Almost all women worldwide nowadays. It's settling to show to other women she married and had a kid (if desired). She can then say, he wasn't good, get alimony and child support, and get a handsome young player for fun (all she ever wants).
I dated a Filipina years ago, she was divorced a couple years when we met. I soon met her family that she and her sisters brought over during the years. ALL her sisters had the same story, all DIVORCED once they were in USA. They then get Americanized and have the same expectations as any American women, money, good looks, nice car, house.. the list goes on for miles. I just returned from Cebu weeks ago, was my 5th trip. Word to the wise, stay there with them if you retire. I'm not retiring age, now 52.. but if I retire in the Philippines, I would stay there with her.
The girls plan this. They know once they get here, they're the hot commodity. I've heard this over and over again. They get coaching from other Filipinas who've been through this before.
Especially if they're pretty, young, and slim. Hell, even if they're simply average for a Pinay and not fat, they still will get tons of attention from men in the states, and they will see how American women simply walk all over the average American and get away with it. They will witness first-hand how little respect and attention your typical American man receives, and she will eventually develop an inflated ego. It's a high-risk gamble bringing her back to the US, or any Western country for that matter. It's a land of milk and honey, if you're a female.
Everything has changed.20 years ago maybe yes she is hot commodity but not anymore. Whoever guy she meets here he will sleep with her and move on to another girl. In Philippsens the foreigners' men not only help their girlfriends and their wives they also help their parents and their brother and sisters. The females left thinking they can get men who have more money than the men that brought them to U.S don't forget her family will be calling her everyday asking for money .Would you pay your rent and car payment and ins and buy food or would you send the money you earn to her parents in Philippsens? 😂😂🤣🤣
YES, THEY DO! I know a group of them. Trashy girls, no class, just constantly spending their husband's or fiance's money on designer things! They still run around wearing skimpy clothing, if you can even call it clothing. As a second generation Filipino-American, it makes me want to distance myself from my parents ethnicity!
As many expats have noted, in countries like the Philippines you're the prize. In the USA she's the prize and it won't take her long to figure that out. Then its a roll of dice if she stays or if she leaves. This will applies to quite a few developing countries like Brazil, Russia, Colombia, Thailand, Ukraine, etc. etc. Want to roll the dice and feel lucky, then move her over here!!! LOL
So so true. Especially the past 10 years: I've had good friends, long time married with 3-6 children, saw them in church regularly, who are now scrubby, skinny lonely old men. Some are I their 50's to 70's. And it's the wife who leaves or files for divorce. Seems like they got bored or their career became a priority, thereby creating a wedge in the marriage relationship. The age difference was between 26 to 35 yrs. The poison pill gets to the body of them. I married a wonderful educated Christian Thai at 53 yrs & she at 24 yrs. We had 8 yrs of ecstacy. But the poison pill got her too. She had everything she wanted here, but her desire for business & success was too much to keep her home. The Chinese blood took over, & within 6 months, she went off into her new kingdom of financial success & power. She took me to court & stripped me of everything her lying attorneys could get away with, & even succeeded in taking our daughter. Took me 12 yrs to recover. I don't want to leave my beautiful, comfortable home in Hawaii for Thailand or PI, & I find the Filipina, Asian female too primitive. I prefer more cultured, & civilized human being like eastern Europe or the romantic & exciting Latina. If not, I'll get a dog & enjoy the freedom & independence of walking naked in my beautiful home & gardens. The world is heading for some tuff times. Thank you for your report. Aloha
@richardthelion8990 I wish you the best Richard. When all fails. Listen to your heartbeat. Your heart will guide you. I use to think love, money, respect, family were the most important to me. Then I realized the most important thing for me was my next breath without it none of the other stuff matters. And once I realized how precious life is I just count my blessings that God allows me to take one breath after another and one sunrise after another. For me nothing is taken for granted good and bad experiences. I’ll take it all. I’m just thankful I’m alive to experience it.
Never bring her back to the US, I had a 32 year age difference. 90 day visa, we got married, she got a job. Met someone at work within 5 days they were in the back seat of his car. Applied for her temporary Green Card. Received it, moved out, moved in with him. I reported her to USCIS, They said who cares, we see it all the time. That was 8 years ago.
Met a filpina here in the US who is on a work visa. 22 yr age gap, she is 39. Almost 1 yr together. So far all is well. She dated an expat for 7 years previously. The fact she is almost 40 is helpful. Still a risk I know.
32 yr gap is quite large though. Depending on how both of you are. Say 62 vs 30. One big friction is kids. A 62 yo most times doesn't want to change nappies no more. 😂. A 30 yo filipina would want to have a kid if they don't have one. Regardless of what they told u when u first met. 😂. Then there is the fun gap. I am 49 and my joints are already giving in and I don't seem to want to join a lot of stuff. Now in 20 years I am not sure I will be able to keep up with a 30 yo😂😂. Then there is stigma and influence. My wife is less than 20 years younger and i do look 15 years younger, so the age gap doesn'tshow too much. But on her first job ,the first filipina she met asked her ,how old is your husband? She told her, and replied, wow thats a big gap😂. Seriously😂.etc. etc. So if you want a super young woman,the only chance you have is to move to the Philippines.
Sam, what you said today is spot on. A much younger partner in the West can be problematic for all the reasons you cited. I will add that when the World becomes your Oyster you want to experience it, live it. If one comes from a impoverished background and a world of new wonders is at your fingertips the temptation will be almost certainly be too much for some to remain faithful. This is just one of many temptations a young Filipina will face when they come to the West. There is no magic pill to cure the separation anxiety, missing home, missing friends and especially her family and the of course the culture that has been her world until she came to the West.
I know one guy in Florida, both a 24-year-old wife here in America. In less than a month. She disappeared and hooked up with a younger man. I felt bad for that guy because he spent a fortune marrying her for a wedding, sending her money, immigration fees, and an airline ticket. Don't bring her azz in America indeed.
This Filipina must appear at USCIS office 2 years later with her original husband to get permanent residency - that's the law. Otherwise, she will be out of status and must stay outside US for 10 years to apply for a new immigrant visa after marrying another US citizen.
When I met my Filipina online in 2019, our plan was for her to complete her annulment, and then I could bring her back to the states for marriage. After finding out how difficult that was going to be I decided that I'd instead simply retire at 62 and come to PI instead. Now her concern, she's 46 now, is that she wants me to buy property so that she has a comfortable life in case something happens to me. WRONG ANSWER! I basically told her that I'm coming to PI to live a comfortable retirement and if that means renting property then that's my plan. There is no way that I am purchasing anything in her name if we're not married. I've been there twice now, and I do believe that I'd truly enjoy living there. It can be with her or without her, but she will have to decide. Don't bring them here. You will eventually lose them.
I know a guy who is Filipino and traveled back and forth between the Filipinos and USA throughout his life. He said “if they refuse a prenup, do not marry them. They will just divorce when they find someone richer in the US”
I had a great relationship with a beautiful Filipina in the province in Mindanao for 3yrs. We then moved to Manila and the relationship went off the rails. Even that lifestyle change (which was big for her) was enough for her to ditch everything. She started making good money by Philippine standards and became the center of attention at the company she worked for and before you knew it she was gone.
Yeah..big cities can be also a big change. I am married to a lady from Mindanao btw. Wish me luck, we are in a big city in the west but so far so good😂😂😂
@@SAMLAMB Correct. My friend is 32 yrs older than his Filipina. They been going strong here in the US for 17 years. There's several main factors whether the Pinay stays or leaves. 1. The age gap. 2. How good the husband treats her, e.g. you can't treat her like a maid. 3. How much she misses her family. As you know, for the most part, Filipinos are extremely family oriented. 4. How well you can read her intention and motivation to move to a foreign country. Although this isn't a sure-fire strategy for predicting if she will stay with you in the long run, there may be signs that her main intention of moving isn't to be with you. Lookout for comments such as, "I need a higher salary so I can support my family." The bottom like is, if you treat your Filipina wife with love and respect, there's a higher probability she will stay with you, regardless of which country you reside. Just my two cents.
@@SAMLAMB all the girls wanted a free ticket to the big PX in the United States but really not many guys fell for it but I’d go out to the clubs in Olangapo the whole street was nothing but bars and great night clubs it’s in the Guinness book of world records for the most bars in the world on a mile long strip
your right even pinoys a few years younger like me i was 24 the wife 18 we are still together after 35 years but when she first come to Australia she had a lot of guys trying to chat her up ,now with face book apps etc. danger to bring them to the usa and if your much older its also a danger.
Younger filipinas dont love the older man, they love his papers to get her to the states. The bottom line, there is no burning desire and attraction on her end. A man looking for a wife in the PI needs to find somebody close to his league in looks and physical stature to avoid any issues in the future. Men, put in the work if you want a young fit filipina. Do you really think they want an older man with a beer gut ?
Why not, 😅…Carlos. I use to think exactly like you did. When I first came to the Philippines. I was very , very active. Ran almost every day. Lifted weights…. Being an ex-athlete it was natural for me to stay in shape and I thought the Filipinas loved me cuz I was fit and had money. 17yrs later I’m still active but that beer gut is getting tougher to get rid of. Reason I say that first…I haven’t seen the interest from the women tapering off…I’m not really disagreeing with you, but on the other hand I’m not sure your comment is 100% correct…oh by the way I’m not chasing skirts anymore but they are there. Thanks for the great comment Carlos. You have a great day!
If you live in the phillipines and living on a 3k usd pension a month yes you can be an older guy with a beer gut. What good is a hot Filipino who lives in poverty making 200 dollars a month? How is he going to support her? All women are hypergamous. Women are more likely to cheat when they have more options.
@@TC-yx1qt Clearly ignorant on your part. First off, I'm 100% filipino blood and flew to the PI many times visiting aunts and uncles over the years learning the culture. My father actually owns a home there so l always had some ewhere to stay. Secondly, your clearly disillusuinal when you stated filipinas dont want to leave there families in the PI. They want to take them to the States or whatever foreign country to live a better life. After that, If they have no burning desire or attraction for the man she married.......... well you know the story.. read the comments. Lastly, have you ever been to smokey mountain near Manila back in the days? It would make anybody that has a heart clearly sad how little kids and families live there lifes digging for trash just to eat. If you haven't been there, you are the one that clearly doesn't know how parts of the PI is. That's an extreme case, but in my opinion the only reason, pretty, slim filipinas are willing to lower there standards is to have a better life. So if your one of those old unfit guys that think they can get a young pretty filipina , go for it........just read the comments what can happen. It doesn't matter to me.
@@carlosmonzon9272 you're wrong, I've dated over 200+ Filipinos in the ph and 90% don't went to leave their families and move to some far away land lol
Sam I'm 52 I live in Texas I've been working on myself working on my body by working out. But I would be a dumbass to bring my Filipina to the United States. it's plain suicide your just offering her to the wolves.My whole purpose of leaving the United States to look for a Filipina is to start a family and retire in the Philippines in my future.
