God rescued me from my ex-husband - it was not healthy relationship. almost 30 years, too. God waits for us until we are ready (emotionally, physically, financially), and I had to scream out to Him for help. And He was working everything out behind the scenes.
Thank you for this. My marriage is ending, not my choice, and I’m at the screaming for help point. I pray that our marriage is healed, but I also know that God’s will is better whatever the outcome ❤
My husband of 43 years left me after many affairs throughout our marriage. The affair before this last one our children found out about and confronted him on. He begged for another chance and we both went to individual therapy at first and then some marriage coaching. He really seemed different this time, and for the first time really, I had the marriage I'd always wanted. Then - the man I had forgiven time and time again - nursed through two bouts of cancer and other surgeries - pulled the carpet from under me once again - this time he just "wasn't happy" and didn't want to die "unhappy". He left me and filed for divorce within a week and RAN away not only from me, but our 3 kids and 6 grandkids. He now lives with the other woman in her house in a different city. I was devastated - still am really. I'm amazed to see that I'm not the only one. Thanks to Lysa so much for her transparency.
@Cheribeas He will regret it when the time comes, once again to fight cancer. He will long for the one true person (and will long for his whole family) that loves and showed him compassion. New lady won’t cut it.
This came across my feed today… and I’m grateful to God for that. My husband left me five months ago (adultery), two days after our 32nd anniversary. I am learning to say Goodbye… and seeking God every moment of every day. I pray my adult kids and I will heal. Please pray for me if you see this ❤. Thank you.
Same for me but I left him because I realized enough of the lies and betrayal. It is hard, painful but I am gaining peace I have been missing for a long time.
I woke up this morning wanting to react so desperately to a family situation. I knew it wasn’t what I needed to do, so I paused and then came across this video as soon as it posted. So overwhelmed at the goodness of the Lord to speak to me in my pain. Thank you for this teaching and May God bless you greatly.
When I found out my husband was willing to leave me and be with someone else I felt like my world was totally turned upside down. I was in shock and I know without a doubt that jesus carried me through.
My husband left me because of me (idk if there's anyone else) just hurts so much. I know I don't feel your pain exactly but it hurts so much. I keep trying to lean on God. Wish you all the best.
It's the month of November Lysa Life has been so overwhelmingly challenging but you you an amazing woman, I thank God for your life 💕 I thank God for your presence and these videos are changing my life, tonight here in Zambia Africa the 13th of November 2024, I challenge myself to be a better person and allow God to direct me in the right Path thank you
I was paralyzed in bed last year and I heard Jesus say out loud to me - If you believe in me get up and walk I got up and not only walked but went for a walk outside. Praise God!!!!! GOD IS ALWAYS WORKING!!!! 🛐🛐🛐
God sent me this video at the perfect time as I am having to set boundaries with my 33 year old daughter. I am 60 and have taken her verbal abuse for too many years trying to be a good mom and heal out relationship. I am to old to take it anymore and life is too short. I can't change her but I can change me and put my emotional health first. I keep trying to please her because she has my only grandchild who's one and has my heart. I have ran in circles helping her, both financially and physically with very little appreciation. She might take my Granddaughter away from me but I am choosing to lay it at Jesus's feet and have the peace he offers me!!! Freeing
I know your pain. I've tried for years to keep communication open to salvage the relationship. No more. I realized the Father of the prodigal NEVER chased the prodigal. He waited til the prodigal "came to his senses", then the Father ran to him when he saw him coming afar off. ❤️
Thank you for this amazing conversation. I'm from Ukraine, and I'm tired of being scared. I'm tired of the sirens and explosions. I'm tired of my growing anxiety and of my tears. Thank you for the reminder that God is always beside me and my family. That I can trust Him, especially when I notice that He takes care of us and gives my family unbelievable gifts. I'll try to focus on those blessings and keep praying. Be blessed! The interview is so touching and healing
I have been reading your books. My husband of 18 years left me after an affair. He goes back amd forth about missing us but says he will never come back. I am trying so hard to put all my faith in God.
Yes my husband walked out after 32 yrs of marriage. Even though God was closing the door and I knew this. The pain the grief was so much. Twelve yrs later my heart is finally healing. God is a Good God
So proud of her. She gave him multiple chances and was so honest and honoring of him throughout the process of talking about what happened, reconciling, renewing vows with her ex…But of course, at the end of the day, it takes two parties to work towards a healthy and godly marriage and I am so proud of her giving it everything so she could release him when it was clear they were not going to be together. Praying for her new marriage and that God can use this new husband to heal areas of her heart that were broken so many times before. ❤
I've heard and seen of marriages where there's been Affairs/Adultery, and there's been deep forgiveness and reconciliation and the marriage thrives...but also, you see where people have been cheated on and see that it's not going to work whether they want it to or not, and there is freedom for that person to move on and remarry and thrive with a new husband/wife...but each situation is different, and there's freedom for the offended party to try to stay in that marriage or move out of it. In either situation, God can be glorified, his Mercy, Grace and Forgiveness highlighted. I hope the best for her and her new husband moving forward.
We are always called to forgive. Forgiveness takes one person. Reconciliation takes 2. We are not always called to reconciliation. When my husband committed adultery his heart was hardened and he did not want to reconcile. He insisted on a divorce. I had to release him and surrender everything to God.
I never married but have a life as a single gal on the mission field for 25 years. The Lord never allowed me to marry and I was sad because I wanted to have children but He used me to rescue babies and be adopted to families! I live my life and do not feel cheated of never being a wife or mother! The Lord told me, He’s my husband and I believe it!!!!❤
I married a retired minister and divorced a year later .., I felt like the maid .. working , cooking, cleaning while he was seeing to everyone else and came home to eat , shower and sleep … I’m closer to God now and so happy in myself
Wow. Sounds like my life. The abortion, the breakup of almost a 30 year marriage and right in the middle of that my oldest son passed away. And my ex husband hid the whereabouts of my son from me for days and I didn’t even know he had left town before he died. The heartache of the death and the betrayal was excruciating I couldn’t breathe sometimes. I hung on to faith by a thread. Still healing but I so relate to the anguish you felt. 😔🙏
This was really Dark how she described her visions that didn't happen never get attached to the point of idolisim i am sure we all been there but if your young and seeing this dont idolize someone so much you put them before the lord let your lord God through Christ Jesus be your portion and foundation in Jesus name Amen❤
Agree. I didn't realize I was more worried about pleasing my husband than I was concerned about pleasing the Lord. I was needing my husband's love more than needing God's love. I was looking to my husband to meet all my emotional needs and spiritually carry us. It sets them up to fall and sets us up to be disappointed and disillusioned.
Time heals us, and Jesus heals the broken hearted. Surrender your heart to Him and you will heal. Life is so difficult but He is there to Love and heal you.
I remember as a Christian, my worst feeling of failure and shame, was to get Divorced from a malignant narcissist after only 2 years. If I didn't step out, I would die. I kept telling myself, God wouldn't want me to stay in a marriage where I would literally die.
Thank you for talking about the divorce. "I didn't want it." What are we supposed to do, hold them at gun point? No, we have free will! You can't make a person stay, anymore than you can make a person choose Jesus. Thank you. You will never know the impact you actually have.
