This is definitely one of the best "find your style" videos I've seen! My style is very different from yours. I'm very cottagecore and femme. But I sooo appreciate your advice and appreciate this channel!
I definitely agree! Having people with you can really influence what you pick, most of the time because of the pressure to like certain pieces or look a certain way. Also, less distractions when alone :)
TRUEEE! I used to rely a lot on my mom for shopping advice (it’s not weird if she designs clothing as a job 😆) but her style is a lot more inspired by XTC and English rock so it definitely influenced me for years. Now I feel like branching off so I can feel confident and shopping alone is very helpful for me
YES. I always shop and dress alone (even in fun, getting ready to go out with mates situations). I like to appear how i am and then no one can say anything. Rather than get feedback and feeling obliged to change even though it means feeling less confident in how I look.
Same for me. Since I buy most of my clothes alone my mother can't stop me from buying what I like that much anymore. I'll only get judged and told I'm making myself look ugly afterwards when she can't do anything about it.
i once saw this jenny mustard video and it said something very interesting: see what you like about yourself (ie. broad shoulders, masculine features, small waist etc etc) and find clothes that accentuate them so that you'll feel more confident in them
I'm not even a fashion girl - I'm just supportive of your journey - and I found this to be so helpful, so informative, so well thought out & intelligent, so easy to understand & well explained. Wow Jade. This was fantastic. As always props to you for helping the kids out by sharing your wisdom. I definitely learned a few things I intend to apply to my own personal style & I had no intention of taking anything away other than enjoyment of another video feat. your energy. Many thanks. xx
it’s really hard to find clothes as a masc afab non-binary person with supportive, but opinionated and ultimately uneducated parents. i really appreciate the perspective you bring as a queer person in this video. thank you!!
I've been on a bit of a style ~journey~ (so obnoxious but I dont know what else to call it LOL) and the biggest thing I've realized is that I need to present myself in a way that makes me *like* myself. Obviously one should like oneself anyway... but I'm talking style that lends that extra spark. Like "damn I look hot." Clothes that you step out in and they make you want to strut. I never had that feeling in my life, and finding it feels SO good. I realized that while I love all kinds of different styles and vibes, a great outfit can still make me super uncomfortable if it isnt right, if it isnt "me." That would happen when I would try to dress up super femme, for example-I'd put on that dress and heels and look great in the mirror, but then go out into the world and feel like shit. I thought it was just my insecurity when it was actually this incongruence between myself and what I was presenting to the world. On the other hand, once I figured out what was authentic to me, I learned that I can actually like me!
The point on an outfit fitting different on different bodies is SO important! I tried to replicate an outfit of yours (Jade) from your summer fits video and because of my wider hips and thighs it did not look the same on me. But when I put my own style on it, it looked really cute.
“Make the distinction between something that’s attractive TO you and something that’s attractive FOR you” damn that’s a word. To me that’s the real lifetime tug-of-war of style. I like a lot of things that aren’t really flattering to me. Sometimes I lean more toward what makes me look good, other times I say fuck it and lean toward what I like regardless of whether it flatters me. But it’s so so important to know which is which and I love the way you phrased that
I appreciate the idea of breaking down and finding what I'm liking about outfits more specifically. I wayyy too often get too attached to the idea of copying one element of an outfit which is often really hard to find or just massively outside my budget, so then I'm just disappointed, lol.
I love this. I'm learning a lot about finding my own style and have been doing some online thrifting for some qualities I really like. I'm glad I'm doing SOMETHING right! I'm hyped to use all the other tips too. Thanks, Jade! Love your videos!
Jade, I want to thank you for this channel and for your insights on fashion and self-improvemnt. As a 19 year old masculine-presenting girl, I haven't had much change to explore with my clothes and self expression. This is the only place I know where I feel like someone GETS me. What you do is important and inspiring. Thank you!