I married my Filipina in 2019 when I was 55 even though people think I look at my late 30s I didn't bring her here for a reason my plan are to retire there because it's much cheaper on paying over $1,000 a month in the USA and I'm getting apartments for $100 a month in the Philippines I've been saying this all along why would anyone want to take that chance to bring a young beautiful Filipina to the United States I think they do it more to show her off and later on end up paying the price for that I still never had any problems dating in the US my first time going to the Philippines was January 2nd 2017 since then I've been there 8 *my last time was 5 months before the pandemic I always have agreed with this guy that's what I been telling people it's a big chance you take there was a video on a man 58 who brought a woman here she ended up leaving packed up with the next door neighbor who lived with his sister while he was at work the same people that said they were gonna watch over his wife while he was at work it looks like the man watched over her and took her to California while he was working all that trouble he talked about doing for her all the processing he did to bring her over here that's why way before I saw this video my idea was to live there I hope everyone makes the right decisions and thinks about what they're gonna do first you don't have to rush when you rush without thinking that's when you make mistakes you rush you make a mistake and get hit I hope everyone traveling has a safe trip and make the right decisions don't focus too much on the way she looks pay attention to what she's doing when you're around her my Filipina stays away from her phone all the time when I'm with her naturally we keep each other busy if she's on her phone a lot when she's with you you have to think if maybe she's the right one
i will never bring my filipina girlfriend here in canada...i am going to live in the philippines instead. I am willing to make some sacrifices for her but bringing her here is not one of them.
Good video, Sam. I was thinking of marrying a Filipina and bringing her here to the Atlanta area-but after visiting there twice I have now changed my mind. Thanks for reinforcing what my instincts were already telling me.
Jonathan. Don’t give up. If you can. Stay in the Philippines for a while. Meet someone grow your relationship first and year or two and then and maybe then you can think about bringing her to the USA. The longer you are with her in the Philippines I think your chances of surviving in the USA with her will be a lot better
@@jonathanjones9870 watch the new video next week. It will either strengthen your belief or it will cause you to give it another chance in finding a Filipina as a soup mate.
I've been married for 11 years and got my green card. My advice is don't rush marriage, take time. Visit as much as you can in the Philippines. Money talks. If she starts asking for money, pause and reflect. Same time, don't flash your “fixed” income too. You’re giving her the idea that you're rich here in the US. Be honest with what you want, don't go to the Philippines looking for a good time- beautiful-best in bed woman to marry. Your intention is what you will get.
If she didn't come for love, being young with an old man, that's just logical she doesn't want to spend her whole life there with an old man she doesn't love.
I know someone( my schoolmate) married a foreigners then bring back to their home country (US) after 1 year of marriage, she left/ divorcé her husband and found a young filipino..
I have to agree with sysy. Filipino nurses and healthcare professionals are in high demand in the USA. I think the Philippine government has slow the visa process for nurses to go abroad, cuz they need the nurses to stay in the Philippines.
I was a mailman. One day I had to deliver mail to an apartment complex on my old route. All the girls asked me, what's new? Well, I went to the Philippines and got married. They all started busting a gut laughing. Do you know how many guys we see like you? All of the wives leave the old husband and run off with a young engineer from Intel. Beaverton Oregon
Solar guy, have faith, you might have that one in a million that will stay with you…I believe in Filipinas…it’s the environment that we put them in that causes all the problems
@@SAMLAMB , The only Filipinas you should believe in are of the Iglesia Ni Cristo faith or some conservative Christian religion that isn't Catholic or a non-churchgoer.
0:02 One reason , the grass is greener that's it , I know I did it and she was 52 at the time I was 68 . Age doesn't matter the grass looks greener .. I now have a very devoted filipina ..Age difference now is 23 years .. Been together now for 8 years ..
That happened a lot especially among Navy vets who married younger filipinas. Everytime a ship went on a cruise many of the young filipinas would call each other to plan on parties or go clubbing. Half stayed faithful. The other half went wild. Lots of divorces followed. That's why I prefer mine mature.
It just shows there true character. He found someone to take over payments. It will get to the point when she looses her looks and people don’t trust her anymore.
I've heard this lesson day one, if looking to bring her to the states. "DONT DO IT". For the reasons Sam spoke of. "Your no longer the stand out, now back in the states, "Your the stand off". I personally feel if a person who is looking for a woman/wife, that person should also be looking to live there. Cause to a certain extent, then that person is really just looking for a "modern day mail order bride".
Love the message today. I agree 100%. Never ever take your Filipina back to the USA. The toxic culture in the USA will ruin that poor genuine vulnerable girl. Good job on today’s video Sam. Stay in the Philippines.
This type of mentality in women is universal. Women are hypergamous by nature no matter the country. If you make 3k to 4k per month in countries like Thailand, Vietnam, or the Philippines, then you are upper middle class and my advice is to stay there with your wife. The moment you bring her to the U.S. she's going to start thinking she's too much for you, especially if she is much younger. A friend of mine got married in Thailand to a woman 18 years younger. They happily lived in Bangkok for more than three years, then they decided to move to the U.S. Less than a year after she got the green card she filed for divorce. There are tons of examples of women from third world countries marrying men from first world countries just for the green card or to escape from poverty.
This is what really happens. One is only compared to the Interest Chart in the country you live. You come to America and blend into that country. The woman gets ranked and the man falls back into his rank in that country. 10 in the Philipines, now a 2 in America. She becomes discontent and wants the 10 she thought she had. Divorce.
You are absolutely right sam because I met a woman in Africa and married her over there and brought her back to the US she's got a green card now biggest mistake I made never will happen again and it's a 30-year difference
Many of these young girls dream of living in the west and have plans long before they ever meet you. You essentially become a means to an end for these women, a conduit if you will for them to live their dream . It doesn't matter how old they are their dream never dies, and you get to support her even if she leaves. The general golden rule is to not bring them to the west but for you to work or retire overseas. I make sure to let her know just how expensive it is to live here in the United States and tell her about all the crime and dangers here . I also let her know that I am not rich but can support myself and can live a comfortable life in the philippines.
As a filipino living in the usa since the 80’s My opinion is pretty much valid, don’t bring your filipina wife to usa 🇺🇸 They will not be happy with you unless you have children with the filipina-they won’t stay with you unless you are an alpha in the usa 🇺🇸 And most filipina rather stay in the Philippines 🇵🇭 the only reason they will want to move outside the philippines is to work to support her family!.. Believe me, your Filipino will be happy just staying in Philippines being married to her foreigner
It's not unique to filipinas, It's unique to the majority of female humans. It's a natural phenomenon among primate females. It's known as monkey branching. It's just a natural phenomenon. Your recommendation is spot on Sam, if you marry a filipina, just live in the philippines. Go ahead and take her travelling and visit the US or anywhere else, just don't stay too long, and live in the place where you married her.
a friend of mine married a girl from Colombia, brought her to TX, they had one child, and she divorced him, he has not remarried, but did support his daughter, ex-wife wanted her freedom!
It’s the age difference. Like how old men desires a young attractive woman, well usually they may desire man around their age and sexy. Best to stick with someone around your age period.
I agree with you, pink. But it’s very tempting as an older man when young women are all around you saying you are the greatest thing since the internet.
Best way to protect yourself is to just don't get married. My plan is to move back to the Philippines (moved away when I was a kid) after my kid is old enough to take care of herself. I won't marry there, because I see no benefit for myself being married regardless of where I live.
Exactly, I call the shots here in the Philippines. When I told my college educated, employed. Filipina I don't marry, ever. She said ok, me neither. We have a 28 year age gap.
I’m a filipina married to American. I’m 28 when I meet him. I’m Half his age but I’m 30year old when we got married. We got married in America and stayed in the USA for almost 6years i love my husband and I didn’t married him for greencard. We live here now in Philippines almost 3years now and we might go back to USA for medical reason. Not all filipina married an American man for greencard. We been married almost 9years now and always together❤ we both love our company. Always together 24/7 and love it ❤ I love my husband and he loves me that’s all that matter ❤️🙏🏻 My husband is a good man and I love him dearly ❤🙏🏻 So many men here saying don’t bring your woman to USA because they will leave you when she get her greencard Either you bring them in America or stay here in Philippines if the woman want to cheat she will cheat same in man also it doesn’t matter what place or country if they want to cheat and leave you they will do it.
Sam that was a great dose of reality. Thank you. I had an LDR with a beautiful young woman in the Philippines for a couple years. We spent time together in person a couple of times. We had a 37 year age gap, and that was the main thing that bothered me (and the rest of my family) about the relationship. She came from a large family and wanted nine kids! I was 65 at the time. I kept telling her that she needed to marry a younger guy. We split up (amicably) and she met and married an American guy only 6 years older than her. He's a good Christian man, and I'm happy for her. But I'll admit I miss her every day. She was top notch. I'm in great shape financially. I don't need a cheap place to retire. I just can't get excited about spending the rest of my life in the Philippines. I've traveled around the country and I know what it is like. I want the quality of life that the USA offers. Your opinion (and experience) on this issue has been helpful to me.
His absolutely correct. There are some good Filipina genuine but sucks majority are not. Be careful when they start talking about money, the modos telling you they need cellphones or sick etc don’t be fooled. That’s a bad sign. Im Filipina, just be careful.
Sounds similar to my Brazilian ex. As soon as you bring them back.....every other female is in her ear to divorce. Even though their family in their home country tells them not to.....they listen to lonely/bitter women in your home country.
Older/younger relationships are frowned upon in American society. Very hard to overcome that. Any woman who marries and later leaves a man who has been truly good to her doesn't know what true love is. It is a commitment and my opinion in my upper 50s now is just to remain single and maybe just go out on dates every now and then for some companionship but no marriage.
If you still believe in 'true love' at 50 in 2024, I'd suggest you stay a little out of the dating market, and increase your dose of red pills. All dating sites and people you ask, have a list of things they look for in a partner. Looks. Money. Jobs. This. That. Love isn't on that list, go have a look😂😂😂
I am 41 and my girlfriend here in phil is 26. She isnt necessarily too much prettier than someone I would date back in USA but I am realy attracted to her traditional values. I am afraid those will go away if I take her back and she might move on, even though I am not too much older.
For younger people like you it's quite a dilemma. Retiring to the Philippines isn't often possible before SS kicks in. So you need to stay in the states to make money. Should you bring her? Or move to the Philippines. For me to drop everything you have at 41 and move to the Philippines for a woman ? I wouldn't personally do that. In the end even in the Philippines, things happen. So not worth dropping everything imho. Now I would have two options either keep her there and visit now and then or bring her to teh us. I have heard people do the first and I have seen people do the second too. I for one would calculate all the risks, plan some mitigation strategies and bring her to be with me. In life you cannot eliminate all the risks. One mistake I have seen people make is to decide that they don't want kids, often do vasectomy, tell the filipina I don't want a kid and the filipina agrees and they take is a gospel or a vow. I would assume safely that any child bearing age filipina would want a kid with her man. I know there are unicorn and exceptions but when you are evaluating risks, you have to assume all possibilities and in doubt, assume the worst case scenario. In this case if you have vasectomy or just decided you don't want change diapers nomore, then a 26 year old with no kids might look elsewhere, at least when the baby rabbies hit in her 30... despite what she told you on your 3rd date😂
@@SAMLAMB not really an option to stay here. I have to take a risk and bring her to USA. I'm not really willing to tell her I don't want kids... I do want kids.
This happens alot and not just from the Phillipines. It happens to women here who think they can do better then they f around and find out they dont. LOL its better to marry only thru the Spiritual way and the Church and not with the State..You marry into with the State this is where the problem comes.
It all depends on her carácter: I’ve been married to my Pinay for eighteen years; we have a twenty year age gap; she is the same as when she came here: loving, caring, respectful; she wants to be with me every single second of the day (she works, so it’s impossible ); we are always together: going out to restaurants, traveling, visiting friends and relatives, but always together; in her eyes, I’m IT. She can’t see her life without me, her words. So I consider myself very lucky. We plan on moving to the Philippines.
They did that all the time when I was stationed at Clark AB in the 80s. A young Airman would “fall in love” with a bar hog, get married, and take her to the Land of the Big BX. 75-80% would be divorced within a couple of years, and the girl could stay because she had a Green Card.
I've been married to my wife for 24 years. We have lived and raised 3 kids in the US. We currently live in Bangkok and loving retired life at 54 and 43.
