0:57 - you have strong beliefs 1:21 - you are thick-skinned 2:02 - you have a calm and consistent voice tone 2:31 - you don't care about popularity 3:11 - you can come across as rude 3:51 - you have close meaningful relationships 4:27 - your movements are natural
This world has a low number of honest people. If you see a problem you can help with, do so. But some people only think of their own advantages. It is hard to understand why everyone wants to fight over things that are not true. Our society has not been facing our problems like climate change, more people in poverty, and fraud.
@@Psych2go I found people tend to try and force their view by trying to convince someone how they see things. We all see things different learning how they see the world is a better approach I feel. Yet if someone is truly illogical you cannot logically explain an aspect to them. This in itself is illogical.
@@anizahgoorah3718 Just appreciate yourself like for real.Just dont bother about anyone talking bad about you or how rude you are.Your just showing your honest side.
1. you have strong beliefs 0:57 2. you are thick-skinned 1:19 3. you have a calm and consistent voice tone 2:02 4. you don't care about populatity 2:32 5. you can come across as rude 3:11 6. you have close, meaningful relationships 3:52 7. your movements are natural 4:28 I hope I could help!
I don't have that many close relationships just been honest I don't trust easily either just because of stuff I've been through if your my friend you might need some paitence lol
Not everyone who appreciates it is going to frequently say so. They won't necessarily jump to thank you for your opinion, no matter how well regarded it has become for being so honestly based in reality... Part of the inherent reward for being honest simply IS being respected for it and having your opinions as well as observations rise to high esteem and respect among peers... Kindness mixed with honesty is a fine way to get your opinions and perspectives out to peers and actually have them heard in the first place, where the blunt and abrasive honesty that so many fancy on TV only tends to get you shunned and avoided... At some level, whether it seems outwardly appreciated or not, you should take occasion to look around and realize the respect, even the honor of being sought out and asked for opinion or perspective. Much of the population only ever wants the opinions that they want to hear. You need to FEEL their appreciation if only in the words when they ask you "Please... don't spare my feelings. I want your HONEST opinion..." That's a uniquely powerful position you gain, complete with the leverage to actually help them. ;o)
Remember this, people: There is a difference between honesty and being an asshole. For example, if there's someone who's been doing something that you don't like, such as your mother acting as if your grown adult self is still a child, you tell with a evenly leveled mind how you feel. "Listen, Mom, I know you mean well, but lately I feel as if you've been treating me like a child when I'm not anymore. Please understand that I'm 27 years old, and at that age of independence." That's honesty. You don't tell your mom "Jesus Christ, Mom, stop treating me like a fucking child! I'm sick of you! Leave me alone and get your own life!" That wasn't honesty. You were being an asshole towards your mom who most likely had no idea how you were feeling, and how she was treating you. In other words, don't be like Sheldon Cooper. That guy was an ass towards everyone :)
I think you’re right and it goes back to the levelled tone and calm demeanour. Honest people tend to have higher self esteem so they are often not interpreting situations as an attack on their character. They’re proud of their character. The first statement you mentioned shows someone who has rationally evaluated the situation and concluded that this treatment is not representative of who they believe they are, so they need to correct the situation. The second statement highlights someone who may actually be feeling like a child and feeling incompetent and is upset that someone else is seeing their inadequacies and thus is becoming defensive. Well said
Being honest with myself literally transformed my life. I was severely obese and was constantly self-hating and self loathing to myself when I started being honest and started working on myself I became a better person not only physically (lost 45kg) I became more open and I'm not afraid to face my problems anymore.
When I asked my mom about whatever I've done, she never lie to me. If it's good, she always say good, and if not she always hug me and say, "you'll be better if you practice more." I learn from her that telling the truth with right words won't be hurt. She can still be honest with bad thing and even encouraged me to do better. Best mom ever.
Everything but the calm voice with me! When you are honest, but people constantly question your honesty, it can build your frustration! The ones who question it always find out I am being truthful & they were the ones lying!!! I'd rather be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie!!!
No, honestly, in my experience, rude people are just plain rude and honest people are just plain honest. A truly honest person is a breath of fresh air and can say the truth non-judgmentally, as is. A rude person is often one who justifies being a disrespectful, sarcastic pain in the butt as "honesty".
as a honest person i have something against your argument: it depends on people if it's easy to make someone sad because you're telling the truth you might be considered rude even tho you never wanted to hurt them you actually wanted to help ofc your experience is very diffrent from mine i guess you just met the wrong people who hide their rudness behind honesty, real honest people would never do that
I believe perfectionista492 was merely pointing out that there is a distinguished difference between honesty and dickery where most people blur the lines between the two however, truly honest people don't do this.
I always struggle to tell people the uncomfortable truth. I keep it for me as long as I can. I don't want them to run away from me. I try everyday to face the challenges of complete honesty. It is a long and hard way to being true and sincere.
I was the friend who said the things that everybody else was too scared to say 😏 Like, one friend kept making fat jokes about others, but she wasn't being malicious about it. I had to eventually tell her: "Anna, nobody likes it when you poke us in the belly and say we're fat 😔" She apologized and stopped with the fat jokes.
I used to be too honest. I started hearting people when I was younger, because I didn't always consider there feelings. So I think I'm not always honest anymore. And I also think about what would be important for that person to 'know'. Seeing this video made me realize this again! Thanks :)
There are ways to be honest without being cruel. It’s called “editing.” Editing yourself so you speak honestly and are not harsh or cruel is very important. It’s an important skill to learn.
@@cherylmcnutt9905 Thanks for your comment I thought this video was kinda also supporting the too honest people. It's good being honest but too honest can be hurtful.
