November 2023, I knew something was wrong when our house was getting " Decluttered " as she put it. Also asked me if she could have her car put in her name. At this point she had an excuse for everything, I trusted her. I had no idea she had been planning this since late August because she couldn't get the Large House that we were trying to get. On November 20th, 2023, she woke up, kissed me, went to the kitchen to make us coffee, I knew that something was wrong. Went to the kitchen and she said, " Hun, I'm was going to bring you your coffee ". I said, " Something us up, something is wrong "!,,,, she dropped her head, and looked up and replied, " I want to divorce "! I replied , " why what did I do wrong "? , she replied, " You didn't do anything wrong, I'm just not wife material , I don't want to be married to anyone, it's over "! Later , I learned from her family and 2 ex- husband's, she is Narcissistic, Bi-polar, Habitual Liar, and a horrible person. I was Devastated, 8.5 Years down the drain!
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You are welcome Andrew 🙏, I want people who are in pain to hear the details of what really happened to me during the Thanksgiving week of 2023, so that they can have an idea of what actually takes place in detail seconds right before the " Discard " ! This is really Horrible stuff that takes place, and yes it happens on Holidays... 11.20.23 ~ ( 3 ) Days before Thanksgiving Day!
Just want to say thank you for your content. I am a narcissist abuse survivor and prayed for the strength to uncover what was wrong with me. And I discovered... it was her. Now I am living my true authentic self. Thank God for people like you who need to warn the world from this kind of evil. Your content really helped me. Thanks Andrew.
She was a master at making me believe our problems were my fault. If i was better, the relationship would be "fixed." My ability to self reflect, admit my faults to a fault, and low self- esteem kept me under the narcissist control far too long. Now i am climbing the mountain towards the peak of indifference. May my fellow suvivors find peace and strength ❤.
I'll bet your self-esteem's off the charts and you're underestimating it, narc just borrowed/stole it for awhile, it's now back to its rightful owner! 🎉
“narcissists are insecure, and they want you to feel as bad as they do.” if narcissism had to be explained in one sentence…. THAT’S the sentence. your pain is their pleasure. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Thank you Andrew. I am 84.I finally exposed my X narc in front of 5 people at once.I have always stood up for myself. I have paid a horrible price for being strong. No one in the family backs me up.The Narc gives them money.Years of defending myself discarded by all family members.No matter how hungry or how hard it becomes. I stand strong.
With my ex, it was when I realized what she was, that my true strength was revealed. I actually slept that night for the first time in a while. She woke me up because how dare I sleep when she's awake. I got up, grabbed my keys and drove up the street, pulled over and went to sleep. Turned my phone off. It was amazing sleep. When I woke up, I was truly awake.
How hard it is for some people to see the suffering & destruction that narcissists do. Some may have gotten wrapped up in their lies & that you were “the crazy.”
On the spot as usual. My ex wife made me snap(reactive abuse) two weeks prior to our wedding and I finally challenged her. That's when she knew I was on to her and it all started going downhill for real. I had been devalued for almost three years(since we found out she was pregnant) and finally had enough. Six months after our wedding I filed for divorce and threw her out after finding out of her lining up the next supply. If you have a bad feeling about your relationship, listen to your guts. I didn't and learned the hard way.
After three months I had had enough and started thinking about a divorce On that day she found she was pregnant I stayed for the kids and was eventually discarded. Happiest day of my life Wish I had left fifteen years earlier.
"The gut wrenching screams". Never ever forget what these heartless people did to you, and remember how you felt back then, if you ever miss the Narcissist or start remembering the "good times", which were just fake manipulations. Write the abuse down and refer to it if necessary, it really helps to break the traumabond.
Called a friend one day to say I was having fond thoughts of my ex. My friend came unglued and listed multiple bad memories. They had my back and I'm forever grateful for the honesty.
January 5th, 2024 was the day for us (my wife and I) that it all came crumbling down. After miserably living with my wife’s 82 year old covert narcissist mother (they both own this home), the mother went into yet another unhinged fit of rage and attacked my wife. She immediately said she was calling the cops and did so, telling the 911 dispatcher my wife put her hands on her. The only problem for this narcissist… she had no idea I filmed the attack with my iPhone. Cops came, interviewed witnesses, had several looks at the video and concluded the 80 year old mother was the aggressor. Her plan to have my wife removed from the house totally backfired. The narcissist was arrested and taken to jail. No contact order implemented. Had I not had the video as proof ,I’m certain my wife would have been arrested for DV. For the longest time I’ve been wanting to video her fits of rage, and I finally did at a crucial time, thank God.
April 2023, I really had an epiphany and I threw him out. Everything you say to do is so helpful and honestly would have difficulty without helpful people like yourself ❤
My sister-in-law (she married his brother) did tell me a few days before the wedding "hey, you need to know some things about him.." I proceeded to marry him anyway thinking perhaps he's changed for this marriage. His sister, mother and father however didn't tell me anything negative about him. Now, I'm initiating divorce less than a year after the wedding. I'll be forever grateful for her kindness to forewarn me and I'm sure she will be blessed.
Thank you Andrew 🤗 The day it all came crashing down for my 30 year relationship, was when my health finally broke down and nothing changed. Sick or not,I was still expected to carry on doing absolutely everything! I have rheumatoid arthritis and the first time it manifested, I had been to the doctor, my knee was swollen, I was in terrible pain, and whenwe got home, he said " just get out and lock up the chickens" as we passed the chicken coop. This was the final straw . I had already been very unhappy and there was a lot of trouble and fights every day. I knew he was a narcissist and had wanted to leave for some time but didn't. 10 years on I've finally had the time to process it all properly and educate myself and I feel amazing and for the first time in my life I can honestly say that I love who I am. Bless you ❤❤❤
This day may happen several times as you discover more people in your life are narcissist. It never gets easier but you can recognize in better and that is part of the reason things are blowing up in other relationships. It was just your spouse but now your siblings, parents, and coworkers.
I spent more than 4 years trying trying to be the better person. I started praying. Things started being revealed and I learned he had been cheating on me the whole time with numerous women. He would constantly ask me to leave but then when I would try to leave he wouldn't let me. I decided to act like everything was OK and went about my usual routines. I started planning and slowly taking things out of the house that he wouldn't notice was missing. And one night when he was out with one of his girlfriend's I packed up and left without him knowing and blocked him. I found out he was quite angry which I knew he would be because he's a control freak and he wanted to be the one to make the decision to have me leave. He truly thought I was stupid and had no clue what he was doing. I'm not angry about the situation, I learned from it and now I am free.
Almost 3 years out & it’s a constant battle with your own mind. Healing is it’s a long road, a road back to yourself. Even if you’re still in the relationship just listening to this one video a day makes all the difference education is everything. I’m not where I want to be but I’m no where near where I was. Sending love, support & thanks to this community ❤️🙏😊
Consistently… over and over again… Andrew speaks the gut punching truth. Every sentence is 110 % accurate. Most of us remember the “day of realization” with grief and mourning for a relationship that never actually was. And I still have occasional random visuals of those black pupils staring at me while he threatened me with the words “If you ever say that again to me, I will strangle you while your daughter watches.” For anyone just starting their healing journey…. YOU WILL BE OKAY. Love yourself and forgive yourself. You are a SURVIVOR. XoXo 💋
My ex threatened to tear my dog's head off. And he could. A dog...The most loving creature. Then after our split he tries to say he misses him so much. I am hurting him by not letting him see my dog.
Hi Andrew Today is my-freedom day- The day God Rescued me many years ago. I am so grateful😊 Wish I had dumped her years ago, but at least, I have had many happy years since Stayed for the kids . Wrong move I am now blessed
I’m sure my ex is doing it . But I’m very lucky as our friends groups do not mix . So she has told people that have no idea about me . They likely do not even care . If she has a flying monkey or two they don’t know me either . So I’m really lucky . I’m sorry to hear that your copping it
@@john24gold1mine did it on her tiktok she has 45k followers on there. I think a lot of people realized that she's a messed up person regardless of how well she sings. She used to have almost 60k, but last time I looked it dropped to 45k...not sure why, I stopped looking at her social media because it was hurting me, opening old wounds.
Been away a month plus now and the reality of all the abuse I endured is sinking in…and I do mean that almost literally. I am totally exhausted mentally, physically and spiritually. I can barely function, but I am focussing on eating well, exercising and resting/sleeping when needed. However, I have little energy for anything or anyone else. Social stiuations feel impossible and draining. This is not an easy rite of passage from hell to healing.