I hear talk of failed marriages once she comes to the USA but no first hand accounts. I know quite a few couples where the younger woman came from Thailand, Indonesia, Philippines, Vietnam, etc and they are long term, successful couples. So either these failures are loud or this is primarily a paranoia, jealousy.
You’re not wrong, my personal experience prior to being a vlogger all I knew were successful relationships. It wasn’t until I started my channel. That’s when I started meeting people with failed marriages. Most of my videos are about positive relationships. It’s just the last few videos I’m giving some equal time to the failed relationships. Thanks for joining in.
Brother I'm American and have lived here since I was 24 yrs old expat worker before the internet I'm now 63 your not telling anyone anything new about what happens when a young Filipina marries a older man. I would never bring a Filipina to the United States regardless of age and I would definitely learn to speak our national language Tagalog. I am a dual citizen here. I raised my children here.. my wife is medical doctor and so a few of my kids you must marry someone at your educational level and just because they went to college here means nothing so many crap schools here and many have worthless degrees from schools that should be closed the ignorance of some peoples astonishing. They called themselves college graduates yet they like the basic fundamentals of intelligence. The schools should be sued for malpractice so trust me just because someone claims to have a college degree doesn't mean absolutely nothing. I run my own business is here and over the years. I've learned to hire cert certain way from certain school, etc. bottom line don't worry Filipino unless you plan on staying here. My wife was educated in the United States went to Medical School there as well yeah her family has more money then me I guess you can say she rescued me
Brought to America... 1/2 will embrace American divorce culture. 13 year gap married to a Filipina for 10 years now (K1) in N.E. Texas. 1st couple years rough. But no regrets. If she left me I'd just upgrade to a 18 year old filipina... after retiring to the PH !!
There are a few reasons that I have seen when my wife and I were living in TX. So thankful that mine is the exception (of course she is only 6 years younger than me, and educated). I have seen younger wives that the men met in clubs and bars, married them, took them to the US and expected them to be settled housewives amongst all the bright lights, clubs and excitement. So they end up finding men their own age, with a longer remaining lifespan, better bodies, less wrinkles and a lack of needing help getting out the bed. I have also seen some of these guys bring granddaughter age women back and become extremely controlling of the woman. You are exactly right though. These social security kings get slapped with reality when they bring these desperate younger women to the states as arm candy. Social security in America is the same as poverty.
Great comment. I’ve seen and I’ve heard many of these situations. That’s why I made this video. So those who are coming to the Philippines for the first time can have a heads up. There are many genuine and honest women here in the Philippines, but when you put them in a bad environment anything can happen.
I often say we have to be fair to these filipinas. Now I don't condone ladies marrying men only for a visa but think about it. Let's just swap roles a little bit. You are a young men in your 30s. You go work on Monday and all your friends are talking about the weekend, the beer, the girls they took home, the waves they surfed, the plans they have for next week, etc. And they ask you, how was your weekend...and you look back on your weekend and you are like hang on.... I didn't sleep very well because my 65 yo old wife was snoring and complaining about her knees. I woke up early to make her some soup to soothe her itchy throat, we have breakfast then she went to have coffee with other seniors while I stayed home doing laundry...maybe with some soiled undies in there...and at night we watched a documentary on Nero and some new on CNN and she fell asleep while complaininv aboit how goos it was under Reagan...And you think this is my life for the next 10 or 20 years,actually gonna get worse. Then you go, nah I didn't do much. And there a young lady your age spots that your life seems to suck and offers you to join her once at a bar or something. Think about it. Now we can think like 'why did she marry him in the first place?'. Good question buy could be asked to both...and I do have a few answers...but this comment is already too long😂
I agree with you 100%. (#1) An older guy with resources who wants to go to Asia and marry a young wife should be prepared to stay in Asia with her for at least the first 3 to 5 years to adjust to being married to each other, (#2) to keep her around her family as long as possible, (#3) if the guy do decide to return to the states he should insure he is wealthy enough that she never have to work and just stay home as a mom to a couple of kids to keep her busy. I first saw this on Guam in 1972 at the passenger terminal by watching 60 and 70 plus year old guys being helped around by their young 20 something year old wifes.
Because they never wanted to marry most these older guys to begin with. All that we don’t care about age is just game fools who want to feel special for a change fall for. They just wanted you to upgrade their lifestyle. The minute they can do it on their own they’ll go find a guy closer to their age to deal with. Some of you act like these women are naive they aren’t…
True. I often hear these old folks in the Philippines say that filipnas like old guys. And I go yeah I have been to their bedrooms, they have pictures of old dudes on walls and checked their feeds and browsing history, they are busy watching videos of geriatrics in nursing homes.😂. Give me a break 😂
@@bigbrother4everhahahaha don’t spread the truth to much some of these delusional old farts think they look 15-20 years younger than they really look. Their Filipinas tell them they are so handsome etc. Those young Filipinas are just looking for an opportunity to upgrade themselves. The westerner is just the vessel to get them there.
I'm 51 in 2 months, 6 figures from rentals, no kids, moving to Philippines for my birthday. Will not marry ever but WILL live with 2 or 3 "sister wife" Filipinas who will each make a baby. II'll be a dad X 2 by this time next year!
It's a plan. Maybe it's not realistic, I won't know until I get there. And I'm jaded enough not to fall in love and get sidetracked easily. Besides, you only live once. You never know until you try is my working theory.
I worked in San Antonio Tx for a few years, and there are a large number of divorced Filipina Nurses there and it was common for them to to marry a guy from America (Usually White Older Man), come back to the States, sucker him to put her through school and within a few short yours they would be divorced. The most important lesson I learned is that you never bring your foriegn bride home, never raise her standard of living above what she's already use to because the moment you do, its a matter of time before half you $hit is gone
@@SAMLAMB It’s not exclusive to Filipinas but now they are a hot commodity for Western (American) men because of they often give the illusion of being family oriented etc. Men have become more and more desperate over the years and because of social media women are taking full advantage of
Here's my take on this, -they plan things ahead including the divorce, although not all of them but a number of them do, as a filipino , the only thing that I can advise is that be really careful
Dream big have hope for the future and don't let yourself get jaded-your latter days will be better than your former days otherwise you will looking at happiness as something you've experienced in the past -what a sad end to a life
@@dmanmorales7385 one step at a time Dman. You have an advantage over most of us who travel to Asia 15yrs ago. We didn’t have TH-cam. It seams every questions you might have, someone or many bloggers has touched on that subject. Take your time and plan and get to know the bloggers that fits your needs and personality
Why? The end goal isn’t to get married and live happily ever after. The goal is to get over here, divorce the sucker who married you, take half their shit and move their family into the home the aforementioned sucker used to live in and then live happily ever after.
I know from experience married to a Latina from Mexico. We divorced she never asked for anything we separated amicably. Speaking of the house we sold it split the small profit. So she doesn’t just keep the house. Most woman don’t want to pay the mortgage by themselves. Bringing a Filipina is a risk. I don’t believe it’s as catastrophic as it sounds. Statistically Pinas divorce rate from there K-1 sponsors is at 20% so 1 out of 5 Filipina’s will ditch their husbands. Still a big risk.
In general this is good advice. Of course things don't always pan out as planned. Sometimes guys might intend to come and stay with their pinay out here but for some reason or another it doesn't work out. Eg their plan for a little business goes belly up, they miss aspects of their home life or their health deteriorates to the extent that hanging out here becomes a little dangerous given the more medical infrastructure. How it works out back home very much depends. Some get nursed with love and affection till they pass away, others are just left once the girl finds her feet.
I want to tell you guys about something that happened to me yesterday. I own a filipino restaurant and yesterday 4 Filipinas with their kids came in to eat lunch. I thought they were all divorced, but one was in the process. Each one is 20 to 30 years old and hot. They were discussing how much they made off of their divorces. I asked my cook if I really heard what they were saying. I thought since it was visayan that maybe I had miss heard. The cook is a philippina and confirmed what I had heard. Beautiful on the outside rotten on the inside. I feel for the kids learning that this is what marriage amounts to. Confirms my belief that marriage is nothing but a scam.
I’m in Disbelief, fruit loops. Not a good look for the Filipinas. You have a great day!! By the way, where is your restaurant? I’ll come and visit if it’s in Dumaguete.
Met my wife in Kinshasa, DR Congo while there on business. Had been divorced from my Brazilian wife (31 year marriage) for 3 years. I brought Grace over on a K-1 fiance visa. We married her first week in the USA (April 2017). She is 5'10" tall and weighs 110 lbs......an undiscovered super model. Our age gap is 44 years. I am now 76 and Grace is 32. I'm on SS retirement income. Grace works for a contractor on the clean up crew for the transport company. She gets hit on several times a day but just blocks it out. Married happily now for seven years. When we are out together I get a kick out of seeing these young bucks (especially black guys) scratch there heads and wondering "How in the hell did that old fart manage to land such a beautiful woman"? Grace is different.....she has had opportunity galore to stray but has no intention of leaving for greener pastures. She has proven her faithfulness. Oh yeah, she is now a US citizen. BTY, love your GEORGIA BULLDOGS cap. I'm a UGA alumni class of 1971. GO DAWGS!!!
Thank you Michael. Go Dawgs! Looks like it’s going to be a great season coming up. I’m so happy for you Mike. There are women like your wife in the Philippines. Just have to keep looking. Your wife is like a needle in the haystack 😃be safe and once again. Thank you for joining us today.
Guys take your time dating ask questions watch behavior signs.. It's just not Filipina women but Central America as well example: Women are on the internet now. You think she does not know anyone in the States. She has already been briefed on what to do and when to do it.... Listen guys I know. She has girlfriends in the States or family already there. She will tell you I don't know anyone there. It's a chance you have to take. That's why I said, guys take your time dating and knowing a person. Also do not get caught up on the internet sending money... It might be a scam and you have not met that person. Ok Good luck guys. Sam made a great video for us 👍🏼
Women getting divorced after arriving in America happens in many immigrants' communities. Number 1 reason is something to do with money. For an example the woman parents or family members will start calling everyday asking for money. Her family thinks everybody in America is rich. If she doesn't send money, they will call her and tell her mom or father is in hospital and they need money to take them to a better hospital in big city or they will die.
U are actually correct ,something you did not say but here it is. long story short I have 1 Filipino stepbrother and 3 stepsisters my dad and their mom met by accident at a Walmart in Houston 30 plus years ago and we are all tight.my siblings didn't come over till later while in their late teens and my stepmom and brother still go back to visit every couple years and my stepbrother said what you said ,keep your girl in the PH because over there it's an island full of beautiful women so there is competition among the women they have no choice but to stay humble, however when they get to the US all of a sudden they are MISS PINA of the year and some get westernize not all but some do. And he said they start to believe their SHiT don't stink.
Yes. Another interesting factor is, in the Philippines they dont have divorce, and it cost too much $$ for the annulment. So, you're partners for life, in most cases.😉🏖️🍍🌺
***Sam I'm sorry but it's funny how you tell the story but divorce is not funny especially if you are in love and other person behavior changes. OK why Divorce? You are correct but I will add my opinion Sam. (1)Guys have to realize most women use the internet and have friends in the States that tell them when they get to the States she can make her own money not rely on him and if that friend finds out how old is your husband they will tell your Filipina wife on the internet there are lots of young guys her age group. She won't say anything but she will remember what's told. (2) You have normal/not normal... Yes Sam in the Philippines it's normal older men young beautiful woman. in the States not normal... you will have people steering at you as a couple. Older man, young beautiful woman. (3) Appointments, yes people will make joking comments "oh he is actually your husband" and a question will come to her mind why the reaction in that way. Last, Sam is crazy but honest. That's why I'm laughing 🤣🤣🤣he's correct he said " you are no more Top Dog" why? My opinion, she is learning about American dollars how much you make and other people make, so she is learning and after comparison, she realizes gentlemen, you are" Not the Top Dog" anymore🤣🤣🤣 Great video Sam. excellent!, but it's funny but true... In fact I am still laughing. What do people say Sam around town..."It happens to the best of us" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for the comment Recon6. I know it’s tough when a person is going through a divorce or separation. I have to look at the lighter side when I share my videos otherwise I wouldn’t be able to make the video. My divorce was one of the most painful thing I had to go through. And when I hear others going through the same thing it hurts. That’s one of the reasons I made this video.