Yes, you can be tactful while still staying the truth! Imagine someone had to deliver that hard news to you, how would you want them to tell you? Would you want them to comfort you? Prepare you upfront? Would you want to make sure you were alone and no one was too hungry or too tired? You can think about these things before telling someone the truth to make sure you’re on the same page and don’t damage your relationship
I"m honest, straightfoward and too the point. I don't deal with drama and sugarcoating. I tell it like it is. I can't live with any guilt in my head. I'm a very honest person. SO much people get angry at me for telling them the truth. Honestly however? That's just my family who are in total denial of their abusive behavior. So of course they're going to deny it even when I've pointed it out countless times.
I just wanna say I hope you're proud cause people like you are some of the great people we need. As long as you also have care then I love when people are this honest and I can relate with getting shit for being honest.
Very good video in general. However, one point is a little misleading. Although I agree that raising voice should be managed, it is not necessarily an indicator of dishonesty. I know honest people who raise their voices (especially if having to defend against dishonesty)… and I know dishonest people who don’t raise their voices. In my view, it is not an accurate indicator
Very true! I used to get very upset when my Narcissistic ex would lie and gaslight me. I would yell indignantly (in vain) to convince him of my truth and reality, while oblivious to the fact he's just trying to get a rise out of me. He'd enjoy feeding off of the negative energy and remain calm, while I flew off the handle every time. He would then label me as rude and crazy. Once I understood the narc's dynamic, I was able to turn the tables on him. By wearing my headphones and listening to positive stuff on youtube, and completely blocking out his negative talk, whilst applying the grey rock method when I had to communicate with him....it drove him completely bonkers that I stopped giving him importance, and he became the angry one, flying off the handle and shouting at me, while I remained calm and at peace. 😌✌🏻
@@leloupsolitaire29 proud of you for handling such an abusive situation in such a level-headed manner. People with that type of strength and fortitude of person are rare and should be cherished.
Exactly what I was going to say! And there's naturally passionate people. Like theater people, we're naturally loud, but that doesn't mean all actors are dishonest. I've known many people who gaslight and once you get angry defending the truth, they say "see you're getting angry and that means you're being dishonest" bullshit. Righteous anger, genuine tears. You can be an honest person and feel emotion.
I have all of the traits. I always knew that I'm honest all the time. Yes, I can joke around alot, but it's just to make people laugh/happy. It's just not worth lying, when I would do it, I would... 1. feel bad all the time 2. get in even more trouble 3. have people who wouldn't trust me anymore.
I expected not to be any of these traits but what surprised me was that I was all of them and I think of myself as a person that lies a decent amount, but this video shows that maybe I'm more honest than most people.
bless, thank you for this vid! always have i only seen the 5th point, people tell me i come across as rude even though i'm a kind person in general but the following "close relationships" is also very true and results from point 5, so this made me feel good about my honesty thank you
I'm a very honest person.. I have 4 close friends I've known for over 10 years one over 20 years we all click really well. Any relationships I've had I can still talk them as friends even one I was married to for 12 years. I do speak the truth which can be harsh sometimes but I always say at the end of a conversation "I'm not trying to hurt you in anywhere it's just I'd rather be an honest person and tell the truth than than be a person who talks behind your back" and people do respect that. Like in the video though the only downside is it's really hard to find new friends in this world of fakery as I've found a lot of people choose to be fake rather than honest just to fit in with society.
This video totally describes me and it's so great to know because to be like that freely take me a lot of time and maturity. I'm loving watch your videos, please, never stop.
Didn’t necessarily need a video for me to know I’m an honest individual, but it was very neat to see the signs and that I aline with them perfectly. Being an honest person many won’t like you but the few that do end up being very loyal and caring friends, family, and partners.
This video makes me feel like i am actually better than what i think i am But ppl no matter how good u r U r always gonna be evil in someones life All that matters is that u be a better person of yourself everyday Have a good day/night ppl❤
I suppose I can see that. However I don't understand the "vulgarity" of expressing oneself when appropriate. Just my opinion though and there may be something deeper to this than I currently perceive. Please respond back if I am merely displaying ignorance
@@interestingrobot9247 you said it well - expressing oneself when appropriate. The vulgarity I speak of comes, when people lash others with their oppinion with a complete disregard to whether that is even appropriate (either at the moment or generally, e.g. someone saying you shouldn't grieve someone "cause they were an arse" or they "were just an animal" comes readily to mind) and when their oppinion is pointed out as being rude or downright offensive, thay refuse to apologise because "they spoke the truth". Granted - those are extreme examples. Honesty is good, but it does need to be tempered, e.g. an inquiry whether something happened to a person who has gained significant weight is different than just going "you fat, do push-ups!" yet "honest" people very often choose the latter, because it is simpler.
@@Psych2go I've been soft fired 3 times because they didn't have the heart to tell me "you're no longer useful, here's why." so they just stopped giving me hours with no reason provided as to why. Leaving me to speculate why. I was always honest to a fault, all my honestly got me was people who dance around the point. So I set out to make my self my boss. So I dove deep in to who to advertise, and you'll find out really quick what converts, is rarely honest. And this is why my new motto is lie, cheat, and steal all within league means, so you can help others.
its funny how the first 5 traits that u mentioned within the first 20 seconds r the ones that society doesn’t like to accept, but who cares about that, hopefully all of us found our diamonds that we can grow with together, rather a few real ones than many fake ones, i got all 5 but that’s just how i feel, just being honest x)
i never really liked my honesty because i often say things that i shouldn't and end up hurting people's feelings, but im starting to think about it as a good thing thanks to this video, i hope one day i can be really proud of it!
The new content you’ve been making is fun, informal, insightful, and cute!!! My only complaint is the fact that the intro was taken out, but really you can’t get everything in life. But this is true quality content that you all put effort in and I love it!!!!
Most people claim they don't care what other people think...but fact is the vast majority of us, to varying extents. It's good to have self confidence and not be controlled by others opinions, but it's part of being part of a social species.
