Kicking your ex out of your head
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ม.ค. 2021
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"Who are you gonna idealize?" Lol you didnt have to expose me like that
felt that, I guess I got to revert back to harry styles🤪 sigh when celebrity crushes are more reliable than real crushes 😔
Or go to fictional characters that don’t exist anyway 😂
@@jelowo9877 so true! Aladdin and Danny Phantom were my og loyal boiz as a kid😤🤣
@@nayomipoetry3494 OMG same, I was waiting for this comment! 🤣
Batman was my go to hero since I was a kid
How to evict people from your head:
1. Forgive yourself.
2. Forgive them.
3. Stop talking about it with other people (No gossiping!)
4. Learn from it as well.
5. Focus on bettering yourself.
6. Try something new.
7. Go out and get to know new people (remember #3)
8. Now you have truly moved on from an ex, relationship, trauma.
If you ever cross paths with whomever is living rent free IRL, remember how much you have grown.
learn from it as well
@@Taradays yes, that should be my #4. I'm going to edit it now
These are such good tips, thankyou🥺
What can you learn from it? I think I have done all of these and it has no gotten better.
@@scottholtslander8336 "Learn from it" by observing your own actions and theirs from a third person perspective. It's not only being critical of them, but also of yourself. What did you do wrong? What could you have done better? Have you learned to pick up on these emotional signs faster from other people now that you've experienced it? What will you do the next time this happens? If you could speak to the person whom is living rent free in your head, what would you like to say to them? Think of everything you would like to say. Then think of how they would honestly respond (remember, in their own personality, not yours). It's almost like you're talking to yourself. Feel free to even say it out loud in anger (while nobody is around, you don't want to be seen as "crazy"). If you do ever get the chance to talk to the person face to face, don't say what you want in anger. Things said in anger can be the hardest to repair.
It's a mental/emotional marathon process. It's not going to be easy to truly let it go. It will take time. Cry it out if you need to. Learn what your body needs.
I swear to god if I actually charged people for living in my head, I would be a millionaire hahahah
l i t e r a l l y
😂😂😂. I would evict everyone else and just keep elon musk
Yea those fictional characters would give me all their money
Fr lol
Instead you are millions in debt. 😳
I like how he actually puts up a solid defense. It puts into perspective that it's not so easy.
This is why Anna is so good. She brings nuance to difficult issues and tries to see both sides of a story. And then somehow makes it really funny!
TH-cam algorithms are starting to get a little too specific haha
hey! btw i just watched your videos and they’re so good! @reallifepsych this is awesome content!
Was I actually just thinking about it or am I thinking about it all the time now 😂
thank you, that means a lot! New mental health/psychology videos every Sunday!
I concur
I agree
“No no, those are breadcrumbs, I deserve paragraph texts!” Oh my god, too true😂
I feel so attacked I was literally just thinking about someone when this popped up
SAMEEEE😭💀
Same.. Me as well
I've had that happen to me before with Anna's videos haha.
IKR!! SAMEE!!❤️🥺
I feel you
"Aw man sports! Oh balls..." 10/10 guy impression 0:33
ha I'm a dude and have never said that lol, though I fully support Anna's mustache
@@petederek7174 to be clear I'm being sarcastic, and I'm sure Anna is exaggerating
It's true, I talk like that daily
i died at that one lol
I love how you take all those complicated feelings and visualize them to show us how simple they actually are.
Seriously was just thinking last night about that one person I ended things with TWO YEARS AGO. Anna, how did you know?
Same!!!
GURL I ended things with someone 2 years ago too! Only after I started talking to him again I not only spilled I still have feelings, I also sent him a 2 page letter in the mail, and then mailed him a customized pillow with pictures from when we were together to him LOL and then I never contacted him ever again. I just needed to let all the gushy feelings out and I feel SOOOOO much better now.
Same. We all need to like get together and distract each other so we don't think about these idiots.
She always do that 😭 !!
@@elanachan4014 Right! So much of the agony in my opinion was just keeping those feelings inside like a dirty secret. Telling him out of the blue felt so good
"I deserve paragraph texts" SAY IT LOUDER!
"I deserve the respect to not tolerate ghosters"
I feel personally attacked. Emotional breadcrumbs have been my diet for months now. But I'm just not ready to cut him out v.v
You're more ready than you think!
you deserve so much more! I'm sure that as soon as you end things with that person and focus in yourself, there will be someone writing you paragraphs like you deserve!! keep your chin up and incest in yourself as it's the only investment worth investing in
SAME. BUT WE CAN DO THIS
@@vani7493 You have your answer then. He isn't capable of giving more than that, and it isn't enough for you. Don't sunk-cost yourself into even more pain.
