It's also funny because in many other countries, children knowing more than one language is pretty common. For example, I'm a Punjabi Pakistani. I was taught to speak in Urdu while the grown-ups in my house would talk to each other in Punjabi. And I was enrolled in an English medium school since English is also an official language of my country. That adds up to 3 languages that I wouldn't have known if I wasn't taught as a kid.
Story 2: Girl needs to run, he is a walking red neon sign, not just a red flag. No respect for you, and keeps trying to push you down instead of bring you up. Your kid doesn't need a worthless person like that in there life, and the best thing you could've done was leave him years earlier.
I don't get how "you're gonna be alone" is supposed to be a threat. She's alone already. She just has an overgrown, volatile, man child to take care of.
Story 2: Not only is it time to leave, it’s time to reconsider having a child by that man. Does she really want to be tied to such a nasty man for 18 years? Because he definitely will fight her for custody. It’s a lot on her, I know but it’s better to not even bring a child into that environment. She would be TA if she did.
This wouldn't be victim-blaming only if creating a child was a solo activity. Acting like an abusive AH makes someone an AH, not hypothetical choices made under emotional/psychological duress.
What... What's wrong with being bilingual? That's such a good skill to learn. That was the most dumb reaction the mother said and gave to the OP in the first story. Not to mention the bad blood before. She's really pushing her luck.
Usually racist people don't like what they don't understand, and will not make that effort to learn anything because they are either brought up that way or too stubborn
Story 1... why would you want that crazy in your life? Mom didn't want you and your wife together... she knew your dad offed himself over the affair but didn't call until she wanted something... and you're like... "I want my kids to know you" Like... 👁👄👁 *sigh*
Except, it sounds like he cut contact, his brother didn't give out OPs number, and also, OP was the one to call his mom, wanting her in his kids life, not the other way around.
Story 2; The abusive husband is a perfect text example of a narcissist.DARVO and that awful rage sessions when everything isn't about or in their best interest.It's always about them, there's no cure, and the sooner the other person goes no contact, the better, especially with a baby on the way
Story 2. There is Jo "I thought he was to blame too" he was to blame souley. He was a pos , he acted like a pos, he showed everyone he was a pos. Say, okay, me and our unborn baby are leaving. You abandoned us so I'm going for sole custody, I'll contact you through lawyers for divorce and child support
Story two: The irony about OP “being alone” after divorce is that she’s ALREADY ALONE in her marriage, has a family who will absolutely back her up. It’s the husband who has no one. He doesn’t have the emotional regulation of a normal adult OR family. Who’s really the loner here???
Showed her videos of wives putting up with their husband's minor flaws because of what they can provide?? What the hell does he provide then?? Because she's working, too! If the wife works then the husband is not a provider!
What’s he providing when hem not even working? He leaves his messes for her to clean up when she comes home. What’s there to be happy about in this marriage with the attitude he has? I was in an emotionally abusive marriage and stayed for 10 years before I worked up the courage to leave. I was more worried about supporting my 2 children and the mind can work against you making you think you can’t do it alone, but I was lucky enough to have a supportive mother who allowed us to live with her. But this woman would have been better off if she had left before she got pregnant. Don’t know if he just got worse after losing his job or if he was like this all along. 🤷🏼♀️
Nahhh. 2nd. When he's like "when I'm gone, you'll know, being single and 34"id just respond, okay but I will have MY child (thanks for the child care you pos) and and actual family that lives me. He will be the one that's actually alone, and jobless
Story 1: "I'm sad you are teaching your child a new language so early" _tired sigh_ Lady, no. Just no. The children have another extended family who happens to speak in another language, you do not get to say that crap after wanting to break them up. Story 2: First of all, no OP did nothing wrong in the BBQ and he needs to stop with his bs. Second, that move to Calgary reeks of isolating a victim for future abuse, OP said it herself they would be on their own so OP would have no support system and only an abuser for husband. Story 3: It was the money. Also what's with the comment of nail polish, like Huh????????? They may not want it but those two sorry excuse for parents will be left alone with only regrets and bitterness. None of what they did was loving or how a parent should be, and the fact that OP had to apologize for being mistreated???
forget the pros vs cons just don't move to Calgary period trust me. unless you are there for schooling for less than 5 years you don't want to be there.
I feel like as a group we can administer hard truths and 'tough love' while still supporting victims and demonstrating empathy. People have no problem anonymously dumping on victims for failing to understand/leave abusive relationships while ignoring the actual originator of said toxicity. Abusers instinctively target previous victims, love-bomb, hide their true personality, gaslight, manipulate, triangulate and isolate partners who are then blamed for these behaviours as demonstrated here. Some criticism is constructive, much of it is simply hateful, sexist, unhelpful, ignorant and cruel: don't justify it by letting it go unchallenged. There is no such thing as a perfect victim and anyone can find themselves the target of abuse.