I find that I can be potentially too straight forward and can lack tact when it comes to delivering the truth gracefully. Still I try to be considerate of people's feelings.
It seems like these traits are shared with notions of confidence. That makes sense actually, confident people rarely feel the need to lie because they have very little to hide behind a facade.
1. you have strong beliefs 0:57 2. you are thick-skinned 1:19 3. you have a calm and consistent voice tone 2:02 4. you don't care about populatity 2:32 5. you can come across as rude 3:11 6. you have close, meaningful relationships 3:52 7. your movements are natural 4:28 I hope this helped!
Honesty is rare these days... everyone including me. Am I honest? I'm afraid not. There are instances I can recall that diverting from the truth and being honest seems to do a better job for that particular event. But I must say that I do try my best to be honest at every point. Great content. Thanks!!
A hard truth up front is always easier than learning it later after being lied to. You are going to get the truth either way. I would rather save someone the hurt of being lied to on top of the hard truth whenever I can.
The peril of being an honest person lies in our dialogue with our inner selves. If I tell myself that I am an alcoholic and my inner self readily agrees, then I have to deal with the complexity that my inner self is also an enabling self. Believe me, I know whereof I speak.
19 out of 10. I've found that it's better to be brutally honest. It's usually when people listen to what I say, when they ask for my honesty. And even though I'm brutally honest, I can still tell the white lie, but I can count it with one hand when the year is over. For example, if I call the job and tell them that I'm sick, I'm exaggerating a bit if my symptoms are severe, but when I come back, I'm honest enough to say,that the reason I had the vomiting disease was because I was so mentally down with suicidal thoughts, that I could not get up to work.
Haven’t finished the video but heres one thing that makes me believe I am an honest person. *I absolutely suck at lying, most of the time when it’s an lie that would make others feel bad.* Whenever I am told to lie, I need time to prepare for the guilt, if I am suddenly asked a question where I have to lie, I would 1. sweat 2, “Uh, uhm.” 3. Internally fight over whether to lie or not. Even if the lie is something small, I still feel slightly guilty, but if the lie really gets someone else in trouble, for example blaming someone else, or not taking my part of the responsibility. I just can’t, I quietly mutter honesty even if the situation tells otherwise, even if someone else tells me it’s better to lie, I can’t go on through the day on my conscience that I wronged someone else and got away with it.
"Can you think of some qualities that society generally values very highly in people" -Greed, stupidity, gullibleness? "Selflessness, perseverance, respect, commitment, loyalty" -Oh, I guess those too...
"What do you do for fun?" How do I respond "I spend most of my free time escaping reality through video games, tv, and maladaptive fantasy" without sounding negative?
Just try not to care that people think it's negative, because it's not, they are wrong. Tell them that and explain why. If they don't listen then why do you want to even talk to them?
my friends were too sensitive for the truth and they all decided to leave me hanging even when i told them that they’re all fake with one another. it was harsh but i’d rather know who my actual friends are
1:05 I’m a very offensive facts based person who considers things, when someone judges my controversial opinion I usually find flaws in their definition of my statement, many, MANY people invent small things you didn’t say, and I do always contradict their version of what I said, and I usually cross people to get on their backs while defending mine, because not explaining why and leaving gaps are basically proving your opositor that they’re wrong but doesn’t make you right, explaining my thoughts on visual and physical experiences, and when they’re not working together as a majority to work together to fix things they most of the time are scrambled and won’t work well together, if you just completely walk past every point I made and just ask questions avoiding to answer the questions you make mine more powerful, because they’re not answered and will eventually snowball.
Do you enjoy being so adversarial? Why do you feel the need to argue? What does behaving this way get you? I was that way in my youth. It did NOT serve me well. It’s important to show others respect as you speak. Do unto others…
@@cherylmcnutt9905 Just because I’m on an argument with someone it does not represent that I’m not in the ethics and morals to respect someone, I disagreed on the part that "You may come off as rude" but sometimes people need comfort at times to be able to react better with a better mental state, talking to a person being irrational being wildly driven by emotions is not something looked upon on an argument nor talk, somethings things are just too time consuming and dumb to even argue, but some opinions go here and there and we’re there to show it and compare, presenting facts, bases, etc.
@@levilabs1781 When I really have a strong belief, I use facts and managing Majority and Minority to define what a community sees something, like Alabama, the community sees the famous Incest law banned in other US states but not there, the people are the one to make choices on an argument and it’s up to them to defend themselves or just open a hole to prove the other wrong, and lastly cover your points, which I do sometimes with defensive people who are just annoying to deal since the arguments for defensive talk usually represents normal laws like freedom of speech, but sometimes it’s not the place nor time, mainly time, the argument of showing your capacity to be able to have an opinion doesn’t deny a fact, which if so proven, tested or whatever can prove a theory, if you think I committed a crime based on only your ethics (example), I still by law and Fact, judged by the opinion of many, to create a fact, which stands as a wall for what’s a yes and a no, to defend something you must prove it’s worth and difference, which although not always necessary might make someone eventually remember an argument and remember "hey this might just have an utility after all"
I feel like I am dishonestly honest. I am very honest sometimes brutally, but once I have the reputation of being honest i will use it to my advantage. An example of use my honest reputation to my advantage would be one time I missed an important work appointment because I over slept(only happened once usely I am the guy who is 15 minutes early) told my boss I was looking for a parking spot but there wasn't any available so I was 15 minutes late. My boss believed me because parking there is known to be really bad so I didn't get in trouble like should have. Using my honest reputation like that makes me feel like I am only honest to benefit myself.
Five of them are true, except number two and number six. It's a really difficult thing to make friends, especially when you're a teenager. People tend to be faking themselves. They can remind of a coin; it has two sides. The only people I meet are gossipers, which is difficult and makes me more lonely than ever. If you find a person, who respects you as a person, be friends with that person. Because that kind of people is extremely rare. Also because I am very picky when it is about choosing people as friends. Never give up a friendship, only if it is a one-sided relationship. I just wanted to get this out of my chest.