I understand where you are coming from when it comes to other’s opinion. There was a time when I wore some army joggers, black tee, and some timbs. My dad said “why do you dress like a boy?”. My response was “because I’m comfortable”. I didn’t want to have that conversation or explain myself because I didn’t need to. I do find myself putting and outfit together and then texting my sister to see if it goes well. I want to stray away from that and just ask myself if it goes together. If it does, then go with it. I try not to rely on others opinions because it’ll just make me feel a way. Basically what you said. This video is great 😊
shopping alone is so important!!! or if I'm shopping with a friend/family member, I won't ask for opinions on what they think about the things I like or bring them to the dressing rooms with me. Oftentimes my friends I spend time with don't have the same kind of style as me so they don't see the ~vision~ while shopping but end up liking it later when it's styled lol
Figuring out what i like the look of for others vs what i like /for me/ has been the biggest thing I've kind of struggled with. I have so many super femme friends whose style i really like but when I try to wear it, i feel so goofy and awkward, like I'm wearing an ill fitting costume.
this video helped me so much, actually, your whole channel did!! since i was a kid i wanted to dress more androgynously and well that doesn't go too well with family and homophobia and all of that. now that i'm making a mind of my own and discovering what i really like all of this advices kinda give me a tip that i'm on the right way. thanks!!!
My fashion is anything from the free box or hand me overs from friends. These tips were really helpful actually! My style is flowing dresses, that's the only thing that draws me. I love that we can have different styles (like very different) and can still relate to these tips. Thanks Jade💞
I really want my style to go into that goth/e-girl kinda direction (dw, only the direction). However, that style heavily makes use of a very feminine silhouette and the people in the pictures tend to be rather petite and pants are worn very high-waisted and cinched up and that just does not work with my very tall, slightly built but still skinny body shape. Also I have hip dips but honestly I'm not gonna let that dictate my clothing style because they're perfectly healthy and natural and fuck anyone who wants to tell me that I shouldn't make my fashion dreams a reality because of anatomy. But back to the topic. I feel really uncomfortable with that feminine silhouette, but an internet friend of mine is really my fashion hero because they pull off that studded belt, band shirt tucked into jeans goth kinda style without that feminine silhouette and it just looks so good and oh my god they're just iconic.
I just wanna say I am a straight cys woman and I just looooove your content. Even though our fashion styles are very different. I just love your content. Its just good $#!+ 😉 I put my sis on to your channel. She’s on her queer/androgynous journey. Love both of your channels! Sending love and blessings! 😁🙏🏽
This was so helpful not only because it gave me ideas for how to go about updating my wardrobe, but you also pinpointed what I don't like about IG and other social media. A lot of the people copy/paste trends and they're cute but not necessarily unique. I can look at it and say "i want that" but i hesitate because they don't feel like /me/. Now i realize i should think about what I specifically like about those outfits and put things together. I don't need to go out much so i only have two outfits and they're both way too hot to wear in the summer haha
I was NOT expecting to get emotional behind this video but… here I am 😩 especially when you touched on “fit” and how you have to decide how YOU want your clothes to fit you, personally. I’ve spent too much of my life wearing garments the way society “told” me I should wear them, when it usually wasn’t comfortable for ME. Thank you 🥲
Absolutely agree with shopping ALONE! In the past when I mention to my friends that I wanted to switch up my style they were a little too enthusiastic about it. Whenever we would go out, they chose clothes that accentuated parts of my body, not my thing. By the end of the trip I was over it and focused on spending time with them... and didn't ask them to come with me again.
As a WFH introvert, my closet's rainbow assortment of _freakum dresses_ got a 👀...then a 😏 Great styling tips, Jade 🙌🏿 btw: I save what I find shopping online to my own Pinterest boards but never pay attention to the app's suggestions. It makes shopping faster because I know what I NEED vs WANT for closet upgrades.
