Bruh your skit/ad has me just absolutely c r a v i n g a tv show about a legit mean girl nurse who is over the top levels of awful. I need this content.
only the two extremes are willing to put up with the abuse. The good ones because they know it is worthwhile to provide medical care to people who need it, and the bad ones, because they fit in with the other bad ones. Eventually the middle ones, who aren't driving themselves to an early grave, but do generally want what is best for the patient, end up leaving due to the working conditions. Only the most passionate people will stay, which means you're going to end up with very polarizing viewpoints.
The assholes are the emotionally weak ones who aren't able to manage in the harshness of being in healthcare without taking it out on others(as a CNA for 6 years who has only cried at work a couple of times)
It’s the same thing with special ed teachers. I’ve only ever had mean ones but I know there are SE teachers out there who actually do care. I don’t think I’ve had a bad experience with a nurse though.
i think it's the power over others aspect. a lot of psychopaths become cops (but obviously not all cops are psychopaths) and i think it's because of the power and authority
I've been a whistleblower at a nursing home where an RN ordered me to hold down an Alzheimer's patient for her to hit. She fired me for insubordination, and i submitted my logs to the state and got 20 people put in federal prison. I haven't been back to my hometown ever since, and pursued electrical engineering instead.
A friend of mine quit the medical field because of how mean and bitchy the other nurses are. And she’s a former Physician’s Assistant. She paid off her student loans, her car, and made enough money to be able to leave and start a business in the countryside. She now bee-keeps and sells the honey at the Farmer’s Market, loves her work.
Currently studying to be a nurse, but with a game plan to take up architecture after the board exams since my goals were quite multiple-choice. And...yeah, I've soon come to realize how terribly uppity most, if not all my classmates are, and it's futile to even try and ask them questions or help. My best bet for getting a job in the medical field is to expect disappointments to keep myself at bay, I guess.
I once had a nurse yell at me to "act my age and stop crying". I was in a lot of pain and having a panic attack. Turns out I was in so much pain because my bandages were way too tight and my arm had swollen a lot making them tighter. I think I thanked the other nurse who eventually got a doctor to look at it about a million times, I was so grateful that someone took my struggles seriously.
@@blizpix Yeah. I didn't tell anyone because I was afraid I either wouldn't be taken seriously and they'd agree with her, or I would and it'd become a whole hassle. I wasn't sure if I would recognise her on pictures either (because it had been dark when I saw her), and I didn't want the wrong person to get punished. I was afraid my racial biases would come into play and I'd point out the wrong Black woman. I was also just done and upset and I wanted to go home. In hindsight, what she did was not okay and I definitely should have told someone. There were only two night nurses working my room and I definitely would have been able to point her out out of the two of them. But I also don't blame very sick me for wanting to get this over with and go home instead of complicating matters.
@@desensitizedaltruism yeah you'd just get kicked out of hospital, if you are actually in pain you learn to stfu so you can actually get the help you need, you don't think we want to stand up for ourselves? the whole point is that they have power over us and until you get discharged you can't really complain
Speaking as a teacher, it's actually wild that you could replace the words "nurse" with "teacher" and "healthcare" with "education" and the video would still be 100% accurate.
@drakeford4860 Damn. It's almost like most women are bitchy and loathsome characters in general and whenever a field becomes saturated with them it becomes more and more tiresome to work in.
i had a nurse tell me “you look pale, green, and about to throw up. if you’re gonna throw up, let me know so i can walk out bc i can’t do throw up” why are you a nurse?
@@axolotl3324They go to a not-so-great school. Have their parents pay their tuition so they don't stress about anything else other than studying. And hey, some mean girls are pretty clever. To be mean and not get in trouble you have to be somewhat smart.
@@axolotl3324 plenty still copy in college. I had a lot that would sit with me in the study tutor areas and watch me solve problems then sneakily copy mine. I didn't care bc they would fail tests but honestly its not impossible to cheat tests either, even in college.
I feel like it could be a form of projection. As in they wish to appear , and to an extent try to convince themselves that they are good, when they really aren't. They therefore will go through extreme lengths to live out that fantasy
I always heard bullies tend to gravitate toward careers that give them power over vulnerable people. That's why it's so prevalent with nurses, people who work with seniors, children, and the disabled, teachers, and cops.
@@jneilson7568 Yeah, me too. I was pulled out of school in 4th grade because the 4th grade curriculum was so dumb, I was LOSING information I had gained in 3rd grade, so my experience is limited... but my school career is a perfect checkerboard (x, y, x, y) of great teachers and teachers I couldn't stand. I got along great with my 1st and 3rd grade teachers. In the 2nd and 4th grade, I hated the teacher, turned up behavioral problems I hadn't had during the other years, and was generally miserable.
If family members are coming to the nurse's station instead of using the call button, it's likely because nobody is coming in response to the call button.
It was for me. My mom just got out of a post stroke rehab thing and holy shit did they take forever. Then there was one old man who honestly was an ass but they decided to just let him shit himself instead of tske him to the bathroom
That was the case with my sister. We noticed no one was coming so like clockwork we pushed it every 5 minutes to see how long it would take. 3 hours, we pushed it every 5 minutes for 3 hours and no one ever came. Bear in mind that sis was in such a state she could not even sit up on her own so she needed help using the toilet and bathing. Whats she supposed to do? Soil herself and bed and just sit in it until someone finally shows up after hours of trying to get help? I ended up just bathing her myself and hunted down a nurse afterwards to plug her back into the machines.
My husband was just in the hospital (November 2024) and I think a nurse responded once to the call button. At one point, the IV fluid ran out and the machine was beeping like crazy (I called, and someone answered, but no one came). A nurse ended up coming by because she just happened to hear the beeping from the hallway
I remember being in the hospital checking in to give birth and when this one nurse went to use a needle on my arm I went through a bad contraction and started to wince from the pain. She had the audacity to say “umm relax I didn’t even prick you yet 🙄” I snatched my arm away and asked for another nurse that had more sympathy and patience with me going through contractions. She said I was being “dramatic” and I told her of course I am, I’m about to give BIRTH
Considering that Black women succumb to maternal complications at THREE FUCKING TIMES the rate of their white counterparts, I'm glad you asked for a new nurse. She can miss me with that foolishness. Dramatic my ass. I would have been seething on your behalf had I been there.
i will die on the “all mean girls become nurses, but not all nurses are mean girls”. literally all the girls who bullied me are now working on nursing degrees 😭
@@Lara-vo6rp yah but providing an address doesn’t guarantee a license loss it can lead to harassment which will give more sympathy to the problematic nurses in the public’s eye
@@floof_fool Well duh obviously i know that genious, providing an address isn't going to technically revoke their license but atleast it'll bring more awarness to this type of situation but if only if it were that simple lol
I would be super scared if mean girls from my school would become nurses. Especially because after my friend’s mom committed suicide, they talked about how it was her fault like right next to her.
Wow just wow, that is such an insensitive thing to say, especially considering the fact they know nothing about her personal life and what she was going through. Yeah, I hope they never choose a health profession and educate themselves on mental health! They are still in high school so I hope they change for the better.
As someone who is currently studying at a nursing school, I have to say that most of the people here are pretty nice. There are a couple whos patients I already feel bad for though
This also happens with psychology. Every bully in highschool is suddenly saying that mental health is so important and are studying to be therapists (from a girl studying psychology that can confirm that in her class everyone is either a past bully or a past bullied kid)
or they’re the type to talk about how certain mental disorders, particularly the more rare ones, are “sO fAsCiNaTiNg!!!11!!!1” to the point where they treat people with those disorders like a zoo exhibit.
A lot of them are also part of sex cults masquerading as fetish groups. I have seen one who attended her chamber with marks clearly visible... to counsel a DV patient. The masters of those groups tend to be super wealthy men with lots of connections, so there is nothing we can do. They always get away. Most of these nurses/therapists/teachers don't really care about helping others. They merely like the concept of being "nurturing" because it makes them feel feminine I guess. At the end of the day, everything we do is selfish. But there is short term reward, then there is long term reward (Kahneman). Sex provides short term reward.
hella sad how my mom has to deal with this exact subject, she's been a nurse since 17 and was never a mean girl (she was the victim) and now comes home crying because of the cliques in her job, they literally will ignore her and leave her with 30 patients and because she's a badass she gets it all done but she shouldn't have to.
The pipeline genuinely needs to be studied, I still remember how hard I rolled my eyes 4 years ago when my high school bully was talking about being a nurse. They just want the praise for the implication of saving lives while not even doing their job properly
like most kids they’re told to aspire to become doctors and nurses because that’s what good, successful people do with their lives. i see this as their way out.
@@carolinematusevich889 only specialized nurses like cardiac nurses make some good money, but otherwise a general RN doesn't make a whole lot of money, probably not much more than the national average wage, they're definitely getting into the profession because of an ego trip
The only time I was ok with a nurse making a tiktok right after her patient died, was when a sweet old lady had passed away and she had no family so the nurse made a video to talk about her to make sure others would remember her.
I would be okay with it if it were staged. Like, don’t make a TikTok right after a death. Make a TikTok before your shift starts about a situation you’ve been in at one time or other
a male nurse refused to let my mum hold me after her c-section because he thought that my mum was a teenager and he was prejudiced. she was 23. luckily my mum managed to get him kicked out really fast
I went to the er after a cat attack and was pleasantly surprised to see the quiet smart girl in my class. She took care of me and expressed how she thought everyone hated her for being a know it all. I scoffed and said not at all, everyone wanted to be her. I think I made her tear up, I'm glad she became a nurse
My mom is an incredible nurse and puts these bully nurses in their places. She's humiliated and humbled several nurses who thought it was okay to take their issues out on techs or newbies. Very proud daughter.
Good! My mother is quitting her job as a chemo nurse for being bullied by techs who are in their mid 20’s I told her she needs to put them in their place, because she’s been nursing since before they were in kindergarten! I wish my mother had the nerve to stand up to these colleagues of hers. She won an award for being number 1 in her field but one of her colleagues had the goal to tell her that her colleague who has been in the field for all of 2 years knows more than her 😒
my mom works with someone who used to be a nurse and told a story that she thought was the height of comedy where she poured a can of cream corn in a coma patients diaper as a "prank" for another nurse (and when my mom asked how any of that was funny she responded with "it was hilarious. being a nurse is hard, we need a good laugh" like she didnt just humiliate a patient with 0 way to defend themselves)
I guess she thought that just because they were in a coma and were unlikely to know that it was somehow okay. All I can say is she better be glad that wasn’t my family member she did that to, because I would have really lost my mind.
That’s literally so weird like just because they’re in a coma doesn’t mean you get to treat them like a doll. If you wanna do a prank okay but don’t use comatose people as a tool
@@tarabooartarmy3654 She’s lucky the patients family didn’t found out cuz if they did they could have easily sued her, she probably would have gotten her degree taken away too considering her utter disrespect for a patient and their well-being. Imagine your loved one being comatose and instead of being taken care of properly they’re being used as tools for pranks
All the nurses who've taken care of me in hospital, they where definitely the mean girls type, its like.. Who tf grabs a patient by their arm and tries to RIP OFF their expired medical device then basically storm off when said patient has an autistic meltdown? Nicest person in that hospital was the janitor 😭
Some nurses like this made my mom (rn) cry. It was only after they heard that they had angered my dad and his clique (rn’s and techs) that they shut up. The funniest thing about that incident was what my dad said to chew out those nurses which was “ Praise God that you angered me, and not my son” which was true af because when he told me after that fact, I was still rearing to march over to the hospital with a baseball bat and bay for their blood.
My Filipino sister worked in the US as a nurse for more than a decade, and knowing about this made SO MUCH SENSE to me with how she struggled with her American co-workers. So many times she was passed over for promotions because a mean/entitled nurse threw a fit and pulled all sorts of crap to get one over her. And my poor sister just put her head down because they used her status as a foreigner against her.
that’s so not cool ;( she deserved better. i hate enablers who let ADULTS throw tantrums and get their way like that. they know at this point they are in the wrong so teach them a lesson since they forgot it don’t just take someones rightful place from them to give to the karen so she’ll shut up 😒
yeah the same with my aunt, the fact that she got the degree in the US but some of their co-workers are mean people especially if they know that you're from a third-world country
I worked in a hospital for a few months and I remember seeing nurses make fun of this one patient who was constantly uncomfortable and couldn't speak the language, so the nurses would make up words and say it to her and laugh at her mockingly. My heart broke because as much as she was a difficult patient, nobody deserves to be mocked in that way.
Another aspect is probably the fact that there are more nice nurses at the start, but they don't hold up against the bullying by the mean ones, quit, and then we're left with a higher proportion of mean girls.
I once read somewhere that sociopathic people who enjoyed having power over others went to certain professions, and the main one for men was police officer and for women it was nursing, which is very interesting
The same thing came to mind, especially when you consider a good portion of woman serial killers were doing it as nurses. It's unfortunate that the careers that require good, genuine people also attract the worst.
I’m so lucky to have a healthcare system I love rn … I’ve been extremely mistreated in emergency care and because I have a rare neurophysiological disorder, I’ve spent the last 8 years getting way too much face time time nurses that don’t give AF . They also just sit around laughing , watching plastic surgery videos and making fun of people they know . Also, American healthcare rules are super gross. The same bitches go chain smoke cigarettes in their scrubs and come in to my room, they smell like cigarettes and get mad if I get super nauseous. I had a nurse yell at me for throwing up acutely due to the smell of her cigarette break and she just left and never helped me clean up … I was in a wheelchair btw
I remember being in the ER confused and hysterical after a sexual assault and the nurses getting attitude and snapping at me when I couldn’t follow them/answer basic questions right away. I refuse to ever go to the hospital or doctor since then
I don't blame you. I was begging for an inhaler in the ER once while struggling to breath during an asthma attack ). After ignoring my escalating pleas, the male nurse in the room finally yelled at me "YOU NEED TO CALM DOWN" as I am literally drowning in my own lungs. I was lucky though, I didn't see him again after he finally delivered my breathing treatment.
@@Pfpfpfpfpf2020 fr, they always get so mad when I hyperventilate from being in pain and I’ve had so many nurses YELL at me to calm down and breathe normal. Yelling only stresses me out more 😭😭 the act like I’m panicking on purpose :(
No cause this is at the point where it’s concerning. people are already apprehensive when going to hospitals imagine u have to entrust ur life to someone who can’t treat you with basic human respect it’s honestly very sad
@@abbyz13it is a double edged sword though. in order to do your job well for a prolonged period of time you kind of have to have a certain level of detachment, otherwise you’d go insane so quickly from constantly being around suffering. not to say that a complete lack of empathy to the point of detriment is ideal either, but it would make sense that people with lower capacity for emotional attachment are more successful doctors
It concerning how much hate and prejudice patients will carry when entering the hospital. The ones that will be hurt by this are innocent nurses bc the mean girls already know the game
@@msunje9862 It's more concerning to brush off the fact that this bad behaviour happens. I'm in a wheelchair, and i've had a ton of doctors and nurses treat me like absolute shit, including being ignored in the er(in the actual er, not the waiting room) for 2 days, constantly told someone was coming soon while no one had even done the basic, standard checks on me. I am rarely treated as a human being who can think for themselves, told my pain doesn't exist, denied painkillers I need for CHRONIC PAIN. I'd suggest you stop assuming it's hate and prejudice, and rather apprehension due to experiences that keep repeating themselves. Does that mean we think every nurse or doctor is horrible? No. Neither does it mean we're not allowed to be wary.
The ammount of horribly manipulative girls that i went to highschool with that wanted to be a psychologist or be a therapist genuinely scares me so much as someone w ptsd
It's almost like people who get their kicks by having control over other people and making them miserable will seek out the best career path that allows them to do that with absolutely no consequences! (Yes I don't like cops, can you tell)
This is also why a lot of women aren’t wanting to go to the hospital for births. They’re looking at alternatives like midwives and home births and such, and honestly I don’t blame them. Labor is stressful and makes you vulnerable, and having a nurse just snap at you and dismiss your concerns makes the experience so much worse.
It's a business for them. They take your child away and you don't get to know what they do with them until they bring them back. Then they charge you money after you figure out they injected your baby full of 'mystery juice' and if its a boy: chopped half it's penis off. Welcome to Earth, little guy! Here's our nice Jewish doctor to remove part of your penis and sell it for money, and then charge your parents.
i have read so many horror stories of poor mothers being treated like shit and made fun of and told NOT TO SCREAM while giving birth, not only reading them but literally seeing videos of it happening on tik tok. its literally terrifying, ive always wanted kids but theres no way i'll be told i have to lay down and shut up while pushing a human out of me
The nurses told me that catheters and breaking my water wouldn’t hurt and yelled at and mocked me when I screamed from the pain. I was already being physically restrained because the medicine to stop my labor caused convulsing. I have flashbacks if I’m laying down sometimes, it’s the only experience I have that causes this. At this same hospital the nurses also accused my MIL of doing drugs when she had a heart attack from a congenital heart defect, and they also stormed into the kitchen where I worked and opened a bag of lettuce and grabbed a handful out without gloves after yelling at us for not refilling the salad bar fast enough (there was one person out front who was taking care of a line of customers and we were in the back dealing with the patient lunches) she and her friend then took their trays and walked out without paying. I uh, have a lot of inherent distrust and dislike for nurses. When I worked in the hospital they were all incredibly awful. I once heard them talking in full earshot of families how they wished their suicidal patients would stop being pussies and just end it.
