The Destructive Power of a Narcissist to Hurt. - A Documentary

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  • @decemberssilence
    @decemberssilence 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Just learned about my narcissistic ex's massive cheating and lies after 3,5 years difficult relationship with him. Finally broke up contact. It hurts. Hearing your very similar stories and seeing that you're better now was comforting. Thank you for sharing them. All the best for you two!

  • @twosense4989
    @twosense4989 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Went thru EXACTLY the same thing. To be infected thru a scumbags betrayal.... In my case numerous betrayals, especially later in life, destroys your very soul.

  • @nancygreydee2608
    @nancygreydee2608 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’m so sorry for your suffering! My ex narcissistic alcoholic husband cheated on me and left me and my 3 young children for his married employee. On Easter Sunday we came back from a
    family function to him moved out .
    It caused so much pain anxiety and stress in our lives.he also gave me herpes from cheating. The humiliation of getting checked for std was horrible.
    Since then he has only gotten worse and I finally filed for divorce to free myself from his destructive actions that became the “normal “ in our family

  • @livinggood6876
    @livinggood6876 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you for your stories. I am sorry you went through these horrible traumas. It definitely should be illegal to knowingly spread STDs.

  • @mastercard50
    @mastercard50 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Divorcing my narc husband after 34 years. I could write a book but don't want to revisit all of the bad memories, his infidelities, the lies, the manipulation, the control tactics..I don't know that it would be cathartic for me. Maybe one day...

  • @monicamiles4544
    @monicamiles4544 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing 💯 I went through covert narcissist emotional abuse. He discarded me for another months before I caught on. I researched his social media and saw who she was by subtle hints. I also got in touch with one of his girlfriends he had while with me. Her story and mine are so similar. Except he had her for different reasons than how he used me.
    I got in touch with his new girlfriend (supply) with proof of him with her and I at the same time. And also proof of him hoovering me even after I sent her proof from months before. I was too late. He'd already told her I was crazy and a narcissist! A narcissist!! He accused me of being one after I called him out on being one. I'm an intuitive emotional empath. I found all of this out by researching how he was treating me. No emotions. Dead inside. Not bonding ect...attachment styles led to narcissist to empaths. I always doubted those strong feelings I had with him. He left me empty inside. No self worth. Felt worthless, used, weak & stupid. Also with anxiety for about a week. I cried so much & wanted to be dead. Felt so alone. Nobody understood. He didn't break my heart. The cover narcissist broke my soul. I was left feeling like how he feels. Scary experience.
    I needed it to happen. I needed to be aware of the emotional abuse I've endured my whole life from people.
    Now I'm manifesting good people in my life. Good people that I deserve because I'm worthy.

  • @DSD
    @DSD 8 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    It is really great what you both are doing - it is a tremendous asset to the community!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dad Surviving Divorce thank you darlin'. You are as well helping others.

    • @venettabejenaru8498
      @venettabejenaru8498 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Tracy Malone thank you for sharing this video...and coming together with another woman to collaborate on keeping safe and healing. narc women do this to men, narc men to woman.... my neighbor that is obsessed with having me in jail, is jailing me illegally .....from another State......she is 30 year old female narc....these people are extremely dangerous , I am 40. I have nothing to do with her. ....and I'm very sick ..
      they put me in jail in the small town where I live....3 cops jumped me at the door of my home. 5 days in jail.....they didn't take me into court like everyone else....left me in the cell, made me unbondable. ....my bondsman fought for me, as there were no charges. .......he got me out for 10k bond. I showed up in court.....there was no court. this has been going on for 3 years and is deeper than the surface. .......it's much worse than I ever knew.
      more people need to come together and be willing to listen. ....not accuse the "crazy" person. ......because not always is that person the crazy one....
      bless you both. wishing you happiness and freedom and love for you both

  • @kathleenoneill7551
    @kathleenoneill7551 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    this video gave me chills. so many memories. I'm sorry this happened to you. So happy that you're free now.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kathleen O'neill it still gives me the chills that someone can do this to someone to protect his ass of lies. Karma is calling dude and I know it will come

  • @Pelimuistelot
    @Pelimuistelot 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Great video and beautiful scenery. It's a horrible story glad to see you are doing so well :) My bi-polar ex (with HEAVY narcissistic traits) did a police report of me. I did not get arrested and thank god, some of the charges were dropped. Those people can do anything. Godspeed to all of you :)

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ProtecSirius thank you! I am glad some of your charges were dropped

  • @chrisellis1089
    @chrisellis1089 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The part where you ( Tracy ) talked about fidelity really struck a chord with me . .same circumstances, same ugly truth revealed to me that almost killed my heart . .and although our monogamy worked well for a long while . .but the beginning of the end was still shocking and truly painful . .I really admire both of your honesty and openness in all of this . .

