I became a single mother in 1991, my one and only son will be 31 this year, staying single is a choice too and I met many prospects from around the world cause I used to work in an Airline, there's so much more to life, we shouldn't be defined by our marital status. If you going to be a mother enjoy it and live your life, don't put your child in dangerous situations just because you don't want to be single. That's my advice that nobody asked but maybe someone is wondering if it can be done, and yes it does! I'm 52 yo and I will continue to be single forever by choice.
My mom has always been a single mom by choice, I had no siblings, yet I can say that I grew up with a lot of love and I never even thought about my father at all. My grades in school are doing fine, and I’m doing alright mentally as well. So for all those who say that being a single mom by choice is bad for the child: It’s not necessarily. It’s matters on how you raise the child.
Yes, it is bad for children according to statistics. You are the exception not the rule and children deserve both parents if possible. Insinuating that a child doesn’t need a father is simply ignorant.
@@AnonymousC-lm6tc Living is a household with fighting parents is way worse. This is a real problem. Not single parents. Some people just really try to make problems out of things just because they aren’t conventional. Statics, blah, blah. How about you talk to people who can actually tell you what it‘s like. You‘ll find out, how a lot of us have a stable and good life.
Im a single mother, by choice too, and no matter how people say it's bad as how it seems here, but my family and relatives truly supported me as I have my own strong reason. As to you @dreams8565 thank you... I have a daughter, and this surely makes me feel better, Thank You from the bottom of my heart💜
There is a difference between a father and a father figure my parents died when I was young, I was raised by my grandmother my grandfather was always working so my neighbor was my father figure.
not the men in the comment section feeling useless and attacked..don't worry y'all can become single fathers too without having problems with women... women won't care because it's non of our business we expect y'all to do the same!!
How come no one gets this mad when your dead beat dad/mom leaves you ? I have known many women and men,including family members who are single parents who's children turned out fine and sometimes even better than kids with 2 parents. It's all about discipline and time management. My cousin who was raised by a single mom turned out better than me. Man is a dentist. Also my friend , who is a single father, child turned out well. You guys are referencing these so called studies ,but if you noticed the parents got issues . Same goes with a 2 partner household. If you got issues, your bound to f up everything around you.
Oh trust me they get mad when your situation doesn't work out. Thats why many ppl stay in unhappy marriages because it looks better in the court of public opinion. I really appreciate your comment and cant stand how alot of people feel entitled to judge others. they are one step away from religious fanatics.
No one likes dead beats. Children hate them. But at least there's someone to hate. Theres someone to blame for your disadvantage. When a mother chooses to have a child alone, she chooses to put her child at a disadvantage.
@@aguy9071 bruh I can see u are feeling useless and attacked..don't worry a woman will "need" u but not just the ones who decides to be single mothers by choice 😂 Thats why u go around the comment section trying to tell women why they should need men even when they don't want to..funny guy
There is going to be lots of things in life that happens throughout your childhood/adulthood and beyond that will effect you. You will always have a 50/50 with how children react to the way they came to be. Some will hate not having a father, the other half will love that their mother wanted them so much she was willing to go it alone just to be able to be their mother. Ladies shouldn't have to settle with men just to fulfil their need to have a child, there is no guarantee the child will be raised in a house filled with love with both parents present in their lives. You can have your opinion 100% your entitled to it for sure, but unless you have that deep seeded ache to be a mother that has been there since you were a child, when being someones mother is all you can think about from the moment you wake up until you go to bed, that this is what you were born to do. That you go out and hope to meet the right person to grow your family with and each year you get older and every month your closer to the end of your fertility. All your friends and family around you grow their families. Its easy for others to comment on things they have no idea about. Trust me I can say most of these ladies never set out in life looking to be a single mother by choice, life has turned out this way. Given up visions of a loving family, someone to come home to and just have comfort for life. Now they are expected to give up the love and want of a child too. Iv'e lived in a house with a mother and father, where my father showed no interest in me and still barely doesn't and Im now an adult, two parents are not always better. If there are male role models in your life to fill the male side of things then it does not matter where that comes from.
Thank you for this beautiful comment. I am a single mother by choice and what you wrote perfectly describes my life. 39, successful, have not met the right man and I had an insatiable desire to be a mom. All those relationships were for this sole purpose of having a child. My son is the best thing that has ever happened to me and having him this way was the best decision I ever made. My brother in law loves him like his own and my son definitely has an amazing father figure
Thanks for your comment. I too am a SMBC. I had my daughter at 39. She’s is now almost 3 years old. Best decision I ever made. I’ve always wanted to be a mother more so than I wanted to be a wife. My biological clock was ticking so I made the decision to do this on my own. While I can find love at any age I won’t be able to have a biological child at any age. My last boyfriend never wanted children and I did and there was no convincing him. My daughter is a blessing. The love I have for her is the greatest love I’ve ever felt for anyone. She’s my heart and soul. She completes me. I have absolutely no regrets and I’d do it again. Thanks HBO for bringing light to the SMBC community.