32:30 there is a difference between walking thru suffering and stewarding your suffering. You have allowed the very broken things that have broken you and you have lifted them up and you allowed God’s love to run thru these broken places to other woman. So true and so beautifully said! Thank you, thank you thanks you
I am so thankful for this message. I've been married to a covert narcissist and had such a horrible marriage. 6 months into marriage he left which was the 1st of 12 more times at least. Then before our 1st anniversary I caught him watching port which explained alot of his abuse to me.. come up on 2nd anniversary he almost died from a cancer tumor blocking his colon that then led to many surgeries and chemo and me taking sole care of him and all 5he bags he had connected from surgeries to then it spreading to his liver and yet another major surgery. Theu it all I remainded faithful but the abuse continued even when he was sick. We both worked in ministry this shouldn't be happening. I can't tell you how many times I wanted to wake up from the trauma and nightmare. He now left for good and filed for divorce. I've asked God to use me thru all this to help others. My story would make your skin crawl but God is good and I am trying to rebuild my life and learn how to rely on God for strength everyday. I have several of your books and I am thankful for all that you do to help others heal. ❤
Thank you for your story, Lysa. I was married to a narristic for 25yrs. God provided a way out. we went to counselling, he didn't do a thing he was asked to do. The last 3 months were horrendous. It's been 18yrs since he left. Each year has been better and better. I would never have coped without Jesus. Praise Him
This interview has brought me to tears. I’m currently going through a nasty process with husband. It has broken me and I was grasping for straws. But God came through and gently guided me here. Thank you so much for putting my thoughts and feelings into words. Thank you for giving me the strength to remember that God is always with me. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us. I’m truly grateful. Thank you ❤
Listening to this brings back the hurt & truma I also experienced from a broken marriage. The year was also 2013 & I also prayed for reconciliation which never came, eventually a divorce happened. My journey has been one of healing of myself. I'm now ready to find love again. Thanks for sharing.
Wow Lisa you don't know how I needed this today I just got divorce 2 days ago and it felt like you where talking about my life. Starting a new season unsure but the one thing I am sure with God all will be good.and after feeling that pain when they said we now divorce that pain and emptiness you can't explain to anyone but what I am thankful for is that not one day God took his hands of me and my children. Thank you I gave me new courage this morning may God bless you 🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹
I would give anything to have even ONE friend I could count on. My husband of 41 years cheated on me, twice, and after I found out about the 2nd affair he left me for the other woman. I have been with him practically my entire life (we met when I was 14 and got married when I was 16). I have never been alone before, and I am terrified and completely devastated. I have two grown daughters that I have been trying to lean on, but now they are pulling away from me because they say they need "boundaries". I am beyond broken. Please pray for me. 🙏
If you know the Lord, the reality that He is really living inside of you can become really real to you. I had to learn this and hold hands with Jesus on the inside of me. No one else can make you okay. Look to Him inside of you and ask Him to make Himself real in there and hold hands with Him. Keep your focus on Him in you and not on everyone outside of you. Many blessings and peace to you.
@@colettejoseph76 Thank you so much! I am praying right now that God will make Himself real to me so that I can truly feel Him holding and comforting me. In Jesus' name, Amen!! 🙏🙏
I have recently found out about a lot of lies from my husband of over 40 years. I recently went and bought a book to help me forgive…..turns out it was your book. Today I found this podcast. I have your book Uninvited in my cart on Amazon. I am going to forgive and TRY to forget all of the past hurts. I love my husband and believe he has fallen in love with me again too in the last few years. You are an amazing woman and I hope to make you a mentor for myself. I appreciate that God showed me the way to you and your podcast and book. Thank you so much. He is living in my life and I am realizing more each day! God is GREAT
Your moms story and your story is mine as well. I’m still sad today about my marriage ending because he was with other women and my children going through it as well. But I have Jesus in my life. Amen. Thank you. God bless you both. ❤
Lysa has been such a blessing to me as I dealt with a similar situation exacerbated by my husband’s addiction in my marriage of nearly 20 years. Her vulnerability and transparency as a Christian woman living through dysfunction with an unrepentive husband has been so helpful. I tried so hard to save my marriage and my husband, but I couldn’t and trying to save them was literally killing me. And I realized that the marriage I was desperately trying to hold on to as a Christian was actually not honoring God and that’s when I had to set a boundary for myself and finally let go. Praying God continues to bless her.
I've been divorced twice but I have to take accountability because I never went to the Lord about marrying them. It was my lust & idolatry. I adore Lysa but I don't understand her 'exposing' her exe's foibles. His sin to the world. I'm all for authentic. I'm an author as well but I wouldn't name the names of the men who cheated or hurt me. I just don't understand. Maybe he told her it was ok???
I really hope and pray Lysa remarries. It's going to be challenging for her though. Being in a relationship will trigger wounds. Even the ones we were CERTAIN were completely healed. It takes time, longer than we care to admit, to heal. Love you Lysa. I don't mean to be mean.
Yes, it's disconcerting. My ex-husband did worse things than her spouse. I'm not going to go on TH-cam and TV and tell the world. Lysa is very smart. Well spoken, articulate. She doesn't have any joy. Why is that?
I had the same experience...my husband was having an affair...I caught him...he gaslighted me as well. Unfortunately, I did shut down and had a nervous breakdown. I thought of killing myself and at that moment, I felt a hand on my shoulder and I got the help I needed. If it wasn't for God stepping in...I wouldn't be here today.
I'm 39 going on 40 and I so desperately need an older person that can speak into my life, that can keep me in check /mentor/guide/advice. I have acquaintances and not close friends that I can't call on in times of need.I don't feel lonely or depressed or anything, but I lack voices of good and honest Godly counsel.I'm praying God to connect me with women that are after His own heart that I can learn and grow from, that we can speak into each other's lives.
If your not going to church ,visit some churches in your area. many churches have women’s ministries, Bible study groups and get involved. God calls us to fellowship with one another and us women really need that. I believe YOU could be the strong woman of God ,mentor ,guide for younger gals ❤ Prayers 🙏
Holy Spirit is a person. Please ask the Holy Spirit to show you. Ask, who are you? Holy are you? Help me, guide me, teach me... once He shows you... surrender yourself if you want to, surrender everything, your wants needs, say you give the Holy Spirit access... complete access. Once you experience Him.. it'll be quite an experience... when His Spirit invades you... not every one will understand. .it'll be disturbing to them. . Stay focused... prayers to you ❤
The Bible says we should call on the name of Jesus. She needs to call " Oh Lord Jesus!". I'm an older sister. I'd be happy to encourage you. What you need is fellowship. In person. Can u locate a church?
I am going through this storm. My husband has abandoned me for someone else by not being able to choose. I need all the strength and prayers through this time. I need to learn to let go and say goodbye.
This video was so helpful. Thank you for sharing your testimony, Lisa. Thank you ladies. The sentence that really stood out to me was: God wouldn’t want me to marry a man who loves other women, more than me.
The bit about "Jesus had all the answers but he still had sorrow unto the point of death" ....that really hit me ❤🙏🏽 I also loved the realness....admitting thoughts, feelings and past actions honestly...much needed, so beautiful, feeling the healing pour out over me ❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽
100% God rescue me! I can see it clearly. Men lie like there’s no tomorrow and blame us by saying, we have mental problems. It helped me reading one of Lysa’s book….. You are going to make it! I was reading my own story. Loved how it has scripture reference. Lysa is transparent and an amazing writer♥️ I also recommend Forgiving what you can’t forget.
God's timing is everything. I always listen to worship music early and I couldn't find it but instead I found this video and listen to her testimony on how to forgive. I know God had me listen because it's what I needed to hear. Thank you, Lisa, and the Lord.
Thank you for sharing this! Unfortunately I now know what gaslighting is. My reality altered in an effort to cause me to believe in an illusion. I am so broken right now. My privacy....in my home. In my car. In my work....all manipulated. When I first realized it, I said....well.its ok, bc the eye of God is always on us. This is helping me to accept that. But it's now debilitating in this moment to know that someone(s) are abusing that information for their gain. Someone I loved. My most personal intimate times....on full display to someone who is abusive. God help me. I don't know why this is happening or if it's ever gonna be ok. Please pray for me.
Hello Samantha, I was in a search of a very good friend that bears a similar name with you, so i found you coincidentally. I was attracted by your profile.. Sorry for barging into your privacy...