Exactly. I've heard horror stories that have made me think I'd rather just take the pain all at once and then be able to go to sleep in my own bed with only people I know and trust around me.
So weird that we have more women doing during child birth then most third world nations, there is obviously something wrong with status quo child birthing in USA hospitals . My wife had five kids at home.
I’ve had a nurse roll her eyes at me after I asked about some vaccines I received. Even though she was middle aged, the way she spoke and presented herself seemed like someone who peaked in high school. Scarily enough, my sister used to be friends with a mean girl who also went into nursing. Insane phenomenon.
It's always the middle aged women. I came in for a rabies vaccine appointment and this consultant asks me questions in the most annoyed tone ever. Like okay, SORRY I interrupted your chat with your co worker because you had to do YOUR JOB IN ASKING ME. 🤨
Thise texting groups for any job are the worst. I've only been a part of them to communicate and observe, while I make a list to hold these people accountable if it gets bad. This is why I prefer texting because everything said is in writing and it's harder for them to deny it.
My DOCTOR who delivered my baby and was my obgyn told all nurses “not to come near me” during my delivery and that only she wanted to deal with me. I think she knew the nurse issue. The one time the nurse came near me was to laugh about me throwing up after delivering my baby. I don’t want to go back to a hospital
One of the nurses i had when giving birth walked in and went "so YOURE the one making all that noise! " In a really sarcastic way 😑 Yes lady, there is heavily induced very reluctant to come out being in my body trying to get out, it hurts. Bite me. I'm sorry your experience sucked too, I had a lovely midwife who refused to leave me even when her shift ended til Id given birth because she'd been with me all day and was an absolute gem. I don't know what would have happened without her.
When my sister was recovering from her stroke she couldnt speak walk or read just try to speak. It was really scary for her because her life changed overnight. The nurses would roll their eyes at her and when she tried to speak get annoyed and tell her to spit it out. She still cries talking about it to me. For her it was humiliating bur made her feel like a massive nuissance.
From my perspective, most "mean girls" in my school wanted to study medicine, but their grades weren't good enough, so they resorted to becoming nurses, thinking that it would be similar. But turns out it is not the same, and they ended up being bitter, in a job they dislike/despise, and just like in highschool, satisfying their ego by being mean with vulnerable people
You can’t go on to study medicine, like there’s a pre-med to take and nursing is actually a premed course. People actually avoid taking nursing as a pre-med course because it’s heavy labor and difficult (at least, that’s how it works in my country) And while I understand noticing a trend among mean girls, saying nurses satisfy their egos by being around vulnerable people is such a mean assumption to make. Like can you imagine the average person in nursing school going through all that because they couldn’t be a doctor? A lot of people I know who don’t become a doctor just purse other careers as a whole, especially if their grades just weren’t good enough in high school because nursing IS a very studious and demanding profession
Exactly this is what it is. Most mean girls want money, ( not all but having a lot of money can be a form of power) and since most of them also don't study that much to become doctors they just become nurses ( again this isn't everyone who becomes nurse)
There was a girl in high school that took an instant dislike to me. I'd try to avoid her but we were in the same year so it wasn't always possible. When we would cross paths, she'd give me dirty looks like I was beneath her, sometimes rude and snide comments and just generally trying to intimidate me. It shocked me that after we left high school she trained to be a midwife. You know, a job where you are supposed to be kind and emotionally support women and their partners. Still baffles me to this day.
Best nurse I ever had was a grouchy male army nurse. He almost never talked. However, he could tell if you were in pain just by looking at you. He had access to the best painkillers too. He could also tell if you faked pain. He got me through a bad time when the other nurses thought I was faking pain but was actually in extreme pain.
I had a school male nurse one time stay by my side until my parents came and got me. He was the one to call them and say “ I think she’s having a heart attack. You need to come get her now” turns out it was an anxiety attack. The other nurses all female said “ she’s being dramatic “ but the second they saw my heart rate they changed their tone
lol half of these nurse horror stories are them projecting their own worries about anesthesia...but isn't it the anesthesiologist's problem if he got it wrong, not the nurse? they're literally redirecting blame to you so you don't question having gotten pretty close to an iatrogenic death. damn it's mad that they'd just blatantly project like that.
@@Suiseisexy nah actually it's something innate or developed, but it's completely normal and nobodies fault. sorry for infodumping, i was in hospitals a lot in my life. anyway it's literally just like an allergy or intolerance, and if you've puked once after anesthesia you have to tell your next anesthesist (if you ever get operated on again) and you will be treated with either another anesthetic or it will be mixed with some other thing to make you "digest" it better, I forgot which one it is. If your anesthesist is good, they'll ask you before if you've ever puked after anesthesia anyway. horrifying that the nurse reacted that way, they apperently haven't been educated adequately on theirown fcking job. sadly that's common too because of the understaffing
Seriously?? Nausea is like, the #1 most common side effect of anasthesia. What kind of education did she get??? One that went through one ear and out the other? 😭
In my experience, the nurses I've met are either the kindest, most altruistic people on earth or, well, literally bullies lmao. I feel bad for all the good nurses out there who already have to put up with terrible working conditions, sometimes difficult patients and on top of it all bullying by colleagues, or dealing with the repercussions of those colleague's actions. To anyone who's a nurse and treats people with kindness and respect, thank you so much, you really are making a difference ❤️
To me it's a miracle that any of them are still nice people. The beratement and sexual harassment must drive them insane. They may be in a position of power but it's hard not to be uncomfortable if there's a horrible creep that you're supposed to be taking care of being super inappropriate with you while almost completely naked
@@BonJoviBeatlesLedZep believe me, I know what sexual harassment in the workplace is like and how hard it is to have to still go to work and not be on edge all the time through it all, I have a lot of empathy for that, having been in those kind of situations at work myself, I just think it shouldn't be an excuse to be nasty to people who are in pain, might literally die without proper care and aren't being aggressive/creepy to you or to bully your colleagues who are most likely going through the same shit as you are. But yes, I do agree that sexual harassment or any kind of mistreatment towards nurses most likely contribute to this situation and absolutely shouldn't be tolerated. Nurses definitely need more protection from their workplaces.
The meanest girl in my friend group went to nursing school. I was shooketh. Like why would she even WANT to do something like Several years later I heard she was working on an oil rig. That's tracks.
As someone in nursing school right now the mean girl to nurse trope is very real. I’ve done clinicals and seen nurses do things to patients that are considered neglect/abuse. I reported them and they got fired but I don’t understand why you would sign up for a job that’s whole purpose is to care about people, if you don’t care about anyone except yourself. Nursing is not one of those jobs you can just not take that seriously and get by just fine. You are taking care of HUMAN BEINGS who are likely in the lowest points of their life! Why even go through all the schooling and tests if you’re not going to take it seriously!
tbh they probably don’t take anything seriously, from what i’ve read in the comments here it seems apathy is a pretty big problem among these sorts of people
I think we’re just losing people who care. Everywhere. The good ones get overworked, pushed out and treated like crap by the rest who can act terribly and still be rewarded for it.
I think a little like cops, it attracts people who want to feel power over others. Yes there are some who genuinely care about helping others, but there are those who just want to get off on a power trip over vulnerable people. And those bad ones are the people who paint all nurses in a bad light
Similar to my experience with teachers in elementary school. Why would you choose a profession that puts you in charge of 10+ little humans who are physically incapable of logical thinking and need guidance and compassion to do well when you despise having to do anything but read off your lesson notes???
I’m a nurse. I feel like the mean girl thing really applies to nurses treating other nurses badly. It’s like being back in high school and I hated high school
Question,ma'am. How even mean girls even get to be a nurse in the first place? Like I thought mean girls are not that smart??? I guess it make more sense if the mean girls being a bartender or waitress, but being a nurse??
For me it wasn’t so much that I’ve had bad experiences with a lot of nurses. It was more of post-graduation noticing on social media that a SIGNIFICANT portion of the grade school bullies were going into nursing. It’s a strange trend and it was interesting to hear that it wasn’t just in my own social circles
Right! That’s what I was thinking too because I don’t interact with many nurses, don’t go to the hospital a lot it anything. But seeing ppl you know from high school or grade school who were known bullies or mean girls posting on IG about being an rn it’s a funny pattern.
same for me... the kids that made my junior high and high school years not the best are now in scrubs on facebook. I'm rarely at the hospital for myself so for the most part my interactions are peds nurses at specialists
Yeah, I think the phenomenon is less “all nurses were once mean girls” and just “a lot of mean girls become nurses.” It’s an interesting occurrence, but it by no means negates the work of the many kind, professional nurses in the field.
I graduated in 2015, saw the same. 6 girls on the cheer team as far back as middle school used to bully me and sneer at people outside of their clique. 5 of them went into nursing. This was a private school. Their parents were trying to educate them to go into higher fields and they chose something that's offered at my community college for next to nothing. Their parents paid full tuition to send them to nursing school at universities. One went to UCLA. What a waste of a private education, but it speaks volumes to their personalities, thinking they're better than others, but choosing something relatively mediocre compared to their privilege.
My sister in law is a nurse, I went to high school with her as well. She is beautiful and athletic so she was popular. Most of the girls like her were bullies. She on the other hand has always been deeply empathetic and kind. I am honored to call her my sister. I know she has helped thousands of people through their most vulnerable moments. I sleep well at night knowing someone like her is in the world.
my mother is an HR manager at a hospital with a unit of nurses under her employment, and the way she has had to confront and fire nurses who make tiktoks complaining about their patients instead of doing their jobs is mind blowing. she takes her job seriously and would never think to make a video about a patient’s suffering. hell, when she first started working as a registered nurse when i was a baby, her coworkers were so awful to her. my dad told me a story when the nurses she worked with crossed her out in pictures of their unit. mean girl nurses have always been a thing, but i think tiktok has just shone a bright light on how they behave when they think they can get away with treating innocent, vulnerable people like shit, including their fellow nurses. behavior like this makes me hesitant to ever speak to a healthcare professional.
I worked for a year at a hospital. Beyond the glut of mean girls, there's also a huge "get over it" culture for any suffering, even their own. Like my nurses felt they couldn't take breaks and upper management had a belief that that's their problem and that they'd take them if they really wanted to.
Honestly you can see if in other mid level healthcare professions like genetic counseling and speech pathology as well. There's plenty of good ones, but the amount of terrible ones who bully each other is awful. I feel like it is worse in more female dominated professions for whatever reason.
@@ameliorateepoch9917It has been actually a topic of discussion for YEARS in Italy, my grandma listened to it on the radio and I remember talking about it. in particular "labor nurses" are mean and unprofessional, my mom saw and heard the mom in the room near her being mistreated by a different staff then what she had assigned.
I'm Kenyan and even here ppl talk about how nurses especially in the child labour are often really rude and impatient with pregnant women so I guess it really is global
I never thought about this until now but every mean girl I know (like, legit borderline psychopaths), became nurses (I’m from Brazil). I THINK most want the status of medicine, but don’t want to put up the work and assume nursing is less work and end up sucking it up if they can’t marry one of the doctors. Saying that, most nurses I know are angels. Is sort of like theater kids: they’re either the most narcissistic people you ever met or the sweetest, never in between..
One of the main reason I never wanna be in a hospital again is the nurses. I have never felt as humiliated in life as when I was left in the dining hall for breakfast, in a wheelchair, unable to walk (or go to the bathroom) for over 5 hours, and absolutely bawling my eyes out, and all of the nurses who went into the kitchen fully ignored me, even when I begged one of them to bring me to the bathroom. All because my designated nurse scheduled an appointment with someone else and forgot to bring me back to my room beforehand. And then he was a complete dick about it "because I didnt eat/drink enough, and I didnt ask enough"
That is horrible, absolutely horrible. I've had botched surgeries and tons of struggle with the medical system but.. I couldn't begin to imagine the stress, embarrassment, and the disbelief this situation would have me in. I wish you so much healing and that those so called "nurses" never sleep peacefully so long as they live. Good luck in your journey ❤️
@@onethatdoesart5650 the procedures themselves weren't bad, and I've mostly recovered, thank you so much. It was just the overcomplicated bureaucracy in between doctors of different departments, and between nurses that made it impossible to get anything done, and lead to situations like these where they would just forget me, which happened more than once (never this bad, usually just in my room where I could roll to the toilet). But that could just be a hospital specific horror since I've never had to stay in a different one. I really hope you also recovered well too🙏🏼
sorry dude, that sounds terrible. I had a similar experience where I was admitted to the ward about 2 mins before nurse shift change and the nurse who showed me to my bed (which wasn't made and didn't have a pillow even or anything else) forgot to brief the new shift and to write in my admission. I had a burst appendix and abdominal sepsis and had been in unbearable pain for like 2 days, so when the first nurse said, someone will be here soon to sort you out wit pain meds and make the bed, I was so relieved. But I was left for like maybe 20 mins, maybe an hour (I wasn't really in a state to accurately keep track of time) I kind of broke down. I tried to call for someone, but I think the ward was quite big and I was fairly quiet due to sufferingTM so obviously that didn't work. In my impaired state it took me way too long to remember the call button, but eventually I did and a nurse from the current shift apologised profusely and sorted me out. But I'll always remember that, along with the mess of getting misdiagnosed by the doctors and almost dying, but oh well. My ICU nurse was fantastic and she really made an impact on me, she never made me feel bad about needing the kind of intimate and potentially embarrassing post-op care that you can need when you're cathetered and/or kind of immoble.
I feel you, a couple months ago I was in the hospital after an attempt on my life and they left me all alone in the hall for 24 hours with absolutely nothing to do but cry, sleep, and lay there silently. I had one person ask how I was during the lowest point of my life. It nearly made me regret going to the hospital to avoid overdosing.
As a teen I was sent to the hospital for severe mental health problems, and the first nurse to ever watch me was this lovely and funny lady who kept checking up on me. She gave me art stuff, complimented my pride pins (she’s a lesbian) and even let me watch Netflix on her phone (obv prolly not allowed but it helped a ton with the boredom of waiting in an ER.) I will forever be grateful for her kindness On the OTHER hand I was in an adolescent mental facility and it had this really mean nurse/mental health technician. She def had favorites, and rolled her eyes at me a couple of times when I would ask her for something (like if I could stay in my room because the domestic abuse scene in a movie triggered me). She was very unpleasant, and I dreaded whenever it was her shift. The polarity between these two nurses is still crazy to me. The duality of humanity
Honestly it’s probably because they’re sadistic and cruel and want power over weaker people is why they become nurses but it’s really concerning considering nurses are supposed to take care of people
@@blizzard_the_seal9863 It's more like having a fake idealised version of themselfs that they need to uphold for themselfs and others. Which sounds kind of narcissistic 😬
A friend of mine is one of the sweetest, kindest people I know and when she decided to go into nursing everyone thought she’d be the perfect nurse. Unfortunately, her class was filled with incredibly mean and spiteful people that bullied her so much that she quit after one year of school. The eating their young thing is so real and horrifying
I 100% agree with this. As someone who experienced this. It’s not even just within school and your classmates but the nurses you meet during clinical can be so disheartening. The eat your young mentality is so outdated and needs to be changed. It doesn’t help anything. And I’m sorry for your friend had that experience. She never deserved that.
@@emilymanire1359 I’m so sorry to hear that you went through that and I hope you’re doing much better now! It honestly feels sometimes like older nurses blow off steam this way bc they (mostly) can’t behave like this with patients. Throw in some I-had-to-go-through-this-so-you-do-too-attitude and the disaster’s perfect
@@DeathnoteBB That is so true! Even if you beat all the challenges on your way there, people who are supposed to be your colleagues can still throw a wrench in your plans
Thank you for talking about this. A girl who terrorized me for four years in elementary school for being Autistic is now in medical school. And frankly I'm terrified for the disabled people she is most likely going to abuse.
I remember a nurse told me to "stop shaking" after I woke up from my anesthesia. She was mad at me and extremely rude because I was.... shaking. I didn't even ask for anything. She literally made me feel guilty for something I could not control. And I was scared not knowing why my body was shaking as well . After about an hour she came in again with another nurse. I stopped shaking at that point. She brought that nurse to inject me with some medicine that was supposed to calm me down. They didn't even know what was happening to me... I later just googled the symptoms and it's not uncommon to happen after an anesthesia.
Be mean to mean nurses, they don't expect it. Most of them believe they are living in Grey's Anatomy, you get to remind them that their job is in your hands and there's almost nothing (legal) that they can do about it.
