. i wouldnt wish that upon my worst enemy. now im in my junior year of highschool and ive never been better. you will get through it eventually, the loneliness will pass as long as you have the efforts to put yourself out there 💜
I love your shoes!! I know how it can be to feel completely alone, just know there is always people who will care for you, school is super hard both academically and socially, but you got this!! I’m sure everything will be okay, and you’ll meet people in life who will love you and care about you for who you are, never give up
I know what it's like, at the last school I went to before graduating, I also didn't have any friends. There was this one girl I kind of considered my friend for a little while but after some time she started to behave really strange around me. So I'd say yeah I basically didn't have any friends. There was a handful of people I got along with and I sat next to during certain classes but none of them was a friend. Just someone to have a little chat with once in a while. I always left the school grounds at break to go smoking, to buy some food at a nearby grocery store or to just walk around so that nobody would see me hanging out by myself. When I had a free period I went to a park, when I had more than one free period I went home, despite having to walk 25 minutes home and 25 minutes back to school (didn't have a bus ticket and also no car). Also started hiding in the bathroom at some point. I had panic attacks and I was throwing up in there or drinking pure vodka from a little bottle to calm my nerves. That was my school life for two fucking years. It's crazy to look back at it now because I've changed so much. I stopped smoking, I barely drink alcohol anymore and I almost never have a panic attack. I do have diagnosed social anxiety but I can actually be pretty social and open whenever I feel comfortable, I'd say it's easy to talk to me if you approach me, I'm not even shy or anything if you seem like a friendly person to me, I can talk a LOT. I'm very talkative with friends and I am always able to find people to get along with no matter where I am. But everyone in this school was always gossiping or bragging about their vacations, cruises and whatsoever. I come from a middle class household but I was already living on my own at that time (long story, don't wanna talk about it) and barely had any money but of course almost everyone there had an iPad and those who didn't have an iPad at least had another apple device. I didn't and sometimes I was literally almost completely excluded from lessons because of that. Teachers would send the tasks via Airdrop and so I didn't receive it and always had to beg someone to send it to me separately. And we had a looooot of group tasks. Whenever I had to work in a group and none of the few people I chatted with during the school day was with me, I was so uncomfortable that I didn't even say anything because I knew these people would gossip about it afterwards. They gossiped about absolutely everything. I normally don't care much if others gossip about me as long as I have my group of people I know I can trust but I didn't have anyone there. So I didn't participate much in the group tasks and therefore everyone thought I was lazy and that I would use others but I was actually just scared to do something wrong. It was absolute hell. I've been bullied in my previous school but even there I had friends... I always thought there was something wrong with me but now I know that it wasn't my fault. Sometimes you just don't fit in a certain environment. That doesn't make me a bad person or a loser or something. I'm very proud of how far I've come despite all the struggles I've faced (including writing this comment at almost midnight in a foreign language while falling asleep after every third word but I think I'm doing quite well xD). If I'd be able to meet my younger self now I'd definitely tell her that everything in fact DOES get better after school and that I'm happy now and that I actually love living and that I sometimes love life so much it makes me cry. Because school messed up my entire life. I can't count on one hand the amount of mental illnesses I got diagnosed with during my school days. Of course it's not the school's fault entirely but it definitely contributed it's fair share. So if anyone is struggling right now, trust me it will get better at some point and life really is so worth it. And there is always something to cheer you up and always something to admire and to enjoy. You are absolutely enough ❤
@@OKYAHThank you!! What I experienced is why I always say that the good life starts in your twenties. I actually started to enjoy living. I have been through a lot of things throughout my teenage years and before, this school was only one of them but I made it just like everything else so far and that's the important thing. Sometimes that's enough to be proud of. Take care❤:)
I'm actually intrigued by your share of information. Where you said being afraid of messing up in group work and everyone thinking your lazy or having panic attacks and social anxiety to diagnosed with various mental issues is so much like me. Although I would rather not disclose them but its been a struggle almost to death literally. I felt suicidal and clinically depressed. That's the only difference than what you just shared. I mean you love life but I absolutely hate it, and everything that makes it up (not talking about people or animals lol), like the income, the system we revolve around and so on. Thanks for sharing, it provides great insight.
I'm actually really glad you're okay now! I'm kinda experiencing this because I can't really communicate with people or keep the conversation interesting and going. So, even if I wanted close friends/friends, it's was hard for me. But being alone has taught me a lot to be independent and keep me company. Thank you for sharing your story, really appreciate it :D
yeah high school is hell sometimes :/ and so is feeling lonely. But thank you for posting this bc sometimes I don't take dimension of how common of an experience this can be, makes me feel less of a bad kind of freak out there, to know that more people share the feeling. Sending love, be kind to urself and always remember you're cool as u are
im a freshman rn. on basically day one of high school, my “friends” stopped being friendly, and it became rlly hard for me to socialize/approach people. i feel this sooo much, and i hate being alone. thanks for this ❤ new subscriber
fuck that guy. im sorry that happened, but if they were that kind of person from the start maybe its a good thing they outed themselves relatively early on.
In my 6th and 7th grade year I had 3 friends. 1 of them “tolerated” me as she told me, 1 of the, was like the one before and “tolerated” me sometimes and then other times was all over me. And then I had that one good friend, whom I had in only 2 periods. I spent most of my PEs alone, sitting down reading. All of my classes I would get stuck with that one quiet boy for group work. I had 1 amazing Literature teacher we would talk to me all dismissal because my friend was always called for carline immediately. If it weren’t for that friend and that teacher, I don’t know if I would have gotten through the year. That last quarter of school where my best friend left was brutal. The one “toleration” friend decided she didn’t like me anymore, out of the blue, and started rumors about me, getting more passive aggressive every day. The only “friend” I had left wasn’t mean but she just random wandered away from me at times and didn’t say where she was going. If you want to make friends and your school, please don’t make friends “made of glass”. And, just sayin, most teachers are super friendly and will talk to you at dismissal, and most of them are very interesting! I moved to a new school this year, just sit next to someone and say “hi, I’m ___. What’s your name?” and it’ll be hard for them to turn you down. Or just a simple “Can I sit here?”. It’s always worth a try. If you have no friends there, I mean there’s nothing to lose if you get denied. Another thing, look for the kids with no friends, I can almost guarantee they’ll talk to you, most of them don’t want to be alone, they’re just shy. Stay strong. You can do this. -Banansly
I’d totally hang with you if I was still in high school but I’m in college 😭 Honestly just do what floats your boat. Loads of people even in college feel the need to constantly be surrounded by someone or something to make them feel “alive” when in actuality they’re just lowkey masking and sugarcoating it. While I can’t relate much to loneliness in HS cos I’m still pretty tight with my friends, college was tough cos I spent two years surrounded by people that made me feel alone. Our hobbies didn’t align, our humour was never on the same page and it felt super preachy and superficial ngl. Finding peace in solace and basking in it is just as fine and sometimes better if your soul and heart are strong 🥹❤.
It's scary how accurate this is for a lot of kids... like a lot of high schoolers are in this exact situation, and that's incredibly sad. I hope the best for these people, though. I've never personally experienced the parts of being lonely, so i can't speak much on it.