Jade… ma’am you out did yourself. This video was so helpful. Seriously just made my life so much easier. And I’ve watched a lot of videos on how to personal style. I loved this. Thank you 🙏🏽
Shopping for your lifestyle is so important. I see so many cute dresses and heels that I ultimately have to pass on because I just don't have a place to wear them to (even pre-pandemic).
Very good video !! I would say I already have a good personal style but sometimes I think it is too feminine and sometimes that perfectly fits my mood but other times I struggle cause when I don’t feel so feminine and want to look more masculine or androgynous I don’t know how cause I‘m a very feminine woman and I end up wearing like a big hoodie and big sweatpants !
As someone with a pretty small budget for clothes I tend to just buy something I like that I can afford simply because I can actually afford it this time without much thought other then ''a cute piece to add to my wardrobe'' But then turns out yes, now i have an extra piece in my wardrobe but that piece will probably never see the light of day because it just doesn't fit me the way I like, doesn't quite go on my body the way I want and overall just doesn't go with me
My whole life I’ve worn what ever my mom bought me, k-mart and Walmart clothes lol. All very femme and not my “style” I love androgyny and am excited to finally be able to get my own clothes this year.
ive watched so many "how to find your style" videos over the years, and this is by far the most helpful and just overall perfect one! it's helped me so much, and the tips actually made me think about my style a new way. thank you!
oh wow this is so good bc i’m constantly drawn to outfits and looks that would never work on my larger size bc i’m expecting it to fall how it does on small frames and i end up disappointed. so thanks for saying that, getting better looking for what things fall on MY body the way i like when shopping
Shopping alone!!! Changed how I see buying clothes and style in general for sure. I get so influenced by others opinions that it stops me from buying out of the ordinary items that have potential that they might not see. Fabulous advice thank you 😊
Thank you so much for this. I grew up with hand me downs and have now been out as nonbinary for several years, and I've rarely felt fully comfortable in the clothes I grew up wearing. This is great advice to help me figure out how to find what I'm actually comfortable in.
Nailing down fit is IT. Every time i buy a loose shirt for my extreme pear body, i end up having to tie it around my waist which is cute but i now accept that the loose shirt look i love so much (and that you pull off beautifully) is probs not for me.
This is a really useful guide! The information presented seems simple + easy to follow, and it brings up some pointers I never really thought abt before. I've managed to make more headway finding what I like after watching this video than I have for the past 2 years! These are really good tips, thank you.
this so great and timely, i've been wracking my brain trying to build a professional wardrobe while being true to my style and this advice is truly GOLDEN. really can't thank you enough
I love this. I made a video about this a WHILE ago and I’m thinking about re visiting it so seeing another perspective on it is really cool. Plus you break it down very simply too.
This is definitely one of the best "find your style" videos I've seen! My style is very different from yours. I'm very cottagecore and femme. But I sooo appreciate your advice and appreciate this channel!
awe thank you! glad you liked it ☺️
I totally agree, Jade gives the best actually applicable advice!! Thanks Jade ❤️
Shopping alone is really the pro tip! I started shopping alone a few years ago and now I can't go back
I definitely agree! Having people with you can really influence what you pick, most of the time because of the pressure to like certain pieces or look a certain way. Also, less distractions when alone :)
#teamloner
TRUEEE! I used to rely a lot on my mom for shopping advice (it’s not weird if she designs clothing as a job 😆) but her style is a lot more inspired by XTC and English rock so it definitely influenced me for years. Now I feel like branching off so I can feel confident and shopping alone is very helpful for me
YES. I always shop and dress alone (even in fun, getting ready to go out with mates situations). I like to appear how i am and then no one can say anything. Rather than get feedback and feeling obliged to change even though it means feeling less confident in how I look.
