Candace, I love this! I’m 74 this month live alone divorced I have a cat and am in a very hard transition financially post Covid hospitalization. I’m a teaching Artist with symptoms of ptsd returning.Late December 2023 3 men from the apartment complex came to fix a radiator that doesn’t work. It was freezing outside and dark about 7 pm. No warning they were coming no phone or text. One radiator wasn’t producing heat. One manager who looked so tired he looked like he was about to drop so I offered him a chair, he declined and squatted down beside two others vendor a father and his son who I’ve not ever seen before and wore a hoody and I perceived him to have weird closed angry energy , he silent was very under -dressed for weather and wore blue elastic gloves, was bearded like his father , who is a plumbing expert whose been here. I never saw his eyes. It was odd the others didn’t offer his name . My place was freezing so I was glad they came and I stood about 10 ft away watched listened . Suddenly that hooded man gets up , heads briskly to the door and rudely barges right thru me knocking me off my feet! I fall over a table and soas not to hit my head and wedge between an end of a piano and bookcase I twist from my hip and grab on the corner of a table ! The man who plowed thru me just grunted and kept walking out! I struggled Jug to pull myself to my feet and I’m in shock and cannot talk. I’m glad I didn’t hug my head ! The other two men do and say absolutely nothing! I start to realize I’m feeling pain and I cannot talk! I’m filling with fear and wonder why no one said anything especially man who plowed thru me?? Why no other man offered to help me up or comfort or acknowledge what happened. It was so disturbing to me. I was ignored totally ! I’m not exactly tiny! This bizarre fall over the top of two tables piled with magazines actually slowed my fall! I have since thanks my clutter for helping me not hit the floor. I recall that as I stood up I probably and felt numb but I did recall losing trust and had other scenarios run thru me that told me I was not safe w these men! I shut down in disbelief . The two men left. Next day my hip and legs are in pain. I see chiropractor and visit landlord to report what happened and pay my rent for Jan. Landlord is impassive doesn’t know name of man who knocked me off my feet! Get this : He tells me the next day he talked with manager who said. : no such thing happen and it took two months before the landlord said “, Sorry it happened”. Nothing I can do about it my men defended. I confronted manager and other man the father of Marco who knocked me over! . They changed the subject. But as they left the older father thanked me and offered a small apology and fist handshake thru the closing door ! When ever I report problems now with repairs like windows that don’t function my perceptions are questioned. This past week I filed a police report. This has stirred up so many life traumas & painful memories. I don’t gave a good trauma therapist yet or resources to move in nj housing affordable housing for senior crisis. I’ve felt depressed and frightened and don’t sleep as hip and leg muscles were badly twisted. I’m got furious about the gaslighting! The ownership also posted that iowe 10 k in back rent! Not only false but I went to court and won pro se disproving them that was five months of stress because they tried to evict me! I’m told that sum needs to stay on my ledger and portal because that’s “ just the way their accounting program works “ ! The last attorney I got for the court case bailed sure I’d loose ! I stood my ground and owned my truth and perception and won. But I’m quite shaken and w depressed and lots of fear because I’m in a kind of semi functional freeze. The police filing interview wasn’t easy. My cat was abused by the maintenance me. Drilling and telling me they dint need to drill! I asked them to stop to catch my traumatized cat but they didn’t stop. The landlord said” They told me it was to remove one tiny screw ! “ In essence it’s minimized and I’m to doubt what happened it went on for at least 5-10 minutes. I took cat out to a neighbor for two hours: the rundown still didn’t work safely ! I’ve written to upper management about habitability issues . No response yet. Owning my perceptions and feeling stuck and obsessed in series of denials or invalidations. Your video helps me but I am exhausted in negative mindset. I’m allergic to tobacco smoker moved in above me and I now have COPD landlord doesn’t believe a chain smoker impacts me , even my cat developed asthma ! My doctors sent letters lsndlord ignores them . This is hard and too many years of my life post divorce ! My ex and son were violent and messed with perceptions of my daughter too! I’ve lost everyone I thought I loved but realize now it’ wasn’t going to work. My anxiety has been horrible and insomnia. I m not sure where to turn and I’m trying not to identify with victim or being told I’m too sensitive a crazy artist etc etc or that lonely I have to suck it up and go away and do it on my own. I did tell landlord what’s happened degraded the trust and I do not want maintenance here ever again . He said I cannot promise that. If he needs to do a big job we’ll give you notice to step away with your cat! I’ve been working on my own traumas all my life and want help so I don’t keep going thru this. My cat is cuddling with a paw on my knee as I type and purring. I know this isn’t just a comment but my perceptions matter and this may speak to someone. Planning your be in truth room I’m new . Thank you Candace ! Linda from NJ .
I picked up your video channel while taking a road trip to Utah to camp (about a month ago). The drive gave me ample time to listen to several of your videos. I found myself overwhelmed in thought, emotion and epiphanies. I had broken off relations with some people recently which has changed my lifestyle. I came to understand my "role" in those relations and went through so many mixed feelings of self doubt. THANK YOU for putting all of this help out on YT.
