How I Used Training to Deal with Life Problems (Don't Do This)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ค. 2024
- Brazilian Jiu-jitsu is often like a form of meditation for many of us. After a hard training session we often feel a stillness in our mind.
BJJ does this like very few things can.
I bring this up because our friend Josh used BJJ to deal with a lot of the issues that exist outside the gym. But right now, he's injured and is not able to train Brazilian Jiujitsu.
And the problem with this is, he's dealing with his father who is dying of cancer and his girlfriend just left him as well.
He wants to get back into the gym as soon as possible and asked about the type of training he should be engaged in.
In this video, I talk 1st about how I was in a very similar situation as Josh, and how I dealt with it (which wasn't a good way).
Instead of dealing with with my mother's passing I chose to numb myself with excessive amounts of training. To the point where I would be in the gym at 3am lifting just to exhaust myself so I couldn't think.
At the end after me trying to get Josh to think about easing his BJJ and Lifting training schedule I give a few tips on how train without aggravating the injury.
I hope the video helps!
-Chewy
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I don't comment very often, But I'm always watching and enjoying your videos.
Well I appreciate the comment!
I train Muay Thai, but I totally get this. Dying parent, check. Dead relationship, check. Work issues, check. Honestly if it hadn't been for my gym the last five months would have been unbearable.
Eric Mattingly same here brother stay strong
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Damn Chewy! I've enjoyed your technique videos for about a year now but this video just raised my already high level of respect for you to another level! As a retired police officer, I know what its like to suffer from anxiety, PTSD, and the subsequent depression that the anxiety and panic attacks cause. While going through the worst of it I read book after book and the one book and program I would recommend to anyone suffering from anxiety and panic disorders is called DARE by Barry McDonough. What you touched on about going with the flow really resonates a lot about what the program is about. In a nut shell, it's about learning to accept and allow the anxiety instead of fighting it (which we all tend to do). "What you resist persists and what you accept goes away!" Also what you said about the chest pain, "if I'm gonna have a heart attack just let it happen is another example of re training the mind to accept and allow the physical sensations caused by the anxiety (which is basically adrenaline caused by a false a false fear triggering the fight or flight response in our nervous system). Sorry for the rant but hope this helps if anyone out there needs help with anxiety. Thanks for all you do chewy. Keep up the good work.
No reason to say sorry for the rant! I appreciate your feedback on it. Suffering from anxiety and stress can be a hard thing to talk about and many people don't want to talk about it. I'm glad you enjoyed the video.
Man, you are wise beyond your years
Take time to heal completely... Physically and mentally then come back with a purpose...
damn dude.. this hit deep brother. i physically felt the same from anxiety and i didn’t know it could be a thing and it felt good to know you addressed this
Research shows when you’re stressed you are not capable of the same volume or the same improvement as if you were not. It’s important to let up and not expect too much of yourself because you are literally less capable of it. Be kind to yourself, take some time to heal and get your head in a better place.
Great video Chewie...you cover so many great topics while keeping it real. Love this channel 🙏🏽
Woman Who Runs With Wolves Whoa that's Bad ass, What would you or even who would you suggest to follow up on to delve a little deeper into this research?
ERik I would recommend dipping into the evidenced-based fitness world and follow people like Eric Helms, Menno Henselmans, Omar Isuf, Alan Aragon, Lyle McDonald, Brad Schoenfeld, Mike Isratel, Bret Contreras, etc. subjects such as this are regularly discussed due to their huge impact on performance, building muscle, losing fat, and general health.
Here’s a review on how sleep deprivation affects the body - www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3403737/#!po=0.862069
Paper on psychology and performance - pdfs.semanticscholar.org/ef4e/0bbae73fefe7fc7f036c21bbbb23bbddf8b4.pdf
Woman Who Runs With Wolves 1st Thank you so much for citing sources 2nd ashwani Bali did that wonderful research 3rdly. ai haven't really heard extensively on those people expect best contraras who actually has really only uses science to prove his practice was counterproductive or irreverent to his goals at best. like the butt works improving performance studies. Anything you approve of from bret that is more scholarly like these papers?
Woman Who Runs With Wolves yep, stress produces cortisol which will lower your immune function and make you more susceptible to sickness. Plus when the mind is somewhere else the body will follow.
Woman Who Runs With Wolves what if I’m always stressed out ?
Such great advice chewy! I went through something very similar but once I found the correct ways to cope training and Jiu Jitsu became a place where I could express myself and my emotions and it helped me find peace. Much love brotha
I love your wisdom brother! Thank you for sharing.