@@SAMLAMB I understand Sam but you are beyond that now and stronger I myself learned from my marriage and look back on everything and realized my mistake. Anyway, the way you speak on your video and telling the truth is funny but you are honest. I like the way you speak with honesty Sam and humor 👍🏼
A good analogy would be Superman the king of superhero's here on earth and can get any woman he wants here but if he brought lois lane back to krypton to live with him there, he would just be another guy since all the men have the same powers as he does on krypton :)
Send them to nursing school and when they get out, they leave you! Why? Because "they graduated!!!" I had a couple of friends to whom this happened. My Filipino has stuck with me for almost 15 years. Still going strong....I am 70, she will be 60 soon. Best years of my life by far were those with her. I was thoughtful in selection, though. I had been through 32 years of tough duty with an ONAC (Ornery North American Chick). I didn't want to repeat that. I looked for character and work ethic and a Christian world view. She was a 42 year old widow with two boys when I met her. One other thing I did was to look at the mothers of women I was interested in. I looked at their lives in their sunset years. How were they? How happy, how kind, how nice. The mother of my wife had 11 children and two foster children and she loved them all. And they were all good kids as adults. My mother in law was a winner. Before she died many years later at age 89, she held my hand and said "Thanks for bringing my daughter back to visit me every year. You are good." The mothers are the key in many ways. These guys that date the daughters and tell the mothers to get lost are just crazy. My step sons now have college education related to computers and electronics. Both have fine families of their own and have good paying jobs. And actually I did very little. Their mother (my wife) had raised them right. I had entered the boys lives when they were 13 and 21. She put them through school on a job that paid less than $10 a day. Later we helped them a little with college, but mostly they did it themselves by working and being in the U.S. military. Before she met me, she was a police woman and a SWAT team member and noted for being an excellent knife thrower. So I have behaved well. I have seen her angry a time or two.
In my opinion, it doesn't matter the age difference, or if there is no age difference. Once they get "Americanized", you might have problems. I hadn't lived in the states for over 14 years when I married my Filipina wife. I have had no intention of living in the states, and my wife knew that before we married. So I do know, she didn't marry me for a green card. LOL.
For a senior guy who prefer younger ladies, it would be wiser to bring to America a lady in her thirties or forties who is more settled and who knows that her chances of getting married again is limited. It will be hurtful to bring someone over to America and then she leaves.
"Those who wed multiple times face a far higher rate of divorce. In fact, 67% of second marriages end, and 73% of third marriages are dissolved." -Forbes. You go back to America and fall into your old habits that got you divorced. Filipina has no friends in a foreign land. She is away from her traditional family. Half of her new American friends are divorced. I suggest going to church with her if you want her to keep her traditional values. Help her find friends with strong marriages. And fire that hot pool guy cleaning your pool.
Jeretso, I agree with you 100%. I’m not sure about stats but I’ve lived it. All I can do is make sure exwife number 4 never happens. Thanks for joining us
Good topic again Sam i will say there is no guarranty not because its too young or same age its depend how you feel or you are really in love or just pretending to the partner
Good information it goes throw my mind all the time. one of my lawyers flirted with my phippeno girlfriend already just to see her reaction I think that was all it was? while writing up a prenuptial agreement for us.
I'd say the probability of running into this problem goes down dramatically with smaller age gaps, and older filipinas. In my case the age gap is a little less than 20 years, and she's nearly 50. If I bring her back to the US I'd say the chances are very good that she'll stick with me.
Opinion. These Filipinas plan on the divorce before traveling there. Filipinas take advantage of laws in the other nation(s). Not Filipina but similar situation. On the Maury Pauvich Show, Model Iman was married to Spencer Haywood, who played basketball 🏀 then. But Iman threw fits. They divorced. She used him as a gateway to stay in the USA. (Rhyme unintended.) Iman married the late David Bowie. Coincidentally, ex wife Angela Bowie was on that show, telling how unfaithful David was. Angela and Haywood became friends.
I think it is a mix. The really bad ones might have those plans. But for most part, the filipina is naive. They see foreigners as gold in the Philippines even the old ones. Now because there is only one foreigner in each village, all village girl would want that foreigner. When she arrives in the US she realises she kind of made a mistake, that she could do better...that you are not that special...that she can still drink coca cola daily with or without u. And off she goes.
@SAMLAMB I don't know about guiding them if their intentions are to take advantage of what they perceived as naive Filipinas. They're trying to buy love and target provincial women. That's a formula for failure.
Because they are not contented what they have they are still looking for more that’s crazy. That’s the reason Im not interested to move to the US even if I have a chance I prefer to live here in the Philippines with my king I don’t want our happy life would ruin for anyone I am contented and and I feel Joy with him
Although not necessarily age related, men often fall victim to being O.L.D. (Overlooked, Lonely & Desperate). When that happens, more often than not, men tend to rationalize making bad financial and emotional decisions regarding women. Women can sense this like a shark senses blood in the water.
You are 100 percent correct, their options multiply once they arrive in the US, not saying they will all behave like this but most will. I can't say I blame them though, wouldn't we men do the same if there was an advantage we could exploit for ourselves? Of course we would, that's why they're in the Philippines in the first place🤣 Know your advantages and protect your advantages as best you know how.
Basically the guy did not prepared the Filipina for the shock in the USA. Socially, culturally, and economically. Yeah prepare ur future wife for the USA including the ways guys will look at here and the money other guys make. Give her the strengths and weaknesses, the positives and negatives of America before you marry her. Let the Filipina make a full informed decision about coming to the USA with u, the American guy.
Better yet, know that women don't love like men do. They are pragmatic, not romantic. They just want the alpha's seed, and the beta's $ for her needs. Best bet, no marriage, no green cards, no babies.
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I'm inclined to think that they plan the divorce around the same time that they plan the wedding.
Almost all women worldwide nowadays. It's settling to show to other women she married and had a kid (if desired). She can then say, he wasn't good, get alimony and child support, and get a handsome young player for fun (all she ever wants).
Oh my gosh Linden, that’s hilarious 😓😓😓
Bob. I can’t agree with that 100%…. Maybe 95% 😂 just joking. Thanks for the comment
@@bobbruce4135
That's it.
We're just tools to be used for the most part.
Exactly.
I dated a Filipina years ago, she was divorced a couple years when we met. I soon met her family that she and her sisters brought over during the years. ALL her sisters had the same story, all DIVORCED once they were in USA. They then get Americanized and have the same expectations as any American women, money, good looks, nice car, house.. the list goes on for miles. I just returned from Cebu weeks ago, was my 5th trip. Word to the wise, stay there with them if you retire. I'm not retiring age, now 52.. but if I retire in the Philippines, I would stay there with her.
Perfect and very smart
The girls plan this. They know once they get here, they're the hot commodity. I've heard this over and over again. They get coaching from other Filipinas who've been through this before.
Especially if they're pretty, young, and slim. Hell, even if they're simply average for a Pinay and not fat, they still will get tons of attention from men in the states, and they will see how American women simply walk all over the average American and get away with it. They will witness first-hand how little respect and attention your typical American man receives, and she will eventually develop an inflated ego.
It's a high-risk gamble bringing her back to the US, or any Western country for that matter. It's a land of milk and honey, if you're a female.
Not really. The dating market changed her.
Everything has changed.20 years ago maybe yes she is hot commodity but not anymore. Whoever guy she meets here he will sleep with her and move on to another girl. In Philippsens the foreigners' men not only help their girlfriends and their wives they also help their parents and their brother and sisters. The females left thinking they can get men who have more money than the men that brought them to U.S don't forget her family will be calling her everyday asking for money .Would you pay your rent and car payment and ins and buy food or would you send the money you earn to her parents in Philippsens? 😂😂🤣🤣
YES, THEY DO! I know a group of them. Trashy girls, no class, just constantly spending their husband's or fiance's money on designer things! They still run around wearing skimpy clothing, if you can even call it clothing. As a second generation Filipino-American, it makes me want to distance myself from my parents ethnicity!
As many expats have noted, in countries like the Philippines you're the prize. In the USA she's the prize and it won't take her long to figure that out. Then its a roll of dice if she stays or if she leaves. This will applies to quite a few developing countries like Brazil, Russia, Colombia, Thailand, Ukraine, etc. etc. Want to roll the dice and feel lucky, then move her over here!!! LOL
Thanks for the comment Francisco. I’m out of Dice😃
So so true. Especially the past 10 years: I've had good friends, long time married with 3-6 children, saw them in church regularly, who are now scrubby, skinny lonely old men. Some are I their 50's to 70's. And it's the wife who leaves or files for divorce.
Seems like they got bored or their career became a priority, thereby creating a wedge in the marriage relationship. The age difference was between 26 to 35 yrs. The poison pill gets to the body of them.
I married a wonderful educated Christian Thai at 53 yrs & she at 24 yrs. We had 8 yrs of ecstacy. But the poison pill got her too. She had everything she wanted here, but her desire for business & success was too much to keep her home. The Chinese blood took over, & within 6 months, she went off into her new kingdom of financial success & power. She took me to court & stripped me of everything her lying attorneys could get away with, & even succeeded in taking our daughter. Took me 12 yrs to recover. I don't want to leave my beautiful, comfortable home in Hawaii for Thailand or PI, & I find the Filipina, Asian female too primitive. I prefer more cultured, & civilized human being like eastern Europe or the romantic & exciting Latina. If not, I'll get a dog & enjoy the freedom & independence of walking naked in my beautiful home & gardens. The world is heading for some tuff times.
Thank you for your report. Aloha
Men are 3rd class citizens in the west
What country was this?
@richardthelion8990 I wish you the best Richard. When all fails. Listen to your heartbeat. Your heart will guide you. I use to think love, money, respect, family were the most important to me. Then I realized the most important thing for me was my next breath without it none of the other stuff matters. And once I realized how precious life is I just count my blessings that God allows me to take one breath after another and one sunrise after another. For me nothing is taken for granted good and bad experiences. I’ll take it all. I’m just thankful I’m alive to experience it.
Never bring her back to the US, I had a 32 year age difference. 90 day visa, we got married, she got a job. Met someone at work within 5 days they were in the back seat of his car. Applied for her temporary Green Card. Received it, moved out, moved in with him. I reported her to USCIS, They said who cares, we see it all the time. That was 8 years ago.
Wow! Sorry to hear that. Have you gone back to Philippines since?
Wow! Sorry to hear that. Have you gone back to Philippines since?
Met a filpina here in the US who is on a work visa. 22 yr age gap, she is 39. Almost 1 yr together. So far all is well. She dated an expat for 7 years previously. The fact she is almost 40 is helpful.
Still a risk I know.