When I was a kid , my much older brother said to me " you don't know what pain is , sometimes i wish I could kick the shit out of you so youd know what's it's like to be cold and alone". Needless to say I wasn't mirrored as a kid. Now I'm 42 and in therapy.
this is lot but well the hell worth looking into ,hearing,reading,checking out:th-cam.com/video/-_tFDWAr3aE/w-d-xo.html&app=desktop&ab_channel=AwakenInsight In 2021 This Year, Let Go Of The People Who Aren’t Ready To Love You- Moving On....... I know that your instinct is to do whatever you can to earn the good graces of everyone you can, but that is also the impulse that will rob you of your time, your energy and your sanity. When you start showing up to your life wholly and completely, with joy and interest and commitment, not everyone is going to be ready to meet you there. It doesn’t mean you need to change who you are. It means you need to stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you. If you’re left out, subtly insulted, mindlessly forgotten about or easily disregarded by the people you spend the most time with, you’re doing yourself an incredible disservice by continuing to offer your energy and life to them. The truth is that you are not for everyone, and everyone is not for you. That’s what makes it so special when you do find the few people with whom you have a genuine friendship, love or relationship: you’ll know how precious it is because you’ve experienced what it isn’t. But the longer you spend trying to force someone to love you when they aren’t capable, the longer you’re robbing yourself of that very connection. It is waiting for you. There are billions of people on this planet, and so many of them are going to meet you at your level, vibe where you are, connect with where you’re going. … But the longer you stay small, tucked into the familiarity of the people who use you as a cushion, a back burner option, a therapist and a ploy for their emotional labor, the longer you keep yourself out of the community you crave. Maybe if you stop showing up, you’ll be less liked. Maybe you’ll be forgotten about altogether. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will cease. For everyone who reads this, I wish for YOU to feel the full power of the incredible waterfall of abundance, an endless stream flying into the deep and clear lake of your well-being! All our sublime emotions and knowledge for you,may all that you need/want/desire unfold for you in the most loving,peaceful and profound ways,tailored made just for you. The Universe know you in detail and loves you infinitely!!May your blessings be infinitely so. Blessings,Love,Peace and Prosperity Rain down upon you,constantly. karma,drama,trauma free!! Remember who you really are!! amoung other things that you are,you are rare,special, precious,irreplacable, no one has even been like you,and no one ever will!! YOU are a Forever Being!! This from a previous post: the blessings,though ,are within....look into these you wont be dissapointed + ALL in MY humble opinions; this was posted for a person who has insomina,but still applicable to all who read,believe and apply it. IMHO!! Howdy....ever heard of Essiac Tea? remedies.net sell's it. amazon sells it,Ebay sell's and your local herbal store type place may have it as well. very healing and relaxing Liz. Intrasound powder is another one and their Gel,also...Intrasound.org is the site,The personal rejuvenizer would REALLY help you... Had mine for 30 yrs now. never take it off.Cept' fer showering. I ususally sleep like a baby! I know insomnia...I get it.... but this could very well help. worth lookin into. ALl this IHMO!! rejuvenizer's lighthealing.com may look like fru fru BS I assure you its far deeper than a website can relay. Nope, not selling here. I wanna be where this man is out in the woods,peace n quiet,too. Paying the goodness forward,sowin' da good seeds. Theres a wonderful subliminal on Indigo Mind Labs..that really does a good number for sleeplessness,too.www.subliminal-shop.com/categories/sleep/ www.subliminal-shop.com/product/transformational-absorbtion-shield-5-75g/ www.subliminal-shop.com/product/ultra-success-luck-maximizer-4-2/ supergoodstuff.com has some all natural stuff for sleep as well as youngliving essential oils....and REVIVE an esential oil company both can be found on Ebay,ect blessings and light and all the best,I use all oft he abouve in one way or another..and also I've used with success "Rain storm- rain on a tin roof, distant train whistle blowing" combo and/or fire place...open 3 windows and run'um if they don't all come in one video..on YT. Ha! sweet dreams, no bull. IMHO!! Keith www.subliminal-shop.com/product/ultra-success-luck-maximizer-4-2/
Such a helpful video because it goes deeper into why we have codependency in the first place !!!! and that means really taking a deeper deeper look into our heart and when this all started when that mirroring or lack of mirroring did not happen and stop being in denial
You‘re so gifted! I love how you describe it so patiently, with much grace. It seems that you can easily express your introspection and share it confidently !! I love to watch you speak, so inspiring 🌷🍃
From my experience, watching someone you care about create their own pain through their perception filtered through trauma can be very difficult, especially when that perception casts you in a negative light. Speaking of light, encoraging a perception check from the outside can be seen as gaslighting. Follow the Prime Directive of self determination.