Love the vids man been watching for a while,I'm a white belt who has had 2 years off.Starting again in couple of weeks,been through a lot past couple years lost loved ones,dealing with some social anxiety as well,one of the main reasons I stopped going to bjj. Looking forward to starting again and having something to occupy myself and give me some balance in my life,I think it would be good for me and I can't think of a better hobby to get in to :)
holy shit I have the exact same situation going on but I just want to start jiu-jitsu. next courses open next month. been losing weight to prepare for it got from 242lbs to 190lbs
How tall are you? and good shit on the weight loss bruh
I'm 5'9 I'm aiming for 180lbs. got any protips for me?
Well done man
Phenomenal 24 still got 10lbs to go my dawg. This is the hard part
Steve MacInnis Keto with intermittent fasting would be the shit then?
My mother died two months ago. And with covid lockdown rules here in the UK I haven't been able to train BJJ at all this year and can't go to the gym.
Man, I felt this hard training was also my biggest form of relief from anxiety and without it, I've felt totally out of control with everything that was happening in my life.
But In some ways, it has been a good thing as I had to deal with the grief and all the other emotions and I couldn't run away from my problems.
In the end, I went and got grief counselling it's been one of the best decisions I have ever made.
I think if it wasn't for covid restrictions I would have fallen into the same old pattern and tried to just train and bury the emotions.
Its so funny for me to see this video today because I train the same way(6 days of rolling, 5 days of lifting)to drown out the negative thoughts and feelings i've been experiencing in my life for the past year. It was actually these problems I'm still dealing with that finally forced me through the doors of my gym and onto the mat 2 months ago, after spending almost 2 years watching these videos and others contemplating if i wanted to try jiu-jitsu out or not. Definitely feels like a drug at times because if i miss a day or i half-ass training, the negative emotions and thoughts flood my mind and kinda makes me feel like a drug-addict that hadnt had his fix that day. However, Jiu-jitsu has taught me alot about balance. If you are not balanced, you're getting swept or reversed; But when you have a good center and are balanced, someone will have to really put forth effort to push you into a "negative" position. Life is the same way; Achieve balance, maintain composure, and remember that for every submission attempt life throws at you, there is an escape; you just need to breathe, think, and find it.
I couldn’t have explained my addiction to jits ANY better. So refreshing to see like minded people.
Thank you for the video. From time to time we all go through tough times and jiu-jitsu helps a lot. But as you said it should not be used as a numbing agent.
Wow, I'm what happens when you've never dealt with that chest pain(noticed it 20 years ago in my early 20's) and now at 42 I have chronic pain all over. Glad to see you chewy have turned it around. I quit jj in my early 20's due to numerous physical limitations from life-long stress/depression but recently picked up that old fresh blue belt I earned way back then and have been rolling the past 6-8 months non stop. It's been a struggle and I have to be very careful and tap a lot and just chill(despite young hungry white belts throwing me around) but I decided I just won't quit as I did years ago a couple times. Jj on its own won't solve your problems but it can help in many ways, simply with how it helps build confidence but also with the discipline it requires from you whatever your health and skill level which can carry over to other challenges. Competing would be tough for me but I could whoop my self from before!
Really appreciate your vulnerability & honesty brother ✊ Great advice as usual👏
Thanks Bro, one day I'll show up to your gym, apreciate your videos!!!Thank you
Awesome videos as always
Great advice Chewy.
this was an amazing vid brother
Jiujitsu and psychology lessons all in one! Love it
That's a great point about being flexible about training schedules. I've been unable to train at the jiu jitsu academy for a long time but I've viewed it as a chance to do my own work at home, bought a grappling dummy to work top transitions, worked on my inverted movement, added wrestling movement drills, did a lot of research on bjj concepts and finessed my fundamental movements. My enforced lay off from rolling has been, in a weird way, something that has made me a better person and ultimately, I think, a better and more disciplined grappler.
So much heartfelt and down to earth honest advice & insights. I especially relate to wanting to hold on to things the way they are. I want my routines to stay the same, my work, my coach, my family, friends and my health but all these are in constant flux just like most things in life. That's one of the many reasons I love training Jiu-jitsu, it's teaching me to literally roll with things as they come, know when to slow down, when to speed up, to be in the moment, and adapt to what life's offering right then & there instead of trying to force my ideal way of living. Keep up the inspiring work Chewy!
Thanks for the comment Firas.
Chewy your a great person and super relatable I appreciate you.