I had something similar when I went to hospital from an infection that was quickly turning into quite serious sepsis. I was getting my vitals measured and the sepsis was causing heart palpitations. My heart rate was all over the place. The nurse got really angry with me over the fact that my pulse was unsteady and was making getting an accurate reading take longer. Like buddy, what do you expect me to do about my heart rate while my organs try not to shut down? Sorry for the inconvenience, I guess lol.
I was an inpatient at a psych ward and the nurses there would not stop complaining about us patients 24/7. On top of that, they would verbally harass us and pull pranks on us, the male nurses usually made sexual innuendos toward us (we were literal MINORS), and there was a lot of negligence when it came to care. Not to mention the preferential treatment toward patients with less stigmatized conditions. I still have nightmares about my stay there to this day, and it's going to be four years since then this March.
I feel like psych ward nurses are the worst when it comes to mean nurses. The mean ones are just so demeaning, especially towards black people. I still remember there was a group of us rapping and a kid was making a beat on the table, and the nurse freaked out and shouted at us and said she was being violent for making a beat on the table
Not to trauma dump on here but same. My inpatient psych experience was the most horrible thing I've ever gone through. I've never in my life felt so degraded like I did that week. I got laughed at and mocked by the staff behind the glass because I was begging for help to go to sleep bc it had been like three days of NO sleep bc of my PTSD. When they decided I was being too obnoxious in my crying the male PCTs grabbed me by shirt collar and dragged me across the hall into the observation room. The force they used was so much I literally started bleeding all over the pillow. Like I said, I was there for a week and I told absolutely every single person from the get go that I was vegetarian (which isn't new or some crazy diet) and it took 5 whole days for me to get a proper meal. I was literally just getting by on graham crackers and some bread the other patients offered me. The staff also ignored my complaints about being groped by another patient. I was freshly 18 and scared shitless of this grown ass man and no one cared. And that's just what happened to me. What I saw them do to the other patients was so much worse. That was almost 3 years ago. I just got my BSN this past December (woo!) and I am still terrified and anxious to enter this career because of how awful some of my fellow nurses can be. edit: I did report all of this and literally nothing was ever done.
all of my psych ward experiences have been really good. Whenever I hear about these horrible experiences i always wonder how someone would become a nurse and do horrible in a section that requires careful/sensitive work like that of the psych ward.
I was physically abused by psych ward nurses, and when I told my parents that during the meeting discussing my release they hit me in front of my parents and said they'd keep me in there longer because of that. My parents demanded I was immediately released
I was a biochem major so I had a lot of classes with premeds. The ones who just want the status and money outnumber the ones who want to help people 10 to 1.
@@adriannahowell2359 It’s crazy that we have the same name and the same experience, but I second this. I was ChemE/premed and the premed students I was surrounded by were some of the most self absorbed, stuck up people I have met. All they cared about was money or prestige. Also like 90% of the mean girls from my high school are in nursing or pre med lmao
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I’m so sorry to hear that. There was this girl at my school I see now as more a “frenemy” because she was white and nice to me but because her words I was “not like the other black girls” and I saw she was becoming a doctor which really concerned me. She also married a black man and made some posts on social media about acknowledging her failures when it came to racial prejudice. It’s just social media so I haven’t spoken to her but like the TikTok Emily mentioned, I’m at least hopeful that more people will do more to hold medical professionals accountable for their bad behavior as it arises.
When i had kidney surgery i was 14, 6 foot 2, and 170 lbs. The nurses refused to give me an adult dose of pain medication, despite the pediatric dose being obviously insufficient
Nurses don't get to prescribe or decide dosage amounts of any medication. They can advocate to the prescribing MD, PA, or NP to make changes to the dose, but they can't just give someone a higher dose of something without an order.
One of my nurses almost killed me because the IV was "making me pee too much" so she took it out for 8 hours and my sepsis relapsed and my organs began failing again... I was so poorly mistreated that when I was assigned a new nurse she asked me to not say anything to her superiors and to keep quiet because I would make the other nurse lose her job and I wouldn't want that on my conscience. So anyways I have a huge fear of hospitals now and I still have nightmares about being in the hospital.
WHATTTT GIRL YOU SHOULD REPORT HER IF SHE ALMOST KILL YOU SHE CAN DO THE SAME WITH SOMEONE ELSE , (WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER PATIENT WHO COULD BE YOU BE DYING ? ) WHY WOULDN'T YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO CAN KILL SOMEONE ELSE " ON ACCIDENT" GETTING FIRED? WE ARE TALKING ABOUT A LIFE AGAINST LOOSING A JOB GURL REPORT HERRR PLEASEE I AM SCARED OF HOSPITAL BECAUSE OF THINGS LIKE THAT TO
so you """"wouldn't want"""" a terribly awful nurse being fired in your conscience but it's okay that she nearly killed you????????????????????????? WHAT.
I would genuinely love to study the correlation between people who were bullies in high school and people who went on to become nurses and teachers. Two of the more prevalent careers where you have some significant power over someone else.
also lawyers. so many mean ppl/bullies go into law. i once had a friend studying law who was a bully in highschool… probably because they think theyll get rich and have power.
Nurses who refused to listen and help me is the reason why I have a destroyed bladder and can look forward to a lifetime of severe pain. I can't imagine anything meaner than refusing to help someone who's in pain
Not exactly the same, but I was a nurses aid for 3 years and I can relate to almost all of this. Harassed by patients, overworked, understaffed, trying not to become jaded to human suffering, the coworker bullying. My first week on the job I had a coworker chase me down the hall screaming because she wasn’t satisfied with the report I gave her at the end of my shift! Mean girls become CNAs 😢
I had to have my appendix removed in December 2020. The nurses were all so wonderful to me and helped me get my own room since I was one of only a few patients that weren’t there for COVID. When my professors were going to fail me cause I was missing my final exam, the head nurse literally emailed them and got them to not make me take the exam. She was a professor herself. They were all so nice and helped me when they were incredibly stressed. They also gave great advice for how to make recovery go smoother
My experiences with nurses have been incredibly hit or miss either the nicest people I’ve ever met in my entire life or “former mean girls” vibes. But so many nurses have meant so much to me and been so wonderful and I think that takes the cake and is the predominant experience with nurses I’ve had- I think the career tends to attract caring people with hyper empathy who go above and beyond for others or people who want to have power over others in a job that pays well and portrays them as martyrs and so that’s where the disparity is.
My mother was a CCRN and a narsassist and child abuser. It's a "thank you for your service"/"you save lives" kind of job. No one asks if your a good nurse, or a good person.
@@AJayZy And yet, without a vast majority of workers, society would not run like it does. I feel the Trash-man, the retail hell worker, the cook, the cleaner, all deserve as much respect as EMS. They all do jobs that I either lack the skills for, or which would drive me insane. I tried working both a retail job and a frycook job between EMS jobs back before I got the highest level of certification, and work was sparse. I genuinely wanted to die. It was grueling work for low pay. No respect from management or the public. Genuinely made me sick to my stomach coming in to work. And that was just a few months. EMS on the other hand is great. I get to work outside, I don’t need to be overly friendly, I have a ton of independence to make decisions about treatment, and I only have to work with at most a few patients at a time. Some people of course would say that EMS is hell. They’d talk about the horrible things you see and the stressful nature of calls. But I either like or don’t mind those things. Which is why we need all types of people. All jobs and all types of workers are important
You’re describing my final term professor at nursing school. He knew how to “work the system” and make himself seem like a good person (we know cause he would actively tell us “strategies” to make yourself seem like a “good nurse”.) I was absolutely mortified. He also got a real high off of his power and was a total narcissist.
You know, I heard someone ask, "Why do all the mean girls from high school go into nursing?" in a hematology class once. My first thought was actually, "They are looking for doctor's to marry." The bully and control freak thing makes sense too though. 😅
That's a good point. Ain't enough doctors to go around but every mean girl can be a pos in their day to day. Though I don't doubt they try to snag themselves a doctor while they're at it.
I thought it was because they tend to be hypocrites, saying "omg i wanna help people" because it makes them look good, while they cant look at their own actions that hurted others
YES. i have a receptionist in my apartment building who literally POINTS OUT MY ACNE when I don’t wear makeup, and when I do she says “your makeups a bit… thick, honey” and giggles to her friend on her phone when my family walks by (we are one of the only poc families in the building and she is a trump supporting white woman)
I remember a few years ago in I think quebec or somewhere in French speaking canada there was a video of several nurses belittling a native woman who was crying out in pain until she died after hours of basically no treatment because they claimed she was exaggerating. I really don't feel comfortable seeing medical professionals anymore after seeing several cases like this and some personal experiences.
ive lived in quebec all my life and one of the biggest scandals to happen in the province, there were a lot of manifestations about it. i cant recall if the specific nurses were fired for that but despite the backlash from the public no real consequence was given to the specific hospital. i have a family member who is one of those bullies turned nurses and i recall her whining about how "blown out of proportion" it was. while thankfully not as widespread as it was a couple decades ago, there's still a really intense stigma against first nations in the medical field in quebec, from what i understand. (sorry my english is pretty bad)
so many of the girls that bullied me in school became nurses or dental assistants, and none of them really ever made good grades, it’s honestly so weird
From my own experiences and understanding most people will go to community college first and then decide to take school seriously then typically transfer into nursing later on because they didn’t have th grades to do it right off the bat from graduating high school
i live in a very tiny town and literally every single rich popular girl at my school would take a CNA class in sophomore year and start working at the hospital in our city. Some girls would even start working a desk job at the clinic in their freshman year. Most of those girls have a superiority complex and i’m just glad that i graduated and plan on never going to the hospital they all work at. 💀 Also, nurses are known to work very long shifts and can often be sleep deprived so the lack of sleep just multiplies their shitty attitude.
@@LittleMissMorningstar As someone who was hired as a dental receptionist at 16, dental assistants definitely do not. I haven't seen a lot of mean girl nurses, but where I'm from the lower level dental careers are plagued with college-aged mean girls... It wasn't fun.
@@LittleMissMorningstarI think this used to be true but to be honest I got into a nursing program right out of highschool without particularly astounding grades so I think things are changing. Either that or I got lucky lol
The best thing TikTok did is get monsters fired from their jobs, like that one plastic surgeon who got her liscence revoked after not only posting a video of a patient without consent but also botching the surgery in ways thought inconceivable and advising them NOT to seek help for complications.
In highschool I had a bossy rude friend. She talked bad behind other peoples backs and was boy crazy with a new guy like every few weeks. Shes a nurse now.
Just gave me many flashbacks of girls I knew in high school who became doctors lmao. Knew one girl who had 300 bfs and gfs a month, constantly cheated and started brutal fights and drama between her exes. She always talked trash about men and accused all her exes of being narcissists and rapists. She's a nurse now so that's not scary 😂
My mom was a nurse, and she only became a nurse after going back to college in her 30's. She definitely was bullied by other nurses, especially nurses who were her same age, but had been nurses for decades. That was when she was first getting started. It became easier when she changed hospitals and found a really good unit that didn't let people get away with that stuff.
You just gave me hope. I wanna be a nurse and going to start school soon. I'm 31. I've been a sleep tech for 10 years but want some things new. The mean girl aspect of things scares me. I wanna be good ro the world and make a small difference. I can't stand a bully and that scares me ro have ro deal with that. Some things just come with experience, yah know?
@KushKitten I'm only 21 but I'll go nursing school in the fall. I've never been a mean girl, and i feel very sad reading the comments of this video. I just wanna help people and do a good job. I really hope I can get lucky and come into a good unit with nice coworkers. Wish the best for you too.♡ I already work part time in a hospital as a cleaner and I've met really nice nurses and not so nice ones.. I think there are a lot of genuine people working in this field but unfortunately there's a mix of both
I can't speak to nurses but I had a pediatrician who was completely aware that I was very underweight for the majority of my childhood. She didn't do or say anything other than "eh don't worry about it". I was actually dealing with ED issues. The second I started gaining any weight, it didn't matter that my weight was healthy now, it mattered that I was gaining. She wouldn't stop emphasizing that if I kept gaining I'd eventually be overweight, as if I was already. Eventually I was slightly overweight, and after that- it didn't matter what was wrong with me, every time I was in her office for anything it became about my weight.
Omg I am so sorry you went through that. That's absolutely not ok, and she shouldn't be working with kids/teenagers. I hope you've changed doctors since and are doing better.
EDs are BIG problem in medical field. Hardly anyone knows how to treat/care for these disorders. Which is appalling considering how fatal they are. And even though EDs don't exactly represent a large portion of the population, they require a large care team. You're seeing radiologists, GPs, endocrinologists, psychiatrists, PAs, nurses, getting EKGs, getting vitals done daily/weekly for such a long time. And yet still so many lack basic knowledge of how to handle it
I also notice this with mds, or mds that dont care WHAT a kid is eating. And only the percentile. I wonder if she herself had disordered thoughts and heavily projected them on her patients. I know struggling with my own ED i do that sometimes buy im self aware enough to take a step back
I’ve been reading all of your guys comments, I’m so sorry that so many of you had these negative experiences in the hospital. I hope none of you guys have to go through anything like that again. If you are thinking of being a nurse/you are a nurse, remember to treat people with kindness (patients and your coworkers) and navigate every shift with empathy!! I know this is a comedic video, but in all seriousness I hope we can see some positive changes in the healthcare industry over time, sooner rather than later. Thanks for watching and I hope you all have a good day! ❤️
and i hope we can get more fundings😢 ppl r quick to put all the blame on healthcare workers whenever a patient gets mistreated(wrong doses of meds and such). Of course mishaps like this definitely should not be excused just because you’re overworked, but increasing funding and hiring more ppl would definitely lower the chance of medical mistakes happening. The healthcare system is harming both patients and workers by driving nurses to exhaustion. i am thinking of being a nurse, and do hope things can get better and the gov can spend its money wisely. (i’m not from the US, but i do think the general sentiment is shared)
its heartbreaking because there were several times where i was very close to death and the treatment i got was abhorrent. the one time where i was actually close to shutting down, i got the best team of nurses. i will always be extremely grateful for those people that day. of all the trauma and pain and verbal abuse i experienced in the hospital over those few years battling something that honestly shouldve killed me, i got my saving graces. it is true though that so many of the means girls ive known worked in nursing to make the money to keep up their spending habits and lifestyle. so many of them bitch about the work they do and the people they encounter. even my shitty step sisters do it. i cant imagine how u fortunate it is for the patients that have to deal with their incompetency or hear the things their say behind the patients' backs.
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The “mean girl to nurse pipeline” trope came from genuine observations where many of the girls people knew in high school who were mean or bullies chose to go into nursing right out of school (a career that contrasted their behaviour even before joining the workforce). Although Im sure that nurses also do get stereotyped as a result of this trope. This could also just be chalked up to nursing being a very common profession for women, but the mean girls I knew in high school did, largely, choose nursing right out of school. I wouldn’t want any of them treating me and it makes me scared to have to go to the hospital. People who chose nursing later in their educational or profession careers, that I know, seem to be nicer, more empathetic people. Idk if that has any significance but it’s something I’ve noticed.
I am a little bit older being 20 and just starting nursing program, and it makes me so sad seeing so many ppl comment about how mean nurses were during patient's most fragile moments. I was sort of the weird geek in high school but noticed lots of popular mean girls choose nursing. I just hope to help break this stereotype
I think that those girls are really looking for sort of "power" over other individuals, hence, the bullying. In nursing, you have sort of a control over the patients.. so, it only seems logical. (Not sure how to phrase this better!)
as someone who’s been in and out of hospitals for years because of mental health stuff, nurses are my only comfort, they’ve always been so kind to me and so nonjudgmental. I don’t have a safe place in my life, and some of the nurses i’ve had created that space for me
I was hospitalized twice for mental health issues. First one was for suicidal ideation and the second one was because my medication went subtherapeutic and stopped working. The first hospitalization was terrible. I got yelled at by a nurse because I needed an extra blanket and she was forced to stop eating cake for someone’s birthday and get something for me to stay warm. If anybody became the least bit upset, they would threaten to send them to the restrictive part of the mental hospital. They clearly just hated their jobs and everyone in there. Fortunately the second hospitalization was completely different. Great nurses! Still, the first experience made me very wary of doing anything where I may have to be hospitalized. I don’t need to be traumatized on top of being delusional and hallucinating.
I once had a psych ward nurse call me ugly cause of my short hair and that I shouldn't become a writer because there are too many writers in the world. That was fun :)
Mine was a doctor/psychiatrist but the same level of cruelness either way. They really act like they'd want you committing but get so pissed when you actually attempt...
It's even more messed up that it was a psych ward nurse because they're supposed to be helping people fix their mental health, not give them even more problems... Now I can't help but imagine a person going to a psych ward for trauma due to bullying only for their bully to be their nurse...