I have oftentimes been described as a person who is honest with others. This video, in some respect, describes some of my personal attributes. I am very thick skinned, have been accused of being rude (even though that would never be my intention), I do speak in a calm consistent voice. However, even though I have strong beliefs and can not be easily swayed to change them, I am not above listening to others and respecting their viewpoints.
3:38 I feel mixed about this sentence... Sure, you shouldn't mind what others think, but you shouldn't phrase whatever you want to say as rude as you want. It can be your fault sometimes for being too blunt.
Yeah, people like to romanticize honesty. However, most of the time, we only want the BEST of honesty. Many people HATE when an honest person tells them they messed up. Sometimes they don't like honesty, they like that people agree with them even if they're wrong
I raise my tone throughout a conversation if I'm talking to someone who dominates a conversation and I want myself to be heard (not my most proud personality trait to be honest). This isn't because I'm being dishonest. Maybe other people lie when doing this but I wouldn't call it a dead giveaway. This, not having close friends, and not moving relaxed are not dishonesty issues but esteem issues.
Tbh I feel like raised voices are a natural response to domineering conversation/debate partners, rather than a personality trait. I do it too when against people who get loud. The key is whether or not your tone grows aggressive when things get heated. Shouting with a pointed tone, of whom's pitch varies wildly outside of natural inflection, that can lead to trouble. Leads to unintended implication or leaves space for the heated "opposition" to read too deep and accuse where there is nothing. But if the tone and inflection stay honest and withing the bounds of a "calm and factual" nature, then hell, both of you could tell till your throats give out, but at least tonally, you bring the iron defence. Unwavering and true. That, my friend, is what's the most important. You're not trying to overpower, you're trying to match. I match. It's all in how you do it. Keep true and dont believe in what you don't believe in. Truth exists, and it will rise and manifest where all lies fail. Never lose sight of that
Anybody else have a parent that use to make you feel major anxiety about telling the truth to them ever? Isn't it lovely when the ones you really need treat you like that?
I'm honest and straight forward which in this society is a crime bcz they cannot handle the truth and blames U for being rude & aggressive....and if u r too kind people take u for granted....😒😩
Hi honest person here in his 30s. On the point of rea l deep friendships there were to many people on the blanket. Jusf for sake of realism expect just 2 honest real friends in life at a certain point in life. Psychology bonus: practice selflove to the max. The truth is people, myself included, don't want to be alone and so make compromises. But if you're content with who you are you won't need to compromise
Out of 10, how would you rate your honesty? How often do you come off as rude when telling the truth - what are some ways around this?
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Edit: probably a 8 or a 9
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0:57 - you have strong beliefs
1:21 - you are thick-skinned
2:02 - you have a calm and consistent voice tone
2:31 - you don't care about popularity
3:11 - you can come across as rude
3:51 - you have close meaningful relationships
4:27 - your movements are natural
Thank you
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I wish both sides of your pillow to be cold tonight and that when u wake up your neck or back doesn't hurt
@@cosmina8975 Truly a blessing, I thank you
I do I should be the most popular boy in my class🤭
" Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard. But mostly what I need from you "
My second favourite Billy Joel song.
(My first being Only the Good Die Young)
What a great lyrics. What song is it?
@@laurak0110 'Honesty'
Honesty is like basically just a lie to people.Its not used frequently.
This world has a low number of honest people. If you see a problem you can help with, do so. But some people only think of their own advantages. It is hard to understand why everyone wants to fight over things that are not true. Our society has not been facing our problems like climate change, more people in poverty, and fraud.
This came at just the right time. I have to have a serious honest conversation with someone who is not going to like what I say. 🥰
Me too good luck 🎲
Serious honest conversation is always good.. what are some ways to approach this?
Me too. Wishing you the best
@@Psych2go I found people tend to try and force their view by trying to convince someone how they see things. We all see things different learning how they see the world is a better approach I feel. Yet if someone is truly illogical you cannot logically explain an aspect to them. This in itself is illogical.
@@anizahgoorah3718 Just appreciate yourself like for real.Just dont bother about anyone talking bad about you or how rude you are.Your just showing your honest side.
1. you have strong beliefs 0:57
2. you are thick-skinned 1:19
3. you have a calm and consistent voice tone 2:02
4. you don't care about populatity 2:32
5. you can come across as rude 3:11
6. you have close, meaningful relationships 3:52
7. your movements are natural 4:28
I hope I could help!
Thanks.
Thanks
Dat boi you are a genius. Im gonna see honesty on my friend now.
3 weeks ago?
I don't have that many close relationships just been honest I don't trust easily either just because of stuff I've been through if your my friend you might need some paitence lol
I think I'm an honest person based on the statistics mentioned, but sometimes I feel like when you're kind and honest, people, take it for granted.
The most important part is to be yourself!
I think most people do take it for granted but some people who are also honest and kind will take note of it if they truly appreciate it
@@Psych2go Thank you so much, honestly, I needed to hear that
You honest because it'll be for your lasting wellfare and happiness. Not because anyone recognize anything about you or not.
Not everyone who appreciates it is going to frequently say so. They won't necessarily jump to thank you for your opinion, no matter how well regarded it has become for being so honestly based in reality...
Part of the inherent reward for being honest simply IS being respected for it and having your opinions as well as observations rise to high esteem and respect among peers...
Kindness mixed with honesty is a fine way to get your opinions and perspectives out to peers and actually have them heard in the first place, where the blunt and abrasive honesty that so many fancy on TV only tends to get you shunned and avoided...