  • @MinnieMouse-hb3bc
    @MinnieMouse-hb3bc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Funny... When a woman tells a man that her ex was a problem, the man asks or wonders what SHE did wrong as he identifies with the man. When a man tells a woman his ex was a psycho, a piece of TRASH, women eat it up, will hate the other women and get involved with trying to destroy said ex if possible.
    Soo amazing to see 2 enlightened women, who actually see who the REAL problem in these situations always are. Unfortunately I too was one of the unlucky ones who was given an std due to his narcissistic cheating.
    I also called the other women... One was lovely we talked for ages and I learnt he had given her an std too. The new one did not believe me, took his side and was insulting and that was fine. If she decides to proceed with him despite the std, she still had the right to know. Well done ladies, you have my admiration 😊

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks 🙏 love the handle

  • @JenAWren
    @JenAWren 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    RELATE TOTALLY TO YOUR AWFUL DISCARD Tracy. All my love to you. You are an incredibly strong person. LIzelle, thank you for giving Tracy the support and validation, and above all, your loyalty. Loyalty is something I think we all were missing in our relationships with the Narc. I always felt lost, that I had to be my own Saviour. That if the worst happened - that I would be alone. Even something as obscure as a burglar breaking in to our marital home. I (??) took the side of the bed nearest the door...I would have to fight the burglar first! HOW OMINOUS was that. We were truly alone. When I listened to what you had to go through it rings so many bells with me. I said 'he wouldn't do this to me' - I couldn't do that to him. How wrong I was. They have no thresholds of what is right as a humanbeing.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jenny Wren - thank you for your kind words. Trust is something we have to build all over again - we were lucky to have each other.

  • @noluso
    @noluso 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love you Girls! ❤❤ I saw you for the first time yesterday in one of Angie Atkinson's videos. I hope you have all the success in the world and keep being that incredible beautiful and strong souls!!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว

      N L - thank you! We are blessed to have found each other too! Great friendship and special bond

  • @christinehaigh9807
    @christinehaigh9807 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Oh wow! I'm so sorry he did that to you and your son. My son, my daughter and I've had similar experiences of torture with the covert narc. It's such shocking news to have things like that projected onto you.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Christine Haigh I am sorry you had to deal with this too. I hope you are healing now

  • @lesliethurston2151
    @lesliethurston2151 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    There are no bounds, and the legal system thrives on their door swinging. These individuals source the system at the true victims' expense. It is criminal.

  • @oheyjennymay1699
    @oheyjennymay1699 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow, literally just got out of a five day stay in jail courtesy of my lovely ex husband for not being able to afford half of the braces he had put on our children without even discussing with me beforehand. Had the judge jail me in contempt for not paying my half of the “medical expense”, and my poor mother had to take almost $14,000 out of her 401k to help me pay the braces (3500), his attorney fees (supposedly nearly 8,000), and the fines by the court for contempt. rather than work out a payment plan with me, he literally got up on the stand (I had no lawyer), and ASKED the judge that I be jailed until I paid it all. So got handcuffed and everything in front of him and his wife, and everyone else waiting on their cases in the courtroom, and taken straight from court to jail. Good times. Came home to some devastated children that are still dealing with the trauma of mommy going to jail. Doesn’t care at all how this affected not only his children, but their younger brother and sister (I’ve had two children since the divorce). All these years later, and I still cannot wrap my head around how his brain operates. It’s so sad. It has to be a miserable existence for him.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jenny May I am so sorry that he did this. It’s horrific to think that the father of your children would do this to you, it’s like the devil has gone into his soul. How can he do this to kids! Trauma is very real and a fear recording they will hold forever, your son with the braces with feel guilt forever, make sure he knows it’s not his fault. Thank god for Mom! I had to use my entire two months dead inheritance from my mom to bail me out and pay the $10,000 in fines legal fees.
      He is evil, now that you know how evil protect yourself. Sending peace ✌️

  • @nannamoo3122
    @nannamoo3122 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Your reference to HPV totally shattering but now familiar!!! GRRRR! Did you challenge him about this? Sickening isn't it. Your courage and friendship is inspiring and thank you both with gratitude. XXXX

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Nanna Moo - thank you - he gave her HPV not HIV but it has caused her three painful procedures to treat. Yes he was called out on it by multiple sources but of course we were making it up and according to him “he didn’t give anyone anything” . He is a dangerous person and I wish I could warn all of his next supplys

  • @EricaGamet
    @EricaGamet 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Well done, everyone! Beautiful, touching, and informative. Proud to have had a teeny tiny part in bringing your story to life.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Erica Gamet you had a pretty big part Erica! We could not have done this without your support and camera😂 you somehow made my eyes blue

    • @EricaGamet
      @EricaGamet 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Tracy Malone Your eyes are super blue in the footage I shot!! Good lighting and your radiant personality competing! Hah!