Had a psych nurse refuse to not watch me get undressed in front of her, which was shocking and uncomfortable because the last psych nurse I had left me get undressed while she held the towel for privacy
I worked at a retirement home as a server and out of the three nurses for the whole facility. Only one of them truly glowed because of the fact that they really wanted to help people and always did so with a smile. I couldn’t stay because of the negativity, even from the other servers. They always complained about the fact that someone needed more water or butter. The residents would get it themselves if they could. Having to ask someone for help for everything and always getting an attitude is something I really resonated with and it hurt my heart too much to stay there.
In my experience the "mean girl to nurse" trope isn't a problem with nursing specifically (though I definitely appreciate the specific statistic) but more generally a problem with positions that put you in a position of power over others. People who are likely to be harmful or abusive are able to do much greater harm when they have significant power over others than if they don't.
yeah this just seems like "assholes also have jobs" to me. Of course the ones that are abusive are more likely to abuse the power their job hands them.
@@appalachiabrauchfrau Those people also seek out specific jobs in which they can abuse their power and - ideally - seem like good people due to the good reputation their job has. "Only good people become nurses/social workers" my ass.
it’s not a problem that only occurs with nursing jobs, true. but it’s still very common and very serious especially in nursing. bullying taken to an adult level that you couldn’t quite understand the damage unless you lived it. like dealing with a narcissistic toxic abusive person. ppl like that are really common and in nursing a lot of them flock there. i just wanna say to ppl who read ur comment to not think that what you said means it’s any less serious. because it’s not and from comments on this video it’s clear there’s people who have ptsd from how seriously other nurses affected them from being so nasty and forming cliques.
my birth giver pos mother takes up manager positions (specifically at apartment complexes) and treats her tennants horribly and is super happy to evict people super quick and its disgusting. its definitely an issue of abusive people, not the professions themselves.
Yep was in the Navy and a person that was a higher rank then me was a miserable person - one of those people who would get mad at something then just shut down for the rest of the day and it happened often. Another person who I thought we were friendly but whenever there was something that benefitted him - especially if someone could get in trouble or he could screw them over he did it. And he also got promoted to Chief which in the Navy is basically like a secret society where they wield even more power. I'm so happy I got out of the Navy. I can't believe I wanted to do 20 years.
One of my labor nurses said to me, "What? Did you think this was going to be painless?" Every time they came into the room, they told me to shut up and made me feel guilty about shouting. My mother complained to the hospital manager, who gave me an older, much more empathetic nurse. She actually explained that my shouting was depleting the energy I would need, instead of just storming in and sneering. The male nurse who checked us in rolled his eyes every time I stopped talking during contractions. He told my sister that women like me were why he was a proud chauvinist; he literally said that word. My sister told him to get a different job. The male nurse was David Schitt-level flamboyant, so even gay guys who hang with the mean girls become nurses, lmao!
Yeah, I knew this bitchy gay guy who was a complete narcissist and manipulative abuser (the kind who abuses someone and then calls the cops on them when they finally defend themselves). He was a nurse and I'm terrified for his patients. I'm also certain he's making cringe tiktoks about it.
I am telling u these nurses wont last a day outside of america if they said any of that to anyone here where i live or even the eye roll is enough they would find themselves dragged by the hair and possibly given a black eye by some old woman cuz they were mean to her daughter
I’ve had the privilege of only ever interacting with kind and compassionate nurses… Even the ones who were clearly giving more “popular girl” vibes, so I’m so sorry to everyone in the comments disclosing such horrible experiences 😢
I learned about this phenomena because my roommate in college (who is the sweetest person alive) was going to school to be a nurse and about halfway through the semester she realized almost all of her classmates were mean girls. She was severely bullied in middle school and high school to the point that she finished her education at home. I'd seen her have severe panic and anxiety attacks triggered by her past (all because of some nasty girls who lived down the hall). She took a little time off because of health issues, and during that time also started a more intensive therapy. By the time she was healthy enough for school again she was also mentally well-enough to decide to brave nursing school again. Still, it was rough to see how hard it was for her to be in such a toxic environment and it definitely made me a bit wary of nurses. I did end up working in the administrative side of a retirement community during the pandemic and got to spend a lot of time with the nurses to form a more personal opinion. It was a mixed bag, some of them were horrible, some of them were fine, and some of them were some of the kindest people I've ever met.
Labor and delivery nurses caused me such deep trauma during childbirth that months later I can barely move on. It’s horrifying that one nurse’s “bad day” can eclipse the literal birth of a vulnerable person’s first child. I was robbed of so much bonding with my baby from the constant bullying and gaslighting of MULTIPLE nurses. It breaks my heart and this is something I’ll have to carry with me forever.
Omg that's a nightmare scenario. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It sounds very traumatizing, but I hope you find peace and healing. I feel like every patient should have a third party advocate to protect them from situations like this. Hospitals have forgotten that hospitality and kindness are an integral part to patient care.
@@pflynn623 I believe it! I've seen nurses mock chemotherapy patients. I have no doubts they would abuse a pregnant person in active labor. It's honestly one of the main reasons why I wouldn't want to give birth. I already have a distrust and trauma history of healthcare workers. It would be devastating to endure mistreatment at my most vulnerable. It's seriously messed up and I wish every patient would receive the care and respect they deserve.
While I was stuck in hospital recently, I overheard a group of nursing staff mocking an elderly man who had suffered a stroke, as he was quite vocally demanding (he was like 80+ yrs old and couldn't even sit up). They regularly ignored him for 20/30 minutes at a time of him screaming bloody murder, repeatedly screaming "HELP! HELP! HELP!" to the point that I still feel deeply uncomfortable thinking about how desperately he was screaming for help while they stood by laughing at him. I could literally hear them laughing and mocking him. I don't think I'll ever forget how they treated that man. Alfred, I'm sorry that you weren't given the dignity or decency you deserved. I don't think I've ever been more disgusted by the behaviour of healthcare "professionals".
as someone who’s spent a lot of time at hospitals, dude it’s the SITTERS TOO. one girl told me because i was “disrespectful” i didn’t deserve to leave the hospital room 💀 another one told me to move seats so she could have “her spot” (i was there for mobility issues i used a wheelchair dawg 😭🙏)
was in the process of becoming a nursing assistant but dropped out halfway through because the girls in that class bullied me for stuff i didnt even do. i cried in class at one point bc i found it upsetting how these girls with little to no empathy could be in a position to care for people
I'm an LNA I feel you. I'm actually in the class right now thankfully at this point everyone has dropped out and there's only one other girl with me right now
One time a nurse asked me some sexual related questions and didn’t believe my answers and said “come on that’s not true”. Then when I got uncomfortable and started crying during an exam she was doing on me, she said to “stop being dramatic” and said she had never had a patient cry during that exam. Anyways, now I have more trauma and I’m scared to go to the doctors
if you don’t mind me asking, what sort of questions was she asking you? like was there any follow up questions that were inappropriate for a nurse to ask?
@@ssamantha2 she was asking if I’m sexually active. I said no but am a 24 year old adult and she didn’t believe me. My periods were strange at the time and they had to check my uterus.
@@andreaceleste2664 Um, wow. Literally the only way TO know if someone is sexually active is to ask them. There are so many reasons why someone might be celibate...is it really so hard to believe that an adult is not currently having sex?
My school bully wanted to be a doctor. Cardiologist to be specific. Last I heard she'd been accepted to med school. Not all mean girls go to be nurses, but for some reason mean girls feel drawn to medicine. Another two girls in my graduating class were considering medicine though, and they were nice people. As a chronically ill person, it feels like a roulette every time I have to go to the hospital. It kind of puts me off the need to go and risk being gaslit by a doctor that my genuine issues are female hormones or anxiety
don't forget the classic "just exercise more/lose weight" solution. it's like they think chronically ill/disabled people are too much work and just want an easy way to brush us off
Medicine in general attract sociopaths. I have a hard time trusting any doctor as a majority of them see people as bags of meat meant to be stuffed with pharmaceuticals. Most doctors are very untrustworthy
@@gustavus0013 it’s bizarre isn’t it? She was also one of the nicest women I’d ever known for years. I think it can be a really toxic environment and it ate away at who she was. I’m better off :)
As someone who grew up as a sick kid, I just want to say thank you to the nurses who treat people with dignity and kindness. You guys go through SO much and I don't blame anyone who is jaded, but it means so much for the people who are able to be compassionate. It is such an underappreciated profession! Also to @notevenemily I really loved this video!
As a former nurse, the worst part of the job was how cruel coworkers were, to the point that I had to go on leave. It’s been 2 years but I still have nightmares about nursing.
I’ve only been a nurse a year and a half and the other nurses are so mean I want to go back to my previous job working in higher ed administration. That’s just the nurses-we won’t talk abt the MDs 😢
if ur having nightmares about it still u probably have some ptsd from it. which wouldn’t be surprising. i know how nasty cruel some ppl can be so i can only imagine what crap u dealt with
I'm saddened by our collective trauma. People shouldn't have to be afraid to go to the hospital or doctor's office. This makes my heart so heavy. I'm so sorry to anyone who's ever had to go through this. You are not alone and you don't deserve to carry the burden of someone else's horrible behavior.
A nurse told me how much medication to take if I was "serious" after my first attempt when I was 16. It could not have been clearer to me from that day. Lucky to be here after the second. That kind of thing doesn't leave your head
@@florecitasinwinter Thank you💕 I am still working on a lot but it's been over a decade since I've needed that level of care or even close to it, thankfully.
Oh my god, I experienced the same thing. When I attempted a year later, a nurse asked me if I was serious or just wanted attention. I’m sorry this happened to someone else and I’m glad you’re still here with us ❤
some of my roommates were nursing majors in college and the stories I'd hear of constant toxicity and gossip and weird competition between the girls in their cohorts sounded awful. It sounded like a bunch of snotty middle school girls, not competent adults going into healthcare. And unfortunately, the actually kind people who wanted to avoid the drama were the ones who were most targeted. Terrible.
All of the mean girls that terrorized me and others in school went to a nursing tech program our school offered, and SOME became nurses. The rest became MLM pushing stay at home Military moms. I appreciate you for making this video bc it’s been wild seeing all the mean girls becoming nurses THEN seeing all the mean nurses making tiktoks ON THE CLOCK! Which I couldn’t even get away with at any job I’ve had js
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It’s wild how nurses are either the coolest most caring people or absolute assholes with basically no in between
only the two extremes are willing to put up with the abuse. The good ones because they know it is worthwhile to provide medical care to people who need it, and the bad ones, because they fit in with the other bad ones. Eventually the middle ones, who aren't driving themselves to an early grave, but do generally want what is best for the patient, end up leaving due to the working conditions.
Only the most passionate people will stay, which means you're going to end up with very polarizing viewpoints.
I personally know a lot of nurses and this does seem to be true.
@@notbroken4342maybe you don't know them well enough 😂 Kidding aside, have you tried being their patient instead?
The assholes are the emotionally weak ones who aren't able to manage in the harshness of being in healthcare without taking it out on others(as a CNA for 6 years who has only cried at work a couple of times)
It’s the same thing with special ed teachers. I’ve only ever had mean ones but I know there are SE teachers out there who actually do care. I don’t think I’ve had a bad experience with a nurse though.
She was a nurse, he was a cop. We seriously need them to stop.
LMAOOOO
this is my parents...and yes, they're divorced.
What more can I say?
@dontstealmycontentpleaseI’M SO GLAD I WASN’T THE ONLY ONE WHO READ IT LIKE THAT
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Not ALL nurses are mean girls, but most mean girls that I know have become nurses ... this phenomena should be studied
i think it's the power over others aspect. a lot of psychopaths become cops (but obviously not all cops are psychopaths) and i think it's because of the power and authority
They want control or power I'm guessing but I'm no psychologist
Isn’t it more about mean girls being the type of woman to follow gender roles ?
@@Najmille what
@@32dramaqueen this. i think due to socialization men tend to pick police force while women pick the medical field, but it’s all for the same reason.
I've been a whistleblower at a nursing home where an RN ordered me to hold down an Alzheimer's patient for her to hit. She fired me for insubordination, and i submitted my logs to the state and got 20 people put in federal prison. I haven't been back to my hometown ever since, and pursued electrical engineering instead.
Damn. Respect.
Love that ❤
wheres the news story link?
You're a hero
HERO! ❤❤❤
A friend of mine quit the medical field because of how mean and bitchy the other nurses are. And she’s a former Physician’s Assistant. She paid off her student loans, her car, and made enough money to be able to leave and start a business in the countryside. She now bee-keeps and sells the honey at the Farmer’s Market, loves her work.
Currently studying to be a nurse, but with a game plan to take up architecture after the board exams since my goals were quite multiple-choice. And...yeah, I've soon come to realize how terribly uppity most, if not all my classmates are, and it's futile to even try and ask them questions or help. My best bet for getting a job in the medical field is to expect disappointments to keep myself at bay, I guess.
Good for her!!! 🤍🤍✨
smart move
She’s living my dream life 😩
I know a woman who worked in an elementary school as a teacher and librarian who quit for the same reason. Last I heard she was learning to code.
Mean girls becoming nurses is the equivalent of bullies becoming cops
spot on
Very much so
It's a power trip.
This is actually true. Sociopaths who enjoy control tend to go to nursing as women and policing as men
Yep!
I once had a nurse yell at me to "act my age and stop crying". I was in a lot of pain and having a panic attack. Turns out I was in so much pain because my bandages were way too tight and my arm had swollen a lot making them tighter. I think I thanked the other nurse who eventually got a doctor to look at it about a million times, I was so grateful that someone took my struggles seriously.
She should have been fired
@@blizpix Yeah. I didn't tell anyone because I was afraid I either wouldn't be taken seriously and they'd agree with her, or I would and it'd become a whole hassle. I wasn't sure if I would recognise her on pictures either (because it had been dark when I saw her), and I didn't want the wrong person to get punished. I was afraid my racial biases would come into play and I'd point out the wrong Black woman. I was also just done and upset and I wanted to go home.
In hindsight, what she did was not okay and I definitely should have told someone. There were only two night nurses working my room and I definitely would have been able to point her out out of the two of them. But I also don't blame very sick me for wanting to get this over with and go home instead of complicating matters.
hope that bitch gets fired. it's the same thing as being a parent, not everyone is equipped to do it properly.
my anger issues could never, i'd be very vocal about wishing violent and terrible things on that woman lmao
@@desensitizedaltruism yeah you'd just get kicked out of hospital, if you are actually in pain you learn to stfu so you can actually get the help you need, you don't think we want to stand up for ourselves? the whole point is that they have power over us and until you get discharged you can't really complain
Speaking as a teacher, it's actually wild that you could replace the words "nurse" with "teacher" and "healthcare" with "education" and the video would still be 100% accurate.
Yuuuuup
im of the mindset we all suck and are generally not nice to strangers .
Yup! I’m in education and the women can be so catty and the men are arrogant af.
A lot of teachers peaked in high school. Not all. But most of the bad ones.
@drakeford4860
Damn.
It's almost like most women are bitchy and loathsome characters in general and whenever a field becomes saturated with them it becomes more and more tiresome to work in.
i had a nurse tell me “you look pale, green, and about to throw up. if you’re gonna throw up, let me know so i can walk out bc i can’t do throw up” why are you a nurse?
I mean, they have to wipe asses.
I met a vet tech who said he didn’t like puppies
I can’t do throw up either lol but I ain’t bein a nurse
The obvious answer is the $$$.
😂😂😂😂😂
All the mean girls in my school either wanted to be nurses or veterinarians. It’s such a weird phenomenon to me.
@@axolotl3324They go to a not-so-great school. Have their parents pay their tuition so they don't stress about anything else other than studying. And hey, some mean girls are pretty clever. To be mean and not get in trouble you have to be somewhat smart.
@@axolotl3324 plenty still copy in college. I had a lot that would sit with me in the study tutor areas and watch me solve problems then sneakily copy mine. I didn't care bc they would fail tests but honestly its not impossible to cheat tests either, even in college.
@axolotl3324 that's sweet, thank you~ it was annoying but they were just cheating themselves out of learning ;P
Ikrr
I feel like it could be a form of projection. As in they wish to appear , and to an extent try to convince themselves that they are good, when they really aren't. They therefore will go through extreme lengths to live out that fantasy
I always heard bullies tend to gravitate toward careers that give them power over vulnerable people. That's why it's so prevalent with nurses, people who work with seniors, children, and the disabled, teachers, and cops.
And politicians.
Yep, each school year the teacher we got was either mean or lovely, there was no in-between.
Totally I'm a social worker and I've met some of the worst, most egotistical power tripping people through work, especially in management
@@jneilson7568 Yeah, me too. I was pulled out of school in 4th grade because the 4th grade curriculum was so dumb, I was LOSING information I had gained in 3rd grade, so my experience is limited... but my school career is a perfect checkerboard (x, y, x, y) of great teachers and teachers I couldn't stand. I got along great with my 1st and 3rd grade teachers. In the 2nd and 4th grade, I hated the teacher, turned up behavioral problems I hadn't had during the other years, and was generally miserable.