I’m about to graduate college now (a year late I might add) and my highschool experience looked a lot like this. I can totally relate and know it gets better, highschool is not the end of the road. You do have to put effort in, but life does get better. I also want to add that I’m finishing doing online college after doing in-person for awhile, so traditional school wasn’t for me. But I found something better that works for me and im a lot happier now. My life is pretty normal but I have worked on myself a lot both physically and mentally, the gym has been my safe haven and happy place for the last 5 years, so take that as you will. I have dealt with serious anxiety and depression that all started in high school and still somewhat affects me to this day….just know you’re not alone and many people know what it’s like. I was fat, unhappy, depressed, anxious, and at times suicidal, and today I am happy and healthy and in a relationship with a beautiful girl. Sorry for the long post but this was very personal to me and I know how hard this is. So to you and anyone else reading this, good luck, be yourself, and know you’re not alone. Much love - Matthew
i graduated this year. i was alone all four years and at graduation. it was not easy, but i got through it anyway. you can get through this as well, just stay positive and work towards your future. but, i say this with all my heart, do try to make friends. there is nothing wrong with being alone, but try to make an effort each day or week to socialize with others. i wish you the best!!! i really really hope that you can find someone to call a friend
@ truthfully, you should go up to others and make conversation. you can wait for someone to speak to you, as i did, but unfortunately it did not work out for me. don’t let the fear of rejection hinder you. it’s better to experience a minute of rejection than 4 years of desolation
lol the walking aimlessly around hits home. Just know you’re not alone. I felt like this my whole high school career. Except I didn’t get a phone until I turned 18, so I had no social media or music to keep me entertained. Just know that being alone is better than being in a bad group, it seems fun at first, but bad people will ruin your character. Glad that I’m done with it all, so I wish you a speedy school year. Good luck!
I’m actually the same girl, just a loser with no friends, same routine for me, I’m sorry that you have to deal with that. Atleast we have our peace and alone time. The more your alone, the more it’s comfortable to be with yourself.
It gets better. I was also always alone in high school. But I made it through, did well in college, and now I'm in medical school. Yet to this day I still have horrible memories of high school. I'm still alone much of the time, but I've gotten comfortable with it now. And I ended up choosing one of the most social careers out there, to be a doctor. I'm sure you'll make it through just as well-even if you don't find your people right away.
In middle/high school, having lots of friends, being popular, seems like it’s the most important thing in the world. But once you reach your late 20’s You realise that having no friends (or very little friends) does not make you a loser. You realise it’s actually a blessing, you start to cherish your personal time
aye man even though you dont have friends just push through and dont get depressed and if you just start small talk with people then you might become friends with them. stay with us bro❤❤❤
this was me in high school, but im 25 now. i had no one. during lunch I’d go to the library and do homework so that I looked busy. Didn’t even eat any lunch. I relate so hard to the “walk into hell” part
it's nbd, you'll learn that it's a good skill to enjoy your own company. but still, try to talk to people with 0 expectations. just like "have u done the homework," "how do you do this problem," "where did you get that perfume?" "long night? (when someone yawns)" etc. ordinary greetings work. this isn't directly to get friends, its just so you don't feel awkward talking to people later down the line. feel comfortable! you'll likely never see these people past high school, so there's nothing to lose anyway. besides that, just work on yourself and be kind. do what you want and don't let a lack of friends stop you from going out and having fun (at day ofc, stay safe!) you'll attract whatever suits you in time, whether that's now, in college, or past that.
You’re not a loser, you are someone important and there is value to your life and to yourself as a person. School can be very difficult and finding friends who are good and honest is also difficult, however, you need to take care of yourself because even if you can’t find honest and good friends in high school, you might just find good and honest friends at college or maybe even later on in your life. Just please remember to take care of yourself, because you are important and you matter. Don’t think you have to validate yourself by other peoples’ views about you 🌼
Thanks, I appreciate the reminder. I've also been going through the same exact scenario. I'll keep in mind everything you've commented here. I hope you do have a lovely day/night! you're awesome
youre not a loser because you dont have friends, thats not where you find your worth. trust me, i understand that the toughest thing to do is to just walk up to someone and strike a conversation. im not a person with much confidence, so thats hard for me too bc i start thinking of what the person would think of me if i say something wrong. but dont find the number of friends you have as worth or who u are, they (nor results) define you. im glad i came across this video bc im not the only one who struggles to make friends
I honestly was like this my first year of high school and the best way to change this is to join a sport/club. You meet a lot of new and interesting people this way and it helps you be more social and make more connections, and you might not be as lonely. Once I started sports a lot of things in my life changed, mostly for the better.
I can relate...! Its so hard, nobody wanna talks to you dk why, but im sure we will get through this buddys!! We will find a grest friends for sure!! And you are no loser, dont call urself that!
Life is like a game, it gets harder, and then harder, and just very hard and boring. But once you get better at it you can start to enjoy it more. Like who cares if you’re a “loser” with no friends?! Not me! Your lucky to even be here because your standing strong, and not ending it all. Good job on life. ^^
Only when you are in the streets lol. School is like a fucking prison, first of all there isn’t any quiet places so throwing on some tunes and losing yourself in the music is impossible. When you start walking to much by yourself teachers start noticing and they notify your parents, and also when you are constantly alone you usually tend to get bothered and clowned on by a group of people and since they are a group you can’t do shit aside from running off. The worst part is in the pathetic excuse of a school I am currently in they don’t even allow phones so mindlessly scrolling through youtube is impossible. It’s been a month and I already can’t wait to be out of this shithole
@BreadPittAAAAHHHH Stay strong, brother. I was talking about my experience as a current university student. When you get into a university, everything will be different. Everyone will be minding their own business and being alone is acceptable and perfectly fine. Honestly, it's so perfect for entroverts like me
@@BreadPittAAAAHHHH so true, everyone asks why I don't have friends but I know damn well none of them would try and be my friend. it's so hard with partner/group projects because I know I would never be any ones first pick or even wanted in a group
I’m literally the same way and i’m a freshman 😭 It really does hurt but at least you don’t have to deal with drama.. im so sorry you have to go through this. Thank you for making this though, i feel a lot less alone:) ❤
@@Kkrgssik youre not asking me but you should definitely try out Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children! It’s my favorite book series of all time and always keeps me entertained no matter how many times i read them. They’re like kinda creepy and really funny at the same time. Please try them out if you can!
Did this when I was around 12 and people made fun of me for it :( but I think reading books is way cooler than gossiping about classmates or something. Cool people are never popular that's what I've learned.
@@Kkrgss huh i commented before but i think yt deleted it??? Anyway, I totally recommend miss peregrine’s home for peculiar children. It’s like really creepy but also really funny at the same time. Please give it a try if you can!
@@carinchenbienchen gosh society nowadays is so judgmental. Im homeschooled so i dont have to deal with stuff like that. But just do what you want and dont let others change that!✨
I get you bro this is what my day looks like too ngl and honestly it wasn't like I never tried making friends but it just didn't seem to be working out so I just accepted it and now I guess I prefer to be alone, even if it gets lonely sometimes. Ik there are still people who (hopefully) like talking to me and being my friends, just not at my school. :) (btw I think I have the same shoes and jeans as u😭)
The way you increased your pace at the end while walking out of school is so relatable😅 I also want to get away from the school compound as soon as we are finished with classes.