A woman choose to parent without having the men hanging around and the world looses its mind, A man walks away from his children and no one bats an eyelid and blames the mother Misogyny at jts finest
No child wishes to grow up in a single parent household. Depriving a child of a paternal experience on purpose is disgustingly selfish. Children are not accessories or emotional support pets. They have needs that are greater than a woman’s narcissism.
@@indigobricks7442 well women have a biological clock when it comes to having kids. And sometimes it takes a lot longer in finding a partner who is going to be a good father. Or just want kids. You should read this book called all the single ladies I think it's very insightful on why women choose to go non traditional routes and why some choose the traditional one. It has nothing to do with being narrcacist . but more of the fact they know what they want and a man is not going to stop them from achieving things in their life
@@indigobricks7442 I hope you see the Misogyny in your comment implying the mothers are at fault when a man abandons his family leaving the woman to raise the children As the youngest of 5 who were abandoned by their father who then had a 2nd family as if we didn't exist I can assure you my mother raised happy qell adjusted children into successful adults, the mere idea that men are no longer necessary seems to anger men who wouldn't think twice about abandoning the family they create 😂😂😂
@@terynb4407 So it’s all about the woman’s biological clock and what she desires to experience?? Children do not want to be raised in a single parent household. Point blank period. It’s greater than a woman’s self-absorbed desires. Everything does not revolve around a woman’s inability to find a man who will offer life partner privileges. These women most likely aim to parentify their offspring and treat them like emotional support pets. It’s gross.
No matter what you do, someone somewhere is going to have an issue with it. So might as well live your life your way, unapologetically. You won’t “ruin” your baby just because they don’t have a dad.
No baby would choose a single mother household. Point blank period. No one wants to feel deprived of a paternal experience. Having a baby as an emotional support pet or an accessory is an incredibly stupid, self-absorbed, deplorable decision.
I’ve been shamed for not having kids. Now I’m being shame for wanting to go this route And not a single person hating on me or shaming me is prepared to pay my bills seeing as they think they have rights to my life. So they can go f#%& themselves Their shaming and hating shows us who they are more than my decision to have a baby this way says about me. Unfortunately bitter people will always find fault. I’m grateful I refuse to be bitter so I won’t find fulfillment in telling others how them making those choices is selfish, narcissistic or abusive. My child is going to be loved and that’s all that matters. At least I can see what I should instil in them so that they don’t become bitter like those shaming us
@@icyunvme2400 😂😂😂 Are you serious?? First of all, you’re expressing yourself like a catty, defensive 13 year old. Second of all, are you genuinely that stupid?? No one wants to be raised in a one parent home where there’s non-stop stress because she doesn’t have a partner to help her through the trials of parenthood.I feel bad for these unborn children of yours.
@@GalactusOG Well my father was around in the house and never gave me two seconds of his time and barely does now as an adult. I can tell you that type of rejection screws up a child 100% more then having a single mother by choice. Not always better having a father in your life believe me!
I think people also need to realise that there's a growing number of single mums by choice for whom this is their first and only choice. We don't get spoken about that often; but we are often younger and often highly educated women that have no interest in having a partner.
But why? Are you that ugly? Is your personality really that anti-social? Have you done stuff that has marked you unmarriageable? Is it all of the above?
I wouldn't say no interest unless asexual they just realize they don't need to wait around for a partner to actually decide they are ready for kids on the future or what not.
@@olg06 what makes you think that’s the reason? It may be for some, but it’s not for all. Do you really still think womens choices revolve around men and marriage? Wow! Is it really that difficult to think a woman just isn’t interested in marriage? Why is it so hard to support a person in 2021 for making their own choices?
You do realize that by choosing to be a single mom, you are five times more likely to be live in poverty compared to having a child in wedlock, have half the income you would have if you were married, and increase the chances of your child having behavioral issues by 20 fold. Not to mention that by doing so, you will destroy your social market value to single men thereby limiting your dating pool to single fathers.
@@Adam-mj5hl what do you expect from modern women. SHE wants a child. Like SHE wants a purse. Not a life, just another avenue to provide HER life with meaning. Disgusting. The child should always come first, not the parent’s desire to have one.
@@romozusi You’re right. It is absolutely her personal decision….If she’s in a good enough financial situation to be able to afford to do so. The sad reality is that 34% of single moms live in poverty. 62% of all food stamp recipients in the US are single moms. Also, what about the burden placed on family members who feel obligated to help her out in caring for her child? (e.g., babysitting)? If she can’t afford to raise a child on her own, then it’s not just a personal decision.
I am doing it myself too. Single mother by choice. Instead of having a baby with someone you don't love or ending having to split custody of the child. I made the choice to do it alone with support of family and friends. I cannot be happier 😊 I think this movie will be wonderful! Encouraging woman to be brave!
Disgustingly selfish. Children without fathers do worse in every measurable metric. More likely to be depressed and commit suicide. Do worse in school, more likely to commit crime, go to prison, have behavioural disorders, lower IQ. Putting yourself before a potential child is awful!