Absolutely true. This makes the lives of the good cops, nurses, teachers, etc. a living hell.
If family members are coming to the nurse's station instead of using the call button, it's likely because nobody is coming in response to the call button.
Possible but not conclusive.
It was for me. My mom just got out of a post stroke rehab thing and holy shit did they take forever. Then there was one old man who honestly was an ass but they decided to just let him shit himself instead of tske him to the bathroom
That was the case with my sister. We noticed no one was coming so like clockwork we pushed it every 5 minutes to see how long it would take. 3 hours, we pushed it every 5 minutes for 3 hours and no one ever came. Bear in mind that sis was in such a state she could not even sit up on her own so she needed help using the toilet and bathing. Whats she supposed to do? Soil herself and bed and just sit in it until someone finally shows up after hours of trying to get help? I ended up just bathing her myself and hunted down a nurse afterwards to plug her back into the machines.
My husband was just in the hospital (November 2024) and I think a nurse responded once to the call button. At one point, the IV fluid ran out and the machine was beeping like crazy (I called, and someone answered, but no one came). A nurse ended up coming by because she just happened to hear the beeping from the hallway
@@katrinascarlet5637that ending right there was the goal
I remember being in the hospital checking in to give birth and when this one nurse went to use a needle on my arm I went through a bad contraction and started to wince from the pain. She had the audacity to say “umm relax I didn’t even prick you yet 🙄” I snatched my arm away and asked for another nurse that had more sympathy and patience with me going through contractions. She said I was being “dramatic” and I told her of course I am, I’m about to give BIRTH
Considering that Black women succumb to maternal complications at THREE FUCKING TIMES the rate of their white counterparts, I'm glad you asked for a new nurse. She can miss me with that foolishness. Dramatic my ass. I would have been seething on your behalf had I been there.
Yes put her in her place !!
Did they at least agree to give you another nurse?
@blueskiesmedia417o my God I feel so sorry for you. i'm so sorry you and your late wife had to endure that. karma will get those bastards
@blueskiesmedia417Wow, I did not expect that ending. Sending condolences man.
i will die on the “all mean girls become nurses, but not all nurses are mean girls”. literally all the girls who bullied me are now working on nursing degrees 😭
it’s a power dynamic
@@Lara-vo6rp doxing is never the solution though
@@William_Nowin in this context yes their license needs to get revoked or prevented from getting one
@@Lara-vo6rp yah but providing an address doesn’t guarantee a license loss it can lead to harassment which will give more sympathy to the problematic nurses in the public’s eye
@@floof_fool Well duh obviously i know that genious, providing an address isn't going to technically revoke their license but atleast it'll bring more awarness to this type of situation but if only if it were that simple lol
I would be super scared if mean girls from my school would become nurses. Especially because after my friend’s mom committed suicide, they talked about how it was her fault like right next to her.
Wow just wow, that is such an insensitive thing to say, especially considering the fact they know nothing about her personal life and what she was going through. Yeah, I hope they never choose a health profession and educate themselves on mental health! They are still in high school so I hope they change for the better.
Omg ur poor friend, imagine hearing that after the closest person in ur life is gone
As someone who is currently studying at a nursing school, I have to say that most of the people here are pretty nice. There are a couple whos patients I already feel bad for though
There are some mean girls from my high school becoming nurses and honestly I pray for the patients
@Louis Kingsta gives them power over people who need their help.
It's the only way they can feel like the monster they were in high school.
This also happens with psychology. Every bully in highschool is suddenly saying that mental health is so important and are studying to be therapists (from a girl studying psychology that can confirm that in her class everyone is either a past bully or a past bullied kid)
or they’re the type to talk about how certain mental disorders, particularly the more rare ones, are “sO fAsCiNaTiNg!!!11!!!1” to the point where they treat people with those disorders like a zoo exhibit.
A lot of them are also part of sex cults masquerading as fetish groups. I have seen one who attended her chamber with marks clearly visible... to counsel a DV patient.
The masters of those groups tend to be super wealthy men with lots of connections, so there is nothing we can do. They always get away.
Most of these nurses/therapists/teachers don't really care about helping others. They merely like the concept of being "nurturing" because it makes them feel feminine I guess.
At the end of the day, everything we do is selfish. But there is short term reward, then there is long term reward (Kahneman). Sex provides short term reward.
And they particularly like to prey on autistic children, especially those who can’t speak.
You are correct….. They love having a vulnerable person in a room they can tear down even further. It’s disgusting.
I was the one that was bullied and I’m going into the psych field 🤷🏼♀️ I also know someone else who was bullied and went into the field
hella sad how my mom has to deal with this exact subject, she's been a nurse since 17 and was never a mean girl (she was the victim) and now comes home crying because of the cliques in her job, they literally will ignore her and leave her with 30 patients and because she's a badass she gets it all done but she shouldn't have to.
That's so sad :(( she's such a strong woman I hope things get better with her workplace or she can find somewhere that deserves her
I hope your mother gains a good support group at work😕😞 I’m so sorry that happens to her
I think she shoupd report them or sth
I hope she gets a good raise.
Bruh speak to her management
The pipeline genuinely needs to be studied, I still remember how hard I rolled my eyes 4 years ago when my high school bully was talking about being a nurse. They just want the praise for the implication of saving lives while not even doing their job properly
It's because they know they'll be in power specifically over vulnerable people while being praised no matter how bad they are at their job
like most kids they’re told to aspire to become doctors and nurses because that’s what good, successful people do with their lives. i see this as their way out.
I don't think they care about that either. They only care about the money.
@@carolinematusevich889 only specialized nurses like cardiac nurses make some good money, but otherwise a general RN doesn't make a whole lot of money, probably not much more than the national average wage, they're definitely getting into the profession because of an ego trip
What is '' the pipeline ''?
The only time I was ok with a nurse making a tiktok right after her patient died, was when a sweet old lady had passed away and she had no family so the nurse made a video to talk about her to make sure others would remember her.
🥹❤️🩹
❤❤❤
The only time it should be allowed.
That’s loving and caring 💛💛
I would be okay with it if it were staged. Like, don’t make a TikTok right after a death. Make a TikTok before your shift starts about a situation you’ve been in at one time or other
a male nurse refused to let my mum hold me after her c-section because he thought that my mum was a teenager and he was prejudiced. she was 23. luckily my mum managed to get him kicked out really fast
I went to the er after a cat attack and was pleasantly surprised to see the quiet smart girl in my class. She took care of me and expressed how she thought everyone hated her for being a know it all. I scoffed and said not at all, everyone wanted to be her. I think I made her tear up, I'm glad she became a nurse
thank you for going to the er lol my dad didn’t and ofc got cat scratch fever. wasn’t fun lol
This is such a sweet story Im glad you shared that with us all we needed that ty
That's so wholesome
The quiet girls of the world who were called know it alls in school thank you❤️
LOL going to the ER after a cat attack,this is the funniest shit ever
My mom is an incredible nurse and puts these bully nurses in their places. She's humiliated and humbled several nurses who thought it was okay to take their issues out on techs or newbies.
Very proud daughter.
That's great, we need more people like your mom.
Good! My mother is quitting her job as a chemo nurse for being bullied by techs who are in their mid 20’s I told her she needs to put them in their place, because she’s been nursing since before they were in kindergarten! I wish my mother had the nerve to stand up to these colleagues of hers. She won an award for being number 1 in her field but one of her colleagues had the goal to tell her that her colleague who has been in the field for all of 2 years knows more than her 😒
I admire your mum for that. Thank her for her services from me!
yeah but what happens when it’s the patients? lmao probably nothing
Same here.
my mom works with someone who used to be a nurse and told a story that she thought was the height of comedy where she poured a can of cream corn in a coma patients diaper as a "prank" for another nurse (and when my mom asked how any of that was funny she responded with "it was hilarious. being a nurse is hard, we need a good laugh" like she didnt just humiliate a patient with 0 way to defend themselves)
oh my god that’s literally horrific and so cruel
I guess she thought that just because they were in a coma and were unlikely to know that it was somehow okay. All I can say is she better be glad that wasn’t my family member she did that to, because I would have really lost my mind.
@@notevenemily 1:30 i don't understand this "ick", can you explain what she mean ?
That’s literally so weird like just because they’re in a coma doesn’t mean you get to treat them like a doll. If you wanna do a prank okay but don’t use comatose people as a tool
@@tarabooartarmy3654 She’s lucky the patients family didn’t found out cuz if they did they could have easily sued her, she probably would have gotten her degree taken away too considering her utter disrespect for a patient and their well-being. Imagine your loved one being comatose and instead of being taken care of properly they’re being used as tools for pranks
All the nurses who've taken care of me in hospital, they where definitely the mean girls type, its like.. Who tf grabs a patient by their arm and tries to RIP OFF their expired medical device then basically storm off when said patient has an autistic meltdown? Nicest person in that hospital was the janitor 😭
As a nurse myself, some of these nurses were so mean to me they seriously made me cry. I still get anxiety about it till this day
So sorry that happened to you, thank you so much for being a nurse
It's just professional high school. And 70% are women....
omg :(((
They should be fired wtf they need to do the job better at being nice if not go be a fed
Some nurses like this made my mom (rn) cry. It was only after they heard that they had angered my dad and his clique (rn’s and techs) that they shut up. The funniest thing about that incident was what my dad said to chew out those nurses which was “ Praise God that you angered me, and not my son” which was true af because when he told me after that fact, I was still rearing to march over to the hospital with a baseball bat and bay for their blood.
My Filipino sister worked in the US as a nurse for more than a decade, and knowing about this made SO MUCH SENSE to me with how she struggled with her American co-workers. So many times she was passed over for promotions because a mean/entitled nurse threw a fit and pulled all sorts of crap to get one over her. And my poor sister just put her head down because they used her status as a foreigner against her.
smh thats horrible :/
😔
that’s so not cool ;( she deserved better. i hate enablers who let ADULTS throw tantrums and get their way like that. they know at this point they are in the wrong so teach them a lesson since they forgot it don’t just take someones rightful place from them to give to the karen so she’ll shut up 😒
yeah the same with my aunt, the fact that she got the degree in the US but some of their co-workers are mean people especially if they know that you're from a third-world country
@@timmysmith2395some are very nice. I'm not agreeing on all of them though.
I worked in a hospital for a few months and I remember seeing nurses make fun of this one patient who was constantly uncomfortable and couldn't speak the language, so the nurses would make up words and say it to her and laugh at her mockingly. My heart broke because as much as she was a difficult patient, nobody deserves to be mocked in that way.
I already commented this but its because so many people are becoming nurses that have No Business being nurses.
those nurses deserve to be mocked in the same way
That's horrible :(
@@heidibangbang but the problem is, most hospitals are understaffed. It’s a lose-lose.
Did you say anything?
Another aspect is probably the fact that there are more nice nurses at the start, but they don't hold up against the bullying by the mean ones, quit, and then we're left with a higher proportion of mean girls.
I once read somewhere that sociopathic people who enjoyed having power over others went to certain professions, and the main one for men was police officer and for women it was nursing, which is very interesting
great comment but firstly, your name is absolutely hardcore and secondly, that profile pic is flippin awesome
@@Doctor-Infinite darn it I was feeling shitty and you've made me smile lmaoo
thank youuu I loves yours too
The same thing came to mind, especially when you consider a good portion of woman serial killers were doing it as nurses. It's unfortunate that the careers that require good, genuine people also attract the worst.
this actually explains everything
I’m so lucky to have a healthcare system I love rn … I’ve been extremely mistreated in emergency care and because I have a rare neurophysiological disorder, I’ve spent the last 8 years getting way too much face time time nurses that don’t give AF . They also just sit around laughing , watching plastic surgery videos and making fun of people they know . Also, American healthcare rules are super gross. The same bitches go chain smoke cigarettes in their scrubs and come in to my room, they smell like cigarettes and get mad if I get super nauseous. I had a nurse yell at me for throwing up acutely due to the smell of her cigarette break and she just left and never helped me clean up … I was in a wheelchair btw
I remember being in the ER confused and hysterical after a sexual assault and the nurses getting attitude and snapping at me when I couldn’t follow them/answer basic questions right away. I refuse to ever go to the hospital or doctor since then
I don't blame you. I was begging for an inhaler in the ER once while struggling to breath during an asthma attack ). After ignoring my escalating pleas, the male nurse in the room finally yelled at me "YOU NEED TO CALM DOWN" as I am literally drowning in my own lungs. I was lucky though, I didn't see him again after he finally delivered my breathing treatment.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that.. I don’t blame you at all for not wanting to go back. Best wishes to you 🥺🖤
@@Pfpfpfpfpf2020 fr, they always get so mad when I hyperventilate from being in pain and I’ve had so many nurses YELL at me to calm down and breathe normal. Yelling only stresses me out more 😭😭 the act like I’m panicking on purpose :(
I’m so so sorry
I was having anaphylaxis and a male doctor looked me in the face and asked me if I needed emotional medication for my hysteria
No cause this is at the point where it’s concerning. people are already apprehensive when going to hospitals imagine u have to entrust ur life to someone who can’t treat you with basic human respect it’s honestly very sad
Lots of people don’t need to imagine is the thing
there’s already high rates of sociopathy in doctors…nothing quite like a doctor being completely non responsive when you’re writhing in pain.
@@abbyz13it is a double edged sword though. in order to do your job well for a prolonged period of time you kind of have to have a certain level of detachment, otherwise you’d go insane so quickly from constantly being around suffering. not to say that a complete lack of empathy to the point of detriment is ideal either, but it would make sense that people with lower capacity for emotional attachment are more successful doctors
It concerning how much hate and prejudice patients will carry when entering the hospital. The ones that will be hurt by this are innocent nurses bc the mean girls already know the game
@@msunje9862 It's more concerning to brush off the fact that this bad behaviour happens. I'm in a wheelchair, and i've had a ton of doctors and nurses treat me like absolute shit, including being ignored in the er(in the actual er, not the waiting room) for 2 days, constantly told someone was coming soon while no one had even done the basic, standard checks on me. I am rarely treated as a human being who can think for themselves, told my pain doesn't exist, denied painkillers I need for CHRONIC PAIN.
I'd suggest you stop assuming it's hate and prejudice, and rather apprehension due to experiences that keep repeating themselves. Does that mean we think every nurse or doctor is horrible? No. Neither does it mean we're not allowed to be wary.
The ammount of horribly manipulative girls that i went to highschool with that wanted to be a psychologist or be a therapist genuinely scares me so much as someone w ptsd
All of the mean girls are becoming nurses while the male bullies are becoming cops. And some of both become managers
Shitty managers LOL. I have encountered them in engineering.
It's almost like people who get their kicks by having control over other people and making them miserable will seek out the best career path that allows them to do that with absolutely no consequences!
(Yes I don't like cops, can you tell)
@@fandomcringebucket Do you also not like nurses?
@@toolatetothestory sometimes, mostly because I've gotten the "are you on your period?" when I was actually sick with like. a norovirus.
I think it’s just that it’s a cycle. Bullies stick with other bullies and they haven’t gotten over the popularity contest.
This is also why a lot of women aren’t wanting to go to the hospital for births. They’re looking at alternatives like midwives and home births and such, and honestly I don’t blame them. Labor is stressful and makes you vulnerable, and having a nurse just snap at you and dismiss your concerns makes the experience so much worse.
It's a business for them. They take your child away and you don't get to know what they do with them until they bring them back. Then they charge you money after you figure out they injected your baby full of 'mystery juice' and if its a boy: chopped half it's penis off. Welcome to Earth, little guy! Here's our nice Jewish doctor to remove part of your penis and sell it for money, and then charge your parents.
i have read so many horror stories of poor mothers being treated like shit and made fun of and told NOT TO SCREAM while giving birth, not only reading them but literally seeing videos of it happening on tik tok. its literally terrifying, ive always wanted kids but theres no way i'll be told i have to lay down and shut up while pushing a human out of me
The nurses told me that catheters and breaking my water wouldn’t hurt and yelled at and mocked me when I screamed from the pain. I was already being physically restrained because the medicine to stop my labor caused convulsing. I have flashbacks if I’m laying down sometimes, it’s the only experience I have that causes this.
At this same hospital the nurses also accused my MIL of doing drugs when she had a heart attack from a congenital heart defect, and they also stormed into the kitchen where I worked and opened a bag of lettuce and grabbed a handful out without gloves after yelling at us for not refilling the salad bar fast enough (there was one person out front who was taking care of a line of customers and we were in the back dealing with the patient lunches) she and her friend then took their trays and walked out without paying.
I uh, have a lot of inherent distrust and dislike for nurses. When I worked in the hospital they were all incredibly awful. I once heard them talking in full earshot of families how they wished their suicidal patients would stop being pussies and just end it.
Exactly. I've heard horror stories that have made me think I'd rather just take the pain all at once and then be able to go to sleep in my own bed with only people I know and trust around me.