    • @mariepresho706
      @mariepresho706 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mine hid my car at the new Narcissist home. I went to get it and he got in the car and I threw my cell at my EX and he had me arrested. He actually caught the cell phone. They are monsters

  • @donnaevans7361
    @donnaevans7361 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this,thank you ladies.I wish we did have a friend who understood narcissistic abuse the way I do now.

  • @lolaleighcoe5535
    @lolaleighcoe5535 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great Share Ladies. Knowledge is Power and these types are so Evil and numerous.

  • @TracyAMalone
    @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Alessandro for making this wonderful movie for us.

    • @bachopinbee5991
      @bachopinbee5991 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello Tracey. How can someone volunteer or work with you? What are the requirements to join you in this venture if, of course it's possible. I'm a subscriber from Rwanda. Thank you for the inspiring video.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pacis Ndahiro thank you. I always have things that need to be done. Send me an email Tracy @ NarcissistAbuseSupport . Com

  • @Ladushka68
    @Ladushka68 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Incredible story! Thank you both for encouraging

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      L Th thank you for watching

  • @damianavegamaisonet7960
    @damianavegamaisonet7960 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing your truth. Yes I gave more than I received. Yes I did not set boundaries. I learned from it. I am happy and free now.

  • @amybattles8561
    @amybattles8561 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Beautiful story

  • @TurtleIslandLady1999
    @TurtleIslandLady1999 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The narc told me he was going to get me locked up. I didn't stay around or continued to mess with him to find out. I was out of there.

  • @carolvevle8190
    @carolvevle8190 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel exhausted, drained, no joy & no hope.

  • @thelionliesdownwiththelamb2995
    @thelionliesdownwiththelamb2995 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your story of power! You are both such beautiful women, and your story is a story of truly rising above!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The Lion lies down with the Lamb thank you

    • @Chasing70
      @Chasing70 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      My Christian son, got me arrested & I spent 2 nights in jail. I have NEVER even had a traffic ticket! He is not sorry. He has targeted me for ten years now. I am recovering from CPTSD. He gaslighted my entire family. I am alone. The pain of him having NPD has ALMOST destroyed me. What a beautiful presentation & story.

  • @tawannamurphy1827
    @tawannamurphy1827 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love that you guys came together. Some women actually believe the fellow and think the women are crazy

  • @marksummers1101
    @marksummers1101 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi Tracy I must say I so relate to your story only I was subject to a covert narcissist. I thought we were in love I know I was but as time went on I saw the RED flags. I felt the pain and on the final occasion we were together, her mask came off and her anger enranged to the point that she told me that she would have me leave the home. I didn't I would be served a restraining order.
    She had it served anyway and it was gut wrenching to think she would and did kill the relationship in such a dramatic way. It has taken me so long to unscramble my thoughts, financial situation and my life. What hurt just as much was the fact that I couldn't explain my situation to loved ones and in particular my own family. I am a strong willed, calm thinker and loving person but she had completely turned my life upside down and scrambled my brain.
    Since leaving the relationship, I have educated myself to the different types of narcissism and the distructive nature of their lifestyle. Yes the sex was great, the lifestyle I offered was fun and just as satisfying but the three phases of the relationship ran their true course and I was left feeling alone, mistrusting of relationships even though I had been in healthy relationships, and even thinking for a while was it my fault as a husband. There is so much more I could tell you but I know you had probably herd it all before.
    Just let me say that without social networking, research on the topic and self belief it would be more difficult to understand what happened and try to overcome the darkest chapter of my life.
    Thanks Tracy for your insightfulness in sharing your experiences and allowing others to realise we are not alone.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Mark for watching and taking time to comment and share your story. This community saved me for sure and that is why I am giving back.