I thought i was the only one being a loser and not enjoying my teenage hanging out with friends. But i guess im not alone. Thanks for this video💜 you really don't know how much this video means to me ❣️
Ngl that actually looks kinda calming. I live in the UK so I have to wear uniform and we're not allowed our phones at school, this makes it even more awkward if anyone has to/wants to sit alone. Sometimes I wish I was a loner because sometimes my group can be a bit much to handle but our school grounds aren't that big so I'd just be walking small laps around the building in the middle of my school. On another note hope you're ok and, to be positive, that's a great way to get your steps in! lmao ❤❤❤
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What really hits hard being a loner is that when a teacher tells you to pair up for an activity and no one comes up to you because they mostly pair up with their friends and you have none....
In those kind of activities I am almost always alone, or the teacher forcefully makes someone my partner, and that partner just completely ignores me.
@@toejammergamingtoo real because one of my friend jas a childhood friend that is pretty overprotective so she doesn't want me to touch her at all or smth and her face seems like she don't want me around so I kinda cut things short. The second one is in another class and third, is in a friend group it seems. When in terms of a groupwork, i groan abt it because ik people are not gonna pick me either way and i rlly don't like groupwork anyway so i get into a random group by the teacher and it feels so off bc everyone have their friends except for mines that are just... distant sometimes it feels like were just people who talk to each other but not growing in the friendship. I have an eye on this girl but she is not even in reach bc she has friends already and im not sure if she likes me or that how she seems soooo....... not great on my side either but it's the weekend and i dont think much so yay ( srry if this is long i just want to vent ig. Ig im a real loner...)
it’s ok we’re all going through the same ❤ if you need to vent more just do it
Goddammit, that's too real. I just avoid these activities as much as possible at this point, eh
I hate it. Teachers should know better, tbh
90 percent of the time being alone is the best feeling but when that 10 percent hits it’s like a fkn brick to the head.
Real shi
ikr, im not alone with no friends per say but my lunch schedule got changed and ALL of my friends were in my previous lunch shift, having to sit alone felt so mind numbing to me but a girl ((she was an old friend of mine so idk if it counts)) told me i should sit with her table and i was so glad i did.
@@miau5878"old friend of mine so idk if it counts"
Hey, it sure does. Few friends aren't no friends.
I can’t handle interacting with people as anything more than acquaintances or managing meaningful relationships.
Don’t let this kind of thing last for too long. Try to make friends before you get used to not having them. Otherwise life will only get worse. The anxiety leading to loneliness, the loneliness leading to depression, the depression leading to thoughts of suicide, and then random meltdowns where you get dangerously close to going through with it. And then the worst stage of all, acceptance. These feelings becoming such a core part of life that they become normal and mundane.
If I could go back, I’d do whatever I could to avoid going down this path, because now I’ve got no clue how to get off of it or where it’s taking me.
Good luck.
For me it was at assemblies sitting by myself while everyone was so happy.
The worst moment is when there is a free period with a substitute teacher and everyone in the class is chatting, meanwhile you're just sitting alone in the class. Another thing is getting picked last when you're playing sports with your classmates.
nahh when its a supply thats when it gets good, you can just sit in the corner and either zone out or just read a book.
This gives 2010 youtube vibes and im living for it
mate its satire
@@spaced5155how do you know?
@@priceaustin3039 comments like ‘i still havent reached my goal of talking’ in the same video as talking to someone, watch it with the perspective its satire and you should see what im talking about. no face no real experiences just general oh this class that class walking alone :( :(
This is so real 🙏
Word
I used to feel alone all the time in medical school so I started to draw and share my art :) it helped so much and with time you will find mew people ❤ I love your shoes and jeans so much
sybau your corny asf 🤣
Sorry to hear that same is happening to me and I am your subscriber it's pretty cool finding you here
NOAA HIII
Omggg
Hi Noa!!
I cried to this I totally feel you this is how school feels for me I really hope it gets better you seem like such a sweetheart I hope you find the right group of friends
are you okay gurl ❤️☹️🫂🫂
@@조세피나-h6i lol samee this is literally what life is like if you’re awkward or uncool
hey just wanna say as someone who went from being the awkward , "loner" guy in school to a much more confident and social guy in college, it really does get better! I kept myself open, talked to new people and finally found the right grp of friends and now living the BEST time of my life.
skill issue
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7
I can relate, its so akward
btw I love your converse and jeans!
THANKK UUU
we have similar usernames 😧
@@KkrgssI am a loner so I prefer to mostly just be with my thoughts and own self, but the problem is people want to be nice with me and talk to me so I have to always awkwardly speak to them even though most of the time I don't want to. This might come off as rude or mabye insensitive on my part but I wanna be alone like you.
@@rxquettes402 yeah😨
@@Ight-ight Hi, I hope your doing well. I just wanted to tell you that while being alone is nice, I think you should try be with some friends too, and when people want to speak to you, try and have a conversation you can enjoy, even if it's something little. I used to think I liked being alone, but I really enjoy being with my friends.
My god it feels so weird finding a video I can fully relate to online. Im older now but this was literally me in school. Had a bunch of online friends but really no one to chat with or hang out with during the day. Just on my phone aimlessly browsing hoping the time passes. I still do this at work and when I just recently graduated college. Sometimes it gets lonely but Ive learned music gets me through every day.
What music do you listen to?
Sad
This is me now
Even though I like to be alone, I still have some friends when I was in school although not that close.
Literally me rn..
I dont mind not having friends but sometimes i look at the students in my school talking to eachother and laughing just reminds me that i rlly have no one to talk to about and that sucks, sm.
i feel you :( only online friends now
I feel you. Whenever I saw that, it remindes that I'm alone and the last thing I do (talking with friends I mean) is in elementary. It makes me want to cry but I just hold it. 🥲
wow I can’t believe there are so many people who I am exactly like, when you’re one of the only loners in a whole school, you feel like you’re the only one in the whole world. hope you get through it, remember you are strong for making it this far and whenever you feel lonely remember that you aren’t alone ❤️🩹
@@AIqamar thank you so much 🫶❤️
When you look back in 10 years you might realize it wasn't a bad thing.
the "walking around the school so you dont sit alone at lunch" is so sad but real 😭😭
samee i do it too
I used to do it in middle school to pass time because I had nobody to sit with...
I don’t get it? Just sit alone or sit with people like?
@@Copemaxer its awkward to just go up to a group of people who are all friends and just ask to sit next to them. and what if youre sitting alone and people see you sitting alone and everyone is staring at you? might just be me though idk
@ No shit it’s awkward but you know what’s worse? Not having any friends cus you can’t even bring yourself to try. Sitting alone I mean yeah people might look but so what. I have some friends but sometimes I just wanna be alone so I sit alone. No one actually cares that much
This was me during high school. I couldn’t take another year of it so I dropped out. After that I didn’t have many ways to make friends so I was still alone. It messed me up. Over the years I’ve gotten chances to make friends, but now that I’ve adapted to being alone I can’t handle interacting with people as anything more than acquaintances or managing meaningful relationships.
Don’t let this kind of thing last for too long. Try to make friends before you get used to not having them. Otherwise life will only get worse. The anxiety leading to loneliness, the loneliness leading to depression, the depression leading to thoughts of suicide, and then random meltdowns where you get dangerously close to going through with it. And then the worst stage of all, acceptance. These feelings becoming such a core part of life that they become normal and mundane.
If I could go back, I’d do whatever I could to avoid going down this path, because now I’ve got no clue how to get off of it or where it’s taking me.