I am so grateful for what you are doing! I started BJJ to escape problems in my life, and it taught me so many amazing lessons already, even though I am super new to it. Emotions started coming up and it got so real but I am trying to stay with it and be grounded and in the moment on the mat...Your channel is really helping me to embrace every twist and turn in my journey🙏
I'm glad the videos are helping you continue the path you've began to blaze. And I hope I can be helpful in the future as well. :)
The Elliott Hulse vibes you give off are crazy dude
Brilliant advice 👍
Very wise and empathetic...Your gym sounds like an awesome place to be. I’m going to get one of your tee shirts to keep me inspired. Thanks Chewjitsu
Thanks for the comment brother.
Man I can totally relate to this, when my mom passed away from cancer when I was 15 it took me like 10 years to get over it. I kept getting flash back and start to tear up at random places. Or wake up from a bad dream. It was always a weight on my shoulder. No one to talk to you just hold it.
thank you for this video!
This video spoke to my soul 💯
Man I really needed to hear this today Chewy. It came up on auto play and I'm glad I listened. If you didn't help Josh you helped me. Thanks bro
Glad I could help! Thanks for the comment brother. Good luck with everything you have coming up.
Thanks for the reply brother. Just thought I'd let you know that your videos do help and you are making a difference. Much love Chewy and keep up the good work. Oss!
Great video
Really good advice! keep going
Thanks Arian.
That was sound advice. Well said.
Hey Chewy,
Would be great if you could post a video on how to deal with major injuries. This year, I broke my shoulder at European BJJ championship in Lisbon. I have ACL separation, grade 5. Some tips on how to come back and how to deal with the injury on psychological level would be great. Such video would be very much appreciated. Thank you.
ive already been through that man, but didnt even realised it, now i know what happened, great video. i train 6 days a week, (not only bjj, bjj 3 days a weak 3d day is no gi, 2 times mma, and 2 times muay thai, i kinda use it to escape my life, i mean i relate to that situation you just stated, like a LOT)
Glad the video connected with you! :)
I cant believe a video on this topic came out today. Ive missed training all week because I am so stressed out with work and other life events. I want to train....i just have zero motivation right now. It sucks. I hate feeling like this.
Can't say I can relate. If life is bothering me, an excuse to think about something else, like a good video game OR jiu jitsu would give my troubled mind a little vacation. Only thing that stops me from training are physical limitations. Maybe you've just not gotten that into it yet. Got your blue belt yet? Once you get a good feel for the game it can become a passion and then you'll constantly want to improve. If this is the case keep it up, like any game it gets more addicting and can get you a break from your issues AND indirectly help you with them. If I can get a bit better with my jj I remind myself I can improve in other areas of life if I just apply myself as I do with jj. Good luck
Thanks Bro 🙏
chewy are you at all into buddhism? a lot of what you say about facing your problems and dealing with them and going with change instead of opposing it are core buddhist tenants and I'm super impressed if that's something you have just discovered by your own introspection.
Your channel is a light for us all in the community and I regularly share you to my training partners. Thank you!
I am into eastern philosophy but my readings of them came after. But when I did finally come across them they only strengthened the ideas I had regarding the subject.
I believe many of the religions and mythological stories share these deep truths if you know how to look at them.
Yeah I was definitely in this situation a while ago.
I found this very helpful
Happy to hear it Mike! See you soon brother.
hey chewie. do you think you could do a instructional vid on how to defend the darce and anaconda from the front headlock position? get stuck there all the time. if you've got seperate escapes with gi grips, can you add those too please? in desperate need of em. thanks
I love your wrestling videos
Hey Chewie, first I love you videos I train Japanese jujitsu and you videos provide a some different view points.
Second, what are some things you did to help recover from your meniscus injury? I'm have a bad knee trouble lately and not sure the best route to go.
I've had a bad one for over 20 years now. I suppose I could have had surgery but never did. I just keep an eye on mine. Don't do anything too crazy with it, or any joints for that matter and I'm still pretty agile at 42 actually. I do this for several physical issues. But so I've gathered certain surgeries, like those for knees or shoulders really work out well, if you can write the check for it. But if you train carefully, like don't ever let your ego get the best of you which is basically how most of my injuries happened, you can make your knee adapt and strengthen from where it is. Now my 'bad knee' is a slight annoyance. Good luck
Having relationship troubles with my significant other and training jiu jitsu makes me feel like i have established personal boundaries again and am forming relationships outside of the ever-significant relationship that has been causing stress. Jiu jitsu is something else for sure
Im sorry for ur mom brotha!
Damn this hit me hard. My name is josh, after leaving the military and getting involved with a girl for over a year and half. Having no idea how to handle these feelings I jumped head first into training 7 days a week in jiu jitsu. Getting off work at 01:30 and waking up at 04:30 to go train.
