Hi BabyDreamers! I hope you find this video empowering and uplifting! If you enjoyed the video, please leave something in my TIP JAR🍯so I can afford to keep making videos for you: tinyurl.com/TipTJ ✨And To see MANY MORE VIDEOS about my journey as an older mama, join my free private community at mybabydream.club There you can be inspired by my story AND meet other women on the same motherhood journey as you. 💖 Big love, TJ
Im 22 and i am going to become a single mother by choice too ❤️ I honestly dont have the patience go deal with men, and i dont want to depend on a man thats quite likely going to turn his back on me and my (our) child... i’ve already seen enough of that myself, and i will NEVER let my children experience that feeling of abandonment. Being a mother is the biggest life goal for me, and i cant wait to raise a child in a calm, safe and healthy environment ❤️ im so happy to see you having your dream baby, and i wish both of you many many years of amazing memories 😍🎉
Wow good on you for being so clear with your choice is such a young age. It’s very inspiring for me to hear that! I can already tell you will make a wonderful mother because you’re already really trying to protect your future child. 💕
OMG I just saw this. WOW how beautiful that you're wanting to be a donor. I literally send a prayer of thanks to my donors every single day. It's the most beautiful gift anyone can give. What a lovely caring person you are. 💕💕💕
I decided at 23-24 - that if I didnt have any DESIRABLE prospects for marriage by the time I was 28 - a mere 4 years - that I would have to seriously consider becoming a single mom by choice in my 30s./mid-30s This was after seeing enough people I knew getting pregnant out of wedlock and becoming single moms in the 18-24 range; and looking up the statistics of how 87% of women who have a child out of wedlock will end up a single mom by the time their oldest child is 10 (usually with younger children in tow) - and seeing how even for those women who have a baby, thinking that they will/can just marry later - and how 70% of THESE women (who married their partner) still end up becoming single mom by the time their oldest child is 10 - same timeline. Once you condition yourself to the idea that they odds of you having a child without being married are very very high (atleast 1/3rd of women these days) then that opens up the planned single mom by choice option. It makes no difference. dont have a child out of wedlock unless you accept the idea of becoming a single mom; otherwise you can always use your late 30s to cut out the 3rd party. since you are young, maybe think about donating your eggs to fund your journey.
Oh wow, I'm so excited for you! Congratulations! Is this your first baby? ✨ PS Did you know I've recently started a free private community where you can meet other women on the SMBC path and get support for your journey? I also share many more videos there than I do on TH-cam, much more personal ones about my daily life as an SMBC. You can check it out at www.mybabydream.club 💖
I got goose bumps when you said there’s something about opening your mind to the possibilities. Goose bumps thinking about that practice in other areas of life not just about children. Thank you for sharing!
Hi @Golden, I'm just checking, did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It's a great place to meet other women with a similar baby dream to you. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
Hey @Brittany, I'm just checking, did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It will be a great place for you to meet other older women on the solo mama journey. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ
Go for it! I have a Dr degree, a 6 year old (7 on july 23rd 🥰) and turn 27 in October! Age is just a number. Academic achievements money, it only matters because I have an heir.
@Lia I just saw this. Wow girl you totally rock! Look at you with your Drs degree and 7 year old child, at your age! As someone who did my Masters in Law at Oxford etc etc I totally agree that none of that matters if you don't have anybody to give it all to... 💕
I m 35, no partner and even though till this moment i do not wish to be a mother, i find your story very inspiring that it s never to late(i already feel at my age it would be to late to have a child,) i liked the idea to let the universe bring this child to you and the way you let go of thw idea of finding a partner first!
Thanks so much! Actually I had a super easy pregnancy, which was a real blessing. I've made a video about what it was like being pregnant for the first time at 48, and I'll be posting it sometime in the next few weeks. So stay tuned!
Hi @Shortmashins, I've made that video now about what it was like for my body being pregnant at 48. I've posted it in my new private community. I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It's also a great place to meet other women who are having babies at an older age. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
she is absolutely adorable! Thank you for sharing this awesome story and testimony! I am in the 40s group with you and thats how I found your channel, after you announced it on there! I am 49, just a few months older than you! I have 6 kiddos ranging from 4-18. I would love to have one more, God willing!