32 yr gap is quite large though. Depending on how both of you are. Say 62 vs 30. One big friction is kids. A 62 yo most times doesn't want to change nappies no more. 😂. A 30 yo filipina would want to have a kid if they don't have one. Regardless of what they told u when u first met. 😂. Then there is the fun gap. I am 49 and my joints are already giving in and I don't seem to want to join a lot of stuff. Now in 20 years I am not sure I will be able to keep up with a 30 yo😂😂. Then there is stigma and influence. My wife is less than 20 years younger and i do look 15 years younger, so the age gap doesn'tshow too much. But on her first job ,the first filipina she met asked her ,how old is your husband? She told her, and replied, wow thats a big gap😂. Seriously😂.etc. etc. So if you want a super young woman,the only chance you have is to move to the Philippines.
Why would you allow her to work around other men?????? My Filipina wife stays AT HOME with me. Make better choices.
Sam, what you said today is spot on. A much younger partner in the West can be problematic for all the reasons you cited. I will add that when the World becomes your Oyster you want to experience it, live it. If one comes from a impoverished background and a world of new wonders is at your fingertips the temptation will be almost certainly be too much for some to remain faithful. This is just one of many temptations a young Filipina will face when they come to the West. There is no magic pill to cure the separation anxiety, missing home, missing friends and especially her family and the of course the culture that has been her world until she came to the West.
Once again. Thanks for the great comment. I appreciate it.
I know one guy in Florida, both a 24-year-old wife here in America. In less than a month. She disappeared and hooked up with a younger man. I felt bad for that guy because he spent a fortune marrying her for a wedding, sending her money, immigration fees, and an airline ticket. Don't bring her azz in America indeed.
Mr makeit..I feel it too. That’s why I made this video…you have a great day!
Ughh, to be a carefree romantic or cautious person with a suit of armor afraid to fully love…..
Well he will not do that again lesson learned
@@mr.makeitrain.3011 Sorry? It was going to happen. Being an old fart is fair game for the Filipina.
This Filipina must appear at USCIS office 2 years later with her original husband to get permanent residency - that's the law. Otherwise, she will be out of status and must stay outside US for 10 years to apply for a new immigrant visa after marrying another US citizen.
When I met my Filipina online in 2019, our plan was for her to complete her annulment, and then I could bring her back to the states for marriage. After finding out how difficult that was going to be I decided that I'd instead simply retire at 62 and come to PI instead. Now her concern, she's 46 now, is that she wants me to buy property so that she has a comfortable life in case something happens to me. WRONG ANSWER! I basically told her that I'm coming to PI to live a comfortable retirement and if that means renting property then that's my plan. There is no way that I am purchasing anything in her name if we're not married. I've been there twice now, and I do believe that I'd truly enjoy living there. It can be with her or without her, but she will have to decide.
Don't bring them here. You will eventually lose them.
Thanks for joining in Richard. Well said.
Smart move. Beware of the pokpoks.
@@mariatolentino4516 I'm curious what does the term "pokpok" mean?
@@nicetubtilerefinishing769promiscuous woman. From the sound pok pok pok...
@@nicetubtilerefinishing769 I know what it means, but I'll let Maria tell you. It'd be hearing it from her.
I know a guy who is Filipino and traveled back and forth between the Filipinos and USA throughout his life. He said “if they refuse a prenup, do not marry them. They will just divorce when they find someone richer in the US”
I’m in agreement 100%
I had a great relationship with a beautiful Filipina in the province in Mindanao for 3yrs. We then moved to Manila and the relationship went off the rails. Even that lifestyle change (which was big for her) was enough for her to ditch everything. She started making good money by Philippine standards and became the center of attention at the company she worked for and before you knew it she was gone.
Yeah..big cities can be also a big change. I am married to a lady from Mindanao btw. Wish me luck, we are in a big city in the west but so far so good😂😂😂
You win some and lose some.
Sorry to hear that.
Afrivox. Just love her and let her know you care. And always keep that communication open.
Filipinas were doing that shit since I was there in the early eighties , fellow Marines would bring ‘em back and then they fly away
Farmer, I agree with you. But not all of them are doing that. It’s a hit and miss thing. Thanks for joining in the conversation.
@@SAMLAMB Correct. My friend is 32 yrs older than his Filipina. They been going strong here in the US for 17 years. There's several main factors whether the Pinay stays or leaves. 1. The age gap. 2. How good the husband treats her, e.g. you can't treat her like a maid. 3. How much she misses her family. As you know, for the most part, Filipinos are extremely family oriented. 4. How well you can read her intention and motivation to move to a foreign country. Although this isn't a sure-fire strategy for predicting if she will stay with you in the long run, there may be signs that her main intention of moving isn't to be with you. Lookout for comments such as, "I need a higher salary so I can support my family." The bottom like is, if you treat your Filipina wife with love and respect, there's a higher probability she will stay with you, regardless of which country you reside. Just my two cents.
@@josephhernandez9428 love your comment, Joseph. 👍
You are correct dude I was at Clark AB and I was at SUBIC Bay you are correct!
@@SAMLAMB all the girls wanted a free ticket to the big PX in the United States but really not many guys fell for it but I’d go out to the clubs in Olangapo the whole street was nothing but bars and great night clubs it’s in the Guinness book of world records for the most bars in the world on a mile long strip
Simple case of supply and demand. USA 25yrold Filipina hot commodity in demand. PHILIPPINES 25yrold Filipina dime a dozen.
😂😂😂 I think you’re right.
Perfectly said
Truth!
BRILLIANT YOU UNDERSTOOD THE Assignment brother
your right even pinoys a few years younger like me i was 24 the wife 18 we are still together after 35 years but when she first come to Australia she had a lot of guys trying to chat her up ,now with face book apps etc. danger to bring them to the usa and if your much older its also a danger.
Younger filipinas dont love the older man, they love his papers to get her to the states. The bottom line, there is no burning desire and attraction on her end. A man looking for a wife in the PI needs to find somebody close to his league in looks and physical stature to avoid any issues in the future. Men, put in the work if you want a young fit filipina. Do you really think they want an older man with a beer gut ?
Why not, 😅…Carlos. I use to think exactly like you did. When I first came to the Philippines. I was very , very active. Ran almost every day. Lifted weights…. Being an ex-athlete it was natural for me to stay in shape and I thought the Filipinas loved me cuz I was fit and had money. 17yrs later I’m still active but that beer gut is getting tougher to get rid of. Reason I say that first…I haven’t seen the interest from the women tapering off…I’m not really disagreeing with you, but on the other hand I’m not sure your comment is 100% correct…oh by the way I’m not chasing skirts anymore but they are there. Thanks for the great comment Carlos. You have a great day!
If you live in the phillipines and living on a 3k usd pension a month yes you can be an older guy with a beer gut. What good is a hot Filipino who lives in poverty making 200 dollars a month? How is he going to support her? All women are hypergamous. Women are more likely to cheat when they have more options.
Lies. You've clearly never been to the PH for any significant amount of time as 95% of Filipinas DO NOT want to leave the PH and their families.
@@TC-yx1qt Clearly ignorant on your part. First off, I'm 100% filipino blood and flew to the PI many times visiting aunts and uncles over the years learning the culture. My father actually owns a home there so l always had some ewhere to stay. Secondly, your clearly disillusuinal when you stated filipinas dont want to leave there families in the PI. They want to take them to the States or whatever foreign country to live a better life. After that, If they have no burning desire or attraction for the man she married.......... well you know the story.. read the comments. Lastly, have you ever been to smokey mountain near Manila back in the days? It would make anybody that has a heart clearly sad how little kids and families live there lifes digging for trash just to eat. If you haven't been there, you are the one that clearly doesn't know how parts of the PI is. That's an extreme case, but in my opinion the only reason, pretty, slim filipinas are willing to lower there standards is to have a better life. So if your one of those old unfit guys that think they can get a young pretty filipina , go for it........just read the comments what can happen. It doesn't matter to me.
@@carlosmonzon9272 you're wrong, I've dated over 200+ Filipinos in the ph and 90% don't went to leave their families and move to some far away land lol
Sam I'm 52 I live in Texas I've been working on myself working on my body by working out. But I would be a dumbass to bring my Filipina to the United States. it's plain suicide your just offering her to the wolves.My whole purpose of leaving the United States to look for a Filipina is to start a family and retire in the Philippines in my future.
Smart move Philippine dream. I’m doing the same.
I married my Filipina in 2019 when I was 55 even though people think I look at my late 30s I didn't bring her here for a reason my plan are to retire there because it's much cheaper on paying over $1,000 a month in the USA and I'm getting apartments for $100 a month in the Philippines I've been saying this all along why would anyone want to take that chance to bring a young beautiful Filipina to the United States I think they do it more to show her off and later on end up paying the price for that I still never had any problems dating in the US my first time going to the Philippines was January 2nd 2017 since then I've been there 8 *my last time was 5 months before the pandemic I always have agreed with this guy that's what I been telling people it's a big chance you take there was a video on a man 58 who brought a woman here she ended up leaving packed up with the next door neighbor who lived with his sister while he was at work the same people that said they were gonna watch over his wife while he was at work it looks like the man watched over her and took her to California while he was working all that trouble he talked about doing for her all the processing he did to bring her over here that's why way before I saw this video my idea was to live there I hope everyone makes the right decisions and thinks about what they're gonna do first you don't have to rush when you rush without thinking that's when you make mistakes you rush you make a mistake and get hit I hope everyone traveling has a safe trip and make the right decisions don't focus too much on the way she looks pay attention to what she's doing when you're around her my Filipina stays away from her phone all the time when I'm with her naturally we keep each other busy if she's on her phone a lot when she's with you you have to think if maybe she's the right one
@@do7473 That is very good, I do agree about the phone. I also think it's important to know if she has many different social media accounts.
@@philippinesdreamorreality They all seem to have multiple accouont esepcially on FB.
i will never bring my filipina girlfriend here in canada...i am going to live in the philippines instead. I am willing to make some sacrifices for her but bringing her here is not one of them.
Good video, Sam. I was thinking of marrying a Filipina and bringing her here to the Atlanta area-but after visiting there twice I have now changed my mind. Thanks for reinforcing what my instincts were already telling me.
Jonathan. Don’t give up. If you can. Stay in the Philippines for a while. Meet someone grow your relationship first and year or two and then and maybe then you can think about bringing her to the USA. The longer you are with her in the Philippines I think your chances of surviving in the USA with her will be a lot better
@@jonathanjones9870 watch the new video next week. It will either strengthen your belief or it will cause you to give it another chance in finding a Filipina as a soup mate.
@@SAMLAMB NO NO NO. Don't bring her back to the USA after a year or two. Don't bring her back to the USA EVER EVER EVER.
I've been married for 11 years and got my green card. My advice is don't rush marriage, take time. Visit as much as you can in the Philippines. Money talks. If she starts asking for money, pause and reflect. Same time, don't flash your “fixed” income too. You’re giving her the idea that you're rich here in the US. Be honest with what you want, don't go to the Philippines looking for a good time- beautiful-best in bed woman to marry. Your intention is what you will get.
Never bring her to the states. The women will change once you bring her to the west.
If she didn't come for love, being young with an old man, that's just logical she doesn't want to spend her whole life there with an old man she doesn't love.
I know someone( my schoolmate) married a foreigners then bring back to their home country (US) after 1 year of marriage, she left/ divorcé her husband and found a young filipino..
Ouch…
Truth spoken with great advice Sam.
Thanks for a great 👍 video.
Keep up the great work.
Thank you Flori. I appreciate that.
Rule 1. NEVER bring them to the States
@@ke3588 wow ha capital letter something you hate us too much,you visit all hospitals and home care in the US 70% all filipinos are the staff
@@sysyjuan9899 that doesnt mean theyre good at their job; non filipino hospital workers refer to them as the filipino mafia
I have to agree with sysy. Filipino nurses and healthcare professionals are in high demand in the USA. I think the Philippine government has slow the visa process for nurses to go abroad, cuz they need the nurses to stay in the Philippines.
