See if my parents did that I would’ve just done the opposite and said they were WAY to tight/small and just push my toes forward than back. There’s no come back for their too small. & it’s hard to prove that they’re not actually too small.
@@booknerdjebbi5037lmao, not at shops like this, usually they have one or maybe two of each type of shoe, if you noticed those were the only ones that were there on both shoes
I grew up poor so if I did this to my mom she would’ve felt so bad she would’ve gotten them or tried to and then she’d be worrying about dinner for the week and I’d be happy not realizing it. There were things I wanted and couldn’t have and now as an adult I’m grateful I learned that life lesson when I was young.
my mom was so selfish growing up and i would get nothing, no socks, no clothes, i had to search for hand me downs or steal from the school lost and found. she would buy her self everything though. i wish my mom cared for me.
@solunastra9497 Oh- heeeey I relate to that too because my "step-mom" was like that, but you dealing with it being your actual mom... horrible. No one should go through that.
There's no way a real mom (esp one set on pinching pennies) would fall for this 'trick' lmao. I mean you could say they are uncomfortable/pinching for you and that's not provable but believable. but my mom would be squeezing that shoe toe for herself and threateningly say put your toes all the way down if I tried that bs 😝
Yeah you're better off trying to scoot your toes further forward and suggest they're smaller than the size says cause they're made to be cheaper and cut corners on materials
Yup! Though I'm lucky, my mother just gave me a budget (a cheap one obviously) and let me pick out anything I wanted as long as it was in that price range. She'd often make exceptions if I found something I loved but was a dollar or two more than the budget. But I tried my best not to abuse it unless it was just perfect. We also didn't just look at price. We also looked at functionality, the thickness of the souls incase it were to rain, and the material. We made sure it would be good for all kinds of weather except snow because we always bought boots for that. There was only once or twice I had to get ugly shoes, but we could usually always meet somewhere in the middle.
I like compromise in this situation. Don’t get your kids ‘ugly’ clothes or shoes. But also you don’t need to blow 50 bucks on shoes they’ll outgrow or mess up cos they’re children. Compromise. Find something practical and not too expensive. But also cute to their standards that they like and will want to wear and use.
I was with you until you said “$50 on shoes they’ll outgrow or mess up” $50 is a fucking steal for shoes, not something that’s so far fetched it would be a dumb amount of money to spend on. $60-70 is an average nice shoe, anything there and above is where I’d say you’re splurging, you can find some good deals $40-50 but not always. Anything below that just isn’t good quality. You get longer use out of better shoes, it’s better to spend $70 once than $30-40 repeatedly
@@alyssarodriguez4041 I grew up really poor, so we usually got 15 dollar walmart sneakers. As a kid we managed to make them last at least a year. But teen years however more expensive shoes (normal priced) were more common because we weren'y growing and also we were less likely to mess them up
Idk where everyone is buying shoes that are more than $50. My shoes are about 20, maybe less, at Walmart. I get trying to invest in quality, but Walmart’s tennis shoes do last a good 2-3 years at least if you take care of them.
@@curcubeusiiubirea7778 that’s how it was for me too. I didn’t buy expensive shoes as kid, so most of the shoes I had were from Payless or Walmart. $50 is a lot for kids shoes, especially when you can find a decent pair for 15 or 20 at a cheaper store.
My mom learnt the hard way not to buy me clothes I adamantly insist I do not like. I will not wear them. When I was a kid it was one thing, but when you're a teenager you have a preference and are more or less comfortable in certain things. First example, I have always hated bermuda shorts, I hate how they fit me. They dig into my thighs and I find the length awkward and uncomfortable. I have insisted this to my mom every time she shows me a pair online. So you know what happened? She placed an order and got me what she considered to be an expensive pair of bermuda shorts, without asking me first, (they were like $20-$30 and also way too tight on me) and I DID try them on just to give it the benefit of the doubt. And it was exactly what I'd been saying the whole time, they make me incredibly uncomfortable and the length of them looks stupid on me, and shortens me. She insisted they looked fine but it wasn't just about looks, I wouldn't have ever worn them, not comfortably at least. She's still upset because I deny to even hang them up in my closet. I'm 19 by the way. It's been like this for years. I don't even ask her to buy me those things, she just wants to play dress up with me basically. I will say that she did get me stuff I liked and was comfortable in, but no matter how many times I tell her not to waste her money on something I won't wear, she'll still buy it and then be upset that she wasn't able to convince me and that the money was wasted (after I tell her not to)
It’s selective hearing half the time, I made certain my mom knew to give me a spending limit and the items I needed, that way I could find what I wanted and not cause problems. She learned this lesson the hard way too.
I asked my family to stop buying me clothes as gifts when I was 13~ years old because they never got me anything I would actually wear, whether it be due to style or comfortability. I said if they want to get me clothes then give me a gift card or let me pick out something. Never again did I have an unwanted piece of clothing stuffed in the back of my dresser.
Some moms seem to have a hard time adjusting to not being able to dress up their kids in whatever way they want anymore. My mom thankfully listened to me when i said i didn't like certain clothes, but she still sometimes tries to push things on me that are more her style than mine
@@nienkehuijbens301 That's the thing, I'll still try on the clothes. Like we went to Florida this month and while shopping I tried on just about anything she asked me to. About 3/4 of it was my style, 1/4 was the style she wants for me. There was one horrific floral dress though that she still ended up buying because she said the colours looked good on me. I love floral, but not THAT kind of floral. At least it was an outlet store, so it was cheap. I did tell her I'd never wear it, so it was her choice.