Oh my goodness subbing!! I just recently connected with my best friend from school for years I felt abandoned by her and when she told me her perception of us and me at school, it was completely different from mine. She saw me as super popular and like almost resentful that my mom bought me makeup and clothes. I was shocked that she believed these things. Then I started doubting everything and became a little paranoid if I was making things up in my head to make myself the victim, I felt crazy. This video makes me feel like my perception is just as valid as hers. It’s my truth. There’s no actual fact based evidence what she thought is true and I don’t need to argue my case, because it doesn’t affect my life or my perception anyway. Thanks.
Thank you Candace for your wise words x🤗x Owning my perception has been a life long struggle . Being a sensitive person with a very insensitive Mother and family has set me up to question all of my feelings . At the age of 71 ,even though I have come along way , I still have doubts emotionally . I appreciate your posts x🦋x
Wow!!!! Just wow. Thank you. This is my life and current conjunction, awakening consciousness. How poignant. The relief of feeling not only heard yet one of many in community.
When you spoke about the need for mirroring when we are a child it totally made sense, because our reality is reflected back to us all the time so if we feel something and a parental figure brushes it off we will question if what we feel is true/right/wrong etc... I wonder what is the need for it... Looking back i realize i was just a HSP and my parents didn't know how to handle it, and at the same time now i realize that a part of that conditioning in child hood we have is what makes us all unique and i see now my parents were just doing the best they can ❤💖
Thank you so much Candace! You've had a great impact on my life, and I'm so grateful I found your videos. I always felt alone, different & misunderstood until I found your channel, and also my greater purpose. Blessed you be 🙏😊
Wonderful.... your vdos have been healing me ... and in last 2 years I have improved my version... there's lot to go still but the base is taken care now... thank you Candace 😊
I had a two hour conversation with my Mom recently as well. She said she has always known I was highly sensitive, but often struggled with relationships. I was visiting her at her house, watching some spirituality videos, when I found myself in a conversation with her, trying to explain what I've experienced spiritually. I found that not only could I not explain what it means to be 'awakened', but that in describing the humility and connection I now feel between myself and... well, everything. She became defensive and gruffly stated, "Well, I guess I'm just not good enough to be enlightened." I accepted her response and felt no need to defend a position. I quickly changed the subject and focused on sending out love and energy to her for the remainder of our visit, but I am curious how you would handle a loved one who has not and may never find the spiritual awakening that so many of us have experienced. Simple is never easy for some and though the path is well lit before me, accepting that some may never find the light within themselves is very sad. I feel I should say congratulations to you, but I'm not sure why. Happy birthday to me and any other Librans out there! P.S. LOL, I wrote this after you mentioned your Mom and then after watching the whole video, you said everything I just wrote. HAhaha. Its funny how this whole thing works the same for each of us.
Sorry, but you can't do this with narcs. Especially narcissistic parents. The only safe environment to examine this is with a therapist, or someone like yourself, or maybe with a VERY trusted person that hasn't been influenced by the person who harmed you or enabled you being harmed. Most narcissists will deny the pain they've caused, your experience - gas lighting you - to the bitter end.
Hi Candice! Tnx for all the content you provide us with, it give me dirrection when i feel i lose it in my healing process. If anytime you dont have any ideea about a video here is one: hen we are very anxious our feelings go numb. Please give us some tools to figure out our needs behind the anxiety. I am a bit better to figure out but right now i'm so disconected. I think i'm sad, lonely, discouraged but i can't comunicate with myself the need :(
@@CandacevanDell My studie object this week was perception but in feminist ethical political science. I liked it so much from a psychological and healing perspective. But I can also reimagine feminist materialism and body/ mind healing angels trough new political glasses. Upgrade yourself..! 😀
How do you help a friend realise they are an HSP being emotionally, psychological, & financially abused... When they have been led to believe 1) they are the problem & 2) that they have Social Anxiety, & 3) their parents are caring instead of the manipulative narcissists they truly are?
Remember, we all need to own our own perceptions and feelings. We cannot force anyone who isn't ready. I've gone down that road and I've never seen a grater catastrophe for all involved 😆 🤣 Ask questions of your friend that aren't leading but help them ask themselves the tough questions to get in touch with their feelings and perspective. Be patient. Freedom means freedom to fail. I know how hard it can be to watch. Thank you for reaching out!!! You are supported.
I see we went to similiar shit. Anxiety is probably a very bad perception we get at some point of life or not, but the ones who do get, and i am talking about very serious anxiety, how do you think is the best way to heal?
Hi Candace!💓 I have always resonated with the concept of light worker, starseed, ect. After watching some of your videos and resonating with childhood trauma and a past codependently attached relationship, the TH-cam algorithm sent me a lot of videos about “autism”and “aspergers” and I 1000% felt the “symptoms” deep inside, like I have finally been understood. I am a bit confused on where to go from here, I have troubles being decisive, taking action, and seem to myself as pretty bipolar, which I hold these feelings in too. I have recently realized that I don’t really have close friends to talk to about this. I was wondering what your perspective on the labels are?
I didn't understand what you mentioned at the end...how can you change your perception of the injustice done to you in your childhood and perceive it as something different in order to heal from that childhood memory??