Lisa, Thank you!! My situation was much like yours, with the excepting that my husband died. He had contracted HPV in his cheating. He was a Covert Narcissist and treated my abusive for yrs. I was so broken after he died that only God could save me and He did. Validation from 4 great spiritual sisters got me through. I am now 71 yrs. Old and moving ln in life. Great Praises to God who has sustained me for All the years!
This video came across my feed just as i have made the decision to walk away from my narcissistic husband whose abuse on me and our children has been devastating. However i am on a journey of forgiveness so that i can be free to love again and be better, not bitter. Thanks for this interview
So so true! There are some times that God RESCUES YOU! When God rescued me from nearly 40 years, broke off the bondage I was not really aware the magnitude of, He opened so many doors, big doors and I walked in Peace which seemed so odd in the natural!
It seems like Churches don't really see divorced singles as important as couples and families. Lysa isn't the only one who received divorce papers not by choice. Thank you so much for this interview. I'm learning that God allowed me to go through what I went through to help others as you are. I will continue to pray for you. My name is Becky
I have never met Lysa but I've read one of her books. Did the study that accompanied it and have followed Proverbs 31 Ministries for a while now. Women of God, I love you. This was such a rich conversation. Stewarding pain is a new concept to me, but indeed you have. I just found out you are now remarried. May God bless your covenant marriage with your new husband. May He grant you 100+ fold love (if there's such a thing) for all you've been through. God bless. ❤
THANK YOU, BEAUTIFUL BELIEVERS, FOR SHARING YOUR STRENGTH, FAITH, AND HOPE THROUGH ALL THE PAIN, BETRAYAL, AND MENTAL ILLNESS. I AM RELATING AND MAY GOD CONTINUE YOUR WALK WITH THE LORD! JEREMIAH 29:11 SAYS IT ALL. MY AUNT IS A FOUR-TIME CANCER SURVIVOR (TWO BEING BREAST CANCER). HER BELIEF IN THE LORD, GOD HAS BROUGHT ME BACK TO THE KIND OF FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE OF OUR FATHER. I AM A MIRACLE FOR ALL THE PITS AND HEALTH STRUGGLES GOD HAS BROUGHT ME THROUGH. GOD BLESS ALL OUT IN THE WORLD AND KNOW GOD IS HERE, WAITING FOR HIS CHILDREN TO COME FOLLOW HIM. I AM TRULY GRATEFUL TO GOD FOR NEVER LEAVING ME OR FORSAKING ME.
I cried so much while listening to this interview. Thank you so much Lysa for being so open about so many things that spoke deeply to me. God bless you always.
I’m not married but this was touching and reminds me of the relationships and pain I had to endure, but God is so good and his grace is sufficient which has helped me be stronger and have more faith in him that better is sure to come by just believing his will.
I also have tried to figure out the why of the betrayal and secrets of my husband (he died before I found out some of his secrets).I was stuck in the hurt. I prayed that God would heal my heart. God showed me I needed to look forward and not back. Not dwell on the past.
Praise God this is wisdom 🙌 that Lysa has expressed through God. I can totally understand this explanation of a broken heart healing process 🙏. God is speaking through her woman of God 🙏🙌. Take the boundary lesson in me Lord, and make me stronger in your will not my will in Jesus . I am learning that my past is a lesson. Take away everything that has happened to me and restore to the woman I'm supposed to be in body spirit and soul that my ex husband had taken away 💔. Forgive me Lord for my wrong path i took and destroyed because of lack of knowledge from my parents from culture to tradition. Make me a proverbs 31. Even when I admit i have flaws and errors I am not God, but you are my God 🙏 in Jesus Christ I pray to stay grounded in the word of truth and knowing deception is also a lesson to be self aware of my response and reaction to not get triggered by the people that are not living in the same level as myself. Lord i believe you are working around me during times of attack from the enemy 🙏🙌💔
Sheila, thanks for taking the time to do this interview. May the Lord bless you abundantly!! Lisa, thank you, thank you!! I'm speechless. This is exactly what I needed to hear. God bless you too.
Lisa I feel so connected to your story. I’m going through separation and eventually divorce. I’m having to make those decisions and it’s hard. But God is walking with me. I know He is. I’m so blessed to see what God brought to you through all the pain and heartache.
Just finished Sheila's interview with Lysa-excellent! Thoughtful questions and answers. I almost couldn't finish though because of the "background" music. I stopped the video at one point because the music was so loud and high pitched, it was overwhelming to me and I couldn't hear what they were talking about. (that happened when Sheila asked "What is a boundary") It was too loud again at 48 minutes. Background music is to be just that-in the background or barely noticeable. Thank you for considering my comments.
Wow the messages I’ve been getting… when she said we can just simply trust the lord…I received a message from Holy Spirit about this today how those who seek after “truth and knowledge” are in an endless seeking- it’s the endless seeking that is bringing some into cycles of chaos and confusion; ❤
So grateful to Lysa being so transparent. Story hit close to home in real time for me and each step of the way, Lysa had another book to help me along. Proverbs 31 ministries has been a part of my life since 2018 when rug was pulled out from under me. Lysa has been the conduit for God to work through such a very painful time. Blessings to Lysa in her marriage now🙏🏻❤️!
I just love how this beautiful woman of God articulates her messages - I am just finding her and I can really appreciate everything she expressed. How I wish I had a personal friend with this level of wisdom and warmth..... Great great interview !
God is our great physician, our I am. Thats what I stood on. His word is a lamp unto our feet , health and healing to our bones. God alone‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Wow! I thought she is talking about my life… 🤯 I lived that, including her surgery after the husband left… This woman is a God given gift for women like us! I am grateful I got to buy her books! And I am thankful that I know my good God!
Such gentleness,intelligence, spiritual maturity, kindness, and courage, truthfulness etc. . . .in this interview. The interviewer was incredibly present, thoughtful questions. She responded so well-especially revealing her true feelings and the respectful bonding with the interviewee. So very very encouraging, honest, and helpful, and a blessing; also I bonded with both of them!!!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own pain that we forget we’re not alone. I’m also a fixer. I have deep empathy and I feel the pain of the ones I love. I’ve fought for my marriage for 2 decades and it’s now looking at the disaster from my children broken hearts and I see that I can no longer be selfish. God is faithful. God has shown me that I can rest now. “I was very attached to dreams of my own making”. Me! Thank you. Expectations are resentments in the making. I’ve learned to thank God for His plans and trust that He will see me through. Betrayal trauma and narcissistic abuse is no joke. I lied to keep my dream alive and to protect him. God did not ask me to do that. I chose that. I chose my own pain for as long as I have. The beauty of God is that He is a gentleman and He will never force us to do as He knows is best…and for that, I’m thankful. I’ve learned who I am and that I truly will get through this season ❤
I believe that God has answered my prayer in the ways that I wanted; however I didn’t know. God knows I want peace, trust, faithfulness…I don’t want to be lied to, abused, gaslight, etc…if we shift our thoughts and really look at what God sees and trust Him, we see that He truly will rescue us ❤
I say this with true respect. I never heard of Ms. Lysa. But for the past 2 weeks I have listened to so many of her sermons and I thank God he let her be known to me by TH-cam. I usually watch Joyce Myers and Joel Osteen and love them but she (Lysa) touch other areas of my life and I just want to say Thank you. Thank you Jesus 🙏
So much courage and bravery sharing your story. I am currently going thought the same and physically separated. Your story has encouraged me to keep moving forward. Thank you.
I really enjoyed the vulnerability and transparency in this message. It was very enlightening. I do agree with another message that stated the background music can leave some people feeling heavy and discouraged versus encouraged and enlightened.