  • @Shut-up-Shelly
    @Shut-up-Shelly 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow what an awesome video!! I am a survivor of this abuse and my narc was starting up probably the 10th 20th....who knows which number he was on....caught him this time....ha....but I reach out to tell her and warn her because it seemed like he was setting his new target set up. I was not mean or do any exclamation points. I gave her my number if she wanted to call me...but said she was beautiful and had a positive attitude in life and to not even bother to get involved with his miserableness, and to stay the beautiful and positive person she is. She didn’t seem to listen but....if they get involved I’m so sure she will remember the words I said. I’m in support of women not getting duped and lied to by these malignant people and I will befriend anyone of them whom he abused and took advantage of, or are planning to be his next victim. So thankful to God for directing me to learn all about this subject that I can. Any advise on how to deal with narc kids that learned all of this horrible behavior from him? Let me know!! And thank you for your videos they HELP ALOT!!!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      michelle b - you have had a journey. Sorry 😐 but the good news is your are learning so much. I reached out to his ex wife and door number two.
      Your question on your kids I am actually recording a video interview this week with a very smart lady. Should be posted in a week so look for it.

  • @jmariehill9832
    @jmariehill9832 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    PLEASE write a book!!! I'm thinking of writing one too of my experience.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      J Marie Hill I do have lots of experiences to share

  • @damirbatlak7738
    @damirbatlak7738 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It is really kind and lovely that you both got that prick out of your lives and created a friendship bond between you two!! I also am a narcissistic abuse victim from a ex wife of 12 years it took that long to reveal her true colors , its a horrific thing to go through ..! I adore and envy you both!! You are very beautiful and attractive ladies hope you do find the right kind of person that will love you the way a woman deserves to be loved and treated.!! 🌹🌹😉

  • @dancingcloud8557
    @dancingcloud8557 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Tracy, thank you for sharing this. My ex narc suddenly dumped me after telling me he loved me and buying us tickets to Maui. None of it made sense. I went back to him and sadly used sex as a plea but I made him promise me he would tell me if there was anyone else he was trying to date, was attracted to, etc. He promises no one. I started playing "detective" something seemed off, he kept texting this one girl he claimed just a friend and not attracted to. I had a key, they went on a trip, I visited his apartment, to borrow a charger, in the eve, heard a voice, came out and introduced myself, he looked so livid when he walked in behind her, didn't introduce us. She left quickly. My gut said, not alright. Without a word he preemptively but a deadbolt, he had never asked me to let him know when I was coming over first. I broke up with him because he deflected when I asked directly he was made I "cockblocked" I also warned her of him on Facebook, he stood up for him and called him a "gentleman". A few days later he left for Hawaii and said he felt he had lost my love
    That day I found out I was pregnant. He implied he wanted me to abort bc he felt he should make a baby with someone he loved... When I refused to give child up for adoption as the next thing he asked if I would not abort, he threatened to paint me as physically violent, as mentally I'll, would tell the court I am unfit so that he would get full custody. I have tried to go no contact past 8 week, but suddenly said he wants to be part of baby's life, and support my pregnancy, but has not been around or given any money, on Easter he told me he had a new GF and was with her family. I asked, when you met her? He said before Hawaii...

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Desiree Gray - oh girl that sounds terrible. What a liar 🤥 and cheat, sorry you had to go thru this. Did you keep the baby? Are you 👌 ok?

    • @dancingcloud8557
      @dancingcloud8557 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tracy Malone I am sorry what you went through. I'm very surprised it was easy for him to get you arrested! I tried to put a restraining order on him, but it's still temporary and my pro Bono lawyer said he could still contest it, and unless I have photos of physical abuse may not stick. It seems the system is set up to revictimized the actual victims. I am 13 weeks today. I read this and thought dark, it really resonates www.google.com/amp/s/narcsite.com/2016/06/28/impregnated/amp/

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Desiree Gray - thank you 🙏🏻 I look at that horrible day as the best day of my life because I have learned and grown and changed my entire life by understanding patterns from childhood - in 23 states and Colorado is one of them they have a mandatory arrest law. If one person calls the police and they’ve been in an intimate relationship ever been one person must be arrested for domestic violence. It’s a crazy ass Rule and I met so many women that I have done nothing but because of this stupid before we became victims. Victims of a system that really doesn’t wanna identify who is at fault but whoever Calls is the one that is innocent. So it was trespassing, domestic violence and reckless endangerment because he said he was scared 😱 I did nothing that should have warranted this, he was the abuser that had done this trick before. Cried wolf and had police called on his ex wife. One has to go to jail.
      $10,000 which I had just inherited from my mom and 18 months probation, a summer of 80 hours community service and six months of domestic violence classes - and the restraining order. Which I loved because he couldn’t Hoover back this time.
      Different states have such different rules that is why I started working with the coalition against domestic violence to help change laws.
      Hugs 🤗