At some level, whether it seems outwardly appreciated or not, you should take occasion to look around and realize the respect, even the honor of being sought out and asked for opinion or perspective. Much of the population only ever wants the opinions that they want to hear. You need to FEEL their appreciation if only in the words when they ask you "Please... don't spare my feelings. I want your HONEST opinion..." That's a uniquely powerful position you gain, complete with the leverage to actually help them. ;o)
Remember this, people: There is a difference between honesty and being an asshole. For example, if there's someone who's been doing something that you don't like, such as your mother acting as if your grown adult self is still a child, you tell with a evenly leveled mind how you feel. "Listen, Mom, I know you mean well, but lately I feel as if you've been treating me like a child when I'm not anymore. Please understand that I'm 27 years old, and at that age of independence." That's honesty. You don't tell your mom "Jesus Christ, Mom, stop treating me like a fucking child! I'm sick of you! Leave me alone and get your own life!" That wasn't honesty. You were being an asshole towards your mom who most likely had no idea how you were feeling, and how she was treating you.
In other words, don't be like Sheldon Cooper. That guy was an ass towards everyone :)
U should be writing textbooks, that was one of the nicest explanations I've heard. U said it right, an honest person has patience.
Who is Sheldon Cooper?
I think you’re right and it goes back to the levelled tone and calm demeanour. Honest people tend to have higher self esteem so they are often not interpreting situations as an attack on their character. They’re proud of their character. The first statement you mentioned shows someone who has rationally evaluated the situation and concluded that this treatment is not representative of who they believe they are, so they need to correct the situation. The second statement highlights someone who may actually be feeling like a child and feeling incompetent and is upset that someone else is seeing their inadequacies and thus is becoming defensive. Well said
I totally agree with that because there’s a difference when you are being honest or being rude
@@Blueskywatcher the protagonist from the series Big Bang Theory
Being honest to ourselves is one of the best things that we could do to ourselves!
Agreed
Being honest with myself literally transformed my life. I was severely obese and was constantly self-hating and self loathing to myself when I started being honest and started working on myself I became a better person not only physically (lost 45kg) I became more open and I'm not afraid to face my problems anymore.
@@Raditram holy shit 45 kg?
@@LocTran-sc7mm Yes haha, need 20kg more to be in an ideal shape but I'm taking it day by day now.
@@Raditram good luck then :)
When I asked my mom about whatever I've done, she never lie to me. If it's good, she always say good, and if not she always hug me and say, "you'll be better if you practice more."
I learn from her that telling the truth with right words won't be hurt. She can still be honest with bad thing and even encouraged me to do better. Best mom ever.
"Your movements are natural"
Me with social anxiety: what do I do with my hands again?
Same 😭😭😭😂
If it helps, my hands spend an inordinate amount of time in my pockets because I can't think of anything "better" to do with them in public. ;o)
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Everything but the calm voice with me! When you are honest, but people constantly question your honesty, it can build your frustration! The ones who question it always find out I am being truthful & they were the ones lying!!! I'd rather be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie!!!
No, honestly, in my experience, rude people are just plain rude and honest people are just plain honest. A truly honest person is a breath of fresh air and can say the truth non-judgmentally, as is. A rude person is often one who justifies being a disrespectful, sarcastic pain in the butt as "honesty".
as a honest person i have something against your argument: it depends on people if it's easy to make someone sad because you're telling the truth you might be considered rude even tho you never wanted to hurt them you actually wanted to help
ofc your experience is very diffrent from mine i guess you just met the wrong people who hide their rudness behind honesty, real honest people would never do that
I believe perfectionista492 was merely pointing out that there is a distinguished difference between honesty and dickery where most people blur the lines between the two however, truly honest people don't do this.
I'm an honest person. Lying only makes things worse!
I love this art style!! I would watch any video with this art style. It’s just super cute!
I can find myself in everything! It's cool to know i'm a honest person:)
I always struggle to tell people the uncomfortable truth. I keep it for me as long as I can. I don't want them to run away from me. I try everyday to face the challenges of complete honesty. It is a long and hard way to being true and sincere.
I was the friend who said the things that everybody else was too scared to say 😏 Like, one friend kept making fat jokes about others, but she wasn't being malicious about it. I had to eventually tell her: "Anna, nobody likes it when you poke us in the belly and say we're fat 😔"
She apologized and stopped with the fat jokes.
This is a certified "thanks-giving" classic
I used to be too honest. I started hearting people when I was younger, because I didn't always consider there feelings.
So I think I'm not always honest anymore. And I also think about what would be important for that person to 'know'.
Seeing this video made me realize this again! Thanks :)
There are ways to be honest without being cruel. It’s called “editing.” Editing yourself so you speak honestly and are not harsh or cruel is very important. It’s an important skill to learn.
@@cherylmcnutt9905 Thanks for your comment I thought this video was kinda also supporting the too honest people. It's good being honest but too honest can be hurtful.
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Yes, you can be tactful while still staying the truth! Imagine someone had to deliver that hard news to you, how would you want them to tell you? Would you want them to comfort you? Prepare you upfront? Would you want to make sure you were alone and no one was too hungry or too tired? You can think about these things before telling someone the truth to make sure you’re on the same page and don’t damage your relationship
@@spyscy That's so true. I try to treat people how I want to be treated. And I like people to be honest all the time, but not everyone likes that 😅
I"m honest, straightfoward and too the point. I don't deal with drama and sugarcoating. I tell it like it is. I can't live with any guilt in my head. I'm a very honest person. SO much people get angry at me for telling them the truth.
Honestly however? That's just my family who are in total denial of their abusive behavior. So of course they're going to deny it even when I've pointed it out countless times.
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Same here
I just wanna say I hope you're proud cause people like you are some of the great people we need. As long as you also have care then I love when people are this honest and I can relate with getting shit for being honest.
@@Nekotaku_TV Thank you for the compliment.