You are doing AMAZING with those things you listed…eating well, exercising and resting. You are your 1st priority and so glad you’re out and that you’ve found this channel too. You’ll gain strength over time 💪❤️🙏
Lived in a narcissistic home environment for 24 + yers, and born to a narcissistic family system. After all of this, I am now looking ahead to move out of my toxic home environment with barely any money, with nothing more than trust and faith in myself that I've got this and I've got what it takes to make my dream a reality. I hope that brighter days are ahead, and that there will be a world of people waiting and willing to support me for my decision to choose myself and save myself from an environment of endless pain, chaos, trauma, etc. I have no family support, only myself and my own faith to go off of.
Friends can be good support ..I left home at 19 and never ever missed any of the narcs:) Best of luck to you on your new adventures. You Got This🔥⚡️⭐️🌈💯
You already have an advantage by being aware of what has been happening in your life and upbringing. Stay on track and you can conquer this! Keep the faith friend😊
Yep I left at 20,,had it rough but got through,you will too,.believe in yourself and your power inside,bless you on your journey,sending love and prayers 🙏🏻❤️💪🏻💪🏻
Thanks Andrew. The day it all came crumbling down was not the end. I had 9 kids to care for. They were my adopted foster kids, but from the minute our marriage crumbled, he seriously worse if you can imagine. House in foreclosure, took only the chosen kids, putting the un-chosen ones through devastation, calling Child Protective Services on me every day, having all his friends drive by to give him reports. I'm gonna be 60y.on 1-13 Saturday. Only been able to go no contact for 1 1/2y. Finally healing. Hoping for happily ever after without him. Just me and my disabled daughter, my other kids, grandkids and birth family who have been at my side all my life, but will never realize what hell we went through.
For me, the day of the discard was a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. After that, I didn't think too much about it. Then, after a period of time, it hit me really hard because nothing about the relationship made sense in retrospect. I became depressed due to the trauma, found out about the smear campaign, then I finally started Googling the symptoms and the experiences like the gaslighting, stonewalling, bait and switch, unexplainable rage fits, etc only to find out there is actually a narcissist checklist. Guess what? I checked off every box! Then I came across this channel and others like it. Thank God it wasn't just me. What a relief! God bless you and the work you do, Andrew.
My narc neighbor has finally had everything crumbled around her. Her daughter doesn't come around anymore, she's been scathed and in a fog, up until recently. She comes out every time I park my car to correct it. Has her supply people being gone, avoiding her, but on occasion she has a person she has loured to come over who leaves as soon as possible (20 minutes stay for her 'birthday' lol).. she has to say to me when someone comes over for status gloating. Having me see a person, whatever. Total sicko
🙏All those horrible things the narc puts one thru. They have a huge advantage we didn't know what we were up for .We slowly get ourselves together. Only to find life is so free fantastic and fun . It certainly is a challenging experience but it's a blessing in discuise. A lesson that is worth it in the end 🌸💡💃😁
November 24, 2023 Thanksgiving night was D Day for me. Andrew you mentioned something I never thought of. The family of my wife may not have had the knowledge of narcissism but days after we wed, her sister told me she's crazy. I laughed it off naturally, but you don't really know a person until you lived with them. Heartache galore.
Mine was this past Christmas Night (2023). Innocently over heard his phone call, him talking with a woman trying to convince her to move into his home! Total shock! House of cards.
Narcs have always been with us, unfortunately, but they got particularly pernicious during C19. Ironically, rather than introspect/self-reflect and consider improvements, they went the other way and stepped up the heat to become even more insidious. Such nefarious behaviour is utterly shocking :( To come out stronger and to impart wisdom is a real superpower.
The day i learned what narcissistic abuse was i got goosebumps and i lost sleep, its like learning that all along you were in love with with a literal demon. It gave me nightmares for at least a year after i left, and now randomly. Sometimes i think they’re dream walk, because i believe that he was actually speaking to me in one, enticing to break no contact
Life with a narcissist is like a house of cards... it is destined to fail from the moment they laid their eyes on you, BEFORE you saw them. BEFORE you removed the rose colored glasses... there's a song/ music video, "Rose Colored Glasses," John Connolly ... lol... Yes, you did say ya'll... Lollollol. You sound like you're from "my neck o the woods?" 😊 Great video, Andrew. TY ✌️
@@lisashope2926 That was the straw that broke this "camel's"back. Suddenly I realized, that "being" in front of me...was working on the side of darkness. I chose to work on the side of LIGHT... Talk about opposites attracting! 🙃😂🤣😁😎
Wow Andrew - I remember the final day !! I even used the words ‘I didn’t sign up for this ‘ - hoovered for the 2nd time - on a luxury holiday I’d paid for us - and the woman who told me she wanted to quit smoking - just kept smoking !!! When I challenged her , she blamed it on me !!! I’m so proud of myself for calling her out - the next morning she was packed ready to go home !! BUSTED
After recovering which takes time it will definatly get better than it ever was. This final challenge will bring out all the inner strength you almost forgotten you had. There is so much more to discover in that wonderful world. As Albert Camus described it: in the midst of winter I found there is within me an invincible summer😊
I knew what a narcissist was, but i didn't know there were different kinds. It took me 2 years to realize it when i found the needle in the haystack. It confirmed i wasn't insane finally. Its a relief but its also sad because it's an emotionally terminal condition to the relationship. I filed for divorce and i am moving on...
When the "delayed realization" descended upon me...especially in the case of my 30 year best friend...I could hardly wrap my head around it. She changed in order to please her ultra-covert narcissist husband...then they both ganged up on me. The day I stood up and put a boundary up was the beginning of the ending of my renting one of their properties. The long and the short of it was, I made known that I was not available for mental health crisis calls.
I am quite enjoying the new version of me - thank you narcissists for being the reason why I am a better person. Thank you Andrew for always speaking sense :). God Bless you all my friends here and I hope you are doing well and in time and as Andrew says in your own time heal...we all put pressure on ourselves thinking that we are not healing fast enough...do not harm yourself thinking that way...we all are different :)
I remember the day… begging for bare minimum and even that was hard since I was conditioned not to rock the boat. He looked me in the eye with this look filled with so much hatred and said “I have the ability to emotionally destroy a person I’m involved with.” Little did I know he had been doing that piece by piece from the beginning. Three years healing. Thank you for your videos. At least I’m at the point I can smile ironically at your videos. Do they all go to a seminar for assholes or something? Glad it’s over. I’ve learned so much about myself and am working on my issues. 🙏🏼
This describes my STBX as well. The look of hatred, bragging about his ability to ruin people, and especially being conditioned not to expect anything. Oy, so glad to be out of that
Yes took the vows and stuck with it,,crash,boom,bang,it came crumbling down,,,,and came crumbling down again,,when my family dis owened me,,,after the Divorce,,,Didnt bother me cause it was all about theyre image ❤❤❤
@@emilywilson7308no problem,,it made me stronger,,and got rid of 4narcissists,plus my ex,,lessons learned,,,For God has always been my Strength,,🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️hope you are doing well,,we are the champions my friend🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶
@@emmarae4322 they are demonic. One of them threw a curse on me! And then bragged about it. Of course it didn't work and I told her so. Then she went into a rage!
I have a 6 year old daughter and i already have seen my wife use similar tactics on her that she used on me. This terrifies me of leaving. Ive never been so lost.
You know Andrew I wish I had seen your channel or met somebody that would have told me what the heck was going on and all about narcissists I had no clue The relationship has completely devastated me because I had no education I just thought that everything could be worked out I fell in love with this person wholeheartedly and when I do that I give it my all well like you said they saw that they use that against me me and in the end they devastated my life they pushed me to the limits of my sanity I cannot stress enough to anybody who is watching this channel to take Andrew's words seriously and follow his guidance had I had his assistance 2 years ago I wouldn't be in the situation I am now It's no one's fault but my own I was not educated in the narcissistic world let alone that they existed it was beyond my understanding that any human being could do harm to this level to any other human being that they say they love I could go on and on but I just want to say thank you Andrew you've enlightened me and educated me and now it's time to heal and rebuild my life Thank you d
They turned my golden child sister into a miserable narcissist... I couldn't win against both of them smearing and devaluing me. I realize now they were showing her a different reality than what they showed me so there's no way for her to see it... and last time I saw her I could already notice the toxic projection patterns in her... unfortunate that I'll have to take a distance. I realize I didn't chose my family in this world and I don't owe abusive mentally ill family members anything... especially not my time or attention at my own expense.
Confession: I made my earlier comment before I had fully finished the video because I was kind of mind blown. But you signed off, saying once you’ve healed, maybe you’ll fall in love again, maybe you’ll read a book or write a book… I fell in love again. I wrote a book. In fact, I wrote four and I’m on my fifth. Books that you can find in bookstores. You’re extremely prescient.