As a 50% descendant of the Slave Owners of the Old South and 25% descendant of (including but not limited to my own last name) the Quakers & Abolitionists, I feel immense gratification in knowing that if my Slave Owner ancestors knew they shared a descendant with those who dedicated their lives to the abolishment of slavery, they’d be spinning in their graves. 😂😂😂😂
Story 2 don't keep trying if you're happy with out them stay away they'll live with it forever. You're worth so much then let in more toxicity attitude..seriously there's so many red flags. Don't stsy in unhealthy relationships
So she didnt do drugs and got straight as but still had a boyfriend. Guess that standard for women and men are different. For men having a girlfriend would be considered just as bad but for women every single one has a boyfriend.
Yea, I cringed when he said she was disrespectful to him! Like what? Since when does a wife have to obey and respect her husband like he’s expecting? 🤬
@@cyndirankin Obey and Submit to the man/husband are the main topics for Red Pill and so Alpha Men. Yeah every men or women can be abusive but that whole obey and submit stuff is coming from so called “Alpha Men”.
I’m so sorry you’ve gone through such heartbreaking experiences My thoughts are with you Your stories remind us all of the importance of compassion Stay strong and know there are people who care about you
You’re a hypocrite…just few days ago you were trying to blast this channel for exploiting people’s stories and when that strategy didn’t work and got you called out for the same thing, you decided to switch it up. So fake!
Sweets, it's ai written. All of them on this channel are. None of them are on reddit. I've hunted for them to look for updates on my own. It's all ai written.
"I'm sad you are teaching your child a new language so early" This is so funny because early childhood is the perfect age to learn new languages
It's also funny because in many other countries, children knowing more than one language is pretty common. For example, I'm a Punjabi Pakistani. I was taught to speak in Urdu while the grown-ups in my house would talk to each other in Punjabi. And I was enrolled in an English medium school since English is also an official language of my country. That adds up to 3 languages that I wouldn't have known if I wasn't taught as a kid.
Yeah it’s when your brain is more willing to learn and retain new information, like another language😅
It's not they were teaching them a language early it they were learning a different language at all racist don't generally change.
Story 2: Girl needs to run, he is a walking red neon sign, not just a red flag. No respect for you, and keeps trying to push you down instead of bring you up. Your kid doesn't need a worthless person like that in there life, and the best thing you could've done was leave him years earlier.
And it's only a matter of time until the emotional abuse turns physical because he's already thinking about it.
@@asherdales exactly, and even if it didn't, the fact that he said "you should be grateful I don't beat/starve you" is super psychotic.
I don't get how "you're gonna be alone" is supposed to be a threat. She's alone already. She just has an overgrown, volatile, man child to take care of.
Some people think they can manipulate others with that phrase.
Story 2: Not only is it time to leave, it’s time to reconsider having a child by that man. Does she really want to be tied to such a nasty man for 18 years? Because he definitely will fight her for custody. It’s a lot on her, I know but it’s better to not even bring a child into that environment. She would be TA if she did.
This wouldn't be victim-blaming only if creating a child was a solo activity. Acting like an abusive AH makes someone an AH, not hypothetical choices made under emotional/psychological duress.
Indeed, pop by a clinic now and in two years pop by the sperm bank
Story 1:
Low to No Contact with _"Family"_ Coming SOON!!!
I would vote for no contact if his sister was saying crap to his wife on their first visit!
What... What's wrong with being bilingual? That's such a good skill to learn. That was the most dumb reaction the mother said and gave to the OP in the first story. Not to mention the bad blood before. She's really pushing her luck.
It’s a common mindset with racists.
Usually racist people don't like what they don't understand, and will not make that effort to learn anything because they are either brought up that way or too stubborn
She can’t understand them and is afraid they will say bad things about her. She won’t be able to yell at them for being”disrespectful”! 🤦🏼♀️
Story 1... why would you want that crazy in your life? Mom didn't want you and your wife together... she knew your dad offed himself over the affair but didn't call until she wanted something... and you're like... "I want my kids to know you"
Like... 👁👄👁 *sigh*
Except, it sounds like he cut contact, his brother didn't give out OPs number, and also, OP was the one to call his mom, wanting her in his kids life, not the other way around.
Story 2; The abusive husband is a perfect text example of a narcissist.DARVO and that awful rage sessions when everything isn't about or in their best interest.It's always about them, there's no cure, and the sooner the other person goes no contact, the better, especially with a baby on the way
Story 2: A relationship built on screaming and threats doesn't sound like a good thing at all.
Story 2. There is Jo "I thought he was to blame too" he was to blame souley. He was a pos , he acted like a pos, he showed everyone he was a pos. Say, okay, me and our unborn baby are leaving. You abandoned us so I'm going for sole custody, I'll contact you through lawyers for divorce and child support
as soon as i read the title i already said that family is fucked up
Bringing his racist mother and sister to his mixed kids is beyond F ed up.
yep NO WAY IN HELL TO RECONCILE AFTER THAT NOPE! they can go f off
I love that you have Bertholdt from AOT as your profile picture@@gostavoadolfos2023
Story 1: yup youre doomed
Uh " he never did it in front of my family "
RUN OP! You are absolutely in danger!
Why would the brother let OP believe that for so long?