Same for me. Since I buy most of my clothes alone my mother can't stop me from buying what I like that much anymore. I'll only get judged and told I'm making myself look ugly afterwards when she can't do anything about it.
i once saw this jenny mustard video and it said something very interesting: see what you like about yourself (ie. broad shoulders, masculine features, small waist etc etc) and find clothes that accentuate them so that you'll feel more confident in them
Literally the best idea I've ever read!👏
I'm not even a fashion girl - I'm just supportive of your journey - and I found this to be so helpful, so informative, so well thought out & intelligent, so easy to understand & well explained. Wow Jade. This was fantastic. As always props to you for helping the kids out by sharing your wisdom. I definitely learned a few things I intend to apply to my own personal style & I had no intention of taking anything away other than enjoyment of another video feat. your energy. Many thanks. xx
this comment is top tier, thank you friend!
@@madeyoulooks And thank you Friend. All the best to you as usual!
I was thinking the exact same thing. Thanks for explaining so well :)
it’s really hard to find clothes as a masc afab non-binary person with supportive, but opinionated and ultimately uneducated parents. i really appreciate the perspective you bring as a queer person in this video. thank you!!
I've been on a bit of a style ~journey~ (so obnoxious but I dont know what else to call it LOL) and the biggest thing I've realized is that I need to present myself in a way that makes me *like* myself. Obviously one should like oneself anyway... but I'm talking style that lends that extra spark. Like "damn I look hot." Clothes that you step out in and they make you want to strut. I never had that feeling in my life, and finding it feels SO good.
I realized that while I love all kinds of different styles and vibes, a great outfit can still make me super uncomfortable if it isnt right, if it isnt "me." That would happen when I would try to dress up super femme, for example-I'd put on that dress and heels and look great in the mirror, but then go out into the world and feel like shit. I thought it was just my insecurity when it was actually this incongruence between myself and what I was presenting to the world. On the other hand, once I figured out what was authentic to me, I learned that I can actually like me!
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This!!!
The point on an outfit fitting different on different bodies is SO important! I tried to replicate an outfit of yours (Jade) from your summer fits video and because of my wider hips and thighs it did not look the same on me. But when I put my own style on it, it looked really cute.
“Make the distinction between something that’s attractive TO you and something that’s attractive FOR you” damn that’s a word.
To me that’s the real lifetime tug-of-war of style. I like a lot of things that aren’t really flattering to me. Sometimes I lean more toward what makes me look good, other times I say fuck it and lean toward what I like regardless of whether it flatters me. But it’s so so important to know which is which and I love the way you phrased that
I appreciate the idea of breaking down and finding what I'm liking about outfits more specifically. I wayyy too often get too attached to the idea of copying one element of an outfit which is often really hard to find or just massively outside my budget, so then I'm just disappointed, lol.
I love this. I'm learning a lot about finding my own style and have been doing some online thrifting for some qualities I really like. I'm glad I'm doing SOMETHING right! I'm hyped to use all the other tips too. Thanks, Jade! Love your videos!
Jade, I want to thank you for this channel and for your insights on fashion and self-improvemnt.
As a 19 year old masculine-presenting girl, I haven't had much change to explore with my clothes and self expression.
This is the only place I know where I feel like someone GETS me. What you do is important and inspiring.
Thank you!
Quality information. Thank you for the simplicity.
I understand where you are coming from when it comes to other’s opinion. There was a time when I wore some army joggers, black tee, and some timbs. My dad said “why do you dress like a boy?”. My response was “because I’m comfortable”. I didn’t want to have that conversation or explain myself because I didn’t need to. I do find myself putting and outfit together and then texting my sister to see if it goes well. I want to stray away from that and just ask myself if it goes together. If it does, then go with it. I try not to rely on others opinions because it’ll just make me feel a way. Basically what you said. This video is great 😊
shopping alone is so important!!! or if I'm shopping with a friend/family member, I won't ask for opinions on what they think about the things I like or bring them to the dressing rooms with me. Oftentimes my friends I spend time with don't have the same kind of style as me so they don't see the ~vision~ while shopping but end up liking it later when it's styled lol
yea exactly i agree. i dont like going w my mum cause she sorta forces me to go with her style which is really annoying.
