Escaping Narcissistic Abuse | A Documentary (2024) in 4k

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  • @EgoNextDoor
    @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    *Enjoy this video and want to see more?*
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  • @julliettecoeur
    @julliettecoeur 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    This was beautifully done. I can’t imagine how difficult it was for you to film this and then edit it and work on it. Thank you for being an inspiration to all of us ❤❤ I hope the world gives you all the love and peace you deserve 🌸🫂🫶🏼

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for your kind words. Doing this helps me too. Supporting others fills my heart 💞

  • @GASP_HQ
    @GASP_HQ 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I'm glad you put the 'smile disclaimer'. I do the same thing, and often find myself naturally making friends who also have gallows humor. I need to remember to be aware of that when I share my own story.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you! It's great to see with someone who gets it. Gallows humor can be such a unique way to bond and deflect painful experiences. I'm sorry that you've also had your fair share of those 💜

  • @caryfarmer1119
    @caryfarmer1119 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I planned my escape for two years. I finally made it out, 8 years later I am reeling from this painful life. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I'm glad you are free now. It takes so much courage to make it out, and healing is definitely a process. I'm sorry you're still feeling the weight of it, but know that you're not alone. Stay strong ♥️

  • @hopeinhumanity.
    @hopeinhumanity. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I know that fear of cats being harmed (or scared). It could seem ridiculous to some but that fear in itself can be paralyzing and very stressful. Add the constant mind f**kery that has you spending more time questioning reality than living life to the fullest, esp during times when they are on “good behavior”. It’s utterly exhausting.
    Thank you for sharing your story. 🌹

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I appreciate your grace in acknowledging the complexity of these emotions.. It's true, many people don't understand it. But for us, our pets are our family. For me, they are and always were my only family. The mental strain of navigating a relationship filled with uncertainty and inconsistency is very life-sucking. Thank you for watching, I appreciate it ♥️

  • @tabithadixon3858
    @tabithadixon3858 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    @39:42. You put into words what I’ve been feeling. Not the same situation, but the same characters. My abuser is my spouse. I’ve been wanting to get out but I don’t know how. Thank you so much for being an inspiration and sharing your story. Peace to you my beautiful friend❤❤❤

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm so sorry about what you’re going through right now. I cannot imagine how difficult that must be. Your comment touched my heart and I am wishing you the absolute best.
      Please know that you are not alone and that there are resources and people who can help. Your safety and well-being are so important. When you are ready to escape, and if you're looking for support, please reach out to someone you can trust, a friend, family member, or if you’re not sure you can trust those, look for organisations in your location that specialise in helping those in abusive situations (they may have an email or phone number you to reach out to).
      I am sending you strength, I know it is difficult to take that step and escape. But remember: you are brave, and you deserve to feel safe. I truly hope you find peace and safety as soon as possible ♥️🫂

    • @tmo.48
      @tmo.48 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      After 43 years of it ALL, my husband got super angry with me last August and in a rage told me to get the F out. I was stunned and shocked and he said it again. I quietly just walked to my sewing room, grabbed a back pack, filled it and left. As I walked past him to leave he was eating the meal I had just made and didn't say a word to me. I went to a skanky motel for a few nights, then to a niece's home for a few weeks then into an affordable apartment. He has text me to get back home. He had tried to guilt me into coming back. I am doing well on my own without that continuous chaos. Good luck everyone ❤

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Making the decision to leave a situation that wasn't healthy for you, after so many years, takes a lot of courage. I'm glad that you are finding peace away from the chaos. Your story is inspiring, and a reminder to many that it's never too late to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Good luck to you too, and thank you for sharing ❤️‍🩹

    • @kpf2014
      @kpf2014 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@tmo.48never go back. It will become 100 times worse since you “abandoned him”. Its a trap when they charm you back.