Many Thanks Andrew!⭐🙏❤I’m at the end of my healing path? 🙏 Your videos help me going though a trying time. Even though I ran for the hill it IS hard. I excepted this is my growing pain, I don’t feel angry, pity nor resentment toward the narc. He is his worse enemy and there is nothing anyone can do. The best revenge is going forward with my life and be happy. Every time I feel that spiritual bond. I take a deep breath asking God for protection and sent it back. We suppose to have a storm coming in LI. Love the energy of the storm. May go to the beach and watch the beautiful waves tomorrow. Life is a Grant🙏 stay Strong my brothers and Sisters 💪❤Namaste 🙏
Amen! Ask God and He will get you through this The righteousness of the blameless makes their paths straight, but the wicked are brought down by their own wickedness. The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the unfaithful are trapped by evil desires. ~ Proverbs 11:5-6 Be sure of this: The wicked will not go unpunished, but those who are righteous will go free. ~ Proverbs 11:21 ~ Psalm 91 ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️❤️
Well for me my ex narc discarded me just before covid arrived. And when the gouvernement ordered us to stay isolated in our homes, i had to stay put in the same home as him for almost two years. It was tough but during that time i had started to work from home and i turned the situation into a positive by starting to look for a condo to buy. And when we got the green light that covid was on the decline i bought my condo and i moved out. He did not think that i would do it but i did and i am proud of it. Great video Andrew thanks. Have a wonderful afternoon ❤❤😊
@@emilywilson7308 well covid did a number on all of us. But we all made it through. That's the most important thing. I kept my focus on my project to have my own home and it helped me a lot. Have a great evening Emily. 😊💞
Thankyou, i do believe i was meant to meet and go through the last narcissist ' friend' i did keep notes of strange behaviours, my feelings up and down confusion, frustration to feeling good and calm to round and round repeat repeat. If you have to write notes to try and figure out whats going on, there is definitely something wrong. I was thinking its me, but its not, it was partially of course because of not trusting myself. He from rhe start, was figuring me out, it was all very quick, the charm, the caring lies, the subtle put downs, the stupid statements of how hed be devastated if we werent friends anymore, to then ignore my messages. You know often when i was about to meet him, i had a really anxious feeling there was something evil around but i thought im being too paranoid because its happened to me before. I am glad im out grateful 🙏
My narcissist exwife was my greatest teacher! One of them! I remember my wedding vows. I said them loud and clear in front of all those witnesses! I’m thankful for the lessons learned! I will always love her till this life ends! Almost 5 years no contact! ! Lessons learned! I’m remembering who I am!
It took me 22 years to finally see it. I don’t know if it was his promotion at work, his sisters greed or the women who wanted what we had. We were in love. The monster didn’t come out until the childhood sweetheart reappeared in his life via his sister. She was best friends with her. Anyway the sister accused me of taking her brother away from her. I just thought she needed to grow up. We were happy but the last few years of the relationship were different. He wasn’t who I thought he as. He and his childhood sweetheart got married and they destroyed four human beings in their wake. No remorse at all. 13 years later he wanted me back. He didn’t speak to me but sent his son. I wanted to know if his wife was planning to come with? Didn’t happen.
My day of reckoning was last August 8th. I was in the kitchen, preparing dinner for my 24-year-old adopted son, when he marched into the house, informed me he was leaving after 6 very happy years (so I thought), and during which I paid out almost $100,000 in college tuition for him. He was accompanied by his toxic girlfriend, 3 other friends with vehicles, to help him move, and three police officers to ensure I didn't resist. It was followed by extreme hostility, a massive smear campaign and several court cases. It has been a dreadful experience, but thankfully, after many tears, I am now on the road to recovery.
1950s to 2024 people pleasing maybe not have been a thing but most times called manners it’s sad how it’s changed…and being taken advantage of or that’s your way of showing love…or admiration….idk but it’s different now…
I think a LOT of that comes from a fear of being accused of being selfish or not being a team player, or insensitive or just a fear of being bullied in general, and it seems to be a tactic these days for people to get what they want. “Do THIS for me or you’re a selfish person who never thinks about anyone but themselves!” kind of thing. People are bullied into submission 🙄
@@jennifernewton4637 see that’s sad 😞 I am a normally literally kind human with literally NO AGENDA what you do with it or think of it is not my business.
THE DAY I AWAKENED WAS WHEN I FINALLY ACCEPTED THAT MY RELATIONSHIP HAD ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE. THIS PERSON SIMPLY DID NOT LOVE ME. HE ACTUQLLY HATED ME AND WANTED TO SEE ME DESTROYED. NOT AN EASY PILL TO SWALLOW BUT THE ACCEPTANCE SET ME FREE. THANK YOU ANDREW FOR HELPING US. ❤
My day was when he woke up before me and punched my bedroom door to wake me up. I sat up and thought “ I would never treat a guest in my home like that!” and I decided I wasn’t doing it anymore. ❤🎉
Hey Andrew well you were right she was i dont want to say nice to me but a little normal well she back to her own narcissist way she knows now i will not take it anymore i am looking for a way to move on every body is started to see her for what she is its so bad here i want out 50 years of this i need my life back i want to thank you for teaching me and opening my eyes to what she is thanks for your help🙏✌☮
I never knew about narcissism, and like lots of your earlier videos state, you think that other people are nice like you, you would trust a random person Where I went to school, there were no bullies, everyone got along. At least I wasn't bullied, no swearing, gaslighting, stealing, bullying, etc In the real world, I found my trust broken by people so many times because I thought other people were trustworthy like me Thanks for the vids. Me, now 28, now realizes that people don't have my best interest in my mind and I should not assume that. Now I can spot it. Like you said before, people want to sit back and laugh while they make you implode. I never put much thought into why they did that except assuming they were an A**hole. But now it's clear to me that people get some kind of pleasure or making peace with a grudge from their past by hurting other people's feelings it's a joke to the them. Thanks for the vids really youve enlightened me
I grew up out in the country and went to a very small school where we were all friends. What you said is the brutal truth. Hard for us to imagine but now we know. ❤️
Andrew it’s like you have a window into my life…. I have been discarded in the cruelest way! He told me I’m repulsive to him and he’s felt that way for a year and when he kissed me he had to go and scrub his face as I made him physically sick. He’s gone after slamming the door. My head is spinning and I feel totally gutted. I feel you are the only person who understands. Thankyou 🙏
Mine day when after 5 years of zero sex and constant rejection in a 20 year long marriage I wanted answers . Not , I’m not talking about that now ..I said , we’re talking about this now …I was discarded right then and there and she had depleted me of everything…6 years later and I often still cannot believe I stayed for so long
After leaving the toxic relationship I noticed a 'friend' who I had met through the narc ex completely ignored me when i texted her and went off the radar. Normally she would message to check up on me and i mentioned about the narcs strange behaviour as i didnt know what it was at that time. I assumed the woman was a good person and confided in her. Now thinking about it, she went silent on me and I suspected she was on his side, i had a feeling she fancied him but she wasnt her type. Most likely she told him things and he probably started a smear campaign against me. It just shows that most people arent trustworthy and that the narcs have strong influences making others turn against you. I shouldnt care, but it hurts and reminds me i am the victim. At the end of the day they can both f off. Toxic fake people in different disguises are not worth my time and energy.
You can find and make better friends..let the narcs tear each other up and we can all go about having true friendships and be at peace ..something a narc can never have so we win!
The ex and I married 1975, her mom was raiseing her four kids hooking, hind sight she wanted to push her daughter on first one to come along. Now 15 years went by, ex early on would be saying, I do not like mexican guys. After devorce she went threw 3 ol mexico guys. The have a defenseive spirit and in ther heart the have negative thoughts low self esteem, its so insidious that they cannot think healthy, they project it outward, they feel like dirt, but please stop getting it on me.
WOW!💡Andrew, you really know how to get to me! Epiphany moment! Your advice & dedication to this community is priceless. Thank you from the depths of my soul. ❤
Blessings in disguise. 🥸 Stoicism, be nice to yourself, and…be nice to yourself! You will heal. Thank on Andrew for the message! It’s so very important to hear this.
You rattled off half a dozen point in this video that made me think Holy FS! Astounding video. But I am getting used to having this reaction with your vids. Thank you.
Thank you for giving life to my experience. This was so moving to listen to. I have never heard anybody talk about the scream before. The primal gut wrenching scream of someone who has given and loved with all they had only to be betrayed..