I love your story, thank you so much for opening up and sharing it. It is very nice to hear it because I had a similar thought about opening up to possibilities coming into my life instead of sticking to one idea and your words have resonated with me so much. And your daughter is so precious. Hugs ❤
This is so interesting. I’m 33 and single and feel like this is an option I need to start thinking about, but it’s also nice to see that I have a bit of time to really decide
Yay I’m glad you’re finding my videos reassuring. 💕 Do consider freezing your eggs though, as egg equality starts to decline at age 35… I wish I had done that! Big love on your journey.
I’m about to be 34 next month and my obgyn brought this option to my attention last week! Going to be a single mom by choice next year once I start trying ❤ so excited! Done waiting on “mr right” to make me a mom!
Hi @R! I've recently set up a private online community to connect women who are wanting to become solo mamas, in a private space off Facebook. I'm sharing my much more detailed personal videos there from now on instead of TH-cam. You might find it really inspiring and meet other like-minded women there who are on this path! To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
Thank you so much for this. It’s so important to be open to different ways of bringing a child into this world. I am looking forward to my own single mom by choice journey. ❤️
Oh wow!! Im considering being a SMBC! Your love for your daughter Ethel way you express these feelings is making me feel more certain about it.. especially when you said you longed to cuddle with your niece but you knew she wasn’t your child. I have my daycare and I feel about my kiddos the way you explained. I think about them, what they must be doing.. and want to be there with them the whole time but I know I can’t.
Awww I really feel for you working in a daycare and adoring your kiddos but wanting your own. That's hard... I'm so glad you're considering this path! 💖 PS Just checking, did you see my big announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It'll be a great way for you to get support from other women whoa re also starting on the single mom by choice path. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
"I'm also a very optimistic person" I love this. That's why you had a baby at 48 😊 ❤. I love your channel. I agree 100% about letting go of the idea of the guy and open yourself up to the possibility that you can have a child in a different way. Over the past week something happened in me where I realised that marriage wasn't as important to me as I thought and that I really want a child. I've now stopped worrying about meeting someone and put my focus on having a baby. It has been the most freeing feeling ever. When you focus on having babies through the traditional route of meeting a guy it means your putting a lot of power in their hands and bringing children into an unfavourable environment just for the sake of having a baby. I'm so sorry about your mum. I'm very close to my mum to, which is quite rare these days so I really felt your pain but I truly believe she is with you both ❤ xxx
OMG I've just seen this beautiful comment from you! Thank you so much for your kind words about my mum.. .🙏 I'm really really excited for you that you've had this big breakthrough in your thinking about having a baby by yourself. That's so liberating and empowering! Where are you at with it now? 💖 PS did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It will be a great place for you to meet other women on the solo mama journey. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ
I’m 30 and I’ve decided to become a Choice Mom ☺️ I’m like you as well, a hopeful romantic ❤️ There will always be time to find that special person, but I shouldn’t have to rush into a relationship just to make my dream of becoming a mother come true 🥰
Wow you're so wise and so empowered! I wish I had realised all that at 30, that's awesome. Yes spot on, you have the rest of your life to meet someone! PS Not sure if you know but I've started a free private community for women who are starting on the choice mom path. You might find it a great place to meet other women in the same situation as you. It's at www.mybabydream.club. Hugs! 💖
Sorry about your mom your story is so sweet and inspiring 💗 I'm glad your a mom and you got your dream I'm going back and forth with the idea I'm already a single mom by divorce but want baby I'll have to find my single mom tribe then I think it will happen good luck.
That’s a really good idea to find your single mom tribe first. There are a lot of SMBC groups on Facebook, which might be a good place to start. I know you’ll make the choice that’s right for you! 💕
Children are a gift 🎁 ❤ from God. May you have joy 😊 😃 raising your child with love ❤ 😍 💖 and ✍ respect 🙏 for other people and himself. A good 👍 mother 👩 👩🍼 ❤ is a great blessing for a child 🙏. May God bless both of you 🙏 😊 ❤.