  • @AutumnThomson
    @AutumnThomson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I found this so hard to watch at the start, you have been through so much! I feel I understand better what you and other people have been through now and this will help me be a better friend and work colleague. The scripting and editing is amazing, a real professional job, you should be proud of this. Thank you!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Your empathy is deeply felt, and I appreciate your thoughtful reflection. I'm glad this has provided insight into others' experiences, and I'm grateful for your commitment to being a supportive friend and work colleague. Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts ♥️

  • @uhoh9000
    @uhoh9000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    "Inappropriate affect" was something I learned about with disorders and trauma. Usually, not always, associated with defense mechanisms! Smiling or laughing when talking about something sad is fairly typical. It's our attempt to force ourselves to feel better, or cover how we're really feeling.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is true. It can very much be a defense mechanism, especially in the context of trauma. Understanding this can help us be more compassionate towards ourselves and others who display these behaviour. I'm sorry that you also had experiences that lead you to have these coping mechanisms and I wish you all the healing in the world 🫂💜

    • @adimeter
      @adimeter 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@EgoNextDoor For sure.

  • @NumeroUnoYo
    @NumeroUnoYo 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I feel like I didn't breathe until you got to the escape day! I haven't spoken to my mom sis or bro in 5 years. Hopefully never see them again. I'm so happy you broke free! Beautiful kitties too!!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m sorry that you also had a rough experience with your mother, and siblings too. I can’t imagine what it’s like having had all that with parents AND with siblings on top of that. I hope you are healing and being gentle with yourself. Thank you for your support 💜 the kitties say thanks!!

  • @lauragoodman7296
    @lauragoodman7296 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I can't imagine what it was like to film this and know you were finally able to do something for yourself. Narcissists are hard and their marks last so long in our minds and hearts. I really hope you can learn you're not alone and what you went through is so real

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Filming and editing this was definitely a challenge, but knowing it might help people makes it all worth it. Thank you so much for your kind comment ♥️🫂

  • @SigmaFeminine
    @SigmaFeminine 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    So glad you got out 🤍

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you ♥️🫂

  • @LolaAileenVanslette
    @LolaAileenVanslette 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I'm glad you escaped at a young age. I'm still trying to figure out how to let go, and I'm 61 (and they're gone)!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for your comment. I’m sorry that you’re still struggling. It can be really hard to process everything that has happened to you, especially after decades of brainwashing and feeling like what happened to you was your fault. Just know that it wasn’t, and you deserve peace at last, and to treat yourself and enjoy life 🫂❤️‍🩹

  • @lifewithmargot
    @lifewithmargot 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I know exactly what you’re talking about my mom is the same way she’s a covert narcissist… great video!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m sorry you also dealt with such a terrible mother. I hope you are away and healing from the years of neglect and emotional damage 💜 also, thank you for watching!

    • @lifewithmargot
      @lifewithmargot 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@EgoNextDoor yes I’m finally understanding it all and have stopped trying to have a relationship with her. Thanks for sharing your story and so eloquently!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You are welcome 💜🫂

  • @mvbigmagic4048
    @mvbigmagic4048 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I'm glad you got away. I went no-contact with my malignant narcissistic mother as soon as my father died January 27, 2024. She scares the EFF out of me. She will NEVER come near me or my kids.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you. I am glad you got away too, and are creating that much needed distance from her, you and your kids. You are a great parent for protecting your children that way ♥️

  • @kelseyeverett9832
    @kelseyeverett9832 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I’m so proud of you and happy that you recognized this abuse. I think the cognitive dissonance is the hardest part!! Sending love and light!!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you so much! Yes, the cognitive dissonance can be such a battle between what we know is right and what we were conditioned to believe. Sending love right back 💕✨

  • @sarahmax100
    @sarahmax100 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Your strength and honesty will help so many people. So beautifully expressed and inspirational. Thank you 😍 I look foward to following your recovery and send you much love xxx

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Aw, thank you so much! This is such a sweet comment. Thank you for watching and for being here ♥️ sending love to you too 💕🫂

  • @meganritz
    @meganritz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    My abuser is my twin sister. I go through phases of not being able to look in the mirror, because I see her.
    I stopped being alone in a house with her about 15 years ago.
    My twin has been both emotionally abusive, and physically abusive. She is this way to my parents and little sister. She scares me. Fortunately she lives 200 miles away right now.
    I know there are a lot of people who look very much like an abusive family member, but I doubt there is many people who go through this with a twin. I can look at certain parts of my face in the mirror, like my hair or teeth, but not my full face because it is her I see.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am so sorry that this is your experience. I cannot imagine how that feels like. If it helps, I am certain that even as identical twins, you are nothing alike in expression and most importantly: the eyes. Abusers’ eyes are soulless and so cold. You are so much better than that. I am glad you are distant from this person. You should be proud of yourself for making it this far and choosing yourself ♥️🫂✨

  • @kojmar
    @kojmar 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    great motivational ; ( 10/10

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad you liked it!