Lysa did everything she could and did more than she should have. At the end of the day, it’s like she said, she doesn’t have control over another person and what they want to do with their free will. Making the decision she did doesn’t influence generations of women to divorce their husbands, but it is to demonstrate a story of love, forgiveness, grace, mercy and letting go when someone wants to live a life apart from God. The Bible teaches us not to continue associating with these kind of people who continue to sin and refuse to repent in 1 Cor 5:11. She has the right to divorce per the Bible because her ex-husband continued in perpetual sin and refuses to stop. Like she said, she was also trying to save herself from drowning and this was the best thing she could do for herself, for women like us who are watching her dealt with a person who continues to sin against her, their children and God. “No more” was the right thing she did to draw that boundary between a person who wants to continue living in sin and a person who wants to live in accordance to the Lord.
I have been questionning whether filing for divorce was the right thing. In my heart i know this is Gods will for me. He told me this is not what i have for you in a dysfunctional marriage for 26 years. I acted in obedience to what i was told by God after a year of tossing and feeling like i could not go through this however God is with me through this stage of life and i doubt whether its the right choice at times. Today i asked God to show me how i can support my children and this video popped up seemingly randomly but it was God confirming to me that he has put me on the right path. Your story in strengthing me to find courage faith in this storm. God is with us through it all. ❤
I am so sorry you are going through this. God will protect you. Please study the scriptures (red letter words of Jesus) before considering remarriage, though. It is adultery.
Yes the music was agitating so unfortunately I could only listen to about 10 mins - music was unnecessary and I am confused why it was added - instead of being able to peacefully listen to the conversation
It just hit me...when I hear how couples drove each other crazy during covid...that was not me...I loved having my husband more...listening to this I just realized that covid was the good time for me and the rest of the 27 years was my relationship covid.
Wow amazing women,thank you God for restoring her life . Amazing story, I'm going through the exact thing and now I am confident and have faith that God has my back. Love you Jesus 😇🙏blessings to all women of God.
Thank you both Lisa and Sheila for sharing some of your deepest growing growth moments, although it was amidst pain and heartache. And thank you for keeping God in the center of your stories.❤️
Thank you Lisa for openly sharing all of your pain and living for God through it all. Your life so parallels my own and your books have been a lifeline for me so often. I've stayed, I've turned the other cheek, I've turned a blind eye, I stayed for the kids, I give and give...I just want to say thank you...
The video was evidence of God's care for me today. So often I will pray and feel like God doesn't answer but lately I realized He always does! I have just been moving so fast and always onto the next thing to see it when he does. This interview and message of hope through suffering was a literal answer to my prayer from yesterday. Thank you Jesus! Thank you sisters and TBN supporters! ❤
Lisa, I have learned so much from your previous book and I'm looking forward to reading your new book. I'm still healing from so much trauma from my past. I'm dealing with it head on through prayer and trusting in God. I'm in therapy now. Ty for your inspiration.
Wow, Lysa, such maturity and wisdom regarding the need to step away from a bad relationship/marriage. I think the message you are teaching now is much deeper and richer than all your past Bible studies! So sorry you had to walk through this but so thankful you made it to the other side to truly inspire and teach us women more aspects about His truth and great love for us❤🙏🏼
The part about a child needs at least one healthy parent during a marital crisis (my mother, narcissist, would not get divorced. And let my father in and out of our lives continually. Repeated abandonment) I had NO one that was healthy. Still working this out at 58 years old. I’m glad I’m doing it with God!
Thank you for your transparency and the boldness to own your story and express vividly the pain and fight for your truth and the truth we face living an unseen God we’re so deeply in love with, who has a plan for us we never knew would be so close to experiencing hell. This is my story of 37 years of extreme traumatic circumstances so unbelievable. Reality prevails - life still expected with joy, love and adoration. May the peace of God be your mainstay and love be the center of it all.
Wow, your entire story is my story. Love comes in many forms from many sources. It’s taken me years to know that. Love doesn’t only come from a man, or a woman. Love and peace, for me come from the Lord. And for me, I’ve come to accept that I’ll be fine alone, with God by my side always and forever. My hope yields at times and only God can lift me from that, my hope renews and strengthens from marveling in the work of God. Amen.🙏 Thank you for sharing your story, and yes, we are not alone.
Watching this emotionally charged video brings back the agony of my recent breakup. My four year relationship ended abruptly when my partner walked away, leaving a deep, unhealed wound in my heart. No matter how much I try to forget, I can't seem to let go, feeling lost and unsure about my future without him. Despite my best efforts, I remain consumed by the emptiness he left behind, and I just needed to share this pain here.
Interesting! I’m genuinely curious how did you discover this spiritual counselor, and what’s the best way for me to connect with someone who could help me in a similar way?
Thank you so much for sharing this. Your advice is invaluable, and I’m deeply grateful for pointing me in the right direction. I’ll definitely explore this and see if it helps me too.
God rescued me from my ex-husband - it was not healthy relationship. almost 30 years, too. God waits for us until we are ready (emotionally, physically, financially), and I had to scream out to Him for help. And He was working everything out behind the scenes.
Thank you for this. My marriage is ending, not my choice, and I’m at the screaming for help point. I pray that our marriage is healed, but I also know that God’s will is better whatever the outcome ❤
God waits for us until we are ready👌🏾
My husband of 43 years left me after many affairs throughout our marriage. The affair before this last one our children found out about and confronted him on. He begged for another chance and we both went to individual therapy at first and then some marriage coaching. He really seemed different this time, and for the first time really, I had the marriage I'd always wanted. Then - the man I had forgiven time and time again - nursed through two bouts of cancer and other surgeries - pulled the carpet from under me once again - this time he just "wasn't happy" and didn't want to die "unhappy". He left me and filed for divorce within a week and RAN away not only from me, but our 3 kids and 6 grandkids. He now lives with the other woman in her house in a different city. I was devastated - still am really. I'm amazed to see that I'm not the only one. Thanks to Lysa so much for her transparency.
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28 years same story - here
So sorry for your loss. God is faithful. Just take one day at a time. You will win!!
Dear God give your child the peace that passes all understanding and the power to trust your will...Amen
@Cheribeas He will regret it when the time comes, once again to fight cancer. He will long for the one true person (and will long for his whole family) that loves and showed him compassion. New lady won’t cut it.
This came across my feed today… and I’m grateful to God for that. My husband left me five months ago (adultery), two days after our 32nd anniversary. I am learning to say Goodbye… and seeking God every moment of every day. I pray my adult kids and I will heal. Please pray for me if you see this ❤. Thank you.
You can also pray for reconciliation because God hates divorce 🙏🏻 I will pray for you!
Same for me but I left him because I realized enough of the lies and betrayal. It is hard, painful but I am gaining peace I have been missing for a long time.
God will never leave you nor forsake you. He is with you and will get you through this trying time in the best way in Jesus' name, amen.
Praying for you ❤
I’m praying for you right now!
“When we tell the truth, we make space for grace”❤
Awe
'Mental health is being able to accept reality at all costs.' this touched me
When you have been hurt and want to deny the fact that that person would actually do something to hurt you. Yes this speaks to that 100%.
Mental health is the commitment to reality at all costs. (Jim Cress)
I woke up this morning wanting to react so desperately to a family situation. I knew it wasn’t what I needed to do, so I paused and then came across this video as soon as it posted. So overwhelmed at the goodness of the Lord to speak to me in my pain. Thank you for this teaching and May God bless you greatly.
When I found out my husband was willing to leave me and be with someone else I felt like my world was totally turned upside down. I was in shock and I know without a doubt that jesus carried me through.
I so agree with this as I had the same situation! My faith was strengthened living by faith in Him. I pray you are getting stronger day by day in Him.
Praying for you
My husband left me because of me (idk if there's anyone else) just hurts so much. I know I don't feel your pain exactly but it hurts so much. I keep trying to lean on God. Wish you all the best.