I absolutely love your story and your videos. I am about to embark on my own journey of having a Baby by myself and I can so relate to your story of meeting and being with the wrong men. I also relate to your story of losing your Mother and that loss deepening your desire to have a baby and have that Mother/ child love as when I lost my Mother in 2020 that absolutely catapulted me into wanting my own child, and being absolutely certain that I need to have my own child, I love your videos and what a beautiful bond you have with your Daughter xxx
Oh wow I'm so excited that you're embarking on this solo mama journey too! And my condolences on the loss of your beautiful mother, I really really know how devastating that is... I would love to cheer you on throughout your journey! ✨ PS I've recently set up a private online community to connect women who are wanting to become solo mamas, in a private space off Facebook. I'm sharing my much more detailed personal videos there from now on instead of TH-cam. You might find it really inspiring and meet other like-minded women there who are on this path! To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
If you are open to it, could you please make a video on your egg donor/sperm donor selection process? It would be great if you can share advice about that for future single mothers. Thank you. ❤😊 🙏🏾
Hi, thanks so much for this request. That video is high on my list for one to make. I've been waiting til I was more confident with the editing and everything as I know it's a really important one for people. I'm actually about to start shooting a series of videos all about my 2nd IVF attempt, which is the one I did with donor eggs, the successful one. So as part of that series, I will also make a video sharing how I chose my sperm donor and then a video about how I chose my egg donor, as they were a bit different. So make sure to click that 'notification' button so you get notified by TH-cam when I release my next videos. Big love! xx 💕
Im so happy I find you .i choose to be a single mom by choice last year im 34 but I’m going to be early in my menopause and I have low ovarian reserve so I did 2 rounds of ivf in February and second in July ended very horrible for me specially the last one and the think the quality of my eggs are not good so have to go to another clinic here in Belgium jette for what they can do for me but I think i will end up with egg adoption im now in this grief that maybe I will never be pregnant with my biologically child thanks for this videos I really means a lot of for me .she so beautiful ❤
Ohhhh I'm so sorry to heat that you've been going through all of this. It sounds so upsetting. But I'm really glad that my videos have been able to offer you some hope. Yes using an egg donor honsetly was the best thing I ever did and I love my little girls so much! I'm sending you so much baby dust and I really hope this next round goes better for you. 💖 PS if you want to get some support on your journey, I've actually set up a free community (off Facebook) for women who are on a baby journey as a solo mama, and many of the women in it are facing having to use donor eggs. It would be a great place for you to connect with other women who are going through this. You can find out about it at www.mybabydream.club xx
Thanks . It’s very upsetting specially the last ivf try I got the heaviest hormones you can have in ivf menopurr but I’m so grateful for my family and a few friends who are supporting me in this journey. I’m also going to a psychologist tho talk about my situation and it help’s me .I know I will be a mommy but how I don’t know yet but I’m open for egg adoption .I will join the free community I will help me to thanks for the information xx
I'm so glad you have family and friends supporting you on this journey, and it sounds like the psychologist is really helping too. It can be such an intense path to walk! It's so great you're getting support. xx
Thank you for sharing your story, my story a little different I was holding out for the perfect man to have kids and during the pandemic all I could see was having a baby with or without a man I just knew I couldn’t live with out children. I was lucky enough to meet a guy whom When we met he just had a desire to have children and choosing the right women he believed that would be a good mother. Whilst our relationship isn’t really the typical romantic relationship it’s more of a friendship, we bond over having children and work really well together raising kids so I still consider myself a choice mom I just happened to meet someone who wanted kids and not romance.
Hi @Nala, I'm so sorry I've just seen this comment from you. Wow what a beautiful story! I'm so glad you've met a man who you can have kids with, in a way that's rooted in friendship and co-parenting. That sounds really sensible and empowering! Thanks for sharing that with me. 💕 PS Just checking, did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. And it will be a good place for you to meet other women who are on an unusual path to motherhood. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
You're an amazing woman and a great admiration. I am in the same boat as you, although a bit different for me as I am gay and therefore feel myself giving up well before I reach 40 (it is hard finding single gay women to date, unfortunately). One day I'll be a mother even if I have to do it by myself. Thank you for sharing your story!
Aw I'm so glad you found my video helpful. It's sad that you're giving up on finding a partner... I really know how big that is. But I'm also really excited for you that you're so clear that you're willing to have a baby by yourself. You will rock it! 💃
Hey Sage, hoping things are flowing in your journey. I'm just checking, did you see my big announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
Hi, first of all, I'm really happy that your dream came true, you are radiation the happyness and love. It's a good thing you are encourageing others to follow their dream and become a mom even without a partner, but imo they should NOT aim to be a single, new mother at 50. Yes, people die young too, as did my mum, but the chance gets increasingly higher as you get older. I dont wanna hate, but I feel like this point should be considered as well.