  • @valeriesabb6717
    @valeriesabb6717 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Much love and respect. Been there. Don’t look back…..you’re not going that way.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you! I appreciate that, and I'm sorry you also went through something like this. Let’s keep moving forward, victims unite 🫂💜

  • @oliverquinn23
    @oliverquinn23 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Really good job putting this together. From an emotional and editing point of view

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you. I really appreciate your comment ♥️

  • @alinedupuis6717
    @alinedupuis6717 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What a brave and strong women you are good for you for escaping you are quite an inspiration

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you, I appreciate it 💜🫂

  • @deadname9140
    @deadname9140 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I really hope you are able to work through everything and thank you for sharing your story. It has helped me understand some of my trauma.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate it and I thank you for watching. I’m happy to know it has helped you gain more awareness about your own struggles and I hope you are healing ❤️‍🩹

  • @adimeter
    @adimeter 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I too have felt this "sick love" for my abuser. I love the way you define that feeling. Where in the world did you get that term? It's so to the point that I'm stuck, just ruminating.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh, it took a long time for me to realise it was sick love.. also, I do a lot of in-depth research for the educational content that is my channel, so it helps me learn more too :)
      I’m so sorry that you feel this way too. Please know that you are not alone. Sometimes we get attached to people who hurt us a lot because we are groomed by them to be “obsessed” with them. Maybe listening to the episodes of my podcast here might help you be more aware of the patterns so you can begin cutting those chains. I wish you the best 💜

  • @lifewithmargot
    @lifewithmargot 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    So your parents we’re living in your house with you? I didn’t quite understand that part.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes. They moved into my place in April 2023 and pretty much took over. I have another video where I go into that part of the story more in-depth. It’s in the “story time” playlist in my channel 😌

    • @lifewithmargot
      @lifewithmargot 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@EgoNextDoor ah okay I’ll check it out! That’s awful 😢 so sad that parents behave so terribly to their children! I don’t know how they live with themselves. Sending you hugs!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you. Sending you hugs too 💜

  • @WindowShopwithCandy
    @WindowShopwithCandy 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you for sharing, I know it took a lot of energy and work put into this! 💜 you're helping so many by sharing your story.

    • @WindowShopwithCandy
      @WindowShopwithCandy 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      keep going 💜💜💜

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you so much, I really hope it helps many 🥺♥️

  • @stephenrussell6074
    @stephenrussell6074 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You had Stockholm syndrome along with coercive control

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's important to understand that concepts like stockholm syndrome and coercive control are complex and can be deeply personal experiences. Stockholm syndrome is a psychological response where hostages or abuse victims develop a bond with their captors or abusers. Coercive control involves a pattern of behaviours that seeks to take away the victim's liberty or freedom and strip away their sense of self. I will be discussing these further on the next podcast episodes.

    • @stephenrussell6074
      @stephenrussell6074 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@EgoNextDoor I understand the complexity, I was just expressing the fact that your situation was elements of both, but wasn’t either.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, it definitely included stockholm syndrome and the manipulation itself was coercively controlling.

  • @kpf2014
    @kpf2014 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I was married at a young naive age to someone who slowly became this and sabotaged everything in my life. I escaped finally at 53. 10 years of deep intensive therapy. I wish you had had a counselor and a victims advocate to help you get out. Womens shelters could have helped you. But I know what being under the “spell” and its all you know. School Counselors need to
    be trained in this to help with planning. The pie- could have been taken to poison control and analyzed and then had them arrested and a file at police department and domestic violence advocate who can help people create files. This is domestic abuse. It is cult control behavior and grooming to tolerate. There are detox plans for people who have been part of these toxic systems. I understand that the nervous system becomes paralyzed in fear from their paranoid and overbearing control tactics. It is straight our of ancient chinese texts on how to control people. I am glad you are out. These people are incapable of changing. It is most definitely Programming. Thank you for sharing.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for sharing your experience and insights. It takes immense courage to escape such a difficult situation, and your journey after so many years is truly inspiring. I admire your strength, especially when being under that narcissistic 'spell' is so challenging.
      Unfortunately, where I'm based, there are very few resources like victims' advocacy, women's shelters, or free counseling available. Even seeking help from the police for a restraining order has been difficult.
      I genuinely appreciate your support and the valuable information you’ve shared about available resources; I hope others reading this can find options where they live. It’s vital for us to raise awareness and help those still in these situations ❤️