Amrita Samuel Domt change the injustice, just reframe it! An example.... if you were abused and (made it your fault). You can start to look for evidence that it wasn’t because of you and there was nothing you could do about it. BUT often times we attract the same situations because there is a misbelief about deserving or just a trauma stuck in the body. In these cases we need to shift our perception so that we can release ourselves from past pain and move forward with more self love and clarity! 💫
This is why I do not acceptvany LOA ciaches! 99% of them that I’ve met, first thing they do is to tell me that I am wrong about how I feel, how I think - and about everything! One ”coach” took contact with ne after I had a bad moment (thatcwent ivercwhen I took a walk outside). She wanted to ”rescue” me. I refused. I said that she always find only negative things about me, so why she should coac me! She seems to he a problem-seeker to me: She sees me as a problem, with my feelings! She acclained that she will tell me how nice oetson I an, full of light etc. I said that hiw she xan see me as full of light when she cannot say any goul words about me now. That she sees only the negative in me. Quess what she andwered? She wrote me: ”Oh, show me then sonething positive that you have written!” I laughed by myself! There it came! I xan tell positive things about myself, that my writings definetelly shiw: I am hobest. K do not use masks. I do not oretend to be something else than I am. I am courageous. I am oretty intelligent. Etc. Thus LOA fake-posotive coach could not tell me ANY of my positive aspects, not any! And she thought that she could ”help” me and ”show my light to ke” because one moment, I had a ”bad” feeling! Seeing nothing positive in me! Unbelievable!
My evil witch narc mother did this my whole life. By upgrade I don’t quite understand what you mean? If I wasn’t ever validated and was abused by an emotionally empty gaslighting parent how can that be upgraded. Just a bit confused.
Yea this is common with narc mothers. They don’t want you to figure it out and if you do they will either gaslight you or discard. I am so sorry this happened to you!
@@CandacevanDell wow thank you for the reply! So, I just have to validate myself then? Any tips? Other than anger? That worked for a while but only lead to more shame and guilt.
@@humanityhealthyself4430 oh yes!! So many tips hahaha! Self validation is key. Give those unvalidated emotions a voice and honor the truth of what happened to you. That is a start. Then we need to do some shadow work and reclaim your SHINE ✨
@@CandacevanDell thank you so much. I'll go back again. I always hit an impenetrable barrier at "shine time" . Thank you again and for all of your videos. They have been so helpful to me🥰
I’ve gotten a flu vaccine, Two days ago I feel like I’m going to regret it. I just learned how bad the flu vaccine was after I got it. I’m spiritual and have been aware of the toxic covid 19 vaccine. Honesty I’m starting to feel weird on the spiritual side. Stuff does not feel the same. It could just be an allusion. I am going through a dark night of the soul. Any recommendations? I hope it’s not too late for me for me to detox. I don’t feel like my usual self. I really hope I get another chance on the spiritual side. I feel worse and more disconnected everyday. What do I do? I’m worried. Is there a global phenomenon happening which is causing me to feel this way.
My perception feels very much like a crisis to me :). Somehow I‘ve learnt to adapt to everyone’s perception & now owning mine feels foreign. When I sit in my energy it literally feels like I‘m hanging off the ceiling ! It‘s quite funny actually 🫧
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Your feelings are your feeling and they can’t be wrong. 🌹
Candace, I love this! I’m 74 this month live alone divorced I have a cat and am in a very hard transition financially post Covid hospitalization. I’m a teaching Artist with symptoms of ptsd returning.Late December 2023 3 men from the apartment complex came to fix a radiator that doesn’t work. It was freezing outside and dark about 7 pm. No warning they were coming no phone or text. One radiator wasn’t producing heat. One manager who looked so tired he looked like he was about to drop so I offered him a chair, he declined and squatted down beside two others vendor a father and his son who I’ve not ever seen before and wore a hoody and I perceived him to have weird closed angry energy , he silent was very under -dressed for weather and wore blue elastic gloves, was bearded like his father , who is a plumbing expert whose been here. I never saw his eyes. It was odd the others didn’t offer his name . My place was freezing so I was glad they came and I stood about 10 ft away watched listened . Suddenly that hooded man gets up , heads briskly to the door and rudely barges right thru me knocking me off my feet! I fall over a table and soas not to hit my head and wedge between an end of a piano and bookcase I twist from my hip and grab on the corner of a table ! The man who plowed thru me just grunted and kept walking out! I struggled
Jug to pull myself to my feet and I’m in shock and cannot talk. I’m glad I didn’t hug my head ! The other two men do and say absolutely nothing! I start to realize I’m feeling pain and I cannot talk! I’m filling with fear and wonder why no one said anything especially man who plowed thru me?? Why no other man offered to help me up or comfort or acknowledge what happened. It was so disturbing to me. I was ignored totally ! I’m not exactly tiny! This bizarre fall over the top of two tables piled with magazines actually slowed my fall! I have since thanks my clutter for helping me not hit the floor. I recall that as I stood up I probably and felt numb but I did recall losing trust and had other scenarios run thru me that told me I was not safe w these men! I shut down in disbelief . The two men left. Next day my hip and legs are in pain. I see chiropractor and visit landlord to report what happened and pay my rent for Jan. Landlord is impassive doesn’t know name of man who knocked me off my feet! Get this : He tells me the next day he talked with manager who said. : no such thing happen and it took two months before the landlord said “, Sorry it happened”. Nothing I can do about it my men defended. I confronted manager and other man the father of Marco who knocked me over! . They changed the subject. But as they left the older father thanked me and offered a small apology and fist handshake thru the closing door ! When ever I report problems now with repairs like windows that don’t function my perceptions are questioned. This past week I filed a police report. This has stirred up so many life traumas & painful memories. I don’t gave a good trauma therapist yet or resources to move in nj housing affordable housing for senior crisis. I’ve felt depressed and frightened and don’t sleep as hip and leg muscles were badly twisted. I’m got furious about the gaslighting!