@@GalactusOG something a lot of men do by choice anyway, at least we are eliminating that from the start so there’s no expectation or disappointment for the child. If that’s cruel so be it. But it’s a lot crueler to abandon your child which is more likely to happen in today’s society
Interesting… I’ve gotta say that my partner was an open ID sperm donor and he’d like to stay anonymous. Doesn’t mean he will in this day and age with DNA testing, but he still never wants to meet or know his donor kids. So for all the single moms out there that choose an open donor, I’d say about half of these sperm donors are actually open to being known.
He should've chose to be anonymous then. That way child would not reach out even if they happened to find him one day. what your partner chose was to be an open ID sperm donor meaning: that a donor has agreed to at least one form of contact with any donation-born offspring once the child turns 18.
I'm a single mother by choice have two beautiful daughters use the sperm donor my kids are now two and eight months old and I am now currently pregnant 5 weeks pregnant with my third and final baby I love being a single mother by choice I am a nurse in New Haven Connecticut at Yale Hospital make more than enough money to take care of my three children or maybe four if I'm having twins my 2-year-old is about to start karate when she turns three my girls know how to swim because there's Swim School I got them in activities at a young age and being a single mother by choice is the best thing I've ever done
@@GalactusOG Poor kid why? For being born? I can guarantee you 100% that not one of these SMBC donor children ever said: “Gee, I’d rather I wasn’t born than born to a single mom.”
It’s an HBO max original. What’s the difference? Beats me but they’re for sure diluting the name HBO. Should have named the service Warner Max since they have so much more than HBO.
Luke, maybe they realize that the message is powerful and that should be enough to succeed any channel. Women making their own choices without men. I am sure it’s hard for some men to accept but I am sure you are the kind that appreciates women’s right and their power to their choices, correct? I believe that’s what HBO is trying to focus on.
@@RaulBrv "what's the difference?" "they're for sure diluting the name HBO." Looks like you solved your own puzzle. Next time try doing it in your head before you run off in the comments section.
Can’t relate. I’m doing great and my mom is a single mom by choice. I’ve got better grades that my friends who also struggle with mental issues and they all grew up with 2 parents.
@@heathersmith5935 Not in the least. I'm referring to the pandemic and everything else from last year. For me, it's too soon to see all that in the media I consume. But I totally get how you'd get that from my comment - it came from a grumpy place in me.
@@heathersmith5935 not having the father involved isn't hyper uncommon but portraying her as a good person is the most fabricated part of the story. Women that intentionally have children and make the choice to do it alone are bad people. Every single one.
Selfish thing to do. All kids NEED a dad. My 3 brothers and I didn’t have one - he bailed. Some single mothers like to fool themselves. Obviously there are exceptions in life but the stats. For kids growing up in single parent families, are not good. The same for all people all over the world; not a race issue. Crime, addiction, abuse, teen pregnancy, jail time….all much higher in single parents families. Security is about the FAMILY. Nothing More. Starts in the home - the government can’t make families strong - only people can; kids NEED their dads. Men shouldn’t have kids they don’t help raise - even if it is being an amazing co-parent!!! Men have a responsibility to their children. Children in single parent families have a much higher chance of living in poverty; not rocket science.
Exactly, and you can get two parents destroying their kids too because as you say it’s about FAMILY and you clearly don’t understand what SMBCs do for their own FAMILY. You’re ignorant and only seeing it from a single parent based on abandonments view. Not the bigger picture
You know people with two parents or a missing mom could have issues too? No one is immune lol just hope people are raising children well, regardless of being single or in a relationship.
Where is the show about being a solo father by choice? Oh thanks right, men don’t have the option. Another show about how women have it so hard when in reality men don’t even have the chance.
Men actually do have the option. They would just have to pay extra for a surrogate in addition to donor eggs if they want biological kids. If not, then adoption and fostering are also wonderful options for men who want to become fathers
@@icyunvme2400 I'm going to speak like Kevin Samuels good how much do you weigh what do you look like? and if you've been a single mother for 20 years you are way past your Prime and you have lesser value based upon your age alone.
@@travelingjohn69 First off rip to him, but I don’t know why that other stuff matters lol (but 115, petite, people say I’m cute). To make it short I meant I’ve been without a partner for 20 years and been alright(I am 20💀), I’ve did everything on my own so far. 25 is when I plan to be a solo mom.
@@icyunvme2400 I drive around America for a living you can tell by the icon. you are just the size I like are you open to meeting up and maybe helping me out and then I can help you out.
Considering we know the outcomes for kids born into single-mother homes, I'm shocked HBO would greenlight this. Take one look at the prison system, the majority of those men come from single-mother homes. Additionally, performance in school is lower, with high rates of antisocial behavior and drug use. The list goes on.
Wrong studies you're looking at Children from broken homes with yoyo parents might do badly, those raised by solo parents do on par or better than those from 2 parent families Being a solo parent doesn't mean its a broken home, it was created that way
@@freudianslip2192 Or better yet. Have a look at your own studies and references to us 1 article that states these statistics come from smbc homes and not from broken homes. You can’t. Because that isn’t true. The reason these children do worse is because the feeling of abandonment and or low self esteem from not being wanted or enough stem from broken home families. Not from a family that was created in love.