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I think you will be like that guy on the cologne commercial when I was a kid. "Hai Karate" He had to use Karate to defend himself from the mob of women when he put on that cologne.😂 I just looked it up on TH-cam.😆
Today’s video is exactly my life. Right down to the ten years of marriage and now she’s leaving…. I’m really looking forward to a brighter future and I’m thankful for people like you. God bless you! 😊
It’s been 3 months of no contact..and I’m slowly getting better.At first it was hard to even get out of bed and shower ! But I’m over coming the shock of the narc moving in with new supply just 3 days after telling me he loved and missed me even told me he wanted to see me but I wouldn’t ..stood my ground and then our last phone call was the narc telling me he had a gf he was living with my last words were “well that was fast and now it’s my turn to find someone to” which I haven’t because I’m not ready or even looking. I dunno what the future holds for me but I did quit some bad habits and the darkness in my head or the fog is lifting. Thanks for your videos ❤
I was married to the most severe narcissist most ever saw or defined for 31 yrs and I never knew the word or definition till almost the end. Saying I got discarded on the side of the road is the understatement worthy of #1 songs and maybe a few books one for every decade spent. God was my Savior and the only way I didn't fall into any of the pits set out for me, but I chose to hang on to the only real for sure stability and miracle worker Jesus because he picked me up and cradled me and took care of not only me but my soul and I pray for my ex because he has hurt and disrespected God far more than me and I pray he has an illumination of conscience and will repent and choose Heaven instead of hell. It won't be the fun he remembered evil to be if he chooses an eternity without God. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you Andrew for sharing your time and information to help us ❤ I am on the path of healing and didn't know and understand the extent of these evil entities until I did research , thank God 🙏 I am out 😊
You are so wise; I have realized that I have gone through multiple narcissistic relationships, mostly romantic, and it was not until I got the education that I was able to finally "GET IT" and break free. People will continue to be drawn into these relationships until you recognize what they are all about. Thank You for being such a great teacher Andrew
I am 70 years old. That is how long it took me to realize my narc romantic misadventures were a pattern. The last one with the rage of the discard was the wake up call. Never quite realized how calculating and evil narcs were till then
@@lisashope2926 oh thank you! It was over a year ago 😂 What I should have said was that was the day it came crumbling down because that’s when I found Andrew’s channel, good thoughts your way as well 🙂
Good afternoon Andrew. Watching from Canada. Thank you for helping so many people, so many abused victims of these narcissistic monsters. You are helping me and I am so grateful I came to find you and this excellent informative truly helpful channel. The very very best to you my dear friend. David 🇨🇦
Yes, what you’re saying about the golden child and parents is definitely my brother and mom. My mom used to such a narcissist and my brother is the golden child. I’m always helping my mom but she is so mean to me in all the ways you just listed and my mom thinks my brother can do no wrong. Most of my family has even pointed out to me that my mom and brother are like this. My mom is so hateful to my dad too. I cannot take her or my brother anymore.
My in laws knew. I didn't yet. I spoke with a divorce attorney today. No can do anymore. Telling my dad tomorrow. Everything. He knows I have shingles. Great video. I hope all can get out. Terrible relationships. Killer relationships. I have a frozen memory. Boy oh boy.
@@flowerpower4944 ❤️❤️❤️❤️. You are lovely. I'll hug some horses for you tomorrow. ,🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴. That's how many dad has! I'll kiss their muzzles too.
Straight gold. Keep it up. But again u don’t have to hear it from me. The Most high is working through you. Not a fan but a brother. This message is painful until the point people realize it’s actually a blessing of peace and joy. Great work!!!! All praises. Once you start healing, it continues forever. But that’s the blessing.
Thank you for this video. I left 5 days ago before my husband came home, after leaving his job in the morning , knowing I found all his secrets. I had 10 minutes to get out and took it. He found me last night, hiding for my life. I never knew the hell I’ve lived had a name. Stay safe.
Thank you, Andrew. It's very hard to exit because as a scapegoat they have you locked in behind so many walls that once you exit one, there is another one to climb over. You are not meant to escape. My sister went with me in front of a state psychiatrist for disability as it got that bad. I think their next step was to put me in a group home or to take me out (insurance policy). When the doctor asked to speak to my sister alone, I went out and sat in the lobby. All I could hear him say is "Wow, that is a big purse you have." Afterward he came out and looked at me and said, "I am sorry." I eventually went no contact and disappeared off the radar. I almost tripped by contacting a flying monkey but learned my lesson really quickly. You have to go no contact with them all. Having that little bit of income helped me get out for good. I am building up again in peace. Like me if you do the work, you will get it all back and more. Just take the time to concentrate on healing and your health first. You will get stronger every day.
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November 2023, I knew something was wrong when our house was getting
" Decluttered " as she put it. Also asked me if she could have her car put in her name. At this point she had an excuse for everything, I trusted her. I had no idea she had been planning this since late August because she couldn't get the Large House that we were trying to get. On November 20th, 2023, she woke up, kissed me, went to the kitchen to make us coffee, I knew that something was wrong. Went to the kitchen and she said, " Hun, I'm was going to bring you your coffee ". I said, " Something us up, something is wrong "!,,,, she dropped her head, and looked up and replied, " I want to divorce "!
I replied , " why what did I do wrong "? , she replied, " You didn't do anything wrong, I'm just not wife material , I don't want to be married to anyone, it's over "!
Later , I learned from her family and 2 ex- husband's, she is Narcissistic, Bi-polar, Habitual Liar, and a horrible person.
I was Devastated, 8.5 Years down the drain!
Thank you for sharing this..💜😌🙏
You were lucky it was only 8.5 years.
You have described the hallmark immutable schtick of folk with the NPD
glitch - their code of living at others cost🎉
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You are welcome Andrew 🙏, I want people who are in pain to hear the details of what really happened to me during the Thanksgiving week of 2023, so that they can have an idea of what actually takes place in detail seconds right before the " Discard " !
This is really Horrible stuff that takes place, and yes it happens on Holidays... 11.20.23 ~ ( 3 ) Days before Thanksgiving Day!
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When someone pulls you aside to give you a gentle warning about someone-LISTEN.
Sometimes they will even “tell on themselves.” If you hear “I am no good, you’ll just end up getting hurt with me,” etc…. Believe them. Get out fast
if they warn you, dont act but look for red flags first. in case its a smear campaign.
I should listen to the person ❤️🩹💯🙏🏼
@@24Ruinerwow thanks 🙏🏼
Just want to say thank you for your content. I am a narcissist abuse survivor and prayed for the strength to uncover what was wrong with me. And I discovered... it was her. Now I am living my true authentic self. Thank God for people like you who need to warn the world from this kind of evil. Your content really helped me. Thanks Andrew.
Welcome 😌😌🙏💯☀️
So true!! So comforting! ❤❤❤❤
It's this content that woke me up! And we are all lucky to have found Andrew and his passion for getting the word out and rising like a phoenix.
WELL SAID!!
ENJOY YOUR LIFE.....
BE FREE!!
Awww! This is really heartwarming!!! ❤❤❤ I’m glad to see this channel has helped you so much!!!!!
She was a master at making me believe our problems were my fault. If i was better, the relationship would be "fixed." My ability to self reflect, admit my faults to a fault, and low self- esteem kept me under the narcissist control far too long. Now i am climbing the mountain towards the peak of indifference. May my fellow suvivors find peace and strength ❤.
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I'll bet your self-esteem's off the charts and you're underestimating it, narc just borrowed/stole it for awhile, it's now back to its rightful owner! 🎉
I'm so glad you're climbing that mountain. I know you'll make it ❤️
@@joseenoel8093that's beautiful ❤️
I’m so very happy to see your comment and that you are climbing the mountain. Here comes the most galvanized version of yourself!
“narcissists are insecure, and they want you to feel as bad as they do.”
if narcissism had to be explained in one sentence…. THAT’S the sentence. your pain is their pleasure.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks andrew for your acknowledgement and for another great video.
show some love for your canadian fam. 😉
cheers, steven 🍁
PERFECTLY said! “They want you to feel as bad as they do!” 👈👍🏆❤️✅
Solid!👍
Wow that really smacks me in the face of how mean & evil these people are.
Thank you Andrew.
I am 84.I finally exposed my X narc in front of 5 people at once.I have always stood up for myself.
I have paid a horrible price for being strong.
No one in the family backs me up.The Narc gives them money.Years of defending myself discarded by all family members.No matter how hungry or how hard it becomes.
I stand strong.
The day it all comes crumbling down is the day we set ourselves free from the deceptions!
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With my ex, it was when I realized what she was, that my true strength was revealed. I actually slept that night for the first time in a while. She woke me up because how dare I sleep when she's awake. I got up, grabbed my keys and drove up the street, pulled over and went to sleep. Turned my phone off. It was amazing sleep. When I woke up, I was truly awake.