@@phillv dont ever subcribe to this blogger no good for nothing
*_Rule #2 Just RENT in the philippines, Dont buy any properties_*
I was a mailman. One day I had to deliver mail to an apartment complex on my old route. All the girls asked me, what's new? Well, I went to the Philippines and got married. They all started busting a gut laughing. Do you know how many guys we see like you? All of the wives leave the old husband and run off with a young engineer from Intel. Beaverton Oregon
Solar guy, have faith, you might have that one in a million that will stay with you…I believe in Filipinas…it’s the environment that we put them in that causes all the problems
Hehehe. I guess you have to try and join Intel then😂
@@solarguy1702 maybe they deal with easy going in the street girl anywhere in the globe you can find even in US
@@SAMLAMB , The only Filipinas you should believe in are of the Iglesia Ni Cristo faith or some conservative Christian religion that isn't Catholic or a non-churchgoer.
0:02 One reason , the grass is greener that's it , I know I did it and she was 52 at the time I was 68 . Age doesn't matter the grass looks greener .. I now have a very devoted filipina ..Age difference now is 23 years .. Been together now for 8 years ..
I’m happy for you Kevin. I love success stories
scarey thing is saw devoted who said devoted to foreign young hubby dated other with ease
Looks like I am lucky..17 years together…15 years married…one 16 year old daughter…she was 28 and I was 49…always in US (and Austria).
@walterdurauer9372 love it😄
happy for you
That happened a lot especially among Navy vets who married younger filipinas. Everytime a ship went on a cruise many of the young filipinas would call each other to plan on parties or go clubbing. Half stayed faithful. The other half went wild. Lots of divorces followed. That's why I prefer mine mature.
Very smart Johnny.
You become what I call, a stepping stone for the “Nextpat”
It just shows there true character. He found someone to take over payments. It will get to the point when she looses her looks and people don’t trust her anymore.
Thanks for joining us Frank.
plain and simple Sam don't take your Filipina to the US she will get ruined when she sees the dollar signs
I agree. That’s why I decided not to do that and advised others to do the same.
@@philippinesdreamorreality hey ,remember not all mangos's in the basket is bad dont judge
@@sysyjuan9899 yes your correct, but why take a chance on ruining a perfectly good mango.
@@sysyjuan9899 besides it's not judging, it's safeguarding and keeping your Filipina uncorrupted
@@sysyjuan9899 yes your correct, but why take a chance on ruining a perfectly good mango.
I've heard this lesson day one, if looking to bring her to the states. "DONT DO IT". For the reasons Sam spoke of. "Your no longer the stand out, now back in the states, "Your the stand off". I personally feel if a person who is looking for a woman/wife, that person should also be looking to live there. Cause to a certain extent, then that person is really just looking for a "modern day mail order bride".
Well said… modern day mail order bride, hmmm I’ll use it in the future…you be safe…
Love the message today. I agree 100%. Never ever take your Filipina back to the USA. The toxic culture in the USA will ruin that poor genuine vulnerable girl. Good job on today’s video Sam. Stay in the Philippines.
Thanks Fresh. Love the Philippines!!!
This type of mentality in women is universal. Women are hypergamous by nature no matter the country. If you make 3k to 4k per month in countries like Thailand, Vietnam, or the Philippines, then you are upper middle class and my advice is to stay there with your wife. The moment you bring her to the U.S. she's going to start thinking she's too much for you, especially if she is much younger.
A friend of mine got married in Thailand to a woman 18 years younger. They happily lived in Bangkok for more than three years, then they decided to move to the U.S. Less than a year after she got the green card she filed for divorce.
There are tons of examples of women from third world countries marrying men from first world countries just for the green card or to escape from poverty.
This is what really happens. One is only compared to the Interest Chart in the country you live. You come to America and blend into that country. The woman gets ranked and the man falls back into his rank in that country. 10 in the Philipines, now a 2 in America. She becomes discontent and wants the 10 she thought she had. Divorce.
@@lmbarnes3 yeah, that ranking stuff is true to a certain extent. I’ve used it in my pass videos
You are absolutely right sam because I met a woman in Africa and married her over there and brought her back to the US she's got a green card now biggest mistake I made never will happen again and it's a 30-year difference
Yep. It happens all over the world.
Many of these young girls dream of living in the west and have plans long before they ever meet you. You essentially become a means to an end for these women, a conduit if you will for them to live their dream . It doesn't matter how old they are their dream never dies, and you get to support her even if she leaves. The general golden rule is to not bring them to the west but for you to work or retire overseas. I make sure to let her know just how expensive it is to live here in the United States and tell her about all the crime and dangers here . I also let her know that I am not rich but can support myself and can live a comfortable life in the philippines.
As a filipino living in the usa since the 80’s
My opinion is pretty much valid, don’t bring your filipina wife to usa 🇺🇸
They will not be happy with you unless you have children with the filipina-they won’t stay with you unless you are an alpha in the usa 🇺🇸
And most filipina rather stay in the Philippines 🇵🇭 the only reason they will want to move outside the philippines is to work to support her family!..
Believe me, your Filipino will be happy just staying in Philippines being married to her foreigner
I love your comment. Hope others will read this. Thanks Lady.
It's not unique to filipinas, It's unique to the majority of female humans. It's a natural phenomenon among primate females. It's known as monkey branching. It's just a natural phenomenon. Your recommendation is spot on Sam, if you marry a filipina, just live in the philippines. Go ahead and take her travelling and visit the US or anywhere else, just don't stay too long, and live in the place where you married her.
Thanks for joining in Dan.
Once she gets the green card and US passport > it's game over for any man of financial means in America!
Ouch Dexter. So vicious 😅
a friend of mine married a girl from Colombia, brought her to TX, they had one child, and she divorced him, he has not remarried, but did support his daughter, ex-wife wanted her freedom!
@@michaelsix9684 thanks for joining in Mich
It’s the age difference. Like how old men desires a young attractive woman, well usually they may desire man around their age and sexy. Best to stick with someone around your age period.
I agree with you, pink. But it’s very tempting as an older man when young women are all around you saying you are the greatest thing since the internet.
Best way to protect yourself is to just don't get married. My plan is to move back to the Philippines (moved away when I was a kid) after my kid is old enough to take care of herself. I won't marry there, because I see no benefit for myself being married regardless of where I live.
I can't stop Laughing makes since
I’m with ya, jimmy.
What’s up recon6. Hope all is well.
Exactly, I call the shots here in the Philippines. When I told my college educated, employed. Filipina I don't marry, ever. She said ok, me neither. We have a 28 year age gap.
@@MakeTheRules2 👍👍👍
I’m a filipina married to American. I’m 28 when I meet him. I’m Half his age but I’m 30year old when we got married. We got married in America and stayed in the USA for almost 6years i love my husband and I didn’t married him for greencard. We live here now in Philippines almost 3years now and we might go back to USA for medical reason. Not all filipina married an American man for greencard. We been married almost 9years now and always together❤ we both love our company. Always together 24/7 and love it ❤ I love my husband and he loves me that’s all that matter ❤️🙏🏻 My husband is a good man and I love him dearly ❤🙏🏻
So many men here saying don’t bring your woman to USA because they will leave you when she get her greencard Either you bring them in America or stay here in Philippines if the woman want to cheat she will cheat same in man also it doesn’t matter what place or country if they want to cheat and leave you they will do it.
Great comment, Shiela…really appreciate you joining us today. You have a beautiful day…
Sam that was a great dose of reality. Thank you. I had an LDR with a beautiful young woman in the Philippines for a couple years. We spent time together in person a couple of times. We had a 37 year age gap, and that was the main thing that bothered me (and the rest of my family) about the relationship. She came from a large family and wanted nine kids! I was 65 at the time. I kept telling her that she needed to marry a younger guy. We split up (amicably) and she met and married an American guy only 6 years older than her. He's a good Christian man, and I'm happy for her. But I'll admit I miss her every day. She was top notch.
I'm in great shape financially. I don't need a cheap place to retire. I just can't get excited about spending the rest of my life in the Philippines. I've traveled around the country and I know what it is like. I want the quality of life that the USA offers. Your opinion (and experience) on this issue has been helpful to me.
Thank you Got2fly. I appreciate your comments. I’ve learned something.
After the Filipina divorces her husband in the US, she most likely will get half. That's adds more reason to divorce.
Ouch. That’s true.
The whole village can live off of "half".
His absolutely correct. There are some good Filipina genuine but sucks majority are not. Be careful when they start talking about money, the modos telling you they need cellphones or sick etc don’t be fooled. That’s a bad sign. Im Filipina, just be careful.
Thank you for joining in , sue. You have a great day!
They left them it was part of the game plan.
Sounds similar to my Brazilian ex. As soon as you bring them back.....every other female is in her ear to divorce. Even though their family in their home country tells them not to.....they listen to lonely/bitter women in your home country.
There are ways to combat this. Advise your woman to only hang around with married women
@olafharoldsonnii4713 sounds good Ola, but what if the married women she’s hanging out with are doing the same stuff…that’s double trouble…
@@SAMLAMB Yep.
Older/younger relationships are frowned upon in American society. Very hard to overcome that. Any woman who marries and later leaves a man who has been truly good to her doesn't know what true love is. It is a commitment and my opinion in my upper 50s now is just to remain single and maybe just go out on dates every now and then for some companionship but no marriage.
If you still believe in 'true love' at 50 in 2024, I'd suggest you stay a little out of the dating market, and increase your dose of red pills. All dating sites and people you ask, have a list of things they look for in a partner. Looks. Money. Jobs. This. That. Love isn't on that list, go have a look😂😂😂
I have to agree with you on all points. Thanks for joining us. Share the video with others with the same interests if you have time.
Really? I’ll check
I am 41 and my girlfriend here in phil is 26. She isnt necessarily too much prettier than someone I would date back in USA but I am realy attracted to her traditional values. I am afraid those will go away if I take her back and she might move on, even though I am not too much older.
Joek, stay in Philippines …
For younger people like you it's quite a dilemma. Retiring to the Philippines isn't often possible before SS kicks in. So you need to stay in the states to make money. Should you bring her? Or move to the Philippines. For me to drop everything you have at 41 and move to the Philippines for a woman ? I wouldn't personally do that. In the end even in the Philippines, things happen. So not worth dropping everything imho. Now I would have two options either keep her there and visit now and then or bring her to teh us. I have heard people do the first and I have seen people do the second too. I for one would calculate all the risks, plan some mitigation strategies and bring her to be with me. In life you cannot eliminate all the risks. One mistake I have seen people make is to decide that they don't want kids, often do vasectomy, tell the filipina I don't want a kid and the filipina agrees and they take is a gospel or a vow. I would assume safely that any child bearing age filipina would want a kid with her man. I know there are unicorn and exceptions but when you are evaluating risks, you have to assume all possibilities and in doubt, assume the worst case scenario. In this case if you have vasectomy or just decided you don't want change diapers nomore, then a 26 year old with no kids might look elsewhere, at least when the baby rabbies hit in her 30... despite what she told you on your 3rd date😂
@@SAMLAMB not really an option to stay here. I have to take a risk and bring her to USA. I'm not really willing to tell her I don't want kids... I do want kids.
I'm 66, she's 61. I'm safe but I know what you're talking about.
Thanks for the comment, Buzz. You have a great day!
She can still divorce your ass just to get half of your shit without having to deal with you. Lots American women do that.
Exactly, I’m 58 mines 51
if you both that old, you both don't need to marry.
my one is the same age as me, it's a 50 50 relationship. Me sometimes paying more obviously
This happens alot and not just from the Phillipines. It happens to women here who think they can do better then they f around and find out they dont. LOL its better to marry only thru the Spiritual way and the Church and not with the State..You marry into with the State this is where the problem comes.