@@Chm00081 You're missing my point. The studies don't exist because the data would be so minuscule that it would be laughed at as irrelevant. Statistical outliers or anomalies. The problem with subject matter similar to this are people's proclivity to let their emotions take over. For example, single father homes outperform single mother homes tremendously. However, there is so little data that we can't say definitively that it's because the parent is male. It's disingenuous because there is not enough data. The data you want is 50 years in the future. Whether you accept it or not, any woman that is a smbc is a test subject, experiment. The closest data we have to being a smbc is single-parent households and they are disastrous for children.
Yeah who would of thought having a baby without a man was worse than the violent and vulgar crap that’s every second tv show these days? Crazy how society is deteriorating right?
@@bannedmann4469oh sorry for exposing you the way I did, so let me say it straight: who would of thought encouraging a woman to live her life the way she wants and chooses to would be so wrong! Imagine encouraging people to live life their way! Wow! How does a woman choosing to have a child this way affect you personally? I know violence and crime affects us all so you can forgive me for pointing out the differences but hey let’s get all Karen over a woman living her life the way she chooses that doesn’t affect you in any way! Isn’t society weird! It’s okay to walk away from your kids to leave their moms to raise them alone but God forbid they choose to do so from the start!
@@GalactusOG For whom? Your view goes to show that you’re solely basing your view from own perspective and clearly doesn’t know any donor conceived children otherwise you wouldn’t be so quick to put words in their mouths.
I became a single mother in 1991, my one and only son will be 31 this year, staying single is a choice too and I met many prospects from around the world cause I used to work in an Airline, there's so much more to life, we shouldn't be defined by our marital status. If you going to be a mother enjoy it and live your life, don't put your child in dangerous situations just because you don't want to be single. That's my advice that nobody asked but maybe someone is wondering if it can be done, and yes it does! I'm 52 yo and I will continue to be single forever by choice.
I became a single mother in 1991, my one and only son will be 31 this year, staying single is a choice too and I met many prospects from around the world
cause I used to work in an Airline, there's so much more to life, we shouldn't be defined by our marital status. If you going to be a mother enjoy it and live your life, don't put your child in dangerous situations just because you don't want to be single. That's my advice that nobody asked but maybe someone is wondering if it can be done, and yes it does! I'm 52 yo and I will continue to be single forever by choice.
Is your son happy, I am thinking of doing it but I am afraid my child will resent that he/she doesn't have father, and I choose it for him
My mom has always been a single mom by choice, I had no siblings, yet I can say that I grew up with a lot of love and I never even thought about my father at all. My grades in school are doing fine, and I’m doing alright mentally as well. So for all those who say that being a single mom by choice is bad for the child: It’s not necessarily. It’s matters on how you raise the child.
Thank you for your comment. It helps a lot! :)
Yes, it is bad for children according to statistics.
Yes, it is bad for children according to statistics. You are the exception not the rule and children deserve both parents if possible. Insinuating that a child doesn’t need a father is simply ignorant.
@@AnonymousC-lm6tc Living is a household with fighting parents is way worse. This is a real problem. Not single parents. Some people just really try to make problems out of things just because they aren’t conventional. Statics, blah, blah. How about you talk to people who can actually tell you what it‘s like. You‘ll find out, how a lot of us have a stable and good life.
Im a single mother, by choice too, and no matter how people say it's bad as how it seems here, but my family and relatives truly supported me as I have my own strong reason. As to you @dreams8565 thank you... I have a daughter, and this surely makes me feel better, Thank You from the bottom of my heart💜
There is a difference between a father and a father figure my parents died when I was young, I was raised by my grandmother my grandfather was always working so my neighbor was my father figure.
not the men in the comment section feeling useless and attacked..don't worry y'all can become single fathers too without having problems with women... women won't care because it's non of our business we expect y'all to do the same!!
Nah, they will assault their own children
How come no one gets this mad when your dead beat dad/mom leaves you ? I have known many women and men,including family members who are single parents who's children turned out fine and sometimes even better than kids with 2 parents. It's all about discipline and time management. My cousin who was raised by a single mom turned out better than me. Man is a dentist. Also my friend , who is a single father, child turned out well. You guys are referencing these so called studies ,but if you noticed the parents got issues . Same goes with a 2 partner household. If you got issues, your bound to f up everything around you.
Oh trust me they get mad when your situation doesn't work out. Thats why many ppl stay in unhappy marriages because it looks better in the court of public opinion. I really appreciate your comment and cant stand how alot of people feel entitled to judge others. they are one step away from religious fanatics.
No one likes dead beats. Children hate them. But at least there's someone to hate. Theres someone to blame for your disadvantage.
When a mother chooses to have a child alone, she chooses to put her child at a disadvantage.