Don’t burn out fool
Ive been there ...pray brother
Hey Mr chewogi. Been doing bjj for a few weeks and I love it. I do notice how tight my legs are the next day from rolling. Do you think you could do a video about stretches for recovery or just overall flexibility?
Daniel San
I actually have a few of my favorite cool down stretches coming out soon in a video which helps with them!
I did that for 10 years. My ex ditched me. BJJ was ruining my life for training and rolling hard for the wrong reasons ( to let out my demons); it ruined my joints, and I got cauliflower ears. Now I’m learning how to train smart.
If I could back through time, I would tell myself to train BJJ for the right reason and put emotion on a side and train smart; that way I wouldn’t ruined my joints and not get cauliflower ears.
Thanks
Bjj changed me totally.. i started to listen to my body.. if i feel i need a rest i just take it.. if i do not feel going to gym to lift i just won't.. before i was forcing to make everything and that is just not the way. I mean i would prob do every day bjj but when you got work nd staff around.. it is just not smart.. one day out in a week is not the end of the world 😂😂😂
I have a lot of things that I should probably say to my dad before he dies but I just repress them. I don’t let people know how I’m truly feeling because I’m afraid of being vulnerable.
I used work as a numbing agent and ended up with two frozen shoulders. After a recovery of 1 year 9 months I'm ready to get back on the mats. It has been a forced lay off. You either get smarter about your body and your emotions or you'll be forced to get smarter because things will start to break down.
That’s the beauty of life you will eventually have to face your problems
Great video ! How do i send a question(besides youtube comments)?
You can message me via TH-cam messenger , IG or FB.
Hi Chew! I'm 37 y.o guy man. I started training around 3 month and I loved it so much. But just a few days ago I came to trading and 2 guys near by jumped on me while wrestling and cracked my ankle. (( I'm very upset cause for now I can't train, I have to wear a cast for 1 month... Can you give me any advise what to do... I mean can I do anything at home any exercise u advise? How should I start when I will be ok? How to train... I'm very sad about that... And I really need your advice.If u can make a small video on TH-cam about some exercise while you broke something and how to get start back,with some sample excersises... I will be very thankful to
Have a great day.
"came to trading"? You mean like trading punches in a street fight or did you mean training with a couple guys at your gym? Sry about the injury. Just time is all you need for that. EASE back in. don't do as I always do and re-injure an injury. That's just dumb and I do it a lot lol
It's the things left unsaid that we truly come to regret.
Hey man I have had some new grey belts at the gym I train at and I keep getting tied up in half guard can I have some help Cher’s man
Kids' belts
No problem :)
Steve MacInnis that’s helps a lot man
Steve, are you a coach? That’s really great advice I’m ablue belt and I’ve finally started understanding this technique in the gym as we have been working on it loads. I actually understood your explanation which means I understand the technique I feel like I’ve solved the greatest puzzle ever lol. Anyway thank you very much for that explanation 😊
My gf broke up w me and dad died that month of a degenerative brain disease... got to class 1 hour early 6 days per week like usual, trained hard and smart to forget about my problems... be resilient and relax.
hey chewie. do you think you could do a instructional vid on how to defend the darce and anaconda from the front headlock position? get stuck there all the time. i'm a white belt btw.
Iron John Robert Bly road of ashes chapter
Diagnosis: Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy.
Remedy: More Jiu-jitsu
wtf Chewie I'm so curious and to the quality of BF you were now.
BF? I think you mean boyfriend right?
My girlfriend is happy with me and I do my best to be a good partner to her especially with her understanding nature due to my unusual lifestyle.
Chewjitsu lol Nice to hear.
I lost work authorization... and then: wife, daughter, citizenship, mom, almost got my arm broken dispute taping all day... , my dad ran away from house, and I disowned my sister, lost all friends on both continents... thanks Milwaukee USCIS lol
This video is not what I thought it would be.
I have met a few black belts who are white belts at life. Don't do this. Bjj is fun but at the end of the day, for most of us, it's just a game.
Thanks for your comment brother.
Yeet
hey chewie. do you think you could do a instructional vid on how to defend the darce and anaconda from the front headlock position? get stuck there all the time. if you've got seperate escapes with gi grips, can you add those too please? in desperate need of em. thanks
hey chewie. do you think you could do a instructional vid on how to defend the darce and anaconda from the front headlock position? get stuck there all the time. if you've got seperate escapes with gi grips, can you add those too please? in desperate need of em. thanks
Sure