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This is amazing !! Lol
There’s never just one narcissist. They are like 🪳’s. There’s never just one. Thank you Jesus Christ. ✨♥️✨
Wow! You’re right . I was dealing with 3 at the same time . 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Thank you so much for being here with us 🌞♥️
Welcome ☀️😊❤️
How hard it is for some people to see the suffering & destruction that narcissists do. Some may have gotten wrapped up in their lies & that you were “the crazy.”
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On the spot as usual. My ex wife made me snap(reactive abuse) two weeks prior to our wedding and I finally challenged her. That's when she knew I was on to her and it all started going downhill for real. I had been devalued for almost three years(since we found out she was pregnant) and finally had enough. Six months after our wedding I filed for divorce and threw her out after finding out of her lining up the next supply.
If you have a bad feeling about your relationship, listen to your guts. I didn't and learned the hard way.
I learned the hard way to always listen to your intuition or guts. I'm glad you got out.
Thank you for sharing..😌💯💯
After three months I had had enough and started thinking about a divorce
On that day she found she was pregnant
I stayed for the kids and was eventually discarded. Happiest day of my life
Wish I had left fifteen years earlier.
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I am so glad you are here Nickel! Good men suffer from Narcissistic Abuse and you are so not alone.❤🙏
When that day happens, it's such a difficult day, but you know it's the very beginning of much better things to come.
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Amen! 🙏🙏❤❤
"The gut wrenching screams". Never ever forget what these heartless people did to you, and remember how you felt back then, if you ever miss the Narcissist or start remembering the "good times", which were just fake manipulations. Write the abuse down and refer to it if necessary, it really helps to break the traumabond.
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Called a friend one day to say I was having fond thoughts of my ex. My friend came unglued and listed multiple bad memories. They had my back and I'm forever grateful for the honesty.
@@judesmith4941 - you have a really good friend ❤️👏🏻
Very good advice.
H G Tudor calls it emotional thinking.
Narcs rely on it.
Love the long hair! And yes, it is a good day when is finally over! Regardless of the pain. Blessings to all!
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God sent me to you thank you ANDREW
Welcome 😌🙌🙏
January 5th, 2024 was the day for us (my wife and I) that it all came crumbling down. After miserably living with my wife’s 82 year old covert narcissist mother (they both own this home), the mother went into yet another unhinged fit of rage and attacked my wife. She immediately said she was calling the cops and did so, telling the 911 dispatcher my wife put her hands on her. The only problem for this narcissist… she had no idea I filmed the attack with my iPhone. Cops came, interviewed witnesses, had several looks at the video and concluded the 80 year old mother was the aggressor. Her plan to have my wife removed from the house totally backfired. The narcissist was arrested and taken to jail. No contact order implemented. Had I not had the video as proof ,I’m certain my wife would have been arrested for DV. For the longest time I’ve been wanting to video her fits of rage, and I finally did at a crucial time, thank God.
Until you do the work, you will always have work. Freedom is awesome. No more overseer. woohoo Toxic. My entire world changed. Peace arrived
April 2023, I really had an epiphany and I threw him out. Everything you say to do is so helpful and honestly would have difficulty without helpful people like yourself ❤
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Thank You Very Much Andrew❤
yea, and they always whant 2 know about ya.. 2 humilation and warever and whant 2 boxing ya like lennox manba stick len
My sister-in-law (she married his brother) did tell me a few days before the wedding "hey, you need to know some things about him.." I proceeded to marry him anyway thinking perhaps he's changed for this marriage. His sister, mother and father however didn't tell me anything negative about him. Now, I'm initiating divorce less than a year after the wedding. I'll be forever grateful for her kindness to forewarn me and I'm sure she will be blessed.
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I've been free from the narcissist for well over a year now. Your posts helped me get through some of the darkest days. Thank you, Andrew !
Yes...if you are taking notes on your mate's negative behavior, that is a definite. red flag..
Thank you Andrew 🤗 The day it all came crashing down for my 30 year relationship, was when my health finally broke down and nothing changed. Sick or not,I was still expected to carry on doing absolutely everything!
I have rheumatoid arthritis and the first time it manifested, I had been to the doctor, my knee was swollen, I was in terrible pain, and whenwe got home, he said " just get out and lock up the chickens" as we passed the chicken coop. This was the final straw . I had already been very unhappy and there was a lot of trouble and fights every day. I knew he was a narcissist and had wanted to leave for some time but didn't.
10 years on I've finally had the time to process it all properly and educate myself and I feel amazing and for the first time in my life I can honestly say that I love who I am. Bless you ❤❤❤
This day may happen several times as you discover more people in your life are narcissist. It never gets easier but you can recognize in better and that is part of the reason things are blowing up in other relationships. It was just your spouse but now your siblings, parents, and coworkers.
I spent more than 4 years trying trying to be the better person. I started praying. Things started being revealed and I learned he had been cheating on me the whole time with numerous women. He would constantly ask me to leave but then when I would try to leave he wouldn't let me. I decided to act like everything was OK and went about my usual routines. I started planning and slowly taking things out of the house that he wouldn't notice was missing. And one night when he was out with one of his girlfriend's I packed up and left without him knowing and blocked him. I found out he was quite angry which I knew he would be because he's a control freak and he wanted to be the one to make the decision to have me leave. He truly thought I was stupid and had no clue what he was doing. I'm not angry about the situation, I learned from it and now I am free.
Amen!
God protected you
Wishing you every happiness in this new chapter of your life ❤️
Praying, Planning and Patience all needed to free yourself from this "TOXIC" situation. You ARE strong enough and smart enough!!!
Ever since that day many things have come to light
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Almost 3 years out & it’s a constant battle with your own mind. Healing is it’s a long road, a road back to yourself. Even if you’re still in the relationship just listening to this one video a day makes all the difference education is everything. I’m not where I want to be but I’m no where near where I was. Sending love, support & thanks to this community ❤️🙏😊
Now we cannot become what we want by remaining what we were...New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings....
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Consistently… over and over again… Andrew speaks the gut punching truth. Every sentence is 110 % accurate. Most of us remember the “day of realization” with grief and mourning for a relationship that never actually was.
And I still have occasional random visuals of those black pupils staring at me while he threatened me with the words “If you ever say that again to me, I will strangle you while your daughter watches.” For anyone just starting their healing journey…. YOU WILL BE OKAY. Love yourself and forgive yourself. You are a SURVIVOR. XoXo 💋
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Wow,
God bless you Sweetheart.
Your words of encouragement
are POWERFUL!!!
Blessings 🌈 🎀😘
My ex threatened to tear my dog's head off. And he could. A dog...The most loving creature. Then after our split he tries to say he misses him so much. I am hurting him by not letting him see my dog.
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Did you get away from him with your daughter? ❤️
Hi Andrew
Today is my-freedom day- The day God Rescued me many years ago.
I am so grateful😊
Wish I had dumped her years ago, but at least, I have had many happy years since
Stayed for the kids . Wrong move
I am now blessed
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STAY SAFE ANDREW,WE HEAR THE WEATHER IS GONNA BE BAD.STAY COZIED UP NEAR THE FIREPLACE, WE UNDERSTAND.
I keep telling him! 😉😁❤️
The smear campaign was the worst.
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I’m sure my ex is doing it . But I’m very lucky as our friends groups do not mix . So she has told people that have no idea about me . They likely do not even care . If she has a flying monkey or two they don’t know me either . So
I’m really lucky .
I’m sorry to hear that your copping it
@@john24gold1mine did it on her tiktok she has 45k followers on there. I think a lot of people realized that she's a messed up person regardless of how well she sings. She used to have almost 60k, but last time I looked it dropped to 45k...not sure why, I stopped looking at her social media because it was hurting me, opening old wounds.
Been away a month plus now and the reality of all the abuse I endured is sinking in…and I do mean that almost literally. I am totally exhausted mentally, physically and spiritually. I can barely function, but I am focussing on eating well, exercising and resting/sleeping when needed. However, I have little energy for anything or anyone else. Social stiuations feel impossible and draining. This is not an easy rite of passage from hell to healing.
You are doing AMAZING with those things you listed…eating well, exercising and resting. You are your 1st priority and so glad you’re out and that you’ve found this channel too. You’ll gain strength over time 💪❤️🙏
No it is not but you will ❤❤🙏🙏🤗🤗
self care honey x you’ve got this
@@raanfo thank you
Lived in a narcissistic home environment for 24 + yers, and born to a narcissistic family system. After all of this, I am now looking ahead to move out of my toxic home environment with barely any money, with nothing more than trust and faith in myself that I've got this and I've got what it takes to make my dream a reality. I hope that brighter days are ahead, and that there will be a world of people waiting and willing to support me for my decision to choose myself and save myself from an environment of endless pain, chaos, trauma, etc. I have no family support, only myself and my own faith to go off of.