@@aguy9071 bruh I can see u are feeling useless and attacked..don't worry a woman will "need" u but not just the ones who decides to be single mothers by choice 😂
Thats why u go around the comment section trying to tell women why they should need men even when they don't want to..funny guy
There is going to be lots of things in life that happens throughout your childhood/adulthood and beyond that will effect you. You will always have a 50/50 with how children react to the way they came to be. Some will hate not having a father, the other half will love that their mother wanted them so much she was willing to go it alone just to be able to be their mother. Ladies shouldn't have to settle with men just to fulfil their need to have a child, there is no guarantee the child will be raised in a house filled with love with both parents present in their lives. You can have your opinion 100% your entitled to it for sure, but unless you have that deep seeded ache to be a mother that has been there since you were a child, when being someones mother is all you can think about from the moment you wake up until you go to bed, that this is what you were born to do. That you go out and hope to meet the right person to grow your family with and each year you get older and every month your closer to the end of your fertility. All your friends and family around you grow their families. Its easy for others to comment on things they have no idea about. Trust me I can say most of these ladies never set out in life looking to be a single mother by choice, life has turned out this way. Given up visions of a loving family, someone to come home to and just have comfort for life. Now they are expected to give up the love and want of a child too. Iv'e lived in a house with a mother and father, where my father showed no interest in me and still barely doesn't and Im now an adult, two parents are not always better. If there are male role models in your life to fill the male side of things then it does not matter where that comes from.
Thank you for this beautiful comment. I am a single mother by choice and what you wrote perfectly describes my life. 39, successful, have not met the right man and I had an insatiable desire to be a mom. All those relationships were for this sole purpose of having a child. My son is the best thing that has ever happened to me and having him this way was the best decision I ever made. My brother in law loves him like his own and my son definitely has an amazing father figure
Agreed thank you for this. I couldn’t have said I better myself :-)
Love this comment thank you for the kind words!!!
Thanks for your comment. I too am a SMBC. I had my daughter at 39. She’s is now almost 3 years old. Best decision I ever made. I’ve always wanted to be a mother more so than I wanted to be a wife. My biological clock was ticking so I made the decision to do this on my own. While I can find love at any age I won’t be able to have a biological child at any age. My last boyfriend never wanted children and I did and there was no convincing him. My daughter is a blessing. The love I have for her is the greatest love I’ve ever felt for anyone. She’s my heart and soul. She completes me. I have absolutely no regrets and I’d do it again. Thanks HBO for bringing light to the SMBC community.
I’m 20 and thinking about becoming a smbc later on. I’m aroace and see no point in a relationship unless you desire one.
A woman choose to parent without having the men hanging around and the world looses its mind,
A man walks away from his children and no one bats an eyelid and blames the mother
Misogyny at jts finest
No child wishes to grow up in a single parent household. Depriving a child of a paternal experience on purpose is disgustingly selfish. Children are not accessories or emotional support pets. They have needs that are greater than a woman’s narcissism.
@@indigobricks7442 well women have a biological clock when it comes to having kids. And sometimes it takes a lot longer in finding a partner who is going to be a good father. Or just want kids. You should read this book called all the single ladies I think it's very insightful on why women choose to go non traditional routes and why some choose the traditional one. It has nothing to do with being narrcacist . but more of the fact they know what they want and a man is not going to stop them from achieving things in their life
@@indigobricks7442 I hope you see the Misogyny in your comment implying the mothers are at fault when a man abandons his family leaving the woman to raise the children
As the youngest of 5 who were abandoned by their father who then had a 2nd family as if we didn't exist I can assure you my mother raised happy qell adjusted children into successful adults, the mere idea that men are no longer necessary seems to anger men who wouldn't think twice about abandoning the family they create 😂😂😂
@@terynb4407 So it’s all about the woman’s biological clock and what she desires to experience?? Children do not want to be raised in a single parent household. Point blank period. It’s greater than a woman’s self-absorbed desires. Everything does not revolve around a woman’s inability to find a man who will offer life partner privileges. These women most likely aim to parentify their offspring and treat them like emotional support pets. It’s gross.
@@indigobricks7442 have you ever asked a child? And clearly you weren't reading my whole comment
No matter what you do, someone somewhere is going to have an issue with it. So might as well live your life your way, unapologetically. You won’t “ruin” your baby just because they don’t have a dad.
No baby would choose a single mother household. Point blank period. No one wants to feel deprived of a paternal experience. Having a baby as an emotional support pet or an accessory is an incredibly stupid, self-absorbed, deplorable decision.
True that
@@indigobricks7442 Have you spoke with every baby in the universe? Also you can’t miss what you never had.
I’ve been shamed for not having kids. Now I’m being shame for wanting to go this route
And not a single person hating on me or shaming me is prepared to pay my bills seeing as they think they have rights to my life. So they can go f#%& themselves
Their shaming and hating shows us who they are more than my decision to have a baby this way says about me. Unfortunately bitter people will always find fault. I’m grateful I refuse to be bitter so I won’t find fulfillment in telling others how them making those choices is selfish, narcissistic or abusive. My child is going to be loved and that’s all that matters. At least I can see what I should instil in them so that they don’t become bitter like those shaming us
@@icyunvme2400 😂😂😂 Are you serious??
First of all, you’re expressing yourself like a catty, defensive 13 year old. Second of all, are you genuinely that stupid?? No one wants to be raised in a one parent home where there’s non-stop stress because she doesn’t have a partner to help her through the trials of parenthood.I feel bad for these unborn children of yours.