Good luck.
I'm so sorry, that seems harsh ❤ i thought my life was bad but this is just sad..im sorry ur going through this
How many years exactly have you been alone? For me it's been 4 years... Is that too much?
@@oompaloompa5473 I’ve been isolated for around 11 years now.
A single year of being alone is more than anyone should have to experience. Thinking back to when my life had only been like that for 4 years, I can see a way out, but it might just be hindsight. At that point I still desperately desired to have friends, but I didn’t know how to approach other people my own age and form those connections. Overthinking everything and fearing being judged held me back. If I had reached out more and taken the opportunities in front of me then maybe life would be different. Instead, I hoped that an angel would appear and fix my life for me. Don’t make that mistake, they’re not coming, and it’s not worth wasting time waiting on them.
I want to say that it’s never too late to recover from this. At least that’s what I’d like to believe. But those periods of life that are missed can never be regained. They’re gone, forever. All the experiences that shaped everyone else won’t be relatable, pushing them further away, making it even harder to build friendships and get out of this hole.
It’s never too late to stop being alone, but be afraid of what will happen if you wait.
If you still want to be around other people, have friends, fall in love, then I believe that you have a good chance. I’ve mostly lost all of that by this point, but I still keep trying, and you should too.
I hope you make it.
@@giyuu_tomiokaaaa I brought this on myself, so I only have myself to blame. If I’d had the strength to take responsibility for my own life, things would have been different. I just hope that this message can warn a few people about what a path of isolation leads to.
@@goawaygosh I get it, and its easy af to feel discouraged, but just know there are still chances to interact with others, if not irl then online.
the worst part about being a loner during highschool is the people who would come up to you acting like youre some lost puppy, when I was a freshman there were these seniors who came up to me acting like we were best friends and it was super uncomfortable
yeah fr😭
there's a special place in hell for groups of people who just make it awkward for/troll loners on purpose
it's kinda like hazing except you don't even get any gain from passing their test
@@bigjerome-wz4uo forreal!!!!!
Things to do if you’re sad (Lashes don’t actually grow from tears)
-cut paper (Throw it out afterwards)
-scream/cry
-make tea
-go on a walk alone/with someone
-Give someone/something a hug! Including stuffed animals
-Watch a comfort TH-camr
Something to distract yourself from negative things
-Smell something you like the scent of
-Get a fidget toy
-pet your pet if you have an animal in your home/house
-Take a nap (sometimes when you take a nap after all emotions you’ll remember bad memories when you wake up so try distracting yourself when you wake up)
-Go on a FaceTime with someone
-talk everything through with someone or maybe even yourself. Saying your feelings and emotions out loud might make you feel better
-Go somewhere you enjoy being at
Hope this helps!
@@Jesusriegns4eternity6787are you slow? It’s literally scientifically proven that it does not help go look it up or sum 😭🙏
FaceTime and comfort ytuber r best ways to boost your mood :3
@@brist4r1 :)
Crying helps relieve stress
@@brist4r1face time makes me sad
This is why whenever I see someone sitting alone, I ALWAYS invite them to sit with my friends and I! That's actually how I made one of my best friends. 💞
That's nice of you💗
That’s so sweet 🥲
you seem so sweet wth 😭😭
thats so cutee
You’re out here doing God’s work. Thank you, seriously
I dont really like how being a loner is being shown to be as an aesthetic like its something thats "quirky"
Its literally not. I literally felt like an outcast and a loner for most of my high school career and i truly hate it, plus i find it hard to talk to people. Its not an aesthetic, its something i genuinely still struggle with to this day
you're so based for this take
Facts. It’s even worse when I see total extroverts try to pass themselves as being “loners” just because they think its “cool” to be one. That just makes it even more isolating.
"the animatronics do tend to get a little bit quirky at night😳😳🎅🎅🎅🎅"
@Unfunnyfunynamethis man is already dead he just doesnt know it 🎅🎅🎅🎅🐻🐻🐻🐻
The casual baggy jeans and converse is something that everybody needs honestly.
no
@@bigfish2750yes
@@bigfish2750 yes
@@bigfish2750 yes. ☺️
@@ItzjustMaria.drawss no thanks
As a high schooler (senior) who’s about to be graduating next year my experience was a roller coaster of emotions to say the least. Dealing with social anxiety and the stress of being alone hit so badly for me I couldn’t physically be there without having a breakdown or panic attacks (still somewhat reoccurring til this days). I hated every moment being there while my parents internalized how I’m not going to ever be “good enough” someday . Highschool is an environment most people will preach how you have to be on board but never tell us how stressful it can be at the same time taking a toll on someone. Everybody wants to get out of there and leave, trust me once you live your life things will look brighter for you, having more enjoyable things and opportunities to do, or hell find something new youd like to do. So don’t be so harsh on yourself please.
+I hope you have a good rest of your school year!, wishin you best of luck bro
I’m having a great time in high school, sorry yours sucked
@ I could give less shits about you or your Highschool experience buddy boy this ain’t for you clearly LMAO
@ good for you! That wasn’t meant to be sarcastic when I said I’m sorry yours sucked.
@@DeckedSneeze709A little insensitive 🫤
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7
I've always been an loner at school , had no friends , no one to talk to , sat alone at lunch! But it was peaceful! No drama, or anything! You start to appreciate it! Better to be alone than to be in bad company! Once you conquer loneliness, solitude becomes the reward! Love the pants and shoes btw! ❤ and you're not alone , we're here for you! :) You're not an loser either , loners are awesome!
Me now 🙋. Always been a loner since highschool. I'm in college now and still have no friends but I'm getting used to it. It's indeed peaceful to be alone, it's good when you are used to it 😅
Y’all need some good friends fr
The second most important thing you can get from highschool, only behind the diploma, is networking skills man, it pays like all hell to know people or know how to know people
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7
@PraiseGodyt Thanks for the Bible verse, my brother or sister in christ! That's a great one.
i know its hard not having any friends at school but im sure you'll get through the year. goodluck this year!
edit; guys i was trying to be nice stop coming for me 😞
edit 2; also yes i am a bsd fan thanks for noticing guys :3
i agree 🤍.
@@TinzcmrSame 🤍
@@flimo6963Real🤍🤍🤍
@@whos_faizan 🤍🤍
it's my case lol
Your not alone! There are many people who can relate to you
Frr
Like me 😅
Me but now I have just one friend but before I was always alone so I know how it feels
Like meeeee😅😢
yea i can relate to this and it sucks most of the time
Honestly, for me, becoming a loner in school was my best decision because I have been more focused on my school work and also working on my mental health. I used to have friends but we really weren't that close. So it was difficult telling them that I wanna be alone, but it got some weight off my chest. Hope you have a good year to whoever is reading this 😊
Even tho i have many close friends, i always invite people to sit with me and make sure they dont feel left out. I also make many jokes to keep them entertained. Nobody at my school will be lonely. ❤
Aww thats so sweet :)
@@Kkrgss Want true freedom? Come to Jesus Christ 👍😊
I'm actually pretty shy but I really like being around my friends and socializing. I find it quite shocking how you manage to make friends easily lol
@@_Siloam_No
@@_Siloam_Jesus ain’t coming to sit with you at lunch 💀😭
Does anyone ever feel so depressed that you can't cry or do anything anymore, like you don't want to die but you don't want to live. You want someone to notice that you're sad but you keep smiling so they don't ever know? Yeah same! Or how you love someone so much and they know that no matter how much they hurt you you're still gonna love them like there isn't a tomorrow. Or how you try and try and try so hard to be the person you aren't but then one day when you finally show your real self, it backlashes on you and nobody respects your feelings or decisions. Yeah I know the feeling.