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Yes he did.
It's the month of November Lysa Life has been so overwhelmingly challenging but you you an amazing woman, I thank God for your life 💕 I thank God for your presence and these videos are changing my life, tonight here in Zambia Africa the 13th of November 2024, I challenge myself to be a better person and allow God to direct me in the right Path thank you
Hang in there darling. The Lord is keeping you in His Heart.
I was paralyzed in bed last year and I heard Jesus say out loud to me - If you believe in me get up and walk I got up and not only walked but went for a walk outside. Praise God!!!!! GOD IS ALWAYS WORKING!!!! 🛐🛐🛐
God sent me this video at the perfect time as I am having to set boundaries with my 33 year old daughter. I am 60 and have taken her verbal abuse for too many years trying to be a good mom and heal out relationship. I am to old to take it anymore and life is too short. I can't change her but I can change me and put my emotional health first. I keep trying to please her because she has my only grandchild who's one and has my heart. I have ran in circles helping her, both financially and physically with very little appreciation. She might take my Granddaughter away from me but I am choosing to lay it at Jesus's feet and have the peace he offers me!!! Freeing
Hello pretty lady 👋
I know your pain. I've tried for years to keep communication open to salvage the relationship. No more. I realized the Father of the prodigal NEVER chased the prodigal. He waited til the prodigal "came to his senses", then the Father ran to him when he saw him coming afar off. ❤️
I'm praying for you now!
Be very careful. My daughter took every connection I have to my grandchildren. She has narrcicist tendencies, so she is ver good at manipulation.
This may sound shallow but can the background music be ditched? Very distracting! Thx
Thank you for this amazing conversation. I'm from Ukraine, and I'm tired of being scared. I'm tired of the sirens and explosions. I'm tired of my growing anxiety and of my tears. Thank you for the reminder that God is always beside me and my family. That I can trust Him, especially when I notice that He takes care of us and gives my family unbelievable gifts. I'll try to focus on those blessings and keep praying. Be blessed! The interview is so touching and healing
Praying for peace that passes all understanding
❤ God help you all!
Praying for you ❤
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Thinking of you ❤
Asking the Lord for protection over your family and a strong sense of His presence.
I have been reading your books. My husband of 18 years left me after an affair. He goes back amd forth about missing us but says he will never come back. I am trying so hard to put all my faith in God.
Yes my husband walked out after 32 yrs of marriage. Even though God was closing the door and I knew this. The pain the grief was so much. Twelve yrs later my heart is finally healing. God is a Good God
❤God bless you .❤
So proud of her. She gave him multiple chances and was so honest and honoring of him throughout the process of talking about what happened, reconciling, renewing vows with her ex…But of course, at the end of the day, it takes two parties to work towards a healthy and godly marriage and I am so proud of her giving it everything so she could release him when it was clear they were not going to be together. Praying for her new marriage and that God can use this new husband to heal areas of her heart that were broken so many times before. ❤
Exactly none of us can heal.a marruage on its own itbtakes 2 pcomitted people
I've heard and seen of marriages where there's been Affairs/Adultery, and there's been deep forgiveness and reconciliation and the marriage thrives...but also, you see where people have been cheated on and see that it's not going to work whether they want it to or not, and there is freedom for that person to move on and remarry and thrive with a new husband/wife...but each situation is different, and there's freedom for the offended party to try to stay in that marriage or move out of it. In either situation, God can be glorified, his Mercy, Grace and Forgiveness highlighted. I hope the best for her and her new husband moving forward.
Yes! Well said.
All so true!! Many blessings and love through Jesus Christ our Lord! 🙏🤍🕊✨️
She did forgive him and they renewed their vows. But afterward his behavior continued without any real change.
Sometimes, people refuses to change even with reconciliation and forgiveness. It's unfortunate for faithful spouse to keep going in a toxic marriage.
We are always called to forgive. Forgiveness takes one person. Reconciliation takes 2. We are not always called to reconciliation. When my husband committed adultery his heart was hardened and he did not want to reconcile. He insisted on a divorce. I had to release him and surrender everything to God.
I never married but have a life as a single gal on the mission field for 25 years. The Lord never allowed me to marry and I was sad because I wanted to have children but He used me to rescue babies and be adopted to families! I live my life and do not feel cheated of never being a wife or mother! The Lord told me, He’s my husband and I believe it!!!!❤
I married a retired minister and divorced a year later .., I felt like the maid .. working , cooking, cleaning while he was seeing to everyone else and came home to eat , shower and sleep … I’m closer to God now and so happy in myself
Same but he wasn’t a Pastor.
Wow. Sounds like my life. The abortion, the breakup of almost a 30 year marriage and right in the middle of that my oldest son passed away. And my ex husband hid the whereabouts of my son from me for days and I didn’t even know he had left town before he died. The heartache of the death and the betrayal was excruciating I couldn’t breathe sometimes. I hung on to faith by a thread. Still healing but I so relate to the anguish you felt. 😔🙏
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This was really Dark how she described her visions that didn't happen never get attached to the point of idolisim i am sure we all been there but if your young and seeing this dont idolize someone so much you put them before the lord let your lord God through Christ Jesus be your portion and foundation in Jesus name Amen❤
Agree. I didn't realize I was more worried about pleasing my husband than I was concerned about pleasing the Lord. I was needing my husband's love more than needing God's love. I was looking to my husband to meet all my emotional needs and spiritually carry us. It sets them up to fall and sets us up to be disappointed and disillusioned.
My husband cheated on me after 40 years it’s heartbreaking
My heart is crushed
Please help me pray to our God for healing and mercy
Receive the healing and restoration power of the Holy spirit.God loves you ❤
Time heals us, and Jesus heals the broken hearted. Surrender your heart to Him and you will heal. Life is so difficult but He is there to Love and heal you.
The appearance of this video in my feed lets me know that God is with me and He loves me.
I was at hobby lobby looking at clearance and right there just for me…… the book. Separated less than a month. God is so Good!!!
Seek first the kingdom of God ❤
Amen, my fav...Matt 6:33
I remember as a Christian, my worst feeling of failure and shame, was to get Divorced from a malignant narcissist after only 2 years. If I didn't step out, I would die. I kept telling myself, God wouldn't want me to stay in a marriage where I would literally die.
Thank you for talking about the divorce. "I didn't want it." What are we supposed to do, hold them at gun point? No, we have free will! You can't make a person stay, anymore than you can make a person choose Jesus. Thank you. You will never know the impact you actually have.
I agree. I wanted to stay married but he doesn't want to stay. Makes no sense to force it. Both people are unhappy in the end.
32:30 there is a difference between walking thru suffering and stewarding your suffering. You have allowed the very broken things that have broken you and you have lifted them up and you allowed God’s love to run thru these broken places to other woman. So true and so beautifully said! Thank you, thank you thanks you
I am so thankful for this message. I've been married to a covert narcissist and had such a horrible marriage. 6 months into marriage he left which was the 1st of 12 more times at least. Then before our 1st anniversary I caught him watching port which explained alot of his abuse to me.. come up on 2nd anniversary he almost died from a cancer tumor blocking his colon that then led to many surgeries and chemo and me taking sole care of him and all 5he bags he had connected from surgeries to then it spreading to his liver and yet another major surgery. Theu it all I remainded faithful but the abuse continued even when he was sick. We both worked in ministry this shouldn't be happening. I can't tell you how many times I wanted to wake up from the trauma and nightmare. He now left for good and filed for divorce. I've asked God to use me thru all this to help others. My story would make your skin crawl but God is good and I am trying to rebuild my life and learn how to rely on God for strength everyday. I have several of your books and I am thankful for all that you do to help others heal. ❤
Sorry for all you been through. Praise God you are free from it now. Hallelujah 🙌
Wow! Jesus did not give his life to enable someone’s bad behavior. That’s powerful!
