I’m not married yet, but I know I had to watch this! Since I’m opposite to everything Lisa said and I’m praying: God I don’t know how to do this, that’s why I need You to teach me! I’m willing to change and be ready to be a wise wife for my husband! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 thank you mama Lisa! ❤️
Wow, I can relate to a lot of what Lisa has been through. I love how real she is. I'm in a good marriage, yet I keep struggling with only loving 70%. I need to learn how to let go of past trauma and love fearlessly, forgive quickly, and laugh. Perfect love casts out ALL fear.
The series is needed multi-generationally. Thank you Lisa! 🙏🙌 It's good to hear this kind of wisdom that some of us would not have access to otherwise.
I am making a note to myself to do these 5 things. We’ve been married for 40 years and we’ve been through our struggles but mostly in the last few years since our retirement. Thank you so much for this! I feel I have someplace to start to restore/reignite our marriage
My husband and I have been married 20 years come April 2024. I loved this. I've done okay avoiding 4 out of 5 of these, but the first one stopped me in my tracks. I almost cried. I realized that because of my past, I have not loved fearlessly. I've always just expected men will either leave, cheat, or die on a woman, and that it's best to keep expecting the other shoe to drop so that it won't shatter my world when it happens. I realized I too will be 70 and will have missed out on what could have been if I don't change some deep seated beliefs. I'm not sure I know where to begin with loving fearlessly, I want to figure it out though.
I don't know if I can ever love fearlessly. I had the same reaction to childhood trauma Lisa talks about, then my husband did breach my trust in a big way. He has been amazing since then but it still happened. It just reiterated to me that you have to protect yourself or you'll be abandoned.
Well, some people like me, have the exact reverse problem : most of people (not all) I love fearlessly - so I am always disappointed that they are not mirroring me not even 25% in most cases. So they would call me "so nice", "kind", "pure"... Almost with a mockery or at least pity. That is a state of some (many?) people cynically looking at the "good people" (including in the romantic relationships).
How to love fearlessly when he has or is dealing with lust and looking at porn on and off? It hurts so much and sometimes I feel I can not really and deeply trust...
There are people married to destructive/toxic/oppressive/abusive “Christians”. General marriage advice does NOT apply to those marriages. It’s CRUCIAL to make this clear otherwise you are FOSTERING IMPRISONMENT in those relationships. Messages like yours given to “anyone” in a marriage HURT those in destructive marriages because they can do all those 5 things and continue to die a slow death because their spouse is toxic. We can’t be so naive to think oppressive marriages don’t exist in the Christian midst. I was one of those people hurt by these marriage “pieces of advice”. It keeps you running in place and getting NOWHERE with a toxic spouse. Let’s wake up to reality, people. Listen to Leslie Vernick and Natalie Hoffman if you suspect you are in a toxic marriage.
How do you break down The Walls that have been built in response to every 4 to 6 weeks your spouse declaring that they don't want to divorce you but they don't want to live with you and go on to describe all the different ways that they could remove themselves from your presence and then act normal the next day?
Get good Godly counsel? This sounds spiritual. Ephesians 6 says we wrestle not people but principalities and evil in high places. Sounds like spouse has spirit of bitterness. Learn about dismantling spirits. Try not to take it personally because it's just Satan.
Forgive quickly. That’s great. But why do we always fail to talk about forgiveness versus reconciliation. 2 different things. You can keep forgiving someone who never repents and keeps repeating the sin over and over and over for decades. Like pornography. Do you find yourself forgiving your addicted spouse over and over again? If he’s not repentant he will continue the sin. It’s harmful for him and for you. I can always forgive but I can also require true repentance in order for reconciliation to happen. If you just forgive and forget over and over again and the same sin keeps showing up, you need to implement CONSEQUENCES. Reconcile only when there’s repentance. Why do we tolerate addiction and repeated sin such as pornography in our marriages? That’s not love. That’s not what forgiveness means. If you are going to talk about forgiveness you need to go all the way and talk about consequences, repentance and reconciliation.
Lisa! I'm supposed to have a sister In-Law just like you help! The sister In-Law I have now just isn't working she likes a messy home. God has also called me to marry #trumpjr and be #princessdiaries and I'm not ready!
The best thing to do, is don’t get a state marriage license, if me I’d do a private ceremony with family and friend as witnesses and then file the guess registry record in the county clerk’s office. As you know, it’s the vows between the man and women before God that makes people married, no license needed. Not legal advice whatever that is?
I’m not married yet, but I know I had to watch this! Since I’m opposite to everything Lisa said and I’m praying: God I don’t know how to do this, that’s why I need You to teach me! I’m willing to change and be ready to be a wise wife for my husband! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 thank you mama Lisa! ❤️
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I am not married yet, but this is such a blessing to me.
Wow, I can relate to a lot of what Lisa has been through. I love how real she is. I'm in a good marriage, yet I keep struggling with only loving 70%. I need to learn how to let go of past trauma and love fearlessly, forgive quickly, and laugh. Perfect love casts out ALL fear.