The ownership also posted that iowe 10 k in back rent! Not only false but I went to court and won pro se disproving them that was five months of stress because they tried to evict me! I’m told that sum needs to stay on my ledger and portal because that’s “ just the way their accounting program works “ ! The last attorney I got for the court case bailed sure I’d loose ! I stood my ground and owned my truth and perception and won. But I’m quite shaken and w depressed and lots of fear because I’m in a kind of semi functional freeze. The police filing interview wasn’t easy. My cat was abused by the maintenance me. Drilling and telling me they dint need to drill! I asked them to stop to catch my traumatized cat but they didn’t stop. The landlord said” They told me it was to remove one tiny screw ! “ In essence it’s minimized and I’m to doubt what happened it went on for at least 5-10 minutes. I took cat out to a neighbor for two hours: the rundown still didn’t work safely ! I’ve written to upper management about habitability issues . No response yet. Owning my perceptions and feeling stuck and obsessed in series of denials or invalidations. Your video helps me but I am exhausted in negative mindset. I’m allergic to tobacco smoker moved in above me and I now have COPD landlord doesn’t believe a chain smoker impacts me , even my cat developed asthma ! My doctors sent letters lsndlord ignores them . This is hard and too many years of my life post divorce ! My ex and son were violent and messed with perceptions of my daughter too! I’ve lost everyone I thought I loved but realize now it’ wasn’t going to work. My anxiety has been horrible and insomnia. I m not sure where to turn and I’m trying not to identify with victim or being told I’m too sensitive a crazy artist etc etc or that lonely I have to suck it up and go away and do it on my own. I did tell landlord what’s happened degraded the trust and I do not want maintenance here ever again . He said I cannot promise that. If he needs to do a big job we’ll give you notice to step away with your cat! I’ve been working on my own traumas all my life and want help so I don’t keep going thru this. My cat is cuddling with a paw on my knee as I type and purring. I know this isn’t just a comment but my perceptions matter and this may speak to someone. Planning your be in truth room I’m new . Thank you Candace ! Linda from NJ .
I picked up your video channel while taking a road trip to Utah to camp (about a month ago). The drive gave me ample time to listen to several of your videos. I found myself overwhelmed in thought, emotion and epiphanies. I had broken off relations with some people recently which has changed my lifestyle. I came to understand my "role" in those relations and went through so many mixed feelings of self doubt. THANK YOU for putting all of this help out on YT.
I love this!!! The power of youtube wahoo. I am so glad for your insights and really glad you found me ;-)
When I was a kid , my much older brother said to me " you don't know what pain is , sometimes i wish I could kick the shit out of you so youd know what's it's like to be cold and alone". Needless to say I wasn't mirrored as a kid. Now I'm 42 and in therapy.
Supernatural Healing Resonance
this is lot but well the hell worth looking into ,hearing,reading,checking out:th-cam.com/video/-_tFDWAr3aE/w-d-xo.html&app=desktop&ab_channel=AwakenInsight
In 2021
This Year, Let Go Of The People Who Aren’t Ready To Love You- Moving On.......
I know that your instinct is to do whatever you can to earn the good graces of everyone you can, but that is also the impulse that will rob you of your time, your energy and your sanity.
When you start showing up to your life wholly and completely, with joy and interest and commitment, not everyone is going to be ready to meet you there.
It doesn’t mean you need to change who you are. It means you need to stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.
If you’re left out, subtly insulted, mindlessly forgotten about or easily disregarded by the people you spend the most time with, you’re doing yourself an incredible disservice by continuing to offer your energy and life to them.
The truth is that you are not for everyone, and everyone is not for you. That’s what makes it so special when you do find the few people with whom you have a genuine friendship, love or relationship: you’ll know how precious it is because you’ve experienced what it isn’t.
But the longer you spend trying to force someone to love you when they aren’t capable, the longer you’re robbing yourself of that very connection. It is waiting for you. There are billions of people on this planet, and so many of them are going to meet you at your level, vibe where you are, connect with where you’re going.