My mom would do this and it would irk me to no end!!! I was already ring bullied for being fat and her style of clothes were always grandma-ish which made things worse. She would get so mad when I would not wear what she bought me. My step dad on the other hand always listened to me and what I liked and he would always return the clothes and get me stuff he knew I would wear. It was a constant argument with my mom. He would always tell her to just buy me stuff I actually likes and her money wouldn’t be wasted. (My clothing style was alway so much cheaper than my moms too. I wasn’t allowed to get a job so couldn’t make my own money to buy my own clothes 😭)
Getting something your kids want, maybe not exactly like they want like the ones out of price range, but something close to what they want is a good way of making sure they will actually get used instead of discarded at the next chance they get
Back in my day we had Payless. My mom always made sure we found at least two shoes we liked and were comfy. When Payless was closing I took her to one and told her to get two shoes she really liked and on sale and I would buy her shoes. The woman grabbed six and called it a “mom tax”
I’m a 15 year old southern girl with big honkin feet so when I went boot shopping with my dad i told him I wanted steel toed boots (because I work with horses) and absolutely NO PINK! He was like “ok, round toed or square toed?” I said square… the only size they had in women’s was a 7.5… I’m a 10… he took me to the men’s section and found me the most amazing pair of boots that were 8.5 in men’s and they fit me PERFECTLY, they were $110 and he said “if I buy these are you gonna wear em?” I said “yep” he bought them and I’ve worn em every day since 😂
I bought $80 boots & wore them for 4-5 winters walking from the bus stop to stores & back. I'd wear them longer in the seasons too. There were literally holes in the bottom before I got another pair.
I remember when I was a little kid in the 50's. my mother liked saddle shoes and I hated them. she made me wear them. so I would ride my bike and scrape them up really bad. I wanted to wear my patent leather T straps instead. I didn't care they were too small and hurt my feet. patent leather cost more and she didn't want to spend extra money. I was an awful kid. In 3rd grade and I needed a winter coat. I seen a plaid coat with a fur collar, I was so in love with it and really wanted it. she liked a navy cloth one that was much cheaper. Navy was her favorite color. I realized the one I wanted cost a lot of money back in the day. lucky my dad drove us to Sears that night and he was tired. he wasn't in the mood to negotiate so he said just buy the d coat the kid wants and let's go. my mother was so mad at me. I felt guilty but I loved that coat. I wore it for the next 4 years even though it was way too small and probably looked ridiculous. I still love that coat and that's been almost 70 years ago since I was 8 years old lol. I took my kids back to school shopping and let them pick out what they liked. buy what kids like and you won't waste your money. if we like it we will wear it all the time.😊
Its true. My parents always bought us a bunch of stuff for back to school and I don’t like these binders or I don’t like those notebooks or whatever and I convince them to buy different ones that I like. Could’ve saved money if they didn’t but the ones I didn’t like 🤷♀️ (also the notebooks they bought me were a cute matching set and I was so happy and I told all my friends abt my new notebooks and they were my pride and joy at school 🤩)
I got one pair of expensive shoes and one pair of cheap shoes when they’d do the “buy one get one half off” every year. I would then not get any shoes for the rest of the year. My mom’s only rule was they had to last me until the next time we bought shoes. Worked out pretty well, but I was always sad when the end of the year came and my mom would make me throw out the shoes that were more holes than shoe.
Also if the shoes did not last (I was really hard on my shoes growing up - clumsy kid) we would go buy $10 shoes that were crappy but would work until it was shoe buying time again. Now I only buy shoes once a year or less cause I’m less hard on them, but I really learned how to care for the shoes that I loved as I got older. I have a pair of converse still from 2014 that I only wear on special occasions and I treasure them (they were a pair I designed and my mom helped me pay for them and was very specific that I had to be careful with them and take care of them, and now they’re almost a decade old and still look relatively new)
though we didn't have much money (so I'd rarely question them anyway 💀) my parents actually had pretty good fashion sense and somehow always found cheap things that I actually liked
When my daughter got to a certain age, if she wanted something like this that was out of our budget I’d say… we have this much to spend. I’ll pay this much, and you can make up the difference. Between allowance and birthday money, she always had savings…if she wanted them that badly, she’d pay it. But most of the time, she pulled the grandma card. 😂😂
It’s basically the opposite for me. My mom tries to get me to buy 25 or 30 dollar shoes, and I just argue back with wanting 15 dollar ones since I feel guilty for spending that much money on shoes. I’m really happy she’s willing to spend money on me, no matter how expensive, but I’d rather have cheap shoes so I can have a clear conscience.
you seem like a good kid! It's usually okay to shop around a little, though! if the store has a pair you don't like for $15, they might also have other styles for $15! we can only do our best. your parents probably appreciate it, but try not to let that impulse take the joy out of your new things!
So uh, here's the thing, my mom let's me buy any shoes I like (ofc not expensive), I'm pretty sure I'm just lucky to have mom like this Edit: y'all I'm not trying to brag at all I was just commenting on what I thought, that's what comment sections are about Edit 2: why is the fight getting worse? They really don't need to continue XD Edit 3: NAH CONTINUE FIGHTING I THINK IT'S FUNNY /j
I wouldn't buy designer prices, but I would never force my kids to wear shoes they don't love. I always make sure they fit well and they love them. If that means a little more money, so be it.
I grew up low income. My parents sacrificed everything to give us the best life they could. Mum at one point was wearing shoes with holes in the soles that she'd glued backtogether and glued a shaped peice of plastic (I think it was from a display file) into. She couldn't buy hereself new shoes because my older brother and I needed new shoes for school. We got majority of our clothing from ops shops. But mum never brought us cheap quality shoes. She'd always say "your feet are very important and as they grow they are being shaped for adulthood". This doesn't mean we had designer brand shoes. They were just the best quality mum could get on our low budget. We owned 4 pairs of shoes each: runners, leather school sandals, church shoes, and track shoes for little athletics. I remember that the track shoes were always hand-me-downs from other parents at little athletics or opshop finds. Our church shoes were also usually opshop finds or hand-me-downs from other familes at church. But the runners and school sandals were new. I also remember my grandfather gave mum money for our runners. Mum would tell us how much between the 2 of us and sometimes I'd chose a cheaper pair so my brother could have a more expensive pair and sometimes me brother would chose a cheaper pair so I could chose a more expensive pair. I when a lady at church noticed mums shoes were broken and she asked me to find out mum's shoe size for her. She got mum 3 new pairs of shoes. It was lovely seeing mum light up opening those shoe boxes. When I got a job I started buying mum shoes. Also bought myself a lot of shoes. Shoes became something special for us.