I feel you girl. We’ll get there
the only thing living in my head rent free is the twerking elsa vid i have no idea why but that one CAN NOT BE EVICTED
LINK PLEASE
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Lord forgive me for what I'm bout to do
Samee 😂😂 I blame Mike's Mic
“I’m sorry but you’re five mosquitoes 🦟 behind. I know. I know you have a family “.
Like omg, this cracked me up so much !!! 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂
"I wouldn't actually marry a woman, ewww."
TOO PAINFULLY ACCURATE
Ah the “I’ll protect you line” used on vulnerable single people constantly 🤣🥲
Stop being vulnerable, protect yourselves!
Why did the spiders being evicted make me cry though??
They had babies. It's was sad.
because we're all very emotional
Too relatable in a pandemic
Just let them stay! They pay their rent with saving you from mosquitos!
SAMW
I let them stay without even breadcrumbs...
oh honey, you deserve so much more! keep that in mind
Me too
@@daisy_elle_ well my brain tells me I don't :( but thanks 💜
Same. I let him go.
@@shusi8940 that's just your mind tryna deceive you, you deserve more dear:)
Accepting breadcrumbs is even easier on quarantine and i wish it wasn't
"What are you gonna do with all those hours? Work on yourself?!"
Chad darling, you're the best motivational speaker🌊
Your Internet connection is unstable. “Yeah you should see my emotions.” 😂
This advice couldn't have come at a better time......
This jumper/dress combo is *chef's kiss*
I was just about to comment how cute that outfit is
I have dated the same woman on and off for thirteen years. Talk about an utter failure to evict someone living inside your head. We're in an off period now, and I still can't :(
Cut. It. Out.
I'm so painfully shy and introverted that it was a miracle at all I managed to meet and date this woman at all. The prospect of trying to meet someone else is too much :(
@@sststr This year I´m determined to make more money so I can get mental healthcare and invest in myself. It has taken me a long time to realize I had to get help and take care of myself.
If you have such a hard time socializing, and it hurts you, as I think you are saying, maybe you could talk to someone and try to live a happier life. Would you like that?
Don't you think its not fair for you - and for her - that you're dating her because you have no other options?
I'm sorry if I was rude when I flat out said "get out". It's just that most couples who are together +10 years either get married or break up. Going on and off for 13years sounds like an unhappy place for both of you. Again I'm sorry if I'm overstepping here.
I hope you are well. I hope you are happy.
You👏deserve👏commitment👏
Even if I could overcome my intense shyness to meet someone new, the problem remains that I am still very much in love with this woman. It would not be fair to anyone to enter into a relationship while still in love with another. I have no idea how to fall out of love with her, and I don't even want to. She is everything I want in a partner, even if I do not match up to her expectations as well as she would like (although obviously I must come close or she would not keep trying over and over).
I have a hunch Anna wasn't actually thinking of his biceps though
Good observation, I thank you
Zoom: your internet connection is unstable
Anna: yeah you should see my emotions
I DIED 😂😂😂
But how do i actually evict because i’ve not spoken to my ex in 2 years but he’s still living here
💔💔♥️♥️♥️
Omg me too and they ain't leaving
Hypnosis?
omg same
same. it's the worst
This hits home for me Anna. I simped for my first love and first ex recently this past New Year's Eve. I expressed I still had feelings for him through Snapchat and said talking to him just as a friend hurt more to me, so I just needed to know if he felt anything for me and he said he didn't wanna date me again :'(. It's his loss though because I got way hotter from when we last saw each other. It did hurt at first but I eventually accepted it and evicted him. Can't stay simping for people who don't give af! Although after he said he wouldn't date me again I did mail him a 2 page letter professing my deep feelings and also mailed him a customized pillow with pictures on it from when we were still together :/ BUT after that I did evict him and he gone. Thanks Anna
You did _what_
Setting personal boundaries in the future might be a good idea as well.
I need to evict a whole classroom of people out of my head???
there are so many people i think about without wanting to
That hit too close to home..just being in this situation just with a "friend"
Same. I feel like our friendship is so messy but both of us love being friends in the good times. But I can’t stop thinking about her and the pain she’s caused me and I’ve caused her but when we’re good we’re great so I can’t physically leave her (even tho I don’t really want to. Just mentally and emotionally
I need to kick someone out, we're just friends and she has a boyfriend ;(
Edit: we were talking about sex and stuff and she has the perfect kinks... like I'll give you a month just to let my fantasies settle down
Like bruh..........
btw thanks for the 225 likes ❤️❤️❤️
I hope you find someone else you love just as much :)
@@batzdoartz
Siiigh, same
Ditto
Anna Akana with a mustache is a surprisingly really good look.
“ What are you gonna do with all those extra hours? Do the hard work of becoming the person you were meant to be?? Lol”
On point! Totally relates to past friendships or any relationship... being stuck in the past. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's very refreshing how he disappeared so calmly, like he's literally vanishing and thus dying, but he's still like "see ya"
That "wait what" really got me haha. So many people have been living rent free in my head and now I have an entire monologue to remind me why they need to leave. Thanks Anna
This is hitting too close to home right now
As someone who thinks way too much all the time, I can definitely relate to this!