All the sad men commenting because women are happy without them 😂 Young single mum by (first) choice of two kids here and we have the best life.
Same, just minus one kid for now 😆👌
I was genuinely surprised to see how negative the men were being 😂😂😂
@@GalactusOG Well my father was around in the house and never gave me two seconds of his time and barely does now as an adult. I can tell you that type of rejection screws up a child 100% more then having a single mother by choice. Not always better having a father in your life believe me!
@@hrtb8747 Yeah that can be bad too but did your mom do that to you by choice?
@@GalactusOG Well she stayed with a man that showed no interest in his children, so to me yes she did it by choice. Can happen both ways can't it
I think people also need to realise that there's a growing number of single mums by choice for whom this is their first and only choice. We don't get spoken about that often; but we are often younger and often highly educated women that have no interest in having a partner.
But why? Are you that ugly? Is your personality really that anti-social? Have you done stuff that has marked you unmarriageable? Is it all of the above?
@@vincentmcintosh278 not child abuse
I wouldn't say no interest unless asexual they just realize they don't need to wait around for a partner to actually decide they are ready for kids on the future or what not.
This is me lol. I don’t want a relationship or see the point in them. I just want to devote myself to raising my child. I’m also aroace.
@@olg06 what makes you think that’s the reason? It may be for some, but it’s not for all. Do you really still think womens choices revolve around men and marriage? Wow! Is it really that difficult to think a woman just isn’t interested in marriage? Why is it so hard to support a person in 2021 for making their own choices?
this is what I need ! I am preparing to be a single mom by choice!
Great me too!
@@dominiquewyatt6704 who’s the Daddy
You do realize that by choosing to be a single mom, you are five times more likely to be live in poverty compared to having a child in wedlock, have half the income you would have if you were married, and increase the chances of your child having behavioral issues by 20 fold. Not to mention that by doing so, you will destroy your social market value to single men thereby limiting your dating pool to single fathers.
@@Adam-mj5hl what do you expect from modern women. SHE wants a child. Like SHE wants a purse. Not a life, just another avenue to provide HER life with meaning. Disgusting. The child should always come first, not the parent’s desire to have one.
@@romozusi You’re right. It is absolutely her personal decision….If she’s in a good enough financial situation to be able to afford to do so. The sad reality is that 34% of single moms live in poverty. 62% of all food stamp recipients in the US are single moms. Also, what about the burden placed on family members who feel obligated to help her out in caring for her child? (e.g., babysitting)? If she can’t afford to raise a child on her own, then it’s not just a personal decision.
I am doing it myself too. Single mother by choice. Instead of having a baby with someone you don't love or ending having to split custody of the child. I made the choice to do it alone with support of family and friends. I cannot be happier 😊
I think this movie will be wonderful! Encouraging woman to be brave!
I'm doing this too. I'm in my second trimester. Any tips? Challenges thus far?
Anything you can share to help this newbie single mother by choice?
@@janjoy9759 find a husband. Your child will resent you for removing the ability to ever know it's father
@@aguy9071 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Disgustingly selfish. Children without fathers do worse in every measurable metric. More likely to be depressed and commit suicide. Do worse in school, more likely to commit crime, go to prison, have behavioural disorders, lower IQ. Putting yourself before a potential child is awful!
@@JamalW239 so many children do well in a loving single parent home. This is reality!
My actual friend just went through all this during the pandemic. They could have followed her around.
this is my homie Selina Ringel, she's a powerhouse super producer, yall put some respect on the name 🏆
Too bad she is helping people make kids Miserable and feel the emptiness of not having a father.
Your homie thinks men are disposable
These replies are 🤮
Tell Selina that she's just filmed something that alot of educated women are wanting. Congrats to her!
Love this!
I'm so excited for this!! Selina, you are amazing!
@@GalactusOG something a lot of men do by choice anyway, at least we are eliminating that from the start so there’s no expectation or disappointment for the child. If that’s cruel so be it. But it’s a lot crueler to abandon your child which is more likely to happen in today’s society
Interesting… I’ve gotta say that my partner was an open ID sperm donor and he’d like to stay anonymous. Doesn’t mean he will in this day and age with DNA testing, but he still never wants to meet or know his donor kids.
So for all the single moms out there that choose an open donor, I’d say about half of these sperm donors are actually open to being known.
He should've chose to be anonymous then. That way child would not reach out even if they happened to find him one day.
what your partner chose was to be an open ID sperm donor meaning: that a donor has agreed to at least one form of contact with any donation-born offspring once the child turns 18.
Wow. What a bad Guy. Hope the child dont get hurt.
I'm a single mother by choice have two beautiful daughters use the sperm donor my kids are now two and eight months old and I am now currently pregnant 5 weeks pregnant with my third and final baby I love being a single mother by choice I am a nurse in New Haven Connecticut at Yale Hospital make more than enough money to take care of my three children or maybe four if I'm having twins my 2-year-old is about to start karate when she turns three my girls know how to swim because there's Swim School I got them in activities at a young age and being a single mother by choice is the best thing I've ever done
awesome! what made you decide to be a SMBC.