  • @christinehaigh9807
    @christinehaigh9807 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That shouldn't happen to the best of us, but it does happen to women from all walks of life. It's so traumatic. PTSD!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Christine Haigh - so true! It also happens to men when they have a Narc. At any point my support groups have seen many arrests. It was the bottom of my life and now I am growing straight now and helping others that are where I was is powerful . Thanks for watching

  • @mecca115able
    @mecca115able 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm proud of u ladies been thru the same thing I got a restraining order on my ex narc. serious case.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you Paula - Glad you got the restraining order on him! They sure know how to work a system don't they

    • @mecca115able
      @mecca115able 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yes they do i am still recoveri from the rape and abuse. he used his flying monkey of a lawyer. to scare me off. im suing him the judge did not hesitate to give me a restraining order,

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      oh my god. I am so sorry. Be careful I wish i knew that restraining orders worked better. Carry Mace when walking alone.

    • @susannec659
      @susannec659 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Paula C
      Just reading your post a year later, and what you're saying. isn't it so that usually these narcs are more hard to get rid of? I mean if the narc leaves you, you should consider yourself extremely lucky.

    • @Traceyi1000
      @Traceyi1000 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Paula C I too got a restraining order against the narrsasist.
      It was terrifying and empowering at the same time
      His ex wife also had one written into her divorce papers.
      He violated it all the time.
      He then moved out of state.

  • @YesThatPrettyGirL
    @YesThatPrettyGirL 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ladies, I cannot thank u enuf for sharing ur stories. U both are so brave! I recently discovered he is a narcissist. I’m still so confused. My God, he made me feel EVERYTHING u described. I feel so broken 😔

  • @farscape3100
    @farscape3100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    so yes you do give a lot of good advice,
    but i just want to ask one question,
    will your life still be filled with what your ex did to you or will
    you be able to move on,
    i had to walk away from my daughter
    and thats how i left it i wont be going day to day over whats happen between us,
    because even though shes not in my life i dont want her living rent free in my mind

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      My narcs do not live in my head. This video is two years old. The gal with me and I were getting to know each other after being with the same man.
      I teach people through what happened to me in certain conditions as it relates them them.
      This helps people get validated that they are not alone.
      You can get the hurt out of your head but hold onto the lessons you learned. It’s never easy to let go of people we love but when keeping them in your life wounds you, self love must take over and we must accept what we cannot change and move on

  • @robertreyes7388
    @robertreyes7388 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My ex narc gets me arrested on completely made up things at her will. Her word is considered probable cause. I cant afford any more lawyers. one more time and i'll rot in jail. She also had DCF take our kid.......the whole report is about her and her crazy mom, yet the system is playing favorites because they are women. No one cares, no one can help. Every lawyer says that there is nothing they can do because women are never charged with making false reports and are essentially a protected class. My life is being destroyed. I literally have all the evidence in the world and cant get them to put charges on her. It blows my mind.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am so sorry Robert! I empathize with you as this is the story of my arrest too. I am not 100% sure its a female thing as much as a victim thing. What I mean by that is I work with some DV agencies and its who calls 'victim' first. That is the sad truth, I have hundreds of people that have shared their stories of these lies that abusers use to further injure the victim, but when the narc calls the police and presses charges the system works against the person charged, male or female. The system is far from perfect and not even good in my opinion because there is no way to tell who is lying and judges, prosecutors don't care. They just want to pretend they are defending victims. I kept saying whatever happened to guilty until proven innocent. Most lawyers know they can't win so they just walk away, that is if you can't afford the legal fees that it would cost. I am so sorry for what you have been through.

    • @robertreyes7388
      @robertreyes7388 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TracyAMalone trust me. Being a woman helps. Female narcs are way more dangerous. The law favors women hands down. I have evidence....but they are handling things way different for her than me. For instance.... I had to go to jail and bond out and get an attorney while the da determine whether or not they wanted to press charges, which they didn't cuz there was Zero evidence and my evidence prove that I wasn't even there. I went down to the detective since the DEA didn't press the charges and gave the detective all my evidence and the detective filed the report that they sent with the district attorney but the funny thing is she won't get arrested unless the da picks up the charges. If they decide not to pick up the charges like they did in my case she will never have had to go to jail and pay Bond and get an attorney. Not to mention the evidence that I have is undeniable but no one seems to care because no one wants to put a woman in jail. Statistics aren't hard to read. Statistically men are arrested the most. Domestic violence is a bunch of racketeering to put men in jail even when both parties don't want anyone to go to jail. The whole DCF system, also against men. Shes got them all wrapped around her finger

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@robertreyes7388 - I agree woman narcs are horrific and they can easily hide behind the fake abuse charge. I have so many male friends (in this narc world) that have the same story. You are right that the system favors women, they think the woman will make a better parent, without ever needing to prove that children are forced to live with the abusive parent. Here is a link to supports groups mostly around the US but we have been able to add many groups all over the world. Find a group and start the healing, you need to be strong for your kids. Her goal is to make you look weak, prove her ass wrong. Your kids need you to be strong and protect them and give them a solid foundation. narcissistabusesupport.com/narcissist-abuse-support-groups/ - Sending peace and light. One day this nightmare will be over.