Of course, that’s a huge point. It’s something I considered long and hard, as does every woman who has a baby later in life. I’ll definitely be discussing this one in my later videos. I’m sorry you lost your mom so young, that’s awful. 🤗
If you aren't tied to your child being genetically yours were you aware of "embryo adoptions" where excess embryos from other couples are on offer? Do you think you will have more kids.
Hi BabyDreamers! I hope you find this video empowering and uplifting! If you enjoyed the video, please leave something in my TIP JAR🍯so I can afford to keep making videos for you: tinyurl.com/TipTJ ✨And To see MANY MORE VIDEOS about my journey as an older mama, join my free private community at mybabydream.club There you can be inspired by my story AND meet other women on the same motherhood journey as you. 💖 Big love, TJ
Im 22 and i am going to become a single mother by choice too ❤️ I honestly dont have the patience go deal with men, and i dont want to depend on a man thats quite likely going to turn his back on me and my (our) child... i’ve already seen enough of that myself, and i will NEVER let my children experience that feeling of abandonment. Being a mother is the biggest life goal for me, and i cant wait to raise a child in a calm, safe and healthy environment ❤️
im so happy to see you having your dream baby, and i wish both of you many many years of amazing memories 😍🎉
Wow good on you for being so clear with your choice is such a young age. It’s very inspiring for me to hear that! I can already tell you will make a wonderful mother because you’re already really trying to protect your future child. 💕
this is me at 17
OMG I just saw this. WOW how beautiful that you're wanting to be a donor. I literally send a prayer of thanks to my donors every single day. It's the most beautiful gift anyone can give. What a lovely caring person you are. 💕💕💕
I decided at 23-24 - that if I didnt have any DESIRABLE prospects for marriage by the time I was 28 - a mere 4 years - that I would have to seriously consider becoming a single mom by choice in my 30s./mid-30s
This was after seeing enough people I knew getting pregnant out of wedlock and becoming single moms in the 18-24 range; and looking up the statistics of how 87% of women who have a child out of wedlock will end up a single mom by the time their oldest child is 10 (usually with younger children in tow) - and seeing how even for those women who have a baby, thinking that they will/can just marry later - and how 70% of THESE women (who married their partner) still end up becoming single mom by the time their oldest child is 10 - same timeline.
Once you condition yourself to the idea that they odds of you having a child without being married are very very high (atleast 1/3rd of women these days) then that opens up the planned single mom by choice option. It makes no difference.
dont have a child out of wedlock unless you accept the idea of becoming a single mom; otherwise you can always use your late 30s to cut out the 3rd party.
since you are young, maybe think about donating your eggs to fund your journey.
I'm a smbc, I'm pregnant 9 weeks now
Oh wow, I'm so excited for you! Congratulations! Is this your first baby? ✨ PS Did you know I've recently started a free private community where you can meet other women on the SMBC path and get support for your journey? I also share many more videos there than I do on TH-cam, much more personal ones about my daily life as an SMBC. You can check it out at www.mybabydream.club 💖
I got goose bumps when you said there’s something about opening your mind to the possibilities. Goose bumps thinking about that practice in other areas of life not just about children. Thank you for sharing!
How amazing that you got goosebumps! Yes opening our mind is SUCH a powerful practice in all areas of our lives... 💕
Hi @Golden, I'm just checking, did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It's a great place to meet other women with a similar baby dream to you. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, don’t wait. Time doesn’t wait on anybody.
Amen.
Thank you so much for this video. So many of us women going through this. Congrats on your cute baby.
Yes it’s amazing how many women are going through a similar story… Thanks so much for your lovely comment! 💕
I’m 34 and am going to be a single mom by choice this next coming year once I turn 35 ❤
How fabulous! Great that you have so much clarity. Keep me posted on how it goes! 💗
Hey @Brittany, I'm just checking, did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It will be a great place for you to meet other older women on the solo mama journey. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ
Thank you so much for sharing your story and giving us in our 40s hope.
Oh my goodness, it’s my pleasure! I’m so glad it’s give you hope. ✨
God bless you and your beauty baby girl!
You are lucky having a healthy baby, you are almost 50 years old.
Thank you!