And when we go shoe shopping, my mom tells me to not worry about the price as long as it's comfortable enough to wear for the next 5 years 😭 I love my mom, she sacrifices so much for me... she knows I have bad knees so I really need expensive foam shoes to walk around all day (I go to farm school so there's A LOT of walking involved). Of course we don't go in the thousands, but my last pair was $250-$300 and it's definitely gonna last me for a WHILE so technically, it's worth it
“But she’ll never know-“ Yeah, incorrect. My mother would have found my size and thrown them in the buggy without asking or telling me again that I was getting those 😂 💀 ❤love you momma❤
As someone who is a supervisor as a big chain shoe store, 40 bucks is not only cheap but the best price. It’s wild how they will sell CHILDRENS shoes at $80 they’ll grow out of in a few months. Embrace the ugly but comfortable shoes.
Even if we were broke as hell I would never make my kids wear stuff they don’t like. That’s an easy way to make sure I’ve wasted my money because they won’t wear them and it’s not worth the headache getting them to try.
my mom was at the store and picked out some shoes and sent a pic to me to see if i liked them.. bro no way i was gonna say yea to the rainbow barf shoes 💀 and when she brought me there i immediately picked out shoes that fit and werent ugly within 5 minutes
My mum would give me two or three options for shoes or clothes, and then I’d get to pick which one I liked the most. That way, she bought something she could afford, but I got to make the decision and have my choice.
I don't recall my mom ever doing this to me. Maybe for clothes, but not for shoes - I am told we have a budget and to choose shoes within that so I still get to make the choice. She makes sure that it'll a bigger size, but not too big as if I'm wearing boots 😂, only big enough if I wear thick socks. This doesn't mean I buy shoes all the time though. My mom believes in reasonable prices so we don't buy shoes that are too cheap since they're prone to wearing out earlier. When I started working, it's one of those things that I loved doing for my mom - buying her shoes. I bought her a nice pair of rubber shoes for zumba classes last December (Christmas gift). She passed this January. I miss her so much.
My parents divorced When i was 7 but My mom always did the shopping with me she doesn’t wanted me to have expensive shoes because she knew i am gonna grow up from them fast. My dream was having white Converst i took them as expensive shoes and one day after two years of asking of them my mom bought them because i had some really rough time that day i cried of happiness. Recently i was feeling bad because i needed new shoes and she bought me ones for almost 60$ maybe for some people it’s not much but even after 17 years my most expensive shoes are my convers for 75$
We were DIRT POOR as a child so whenever my mom forced me to go shoe shopping I would lie and say none of the shoes fit me or they hurt just so that we wouldn’t have to spend more money on shoes. If she forced me to buy shoes then I would choose the cheapest yet durable and long lasting shoes I could find as to not have to get more for a long while. We later became well off and, against my ptsd induced protest and fear of being broke again, she would spoil me rotten. I love my mom so much and I thank her for everything she gives me in life. ❤❤
I'd never lie making my parents spend more than twice the amount they're comfortable spending. Just ask the store if they have cheaper shoes that look like the ones you like....
My dad showed me a pair of shoes he thought I would like and he offered to get them, and I loved them, but they were like $130 and I felt so bad asking him to get them so I went with a cheaper pair.
My mom did that with clothes. I had to say they were too little in one area and to big in another. One day I thought, "whatever, I'll get the ugly pants I'll never wear. . . it's her money." She taught me, lol. She made me get money out of my savings and pay her back. (She had a very small budget, major couponer, and five offspring to buy for. . . and my grandfather had given me a calf, which funded my savings.)
I’m not a brat. A parent who doesn’t take their child’s preference into account is a brat. My mom would have never made me buy something I didn’t love. She would have found a way to find what I wanted at a great sale price. I would never make my kids wear things they hate. Life is too short.
This unlocked old childhood memories. My parents would not consider this a problem qnd just say that it means it'll fit you longer because you'll grow into them.
Ok off topic but I am so grateful that I have parents that can afford to buy me any shoes for any price. Seeing how other people this $40 is expensive for a pair, made me realize how privileged I am to have $100+ shoes. I’m actually really grateful.
Yeah i pulled crap like this as a kid. And my working class mum was so riddled with guilt that she couldnt provided the best, while working two jobs, that she would make the expensive stuff happen and i would be in my happy little bubble with my new piece of tat while she gets to stress about how to keep the heat on for another month. Unfortunately she suffered a serious workplace accident and couldnt work for years. We went from being barely comfortable to being well below the poverty line. I went from being a spoiled brat to a twelve year old who had to do most of the household cooking and cleaning and caring for my mum. I wosh she hadnt gone through that, but im so greatful for the appreciation it taught me. I know this is just a funny skit but i cant help but worry about all the 10- 15 year olds who will see this and think they're getting one up on their "cheap" mum, when really youve just taught them how to guilt their parents into deeper poverty.
Parents learn the hard way to listen to what their kids want, especially when it comes to clothing. My parents would continuously buy me the same food that I told them I never liked and when I never ate it, they would go “You never eat anything we buy you.” No duh, I told you I wasn’t gonna eat it before you bought it.