    • @robertreyes7388
      @robertreyes7388 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TracyAMalone i appreciate your help but she fucked with the wrong dude. She might be smart but im literally a genius. I have been documenting everything. I record and log ever call, text, voicemail, etc.....the most important recorded phone call of all "i know you record all your calls, i dont care". Because of that statement, i get to use all my recordings in court. I will not stop till she goes to jail for her fake charges and till my daughter is with me and has my last name.

  • @susannec659
    @susannec659 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I too am proud of and grateful to both you ladies.

  • @dirgesinthedark5637
    @dirgesinthedark5637 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Awesome ladies!!!!! Im expecting backlash from my Narc...hopefully not...I too had an arrest experience. If you need more material for a book...dont hesitate to contact me...LOL..

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      DIRGES in the DARK I am so sorry. I would love to chat with you. DM me and we can set something up

  • @rgch-raw729
    @rgch-raw729 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this

  • @coreyanderson1457
    @coreyanderson1457 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I agree. There should be a requirement that once diagnosed with a std, especially one like that, the person must inform. It's crazy that he is able to go around spreading it.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      call him Johnny Appleseed. he just doesn't care about anyone, so its like a ticking timebomb. We must never forget these types of people exist.

  • @a.person8209
    @a.person8209 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You girls are fantastic 💕 🌺🌸❤️ much love from a girl from Norway ❤️

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Azbije Asani 🙏🏻 thank you

  • @sabaidee5587
    @sabaidee5587 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like the end. Congratulations. 😊👍

  • @revivewellness392
    @revivewellness392 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awesomeness
    Thank you both

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Revive Wellness thank you. It's almost been a year since my arrest and I have learned so much

  • @thomast620
    @thomast620 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are both so beautiful and we need your support all the way xxxx

  • @katphenakatphena3980
    @katphenakatphena3980 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh wow I got a restraining order on my narc he retaliated with one got his also! He stated right after court I'm going to have you arrested now! Now he is trying every way to get me in jail he has called 3 times the police to my house!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      K hille - wow I am so sorry. Narcissists like to use the police to revictimize us. Please document everything, record conversations, and call the police before he does. Whoever calls first is the one the police and courts will protect. Tell them you are scared of him causing you harm. That the police take action on. I am at the airport about to meet Lieselle in ITALY right now. There is peace after abuse

  • @mandyallgood
    @mandyallgood 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    You ladies are amazing for all you are doing 💜

  • @Traceyi1000
    @Traceyi1000 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video ladies!
    I listened on my drive to work today and again now I'm home .
    I love the black top Lieselle is wearing.
    I know off topic but you two are looking fabulous 💛💛💛

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      MaryLynn thank you that is the sweetest compliment to be watched in the car. I listen to videos all the time in the car! Mostly narcissist recovery 😎

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lieselle DAVIDSON
      thanks for being my unlikey friend

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you MaryLynn. We are both healing, I don't know what I will do when she goes back.

    • @Traceyi1000
      @Traceyi1000 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Tracy Malone
      You are so lucky to have each other.
      I know you realize this.
      We are all here for support and encouragement.

    • @Traceyi1000
      @Traceyi1000 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Lieselle DAVIDSON Thank you!
      You and Tracy make a great team.
      Sure wish I had a friend to go through this with.
      Still working on my self esteem.

  • @christinehaigh9807
    @christinehaigh9807 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Even if one does set boundaries, would they have respected them???

  • @debm2469
    @debm2469 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love all your videos!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Deb M thank you! Recording more Sunday!