And here I am at 26 thinking I'm running out of time 😅
Hahaha I love it! In reality, you have plenty of time. But if that’s how you feel, then that’s how you feel! Everybody is different. 💕
Go for it! I have a Dr degree, a 6 year old (7 on july 23rd 🥰) and turn 27 in October! Age is just a number. Academic achievements money, it only matters because I have an heir.
@Lia I just saw this. Wow girl you totally rock! Look at you with your Drs degree and 7 year old child, at your age! As someone who did my Masters in Law at Oxford etc etc I totally agree that none of that matters if you don't have anybody to give it all to... 💕
That’s how old I was when I started trying, 25 but close to 26.
The years go fast after 25
I m 35, no partner and even though till this moment i do not wish to be a mother, i find your story very inspiring that it s never to late(i already feel at my age it would be to late to have a child,) i liked the idea to let the universe bring this child to you and the way you let go of thw idea of finding a partner first!
Oh I’m really glad to hear that my story has inspired you! Yes it’s never too late, if having a baby is what your heart truly desires. 💕
Nice video, i can sense your aura has a youthful energy, was pregnancy more difficult being older, my last pregnancy at 39 was a struggle for me.
Thanks so much! Actually I had a super easy pregnancy, which was a real blessing. I've made a video about what it was like being pregnant for the first time at 48, and I'll be posting it sometime in the next few weeks. So stay tuned!
Hi @Shortmashins, I've made that video now about what it was like for my body being pregnant at 48. I've posted it in my new private community. I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It's also a great place to meet other women who are having babies at an older age. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
Ok, will definitely look at it
Awesome! Will be lovely to see you inside the new community! 💕
You have an amazing story; thanks for sharing it !! Congratulations on your the birth of your beautiful baby!
Thank you so much, darling heart! 💕💕
she is absolutely adorable! Thank you for sharing this awesome story and testimony! I am in the 40s group with you and thats how I found your channel, after you announced it on there! I am 49, just a few months older than you! I have 6 kiddos ranging from 4-18. I would love to have one more, God willing!
Wowwww 6 kids!!! Now that’s inspiring! 💕
I love your story, thank you so much for opening up and sharing it. It is very nice to hear it because I had a similar thought about opening up to possibilities coming into my life instead of sticking to one idea and your words have resonated with me so much. And your daughter is so precious. Hugs ❤
Oh, I’m really glad my story and my words resonated with you. Yes, opening our mind is such a powerful thing to do! ✨
Really enjoyed this video too! Your story is amazing- I love a happy ending! Congratulations on your baby and finding joy!
Oh thank you, that is so sweet of you! I’m really glad you enjoyed it. 💕
She is such a sweet, calm relaxed baby.
Thank you, yes she is a chilled out little buddha most of the time! I feel very lucky… 🙏💕
This is so interesting. I’m 33 and single and feel like this is an option I need to start thinking about, but it’s also nice to see that I have a bit of time to really decide
Yay I’m glad you’re finding my videos reassuring. 💕 Do consider freezing your eggs though, as egg equality starts to decline at age 35… I wish I had done that! Big love on your journey.
I’m about to be 34 next month and my obgyn brought this option to my attention last week! Going to be a single mom by choice next year once I start trying ❤ so excited! Done waiting on “mr right” to make me a mom!
Hi @R! I've recently set up a private online community to connect women who are wanting to become solo mamas, in a private space off Facebook. I'm sharing my much more detailed personal videos there from now on instead of TH-cam. You might find it really inspiring and meet other like-minded women there who are on this path! To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
That was so beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
This feels like a story that @spontaneousmovement would talk about- being open to the possibilities!
I’m so glad you enjoyed it! 💗
Thank you so much for this. It’s so important to be open to different ways of bringing a child into this world. I am looking forward to my own single mom by choice journey. ❤️
Yay I’m so glad I could inspire you a little. I’m sending you so much baby just for your SMBC journey! 💕✨💕
🥰🤗 Hi. This story is so sweet and heartwarming. 🌹🌹❤️❤️ Thank you for sharing. 💐💐💐🌹🌹🌹🥰
You are so welcome! 🥰
This is such a beautiful video. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Aw you’re so sweet! It’s my pleasure. 💕🙏💕
Beautiful story, your baby is adorable 😘. Can’t wait to hear your next video😘👍🙏
Thank you, that’s so sweet! ❤
Please make more videos!! So encouraging and helpful ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thanks for letting me know they are helpful. That inspires me to make more! 💖
I love your story 💖💖💖
Awww thank you! 🙏
She's beautiful and adorable. Congragulations
Aw thanks! 💕
Oh wow!! Im considering being a SMBC! Your love for your daughter Ethel way you express these feelings is making me feel more certain about it.. especially when you said you longed to cuddle with your niece but you knew she wasn’t your child. I have my daycare and I feel about my kiddos the way you explained. I think about them, what they must be doing.. and want to be there with them the whole time but I know I can’t.