Some people don’t know what it’s like to be poor. I remember when I was like, 12, I wanted a new game system for my birthday and she said, “honey, I’m sorry we won’t be able to get you that game system you wanted. I looked her in the face and said, “well yeah, mom of course not. I know We don’t have that kind of money. It’s ok.” And she was sad but she was grateful I understood why we couldn’t afford it😂😂 I’m grateful for my mom and everything she did for me.❤️❤️
I feel that so much. Like yeah, my mom would give me anything she could, but she couldn't give me every single thing I wanted. People are insinuating that not always getting exactly what you want due to the price means the parents don't love you or care for you as much... Ridiculous to me
I get shoes second hand, the main goal is comfort. Not many parents want to involve children in their financial situation, so just corporate by taking no for no. If your good parent you shouldn’t push your kids to wear things they don’t like, respect goes both ways.
I honestly would never make my mom buy me something she hesitates to get even tho we are a pretty well off family, my parents still know the worth of money and spend it well. My parents usually get me what i want but i can't imagine making them get something they think is expensive/not worth the money.
Lol I grew up not getting the cute shoes I wanted (most of the time I didn’t. Occasionally I did), so now I give my daughter the cute things she wants, BUT. I make sure she understands if she wants those, there’s less money for other things like toys (she’s 5). She is like me where we’d rather save for what we really want and have less frequent but more satisfying presents. I’d gladly go without three pairs of budgets shoes to get the real ones I like. 😊 (I’m decently frugal, so I can make it work where I’m never actually going without, and neither is my daughter, but we don’t always have those giant shopping hauls.)
My mom use to get my sibling and I these big ugly khakis pants for school she insisted (this was when khakis skinny pants were starting to trend) so me and my sibling would throw them away or hide them some place no one could find them and lie like the pants disappeared. We finally told her that no one is wearing those pants anymore and she finally got us the ones we wanted so we ended up telling her what we’ve been doing to the other pants this whole time as we got older and we ended up laughing about it 😂
Honest to god, I hated going shopping but loved it. My mom would be like “money isn’t a problem! Get whatever you want!” And then we’d be eating tacos for the next week
My mam used to make me stand up then squish down to see where my toes ended, like can you stop my freaking toes are in there and I need them to walk haha.
Shoes were always the things my parents would splurge on. Dad would say, you depend on your feet to get you everywhere, so you buy whats comfortable and what you like.
and then they hit you with the “you’ll grow into them”
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Or instead pretend to struggle getting your feet in and say there too small
Exactly😂
"Stop curling your toes just because you don't like them!"
Or better yet
"Perfect! You'll grow into them."
See if my parents did that I would’ve just done the opposite and said they were WAY to tight/small and just push my toes forward than back. There’s no come back for their too small. & it’s hard to prove that they’re not actually too small.
@alyssarodriguez4041 yes there is. It's called getting a size up
@@booknerdjebbi5037lmao, not at shops like this, usually they have one or maybe two of each type of shoe, if you noticed those were the only ones that were there on both shoes
@@booknerdjebbi5037say the sides are too tight then. I dont know.
Then they just keep changing sizes on you to find a size that fits
Forty bucks for shoes IS cheap 😭
Maybe for you
Exactly! Like if that's not cheap enough she needs Goodwill or some thrift store.
Bro what type of shoes are you buying?😂
Exactly! So many shoes are like 100$ for no reason
But not as cheap as 14 tho moms got a point
I grew up poor so if I did this to my mom she would’ve felt so bad she would’ve gotten them or tried to and then she’d be worrying about dinner for the week and I’d be happy not realizing it. There were things I wanted and couldn’t have and now as an adult I’m grateful I learned that life lesson when I was young.
aww i’m so sorry you had to go through that
my mom was so selfish growing up and i would get nothing, no socks, no clothes, i had to search for hand me downs or steal from the school lost and found. she would buy her self everything though. i wish my mom cared for me.
Hey, I relate. You aren't alone dude, you doing better now, though?
@solunastra9497 Oh- heeeey I relate to that too because my "step-mom" was like that, but you dealing with it being your actual mom... horrible. No one should go through that.
@@solunastra9497this is horrible, I cannot imagine..😢
There's no way a real mom (esp one set on pinching pennies) would fall for this 'trick' lmao. I mean you could say they are uncomfortable/pinching for you and that's not provable but believable. but my mom would be squeezing that shoe toe for herself and threateningly say put your toes all the way down if I tried that bs 😝
Yeah you're better off trying to scoot your toes further forward and suggest they're smaller than the size says cause they're made to be cheaper and cut corners on materials
Yup! Though I'm lucky, my mother just gave me a budget (a cheap one obviously) and let me pick out anything I wanted as long as it was in that price range. She'd often make exceptions if I found something I loved but was a dollar or two more than the budget. But I tried my best not to abuse it unless it was just perfect.
We also didn't just look at price.
We also looked at functionality, the thickness of the souls incase it were to rain, and the material.
We made sure it would be good for all kinds of weather except snow because we always bought boots for that.
There was only once or twice I had to get ugly shoes, but we could usually always meet somewhere in the middle.
Yep. if they've got one pair for $15, we can keep shopping!
I like compromise in this situation. Don’t get your kids ‘ugly’ clothes or shoes. But also you don’t need to blow 50 bucks on shoes they’ll outgrow or mess up cos they’re children.
Compromise. Find something practical and not too expensive. But also cute to their standards that they like and will want to wear and use.
I was with you until you said “$50 on shoes they’ll outgrow or mess up” $50 is a fucking steal for shoes, not something that’s so far fetched it would be a dumb amount of money to spend on. $60-70 is an average nice shoe, anything there and above is where I’d say you’re splurging, you can find some good deals $40-50 but not always. Anything below that just isn’t good quality. You get longer use out of better shoes, it’s better to spend $70 once than $30-40 repeatedly
@@alyssarodriguez4041 I grew up really poor, so we usually got 15 dollar walmart sneakers. As a kid we managed to make them last at least a year. But teen years however more expensive shoes (normal priced) were more common because we weren'y growing and also we were less likely to mess them up
Idk where everyone is buying shoes that are more than $50. My shoes are about 20, maybe less, at Walmart. I get trying to invest in quality, but Walmart’s tennis shoes do last a good 2-3 years at least if you take care of them.