… But the longer you stay small, tucked into the familiarity of the people who use you as a cushion, a back burner option, a therapist and a ploy for their emotional labor, the longer you keep yourself out of the community you crave.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you’ll be less liked.
Maybe you’ll be forgotten about altogether.
Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will cease.
For everyone who reads this, I wish for YOU to feel the full power of the incredible waterfall of abundance, an endless stream flying into the deep and clear lake of your well-being! All our sublime emotions and knowledge for you,may all that you need/want/desire unfold for you in the most loving,peaceful and profound ways,tailored made just for you. The Universe know you in detail and loves you infinitely!!May your blessings be infinitely so.
Blessings,Love,Peace and Prosperity Rain down upon you,constantly. karma,drama,trauma free!!
Remember who you really are!! amoung other things that you are,you are rare,special, precious,irreplacable, no one has even been like you,and no one ever will!! YOU are a Forever Being!!
This from a previous post: the blessings,though ,are within....look into these you wont be dissapointed + ALL in MY humble opinions;
this was posted for a person who has insomina,but still applicable to all who read,believe and apply it. IMHO!!
Howdy....ever heard of Essiac Tea? remedies.net sell's it. amazon sells it,Ebay sell's and your local herbal store type place may have it as well. very healing and relaxing Liz. Intrasound powder is another one and their Gel,also...Intrasound.org is the site,The personal rejuvenizer would REALLY help you... Had mine for 30 yrs now. never take it off.Cept' fer showering. I ususally sleep like a baby! I know insomnia...I get it.... but this could very well help. worth lookin into. ALl this IHMO!! rejuvenizer's lighthealing.com may look like fru fru BS I assure you its far deeper than a website can relay. Nope, not selling here. I wanna be where this man is out in the woods,peace n quiet,too. Paying the goodness forward,sowin' da good seeds. Theres a wonderful subliminal on Indigo Mind Labs..that really does a good number for sleeplessness,too.www.subliminal-shop.com/categories/sleep/
www.subliminal-shop.com/product/transformational-absorbtion-shield-5-75g/
www.subliminal-shop.com/product/ultra-success-luck-maximizer-4-2/
supergoodstuff.com has some all natural stuff for sleep as well as youngliving essential oils....and REVIVE an esential oil company both can be found on Ebay,ect
blessings and light and all the best,I use all oft he abouve in one way or another..and also I've used with success "Rain storm- rain on a tin roof, distant train whistle blowing" combo and/or fire place...open 3 windows and run'um if they don't all come in one video..on YT. Ha! sweet dreams, no bull. IMHO!! Keith
www.subliminal-shop.com/product/ultra-success-luck-maximizer-4-2/
OK whats that Chris? Links? thanks. Happy Thanksgiving too!! Ha!!
Such a helpful video because it goes deeper into why we have codependency in the first place !!!!
and that means really taking a deeper deeper look into our heart and when this all started when that mirroring or lack of mirroring did not happen and stop being in denial
You‘re so gifted! I love how you describe it so patiently, with much grace. It seems that you can easily express your introspection and share it confidently !! I love to watch you speak, so inspiring 🌷🍃
From my experience, watching someone you care about create their own pain through their perception filtered through trauma can be very difficult, especially when that perception casts you in a negative light. Speaking of light, encoraging a perception check from the outside can be seen as gaslighting. Follow the Prime Directive of self determination.
Finally started it. Better late than never.
Oh my goodness subbing!! I just recently connected with my best friend from school for years I felt abandoned by her and when she told me her perception of us and me at school, it was completely different from mine. She saw me as super popular and like almost resentful that my mom bought me makeup and clothes. I was shocked that she believed these things. Then I started doubting everything and became a little paranoid if I was making things up in my head to make myself the victim, I felt crazy. This video makes me feel like my perception is just as valid as hers. It’s my truth. There’s no actual fact based evidence what she thought is true and I don’t need to argue my case, because it doesn’t affect my life or my perception anyway. Thanks.
yes, people opinion very Personal, some people just Selfish and stupid, they don't care truth
Thank you Candace for your wise words x🤗x Owning my perception has been a life long struggle . Being a sensitive person with a very insensitive Mother and family has set me up to question all of my feelings . At the age of 71 ,even though I have come along way , I still have doubts emotionally . I appreciate your posts x🦋x
This is really good stuff Candace! Thank you!
Absolutely, owning our perspective will allow us to upgrade it if needed and reparent our inner child! Thank you for these insights! 💚🙏
Agree wholeheartedly ♥️ Thank you for this! Sending out love to this amazing community ✨🙏
Nena Lavonne Sending love back beautiful!!
Candace van Dell ♥️🙏
Wow!!!! Just wow. Thank you. This is my life and current conjunction, awakening consciousness. How poignant. The relief of feeling not only heard yet one of many in community.