Thank you for your story, Lysa. I was married to a narristic for 25yrs. God provided a way out.
we went to counselling, he didn't do a thing he was asked to do. The last 3 months were horrendous. It's been 18yrs since he left. Each year has been better and better. I would never have coped without Jesus. Praise Him
This interview has brought me to tears. I’m currently going through a nasty process with husband. It has broken me and I was grasping for straws. But God came through and gently guided me here.
Thank you so much for putting my thoughts and feelings into words. Thank you for giving me the strength to remember that God is always with me. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us. I’m truly grateful.
Thank you ❤
Listening to this brings back the hurt & truma I also experienced from a broken marriage. The year was also 2013 & I also prayed for reconciliation which never came, eventually a divorce happened. My journey has been one of healing of myself. I'm now ready to find love again. Thanks for sharing.
Same! I’m ready to love again too, I’ve always been alone in the marriage I had
@@katiebr blessings
@@Natasha76234 God is with us, He is good!
Wow Lisa you don't know how I needed this today I just got divorce 2 days ago and it felt like you where talking about my life. Starting a new season unsure but the one thing I am sure with God all will be good.and after feeling that pain when they said we now divorce that pain and emptiness you can't explain to anyone but what I am thankful for is that not one day God took his hands of me and my children. Thank you I gave me new courage this morning may God bless you 🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹
"There's nothing in this world that we can attach our hope to and have it be permanently wonderful." ❤
Well said.
I would give anything to have even ONE friend I could count on. My husband of 41 years cheated on me, twice, and after I found out about the 2nd affair he left me for the other woman. I have been with him practically my entire life (we met when I was 14 and got married when I was 16). I have never been alone before, and I am terrified and completely devastated. I have two grown daughters that I have been trying to lean on, but now they are pulling away from me because they say they need "boundaries". I am beyond broken. Please pray for me. 🙏
If you know the Lord, the reality that He is really living inside of you can become really real to you. I had to learn this and hold hands with Jesus on the inside of me. No one else can make you okay. Look to Him inside of you and ask Him to make Himself real in there and hold hands with Him. Keep your focus on Him in you and not on everyone outside of you. Many blessings and peace to you.
@@colettejoseph76 Thank you so much! I am praying right now that God will make Himself real to me so that I can truly feel Him holding and comforting me. In Jesus' name, Amen!! 🙏🙏
Pray for women to come along side you. Don't do this alone.
I am praying for you. You are not alone. May Jesus embrace you in His love....look and live..
Hi
I am same situation exactly
Except my husband wants to stay with me and I am not sure if I want to .
Hopefully we both come out of this stronger .
Thank u for this post! I’m 74 ( 27 years) praying for specific healings in my adult sons’ lives & financial restitution for my life.
I have recently found out about a lot of lies from my husband of over 40 years. I recently went and bought a book to help me forgive…..turns out it was your book. Today I found this podcast. I have your book Uninvited in my cart on Amazon. I am going to forgive and TRY to forget all of the past hurts. I love my husband and believe he has fallen in love with me again too in the last few years. You are an amazing woman and I hope to make you a mentor for myself. I appreciate that God showed me the way to you and your podcast and book. Thank you so much. He is living in my life and I am realizing more each day! God is GREAT
Forgiveness is a process and it takes time. It’s not one and done. It’s a journey. God can help if you ask
That's gives me hope I am fighting for my marriage
Wow, what a beautiful testimony about her book being the actual book you read! May God heal both you and your spouse 🙏🏾
Your moms story and your story is mine as well. I’m still sad today about my marriage ending because he was with other women and my children going through it as well. But I have Jesus in my life. Amen. Thank you. God bless you both. ❤
Hello pretty lady 👋
Lysa has been such a blessing to me as I dealt with a similar situation exacerbated by my husband’s addiction in my marriage of nearly 20 years. Her vulnerability and transparency as a Christian woman living through dysfunction with an unrepentive husband has been so helpful. I tried so hard to save my marriage and my husband, but I couldn’t and trying to save them was literally killing me. And I realized that the marriage I was desperately trying to hold on to as a Christian was actually not honoring God and that’s when I had to set a boundary for myself and finally let go. Praying God continues to bless her.
Me too!
I've been divorced twice but I have to take accountability because I never went to the Lord about marrying them. It was my lust & idolatry. I adore Lysa but I don't understand her 'exposing' her exe's foibles. His sin to the world. I'm all for authentic. I'm an author as well but I wouldn't name the names of the men who cheated or hurt me. I just don't understand. Maybe he told her it was ok???
I really hope and pray Lysa remarries. It's going to be challenging for her though. Being in a relationship will trigger wounds. Even the ones we were CERTAIN were completely healed. It takes time, longer than we care to admit, to heal. Love you Lysa. I don't mean to be mean.
Phenomenal interview. Inspiring.
Yes, it's disconcerting. My ex-husband did worse things than her spouse. I'm not going to go on TH-cam and TV and tell the world. Lysa is very smart. Well spoken, articulate. She doesn't have any joy. Why is that?
I had the same experience...my husband was having an affair...I caught him...he gaslighted me as well. Unfortunately, I did shut down and had a nervous breakdown. I thought of killing myself and at that moment, I felt a hand on my shoulder and I got the help I needed. If it wasn't for God stepping in...I wouldn't be here today.
I'm 39 going on 40 and I so desperately need an older person that can speak into my life, that can keep me in check /mentor/guide/advice. I have acquaintances and not close friends that I can't call on in times of need.I don't feel lonely or depressed or anything, but I lack voices of good and honest Godly counsel.I'm praying God to connect me with women that are after His own heart that I can learn and grow from, that we can speak into each other's lives.
I'll be praying for you. I hope God can give you someone
If your not going to church ,visit some churches in your area. many churches have women’s ministries, Bible study groups and get involved.
God calls us to fellowship with one another and us women really need that.
I believe YOU could be the strong woman of God ,mentor ,guide for younger gals ❤
Prayers 🙏
Yes. She needs fellowship. We all do. She can also mentor or support younger sisters.
Holy Spirit is a person. Please ask the Holy Spirit to show you. Ask, who are you? Holy are you? Help me, guide me, teach me... once He shows you... surrender yourself if you want to, surrender everything, your wants needs, say you give the Holy Spirit access... complete access. Once you experience Him.. it'll be quite an experience... when His Spirit invades you... not every one will understand. .it'll be disturbing to them. . Stay focused... prayers to you ❤
The Bible says we should call on the name of Jesus. She needs to call " Oh Lord Jesus!". I'm an older sister. I'd be happy to encourage you. What you need is fellowship. In person. Can u locate a church?
I am going through this storm. My husband has abandoned me for someone else by not being able to choose. I need all the strength and prayers through this time. I need to learn to let go and say goodbye.
Loser
This video was so helpful.
Thank you for sharing your testimony, Lisa.
Thank you ladies.
The sentence that really stood out to me was:
God wouldn’t want me to marry a man who loves other women, more than me.
The bit about "Jesus had all the answers but he still had sorrow unto the point of death" ....that really hit me ❤🙏🏽 I also loved the realness....admitting thoughts, feelings and past actions honestly...much needed, so beautiful, feeling the healing pour out over me ❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽
We are thankful for the vulnerability that was shared in this interview as well.
100% God rescue me! I can see it clearly. Men lie like there’s no tomorrow and blame us by saying, we have mental problems. It helped me reading one of Lysa’s book….. You are going to make it! I was reading my own story. Loved how it has scripture reference. Lysa is transparent and an amazing writer♥️ I also recommend Forgiving what you can’t forget.