So weird that we have more women doing during child birth then most third world nations, there is obviously something wrong with status quo child birthing in USA hospitals . My wife had five kids at home.
I’ve had a nurse roll her eyes at me after I asked about some vaccines I received. Even though she was middle aged, the way she spoke and presented herself seemed like someone who peaked in high school. Scarily enough, my sister used to be friends with a mean girl who also went into nursing. Insane phenomenon.
They hire ANYBODY nowadays for authority positions
It's disgusting
It's always the middle aged women. I came in for a rabies vaccine appointment and this consultant asks me questions in the most annoyed tone ever. Like okay, SORRY I interrupted your chat with your co worker because you had to do YOUR JOB IN ASKING ME. 🤨
My ex boss is middle aged, but acts like a teenage mean girl. For literally no reason.
I worked as a clinic supervisor and there was clique who literally called themselves "mean girls" and had a little phone texting group, etc...
Thise texting groups for any job are the worst. I've only been a part of them to communicate and observe, while I make a list to hold these people accountable if it gets bad. This is why I prefer texting because everything said is in writing and it's harder for them to deny it.
My DOCTOR who delivered my baby and was my obgyn told all nurses “not to come near me” during my delivery and that only she wanted to deal with me. I think she knew the nurse issue. The one time the nurse came near me was to laugh about me throwing up after delivering my baby. I don’t want to go back to a hospital
How's the baby? And how are you:) ?
This is horrible! I'm so sorry!
One of the nurses i had when giving birth walked in and went "so YOURE the one making all that noise! " In a really sarcastic way 😑 Yes lady, there is heavily induced very reluctant to come out being in my body trying to get out, it hurts. Bite me.
I'm sorry your experience sucked too, I had a lovely midwife who refused to leave me even when her shift ended til Id given birth because she'd been with me all day and was an absolute gem. I don't know what would have happened without her.
im so sorry :(( what the fuck is wrong with them >:/,, literally anything can happen when life is coming outta them 💔💔💔
When my sister was recovering from her stroke she couldnt speak walk or read just try to speak. It was really scary for her because her life changed overnight. The nurses would roll their eyes at her and when she tried to speak get annoyed and tell her to spit it out. She still cries talking about it to me. For her it was humiliating bur made her feel like a massive nuissance.
I'm so sorry she went through that. No one should.
That's horrid
I hope she's doing alright now..
im so so sorry. i hope shes healing both mentally and physically
Oh no that’s super traumatic. I’m sorry she went through that
From my perspective, most "mean girls" in my school wanted to study medicine, but their grades weren't good enough, so they resorted to becoming nurses, thinking that it would be similar.
But turns out it is not the same, and they ended up being bitter, in a job they dislike/despise, and just like in highschool, satisfying their ego by being mean with vulnerable people
Spot on I feel
Most nurses I know want to be nurses. This is a weird take from someone who’s on the other side.
Yeah, it's true, that also can happen. There totally is a part of un-satisfaction in the situation
You can’t go on to study medicine, like there’s a pre-med to take and nursing is actually a premed course. People actually avoid taking nursing as a pre-med course because it’s heavy labor and difficult (at least, that’s how it works in my country) And while I understand noticing a trend among mean girls, saying nurses satisfy their egos by being around vulnerable people is such a mean assumption to make. Like can you imagine the average person in nursing school going through all that because they couldn’t be a doctor? A lot of people I know who don’t become a doctor just purse other careers as a whole, especially if their grades just weren’t good enough in high school because nursing IS a very studious and demanding profession
Exactly this is what it is. Most mean girls want money, ( not all but having a lot of money can be a form of power) and since most of them also don't study that much to become doctors they just become nurses ( again this isn't everyone who becomes nurse)
There was a girl in high school that took an instant dislike to me. I'd try to avoid her but we were in the same year so it wasn't always possible. When we would cross paths, she'd give me dirty looks like I was beneath her, sometimes rude and snide comments and just generally trying to intimidate me. It shocked me that after we left high school she trained to be a midwife. You know, a job where you are supposed to be kind and emotionally support women and their partners. Still baffles me to this day.
I have a feeling she treated you that way because you’re stunning, same thing happened to me, but regardless, such a terrible way to treat someone!
Best nurse I ever had was a grouchy male army nurse. He almost never talked. However, he could tell if you were in pain just by looking at you. He had access to the best painkillers too. He could also tell if you faked pain. He got me through a bad time when the other nurses thought I was faking pain but was actually in extreme pain.
that guy sounds badass, is he old?
@@lemonade452030s
@@lemonade4520Right? Imagine what he’s seen. To be able to retain empathy after being a military nurse is impressive. At least I think.
I had a school male nurse one time stay by my side until my parents came and got me. He was the one to call them and say “ I think she’s having a heart attack. You need to come get her now” turns out it was an anxiety attack. The other nurses all female said “ she’s being dramatic “ but the second they saw my heart rate they changed their tone
The ppl in that video are midwives, I swear they are the real mean girls
I once had a nurse call me “weak” because I had intense nausea after waking up from anesthesia after surgery 💀🤷🏼♀️
lol half of these nurse horror stories are them projecting their own worries about anesthesia...but isn't it the anesthesiologist's problem if he got it wrong, not the nurse? they're literally redirecting blame to you so you don't question having gotten pretty close to an iatrogenic death. damn it's mad that they'd just blatantly project like that.
@@Suiseisexy nah actually it's something innate or developed, but it's completely normal and nobodies fault. sorry for infodumping, i was in hospitals a lot in my life. anyway it's literally just like an allergy or intolerance, and if you've puked once after anesthesia you have to tell your next anesthesist (if you ever get operated on again) and you will be treated with either another anesthetic or it will be mixed with some other thing to make you "digest" it better, I forgot which one it is. If your anesthesist is good, they'll ask you before if you've ever puked after anesthesia anyway. horrifying that the nurse reacted that way, they apperently haven't been educated adequately on theirown fcking job. sadly that's common too because of the understaffing
Seriously?? Nausea is like, the #1 most common side effect of anasthesia. What kind of education did she get??? One that went through one ear and out the other? 😭
I’m no expert on anesthesia and barely know a thing about it but that sounds like it could be a normal reaction to something like that
@@mitch-te5ssshe probably wasn’t paying attention to that lesson
In my experience, the nurses I've met are either the kindest, most altruistic people on earth or, well, literally bullies lmao. I feel bad for all the good nurses out there who already have to put up with terrible working conditions, sometimes difficult patients and on top of it all bullying by colleagues, or dealing with the repercussions of those colleague's actions. To anyone who's a nurse and treats people with kindness and respect, thank you so much, you really are making a difference ❤️
To me it's a miracle that any of them are still nice people. The beratement and sexual harassment must drive them insane. They may be in a position of power but it's hard not to be uncomfortable if there's a horrible creep that you're supposed to be taking care of being super inappropriate with you while almost completely naked
@@BonJoviBeatlesLedZep believe me, I know what sexual harassment in the workplace is like and how hard it is to have to still go to work and not be on edge all the time through it all, I have a lot of empathy for that, having been in those kind of situations at work myself, I just think it shouldn't be an excuse to be nasty to people who are in pain, might literally die without proper care and aren't being aggressive/creepy to you or to bully your colleagues who are most likely going through the same shit as you are. But yes, I do agree that sexual harassment or any kind of mistreatment towards nurses most likely contribute to this situation and absolutely shouldn't be tolerated. Nurses definitely need more protection from their workplaces.
@@jade9787 Oh of course not. The conditions need to be better and it would bring the experience up for everyone
@@BonJoviBeatlesLedZep oops I'm sorry I misunderstood what you meant! I really hope changes are made in the way things work too. Take care :)
Exactly what you said
The meanest girl in my friend group went to nursing school. I was shooketh. Like why would she even WANT to do something like
Several years later I heard she was working on an oil rig. That's tracks.
Oil rig, now that's new.
Interesting character development
As someone in nursing school right now the mean girl to nurse trope is very real. I’ve done clinicals and seen nurses do things to patients that are considered neglect/abuse. I reported them and they got fired but I don’t understand why you would sign up for a job that’s whole purpose is to care about people, if you don’t care about anyone except yourself. Nursing is not one of those jobs you can just not take that seriously and get by just fine. You are taking care of HUMAN BEINGS who are likely in the lowest points of their life! Why even go through all the schooling and tests if you’re not going to take it seriously!
tbh they probably don’t take anything seriously, from what i’ve read in the comments here it seems apathy is a pretty big problem among these sorts of people
I think we’re just losing people who care. Everywhere. The good ones get overworked, pushed out and treated like crap by the rest who can act terribly and still be rewarded for it.
I think a little like cops, it attracts people who want to feel power over others. Yes there are some who genuinely care about helping others, but there are those who just want to get off on a power trip over vulnerable people. And those bad ones are the people who paint all nurses in a bad light
Similar to my experience with teachers in elementary school. Why would you choose a profession that puts you in charge of 10+ little humans who are physically incapable of logical thinking and need guidance and compassion to do well when you despise having to do anything but read off your lesson notes???
E.M.T. staff are similar.
I’m a nurse. I feel like the mean girl thing really applies to nurses treating other nurses badly. It’s like being back in high school and I hated high school
Went to school with these dingdongs and currently working with these dingdongs. But I need to pay my bills 😑
Sounds like hell.
*Highschool never ends!*
* Bowling for Soup intensifies *
Question,ma'am.
How even mean girls even get to be a nurse in the first place?
Like I thought mean girls are not that smart???
I guess it make more sense if the mean girls being a bartender or waitress, but being a nurse??
@@durratulaishah3703 they all become nurses or work the front desk and claim they "run tho office" lmao
For me it wasn’t so much that I’ve had bad experiences with a lot of nurses. It was more of post-graduation noticing on social media that a SIGNIFICANT portion of the grade school bullies were going into nursing. It’s a strange trend and it was interesting to hear that it wasn’t just in my own social circles
Right! That’s what I was thinking too because I don’t interact with many nurses, don’t go to the hospital a lot it anything. But seeing ppl you know from high school or grade school who were known bullies or mean girls posting on IG about being an rn it’s a funny pattern.
same for me... the kids that made my junior high and high school years not the best are now in scrubs on facebook. I'm rarely at the hospital for myself so for the most part my interactions are peds nurses at specialists
Yeah, I think the phenomenon is less “all nurses were once mean girls” and just “a lot of mean girls become nurses.” It’s an interesting occurrence, but it by no means negates the work of the many kind, professional nurses in the field.
I graduated in 2015, saw the same. 6 girls on the cheer team as far back as middle school used to bully me and sneer at people outside of their clique. 5 of them went into nursing. This was a private school. Their parents were trying to educate them to go into higher fields and they chose something that's offered at my community college for next to nothing. Their parents paid full tuition to send them to nursing school at universities. One went to UCLA. What a waste of a private education, but it speaks volumes to their personalities, thinking they're better than others, but choosing something relatively mediocre compared to their privilege.
My sister in law is a nurse, I went to high school with her as well. She is beautiful and athletic so she was popular. Most of the girls like her were bullies. She on the other hand has always been deeply empathetic and kind. I am honored to call her my sister. I know she has helped thousands of people through their most vulnerable moments. I sleep well at night knowing someone like her is in the world.
I guess I'm lucky because I've mostly had nice nurses like her.
my mother is an HR manager at a hospital with a unit of nurses under her employment, and the way she has had to confront and fire nurses who make tiktoks complaining about their patients instead of doing their jobs is mind blowing. she takes her job seriously and would never think to make a video about a patient’s suffering. hell, when she first started working as a registered nurse when i was a baby, her coworkers were so awful to her. my dad told me a story when the nurses she worked with crossed her out in pictures of their unit. mean girl nurses have always been a thing, but i think tiktok has just shone a bright light on how they behave when they think they can get away with treating innocent, vulnerable people like shit, including their fellow nurses. behavior like this makes me hesitant to ever speak to a healthcare professional.
I can’t even imagine treating my colleagues like this, wtf. These “people” are supposed to be adults.
hospital management is a no from me.
I worked for a year at a hospital. Beyond the glut of mean girls, there's also a huge "get over it" culture for any suffering, even their own. Like my nurses felt they couldn't take breaks and upper management had a belief that that's their problem and that they'd take them if they really wanted to.
Tick tok is NOTHING but Spyware, thank God anyone can look at the data. People constantly sell themselves out.
Honestly you can see if in other mid level healthcare professions like genetic counseling and speech pathology as well. There's plenty of good ones, but the amount of terrible ones who bully each other is awful. I feel like it is worse in more female dominated professions for whatever reason.
I’m from Chile, and I really thought the mean girl nurse was a local phenomenon… this really needs to be studied worldwide
I always assumed it was a common phenomenon in the USA, since first world entitlement and all.
@@ameliorateepoch9917It has been actually a topic of discussion for YEARS in Italy, my grandma listened to it on the radio and I remember talking about it. in particular "labor nurses" are mean and unprofessional, my mom saw and heard the mom in the room near her being mistreated by a different staff then what she had assigned.
I'm Kenyan and even here ppl talk about how nurses especially in the child labour are often really rude and impatient with pregnant women so I guess it really is global
In chile nurses are not midwives tho, and the only midwives i know are good persons 🤔
I never thought about this until now but every mean girl I know (like, legit borderline psychopaths), became nurses (I’m from Brazil).
I THINK most want the status of medicine, but don’t want to put up the work and assume nursing is less work and end up sucking it up if they can’t marry one of the doctors.
Saying that, most nurses I know are angels. Is sort of like theater kids: they’re either the most narcissistic people you ever met or the sweetest, never in between..
One of the main reason I never wanna be in a hospital again is the nurses. I have never felt as humiliated in life as when I was left in the dining hall for breakfast, in a wheelchair, unable to walk (or go to the bathroom) for over 5 hours, and absolutely bawling my eyes out, and all of the nurses who went into the kitchen fully ignored me, even when I begged one of them to bring me to the bathroom. All because my designated nurse scheduled an appointment with someone else and forgot to bring me back to my room beforehand. And then he was a complete dick about it "because I didnt eat/drink enough, and I didnt ask enough"
That is horrible, absolutely horrible. I've had botched surgeries and tons of struggle with the medical system but.. I couldn't begin to imagine the stress, embarrassment, and the disbelief this situation would have me in. I wish you so much healing and that those so called "nurses" never sleep peacefully so long as they live. Good luck in your journey ❤️
@@onethatdoesart5650 the procedures themselves weren't bad, and I've mostly recovered, thank you so much. It was just the overcomplicated bureaucracy in between doctors of different departments, and between nurses that made it impossible to get anything done, and lead to situations like these where they would just forget me, which happened more than once (never this bad, usually just in my room where I could roll to the toilet). But that could just be a hospital specific horror since I've never had to stay in a different one.
I really hope you also recovered well too🙏🏼
sorry dude, that sounds terrible. I had a similar experience where I was admitted to the ward about 2 mins before nurse shift change and the nurse who showed me to my bed (which wasn't made and didn't have a pillow even or anything else) forgot to brief the new shift and to write in my admission. I had a burst appendix and abdominal sepsis and had been in unbearable pain for like 2 days, so when the first nurse said, someone will be here soon to sort you out wit pain meds and make the bed, I was so relieved. But I was left for like maybe 20 mins, maybe an hour (I wasn't really in a state to accurately keep track of time) I kind of broke down. I tried to call for someone, but I think the ward was quite big and I was fairly quiet due to sufferingTM so obviously that didn't work. In my impaired state it took me way too long to remember the call button, but eventually I did and a nurse from the current shift apologised profusely and sorted me out. But I'll always remember that, along with the mess of getting misdiagnosed by the doctors and almost dying, but oh well. My ICU nurse was fantastic and she really made an impact on me, she never made me feel bad about needing the kind of intimate and potentially embarrassing post-op care that you can need when you're cathetered and/or kind of immoble.
let me guess, america?
I feel you, a couple months ago I was in the hospital after an attempt on my life and they left me all alone in the hall for 24 hours with absolutely nothing to do but cry, sleep, and lay there silently. I had one person ask how I was during the lowest point of my life. It nearly made me regret going to the hospital to avoid overdosing.
As a teen I was sent to the hospital for severe mental health problems, and the first nurse to ever watch me was this lovely and funny lady who kept checking up on me. She gave me art stuff, complimented my pride pins (she’s a lesbian) and even let me watch Netflix on her phone (obv prolly not allowed but it helped a ton with the boredom of waiting in an ER.) I will forever be grateful for her kindness
On the OTHER hand I was in an adolescent mental facility and it had this really mean nurse/mental health technician. She def had favorites, and rolled her eyes at me a couple of times when I would ask her for something (like if I could stay in my room because the domestic abuse scene in a movie triggered me). She was very unpleasant, and I dreaded whenever it was her shift.
The polarity between these two nurses is still crazy to me. The duality of humanity
Nearly every mean girl in my high school pretty much went into nursing. A bit worrying when you think about how sadistic and cruel they were..