Candace u are awesome, this videos help me so much
I just like to add you’re a great person to look up to for our generation you have a good head on your shoulders
When you spoke about the need for mirroring when we are a child it totally made sense, because our reality is reflected back to us all the time so if we feel something and a parental figure brushes it off we will question if what we feel is true/right/wrong etc... I wonder what is the need for it... Looking back i realize i was just a HSP and my parents didn't know how to handle it, and at the same time now i realize that a part of that conditioning in child hood we have is what makes us all unique and i see now my parents were just doing the best they can ❤💖
Thank u!! Sending positive vibes from Greece ✨
Wow, thank you! Great video!
I’ve already started owning my perception. This video feels validating and I’m excited to keep it up . 😁
Thanks for the shout out!
If you were abused continually as a child its very hard to get clarity and change perseption even as an adult.
Wow, what an amazing video filled with so much insight. I have never heard this before and I have read and listened to alot. Great message Candace!!!
Love your channel already 💕
Thank you so much Candace! You've had a great impact on my life, and I'm so grateful I found your videos. I always felt alone, different & misunderstood until I found your channel, and also my greater purpose. Blessed you be 🙏😊
Thank you. The things you say are so Pleasing and pleasant to hear
Joshua Welsh Thanks so much!!
SOOO in sync with me!!! just overcame this recently
thank you!!!!
Hello from Guam. Thanks for sharing. I too was a highly sensitive child.
Wonderful.... your vdos have been healing me ... and in last 2 years I have improved my version... there's lot to go still but the base is taken care now... thank you Candace 😊
Bipasha Mukherjee Amazing!! You are welcome
Amazing thank you-eager to try this
wow thank you for this is soo very helpful
This is good to know. Thank you😘
So true! Yes! thank you💜
Ana Lia Welcome ⭐️
Beautifuuuuuul! Perfect explanation and soo great video!
Thank you, all blessings!❤️❤️❤️
I love your content. Thank you so much.
Yes 👍
wow very nice video about self approval on perception..Thank you for this :)
Thanks for your informative video. Love from India
Thanks so much!!
Wow, thank you for this video! This has brought me great clarity today ❤️
Amazing video!
😍always happy hear you out .learn more and realy relate what you are saying as what i feel within....take care thanke you
Yaaas thank you! Love from Syria ♡
memo dedo Love you back!!
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I had a two hour conversation with my Mom recently as well. She said she has always known I was highly sensitive, but often struggled with relationships. I was visiting her at her house, watching some spirituality videos, when I found myself in a conversation with her, trying to explain what I've experienced spiritually. I found that not only could I not explain what it means to be 'awakened', but that in describing the humility and connection I now feel between myself and... well, everything. She became defensive and gruffly stated, "Well, I guess I'm just not good enough to be enlightened."
I accepted her response and felt no need to defend a position. I quickly changed the subject and focused on sending out love and energy to her for the remainder of our visit, but I am curious how you would handle a loved one who has not and may never find the spiritual awakening that so many of us have experienced. Simple is never easy for some and though the path is well lit before me, accepting that some may never find the light within themselves is very sad. I feel I should say congratulations to you, but I'm not sure why. Happy birthday to me and any other Librans out there!
P.S. LOL, I wrote this after you mentioned your Mom and then after watching the whole video, you said everything I just wrote. HAhaha. Its funny how this whole thing works the same for each of us.
This is amazing, thank you x
Sorry, but you can't do this with narcs. Especially narcissistic parents. The only safe environment to examine this is with a therapist, or someone like yourself, or maybe with a VERY trusted person that hasn't been influenced by the person who harmed you or enabled you being harmed. Most narcissists will deny the pain they've caused, your experience - gas lighting you - to the bitter end.
Today I want to talk to you about owning my purse. I keep spending money on our sessions ;) lol
LOL a good investment indeed ;-)))
Hi Candice! Tnx for all the content you provide us with, it give me dirrection when i feel i lose it in my healing process. If anytime you dont have any ideea about a video here is one: hen we are very anxious our feelings go numb. Please give us some tools to figure out our needs behind the anxiety. I am a bit better to figure out but right now i'm so disconected. I think i'm sad, lonely, discouraged but i can't comunicate with myself the need :(
Cool! 😀
gunilla röhr 🤗
@@CandacevanDell My studie object this week was perception but in feminist ethical political science. I liked it so much from a psychological and healing perspective. But I can also reimagine feminist materialism and body/ mind healing angels trough new political glasses. Upgrade yourself..! 😀
How do you help a friend realise they are an HSP being emotionally, psychological, & financially abused...
When they have been led to believe 1) they are the problem & 2) that they have Social Anxiety, & 3) their parents are caring instead of the manipulative narcissists they truly are?
Omen Akumaru probably would tell them to join my emotional rehab course haha it touches on all of that in one🙏🏻🙏🏻
Omen Akimanu, I am in this exactly same position. Candace, is there any way I can contact you?