Very good video in general. However, one point is a little misleading. Although I agree that raising voice should be managed, it is not necessarily an indicator of dishonesty. I know honest people who raise their voices (especially if having to defend against dishonesty)… and I know dishonest people who don’t raise their voices. In my view, it is not an accurate indicator
Very true! I used to get very upset when my Narcissistic ex would lie and gaslight me. I would yell indignantly (in vain) to convince him of my truth and reality, while oblivious to the fact he's just trying to get a rise out of me. He'd enjoy feeding off of the negative energy and remain calm, while I flew off the handle every time. He would then label me as rude and crazy. Once I understood the narc's dynamic, I was able to turn the tables on him. By wearing my headphones and listening to positive stuff on youtube, and completely blocking out his negative talk, whilst applying the grey rock method when I had to communicate with him....it drove him completely bonkers that I stopped giving him importance, and he became the angry one, flying off the handle and shouting at me, while I remained calm and at peace. 😌✌🏻
@@leloupsolitaire29 proud of you for handling such an abusive situation in such a level-headed manner. People with that type of strength and fortitude of person are rare and should be cherished.
@@leloupsolitaire29 Yes! I have experienced the same thing with my narcissistic ex. Another Thriver, who survived the craziness of a narc.
Exactly what I was going to say! And there's naturally passionate people. Like theater people, we're naturally loud, but that doesn't mean all actors are dishonest.
I've known many people who gaslight and once you get angry defending the truth, they say "see you're getting angry and that means you're being dishonest" bullshit.
Righteous anger, genuine tears. You can be an honest person and feel emotion.
I love your content ♥️ half of it strokes my ego, and the other half shows me where I could grow. I Really appreciate what you do!
I have all of the traits.
I always knew that I'm honest all the time. Yes, I can joke around alot, but it's just to make people laugh/happy.
It's just not worth lying, when I would do it, I would...
1. feel bad all the time
2. get in even more trouble
3. have people who wouldn't trust me anymore.
Yes, these are the traits of an honest person. Great observations. Thank you.
I expected not to be any of these traits but what surprised me was that I was all of them and I think of myself as a person that lies a decent amount, but this video shows that maybe I'm more honest than most people.
bless, thank you for this vid!
always have i only seen the 5th point, people tell me i come across as rude even though i'm a kind person in general
but the following "close relationships" is also very true and results from point 5, so this made me feel good about my honesty
thank you
I’m not even a huge fan of the content here, but the voice is so soothing that I can’t stop coming back.
Honestly I love this channel.
Got a little confidence boost today. That was nice ☺.
your voice is the only thing calms me these days, thank you!
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I'm a very honest person.. I have 4 close friends I've known for over 10 years one over 20 years we all click really well. Any relationships I've had I can still talk them as friends even one I was married to for 12 years. I do speak the truth which can be harsh sometimes but I always say at the end of a conversation "I'm not trying to hurt you in anywhere it's just I'd rather be an honest person and tell the truth than than be a person who talks behind your back" and people do respect that. Like in the video though the only downside is it's really hard to find new friends in this world of fakery as I've found a lot of people choose to be fake rather than honest just to fit in with society.
I always value honesty so much idk why but I find it as being respectful to those around you and it’s just doing the right thing.
This video totally describes me and it's so great to know because to be like that freely take me a lot of time and maturity. I'm loving watch your videos, please, never stop.
I love your videos bc they teach us new things and the way u draw is so aesthetic and caliming and so is ur voice and I love the themes of them
if honest ppl have calm voices this lady is the definition of honest
I used to be an honest person but now that I’m in middle school I change my opinion based on what the internet or my friends say.
Didn’t necessarily need a video for me to know I’m an honest individual, but it was very neat to see the signs and that I aline with them perfectly. Being an honest person many won’t like you but the few that do end up being very loyal and caring friends, family, and partners.
This video makes me feel like i am actually better than what i think i am
But ppl no matter how good u r
U r always gonna be evil in someones life
All that matters is that u be a better person of yourself everyday
Have a good day/night ppl❤
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Excellent 🎥... Thanks a lot for your videos... Helps me a lot!!
I really bad at lying so that's why I just be honest and have nothing to hide!
The close meaningful relationships is so true, I try my absolute best to keep my friend close and try not to lose them
The most important sign of HONEST PERSON is DIRECT APPROACH to people 😌
Dear lovely person that's reading this, we may not know each other but I wish you all the best in life! ✨
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"honesty", in my personal oppinion, is not to be confused with vulgar "expressionism". Honesty is only ever welcome when it is tempered by tact.
I suppose I can see that. However I don't understand the "vulgarity" of expressing oneself when appropriate.
Just my opinion though and there may be something deeper to this than I currently perceive. Please respond back if I am merely displaying ignorance
@@interestingrobot9247 you said it well - expressing oneself when appropriate. The vulgarity I speak of comes, when people lash others with their oppinion with a complete disregard to whether that is even appropriate (either at the moment or generally, e.g. someone saying you shouldn't grieve someone "cause they were an arse" or they "were just an animal" comes readily to mind) and when their oppinion is pointed out as being rude or downright offensive, thay refuse to apologise because "they spoke the truth". Granted - those are extreme examples. Honesty is good, but it does need to be tempered, e.g. an inquiry whether something happened to a person who has gained significant weight is different than just going "you fat, do push-ups!" yet "honest" people very often choose the latter, because it is simpler.
In my experience, honesty will get you nothing but taken advantage of to further someone else's goals
Can you give us an example?
@@Psych2go I've been soft fired 3 times because they didn't have the heart to tell me "you're no longer useful, here's why." so they just stopped giving me hours with no reason provided as to why. Leaving me to speculate why. I was always honest to a fault, all my honestly got me was people who dance around the point.