Your not alone
i want to die so bad but i can't do it because i have my brother who's my bestfriend and i don't wanna leave him alone so he's like my only will to live left but it gets harder everytime at this point i don't think i will even make it to 18 (im 16) :(
@@tenshiixxxget help even if you don’t want to it’s worth it
shit this is how i feel exactly
oil up I'm coming
@@unrule. 😳
Better to not have friends than to have fake ones. Your in a better position than I am.
What? U r aware that you have fake friends yet you keep them around?
@Copemaxer I don't keep them, they use me for their benefit which doesn't bother me. They don't take any money from me so I couldn't care less if they are true or not.
@@Copemaxer I don't choose the have them around, they just are. It's called being beneficial for others.
@@flyingpizza7486 If u don’t want fake friends just tell them to stop hanging around you? Or stop crying about it
@@Copemaxer I'm not crying about it? Plus I don't care that they are fake.
This was me all throughout my high school experience. However, I finally found a friend my second year of university! :D
Things will eventually get better. Somewhere out there, there is someone for you. Sometimes that person can come in the most unlikely of ways, but what matters is that they come.
Hang in there. This isn't the end. ^w^
❤❤
Definitely agree. Things got so much better after school. My younger self wouldn't even believe it.
When you become successful, everyone will suddenly want to be your friend again.
not really
lol no,
@@Copemaxer did I ask you specifically? Because you are just one out of millions and not everyone is the same
@ yeah very clear u won’t get any friends regardless of your wealth
This is actually better than having friends who mock you in your lowest time.
I can relate to you
So realll
You’re not a loser!! And you’re not alone. Your always with yourself!!
idk bro idk if this is helpful information
@@bloopblop5045not really
Clearly a loser and alone?
it feels super weird finding a video i resonate with. this is exactly how everyday of highschool is for me
The walking around for no reason is so real bruh
real, I even sometimes pretend Im doing something or Im chatting someone on my phone whenever I notice Im the only lonely one in the room 😭
Haha. I feel the same
Real which is true cuz I talk w my friends on sms all day everyday at school we all go to diff schools so we JS talk together
Being alone is the best gift you can have
1) you can study properly for exams, because if you engage in studying with friends, you will never able to study and will end up talking
2) you will never waste time
This is the experiences l get from being alone with no friends, it can be different for everyone, l just told my opinion ❤
you can have friends and still study bro😭
@vvenyu in my class , it isn't possible 😂
Cope lol, studying is way more effective if done with other people
@@Copemaxer I said in the comment, l said my 'opinion '
also a terrible curse if you're neurodivergent and procrastinate a lot
i hate it when people say "high school is the best time of your life, you'll miss it one day!" yea no i dont think i will but hey everyone has different hs experiences
I lowkey miss highschool in some ways tho 😭
I'm in senior year and not one thing happened in my high school experience that I will miss 😭
It’s chill😊
@@vindicatr498 senioryearisthelastso
hiii, it was just like this for me last year and i felt like there was nothing to live for. it was so hard and i was very close to attempting multiple times. ☹️ but i promise things will get better someday, so don’t ever give up ❤️ im sure you are an incredible person even if it doesn’t feel like it, it takes so much courage to live like this every day so i completely understand. i hope things get better for you so soon
Jesus loves you and He wants to be your friend
Same story
i recommend reading! i did have friends i sat with during school but sometimes i would just find a quiet corner during lunch to read when i didn’t want to socialize and needed a break it was very calm and nice
I feel you. I don’t have any friends at my high school, I’m just an awkward loner girl.
I’ll be your friend, I don’t have many friends either, I’m alone in almost all my subjects too
Same im rlly shy, less shy then other yrs cuz i talk sometimes but thats only to the person next to time so pretty useless
i'm sure someone out there would want to be your friend!
@@AestheticallyViolet true sigma males do not define themselves as "Loners"
@@IAMTHEDEMON07 and she isnt a male i think 💀 WHY TF I HAVE TO SAY I THINK IN 2024 MAN
you do not know how much I needed to see this, someone who is going through somewhat the same thing as me ❤
Definitely relate, I'd just sit in the bathroom during break and skip class either writing or playing pokémon on my phone. The best thing about school is that it doesn't last forever.
THE AIMLESSLY WALIKING AROUND AT LUNCH IS SO REAL
I always left school during the breaks, although I almost never had contact with anyone I still disliked gaining a reputation of someone who would seem lonely. People knew I was alone and I could deal with that but I did want to avoid letting people’s believe I was lonely. I wasn’t and I didn’t want people to think that and feel sad for me.
@@Victor-07-04 Yeah as soon as they see you alone they go up to you and ask to be friends but personally im not a fan of pity friends.Youre so lucky! my school doesnt allow off campus lunch so i mostly stay in the library
@ A reputation as a teenager with perhaps some bad luck in making friends was way less problematic than a teenager with the appearance of fundamentally alone and possibly lonely. So during the short break I hid myself in the library and just pretended to work like many other students but for some stupid reason the library was closed during the long break. I always left during that break but that wasn’t quite as easy as it sounds. Leaving was in fact not allowed. There was this janitor who’s life missing it was to chase down students who tried to escape. If he was present I almost always had to stay in school and well… pretend to use the toilet a lot. Fortunately covid happened and this ‘saved’ me from having a really hard time. And the head of my school gained nationwide attention for being one of the very few who refused to open up when it was allowed again. I would donate a kidney to him for this little act.
The times were difficult but like you said, I am lucky. Lucky that I’m good at being alone in general and that I was good in finding tricks to make it through the days. It really made me stronger and looking back at it I can’t help but laugh about the whole situation. I once actually considered to dig a hole in the ground next to school to hide in 😂
I am from the Netherlands by the way
@ And if I recall right I also fabricated fake screenshots of my schedule where I changed my schedule in a way that a break would be proceeded by an hour without a lesson. In that way I could leave in a legit way because than it wasn’t prohibited. I had to get through 2.5 years with that. The first year was about 6 months of school and 6 months of online lessons. The second year wasn’t blessed with online lessons and that meant putting up a fight. Both of these years were about equally tough because in year two I was mentally stronger. The third year lasted only 6 months in total because I left school. I was going to try the highest school level in my country but two factors made me back out. 1: The level itself and the workload it caused. And 2: the fact that I was just not able to do another two years of that sort. I really think that there would come a time when the janitors would have caught me trying to escape so many times that it really wasn’t possible at all anymore to try and leave. Luckily I didn’t have to find out. I’m in a graduate school now where I have more luck socially and where being alone isn’t weird at all.
Hey everyone thank u for watching this, I never realized how many ppl relate to this. For everyone experiencing this just know that u aren’t alone and it’s okay to be alone or a loner 🖤.
ALSO, should I continue to upload these types of videos or nah.