  • @susannec659
    @susannec659 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is a beautiful example of sisters before misters or chicks before "you know whats"

  • @jadeheart911
    @jadeheart911 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I would swear this is the same guy! OMG! . I can relate to being handcuffed and taken from what was my own home at the time. The police were alot more sympathetic tho as they had seen him in action shooting off his mouth at the police station. I was still wearing scrubs and had to spend the night there. Luckily the matron was a sweetheart and we talked all night. If it wasnt for her I probly would have cried all night. The worst part was...I kept thinking ..he will come and get me...He will realize what an ass he is being...He didnt come. From lets go to dinner and talk this over to I am out on the street in my scrubs with no idea what is REALLY happening at that point ......and the really freaky thing ...a week prior to that he had said during an argument that I was a narcissist...i remember saying what a big word for someone like him and he must have heard that from someone he was bad mouthing me to. I had no idea at that point!.... I now figure he was projecting..... this is the tip of the iceberg!!!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว

      deb vankoughnet - wow! I so understand. I laid there crying and freezing all night thinking the same thing. He would correct this and come get me. As it turns out he was taking two hours to type out his statement to get additional charges placed against me. Then told the world I had done something horrific. #wemusttakk one day

  • @sharoncohen2139
    @sharoncohen2139 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tracy GOD BLESS U FOR SHARING UR ARREST STORY. HOW DO WE BRING THIS LIE TO PO PO'S? CALL ME MADEA. SMILE. I HATE THEM...NARCS AND

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sharon Cohen - you are welcome. It was horrific and evil and revenge on the narcs part to cover his lies. But look in the end his soulless action completely changed my life.
      I now know about my life choices and I have learned self love ❤️ so this will never happen (besides the arrest) again

  • @ColbyVeil
    @ColbyVeil 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is dead on
    Thank you

  • @dirgesinthedark5637
    @dirgesinthedark5637 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't think they can arrest you for trespass with out already filing a police report verifying with law enforcement your not welcome at his home. What state was this?

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      DIRGES in the DARK no there had never been any telling me I wasn't welcome. In fact he had stopped by my house uninvited three times to "explain" why he slept with at that time one other. I would not let him in, I had changed the locks so he could not get in. They did charge trespassing because he said he asked me to leave seven times and I didn't. He did not, when he asked me to leave I did. He knew just what to do because he had done it with his x wife a month before. He made it sound like I was in his house on the 911 tape but I was out of the street.
      He will get his reward for lying and cheating. I must move past this dark time and only let people in my life that deserve to be there. #hugs

    • @dirgesinthedark5637
      @dirgesinthedark5637 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      911 lies...unbelievable...I will message you sometime soon...thanks for your work on the topic!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      DIRGES in the DARK oh don't get me started on the police! The whole thing was crazy and I had to pay $10,000 just to plea. I had so much evidence of his lies but they didn't care. Because he was scared

  • @susieliciousd
    @susieliciousd 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am going through legal abuse by my narcissist. This was a good story but a little confusing (as the narcissist wants it to be). Anyways, really the first I have found on legal abuse. My mom is a narcissist and frequently tries to get me arrested or in a mental hospital. She 51/50 me by lying and saying I was trying to commit suicide (same thing to both my brothers). They believed her because why would a mom lie? Why would any person lie? The cops said I can get a restraining order but they are not documenting what she is doing and I feel they partially believe her only because she tells them some whole story without me there and she probably tells them I was hospitalized but that was also by her lie. I never know what she will do next. I read they can sometimes take years to plan the events but her end goal is to get me in prison or a hospital.

  • @PreetiSharma-yj8rb
    @PreetiSharma-yj8rb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤💜💜💜💜💜💜🧿🧿🧿🧿🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌You defeat the Narcissists

  • @angeladennison3340
    @angeladennison3340 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yeah mine was missing for 3 months finally he came home I asked him where he had been. led to an argument. he called cops I didn't know he went into bathroom hit himself in face when cops got there he said I had assaulted him. went to court avo on me for 2 years. didn't leave courtroom and he had got police officer to kick me out of my house. I didn't go home 3 days later the girlfriend moved in. she packed all my stuff and put it in a storage container. a brutal ending

  • @lindasmith998
    @lindasmith998 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The cheating, being arrested when he physically abused me , the lady in my bed and home believes I'm the crazy abusive one , I got myself to a sexual health clinic , I was lucky I had no sti . I've tried to worn her about my 23 year of being abused in every possible way , he moved her into our home , just when my father died in front of my eyes, and took her off on holiday in our caravan on the day of my father's funeral. Only she is blind in love withhim .I've divorced him ,and he's got our commercial properties, our residential properties, caravan, 5 vehicles everything we had together, he claimed as his .He worked the court system! And yes he video my reaction of his discard ,no it wasn't pretty ,made me look crazy alright. He had been ruining my reputation for years with his deceitful lies ,so many people fall for this charming fake . Xx

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am so sorry. I have heard the brazen acts of moving the new girlfriend into your house. What a creeper. I am so sorry about the arrest, try to let go of the shame and turn the dial to show what an asshat he is, let the truth come out and ruin him. Sorry

  • @befree8251
    @befree8251 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tracy!!!! Please do a video on being sued by the narc. I need help!