Friends can be good support ..I left home at 19 and never ever missed any of the narcs:) Best of luck to you on your new adventures. You Got This🔥⚡️⭐️🌈💯
You already have an advantage by being aware of what has been happening in your life and upbringing. Stay on track and you can conquer this! Keep the faith friend😊
Yep I left at 20,,had it rough but got through,you will too,.believe in yourself and your power inside,bless you on your journey,sending love and prayers 🙏🏻❤️💪🏻💪🏻
Thank you for sharing..😌😌🙏
Please hang in there and know that you are not alone!
Thanks Andrew. The day it all came crumbling down was not the end. I had 9 kids to care for. They were my adopted foster kids, but from the minute our marriage crumbled, he seriously worse if you can imagine. House in foreclosure, took only the chosen kids, putting the un-chosen ones through devastation, calling Child Protective Services on me every day, having all his friends drive by to give him reports. I'm gonna be 60y.on 1-13 Saturday. Only been able to go no contact for 1 1/2y. Finally healing. Hoping for happily ever after without him. Just me and my disabled daughter, my other kids, grandkids and birth family who have been at my side all my life, but will never realize what hell we went through.
Welcome..😌😌🙏❤️🙌
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God Bless you! 🙏🙏❤❤🤗🤗
ANDREW.....YOU are BRILLIANT.
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For me, the day of the discard was a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. After that, I didn't think too much about it. Then, after a period of time, it hit me really hard because nothing about the relationship made sense in retrospect. I became depressed due to the trauma, found out about the smear campaign, then I finally started Googling the symptoms and the experiences like the gaslighting, stonewalling, bait and switch, unexplainable rage fits, etc only to find out there is actually a narcissist checklist. Guess what? I checked off every box! Then I came across this channel and others like it. Thank God it wasn't just me. What a relief! God bless you and the work you do, Andrew.
My narc neighbor has finally had everything crumbled around her. Her daughter doesn't come around anymore, she's been scathed and in a fog, up until recently. She comes out every time I park my car to correct it. Has her supply people being gone, avoiding her, but on occasion she has a person she has loured to come over who leaves as soon as possible (20 minutes stay for her 'birthday' lol).. she has to say to me when someone comes over for status gloating. Having me see a person, whatever. Total sicko
🙏All those horrible things the narc puts one thru. They have a huge advantage we didn't know what we were up for .We slowly get ourselves together. Only to find life is so free fantastic and fun . It certainly is a challenging experience but it's a blessing in discuise. A lesson that is worth it in the end 🌸💡💃😁
Thank you for this comment, Janet! You are inspiring!❤
@@emilywilson7308 keep up your good work Emily your on the right path peace and love 💞✌
Yes, they cannot have the Intelligent conversation.
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November 24, 2023
Thanksgiving night was D Day for me.
Andrew you mentioned something I never thought of. The family of my wife may not have had the knowledge of narcissism but days after we wed, her sister told me she's crazy.
I laughed it off naturally, but you don't really know a person until you lived with them. Heartache galore.
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Blessings! 🙏🙏❤❤
Mine was this past Christmas Night (2023). Innocently over heard his phone call, him talking with a woman trying to convince her to move into his home! Total shock! House of cards.
Narcs have always been with us, unfortunately, but they got particularly pernicious during C19. Ironically, rather than introspect/self-reflect and consider improvements, they went the other way and stepped up the heat to become even more insidious. Such nefarious behaviour is utterly shocking :( To come out stronger and to impart wisdom is a real superpower.
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The pandemic opened Pandora's box for sure! Nothing is the same.😢
The day i learned what narcissistic abuse was i got goosebumps and i lost sleep, its like learning that all along you were in love with with a literal demon. It gave me nightmares for at least a year after i left, and now randomly. Sometimes i think they’re dream walk, because i believe that he was actually speaking to me in one, enticing to break no contact
I feel like you were talking directly to me. Had him arrested for assault this week. May the Love of Jesus Christ bless you Andrew.
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Life with a narcissist is like a house of cards... it is destined to fail from the moment they laid their eyes on you, BEFORE you saw them. BEFORE you removed the rose colored glasses... there's a song/ music video, "Rose Colored Glasses," John Connolly ... lol... Yes, you did say ya'll... Lollollol. You sound like you're from "my neck o the woods?" 😊
Great video, Andrew. TY ✌️
Facts,no matter how much money given and energy such as watching their children,we always still are told we owe some debt.SMH
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I just learned he has two credit cards I didn’t know about. He got them a month ago and maxed them out. WTF? I don’t understand it.
The rage fits... became more frequent....the last one I observed included that gruesome devil.
Huffing mucus in and out thru teeth 😮 I had enough!
I bet that looked appealing. I'm glad you got away from him. They're all so dangerous.
@@lisashope2926 That was the straw that broke this "camel's"back.
Suddenly I realized, that "being" in front
of me...was working on the side of darkness. I chose to work on the side of LIGHT... Talk about opposites attracting!
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Her eyes turned completely black and she had a smirk like the Grinch on a non human body. You can't unsee what you have seen.
Wow Andrew - I remember the final day !! I even used the words ‘I didn’t sign up for this ‘ - hoovered for the 2nd time - on a luxury holiday I’d paid for us - and the woman who told me she wanted to quit smoking - just kept smoking !!! When I challenged her , she blamed it on me !!!
I’m so proud of myself for calling her out - the next morning she was packed ready to go home !! BUSTED
After recovering which takes time it will definatly get better than it ever was. This final challenge will bring out all the inner strength you almost forgotten you had. There is so much more to discover in that wonderful world.
As Albert Camus described it: in the midst of winter I found there is within me an invincible summer😊
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oh I love that quote. It is perfect and I am going to send it to my daughters
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Great video Andrew!
Wishing everyone clarity and peace...
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I knew what a narcissist was, but i didn't know there were different kinds. It took me 2 years to realize it when i found the needle in the haystack. It confirmed i wasn't insane finally. Its a relief but its also sad because it's an emotionally terminal condition to the relationship. I filed for divorce and i am moving on...
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❤❤🙏🙏Good for you! Stay Safe!
When the "delayed realization" descended upon me...especially in the case of my 30 year best friend...I could hardly wrap my head around it. She changed in order to please her ultra-covert narcissist husband...then they both ganged up on me. The day I stood up and put a boundary up was the beginning of the ending of my renting one of their properties. The long and the short of it was, I made known that I was not available for mental health crisis calls.
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Good for you!!!
I am quite enjoying the new version of me - thank you narcissists for being the reason why I am a better person. Thank you Andrew for always speaking sense :). God Bless you all my friends here and I hope you are doing well and in time and as Andrew says in your own time heal...we all put pressure on ourselves thinking that we are not healing fast enough...do not harm yourself thinking that way...we all are different :)
Excellent.... high five!!! 👍
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I remember the day… begging for bare minimum and even that was hard since I was conditioned not to rock the boat. He looked me in the eye with this look filled with so much hatred and said “I have the ability to emotionally destroy a person I’m involved with.”
Little did I know he had been doing that piece by piece from the beginning.
Three years healing. Thank you for your videos. At least I’m at the point I can smile ironically at your videos. Do they all go to a seminar for assholes or something? Glad it’s over. I’ve learned so much about myself and am working on my issues. 🙏🏼
I was convinced mine was posessed by the Devil 👿 👿
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This describes my STBX as well. The look of hatred, bragging about his ability to ruin people, and especially being conditioned not to expect anything. Oy, so glad to be out of that
I remember that day!
It was the day, I didn't want to live like that anymore.
You accompanied me on my way out, Andrew.
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Yes took the vows and stuck with it,,crash,boom,bang,it came crumbling down,,,,and came crumbling down again,,when my family dis owened me,,,after the Divorce,,,Didnt bother me cause it was all about theyre image ❤❤❤
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So sorry you had to deal with that, Flower! I'm sure not having their support made it even harder.😢
@@emilywilson7308no problem,,it made me stronger,,and got rid of 4narcissists,plus my ex,,lessons learned,,,For God has always been my Strength,,🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️hope you are doing well,,we are the champions my friend🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶
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You are very handsome. So far no one has said anything about these people on alcohol and drugs. They turn into monster people.
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Yes, it was frightening!😮
Rages, drugs, perverted sex, etc.
@@emmarae4322 they are demonic. One of them threw a curse on me! And then bragged about it. Of course it didn't work and I told her so. Then she went into a rage!
Omg! Yes! Narcissism on steroids! Very scary! I wish more teachers/mentors/coaches/experts/psychologists would cover this!