Seek healing for past hurt, wound and trauma. ❤ Who the Son sets free, is free indeed!
37 years. Praise Jesus
The series is needed multi-generationally. Thank you Lisa! 🙏🙌 It's good to hear this kind of wisdom that some of us would not have access to otherwise.
This can only be done with both partners spirit-filled. Most important quality to find in a partner
I am making a note to myself to do these 5 things. We’ve been married for 40 years and we’ve been through our struggles but mostly in the last few years since our retirement. Thank you so much for this! I feel I have someplace to start to restore/reignite our marriage
I love these points. These points are good for all kinds of relationships
Thank you ❤
Timely advice ❤️. So appreciate your vulnerability to share openly. It's relatable. Looking forward to listen to the next. Thanks Lisa. God bless ❤️
Thank you Lisa! So good and needed. 😊🙏
Thanks!
beautiful 👍🏼
Soo good, thank you❤
I love that you are wearing a Church of the Highlands womens conference tshirt😊
My husband and I have been married 20 years come April 2024. I loved this. I've done okay avoiding 4 out of 5 of these, but the first one stopped me in my tracks. I almost cried. I realized that because of my past, I have not loved fearlessly. I've always just expected men will either leave, cheat, or die on a woman, and that it's best to keep expecting the other shoe to drop so that it won't shatter my world when it happens. I realized I too will be 70 and will have missed out on what could have been if I don't change some deep seated beliefs. I'm not sure I know where to begin with loving fearlessly, I want to figure it out though.
I don't know if I can ever love fearlessly. I had the same reaction to childhood trauma Lisa talks about, then my husband did breach my trust in a big way. He has been amazing since then but it still happened. It just reiterated to me that you have to protect yourself or you'll be abandoned.
That hair color looks amazing on you ❤
Thank you Lisa
I really appreciate this advice.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Bless you sista for this advise xx ❤
Wow! I've back tracked to relisten to some parts. Excellent. Still listening
Well, some people like me, have the exact reverse problem : most of people (not all) I love fearlessly - so I am always disappointed that they are not mirroring me not even 25% in most cases. So they would call me "so nice", "kind", "pure"... Almost with a mockery or at least pity. That is a state of some (many?) people cynically looking at the "good people" (including in the romantic relationships).
I love your hair!! ❤ Siciliana 🇮🇹🙏
Stay very close to Jesus, prayer life together as husband and wife, and do kingdom covenant marriage ministry together.
How did you fix it. How did you start loving fearlessly? If you could do a podcast on that?
She prayed, and asked God to help her love without fear. We have not because we ask not.
How to love fearlessly when he has or is dealing with lust and looking at porn on and off? It hurts so much and sometimes I feel I can not really and deeply trust...
There are people married to destructive/toxic/oppressive/abusive “Christians”. General marriage advice does NOT apply to those marriages. It’s CRUCIAL to make this clear otherwise you are FOSTERING IMPRISONMENT in those relationships. Messages like yours given to “anyone” in a marriage HURT those in destructive marriages because they can do all those 5 things and continue to die a slow death because their spouse is toxic. We can’t be so naive to think oppressive marriages don’t exist in the Christian midst. I was one of those people hurt by these marriage “pieces of advice”. It keeps you running in place and getting NOWHERE with a toxic spouse. Let’s wake up to reality, people. Listen to Leslie Vernick and Natalie Hoffman if you suspect you are in a toxic marriage.
How do you break down The Walls that have been built in response to every 4 to 6 weeks your spouse declaring that they don't want to divorce you but they don't want to live with you and go on to describe all the different ways that they could remove themselves from your presence and then act normal the next day?
Get good Godly counsel? This sounds spiritual. Ephesians 6 says we wrestle not people but principalities and evil in high places. Sounds like spouse has spirit of bitterness. Learn about dismantling spirits. Try not to take it personally because it's just Satan.
Forgive quickly. That’s great. But why do we always fail to talk about forgiveness versus reconciliation. 2 different things. You can keep forgiving someone who never repents and keeps repeating the sin over and over and over for decades. Like pornography. Do you find yourself forgiving your addicted spouse over and over again? If he’s not repentant he will continue the sin. It’s harmful for him and for you. I can always forgive but I can also require true repentance in order for reconciliation to happen. If you just forgive and forget over and over again and the same sin keeps showing up, you need to implement CONSEQUENCES. Reconcile only when there’s repentance. Why do we tolerate addiction and repeated sin such as pornography in our marriages? That’s not love. That’s not what forgiveness means. If you are going to talk about forgiveness you need to go all the way and talk about consequences, repentance and reconciliation.
Lisa! I'm supposed to have a sister In-Law just like you help! The sister In-Law I have now just isn't working she likes a messy home.
God has also called me to marry #trumpjr and be #princessdiaries and I'm not ready!
The best thing to do, is don’t get a state marriage license, if me I’d do a private ceremony with family and friend as witnesses and then file the guess registry record in the county clerk’s office. As you know, it’s the vows between the man and women before God that makes people married, no license needed. Not legal advice whatever that is?
This is pure gold!! Thank you for this🫶🏼