@@KkrgssYeah girl upload more ❤
@@KkrgssYeah girl upload more videos ❤ & remember that you are not a loser 💓✨
@@Kkrgssid watch them lol makes me feel slightly less alone
I don’t usually talk to people in my school, I just read, I don’t want anybody saying “We weren’t talking to you” that never really happens to me, but I’m alone in school too.
Ik exactly how you feel. I've been a loner at my HS ever since freshman year. It can feel rlly isolating, especially when all your classes are made up of classmates that already know each other and youre the odd one out. BUT DONT LET THAT BRING YOU DOWN!!! I am sure youre an awesome person with lots of cool things to say. dont ever say your life is uninteresting. I hope one day you are able to meet lots of cool friends and that you dont feel lonely anymore. In the meantime, stay true to yourself and never change just for the sake of fitting in. The right people will love you just the way you are. Keep doing your thing and remember that youre loved :D
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legit doesn’t work every time
I hate it sm 😭
Just remember that even though you go to school and get an education makes you more blessed than many in this world! Keep your head up! Everyone struggles with something and the joy comes from overcoming that struggle
Truly true! The times were difficult but the experience makes future times easy.
Better this than being surrounded by idiots, trust me...
0:47 I just know you were jumping for joy leaving that building 😭 (Real though, literally all throughout middle school too.)
Omg i feel you, I barely talk through the day. I am alone most of the time at school and sit alone at lunch. Even tho i think its kind of my fault too. I wish u luck, there are so many ppl who relate, even if the circumstances are different for everyone, but im sure it can get better.
I am sorry you're going through this. During high school, I barely had friends and most of my "friends" weren't actually real friends. Now I am in college and I made a few friends and one amazing close friend. From the first day she talked to me, she made everything better and I forgot all those days I felt alone! You will get through this. :)
This was me all throughout high school. Graduated three years ago and not much has changed. It's a bit hard having no friends sometimes, but I just try and focus on the things that I like. You're doing great :) I'm sure we'll both meet new friends someday.
I’m not the best at words but man, can relate, I was once that typical ostracised kid who’s always alone & without friends in school too, having recess alone & last to be picked for group projects, etc. But things will get better man, how long it takes & what you need to change about yourself differs for everyone but so long as you take a step to change this predicament you really would become less lonely & loser-like. For me right now I’m in my friend’s house with like 10 others playing cards lol
All the best fam
God bless you man!! One day you'll find good friends, but it's always better to be alone than in bad company
i spent the entirety of 7th grade with no friends or communication. i had just moved to a new school in the middle of the pandemic, i would go literal days without talking to anyone. i was made fun of all the time. i wouldnt wish that upon my worst enemy. now im in my junior year of highschool and ive never been better. you will get through it eventually, the loneliness will pass as long as you have the efforts to put yourself out there 💜
Nah 3 friends killed themselves cus of this shid. Pretty f cked
I love your shoes!! I know how it can be to feel completely alone, just know there is always people who will care for you, school is super hard both academically and socially, but you got this!! I’m sure everything will be okay, and you’ll meet people in life who will love you and care about you for who you are, never give up
Being alone is the best feeling with no distractions but at the same time with people to be with, it’s like family
I know what it's like, at the last school I went to before graduating, I also didn't have any friends. There was this one girl I kind of considered my friend for a little while but after some time she started to behave really strange around me. So I'd say yeah I basically didn't have any friends. There was a handful of people I got along with and I sat next to during certain classes but none of them was a friend. Just someone to have a little chat with once in a while. I always left the school grounds at break to go smoking, to buy some food at a nearby grocery store or to just walk around so that nobody would see me hanging out by myself. When I had a free period I went to a park, when I had more than one free period I went home, despite having to walk 25 minutes home and 25 minutes back to school (didn't have a bus ticket and also no car). Also started hiding in the bathroom at some point. I had panic attacks and I was throwing up in there or drinking pure vodka from a little bottle to calm my nerves. That was my school life for two fucking years. It's crazy to look back at it now because I've changed so much. I stopped smoking, I barely drink alcohol anymore and I almost never have a panic attack. I do have diagnosed social anxiety but I can actually be pretty social and open whenever I feel comfortable, I'd say it's easy to talk to me if you approach me, I'm not even shy or anything if you seem like a friendly person to me, I can talk a LOT. I'm very talkative with friends and I am always able to find people to get along with no matter where I am. But everyone in this school was always gossiping or bragging about their vacations, cruises and whatsoever. I come from a middle class household but I was already living on my own at that time (long story, don't wanna talk about it) and barely had any money but of course almost everyone there had an iPad and those who didn't have an iPad at least had another apple device. I didn't and sometimes I was literally almost completely excluded from lessons because of that. Teachers would send the tasks via Airdrop and so I didn't receive it and always had to beg someone to send it to me separately. And we had a looooot of group tasks. Whenever I had to work in a group and none of the few people I chatted with during the school day was with me, I was so uncomfortable that I didn't even say anything because I knew these people would gossip about it afterwards. They gossiped about absolutely everything. I normally don't care much if others gossip about me as long as I have my group of people I know I can trust but I didn't have anyone there. So I didn't participate much in the group tasks and therefore everyone thought I was lazy and that I would use others but I was actually just scared to do something wrong. It was absolute hell. I've been bullied in my previous school but even there I had friends... I always thought there was something wrong with me but now I know that it wasn't my fault. Sometimes you just don't fit in a certain environment. That doesn't make me a bad person or a loser or something. I'm very proud of how far I've come despite all the struggles I've faced (including writing this comment at almost midnight in a foreign language while falling asleep after every third word but I think I'm doing quite well xD). If I'd be able to meet my younger self now I'd definitely tell her that everything in fact DOES get better after school and that I'm happy now and that I actually love living and that I sometimes love life so much it makes me cry. Because school messed up my entire life. I can't count on one hand the amount of mental illnesses I got diagnosed with during my school days. Of course it's not the school's fault entirely but it definitely contributed it's fair share. So if anyone is struggling right now, trust me it will get better at some point and life really is so worth it. And there is always something to cheer you up and always something to admire and to enjoy. You are absolutely enough ❤
Awh! Im so glad it turned out well.❤❤❤
@@OKYAHThank you!! What I experienced is why I always say that the good life starts in your twenties. I actually started to enjoy living. I have been through a lot of things throughout my teenage years and before, this school was only one of them but I made it just like everything else so far and that's the important thing. Sometimes that's enough to be proud of.
Take care❤:)
I'm actually intrigued by your share of information. Where you said being afraid of messing up in group work and everyone thinking your lazy or having panic attacks and social anxiety to diagnosed with various mental issues is so much like me. Although I would rather not disclose them but its been a struggle almost to death literally. I felt suicidal and clinically depressed. That's the only difference than what you just shared. I mean you love life but I absolutely hate it, and everything that makes it up (not talking about people or animals lol), like the income, the system we revolve around and so on. Thanks for sharing, it provides great insight.
I'm actually really glad you're okay now! I'm kinda experiencing this because I can't really communicate with people or keep the conversation interesting and going. So, even if I wanted close friends/friends, it's was hard for me. But being alone has taught me a lot to be independent and keep me company. Thank you for sharing your story, really appreciate it :D
Girl you’re so strong omg,I’m glad you’re better now ngl
yeah high school is hell sometimes :/ and so is feeling lonely. But thank you for posting this bc sometimes I don't take dimension of how common of an experience this can be, makes me feel less of a bad kind of freak out there, to know that more people share the feeling. Sending love, be kind to urself and always remember you're cool as u are
Try to like yourself, even if only a bit~
@noodle67 yeah I'm learning to like myself more and more every day, it makes living fun :]
im a freshman rn. on basically day one of high school, my “friends” stopped being friendly, and it became rlly hard for me to socialize/approach people. i feel this sooo much, and i hate being alone. thanks for this ❤ new subscriber
fuck that guy. im sorry that happened, but if they were that kind of person from the start maybe its a good thing they outed themselves relatively early on.