Great comment SBF. THANKS.
Moral of the story is…. Don’t take them back. lol
@@Traveltip247 uhhh correct 😃
It all depends on her carácter: I’ve been married to my Pinay for eighteen years; we have a twenty year age gap; she is the same as when she came here: loving, caring, respectful; she wants to be with me every single second of the day (she works, so it’s impossible ); we are always together: going out to restaurants, traveling, visiting friends and relatives, but always together; in her eyes, I’m IT. She can’t see her life without me, her words. So I consider myself very lucky. We plan on moving to the Philippines.
Another success story Wolf. Thank you for joining us.
They did that all the time when I was stationed at Clark AB in the 80s. A young Airman would “fall in love” with a bar hog, get married, and take her to the Land of the Big BX. 75-80% would be divorced within a couple of years, and the girl could stay because she had a Green Card.
I've been married to my wife for 24 years. We have lived and raised 3 kids in the US. We currently live in Bangkok and loving retired life at 54 and 43.
Thanks for the comment, Rob.
I hear talk of failed marriages once she comes to the USA but no first hand accounts. I know quite a few couples where the younger woman came from Thailand, Indonesia, Philippines, Vietnam, etc and they are long term, successful couples. So either these failures are loud or this is primarily a paranoia, jealousy.
What is your sample set size?
You’re not wrong, my personal experience prior to being a vlogger all I knew were successful relationships. It wasn’t until I started my channel. That’s when I started meeting people with failed marriages. Most of my videos are about positive relationships. It’s just the last few videos I’m giving some equal time to the failed relationships. Thanks for joining in.
Not sure what you meant by that’s. In the past I try to give equal time to both sides.
@@SAMLAMB careful of sample set biasing factors.
Great video buddy. Keep them coming
Thank you Daniel. Be safe
Hey Sam … you did it again …. Thx for the video and you speak the truth 100%… the way you laugh gives me motivation on how to be careful
lol when I look back at some of the stuff I’ve gone through in the Philippines. I can only smile and look at it from the humorous side😅
Brother I'm American and have lived here since I was 24 yrs old expat worker before the internet I'm now 63 your not telling anyone anything new about what happens when a young Filipina marries a older man. I would never bring a Filipina to the United States regardless of age and I would definitely learn to speak our national language Tagalog. I am a dual citizen here. I raised my children here.. my wife is medical doctor and so a few of my kids you must marry someone at your educational level and just because they went to college here means nothing so many crap schools here and many have worthless degrees from schools that should be closed the ignorance of some peoples astonishing. They called themselves college graduates yet they like the basic fundamentals of intelligence. The schools should be sued for malpractice so trust me just because someone claims to have a college degree doesn't mean absolutely nothing. I run my own business is here and over the years. I've learned to hire cert certain way from certain school, etc. bottom line don't worry Filipino unless you plan on staying here. My wife was educated in the United States went to Medical School there as well yeah her family has more money then me I guess you can say she rescued me
Brought to America... 1/2 will embrace American divorce culture. 13 year gap married to a Filipina for 10 years now (K1) in N.E. Texas. 1st couple years rough. But no regrets. If she left me I'd just upgrade to a 18 year old filipina... after retiring to the PH !!
Some will and some won’t. You’ll never know. Thanks for your comment.
There are a few reasons that I have seen when my wife and I were living in TX. So thankful that mine is the exception (of course she is only 6 years younger than me, and educated). I have seen younger wives that the men met in clubs and bars, married them, took them to the US and expected them to be settled housewives amongst all the bright lights, clubs and excitement. So they end up finding men their own age, with a longer remaining lifespan, better bodies, less wrinkles and a lack of needing help getting out the bed. I have also seen some of these guys bring granddaughter age women back and become extremely controlling of the woman. You are exactly right though. These social security kings get slapped with reality when they bring these desperate younger women to the states as arm candy. Social security in America is the same as poverty.
Great comment. I’ve seen and I’ve heard many of these situations. That’s why I made this video. So those who are coming to the Philippines for the first time can have a heads up. There are many genuine and honest women here in the Philippines, but when you put them in a bad environment anything can happen.
I often say we have to be fair to these filipinas. Now I don't condone ladies marrying men only for a visa but think about it. Let's just swap roles a little bit. You are a young men in your 30s. You go work on Monday and all your friends are talking about the weekend, the beer, the girls they took home, the waves they surfed, the plans they have for next week, etc. And they ask you, how was your weekend...and you look back on your weekend and you are like hang on.... I didn't sleep very well because my 65 yo old wife was snoring and complaining about her knees. I woke up early to make her some soup to soothe her itchy throat, we have breakfast then she went to have coffee with other seniors while I stayed home doing laundry...maybe with some soiled undies in there...and at night we watched a documentary on Nero and some new on CNN and she fell asleep while complaininv aboit how goos it was under Reagan...And you think this is my life for the next 10 or 20 years,actually gonna get worse.
Then you go, nah I didn't do much. And there a young lady your age spots that your life seems to suck and offers you to join her once at a bar or something. Think about it.
Now we can think like 'why did she marry him in the first place?'. Good question buy could be asked to both...and I do have a few answers...but this comment is already too long😂
My question to anyone is after you've been married once and it's over why the hell would you do it again?
I know right.
Yikes and I’ve gone down the aisle 3times. Call me Crazy!!!
I agree with you 100%. (#1) An older guy with resources who wants to go to Asia and marry a young wife should be prepared to stay in Asia with her for at least the first 3 to 5 years to adjust to being married to each other, (#2) to keep her around her family as long as possible, (#3) if the guy do decide to return to the states he should insure he is wealthy enough that she never have to work and just stay home as a mom to a couple of kids to keep her busy. I first saw this on Guam in 1972 at the passenger terminal by watching 60 and 70 plus year old guys being helped around by their young 20 something year old wifes.
I’m incline to think as you do.
I WILL NEVER BRING ONE HERE AND I"M IN MY 40"S
40’s yeah, for me that’s a cut off age lol…
@@SAMLAMB yes sir!!!!
Because they never wanted to marry most these older guys to begin with. All that we don’t care about age is just game fools who want to feel special for a change fall for. They just wanted you to upgrade their lifestyle. The minute they can do it on their own they’ll go find a guy closer to their age to deal with. Some of you act like these women are naive they aren’t…
Stroke, I can’t disagree w you. Thanks for joining us
True. I often hear these old folks in the Philippines say that filipnas like old guys. And I go yeah I have been to their bedrooms, they have pictures of old dudes on walls and checked their feeds and browsing history, they are busy watching videos of geriatrics in nursing homes.😂. Give me a break 😂
@@bigbrother4everhahahaha don’t spread the truth to much some of these delusional old farts think they look 15-20 years younger than they really look. Their Filipinas tell them they are so handsome etc. Those young Filipinas are just looking for an opportunity to upgrade themselves. The westerner is just the vessel to get them there.
@@bigbrother4ever 😆💀
I'm 51 in 2 months, 6 figures from rentals, no kids, moving to Philippines for my birthday. Will not marry ever but WILL live with 2 or 3 "sister wife" Filipinas who will each make a baby. II'll be a dad X 2 by this time next year!
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It's a plan. Maybe it's not realistic, I won't know until I get there. And I'm jaded enough not to fall in love and get sidetracked easily. Besides, you only live once. You never know until you try is my working theory.
You're 51 with good money. Why bring 2 kids into the equation and disrupt your peace? You're already winning.
I worked in San Antonio Tx for a few years, and there are a large number of divorced Filipina Nurses there and it was common for them to to marry a guy from America (Usually White Older Man), come back to the States, sucker him to put her through school and within a few short yours they would be divorced. The most important lesson I learned is that you never bring your foriegn bride home, never raise her standard of living above what she's already use to because the moment you do, its a matter of time before half you $hit is gone
I’m starting to find out this is a common theme…thanks for your input Cameron.
@@SAMLAMB
It’s not exclusive to Filipinas but now they are a hot commodity for Western (American) men because of they often give the illusion of being family oriented etc.
Men have become more and more desperate over the years and because of social media women are taking full advantage of
@@cameroncunningham204 hmmmm
Here's my take on this, -they plan things ahead including the divorce, although not all of them but a number of them do, as a filipino , the only thing that I can advise is that be really careful
Dream big have hope for the future and don't let yourself get jaded-your latter days will be better than your former days otherwise you will looking at happiness as something you've experienced in the past -what a sad end to a life
True what you are saying, keep them there and live like a king on your retirement 👏
Dman, for some people it’s just a way to go. Not all but for some. I love it in the Philippines.
@@SAMLAMB I myself am thinking of living in the Phils or Thailand, not sure how to go about it fully.
@@dmanmorales7385 one step at a time Dman. You have an advantage over most of us who travel to Asia 15yrs ago. We didn’t have TH-cam. It seams every questions you might have, someone or many bloggers has touched on that subject. Take your time and plan and get to know the bloggers that fits your needs and personality
@@SAMLAMB Yes I appreciate all you and other vloggers do to pass it on, keep doing a great job and thanks again.
Why? The end goal isn’t to get married and live happily ever after. The goal is to get over here, divorce the sucker who married you, take half their shit and move their family into the home the aforementioned sucker used to live in and then live happily ever after.
Very blunt, thanks for joining us.
I know from experience married to a Latina from Mexico. We divorced she never asked for anything we separated amicably. Speaking of the house we sold it split the small profit. So she doesn’t just keep the house. Most woman don’t want to pay the mortgage by themselves. Bringing a Filipina is a risk. I don’t believe it’s as catastrophic as it sounds. Statistically Pinas divorce rate from there K-1 sponsors is at 20% so 1 out of 5 Filipina’s will ditch their husbands. Still a big risk.
@mexvette8209 thanks for the stats
In general this is good advice. Of course things don't always pan out as planned. Sometimes guys might intend to come and stay with their pinay out here but for some reason or another it doesn't work out. Eg their plan for a little business goes belly up, they miss aspects of their home life or their health deteriorates to the extent that hanging out here becomes a little dangerous given the more medical infrastructure. How it works out back home very much depends. Some get nursed with love and affection till they pass away, others are just left once the girl finds her feet.
It’s terrible getting old. I do know for me. It’s been the best 17yrs of my life. Living in the Philippines
Divorce is not possible in Philippines. So when they arrive to USA it's possible
I want to tell you guys about something that happened to me yesterday. I own a filipino restaurant and yesterday 4 Filipinas with their kids came in to eat lunch. I thought they were all divorced, but one was in the process. Each one is 20 to 30 years old and hot. They were discussing how much they made off of their divorces. I asked my cook if I really heard what they were saying. I thought since it was visayan that maybe I had miss heard. The cook is a philippina and confirmed what I had heard. Beautiful on the outside rotten on the inside. I feel for the kids learning that this is what marriage amounts to. Confirms my belief that marriage is nothing but a scam.
I’m in Disbelief, fruit loops. Not a good look for the Filipinas. You have a great day!! By the way, where is your restaurant? I’ll come and visit if it’s in Dumaguete.
Met my wife in Kinshasa, DR Congo while there on business. Had been divorced from my Brazilian wife (31 year marriage) for 3 years. I brought Grace over on a K-1 fiance visa. We married her first week in the USA (April 2017). She is 5'10" tall and weighs 110 lbs......an undiscovered super model. Our age gap is 44 years. I am now 76 and Grace is 32. I'm on SS retirement income. Grace works for a contractor on the clean up crew for the transport company.