I have a 6 year old daughter and i already have seen my wife use similar tactics on her that she used on me. This terrifies me of leaving. Ive never been so lost.
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You know Andrew I wish I had seen your channel or met somebody that would have told me what the heck was going on and all about narcissists I had no clue
The relationship has completely devastated me because I had no education I just thought that everything could be worked out
I fell in love with this person wholeheartedly and when I do that I give it my all well like you said they saw that they use that against me me and in the end they devastated my life they pushed me to the limits of my sanity
I cannot stress enough to anybody who is watching this channel to take Andrew's words seriously and follow his guidance had I had his assistance 2 years ago I wouldn't be in the situation I am now
It's no one's fault but my own I was not educated in the narcissistic world let alone that they existed it was beyond my understanding that any human being could do harm to this level to any other human being that they say they love
I could go on and on but I just want to say thank you Andrew you've enlightened me and educated me and now it's time to heal and rebuild my life
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They turned my golden child sister into a miserable narcissist... I couldn't win against both of them smearing and devaluing me. I realize now they were showing her a different reality than what they showed me so there's no way for her to see it... and last time I saw her I could already notice the toxic projection patterns in her... unfortunate that I'll have to take a distance. I realize I didn't chose my family in this world and I don't owe abusive mentally ill family members anything... especially not my time or attention at my own expense.
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You are spot on EVERYTIME! TY. This is my story. 😊❤ I have been blessed with the end of the relationship. I see it now.
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Confession: I made my earlier comment before I had fully finished the video because I was kind of mind blown. But you signed off, saying once you’ve healed, maybe you’ll fall in love again, maybe you’ll read a book or write a book… I fell in love again. I wrote a book. In fact, I wrote four and I’m on my fifth. Books that you can find in bookstores. You’re extremely prescient.
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Many Thanks Andrew!⭐🙏❤I’m at the end of my healing path? 🙏 Your videos help me going though a trying time. Even though I ran for the hill it IS hard. I excepted this is my growing pain, I don’t feel angry, pity nor resentment toward the narc. He is his worse enemy and there is nothing anyone can do. The best revenge is going forward with my life and be happy. Every time I feel that spiritual bond. I take a deep breath asking God for protection and sent it back. We suppose to have a storm coming in LI. Love the energy of the storm. May go to the beach and watch the beautiful waves tomorrow. Life is a Grant🙏 stay Strong my brothers and Sisters 💪❤Namaste 🙏
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*Pray Scripture* 📖 *upon your enemies: Let mine enemy be as the wicked, and he that riseth up against me as the unrighteous.* (Job 27:7) *KJV*
- Luke 18:7-8
- Revelation 2:23
- Proverbs 12:2
- Psalm 145:20
- Psalm 7:13
- Psalm 34:15-16
- Psalm 52:1-5
- *Psalm 55:15*
- Psalm 92:7
- Psalm 139:19
- Psalm 104:35
- Psalm 109:15
- Job 18:17-21
- Isaiah 26:14
- Ezekiel 21:32
Amen! The WORD has POWER! It never comes back void! Blessings to you!
Amen! Ask God and He will get you through this
The righteousness of the blameless makes their paths straight, but the wicked are brought down by their own wickedness.
The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the unfaithful are trapped by evil desires.
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Be sure of this: The wicked will not go unpunished, but those who are righteous will go free.
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Well for me my ex narc discarded me just before covid arrived. And when the gouvernement ordered us to stay isolated in our homes, i had to stay put in the same home as him for almost two years. It was tough but during that time i had started to work from home and i turned the situation into a positive by starting to look for a condo to buy. And when we got the green light that covid was on the decline i bought my condo and i moved out. He did not think that i would do it but i did and i am proud of it. Great video Andrew thanks. Have a wonderful afternoon ❤❤😊
Good for you! Smart. I'm glad you got out.
@@lisashope2926 thank you Lisa. I am glad too. It's been four years out now. 😉🙌🙏
Wow! That sounds miserable. You are so strong to get out!
@@emilywilson7308 well covid did a number on all of us. But we all made it through. That's the most important thing. I kept my focus on my project to have my own home and it helped me a lot. Have a great evening Emily. 😊💞
Wow he just identified my dad and my sister. They was very abusive towards me as a child. I removed myself from them for years.
"Anywhere the wind blows" just sums it all up for me.
Thank you, Andrew. I appreciate what you do.
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Thankyou, i do believe i was meant to meet and go through the last narcissist ' friend' i did keep notes of strange behaviours, my feelings up and down confusion, frustration to feeling good and calm to round and round repeat repeat. If you have to write notes to try and figure out whats going on, there is definitely something wrong. I was thinking its me, but its not, it was partially of course because of not trusting myself. He from rhe start, was figuring me out, it was all very quick, the charm, the caring lies, the subtle put downs, the stupid statements of how hed be devastated if we werent friends anymore, to then ignore my messages. You know often when i was about to meet him, i had a really anxious feeling there was something evil around but i thought im being too paranoid because its happened to me before. I am glad im out grateful 🙏
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My narcissist exwife was my greatest teacher! One of them! I remember my wedding vows. I said them loud and clear in front of all those witnesses! I’m thankful for the lessons learned! I will always love her till this life ends! Almost 5 years no contact! ! Lessons learned! I’m remembering who I am!
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I did not know what I was up against sums up the entire relationship. Never knew that there was such stealth manipulation.
It took me 22 years to finally see it. I don’t know if it was his promotion at work, his sisters greed or the women who wanted what we had. We were in love.
The monster didn’t come out until the childhood sweetheart reappeared in his life via his sister. She was best friends with her. Anyway the sister accused me of taking her brother away from her.
I just thought she needed to grow up. We were happy but the last few years of the relationship were different. He wasn’t who I thought he as. He and his childhood sweetheart got married and they destroyed four human beings in their wake. No remorse at all. 13 years later he wanted me back. He didn’t speak to me but sent his son. I wanted to know if his wife was planning to come with?
Didn’t happen.
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My day of reckoning was last August 8th. I was in the kitchen, preparing dinner for my 24-year-old adopted son, when he marched into the house, informed me he was leaving after 6 very happy years (so I thought), and during which I paid out almost $100,000 in college tuition for him. He was accompanied by his toxic girlfriend, 3 other friends with vehicles, to help him move, and three police officers to ensure I didn't resist. It was followed by extreme hostility, a massive smear campaign and several court cases. It has been a dreadful experience, but thankfully, after many tears, I am now on the road to recovery.
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Am so sorry you had to go through that my heart goes out to you
Wow! They never cease to amaze me how cold hearted they are! Blessings! ❤❤🙏🙏
Is there any way to recover monies you paid for his education? I'd ask for alimony at the very least.
@@ricardocamara1602 Thank you. I'm doing much better now, but it has taken a year. Much learned! 😀
1950s to 2024 people pleasing maybe not have been a thing but most times called manners it’s sad how it’s changed…and being taken advantage of or that’s your way of showing love…or admiration….idk but it’s different now…
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Manners went out the window!
I think a LOT of that comes from a fear of being accused of being selfish or not being a team player, or insensitive or just a fear of being bullied in general, and it seems to be a tactic these days for people to get what they want. “Do THIS for me or you’re a selfish person who never thinks about anyone but themselves!” kind of thing. People are bullied into submission 🙄
@@jennifernewton4637 see that’s sad 😞 I am a normally literally kind human with literally NO AGENDA what you do with it or think of it is not my business.
THE DAY I AWAKENED WAS WHEN I FINALLY ACCEPTED THAT MY RELATIONSHIP HAD ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE. THIS PERSON SIMPLY DID NOT LOVE ME. HE ACTUQLLY HATED ME AND WANTED TO SEE ME DESTROYED. NOT AN EASY PILL TO SWALLOW BUT THE ACCEPTANCE SET ME FREE. THANK YOU ANDREW FOR HELPING US. ❤
My day was when he woke up before me and punched my bedroom door to wake me up. I sat up and thought “ I would never treat a guest in my home like that!” and I decided I wasn’t doing it anymore. ❤🎉
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Hey Andrew well you were right she was i dont want to say nice to me but a little normal well she back to her own narcissist way she knows now i will not take it anymore i am looking for a way to move on every body is started to see her for what she is its so bad here i want out 50 years of this i need my life back i want to thank you for teaching me and opening my eyes to what she is thanks for your help🙏✌☮
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I never knew about narcissism, and like lots of your earlier videos state, you think that other people are nice like you, you would trust a random person
Where I went to school, there were no bullies, everyone got along. At least I wasn't bullied, no swearing, gaslighting, stealing, bullying, etc
In the real world, I found my trust broken by people so many times because I thought other people were trustworthy like me
Thanks for the vids. Me, now 28, now realizes that people don't have my best interest in my mind and I should not assume that.