That’s me🙋🏽♂️
Remember, we all need to own our own perceptions and feelings. We cannot force anyone who isn't ready. I've gone down that road and I've never seen a grater catastrophe for all involved 😆 🤣 Ask questions of your friend that aren't leading but help them ask themselves the tough questions to get in touch with their feelings and perspective. Be patient. Freedom means freedom to fail. I know how hard it can be to watch. Thank you for reaching out!!! You are supported.
Hey it's me 😁
I see we went to similiar shit. Anxiety is probably a very bad perception we get at some point of life or not, but the ones who do get, and i am talking about very serious anxiety, how do you think is the best way to heal?
Adore you ❣️Best ✌️
Hi Candace!💓 I have always resonated with the concept of light worker, starseed, ect. After watching some of your videos and resonating with childhood trauma and a past codependently attached relationship, the TH-cam algorithm sent me a lot of videos about “autism”and “aspergers” and I 1000% felt the “symptoms” deep inside, like I have finally been understood. I am a bit confused on where to go from here, I have troubles being decisive, taking action, and seem to myself as pretty bipolar, which I hold these feelings in too. I have recently realized that I don’t really have close friends to talk to about this. I was wondering what your perspective on the labels are?
Great video... how do we upgrade when parents are narcissistic & wouldn’t clarify any of my perceptions.... how do we get closure?
I didn't understand what you mentioned at the end...how can you change your perception of the injustice done to you in your childhood and perceive it as something different in order to heal from that childhood memory??
Amrita Samuel Domt change the injustice, just reframe it! An example.... if you were abused and (made it your fault). You can start to look for evidence that it wasn’t because of you and there was nothing you could do about it. BUT often times we attract the same situations because there is a misbelief about deserving or just a trauma stuck in the body. In these cases we need to shift our perception so that we can release ourselves from past pain and move forward with more self love and clarity! 💫
My folks won't admit the abuse and alienation. They expect me to forget truth.
Candace I want to say I love you and wanted to ask if you happen to be an ENFJ?
AlexanderWachsmann sure am!
Candace van Dell awww 😊
@@CandacevanDell I'm an infp XD
How do u reconigse your being gaslight and how do you react to it?
This is why I do not acceptvany LOA ciaches! 99% of them that I’ve met, first thing they do is to tell me that I am wrong about how I feel, how I think - and about everything!
One ”coach” took contact with ne after I had a bad moment (thatcwent ivercwhen I took a walk outside). She wanted to ”rescue” me. I refused. I said that she always find only negative things about me, so why she should coac me! She seems to he a problem-seeker to me: She sees me as a problem, with my feelings!
She acclained that she will tell me how nice oetson I an, full of light etc.
I said that hiw she xan see me as full of light when she cannot say any goul words about me now. That she sees only the negative in me.
Quess what she andwered? She wrote me: ”Oh, show me then sonething positive that you have written!”
I laughed by myself! There it came!
I xan tell positive things about myself, that my writings definetelly shiw: I am hobest. K do not use masks. I do not oretend to be something else than I am. I am courageous. I am oretty intelligent. Etc.
Thus LOA fake-posotive coach could not tell me ANY of my positive aspects, not any! And she thought that she could ”help” me and ”show my light to ke” because one moment, I had a ”bad” feeling! Seeing nothing positive in me! Unbelievable!
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My evil witch narc mother did this my whole life.
By upgrade I don’t quite understand what you mean? If I wasn’t ever validated and was abused by an emotionally empty gaslighting parent how can that be upgraded. Just a bit confused.
What if your mother won't discuss things? My mother discarded me years ago when I tried to talk about my childhood.
Yea this is common with narc mothers. They don’t want you to figure it out and if you do they will either gaslight you or discard. I am so sorry this happened to you!
@@CandacevanDell wow thank you for the reply! So, I just have to validate myself then? Any tips? Other than anger? That worked for a while but only lead to more shame and guilt.
@@humanityhealthyself4430 oh yes!! So many tips hahaha! Self validation is key. Give those unvalidated emotions a voice and honor the truth of what happened to you. That is a start. Then we need to do some shadow work and reclaim your SHINE ✨
@@CandacevanDell thank you so much. I'll go back again. I always hit an impenetrable barrier at "shine time" . Thank you again and for all of your videos. They have been so helpful to me🥰
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Was this your step mom, the Spiritual healer
I don't have that
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I’ve gotten a flu vaccine, Two days ago I feel like I’m going to regret it. I just learned how bad the flu vaccine was after I got it. I’m spiritual and have been aware of the toxic covid 19 vaccine. Honesty I’m starting to feel weird on the spiritual side. Stuff does not feel the same. It could just be an allusion. I am going through a dark night of the soul. Any recommendations? I hope it’s not too late for me for me to detox. I don’t feel like my usual self. I really hope I get another chance on the spiritual side. I feel worse and more disconnected everyday. What do I do? I’m worried. Is there a global phenomenon happening which is causing me to feel this way.
My perception feels very much like a crisis to me :). Somehow I‘ve learnt to adapt to everyone’s perception & now owning mine feels foreign. When I sit in my energy it literally feels like I‘m hanging off the ceiling ! It‘s quite funny actually 🫧