Awww I really feel for you working in a daycare and adoring your kiddos but wanting your own. That's hard... I'm so glad you're considering this path! 💖 PS Just checking, did you see my big announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It'll be a great way for you to get support from other women whoa re also starting on the single mom by choice path. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
"I'm also a very optimistic person" I love this. That's why you had a baby at 48 😊 ❤.
I love your channel. I agree 100% about letting go of the idea of the guy and open yourself up to the possibility that you can have a child in a different way. Over the past week something happened in me where I realised that marriage wasn't as important to me as I thought and that I really want a child. I've now stopped worrying about meeting someone and put my focus on having a baby. It has been the most freeing feeling ever. When you focus on having babies through the traditional route of meeting a guy it means your putting a lot of power in their hands and bringing children into an unfavourable environment just for the sake of having a baby.
I'm so sorry about your mum. I'm very close to my mum to, which is quite rare these days so I really felt your pain but I truly believe she is with you both ❤ xxx
OMG I've just seen this beautiful comment from you! Thank you so much for your kind words about my mum.. .🙏 I'm really really excited for you that you've had this big breakthrough in your thinking about having a baby by yourself. That's so liberating and empowering! Where are you at with it now? 💖 PS did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. It will be a great place for you to meet other women on the solo mama journey. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ
I’m 30 and I’ve decided to become a Choice Mom ☺️ I’m like you as well, a hopeful romantic ❤️ There will always be time to find that special person, but I shouldn’t have to rush into a relationship just to make my dream of becoming a mother come true 🥰
Wow you're so wise and so empowered! I wish I had realised all that at 30, that's awesome. Yes spot on, you have the rest of your life to meet someone! PS Not sure if you know but I've started a free private community for women who are starting on the choice mom path. You might find it a great place to meet other women in the same situation as you. It's at www.mybabydream.club. Hugs! 💖
Sorry about your mom your story is so sweet and inspiring 💗 I'm glad your a mom and you got your dream I'm going back and forth with the idea I'm already a single mom by divorce but want baby I'll have to find my single mom tribe then I think it will happen good luck.
That’s a really good idea to find your single mom tribe first. There are a lot of SMBC groups on Facebook, which might be a good place to start. I know you’ll make the choice that’s right for you! 💕
SO RELATABLE.
Oh I'm so glad you could relate! I think so many of us have gone through this... 💗
Children are a gift 🎁 ❤ from God. May you have joy 😊 😃 raising your child with love ❤ 😍 💖 and ✍ respect 🙏 for other people and himself. A good 👍 mother 👩 👩🍼 ❤ is a great blessing for a child 🙏. May God bless both of you 🙏 😊 ❤.