@@alyssarodriguez4041i do not know where you're shopping.. go to thrift stores. you don't need new shoes.
@@curcubeusiiubirea7778 that’s how it was for me too. I didn’t buy expensive shoes as kid, so most of the shoes I had were from Payless or Walmart. $50 is a lot for kids shoes, especially when you can find a decent pair for 15 or 20 at a cheaper store.
My mom learnt the hard way not to buy me clothes I adamantly insist I do not like. I will not wear them. When I was a kid it was one thing, but when you're a teenager you have a preference and are more or less comfortable in certain things.
First example, I have always hated bermuda shorts, I hate how they fit me. They dig into my thighs and I find the length awkward and uncomfortable. I have insisted this to my mom every time she shows me a pair online. So you know what happened? She placed an order and got me what she considered to be an expensive pair of bermuda shorts, without asking me first, (they were like $20-$30 and also way too tight on me) and I DID try them on just to give it the benefit of the doubt. And it was exactly what I'd been saying the whole time, they make me incredibly uncomfortable and the length of them looks stupid on me, and shortens me. She insisted they looked fine but it wasn't just about looks, I wouldn't have ever worn them, not comfortably at least. She's still upset because I deny to even hang them up in my closet. I'm 19 by the way. It's been like this for years. I don't even ask her to buy me those things, she just wants to play dress up with me basically.
I will say that she did get me stuff I liked and was comfortable in, but no matter how many times I tell her not to waste her money on something I won't wear, she'll still buy it and then be upset that she wasn't able to convince me and that the money was wasted (after I tell her not to)
It’s selective hearing half the time, I made certain my mom knew to give me a spending limit and the items I needed, that way I could find what I wanted and not cause problems. She learned this lesson the hard way too.
I asked my family to stop buying me clothes as gifts when I was 13~ years old because they never got me anything I would actually wear, whether it be due to style or comfortability. I said if they want to get me clothes then give me a gift card or let me pick out something. Never again did I have an unwanted piece of clothing stuffed in the back of my dresser.
Some moms seem to have a hard time adjusting to not being able to dress up their kids in whatever way they want anymore. My mom thankfully listened to me when i said i didn't like certain clothes, but she still sometimes tries to push things on me that are more her style than mine
@@nienkehuijbens301 That's the thing, I'll still try on the clothes. Like we went to Florida this month and while shopping I tried on just about anything she asked me to. About 3/4 of it was my style, 1/4 was the style she wants for me.
There was one horrific floral dress though that she still ended up buying because she said the colours looked good on me. I love floral, but not THAT kind of floral. At least it was an outlet store, so it was cheap. I did tell her I'd never wear it, so it was her choice.
My mom would do this and it would irk me to no end!!! I was already ring bullied for being fat and her style of clothes were always grandma-ish which made things worse. She would get so mad when I would not wear what she bought me. My step dad on the other hand always listened to me and what I liked and he would always return the clothes and get me stuff he knew I would wear. It was a constant argument with my mom. He would always tell her to just buy me stuff I actually likes and her money wouldn’t be wasted. (My clothing style was alway so much cheaper than my moms too. I wasn’t allowed to get a job so couldn’t make my own money to buy my own clothes 😭)
Getting something your kids want, maybe not exactly like they want like the ones out of price range, but something close to what they want is a good way of making sure they will actually get used instead of discarded at the next chance they get
$40 is a steal for shoes 😭
dang yall, where i live shoes are average $100
Na that's privilege shi, I don't spend more then $20 on ANY shoes
@@gamehunter3777do u have kid feet
@@gamehunter3777that's not privilege at all 💀💀 shoes where I live are like average 100$ so 40 is very cheap
@@cherryig2750 does no one in this comment section go to thrift stores ☠️
Ahuh okay☠️ that’s pricey now a days.
Back in my day we had Payless. My mom always made sure we found at least two shoes we liked and were comfy. When Payless was closing I took her to one and told her to get two shoes she really liked and on sale and I would buy her shoes. The woman grabbed six and called it a “mom tax”
Growing up, payless was THE spot. 👌
My mom used to use coupons on clearance items, and we'd get shoes as low as $8
I’m a 15 year old southern girl with big honkin feet so when I went boot shopping with my dad i told him I wanted steel toed boots (because I work with horses) and absolutely NO PINK! He was like “ok, round toed or square toed?” I said square… the only size they had in women’s was a 7.5… I’m a 10… he took me to the men’s section and found me the most amazing pair of boots that were 8.5 in men’s and they fit me PERFECTLY, they were $110 and he said “if I buy these are you gonna wear em?” I said “yep” he bought them and I’ve worn em every day since 😂
Boots are like that, I've been meaning to shop for boots lately but whew, it's a lot to spend on one thing! but they should be good for a while!
I bought $80 boots & wore them for 4-5 winters walking from the bus stop to stores & back.
I'd wear them longer in the seasons too.
There were literally holes in the bottom before I got another pair.
I remember when I was a little kid in the 50's. my mother liked saddle shoes and I hated them. she made me wear them. so I would ride my bike and scrape them up really bad. I wanted to wear my patent leather T straps instead. I didn't care they were too small and hurt my feet. patent leather cost more and she didn't want to spend extra money. I was an awful kid. In 3rd grade and I needed a winter coat. I seen a plaid coat with a fur collar, I was so in love with it and really wanted it. she liked a navy cloth one that was much cheaper. Navy was her favorite color. I realized the one I wanted cost a lot of money back in the day. lucky my dad drove us to Sears that night and he was tired. he wasn't in the mood to negotiate so he said just buy the d coat the kid wants and let's go. my mother was so mad at me. I felt guilty but I loved that coat. I wore it for the next 4 years even though it was way too small and probably looked ridiculous. I still love that coat and that's been almost 70 years ago since I was 8 years old lol. I took my kids back to school shopping and let them pick out what they liked. buy what kids like and you won't waste your money. if we like it we will wear it all the time.😊
What an amazing story!