So I set out to make my self my boss. So I dove deep in to who to advertise, and you'll find out really quick what converts, is rarely honest. And this is why my new motto is lie, cheat, and steal all within league means, so you can help others.
its funny how the first 5 traits that u mentioned within the first 20 seconds r the ones that society doesn’t like to accept, but who cares about that, hopefully all of us found our diamonds that we can grow with together, rather a few real ones than many fake ones, i got all 5 but that’s just how i feel, just being honest x)
I find it that people try to be honest, but at the same time people feel like they are too honest
i never really liked my honesty because i often say things that i shouldn't and end up hurting people's feelings, but im starting to think about it as a good thing thanks to this video, i hope one day i can be really proud of it!
I can relate ❤!
The new content you’ve been making is fun, informal, insightful, and cute!!! My only complaint is the fact that the intro was taken out, but really you can’t get everything in life. But this is true quality content that you all put effort in and I love it!!!!
Some people that are honest have no filter and only think of how it affects them in a situation
I used to have every traits and my every friend is closed one and bullyed one :')
Thankful for the honest people I have in my life.
Most people claim they don't care what other people think...but fact is the vast majority of us, to varying extents. It's good to have self confidence and not be controlled by others opinions, but it's part of being part of a social species.
I love the honest "Bunnies v. Duckies" discussion in the vid. Lovely and super cute !
I find that I can be potentially too straight forward and can lack tact when it comes to delivering the truth gracefully. Still I try to be considerate of people's feelings.
It seems like these traits are shared with notions of confidence. That makes sense actually, confident people rarely feel the need to lie because they have very little to hide behind a facade.
1. you have strong beliefs 0:57
2. you are thick-skinned 1:19
3. you have a calm and consistent voice tone 2:02
4. you don't care about populatity 2:32
5. you can come across as rude 3:11
6. you have close, meaningful relationships 3:52
7. your movements are natural 4:28
I hope this helped!
6/7 I usually talk in a high tone voice 😅 as María Félix said: "I'm not screaming, I have an important voice" Hahahahaha
I haven't watched this channel over months but I just wanna say ty for helping me
Loved this video. Thank you so much!
Honesty is rare these days... everyone including me. Am I honest? I'm afraid not. There are instances I can recall that diverting from the truth and being honest seems to do a better job for that particular event. But I must say that I do try my best to be honest at every point. Great content. Thanks!!
I was taught to not say the truth in momets when i could hurt other people. I have still problems saying the truth in such situations.
It seems to me that honesty is never a cherished trait. The dishonest ones are always liked and are always popular.
Welcome to capitalism.
It's because people always have a tendency to like to listen more to the beautiful lies, rather than the ugly truth.
@@abstraction3580 now that you have said that. Then it has to be more than physical or psychological and deeply spiritual
A hard truth up front is always easier than learning it later after being lied to. You are going to get the truth either way. I would rather save someone the hurt of being lied to on top of the hard truth whenever I can.
I can't explain how helpful and great this channel is
That's what it's about consistency and honestly definitely xx
The peril of being an honest person lies in our dialogue with our inner selves. If I tell myself that I am an alcoholic and my inner self readily agrees, then I have to deal with the complexity that my inner self is also an enabling self. Believe me, I know whereof I speak.
19 out of 10.
I've found that it's better to be brutally honest.
It's usually when people listen to what I say, when they ask for my honesty.
And even though I'm brutally honest, I can still tell the white lie, but I can count it with one hand when the year is over.
For example, if I call the job and tell them that I'm sick, I'm exaggerating a bit if my symptoms are severe, but when I come back, I'm honest enough to say,that the reason I had the vomiting disease was because I was so mentally down with suicidal thoughts, that I could not get up to work.
Haven’t finished the video but heres one thing that makes me believe I am an honest person.
*I absolutely suck at lying, most of the time when it’s an lie that would make others feel bad.*
Whenever I am told to lie, I need time to prepare for the guilt, if I am suddenly asked a question where I have to lie,
I would
1. sweat
2, “Uh, uhm.”
3. Internally fight over whether to lie or not.
Even if the lie is something small, I still feel slightly guilty, but if the lie really gets someone else in trouble,
for example blaming someone else, or not taking my part of the responsibility.
I just can’t, I quietly mutter honesty even if the situation tells otherwise, even if someone else tells me it’s better to lie, I can’t go on through the day on my conscience that I wronged someone else and got away with it.
Just because you are an honest person does not mean you NEVER lie. it means you don't usually lie and it is rare when you do.
"Can you think of some qualities that society generally values very highly in people"
-Greed, stupidity, gullibleness?
"Selflessness, perseverance, respect, commitment, loyalty"
-Oh, I guess those too...
being honest is having respect
I'm about as honest and transparent as it gets... so no one asks what I think.
Yeah I found out I don't do most of these I'm gonna try to change myself more
why i love this channel you spit facts an learn new stuff as well
Good video ... Great channel ... Cheers ...
just wanna say that i love ur vids and ur animations
5 is a tricky one because people who really are rude always have excuse that they are just being honest
i love the way she talks its so relaxing
I relate to every point I'm glad. But sometimes it backfires me since ppl can take advantage of my kindness and loyalty
"What do you do for fun?" How do I respond "I spend most of my free time escaping reality through video games, tv, and maladaptive fantasy" without sounding negative?
😂
Me but anime lol 😆 lol
There always an option to remain silence. And people often disregard this as a true option for any casual conversation.
Just try not to care that people think it's negative, because it's not, they are wrong. Tell them that and explain why. If they don't listen then why do you want to even talk to them?
my friends were too sensitive for the truth and they all decided to leave me hanging even when i told them that they’re all fake with one another. it was harsh but i’d rather know who my actual friends are
I’m honest most of the time, but I’m very anxious, so when I say certain things like compliments, it sounds like I’m lying, but I’m not.