Thanks for sharing!
For a movie about pregnancy, this was an abortion of a film.
HBO Max, a service I can now do without.
They have great stuff. Not this one though. Poor kid.
@@GalactusOG Poor kid why? For being born? I can guarantee you 100% that not one of these SMBC donor children ever said: “Gee, I’d rather I wasn’t born than born to a single mom.”
@@Chm00081 I guarantee they wish they would have known what it was like to have a father.
You won't be missed
@@Moviescope715 Poor kid won't have a chance to miss having a father.
This isn’t up to par with HBO. This is like some Netflix or Hulu show. But HBO!? Really? Is this the direction you’re going?
It’s an HBO max original. What’s the difference? Beats me but they’re for sure diluting the name HBO. Should have named the service Warner Max since they have so much more than HBO.
This is Lifetime or Hallmark network garbage
Luke, maybe they realize that the message is powerful and that should be enough to succeed any channel. Women making their own choices without men. I am sure it’s hard for some men to accept but I am sure you are the kind that appreciates women’s right and their power to their choices, correct? I believe that’s what HBO is trying to focus on.
@@RaulBrv "what's the difference?"
"they're for sure diluting the name HBO." Looks like you solved your own puzzle. Next time try doing it in your head before you run off in the comments section.
So they made 2020 into a movie and think people are gonna wanna watch it??!! This trailer is like a 2020 highlight reel, only it's all depressing...
I am either gonna adopt or do this
Hi I’m white and not a child
@@tom4412 OK? Idc, and if ur talking about I'm literally poc so-
@@pixie-bo6wi that’s ok, you can have a mixed race child. 😊
@@tom4412 so u want to date me or donate ?
@@pixie-bo6wi donate
Looks like a college production. Might win Campus Movie Fest.
is this real or is it one of those fake trailers?
Congratulations to everyone who comes in every single seconds❤❤❤
release Euphoria trailer
Yes we are waiting
I thought this is a documentary
There was a term used back in the 90s “the 1st wife club”, now there’s a new term “single mothers club” who want the perks and benefits (Widows). SMH!
HBO Max its time to release the nicki minaj documentary
Children that grow up in 2 parent households do better on average. The only person going to suffer is that child
Can’t relate. I’m doing great and my mom is a single mom by choice. I’ve got better grades that my friends who also struggle with mental issues and they all grew up with 2 parents.
and what about the children of divorces and dead-beat dads by choice?
HBO max Please come India ❤️
get a VPN
Oh great, a fictional movie reminding us all of the horrible last year. Fun.
You think having a child and not having the father involved is fiction?
@@heathersmith5935 Not in the least. I'm referring to the pandemic and everything else from last year. For me, it's too soon to see all that in the media I consume. But I totally get how you'd get that from my comment - it came from a grumpy place in me.
@@tylerbrown5526 I see what you mean regarding the pandemic, anything to push the narrative they won't miss
@@heathersmith5935 not having the father involved isn't hyper uncommon but portraying her as a good person is the most fabricated part of the story. Women that intentionally have children and make the choice to do it alone are bad people. Every single one.
Selfish thing to do. All kids NEED a dad.
My 3 brothers and I didn’t have one - he bailed. Some single mothers like to fool themselves. Obviously there are exceptions in life but the stats. For kids growing up in single parent families, are not good. The same for all people all over the world; not a race issue. Crime, addiction, abuse, teen pregnancy, jail time….all much higher in single parents families.
Security is about the FAMILY. Nothing More. Starts in the home - the government can’t make families strong - only people can; kids NEED their dads. Men shouldn’t have kids they don’t help raise - even if it is being an amazing co-parent!!! Men have a responsibility to their children. Children in single parent families have a much higher chance of living in poverty; not rocket science.
Exactly, and you can get two parents destroying their kids too because as you say it’s about FAMILY and you clearly don’t understand what SMBCs do for their own FAMILY. You’re ignorant and only seeing it from a single parent based on abandonments view. Not the bigger picture
Stats for single mothers by Choice are not THE same as for single mothers. They are very diffrent.
then get men to do better so women will want them.
Those single mother homes could possibly be called absent father homes instead.
@@introspectator2100 you mean scrotes free home or dust free home
phew. sad. nothing about that seems like good life choices.....
Yet a man walking away from his responsibility to his kids is seen as acceptable 🤔 😂😂
Who is my father?
You can know if your mom chose an "open ID" donor
@@olg06 which should be encouraged. for medical reasons and if the child chooses to meet the sperm donor
Jesus.
@@zinkaside7542 no, the spark bank do throughly test in generational diseases that can pass so no need to know the donor personally
Yeah, because no child raised without a father figure has ever had NO ISSUES.. … so says a YT.
You know people with two parents or a missing mom could have issues too?
No one is immune lol just hope people are raising children well, regardless of being single or in a relationship.
Single by choice.😅 🤣
Chad won't commit
men co-opted the "incel" label from women actually.
Total bomb. Stop virtual signaling.