Honestly it’s probably because they’re sadistic and cruel and want power over weaker people is why they become nurses but it’s really concerning considering nurses are supposed to take care of people
@@ninar9664 Yeah, you're likely right.
it could also be that they want to believe they’re good people, and they need something to “prove it” to themselves…
@@blizzard_the_seal9863 It's more like having a fake idealised version of themselfs that they need to uphold for themselfs and others. Which sounds kind of narcissistic 😬
I think people can and do change buuuuut I really don’t think most people will change *enough*.
A friend of mine is one of the sweetest, kindest people I know and when she decided to go into nursing everyone thought she’d be the perfect nurse. Unfortunately, her class was filled with incredibly mean and spiteful people that bullied her so much that she quit after one year of school. The eating their young thing is so real and horrifying
I 100% agree with this. As someone who experienced this. It’s not even just within school and your classmates but the nurses you meet during clinical can be so disheartening. The eat your young mentality is so outdated and needs to be changed. It doesn’t help anything. And I’m sorry for your friend had that experience. She never deserved that.
It really sucks that even outside of time, money, and capability, _other people_ are still a barrier.
@@emilymanire1359 I’m so sorry to hear that you went through that and I hope you’re doing much better now! It honestly feels sometimes like older nurses blow off steam this way bc they (mostly) can’t behave like this with patients. Throw in some I-had-to-go-through-this-so-you-do-too-attitude and the disaster’s perfect
@@DeathnoteBB That is so true! Even if you beat all the challenges on your way there, people who are supposed to be your colleagues can still throw a wrench in your plans
Thank you for talking about this. A girl who terrorized me for four years in elementary school for being Autistic is now in medical school. And frankly I'm terrified for the disabled people she is most likely going to abuse.
medical school isn’t nursing?
@@brebre7138 it's the same kinda thing where you are giving medical care
@@ayla4248 you only needed to say the last sentance
@@graceadams6633 Just bc reading is hard for you doesn't mean other people have to limit their word count
@@brebre7138no it's even worse.
I’m in medical classes and there’s some girls who are just cruel. I’m so genuinely scared for the people they’re going to treat in the future.
I remember a nurse told me to "stop shaking" after I woke up from my anesthesia. She was mad at me and extremely rude because I was.... shaking. I didn't even ask for anything. She literally made me feel guilty for something I could not control. And I was scared not knowing why my body was shaking as well .
After about an hour she came in again with another nurse. I stopped shaking at that point. She brought that nurse to inject me with some medicine that was supposed to calm me down. They didn't even know what was happening to me...
I later just googled the symptoms and it's not uncommon to happen after an anesthesia.
This thread is just infuriating me to no end. Shaking is an UNCONTROLLABLE occurrence. I'm so pissed she opened her mouth to say that.
Bruh, “stop shaking, goddamn” while someone’s having a seizure
You know you can sue a nurse for malpractice
Be mean to mean nurses, they don't expect it. Most of them believe they are living in Grey's Anatomy, you get to remind them that their job is in your hands and there's almost nothing (legal) that they can do about it.
I had something similar when I went to hospital from an infection that was quickly turning into quite serious sepsis. I was getting my vitals measured and the sepsis was causing heart palpitations. My heart rate was all over the place. The nurse got really angry with me over the fact that my pulse was unsteady and was making getting an accurate reading take longer. Like buddy, what do you expect me to do about my heart rate while my organs try not to shut down? Sorry for the inconvenience, I guess lol.
I was an inpatient at a psych ward and the nurses there would not stop complaining about us patients 24/7. On top of that, they would verbally harass us and pull pranks on us, the male nurses usually made sexual innuendos toward us (we were literal MINORS), and there was a lot of negligence when it came to care. Not to mention the preferential treatment toward patients with less stigmatized conditions. I still have nightmares about my stay there to this day, and it's going to be four years since then this March.
I feel like psych ward nurses are the worst when it comes to mean nurses. The mean ones are just so demeaning, especially towards black people. I still remember there was a group of us rapping and a kid was making a beat on the table, and the nurse freaked out and shouted at us and said she was being violent for making a beat on the table
@@thickgrater oops my bad
Not to trauma dump on here but same. My inpatient psych experience was the most horrible thing I've ever gone through. I've never in my life felt so degraded like I did that week. I got laughed at and mocked by the staff behind the glass because I was begging for help to go to sleep bc it had been like three days of NO sleep bc of my PTSD. When they decided I was being too obnoxious in my crying the male PCTs grabbed me by shirt collar and dragged me across the hall into the observation room. The force they used was so much I literally started bleeding all over the pillow. Like I said, I was there for a week and I told absolutely every single person from the get go that I was vegetarian (which isn't new or some crazy diet) and it took 5 whole days for me to get a proper meal. I was literally just getting by on graham crackers and some bread the other patients offered me. The staff also ignored my complaints about being groped by another patient. I was freshly 18 and scared shitless of this grown ass man and no one cared. And that's just what happened to me. What I saw them do to the other patients was so much worse.
That was almost 3 years ago. I just got my BSN this past December (woo!) and I am still terrified and anxious to enter this career because of how awful some of my fellow nurses can be.
edit: I did report all of this and literally nothing was ever done.
all of my psych ward experiences have been really good. Whenever I hear about these horrible experiences i always wonder how someone would become a nurse and do horrible in a section that requires careful/sensitive work like that of the psych ward.
I was physically abused by psych ward nurses, and when I told my parents that during the meeting discussing my release they hit me in front of my parents and said they'd keep me in there longer because of that. My parents demanded I was immediately released
the girl who bullied me in school (literally to the point I suffered with Agoraphobia) is becoming a doctor and it is honestly terrifying
I was a biochem major so I had a lot of classes with premeds. The ones who just want the status and money outnumber the ones who want to help people 10 to 1.
@@adriannahowell2359 It’s crazy that we have the same name and the same experience, but I second this. I was ChemE/premed and the premed students I was surrounded by were some of the most self absorbed, stuck up people I have met. All they cared about was money or prestige. Also like 90% of the mean girls from my high school are in nursing or pre med lmao
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I’m so sorry to hear that. There was this girl at my school I see now as more a “frenemy” because she was white and nice to me but because her words I was “not like the other black girls” and I saw she was becoming a doctor which really concerned me. She also married a black man and made some posts on social media about acknowledging her failures when it came to racial prejudice. It’s just social media so I haven’t spoken to her but like the TikTok Emily mentioned, I’m at least hopeful that more people will do more to hold medical professionals accountable for their bad behavior as it arises.
When i had kidney surgery i was 14, 6 foot 2, and 170 lbs. The nurses refused to give me an adult dose of pain medication, despite the pediatric dose being obviously insufficient
but how weth guideline of weight base dosing in paediatrics
Nurses don't get to prescribe or decide dosage amounts of any medication. They can advocate to the prescribing MD, PA, or NP to make changes to the dose, but they can't just give someone a higher dose of something without an order.
That’s probably the doctor denying that. The nurses don’t get to prescribe or decide dosage amounts.
One of my nurses almost killed me because the IV was "making me pee too much" so she took it out for 8 hours and my sepsis relapsed and my organs began failing again... I was so poorly mistreated that when I was assigned a new nurse she asked me to not say anything to her superiors and to keep quiet because I would make the other nurse lose her job and I wouldn't want that on my conscience. So anyways I have a huge fear of hospitals now and I still have nightmares about being in the hospital.
you shouldve reported her wtf!!!! organ failure??? wtf dude like thats not something that can be fixed
@@WAKUSEl definitely agree, she could hurt or kill someone else.
WHATTTT GIRL YOU SHOULD REPORT HER IF SHE ALMOST KILL YOU SHE CAN DO THE SAME WITH SOMEONE ELSE , (WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER PATIENT WHO COULD BE YOU BE DYING ? )
WHY WOULDN'T YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO CAN KILL SOMEONE ELSE " ON ACCIDENT" GETTING FIRED? WE ARE TALKING ABOUT A LIFE AGAINST LOOSING A JOB GURL REPORT HERRR PLEASEE I AM SCARED OF HOSPITAL BECAUSE OF THINGS LIKE THAT TO
so you """"wouldn't want"""" a terribly awful nurse being fired in your conscience but it's okay that she nearly killed you????????????????????????? WHAT.
@@onyx_mango I would want her fired so I am not indirectly responsible for keeping a murderer in a position to murder more people
I would genuinely love to study the correlation between people who were bullies in high school and people who went on to become nurses and teachers. Two of the more prevalent careers where you have some significant power over someone else.
Ngl I would not be surprised if majority of my teachers were bullies in high school. I’ve only had one nice teacher 💀
also lawyers. so many mean ppl/bullies go into law. i once had a friend studying law who was a bully in highschool… probably because they think theyll get rich and have power.
You need to add social workers onto that list.
Cops
Not just power over others but of vulnerable people. I’m sure there’s a link to attracting sociopaths.
Nurses who refused to listen and help me is the reason why I have a destroyed bladder and can look forward to a lifetime of severe pain.
I can't imagine anything meaner than refusing to help someone who's in pain
Not exactly the same, but I was a nurses aid for 3 years and I can relate to almost all of this. Harassed by patients, overworked, understaffed, trying not to become jaded to human suffering, the coworker bullying. My first week on the job I had a coworker chase me down the hall screaming because she wasn’t satisfied with the report I gave her at the end of my shift! Mean girls become CNAs 😢
I had to have my appendix removed in December 2020. The nurses were all so wonderful to me and helped me get my own room since I was one of only a few patients that weren’t there for COVID. When my professors were going to fail me cause I was missing my final exam, the head nurse literally emailed them and got them to not make me take the exam. She was a professor herself. They were all so nice and helped me when they were incredibly stressed. They also gave great advice for how to make recovery go smoother
AWW thats really sweet :)))
Your professors suck! It’s good that the Nurses were so nice to you 😊
My experiences with nurses have been incredibly hit or miss either the nicest people I’ve ever met in my entire life or “former mean girls” vibes. But so many nurses have meant so much to me and been so wonderful and I think that takes the cake and is the predominant experience with nurses I’ve had- I think the career tends to attract caring people with hyper empathy who go above and beyond for others or people who want to have power over others in a job that pays well and portrays them as martyrs and so that’s where the disparity is.
My mother was a CCRN and a narsassist and child abuser. It's a "thank you for your service"/"you save lives" kind of job. No one asks if your a good nurse, or a good person.
I always hate hearing thank you for your service. Just a job. We need all jobs for the world to go around.
@@HyperkalemiaSineWaveI mean jobs are not equal
@@AJayZy And yet, without a vast majority of workers, society would not run like it does. I feel the Trash-man, the retail hell worker, the cook, the cleaner, all deserve as much respect as EMS. They all do jobs that I either lack the skills for, or which would drive me insane.
I tried working both a retail job and a frycook job between EMS jobs back before I got the highest level of certification, and work was sparse. I genuinely wanted to die. It was grueling work for low pay. No respect from management or the public. Genuinely made me sick to my stomach coming in to work. And that was just a few months. EMS on the other hand is great. I get to work outside, I don’t need to be overly friendly, I have a ton of independence to make decisions about treatment, and I only have to work with at most a few patients at a time.
Some people of course would say that EMS is hell. They’d talk about the horrible things you see and the stressful nature of calls. But I either like or don’t mind those things. Which is why we need all types of people. All jobs and all types of workers are important
*My sister definitely gets her ego strokes off this
You’re describing my final term professor at nursing school. He knew how to “work the system” and make himself seem like a good person (we know cause he would actively tell us “strategies” to make yourself seem like a “good nurse”.) I was absolutely mortified. He also got a real high off of his power and was a total narcissist.
You know, I heard someone ask, "Why do all the mean girls from high school go into nursing?" in a hematology class once. My first thought was actually, "They are looking for doctor's to marry."
The bully and control freak thing makes sense too though. 😅
That's a good point. Ain't enough doctors to go around but every mean girl can be a pos in their day to day. Though I don't doubt they try to snag themselves a doctor while they're at it.
I thought it was because they tend to be hypocrites, saying "omg i wanna help people" because it makes them look good, while they cant look at their own actions that hurted others
They usually marry cops and form the worse couples imagineable. 🙃
Nurses are the only profession when you meet someone they say their name and that they’re a nurse like I didn’t ask
Ahhh makes sense now
And then theres also a mean girl to receptionist pipeline too which doesn’t get mentioned often
YES. i have a receptionist in my apartment building who literally POINTS OUT MY ACNE when I don’t wear makeup, and when I do she says “your makeups a bit… thick, honey” and giggles to her friend on her phone when my family walks by (we are one of the only poc families in the building and she is a trump supporting white woman)
I remember a few years ago in I think quebec or somewhere in French speaking canada there was a video of several nurses belittling a native woman who was crying out in pain until she died after hours of basically no treatment because they claimed she was exaggerating. I really don't feel comfortable seeing medical professionals anymore after seeing several cases like this and some personal experiences.
I agree. It only takes one apathetic person on a power trip to make me = dead
Wtf 😬 that is so sad omgg
It’s bad all over , but as always affects poc disproportionately
ive lived in quebec all my life and one of the biggest scandals to happen in the province, there were a lot of manifestations about it. i cant recall if the specific nurses were fired for that but despite the backlash from the public no real consequence was given to the specific hospital. i have a family member who is one of those bullies turned nurses and i recall her whining about how "blown out of proportion" it was. while thankfully not as widespread as it was a couple decades ago, there's still a really intense stigma against first nations in the medical field in quebec, from what i understand. (sorry my english is pretty bad)
Do not worry. She sent a prayer to her Indian gods to curse them forevermore.
so many of the girls that bullied me in school became nurses or dental assistants, and none of them really ever made good grades, it’s honestly so weird
From my own experiences and understanding most people will go to community college first and then decide to take school seriously then typically transfer into nursing later on because they didn’t have th grades to do it right off the bat from graduating high school
i live in a very tiny town and literally every single rich popular girl at my school would take a CNA class in sophomore year and start working at the hospital in our city. Some girls would even start working a desk job at the clinic in their freshman year. Most of those girls have a superiority complex and i’m just glad that i graduated and plan on never going to the hospital they all work at. 💀 Also, nurses are known to work very long shifts and can often be sleep deprived so the lack of sleep just multiplies their shitty attitude.
@@katrinam.2126 well some people can’t afford regular universities so that’s why they go to community colleges. A college is a college
@@LittleMissMorningstar As someone who was hired as a dental receptionist at 16, dental assistants definitely do not. I haven't seen a lot of mean girl nurses, but where I'm from the lower level dental careers are plagued with college-aged mean girls... It wasn't fun.
@@LittleMissMorningstarI think this used to be true but to be honest I got into a nursing program right out of highschool without particularly astounding grades so I think things are changing. Either that or I got lucky lol
The best thing TikTok did is get monsters fired from their jobs, like that one plastic surgeon who got her liscence revoked after not only posting a video of a patient without consent but also botching the surgery in ways thought inconceivable and advising them NOT to seek help for complications.
In highschool I had a bossy rude friend. She talked bad behind other peoples backs and was boy crazy with a new guy like every few weeks.
Shes a nurse now.
Just gave me many flashbacks of girls I knew in high school who became doctors lmao. Knew one girl who had 300 bfs and gfs a month, constantly cheated and started brutal fights and drama between her exes. She always talked trash about men and accused all her exes of being narcissists and rapists. She's a nurse now so that's not scary 😂
Yep, a girl who bullied me my first year of college is in pre nursing, and all her other toxic friends are also pre nursing and premed students :’)
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My mom was a nurse, and she only became a nurse after going back to college in her 30's. She definitely was bullied by other nurses, especially nurses who were her same age, but had been nurses for decades. That was when she was first getting started. It became easier when she changed hospitals and found a really good unit that didn't let people get away with that stuff.
You just gave me hope. I wanna be a nurse and going to start school soon. I'm 31. I've been a sleep tech for 10 years but want some things new. The mean girl aspect of things scares me. I wanna be good ro the world and make a small difference. I can't stand a bully and that scares me ro have ro deal with that. Some things just come with experience, yah know?
@@ojeda5577 i wish you well
@KushKitten I'm only 21 but I'll go nursing school in the fall. I've never been a mean girl, and i feel very sad reading the comments of this video. I just wanna help people and do a good job. I really hope I can get lucky and come into a good unit with nice coworkers. Wish the best for you too.♡ I already work part time in a hospital as a cleaner and I've met really nice nurses and not so nice ones.. I think there are a lot of genuine people working in this field but unfortunately there's a mix of both
I can't speak to nurses but I had a pediatrician who was completely aware that I was very underweight for the majority of my childhood. She didn't do or say anything other than "eh don't worry about it". I was actually dealing with ED issues. The second I started gaining any weight, it didn't matter that my weight was healthy now, it mattered that I was gaining. She wouldn't stop emphasizing that if I kept gaining I'd eventually be overweight, as if I was already. Eventually I was slightly overweight, and after that- it didn't matter what was wrong with me, every time I was in her office for anything it became about my weight.
