Why Adult Children Cut Off Their Parents-and How to Heal Family Estrangement | Ep.179
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ก.พ. 2025
- Why do some adult children stop talking to their parents? Estrangement is painful and hard to understand, but knowing what causes it can help you take steps to heal. In this video, we’ll talk about common reasons for family estrangement-like past hurt, poor communication, and differing values-and share simple tips for rebuilding trust and connection.
If you’re struggling with family estrangement, this video can help you start healing.
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Future-proof your relationship with your kids by focusing on what matters. Discover simple, actionable tips to create trust, empathy, and lasting memories, no matter your child's age or stage in life.
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Estrangement, being cut off, can also include occasionally seeing the family member on holidays, weddings, funerals, or other occasions. When there is a cutting-off, you may see your family member, but there is an emotional distance. The emotional space can be troublesome, creating a sense of profound loss and grief.
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Thank you Marie. Some very good points. My daughter cut me and other family some 18 months ago. No warning, thought everything was okay and then realised there was a problem. I am convinced they are in some online cult of which there is many, talking in this echo chamber and encouraging each other on. All cults demand you dump your family. They are the new family. She wants space so I am respecting that but sending presents at Christmas as still want them to know I love them.
@GreenTurtle181 Hi: thanks for writing. You are not alone, this does happen and is quite alarming. You are on track, respect her wishes and let her you are still there and love them by sending either a card or gift. Would you share about your relationship when she was a teenager? Were you close?
That was a lot to unpack and it covered many subjects. I appreciated that coverage. I wonder if you have separate videos that address each point, such as enmeshement?
We started with no. 2, and did it all right by your description……but unfortunately my daughter’s spouse had no. 3 as well! After 4 years of bending over backwards to see our daughter and granddaughter, he really started huge into his addiction and put them in financial ruin! We left them move in for 3 1/2 years of mostly hell on earth with him attacking me verbally and keeping their child cooped up away from us. We made them leave, and haven’t seen or heard from them in years. They did let us know that they had another child, I believe it was to rope us back into the storm. Unfortunately my daughter probably still thinks she can fix him.
@aliaqua9957 I am so sorry this happened to you and your family. My goodness, I hope your daughter and her children are safe. Parents and AC coping with family members with addictions and mental illness can be very challenging. Has your daughter known him for a long time?
@youtubemariemorinestrangement they got married in 2009, after dating and then living together 2 years. He got much worse in 2012 when his brother died by suicide when my granddaughter had just turned 1. I know someone who works at same place as my daughter and she looks good and says she’s good (which I know is a usual response even if it’s not true)
Another excellent talk, Thank You.
Thank you for your feedback.
What point struck a chord for you?
@@youtubemariemorinestrangement I watch your videos because they help me deal with fallout from my husband's family. It's been almost 40 years, but he refuses any chance at reconciliation. In this video, #8 was the start which led to Parental Alienation (#1) from his children from his first marriage.
HI and thanks for writing @madpoulterer78 How are you and your husband managing? Is his family pressuring you?
Did the best that I could under a narcissist attack ( my ex & so-called friend), betrayal (ex & so-called friend), the judicial system, lies, financial losses, property losses, and ☝️prison . I have been shot, stab etc in my work. I don't need any validation about my loyalty. At 30 + if they can't figure-out by now? I sleep well knowing that I did my best. Life is too short for any bs
Five years estrangement from Daughter. No reason, just blocked me... I did the best I could with a narcissist, toxic husband. Found Peace 🙏 now. Jesus is my Saviour. God is in control
I suppose you are now divorced? Was he toxic with the kids?
Yes He is 💘😇🙏
When there is a mental illness in malt, it is very difficult to actually reach to that person and get them to even talk to you like along go to therapy. That is a number one thing they refuse to do with you.
Mental illness is not like any other illness. It's not like a broken leg. When after hospitalisation. You can hug your child adult or otherwise. No, they won't let you anyway. Future living crumbs and it's on their terms already. It's not terms whatsoever.
It's not as easy. As a parent, you will love your child and you live with those crumbs that they let you have on the rare occasions. Hair essence 2019 I was enabled to hug my daughter but before that, where you were always hugging and always sit to each other with log each other. 10 things changed almost overnight and big part of that is the society that's support. The fact set family is not worth fighting for And you as a parent. I left behind blamed for everything. Even for the things that were add a view Control.
End end the saddest part of it. All is that psychiatrists are encouraging young people too. Break ties with family instead of trying fixed and if you have a person that is mentally struggling and someone over tourettes says to them. It'll parents fall all of it. There will listen and there will not let you anyway. There is no breaking Bagaria. My question is why adoles authority figures for the kids so much stronger than family n. I am not alone I know that. Why do psychiatrists break up families? Why don't they try and fix them? Why don't they encourage the kids to talk to parents? Because it's always 2 sides of the story in 1 person should be hearing at both.
Ezra referee as you said, it's impossible these days to do so.
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Why doesn’t my daughter accept any blame? Also, the only thing I know is. Never mind. Always pparents fault
Hi @ginanieto2948 thank you for writing. I don't know what has gone on with your daughter. The interesting thing with mother daughter relationships is accepting responsibility seems to be difficult for all parties. It is not always the parents fault, however, if the parent wants to be in relationship with their AC, they will do what is necessary to make amends with their AC. Obviously, this is a generalized answer. If your daughter has been abusive towards you, its on her. Tell me about what has worked in your relationship?
My daughter doesn't do any self reflection and play the victim and blame others. It is hard and I love her but putting down boundaries and basically they are to discuss past 10 years of difficult marriage with children involved that breaks my heart. There is also addiction (alcohol) involved and it is heart breaking. She cut me off almost 10 months ago. I am very sad but learning to accept that she is who she is and we might never again have the great relationship I always hoped for. Hang in there. You aren't alone. Take care of yourself.
Sometimes it IS YOUR FAULT. So be an adult and take the responsibility vs projecting yourself feelings on to others.
@@BigLoMaynewe don't have all the facts to their situation
I was falsely accused n was shamed on social media, by my daughter.
We cannot judge the parents, we don't know, whose at fault.
Don't be so harsh to folks who are hurting. Truth in love is better
Sometimes it can be outside influence who have 3% facts, n give wrong advice.
Prayer is good.
Trusting in Jesus n time.
Of course, reevaluate myself
I still don't understand n am confused
My daughter is a therapist. She left the whole family after her brother was killed instantly. We grieved wrong and was supposed to get over our son’s death in 2 months. That’s been 11 years ago.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry for the loss of your son.
I feel that this video is blaming the parents!!!!
She is probably trying to relay information from the adult child’s perspective. No2 is not parents’ fault.