Me af
She should call into Kevin Samuels and ask why no high value man wants to date her.
Facts
Port lol
or maybe she does not want to date them. Times have changed boys !
if they don't want her as you said, then it makes perfect sense for her to have the baby on her own.
Well he's dead now, so.
Where is the show about being a solo father by choice? Oh thanks right, men don’t have the option. Another show about how women have it so hard when in reality men don’t even have the chance.
Men actually do have the option. They would just have to pay extra for a surrogate in addition to donor eggs if they want biological kids. If not, then adoption and fostering are also wonderful options for men who want to become fathers
they eventually break down and want a man. and when they do want a man that is of some quality he's not going to want a single mother.
Been alright for 20 years so far
@@icyunvme2400 I'm going to speak like Kevin Samuels good how much do you weigh what do you look like? and if you've been a single mother for 20 years you are way past your Prime and you have lesser value based upon your age alone.
@@travelingjohn69 First off rip to him, but I don’t know why that other stuff matters lol (but 115, petite, people say I’m cute). To make it short I meant I’ve been without a partner for 20 years and been alright(I am 20💀), I’ve did everything on my own so far. 25 is when I plan to be a solo mom.
@@icyunvme2400 I drive around America for a living you can tell by the icon. you are just the size I like are you open to meeting up and maybe helping me out and then I can help you out.
@@travelingjohn69 Help out to what exactly?
The day of the rope is nere...
*near
Disgusting. And of course a member of the bonnet brigade is involved!
Loved the trailer, but I am not emotionally equipped to watch this movie.
Hi guys
Wow
Awesome!!
Kids need dads
Considering we know the outcomes for kids born into single-mother homes, I'm shocked HBO would greenlight this.
Take one look at the prison system, the majority of those men come from single-mother homes. Additionally, performance in school is lower, with high rates of antisocial behavior and drug use. The list goes on.
Wrong studies you're looking at
Children from broken homes with yoyo parents might do badly, those raised by solo parents do on par or better than those from 2 parent families
Being a solo parent doesn't mean its a broken home, it was created that way
@@heathersmith5935 Would you mind sharing the studies you speak of?
@@freudianslip2192 Or better yet. Have a look at your own studies and references to us 1 article that states these statistics come from smbc homes and not from broken homes. You can’t. Because that isn’t true. The reason these children do worse is because the feeling of abandonment and or low self esteem from not being wanted or enough stem from broken home families. Not from a family that was created in love.
@@freudianslip2192 Ditto.
@@Chm00081 You're missing my point. The studies don't exist because the data would be so minuscule that it would be laughed at as irrelevant. Statistical outliers or anomalies.
The problem with subject matter similar to this are people's proclivity to let their emotions take over. For example, single father homes outperform single mother homes tremendously. However, there is so little data that we can't say definitively that it's because the parent is male. It's disingenuous because there is not enough data.
The data you want is 50 years in the future. Whether you accept it or not, any woman that is a smbc is a test subject, experiment.
The closest data we have to being a smbc is single-parent households and they are disastrous for children.
Lmao
Single by choice
Ain't true
Chad won't commit, find a simp
😂😂😂
Haha nailed it. They know the guy just pumped and then dumped.
like you?
There is a name given to children of unwed mothers. I think people have forgotten that.
child?
Come on ladies. If muslim women can pop out ten kids to get our tax money, we can do it too. Breed!
The things they're encouraging these days...
Selfish and cruel.
Yeah who would of thought having a baby without a man was worse than the violent and vulgar crap that’s every second tv show these days? Crazy how society is deteriorating right?
@@roelienkruger5726 #Whataboutism
@@bannedmann4469oh sorry for exposing you the way I did, so let me say it straight: who would of thought encouraging a woman to live her life the way she wants and chooses to would be so wrong! Imagine encouraging people to live life their way! Wow! How does a woman choosing to have a child this way affect you personally? I know violence and crime affects us all so you can forgive me for pointing out the differences but hey let’s get all Karen over a woman living her life the way she chooses that doesn’t affect you in any way!
Isn’t society weird! It’s okay to walk away from your kids to leave their moms to raise them alone but God forbid they choose to do so from the start!
@@GalactusOG For whom? Your view goes to show that you’re solely basing your view from own perspective and clearly doesn’t know any donor conceived children otherwise you wouldn’t be so quick to put words in their mouths.
Insanity. Every major study on this shows kids need a mom and a dad to be successful
How to ruin a child before it is born.
Enough of this trash.
Bad
you know the baby's black
😂🤣😂🤣
nicki minaj
Insanity.
Lol sad
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Even Steven's reuinion
I can’t stream it in Germany 🥲
I became a single mother in 1991, my one and only son will be 31 this year, staying single is a choice too and I met many prospects from around the world
cause I used to work in an Airline, there's so much more to life, we shouldn't be defined by our marital status. If you going to be a mother enjoy it and live your life, don't put your child in dangerous situations just because you don't want to be single. That's my advice that nobody asked but maybe someone is wondering if it can be done, and yes it does! I'm 52 yo and I will continue to be single forever by choice.