Omg I am so sorry you went through that. That's absolutely not ok, and she shouldn't be working with kids/teenagers. I hope you've changed doctors since and are doing better.
EDs are BIG problem in medical field. Hardly anyone knows how to treat/care for these disorders. Which is appalling considering how fatal they are. And even though EDs don't exactly represent a large portion of the population, they require a large care team. You're seeing radiologists, GPs, endocrinologists, psychiatrists, PAs, nurses, getting EKGs, getting vitals done daily/weekly for such a long time. And yet still so many lack basic knowledge of how to handle it
And also so many people in the medical field treat abnormal weights as a diagnosis, instead addressing them as what they actually are: symptoms.
I also notice this with mds, or mds that dont care WHAT a kid is eating. And only the percentile. I wonder if she herself had disordered thoughts and heavily projected them on her patients. I know struggling with my own ED i do that sometimes buy im self aware enough to take a step back
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I’ve been reading all of your guys comments, I’m so sorry that so many of you had these negative experiences in the hospital. I hope none of you guys have to go through anything like that again. If you are thinking of being a nurse/you are a nurse, remember to treat people with kindness (patients and your coworkers) and navigate every shift with empathy!! I know this is a comedic video, but in all seriousness I hope we can see some positive changes in the healthcare industry over time, sooner rather than later. Thanks for watching and I hope you all have a good day! ❤️
and i hope we can get more fundings😢 ppl r quick to put all the blame on healthcare workers whenever a patient gets mistreated(wrong doses of meds and such). Of course mishaps like this definitely should not be excused just because you’re overworked, but increasing funding and hiring more ppl would definitely lower the chance of medical mistakes happening. The healthcare system is harming both patients and workers by driving nurses to exhaustion. i am thinking of being a nurse, and do hope things can get better and the gov can spend its money wisely.
(i’m not from the US, but i do think the general sentiment is shared)
its heartbreaking because there were several times where i was very close to death and the treatment i got was abhorrent. the one time where i was actually close to shutting down, i got the best team of nurses. i will always be extremely grateful for those people that day. of all the trauma and pain and verbal abuse i experienced in the hospital over those few years battling something that honestly shouldve killed me, i got my saving graces. it is true though that so many of the means girls ive known worked in nursing to make the money to keep up their spending habits and lifestyle. so many of them bitch about the work they do and the people they encounter. even my shitty step sisters do it. i cant imagine how u fortunate it is for the patients that have to deal with their incompetency or hear the things their say behind the patients' backs.
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I almost got into a fight with a nurse after she was flat-out disrespectful and cruel to my child. A child. Smh
The “mean girl to nurse pipeline” trope came from genuine observations where many of the girls people knew in high school who were mean or bullies chose to go into nursing right out of school (a career that contrasted their behaviour even before joining the workforce). Although Im sure that nurses also do get stereotyped as a result of this trope. This could also just be chalked up to nursing being a very common profession for women, but the mean girls I knew in high school did, largely, choose nursing right out of school. I wouldn’t want any of them treating me and it makes me scared to have to go to the hospital. People who chose nursing later in their educational or profession careers, that I know, seem to be nicer, more empathetic people. Idk if that has any significance but it’s something I’ve noticed.
Agreed
I am a little bit older being 20 and just starting nursing program, and it makes me so sad seeing so many ppl comment about how mean nurses were during patient's most fragile moments. I was sort of the weird geek in high school but noticed lots of popular mean girls choose nursing. I just hope to help break this stereotype
This!! I was thinking this thw whole time I watched this video like girl you're not addressing the actual point of this conversation
I think that those girls are really looking for sort of "power" over other individuals, hence, the bullying. In nursing, you have sort of a control over the patients.. so, it only seems logical. (Not sure how to phrase this better!)
I agree, this is what I was thinking while I watched the video
as someone who’s been in and out of hospitals for years because of mental health stuff, nurses are my only comfort, they’ve always been so kind to me and so nonjudgmental. I don’t have a safe place in my life, and some of the nurses i’ve had created that space for me
i’m glad you had that experience :))
I was hospitalized twice for mental health issues. First one was for suicidal ideation and the second one was because my medication went subtherapeutic and stopped working. The first hospitalization was terrible. I got yelled at by a nurse because I needed an extra blanket and she was forced to stop eating cake for someone’s birthday and get something for me to stay warm. If anybody became the least bit upset, they would threaten to send them to the restrictive part of the mental hospital. They clearly just hated their jobs and everyone in there. Fortunately the second hospitalization was completely different. Great nurses! Still, the first experience made me very wary of doing anything where I may have to be hospitalized. I don’t need to be traumatized on top of being delusional and hallucinating.
I was beaten by nurses
I once had a psych ward nurse call me ugly cause of my short hair and that I shouldn't become a writer because there are too many writers in the world. That was fun :)
Mine was a doctor/psychiatrist but the same level of cruelness either way. They really act like they'd want you committing but get so pissed when you actually attempt...
It's even more messed up that it was a psych ward nurse because they're supposed to be helping people fix their mental health, not give them even more problems... Now I can't help but imagine a person going to a psych ward for trauma due to bullying only for their bully to be their nurse...
Had a psych nurse refuse to not watch me get undressed in front of her, which was shocking and uncomfortable because the last psych nurse I had left me get undressed while she held the towel for privacy
My nurse told me my suicidal ideation wasn’t real because I talked about it 🙃
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I worked at a retirement home as a server and out of the three nurses for the whole facility. Only one of them truly glowed because of the fact that they really wanted to help people and always did so with a smile. I couldn’t stay because of the negativity, even from the other servers. They always complained about the fact that someone needed more water or butter. The residents would get it themselves if they could. Having to ask someone for help for everything and always getting an attitude is something I really resonated with and it hurt my heart too much to stay there.
In my experience the "mean girl to nurse" trope isn't a problem with nursing specifically (though I definitely appreciate the specific statistic) but more generally a problem with positions that put you in a position of power over others. People who are likely to be harmful or abusive are able to do much greater harm when they have significant power over others than if they don't.
yeah this just seems like "assholes also have jobs" to me. Of course the ones that are abusive are more likely to abuse the power their job hands them.
@@appalachiabrauchfrau Those people also seek out specific jobs in which they can abuse their power and - ideally - seem like good people due to the good reputation their job has. "Only good people become nurses/social workers" my ass.
it’s not a problem that only occurs with nursing jobs, true. but it’s still very common and very serious especially in nursing. bullying taken to an adult level that you couldn’t quite understand the damage unless you lived it. like dealing with a narcissistic toxic abusive person. ppl like that are really common and in nursing a lot of them flock there. i just wanna say to ppl who read ur comment to not think that what you said means it’s any less serious. because it’s not and from comments on this video it’s clear there’s people who have ptsd from how seriously other nurses affected them from being so nasty and forming cliques.
my birth giver pos mother takes up manager positions (specifically at apartment complexes) and treats her tennants horribly and is super happy to evict people super quick and its disgusting. its definitely an issue of abusive people, not the professions themselves.
Yep was in the Navy and a person that was a higher rank then me was a miserable person - one of those people who would get mad at something then just shut down for the rest of the day and it happened often. Another person who I thought we were friendly but whenever there was something that benefitted him - especially if someone could get in trouble or he could screw them over he did it. And he also got promoted to Chief which in the Navy is basically like a secret society where they wield even more power.
I'm so happy I got out of the Navy. I can't believe I wanted to do 20 years.
One of my labor nurses said to me, "What? Did you think this was going to be painless?" Every time they came into the room, they told me to shut up and made me feel guilty about shouting. My mother complained to the hospital manager, who gave me an older, much more empathetic nurse. She actually explained that my shouting was depleting the energy I would need, instead of just storming in and sneering.
The male nurse who checked us in rolled his eyes every time I stopped talking during contractions. He told my sister that women like me were why he was a proud chauvinist; he literally said that word. My sister told him to get a different job. The male nurse was David Schitt-level flamboyant, so even gay guys who hang with the mean girls become nurses, lmao!
Wow, that is just truly awful. I'm sorry.
Yeah, I knew this bitchy gay guy who was a complete narcissist and manipulative abuser (the kind who abuses someone and then calls the cops on them when they finally defend themselves). He was a nurse and I'm terrified for his patients. I'm also certain he's making cringe tiktoks about it.
I am telling u these nurses wont last a day outside of america if they said any of that to anyone here where i live or even the eye roll is enough they would find themselves dragged by the hair and possibly given a black eye by some old woman cuz they were mean to her daughter
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I’ve had the privilege of only ever interacting with kind and compassionate nurses… Even the ones who were clearly giving more “popular girl” vibes, so I’m so sorry to everyone in the comments disclosing such horrible experiences 😢
I learned about this phenomena because my roommate in college (who is the sweetest person alive) was going to school to be a nurse and about halfway through the semester she realized almost all of her classmates were mean girls. She was severely bullied in middle school and high school to the point that she finished her education at home. I'd seen her have severe panic and anxiety attacks triggered by her past (all because of some nasty girls who lived down the hall). She took a little time off because of health issues, and during that time also started a more intensive therapy. By the time she was healthy enough for school again she was also mentally well-enough to decide to brave nursing school again. Still, it was rough to see how hard it was for her to be in such a toxic environment and it definitely made me a bit wary of nurses.
I did end up working in the administrative side of a retirement community during the pandemic and got to spend a lot of time with the nurses to form a more personal opinion. It was a mixed bag, some of them were horrible, some of them were fine, and some of them were some of the kindest people I've ever met.
Labor and delivery nurses caused me such deep trauma during childbirth that months later I can barely move on.
It’s horrifying that one nurse’s “bad day” can eclipse the literal birth of a vulnerable person’s first child. I was robbed of so much bonding with my baby from the constant bullying and gaslighting of MULTIPLE nurses.
It breaks my heart and this is something I’ll have to carry with me forever.
Omg that's a nightmare scenario. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It sounds very traumatizing, but I hope you find peace and healing. I feel like every patient should have a third party advocate to protect them from situations like this. Hospitals have forgotten that hospitality and kindness are an integral part to patient care.
that is so fucking horrible. I’m sorry they treated you that way.
I've dealt with the same issue, one in particular was so rude and intrusive I left a day early.
@@chai_lattes It's actually very common. I wish it could be considered as infrequent as a nightmare scenario.
@@pflynn623 I believe it! I've seen nurses mock chemotherapy patients. I have no doubts they would abuse a pregnant person in active labor. It's honestly one of the main reasons why I wouldn't want to give birth. I already have a distrust and trauma history of healthcare workers. It would be devastating to endure mistreatment at my most vulnerable. It's seriously messed up and I wish every patient would receive the care and respect they deserve.
While I was stuck in hospital recently, I overheard a group of nursing staff mocking an elderly man who had suffered a stroke, as he was quite vocally demanding (he was like 80+ yrs old and couldn't even sit up). They regularly ignored him for 20/30 minutes at a time of him screaming bloody murder, repeatedly screaming "HELP! HELP! HELP!" to the point that I still feel deeply uncomfortable thinking about how desperately he was screaming for help while they stood by laughing at him. I could literally hear them laughing and mocking him. I don't think I'll ever forget how they treated that man. Alfred, I'm sorry that you weren't given the dignity or decency you deserved.
I don't think I've ever been more disgusted by the behaviour of healthcare "professionals".
as someone who’s spent a lot of time at hospitals, dude it’s the SITTERS TOO. one girl told me because i was “disrespectful” i didn’t deserve to leave the hospital room 💀
another one told me to move seats so she could have “her spot” (i was there for mobility issues i used a wheelchair dawg 😭🙏)
was in the process of becoming a nursing assistant but dropped out halfway through because the girls in that class bullied me for stuff i didnt even do. i cried in class at one point bc i found it upsetting how these girls with little to no empathy could be in a position to care for people
I'm sorry that happned to you 😢 that's so upsetting
Became a CNA, about to quit. I wanted to be a nurse and now I'm a Software Engineer major. I just can't handle that shit anymore.
I'm an LNA I feel you. I'm actually in the class right now thankfully at this point everyone has dropped out and there's only one other girl with me right now
One time a nurse asked me some sexual related questions and didn’t believe my answers and said “come on that’s not true”. Then when I got uncomfortable and started crying during an exam she was doing on me, she said to “stop being dramatic” and said she had never had a patient cry during that exam. Anyways, now I have more trauma and I’m scared to go to the doctors
if you don’t mind me asking, what sort of questions was she asking you? like was there any follow up questions that were inappropriate for a nurse to ask?
@@ssamantha2 she was asking if I’m sexually active. I said no but am a 24 year old adult and she didn’t believe me. My periods were strange at the time and they had to check my uterus.
@@ssamantha2 there was no follow up. I left and didn’t go back to the doctors for three years.
@@andreaceleste2664 Um, wow. Literally the only way TO know if someone is sexually active is to ask them. There are so many reasons why someone might be celibate...is it really so hard to believe that an adult is not currently having sex?
wow i am so sorry
My school bully wanted to be a doctor. Cardiologist to be specific. Last I heard she'd been accepted to med school. Not all mean girls go to be nurses, but for some reason mean girls feel drawn to medicine. Another two girls in my graduating class were considering medicine though, and they were nice people.
As a chronically ill person, it feels like a roulette every time I have to go to the hospital. It kind of puts me off the need to go and risk being gaslit by a doctor that my genuine issues are female hormones or anxiety
don't forget the classic "just exercise more/lose weight" solution. it's like they think chronically ill/disabled people are too much work and just want an easy way to brush us off
Medicine in general attract sociopaths. I have a hard time trusting any doctor as a majority of them see people as bags of meat meant to be stuffed with pharmaceuticals. Most doctors are very untrustworthy
My childhood bully is a nurse now too. This video made me feel validated but also disturbed that it's so common
My best friend became a nurse and by year six she became a mean girl 😞 she started bullying me. We’re like 30…. Insane.
How are grown ass women acting like this 😭 this sounds like a story arc in a teen drama. Hope you’re okay now.
@@gustavus0013 it’s bizarre isn’t it? She was also one of the nicest women I’d ever known for years. I think it can be a really toxic environment and it ate away at who she was. I’m better off :)
As someone who grew up as a sick kid, I just want to say thank you to the nurses who treat people with dignity and kindness. You guys go through SO much and I don't blame anyone who is jaded, but it means so much for the people who are able to be compassionate. It is such an underappreciated profession! Also to @notevenemily I really loved this video!
As a former nurse, the worst part of the job was how cruel coworkers were, to the point that I had to go on leave. It’s been 2 years but I still have nightmares about nursing.
ugh :/ I'll be going to nursing school soon. I'm so sorry you left
I’ve only been a nurse a year and a half and the other nurses are so mean I want to go back to my previous job working in higher ed administration. That’s just the nurses-we won’t talk abt the MDs 😢
@@MzShonuff123 Maybe find a different facility? :( That is so sad. I can't stand people who are bullies. I'm so sorry this is happening to you :(
if ur having nightmares about it still u probably have some ptsd from it. which wouldn’t be surprising. i know how nasty cruel some ppl can be so i can only imagine what crap u dealt with
@Lucy's Journey protect yourself and document everything, don't trust anyone, go to your manager ASAP and get your side on record early.
I'm saddened by our collective trauma. People shouldn't have to be afraid to go to the hospital or doctor's office. This makes my heart so heavy. I'm so sorry to anyone who's ever had to go through this. You are not alone and you don't deserve to carry the burden of someone else's horrible behavior.
You are so sweet, what a kind comment💔
6:11 “HOW BOUT YOU CODE?” is incredible lmao
A nurse told me how much medication to take if I was "serious" after my first attempt when I was 16. It could not have been clearer to me from that day. Lucky to be here after the second. That kind of thing doesn't leave your head
holy shit...
i'm glad you're here and hope you're doing better now
@@florecitasinwinter Thank you💕 I am still working on a lot but it's been over a decade since I've needed that level of care or even close to it, thankfully.
Oh my god, I experienced the same thing. When I attempted a year later, a nurse asked me if I was serious or just wanted attention. I’m sorry this happened to someone else and I’m glad you’re still here with us ❤
bruh wtf thats messed up
@@beetbeetsbeets Oh my god! I can't even fathom how painful that must have been. I hope you are well presently. Take care of yourself. ♥
some of my roommates were nursing majors in college and the stories I'd hear of constant toxicity and gossip and weird competition between the girls in their cohorts sounded awful. It sounded like a bunch of snotty middle school girls, not competent adults going into healthcare. And unfortunately, the actually kind people who wanted to avoid the drama were the ones who were most targeted. Terrible.
All of the mean girls that terrorized me and others in school went to a nursing tech program our school offered, and SOME became nurses. The rest became MLM pushing stay at home Military moms. I appreciate you for making this video bc it’s been wild seeing all the mean girls becoming nurses THEN seeing all the mean nurses making tiktoks ON THE CLOCK! Which I couldn’t even get away with at any job I’ve had js
The accuracy is horrific 🕳🧎