She gets hit on several times a day but just blocks it out. Married happily now for seven years. When we are out together I get a kick out of seeing these young bucks (especially black guys) scratch there heads and wondering "How in the hell did that old fart manage to land such a beautiful woman"? Grace is different.....she has had opportunity galore to stray but has no intention of leaving for greener pastures. She has proven her faithfulness. Oh yeah, she is now a US citizen. BTY, love your GEORGIA BULLDOGS cap. I'm a UGA alumni class of 1971.
GO DAWGS!!!
Thank you Michael. Go Dawgs! Looks like it’s going to be a great season coming up. I’m so happy for you Mike. There are women like your wife in the Philippines. Just have to keep looking. Your wife is like a needle in the haystack 😃be safe and once again. Thank you for joining us today.
Oh, I guarantee you, she's having a good time with them. You just have no clue.
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Guys take your time dating ask questions watch behavior signs.. It's just not Filipina women but Central America as well example:
Women are on the internet now. You think she does not know anyone in the States. She has already been briefed on what to do and when to do it.... Listen guys I know. She has girlfriends in the States or family already there. She will tell you I don't know anyone there. It's a chance you have to take. That's why I said, guys take your time dating and knowing a person. Also do not get caught up on the internet sending money... It might be a scam and you have not met that person. Ok
Good luck guys. Sam made a great video for us 👍🏼
Facts
Women getting divorced after arriving in America happens in many immigrants' communities. Number 1 reason is something to do with money. For an example the woman parents or family members will start calling everyday asking for money. Her family thinks everybody in America is rich. If she doesn't send money, they will call her and tell her mom or father is in hospital and they need money to take them to a better hospital in big city or they will die.
U are actually correct ,something you did not say but here it is. long story short I have 1 Filipino stepbrother and 3 stepsisters my dad and their mom met by accident at a Walmart in Houston 30 plus years ago and we are all tight.my siblings didn't come over till later while in their late teens and my stepmom and brother still go back to visit every couple years and my stepbrother said what you said ,keep your girl in the PH because over there it's an island full of beautiful women so there is competition among the women they have no choice but to stay humble, however when they get to the US all of a sudden they are MISS PINA of the year and some get westernize not all but some do. And he said they start to believe their SHiT don't stink.
Love the input. Lots of good info here…Thanks Dion…
dont forget take half of your life savings
Yes. Another interesting factor is, in the Philippines they dont have divorce, and it cost too much $$ for the annulment. So, you're partners for life, in most cases.😉🏖️🍍🌺
Thanks for the comment,Keith.
***Sam I'm sorry but it's funny how you tell the story but divorce is not funny especially if you are in love and other person behavior changes.
OK why Divorce? You are correct but I will add my opinion Sam.
(1)Guys have to realize most women use the internet and have friends in the States that tell them when they get to the States she can make her own money not rely on him and if that friend finds out how old is your husband they will tell your Filipina wife on the internet there are lots of young guys her age group. She won't say anything but she will remember what's told.
(2) You have normal/not normal... Yes Sam in the Philippines it's normal older men young beautiful woman. in the States not normal... you will have people steering at you as a couple. Older man, young beautiful woman.
(3) Appointments, yes people will make joking comments "oh he is actually your husband" and a question will come to her mind why the reaction in that way.
Last, Sam is crazy but honest. That's why I'm laughing 🤣🤣🤣he's correct he said " you are no more Top Dog" why? My opinion, she is learning about American dollars how much you make and other people make, so she is learning and after comparison, she realizes gentlemen, you are" Not the Top Dog" anymore🤣🤣🤣
Great video Sam. excellent!, but it's funny but true... In fact I am still laughing. What do people say Sam around town..."It happens to the best of us" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for the comment Recon6. I know it’s tough when a person is going through a divorce or separation. I have to look at the lighter side when I share my videos otherwise I wouldn’t be able to make the video. My divorce was one of the most painful thing I had to go through. And when I hear others going through the same thing it hurts. That’s one of the reasons I made this video.
@@SAMLAMB I understand Sam but you are beyond that now and stronger I myself learned from my marriage and look back on everything and realized my mistake. Anyway, the way you speak on your video and telling the truth is funny but you are honest. I like the way you speak with honesty Sam and humor 👍🏼
The simple thing is, you’re a 10 in the Philippines. When you get back to your Home country your rating goes right-down and her rating goes to a 10 😫
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A good analogy would be Superman the king of superhero's here on earth and can get any woman he wants here but if he brought lois lane back to krypton to live with him there, he would just be another guy since all the men have the same powers as he does on krypton :)
So, are you calling me a Superman 🤣🤣🤣
Im meet my husband when im 25 yr old and him 35 yr old now im married him, now 13yrs together yrs..
@@joylyntaylor2751 love it! Congrats Joy!
Send them to nursing school and when they get out, they leave you! Why? Because "they graduated!!!" I had a couple of friends to whom this happened. My Filipino has stuck with me for almost 15 years. Still going strong....I am 70, she will be 60 soon. Best years of my life by far were those with her. I was thoughtful in selection, though. I had been through 32 years of tough duty with an ONAC (Ornery North American Chick). I didn't want to repeat that. I looked for character and work ethic and a Christian world view. She was a 42 year old widow with two boys when I met her. One other thing I did was to look at the mothers of women I was interested in. I looked at their lives in their sunset years. How were they? How happy, how kind, how nice. The mother of my wife had 11 children and two foster children and she loved them all. And they were all good kids as adults. My mother in law was a winner. Before she died many years later at age 89, she held my hand and said "Thanks for bringing my daughter back to visit me every year. You are good." The mothers are the key in many ways. These guys that date the daughters and tell the mothers to get lost are just crazy. My step sons now have college education related to computers and electronics. Both have fine families of their own and have good paying jobs. And actually I did very little. Their mother (my wife) had raised them right. I had entered the boys lives when they were 13 and 21. She put them through school on a job that paid less than $10 a day. Later we helped them a little with college, but mostly they did it themselves by working and being in the U.S. military. Before she met me, she was a police woman and a SWAT team member and noted for being an excellent knife thrower. So I have behaved well. I have seen her angry a time or two.
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In my opinion, it doesn't matter the age difference, or if there is no age difference. Once they get "Americanized", you might have problems. I hadn't lived in the states for over 14 years when I married my Filipina wife. I have had no intention of living in the states, and my wife knew that before we married. So I do know, she didn't marry me for a green card. LOL.
Filipinas think all foreigners are rich, then when they come to the US, they realize social security is peanuts.
😩😩😩 your right…
😩😩😩 you’re right.
For a senior guy who prefer younger ladies, it would be wiser to bring to America a lady in her thirties or forties who is more settled and who knows that her chances of getting married again is limited. It will be hurtful to bring someone over to America and then she leaves.
I agree with ya, Mr Dayna. Never a good thing no matter what age you are.
"Those who wed multiple times face a far higher rate of divorce. In fact, 67% of second marriages end, and 73% of third marriages are dissolved." -Forbes.
You go back to America and fall into your old habits that got you divorced. Filipina has no friends in a foreign land. She is away from her traditional family. Half of her new American friends are divorced. I suggest going to church with her if you want her to keep her traditional values. Help her find friends with strong marriages. And fire that hot pool guy cleaning your pool.
Jeretso, I agree with you 100%. I’m not sure about stats but I’ve lived it. All I can do is make sure exwife number 4 never happens. Thanks for joining us
@@SAMLAMB Best wishes and luck to you and your family. I enjoyed this video and will check the others
Thanks jeretso…you have a great day!
Good topic again Sam i will say there is no guarranty not because its too young or same age its depend how you feel or you are really in love or just pretending to the partner
I agree with you sysy. But even the girls ( non Filipinas) in the USA does it too. That’s how they influence the Filipinas.
thx Sam,,good advice,,
Thanks Gary
Happy life when you are single
Good information it goes throw my mind all the time. one of my lawyers flirted with my phippeno girlfriend already just to see her reaction I think that was all it was? while writing up a prenuptial agreement for us.
Oh my…
I'd say the probability of running into this problem goes down dramatically with smaller age gaps, and older filipinas. In my case the age gap is a little less than 20 years, and she's nearly 50. If I bring her back to the US I'd say the chances are very good that she'll stick with me.
True. When I was dating in the Philippines, even at 45, I wasn't approaching anyone under 25.
I’ll agree with that Greg…have a nice day
Me too. I was actually 49
Opinion. These Filipinas plan on the divorce before traveling there. Filipinas take advantage of laws in the other nation(s).
Not Filipina but similar situation. On the Maury Pauvich Show, Model Iman was married to Spencer Haywood, who played basketball 🏀 then. But Iman threw fits. They divorced. She used him as a gateway to stay in the USA. (Rhyme unintended.) Iman married the late David Bowie.
Coincidentally, ex wife Angela Bowie was on that show, telling how unfaithful David was. Angela and Haywood became friends.
What a story! Thanks
Not so.. Some but the will be changed by the men hitting on her.
I think it is a mix. The really bad ones might have those plans. But for most part, the filipina is naive. They see foreigners as gold in the Philippines even the old ones. Now because there is only one foreigner in each village, all village girl would want that foreigner. When she arrives in the US she realises she kind of made a mistake, that she could do better...that you are not that special...that she can still drink coca cola daily with or without u. And off she goes.
You're telling the truth. However, the truth hurts.
I hope my comments will guide those who are coming to the Philippines
@SAMLAMB I don't know about guiding them if their intentions are to take advantage of what they perceived as naive Filipinas. They're trying to buy love and target provincial women. That's a formula for failure.
Because they are not contented what they have they are still looking for more that’s crazy. That’s the reason Im not interested to move to the US even if I have a chance I prefer to live here in the Philippines with my king I don’t want our happy life would ruin for anyone I am contented and and I feel Joy with him
Great comment indhay, you’re the type of Filipina all the expat should be looking for. You have a great day!
Hey Sam, nice to see you walking around the jetty great background scene😀
Thanks Dave..let’s do lunch sometimes…I’m getting close to just renting the house and go back to the Philippines…and wait til next year to sell it
Won’t they be deported back to the Philippines? Won’t the marriage be considered a scam?
Hmmm, no. If you do everything by the law and then you decide to leave your husband. I’m not sure you can deport someone…
People are as faithful as their options. I prefer women from the US no matter what ethnicity.
No more digging for you 🤣thanks for joining us Be safe
Although not necessarily age related, men often fall victim to being O.L.D. (Overlooked, Lonely & Desperate). When that happens, more often than not, men tend to rationalize making bad financial and emotional decisions regarding women. Women can sense this like a shark senses blood in the water.
Great comment Find. I’ll use your thoughts in my next video.
You are 100 percent correct, their options multiply once they arrive in the US, not saying they will all behave like this but most will. I can't say I blame them though, wouldn't we men do the same if there was an advantage we could exploit for ourselves? Of course we would, that's why they're in the Philippines in the first place🤣 Know your advantages and protect your advantages as best you know how.
Thanks for joining in … people need to hear this stuff
How sad, lucky I'm married to Australian he is a partner, a friend and and a dependable husband and Dad.
Great to hear that Zel. Thanks for joining in
Basically the guy did not prepared the Filipina for the shock in the USA. Socially, culturally, and economically. Yeah prepare ur future wife for the USA including the ways guys will look at here and the money other guys make. Give her the strengths and weaknesses, the positives and negatives of America before you marry her. Let the Filipina make a full informed decision about coming to the USA with u, the American guy.
Better yet, know that women don't love like men do. They are pragmatic, not romantic. They just want the alpha's seed, and the beta's $ for her needs. Best bet, no marriage, no green cards, no babies.
You can't be serious
@@Rhandlezz some couples are successful here in the USA so the question is how come?
@@hanglee5586 you know what ,american want sweet and crunchy apples of course you have to pay the price hahaha
@@sysyjuan9899 😂🤣😂