Now I can spot it. Like you said before, people want to sit back and laugh while they make you implode. I never put much thought into why they did that except assuming they were an A**hole. But now it's clear to me that people get some kind of pleasure or making peace with a grudge from their past by hurting other people's feelings it's a joke to the them.
Thanks for the vids really youve enlightened me
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I grew up out in the country and went to a very small school where we were all friends. What you said is the brutal truth. Hard for us to imagine but now we know. ❤️
Andrew it’s like you have a window into my life…. I have been discarded in the cruelest way! He told me I’m repulsive to him and he’s felt that way for a year and when he kissed me he had to go and scrub his face as I made him physically sick. He’s gone after slamming the door. My head is spinning and I feel totally gutted. I feel you are the only person who understands. Thankyou 🙏
Wow! Unbelievable that someone could act like that! You can't see it now, but he did you a favor by leaving. You don't need that jerk.😢
We understand ❤❤As Andrew says" You are Not Alone"🙏🙏
Yes, the kissing can be pretty dramatic.
Mine day when after 5 years of zero sex and constant rejection in a 20 year long marriage I wanted answers . Not , I’m not talking about that now ..I said , we’re talking about this now …I was discarded right then and there and she had depleted me of everything…6 years later and I often still cannot believe I stayed for so long
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After leaving the toxic relationship I noticed a 'friend' who I had met through the narc ex completely ignored me when i texted her and went off the radar. Normally she would message to check up on me and i mentioned about the narcs strange behaviour as i didnt know what it was at that time. I assumed the woman was a good person and confided in her. Now thinking about it, she went silent on me and I suspected she was on his side, i had a feeling she fancied him but she wasnt her type. Most likely she told him things and he probably started a smear campaign against me. It just shows that most people arent trustworthy and that the narcs have strong influences making others turn against you. I shouldnt care, but it hurts and reminds me i am the victim. At the end of the day they can both f off. Toxic fake people in different disguises are not worth my time and energy.
They really aren't your time. I know it hurt. I'm glad you are away from it now.
You can find and make better friends..let the narcs tear each other up and we can all go about having true friendships and be at peace ..something a narc can never have so we win!
The ex and I married 1975, her mom was raiseing her four kids hooking, hind sight she wanted to push her daughter on first one to come along.
Now 15 years went by, ex early on would be saying, I do not like mexican guys.
After devorce she went threw 3 ol mexico guys.
The have a defenseive spirit and in ther heart the have negative thoughts low self esteem, its so insidious that they cannot think healthy, they project it outward, they feel like dirt, but please stop getting it on me.
Love is a game to them. They say they know their worth.
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WOW!💡Andrew, you really know how to get to me! Epiphany moment! Your advice & dedication to this community is priceless.
Thank you from the depths of my soul. ❤
Blessings in disguise. 🥸
Stoicism, be nice to yourself, and…be nice to yourself! You will heal. Thank on Andrew for the message! It’s so very important to hear this.
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You rattled off half a dozen point in this video that made me think Holy FS! Astounding video. But I am getting used to having this reaction with your vids. Thank you.
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Thank you for giving life to my experience. This was so moving to listen to. I have never heard anybody talk about the scream before. The primal gut wrenching scream of someone who has given and loved with all they had only to be betrayed..
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Your hairrrr Omg! 😍😍😍😍
Sampson hair but without the jezebel anymore.
Hehe… in case you’re wondering, we took a vote Andrew… it’s UNANIMOUS! The long hair stays 😉👍
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I think you will be like that guy on the cologne commercial when I was a kid. "Hai Karate" He had to use Karate to defend himself from the mob of women when he put on that cologne.😂 I just looked it up on TH-cam.😆
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Today’s video is exactly my life. Right down to the ten years of marriage and now she’s leaving…. I’m really looking forward to a brighter future and I’m thankful for people like you. God bless you! 😊
It’s been 3 months of no contact..and I’m slowly getting better.At first it was hard to even get out of bed and shower ! But I’m over coming the shock of the narc moving in with new supply just 3 days after telling me he loved and missed me even told me he wanted to see me but I wouldn’t ..stood my ground and then our last phone call was the narc telling me he had a gf he was living with my last words were “well that was fast and now it’s my turn to find someone to” which I haven’t because I’m not ready or even looking. I dunno what the future holds for me but I did quit some bad habits and the darkness in my head or the fog is lifting. Thanks for your videos ❤
I was married to the most severe narcissist most ever saw or defined for 31 yrs and I never knew the word or definition till almost the end. Saying I got discarded on the side of the road is the understatement worthy of #1 songs and maybe a few books one for every decade spent. God was my Savior and the only way I didn't fall into any of the pits set out for me, but I chose to hang on to the only real for sure stability and miracle worker Jesus because he picked me up and cradled me and took care of not only me but my soul and I pray for my ex because he has hurt and disrespected God far more than me and I pray he has an illumination of conscience and will repent and choose Heaven instead of hell. It won't be the fun he remembered evil to be if he chooses an eternity without God. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you Andrew for sharing your time and information to help us ❤
I am on the path of healing and didn't know and understand the extent of these evil entities until I did research , thank God 🙏 I am out 😊
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You are so wise; I have realized that I have gone through multiple narcissistic relationships, mostly romantic, and it was not until I got the education that I was able to finally "GET IT" and break free. People will continue to be drawn into these relationships until you recognize what they are all about. Thank You for being such a great teacher Andrew
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I am 70 years old. That is how long it took me to realize my narc romantic misadventures were a pattern. The last one with the rage of the discard was the wake up call. Never quite realized how calculating and evil narcs were till then
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Day of first divorce hearing 🙂 Thank God for TH-cam 😉
Love the little smile face after first day of divorce hearing. It's very hard and I will think good thoughts and send them your way.
@@lisashope2926 oh thank you! It was over a year ago 😂 What I should have said was that was the day it came crumbling down because that’s when I found Andrew’s channel, good thoughts your way as well 🙂
I absolutely love this Andrew. I'm prepared for the soon to be ending now. God bless you.
Good afternoon Andrew.
Watching from Canada.
Thank you for helping so many people, so many abused victims of these narcissistic monsters.
You are helping me and I am so grateful I came to find you and this excellent informative truly helpful channel.
The very very best to you my dear friend.
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Yes, what you’re saying about the golden child and parents is definitely my brother and mom. My mom used to such a narcissist and my brother is the golden child. I’m always helping my mom but she is so mean to me in all the ways you just listed and my mom thinks my brother can do no wrong. Most of my family has even pointed out to me that my mom and brother are like this. My mom is so hateful to my dad too. I cannot take her or my brother anymore.
My in laws knew. I didn't yet. I spoke with a divorce attorney today. No can do anymore. Telling my dad tomorrow. Everything. He knows I have shingles. Great video. I hope all can get out. Terrible relationships. Killer relationships. I have a frozen memory. Boy oh boy.
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@@i.l.9546 thank you so much!
@@flowerpower4944 ❤️❤️❤️❤️. You are lovely. I'll hug some horses for you tomorrow. ,🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴. That's how many dad has! I'll kiss their muzzles too.
@@flowerpower4944 I'm going to hug and kiss some horses for you tomorrow. Thank you for your support and sweetness ❤️
Straight gold. Keep it up. But again u don’t have to hear it from me. The Most high is working through you. Not a fan but a brother. This message is painful until the point people realize it’s actually a blessing of peace and joy. Great work!!!! All praises. Once you start healing, it continues forever. But that’s the blessing.
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Thank you for this video. I left 5 days ago before my husband came home, after leaving his job in the morning , knowing I found all his secrets. I had 10 minutes to get out and took it. He found me last night, hiding for my life. I never knew the hell I’ve lived had a name. Stay safe.
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Thank you so much-I Thank God that I’m out of that Toxic situation that I thought was a marriage.🫶🏾continued Blessings to you😇
Thank you, Andrew. It's very hard to exit because as a scapegoat they have you locked in behind so many walls that once you exit one, there is another one to climb over. You are not meant to escape.
My sister went with me in front of a state psychiatrist for disability as it got that bad. I think their next step was to put me in a group home or to take me out (insurance policy). When the doctor asked to speak to my sister alone, I went out and sat in the lobby. All I could hear him say is "Wow, that is a big purse you have." Afterward he came out and looked at me and said, "I am sorry."
I eventually went no contact and disappeared off the radar. I almost tripped by contacting a flying monkey but learned my lesson really quickly. You have to go no contact with them all. Having that little bit of income helped me get out for good. I am building up again in peace. Like me if you do the work, you will get it all back and more. Just take the time to concentrate on healing and your health first. You will get stronger every day.
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