I needed that advice when I was 16. Now 26 I figured this out myself. But kids you need that advice!
I think it's really scary that Anna always seem to upload videos based on my current problems lol. Thank you so much for this!
Hmm, breadcrumbs. I’ve been calling them love kernels.
Save those kernels up to make a bowl of popcorn
A handful is the proper serving anyway.
Don’t forget the love droplets to stay hydrated
ABOUT to start charging rent fees to all my situation-ships
My mind crasher doesn't even have biceps..
Overstayed his welcome for sure.
Yeah, at least upgrade to someone with an adonis bod, it's just as unhealthy but more delicious.
I reeeeeallly needed to hear this today. Thank you, Anna! Your videos have been so helpful for me recently
Seriously your content is the BEST! I was literally telling a guy last month how he started living in my head rent free, and this was SO ON POINT! thank u for YOU!
I can't tell you how good timing this is in my life to see this, so thank you for this realization.
Ok drafting that eviction letter today, effective immediately
That’s an amazing idea. I’m going to start doing that. Because before I’d just punish myself for not being able to get a given person out of my head. But I’m going to draft it, burn it*, and move on.
I’m really glad my house has a fire place
I was thinking about this. I think we think about our relationships because we want to have families like kids. Most people dont think about our 40's and 50's and at that time, the most important thing is our family. We think about it because it is important. Once you get a great partner, you think about it a lot less. It's like water when we're thirsty. We think about it a whole lot when were thirty, but when we have water it doesnt take all our thoughts.
Now that you mention it that makes a ton of sense. My good friends pop in and out of my head but this friend I just fought with…rent free for days
i needed this so much. Thank you for always departing free therapy Anna
This is exactly what I needed. Thank you .
The Universe brought me here and I needed this so much. Anna, you're awesome.
🤔🤔🤔 literally thinking about this situation with an ex a few hours before you posted it.
Spitting actual facts. Thank you.
Stumbled on your channel and now i use it to get me through life🥺
Miss. I gotta say, that was pretty powerful. _”confidence”_ is the operative word, here.
Big thanks!
Your videos are insanely good. It's like watching a mini self help movie. You're the only youtuber which adds value to my life and to my day, whenever you post.
This skit is perfection. Good job.
You seem to know exactly what I need or what Im going through emotionally. Great job as always.
Idk what made you change your videos to be more sketch-like, but I LOVELOVELOVE ittt!
thank you for this, i hella need this so much
This is what I needed! Thank you!
Anna this is exactly what I needed I love youuu
I really love and appreciate the way you present your ideas! It's so unique, creative and interesting! Thanks a lot!
Best one ever, Anna. :) EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Thanks
Wow she is so good at these videos. Ty akana
omg i needed this. Can you PLEASE do a vid on retroactive jealousy?!
Wow! I didn't even realize I needed it so badly. Perfect timing! Thank you 😭❤️❤️❤️
thank you ana. i needed this so much :)
Exactly what I needed right now
I feel so attacked lol I don’t even get any breadcrumbs
Anna, you always know what we need to hear and when we need it😭❤️
THANK YOU NEEDED THIS!
omg I loved this one, aaaah the smart scriptwriting, I love it
Thank you! This was brilliant and just what I needed
This one is so good. Precisely what I needed today
This is incredibly on point
LOVED this
needed this one
Good job on promoting mental health. I love your channel. ❤️
I just recently discovered you, ma'am 😭❤️🙏. I cannot thank you enough for all your crisp and hard-hitting content. You feel like an angel sent for all the lost souls like me. Thanks a ton for existing. Much love from India.❤️❤️❤️❤️
Anna you're so relatable i love you
I needed this.
Love the execution. So witty!
This was absolutely amazing! You are brilliant and I love that you exist. 🥰
Always a great timing.
Supergurll it makes life little much easy and better so uplifting thank you
I love this full skit format 💖
I needed this a week ago
Your animations are awesome! Keep up the great work!
Thank you! This is absolutely what I needed to see :)
Wow I needed this
I NEEDED this
Thank you Anna!
OMFG i needed this
I soooo needed this. *cries in shame*
ANNA I LOVE YOU THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR ALL THE SUPPORT YOU GIVE ME WITHOUT EVEN NOTICING !!!! oh god i just... wow... i'll cry i think
loved this one!
istg you always come in the perfect time!!!!
Thanks Anna for always bring good content to the web. And for sharing betterhelp. I had never heard of it, and have been trying to find some help recently due to life being a b****.
right when i needed it
thank you anna, you have the best content also @AnnaAkana hair care routine please?🥺🥺
The fact that I needed this at this time