  • @Islandswamp
    @Islandswamp 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hey there I’m here from threads. Thanks for sharing

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you for watching 💕

  • @ashleymarshall5502
    @ashleymarshall5502 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is really brave of you to share your story.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you 💜 I just want people to know they are not alone in their struggles, and raise awareness for people who never went through any of this to know how they can help.

  • @Ruseri-c8l
    @Ruseri-c8l 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you for opening people’s eyes to this… Your story really resonated with me; and I know that you’re making people feel less alone in their situations dealing with individuals like these.. ❤

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank YOU for watching. I'm sorry that you went through sometimes even remotely similar to this. I wish you all the healing ❤️‍🩹🫂

    • @Ruseri-c8l
      @Ruseri-c8l 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@EgoNextDoorThank you kindly..Blessings!

    • @Ruseri-c8l
      @Ruseri-c8l 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@EgoNextDoor I also wanted to post on here for anyone who is not familiar with the Mica Miller case #JusticeforMica. Please check out her story as well. Sadly, she is no longer with us. This story also shines a huge spotlight on narcissistic abuse in the church; and has gained worldwide attention. It is SO important to spread awareness about this now more than ever because we have the ability to do so. Stay strong everyone!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you for sharing Mica's story and raising awareness about this important issue. It’s crucial that we continue to shed light on narcissistic abuse, even in cult-like settings. I believe that together we can make a difference ✨

  • @52cardsFacedown
    @52cardsFacedown 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I smile because if i show how much it hurts it leads to me having to comfort them for my pain.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Sending you strength 🫂 You're not alone in this 💜

  • @robertataylor5794
    @robertataylor5794 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I remember the feeling of not being able to breathe and take a breath. I left two and a half years ago. Shortly after my escape my ex partners daughter went no contact. We support each other. I miss Cow, but I had to leave the cat behind because it was his cat. It is so hard sometimes, but I had to choose me. Thank you for making this documentary. I hope other survivors who have been victimized find peace and comfort and love of self.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm glad you chose yourself and decided to find a way out. I also understand how much you miss Cow, unfortunately sometimes decisions like this must be made but I'm sure she knows you didn't mean to leave her. It's nice to hear that you and your ex-partner's daughter support each other 💜 I also hope the documentary reaches and comforts many survivors, offering them the same hope and resilience you've shown. Thank you for your kind and supportive words. I wish you the best ✨🫂

  • @DAWS0NStream
    @DAWS0NStream หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you.

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re welcome, thank you for watching 💜

  • @MemeJustme-t8y
    @MemeJustme-t8y 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m hopeful for both of us! I hope we all get our happy ending. Just because someone doesn’t want to be healthy doesn’t mean the people who love them have to suffer. Choose you … going through it and my son is too. You are worth it! I am too! Anyone that needs to hear this, you are worth it too! Thank you for sharing your truth. I needed this more than I can put in words. Xo and too your cats too

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your words mean a lot to me. Thank you for sharing, you are worth it too! I’m hopeful for both of us as well. We all deserve a happy ending. Sending love to you and your kid 💜

    • @MemeJustme-t8y
      @MemeJustme-t8y 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@EgoNextDoor air hug! Keep posting….

  • @thailadelport3345
    @thailadelport3345 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    thank you for sharing your story

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for watching and for being here ♥️

  • @MariaTheresaEvangelista
    @MariaTheresaEvangelista 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for filming this

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome, thank you for watching 🩷

  • @Lanooski
    @Lanooski 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Finally sitting down to take this one in. looking forward to it!

    • @EgoNextDoor
      @EgoNextDoor  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hope you enjoyed it ❣️