Maybe don’t be an ungrateful brat
Its true. My parents always bought us a bunch of stuff for back to school and I don’t like these binders or I don’t like those notebooks or whatever and I convince them to buy different ones that I like. Could’ve saved money if they didn’t but the ones I didn’t like 🤷♀️ (also the notebooks they bought me were a cute matching set and I was so happy and I told all my friends abt my new notebooks and they were my pride and joy at school 🤩)
@@xoxopreppyemiSAME!
Yess, cause when I get something I like, I take better care of it and use it for longer then the next year, we aren't going through same cycle
I got one pair of expensive shoes and one pair of cheap shoes when they’d do the “buy one get one half off” every year. I would then not get any shoes for the rest of the year. My mom’s only rule was they had to last me until the next time we bought shoes. Worked out pretty well, but I was always sad when the end of the year came and my mom would make me throw out the shoes that were more holes than shoe.
Also if the shoes did not last (I was really hard on my shoes growing up - clumsy kid) we would go buy $10 shoes that were crappy but would work until it was shoe buying time again. Now I only buy shoes once a year or less cause I’m less hard on them, but I really learned how to care for the shoes that I loved as I got older. I have a pair of converse still from 2014 that I only wear on special occasions and I treasure them (they were a pair I designed and my mom helped me pay for them and was very specific that I had to be careful with them and take care of them, and now they’re almost a decade old and still look relatively new)
lmao, i've had two pairs of shoes for four years (one of which are school shoes!), almost all the people in this comment section are crazy privileged
Nice. TWO pairs of shoes!
I have wide feet so I just hit her with the “my feet hurt”
I would say that and then she'd say "you an always just break them in:
People like you that lie like that just to get what you want are lowkey ungrateful and clearly don’t know what it’s like to struggle or be told no
@@kyarramcclellan who said I was lying 🤨
though we didn't have much money (so I'd rarely question them anyway 💀) my parents actually had pretty good fashion sense and somehow always found cheap things that I actually liked
When my daughter got to a certain age, if she wanted something like this that was out of our budget I’d say… we have this much to spend. I’ll pay this much, and you can make up the difference. Between allowance and birthday money, she always had savings…if she wanted them that badly, she’d pay it. But most of the time, she pulled the grandma card. 😂😂
She didn’t even feel the toes😂
İ'm so gratefull my parents never care about the money when it's about shoes, school, clothing and when we want something.
They didn’t care cuz they had money trust me when you don’t have the money it’s not that you care it’s that you can’t afford it
@@lusiespinoza3823exactly
Ur kinda spoiled🫡 atleast ur grateful
Just becuase my parents buys the things when İ need/want them doesn't mean İ'm spoiled 🫡
My parents didn’t care about the money as long as it was good quality and would last me at least 9 months to a year
It’s basically the opposite for me. My mom tries to get me to buy 25 or 30 dollar shoes, and I just argue back with wanting 15 dollar ones since I feel guilty for spending that much money on shoes. I’m really happy she’s willing to spend money on me, no matter how expensive, but I’d rather have cheap shoes so I can have a clear conscience.
you seem like a good kid! It's usually okay to shop around a little, though! if the store has a pair you don't like for $15, they might also have other styles for $15! we can only do our best. your parents probably appreciate it, but try not to let that impulse take the joy out of your new things!
So uh, here's the thing, my mom let's me buy any shoes I like (ofc not expensive), I'm pretty sure I'm just lucky to have mom like this
Edit: y'all I'm not trying to brag at all I was just commenting on what I thought, that's what comment sections are about
Edit 2: why is the fight getting worse? They really don't need to continue XD
Edit 3: NAH CONTINUE FIGHTING I THINK IT'S FUNNY /j
Nobody AT ALL asked
I did.
@@thegingedingo6608don’t be rude, thank you.
Lucky u honestly. I had to steal shoes since my mum didn’t buy me any.
@@KA-jo8vnu got caught?!?!
just tell the sales person which ones you like and your budget bc they almost always have something similar cheaper
I wouldn't buy designer prices, but I would never force my kids to wear shoes they don't love. I always make sure they fit well and they love them. If that means a little more money, so be it.
Not everyone can afford to do that though
@@AshFireSo? Did they ask? They just talking about their situation. If your more poor just say that. No need to get snippy at Op
Nah my mom would be like “Well then you aren’t getting any shoes today. Just work with the ones you have, I’m not made of money”😂
I grew up low income. My parents sacrificed everything to give us the best life they could. Mum at one point was wearing shoes with holes in the soles that she'd glued backtogether and glued a shaped peice of plastic (I think it was from a display file) into. She couldn't buy hereself new shoes because my older brother and I needed new shoes for school. We got majority of our clothing from ops shops. But mum never brought us cheap quality shoes. She'd always say "your feet are very important and as they grow they are being shaped for adulthood". This doesn't mean we had designer brand shoes. They were just the best quality mum could get on our low budget. We owned 4 pairs of shoes each: runners, leather school sandals, church shoes, and track shoes for little athletics. I remember that the track shoes were always hand-me-downs from other parents at little athletics or opshop finds. Our church shoes were also usually opshop finds or hand-me-downs from other familes at church. But the runners and school sandals were new. I also remember my grandfather gave mum money for our runners. Mum would tell us how much between the 2 of us and sometimes I'd chose a cheaper pair so my brother could have a more expensive pair and sometimes me brother would chose a cheaper pair so I could chose a more expensive pair. I when a lady at church noticed mums shoes were broken and she asked me to find out mum's shoe size for her. She got mum 3 new pairs of shoes. It was lovely seeing mum light up opening those shoe boxes. When I got a job I started buying mum shoes. Also bought myself a lot of shoes. Shoes became something special for us.