Thank you! 🙏
I want this to be my life.🤗
Awwwww 💖
I absolutely love your story and your videos. I am about to embark on my own journey of having a Baby by myself and I can so relate to your story of meeting and being with the wrong men. I also relate to your story of losing your Mother and that loss deepening your desire to have a baby and have that Mother/ child love as when I lost my Mother in 2020 that absolutely catapulted me into wanting my own child, and being absolutely certain that I need to have my own child, I love your videos and what a beautiful bond you have with your Daughter xxx
Oh wow I'm so excited that you're embarking on this solo mama journey too! And my condolences on the loss of your beautiful mother, I really really know how devastating that is... I would love to cheer you on throughout your journey! ✨ PS I've recently set up a private online community to connect women who are wanting to become solo mamas, in a private space off Facebook. I'm sharing my much more detailed personal videos there from now on instead of TH-cam. You might find it really inspiring and meet other like-minded women there who are on this path! To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
If you are open to it, could you please make a video on your egg donor/sperm donor selection process? It would be great if you can share advice about that for future single mothers. Thank you. ❤😊 🙏🏾
Hi, thanks so much for this request. That video is high on my list for one to make. I've been waiting til I was more confident with the editing and everything as I know it's a really important one for people. I'm actually about to start shooting a series of videos all about my 2nd IVF attempt, which is the one I did with donor eggs, the successful one. So as part of that series, I will also make a video sharing how I chose my sperm donor and then a video about how I chose my egg donor, as they were a bit different. So make sure to click that 'notification' button so you get notified by TH-cam when I release my next videos. Big love! xx 💕
Im so happy I find you .i choose to be a single mom by choice last year im 34 but I’m going to be early in my menopause and I have low ovarian reserve so I did 2 rounds of ivf in February and second in July ended very horrible for me specially the last one and the think the quality of my eggs are not good so have to go to another clinic here in Belgium jette for what they can do for me but I think i will end up with egg adoption im now in this grief that maybe I will never be pregnant with my biologically child thanks for this videos I really means a lot of for me .she so beautiful ❤
Ohhhh I'm so sorry to heat that you've been going through all of this. It sounds so upsetting. But I'm really glad that my videos have been able to offer you some hope. Yes using an egg donor honsetly was the best thing I ever did and I love my little girls so much! I'm sending you so much baby dust and I really hope this next round goes better for you. 💖 PS if you want to get some support on your journey, I've actually set up a free community (off Facebook) for women who are on a baby journey as a solo mama, and many of the women in it are facing having to use donor eggs. It would be a great place for you to connect with other women who are going through this. You can find out about it at www.mybabydream.club xx
Thanks . It’s very upsetting specially the last ivf try I got the heaviest hormones you can have in ivf menopurr but I’m so grateful for my family and a few friends who are supporting me in this journey. I’m also going to a psychologist tho talk about my situation and it help’s me .I know I will be a mommy but how I don’t know yet but I’m open for egg adoption .I will join the free community I will help me to thanks for the information xx
I'm so glad you have family and friends supporting you on this journey, and it sounds like the psychologist is really helping too. It can be such an intense path to walk! It's so great you're getting support. xx
Thank you for sharing your story, my story a little different I was holding out for the perfect man to have kids and during the pandemic all I could see was having a baby with or without a man I just knew I couldn’t live with out children. I was lucky enough to meet a guy whom
When we met he just had a desire to have children and choosing the right women he believed that would be a good mother. Whilst our relationship isn’t really the typical romantic relationship it’s more of a friendship, we bond over having children and work really well together raising kids so I still consider myself a choice mom I just happened to meet someone who wanted kids and not romance.
Hi @Nala, I'm so sorry I've just seen this comment from you. Wow what a beautiful story! I'm so glad you've met a man who you can have kids with, in a way that's rooted in friendship and co-parenting. That sounds really sensible and empowering! Thanks for sharing that with me. 💕 PS Just checking, did you see my announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. And it will be a good place for you to meet other women who are on an unusual path to motherhood. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
You're an amazing woman and a great admiration. I am in the same boat as you, although a bit different for me as I am gay and therefore feel myself giving up well before I reach 40 (it is hard finding single gay women to date, unfortunately). One day I'll be a mother even if I have to do it by myself.
Thank you for sharing your story!
Aw I'm so glad you found my video helpful. It's sad that you're giving up on finding a partner... I really know how big that is. But I'm also really excited for you that you're so clear that you're willing to have a baby by yourself. You will rock it! 💃
Hey Sage, hoping things are flowing in your journey. I'm just checking, did you see my big announcement about the new private community I've started? I'll be showing most of my videos there from now on, instead of on TH-cam. To check it out, go to: mybabydream.circle.so/ Big love! TJ 💗
Hi, first of all, I'm really happy that your dream came true, you are radiation the happyness and love. It's a good thing you are encourageing others to follow their dream and become a mom even without a partner, but imo they should NOT aim to be a single, new mother at 50. Yes, people die young too, as did my mum, but the chance gets increasingly higher as you get older. I dont wanna hate, but I feel like this point should be considered as well.
Of course, that’s a huge point. It’s something I considered long and hard, as does every woman who has a baby later in life. I’ll definitely be discussing this one in my later videos. I’m sorry you lost your mom so young, that’s awful. 🤗
If you aren't tied to your child being genetically yours were you aware of "embryo adoptions" where excess embryos from other couples are on offer?
Do you think you will have more kids.
Yep I’m aware of that. I have a couple of embryos left myself. I’m still unsure if I’ll have a second one…