In my 6th and 7th grade year I had 3 friends. 1 of them “tolerated” me as she told me, 1 of the, was like the one before and “tolerated” me sometimes and then other times was all over me. And then I had that one good friend, whom I had in only 2 periods. I spent most of my PEs alone, sitting down reading. All of my classes I would get stuck with that one quiet boy for group work. I had 1 amazing Literature teacher we would talk to me all dismissal because my friend was always called for carline immediately. If it weren’t for that friend and that teacher, I don’t know if I would have gotten through the year. That last quarter of school where my best friend left was brutal. The one “toleration” friend decided she didn’t like me anymore, out of the blue, and started rumors about me, getting more passive aggressive every day. The only “friend” I had left wasn’t mean but she just random wandered away from me at times and didn’t say where she was going. If you want to make friends and your school, please don’t make friends “made of glass”. And, just sayin, most teachers are super friendly and will talk to you at dismissal, and most of them are very interesting! I moved to a new school this year, just sit next to someone and say “hi, I’m ___. What’s your name?” and it’ll be hard for them to turn you down. Or just a simple “Can I sit here?”. It’s always worth a try. If you have no friends there, I mean there’s nothing to lose if you get denied. Another thing, look for the kids with no friends, I can almost guarantee they’ll talk to you, most of them don’t want to be alone, they’re just shy. Stay strong. You can do this. -Banansly
thank you, i had a similar experience, and i really needed this video, all the comments, and especially this one.
or hit them with the “do you remember me”? 😂 and then say they look like someone you knew
I’d totally hang with you if I was still in high school but I’m in college 😭 Honestly just do what floats your boat. Loads of people even in college feel the need to constantly be surrounded by someone or something to make them feel “alive” when in actuality they’re just lowkey masking and sugarcoating it. While I can’t relate much to loneliness in HS cos I’m still pretty tight with my friends, college was tough cos I spent two years surrounded by people that made me feel alone. Our hobbies didn’t align, our humour was never on the same page and it felt super preachy and superficial ngl. Finding peace in solace and basking in it is just as fine and sometimes better if your soul and heart are strong 🥹❤.
I'm truly proud of people who are in situations like these and still go through it (basically going to school being a "loser")
It's scary how accurate this is for a lot of kids... like a lot of high schoolers are in this exact situation, and that's incredibly sad. I hope the best for these people, though. I've never personally experienced the parts of being lonely, so i can't speak much on it.
I’m about to graduate college now (a year late I might add) and my highschool experience looked a lot like this. I can totally relate and know it gets better, highschool is not the end of the road. You do have to put effort in, but life does get better. I also want to add that I’m finishing doing online college after doing in-person for awhile, so traditional school wasn’t for me. But I found something better that works for me and im a lot happier now. My life is pretty normal but I have worked on myself a lot both physically and mentally, the gym has been my safe haven and happy place for the last 5 years, so take that as you will. I have dealt with serious anxiety and depression that all started in high school and still somewhat affects me to this day….just know you’re not alone and many people know what it’s like. I was fat, unhappy, depressed, anxious, and at times suicidal, and today I am happy and healthy and in a relationship with a beautiful girl. Sorry for the long post but this was very personal to me and I know how hard this is. So to you and anyone else reading this, good luck, be yourself, and know you’re not alone. Much love - Matthew
i graduated this year. i was alone all four years and at graduation. it was not easy, but i got through it anyway. you can get through this as well, just stay positive and work towards your future. but, i say this with all my heart, do try to make friends. there is nothing wrong with being alone, but try to make an effort each day or week to socialize with others. i wish you the best!!! i really really hope that you can find someone to call a friend
How can you make friends? I'm gonna be a senior next year, transferring to another school where everyone probably has their own friends.
@ truthfully, you should go up to others and make conversation. you can wait for someone to speak to you, as i did, but unfortunately it did not work out for me. don’t let the fear of rejection hinder you. it’s better to experience a minute of rejection than 4 years of desolation
I kinda want to start vlogging too to feel less alone, love your converse btw
THANKK UUU
you should! i really wanted to but i got my phone taken away and i wasnt sure if people would actually like/watch but ig this video confirms it
@@gummybeararmstronglol fr, I wanted to today but we left almost immediately after coming bcs there was a bomb threat
lol the walking aimlessly around hits home. Just know you’re not alone. I felt like this my whole high school career. Except I didn’t get a phone until I turned 18, so I had no social media or music to keep me entertained. Just know that being alone is better than being in a bad group, it seems fun at first, but bad people will ruin your character. Glad that I’m done with it all, so I wish you a speedy school year. Good luck!
I’m actually the same girl, just a loser with no friends, same routine for me, I’m sorry that you have to deal with that. Atleast we have our peace and alone time. The more your alone, the more it’s comfortable to be with yourself.
It gets better. I was also always alone in high school. But I made it through, did well in college, and now I'm in medical school. Yet to this day I still have horrible memories of high school. I'm still alone much of the time, but I've gotten comfortable with it now. And I ended up choosing one of the most social careers out there, to be a doctor. I'm sure you'll make it through just as well-even if you don't find your people right away.
This is too relatable 😭 (especially the Dress To Impress part)
In middle/high school, having lots of friends, being popular, seems like it’s the most important thing in the world.
But once you reach your late 20’s
You realise that having no friends (or very little friends) does not make you a loser.
You realise it’s actually a blessing, you start to cherish your personal time
hey, the message at the end honestly helped. we’ll get through this and it’ll end some day
Sometimes it’s better to be alone than have "friends" who abuses and sexualizes you and only come to you when they need you on a daily basis.
Bro why tf would u make friends with those kinda ppl. Just choose some stand up ones or be alone and content
@@Copemaxer what do you think I do? I give them the same treatment.And barely anyone likes me so yes the last option is better
@@Cassizz.707 Why would you mirror such horrible behaviour? That just makes you as bad as them
I can relate a lot with this video. Sometimes it sucks sometimes you are glad but in the end you are alone and that's a nightmare.
I went through this in my junior year, and trust me when I say it truly does get better. You’re gonna power through this, I believe in you 🖤❤️
aye man even though you dont have friends just push through and dont get depressed and if you just start small talk with people then you might become friends with them. stay with us bro❤❤❤
this was me in high school, but im 25 now. i had no one. during lunch I’d go to the library and do homework so that I looked busy. Didn’t even eat any lunch. I relate so hard to the “walk into hell” part
Don’t worry!
There is definitely someone out there for you! ❤️
it's nbd, you'll learn that it's a good skill to enjoy your own company.
but still, try to talk to people with 0 expectations. just like "have u done the homework," "how do you do this problem," "where did you get that perfume?" "long night? (when someone yawns)" etc. ordinary greetings work. this isn't directly to get friends, its just so you don't feel awkward talking to people later down the line. feel comfortable! you'll likely never see these people past high school, so there's nothing to lose anyway.
besides that, just work on yourself and be kind. do what you want and don't let a lack of friends stop you from going out and having fun (at day ofc, stay safe!) you'll attract whatever suits you in time, whether that's now, in college, or past that.