Cause he didn't want OP to be with his wife and hoped the guilt would cause a divorce.
Story 3 don't fret if you're happy without keeping this toxicity in your life then don't try. Best of luck
2nd story: I know he was broken in the mind the moment he try to prove his point by videos
Story two: The irony about OP “being alone” after divorce is that she’s ALREADY ALONE in her marriage, has a family who will absolutely back her up. It’s the husband who has no one. He doesn’t have the emotional regulation of a normal adult OR family. Who’s really the loner here???
Showed her videos of wives putting up with their husband's minor flaws because of what they can provide??
What the hell does he provide then?? Because she's working, too! If the wife works then the husband is not a provider!
What’s he providing when hem not even working? He leaves his messes for her to clean up when she comes home. What’s there to be happy about in this marriage with the attitude he has? I was in an emotionally abusive marriage and stayed for 10 years before I worked up the courage to leave. I was more worried about supporting my 2 children and the mind can work against you making you think you can’t do it alone, but I was lucky enough to have a supportive mother who allowed us to live with her. But this woman would have been better off if she had left before she got pregnant. Don’t know if he just got worse after losing his job or if he was like this all along. 🤷🏼♀️
Story 1 don't look back stsy nc you don't necessarily have to keep this toxicity in your life
Nahhh. 2nd. When he's like "when I'm gone, you'll know, being single and 34"id just respond, okay but I will have MY child (thanks for the child care you pos) and and actual family that lives me. He will be the one that's actually alone, and jobless
STORY #3... SO SO SAD! EVERY CHILD NEEDS LOVE ❤
That mother is mentally unstable!
story 2: OP should just obey him, you just know the husband is listening to those wannabe alpha male podcasters/youtubers.
Story 1: "I'm sad you are teaching your child a new language so early" _tired sigh_ Lady, no. Just no. The children have another extended family who happens to speak in another language, you do not get to say that crap after wanting to break them up.
Story 2: First of all, no OP did nothing wrong in the BBQ and he needs to stop with his bs. Second, that move to Calgary reeks of isolating a victim for future abuse, OP said it herself they would be on their own so OP would have no support system and only an abuser for husband.
Story 3: It was the money. Also what's with the comment of nail polish, like Huh????????? They may not want it but those two sorry excuse for parents will be left alone with only regrets and bitterness. None of what they did was loving or how a parent should be, and the fact that OP had to apologize for being mistreated???
forget the pros vs cons just don't move to Calgary period trust me. unless you are there for schooling for less than 5 years you don't want to be there.
I feel like as a group we can administer hard truths and 'tough love' while still supporting victims and demonstrating empathy. People have no problem anonymously dumping on victims for failing to understand/leave abusive relationships while ignoring the actual originator of said toxicity. Abusers instinctively target previous victims, love-bomb, hide their true personality, gaslight, manipulate, triangulate and isolate partners who are then blamed for these behaviours as demonstrated here. Some criticism is constructive, much of it is simply hateful, sexist, unhelpful, ignorant and cruel: don't justify it by letting it go unchallenged. There is no such thing as a perfect victim and anyone can find themselves the target of abuse.
As a 50% descendant of the Slave Owners of the Old South and 25% descendant of (including but not limited to my own last name) the Quakers & Abolitionists, I feel immense gratification in knowing that if my Slave Owner ancestors knew they shared a descendant with those who dedicated their lives to the abolishment of slavery, they’d be spinning in their graves.
😂😂😂😂
Story 2 don't keep trying if you're happy with out them stay away they'll live with it forever. You're worth so much then let in more toxicity attitude..seriously there's so many red flags. Don't stsy in unhealthy relationships
Story 2: he said "be grateful i don't beat you" and she called it a MINOR problem.
So she didnt do drugs and got straight as but still had a boyfriend. Guess that standard for women and men are different. For men having a girlfriend would be considered just as bad but for women every single one has a boyfriend.
Are there different cultures involved here??
SS2 Sounds like husband got corrupted by "Red Pill Men/ Alpha Men" videos, so OP you need to leave a file for full custody.
Yea, I cringed when he said she was disrespectful to him! Like what? Since when does a wife have to obey and respect her husband like he’s expecting? 🤬
Abusive men come in all packsges with ALL political leanings. My ex was a stwunch democrat and was as abusive AF.. politics has nothing to do with it.
@@cyndirankin Obey and Submit to the man/husband are the main topics for Red Pill and so Alpha Men. Yeah every men or women can be abusive but that whole obey and submit stuff is coming from so called “Alpha Men”.
I’m so sorry you’ve gone through such heartbreaking experiences My thoughts are with you Your stories remind us all of the importance of compassion Stay strong and know there are people who care about you
You’re a hypocrite…just few days ago you were trying to blast this channel for exploiting people’s stories and when that strategy didn’t work and got you called out for the same thing, you decided to switch it up. So fake!
Sweets, it's ai written. All of them on this channel are. None of them are on reddit. I've hunted for them to look for updates on my own. It's all ai written.
Ok cheating wife revelations. Subbed