God's timing is everything. I always listen to worship music early and I couldn't find it but instead I found this video and listen to her testimony on how to forgive. I know God had me listen because it's what I needed to hear. Thank you, Lisa, and the Lord.
Thank you for sharing this! Unfortunately I now know what gaslighting is. My reality altered in an effort to cause me to believe in an illusion. I am so broken right now. My privacy....in my home. In my car. In my work....all manipulated. When I first realized it, I said....well.its ok, bc the eye of God is always on us. This is helping me to accept that. But it's now debilitating in this moment to know that someone(s) are abusing that information for their gain. Someone I loved. My most personal intimate times....on full display to someone who is abusive. God help me. I don't know why this is happening or if it's ever gonna be ok. Please pray for me.
Hello Samantha, I was in a search of a very good friend that bears a similar name with you, so i found you coincidentally. I was attracted by your profile.. Sorry for barging into your privacy...
Finally, real talk. Mostly I hear idealistic Bible verses but no real applications of the Word to the pain and struggles. Thank you so much!!!
Lisa, Thank you!! My situation was much like yours, with the excepting that my husband died. He had contracted HPV in his cheating. He was a Covert Narcissist and treated my abusive for yrs. I was so broken after he died that only God could save me and He did. Validation from 4 great spiritual sisters got me through. I am now 71 yrs. Old and moving ln in life. Great Praises to God who has sustained me for All the years!
This video came across my feed just as i have made the decision to walk away from my narcissistic husband whose abuse on me and our children has been devastating. However i am on a journey of forgiveness so that i can be free to love again and be better, not bitter. Thanks for this interview
Patrick Weaver Ministries is a good resource with Godly wisdom for women who have been abused, especially psychologically. Praying for your healing.
So so true! There are some times that God RESCUES YOU! When God rescued me from nearly 40 years, broke off the bondage I was not really aware the magnitude of, He opened so many doors, big doors and I walked in Peace which seemed so odd in the natural!
Love this interview, it hurts and helps. God bless and keep!
Yes. Me too..😢
It seems like Churches don't really see divorced singles as important as couples and families. Lysa isn't the only one who received divorce papers not by choice.
Thank you so much for this interview.
I'm learning that God allowed me to go through what I went through to help others as you are.
I will continue to pray for you.
My name is Becky
I have never met Lysa but I've read one of her books. Did the study that accompanied it and have followed Proverbs 31 Ministries for a while now. Women of God, I love you. This was such a rich conversation. Stewarding pain is a new concept to me, but indeed you have. I just found out you are now remarried. May God bless your covenant marriage with your new husband. May He grant you 100+ fold love (if there's such a thing) for all you've been through. God bless. ❤
THANK YOU, BEAUTIFUL BELIEVERS, FOR SHARING YOUR STRENGTH, FAITH, AND HOPE THROUGH ALL THE PAIN, BETRAYAL, AND MENTAL ILLNESS. I AM RELATING AND MAY GOD CONTINUE YOUR WALK WITH THE LORD! JEREMIAH 29:11 SAYS IT ALL. MY AUNT IS A FOUR-TIME CANCER SURVIVOR (TWO BEING BREAST CANCER). HER BELIEF IN THE LORD, GOD HAS BROUGHT ME BACK TO THE KIND OF FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE OF OUR FATHER. I AM A MIRACLE FOR ALL THE PITS AND HEALTH STRUGGLES GOD HAS BROUGHT ME THROUGH. GOD BLESS ALL OUT IN THE WORLD AND KNOW GOD IS HERE, WAITING FOR HIS CHILDREN TO COME FOLLOW HIM. I AM TRULY GRATEFUL TO GOD FOR NEVER LEAVING ME OR FORSAKING ME.
This and other messages from Lisa this week are easing my sorrow. Thank you and God bless us all through Yeshua.
I cried so much while listening to this interview. Thank you so much Lysa for being so open about so many things that spoke deeply to me. God bless you always.
I’m not married but this was touching and reminds me of the relationships and pain I had to endure, but God is so good and his grace is sufficient which has helped me be stronger and have more faith in him that better is sure to come by just believing his will.
I also have tried to figure out the why of the betrayal and secrets of my husband (he died before I found out some of his secrets).I was stuck in the hurt. I prayed that God would heal my heart. God showed me I needed to look forward and not back. Not dwell on the past.
Praise God this is wisdom 🙌 that Lysa has expressed through God. I can totally understand this explanation of a broken heart healing process 🙏. God is speaking through her woman of God 🙏🙌. Take the boundary lesson in me Lord, and make me stronger in your will not my will in Jesus . I am learning that my past is a lesson. Take away everything that has happened to me and restore to the woman I'm supposed to be in body spirit and soul that my ex husband had taken away 💔. Forgive me Lord for my wrong path i took and destroyed because of lack of knowledge from my parents from culture to tradition. Make me a proverbs 31. Even when I admit i have flaws and errors I am not God, but you are my God 🙏 in Jesus Christ I pray to stay grounded in the word of truth and knowing deception is also a lesson to be self aware of my response and reaction to not get triggered by the people that are not living in the same level as myself. Lord i believe you are working around me during times of attack from the enemy 🙏🙌💔
Mental health is a commitment to reality in every moment. I have never written down wisdom from a testimony until now.
Her words are so articulate
Sheila, thanks for taking the time to do this interview. May the Lord bless you abundantly!! Lisa, thank you, thank you!! I'm speechless. This is exactly what I needed to hear. God bless you too.
Limited capacity. I feel this. I let my ex drain me, and when I put up a boundary nicely, I was made out to be the bad guy… to be “unreliable” 😔
Lisa I feel so connected to your story. I’m going through separation and eventually divorce. I’m having to make those decisions and it’s hard. But God is walking with me. I know He is. I’m so blessed to see what God brought to you through all the pain and heartache.
Same here. Thank you for sharing
Just finished Sheila's interview with Lysa-excellent! Thoughtful questions and answers. I almost couldn't finish though because of the "background" music. I stopped the video at one point because the music was so loud and high pitched, it was overwhelming to me and I couldn't hear what they were talking about. (that happened when Sheila asked "What is a boundary") It was too loud again at 48 minutes. Background music is to be just that-in the background or barely noticeable. Thank you for considering my comments.
Wow the messages I’ve been getting… when she said we can just simply trust the lord…I received a message from Holy Spirit about this today how those who seek after “truth and knowledge” are in an endless seeking- it’s the endless seeking that is bringing some into cycles of chaos and confusion; ❤
Incredible! ❤
So grateful to Lysa being so transparent. Story hit close to home in real time for me and each step of the way, Lysa had another book to help me along. Proverbs 31 ministries has been a part of my life since 2018 when rug was pulled out from under me. Lysa has been the conduit for God to work through such a very painful time. Blessings to Lysa in her marriage now🙏🏻❤️!
I just love how this beautiful woman of God articulates her messages - I am just finding her and I can really appreciate everything she expressed.
How I wish I had a personal friend with this level of wisdom and warmth.....
Great great interview !
Yes, thank you Lysa for stewarding your suffering the way that you have 💙
God is our great physician, our I am. Thats what I stood on. His word is a lamp unto our feet , health and healing to our bones.
God alone‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Wow! I thought she is talking about my life… 🤯
I lived that, including her surgery after the husband left… This woman is a God given gift for women like us! I am grateful I got to buy her books! And I am thankful that I know my good God!
Such gentleness,intelligence, spiritual maturity, kindness, and courage, truthfulness etc. . . .in this interview. The interviewer was incredibly present, thoughtful questions. She responded so well-especially revealing her true feelings and the respectful bonding with the interviewee.
So very very encouraging, honest, and helpful, and a blessing; also I bonded with both of them!!!
This 💯💯 ❤❤❤ I just left a 7.5.
Glory to God!! God is so good! Amen!