How can you make friends? I'm gonna be a senior next year, transferring to another school where everyone probably has their own friends.
“Walking so I don’t end up sitting alone” is SO relatable. I always walk back and forth during lunch because I feel anxious when I sit alone :((
You’re not a loser, you are someone important and there is value to your life and to yourself as a person. School can be very difficult and finding friends who are good and honest is also difficult, however, you need to take care of yourself because even if you can’t find honest and good friends in high school, you might just find good and honest friends at college or maybe even later on in your life.
Just please remember to take care of yourself, because you are important and you matter. Don’t think you have to validate yourself by other peoples’ views about you 🌼
Don’t ever think that you have to validate your existence based on other peoples’ views about you.
Thanks, I appreciate the reminder. I've also been going through the same exact scenario. I'll keep in mind everything you've commented here. I hope you do have a lovely day/night! you're awesome
@@yaushixoxo thank you so much! I appreciate your comment
i agree
In my school is even harder, because it's so much group work, we can't have phones, they are seized for whole day and we have 7-8 lessons, never 6.😢
I’m really glad I’m not alone. Thank you for sharing exactly what we’re feeling 🥺😞🫶
youre not a loser because you dont have friends, thats not where you find your worth. trust me, i understand that the toughest thing to do is to just walk up to someone and strike a conversation. im not a person with much confidence, so thats hard for me too bc i start thinking of what the person would think of me if i say something wrong. but dont find the number of friends you have as worth or who u are, they (nor results) define you. im glad i came across this video bc im not the only one who struggles to make friends
ok i understand this but DAMN you have the most picturesque views at your school, like seeing the mountains in the distance is just gorgeous
I honestly was like this my first year of high school and the best way to change this is to join a sport/club. You meet a lot of new and interesting people this way and it helps you be more social and make more connections, and you might not be as lonely. Once I started sports a lot of things in my life changed, mostly for the better.
I can relate...!
Its so hard, nobody wanna talks to you dk why, but im sure we will get through this buddys!! We will find a grest friends for sure!! And you are no loser, dont call urself that!
I feel so bad for you, its interesting to see what ppl with no friends do at school! Cant wait for the next video if ur making one
Life is like a game, it gets harder, and then harder, and just very hard and boring. But once you get better at it you can start to enjoy it more.
Like who cares if you’re a “loser” with no friends?! Not me! Your lucky to even be here because your standing strong, and not ending it all. Good job on life. ^^
Amen bro. 🙏
Being alone is actually better. Sitting alone, quietly just enjoying the moment. Vibe
But when your very self conscious and by yourself, worrying about how others are viewing you it is quite hard to enjoy the moment
@@LesPK17 real
Only when you are in the streets lol. School is like a fucking prison, first of all there isn’t any quiet places so throwing on some tunes and losing yourself in the music is impossible. When you start walking to much by yourself teachers start noticing and they notify your parents, and also when you are constantly alone you usually tend to get bothered and clowned on by a group of people and since they are a group you can’t do shit aside from running off. The worst part is in the pathetic excuse of a school I am currently in they don’t even allow phones so mindlessly scrolling through youtube is impossible. It’s been a month and I already can’t wait to be out of this shithole
@BreadPittAAAAHHHH Stay strong, brother. I was talking about my experience as a current university student. When you get into a university, everything will be different. Everyone will be minding their own business and being alone is acceptable and perfectly fine. Honestly, it's so perfect for entroverts like me
@@BreadPittAAAAHHHH so true, everyone asks why I don't have friends but I know damn well none of them would try and be my friend. it's so hard with partner/group projects because I know I would never be any ones first pick or even wanted in a group
I’m literally the same way and i’m a freshman 😭
It really does hurt but at least you don’t have to deal with drama.. im so sorry you have to go through this. Thank you for making this though, i feel a lot less alone:) ❤
Don’t worry broski 🙏 It only gets worse out of high school
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I recommend reading books! When I used to spend time alone I started reading books & it was actually very entertaining and time passed fast :)
Do u have any books u recommend :) ??
@@Kkrgssik youre not asking me but you should definitely try out Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children! It’s my favorite book series of all time and always keeps me entertained no matter how many times i read them. They’re like kinda creepy and really funny at the same time. Please try them out if you can!
Did this when I was around 12 and people made fun of me for it :( but I think reading books is way cooler than gossiping about classmates or something. Cool people are never popular that's what I've learned.
@@Kkrgss huh i commented before but i think yt deleted it??? Anyway, I totally recommend miss peregrine’s home for peculiar children. It’s like really creepy but also really funny at the same time. Please give it a try if you can!
@@carinchenbienchen gosh society nowadays is so judgmental. Im homeschooled so i dont have to deal with stuff like that. But just do what you want and dont let others change that!✨
I get you bro this is what my day looks like too ngl and honestly it wasn't like I never tried making friends but it just didn't seem to be working out so I just accepted it and now I guess I prefer to be alone, even if it gets lonely sometimes. Ik there are still people who (hopefully) like talking to me and being my friends, just not at my school. :) (btw I think I have the same shoes and jeans as u😭)
The way you increased your pace at the end while walking out of school is so relatable😅
I also want to get away from the school compound as soon as we are finished with classes.
I thought i was the only one being a loser and not enjoying my teenage hanging out with friends. But i guess im not alone. Thanks for this video💜
you really don't know how much this video means to me ❣️
You're not a loser :)
@@carinchenbienchen thank you 💜
a loser is someone who is a gross or bad person, being alone or not having friends doesn't make you a loser 💙
I mean at least there’s a bright side. You can get a lot of exercise :D
YOU ARE SO REAL FOR THIS NO FRIEND GANG RISE UP
Am I the only one that enjoys being alone
i do aswell i dont know why everyone hates it, i guess its cuz people think u weird, i been mocked for it but i just like it
No, but not having anyone care for you is tough for a lot of people
Yea... if anything I love having time to myself
@@CopemaxerWhat about family? 😅
@@matrix5051 Family are cool but they’re literally forced to like u for biological and social reasons
Ngl that actually looks kinda calming. I live in the UK so I have to wear uniform and we're not allowed our phones at school, this makes it even more awkward if anyone has to/wants to sit alone. Sometimes I wish I was a loner because sometimes my group can be a bit much to handle but our school grounds aren't that big so I'd just be walking small laps around the building in the middle of my school.
On another note hope you're ok and, to be positive, that's a great way to get your steps in! lmao ❤❤❤
Those school uniform laws in the UK are dystopian. Ya'll should abolish them.
@@The_Royal_Channelnah homie I actually like school uniforms because I'm a broke ass with garbage clothes
@@The_Royal_Channel For reallll!!!!
I can agree 100% also love your shoes bro and your jeans are hella cool to!
bro i quit school i got bullied so much ngl
U okay?
u good bro??
@@Strawberrybunnymm2 kind of i only have like 2 friends now
@@knowaliddaa kind of i only have 2 friends now
@lily-zt6qn tysm hope ur ok too
is this more common than i think?
I was shocked too lol yuu won't believe
But alone??
As a girl??
It's a bit difficult for me to digest