Figuring out what i like the look of for others vs what i like /for me/ has been the biggest thing I've kind of struggled with. I have so many super femme friends whose style i really like but when I try to wear it, i feel so goofy and awkward, like I'm wearing an ill fitting costume.
this video helped me so much, actually, your whole channel did!! since i was a kid i wanted to dress more androgynously and well that doesn't go too well with family and homophobia and all of that. now that i'm making a mind of my own and discovering what i really like all of this advices kinda give me a tip that i'm on the right way. thanks!!!
Alayna Joy would appreciate your outro 😮💨😜🤣
My fashion is anything from the free box or hand me overs from friends. These tips were really helpful actually! My style is flowing dresses, that's the only thing that draws me. I love that we can have different styles (like very different) and can still relate to these tips. Thanks Jade💞
I really want my style to go into that goth/e-girl kinda direction (dw, only the direction). However, that style heavily makes use of a very feminine silhouette and the people in the pictures tend to be rather petite and pants are worn very high-waisted and cinched up and that just does not work with my very tall, slightly built but still skinny body shape. Also I have hip dips but honestly I'm not gonna let that dictate my clothing style because they're perfectly healthy and natural and fuck anyone who wants to tell me that I shouldn't make my fashion dreams a reality because of anatomy. But back to the topic. I feel really uncomfortable with that feminine silhouette, but an internet friend of mine is really my fashion hero because they pull off that studded belt, band shirt tucked into jeans goth kinda style without that feminine silhouette and it just looks so good and oh my god they're just iconic.
I just wanna say I am a straight cys woman and I just looooove your content. Even though our fashion styles are very different. I just love your content. Its just good $#!+ 😉 I put my sis on to your channel. She’s on her queer/androgynous journey. Love both of your channels! Sending love and blessings! 😁🙏🏽
not me watching all these old videos because I'm going through an "I'm gonna start dressing better" phase again
This was so helpful not only because it gave me ideas for how to go about updating my wardrobe, but you also pinpointed what I don't like about IG and other social media. A lot of the people copy/paste trends and they're cute but not necessarily unique. I can look at it and say "i want that" but i hesitate because they don't feel like /me/. Now i realize i should think about what I specifically like about those outfits and put things together. I don't need to go out much so i only have two outfits and they're both way too hot to wear in the summer haha
I was NOT expecting to get emotional behind this video but… here I am 😩 especially when you touched on “fit” and how you have to decide how YOU want your clothes to fit you, personally. I’ve spent too much of my life wearing garments the way society “told” me I should wear them, when it usually wasn’t comfortable for ME. Thank you 🥲
Absolutely agree with shopping ALONE! In the past when I mention to my friends that I wanted to switch up my style they were a little too enthusiastic about it. Whenever we would go out, they chose clothes that accentuated parts of my body, not my thing. By the end of the trip I was over it and focused on spending time with them... and didn't ask them to come with me again.
literally first thing you said made me realize so many things
your videos never fail me!! this has been so helpful, thank you🤍
Hey J. I’m a straight girl but I luv wearing guy’s clothing your style I love so much so keep up with the videos I’m glad i found your channel
As a WFH introvert, my closet's rainbow assortment of _freakum dresses_ got a 👀...then a 😏 Great styling tips, Jade 🙌🏿
btw: I save what I find shopping online to my own Pinterest boards but never pay attention to the app's suggestions. It makes shopping faster because I know what I NEED vs WANT for closet upgrades.
Thank you! I've always had very diverse style and now I feel a lack of connection to all of it. Time to get some more inspo
do THAT
Jade… ma’am you out did yourself. This video was so helpful. Seriously just made my life so much easier. And I’ve watched a lot of videos on how to personal style. I loved this. Thank you 🙏🏽
Shopping for your lifestyle is so important. I see so many cute dresses and heels that I ultimately have to pass on because I just don't have a place to wear them to (even pre-pandemic).