1:05 I’m a very offensive facts based person who considers things, when someone judges my controversial opinion I usually find flaws in their definition of my statement, many, MANY people invent small things you didn’t say, and I do always contradict their version of what I said, and I usually cross people to get on their backs while defending mine, because not explaining why and leaving gaps are basically proving your opositor that they’re wrong but doesn’t make you right, explaining my thoughts on visual and physical experiences, and when they’re not working together as a majority to work together to fix things they most of the time are scrambled and won’t work well together, if you just completely walk past every point I made and just ask questions avoiding to answer the questions you make mine more powerful, because they’re not answered and will eventually snowball.
Wauw! That's exactly how I feel!
Do you enjoy being so adversarial? Why do you feel the need to argue? What does behaving this way get you? I was that way in my youth. It did NOT serve me well. It’s important to show others respect as you speak. Do unto others…
@@cherylmcnutt9905 Just because I’m on an argument with someone it does not represent that I’m not in the ethics and morals to respect someone, I disagreed on the part that "You may come off as rude" but sometimes people need comfort at times to be able to react better with a better mental state, talking to a person being irrational being wildly driven by emotions is not something looked upon on an argument nor talk, somethings things are just too time consuming and dumb to even argue, but some opinions go here and there and we’re there to show it and compare, presenting facts, bases, etc.
@@levilabs1781 When I really have a strong belief, I use facts and managing Majority and Minority to define what a community sees something, like Alabama, the community sees the famous Incest law banned in other US states but not there, the people are the one to make choices on an argument and it’s up to them to defend themselves or just open a hole to prove the other wrong, and lastly cover your points, which I do sometimes with defensive people who are just annoying to deal since the arguments for defensive talk usually represents normal laws like freedom of speech, but sometimes it’s not the place nor time, mainly time, the argument of showing your capacity to be able to have an opinion doesn’t deny a fact, which if so proven, tested or whatever can prove a theory, if you think I committed a crime based on only your ethics (example), I still by law and Fact, judged by the opinion of many, to create a fact, which stands as a wall for what’s a yes and a no, to defend something you must prove it’s worth and difference, which although not always necessary might make someone eventually remember an argument and remember "hey this might just have an utility after all"
@@cherylmcnutt9905 No I don’t enjoy, but if I’m dragged to one o do what I must and protect my point, what you said is like silencing minorities.
I feel like I am dishonestly honest. I am very honest sometimes brutally, but once I have the reputation of being honest i will use it to my advantage. An example of use my honest reputation to my advantage would be one time I missed an important work appointment because I over slept(only happened once usely I am the guy who is 15 minutes early) told my boss I was looking for a parking spot but there wasn't any available so I was 15 minutes late. My boss believed me because parking there is known to be really bad so I didn't get in trouble like should have. Using my honest reputation like that makes me feel like I am only honest to benefit myself.
Five of them are true, except number two and number six. It's a really difficult thing to make friends, especially when you're a teenager. People tend to be faking themselves. They can remind of a coin; it has two sides. The only people I meet are gossipers, which is difficult and makes me more lonely than ever. If you find a person, who respects you as a person, be friends with that person. Because that kind of people is extremely rare. Also because I am very picky when it is about choosing people as friends. Never give up a friendship, only if it is a one-sided relationship. I just wanted to get this out of my chest.
I have oftentimes been described as a person who is honest with others. This video, in some respect, describes some of my personal attributes. I am very thick skinned, have been accused of being rude (even though that would never be my intention), I do speak in a calm consistent voice. However, even though I have strong beliefs and can not be easily swayed to change them, I am not above listening to others and respecting their viewpoints.
I know an honest person... and people are TERRIFIED of him
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I feel mixed about this sentence... Sure, you shouldn't mind what others think, but you shouldn't phrase whatever you want to say as rude as you want. It can be your fault sometimes for being too blunt.
Yeah, people like to romanticize honesty. However, most of the time, we only want the BEST of honesty. Many people HATE when an honest person tells them they messed up. Sometimes they don't like honesty, they like that people agree with them even if they're wrong
I raise my tone throughout a conversation if I'm talking to someone who dominates a conversation and I want myself to be heard (not my most proud personality trait to be honest). This isn't because I'm being dishonest. Maybe other people lie when doing this but I wouldn't call it a dead giveaway. This, not having close friends, and not moving relaxed are not dishonesty issues but esteem issues.
Tbh I feel like raised voices are a natural response to domineering conversation/debate partners, rather than a personality trait. I do it too when against people who get loud. The key is whether or not your tone grows aggressive when things get heated. Shouting with a pointed tone, of whom's pitch varies wildly outside of natural inflection, that can lead to trouble. Leads to unintended implication or leaves space for the heated "opposition" to read too deep and accuse where there is nothing. But if the tone and inflection stay honest and withing the bounds of a "calm and factual" nature, then hell, both of you could tell till your throats give out, but at least tonally, you bring the iron defence. Unwavering and true. That, my friend, is what's the most important. You're not trying to overpower, you're trying to match. I match. It's all in how you do it. Keep true and dont believe in what you don't believe in. Truth exists, and it will rise and manifest where all lies fail. Never lose sight of that
@@KDMor3 Thanks for this
I love these videos... they help a lot , Thank You💞
This animation is ADORABLE
Anybody else have a parent that use to make you feel major anxiety about telling the truth to them ever? Isn't it lovely when the ones you really need treat you like that?
The hardest part is starting to do these but then keep doing them
I'm honest and straight forward which in this society is a crime bcz they cannot handle the truth and blames U for being rude & aggressive....and if u r too kind people take u for granted....😒😩
Hi honest person here in his 30s. On the point of rea l deep friendships there were to many people on the blanket. Jusf for sake of realism expect just 2 honest real friends in life at a certain point in life.
Psychology bonus: practice selflove to the max. The truth is people, myself included, don't want to be alone and so make compromises. But if you're content with who you are you won't need to compromise