And when we go shoe shopping, my mom tells me to not worry about the price as long as it's comfortable enough to wear for the next 5 years 😭 I love my mom, she sacrifices so much for me... she knows I have bad knees so I really need expensive foam shoes to walk around all day (I go to farm school so there's A LOT of walking involved). Of course we don't go in the thousands, but my last pair was $250-$300 and it's definitely gonna last me for a WHILE so technically, it's worth it
As a mom I'd check myself, however, my kids are under 9 so they wouldn't care....they hate shoes anyway 😂
“But she’ll never know-“ Yeah, incorrect. My mother would have found my size and thrown them in the buggy without asking or telling me again that I was getting those 😂 💀
❤love you momma❤
As someone who is a supervisor as a big chain shoe store, 40 bucks is not only cheap but the best price. It’s wild how they will sell CHILDRENS shoes at $80 they’ll grow out of in a few months. Embrace the ugly but comfortable shoes.
Even if we were broke as hell I would never make my kids wear stuff they don’t like. That’s an easy way to make sure I’ve wasted my money because they won’t wear them and it’s not worth the headache getting them to try.
my mom was at the store and picked out some shoes and sent a pic to me to see if i liked them.. bro no way i was gonna say yea to the rainbow barf shoes 💀 and when she brought me there i immediately picked out shoes that fit and werent ugly within 5 minutes
My mum would give me two or three options for shoes or clothes, and then I’d get to pick which one I liked the most. That way, she bought something she could afford, but I got to make the decision and have my choice.
I don't recall my mom ever doing this to me. Maybe for clothes, but not for shoes - I am told we have a budget and to choose shoes within that so I still get to make the choice. She makes sure that it'll a bigger size, but not too big as if I'm wearing boots 😂, only big enough if I wear thick socks. This doesn't mean I buy shoes all the time though. My mom believes in reasonable prices so we don't buy shoes that are too cheap since they're prone to wearing out earlier. When I started working, it's one of those things that I loved doing for my mom - buying her shoes. I bought her a nice pair of rubber shoes for zumba classes last December (Christmas gift). She passed this January. I miss her so much.
Some folks never had to balance a family on a budget... must be difficult thinking of someone other than yourselves.
My parents divorced When i was 7 but My mom always did the shopping with me she doesn’t wanted me to have expensive shoes because she knew i am gonna grow up from them fast. My dream was having white Converst i took them as expensive shoes and one day after two years of asking of them my mom bought them because i had some really rough time that day i cried of happiness. Recently i was feeling bad because i needed new shoes and she bought me ones for almost 60$ maybe for some people it’s not much but even after 17 years my most expensive shoes are my convers for 75$
We were DIRT POOR as a child so whenever my mom forced me to go shoe shopping I would lie and say none of the shoes fit me or they hurt just so that we wouldn’t have to spend more money on shoes. If she forced me to buy shoes then I would choose the cheapest yet durable and long lasting shoes I could find as to not have to get more for a long while. We later became well off and, against my ptsd induced protest and fear of being broke again, she would spoil me rotten. I love my mom so much and I thank her for everything she gives me in life. ❤❤
I'd never lie making my parents spend more than twice the amount they're comfortable spending. Just ask the store if they have cheaper shoes that look like the ones you like....
My dad showed me a pair of shoes he thought I would like and he offered to get them, and I loved them, but they were like $130 and I felt so bad asking him to get them so I went with a cheaper pair.
My mom did that with clothes. I had to say they were too little in one area and to big in another.
One day I thought, "whatever, I'll get the ugly pants I'll never wear. . . it's her money."
She taught me, lol.
She made me get money out of my savings and pay her back.
(She had a very small budget, major couponer, and five offspring to buy for. . . and my grandfather had given me a calf, which funded my savings.)
The juicy couture purse such a classic 👌🏽 ❤
I just say “but mom, it would be a waste of your money because I’m not wearing those”
I would have refused to try them on
You sound like a real treat 👎🏾👎🏾
Brat
I’m not a brat. A parent who doesn’t take their child’s preference into account is a brat. My mom would have never made me buy something I didn’t love. She would have found a way to find what I wanted at a great sale price. I would never make my kids wear things they hate. Life is too short.
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…a little bit more
….Nearly there
…… Alittle longer
….. you made it “ put a ❤️ is you enjoy your life
This unlocked old childhood memories. My parents would not consider this a problem qnd just say that it means it'll fit you longer because you'll grow into them.
Lmfaooo my mama will tell me unball my foot so quick 😂😂 yes ma'am, sorry ma'am 😂
"even better, you'll grow into them"
"mom my foot size hasn't changed in over 5 years"
"i said you'll grow into them."
Ironically, that second pair is actually really cute! (Maybe im biased because I like purple idk lol)
Ok off topic but I am so grateful that I have parents that can afford to buy me any shoes for any price. Seeing how other people this $40 is expensive for a pair, made me realize how privileged I am to have $100+ shoes. I’m actually really grateful.
The shoe ASMR is so scrumptious even if it’s just maybe 1 or two quiet taps
My mom would walk up and feel for herself😭
Yeah i pulled crap like this as a kid. And my working class mum was so riddled with guilt that she couldnt provided the best, while working two jobs, that she would make the expensive stuff happen and i would be in my happy little bubble with my new piece of tat while she gets to stress about how to keep the heat on for another month.