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      BE Free that is a pretty broad topic. More details would help

    • @befree8251
      @befree8251 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TracyAMaloneafter two civil protection orders my ex (2 years ago) has decided that he is entitled to my belongings and money. He has never been on any deeds or big purchases. He lived in my house off and on for less than 5 years. During which time he would come and go freely, move out randomly and then let himself back in. Which was legal in my state because his mail came there and his driver's license address was my address.
      I don't know the extent of the suit. I am in the process of finding a lawyer.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      BE Free oh good god! I have talked to people that have has to fight this battle. Get a good lawyer 😢

    • @befree8251
      @befree8251 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TracyAMalone thanks Tracy! Keep 'em coming... We need to hear you! You help keep us strong!

  • @Traceyi1000
    @Traceyi1000 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "make an appointment "
    WTF

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I know... it was crazy! You should hear the recording he was crazy and he actually believed his story that I was crazy.. or at least he was sure I would if he said it. I kept asking "why am I crazy?" what did I EVER do? Now I understand he was projecting his guilt to hide his false life. If I could tell the world I would!

    • @drkatherine20
      @drkatherine20 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      That is how grandiose and superior these narcissists feel they are! I was thrown down a flight of stairs when I showed up at my narcissist's home with breakfast before his leaving for a "work trip". Only to find out later he had been with his other supply , the married woman he had been feeding cocaine too and had been having a 5 year affair!" I was clueless for so long and had no idea what was happening to me!

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I thought my narc was madly in love with me. Wrong! I actually had a dream that he dumped me and next day he did. I wanted to talk & he calls the police. I think there should be a law warning or prosecuting narcs. Ohh..no closure IS closure. They won't do it
    They are ruthless demons.

  • @QueenTell
    @QueenTell 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this. I would love to help you gals with this..

  • @SoniaProteau-cj6tk
    @SoniaProteau-cj6tk 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can only control my behaviour, not someone else s

  • @applejuice5068
    @applejuice5068 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love you 😘 girls.. 💖

  • @paulasussman4751
    @paulasussman4751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Can’t make this shit up

    • @paulasussman4751
      @paulasussman4751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TracyAMalone I am getting divorced hope to tell story one day. Scared 33 years

    • @paulasussman4751
      @paulasussman4751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have thought about warning the new supply I told her friend that she shouldn’t give her Social Security number but everybody thinks I’m crazy so I’m just trying to stay quiet and I will delete this later

    • @paulasussman4751
      @paulasussman4751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just learned last week that my husband was with trans men and I am shocked but not shocked if you know what I mean it explains a lot of weird stuff

    • @paulasussman4751
      @paulasussman4751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They use all your weaknesses against you while you continually have hope that becomes a weakness too. Marriage counseling several years he can lie with absolutely not making a face at all and he’s a medical doctor so of course I’m crazy

  • @charlesharveysolis6184
    @charlesharveysolis6184 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ron Diso watch these!

  • @maryholton162
    @maryholton162 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Should be dual.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mary Holton thank you I changed it on my iPad but it takes it sometimes and then I just shared it and it was still holding the typo. Thanks

  • @brownjovi
    @brownjovi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    7:55 :(

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aaron Peters - you understand then... sorry

  • @Cfouc444
    @Cfouc444 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So horrible

  • @jesusacruz8165
    @jesusacruz8165 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My ex narc was bible

    • @jesusacruz8165
      @jesusacruz8165 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My ex narc was a Bible teacher, Deacon and youth pastor , would you believe that . I don't have any suspicion in my 37 years there's no suspicion that he's a sex addict .IM SHOCK ,I CRIED ,THE PERSON that sleeping beside me is very sick in mental mind . He's just wearing a mask. I walk away when I found out but so confused and scared but a lot of people , a community help me along the way on my journey to heal . Also the couches in u tube help a lot in my recovery- thank you Lord - Susana

  • @lexconor8498
    @lexconor8498 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    No disrespect, the story seems scripted, but the storyline itself is utterly plausible.

    • @TracyAMalone
      @TracyAMalone  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lex Conor - it is true and I am a survivor but I am not an actress so if it seemed scripted it was for me to remember what I wanted to share

  • @jimmymiller7256
    @jimmymiller7256 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    All you got do in Alabama just act like u been hurt men's lose everything house kids land pay almonies women's win