Hardest 7+ years of my life.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own pain that we forget we’re not alone. I’m also a fixer. I have deep empathy and I feel the pain of the ones I love. I’ve fought for my marriage for 2 decades and it’s now looking at the disaster from my children broken hearts and I see that I can no longer be selfish. God is faithful. God has shown me that I can rest now.
“I was very attached to dreams of my own making”. Me! Thank you. Expectations are resentments in the making. I’ve learned to thank God for His plans and trust that He will see me through.
Betrayal trauma and narcissistic abuse is no joke. I lied to keep my dream alive and to protect him. God did not ask me to do that. I chose that. I chose my own pain for as long as I have. The beauty of God is that He is a gentleman and He will never force us to do as He knows is best…and for that, I’m thankful. I’ve learned who I am and that I truly will get through this season ❤
I believe that God has answered my prayer in the ways that I wanted; however I didn’t know. God knows I want peace, trust, faithfulness…I don’t want to be lied to, abused, gaslight, etc…if we shift our thoughts and really look at what God sees and trust Him, we see that He truly will rescue us ❤
2 of my FAV girl ministers authors speakers on the planet 🌎 ❤
Hello pretty lady 👋
I say this with true respect. I never heard of Ms. Lysa. But for the past 2 weeks I have listened to so many of her sermons and I thank God he let her be known to me by TH-cam. I usually watch Joyce Myers and Joel Osteen and love them but she (Lysa) touch other areas of my life and I just want to say Thank you. Thank you Jesus 🙏
Im glad the Church allowed you to continue speaking.
So much courage and bravery sharing your story. I am currently going thought the same and physically separated.
Your story has encouraged me to keep moving forward. Thank you.
It has always been difficult for me to set boundaries at home, with friends, as a church leader. jus ordered this book. Cant wait to read it.
I really enjoyed the vulnerability and transparency in this message. It was very enlightening. I do agree with another message that stated the background music can leave some people feeling heavy and discouraged versus encouraged and enlightened.
Lysa did everything she could and did more than she should have. At the end of the day, it’s like she said, she doesn’t have control over another person and what they want to do with their free will. Making the decision she did doesn’t influence generations of women to divorce their husbands, but it is to demonstrate a story of love, forgiveness, grace, mercy and letting go when someone wants to live a life apart from God. The Bible teaches us not to continue associating with these kind of people who continue to sin and refuse to repent in 1 Cor 5:11. She has the right to divorce per the Bible because her ex-husband continued in perpetual sin and refuses to stop. Like she said, she was also trying to save herself from drowning and this was the best thing she could do for herself, for women like us who are watching her dealt with a person who continues to sin against her, their children and God. “No more” was the right thing she did to draw that boundary between a person who wants to continue living in sin and a person who wants to live in accordance to the Lord.
I have been questionning whether filing for divorce was the right thing. In my heart i know this is Gods will for me. He told me this is not what i have for you in a dysfunctional marriage for 26 years. I acted in obedience to what i was told by God after a year of tossing and feeling like i could not go through this however God is with me through this stage of life and i doubt whether its the right choice at times. Today i asked God to show me how i can support my children and this video popped up seemingly randomly but it was God confirming to me that he has put me on the right path.
Your story in strengthing me to find courage faith in this storm. God is with us through it all. ❤
I am so sorry you are going through this. God will protect you. Please study the scriptures (red letter words of Jesus) before considering remarriage, though. It is adultery.
Great video. The music was very distracting to me. Does anyone else feel the same?
Hello Miss Glenda, how’re you doing today?
Yes the music was agitating so unfortunately I could only listen to about 10 mins - music was unnecessary and I am confused why it was added - instead of being able to peacefully listen to the conversation
I love it, I find it soothing and in sync with the sobering conversation. It's helping me stay reflective.
@@danapet1 wow. I guess they can’t please us all!😂
Yes
God had this pop up on my feed at the right time.
Yes, me too unfortunately or fortunately I guess, I should say..😢
It just hit me...when I hear how couples drove each other crazy during covid...that was not me...I loved having my husband more...listening to this I just realized that covid was the good time for me and the rest of the 27 years was my relationship covid.
Wow amazing women,thank you God for restoring her life . Amazing story, I'm going through the exact thing and now I am confident and have faith that God has my back. Love you Jesus 😇🙏blessings to all women of God.
Thank you both Lisa and Sheila for sharing some of your deepest growing growth moments, although it was amidst pain and heartache. And thank you for keeping God in the center of your stories.❤️
Thank you very much for your vulnerability and your faith walk with Jesus through all the Storms you've already faced and went through! Praise Jesus
Thank you Lisa for openly sharing all of your pain and living for God through it all. Your life so parallels my own and your books have been a lifeline for me so often. I've stayed, I've turned the other cheek, I've turned a blind eye, I stayed for the kids, I give and give...I just want to say thank you...
Boundaries are God's idea. Love this.
The video was evidence of God's care for me today. So often I will pray and feel like God doesn't answer but lately I realized He always does! I have just been moving so fast and always onto the next thing to see it when he does. This interview and message of hope through suffering was a literal answer to my prayer from yesterday. Thank you Jesus! Thank you sisters and TBN supporters! ❤
Very Powerful! 30:49 "It was not going to be something I can get over, it was something that I was going to have to walk through. Phew Jesus!
Yes, that sentence grabbed my attention, too! Such a hard, hard thing!
Lisa, I have learned so much from your previous book and I'm looking forward to reading your new book. I'm still healing from so much trauma from my past. I'm dealing with it head on through prayer and trusting in God. I'm in therapy now. Ty for your inspiration.
Wow. Ive was there. Angry, bitter, and vengeance, but God Delivered me free all that. It took me 5 yrs to be free.
Wow, Lysa, such maturity and wisdom regarding the need to step away from a bad relationship/marriage. I think the message you are teaching now is much deeper and richer than all your past Bible studies! So sorry you had to walk through this but so thankful you made it to the other side to truly inspire and teach us women more aspects about His truth and great love for us❤🙏🏼
30:00 "Mental health is the commitment to reality at all costs" whoooaaa that's powerful👏🏻
13minutes into it and I'm loving it already. So timely
The part about a child needs at least one healthy parent during a marital crisis (my mother, narcissist, would not get divorced. And let my father in and out of our lives continually. Repeated abandonment) I had NO one that was healthy. Still working this out at 58 years old. I’m glad I’m doing it with God!
Thank you for your transparency and the boldness to own your story and express vividly the pain and fight for your truth and the truth we face living an unseen God we’re so deeply in love with, who has a plan for us we never knew would be so close to experiencing hell. This is my story of 37 years of extreme traumatic circumstances so unbelievable. Reality prevails - life still expected with joy, love and adoration. May the peace of God be your mainstay and love be the center of it all.
Wow, your entire story is my story. Love comes in many forms from many sources. It’s taken me years to know that. Love doesn’t only come from a man, or a woman. Love and peace, for me come from the Lord. And for me, I’ve come to accept that I’ll be fine alone, with God by my side always and forever. My hope yields at times and only God can lift me from that, my hope renews and strengthens from marveling in the work of God. Amen.🙏
Thank you for sharing your story, and yes, we are not alone.
Watching this emotionally charged video brings back the agony of my recent breakup. My four year relationship ended abruptly when my partner walked away, leaving a deep, unhealed wound in my heart. No matter how much I try to forget, I can't seem to let go, feeling lost and unsure about my future without him. Despite my best efforts, I remain consumed by the emptiness he left behind, and I just needed to share this pain here.
Interesting! I’m genuinely curious how did you discover this spiritual counselor, and what’s the best way for me to connect with someone who could help me in a similar way?
Thank you so much for sharing this. Your advice is invaluable, and I’m deeply grateful for pointing me in the right direction. I’ll definitely explore this and see if it helps me too.