Unfortunately she suffered a serious workplace accident and couldnt work for years. We went from being barely comfortable to being well below the poverty line. I went from being a spoiled brat to a twelve year old who had to do most of the household cooking and cleaning and caring for my mum. I wosh she hadnt gone through that, but im so greatful for the appreciation it taught me.
I know this is just a funny skit but i cant help but worry about all the 10- 15 year olds who will see this and think they're getting one up on their "cheap" mum, when really youve just taught them how to guilt their parents into deeper poverty.
My mom never made me pick stuff I didn’t like. Thank goodness for her 🎉
Parents learn the hard way to listen to what their kids want, especially when it comes to clothing. My parents would continuously buy me the same food that I told them I never liked and when I never ate it, they would go “You never eat anything we buy you.” No duh, I told you I wasn’t gonna eat it before you bought it.
Tbh, the bigger the better because “you’ll grow into them” 🤣🤣
Nah. They’d yell at you to not scoot your toes down. 😂 I know I wouldn’t fall for that.
My mom would say you WILL grow into them 😂
Some people don’t know what it’s like to be poor. I remember when I was like, 12, I wanted a new game system for my birthday and she said, “honey, I’m sorry we won’t be able to get you that game system you wanted. I looked her in the face and said, “well yeah, mom of course not. I know We don’t have that kind of money. It’s ok.” And she was sad but she was grateful I understood why we couldn’t afford it😂😂 I’m grateful for my mom and everything she did for me.❤️❤️
I feel that so much. Like yeah, my mom would give me anything she could, but she couldn't give me every single thing I wanted. People are insinuating that not always getting exactly what you want due to the price means the parents don't love you or care for you as much... Ridiculous to me
I'm glad my mom is the type of person who needs things to match
“Great, more space to grow! You’ll get those.”
I’ll take the bowling shoes for you! They’re honestly really cute!
My momma used to check herself 😭😭
“These ones” just say these lol one of my biggest pet peeves. 😂
My mom would respond with “it’s ok, you’ll grow into them ☺️”
In Canada, things startin to get too expensive 🙂
my mom would have said “we’re going somewhere else then” 😭
My mom will hit ya wit da“You’ll grow into them”
I get shoes second hand, the main goal is comfort. Not many parents want to involve children in their financial situation, so just corporate by taking no for no.
If your good parent you shouldn’t push your kids to wear things they don’t like, respect goes both ways.
I honestly would never make my mom buy me something she hesitates to get even tho we are a pretty well off family, my parents still know the worth of money and spend it well.
My parents usually get me what i want but i can't imagine making them get something they think is expensive/not worth the money.
Lol I grew up not getting the cute shoes I wanted (most of the time I didn’t. Occasionally I did), so now I give my daughter the cute things she wants, BUT. I make sure she understands if she wants those, there’s less money for other things like toys (she’s 5). She is like me where we’d rather save for what we really want and have less frequent but more satisfying presents. I’d gladly go without three pairs of budgets shoes to get the real ones I like. 😊 (I’m decently frugal, so I can make it work where I’m never actually going without, and neither is my daughter, but we don’t always have those giant shopping hauls.)
Nah they be feelin all up on your shoe like “Where’s your toes”
Not me spending hundreds of dollars on shoes lol 😅
Burlington Ontario Canada? That’s where I live lol
My mom use to get my sibling and I these big ugly khakis pants for school she insisted (this was when khakis skinny pants were starting to trend) so me and my sibling would throw them away or hide them some place no one could find them and lie like the pants disappeared. We finally told her that no one is wearing those pants anymore and she finally got us the ones we wanted so we ended up telling her what we’ve been doing to the other pants this whole time as we got older and we ended up laughing about it 😂
Idk what kind of mom you had but mine would literally feel my toes and how far they were 😂 i could never lie
As an adult I cannot believe the amount of time my mom spent having me run up and down aisles. Now I buy shoes in 5 minutes flat 😂
This is literally my mom 😂 but if I just stay there and say I'm moving she gives in🥰🤣
my mom would be like “cool, so then it’ll fit your brother too, win win”
What happened to the "You'll grow into them"
My would’ve said “you’ll grow into them hun”
My mom would have squeezed my toes and say that’s good, you’ll grow into them😂
My mom checked for us. 😂
Boy try my mom back then 😂😂😂😂 she didn’t care what I said I had to ask my granny 😂😂😂
my mom would say “let me see. nope, walk around in them and we are getting them”
Nah my mom got taste. We literally be shittin on them in front of the workers 💀
Am I lucky my mum always asks me "Is the texture of the shoe uncomfortable for you? We can try another pair until we find one comfortable for you!!"
My mom would've checked herself and be like nope totally fine we get those
If my shoes didn’t fit as a child, I was told to put two fluffy pairs of socks on 😅
I would’ve pushed my toes forward to say they’re too small to make sure I didn’t get the whole “you’ll grow into them” speech
Honest to god, I hated going shopping but loved it. My mom would be like “money isn’t a problem! Get whatever you want!” And then we’d be eating tacos for the next week
but those "ugly shoes" were actually pretty 😭
I was literally thinking the same thing, if I saw those I’d get them immediately 😭
“You’ll grow into them”
the acting is so good i lowk forget it was the same person
My mam used to make me stand up then squish down to see where my toes ended, like can you stop my freaking toes are in there and I need them to walk haha.
My mom would be like “fine. I guess we’re not getting any shoes at all”
The sad part is that I looked at the set up and immediately knew where they were. Don't miss it there!
My mom would only shop at thrift stores and it use to make me so embarrassed as a kid but now i find great shit there😂
My mom once spent $100 on shoes for me, I love her
I literally do this all the time
Then they hit you with the "it's okay, we'll try on another size"
My mom will say if this shoes doesn't fit you then no shoes for you 😅😂😂
Shoes were always the things my parents would splurge on. Dad would say, you depend on your feet to get you everywhere, so you buy whats comfortable and what you like.