I agree on shopping alone 💯!
I like black and white men’s shirts and baggy jeans.
this is theee most helpful video ive seen about finding ur own style. thank you 🙏🏾
Very good video !! I would say I already have a good personal style but sometimes I think it is too feminine and sometimes that perfectly fits my mood but other times I struggle cause when I don’t feel so feminine and want to look more masculine or androgynous I don’t know how cause I‘m a very feminine woman and I end up wearing like a big hoodie and big sweatpants !
Also the point you made about taking your time is super key. Intuition and figuring out what works isn’t overnight.
As someone with a pretty small budget for clothes I tend to just buy something I like that I can afford simply because I can actually afford it this time without much thought other then ''a cute piece to add to my wardrobe''
But then turns out yes, now i have an extra piece in my wardrobe but that piece will probably never see the light of day because it just doesn't fit me the way I like, doesn't quite go on my body the way I want and overall just doesn't go with me
Yeah I gotten a few basic shirts just for now
My whole life I’ve worn what ever my mom bought me, k-mart and Walmart clothes lol. All very femme and not my “style” I love androgyny and am excited to finally be able to get my own clothes this year.
I couldn't concentrate on the video, cus I love your shirt ;'D
I like guys clothes that are baggy
Shopping alone is so fun when I'm in the mood for it and have money
some great tips, thanks for sharing!
Not family style 😂
my leo rising is jumping on its seat right now.
This is a phenomenal video!
This video is priceless and I'm only on the second point, Jade you're a treasure 💕
Thank you!!! So many great tips!!!!
yoo wait i just realized that this vid is new lmaooo
not me being on time 😗
Jade you’re the best, we love you
ive watched so many "how to find your style" videos over the years, and this is by far the most helpful and just overall perfect one! it's helped me so much, and the tips actually made me think about my style a new way. thank you!
oh wow this is so good bc i’m constantly drawn to outfits and looks that would never work on my larger size bc i’m expecting it to fall how it does on small frames and i end up disappointed. so thanks for saying that, getting better looking for what things fall on MY body the way i like when shopping
Much needed advice!
Shopping alone!!! Changed how I see buying clothes and style in general for sure. I get so influenced by others opinions that it stops me from buying out of the ordinary items that have potential that they might not see. Fabulous advice thank you 😊
Super helpful - love these tips
Thank you so much for this. I grew up with hand me downs and have now been out as nonbinary for several years, and I've rarely felt fully comfortable in the clothes I grew up wearing. This is great advice to help me figure out how to find what I'm actually comfortable in.
I think I have enough basics for now that I can mix and match and I would like to work on my jewelry game for now
Nailing down fit is IT. Every time i buy a loose shirt for my extreme pear body, i end up having to tie it around my waist which is cute but i now accept that the loose shirt look i love so much (and that you pull off beautifully) is probs not for me.
This is a really useful guide! The information presented seems simple + easy to follow, and it brings up some pointers I never really thought abt before. I've managed to make more headway finding what I like after watching this video than I have for the past 2 years! These are really good tips, thank you.
Trench coats. Frock coats. Long coats. BUT ALAS- I am short. Big coat…is too bigg. I do not wish to shorten the coat, for the gift is the long.
Thank you for always sharing your wisdom 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for making this! It's exactly what I needed, I'm literally cryin rn
this so great and timely, i've been wracking my brain trying to build a professional wardrobe while being true to my style and this advice is truly GOLDEN. really can't thank you enough
Oo I’m early early
I love this. I made a video about this a WHILE ago and I’m thinking about re visiting it so seeing another perspective on it is really cool. Plus you break it down very simply too.
I agree with all the comments. This was super helpful and easy to follow.
This is suuuch a good video, thank you very much for the tips
Super helpful!!
The qualify of the content…yes!
your channel is the best
Great advice. Thanks Jade.
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